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EDITOR’S NOTE In my editor’s notes, I often admit shortcomings. But this month I am coming clean with a truly mortifying admission: I had never stepped foot inside the Houston Holocaust Museum until the photo shoot for Russell Weil’s Houston’s Holocaust Survivors story. Years ago, I recall dropping off my kids for a field trip, but didn’t go inside. I thought, I don’t want to be depressed today; I’ll go later. This is embarrassing to admit because it’s too important not to go to the museum. My first visit was powerful. I loved meeting local Holocaust survivors Ruth Steinfeld, Anna Steinberger and Bill Orlin. This month, writer Russell Weil, who’s also a docent at the museum, beautifully captures their stories. I gave Anna a ride to the museum for the photo shoot. I was white-knuckling it in bumperto-bumper traffic when it struck me that maybe giving Anna a ride hadn’t been a good idea – this brilliant woman had survived the Holocaust but possibly not my driving. Thankfully, we were fine, and Anna even invited me for lunch sometime. I can’t wait to get on that busy calendar of hers and take her to lunch. In an Uber. joni@thebuzzmagazines.com
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Your letters, thoughts, opinions The war to end all wars We have received an amazing number of contacts about the story of our trip to retrace my father’s footsteps in France as a soldier in World War I [In Dad’s World War I footsteps, by Tracy L. Barnett, November 2018]. People from all over The Buzz Magazines’ circulation area have applauded the depth of Tracy Barnett’s depiction of the horrible conditions faced by soldiers and what a deadly conflict WWI was. Many readers have told us that the story has led them to investigate family members’ service in WWI and to learn more about the “War to End all Wars” that concluded 100 years ago. Vietnam veteran Richard Pena of Austin, who was on “the last plane out of Saigon,” featured your article on his Veterans Day blog to commemorate the 100th anniversary of the war’s end. We were invited by one of your readers to attend the NSDAR annual remembrance at the Heritage Society for the Gold Star Mothers of Harris County soldiers who lost their lives in WWI. It was at that ceremony that we met Houstonian Christian Niles Seger, who displayed his great-grandfather’s watch that was used by the WWI allied commanders to synchronize the exact time WWI fighting would stop, “11:00 A M, November 11, 1918, hostilities ceased,” as recorded in my father’s diary. Thank you for including a travel experience centered around an important moment in world history and timed to commemorate the 100th anniversary of the end of WWI this Veterans Day. Kelly and Carmela Frels
Fan of Cindy’s story Wow. “When I’m 64” [When I’m 64: Comfortable in my own skin, by Cindy Gabriel, November 2018] is one of the most poignant, authentic, wise, resonant pieces of expression I've read in a long time. I wish I had written it. Thank you for publishing it. Jennifer Greenberg
November 2014] and enjoyed reading it, although I only lived in Houston for a few years in the late ’80s when I worked at the TMC. I met my husband in Houston and have many fond memories from my time visiting a boyfriend at Rice University. Have you heard anyone talk about the fancy restaurant that I think was in the Post Oak Hotel called the Savoy Room? I have wonderful memories of eating there with my family. Incredible food and service. My niece was young when she ordered the lobster for the first time. The waiter brought it to show her before they cooked it and she started to tear up and said, “I wanted to eat it, not meet it!” We ate there once a year and it became our special place to go when we visited the Galleria from Lake Charles, LA. Joel (Jo-elle) Chamberlain Editor’s note: This 2014 article by Russell Weil is still one of our most popular stories. In response to this letter, Russell said he remembers the Savoy Room: “The Savoy Room was in the in-house dining room on the top floor of the Houston Oaks Hotel – now The Westin Oaks, at the Galleria. My brother and I gave a brunch for my parents’ anniversary there one year – it was a big deal!” For more restaurant memories, see this story at thebuzzmagazines.com. Send letters to info@thebuzzmagazines.com. Please include your name, address, phone number and email address for verification purposes. Letters are subject to editing for clarity and space. Views expressed in letters do not necessarily reflect the opinions of The Buzz Magazines, and The Buzz takes no responsibility for the content and opinions expressed in them.
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Christmas décor galore I enjoyed the article about Leslie Flynne [Wild for Yuletide: Christmas décor galore at Leslie’s house, by Cathy Gordon, December 2018]. I worked with Leslie at Gibraltar Savings (later First Gibraltar Bank), and she was a class act. I knew she loved gardening, but I never knew she loved Christmas so much though. Thanks for a great story. Pat Roberts
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NEIGHBORS by Pooja Salhotra, contributing writer
George H.W. Bush Neighbors remember the president
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eorge Herbert Walker Bush – the 41st president of the United States, father of six including the 43rd president, and husband to his beloved Barbara – passed away Nov. 30 at age 94 in his Houston home. Bush had been a part of the Houston community for decades, starting in the 1960s before he launched his political career and throughout his post-retirement years. As a member of St. Martin’s Episcopal Church and a longtime resident of the Tanglewood area, Bush and his family touched the lives of many Buzz-area residents, two of whom shared some fond memories with us.
When Linda Linder worked at Sears in 1966 alongside a 20-year-old George W. Bush, she had no idea her coworker and his father, George H.W. Bush, would become United States presidents. “The head of employment kept saying, ‘You need to get to know that George W. Bush – he’s going to go places,’” Linda said. Fast forward 20 years, and Linda was sitting in the pews at St. Martin’s Episcopal Church, the same church her co-worker’s father, George H.W. Bush, attended. She saw him step up to the pulpit to deliver the sermon. By this time, he was vice president. Despite his prominence, Linda recalls the elder Bush as humble. “He was the vice president, but he was up there like any other parishioner,” Linda said. “He was not impressed with himself at all.” In January 1993, days after Bush attended the inauguration of his challenger Bill Clinton, he was again at church. This time, he was in the activities center greeting churchgoers at his own welcome reception. “I remember vividly he shook my son’s hand,” Linda says. “To think last week he was the leader of the free world, and today he’s at church and drinking coffee like any other person.” Linda, a retired teacher who lives in Memorial, came to admire Bush as a fatherly figure. She saw him attend church Sunday after Sunday, shadowed by a Secret Service agent but without any fanfare, even as he struggled with Parkinson’s disease. And she heard stories from her daughter Stephanie, who worked for him as the senior director of development for the George H.W. Bush Presidential Library Foundation. She says he used to announce to
the office that he was taking everyone out for TexMex at Molinas or pizza at Fuzzy’s. When Linda was a secondgrade teacher at Second Baptist School, her stu- FISHING WITH THE PRESIDENT John (at right) and Nancy Lisenby (center) had an unforgettable stay with George H.W. Bush’s family in Kennebunkport, Maine, where dents would deliv- they spent a Sunday morning on the president’s boat, Fidelity, fishing in the pouring rain. er a presentation of directors from the George H.W. Bush on a president or first lady. Those who selected Presidential Library Foundation at his farm in George H.W. Bush would write a letter to the Independence, Texas. After playing horseshoes, former president, who, without fail, would take the group shot a round of skeet. Bush didn’t perthe time to write back. “The student would form very well – John later discovered that the receive this note from the president,” says president recently had undergone surgery and Linda, “and it was like the biggest treasure in still had stitches in his shoulder. But this didn’t the world.” stop Bush from shooting another round. For John Lisenby, a Houston home builder “I explained to him that we had different and land developer whose wife Nancy has skeet games we would play,” John said. “I told worked in Bush 41’s office for over 20 years, it’s him this one was a little juvenile, but we liked Bush’s adventurous spirit and generosity that doing it.” stand out the most. Whether it was trying a new Instead of traditional skeet shooting, where a variation of skeet shooting, fishing in the rain, fixed number of targets are ejected from two eleor rallying friends and staff to watch the Astros vated “houses,” targets would be ejected unanplay at Minute Maid Park, he said, Bush spread nounced and as quickly as possible. The shootjoy and laughter. ers’ goal, John told Bush, was to not let any skeet John and Nancy once stayed with the Bushes hit the ground. in their summer home in Kennebunkport, Maine, “His eyes just lit up,” John said. and John remembers waking up there on Sunday “And I said, would you like to do that, sir?” morning. He and Nancy were getting dressed for “And he said, yes, I would.” church when they heard a knock. “Dad wants to Bush did not let any skeet hit the ground. know if y’all wouldn’t mind skipping church to John said the reality that George H.W. Bush go fishing,” called out Bush’s daughter, Dorothy was the former president of the United States “Doro.” Bush had apparently received a call from “never leaves your mind.” But, like Linda, John a friend who was successfully catching fish. admired Bush as a fatherly figure who treated his The Lisenbys were up for the adventure. Even extended network of staff, friends, family, neighrain couldn’t stop this crew – when they stepped bors and even strangers with kindness. outside and realized the weather, the Lisenbys He will be missed. followed Bush back home to grab rain gear. Soon, they were speeding on the Atlantic Ocean, Bush at the helm, while security-detail For more, search thebuzzmagazines.com for A agents struggled to keep up in a zodiac boat. Full Sock Salute by Cathy Gordon and Houston “Bush did not fish at all,” John says. “He just Honors President George H.W. Bush and had so much fun watching everybody else have Houstonians Celebrate the Life and Legacy of fun in the pouring-down rain.” George H.W. Bush by Pooja Salhotra. One year, John and Nancy hosted the board
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NEIGHBORS by Cindy Gabriel, staff writer
Trapped In disorganization
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f all the seconds, minutes and hours I have spent looking for my glasses, keys, phone, credit card, purse and anything else that doesn’t come attached were combined, enough time would have accumulated for me to actually accomplish something, like start a small business, write a novel or, dare I say, organize my house? Any reluctance to marry again is not that I don’t want to live with someone else. It may not be fair to ask someone else to live with me. I can never get out of the driveway in one motion. There’s always the “go back” thing for my sunglasses, the dog leash or the birthday card I just signed. My whole life I have not known where to put anything. A Birkman personality test confirmed it. I officially have no inner structure. It’s a family thing. My mother was not exactly Martha Stewart, but I am worse. My little brother is even worse, but he’s male, so less is expected. I sought counseling. OK, I brought it up to my hairstylist, Brittany. Brittany has an artful way of relating her personality quirks, which frees me to make my own confessions. Here’s the latest. I get home from work to Annie, the anxious Yorkie/Poodle overwrought with the delight of my presence. Knowing her walk is coming, she follows my every step. I root around for the house key, venture into a pile of shoes for my walking shoes. One is on the floor. Where is the other? I never have to look for Annie, who follows me like a human/dog synchronized act. If only my stuff followed me like that. The leash? Oh yeah, it’s in the car from a weekend walk, along with the doggie bags. Annie finds the other shoe and drops it at the front door out of self-interest. Finally. Ready now. Oh, my phone? Where is that? Ah, I’ll just leave it wherever I put it. Here’s something you need to know: My front door automatically locks when it shuts. Here’s something else you need to know. There is a locked gate between my front door and the outside world, with a small alcove in the middle. So, I open the door. Annie runs out and up to the gate.
UH OH Cindy Gabriel serves time for disorganization.
Cue the wind gust. The door slams shut with the key still in the door on the other side. Annie and I are locked outside, between the door and the gate. Why didn’t I bring my cell phone? This story has three varied endings, which “work out.” That’s because it’s happened three times. One upside to my condition is my wellhoned ability to get myself out of jams. Here’s a synopsis of the protocol. Step 1: Scream. (People do walk by my house.) Step 2: Some stranger walking his/her dog arrives with a cell phone. Step 3: Since I don’t know anyone’s phone number, I call a restaurant my son-in-law owns and get them to call him. Before I thought of that, I called the locksmith. But he was kind enough to let me off the hook once I reached my son-in-law. In between: Zen pose. Pray. Pet confused dog. Thankfully, the weather has always been mild. I didn’t have to go to the bathroom. Let’s just say Annie and I have done quite a bit of self-imposed jail time between my front door and gate. Brittany listens and clips in syncopation. My hair is looking better and better as I relate this story. Brittany expresses her own habit of dropping things to the floor in the creative process, but without seeming nearly as unhappy with herself. Brittany says she knows she will never change. She just accepts it. What? I have spent the last six decades planning to change. When I get married, when I have kids, when I quit work, when I go back to work, when the kids are older, when the kids move out. I have spent decades in a perpetual mindset of procrastination.
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One day later, I brought this up to my “worse” brother, Buddy, the least likely person to have the answer. But the following six words came from his mouth. “Matt’s wife is a professional organizer.” Matt? Your best friend from high school? That kid actually grew up and got married? Then, I felt the following words come from my mouth. “Give her my phone number.” Within two days I had a perky text that felt like a jury summons. “Hi Cindy, are you ready to begin organizing your spaces? Would you like me come to your house Saturday?” It sounded so immediate. Without feeling it at all, I said, “Let’s get started.” Michelle Smithpeter forced me to notice that I had three pieces of furniture in my closet, along with files, memorabilia, picture frames and AC filters. “Your closet is where you dress. Only what you wear should be in it.” We set some things on the street with the words “free” taped to them. They vanished. There was suddenly more room in my closet and in my brain. I think I worked with Michelle one full Saturday. The rest of a two-month period, Michelle worked around my schedule and texted me pictures and asked me to make decisions. Michelle was on a roll. She lost 3 pounds the first week. I knew my life was different toward the end when our helper Ronaldo needed slightly shorter screws for the paper towel holder. I remembered that there was now a bin in my garage labeled SCREWS. I went to the bin, pulled it out, and there were two slightly smaller screws that were just perfect. A wonderful, relaxed feeling of relief entered my soul. I have not changed, but my life has, with the help of other people. What a relief.
