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The Heart of the Table, The Soul of the Season

November feels like the pause button in the middle of life’s chaos. Between shuttling kids to dance, soccer, and every other activity that pops onto the calendar, it’s easy to get swept along without stopping to breathe. This month gives us a chance to appreciate what we have, look ahead with gratitude, and dive into the joy of shopping. As you check gifts off your list, I encourage you to shop local—especially on Small Business Saturday—so we can keep Northern Highlands thriving through the season and beyond.

And then, of course, there’s the food. While Christmas holds the crown as my favorite holiday, Thanksgiving is a close second. Truth be told, I’m more about the sides than the turkey itself—give me mashed potatoes, stuffing, and corn and I’m happy. Anyone else secretly prefer the side dishes? Still, my true weakness is pumpkin pie. I honestly don’t know why I don’t eat it year-round. Perfectly good breakfast, dessert, or midnight snack—though in my world, a “midnight snack” really means 9 p.m. This year, I’ll be sure to pull out the trusty elastic band pants so I can enjoy guilt-free seconds (or thirds).

Turn to page 18 for a look at Immaculate Heart Academy, where service is central to the school’s mission. From diaper drives to Thanksgiving dinners for seniors, students put faith into action and contribute thousands of service hours each year.

On page 32, explore this season’s style guide. From quilted coats and weatherproof footwear to textures like corduroy and flannel, fall fashion in New Jersey is about layering smart while keeping it polished.

Then turn to page 26 for a feature on self-gratitude. We often thank others but rarely ourselves. Research shows self-gratitude can ease stress, improve resilience, and even change how our brains process joy.

And if you’re still clinging to summer like I am, flip to our coverage of the Barefoot Country Music Fest (page 16). From Jason Aldean to Jelly Roll, Rascal Flatts to Lainey Wilson, the four-day celebration turned Wildwood into the unofficial capital of country music. Sunshine, sand, and a little twang—what more could you ask for?

May your hearts (and your plates) be full this season—and if you save me a slice of pumpkin pie, I promise it won’t go to waste.

With gratitude,

November 2025

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Jake Slowinski | e.slowinski@citylifestyle.com

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Carly Mac Manus | carly.macmanus@citylifestyle.com

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CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

Brunch by DeMartino, Hilary Russo, AnneMarie Vaughn

CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS

Brunch by DeMartino, David Surks, AnneMarie Vaughn, Seigel Law, Garden State City Lifestyle

Corporate Team

CEO Steven Schowengerdt

President Matthew Perry

COO David Stetler

CRO Jamie Pentz

CoS Janeane Thompson

AD DESIGNER Andrew Sapad

LAYOUT DESIGNER Antanette Ray

QUALITY CONTROL SPECIALIST Hannah Leimkuhler

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WHERE NEIGHBORS CAN SEE AND BE SEEN

1-5:Upper Saddle River church hosts first-of-its-kind camp helping grandparents and grandchildren bond through faith and fun. 6: Anuj Agarwal, a senior at Northern Highlands Regional High School, shares his children’s book about dementia. 7: Allendale Chamber of Commerce meeting at Allendale Bar & Grill with local leaders and members.

Immaculate Heart Academy Hosts Fall Open Houses Oct. 19 & 23

Immaculate Heart Academy will host fall open houses on Sunday, Oct. 19, from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m., and Thursday, Oct. 23, from 6:30 to 8:30 p.m., at 500 Van Emburgh Ave., Township of Washington, N.J. Explore academics, athletics and arts rooted in Catholic values. Tour with Eagle Ambassadors, meet faculty and coaches, and learn about admissions and the HSPT. Register at ihan.jcom; walk-ins welcome. Details: Lauren Rhein ’09, director of admissions, 201-445-6800, ext. 112, lrhein@ihanj.com

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Quick Escape

W Fort Lauderdale Delivers a Luxe Getaway with a View

ARTICLE BY CARLY MAC MANUS PHOTOGRAPHY BY W FORT LAUDERDALE

If you’re craving sun, style, and a serious change of scenery, let me point you straight to W Fort Lauderdale — a sleek, vibrant, and energizing escape that’s just a short flight from home. I recently spent a few days at this oceanfront stunner, and it delivered on every level. Perched right along the city’s iconic beachfront, the 440-room luxury hotel blends nautical design with modern glam, making it perfect for a long weekend (or a midweek recharge) in Florida. And as the Publication Director for Garden State City Lifestyle, I’m grateful that I was invited to experience this first hand at the W Fort Lauderdale.

