Bishop of the Diocese of Trenton: Most Reverend David M. O’Connell, C. M.
THE PARISH OF SAINT MARY A Catholic Community Proclaiming the Greatness of God in our Time
One Phalanx Road, Colts Neck, NJ 07722 Phone: 732-780-2666 Fax: 732-780-0394
Pastor: Reverend Fr. Jeffrey E. Lee Pastor Emeritus: Reverend Fr. William J. Bausch Deacon: John Wedemeyer
Trustees: Bill LaMorte Irene Weller
Parish Office hours Mon. - Thurs. 8:30 am - 7:30 pm Open Sunday 9 am - 12 noon. Parish Membership: New Parishioners are welcome to register at the office at any time. New Parishioner Orientation (quarterly) - will be held November 25, 11 am Contact Parish Office at parishoffice@stmaryscoltsneck.org Registration is required. Sacraments: Eucharist Detailed Mass times listed on page 2 Penance & Reconciliation Saturday 3 pm or by appointment. Marriage Contact the Parish Office one year in advance for information & guidelines. Baptism Contact the Parish Office for information & required paperwork three months in advance. There are no Baptisms during Advent or Lent, please plan accordingly.
Cohort 13 St. Catharine of Genoa 108 Middletown Rd., Holmdel
Saint Mary Parish One Phalanx Rd., Colts Neck
St. Gabriel
Veterans Day (Observed) Monday, Nov. 12th 9:00 am Mass in Church
100 N. Main St., Marlboro
St. Benedict 165 Bethany Rd., Holmdel
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Mass Intentions for the Week November 12 - November 18 For * Requested by
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Please pray for the following members of our parish family who are ill:
Monday, November 12 – Church 9 AM Veterans Day (Observed), St. Josaphat Men and Women in our Armed Forces and Their Families * Suzanne Schlesinger George Mavrookas * Lorraine M. Lee
Tuesday, November 13 – Chapel 9 AM St. Frances Xavier Cabrini Martin Brown * His Family Intentions of Fr. Ed Griswold * Rev. Fr. Jeffrey E. Lee, Staff and Parishioners
Wednesday, November 14 – Chapel 9 AM Betty Bracco * Bill and Gail Cargiulo Sergio De Gioia * Sergio De Gioia
Thursday, November 15 – Chapel 9 AM St. Albert the Great Rose Belviso * Frank and Janice Castaldo Rita Bausch Anderson * Martha Mary Guild
Friday, November 16 – Chapel 9 AM St. Margaret of Scotland; St. Gertrude Jo Clement * John Anthony Coppola John D. Yanno, Sr. * Rosa Amodio
Saturday, November 17 – Church 4 PM St. Elizabeth of Hungary Terence Deckert * Susan and John Murphy John Anastasia * Rorie and Jack Coppola William Gurkas * Jean Gurkas
Sunday, November 18 – Church Thirty-third Sunday in Ordinary Time 8 AM Helen and John Sionas * Mike and Eileen Stivala Joseph Velba * Joe and Adele Vaughn Bigelow Jr. * Convery Family
10 AM Frank Baron * Irene Baron Adele Borut * Tracy, Michael, Bryan and Jeremy Borut Billy Greenlow * Marilyn and Carl Simone
12 PM Pro Populo Frances Norulak * Weller Family Anthony Magro and Linda Merola * Margherita Merola and Joseph and Jamie Magro
Baptism after 12 noon Mass Vanessa Nicole Orrico
Kay Amatel Maurice Baker Irene Baron Eileen Beckley John Beckley Sal Castro Logan Dayton John DeStefano Lynette Colaco-Desouza Kaitlin Donahue Nagle Emily Gioacchini Susan Endlicher Bob Golar Edward Habrack Tom Hudak Kathleen Javaruski Carl Johnson Theresia Kopp
Bridget Korn Lori Lettieri Donna Lodi Vincent Loretta Pauline Madzin Leonidas Mavrookas Mary Joan McNamara Regina Moeller Walter Moeller Tere Nolan Martin Reddington Stellanne Scalia Owen Shoemaker Christine Shrewsbury Lauren Vinci Irene Weller Don Whitney
To add a family member to the sick list for 8 weeks, please call or e-mail the Parish Office. Thank you!
