THE PARISH OF SAINT MARY A Catholic Community Proclaiming the Greatness of God in our Time One Phalanx Road, Colts Neck, NJ 07722 Phone: 732-780-2666 Fax: 732-780-0394 parishoffice@stmaryscoltsneck.org Bishop of the Diocese of Trenton: Most Reverend David M. O’Connell, C. M. Pastor: Reverend Fr. Jeffrey E. Lee Pastor Emeritus: Reverend Fr. William J. Bausch Trustees: Bill LaMorte Irene Weller Worship schedule inside. Refer to website for more detailed information visit www.stmaryscoltsneck.org Deacon: John Wedemeyer
July 19, 2020
Sixteenth Sunday in Ordinary Time
Jesus said, “The kingdom of heaven may be likened to a man who sowed good seed in his field. Matthew 13:24
FORGIVENESS And is God not more ready to pardon than we to sin? --St. Catherine of Siena
TOWARD HEAVEN Think well. Speak well. Do well. These three things, through the mercy of God, will make a person go to heaven. --St. Camillus de Lellis
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Mass Intentions for the Week of July 18 - July 26 For * Requested by Saturday, July 18 – 5 PM Church Intentions of Leonidas Mavrookas * Suzanne Schlesinger Mary Lou Smith * Barbara Saake Julia Camarata * Charles Camarata Sunday, July 19 – Church 16th Sunday in Ordinary Time 8 AM DeStefano/Albruno Families * Mr. and Mrs. Franceschetti Sila and Joseph Myers * Jeanne and Joe Kolakowski 10 AM Pro Populo Bill O’Doherty * Freda O’Doherty Wendy Moeller * John and Dawn Reinhardt 12 PM Romelia Rodriguez * Michele Galpern Susan Duffy Schatzle * Jim Schatzle & Family & Agnes Duffy & Family Mary & Joseph Musicaro * Richard & Maria Gerbino Monday, July 20 – 9 AM Chapel (Parish Hall) Eleanor and Patrick Walsh * Maureen Beyer Tuesday, July 21 – 9 AM Chapel (Parish Hall) Logan Dayton * Ginny Hamlin Wednesday, July 22 – 9 AM Chapel (Parish Hall) Bernadette Shine * Neil and Jane Slattery Thursday, July 23 – 9 AM Chapel (Parish Hall) Michael Mannino * Linda Fredda Friday, July 24 – 9 AM Chapel (Parish Hall) Kesh Nuada * John and Alice Vaccaro Saturday, July 25 – 5 PM Church William Gurkas * Rosalyn “Gurkas Mary Coppola * Diane Carnevale Gail Sampogna * Barbara Saake Sunday, July 26 – Church 17th Sunday in Ordinary Time 8 AM Timothy Slisky * Alice Ganley Stephen Daisak * Barbara Daisak 10 AM Mark Reinhardt * John and Dawn Reinhardt Peter H. McKay * Carol McKay Irena Kolakowski * Jeanne and Joe Kolakowski 12 PM Pro Populo Robert Anello * Michele Galpern Salvatore Pati * Richard and Maria Gerbino
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Please pray for the following members of our parish family who are ill: Marcela Abril Kathleen Amatel Fr Bill Bausch Eileen Beckley Christen Chellis Blake Conley John DeSimone Kaitlin Donahue Nagle Tom Fadale James Fiedler Emily Gioacchini Edward Habrack Tom Hudak Anton Kopp Theresia Kopp Bridget Korn
Lori Lettieri Donna Lodi Leonidas Mavrookas Mary Joan McNamara Walter Moeller Kevin O’Shea Stanley Rembisz Paola Richmond Abel Rodriguez Owen Shoemaker Victoria Slater Dominic Sozio Gerard P. Thompson Seneida Tomasetti Cecilia Vilca Lauren Vinci
To add a family member to the sick list for 8 weeks, please call or e-mail the Parish Office. Thank you! 732-780-2666 or parishbulletin@stmaryscoltsneck.org
Mass Intention Request ONLINE Available through the link below is an online form to request Mass Intentions for the remainder of the 2020 calendar. https://bit.ly/3dbHyip
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Almighty and eternal God, those who take refuge in you will be glad and forever will shout for joy. Protect these soldiers as they discharge their duties. Protect them with the shield of your strength and keep them safe from all evil and harm. May the power of your love enable them to return home in safety, that with all who love them, they may ever praise you for your loving care. We ask this through Christ our Lord.
