The Ease Issue
Tell Your Story with Filmmaker
Bernadette Slowey
LET GO (14) • EMBRACE IMPERFECTION (46) • MOVE FORWARD (86)
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once read a convincing reason to have kids say "I'm sorry" — even when they're not! The theory goes that children
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can practice the act of communicating an apology before they actually feel sorry. Then, as they mature and begin to feel true remorse, the child will already have the wherewithal to say "I'm sorry" when they mean it.
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I wonder if this is a way we could approach Forgiveness, too. We may not feel like forgiving someone—heck, they may not have requested such forgiveness in the first place—yet we can practice showing forgiveness now and when the true remorse/ reconciliation comes into being, we'll already have the skills to grant forgiveness. I like this because forgiveness, the abstract, feels like something I don't have control over. First, the person has to want my forgiveness. And they may as well change their behavior before I forgive them too! With the practice of forgiveness coming before the process of forgiveness, though, it feels like I can be in charge of my own emotions again. As you'll read about in this issue, forgiveness can take many different shapes. Regardless of the circumstance or conclusion, vulnerability will be a part of the forgiveness cycle. I don't know about you—but vulnerability makes me feel super uncomfortable. Perhaps taking back control over our experience of forgiveness will
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grant us the strength to be suitably vulnerable when the time comes.
lee lee Creative Director & Managing Editor @wordsbyleelee
P H O T O by @ J A Z E L L E S A R T I S T R Y
What makes us vulnerable is our greatest source of strength, because it teaches us strong things: like courage and how to love and what it takes to be kind. – CASEE MARIE The EAS E ISSU E
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Create Ease by Choosing Forgiveness M O N T H LY M US I C
Join us on A Journey Through Forgiveness" with this month's playlist, curated by Jen Evanson. Listen at bit.ly/TPYmusic." T h e PE R PE T UAL YOU
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Choose to rumble with your past and relentlessly pursue the truth of your story, with Bernadette Slowey, filmmaker and public speaker. P H O T O G R A P H E D by W I L LY W I L S O N
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Realize Chisel away at those long-held beliefs and
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high expectations that no longer serve the woman you are today. Accept yourself first, and then extend such graciousness to all those around you. Allow yourself to feel good, to move freely, and to be imperfectly you.
Lifestyle Accept, Forgive, Release................................ 14 Express Your Feelings.................................... 24 Notice Your Best Features.............................. 30
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Wise Books..................................................... 17 Eating Imperfectly.......................................... 18 Tequila (and Boundaries!)............................... 20 Intentional Movement.................................... 23 Windblown Style ............................................ 32 Forgiving Self-Care........................................ 36
Plus Take a day for yourself, with nature
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Dwell Checker your home with things you love now, even if they've already been well-loved by someone else in the past. Find yourself by falling in love with your home. Surrender to the details, the quirks, and the imperfections.
Design Re-charge in Your Sacred Space....................... 40 Love Your "Now" Home..................................... 42 Reduce, Re-use, RELAX.................................... 46
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Live Cherish your ideals, even while redefining your needs and desires. Heal from your past while living in the present. Feel close to others by first becoming your own best friend.
Mindset Befriend Yourself........................................... 76 Restore Relationships.................................... 80 Define Self-Forgiveness................................ 86
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T H E MA K ERS
Our makers consistently share their time & talents. We'd love to introduce you to the lovely ladies who contributed to this month's issue.
Willy
Allie
Cover Photography
Dwell Feature Photographer
@lifeunstill lifeunstill.com
@alliedearie alliedeariephotography.com
Willy is an award-winning portrait photographer
Allie Dearie is a photographer based in southern
specializing in documentary commercial and family
New England, who specializes in weddings and
photography. Her work appears in the book Photographing
elopements, as well as product and event photography.
Motherhood and she is the founder of the 100 Days
One of her dreams is to photograph all 59 National
of Ten Project. Willy exercises her creativity daily with
Parks in the US. In the rare moments that she's not
a continuum of art photography projects, which she
holding a camera, she's either sipping a cappuccino
often integrates into client work. Willy is a regular
while hand-lettering, planning her next adventure,
contributor to The Perpetual You and was the cover
or snuggling as many cats as possible. This is Allie's
story photographer for our November 2016 issue.
first collaboration with The Perpetual You.
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Jessie
P.K.
Krystal
Art Director
Proofreader
Mantra Siren
@littlelegendsdesign littlelegends.com
Connect on Facebook
@krystalbrandt krystalbrandt.com
Cat
Taylor
Casee
Content Editor
Brand Stylist
Collaborating Photographer
@catballou24 amlofarms.com
@studio.ontheland studioontheland.com
@hopeandharbor caseemarie.com
Paula
Lisa
Amanda Luisa
Collaborating Photographer
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Collaborating Photographer
@crash3328
@right_click_photo_n_design rightclickphotondesign.com
@amandaluisaart MandaLuisa.com
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Ann Marie
Michele
Rowena
Collaborating Artist
Collaborating Artist
Contributing Artist
@annmariedrury_artist annmariedruryart.com
@msddesign michelestarzec.com
@rowena.mcpherson.art facebook.com/RowenaMcPhersonArt
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