WHERE OCEAN MEETS EDGE

The vibe hits you the second you pull up under the soaring, sail-like porte cochere. Everything feels intentional — from the hand-woven overhead sails and looped light fixtures to the floor-to-ceiling windows that keep the ocean in constant view. My room was a peaceful retreat with ombré blue curtains, wave-inspired carpets, a plush W Signature Bed, and views I didn’t want to leave.

POOL GOALS, ACHIEVED

W Fort Lauderdale has two incredible pool decks: WET East, which is buzzy and social with weekend DJs, glass walls for the perfect selfie backdrop, and colorful cocktails that make pool days feel like an event.

Publication Director Carly Mac Manus in the Veuve Clicquot Bungalow

But if you’re more in the mood to relax (like I was by Day 2), WET West is your spot — quieter, more serene, and perfectly positioned for sunset views.

One thing I highly recommend? Elevating the pool experience with a Veuve Clicquot Bungalow. We booked one for the day, and it was the ultimate treat — comfy loungers, shaded seating, champagne on ice, and service that made it feel like our own private oasis.

BITES & SIPS THAT HIT THE SPOT

Food and drink — or as W calls it, B&F (Beverage & Food) — are a huge part of the experience. We kicked things off with a fancy dinner at Steak 954, a Stephen Starr-run steakhouse with dry-aged cuts, fresh seafood, and a glowing 15-foot jellyfish tank that sets the mood just right. For a more playful vibe, El Vez, also by Starr, serves up bright Mexican dishes and tequila cocktails with gorgeous ocean views.

During the day, we rotated between snacks at WET Bar & Grill, healthy bites at SoBe Vegan and cocktails in the Living Room, the hotel’s lounge-style heart that’s perfect for people-watching.

FUEL UP & GLOW UP

There’s no shortage of ways to recharge. We borrowed the hotel’s cruiser bikes and pedaled along the boulevard, then hit the 24/7 FIT gym for a quick workout. But my favorite way to unwind? A trip to the AWAY Spa. I booked a signature massage and a glow-up at the Glam Station, which totally reset me for a night out. (Also worth noting: this was the first full-service spa in the entire W brand. It shows.)

LOVE, CELEBRATE, OR SEAL THE DEAL

Whether you’re tying the knot, throwing a big birthday bash, or planning a corporate retreat, this hotel has space to match your vision. From oceanside terraces to the rooftop and the Mingle ballroom, every event setup is chic and photo-ready. There’s also 35,000 square feet of meeting space if you’re coming in with a team — though it hardly feels like work when you’re this close to the beach.

OFF THE PROPERTY, STILL ON THE VIBE

While the W truly has everything you need, we did venture off-property for a couple of local meals that were worth it. Emily’s Garden is a sweet, tucked-away spot for breakfast — the kind of place that feels like a hidden gem. And Mykonos (just a quick drive away) was perfect for dinner: lively, flavorful, and full of Mediterranean charm. It added just the right mix of local flavor to our stay.

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Blueberry Ricotta Pancakes

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AND PHOTOGRAPHY BY BRUNCH BY DEMARTINO Garden State City Lifestyle Recipe of the Month

For our November Thankful Issue, we’re especially thankful for these cozy Blueberry Ricotta Pancakes—our favorite recipe of the month from Brunch by DeMartino to share around the table with family and friends.

Blueberry Ricotta Pancakes

ingredients:

• 2 cups all-purpose flour

• 2 Tbsp granulated sugar

• 1½ tsp baking powder

• ¾ tsp baking soda

• ½ tsp salt

• 2 cups buttermilk

• 2 large eggs, beaten

• 2 Tbsp melted butter

• 1 tsp vanilla extract

• 1 tsp canola oil

• Whole milk (to thin batter as needed)

directions:

Step 1. In a large mixing bowl, whisk together flour, sugar, baking powder, baking soda, and salt.