PRAY for Military & First Responders SN Colton Boag, USCG LCpl Devon Francis Chrzan, USMC Lt. Col. John Anthony Coppola, US Army Major Douglas Coppola, US Army Lt. Mary Herman, USN SN Christian Houlihan, USN Ensign Jason Joseph Howe, USN SPC Michael John Mento, US Army PFC Nicholas Poskonka, US Army Captain Richard Savo, US Army 1st Lt. Adam Sjoholm, US Army 1st Lt. Ryan Tanguay, US Army SSgt Stephen Witherow, USAF LCpl Edward Zarzecki, USMC If there is a family member you wish to be placed on the list, please contact the Parish Bulletin at 732-780 -2666 or parishbulletin@stmaryscoltsneck.org.
READINGS FOR THE WEEK
Monday: Tuesday: Wednesday: Thursday: Friday:
Ex 14:5-18; Mt 12:38-42 2 Cor 4:7-15; Mt 20:20-28 Ex 16:1-5, 9-15; Jn 20:1-2, 11-18 Ex 19:1-2, 9-11, 16-20b; Mt 13:10-17 Ex 20:1-17; Mt 13:18-23
Sunday, 26 July - 17th Sunday in Ordinary Time 1 Kgs 3:5, 7-12; Rom 8:28-30; Mt 13:44-52 Questions for Deeper Reflections: Question for Children: If you could be with Jesus, what would you trade from your own things for that? Question for Youth: Today’s gospel reminds us that God’s kingdom is worth sacrifice. What do you need to sacrifice in order to follow God in your own life? Why are you willing to make that sacrifice? Question for Adults: Using Jesus’ parable as your starting point, describe in your own words what the Reign of God is for you personally, and use a parable to describe it: “The reign of God is _____.” - Lifelong Catechesis
GROTTO CANDLES The Grotto Candles are available for your prayer intentions. Offering is $3.00 per candle.
Sanctuary Lamp Intentions Sanctuary Lamp Intentions ONLINE Available through the link below is an online form to request Sanctuary Lamp Intentions for the remainder of the 2020 calendar. https://bit.ly/37RKz5p
Consider donating the sanctuary lamp that burns in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament in the Church or in the Chapel in honor of a living or deceased loved one. The suggested donation is $25. Intentions are available
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Andrew J. Macirowski Pastoral Coordinator for Worship & Music / Principal Organist Worship@stmaryscoltsneck.org Music@stmaryscoltsneck.org For all parishioners: Congregating before and after Mass is prohibited, as per the bishop. There will be no children’s liturgy of the word dismissal. Volunteers are greatly needed to wipe down the wood of the pews after all Masses (weekend and
weekday). We will have a cleaning crew take care of the floors, bathrooms etc, but need this little bit of additional help. Please contact Andrew if you are able. At weekday Masses, no one is to arrive prior to 8:30 AM. All Masses will be in the Chapel in the Parish Hall. Exposition remains suspended for now. Private adoration of the Blessed Sacrament reserved in the tabernacle is welcomed and encouraged at any time.