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NEIGHBORS by Tracy L. Barnett, staff writer
Going Green Eco resolutions for 2019
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hen Joanna Smith was expecting her first child three years ago, she wanted everything to be perfect. “I wanted to have a pristine, lovely nursery; everything had to be just so. I bought all these things for my daughter; I had a baby shower with a registry, the whole hoopla,” she said. “Suddenly I looked at it all and felt sick.” Joanna grew up in California, where she internalized an environmental ethic, and spent years in London, where she saw those ethics reinforced. She understood the impacts of Americans’ high consumerism patterns. Still, there are times she forgets – and going green is a process. So she’s decided to dial back the consumption in 2019, teaching her children to be mindful in the process. According to the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change, we have 12 years to turn things around so our children and grandchildren can continue to enjoy a planet with a relatively stable climate. So it’s not too much to assume that 2019 will be a definitive year for the environment. That’s why Going Green created the Eco Resolution Challenge. We reached out to Buzz readers to share their environmentally sustainable resolutions for 2019. Joanna and many others responded, and we share their commitments below. Shop at thrift stores. Especially for kids, who grow so fast they barely have time to use their new garments before it’s time to put them in the Goodwill bin. Joanna is pledging to do this for her new baby. She hopes it will send her kids an important message. “I don’t want them to have this expectation of new, new, new, every time they need something.” Begin to compost. Now that Joanna’s family is moving into a place with a garden, she is planning to renew a composting practice she began when she lived in London. (See this story at thebuzzmagazines.com for a composting primer.) Planting with a purpose. Elizabeth Cosgrove is going to upgrade her yard with an ecological mindset. She learned from a Houston Audubon presentation about what types of plants attract native Texas species, from bees to butterflies to birds. “I realized that we need the right trees/shrubs etc. in order to attract and feed a
IN THE BAG Joanna Smith uses shopping to teach daughter Aurelia Cowan about sustainability, buying organic when possible and using reusable mesh bags for produce, as well as reusable shopping bags in general.
variety of bird species,” she said. “I don't think most people know how vital our area of the country is to the North American bird population, given our migratory location.” Keep it simple. Tamara Sell just went through a significant downsizing (from more than 3,000 square feet to 1,200), and her family’s goal for 2019 is to keep it simple, save more and spend on experiences rather than things. In renovating their new place they invested in new windows, additional insulation, LED lighting and energy-efficient appliances, so their energy usage has already dropped substantially. Share what you’ve learned. Sandy Spears is going to keep updating her eco-friendly blog, Houston 350, which includes a column she wrote to highlight things we can all do to reduce climate change. "You can impact climate change through individual actions, engagement with environmental non-profits, purchasing choices and through policy,” she said. Her resolution is to call Texas legislators and discuss the importance of voting for clean air, plastic-bag bans and direct sales of electric cars to consumers. Go plogging (picking up litter while jogging). Kirby Chenkin plans to continue doing so on his own in parks and neighborhoods, and he will organize events through his KirBeBetter movement. Adopt a Drain. Sara Speer Selber has made
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the connection between trash-clogged drains and increased flooding. She’s already adopted three drains in in her neighborhood under the city’s Adopt-A-Drain program, and she monitors them as she practices plalking (picking up litter while walking). This year she plants to adopt a fourth drain and inspire others to join her. Take the Game-Changer Intensive. This online course by the Pachamama Alliance inspires and equips you to become a gamechanging leader. Steve Stelzer of the Houston Green Building Resource Center will be re-taking this course. “I have found that re-inspiration is a good thing.” To re-inspire yourself, you might want to do what I’m doing and read some selections from Steve’s reading list (see this story online). Compensate for the carbon you’re burning with your air travel. My personal challenge is to find the best ways to do this. Offsets are a complicated issue, and sometimes can do more harm than good. I’ll let you know what I find out – and welcome your suggestions. Now, it’s your turn.
MORE ONLINE See this story at thebuzzmagazines.com for links and to add your own resolutions – or email them to info@thebuzzmagazines.com. Individually we can do a lot – but together, we can do so much more.
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by Annie Blaylock McQueen, staff writer
Must Love Dogs Neighbors who foster pups
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here’s a story called The Boy and the Starfish. It’s about a boy who is walking along a beach, saving stranded starfish. One by one, he picks them up and tosses them into the ocean after a storm has washed them ashore. A man approaches him with a puzzled look. With thousands of starfish around, he tells the boy that it’s impossible to make a difference. In turn, the boy picks one up, tosses it back into the water and replies, “I made a difference to that one.” There are Buzz residents who open up their homes to foster homeless dogs, and just like the boy and the starfish, they are saving lives, one dog at a time, from living on the streets and euthanasia in overcrowded shelters. Self-proclaimed “dog lady” Patty Bowen, her husband Sam and their 2-year-old son, Sam, take in foster dogs through Mile High Labrador Retriever Mission. The rescue is located in Colorado, but saves labs from high-kill shelters across the country. They have a network of volunteers, including the Bowens, to offer temporary foster homes for Labs that are pulled from shelters and later sent to Colorado to find forever homes. Patty grew up in a dog-loving family, but it wasn’t until a few years ago that she decided to foster. The Bowens have two dogs, mixed-breed Kailynn and black Labrador Nacho. They take precaution with introductions. “Once pecking order is established, everyone can roam the house without worry,” said Patty. If you follow Patty on social media, chances are you’ll see a daily picture of her foster dogs – hanging out in their backyard that’s been transformed into an oasis for dogs, with water toys and artificial grass. There are challenging moments, like when she found a tri-color, mixed-breed stray aimlessly wandering her neighborhood. The dog had nowhere to go, and the groups were full – and she was preparing to leave town. The options were grim for “Ojitos” if she were to take him a shelter. So, she networked and found a temporary foster home. The feeling is all worth it for her. “[I love] getting the extra love and cuddles from a dog who realizes they have been saved,” she said. Mother-daughter duo Natalie and Emily Baker
SAVING PUPS Top photo: Bellaire High School senior Emily Baker and her mom Natalie Baker foster dogs for K-9 Angels Rescue. Bottom: Patty Bowen takes precautions when introducing her foster dogs – including Phoenix (middle) – to her own pets, Kailynn, a mix, and Nacho, a Labrador retriever.
have fostered more than 30 dogs through K-9 Angels Rescue. They set up a “dog room” in their home with a tarp to cover the floor, puppy play pen and crates. Emily, a senior at Bellaire High School, dedicates her summers to fostering and training, and plans to foster next year in college. “We recently had a dog that was shaking for two days,” said Natalie. Emily found anti-anxiety music on YouTube for dogs and played it each night after crating him for the night. “After a couple of days, the dog decompressed and knew he was safe.” He was adopted the next
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weekend at a K-9 adoption event. Natalie encourages anyone interested in fostering to take the plunge – it saves a life and it doesn’t require months or even weeks of commitment. “Sometimes just a few short days,” said Natalie. A warm, safe home is generally all that’s required. “There are many shelters and rescues that need fosters,” she said. “Most [groups] will supply a crate, food and everything you need.” She hears a lot of people say that if they foster, they fear they will become too attached. “I encourage you to realize (continued on page 18)
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DOG HOUSES At left: Rosie Murphy, here playing with April at home, has fostered dozens of homeless dogs. At right: The Bowen family, which includes 2-year-old Sam, fosters Labrador retrievers for Mile High Lab Rescue. The dogs stay in their home from one night to a few weeks before they move on to their new homes.
that in fostering, you will find happiness in saving a life.” Buzz resident Rosie Murphy and her mom, Pat Castillo, are another mother-daughter duo into fostering. Rosie has fostered more than 30 dogs over the years, and has three “foster failures” herself (when she adopted her foster dogs). Her 10-year-old son, Murphy Jones, is a big
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helper with the dogs, too. Rosie has fostered for the Great Pyrenees Rescue Society, CAMO Animal Rescue, A Chance to Bloom, Lola's Lucky Day, K-9 Angels Rescue and the Puggle Rescue Group. She’s a big advocate of spaying and neutering and of “adopt – don’t shop” when looking to add a dog to the family. “Everyone can get a [pure-
bred] dog if they want one; most dog breeds have a rescue,” she said. Much like the starfish on the beach, when the foster dog moves on, there will always be another in need – looking to find its way after a storm. A foster home is a stop along their way – but without it, their journey would most likely end before it could ever begin.
Where to foster now Are you interested in opening up your home to foster, short or long term, or volunteering to help a homeless pet? Here is a sampling of local animal-welfare groups with an immediate need for fosters and volunteers. K-9 Angels Rescue k-9angelsrescue.org • foster@k-9angelsrescue.org K-9 Angels Rescue rescues and rehomes shelter dogs throughout the Houston area. The group takes in dogs of all ages and all breeds, and under all circumstances. Take a look at their adoptable dogs on their website, too. Mile High Lab Rescue milehighlabmission.com • 720-989-1522 Love Labs? The Mile High Labrador Retriever Mission is a nonprofit that helps homeless and lost Labrador retrievers and Lab mixes. The dogs the group takes in are mostly from high-kill, overpopulated pet areas across the country. Pup Squad Animal Rescue pupsquad.org Want to get your puppy fix? Pup Squad rescues orphaned puppies and nursing litters from the streets, shelters and other life-threatening
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situations and matches them with permanent adoptive homes. The group also promotes spaying/neutering and humane animal care. Red Collar Rescue redcollar.org • info@redcollar.org Red Collar Rescue is all-volunteer organization providing abused and abandoned animals with medical care, foster care, training and adoption. Take a look at their adoptable dogs and follow them on Facebook to read about their meet-and-greet events. Barrio Dogs barriodogs.org • info@barriodogs.org Barrio Dogs is a nonprofit that has been working in Houston’s Greater East End since 2010, raising awareness about animal care and the importance of spaying and neutering. They teach residents that animal birth control and humane care will create safer, higher property-value communities. Houston PetSet Rescue houstonpetset.org • info@houstonpetset.org • 713-960-6622 Houston PetSet is an umbrella group that provides grants to animal welfare-related nonprofits in Greater Houston. Find out many ways to get involved by visiting their website and following them on social media.
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FOOD by Andria Frankfort, staff writer
Soup Days Warming up the chill
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he tiniest tinge of cool in the air has those of us who like to cook looking up last year’s favorite pumpkin bread and pulling out recipes for gratins and braises. Mostly, we start thinking soup. Because there’s nothing better on a Sunday night with a fire going, even if you have to crank up the AC. While chili recipes are always subject to debate in Texas (beans? no beans?), Amy Krasner thinks she’s found the perfect mix. On a recent Saturday night, she hosted an easy, lastminute chili party – last-minute meaning she didn’t even go to the store for ingredients until late in the afternoon. "My family’s always made chili, and I’ve been making it since law school,” says Amy, a legal recruiter. “It’s always fun to have chili on and watch football and relax. I love having people over and grazing, and chili is an easy thing to eat around. You can add tortilla chips, Fritos, onions, queso, rice, guac – any or all. You can do a million things with chili, and it’s nice for people to be able to enjoy their own version of dinner."
entirely or stir it in to taste. (Amy finds it overpowering.) For a deeper “kick,” add jalapeños or serranos to taste. Add the onion. Cover the skillet or saucepan and simmer 30 minutes (longer for a spicier flavor) or until the meat is tender. Add HOSTING Amy Krasner likes to invite friends over to watch football and enjoy a the remainder of the bowl of chili. beer or water and con1 pound raw chicken breast, diced into small tinue to cook the chili until some of the liquid cubes burns off. If the chili seems soupy or if you like a 1 teaspoon each: ground cumin, chili powder, thicker chili, stir the masa flour into ¼ cup warm lemon pepper, salt water and pour it into the chili. Or, in place of 3 teaspoons hot sauce (Julie uses Frank’s masa, Amy likes to crumble tortilla chips and RedHot) cook them into the chili to thicken it. Simmer ½ cup flour another 15 to 20 minutes. Add a pinch of sugar 1 14-ounce can petite diced tomatoes to enhance the flavor ("a trick I learned from 4 10½-ounce cans chicken broth my Nanny, who was the best cook I have ever Garnishes: tortilla chips, shredded cheddar known," Amy says.) The chili is best after simcheese, diced avocado, sour cream mering or sitting for several hours.
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"It seems like cheating to start with a 'chili kit',” Amy says, “but it makes a great baseline chili." 2 pounds coarse ground or diced meat (such as chuck, round or turkey) 1 teaspoon minced garlic 1 8-ounce or 10-ounce can tomato sauce or RoTel Diced Tomatoes and Chopped Green Chiles, drained, or El Fenix salsa 12-16 ounces water – or 1 bottle of beer (Amy uses Dos Equis XX Lager Especial) and salsa (Amy uses El Fenix) instead of water 1 package Wick Fowler's 2-Alarm Chili kit Optional: jalapeños or serranos, diced 1 sweet or white onion, chopped Pinch of sugar
ulie Price’s teenage daughters know soup is coming “when the first real cold snap rolls through,” she says. “I think a hearty bowl of soup is the perfect meal for a chilly winter night. It warms you up on the inside; it’s easy to prep and can be made earlier in the day and warmed up at dinner. It also makes the house smell yummy and makes good leftovers.” The Prices unanimously say that their favorite is Julie’s tortilla soup, with chicken with dumplings, chili and her vegetable soup with beef and barley following close behind.
