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FALLING IN LOVE
V I N TA G E M A R K E T
TIPS&TR ICKS
T E L L +A L L
with your home
show girls
LEAVING WHEN
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C O U R A G E
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DARE TO DISRUPT
U N S T O P PA B L E
FOSTERING WILD
FIGHT FOR WHOLENESS
INSPIRE COURAGE
THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM
an honest look at the
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THE WILD WOMAN LI NDSAY MCPHAIL Editor In Chief JENNA BE NTON Senior Editor CINDY CONNE R Senior Editor DANNY HAL L Photography/Photo Editor LACE Y F AR BE R Contributing Editor CONTR IBU TOR S Gena Hansen, Krystle Bowen, Megan Koontz, Autym Burke, Lanessa Pierce COPY E DITOR S Jill Garner, Molly Acord, Sherri Emitte PHO T O GRAPHY CONTR IBUTOR S Wander & Pine Photography, Courtney Coker, Jessie Ficek Photography, Armijo Designs, Jessie Matteson, Cristin Nires Photography, Lindy Orozco W W W .T H E W I LD W OMANMAGAZINE.COM email: info@thewildwomanmagazine.com The Wild Woman Magazine ©2019. All rights reserved. Reproduction of any material from this issue in part or in whole is strictly prohibited.
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D A R I N G pg 20 To Disrupt D I S R U P T I N G pg 36 Winter R E W I L D I N G pg 39 Accept Yourself U N S T O P P A B L E Teen Entrepreneurs F OSTE R ING WILD Disrupting The System L I K E A W O M A N Women In The “Man Zone”
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A V O I C E pg 66 In The Wild BE A DISR U PTOR 10 Tips
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t’s easy to get lulled into complacency in life, love, careers and health. The path of most resistance is uncrowded for a reason. It’s hard. It’s lonely. It’s exhausting. Being an agent of change and disrupting the status quo may look sexy and exciting from the outside, but the truth is, choosing the life of a disruptor is accompanied by many sleepless nights with a side of gripping fear. Wait, don’t leave it gets better! As we start 2019 full of ambition and passion to be our best selves we’ve taken on the challenge of presenting women who are disrupting culture in the best ways, from health and fitness to career paths and organization. As you read these pages we urge you to do so with an adventurous spirit. It’s easy to see successful, courageous women and put ourselves down because we think their accomplishments
somehow take something away from our own lives. But we believe the opposite. There’s not one of you reading this magazine that doesn’t belong right here on these pages among brave women who have dared to disrupt. So you, my friend, have a choice to make before you dive in today. You can compare, put yourself down and choose to write these stories off OR you can be confident in who you are and what you’re already offering the world, receiving the inspiration and encouragement destined for your eyes at this particular point in time. Here’s to a year full of inconvenient disruptions. May we all have them, may we instigate them, and may we all be better for it! Love Your Guts!
Lindsay
: @thewildwomanmagazine
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KNOW THYSELF. SERIOUSLY. KNOW. YOU. TAKE TIME TO GO WITHIN. REFLECTION IS SO IMPORTANT TO GROWTH AND AWARENESS. IF YOU WANT TO TAP YOUR WILD, YOU HAVE TO UNEARTH IT. GET OUTDOORS. YOU WANNA GET WILD? THEN GET INTO THE WILD. NATURE SPEAKS AND TEACHES WHAT WE MIGHT NEVER LEARN IN OUR URBAN JUNGLES. SLOW DOWN. WE ARE BUSY, AND IN THAT WE RARELY ALLOW OURSELVES TO EXIST OUTSIDE OF OUR JAM PACKED SCHEDULE. IT’S HARD TO TAP YOUR WILD WHEN YOU NEVER SLOW DOWN. BE QUIET. THE WILD IN YOU WILL SPEAK. YOU NEED TO JUST LISTEN. PRACTICE. WHEN YOU FACE A CHALLENGE, ASK YOURSELF WHO YOU WANT TO BE. REMIND YOURSELF OF WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU WANT TO HANDLE THE SITUATION. TAKE TIME, THEN RESPOND, IN YOUR WILD.