Step 2. In another bowl, combine buttermilk, eggs, melted butter, vanilla, and canola oil.

Step 3. Gradually mix wet ingredients into dry ingredients until just combined. Thin with a splash of milk if batter is too thick.

Step 4. Heat a lightly greased skillet or griddle over medium heat. Pour batter to form pancakes, cooking until bubbles form and edges are set before flipping.

Whipped Ricotta Topping

ingredients:

• 1 cup fresh ricotta

• 1 Tbsp honey

• 1 tsp lemon juice

Blueberry Compote

ingredients:

• 2 cups fresh or frozen blueberries

• 3 Tbsp water

• ¼ cup sugar

• 2 Tbsp honey

• 2 tsp lemon juice

directions:

Step 1. Combine ricotta, honey, and lemon juice in a mixing bowl.

Step 2. Whisk until smooth and fluffy. directions:

Step 1. In a small saucepan, combine 1 cup blueberries, water, sugar, honey, and lemon juice. Step 2. Cook over medium heat for about 10 minutes.

Step 3. Add the remaining blueberries and continue cooking for 8 minutes, stirring frequently, until thickened and glossy.

Serve pancakes warm with a dollop of whipped ricotta and a spoonful of blueberry compote.

For more yummy recipes like this, follow @gardenstatecitylifestyle on socials.

at the Barefoot COUNTRY MUSIC FEST

Garden State City Lifestyle was grateful to have a front-row view on Wildwood’s iconic beach at the 2025 Barefoot Country Music Fest — and it did not disappoint. Held June 19–22, the four-day celebration drew thousands of fans from across the nation to sing, dance and soak in coastal vibes.

Headliners included Jason Aldean, Jelly Roll, Lainey Wilson, Rascal Flatts and Jordan Davis, with more than 40 additional artists lighting up

multiple stages. From chart-topping anthems to beachside ballads, the lineup delivered nonstop entertainment and crowd-pleasing singalongs. Wilson brought powerhouse vocals and glittering style, Jelly Roll captivated with authenticity, and Rascal Flatts had fans of all ages belting every chorus.

The setting did half the magic. With the Atlantic as a backdrop and a steady ocean breeze, sets rolled from golden-hour glow into neon-lit nights. Fans in cowboy boots and flip-flops mingled along the boardwalk between shows, grabbing lemonades and soft-serve before hustling back for the next guitar solo.

Between performances, festivalgoers explored fan zones, sponsor activations and shaded lounges, while vendors served everything from barbecue to boardwalk classics. Beach-friendly production kept lines moving and sightlines clear; even from farther back, big screens and stacked sound kept the action close.

Standout moments included surprise guest appearances, acoustic breaks that quieted the beach to a hush and late-night closers that turned the shoreline into one swaying chorus. By Sunday, Wildwood felt like the unofficial capital of country music — and we left sunkissed and grateful for the view.

Whether you’re a country die-hard or just in it for summer vibes, Barefoot Country Music Fest is a must. Mark your calendar for next year; once you’ve danced barefoot in the sand to your favorite hits, you’ll count down until the next one.

If you go next year: Book lodging early, pack a brimmed hat and reef-safe sunscreen, bring a light layer for ocean breezes after sunset and consider a small beach blanket for between sets. Comfortable footwear is a win — boots optional, flip-flops welcome.

Learn more at barefootcountrymusicfest.com

Faith in Action

Immaculate Heart Academy students turn compassion into more than 31,000 service hours

ARTICLE AND PHOTOGRAPHY BY ANNEMARIE VAUGHN

Service at Immaculate Heart Academy (IHA) is more than a requirement; it is central to the school’s mission. Students regularly put their faith into action by serving the community and ministering to people in need through a wide variety of opportunities.