Julie Price’s Family Favorite Tortilla Soup
Sear the meat in a large skillet or saucepan with the garlic. Drain off fat. Add tomato sauce, drained RoTel or half a jar of salsa. Add the water or a half-bottle of beer. Stir in all of the Wick Fowler’s package ingredients except the red pepper and masa. Depending on the level of spiciness you desire, leave out the red pepper
From the old Rotisserie for Beef & Bird restaurant. ½ stick butter ¼ cup vegetable oil 1 large yellow onion, chopped 1 fresh jalapeño, seeded and chopped 4 garlic cloves, minced 2 large carrots, diced 2 stalks celery, diced
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Heat butter and oil in a large soup pot and sauté chopped onions, jalapeño, garlic, carrots, celery and chicken. Simmer 5 minutes. Add cumin, chili powder, lemon pepper, salt, hot sauce and flour. Stir for a few minutes until the flour is mixed in. Add tomatoes and chicken broth and simmer for 1 hour. Top with crushed tortilla chips, cheddar cheese, avocado and sour cream.
Julie Price’s Vegetable Soup with Beef and Barley 1 pound ground beef, browned and drained 3 10¾-ounce cans beef broth 3 10¾-ounce cans of water 1 large (32-ounce) can tomato juice (Julie likes V-8, Clamato or Snap-E Tom) 1 10-ounce box frozen mixed vegetables 1 10-ounce box frozen cut okra 1 16-ounce can stewed tomatoes with liquid 3 stalks celery, diced 4 carrots, diced 1 green bell pepper, diced 1 large yellow onion, diced
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SOUPS ON At left: Chili is the perfect easy dinner for a crowd. At right: Myrna Engler has been making Caldo de Pollo, Mexican Chicken Soup, since her mom taught her the recipe years ago.
4-5 medium red new potatoes, cubed 1 box button mushrooms, sliced ½ to ¾ cups barley 1 Tablespoon salt 1½ teaspoons pepper 1½ teaspoons garlic salt 1 bay leaf ¼ teaspoon red pepper flakes ¼ teaspoon parsley 1 teaspoon lemon pepper 1 beef bullion cube Combine all of the ingredients in a large stock pot and simmer slowly for 3 hours, stirring occasionally. This will make a lot of soup, and it freezes well. Serve with cornbread.
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yrna Engler, a clinical social worker, has been making Caldo de Pollo – or Mexican Chicken Soup – for as long as she can remember, thanks to her mother, who is from Monterrey. “Everyone has their own take on this traditional Mexican soup,” Myrna says. “My brother adds kale and ginger, some people like to add cumin, we might use only carrots if that’s all I have.” The recipe starts with making your own chicken stock. “My mom swears, and it’s true, the bone marrow is what gives it wonderful flavor. You have to have drumsticks and chicken breasts.”
Myrna’s Engler’s Mexican Caldo de Pollo (Mexican Chicken Soup) 6 skinless drumsticks 2 skinless, bone-in chicken breasts 1 red onion, quartered
4 stalks celery, chopped 4 large garlic cloves, peeled 1 bunch cilantro, chopped 1 bay leaf Salt and pepper to taste 1 tomato, diced 1 large yellow squash, diced 1 large zucchini, sliced in ¼-inch rounds 4 large carrots, cut in ¼-inch rounds ¼ head cabbage, sliced thin 6 baby russet potatoes, quartered 4 cobs of corn, each cut in fourths Garnishes: lime, chopped onions, chopped cilantro, sliced avocado, tortilla strips or corn tortillas For the stock: Place chicken in a Dutch oven or large pot. Add onion, celery, garlic, cilantro, salt and pepper, and add enough water to cover. Boil over high heat, then simmer over medium heat for 30 minutes. The stock is done when the meat falls off the drumsticks. Remove chicken from the pot and set aside. Strain the stock into a large bowl or another large pot, saving the solids, and returning them and the stock to the pot. When the chicken has cooled, remove the meat from the drumsticks and shred or dice the chicken breasts. Place the cooked chicken and the fresh vegetables back in the pot with the stock, and add chicken stock or water if needed to cover. Let the soup cook for 15-20 minutes, being careful not to overcook the vegetables. Serve with sides of lime wedges, chopped onions, chopped cilantro, sliced avocado and tortilla strips or corn tortillas.
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enise Smith, an executive search consultant, recently began making a healthy soup that she says is delicious. From the website That Low Carb Life, the recipe uses zucchini that have been spiralized (see the January 2018 story Veggie Noodles: Healthy Options for the New Year at thebuzzmagazines.com) – a perfect healthy “reset” soup for January.
Chicken Zoodle Soup 2 Tablespoons olive oil ½ sweet onion, diced 3 stalks celery, diced 1 red bell pepper, diced 1 clove garlic, minced 6 cups chicken stock 2 cups shredded, cooked chicken ½ teaspoon dried oregano ½ teaspoon dried basil 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon pepper 4 large zucchini Heat the olive oil over medium heat in a large Dutch oven or stock pot. Add the onion, celery, bell pepper and garlic to the pot and cook, stirring often, until the vegetables have softened, about 5 minutes. Add the chicken stock and chicken to the pot along with the oregano, basil, salt and pepper. Spiralize the zucchini to make “zoodles” and add them to the pot (you can also buy pre-spiralized zoodles). Bring to a boil, then reduce to a simmer, simmering and stirring occasionally for 10 minutes or until the zoodles are al dente. Taste for seasoning, and add more salt and pepper if needed.
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NEIGHBORS by Cheryl Ursin, staff writer
Never Too Late You can go to college again
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ome people go to college later in life because they didn’t have the opportunity before. Others go back to finish. Some go for a degree to help them in their careers, others to change careers entirely. Some go for fun. Georgia Polley was always embarrassed she had dropped out of college in her sophomore year. “I was a terrible student, even in high school, and I had no idea what I wanted to do,” she remembers. “I just wasn’t ready to be off at school.” After living on her own, working as a waitress, she decided, in her mid-20s, to go back. This time, though she was working as well as going to school, she graduated magna cum laude with a bachelors in business administration (BBA) in accounting from the University of Houston. “This time, I knew what I had to do and I had rules for myself,” she said. One was to always go to class, which was not a rule she had followed at 18. Indeed, this go-round, she almost cancelled her first date with her future husband when it looked like it would conflict with her finite math class. Deborah Stedman had been the first in her family to go to college. “I was practical. I got through school as quickly as I could and majored in business,” she says. She went on to get an MBA at night while working. At 30, though, she decided to do what she had always wanted: become a doctor. She spent the next four years getting up at 4 a.m. to study before work, taking the prerequisites she’d need to apply to medical school: biology, chemistry, biochemistry, physics and organic chemistry. She took the 7½-hour Medical College Admission Test (MCAT). And that was all just to apply. At age 34, she quit her job, moved to San Antonio and started medical school at The University of Texas, San Antonio, living on loans to do it. After that, came a year of internship, a five-year residency and a yearlong fellowship. “Fifteen years later, here I am,” she says with a laugh. She became a radiologist at age 44. Tina Reynolds had gotten her bachelors in 1992 and a master’s right after, in 1995. Fast-forward to 2010, when she was living with her husband Andrew in New Orleans, working as a
development officer for Tulane University. Andrew’s company posted him to Rio de Janeiro. At the same time, Tulane began offering some online classes for its masters program in public health, an area Tina had been interested in since she had worked for the World Health Organization in the late ’90s while living in China. “It just all came together. Tulane introduced the online classes, we had the financial means, and I could stay in New Orleans,” she says. While she took half her classes online while living in Brazil, she also took classes in New Orleans for eight months. Technology had changed the classroom experience, she found. PROUD GRADUATE Georgia Polley loved going back to get her degree. Plus, with her BBA in accounting, magna cum laude, her first entry-level accounting job “First day of class, I nearly doubled her salary. pulled out my pen and office hours with questions.” notepad – and everyone else pulled out their When it comes to struggling with difficult computers,” she remembers. Tina had no probclass material, Tina, like many people who go lem taking online classes, though. “Online lecback to school later in life, find their maturity tures have a rewind button, which I loved,” she helps a lot. “I was there by choice, I knew exactsays, though she admits, even for the online lecly what I wanted, and I was completely focused,” tures, she still took notes by hand. she says. There were some minor bumps in the road. Kelli Sullivan, a self-described “soccer mom,” “Whoo, the GRE,” Tina remembers, “that was decided to apply to the four-year master of libhorrible.” The Graduate Record Examination is eral studies (MLS) program at Rice University the standardized test many graduate schools when her daughter started high school at St. require for admission. It includes math. “I hadn’t Agnes. The Rice program is part-time; students done any math for decades,” says Tina. take one class a term, one evening a week, it is And there was more math to come. She had designed for older students with jobs and responto take a course on bio-statistics. “That professor sibilities, and those stu- (continued on page 24) came to know me,” she says. “I was always at his
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dents are there for the joy of it. None of this, however, means the program is easy. The application process alone requires three research papers, three to five pages each. (The GRE, however, is not required.) “Going through the application process, some people self-select out,” admits Rebecca Sharp Sanchez, administrative director for the program. “There’s a lot of reading,” says Kelli. In addition, the classes, in the humanities, the social sciences and the natural sciences, require papers, presentations and sometimes exams. The program then culminates in a “capstone” research project, usually a 40- to 60-page piece of writing and a presentation. Kelli loved it. So, if you do decide to go back, what’s involved? It depends on what you go back for. These are plenty of options in Houston. Some people, of course, take classes here and there, as they are interested in them, without a plan to use them for credit toward a degree, by, for example, taking a class at Houston Community College (although those can be used for credit), at Rice University’s Glasscock School of Continuing Studies or through programs such as Houston’s Inprint Writers Workshops. Georgia did not need to be embarrassed to be going back to finish her bachelors. Plenty of people end up doing that, or not. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, overall, about 40 percent of all first-time, full-time undergraduates have not graduated six years later. Indeed, the stereotypical financially dependent 18- to 21-year-old undergrad living in a dorm is decidedly not typical. According to a recent National Public Radio (NPR) report, almost 74 percent of all undergrads are “nontraditional,” with one in every five being 30 years old or older. According to Mardell Maxwell, executive director of admissions at the University of Houston, about 15 percent of all that university’s new undergrads last year were “nontraditional age.” Plenty of people go back for graduate degrees, sometimes to programs designed particularly for older students with responsibilities. Rice University’s Jones Graduate School of Business, for example, offers a number of different masters of business administration (MBA) programs. In addition to the full-time option, which tends to attract younger students, it offers programs held on the weekends and in the evenings, and those students tend to be in their 30s. It even offers an online MBA, which is particularly popular with active-duty military stationed all over the world and people working in unusual locations, such as on oil rigs in the gulf. Masters of liberal studies programs have become more common over the years, with about 80 of them currently offered around the country, two of them in Houston: the program at Rice, which was founded in 2005, and another at the University of St. Thomas. While some of the Rice MLS students are younger, students tend to be in their late 40s and early 50s, accord-
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MASTERING CHALLENGES To get her masters in public health, Tina Reynolds, shown in 2010 shaking hands with Pierre Buekens, then dean of the school of public health at Tulane University, split her time between Brazil and New Orleans for two years, learned to speak Portuguese and powered through classes in math.
ing to Rebecca Sharp Sanchez. There is also currently an 80-year-old student in the program. Don’t be afraid to be older than the other students or even the teacher, though it can lead to “some interesting dynamics,” Deborah Stedman says. “You also have some advantages and life skills, like being able to get along with people,” she points out, adding she never felt discriminated against in medical school and residency for being older. “It’s the people who look younger whom the patients question,” she says. “Personally, I think having the worldview of a 54 year old in a class of 18 year olds enriches the experience for all,” says University of Houston’s Maxwell. “If you’re concerned about how you’ll do in class, maybe start slowly, taking one or two classes that are just interesting to you,” advises Georgia. “Things will eventually snowball.”
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Taking classes at the local community college can also be a way “to repair an academic record,” Maxwell says; it gives the next schools you apply to fresh performance information to see. It is also a good way to brush up on subjects you haven’t thought about for a while and possibly get some requirements out of the way before you go all-in. But, say these students who have gone back, you should do it. Tina found getting her masters in public health to be “tremendously fulfilling.” She even learned Portuguese in order to do her practicum in Brazil. “It was very exciting. I was living my dream,” she says. Deborah, though she gave up a decade of income to train as a doctor, has no regrets. “I tell my residents that that worst day in radiology and medicine is better than the best day at a job I wasn’t excited about,” she says. “Follow your heart.”