EXPECTATIONS AS WE PREPARE TO GATHER FOR MASS
Parishioners can choose which Mass they will attend. Enter through the center main doors. There will be personnel there to insure that each person is wearing their mask and to advise that social distancing is to be observed when entering/exiting, selecting a seat, processing/recessing to receive Holy Communion. It will require all to come earlier than usual to be processed and to search for seating that observes social distancing. Because of this entrance will be restricted once the Mass has begun. Masks and Social/Physical distancing are required. There can be no physical collection of Stewardship Offerings; Two designated boxes will be placed in the Narthex/Gathering Space for the placement of envelopes or offerings. Thank you for your generosity. Missals, Missalettes, Bulletins, and other papers have been removed. Holy Water has been drained from all locations. Parish Clergy will distribute Holy Communion; we ask all coming forth to observe distancing front to back and side to side. We have been advised that socializing before or after the Mass inside or outside is to be discouraged; clergy are not permitted to greet parishioners before or after the Mass. Online Mass viewing continues with the newest weekend Mass becoming available for Saturdays after 5 pm The Parish of Saint Mary - You Tube Channel (https://bit.ly/2SkpRET)
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Dr. Jim Bridges Pastoral Coordinator of Faith Formation and Adult Catechesis FaithFormation@stmaryscoltsneck.org Julia Cullen Pastoral Coordinator for Elementary Religious Education ReligiousEd@stmaryscoltsneck.org
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Rose Farrow Pastoral Coordinator for Elementary Religious Education YouthRE@stmaryscoltsneck.org
Make Me an Instrument of Your Peace: A Prayer for Civility Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Where uncivil words prevail, show me how to model love. Help me remember the God-given dignity of all and invite others to do the same. Show me how to build bridges and not walls and see first what unites us rather than how we diverge. Let me seek to understand before asking to be understood. Give me a listening heart filled with empathy and compassion. May I be clear in sharing my own position and respectful and civil in describing those of others. Let me never tolerate hateful ideas. May I invite all to charity and love. Lord, help me to imitate your compassion and mercy. Make me an instrument of your peace. Amen. Inspired by Nine Rules for Civility from the Catholic Tradition, Bishop Zubik Copyright © 2019, United States Conference of Catholic Bishops.
What’s on Formed? faith formation programming, bible studies, movies, documentaries, articles, talks, audio dramas, audio books, books for youth and adults…and so much more.
The parish has purchased a subscription for you. www.stmaryscoltsneck.formed.org The free FORMED app is available now!
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July 19, 2020 We welcome all your generous donations to Saint Mary Parish.
Sharing Our Treasure July 12 - 15th Sunday in Ordinary Time Weekly Sacrificial Stewardship
$ 19,939
Envelope Contributions
$ 13,247
Electronic/Online Contributions
$ 6,396
Loose Contributions
$ 296
Avg. Contribution per Household this week $ 71.69 # of Contributing Households
274
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As a reminder, loose cash offerings at Mass cannot be traced to any individuals and therefore not considered for end of year statement of charitable contributions. We suggest to ALWAYS use your offering envelopes or to sign up for online giving at https://goo.gl/w4oTes . Alternatively there are blank envelopes available in church where you can fill in your name so your donations can be properly posted to your account.
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In an effort to be good stewards the goal of Saint Mary Parish is to have parishioners utilize the online giving system. Quarterly offertory envelopes are mailed to those that have recorded their request with the Parish Office.
Please remember The Parish of Saint Mary in your Will and Estate planning.
If you have any questions, please contact the parish office at 732-780-2666 .
# Registered Parishioner Households
THANK YOU for the Sacrificial Stewardship Offerings as we support the ministries, programs and facilities of our parish. May God Bless you for the sacrifices that you make.
GIVING GUIDELINES FOR PRAYERFUL REFLECTION Of all the ways we are asked to be generous, giving from our treasure - giving money - can sometimes be the most challenging. God understands this. He calls us to tithe for this reason. Giving money to charity will do much good, but the most good it will do is free us from our attachment to money. This frees us to serve God and draw closer to Him. Tithing challenges us to see the difference between what we need and what we want. This is important for our spiritual well being. Tithing means giving 10% from our gross wages or income. We strive to give 5% to our parish, and 5% to the needs of the greater Church and world – other charities. Giving freely is an important tool to develop in our journey to draw closer to Christ. For most, it takes time to reach a full tithe.
Thank you for taking this matter into consideration!