IHA’s Campus Ministry program, led by Emily Ash, Class of 2019, is off to a busy start this year. Ash credits its success to the compassion of the students.

“Our young women constantly strive to make their communities a better place through their service,” Ash said. “They are an antithesis to the idea that success is defined by how well others know you. Instead of desiring to make themselves known, they strive to make God known in the lives of others. Their service points to what authentic service should be: selfless, loving, and using one’s God-given gifts to meet the needs of His people. God placed the calling to serve on their hearts, and we at IHA are so grateful to empower them as they work for causes they are passionate about.”

Campus Ministry recently hosted a Mission@ theheart trip to expose students to vulnerable populations they could serve. The home base was Camp Shiloh in Hewitt, New Jersey, but students traveled to various locations to put their mission into action. Stops included Camp Acorn

in Mahwah, where students assisted with enrichment programs for individuals with developmental disabilities, and New Hope Pregnancy Resource Center in Westwood, where they organized donations. Students also made cards for hospice patients at Villa Marie Claire in Saddle River.

This year, students ran a successful diaper drive for Saint Joseph’s Care Corner in Oradell and invited local children to the annual Trunk or Treat event. In November, they will host a free Thanksgiving dinner for senior citizens, a tradition that last drew more than 200 guests.

In December, students will participate in one of IHA’s many Midnight Runs in New York City, providing food, clothes and conversations to individuals experiencing homelessness. Campus Ministry will also hold its annual Christmas Drive for Sacred Heart School in Jersey City, delivering hundreds of gifts to the school.

Service at IHA also extends to athletics, with teams regularly hosting fundraisers and events. The IHA softball team, for example, hosted its annual Anthony LaRezza Invitational Tournament during the 2024-25 school year and raised $19,000 in honor of the late IHA coach Anthony LaRezza, who died of cancer. Over the past 10 years, IHA softball has raised more than $100,000 to support Tackle Kids Cancer and Hackensack Meridian Health Children’s Cancer Institute.

The school’s clubs also take part in service. Earlier this year, the Military Awareness Club volunteered at a Vietnam War Commemoration Ceremony, where members gave gifts to veterans, spoke at the event and handed out pamphlets to honor the sacrifices of military members and their families.

“God placed the calling to serve on their hearts, and we at IHA are so grateful to empower them as they work for causes they are passionate about.”

- Emily Ash

During the 2024-25 school year, IHA students served more than 31,000 hours — on average, double what was required. Students continue to embrace the school’s commitment to service and use their gifts to benefit others.

Founded in 1960, Immaculate Heart Academy is an allgirls Catholic regional high school of the Archdiocese of Newark, celebrating 65 years. A Blue Ribbon School with 650 students from over 120 towns in NJ and NY, IHA offers a premier college preparatory program.

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AnneMarie Vaughn, Director of Communications & Marketing 201.445.6800 ext. 134 | avaughn@ihanj.com www.ihanj.com

H O P E

with YOU

The holidays have a way of calling us back to what matters most—faith, family, compassion, and the quiet but powerful act of giving. As lights go up and calendars fill, there are still many who sit in silence, carrying burdens too heavy to bear alone. But what if this season, you could be the spark that changes everything for someone else?

The founders of City Lifestyle, through their private foundation, are once again launching its annual Christmas Giving Campaign—a heartfelt effort to seek out and support individuals and families who have quietly fallen through the cracks. The mission is simple: to bring light, dignity, and hope to those who need it most.

Since its beginning just four years ago, this initiative has grown from a humble idea into a life-changing movement. Last Christmas alone, more than 200 families across the country received unexpected support—financial relief, but also something even more powerful.

“We don’t just send checks,” says Steven Schowengerdt, CEO and founder of City Lifestyle. “We send a message: You are seen. You are loved. And you are not forgotten.”

Together with City Lifestyle President Matthew Perry, Steven has helped shape this into a tradition that goes far beyond charity. “This is about community,” Matthew adds. “We believe we’ve been blessed, so now we get to be a blessing.”