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NEIGHBORS by Russell Weil, staff writer
Houston’s Holocaust Survivors And the museum that shares their stories and Nazi collaborators. Six million of those victims were Jewish. Those who survived and lived through the horror, including Balbine and Hulda, are Holocaust survivors. In 1996, there were hundreds of Holocaust survivors living in the Houston area. Today, while the numbers have become smaller, those still with us remain committed to sharing their personal stories so that others can learn from the past. Volunteering at the Holocaust Museum Houston has lead to the opportunity to become friends with many Houston Holocaust survivors. I first met several of them when they came to REMEMBER Top photo: Ruth Steinfeld, Bill Orlin and Anna Steinberger, here (from left) speak with our at Holocaust Museum Houston, continue to share their stories from the Holocaust. Bottom: class, showing their Writer Russell Weil's great aunts, Balbine and Hulda Schwarz, at their Houston apartment appreciation for our in 1960, with a mosaic tablet of the Ten Commandments that Balbine made to thank the WWII dead of her adopted country, America. The tablet was placed in the St. Avold service and sharing Memorial Cemetery in France. their personal to their fates and journeys after this horrific time experiences. For them, the Holocaust was a part in history. They have played a vital role in keepof their past, but they wanted us to understand ing the Holocaust personal and offering the how it could affect the present. They needed us human side to a dark time, so that this history is to understand exactly what happened between never forgotten. the years of 1933 and 1945. As visitors enter the main exhibit, Bearing Their stories are woven throughout the museWitness: A Community Remembers, they are um’s exhibits, beginning with their lives before
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gave my first tour as a docent at the Holocaust Museum Houston in 1997. Since then, I’ve given probably nearly 400 tours to thousands of people over the years. Many have asked why I do it, and others have questioned how I am able to lead tours on such a sad topic. How could I not? Although my family members include Holocaust victims and survivors, this subject was foreign to me through my high school years. It was not an acceptable topic of conversation, and it was not included in my class curriculum growing up. I was only aware that my surviving relatives disliked Germany back then, and I was taught at an early age never to buy them gifts that were marked as being made in Germany. Two great-aunts from Posen (German-controlled) who were survivors, Balbine Schwarz and Hulda Schwarz, were generous to me and my older brother. When my dad was helping me buy my first car, my aunts wanted to contribute. Their only stipulation was that if we purchased a German-made automobile, they would not ride in it. My first car was American. The United States Congress, by unanimous vote, established the United States Holocaust Memorial Council in 1980. This moment was pivotal in permitting the Holocaust to become an acceptable topic of conversation. The same year, in another unanimous decision, Congress voted to create the United States Memorial Holocaust Museum in Washington, D.C. For the 1985 groundbreaking ceremonies, Balbine and Hulda were invited to participate. Not long after, they began to carefully share their stories in detail, and their openness would forever leave an impact on my life. Listening to my aunts’ recollections, I was mesmerized as if someone were reading from an epic novel or movie script. The years passed, and their health declined. Holocaust Museum Houston opened its doors in 1996. When I saw an advertisement for docent training, I knew I had to be involved. I wanted to keep my family’s story alive and honor Balbine and Hulda. There were 11 million victims of the Holocaust murdered at the hands of the Nazis
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ANNA At left: Anna Steinberger, in front of a photo of Paula Hirschberg Dreyfuss on the girl’s first day of school in Oldenburg, Germany. At right, top: Anna Steinberger was 10 in this photo with her older brother, Jacob, in Poland in 1938. When she was 11, her family was forced to flee their home. At right, bottom: Anna Steinberger walking in Poland in 1938 with her father, mother and her uncle, who was a country doctor.
introduced to photos of local survivors’ families living in Europe prior to World War II. One of these has become my favorite over the years, and I always include the photo of a little Jewish girl in Germany smiling on her first day of school in my tours. This young child, Paula Hirschberg Dreyfuss from Oldenburg, Germany, could have been someone I might have known in grade school, eager to learn and meet new friends. Three local Holocaust survivors, Anna Steinberger, Ruth Steinfeld and Bill Orlin, continue to be actively involved in educating others about lessons learned from the Holocaust.
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r. Anna Steinberger and her late husband, Dr. Emil Steinberger, endowed the docent training program at Holocaust Museum Houston. Anna is always there with a big hug and intelligent observations. Her family fled Poland to avoid the Nazi regime in 1939, living for six years in Russia
before the war ended. In 1940, while living in Alma Ata in the Kazakh Republic, she met a young man by the name of Emil Steinberger, whose family had endured deplorable living conditions. Emil was suffering from malnutrition and was hospitalized. Once he was well enough, Emil and Anna spent time together while their parents became friends. When the war was over, both families returned to Poland. They found indescribable devastation. Anna’s family lost everything except each other. After spending time in a camp for displaced persons in Kessel, Germany, Anna and Emil came to New York in June of 1948. Starting over in America, Anna taught and conducted research in reproductive biology and served as assistant dean for faculty affairs at UT Medical School-Houston. Anna continues to speak to students and adults from all over the country who come to the museum to learn about
tolerance and remembering the past. I am lucky to call Anna a friend. There is one main message Anna hopes visitors take with them after they have toured Holocaust Museum Houston. “People must learn to live with mutual respect and understanding, regardless of our backgrounds or differences in our economic situation, the color of our skin or our philosophy,” she says. “We don’t always have to agree on everything, but we must do it in a civil fashion.” Anna strongly believes that only education can change attitudes. As the number of survivors and witnesses to the Holocaust are fewer in numbers, Anna believes that it will be up to docents and educators in the museum to carry on that legacy. One photo in the deportation area of the main exhibit speaks directly to Anna. “There is a photo of Jewish people getting on a train, and one little girl is looking (continued on page 28)
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RUTH At left: Ruth Steinfeld, with her late husband, Larry Steinfeld, who was born in Hameln, Germany in 1930. He arrived in New York with his family in 1938 to escape Nazi Germany. Larry was a longtime docent at Holocaust Museum Houston. Middle photo: Ruth (left) and her sister Lea Krell Weems, with their mother, Anna, in Ladenburg, Germany, in 1936. Their mom gave them up to save them and later was killed in the Holocaust. At right: On the wall of local survivors behind Ruth are the names of friends and family members, most no longer living. (continued from page 27) back as if to question what
is happening or what is her future. Where are they taking us?” Anna says she was 11 when the war started and was wondering the same things when the Russians were evacuating her community by cattle trains. Anna always points out this little girl on her tours. “Why is this happening to us?” she says. “Why can’t I just be home and play with my friends?” Anna remembers a tour from several years ago. Two adult men began speaking to each other in German. Anna understood enough to realize they were making negative comments about Jewish people. After the tour, she asked these men what brought them to the museum. Answering in English, they explained they were visitors to Houston involved in oil exploration, and they came to see what lies the Jews were spreading about the Holocaust. Shocked, Anna calmly replied that they just revealed their tremendous ignorance, and she gave them her advice. “Why don’t you just go to your own museums and see all the records that the Germans kept during the Holocaust? Your own libraries and your own records were recorded by German historians and Nazis who took great pride in eliminating the Jewish population.” After they realized she had understood what they were saying in German, they both apologized and even waited as Anna walked to her car, making sure she got in safely. “Education is certainly our greatest tool in teaching lessons from the Holocaust,” says Anna.
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orn in Manheim, Germany, sisters Ruth Krell Steinfeld and Lea Krell Weems were among the first survivors to talk publicly about their experiences. Ruth continues to bring gentle strength sharing her story and offering wise words, traveling the world spreading hope as a
speaker. She was a seasoned docent when we first met, as was her beloved husband, Larry, who passed away in 2015. Larry caringly took me under his wing when I was training to become a docent. As I showed up to follow one of his tours, Larry took me by the arm to have me stand beside him, rather than among the tour, so I could see the audience react. I learned so much by his small but meaningful gesture that I carry on the tradition by doing the same for docent trainees. After the Krell family was deported to the internment camp of Gurs in the French Pyrenees, Ruth’s mother, Anna, made the selfless decision to entrust Ruth, age 7, and her sister Lea, age 8, to a Jewish philanthropic organization called the Oeuvres de Secours aux Enfants (OSE). As they left the camp, Ruth and Lea never saw their parents again, as both perished in the Holocaust. The two sisters lived first in a group home and later with a foster family in a small farming community in France. Posing as Catholics, Lea and Ruth were safe only until the villagers began to suspect their true identities. Both were moved to another orphanage, where they remained until war’s end. At 13 and 14 years old, Ruth and Lea came to the United States in 1946 after her remaining grandfather Jakob Kapustin, who was living in the United States, saw their names among a list of war orphans and brought them over. Ruth Steinfeld became involved with Holocaust Museum Houston during its planning stages, with just five people sitting around a table. For each of these survivors who were not used to speaking publicly about the Holocaust, their belief was that a museum would be a great place to learn. Ruth had much to tell, yet she was not used to sharing her story, even going as
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far as not discussing the Holocaust with her children, avoiding questions about what had happened to their grandparents. However, during the first meetings when so many showed up in support of the museum, many of whom who were not Jewish, Ruth realized that others cared and wanted to learn. Through the years, this space has come to represent much more than a museum to Ruth. She has a special connection to the Memorial Room. This peaceful place is adorned with a wall of plaques to honor local Holocaust survivors who have died since the museum opened. “With all the names of the people who were survivors that passed away, it’s like a cemetery we never had,” Ruth says. The remaining walls in this room are highlighted by art installations with messages of remembrance, tears and hope. The main message that Ruth has learned herself through the years is forgiveness. During this journey, she faced her past by returning to Germany after a 1981 visit to Israel, making her way back to her childhood home. After holding everything inside, she says, she had a powerful experience of forgiving. “Ever since that happened, I have felt like a new person. I don’t have any anger.” When she knocked on the door of her childhood home, an older German-speaking woman answered the door and invited Ruth inside. As she walked in, the two women began to cry, and they instinctively hugged each other. When Ruth came to America, she says, everyone kept quiet. “If you had a problem, you were told not to talk about it. Silence is not the way to go. We have to talk. Docents are here to show the museum and to tell the stories. It’s important.” Ruth assumes that same responsibility as she continues to share her story at schools and organizations.
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BILL Top, left photo. After the Holocaust ended, Bill Orlin and his family were sent to a displaced persons camp in Germany. Here, Bill is with his brother Boris and their friend Lou Kerschberg inside the camp in 1948 shortly before Bill and his family left for Canada. Left, bottom: This 1954 photo of Bill Orlin was taken in Germany while he was serving in the U.S. military during the Korean War. At right: Bill was 7 when Nazi troops invaded. His entire village was forced into a 50-mile march, suffering abuse along the way.
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ill Orlin, originally from the east Poland village of Brok near Warsaw, was forced from his home with his entire family as the Germans took control of Poland. They were forcibly marched to Ostrow Mazowiecka approximately 50 miles northwest of Poland, suffering abusive humiliation. “We walked all day,” says Bill. Their journey took them through Bialystock, the Soviet republic of Belarus, and Uzbekistan. After the war, Bill and his family lived in a camp for displaced persons in Germany. In 1948, they left Germany for Canada, settling in the United States in 1951. Although a newcomer, he felt passionate about his new homeland, and was willing to join the military and defend his adopted country in the Korean War, becoming a part of U.S. forces occupying Germany in the 1950s. While stationed in Germany, Bill became a United States citizen. Holocaust Museum Houston reminds him of the past while teaching new generations of students about the Holocaust. “The docents are the best thing that ever happened to the museum,” says Bill. He went on to describe a tour that he
followed where the docent asked the group, “Who is a Jew?” This sparked an important conversation because, as the group members realized, you cannot always identify a Jewish person simply by an individual’s attributes. “No one ever accused me of being Jewish. Italian, yes! Some of the things you have read about Jews having big noses and large ears – that’s all German propaganda.” The docent had touched on an important lesson. At the age of 86, Bill says he is the only living male Houston Holocaust survivor currently speaking at schools and universities across Texas. His primary message is that this really did happen. “The Eisenhower films in our museum are proof of that,” says Bill. In the Liberation section of the museum’s main gallery, videos of Allied liberators led by Gen. Dwight D. Eisenhower show the carnage that was discovered as liberators entered each concentration camp. These films were ordered to be made by Eisenhower to ensure everyone was made aware that the Holocaust did happen. Holocaust Museum Houston currently is
housed in a temporary location at 9220 Kirby Drive while the main campus at 5401 Caroline Street in the Museum District is being rebuilt, with a scheduled opening in June 2019. This new, three-story, 57,000-square-foot home will offer an expansive format to tell the stories of the Holocaust, local survivors, human rights, and tolerance Survivors, including the treasured Anna, Ruth and Bill, my family members, as well as all victims of the Holocaust, are heroes. As their numbers become smaller, it is vital that their voices continue to be heard. Balbine and Hulda may be gone, but they both stand beside me with each tour I present. I point out their names on the Wall of Survivors in the museum’s permanent exhibit as a personal acknowledgment to two strong women whose influence on my life remains. Holocaust Museum Houston is here to tell their stories.
