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GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE Life does not stop because you have separated. Unfortunately, responsibilities don’t end simply because your relationship is over. You still need to perform at work or risk losing your job. The kids still need supervision and help with their homework or they will fall behind at school and start misbehaving. Friendships need to be nurtured, or one day you may have no friends. The household chores must be completed, or you will not pass the landlord’s inspection. Keep on with your usual routine, as much as possible. Believe it or not, this can actually even be positive, empowering distraction! Resolve all of the issues arising out of your separation as soon as you can. It will be better for you, your kids, your boss, your children’s academic performance and ultimately, your life! Now, there were only supposed to be a dozen tips, but we can’t help adding in #13...
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HOW TO AVOID THE PROBLEMS YOU HAD LAST TIME the second or third time around. Every separation provides us with an opportunity to learn and grow. If we take these lessons on board, we can build happier, healthier relationships and lead a more fulfilling life. This process of learning has two parts: (a) See a psychologist and talk honestly about your relationship. This includes the good, the bad and the ugly! Keep talking until there is no more to say. And importantly, take the psychologist’s advice and implement accordingly. (b) See a Family Law Accredited Specialist. Find out how to avoid another property settlement if things fall apart again. They will discuss Binding Financial Agreements; you might call them Prenuptial agreements.