Every story begins with a nomination. Often, it’s a neighbor, coworker, friend, or teacher—someone who’s been quietly carrying too much for too long. One past recipient, after receiving unexpected support during a time of deep personal struggle, wrote:

SCAN TO NOMINATE

“We send a message: You are seen. You are loved. And you are not forgotten.”

“Beyond the very practical solution of receiving funds to fix my car, this thing you guys worked together to do is bigger than that. I carry the Christmas card you sent in my purse. When things get really hard, I pull it out and remember what it felt like to be seen. That card represents hope— that change for the better is possible. I’m not sure how many people get to carry hope around in their purse. But I do.”

Another wrote in after her husband was diagnosed with aggressive brain cancer and unable to work:

“This support has blessed our family not only financially, but emotionally and spiritually as we trust God to meet our needs throughout this difficult time. Thank you to our anonymous friend and to your foundation. What a joy and gift to be part of God’s family!”

Each year brings countless stories like these—real lives touched by simple acts of kindness. Some use the funds to pay overdue bills, others to afford groceries, medication, or repairs. But no matter the circumstance, the impact is the same: hope is restored.

This season, you have the opportunity to be part of that. The campaign is now open to nominations—completely confidential and prayerfully considered. Whether it’s someone battling illness, facing unemployment, or just in need of a helping hand, you can bring them a moment of grace that will ripple far beyond Christmas morning.

“Knowing my mom was chosen filled my heart with indescribable joy,” said another past recipient. “Your generosity doesn’t just brighten her life; it inspires hope and faith in all of us. It enables her to stay in her home and get back on her feet.”

Nominations are open from November 1st to December 5th, 2025. To submit someone you know, simply scan the QR code or visit @CityLifestyle on Instagram, where you’ll find the nomination form in the bio.

This holiday season, let’s give more than gifts. Let’s give each other the gift of being seen. Because sometimes, the smallest gesture becomes someone’s greatest miracle.

To nominate someone in need, visit: KingdomBuildingFoundation.org or scan the QR code.

GIVING BACK, ONE CASE AT A TIME

SEIGEL LAW’S CHARITY FUND TURNS LEGAL SUCCESS INTO COMMUNITY SUPPORT.

At Seigel Law, community service is more than a value — it’s a practice woven into the firm’s foundation. When attorney Jonas Seigel joined the firm, he launched the Seigel Law Charity Fund, pledging to donate a portion of every fee to local charities.

The American Bar Association has recognized the fund as a model for other law firms, highlighting its unique approach to giving. Guided by the principle, “to whom much is given, much is expected,” Seigel Law contributes 1% of its profits and volunteer time to organizations that make a difference, with a special focus on children’s charities.

The firm also invites the community to take part in its mission of giving by submitting recommendations for charitable organizations that could benefit from support.

“Our commitment goes beyond the courtroom,” Seigel says. “We’re thankful for the trust our clients place in us, and giving back is one way we honor that trust.”

ARTICLE BY CARLY MAC MANUS PHOTOGRAPHY BY SEIGEL LAW

Through the Seigel Law Charity Fund, the firm has become a steady partner to nonprofits across northern New Jersey, helping strengthen the communities it serves. In this season of gratitude, Seigel Law continues to remind us that success is measured not only in cases won, but in lives touched.

For more information or to recommend a charity, visit seigellaw.com/charity-fund

THANK Yourself

THE CASE FOR PRACTICING SELF-GRATITUDE

ARTICLE BY HILARY RUSSO

We talk a lot about gratitude. From keeping journals and writing thank-you notes to remembering to count our blessings. And it’s true: study after study has shown that practicing gratitude improves happiness, strengthens resilience, and even has measurable effects on the brain.

But here’s the thing: most of us direct gratitude outward. We thank others, the universe, even our morning cup of coffee. Rarely do we stop and say, “Hey, thank you, me. You got through today.”

That’s where the real magic happens.

WHY SELF-GRATITUDE ISN’T SELFISH

For many, the idea of thanking ourselves feels uncomfortable. We confuse self-gratitude with ego. But research suggests it’s the opposite.  Gratitude builds humility, compassion, and resilience. A 2019 study in Frontiers in Psychology found that people who practiced self-directed gratitude reported lower levels of stress and depression. And neuroscientists at Indiana University discovered that gratitude exercises light up the brain’s dopamine and serotonin pathways, helping us feel calmer and more balanced…even months later.