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by Sharon Albert Brier, staff writer
Rumor Has It House hop. The annual St. George Place holiday party was progressively fun as residents walked from one house to another. The first stop for New Orleans appetizers and drinks and photo opps with a ring-light photo kiosk and iPad for instant email was at Vel Ab and Thad Scott’s. Then, it was Cajun food for dinner at Korin and Sam Brody’s home before an array of desserts tempted all at Dori and Dan Marzuola’s home. Chatting and mingling were Carolyn and Tom Hughes, Maria Bertel, Andreis Caroni, Paulo Kawamato, Steven and Stephanie Ladobruk, Leah and Dale Mathews, Lindsey and Michael Munro, Lindsey Campbell, Anoop Poddar and Tanuja Abeysekera, Gary Baum and Michelle Shapiro, and Richard and Lucette Reiger. Thanksgiving in the Caribbean. As the “Crow” flies, travel agent Arlyne Crow decided warmer weather would suit her just fine in November. Her daughter, Nicole Smith, and former Houston neighbors and now-Galveston neighbors, Dr. Mike and Bonnie Mineo, were all in agreement. They did a Celebrity Summit cruise to Puerto Rico, St. Thomas, St. Kitts, Barbados and Antigua. “What time is the catamaran?” and “Where’s the snorkel?” was the main vocabulary. A tram that took them in Harrison’s Cave in Barbados was a huge dark highlight. While everyone else was eating turkey, they ate fish and lobster, with a margarita, of course. Rooms rarely traveled. The Italian adventure that Denise and Gary Roeder took led them into hidden rooms and behind the scenes via a customized tour of Venice, Florence, Rome and the Amalfi Coast through Access Italy. On Burano, known for its multicolored houses, they visited a workshop to see art of the famous Venetian masks used in Carnivals, and a woman sewed a custom lace gift for Denise to give to her daughter. They entered through secret doors in the Vatican and Sistine Chapel that are usually only accessible to cardinals and saw the Room of Tears, where the newly elected Pope prays and prepares before his first public appearance. It’s not all about gardening. In order to reach more members, Tanglewood Garden Club has expanded its range of speakers. Mattress Mack Jim McIngvale spoke in September, and in
HEY, NEIGHBOR Hosts for the progressive dinner at St. George Place were thrilled that the weather was so pretty residents were able to walk from one house to another. From left: Dan and Dori Marzuola, Vel Ab and Thad Scott, and Korin and Sam Brody.
November, weatherman Frank Billingsley told the intriguing story of finding his father, which was far more than a DNA test. The members were so fascinated they kept him way longer than expected with questions. Some of those who bought his book were Elva Akin and Lisa Riney, Jeanie Sweet, Barbara Forbes, Randi Casada, Michele Weathington, Jackie Wright and Kristi Breaux. Magical Thanksgiving in France. The good news about France in November is that there are no crowds and service is great. Jennifer and Drew Rossi and Jennifer’s parents, Amy and Brad Richards, currently Londoners, met in Bandol for a wine tasting before sharing Thanksgiving at La Cabro D’Or, located in a magical setting at the Baumanière Hotel. Rat Pack party. Of the 60 partiers, only three asked what the Rat Pack was. The theme of Alisa and Bill Johnson’s party came about to celebrate the holidays. Alisa didn’t favor Sinatra music growing up, but she loves it now. Bill dressed in a tux with a black shirt and a tie clip that “41” George H.W. Bush gave him years ago while Alisa was in a little black dress with her mom’s vintage jewelry and a ’40s hair
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do. Marina and Eric Harry, Barbara and John Upper, Vicky and Howard Dyer-Smith, and Joyce and Bob Diamond were in party mode. No smoking allowed, but plenty of cocktails were on hand. A tapas walking tour. Carol Brejot took a respite in the fall to see Portugal, the westernmost point of Europe on the Atlantic, and Spain. She filled her head with history at the National Palace of Sintra in Portugal, which survived the Middle Ages virtually intact, and Belem in Lisbon, the historic district of Lisbon. While there were plenty of formal gardens to wander about, it was the CascaisPorto: Douro Valley tour and Quinta da Pacheca winery where she really satisfied her thirst. FYI, it’s one of the first properties to bottle wine under its own label, according to a document dated April 1738. The trip ended with a tapas walking tour in Old Barcelona.
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by Annie Blaylock McQueen, staff writer
Buzz Baby
Keeping it simple LilyJunePhotography
Buzz Baby is a column about life with little ones. Writer Annie McQueen has three children age 4 and under.
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he other day, I was driving around with my kids, looking for something to do. It wasn’t a rainy day or a cold day where we felt cooped up in the house – it was just a regular day. My mind was in a lot of different places trying to come up with the best idea of a place to go to keep them busy and entertained – and grab a healthy snack since they were all hungry. Then it came to me – why don’t we just keep it simple and go home and do absolutely nothing. Definitely not a mind-blowing thought, right? But it was a big deal to me at that moment. I realized that I had gotten so into the habit of leaving the house to find things to do that the simple thought of going to our own home didn’t even occur to me. I turned the car around and felt a wave of relief come over me, not because I didn’t want to take my kids to do something, but because I was excited at the thought of doing something so simple. My kids enjoyed the day too. Often, having small children can feel nonstop – there’s always something to do, things to remember on the way out the door, endless chores, memories to make, photos to take. After all, it’s 2019 now (happy New Year, by the way); kids’ birthday parties often are more intricately planned than ever, and, with social media, there’s added pressure to snap that perfect picture at the perfect event to share with the world. (Don’t get me wrong – social media is a great and fun way to connect with people, but as a parent, it can complicate an outing. “Did I remember to take a cute photo to post?”) I spoke to other Buzz parents on ways they like to keep things simple. A few of the top ideas I heard were no social media (some have opted to take a temporary hiatus) and keep games simple, like old-fashioned tag in the backyard or hide-and-go seek or build a fort. A lot of parents said they put away their phones when it’s time to play with their kids. With kids in programs or school, schedules can fill up fast, and I heard a few parents say that
EASY PEASY To manage time, Julie Hughes, with husband Landrum, says she keeps her meals simple yet healthy for son Henry and daughter Caroline.
they don’t always say “yes” to social outings like play dates or birthday parties right off the bat. Amy Atwood, a mother of one, says she takes her family’s schedule one day at a time. She says she has a large whiteboard monthly calendar hanging in their laundry room “so that I can be more mindful of how I fill in the daily squares. Before I commit or say yes to something, I check to see what else is going on for that week.” Amy says her goal is to have a few activities spread throughout the week. She avoids “overbooking us to the point of exhaustion, which can be my tendency. I’ve found that down time at home – for all of us – is such a gift.” Another large component of parenthood is meal planning, and there are ways to keep it simple while keeping it healthy, says dietician and mom-of-two Julie Hughes. “My ‘keep-it-simple’ meal prep is using canned vegetables and soups for meal times,” says Julie, who just welcomed a baby boy. “As I
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dietitian, I can tell you most people underestimate their use. However, it’s such an easy way to get in high fiber vegetables and a quick healthy meal.” Julie shared some examples of simple but healthy meal ideas: cans of peas and carrots, mixed vegetables, lentil soup, minestrone soup and vegetable soup. “I doctor them up with a dash of salt and a little butter for flavor,” she says. She said children under 2 actually need a high fat content for brain development, so the butter helps with that. Her daughter Caroline’s favorite are the Birds Eye frozen vegetable and pasta dishes with lentils. As a new year starts, I am personally going to try and remember to keep it simple more often and minimize the “go-go-go” mentality, with less of trying to fill the day and less of trying to rush to the next activity and more of putting on pajama pants, sitting on the floor after school, and just talking about the day. Repeat to self: Less is more.
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TRAVEL
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by Tracy L. Barnett, staff writer
Travel Buzz
Lifting up Puerto Rico
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isselle Matta and her family weathered the storm during Hurricane Harvey better than many. Their garage flooded and they lost a car, but after watching so many neighbors lose their homes, they counted themselves lucky. Then, about a week later, came the news of Hurricane María. “We were like, ‘Oh, God,’” said Gisselle, a native of San Juan, Puerto Rico. With her parents, sisters and a whole web of extended family across the island, Gisselle feared the worst. Fortunately, once again, the Mattas were spared. But it was a tense few days after one of the worst storms in American history before telephone contact was re-established and she could confirm that everyone was safe. Puerto Rico, land of Ricky Martin, Jennifer López, Despacito crooner Luis Fonsi, West Side Story star Rita Moreno and baseball legend Roberto Clemente, was battered beyond anything the island had experienced in at least a century. Nearly 3,000 people lost their lives; hundreds of thousands were left homeless, without power or water for months. Damages were estimated at more than $100 billion. But Puerto Ricans have bounced back with typical creativity and resilience, and within months, the tourism industry – a mainstay of the island’s economy – was up and running. In September, a year after the storm, Discover Puerto Rico announced that 90 percent of the hotel inventory had been restored. Brad Dean, CEO of Discover Puerto Rico, announced that 4,000 restaurants, 189 attractions, 13 golf courses and 16 casinos had reopened as of the anniversary of the hurricane. The island had 14 cruise ships making ports of call there as of September, four more than last year. Airlines are making more than 100 daily flights to the island. Still, Puerto Rico has a long way to go, especially to rebuild its already fragile economy. The blue tarps that cover damaged roofs are everywhere, wrote Vann Newkirk in The Atlantic recently — as are the signs saying “Puerto Rico se levanta” (a phrase that lends itself to multiple interpretations, from “Puerto Rico will rise” to
LAST NIGHT OUT Cousin Annette joined Gisselle and her sisters on their final outing, to Paseo Caribe, and the women were starstruck with a local actress, Alba Nydia Díaz, who graciously took a picture with them. From right: Gisselle Matta, Annette Oller, Alba Nydia Díaz, Ileana López and Aileene Chovanec.
“Puerto Rico is lifting itself up”). For those who are feeling put off by the photos of mass destruction that flooded the media after the storm, or maybe even guilty about lounging in a place where some are still struggling to piece their lives back together, Travel + Leisure has a concise answer: The island needs you now, more than ever. Puerto Rico is as magical a place to visit as it’s ever been, and your vacation can provide a much-needed infusion of cash into the economy. Puerto Ricans themselves are rolling out the welcome mat in a thousand creative ways; Puerto Rican composer, playwright and actor Lin-Manuel Miranda, for his part, launched a multimillion-dollar arts fund, and is taking the title role for all 24 performances of Hamilton this month at the University of Puerto Rico Theater in San Juan, with all proceeds to benefit that arts community. There are also many opportunities to lend a hand through volunteerism programs. And as
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always, if you want to support the local economy, look for ways to buy local. “Tourism allows travelers to experience first-hand how the island was affected by the hurricanes, and gives them the opportunity to get involved to help communities rebuild,” said Fernando Lloveras San Miguel, president of Para la Naturaleza (For Nature), a nonprofit organization that manages more than 60 natural areas and organizes transformative experiences in nature. The organization also allows visitors to participate in the recovery of the island’s natural habitats through reforestation and monitoring programs. “It is amazing to see the support of travelers,” said Lloveras. “Even those who come for a relaxing vacation can still make a big difference by taking a few hours out of their day to volunteer with us at Para la Naturaleza or one of the several other organizations helping our islands recover." Gisselle didn’t know what to expect when she
A PERFECT BEACH Mar Chiquita in Manatí is one of Puerto Rico’s gems. The Mattas headed to the cove on a rainy day, but it ended up a great beach day nevertheless. Visitors need a GPS to get there and water shoes to climb on the rocks, says Gisselle. “Fantastic place, totally worth the drive.”
headed to the island to visit family in July. To her relief, the neighborhood she grew up in, in the historic capital of San Juan, had recovered. Most of the homes were of cement and had withstood the worst of it. Other parts of the islands hadn’t fared so well. For Gisselle, who grew up in San Juan, hurricanes are just part of life. She recalls her parents would stock up on supplies, board up the house and check on the neighbors before the storm would hit. Their rock-solid cement home was far enough from the coast and yet not up in the mountains, where much of the damage hit, so it withstood many storms. Afterwards it would take a while, but people would take care of each other, and life would return to normal. In July she headed to the island with her sisters to check up on her family and spend some quality time with them, and they followed their tradition and headed to the beach. This time they headed south, going to the beaches in Ponce, around Peñuelas; then they went to the North Coast, where the rough waves of the Atlantic make for some especially dramatic coastlines. There they went to Manatí and to the spectacular cove known as Mar Chiquita, a crescent-shaped beach protected from the crashing waves of the Atlantic by a limestone wall. “Overall if someone comes to visit the island as a tourist, you would still find good customer service, great places to eat, many activities to do and views to be seen,” she said. “The areas that are most dear to our tourists – the hotels, the beaches – those areas are pretty well controlled, with good safety measures, the same as before.” She did find the street lights out in some neighborhoods, and even some traffic lights – but those were in areas where tourists would probably not venture, she said. “There are all the usual grocery stores and malls; you can definitely tell there’s some infra-
structure that needs to be fixed up, it’s just a matter of time.”
