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Meaningful endurance, a key component needed when our partner struggles in getting their act together

are humans—not numbers. So, what you feel is right for you, is right for you, regardless of what I, science, or anyone else might say!

I have but one wish when you read this book: that you trust yourself and connect to your own deep wisdom. I’m delighted if you find inspiration in parts of what I write, but again; make your own truth out of it!

Last but not least, I mean well. I’ve written this book to support people like yourself to live a full life that includes fantastic relationships. My bluntness and sometimes provocative claims might be triggering, but I mean well. If you do feel triggered by my writing it might just be me lovingly poking you a bit, checking if you are sure about the path you are walking and the choices you make in life.

This book is dedicated to women in relationships who are living abroad, far away from their home country, relatives, childhood friends, and the culture they were brought up in. I am a part-time expat myself, dividing my time between two countries and committed to supporting women who desire a deeper understanding of their male partner, yearning for a fuller and more rewarding relationship. If you feel you have an okay relationship but want more in life than just “okay,” if you dream of a vibrant, exciting, and thriving relationship, this book might be part of your journey.

Professionally I tend to work predominantly with heterosexual women in relationships with a high level of drive and ability, and the reason is very simple. Women seem to be much better in holding together relationships; in general, I

find them much more committed to the growth and development of relationships, hence I find it more enjoyable to work with women—we share the same passion. I think the reason why most of my clients are heterosexual is because it’s the most common in our society and I myself am heterosexual; thus it’s easier to relate to each other and hence breakthroughs and results are reached faster and in a more enjoyable way. Of course, individuals outside of this group might very well benefit from reading this book, but I want to be clear that this is the reason for this book’s focus.

It’s a well-established fact that those who expose their relationships to a life abroad exploring other places to live, invite challenges into their relationships. To be perfectly correct these challenges aren’t unique, they are in essence the same as those that sooner or later surface when staying at home. But they come faster, and they sometimes come with an intensity so powerful they floor us. And for a couple living abroad there is more skin in the game. A relationship falling apart when living abroad has massive impact on not just our overall wellbeing, it often leads to a logistic nightmare. When kids, multiple careers, and so on are added to the equation, the complexity rises exponentially.

To handle these challenges and make life fantastic it helps greatly if we understand why things develop the way they do and have a toolbox supporting us in coping with them. I refer to them as challenges, not hardships or problems. According to me, a challenge, when mastered, leads to something good! So far in my life, I haven’t come across one single relationship-related issue that I haven’t been able to extract something good out of. I’m observing the same potential in all relationships that cross my way. Last but certainly not least, you are not alone facing these challenges in your relation-