Leading gratitude researchers reminds us that gratitude is not just a social emotion. It’s also an internal resource, one that helps us see ourselves through a more forgiving, appreciative lens. In other words, it’s fuel for self-worth. And who doesn’t want a little rocket juice to get the gratitude party started?

BOOKENDING YOUR DAY WITH GRATITUDE

Gratitude isn’t just a “nice-to-have”, it’s a reset button for your nervous system. How you start and end your day makes a difference. So much so, it’s a big part of my signature program, HUG it Out® program. The G in H-U-G is there for a reason. While every day should begin with gratitude, it should also end with it.

Research from happiness expert Sean Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage, found that people who wrote

down three things they were grateful for each morning experienced higher levels of optimism and productivity, even weeks later. Starting your day with self-gratitude primes your brain to scan for the positive, instead of bracing for stress. It’s like giving your mind a compass that points toward possibility.

And just as the morning sets the tone, the last five minutes of your day can anchor you in calm.

WHY IT MATTERS AT THE END OF THE DAY

While every day should begin with gratitude, it should also end with it. Especially as you settle down to sleep. The last five minutes of your day before you lay your head on your pillow are some of the most powerful. That’s when your subconscious begins its work. By ending the day with gratitude, for yourself, your effort, your perseverance, you’re literally rewiring your brain toward safety, resilience, and calm while you sleep.

Think of it as a gift to your future self.

3. Practice in the mirror. Look yourself in the eye and say: “Thank you for showing up today.”

4. Start a gratitude jar. Each week, write down one moment you’re proud of and place it in the jar. Revisit them monthly or at the end of the year.

5. Recall and savor. Before bed, reflect on one thing you did well and let yourself feel proud.

6. Celebrate micro-wins. Even simple things like hydrating, setting boundaries, and resting deserve acknowledgment.

7. Reframe mistakes. Thank yourself for the lesson or the courage it took to try, rather than focusing on the outcome.

Spend five quiet minutes repeating: “I’m grateful for my persistence,” or “I thank myself for caring.”

— Hilary Russo

10 WAYS TO PRACTICE SELF-GRATITUDE

Here are a few simple, science-backed ways to explore gratitude for yourself:

1. Write yourself a thank-you note. Instead of sending it, keep it as a reminder of your resilience.

2. Keep a “done list.” At day’s end, jot down three things you handled well…big or small.

8. Use prompts. Ask yourself: “What did I do today that deserves thanks?”

9. Thank your body. After exercise or a long day, place your hand on your heart and say, “Thank you for carrying me.”

10. Gratitude meditation. Spend five quiet minutes repeating: “I’m grateful for my persistence,” or “I thank myself for caring.”

THE TAKEAWAY

Self-gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring others or becoming self-absorbed. It means recognizing your own humanity and giving yourself credit for navigating the ups, downs, and in-betweens of life.

So tonight, before you drift off to sleep, take a moment to thank yourself. And come morning, rinse and repeat to amplify that self-appreciation. Because while gratitude fuels connection with others, it also strengthens the most important relationship you’ll ever have: the one with yourself.

ABOUT HILARY RUSSO

Hilary Russo is a Bergen County Based trauma-informed holistic practitioner, health coach, journalist, international speaker, and author. She is one of only 50 Certified Havening Techniques® Trainers worldwide and a certified practitioner of this neuroscience-based method. With a background in media and the military, Hilary brings first-hand insight to her work with clients facing secondary trauma, stress, and burnout. Her globally top-rated podcast,  HIListically Speaking® (top 1.5%), features inspiring conversations with leading voices in holistic health, wellness, and neuroscience. Connect with Hilary at www.hilaryrusso.com or on social media @hilaryrusso.

unique GIFTING

ARTICLE BY MEL BOBAN

SEASON

The holiday season is officially on, and gifting is top of mind. We’re all used to scrolling online, browsing the malls or hitting the local boutiques, but sometimes it’s fun and unexpected to switch it up. If looking to surprise and delight recipients this year and to bring a new tradition to the season, offbeat gifting can be a great way to turn a new leaf on stale routines.