732-780-2666 or parishbulletin@stmaryscoltsneck.org
Join us for THANKSGIVING DAY MASS Thursday, November 22 in the Church at 9 am. Start your day in thankful prayer!!
Welcome to the newest members of our Saint Mary Parish family who was Baptized recently: Emily Kate Degenhardt
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Parish Office: 732-780-2666 parishoffice@stmaryscoltsneck.org Bulletin Deadline: Electronic format by 12 noon Thursday of the prior week (10 days before). parishbulletin@stmaryscoltsneck.org Bulletin Editor: Catherine Love
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The Parish Office is closing for Thanksgiving Wednesday, November 21 at 12 noon. Remaining closed Thursday, November 22. Reopening Sunday, November 25.
Liturgical, Music & Worship Ministries Contact: Andrew J. Macirowski Worship@stmaryscoltsneck.org Music@stmaryscoltsneck.org Principal Cantor Contact: David Maliakel Adult Faith Formation & Religious Education Contact: Jim Bridges FaithFormation@stmaryscoltsneck.org ReligiousEd@stmaryscoltsneck.org Temporal Administration, Stewardship & Outreach Contact: Edwin A. Sevillano TemporalAdmin@stmaryscoltsneck.org On Tuesday, November 13th, 2018: 10 am- 6:30 pm, the Co-Cathedral of St. Robert Bellarmine will be hosting the Visitation of the Relics of St. Padre Pio of Pietrelcina, on the occasion of the 50th commemoration anniversary of his passing. A Mass in honor of Saint Pio will be celebrated at 7:00 pm by Msgr. Thomas Gervarsio, Vicar General of the Diocese of Trenton.
Sanctuary Lamps Consider donating the sanctuary lamp that burns in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament in the Church or Christ Chapel in memory of a loved one who has died or to honor a living person. The suggested donation for Sanctuary Lamp is $25.
Upcoming availability Christ Chapel: 11/18 - 11/24, 11/25 -12/1, & 12/2 - 12/8 Church: 11/18 - 11/24 11/25 -12/1, & 12/9 - 12/15
Church Remo & Marie Blaffard Daughters
Pray for Our Military SN Colton Boag, USCG Chief Blake Conley, USN Lt. Col. John Anthony Coppola, US Army Major Douglas Coppola, US Army SN Christian Houlihan, USN Pvt Michael John Mento, US Army 1st Lt. Adam Sjoholm, US Army 2nd Lt. Ryan Tanguay, US Army Staff Sergeant Stephen Witherow, USAF Lance Corporal Edward Zarzecki If there is a family member you wish to be placed on the list, please call the Parish Office at 732-780-2666. Please include rank and branch of service.
Lifelong Catechesis Week November 12 - November 18 Monday: Tuesday: Wednesday: Thursday: Friday:
READINGS FOR THE WEEK Ti 1:1-9; Lk 17:1-6 Ti 2:1-8, 11-14; Lk 17:7-10 Ti 3:1-7; Lk 17:11-19 Phlm 7-20; Lk 17:20-25 2 Jn 4-9; Lk 17:26-37
November 18, 2018 - 33rd Sunday in Ordinary Time 1 Kgs 17:10-16; Heb 9:24-28; Mk 12:38-44 [41-44] Questions for Deeper Reflections: Question for Children: If Jesus came to visit you today, what would you do? What would say? How would you act? Question for Youth: If today was your last day, what would you be most thankful for? What would you regret? Question for Adults: If today was your last, what would you do -Lifelong Catechesis with it?
