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Must Haves for Multitasking Moms
The annual back-to-school season sees a spike in multitasking moms on the go. School drop-offs, events, errands, and after-school activity runs mean mom needs convenient gear that will help her out while she’s on the move. Here are some products that will give parents of babies and toddlers a helping hand while they’re out and about with their older children.
KeaBabies Original Wrap Carrier
Designed with stretchy yet sturdy fabric, this wrap evenly distributes your baby’s weight to prevent back and shoulder strain. Its elasticity ensures a secure, snug fit without frequent adjustments, and its one-size-fits-all design suits parents of all sizes. The carrier also creates a cozy comfortable environment that mimics the womb, making your baby feel calm and secure, as well as promoting crucial growth and development in the early months. (Amazon, $27.96)
Diaper Bag Backpack
Made with premium Oxford fabric which is water-resistant and scratch-proof, KeaBabies Original Diaper Bag Backpack with changing pad will take you anywhere without breaking. The changing mat is generously sized, features a waterproof surface, and can be easily cleaned with sanitizer after each use. In addition to carrying diapers, toys, and snacks, the bag also has a separate area with insulated pockets especially for baby bottles. (Amazon, $42.96)
GoldBug Shopping Cart Cover
If baby is joining you at the grocery store, your trip will be made a lot easier with this shopping cart cover from GoldBug. It contains an extra-large phone pocket, two loops for toys, and a built-in safety harness for secure seating—ideal for active, wiggly babies and toddlers. Lightweight and foldable, it stores neatly in your car, making it the perfect baby essential for errands, travel, or impromptu restaurant visits. Plus, it’s machine washable making it a snap to clean!
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BUBBLEFEST
CELEBRATES 20 YEARS!
Get ready to celebrate 20 years of bubbly fun at Buffalo’s bubbliest day of the year—BubbleFEST at the Buffalo Museum of Science, presented by Five Star Bank!
On Saturday, September 13, the Museum is marking the 20th anniversary of BubbleFEST with all manners of bubbly fun including interactive bubble activities throughout the museum, from small bubbles to giant bubbles you can stand it; a groovy bubble disco; an outdoor Foam Zone with Buffalo Foam Parties (weather permitting) and more.
All tickets include access to a new auditorium stage show with special guest Ms. Bubbles from Wow Party Buffalo! These 20-minute stage shows start at 10:30am, 11:30am, 1pm, 2pm and 3pm. Open seating for these shows is available on a first-come, first seated basis. Arrive to the auditorium early for best availability.
Want to get extra bubbly? Add extra bubble fun with bubbly concessions for lunch as well as a Bubble Plush Café where the Museum’s “Bubble-ristas” will prepare a cuddly bubble buddy to take home (starting at $7.99, while supplies last).
Skip the lines with advance tickets and enjoy a speedier entry through the Museum’s separate express lane. Tickets are $25.00 for adults and $23.00 for children ages 2-17. Free admission for children under 2. Tickets can be purchased at www.sciencebuff.org. BubbleFEST is free to Buffalo Museum of Science members. Museum members have the opportunity to purchase tickets to the VIP Member Early Admission Hour from 9am – 10am. The Museum will open 250 tickets for a VIP hour before the doors open to the general public. These member-only premium tickets grant early access to the bubble activities throughout the museum and first dibs on seating for the first Wow Party Buffalo stage show of the day. VIP Member Early Admission Hour Tickets are $15.00 for adult members and $10.00 for child members (Free for member children under 2). These tickets are limited and are expected to sell out in advance.
Choose the After School Activities for Your Child Best
After-school activities are an excellent way for kids to learn new skills. But how do you decide which activities are best for your child? As parents, it’s essential to approach this process thoughtfully, considering what aligns with your child’s interests, age, and personality.
Start By Considering Your Child’s Interests and Personality
Each child is different, and what excites one may not interest another. Observe what your child enjoys doing in their free time and ask them about what they want to do. If your child is active and enjoys being outdoors, sports activities like soccer, swimming, or hiking might be a good fit. For creative children, consider enrolling them in art classes, music lessons, or dance. Academically inclined children might enjoy STEM clubs, coding classes, or chess clubs. Those who are socially minded might thrive in debate clubs, community service projects, or theater groups.
Pick
Age-Appropriate Activities
Selecting age-appropriate activities is crucial for your child’s engagement and development. Consider your child’s age and general abilities. These are not set rules, but guidelines to help you make the best choices.
Preschool (Ages 3-5): Focus on basic motor skills, creative play, and simple group activities like music or dance classes.
Elementary School (Ages 6-11): Offer a variety including team sports, arts and crafts, music lessons, or scouting.
Middle School (Ages 12-14): Encourage more specialized interests such as robotics clubs, drama productions, or advanced sports teams.
High School (Ages 15-18): Provide opportunities for leadership roles, competitive sports, career-oriented clubs, or volunteer work.
Balance Structured and Unstructured Activities
While structured activities are essential for skill-building and social interaction, it’s equally important to allow time for unstructured activities. Structured activities provide discipline and a sense of accomplishment. However, unstructured activities, such as free play at home, nature walks, library time, playdates, and family nights, are crucial for fostering creativity, relaxation, and self-directed learning. Ensuring a balance between the two types of activities helps prevent burnout and encourages
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overall development. Plus, kids have more fun when they feel balanced.
Be Sure to Consider Logistics
Practical considerations play a significant role in choosing the best after-school activities. Look for activities that are conveniently located close to home or school to minimize travel time and stress. The schedule of the activity should fit well within your child’s daily routine without overwhelming them. Additionally, evaluate the costs associated with the activity, including fees, equipment, and any additional expenses. Some organizations offer financial assistance or scholarships, so explore these options if needed.
Encourage Exploration and Growth
Kids need to explore different activities to help them discover their passions and develop a broad range of skills. Allow them to try new things and support their independence in making choices.
It’s important to foster perseverance and commitment when kids try new things. A great way to do this is to set a clear expectation for how long they will try the new activity. This can be a
set number of times or a period of time. It is equally important to recognize when an activity is not a good fit and be open to making changes. This approach helps your child develop resilience and adaptability.
Always Communicate with Your Child
Open communication with your child is essential throughout the process. Listen to their preferences and concerns, and regularly check in to see how they feel about their activities. Ensure they are enjoying the activity and feeling positively challenged. Your support and encouragement are crucial in helping them thrive and grow.
Make Time for Rest and Family
While after-school activities can be a valuable part of your child’s growth, it’s easy to overfill the calendar. Between school, activities, homework, and family responsibilities, kids and parents can feel stretched too thin. Be intentional about leaving some afternoons or evenings completely free for family time, rest, or low-key fun at home. Not every moment needs to be scheduled for kids to learn and thrive. In fact, downtime often gives kids the mental and physical space they need to recharge and show up fully for the activities they love.
By taking a thoughtful and supportive approach, you can help your child engage in activities that promote their development, happiness, and overall well-being.
Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.
—by Tanni Haas, Ph.D.
As summer vacation slowly winds down, the upcoming school year is front and center on most parents’ minds. One question many parents ask themselves is how they can become more actively engaged in and supportive of their kids’ education. Here’s a list of some of the many ways you can involve yourself with their school.
ATTEND BACK-TO-SCHOOL NIGHT
Whether your kids are returning to the same school after the vacation or they’ll be enrolled in a brand-new school, it’s always a good idea to attend the yearly back-to-school night (sometimes referred to as the back-to-school orientation). This is where you get to meet the school’s leadership team (principal and assistant principals), other important school staff like the parent coordinator (the main school-level point of contact for parents) and the school counselor, and oftentimes your kids’ classroom teachers.
VOLUNTEER AT SCHOOL EVENTS
During back-to-school night, you often learn about major events that are planned for the upcoming school year. This could be anything from dances, musical and theatrical performances, to art and science showcases. Take note of the dates these events will be held and consider volunteering at one of them. Most schools depend on parent volunteers to assist with these events, especially if they’re held in the evening or on weekends.
Great Ways To Get Involved With Your Kids’ School
OTHER VOLUNTEER OPPORTUNITIES
There are many other opportunities to volunteer your time and expertise. If you’re available during the day, you can help out in the school’s computer lab or library. You can also volunteer to be a lunch monitor in the cafeteria or if you have the inclination, run a book club or offer tutoring either during lunch or after school.
ASSIST IN THE CLASSROOM
If you’re more comfortable helping out in your kids’ classroom, consider assisting with math, reading, or writing instruction, or any other subject matter on which their teachers could use an extra pair of hands. Oftentimes, the kids produce a yearly or semi-yearly newsletter that updates parents on what they’ve been up to, major academic topics or historical events they’ve studied, etc. If you’re good with computers, especially layout, volunteer to help out with the newsletter.
WORK AS A CHAPERONE ON SCHOOL TRIPS
Most schools organize one or more day or overnight trips. Many have a direct educational value, like visiting a local beach, forest or river to study the wildlife. Other times, it’s a trip intended to give the kids an opportunity to enjoy each other’s and their teachers’ company in a less stressful setting, like an excursion to a local amusement park. Whatever is the case, serving as
a chaperone is a great way to get to connect with other parents and your kids’ teachers.
PARTICIPATE IN EDUCATIONAL SESSIONS
Many schools host sessions throughout the year where educational experts, either from the outside (local professors of education) or internally (the school psychologist or the reading specialist) speak about important matters like child development and best practices with respect to curriculum and instruction. These sessions are a great source of information about the school’s specific educational philosophy and how you can support your kids’ learning.
JOIN THE FUNDRAISING COMMITTEE
Most schools, whether public or private, need extra funds to operate, and the fundraising committee needs volunteers to help raise those funds. Serving on the fundraising committee can also help you build relationships with other committed parents and the school’s leadership team.
BECOME A MEMBER OF THE PARENTTEACHER ASSOCIATION
If you want to become even more involved with your kids’ school, join the Parent-Teacher Association. It’s generally composed of highly committed parents and teachers who meet on a regular basis and serve as the liaisons to the school’s leadership team. If you want to have say on all the important decisions that affect your kids’ education and well-being, you’ll want to be a part of this important association.