2020 ANNUAL CATHOLIC APPEAL UPDATE As of 29 June 2020
Parish goal: $75,000 Total raised: $45,055 Percentage of goal: 60% # of Donors: 179 Payments received: $37,879 Average gi : $252 Thank you to all parishioners who have already made a pledge. If you have not done so yet you can do it here: https://www.dioceseoftrenton.org/aca-donate-page
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DESPERATION The kingdom of God is not for the well-meaning but for the desperate. --James Denney
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PANTRY FOOD ITEMS Food is accepted weekly. Please place donations in the grey cart in the gathering space of the Church. Please, no expired items. Thank you to all for your continued support in helping to feed others in the community. MOST NEEDED LIST Razors, shaving cream Macaroni & Cheese Canned Vegetables Instant Mashed Potatoes Cooking Oil Ketchup, mustard, Mayo Bottled Water (all sizes) Cookies, Pretzels, Crackers Peanut Butter Salad Dressings Cake mixes, frosting Soups: Chicken, Beef Baby food & Formula Baby Diapers (size 4 & up) Feminine Care Products Soap, shampoo, toothpaste Adult incontinence (all kinds)
Cereal Instant Oatmeal Rice Juice Canned Puddings Jell-O Canned Fruit Canned Tuna Canned Salmon Raisins Healthy Snacks Tea Coffee Deodorant Sunscreen Body Lotion
Whoever is kind to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will reward them for what they have done. — Proverbs 19:17
Catholic Charities News The economic impact of the pandemic has increased the number of homeless families. Catholic Charities provides transitional housing, job skills and budgeting training to people in Monmouth county, who have lost their homes. For assistance call 732-922-0400.
Learning, Loving, and Laughing!
FUTURE GENERATIONS EARLY LEARNING CENTER Are you looking for a safe, loving, educational and nurturing environment where your child will get the attention and care that they deserve? Give Future Generation a call! Located at The Parish of Saint Mary 1 Phalanx Road, Colts Neck 732-780-0135 jessica@fgkids.org
“The kingdom of heaven is like a mustard seed..”
Bishop’s Wedding Anniversary Blessings for 2020 has been canceled due to the Covid-19 pandemic. In 2021, the Bishops Anniversary Blessing events will invite all couples who are celebrating either their 1st or 2nd anniversary, either their 25th or 26th anniversary and all who are celebrating 50 years of marriage or more.
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National Natural Family Planning Awareness Week, July 19 – 25, 2020 In celebration of 2020 National Natural Family Planning Awareness Week (July 19-25), the Diocese of Trenton encourages all married couples in their fertile years to learn more about Fertility Awareness Based Methods of Family Planning that cooperate with God’s wonderful plan for cocreation and responsible parenthood. Natural methods of family planning are consistent with the healthy, holistic lifestyle so many couples are seeking today. To learn more Natural Family Planning or to take an online class, go to www.dioceseoftrenton.org/natural-family-planning, or call 609-403-7156.
RETROUVAILLE: REDISCOVER THE LOVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE Tens of thousands of couples have healed their marriages through Retrouvaille (pronounced Retro-vy). If you know anyone who could benefit from this program, please pass this on. Couples learn to build communication skills and to increase intimacy. It provides help for marriage problems, difficulties or crises. The next program begins the weekend of August 14-16 at the Family Life Center in Malvern, PA. For more information, or to register, visit www.HelpOurMarriage.org or call 215-7663944 or 800-470-2230. All inquiries are strictly confidential.
Food For Thought:
Plant some seeds of kindness, encouragement, affirmation and hope this week. Someone you know or live with needs one of those seeds. Even if you never see them flower, you’ll have planted something good and holy. That’s how the Spirit grows the Kingdom. Rev. Msgr. Richard La Verghetta
We can be so impulsive, so quick to judge, so ready to rip out anything we think is wrong, deformed and ugly within ourselves and others. How many times are we too quick to point out a fault in a loved one? A husband points out a fault to his wife and vice versa, parents to kids and vice versa, kids to kids, friends to friends, bosses to workers. We want what’s best for our loved ones, but sometimes we don’t have the patience to let that develop. Jesus tells stories about things that take time and He says the Kingdom of Heaven is like that. Can we cultivate in our marriages and relationships and families an environment of acceptance and patience? And how about with God? God is so patient with us! How patient are we with God?