Multitasking is a myth, even when it comes to women

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I am bringing up the subject of multitasking for a very good reason. Almost all women that I talk to are masters in what is called multitasking. The problem is that when we want to bring about a change in our lives and in our relationships, multitasking is not necessarily to our benefit. To begin with: Multitasking is a myth. Our brain can do only one thing at a time, neurologists are in total agreement regarding this. What you’re experiencing if you feel you can juggle multiple things at the same time, is something different. Instead, you are good at switching between different tasks, you are not doing them simultaneously even if it feels like it. This switching requires a great amount of energy, and your brain is working a lot on a very high frequency to shift between all the things that you juggle at the same time. If you are one of those individuals that are “good at multitasking,” you probably also

experience that you get tired. And I would assume that you feel more tired compared to, for example, your male partner not being so “good at multitasking.” When we want to bring about change in our relationship, we need resources and if we are depleting ourselves and our resources by extensive multitasking, this process of growth will strip the best out of you. In short, life will be perceived as exhausting, or even more exhausting than what it already feels like.

It might feel provoking to be told not to multitask—because there is a reason why we multitask, right? If we don’t multitask things don’t get done, things spin out of control… But what if—just what if—the control we uphold with our multitasking isn’t really taking us to a place we most of all desire?

Do you know what it is like to leave the life you know, to head out for a life far away from the safety of our home country? Leaving family, friends, culture, and perhaps even language behind, to step into the promise of something fantastic. If you are one of these brave souls, you probably also desire a life that is more than just functional. You want it to be F♥cking Fantastic! Right?

This book is written for you. Because the truth is that leaving the old familiar is also a crash course in personal growth. Taking that step together with a partner or finding a partner abroad invites for an even deeper reward, but it also brings challenges powerful enough to sometimes knock the wind out of you. Women and men have different mechanisms for coping with these challenges. This book is a manual for women, written by a man, addressing common challenges and providing powerful strategies on how to get your dream relationship with the man you already have.

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