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“Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.” - F. Scott Fitzgerald
efeat. I had spent the morning climbing in Joshua Tree. The type of climbing I was doing was new to me and as I went to make a hard move out of a roof, I found myself unable. I tried and failed, tried and failed, tried and failed. Over and over I told myself I could do it, I willed my body to do it. And over and over, I failed to complete the sequence. I cried and was overcome with the feeling that I was incapable and weak. My response in the moment was frustration. Frustration at my inability, frustration at my perceived failure, and frustration at what I felt was weakness. But the truth is none of that is reality. I am not incapable, I just need to practice. I may have failed to do the move, but I did not fail to finish the climb. I am not weak. Yes, there is room for growth. Yes, I have work to do. And yes, all of that is okay. The feelings I had that day were valid, but I didn’t stop where my feelings left me. I processed them and moved forward. Failure is about perspective, and who we want to be. Every time we fail we are presented with an opportunity to choose who we want to be and how we will respond to opposition. Do we want to be someone who gives in and gives up? Or do we want to accept our process and say “I will try again tomorrow”? Honestly, I think every day requires a bit of fight for our Wild. We’ve created a society where we are out of touch, even while so “connected” via social media. It’s easier to be overwhelmed and controlled by our feelings than it is to process and work through them. It’s easier to find comfort, to go with the flow and to give in, than it is for
us to stoke the dreams and passions in our heart— to risk. I’ve faced a lot of hardship in my life. My dad was in prison until I was 10. My mother passed away when I was 12, and almost every year since, I’ve lost someone close to me to death. Maybe that’s why I say every day is a fight. It’s the working out of my wild and my character in each moment that helps me to slow down and remind myself of who I want to be and how I want to react to things. I was raised by the stories I read as a kid, and the movies I watched. I joke that Xena raised me, but it’s not really a joke. In her character I learned what it meant to fight for the greater good. I learned that I could be a warrior, that I could set aside the life that happened to me and embrace the life I want. I learned that I get to choose who I want to be. And it wasn’t just her, it was all the characters. And from that place of understanding my identity, and what I was capable of, I went into the world. That’s why I’m working to direct feature films. I feel the need to show up deep inside me. It’s hard to explain. It’s like all the things I’ve experienced have built in me this insatiable desire to create what helped me get through when I was younger. I want to create fantastical, forward thinking, immersive films that speak to our resilient nature, unity and compassion. I want to be telling big stories, writing epic heroes and inviting people to be their best selves. I think my upbringing taught me that we are all capable of overcoming. And if that’s true, then all the stuff that culture tells us about our inability, our imperfections and our ‘never enough-ness’ is a lie. And If it’s a lie, and I can overcome… so can you.
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his morning I stood alone in front of the mirror and wept. My bathrobe was tied tightly around my middle, and it added bulk to my natural body shape. I wasn’t crying over how I looked.. It wasn’t my ripples or dimples or shape that had brought me to tears. This was something new. Instead of tears of defeat or surrender, tears of resolve streaked down my face. I was done. The decades of hating my reflection had finally taken their toll and I’d had enough. The deep guttural sobs weren’t flowing from a place of sadness, shame or disappointment like they had so many times before. This was a roar from a place deep within me I never even knew existed. It was a battle cry, a declaration of something new, an anthem drenched in freedom. I’ve been on a diet since the first grade. I battled an eating disorder for over a decade. I’ve abused diet pills, I’ve binged, I’ve purged. I’ve binged some more. I’ve exercised as a punishment for my size and I’ve tried every fad diet known to man. Enough! Today I stood strong and stared at the woman looking back at me in the mirror. I looked into the eyes of a fighter who has battled depression and eating disorders; a woman who has had 4 babies and 4 miscarriages. I saw someone who has fought hard for the life she has and I have the scars to prove it. I’ve allowed a 12 inch square on my bathroom floor to determine my worth for over 30 years. Those numbers have either whispered, “You’re good and lovely and worthy.” Or, “You