1) PRE-HOLIDAY SURPRISE. For those traveling, send  gifts early, such as cheeses, fruit or pies.

2) FUTURE FUN. Browse winter or spring events; snag tickets to enjoy with recipients.

3) GENEROSITY. Donations make heartfelt, thoughtful ideas.

4) TRAVEL. Gift a loved one with a trip.

5) TIME. Is a recipient busy, overloaded and overworked? Treat them to a whole home cleaning before or after the holiday.

6) LOVE OF LEARNING. If a loved one is planning international travel, grab them a gift card for a language learning app.

7) THOUGHTFUL MESSAGES. Ask friends and family to record loving messages on cellphones; combine recordings using a video app for meaningful holiday greeting.

8) BON APPÉTIT. Sign up special someone for cooking class regarding favorite cuisine, or cuisine they struggle to make.

9) RECIPE BOOK. Gather traditional family recipes and create printed books for guests as priceless keepsakes.

Layers for Every Exit

Versatile Luxury Looks for a New Jersey Thanksgiving

As we transition from summer to autumn and the chill sets in, attention turns to the holidays and their inevitable challenges: “What time should I arrive?” “What dish should I bring?” and perhaps the most daunting — “What do I wear?”

Thanksgiving often kicks off the season of gatherings, and while we can’t necessarily answer every holiday question, we can cover the fashion front. Whether you’re attending a formal supper, a Friendsgiving potluck or a laidback sofa-side feast, we’ve pulled together a style guide that guarantees you’ll look the part while staying comfortable.

Comfort is always a factor when getting dressed, but it’s especially important for a holiday centered around food. The key to winning Thanksgiving style is finding looks that blend elegance, versatility and function — outfits that transition easily

from feast to fireside. Unlike Christmas or New Year’s Eve, Thanksgiving rarely calls for full glam, which gives you more room to play with colors, textures and silhouettes. To ease the stress of getting dressed, we’ve outlined themes for inspiration. Many of these elevated looks can be pulled together from your own closet, proving you don’t need to splurge on a new wardrobe. And whether your style skews polished or cozy, the best accessory is still a second helping.

SEASONAL SHADES

Why it works: Neutral and earthy tones mirror the fall landscape and give off a cozy yet polished vibe. Easy to layer, mix and accessorize, these shades work for both daytime and evening gatherings.

Styling tip: Pair neutrals with gold jewelry or a textured belt for warmth.

• Minimalist option: Delia Low-Heeled Ballet Pumps ($395); Silk crêpe de Chine dress ($1,655)

• Monochromatic option: Women’s Smashed Satin Asymmetric Top in Oyster ($1,090); High-Waisted Cinched Trouser in Ivory ($1,050); Love 85mm Glitter Tulle Pumps ($850)

WHEN IN DOUBT, GO DARK

Why it works: Black is timeless, slimming and endlessly adaptable. It gives you a chic base to play with bold shoes, jewelry or a statement lip, all without feeling overdressed for a family-centric holiday.

Styling tip: Break up the monochrome with a bold lip, animal-print shoe or statement bag. Add an oversized blazer if you want more formality.

• Balanced look: Signature Jazz Dress ($475); Gianvito Rossi Leopard-Print Suede Pumps ($875)

• Edgy Look: Flynn Cashmere Sweater ($325); Livvy Leather Trouser ($1,450); Penelope Mule in Leather ($1,270)

ONE & DONE

Why it works: A jumpsuit is the ultimate “chic with zero effort” look. Comfortable for

a long meal yet structured enough to feel elevated, it’s an easy swap for a dress.

Styling tip: Cinch the waist with a sleek belt for definition, or add a cropped cardigan for coziness.