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Andrew J. Macirowski Pastoral Coordinator for Worship & Music / Principal Organist Worship@stmaryscoltsneck.org Music@stmaryscoltsneck.org
Music in the Church According to Saint Athansius Music is integral to the life of the Church. Profound, accurate liturgy and the best of music are but 2 of the keystones of a solid foundation to Mass (the Eucharist not to be excluded, of course) Saint Athansius writes: Think of a musician tuning his lyre. By his skill, he adjusts high notes to low and intermediate notes to the rest, and produces a series of harmonies. So, too, the wisdom of God holds the world like a lyre and joins things in the air to those on earth, and things in heaven to those in the air, and brings each part into harmony with the whole. By his decree and will, he regulates them all to produce the beauty and harmony of a single, well-ordered universe. (St. Athanasius, Oratio contra gentes, 42; PG 25, 83-86) He writes further, when speaking of a choir: To illustrate this profound mystery, let us take the example of a choir of many singers. A choir is composed of a variety of men, women, and children, of both old and young. Under the direction of one conductor, each sings in the way that is natural for him: men with men’s voices, boys with boys’ voices, old people with old voices, young people with young voices. Yet all of them produce a single harmony. . . . Although this is only a poor comparison, it gives some idea of how the whole universe is governed. The Word of God has but to give a gesture of command and everything falls into place; each creature performs its own proper function, and all together constitute one single harmonious order. (St. Athanasius, Oratio contra gentes, 43; PG 25, 86-87)
Andrew J. Macirowski, Pastoral Coordinator for Worship & Music / Principal Organist
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Worship Ministry Schedule: November 17 - November 18: Thirty-Third Sunday in Ordinary Time Altar Server
Saturday, 4:00 PM (Church)
Sunday, 8:00 AM (Church)
Sunday, 10:00 AM (Church)
Sunday, 12:00 PM (Church)
Reader 1
EMs of Holy Communion
Reader 2
Greeter
LWD
Cantor
Usher
Abigail Cowles Daniel Cowles NOT FILLED
Louise Habrack - Center Cup Martha Cowles - Organ Host Susan Baker - Center Host Helene Lind - Tabernacle Host Frank Baker - Organ Cup Suzanne Schlesinger - Tabernacle Cup Irene Weller - Alternate
Carl Simone
John McCrae
Margaret Caponegro NOT FILLED
Marybeth Jacobson
Fernando Pinguelo
John Grabowski Jim Davis Bob Lind Frank Sikorskas NOT FILLED NOT FILLED
NOT FILLED NOT FILLED NOT FILLED
Mike LaCava - Center Cup Susan Osmulski - Organ Host Paul Osmulski - Center Host Joyce Flynn - Tabernacle Host Maureen Staub - Organ Cup Michael Staub - Tabernacle Cup Jane Slattery - Alternate
Christopher Aquinas
Annette Raynor
Tina Repetto NOT FILLED
David Maliakel
N/A
Michael Boliver George Watts James Pifer Jim Boliver NOT FILLED NOT FILLED NOT FILLED
Patrick Dickinson Eva Garcia Gabriella Penczak
Carol Donahue - Center Cup Winifred O'Doherty - Center Cup Gregory Calderaro - Organ Host Heide Lohn - Center Host Sue Fitzpatrick - Tabernacle Host Mary Aiello - Organ Cup Linda Dickinson-Pancila - Tabernacle Cup Chris Barnett - Alternate
Kevin Swan
Anthony Bongiorno
Mary DeSalvatore Muriel Rogers
David Maliakel
Jennifer Garcia
Leigh Gavinelli John Orrico Greg Penczak Jack Zumba Charlie Gavinelli Allan Ryan Vince Cerulo Jamie Steiner NOT FILLED
Tommy Zita NOT FILLED NOT FILLED
NOT FILLED - Center Cup NOT FILLED - Organ Host NOT FILLED - Center Host Patricia Balbo - Tabernacle Host Lee Gesner - Organ Cup NOT FILLED - Tabernacle Cup Patricia Gesner - Alternate
Stanley Drusdow
Dan Mazzeo
Donna Murphy Anna May Schellenberger
David Maliakel
Maria Greenstein
James Dolan Joe Mancino Joseph Rinaldo William Starce NOT FILLED NOT FILLED NOT FILLED
Annual Colts Neck Community Ecumenical Service * Nov 20, 7:30 pm Â
The worship communities of the Parish of Saint Mary and the Colts Neck Reformed Church invite all to please join us at 7:30 pm on Tuesday, November 20 at the Colts Neck Reformed Church for a wonderful evening of worship, music, fellowship and Thanksgiving.