ATTEND SCHOOL BOARD MEETINGS
To get a broad perspective and exert influence on your kids’ education, attend local school board meetings or run for election to join the school board. Despite its name, in most instances a school board isn’t responsible for the operation of any single school, but rather for all the schools in a given district, city, or county.
HELPING WITH HOMEWORK
An important but often overlooked way to connect with your kids’ school is simply to help out with homework. If your kids don’t need any help, simply ask them about it. Homework is one of the best windows into what your kids are doing academically on a day-to-day basis, and it gives you an appreciation for where they’re excelling and where they might be struggling and need some extra help.
EMAIL TEACHERS
Keep in regular contact with your kids’ teachers. Teachers will often encourage parents to email them with any questions or concerns. However, only email teachers if they’ve invited you to do so and make sure not to overdo it. Teachers have extremely busy lives, and you don’t want them to feel more overwhelmed than they already are.
MEET UP WITH OTHER PARENTS
Meet up with other parents from your kids’ class, either at a local playground or through organized playdates if the kids are young, or a local café with or without the kids if they’re older. It’s hard to overestimate the importance of getting to know other parents. Talking to other parents will give you a fresh perspective on what’s happening in the school, and you may even learn about other ways to become involved that you didn’t even know existed.
ATTEND PARENT-TEACHER CONFERENCES
Finally, make sure to attend parent-teacher conferences. These are typically held once or twice a year. It’s the principal way to keep track of how your kids are doing academically and socially, and what they need to work on the most during the remainder of the school year.
Tanni Haas, Ph.D. is a Professor in the Department of Communication Arts, Sciences, and Disorders at the City University of New York – Brooklyn College.
Laying the Foundation for Writing
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Learning to write is one of the defining milestones of early childhood, but it doesn’t happen all at once. Children build writing skills over time, from indecipherable scribbles to writing letters and words. While children progress at their own pace, families can help foster early writing development.
Dr. Lauren Loquasto, senior vice president and chief academic officer at The Goddard School, and Dr. Sonia Cabell, professor of reading education at Florida State University and member of The Goddard School’s Educational Advisory Board, provide this insight and guidance for families.
EARLY WRITING MILESTONES
Writing begins in early toddlerhood, around 18-24 months. The earliest developmental milestone is when children scribble on paper with a crayon.
pear backwards or from right to left. These are not causes for concern; this is a natural part of the development process.
WRITING SUPPORTS READING (AND VICE VERSA)
Reading and writing skills develop in tandem, reinforcing each other. Through writing, children experiment with how written language works, learning English moves from left to right and top to bottom. By estimating spelling—using their knowledge of letter shapes and sounds to attempt to write words—they are beginning to break the code of reading. Moreover, when children are composing stories, they are supporting comprehension and oral language growth, which are critical for reading development.
ENCOURAGE WRITING AT HOME
Make writing part of everyday life. While ensuring paper and writing utensils are accessible is a start, materials alone won’t spontaneously create writing experiences. Children naturally want to engage with things they see, so parents and older siblings should serve as writing models. For example, when writing a grocery list, ask your children to write their own lists. When you’re writing a thank-you note, have them write their own.
The development of fine motor skills is also essential. One way to do this is provide tools like chopsticks or tongs that require them to use their forefinger and thumb in a pinching motion; this strengthens the hand muscles that are used to write. Also encourage play with small toys like blocks or beads that engage the hands in different ways. As fine motor skills improve, it becomes easier to grip writing utensils and write for extended periods.
By 2-3 years old, children often draw shapes and narrate their writing. Parents should show genuine interest to help build confidence and interest. Ask your children to read what they write, as this helps make the connection that marks on paper represent thoughts and ideas. It’s not expected for children younger than 3 to write identifiable letters. Instead, encourage them to make marks on paper without constraint, allowing them to freely express themselves.
Around ages 3-5, children begin to move from writing (making marks) to handwriting, which is the formalized motion of making numerals and letters in recognizable forms. It’s vital for parents to value their children’s writing no matter what appears on the paper and provide opportunities for them to regularly engage in writing. Children at this age tend to write letters in different ways. It’s common, for example, for letters to ap-
WRITING TOOLS
From apps to workbooks, countless tools and resources tout their ability to help children learn to write. Be wary. Typing on a tablet or computer is no substitute for learning to write by hand. Multiple studies have shown that writing—not typing—better promotes cognitive and literacy development.
Avoid activities like workbooks that require repetitive writing of letters over and over, as this inhibits creativity and experimentation. These activities can cause children to fear making mistakes, which can lead to anxiety, frustration and a loss of interest. The best tools are often the simplest: a small writing utensil (not big or bulky; children have small hands and need appropriately sized utensils) and a blank piece of paper.
Remember, children develop at their own pace. Provide encouragement and focus on effort, not perfection.
To watch a writing webinar featuring Loquasto and Cabell and access additional parenting resources, visit the Parent Resource Center at GoddardSchool.com.
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Out the Door on Time: 9 Tips for a Smooth Morning Routine
Iam not a morning person. Life at home with my toddlers used to be filled with mornings cuddling in PJs. Arriving at preschool on time was a challenge; I was often late. When my son started kindergarten, I was determined to get my act together and break the cycle. I gleaned ideas from the web, talked to other moms, and put a system in place. I use these tips to get up and out the door in 45 minutes each morning.
USE SUNDAY WISELY
Think ahead and prepare for the week on Sunday; it helps save time in the long run.
1. Bag snacks, fruits and veggies for the week to save time on busy sports practice and running-around days. Doing this in advance also gives you a heads up if stocking up on lunchbox staples is necessary, thereby avoiding last-minute shopping trips.
2. Use an organizing system to put together school outfits for the week. I bought a hanging system for my son’s closet with a compartment for each day. Every Sunday, we check the weather for the upcoming week and put outfits in each compartment. Sometimes my son wants to choose his clothes; sometimes he lets me choose. There is never an argument, question, or decision to make about what to wear in the morning.
3. Put an organizing system by the door for shoes and backpacks. Professional organizers often recommend an area with hooks for backpacks and a rack below for shoes. Having homework and permission slips ready in the backpack the night before is crucial.
THE NIGHT BEFORE
4. Make lunches the night before. This includes filling water bottles.
5. Set the table for breakfast after doing the dinner dishes. You’re already in the kitchen; getting it all done at once makes sense.
IN THE MORNING
6. Keep breakfast simple. Cereal with toast, yogurt or fruit keeps us on the go. Try to sit down and have breakfast as soon as the kids get up. This avoids the grab-and-go breakfast that research shows can lead to obesity. It also helps avoid last-minute spills on school clothes that could cause a meltdown for kids or parents.
Try this savvy breakfast trick: Always bake a double batch of muffins and freeze the extras. That way, the kids can just take one out and warm it in the microwave.
If you have a picky eater who wants a hot breakfast, try toaster waffles, make-ahead egg muffins or bagels.
7. Have your child use an alarm clock. We bought a Yoda alarm clock and gave it to our son as a present as he entered kindergarten. He was excited by the unexpected gift and, in turn, was excited to use it. I was amazed when he skipped into the dining room each morning at 6:15 a.m., ready to start his day.
8. Most parents agree with this rule: No electronics before school. They are way too distracting.
9. With older children, get creative! A fun way to get tweens and teens out of bed and moving is to turn on music in their rooms. Make it nice and loud and then sing and dance (if necessary), substituting words with phrases about waking up and getting moving. Groans may soon turn into laughter and they start preparing for the school day.
There is no magic and no two families are alike. Figure out what works for your family, then put a system in place. Planning ahead will help start the day in a more positive, less frazzled way.
Cherie Gough is a freelance writer who appreciates practical solutions that make time for enjoying simple pleasures with her two teens.
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...talk about their anxieties as a natural part of your end-ofsummer conversations
Simple Ways To Reduce Back-To-School Anxiety
Alot of kids feel anxious at back-to-school time, after a long summer full of fun. They’re often the most anxious when they’re about to go to a new school, are going through a transition year from elementary to middle school or middle to high school, or when a best friend has moved away over the summer break. What do you do to make your kids less anxious and more excited about the upcoming school year? Experts agree on the following:
TALK TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT THEIR ANXIETIES
If you suspect that your kids are experiencing back-to-school anxiety, talk to them about it. Instead of sitting them down for a formal affair, talk about their anxieties as a natural part of your endof-summer conversations. As Caroline Miller of the Child Mind Institute puts it: “Kids often say more when there’s less pressure to ‘have a talk.’” Ask open-ended questions that you know will get them to speak, listen carefully to how they respond, and acknowledge their anxieties no matter how exaggerated they may
seem. “When children know they can share their observations or challenges, and their parents will listen,” says Dr. Laurie Hollman, a child psychotherapist, “they go to school with the parents’ calm, steady voice in the back of their minds.”
STAY POSITIVE AND PROJECT CONFIDENCE IN THEM
When you talk to your kids, stay positive and let them know that you’ve confidence in them. As Dr. Kurt Smith, a counseling psychologist, puts it: “Your enthusiasm will be noticed and remembered.” Focus your conversation on how well everything turned out in previous years, and assure them you’re confident about this year, too. It can be helpful to recount your own back-to-school experiences with anxiety and how you overcame them. “Kids love to hear stories from their parents’ childhood,” says Dr. Joan Munson, a clinical psychologist, “because it helps normalize any difficult feelings they’re experiencing.” You can also help them normalize their feelings, Dr. Munson says, simply be reminding
them “that all children have these fears and they’re not alone.”
PRACTICE SCHOOL DAY ROUTINES
You can help ease your kids’ anxieties by having them practice their school-day routines, like waking up in the morning at a specific time, getting dressed, packing the school bag, eating breakfast, and travelling to school. Dr. Lynn Bufka, a clinical psychologist, says that practicing school-day routines will instill in your kids “a sense of mastery over the situation” and “will help them feel like it’s more under their control.” Indeed, research shows that kids who prepare in advance for the upcoming school year are less anxious and do better academically.
ENGAGE THEM IN ROLE PLAY
It’s helpful to role play the schoolrelated situations that make your kids the most anxious. “The best way to gain mastery over worries,” says Katie Hurley, a licensed social worker, “is to practice taking control over worrisome
situations.” This can be anything from riding the school bus to participating in class discussions. “If you discover that your child’s afraid of riding the school bus,” says Dr. Munson, “set up an area in the house and do a ‘pretend’ ride to school.” Similarly, “if they’re afraid to ask the teacher questions, do role plays together on how to speak up in class.”