• Sleek option: Enara Halter Flare Jumpsuit ($1,990); Vendome Slingback Pumps in Glazed Leather ($1,100)

• Statement option: Lucia Leopard-Print Wrap Jumpsuit ($698); Coach Tea Rose Pump ($195)

INSTANT POLISH

Why it works: Dresses are a no-brainer. Whether midi or sheath, they make a statement and transition seamlessly from cocktails to pumpkin pie.

Styling tip: Try sheer tights if the temperature drops, and swap stilettos for knee-high boots to give your feet a break.

• Classic with a twist: Memento Picnic Midi Dress ($1,880); Maysale Brown Suede Buckle Mules ($915)

• Traditional: Hypnotic Twist Sheath Dress ($1,550); Stuart Power Boot 75 ($850)

FROM FEAST TO FIRESIDE

Why it works: After a big meal, forgiving yet chic pieces keep you comfortable. Luxe knits and cashmere feel like loungewear but look intentional.

Styling tip: Slip into stylish socks, claim your spot on the couch and let elastic waistbands do the work.

• Guest In Residence Pullover Hoodie ($595); Guest In Residence Everywear Pant ($545)

Whether you’re in North Jersey or down the Shore, these Thanksgiving-friendly looks bring New Jersey versatility to holiday dressing. From neutral layers to luxe loungewear, you’ll find an option that’s as comfortable as it is polished — perfect for savoring the season in style.

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Top: Glitter Tulle Pumps

Middle: Guest In Residence Everywear Pant

Bottom: Women’s Smashed Satin Asymmetric Top in Oyster

events

A SELECTION OF UPCOMING LOCAL EVENTS

NOVEMBER 2ND

Ramsey Farmers’ Market (Outdoor Season)

Ramsey Main Street Train Station, Erie Plaza off Main St., Ramsey | 9:00 AM

Open Year Round! Stock the pantry with peak-season produce, baked goods and small-batch specialties every Sunday. Live music, neighborly vibes and easy parking make the market an effortless preholiday staple. The Ramsey Farmers' Market hours will change effective December-April to 10 a.m. -1 p.m.. For more information, visit ramseyfarmersmarket.org.

NOVEMBER 2ND

Upper Saddle River Library — “Novels at Night” (Book Club)

245 Lake St., Upper Saddle River | 7:00 PM

An easygoing, after-dinner discussion in the Adult Solarium. Meet fellow readers, swap takes and leave with your next great pick. Registration recommended. For more information, visit uppersaddleriverlibrary.org.

NOVEMBER 3RD

RCNJ Theater Presents: Ride the Cyclone

Berrie Center, 505 Ramapo Valley Rd., Mahwah | 8:00 PM

In this hilarious and outlandish story, the lives of six teenagers from a choir are cut short in a freak accident aboard a roller coaster. When they awake in limbo, a mechanical fortune teller invites each to tell a story to win a prize like no other — the chance to return to life. Ticketed event. For more information, visit ramapo.edu/berriecenter.

NOVEMBER 14TH

Ramapo College — “Dracula” (First-Year Student Production)

Berrie Center, 505 Ramapo Valley Rd., Mahwah | 8:00 PM

Bram Stoker’s classic rises on stage with a new class of performers and plenty of gothic atmosphere. Ticketed event. For more information, visit ramapo.edu/berriecenter.

NOVEMBER 15TH

Allendale “Walking & Honoring: Tunnel to Towers” 5K/Walk

298 Hillside Ave., Allendale | 10:00 AM

Join neighbors to honor first responders and military heroes with a family-friendly route at Northern Highlands Regional High School. Vendors and supporters welcome. Registration required. For more information, visit runsignup.com/Race/NJ/Allendale/AllendaleWalkandRunSupportsT2T.

NOVEMBER 22ND

Wyckoff YMCA - 15th Annual Big Holiday Shop

Wyckoff Family YMCA, 691 Wyckoff Ave, Wyckoff | 10:00 AM

Kick-start holiday gifting with more than 50 markers - décor, jewelry, toys and treats. Stroll vendor aisles, meet local artisans and find one-of-a-kind surprises at the Y's annual marketplace. For more information, visit wyckoffymca.org.