Less then One Month until Advent Penance and Reconciliation Service All are invited to participate in the Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation at the parish Penance and Reconciliation Service held this Advent on
Sunday, December 9, 2018 at 3 pm. Sixteen (16) priest confessors will be available to you for your convenience to reduce wait times. To prepare yourself, please take some time out prior to attending the Penance & Reconciliation Service to examine your conscience.
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Dr. Jim Bridges Pastoral Coordinator of Faith Formation and Religious Education FaithFormation@stmaryscoltsneck.org ReligiousEd@stmaryscoltsneck.org
The infancy narratives are arguably the most beautiful and intriguing passages in the Gospels. Within these narratives we encounter the Gospels of Matthew and Luke in miniature. Journey with us as Dr. Jim Bridges guides us through an exploration of the compositions casting light on their theological purpose. From the child in the manger to the Magi’s search for the infant Jesus, the evangelists create two unique narratives that reveal the importance of Jesus of Nazareth. Come experience the narratives that captured our imagination for nearly 2000 years. Part One Sunday, December 9, 7:00-8:30 pm or Monday, December 10, 10:00-11:30 am Part Two Sunday, December 16, 7:30-9:00 pm or Monday, December 17, 10:00-11:30 am Madonna Hall, Parish of St. Mary, Colts Neck
Why not join a faith sharing group this Advent, to read the Scripture of the season, pray together & share faith? All materials are provided. Groups meet at the parish or in your home depending on each facilitator’s schedule. No fee. Materials available at Agape & on the parish website. Groups meet once a week during the weeks of Advent: New and past facilitators please check in with your interest for this year. New facilitator training available Please contact: faithformation@stmaryscoltsneck.org Please consider this wonderful way to ready our hearts for the coming of our Lord and Savior!
Confirmation Prep Grades 7 & 8 Date Next few sessions 11/11/2018 11/18/2018 11/25/2018 12/2/2018
Group
Time
No Class Nov 8-9 NJEA Conv. Schools closed A
5-6:30 p.m. No Class Thanksgiving break B
5-6:30 p.m.
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Quo vadis… My Dear Parishioners: Today we celebrate the Thirty Second Sunday in Ordinary Time. A child’s handmade birthday card to Mom is as precious to her as Dad’s gift of jewelry. It is not the size of the gift which measures its value but the depth of the self-gift from which it comes. Placing ourselves at the center of worldly values--status, clothes, seats of honor, power, wealth---gains us condemnation. Surrendering ourselves as disciples at the service of others and living a life of self-giving gains us salvation. But how easily we are fooled about where our hearts truly lie! We might look at the widow’s giving all she had as a foreshadowing of Jesus giving his all on the cross. The good news is that when we surrender our all there is a constant reversal in the order of things: oppressed to protected; beneficiary to benefactor; master to servant; least to greatest; last to first; condemnation to salvation; poverty to surplus; death to life. When we give our all we never run out. God is the one who is always there to provide.
During the month of November we reflect on the Communion of Saints and All the Holy Souls who have gone before us. We pray that through the intercession of the Holy Ones our prayers might be answered. We pray for the repose of all the Holy Souls who are no longer with us in this world as they continue their journey toward the Heavenly realm. This is the hope and promise of all who have been baptized.
The paschal mystery reminds us that if we rely on ourselves and amass our own treasures, we will lose everything. If we surrender ourselves in loving self-sacrifice, we gain everything. The choice is ours. Discipleship does not mean that we necessarily do big and heroic things. It does mean that we do everything and meet whatever challenges come our way with hearts set right---we give of ourselves for the good of others.
The Increased Offertory Commitment Cards continue to be returned. Many thanks to all those who have returned their card. Some of these cards have included very thoughtful and encouraging notes. Those who have not done so at this time are encouraged to do so at this time. Have a great week. Let us remember one another in prayer. Happy Sunday. Peace. Father Jeff
Plans are well underway for our Thanksgiving Food Drive. There are different ways to participate. Consult the bulletin for how you might best participate. The annual Thanksgiving Ecumenical Prayer Service will be hosted by the Colts Neck Reformed Church Community. Tuesday, 20 November at 7:30 pm. Deacon John will be the homilist this year. Our parish will gather for the Eucharist on Thanksgiving Day at 9:00 am in the church. What a great way to begin a day of thanksgiving by receiving Holy Communion.
