Meaningful endurance, a key component needed when our partner struggles in getting their act together

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of whether we are aware of the choices we make or not, we make them. And with those choices we also design the reality we are experiencing. This book was written during the COVID-19 pandemic, and I might argue that a virus was governing what my life looked like and that there was nothing I could do about it. That is one perspective; a different perspective is, “What do I make out of my life considering the circumstances?” The same thing goes for our relationships. There is always a choice regarding how we view things, and to take responsibility for our part in how things look like is a very healthy starting point. We are continuously creating the reality we experience, moment by moment through our choices. The beautiful thing about this perspective is that we can change our reality, we are the creators, and if we change our behavior, our reality changes and adapts. It might not change overnight but in time things will change if you change. If we instead expect others to change, we have no idea what our reality will turn out to be, and it’s quite possible that the reality we are longing for is not materializing if we depend on others to change.

Endurance is a vital component in any relationship. Without endurance we don’t have any patience and give up at the first sign of resistance. But it’s important to make sure that we exercise meaningful endurance, as opposed to meaningless endurance. The latter is quite common and very often leads to a point where we explode because we have been so patient for such a long time waiting for our partner to grow and