Post-Maria tourism San Juan, the island’s colonial capital city, is as charming and atmospheric as it ever was, with its cobblestone streets, antique Spanish architecture and cafés, restaurants and boutiques. The nightlife that gave rise to Ricky Martin still offers visitors a taste of the Vida Loca. The local culinary scene is as rico as ever, as well, and it can be hard to choose – which is why the Old San Juan Food Tours have become so popular, giving a taste of the culture along with each bite. One way to support the Puerto Rican renaissance is by seeking out up-and-coming chefs and enjoying their offerings. A whole generation of young entrepreneurs is betting on starting restaurant businesses, hoping to contribute to the local economy and food system post-hurricane. Some are working with passion and creativity to resurrect pre-industrial local food traditions and a farm-to-table market, while others are striving to grow a fledgling sustainable agriculture movement. Another way is to support the island’s vibrant arts community, which you’ll find in galleries and performances everywhere – from grassroots street art and community theater to the finesse of Broadway. It’s an arts community that has shown extraordinary resilience in the face of economic and environmental tragedy, as Shirine Saad writes in Vulture. If the brilliance of the Mercado Caribeño Art Fair is any indication, this is one aspect of Puerto Rican culture that will not be defeated. For those who would like to go all-in and dedicate a vacation to helping Puerto Rico rebuild, the rewards – and the options – are many. Just a few of the many organizations that have sponsored volunteer opportunities include All Hands and Hearts, Habitat for Humanity, Jubilee USA,
Team Rubicon and Catholics Care. Go Overseas has put together a directory of volunteer and service opportunities in Puerto Rico. But it’s not only homes for humans that are in need of rebuilding. Puerto Rico is home to the only tropical rainforest in North America – El Yunque. Tragically, following the devastating impact of the hurricanes last fall, an estimated 480 million trees were destroyed, effectively deforesting the island and endangering many of its endemic species. The storm toppled or stripped bare nearly a third of the island’s trees. Para la Naturaleza offers a number of volunteer activities year-round, free of charge and perfect for families, solo travelers and tour groups. These programs enable travelers to experience the natural beauty of the island while also getting involved and working hands-on to aid in hurricane recovery. A couple of the activities include: Sowing of native trees (Cabezas de San Juan, Fajardo): Endemic and native trees are better adapted to the tropical climate of the islands, and are more resistant to the impact of hurricanes and droughts. Accompany PLN staff in planting native trees in carefully selected spots. Nursery maintenance (Nursery of Río Piedras, San Juan): PLN’s goal is to plant 775,000 endemic and native trees in the next five years. By participating in these projects, you help the organization take care of the new trees, while learning about the best reforestation practices. Regardless of your interests, Puerto Rico is sure to offer something that will engage you, entertain you, and quite possibly, teach you something new. As Lin-Manuel Miranda tweeted recently, “No shortage of bad news. But also no shortage of ways to do some good.”
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FOOD by Claire Petree, contributing writer
Cooking Buzz Meatless Mondays Cooking Buzz is produced in partnership with the Junior League of Houston, a women’s charitable and education organization founded in 1925.
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anuary always brings around new health kicks. This year I have friends and coworkers giving up soda, attempting a Whole30 diet, cutting out gluten, cutting out dairy and following a keto diet. Resolutions are always great, but these types of complete overhauls are not for everyone. I think being realistic is key. Meatless Monday is an easy way to refresh your diet after an indulgent holiday season, or even a foodheavy weekend. For breakfast, I enjoy avocado toast with sea salt and olive oil; add a poached egg if you have time and need something more substantive. For lunch, you can rely on vegetables and hummus or a delicious salad, or even a grilled cheese and tomato soup if you are still craving comfort food. I enjoy spending more time on dinner, particularly when I know there will be leftovers for the rest of the week. Simple bruschetta makes a great meatless appetizer; the Classic Bruschetta from Peace Meals hits all the right notes with juicy tomatoes and the crunch of rustic Italian bread. It can be changed according to your tastes. Peace Meals recommends trying it with goat cheese and peppercorns, chopped mushrooms and blue cheese, or figs and caramelized onions. If you have time over the weekend, it is fun to visit one of the farmers’ markets around town for colorful tomatoes, fresh bread and vegetables to use. Hearty bruschetta and crostini is often enough paired with a simple arugula salad and balsamic vinaigrette, but sometimes, particularly in cold weather, I love to serve it with the Creamy Artichoke and Mushroom Penne from Stop and Smell the Rosemary. This one-skillet dish is easy to make and clean up and makes plenty for leftovers at my house, perfect with chicken and an easy salad the rest of the week. [The recipe notes that artichokes should be cut and cooked with stainless steel utensils.] Meatless Monday is a simple way to reset your week, your month or your year. Just don’t forget dessert.
CRUNCH OF FLAVOR Play around with the flavors in the bruschetta and crostini from Peace Meals – consider goat cheese and peppercorns, chopped mushrooms and blue cheese, or figs and caramelized onions.
Classic Bruschetta al Pomodoro From Peace Meals 1 loaf of rustic Italian bread such as ciabatta, cut into ½- to ¾-inch thick slices 2 to 3 cloves garlic, slightly crushed Extra virgin olive oil Al Pomodoro: 2 medium tomatoes, chopped ¼ cup fresh basil chiffonade ¼ cup extra virgin olive oil 1 teaspoon Balsamic vinegar Coarse salt and freshly ground pepper Preheat oven to broil. Arrange the bread slices in a single layer on a baking sheet. Toast under the broiler until golden and crisp. Turn the slices over and toast until the second side is golden and crisp. Rub the toasted bread immediately with garlic and drizzle with olive oil. Combine the tomatoes, basil, olive oil and vinegar in a bowl. Top the bruschetta with the mixture. Season with salt and pepper.
Crostini Tapenade From Peace Meals 1 thin loaf of Italian bread or French baguette, cut into ¼- to ½-inch thick slices Tapenade: 3 cloves garlic, minced 1 cup pitted Kalamata olives 1 cup pine nuts, toasted 1½ cups fresh parsley 1 teaspoon herbes de Provence Freshly ground pepper ¼ cup olive oil ½ cup shredded Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese Truffle oil 1 bunch fresh basil chiffonade Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Arrange the bread slices in a single layer on a baking sheet. Bake until lightly golden and crisp. Turn the slices
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over and bake until the second side is lightly golden and crisp. Remove the crostini from the oven and set aside. Place the garlic, olives, pine nuts, parsley and herbes de Provence in a food processor; season with pepper. Process until smooth, adding the olive oil slowly while the blade is running. Top each crostini with the desired amount of tapenade and Parmigiano-Reggiano; broil just until the cheese is melted. Drizzle with truffle oil and top with basil. Serve warm.
Creamy Artichoke and Mushroom Penne From Stop and Smell the Rosemary 3 Tablespoons unsalted butter ¼ cup minced onion 1 clove garlic, crushed 8 ounces fresh mushrooms, sliced 1 cup artichoke hearts, chopped 1 cup heavy whipping cream 2 Tablespoons capers, rinsed and drained Salt and freshly ground pepper 12 ounces penne pasta, cooked al dente 1 ounce Parmesan cheese, freshly grated (¼ cup) 2 Tablespoons chopped fresh parsley Melt butter in a large skillet over mediumhigh heat. Add onion and garlic. Sauté until tender, but not brown. Add mushrooms. Sauté 5 minutes. Stir in artichokes, heating thoroughly, about 2 to 3 minutes. Place artichoke mixture in a bowl and set aside. Return skillet to heat and add cream. Boil until cream is reduced to one half. Add artichoke mixture and capers to cream. Stir until combined. Season with salt and pepper. Toss warm sauce with pasta. Gently stir in Parmesan and parsley. Serve immediately. Serves 6 to 8.
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DINING
by Dai Huynh, staff writer
Chef’s Corner
Maria Gonzalez and Mike Potowski Vicheka Im
Find out about your favorite chefs in our Chef’s Corner column. This month, restaurant writer Dai Huynh interviews Maria Gonzalez and Mike Potowski.
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n the late ’90s – long before “clean” and “green” became popular – veteran restaurateur Benjy Levit was an advocate of grainand-vegetable-forward options. Now these items (among others) are front-and-center at his new concept, The Classic All Day (5922 Washington Ave.), which replaced his nearly decade-old namesake near Memorial Park. Here, his executive chefs, Mike Potowski and Maria Gonzalez, discuss rebranding the modern American menu with rejiggered breakfast, lunch and dinner classics to entice current tastes. Gonzalez shares, too, how she shed more than 80 pounds after she started cooking for Levit. The National Restaurant Association reported that seven out of 10 adults are trying to eat healthier and simpler at restaurants. Not only that, but diners want items made with high-quality greens, grains and proteins. What are you guys doing at The Classic to meet diners’ shifting tastes? Maria: Diners are more educated about what they’re consuming. They are counting their calories for sure. Mike: We have a rotisserie in the back, and so we roast our chickens on that. We are not serving mashed potatoes; we’re not serving potato au gratin or mac ’n’ cheese. Instead, we’re serving a lot of vegetables. But back to the rotisserie chicken. We put a lot of effort into it. It takes us three days. First, we brine it for 24 hours with herbs and salt, and then we rub it with a spice rub and dry it out for another day before roasting. The rub has ground cumin, coriander, garlic and aonori, which is seaweed flakes, something Maria and I love. Along with new dishes, including the shrimp rigatoni pasta with uni butter and Russian-inspired pelmeni dumplings with mushrooms, hazelnuts and crème fraiche, we noticed, too, a few remnants of Benjy’s? Mike: The menu is in progression. But we want a place that people can come more than once a week. We’re listening to our customers, and so some elements of Benjy’s are coming back because of customer demand.
THE CHEFS Executive chefs Mike Potowski and Maria Gonzalez collaborate on breakfast, lunch and dinner menus for The Classic All Day, which replaced Benjy's on Washington Avenue.
Maria: Yeah, like the goat cheesecake that people have been asking for, and the brussels sprouts, things we thought we had moved on from. But we have had to evolve them into The Classic’s signatures as opposed to Benjy’s. Take the goat cheesecake, for instance. Instead of searing it on the flat top, we bake it instead, so it’s little healthier. The brussels sprouts, we roast them, and then we fry them. And instead of adding just the Gruyere cheese and the gastric, we added a little more fruit, a little more herbs, so the flavors are cleaner. What else is back? Mike: That’s it really.
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We’re glad that Benjy’s famous Mom’s Chocolate Cake is still around. It’s worth every fudgy calorie. But Maria, 10 years ago, after you started working here, you dropped 80 pounds. That’s incredible. How did you do it? Maria: When I started working here, I changed the way I cook, along with starting spin, and the weight just came off. It was all downhill from that point onward. I’m currently at 21 percent body fat, which is great! But cooking here, I started to think differently about ways to bring flavors to my food without adding fat. If I needed fat, why not try coconut fat or olive oil? If I wanted starch, why not make
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CLASSIC At left: Diners want to eat healthier, but they still want their cake, too. Benjy Levit's Mom's Chocolate Cake remains a fixture at his new concept, The Classic All Day. At right: The Classic All Day's popular rotisserie chicken is a three-day process, starting with a 24-hour brine, followed by a spicy rub of ground cumin, coriander and Japanese aonori.
cauliflower rice? I’m always looking for ways to improve a dish, making it healthier without sacrificing flavors. Otherwise what’s the point? One of the most popular dishes at The Classic is the grain bowl with a fried egg, seasonal vegetables, sweet potatoes and quinoa. Typically, you simmer this super grain in hot water for 10-15 minutes. But you don’t do that. Maria: I soak it overnight in water. I treat it like beans. But we make quinoa by the pounds. At home, just soak it for about 45 minutes, then steam it rather than boiling it in water. It comes out perfect rather than wet and mushy. We must try that. We’re all trying to eat better in the new year. Where do you guys go out for a healthy meal? Mike: I have three kids. We don’t go out. Maria: Pho Binh near Gessner (8336 Southwest Freeway). I love the pho with the tripe. Phat Ky (11792 Wilcrest Drive) is another good place. The matcha tea cake there is so deliciously good. And then there is my go-to Sweet Tomatoes. They’re all over town. But it’s basically a salad bar, and I can eat all I want.
The Classic All Day Raw Kale Salad From Maria Gonzalez, The Classic All Day Ginger Sesame Dressing: 2 Tablespoons minced garlic 3-4 stalks of green onions, roughly chopped ⅓ cup ginger, peeled and chopped 1 cup unseasoned rice vinegar ¼ cup agave nectar 2-3 Tablespoons sambal, depending on heat preference ¼ cup gluten-free soy sauce ⅔-¾ pound sesame tahini, depending on personal taste Salad: 6 cups Tuscan kale, chopped
2 Gala apples, thinly sliced ½ cup cashews, toasted and rough chopped 2 cups brussels sprouts, washed and shredded 1 red onion, sliced thin and soaked in ice water 3 Tablespoons white sesame seeds, lightly toasted 2 cups bean sprouts 2 cups savoy cabbage 4 Persian cucumbers, sliced thin Handful of Thai basil Handful of mint ½ cup chopped cilantro In a blender, combine garlic, green onions, ginger, rice vinegar, agave nectar, sambal, soy sauce and tahini. Blend until smooth. Set Ginger Sesame Dressing aside and store in refrigerator until ready to use. Dressing can be made in advance. Leftover dressing can be stored in airtight container for 5-7 days. To make salad, toss kale, apples, cashews, brussels sprouts, onions, sesame seeds, bean sprouts, cabbage, cucumber, basil, mint and cilantro with Ginger Sesame Dressing. Add as little or as much of the dressing as you like. Toss salad to coat vegetables evenly with dressing. Serves 4-6. Chef’s notes: Ingredients for dressing can be combined using a hand blender or blender. For the dressing, chef Maria Gonzalez wanted to take a different approach and not use any oil. Instead, tahini provides fat and flavor. With this salad, you get plenty of texture without the adding calories, so you can use any raw vegetable you like, and you can shave it, chopped or shredded the vegetables. The more crunch the better, and adding different herbs change the flavor profile. Enjoy!