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Sharing Our Treasure Thirty-First Sunday in Ordinary Time November 4 Weekly Sacrificial Stewardship
$20,980
Envelope Contributions
$13,662
Electronic/Online Contributions
$ 6,001
Loose Contributions
$ 1,317
Avg. Contribution per Household this week $45.00 # of Contributing Households # Registered Parishioner Households
437 1,264
Included in this week’s offertory will be the collection for the appeal for Human Development. For end of the year charitable giving opportunities, please consult your financial/tax advisor. Consider our parish for your end of the year charitable gift. THANK YOU for the Sacrificial Stewardship Offerings as we support the ministries, programs and facilities of our parish. May God Bless you for the sacrifices that you make.
Parish Fall Clean-Up Saturday, December 1, 9 am-1 pm Join us to PICK UP leaves and branches from the parish grounds before the winter months. Please bring rakes to the event. Adults with equipment to cut fallen branches and sheers/loppers are needed. Two Hour Shifts & Community Service HOURS Available. Group Leaders Needed, National Honor Society leadership hours available.
For more information or to sign up contact: Edwin at TempAdmin@stmaryscoltsneck.org
New Parishioner Orientation November 25, 11 am Madonna Hall During orientation, new parishioners meet with parish staff and ministry leaders to gain important information about St. Mary Parish, parish life and how to become part of the parish community. This is a great opportunity to meet other new parishioners and ask all your questions. Attendance is mandatory for those looking to become parishioners at the Parish of St. Mary. Please Contact the Parish Office if you wish to attend 732-780-2666
Next AGAPE Sunday, November 25 After the 8 & 10 am Masses Join fellow parishioners after Sunday Masses for donuts, bagels, coffee/beverages and fellowship in the Parish Hall and outside in the courtyard. Agape is also an opportunity to meet ministry leaders, sign up for programs and learn more about parish life. Empty Bowls Light Up a Memory Advent Prayer Groups
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Prayer Shawl Ministry Wednesday, November 14 at 10 am Room 11 This month the Prayer Shawl Ministry will meet on November 14 in room 11 at 10 a.m. We are making caps and scarves for Holiday Express and ask members to bring the items at that time. We will continue to accept caps and scarves until December 2. New members are always welcome and we look forward to seeing everyone on the 14th.
“Light Up a Memory” “Light Up a Memory” has become a beautiful Christmas tradition at St. Mary’s and is now in its 11th year, thanks to the support of an enthusiastic community. It is heartwarming to see the hundreds of lights sparkle during the Christmas season. For a contribution of $10.00 per light, people are invited to sponsor a light in memory of someone deceased or in honor of a living person. All of the names will be inscribed in the Light Up a Memory book, which will be displayed in The Parish of Saint Mary Gathering Space. A lovely card of acknowledgement is provided with each $10.00 donation. There will be a tree Lighting Ceremony on Sat., Dec. 15, after the 4:00 Mass, with music provided by St. Mary’s Choir. Refreshments will be served in the Gathering Space after the ceremony. These “memories” will glow until the feast of “Little Christmas” on Jan. 6. The deadline to reserve a light is Monday, Dec. 3, so call the parish 732-780-2666, Molly Aiello 732598-6808 or Freda O’Doherty 732-577-9541. Everyone is welcome to participate in this wonderful tribute to our loved ones.