are a worthless disappointment to the world.” I had a friend tell me once I’d never have authority over this area in my life until I conquered this issue. Today I am shouting out to anyone who will listen, “MY WEIGHT IS NOT AN ISSUE.” So many years have been stolen from me because the number on the scale wasn’t one that said I was good enough, fit enough, or thin enough. I refuse to spend one more second believing that hating the size of my ass will somehow shame me into the body society says I should have. This week I ran a 10k for the first time and I beat my back squat personal record by a whopping 40 pounds. If I got on the scale this morning those huge accomplishments would have been negated by three little numbers. My inner dialogue
would have told me that no one who weighs what I weigh has the right to celebrate. So today, I’m divorcing myself from an abusive relationship I’ve had for decades. I’m done weighing. My scale no longer has a voice in my life. I’ve been so afraid to take this step. I’ve told myself if I stop weighing, it will be the beginning of the end for my health journey. But the truth is, hating and shaming myself has only brought me an unhealthy inner dialogue and a self worth tied to a number that speaks nothing of the power I hold as a woman. Here’s my declaration as I walk into a destiny saturated in love and hope and power: I refuse to be owned by anything. I am free. I am no longer a slave to my scale or the numbers it holds. The lies that have grown deep roots and strangled my ability to love myself fully have been painfully weeded out. I am free to look at my reflection and love what I see: A strong, courageous, wild warrior of woman who walks in full authority and knows who she is. I will nourish my body with healthy food and exercise because it feeds my soul. No more hate, no more punishment. I am free. I am free. I am free. I can already hear my husband yelling amen. Wanna give it a try? Here are some new ways to think through your health journey. 1. Put your scale away for a week. Like away-away, so it’s not easy to get to. Once you finish your first week, do it again... and again. 2. Sign up for a race, competition or class that will stretch you. I ran my first 10k and was at the back of the pack. It wasn’t about winning for me. It was about doing something that pushed me out of my comfort zone. 3. Learn to cook. My mom’s eye are probably bulging out of her head. I can’t cook. But I’m learning. Why? Because I want to nourish my body with whole healthy food. Chicken nuggets and frozen pizza will no longer be my default. Freedom is calling you home today. If you choose this path it will be a choice you have to make every morning. You will have good days and days you want to run back to what you know. BUT, refusing to allow numbers on a scale to own you doesn’t mean you won’t be healthy or fit or lean... it just means you are now choosing not to be defined by a number. You can be free to love yourself on every step of the journey.
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WILD WOMAN PROFILE NAME: CARMELLA JUMP OCCUPATION: OWNER, OMEGA ENGRAVING 1) How long have you had your business? I am a 3rd generation owner of our small family business. My grandfather started the company back in 1978 and my parents purchased it from him in 1994. My husband and I purchased the business from my parents in January 2018. We specialize in creating personalized plastic name tags and badges, as well as other unique plastic engraved items. Growing up I never thought to myself, “I want to make name badges.” But it was a dream of my husband’s and I’m grateful we get to do it together. 2) What’s the number one tool you use to push through fear? Faith and trusting God in everything. Truly surrendering what I really want to control over to Him is so hard to do at times. 3) What are three pieces of encouragement for your customers ? 1) Be comfortable being uncomfortable. There’s no room for growth if we stay in our comfort zone. 2) Give yourself grace, that’s a must. 3) Just be yourself, take off the mask that we are so good at always putting on and know that being real and vulnerable even when we’re not at our best makes others relate to us more.
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“Your name is important so why not wear it nicely!” -Carmella Jump, Owner
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Ways to be a disruptor right now:
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Leave positive reviews for your 5 favorite businesses. Unclutter one area of your life that’s bothering you. Buy a beautiful book, read it, and then give it away. Give someone the benefit of the doubt. Make plans to travel somewhere you’ve never been. Write a letter to someone you love and mail it to them.
Chat with a stranger and learn 3 things about them.
Volunteer for something you’re passionate about.
Leave an extravagant tip. Quit something.