Mom’s Chocolate Cake From Benjy Levit January is National Diet Month, but for those
times when you want to indulge, we had to print Benjy Levit’s famous Mom’s Chocolate Cake recipe, which he shared with Dai back in 2001. 3 sticks butter, divided 1 cup water ¾ cup cocoa, divided 2 eggs 2 cups sugar 1 Tablespoon baking soda ½ teaspoon salt 2 teaspoons vanilla extract, divided 2 cups flour ½ cup buttermilk Nonstick spray 6 Tablespoons milk 1 (16-ounce) box powdered sugar 1 cup pecan halves Preheat oven to 350 degrees. In a saucepan, melt 2 sticks of butter over low heat. Increase heat to medium-high and whisk in water and half of cocoa. Bring cocoa-butter mixture to a boil and set aside to cool. In electric mixing bowl, beat eggs, sugar, baking soda, salt and half of vanilla. While mixer is running, slowly alternate between adding flour and buttermilk and then, finally, the cocoa-butter mixture. Cover a 13½-by-9-by-2-inch pan with cooking spray; pour in batter and bake 20 minutes, or until toothpick comes out clean. While cake bakes, make frosting by melting remaining butter in a saucepan over low heat. Transfer to mixing bowl; stir in remaining cocoa and milk. Slowly combine powdered sugar and remaining vanilla until smooth. Fold in pecans. Remove cake from oven and spread frosting evenly over cake while still warm. Makes 8 to 10 servings. Editor’s note: Buzz dining columnist Dai Huynh is a James Beard food-journalism award winner and longtime Houston-based restaurant writer.
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SPORTS
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by Todd Freed, staff writer
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or the fourth time in the last six seasons, The Kinkaid School Falcons are SPC football champions, winning this year’s title with a 41-21 victory over the rival Episcopal Knights. “This one is definitely special,” said Falcons head coach Nathan Larned. “Going into the game, we were without some key offensive starters due to injury, then lost a couple of more starters in the first quarter for the rest of the game. A lot of young guys stepped up to get this victory.” Stepping up in heroic fashion was freshman defensive back Jordan Williams. The younger brother of Falcons standout running back Josh Williams, who himself was sidelined with a knee injury, the younger Williams was pressed into the role of running back for the first time. Williams responded with a magnificent game, rushing for 200 yards while also taking a screen pass for a 65-yard score. Defensively, he sealed the Kinkaid victory with a 95-yard interception return for a touchdown. “Jordan’s a special talent. He’ll definitely be seeing the ball quite a bit over the next three years,” said Larned. The Knights’ victory was also highlighted by outstanding performances from quarterback Zach Daniel and junior wide receiver Victor Garza. Daniel threw for 255 yards and five touchdowns, with three of those touchdown passes going to Garza. As for Garza, along with his three touchdown receptions, he also played a huge role on defense and special teams in the championship victory. Off the field, there was a big post-season honor for Kinkaid’s Ameer Mustafa, who was named the Lineman of the Year at the Touchdown Club of Houston’s Private School Football Awards Dinner. “Honestly, this award is more than I could’ve ever imagined,” said the Falcons senior. The Offensive Player of the Year award went to both St. Thomas quarterback Peyton Matocha and St. Pius X quarterback Grant Gunnell. Earlier in the season, Gunnell broke the state’s all-time record for career passing yards and touchdowns, while Matocha accounted for 4,400 yards of offense and 49 touchdowns in a sensational senior season. “It’s very special.
HAIL THE CHAMPIONS For the first time since 2009, the St. John’s Mavericks volleyball team captured the SPC volleyball championship. St. John’s defeated rival Episcopal in four sets to win this year’s title.
Going into the off-season, I had one goal in mind, which was to get better and make my teammates better,” said Matocha. “To be here and win this award just shows that all the hard work paid off.” On the other side of the ball, Episcopal Knights senior Jordan Wells was named the Defensive Player of the Year. “There’s just so many great athletes out there, so to win this award is just such an honor,” said Wells. The Coach of the Year award went to Second Baptist Eagles head coach Terry Pirtle, who guided his Eagles to a district title and an overall 11-2 record. In volleyball, the St. John’s Mavericks captured the SPC Championship with a four-set victory over Episcopal in the tournament’s championship final. The victory marked the Mavericks’ first SPC title since 2009. “We were predicted to finish near the bottom of our conference, but our girls didn’t care what others were saying,” said Mavericks first-year head coach Shelbi Irvin. “They just responded time and time again and did whatever it takes to win.” For the season, the Mavericks posted a 27-11 record, including a perfect 9-0 mark in SPC play. Over the course of the season, the Mavericks posted a series of breakthrough victories, including victories over Episcopal and John Cooper for the first time in six years, along with its first vic-
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tory over Houston Christian in eight years. “We won in a lot of different ways,” said Irvin. “Our girls just had a refuse-to-lose attitude.” Mavericks senior setter Alexandra Lewis led the SPC in assists with 871 assists on the season. Junior outside hitter Celia Adams was the conference’s kills leader, while sophomore libero Nova Manning was fourth in the SPC in digs. The trio were also named to the SPC AllTournament Team. Back in football, Stratford Spartans senior defensive lineman Sam Habel was named the Greater Houston Scholar Athlete of the Year by the Touchdown Club of Houston. Habel, who’s ranked No. 1 in his senior class, beat out 26 other finalists for the award. “I was shocked when they announced my name as the winner,” said Habel. “The resumes for all the finalists were pretty amazing.” The award is based on academics, athletics and citizenship, with Habel becoming the fifth Stratford Spartan to win the prestigious award since the event was started in 1999. Editor’s note: Todd Freed is the Emmy Awardwinning co-host and producer of the KUBE SportsZone, which airs Saturday and Sunday at 6 p.m. on Channel 57-KUBE. To submit high school sports news for possible inclusion in SportzBuzz, please email todd@thebuzzmagazines.com.
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Financial peace of mind: a New Year’s resolution As we start a new year, we evaluate what we have done in the past and optimistically make resolutions to improve areas we want to see advance. Given the volatility in the stock market over the past year, perhaps finances and investments are a topic you’d like to avoid altogether. However, with the right information and the proper strategy, in a period of volatility and downturns (and even recessions) you can be optimistic because the best is yet to come! To be successful in any resolution, we have to look at the obstacles that are holding us back – investing is no different. Poor returns in our portfolios are often a product of our own emotions and decision-making behavior biases. We tend to make decisions based on the most recent or most readily available information. We are biased by what we hear on TV or from the latest personality “expert.” Similarly, if an investment is down, we think it will always be down; if it’s up, it will always go up. Interestingly, the average investor treats investing differently than almost any other aspect of their lives. For example, if you go in to buy a pair of jeans and you find that they are 50% off, you would buy two or maybe three pair and be proud of yourself for getting such a good deal. However, when a stock is 50% off of its high, investors will often see it as a loser and instead buy the investment that has gone up 50% since the beginning of the year, thinking it will continue to go up. Developing a sound strategy based on fundamental data can help you eliminate the biases that lead to poor decisions and lost money. The number one key to any investment strategy is to have the discipline to stick with it during volatile times. While many investors know this, turning it into a
reality is time-consuming hard work. This is where an investment advisor can be a real benefit to you and your future. It’s important to find the right investment advisor because, often, advisors are nothing more than salesmen trying to sell you a product in the form of annuities or underperforming mutual funds. At Core Capital, we never sell you a product. We work for you to Luis Pelz, Founder and John Barry, Sr. Partner develop an investment strategy for your unique circumstances based on 50 years of research and then manage your portfolio with discipline and transparency to help give you peace of mind through the ups and downs of the market. We are proud to say that our success and dedication to our clients has been recognized by The Houston Business Journal who named us a Top Wealth Manager for the past four years, and nationally, we were named a Five Star Professional Wealth Manager for the past three years. Call us today at 713-864-4300 to get a start on your New Year’s resolution to improve your investment results, or email us at info@ccmrusa.com. Core Capital Management & Research, Inc., 4801 Woodway Drive, Suite 145W, Houston, Texas 77056, 713.864.4300, www.ccmrusa.com
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elcome to SportzBuzz Jr., a column spotlighting neighborhood athletes in elementary and middle school.
A special fan Teammates Westin Sharp, Tommy Amis, Lane Luton and Jackson Dieringer (top photo, from left) were excited to see their former first-grade Wilchester Elementary teacher, Rebecca Janes, at their baseball game. The boys play fall ball with Memorial Ashford Little League (MALL), and Ms. Janes came to watch their game against the Astros. Now second graders, the boys were happy to see their teacher, and their parents were grateful for her continued support of the children’s extracurricular activities. The score didn’t go the boys’ way, but having Ms. Janes cheer them on eased the pain.
Eagle pride The Memorial Middle School (MMS) seventh-grade volleyball A team (middle photo) won its district tournament. On the way to becoming champions, the Lady Eagles defeated Spring Woods Middle School, Spring Forest Middle School and Spring Branch Middle school, each in two sets. The win over Spring Branch was a sweet victory because the girls lost to them during the regular season. Each of the MMS players stepped up with strong performances on the court, resulting from their hard work during practices and earlier games. The tournament champs are (top row, from left) Ashley Jones, Emma Samuelson, coach Lauren Amedee, Charlotte Hardig, Deveny Gilmore, Sonia Rio, Meryl Schwertner, Chloe Popkin, Emma Dunwoody, Hailey Tacker, Sophie Corbeil; (bottom row, from left) Payton Long and Izzy Rodriguez.
Soccer surprise guest First-time soccer players Peyton McKown, Lauren Holmsten, Charlotte Shuford, Eloise Riley, Drew Hays and Jenna Berend (bottom photo, from left) gather around their Memorial Drive Elementary pre-kindergarten teacher, Sandy Gonzales, after a game. The Ladybugs were thrilled, and a little shocked, to have a surprise guest at their Saturday game on the fields at Chapelwood United Methodist Church. After playing against a team from Holy Spirit Episcopal Church, the players greeted their beloved teacher with a giant hug on the sideline. Other members of the Ladybugs team are Laney Alsup, Bennett Foster, Kate Hancock, Thomas Hubbard, Tallulah Wright, coach Brent Riley and coach Taylor Wright. Editor’s note: Send your best high-resolution photos and behind-the-scenes stories about young local athletes, in both team and individual sports, to SportzBuzz, Jr. at info@thebuzzmagazines.com. Include all contact info, names, ages, grades and schools. Featured athletes must live in Buzz-circulation neighborhoods. Items will be published on a space-available basis. TANGLEWOOD/RIVER OAKS BUZZ JANUARY 2019 42
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Allergies in older adults In April 2017, the AARP Bulletin wrote about allergies, and since it’s an AARP publication, it focused on adults age 50 and over. Before the 1990s (like when Drs. Engler and Malick were training), it was taught that allergy was an ailment of the young and usually got better as one became older. Further, it was thought that older individuals didn’t suddenly “become allergic.” Since the 1980s, though, the prevalence of allergy has increased in all age groups. It is now known that one can develop allergies at any age. Just as treatment is different in children than it is in adults, a great deal of caution goes into considering therapeutic options in older adults. For instance, oral decongestants, such as Sudafed, are more likely to cause side effects in older adults (e.g., high blood pressure, insomnia, irritability, and/or rapid heart rate). Sudafed PE is much safer. It doesn’t contain any “Sudafed” (pseudoephedrine) at all; rather, it contains phenylephrine, a much milder decongestant. Antihistamines, such as Zyrtec, Benadryl and Xyzal, can make you sleepy. Claritin and Allegra are less likely to cause sedation. Of further concern about sedating antihistamines is that long-term use increases the risk of dementia. The only antihistamine NOT on that list is Allegra (even Claritin is sedating and with anti-cholinergic effects at higher doses). Generic Allegra (fexofenadine) is much less expensive and works just as well for about 95 percent of our patients. Costco sells it as “Aller-Fex,” and Walgreens as “Wal-Fex”. Nasal steroids are usually tolerated better than any of the oral medications because a much smaller dose of medicine is required to be effective since the medicine is applied directly to the nose. But some nasal steroids cause
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nosebleeds; original Flonase is most likely to cause a bloody nose. Two other over-the-counter nasal steroids, Flonase Sensimist and Rhinocort Allergy, are less likely to cause a bloody nose. One treatment that works well in younger and older patients is allergy shots. Once we identify what you are allergic to, we can use allergy shots, or immunotherapy (IT), to make you less allergic. As opposed to medications listed above, which just treat your symptoms, IT is disease modifying. IT teaches your body’s immune system to ignore the dust mites, cat dander or tree pollen that can cause “false alarms” in the allergic. A word of caution about IT, though: many so-called allergists are not board certified by the American Board of Allergy and Immunology, and don’t use optimal doses of allergens in their recipes. All three allergists at The Allergy Clinic and Houston Allergy and Asthma Clinic are not only board certified by ABAI, but maintain that certification on an annual basis. No one nose allergies like we do.™ Note: Information contained in this article should not be considered a substitute for consultation with a board-certified allergist to address individual medical needs. David B. Engler, M.D., The Allergy Clinic, 7707 Fannin, Suite 100, Houston, Texas 77054, 713.797.0993, *1200 Binz, Suite 180, Houston, Texas 77004, 713.522.9911, www.allergyclinic.com, *Operating as Houston Allergy and Asthma Clinic
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LET’S GET IT STARTED Olivia Hopwood, a freshman at Episcopal High School, helped start a newspaper during middle school at River Oaks Baptist School.