Saint Mary Parish Sewing Circle Will meet on Tuesday, Nov. 13 and 27 this month. As usual we meet in the Spiritual Center, room 11 at 1 pm. Hope you can all attend CONTACT for more information: Kathe Flanagan at kjflan@aol.com
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Semper Paratus The next meeting of the Martha Mary Guild is scheduled for 14 November 2018. Acknowledging Veterans Day during the month of November has become a tradition for the Guild and this year we will focus on the United States Coast Guard Auxiliary. It is a Civilian auxiliary with a role in Search and Rescue, Disaster relief, Recreational Boating Safety, Marine Environmental Safety and Protection. It is a part of the Department of Homeland Security, The Auxiliary contributes over 4-5 million hours of service each year and completed nearly 500,000 missions of service to support the Coast Guard. Every year Auxiliarists help to save approximately 500 lives, assist 15,000 distressed boaters, conduct over 150,000 safety examinations of recreational vessels and provide boater safety instruction to over 500,000 students. In total the Coast Guard Auxiliary saves taxpayers hundreds of millions of dollars each year. This Veterans Day program will be presented by two distinguished members of the US Coast Guard Auxiliary. Catherine Dudley joined the USCG Auxiliary in October 1997 after taking an Auxiliary boating class where she learned how much she really did not know about safe boating. She is presently Flotilla Secretary and Flotilla Public Education officer. As a retired middle school teacher, Catherine likes working in the Public Education program. The flotilla works with high school students, has a program in 6 elementary schools, and also conducts many classes for the public. Vincent Mancino has been in the USCG Auxiliary for forty years. He too joined the Auxiliary after buying a boat. He is currently the Finance Officer for Flotilla 26, which is chartered in Monmouth Beach. He has served as Flotilla Commander for two years, as well as other positions over the years. At the Division level, centered at the Sandy Hook Coast Guard Station, he has served as Division Staff Finance Officer for nine years, and Human Resource Officer for eighteen years. This Auxiliary provides an important service to our community and beyond, along our East Coast. Join us for this special program: all are invited. Come to the Spiritual Center Chapel to pray the rosary at 11:30 a.m. BYOL (Bring Your Own Lunch) will follow, with refreshments provided by the Guild, and the Veterans Day tribute will begin around 12:30. The Guild thanks all the generous members that brought socks to the Oct. meeting for Holiday Express and asks that you kindly bring canned goods for the homeless to the Nov. meeting. Thank you again for your generosity!
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Christmas Outreach Opportunities:
Tree of Love – Purchase individual
Thanksgiving Baskets Collection
gift items for individuals from tags that are placed on the Christmas Tree of Love in the gathering space. The Tree will be up the weekend before Thanksgiving Nov 17/18. Presents with their gift tag attached, are due back Dec. 2nd To help contact: Deb debstan2@aol.com
Christmas Sponsor-A-Family Purchase gifts for a family. You select the size of the family you wish to sponsor (2-6 people). Several families or a group of people can sponsor a larger family. Gifts per person are usually a value of $50 and based on a list of needed items prepared by the family. This program adopts families from Aslan Youth Ministries, The Center in Asbury Park, Family Resource Associates and the Highpoint School. The goal is to sponsor families in need at Christmas. If you, your family, your neighbors, coworkers, or friends would like to sponsor a family in need this holiday season, please contact co-chairs: Sue Levine infoman46@aol.com Kathy Maher wamaher2@aol.com
Advent Pancake Breakfast We are looking for several co-chairs that will be available to shadow and learn this year and then run the next 2019 breakfast. Without more leaders participating we will have to discontinue this event. December 16, 2018 8:30 AM to 12 noon Please contact the Parish Office Communications@stmaryscoltsneck.org
Please help us continue this tradition!
For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, a stranger and you welcomed me…” - Matthew 25:35 Every year, Saint Mary Parish parishioners generously provide donations for Thanksgiving Baskets for over 200 area families who are in need in the Monmouth County area.
Please purchase items to feed a family of four:
Canned Fruit Dry Milk Stuffing Gravy
Cranberry Sauce Coffee or Tea Bags Green Beans Corn
Canned Yams, Potatoes, or Rice Pie Crust Mix/Pie Fill or Cake Mix/Frosting The Parish of Saint Mary provides turkeys along with the non-perishable food. Due to lack of freezer space we ask for monetary donations towards the purchase of turkeys. Therefore, in lieu of donating turkeys or gift cards, please make your check payable to “The Parish of Saint Mary” & put ‘Thanksgiving Food Drive’ in the memo section.
Your contribution will be used for turkeys or additional canned goods if needed. Help us exceed last year's donations of 145 bags of groceries and 130 turkeys to greater serve the needs of the community at large. Please bring your donations to the Parish Hall from November 3 - November 16, 2018 If you would like to volunteer to help shop, sort, pack or load please contact Rose Farrow at rmcfarrow@hotmail.com