ARRANGE PLAY DATES WITH CLASSMATES
It’s a good idea to arrange play dates with your kids’ friends, especially if you know that those friends are likely to be their classmates during the upcoming school year. “Play dates before school starts,” says Dr. Hollman, “can help prepare them to be with their classmates in an unpressured setting.” Dr. Munson agrees: “If your child hasn’t seen school friends over the summer, it isn’t too late to invite them over to help your child get re-acquainted with them and excited for school. Visits to the park, pool, or movies with old friends—and new ones, too—can make your child feel more comfortable when they encounter their peers at school.”
MAKE THE FIRST SCHOOL DAY SPECIAL
The first day of school should be treated like a special occasion. “Letting
them choose what clothes to wear or breakfast to have,” says Dr. John Piacentini, a child psychiatrist, “can provide a sense of control and excitement about school.” But don’t assume that this will magically reduce all your kids’ anxieties. Dr. Munson emphasizes that parents ought to “set aside a time in the evening to discuss how their child’s day went and to listen to any concerns.”
DON’T BE ANXIOUS YOURSELF
Try to control any anxieties that you may experience yourself. Anxiety is contagious, so if you’re anxious, your kids can get anxious, too. As Ms. Hurley puts it, “if you appear overwhelmed and anxious on the first day of school, your child is likely to follow your lead.” Instead, Dr. Julia Burch, a child psychologist, suggests that you “try to model the calm behavior you’d like to see in your child.” If you stay calm and focus on all the great things your kids are about to experience, they’ll end up getting more excited than anxious about the upcoming school year.
Tanni Haas, Ph.D. is a Professor in the Department of Communication Arts, Sciences, and Disorders at the City University of New York – Brooklyn College.
Looking to strike up a conversation with your child?
Here are some FUN QUESTIONS to get things going!
What is your favorite book?
What is the hardest part about going to school?
Who is the best superhero and why?
If you could make up a new holiday, what would it be?
If you could design a house, what would it look like?
*Source – familyeducation.com
TWEENS & TEENS
How To Help Your Teen Stay On Task
Middle school tends to be a stressful time for most kids and the parents who are dealing with them. Between raging hormones, new social dynamics, social media, and school pressures, middle schoolers can experience a slew of emotions and get easily distracted from their school work. Here are some of the most common challenges that they face and ways to help tackle them.
TOO MANY COMMITMENTS
Many kids feel overwhelmed with their over-scheduled lives. As parents, we feel like we are not doing a good job if we do not sign our children up for a variety of activities. As kids reach the teen years, the time commitment for activities like sports and theater can get really intense. Not only is there a ton of pressure for them to perform at the top of their game, but they participate for many hours each week—sometimes until late in the evening and on weekends. These outside commitments take away from the time they need to concentrate on homework, not to mention sleep and downtime.
TOO MANY DISTRACTIONS
Teens’ lives are filled with so many distractions, mainly from technology. The texts and social media updates pour in all day. Friends talk about video games they have to play or TikTok dances they must watch. All of this buzz can make it extremely hard for teens to focus on their school work. And, frankly, it’s
hard to compete when there’s so much excitement happening online.
TOO MANY PRESSURES
Since middle school is a stepping stone to high school, many kids feel intense pressure to do well in order to get accepted into the best private high school or magnet program in their community. They are often told that they need to excel in honors classes even as early at sixth grade or their future will be ruined. This is an unnecessary pressure put on kids who are still developing in so many ways. Instead, they should be exploring their interests and learning how to maneuver the new dynamics of being a teenager. All of this pressure can lead to mental health issues like anxiety and depression, which will only take away from their academic success. Staying relaxed and balanced is critical for teens to be able to focus and learn effectively.
SO, WHAT CAN WE DO?
Teach time management skills. By providing some simple tools to our kids, we can help them better manage their time so they can get their school work done without too much stress. Using a planner can be very effective as well as daily check-ins to go over assignments. Reducing tech distractions like text alerts can also help kids stay focused and manage their time wisely.
Communicate. On any given day, our kids are probably juggling lots of feelings and may not always know the best way to process them. As parents, it’s so critical that we keep the line of communication open and let them know we love them and they can always come to us with their questions and concerns.
Learn to say no. This is a powerful tool to teach our kids that will help them throughout their lives. Limit the amount of time spent in extracurricular activities by choosing them wisely. Encourage your kids to say yes to what they love and no to commitments that drag them down. My rule of thumb is to not commit to more than one activity each day, and to leave plenty of time for relaxation on the weekends.
Make time for fun. Balance is key to a happy, healthy life. Give your kids plenty of space for good old-fashioned fun, such as creative arts, games, reading, a new hobby, and even free play (it’s for big kids, too!).
Sandi Schwartz is an award-winning author, freelance journalist, and mother of two. She has written extensively about parenting, wellness, and environmental issues. As the founder and director of the Ecohappiness Project, her mission is to inspire and educate families to build a nature habit to feel happier and calmer. Both her parenting book, Finding Ecohappiness: Fun Nature Activities to Help Your Kids Feel Happier and Calmer, and children’s book, Sky’s Search for Ecohappiness, are available now. Learn more at www.ecohappinessproject.com.
—by Sandi Schwartz
3 Approaches to Teaching Your Kids
Another Language
With so many benefits to learning another language, it is clear that it is good for children. Many parents, however, struggle with how to help their children, especially if they don’t speak the language themselves. Thankfully, there are things you can do and incorporate into your daily life that will expand your child’s language learning. And the best part is that they don’t need to be complicated.
Look at these 3 approaches and decide which one is best for your family right now:
1) IMMERSION
This is often thought to be the most effective way for children to learn a new language. Immersing a child in a learning environment that is in a new language or is bilingual offers the benefits of faster learning, more accurate pronunciation and meaning, and deeper understanding.
Jovi Olsen, Chief of Communications & Institutional Equity at Silicone Valley International School believes, “an in-person bilingual program is best, as it is immersive.” She adds that it is best if it is taught by a native speaker.
Another form of immersion learning is raising your child in a bilingual home. If you or someone else in the home is bilingual, decide how you will incorporate the two languages to maximize learning. Two options are:
One Person, One Language: Each parent consistently speaks to and interacts with the child in a different language. For example, one parent may speak English with the child while the other interacts with them in Spanish. This ensures the child is routinely exposed to both languages.
Set a Language Time: Set aside a portion of each day for interacting in the second language. Make these conversations as natural and unstructured as pos-
sible. You simply go about your normal activities while using the second language. As you do this consistently each day, your child will have part of each day fully immersed in the language they are learning.
2) LANGUAGE CLASS OR TUTORING
Some people prefer to approach language the way they would an extracurricular activity or sport. Taking a class weekly or a few times per week provides consistent practice for the child with an instructor or tutor. It is through repetition and consistency offered in the class or tutoring sessions that the child will begin to understand and master a new language.
“Using a proficiency-based approach with proper measurement tools to assess the students’ learning is going to be the best. The best pedagogical method is in-person, with a group, meeting several times a week, and with a skilled teacher,” says Deron Marvin, Co-Head of School at Shu Ren International School/An IB World School.
Ideas to consider:
• Language class during the academic year
• Weekly tutoring
• After-school or extracurricular language program
3) CASUAL LEARNING AND EXPLORATION
You can also take a more casual, exploratory approach to learning a new language. While this may be a slower process, it does allow the child to learn in an organic way that blends with their everyday life.
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3 APPROACHES TO TEACHING YOUR KIDS ANOTHER LANGUAGE
fond of this approach as it can be done through everyday play.
There are many ways to incorporate this type of learning such as:
Playtime: Young kids learn through play. Incorporate another language during playtime. Talk through activities and routines to learn new vocabulary as you play with your child.
Exposure: Make the new language available in a variety of ways. This can include toys, books, games, and technology that utilizes the second language.
Focus: Provide focused learning with simple things like labels and flashcards. These visual cues will help young learners master languages.
Explore: One of the most interesting parts of language is connected to culture. Spend time exploring cultural events that allow your family to learn about the activities, foods, celebrations, and traditions of a new culture. As you do, your child can learn about the language in new ways.
SOMETHING TO REMEMBER
Daniela Ruelas, M.A. and Silvia Piedrasanta of KSS Immersion Schools remind us that learning a new language benefits your child with “increased brain development and learned flexibility as their brain actively switches between languages. In addition to a variety of research supporting language learning at a young age, children also benefit from learning about other cultures—building greater awareness and a genuine acceptance of diversity—all while developing stronger connections to their own culture.”
Pursuing a new language is exciting for your child. The more you can make it an enjoyable experience the more enriching it will be and the more they will get out of it. You can choose one of these approaches or a combination. The most important thing is that it works for your family.
From Grandparents to Grandkids: A Guide to Multigenerational Travel
Imagine a trip that includes parents, grandparents, and kids of all ages. It may seem impossible, but multigenerational travel is a great way to spend time with family and experience new things together. Traveling with multiple generations can be a rewarding experience, offering the chance to strengthen family bonds, create lifelong memories, and enjoy quality time together.
START BY CHOOSING THE PERFECT DESTINATION
Selecting a destination that caters to all ages is the key to a successful trip. The best destinations offer a balance of adventure and relaxation, ensuring that both young children and older adults can enjoy themselves. The destination doesn’t have to be everyone’s number one choice, but it should have something that each member of the family will look forward to.
All-inclusive resorts are a great choice for families who want a stressfree vacation with meals, entertainment, and activities all in one place. Cruises provide a similar convenience, allowing family members to explore different locations while enjoying a variety of onboard amenities.
—by Rebecca Hastings
For those who love the outdoors, national parks offer breathtaking scenery, hiking trails, and opportunities for wildlife spotting. Beach destinations provide the perfect mix of relaxation and fun water activities, while cities offer cultural experiences, museums, and historical sites that can be fascinating for all generations.
Sometimes, it’s less about the destination and more about being together. In this case, find a house that fits everyone and plan your activities around spending time together.
CLARIFY FINANCIAL EXPECTATIONS EARLY
One important key to a smooth multigenerational trip is making sure everyone is on the same page when it comes to money. Before booking anything, have an open conversation about financial responsibilities. Will each family pay for their own lodging and meals? Are some costs being shared, like rental homes or excursions? Discussing everything from major expenses to small extras, like groceries or tips, helps avoid awkward surprises during the trip. Clear agreements up front make it easier to focus on enjoying your time together without stress or confusion.
A PLAN THAT WORKS FOR EVERYONE
With different personalities, interests, and energy levels in play, balancing the desires of a diverse group can be tricky. Communication is key. Before finalizing plans, talk to each family member about their expectations and interests. This way, everyone feels heard, and you can find common ground when planning activities.
It’s also important to create a flexible itinerary that includes a mix of group activities and downtime. Some family members might enjoy packed days of sightseeing and adventure, while others prefer leisurely mornings and relaxation. By scheduling both structured outings and free time, everyone gets the experience they’re looking for. Additionally, be mindful of different schedules—early risers and night owls may need separate activity options so no one feels rushed or left out.
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FIND THE RIGHT LODGING
Where you stay can make or break the trip, so choosing accommodations that provide both comfort and convenience is essential. Vacation rentals, such as Airbnb or VRBO, are an excellent choice for large families who want communal spaces while still maintaining privacy. These often come with full kitchens, which can help with meal planning and budget management.
Hotels with suites or adjoining rooms provide the benefits of on-site dining, pools, and easy access to nearby attractions. For those who prefer a hassle-free experience, all-inclusive resorts handle the details, allowing family members to focus on enjoying their time together. Multi-room cabins or condos in scenic locations provide the perfect mix of family togetherness and private space for unwinding. If the family opts for a cruise, booking cabins close to each other ensures that everyone stays connected while still having their own space.
CONSIDER A BALANCED TRIP WITH ACTIVITIES FOR ALL AGES
One easy way to do this is to plan rest days and sightseeing or activity days. You can follow whatever sched-
CONSIDER A BALANCED TRIP WITH ACTIVITIES FOR ALL AGES
ule works for your group, but be sure to include days that are blocked out for relaxing and days that are for specific activities.
Alternating works well because it gives everyone a day to rest after a fun day of activity. An example of a vacation may look like this:
Day 1: Arrive and settle in
Day 2: Exploring town and dinner out
Day 3: Rest day for individual activities or relaxing at lodging with parents night out
Day 4: Sightseeing day for visiting landmarks or museums
Day 5: Rest day for individual activities or relaxing at lodging
Day 6: Family activity or sightseeing adventure
Day 7: Rest and prepare to head home
FINAL TIPS FOR A SMOOTH TRIP
Planning ahead and good communication help the trip go smoothly. It’s also a good idea to discuss budget expectations upfront to avoid any financial misunderstandings. Factor in hidden costs like resort fees, transportation, and meals so that there are no surprises along the way.
Assign Roles and Responsibilities:
When traveling as a group, especially across multiple generations, it helps to assign roles or share responsibilities. Maybe one person takes charge of meal planning or making dinner reservations, while another organizes transportation or tickets for activities. Having a designated family photographer or someone in charge of daily logistics can also ease the mental load. By sharing tasks, no one feels overwhelmed, and everyone gets a chance to contribute to the trip’s success. Plus, it frees up time for more fun and less stress.
Capture the Memories: One of the biggest reasons families choose multigenerational travel is to create lasting memories together. Make sure to capture those moments along the way. Encourage everyone to take photos, not just the typical group shots but also the candid, everyday moments — playing games, sharing meals, or relaxing after a busy day. Consider setting up a shared photo album or chat where everyone can contribute their favorite pictures and memories. At the end of the trip, you can create a photo book or video montage as a keepsake everyone can enjoy for years to come.
Planning a multigenerational vacation may require extra effort, but the joy of spending quality time with loved ones makes it all worthwhile. With thoughtful preparation and open communication, you can create an experience that is enjoyable for every member of your family, leaving everyone with unforgettable memories.
DEAR TEACHER
– by Peggy Gisler and Marge Eberts
Helping all parents make their children’s educational experience as successful as possible
FINDING WAYS TO AVOID LAST YEAR’S HOMEWORK
PROBLEMS
Your children have been in school for a few weeks now. You’ve seen what they are studying and how they are handling the amount of homework their new teachers are assigning. If you are lucky, homework was handled smoothly last year with a minimum of parent/child conflict in getting it done, and that is the way that it is going this year.
If it looks like getting homework done could be a nightly issue, now is the time to establish a system that will work for your family. You and your child should first establish the “where” homework will be done. It really doesn’t have to be sitting at a desk in a quiet room. It is fine for children to lie in a bed, or on the floor, or listen to music. Marge’s son did his homework while watching TV, while her daughter did it in the kitchen while dinner was being prepared. And all of Peggy’s children sat together and did their homework at the kitchen table. It is what works for them. Of course, some children will not be able to complete their homework efficiently unless they are being observed by their parents. If this is the case, parents and children can choose a homework place together
The Procrastination Problem
Because doing homework after a long day in school is not an enjoyable task, unhappy homeworkers tend to put off starting it as long as possible. We have found that a homework contract between parent and child, like the one on our dearteacher.com website, can be an effective agreement on a starting time.
Parents can make starting homework much easier if they will sit with procrastinating children and together pick just one easy task for them to get started on. When that is completed, a short break can ensue before a new task is chosen.
The Time Problem
According to just about all the homework experts, the correct amount of time for children to devote
to homework is 10 minutes for each grade in school. Thus, the first grader spends 10 minutes, and the fifth grader spends 50 minutes. Unfortunately, some individual teachers or more than one teacher may go way overboard time-wise on too many nights. When this happens, homework time may possibly be reduced by parents talking to individual teachers or by having the parent/teacher organization request the school set a homework policy.
In addition, when children reach an unreasonable saturation point with the amount of homework, parents can write a note to teachers saying the children did as much as much as they could. This is not very helpful at the middle or high school levels when homework can be part of students’ grades. And obviously, the problem with children spending too much time on homework can be related to their not understanding the material. A talk with teachers is essential to handling this situation.
One unfortunate trend that we have observed is the unreasonable homework load that students may have at some private high schools. It is not unusual for them to be up to midnight night after night, especially if they have extracurricular activities after school. The schools assign so much work as preparation for admission to highly selective colleges.
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Ask For Accommodations
If children are having problems completing their homework because of a learning disability, accommodations for reduced homework time should be part of their Individual Education Plan.
How Much Should Parents Help
Parents will need to show young children how to tackle homework when it is first assigned. When older children ask for help, they need to show them how to find the help they need themselves by looking over notes and study guides. And now in this information age with just about everything online, help can often be found there simply by using a search engine.
It is realistic to expect children to handle their homework independently by seventh grade. And it is wise to be empathetic when your children complain about their homework so they know that you
Disorganization
In the past, children had problems getting their homework done because they did not bring home a list of their assignments or the books they needed. This problem largely evaporates as soon as they are doing most of their work on computers or tablets as they can usually find both assignments and materials online.
For younger children who must bring textbooks or materials home, having a reminder taped to their desk at school can be sufficient for many of them.
Parents should send questions and comments to dearteacher@dearteacher. com and visit the dearteacher.com website to learn more about helping their children suc-
PICK OF THE LITERATURE
— by Dr. Donna Phillips
September is the start of many things. Fall harvesting is starting. Sunset is starting to come earlier. Days are starting to get colder. It is the start of the Jewish New Year, Rosh Hashanah. And of course, the start of school! For many children it is the start of their formal education. For others it is the start of the end of their secondary schooling. And for others it is a chance to start anew. Regardless of what level they are at, reading will be an important focus and skill and the best way to support this is with books. While schools are where most children learn how to read, it is from the home and the community that they learn to value reading….and the best way to do this by modeling reading and getting books into their hands. Here are some books that might get your children off to a good start and help them to fit into the new school year.
Part of school success is believing that you can learn. The earlier we start developing that belief is crucial and a delightful board book that can help children do this is You’re So Bright (Sourcebooks, Naperville, 2025, $8.99) written by Rose Rossner and illustrated
by Emily Emerson. With a combination of puns and the use of common classroom objects and activities, this book is a wonderful way to introduce young children to the language of school, invite them into the fun that classrooms provide, and give them the confidence they will need to succeed. The illustrations are perfect to help a young child learn to match words and pictures, a basic beginning skill for reading.
Narwhal doesn’t seem to be made for kindergarten. As hard as he tries to be helpful and fit in, his tusk is difficult to miss and is constantly causing problems that are hard to hide. He can’t fit in the bus without it sticking out the window. He keeps getting tangled up in playground equipment. It knocks things over in the classroom and manages to destroy classroom decorations. Try as he might, he can’t seem to find a way to fit in or at least not draw attention to himself. Narwhal vs. Kindergarten (Dial Books for Young Readers, New York.
2025, $18.99), written and illustrated by Vanessa Roeder, is a book for everyone who just never seemed to fit in at school and always seemed to be standing out…for the wrong reasons. While Narwhal doesn’t completely fix all of his problems, he does find ways to use his uniqueness to help others and make a positive contribution to the classrooms and his friends. With the help of his teachers and his classmates he learns to fit in…in his own special way. Everyone encounters problems like this in their school careers, but some have more incidents than others. With the help of teachers, parents, classmates, and books like these, we can all learn how to get along and celebrate our uniqueness.
For those kids that love dinosaurs, Oh No! Dinosaurs in my School (Sourcebooks, Naperville, 2025, $8.99) will certainly capture their attention and imagination while developing an ear for rhyme and expose them to many of their favorite dinosaur names. It seems dinosaurs are all over the school creating messes in the art room, breaking things in the music room, upsetting bookshelves in the library, disturbing the lunchroom, and creating chaos on the playground, but nobody seems to see them except this curious boy. Cleverly written in a delightful poetic form with a surprise ending, this book is perfect for those kiddos with wild imaginations and who are prone to exaggeration. Sometimes being seen as a problem can be a benefit if there is some merit to the intentions and if we can just look a little deeper and ask the right questions. This is one of those “I told you so” stories where the problem can become the solution.
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Melissa Hart has written a powerful book called Down Syndrome Out Loud (Sourcebooks, Naperville, 2025, $8.99). Illustrated by Madia Perera, it is dedicated to Melissa’s brother and the many individuals diagnosed with this genetic condition. While first looked at as a disability, we have come to learn that many of these individuals have unique abilities! This book has over 20 stories of varied successes and accomplishments. Who would have imagined that these people could be entrepreneurs, actors, business owners, high level athletes, artists, musicians, lobbyists, teachers and so much more? This is a book that needs to be in all classroom libraries and read to classes for inspiration. It can change the way we look at these individuals and hopefully this will transfer to all who have differing abilities. It can help all of us to realize that our differences that make us unique can be an inspiration for others.
Fitting in and finding out are important aspects of school. While many just go with the flow, other children have unique challenges and approaches to life. Books like these can help everyone see that they are not alone and their differences can be their hallmark and path to acceptance and success.
Dr. Donna Phillips is an associate professor in the College of Education at Niagara University where her specialty is literacy and children’s literature. She lives on Grand Island, NY and is the mother of two adult children and the grandmother of one.
FAMILY TRAVEL
— by Deborah Williams
Alexandria Where American History Comes Alive
“Sweetlips,” the name of George Washington’s beloved hound dog, forever changed my image of the Father of our Country. He always looked quite stern in the familiar paintings, but that canine name tidbit made all the difference.
He also had a Dalmatian dog named Madame Moose. Others included Tipsey, Mopsey, Truelove, and Ragman. He loved dogs of all kinds and even laughed when he learned that a favorite dog made off with his family’s ham dinner.
D.C. is just a 15-minute Metro ride from Alexandria. There are also regular water taxi rides to the National Mall and Potomac River tours of Washington from Alexandria.
though some rooms are off limits while work is ongoing.
There are a variety of special walks including dog walks where you can learn about Washington’s dogs and take your pooch on historic grounds. Many programs and tours are designed for the whole family including kids. It would be easy to spend a whole day here but certainly plan to spend at least half a day gaining new insights in our nation’s remarkable first president.
The place to learn all about the nation’s first president is his beloved Mount Vernon home, just eight miles down the parkway from Alexandria, Washington’s adopted hometown. It is a perfect home base for touring the area since downtown
Next year is America’s 250th anniversary and Mount Vernon’s birthday gift to the country is the multi-year Mansion Revitalization Project which will insure the mansion’s structural integrity for generations. Mansion tours are still available during the restoration, al-
Although dogs are not allowed in the mansion itself, there is a seamless system if traveling with a dog. One person remains with the dog while others in the group tour the house and then the dog handler goes to the head of the line for the house tour.
Mansion tours reveal Washington’s creativity as an architect and designer. He acquired the property in 1754. Un-
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National Mall and Potomac River tours of Washington
photo credit: Kristian Summerer
Mount Vernon
til his death in the master bedroom on December 14, 1799, he expanded his home to reflect his status as a Virginia gentleman. He oversaw every detail of design, construction, and decoration. The vivid paint colors throughout the house surprise many visitors but they are same ones selected by Washington.
Touring the elegant and comfortable home and gazing across the riverfront expanse, it is easy to understand Washington’s feelings that prompted him to write:
“I can truly say I had rather be at home at Mount Vernon with a friend or two about me, than to be attended at the seat of government by the officers of State and the representatives of every power in Europe.”
One of great wonders of Mount Vernon is that the views of the lawn, the Potomac River, and the land across the water are essentially just as they were in Washington’s day.
How was life for Continental soldiers and patriots during the Revolutionary War? Immerse yourself in the daily life of soldiers, military officers, and the women and children who traveled with the army as you explore the Revolutionary War encampment on Mount Vernon grounds.
Explore the soldiers’ tents to see their clothing and personal items from the period. Try your hand at washing clothes and laying them out to dry in the laundry yard. Watch the Revolutionary War movie in the nearby auditorium.
Alexandria is older than the United States itself and celebrated its 276th birthday this past summer. There is something quite extraordinary about exploring Washington’s many haunts that help bring history alive. It was voted a Travel and Leisure “Top 5 Best City in the U.S. 2025.”
The beautifully preserved Old Town area of the city is rich in history, with more than 1,000 preserved and restored 18th and 19th century buildings. The city is named for a Scottish merchant, John Alexander, who owned much of the land. It was
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Mount Vernon tour guides
founded in 1749 by two other Scotsmen, John Carlyle and William Ramsay, and emerged as a flourishing seaport in the late 18th and early 19th century centuries.
Start your visit at the 1724 Ramsay House, 221 King St., the city’s visitor’s center. Guided tours led by costumed guides begin here. Nightly ghost tours are popular. There is an orientation film, information and reservation service for hotels and attractions, and guides ready to provide information and answer questions.
Carlyle House is a Georgian manor house built in 1753 by merchant and city founder John Carlyle. It is open as a house museum and is the city’s only stone, 18th century Georgian house. It was here that General Braddock met with five colonial governors to discuss funding of the French and Indian War.
Carlyle built the house for his bride Sarah Fairfax, member of one of the most prestigious families in colonial Virginia. The house quickly became a center of social and political life in Alexandria.
The Stabler-Leadbeater Apothecary remained open and operational while Alexandria was occupied during the Civil War. Pharmacist Edward Stabler opened it in 1792, and the family operated the business until 1933. More than 15,000 objects remain in the museum’s collection.
Our guide pointed out a handwritten request to Stabler from George’s wife, Martha, for his “finest castor oil.” We learn how many women were addicted to laudanum (liquid opium) that was easily available and regularly prescribed. We were shown crude looking metal instruments used to bleed patients including Washington. Experts believe excessive bleeding treatments probably contributed to his death.
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Carlyle House
Stabler-Leadbeater Apothecary
FAMILY TRAVEL
Market Square in front of the City Hall began life in 1753 as an open field used by locals including George Washington to sell produce, animals, and slaves. It was here that Washington drilled his militia troops more than 250 years ago. It is now home to the country’s longest continually operated market.
As a 17-year-old surveyor, George Washington helped design the pattern for the main streets and byways of the town. He served as a volunteer at the Friendship Fire Engine Company. Later he bought the original fire engine for the city in 1775 for about $400. A mile up King Street is the Washington Masonic National Memorial where visitors can see the clock stopped by Washington’s physicians at 10:20pm, the moment at his death.
Visitors can also worship in Christ Church, Washington’s church; and dine in Gadsby’s Tavern advertising fine dining since 1770 and offering menus enjoyed by Washington, John Adams, and Thomas Jefferson. It was here that General and Mrs. Washington danced at the birthday ball in his honor. Next door is Gadsby’s Tavern Museum.
Travel Tip of the Month: For Alexandria information, go to visitalexandria.com or call 703-838-5005. For Mount Vernon, visit mountvernon.org or call 703-780-2000. Most hotels in Alexandria are pet friendly. There are many restaurants that welcome dogs on outdoor patios and some even have their own doggie menus.
For those who like to plan ahead, mark June 12-14, 2026, for the Sails on the Potomac celebration with tall ships highlighting Alexandria’s unique role in the nation’s birth. Commemorations of America’s story will include music, family activities, exhibits, tours, public art educational programs and more.
Deborah Williams lives in Holland, NY and is a veteran travel writer whose work has appeared in national and international publications. She is the recipient of the Society of American Travel Writers’ Lowell Thomas Gold Travel Writing Award.
RAISING DIGITAL KIDS
— by Mike Daugherty
Risky Realities: Apps to Avoid
In an increasingly digital world, apps can make life convenient, educational, and enjoyable. However, not every app available on smartphones is suitable or safe for children and teenagers. Some apps pose significant risks due to their content, functionalities, or the interactions they encourage. As parents, understanding these apps and the potential dangers associated with them is crucial for guiding our children toward responsible and secure online behavior. It is a difficult task with new apps emerging every day. Here’s a closer look at some popular apps that present notable risks, organized into clear categories.
VAULT APPS: CALCULATOR+, KEEPSAFE, HIDDEN VAULT
Vault apps disguise themselves as harmless utilities but serve to hide sensitive or inappropriate content. Calculator+ appears as a standard calculator until users enter a secret code to access hidden photos or videos. Similarly, KeepSafe and Hidden Vault use innocuous icons and require a PIN for entry.
Why they’re concerning: These apps enable children and teens to conceal explicit or inappropriate images, including sexts, making parental oversight challenging. Roughly 40% of teens admit to sending or receiving explicit content, highlighting the widespread risk.
DATING AND HOOK-UP APPS: TINDER, BUMBLE, YUBO, BADOO, HOOP
While originally created for adults, apps like Tinder and Bumble are widely accessed by teenagers. Yubo, often dubbed
“Tinder for Teens,” specifically targets younger users, allowing them to meet and chat via livestreams or private messages. Badoo shares similar functions, emphasizing quick connections and GPS-based matching. Hoop integrates directly with Snapchat, encouraging teens to add and connect with new Snapchat friends easily.
Why they’re concerning: These apps expose teenagers to potential predators, inappropriate adult interactions, and sexual exploitation risks. The GPS location features amplify safety concerns, allowing users’ exact locations to be discovered by others, sometimes under false identities. Hoop specifically facilitates rapid connections through Snapchat, further complicating parental oversight. Reminding your teens of the dangers of interacting with strangers online is essential.
Snapchat lets users send images or videos that supposedly disappear after a set time, encouraging sharing without consequence. However, SnapHack and similar third-party apps allow recipients to secretly save these “temporary” messages permanently. Telegram, known for its end-to-end encryption, also supports disappearing messages and hidden chats.
Why they’re concerning: While Snapchat itself is not inherently harmful, the false sense of security encourages riskier behaviors, including sexting. The existence of apps like SnapHack means these images can be saved, shared, and misused without consent, potentially leading to cyberbullying, harassment, or worse.
These platforms allow users to communicate anonymously, creating environments ripe for cyberbullying and harassment. Ask.fm lets users ask anonymous questions, often resulting in cruel or bullying behavior. YikYak creates anonymous message boards based on geographic location, and Whisper allows users to anonymously share secrets or thoughts publicly.
Why they’re concerning: The anonymity provided by these apps often encourages cyberbullying, threats, and the spread of harmful rumors. Schools have reported threats made via YikYak, and Ask.fm has been linked to severe cyberbullying incidents.
AI CHATBOTS: REPLIKA, CHARACTER.AI, CHAI
AI chatbot apps like Replika, Character.AI, and Chai use advanced artificial intelligence to simulate human conversation. They are marketed as digital companions or friends who “learn” from user interactions to provide personalized and engaging conversations.
Why they’re concerning: While these chatbots can offer a sense of companionship, they also pose psychological risks, particularly for vulnerable or impressionable teens. Conversations with AI bots may become overly personal or intimate, leading young users to develop unhealthy attachments or unrealistic expectations from digital interactions. Additionally, these chatbots sometimes provide inappropriate or misleading responses due to their automated nature, potentially influencing teens negatively.
GAMING AND COMMUNITY APPS: DISCORD, GUILDED, TEAMSPEAK
Discord, along with similar platforms like Guilded and TeamSpeak, is
designed for gamers but has expanded to broader community-building purposes. Users create or join “servers” to interact through voice, video, and text channels. While popular among gamers, it’s now widely used by various communities and interest groups.
Why they’re concerning: While Discord and similar apps offer positive community-building features, they can expose kids to inappropriate content or risky interactions, often outside parental oversight. Servers and private channels can easily be created and moderated by anyone, potentially becoming spaces for bullying, explicit content, or predatory behavior. Parental vigilance and clear guidelines on use are crucial.
LIVE STREAMING AND MONEY APPS: LIVE.ME, TWITCH, CASH APP
Live.me and Twitch enable users to broadcast live content to potentially large audiences. Viewers on platforms like Live.me can even send monetary tips directly to streamers. Cash App, while primarily a money transfer tool, has become popular among teens for transactions related to these streams.
Why they’re concerning:
Livestreaming exposes teens to real-time, unmoderated interactions where viewers can exploit or pressure young broadcasters. Additionally, financial apps used without proper oversight can facilitate inappropriate financial exchanges or fraud.
SUMMARY
Not all of these apps are inherently inappropriate or bad. Some, like Discord, can be harmless when used correctly. It’s important to remain informed about their potential risks. Navigating the digital world safely requires ongoing conversations about technology use and vigilant oversight by parents. It’s not easy. Kids (teens) don’t want your oversight, your check ins, your “just trying to help...” but it’s necessary. Checking your child’s phone regularly, setting clear boundaries, and openly discussing online safety helps foster responsible digital habits. Keeping up-to-date with evolving digital trends ensures that you can proactively address and mitigate risks, guiding your children toward safer online experiences.
Mike Daugherty is a husband, father of three young children, author, speaker, Google Innovator, and possible Starbucks addict. He is a certified educational technology leader who has served in a variety of roles through his twenty-year career in public education. Currently, Mike is the Assistant Superintendent of Innovation, Technology, and Communications for the Chagrin Falls Exempted Village School district in Northeast Ohio. As an IT director he has developed creative, well thought out solutions that positively impact teaching and learning.
Daddy Daddy The Track
T– by Shannon Carpenter
he World’s Largest six-pack is located in Wisconsin. There is a water heater museum in New York. The World’s Largest pair of underwear is in St. Louis. Another summer has passed, and my collection of weird memories continues to grow.
15 years ago, I had a parenting epiphany that I’m not sure other parents have ever had. As I am gifted with deep thoughts and handsome eyebrows, I shouldn’t have been surprised. When my daughter turned four, I suddenly realized that all children grow up. I was shocked that such a thing could happen.
It was such a deep realization for me that I even wrote to national scientific magazines such as the Journal of Obvious Observations. Sadly, no one believed me. Our children really do grow up, and parents are powerless to stop it.
We often ignore the signs of this phenomenon, such as extra candles on birthday cakes or a mark on the wall that increases by a couple of inches every year. We pretend that we don’t notice the changes, such as being able to talk in complete sentences and no longer needing our help brushing their teeth. And then one day, they dare to grow up so much that you have to ask them to reach the fancy salad bowl you keep on the top shelf because they have a good three inches on you.
So, my epiphany about kids growing up led to these silly adventures. They are no more than my desperate attempt to create memories that I hold on to like old baseball cards. Each year, they increase in value. I and my group of dads roam across the country trying to find the goofiest things that we can.
Growing Up and the World’s Largest Adventures
I have played baseball on the Field of Dreams with my children and nuns. We showed up at the field with all of our gear. On that trip, there were eight dads and probably around twenty or so kids. We were able to field an entire game. As other people got to the field, I wasn’t content with them just watching. This was the Field of Dreams! So, I started inviting everyone to join our game. That’s when I found the nuns.
They had amazing arms and weren’t too shabby at the plate, either.
When our kids are babies and toddlers, we tell ourselves that it won’t always be this hard. Late-night feedings and public meltdowns don’t last forever. That one day, they will grow up and we won’t be as exhausted. However, when it comes true, we are shocked that it did come true. It was supposed to be just a little white lie to get us through the days when you find an old banana peel stuffed in the cushions of the couch.
But every time you figure out what you’re doing, the entire game changes, so it’s like starting from scratch. One day, I was with my daughter showing her the World’s Largest Rocking Chair, and the next day she was asking if she could get Instagram. What do I know about social media and the effects it can have on a young teen’s mind?
So, I read the books, I talked to the experts, and made my decision. I felt confident! But then, out of nowhere, a few years later, she started applying to colleges, and everything that I learned was no longer relevant.
As the kids get older, I hold onto those memories that we have made on
our silly adventures. I remember my son being just at my knee when we saw the World’s Largest Ball of Twine. I go back to the moment I took my third son as a newborn to see the World’s Largest Steam Shovel. I carried him up the stairs to the cockpit, and then we made vroom vroom sounds.
When I moved my daughter to college last year, it felt like another adventure, but this time I wasn’t invited. On the drive home, angry that life had treated me so unfairly as to give me an independent, awesome daughter, I took an adventure into my past.
The time we swam at a place called Elephant Rocks and she lost her flipflop. Or the other time when we mailed a letter from the World’s Largest mailbox.
My oldest son and I are now touring colleges. He’ll be applying this year and then leaving the next. I look at him, six feet tall with shoulders wider than mine, and can’t help but see that kid playing second base on the Field of Dreams.
My youngest son is in middle school, and I have at least six more years of adventures with him. Because, like the rest, he has the hubris to grow up.
Shannon Carpenter is the father of three and has been a stay-at-home dad since 2008. He’s the author of the book “Stay-at-Home Dad: Your Essential Manual for Being an Awesome FullTime Father.” as well as the co-host of Dadhouse Pod. In addition to his writing on parenting, he is also a humor writer trained through the famous Second City. And we all know that having a sense of humor is essential to surviving parenthood!
Family Movie Options: In Theaters and Streaming Online
When unknown villains start committing crimes using the Bad Guys’ signature tricks, the guys are determined to find the copycat crooks so they can be free from suspicion. But the new criminal group wants to pull the Bad Guys into their lawless orbit. Sequels often disappoint but this film follows in the footsteps of the highly successful original, offering families a story that is zany, hilarious, well written, skilfully animated, and overflowing with positive messages It’s a great choice for family movie night.
Filled with grief and anger over her mother’s death, Amber releases her emotions by drawing gruesome, bloody monsters all over her notebook. When her brother’s attempts to heal their family bring her monsters to life, it will take courage, unity, and honesty to save the day Dazzlingly original and imaginative, this is a film that will make audiences think and teach kids about emotional resilience. It is, however, quite scary, and is not suitable for young children or those prone to nightmares
After cosmic radiation triggers genetic mutations within a group of scientists, they become the Fantastic Four, superheroes dedicated to saving the planet. When the Silver Surfer appears, the herald of the world-eating Galactus, the heroes have their work cut out for them. But they might not be strong enough Less violent than many superhero movies, and with reduced negative content, this retro tale is well cast, briskly paced, and strikes gold as a teen- and parent-friendly popcorn flick.
Papa Smurf has been Smurf-napped by the evil wizard Razamel so No Name, Smurfette, and their little blue friends enter a magical portal in an attempt to save him. Sadly, there’s nothing magical about the film which feels like a bland, soulless cash grab. The writing is weak and the laughs fall flat, even with most preschool-age viewers. Surprisingly, the animation is excellent and there are some good messages about teamwork but that’s no compensation for the movie’s relentless mediocrity
As school schedules get back into full swing, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the demands of work, figuring out what’s for dinner, and trying to coordinate all the after-school activities. The transition from the slower pace of summer to the structured routine of fall can feel like a whirlwind. If I’ve learned anything over the years about preparing for this season, it’s that keeping things simple does make a difference. Whether it’s meal planning for the week, setting realistic expectations, or just carving out a few quiet moments each day, simplicity helps create space for what matters most—connection, calmness, and a sense of control amidst the chaos. Try these 5 tips to set yourself up for success.
KEEP TRACK OF YES AND NO.
When you say yes to something, you’re saying no to something else. What does that mean? If you say yes to leading that bible study group, or yes to hosting that event at your house, you’re also saying no to fewer responsibilities and no to clearing your schedule. Now, this doesn’t
mean you have to say no to every opportunity that comes your way—but it does mean that you have to keep your yeses intentional so that you can stay aligned with keeping your life simple. Simply put, say yes to things that make sense for you and your family.
PLAN OUT YOUR MEALS IN ADVANCE.
Think about keeping a whiteboard on your fridge where you have the days of the week listed out. Scribble down what you plan on making for each night, even if it’s not completely confirmed yet. For example, my family does tacos every Tuesday. When I’m shopping for that week’s groceries, I make sure to have enough items at home that my kids can decide if they want to make nachos, taco salad, burritos, enchila -
das, or something else. Keeping the menu loosely based has allowed my kids to take responsibility and exert their personal preferences around what they feel like eating (within the parameters of what I’ve bought). It also encourages them to make their own meals once I have everything spread out on the counter. It’s a win-win.
THINK ABOUT HOW YOU WANT YOUR WEEK TO BE.
What I mean by this is, if you know your family’s schedule is going to be hectic, think of ways you can slow it down and make things easier on yourself. If your kids have sports after school and you won’t be home from work until late, plan on easy dinners on those nights, such as a charcuterie board. If you have back-to-back meetings one day and come home feeling depleted, focus on your sleep hygiene to allow for more rest so you’re ready for the next day.
MAKE TIME FOR MINDFULNESS.
On days when I don’t leave my office, I make it a priority to pause for moments of stillness. I keep a small bottle of lavender essential oil next to my computer for when I need a sensory break, as well as a couple of motivational-type calendars and wall hangings when I need a boost of encouragement. On days when I get home from work, the sun is setting, and the temps have cooled down, I make myself go for a short walk with the dogs. I use this time to think about things that are bothering me. The
movement helps me clear my head, and the exercise is good for my mind.
WASHING OFF THE DAY.
As a therapist, I’ve learned tricks to help ensure I leave the office at the office. Listening to people’s trauma every day is something I don’t take lightly, and am extremely thankful I get to do. One of the ways I can stay refreshed and ready to go each day, is by taking a shower right when I get home. This helps me ‘wash off the day’ and is somewhat of a reset for my brain that I am transitioning from therapist mode to mom/Meagan mode. It feels amazing and is something that has truly helped me keep things simple.
Think of September as your month of simplicity. What are ways you can slow things down in your life and in your family’s lives to enjoy the cadence of a busier schedule? Bringing awareness to a time of year that can be incredibly busy is the first step in creating pockets of simplicity this fall.
Meagan Ruffing is a parenting journalist, mental health therapist, and single mom who tries to do her best each day. She doesn’t always get things right but continually strives to do better.
—by Carolyn Tomlin
When the days grow shorter and darkness comes earlier each afternoon, our thoughts turn to fall activities for family fun. Western New York families and those with children who have special needs welcome the season and can find plenty of fall-fun activities for the entire clan. Choose from the following or create your own fun activities. Children with special needs will need more parental or adult supervision, so think “safety” first. Most important, make memories your kids will remember for a lifetime.
Go apple picking. Give each child a basket and let them select their own. Learn the names of local apples that grow in your area. Are they best eaten raw—or are they cooking apples? See how many varieties you can identify.
Visit a corn maze. Check for farms that open their acreage to visitors and that plant a field of corn in the spring—which is later turned into a corn maze in the fall. Making your way through a corn maze teaches listening skills and following directions. Make sure each child has a whistle…just in
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case they get lost. Adults should accompany a child with special needs on this adventure.
Take a hike through fall foliage. If you’re fortunate to live near a wooded area, or a farm, pack a picnic lunch and take a fall hike through golden maples, crimson Bradford pears, and yellow hickory trees. Learn to identify
trees in your area. A small book on trees that grow in the Western New York area would be a good investment. Be sure to bring your smartphone for photographs to remember your mini-vacation and share with others. Post to Facebook when you return.
Stop by a local lake or wildlife refuge. Walk around the edge of the lake and enjoy the scenery. If you’re fortunate, you may hear wild geese flying over or they may stop and rest before continuing their journey South. On a sunny day, count the number of turtles sunning on a log near the lake’s edge.
Roast marshmallows over an open fire. Involve children in gathering small sticks and twigs, plus a dry, larger log or two for a campfire. Throw in a few pinecones and watch them light-up. Wire coat hangers make a sturdy support for roasting marshmallows. This is a good
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time to tell funny family stories. If your children are old enough, encourage them to tell a funny story that happened to them. Be sure to douse the fire with water before leaving to avoid the fire spreading. Even a few hot embers can be dangerous. Keep an eye on children with special needs and make sure everyone is safe around fire.
Read outside. Nothing is more relaxing than to have a few favorite books, some comfortable yard chairs, and if the weather is a bit cool, individual throws, for a peaceful afternoon of reading. Do you have a book you’ve put off starting? Now is the time. Bring ageappropriate books for the kids—perhaps from your local library.
Host a neighborhood cookout. Do you have new neighbors who have moved nearby? Invite them to meet your community and enjoy a pot-luck meal in your backyard. Use disposable paper products so cleanup is simple. Check with those attending so everyone doesn’t end up bringing a green-bean casserole!
Recreation Centers for Families
Western New York is fortunate to have beautiful state parks and wildlife centers in our part of the state and throughout The Empire State. The following provide opportunities for children to experience nature and wildlife.
Niagara Falls State Park
Midway State Park
Beaver Island State Park
Whirlpool State Park
Allegany State Park
Letchworth State Park
Evangola State Park
Darien Lakes State Park
Watkins Glen State Park
Delta Lake State Park
Old Erie Canal State Park
As of 2017, New York had 215 state parks and historic sites encompassing 350,000 acres. In addition, the state has 35 swimming pools, 28 golf courses, 67 beaches, and 18 museums and nature centers.
Carolyn Tomlin writes about building strong family bonds. Her books on writing-to-publish are available on www.Amazon.com.
The fall season is such a short time. Take advantage of every moment of this beautiful time of the year and don’t let it go by without planning outdoor activities!
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September is National Suicide Prevention Month
About Teen Suicide
Suicide is when someone ends their own life. Often this is a way to end overwhelming hopelessness or frustration or to solve a problem for which they can’t find another solution. A young person dying by suicide is devastating to family, friends, and community. Parents, siblings, classmates, coaches, and neighbors might be feeling angry or guilty, or be left wondering if they could have done something to prevent that young person from turning to suicide.
If you’re worried about your teen or another child, take it seriously and talk to them right away. You also can turn to these resources for 24/7 help:
• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: You can call or text 988. You also can contact
them through their website (https://988lifeline.org/).
• Trevor Lifeline for LGBTQ community: 1-866-488-7386 or text START to 678678. You can also contact them through their website (https://www. thetrevorproject.org/).
These toll-free lines are staffed by people who are trained to help. The calls are confidential. If necessary, call 911 for immediate help.
WHY DO TEENS CONSIDER SUICIDE?
Learning more about what might lead a teen to suicide may help prevent further tragedies.
The reasons behind a teen’s suicide or attempted suicide can be complex. The rate of suicides and suicide attempts increases greatly during adolescence.
According to the CDC, suicide is the second-leading cause of death in ages 10–14 and the third-leading cause of death for 15 to 24-year-olds, after accidents and homicide.
It’s also thought that many more attempts are made for every completed teen suicide.
The risk of suicide increases greatly when kids and teens have access to firearms at home, and nearly 60% of all suicides in the United States are committed with a gun. That’s why any guns in your home should be unloaded, locked, and kept out of the reach of children and teens.
Overdose using over-the-counter, prescription, and non-prescription medicine is also a very common risk for attempting and completing suicide. It’s important to monitor carefully all medicines in your home. Know that teens will “trade” different prescription medicines at school and carry them (or store them) in their locker or backpack.
Suicide rates differ between boys and girls. Girls think about and attempt suicide about twice as often as boys, and tend to attempt suicide by overdosing on drugs or cutting themselves. Yet boys die by suicide about four times as often as girls, and experts think this is because they tend to use more lethal methods.
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ABOUT TEEN SUICIDE
WHICH TEENS ARE AT RISK FOR SUICIDE?
It can be hard to remember how it felt to be a teen, caught in that gray area between childhood and adulthood. Sure, it’s a time of tremendous possibility, but it also can be a period of stress and worry. There’s pressure to fit in socially, to perform academically, and to act responsibly.
Adolescence is also a time of emerging sexual identity and relationships and a need for independence that often conflicts with the rules and expectations set by others.
Young people with mental health problems—such as
anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, or insomnia—are at higher risk for suicidal thoughts. Teens going through major life changes (parents’ divorce, moving, a parent leaving home due to military service or parental separation, financial changes) and those who are bullied or experience racism and stigma are at greater risk of suicidal thoughts.
Things that increase the risk of suicide among teens include:
• a psychological disorder, especially depression, bipolar disorder, and alcohol and drug use (in fact, about 95% of people who die by suicide have a psychological disorder at the time of death)
• feelings of distress, irritability, or agitation
• feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness that often come with depression
• a previous suicide attempt
• a family history of depression or suicide
• emotional, physical, or sexual abuse
• lack of a support network, poor relationships with parents or peers, and feelings of social isolation
• struggling with their gender identity and/or sexuality in an unsupportive family or community
WHAT ARE THE WARNING SIGNS OF SUICIDE?
Suicide among teens often happens after a stressful life event, such as problems at school, a breakup with a boyfriend or girlfriend, the death of a loved one, a divorce, or a major family conflict.
Teens who are thinking about suicide might:
• talk about suicide or death in general
• give hints that they might not be around anymore
• talk about feeling hopeless or feeling guilty
• pull away from friends or family
• write songs, poems, or letters about death, separation, and loss
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• start giving away treasured possessions to siblings or friends
• lose the desire to take part in favorite things or activities
• have trouble concentrating or thinking clearly
• have changes in eating or sleeping habits
• engage in risk-taking behaviors
• lose interest in school or sports
WHAT CAN PARENTS DO?
Many teens who die by or attempt suicide have given some type of warning to loved ones ahead of time. So, it’s important for parents to know the warning signs so teens who might be suicidal can get the help they need.
Even though it’s not always preventable, it’s always a good idea to be informed and take action to help a troubled teenager.
Some adults feel that kids who say they are going to hurt or kill themselves are “just doing it for attention.” It’s impor-
tant to realize that if teens are ignored when seeking attention, it may increase the chance of them harming themselves.
Getting attention in the form of ER visits, doctor’s appointments, and residential treatment generally is not something teens want—unless they’re seriously depressed and thinking about suicide or at least wishing they were dead. It’s important to see warning signs as serious, not as “attentionseeking” to be ignored.
WATCH AND LISTEN
Keep a close eye on a teen who is depressed and withdrawn. Understanding depression in teens is very important because it can look different from commonly held beliefs about depression. For example, it may take the form of problems with friends, grades, sleep, or being cranky and irritable rather than chronic sadness or crying.
Try to keep the lines of communication open and express your concern, support, and love. If your teen confides in you, show that you take those concerns seriously. A fight with a friend might not seem like a big deal to you, but for a teen it can feel immense and consuming. Don’t minimize or ignore what your teen is going through, as this can increase their sense of hopelessness.
If your teen doesn’t feel comfortable talking with you, suggest a more neutral person, such as another relative, a clergy member, a coach, a school counselor, or your child’s doctor.
ASK QUESTIONS
Some parents are reluctant to ask teens if they have been thinking about suicide or hurting themselves. Some fear that by asking, they will plant the idea of suicide in their teen’s head.
It’s always a good idea to ask, even though it can be hard. Sometimes it helps to explain why you’re asking. For instance, you might say: “I’ve noticed that you’ve been talking a lot about wanting to be dead. Have you been having thoughts about trying to kill yourself?”
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completely go away. But survivors of suicide can take steps to begin the healing process:
HOW CAN WE GET HELP?
If you learn that your child is thinking about suicide, get help right away. Your doctor can refer you to a psychologist or psychiatrist, or your local hospital’s department of psychiatry can give you a list of doctors in your area. Your local mental health association or county medical society can also provide references. In an emergency, call 1-800-273-8255 or call or text 988.
If your teen is in a crisis situation, your local emergency room can do a psychiatric evaluation and refer you to the right resources. If you’re unsure about whether you should bring your child to the emergency room, call your doctor.
If you’ve scheduled a visit with a mental health professional, keep the appointment, even if your teen says they’re feeling better or won’t go. Suicidal thoughts do tend to come and go. But your teen needs help to develop the skills needed to keep suicidal thoughts and behaviors under control during a crisis.
If your teen won’t go to the visit, tell the mental health professional. By going to the session and working with the clinician yourself, you’ll maintain access to the help your child needs. The clinician also can discuss ways that might help your teen agree to get help.
Remember that conflicts between a parent and child can make things worse for teens who feel isolated, misunderstood, devalued, or suicidal. Get help for family problems and resolve them in a healthy way. Tell the mental health professional if your family has a history of depression, substance abuse, or domestic violence. Talk about any other stresses at home, such as an ongoing environment of criticism.
IF YOU’VE LOST A CHILD TO SUICIDE
For parents, the death of a child is the most painful loss imaginable. For parents who’ve lost a child to suicide, the pain and grief can be intensified. These feelings may never
• Keep in contact with others. Suicide can be isolating for surviving family members because friends often don’t know what to say or how to help. Find supportive people to talk with about your child and your feelings. If those around you seem uncomfortable about reaching out, start the conversation and ask for their help.
• Remember that your other family members are grieving too, and that everyone expresses grief in their own way. Your other children, in particular, may try to deal with their pain alone so as not to burden you. Be there for each other through the tears, anger, and silences—and, if necessary, get help and support together.
• Expect that anniversaries, birthdays, and holidays may be hard. Important days and holidays often reawaken a sense of loss and anxiety. On those days, do what’s best for your emotional needs, whether that means surrounding yourself with family and friends or planning a quiet day of reflection.
• Understand that it’s normal to feel guilty and to question how this could have happened. But it’s also important to realize that you might never get the answers you seek. The healing that takes place over time comes from reaching a point of forgiveness—for both your child and yourself.
• Counseling and support groups can play a huge role in helping you realize you are not alone. Sometimes, bereaved family members become part of the suicide prevention network that helps parents, teenagers, and schools learn how to help prevent future tragedies.
HELPING TEENS COPE WITH LOSS
What should you do if someone your teen knows has attempted or died by suicide? First, acknowledge your child’s many emotions. Some teens say they feel guilty—especially
those who felt they could have interpreted their friend’s actions and words better.
Others say they feel angry with the person who committed or attempted suicide for having done something selfish. Still others say they feel no strong emotions or don’t know how to express how they feel. Reassure your child that there is no right or wrong way to feel, and that it’s OK to talk about it when they’re ready.
When someone attempts suicide and survives, people might be afraid of or uncomfortable talking with them about it. Tell your teen to resist this urge—this is a time when a person needs to feel connected to others.
Many schools address a student’s suicide by calling in special counselors to talk with the students and help them cope. If your teen is dealing with a friend or classmate’s suicide, encourage them to use resources or to talk to you or another trusted adult.
Information provided by Nemours Children’s Health through its awardwinning Nemours KidsHealth website. For more on this topic, visit KidsHealth. org. Reprinted following Guidelines.
Choose Fresh Cherries for Healthy and Sweet Back-to-School Snacking
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This year provided a long sweet cherry season, which means fresh sweet cherries will be available in produce aisles during the back-to-school season. Cherries, which are a superfruit packed with nutrients and antioxidants, are perfect for lunchboxes, after-school snacking and grab-and-go munching in the car on the way to and from activities.
Sweet cherries’ high antioxidant content, beneficial effects on inflammation and natural ability to improve sleep quality make them a must-add to your grocery list. Even picky eaters can enjoy this nutritious snack. It’s a sweet treat that won’t spike sugar levels, providing steady nutrition as cherries boast a lower glycemic index than almost any other fruit.
Sweet cherries are also loaded with vitamin C to help boost immune systems and keep skin glowing. Studies have found sweet cherries are packed with serotonin, which is an important neurotransmitter that plays a role in managing stress and stabilizing
mood. Cherries are also a great source of fiber, adding to their benefits during the back-to-school season.
Cherries are not only a healthy snack; they are also convenient. For younger kids, cherries can be easily pitted for easy and safe snacking. If you don’t have a cherry pitter, cherries can be pitted with a knife or kids can try removing the stem and gently pushing a straw or chopstick through the middle of the cherry until the pit pops out. For older kids, cherries only need to be rinsed before adding them to a lunchbox. Cherries also easily keep for hours without being refrigerated.
In addition to school lunches and snacking, cherries can also be added to many breakfast foods like pancakes, granola, yogurt, smoothies or these Cherry Overnight Oats. Give your family a jumpstart on the day with a healthy cherry breakfast featuring sweet cherries to deliver nutritional benefits, a natural sweetness and bright color that is sure to delight.
The benefits of this wholesome
fruit can be accessed any time by drying, canning and freezing cherries at their peak ripeness to preserve their goodness for year-round enjoyment.
More recipes, from breakfasts and entrees to desserts and drinks, can be found at nwcherries.com/recipe.
Cherry Overnight Oats
Recipe courtesy of Northwest Cherry Growers
2 cups rolled oats
4 tablespoons chia seeds
1 1/2 cups milk
2 teaspoons pure almond extract
4 tablespoons pure maple syrup
1/2 cup Northwest Cherries, roughly chopped, plus additional for serving (optional)
Greek yogurt (optional)
sliced almonds (optional)
In mixing bowl, stir oats and chia seeds to combine.
Add milk, almond extract and maple syrup. Stir to combine until uniformly mixed.
Using 1/4 cup measuring cup, divide oats mixture among four small jars, adding layer of cherries between scoops. Top with remaining cherries.
Seal jars and transfer to refrigerator overnight, or at least 6 hours, before serving.
Serve on their own or top with Greek yogurt, additional dried cherries and sliced almonds, if desired.
Photo courtesy of Shutterstock (girl with cherries)
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— by Barbara Blackburn
Before there was the Hamburg Taproom, there was Radigan’s. Both are associated with Just Pizza. The change in name doesn’t affect the quality and quantity of food. Plus, the tasty selections on the kids menu for 12 and under offers a $7.99 deal. This is a fun and flavorful menu on a fun page with word search and word scramble. Choose an entree: 3 Chicken Fingers, Pasta with Red or Alfredo Sauce, Slice of Pizza, or Cheese Quesadilla. Choose a side: French Fries, Apple Sauce, or Celery Sticks. Choose your complimentary drink: Milk, Apple Juice, or a Pepsi product.
Hamburg Taproom
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716-649-9190
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~ SPOONS ~ FOOD 4/5
SERVICE 5/5
FAMILY FRIENDLY 5/5
I’ve always been drawn to the more original items on a menu, such as the special burgers. I chose a Blackberry Burger ($16.95) smothered in blackberry sauce, bacon, Swiss cheese, lettuce, tomato, and onions. It could have used some more smothering to add more berry flavor. Otherwise, it was a successful burger, accompanied by perfectly prepared french fries. This actually was Dad’s burger, which we shared. Several varieties of fries are offered including Cajun Fries, Taco Fries, and Poutine Fries.
For my menu choice I took one from the special menu: Lobster Bisque ($8.00). The lobster taste asserted itself deliciously in the rich and creamy bisque.
With its association with Just Pizza, you can expect a good pizza whether you choose a traditional pizza, a specialty pizza, or one of their specialty crusts. As they say, and rightly so, “we create the pizzas that others try to imitate.” You’ll even find Breakfast Pizza, with three different choices: Bacon, eggs, and cheese; Breakfast Cheddar and Broccoli; and Breakfast Western. Of the 14 specialty crusts, the Honey Sesame and the Chive are my favorites.
I recommend the Hollywood Pizza with its double items of Mozzarella, Pepperoni, Italian Sausage and Meatball ($23.40 for Medium, $31.85 for Large, $56.95 for Sheet). All are good, especially the Lasa gna Pizza ($21.85 – $49.40). The dough is topped with Laura’s signature sauce, and is a good choice if you are a lasagna fan. Of course, you might be a steady fan of the Original World Famous 3 Cheese Steak Pizza ($21.25 – $50.00). It includes a blend of Mozzarella, Swiss, White American Cheese, loaded with tender, thin slices of Sirloin Steak, Lite Mushrooms, Lite Onions and a choice of Lite Hot or Sweet Peppers. You can even substitute Steak with Artichoke, Ground Beef, Chicken, Eggplant or Sausage.
The Friday Fish Fry is worth the $21.95, especially because the haddock is partnered with Mac Salad, Potato Salad, Lazy Pierogi, Coleslaw and Rye Bread.
Ask for dessert. Of three choices, we wisely chose the Butter Pecan Cheesecake. The yummy essence of pecan was not overpowered by excess topping, and the graham cracker crust did not take over the perfectly sweetened filing.
Thanks to the fine fare and a delightful waitress, our visit was a memorable one.
Barb has been happily doing the Kiddie Gourmet for over 35 years. She has two aging children and four grandchildren, all living in Florida. She is a home instructor and community education cooking instructor for Williamsville Central Schools. She is the 2023 recipi ent of the Buffalo State Alumni Associa tion Senior Service Award.
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