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hen my eighth-grade year was around the corner, all I could think about was when I was going to see my friends, who my new teachers would be, and if (just maybe) the lunch food would be better this year. My priorities then were short lasting, none of them having a serious impact on my current life. However, when I began my final year of middle school, I started focusing less on what I could do for me and more on what I could do for my school. I wanted to make a difference. Not the kind where my family, friends and teachers walked me through it, but the kind I could complete on my own. I had to hone in on what I was interested in, and what could be beneficial. I researched until I stumbled upon the idea of making a newspaper. It incorporated writing (a favorite hobby) and
the reality that our school’s paper had not been up and running for years. I spoke with the head of school, who spoke with the principal, who spoke with the board, who in turn spoke with probably lines and lines of coordinators. When I received the good news that my newspaper idea had been accepted, I thought things would be easier than they were. I had pictured the perfect newspaper, completed in color with Wall Street Journal-worthy articles. I was wrong. From this point of realization, I hit a low. I started to doubt my capability due to my age. Maybe I was too young for this commitment. Maybe this was a mistake. After weeks of hard work, I overcame obstacles and persevered. It turned out teachers and students were glad to help out with my project. Seeing the
paper being passed out, the smiles on kids’ faces and teacher and parent enjoyment made the struggle worth it. We ended up developing a staff, and I’ve heard the ROBS newspaper, The Raider Review, still exists. This year I’m on the staff of The Knight Times at Episcopal High School, and I’m the only freshman girl on the staff. If there’s one thing I learned throughout this experience, it’s that success isn’t something that happens overnight. Also, making a difference is something that anybody of any age can be a part of! Want to be a Buzz Kid? Email approximately 350 words, a high-resolution photo and caption to info@thebuzzmagazines.com. Or mail it to The Buzz Magazines, 5001 Bissonnet, Suite 100, Bellaire, Texas 77401.
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Retirement accounts and estate planning The New Year brings new resolutions. One of your resolutions may be to (finally) get your estate planning in order. Retirement accounts and IRAs are increasing as a large source of retirement funds. Although these accounts can be a significant part of your retirement, they are often overlooked when preparing an estate plan. The type of account controls the way you receive the money and any tax implications. Generally, the funds held in the account get distributed to the named beneficiary in a lump sum or as several payments over time. If a beneficiary is named, these funds do not pass according to your Will or by intestacy (no Will), but pass directly to such beneficiary. These designations can be your spouse or your children, but they can also provide flexibility. For example, you can create a trust for the benefit of your minor children and name it as the beneficiary to avoid an expensive and lengthy guardianship. You can also name a charity or other institution. However, some plans governed by ERISA require spousal consent to name a beneficiary other than your spouse. If you have worked at your job for several years, your desired beneficiaries may have changed. You may have gotten married, had children, had children other than those named, or gotten divorced. The plan administrator may still distribute the funds in the account(s) to the person(s) named on the designation form even if your situation or your intentions have changed. Typically, the plan administrators of these accounts do not require the participants to name a beneficiary. In the case of no named beneficiary, the funds distribute according to the plan agreement. This could mean the funds default to your estate. This can be a problem because certain non-probate
retirement accounts are creditor protected. If these protected accounts get distributed to your estate, they may no longer be protected and may be subject to creditor claims. Furthermore, if you have planned for your assets to pass according to beneficiary designations but you omit an account or don’t provide for a beneficiary or contingent beneficiary, an estate administration may be required. If the account only holds a small sum, it may not justify the expense of an estate administration. Ask your plan administrator for a copy of your account agreement, your current beneficiary designation, and a change of beneficiary designation form, if you think one may be needed. Speak with a lawyer who can review the plan type, tax implications, tax basis, and other factors to ensure the retirement account and beneficiary designation conform with your estate plan. This article is not intended to be used as legal advice. Please contact your estate planning attorney or schedule an appointment with us to be assured your estate plan is as up-to-date as possible. Alyssa L. McCreight, Associate Attorney. James E. Brill, P.C. 3636 Westheimer Road, Houston, Texas 77027, 713.626.7272, www.brillfirm.com
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Sebastian, age 13, Miniature Schnauzer, Cohn St. Howdy, neighbors! I’m Sebastian, just a walk-loving, snuggle-obsessed Miniature Schnauzer. You may have seen me around the neighborhood because I’m a modern-day Houdini at getting out of the yard. Anyway, I adopted my mom about three years ago. We were matched by her co-worker who was relocating, and it’s a pretty great arrangement because I still see my old dad, and I got two new grandparents who are wrapped around my paw. I swear I’m not a schmooze; I’m just that irresistible. As I mentioned, I love my walks and my naps, but my absolute favorite thing to do is to ride in the Corvette with the top down and the wind in my beard. Feel free to say hi (or return me to my mom) if you see me around the neighborhood. Head-scratches are encouraged. Got a cute critter? Email a picture of your pet with approximately 150 words to info@thebuzzmagazines.com or mail it to The Buzz Magazines, 5001 Bissonnet, Suite 100, Bellaire, Texas 77401. Featured pets receive two passes to Rover Oaks Pet Resort. Each pass can be redeemed for one day of lodging in a Bunk House Suite, 25 percent off your next grooming appointment or 25 percent off one obedience training class.
For many, starting the new year means setting a list of resolutions or goals. For some, that will include finally making the decision to end an unhappy marriage. An important step in that process is selecting the right attorney to assist you with divorce. For many it is the first time they have ever been involved in the legal process, and placing that first call can be daunting. If possible, seek direct referrals from your trusted advisors: friends, clergy, therapists. Avoid referrals that are a friend of a friend. When making the call to set up an appointment, ask what you can expect: Is there a consultation fee? How long will the meeting last? Is there any information they expect you to bring? When meeting with the attorney, be realistic in your expectations. The attorney will not have all of the answers at the first meeting, and be wary of attorneys who just tell you what you want to hear. Do not be afraid to ask questions about how you will be charged and how you will be kept informed, and make sure you select an attorney who listens to what you want, advises you well, and treats you with respect. Angela Pence England is a partner at Tindall England PC, a family-law firm specializing in divorce, child-custody modifications, grandparent access, paternity, adoption and premarital and postmarital agreements. Angela has been recognized as a Super Lawyer by Texas Super Lawyers each year since 2004. Tindall England PC, Angela England, Partner, Board Certified in Family Law, 515 Post Oak Blvd., Suite 500, Houston, Texas 77027, 713.622.8733, www.tindallengland.com
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A minute with Jennifer Pierce Mediterranean diet class The Kipling School was founded 11 years ago from my own personal need to provide a state-of-the-art preschool and childcare center for parents such as myself seeking quality care that actually teaches your child. Our multi-year, age-appropriate program is based on your child’s natural development. We begin with infants, move into preschool, and progress through kindergarten to eighth grade. The school is an extraordinary place where children come first, as well as where you can feel comfortable knowing that every member of the Kipling School staff, is committed to the education and wellbeing of your child. At Kipling we recognize children as individuals with unique gifts, strengths, and needs. It is our goal to nurture your child through the meaningful application of learning in an exciting, creative, and loving environment. Kipling goes above and beyond the state requirements to ensure that our children receive the best education possible. Our curriculum creatively blends the humanities with science, mathematics, and technology to build the whole person. The spirit of the Kipling School environment fosters learning and growth and can be seen in everything we do. We have small class sizes and flexible classrooms with effective teacher and student ratios to ensure individualized attention. The Kipling School, Jennifer Pierce, Head of School, 600 Shepherd Drive, Houston, Texas 77007, 713.861.6743, www.thekiplingschool.com
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JDRF Houston Gulf Coast Chapter, which addresses type 1 diabetes, kicked off the 20th anniversary of its annual gala, Promise Ball, at 51fifteen. The space at Saks Fifth Avenue was decorated by platinum-colored balloons, and attendees brought wine as donations to the auction. Board president Liz Lay Vittor, Promise Ball chair Mary D’Andrea and executive director Rick Byrd toasted this year’s honoree, Daniel Yates. The ball will be held April 27, 2019, at the Hilton Americas in downtown Houston. Pictured are Lance and Judith Perdue at the kickoff event. See jdrf.org/houston.
Team Victory Royale Jack Ferruzzo, a junior at Memorial High School, has been nominated to compete for the title Student of the Year by the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. Jack’s grandfather, Ken DeLorenzo, has been battling lymphoma for eight years, and his great-aunt Ginger Upton died from lymphoma four years ago. Jack asked a group of friends to join his team – Team Victory Royale – to raise awareness and campaign for Jack. Members of Team Victory Royale are from Memorial High School, The Kinkaid School, St. Agnes Academy and Episcopal High School. Each member has a close connection to someone who has battled cancer. LLS funds support research for treatments and has invested more than $1.2 billion. Team Victory Royale has set a goal of raising $100,000. They are hosting “spirit nights” at restaurants around Houston Jan. 11-March 1. The restaurants will donate 20 percent of proceeds to their campaign. Their first event is at Texadelphia (8383 Westheimer Rd.) on Jan. 15, 11 a.m. -9 p.m. Pictured are members (from left) Caroline Henderson, Caroline Melody, Laura Shepherd, Jack Ferruzzo, Michael Duncan and John Austin Anderson. See events.lls.org/txg/HoustonSOY19/tvictoryro.
Women of substance The second annual Women of Substance luncheon benefiting the Mission of Yahweh homeless shelter for women and children took place at the River Oaks Country Club. More than 450 guests gathered to support 12 honorees and raise more than $400,000. The event was dedicated to First Lady Barbara Bush, who had accepted the position of honorary chair again before she passed away. Pierce Bush dedicated the luncheon to his grandmother. Honorary chairs were Rose Cullen and Regina Rogers, and chair was Susan Arnoldy Hansen. PBS anchor Ernie Manouse read a letter from author Barbara Taylor Bradford about her relationship with her friend Barbara Bush. PaulDavid Van Atta, event producer, said Taylor’s book, Women of Substance, was the inspiration for the luncheon. The 2018 Women of Substance are Anita Smith, Joyce Pankonien, Beth Madison, Betty Hrncir, Mady Kades, Kim Moody, Susan Sarofim, Joan Schnitzer-Levy, Kappy Muenzer, Sidney Faust, Lotty Gautschi and Martha Turner. Pictured are (from left) Betty Hrncir and event chair Susan Hansen.
Fashion in the fields Fashionistas and Recipe for Success supporters filled the UnitedHealthcare Foundation Gathering Barn at Hope Farms for Recipe for Success Foundation’s inaugural Fashion in the Fields presented by Neiman Marcus. The event, which included a fashion (continued on page 50) TANGLEWOOD/RIVER OAKS BUZZ JANUARY 2019 48
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Kirby from Rice University. In October, Kirby popped the question while the couple strolled through the campus of Rice University. After Helen said yes, Kirby surprised her with an engagement party with friends and family hosted by both of the couple's parents, Theresa and Ray Frierson and Gina and Keith Taylor. The surprise party was followed by a celebratory trip to their favorite vacation spot, Cabo San Lucas. The couple's wedding is set for November 2019 at St. Anne's Catholic Church and Houston Country Club.
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Helen Frierson and Kirby Taylor first met during seventh grade at Lanier Middle School before going their separate ways to attend Lamar and Bellaire high schools, respectively. The couple reconnected during 2015 after Helen graduated from the University of Texas at Austin and
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More than 400 guests gathered at the Houstonian Hotel for the Imagine gala, which benefited the College of Biblical Studies. Longtime popular singer Amy Grant and Bart Millard, lead singer of MercyMe and writer of the bestselling Christian song “I Can Only Imagine” – which inspired the movie I Can Only Imagine – shared their stories. CBS president Dr. Bill Blocker led a dialogue with Grant and
Millard, and each performed songs. Honorary chairs were Doris and Terry Looper and Bonnie and David Weekley. The event was cochaired by Cheri and Andy Fossler, Jeannie and Greg Frazier, and Lynda and David Tauber. Paula and Rusty Walter were honored with a CBS Lifetime Achievement Award. Guests included Jan Duncan, Carolyn and Dale Hortenstine, Dr. Julie Boom and Dr. Marc Boom, Patti and Jim Fox, Martha and Jim Hunt, Joanie and Don Haley, Brandy and Ron Wilson, Ann and Mike Jobe, Carrie and Matt Meloy, Rosanne and David Oelfke, Patti and Tom Owens, Rhonda and Mike Graff, Dr. Laura Petersen and Dr. Eric Thomas, Mary and Dr. Ivory Varner, Carolynn and Mark Connelly, Matthew and Dr. Ann Barnes, Elizabeth and George Farish, Laurie and Christopher DeClaire and Lucy and Skip McBride. Pictured are (front row, from left) Greg Frazier, David Oelfke, Paula Walter, Amy Grant, Jeannie Frazier, Cheri Fossler and Andy Fosser; (back row, from left) Bart Millard, Dr. Bill Blocker and Zelder Blocker.
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and Southerninspired brunch by Culinaire, raised more than $200,000 to combat childhood obesity. Recipe for Success founder Gracie Cavnar noted that the women were dressed in “farm girl cold weather chic.” The Robert and Janice McNair Children’s Garden was popular with little ones. The interactive space is used by Hope Farms to educate future foodies, with themed garden beds like “Cold Slaw.” Event chairs were Stephanie Fleck and Melissa Sugulas. Child “models” strutted down the catwalk. Emcee was KPRC 2Houston Life anchor Courtney Zavala. Cochairs were Courtney Culver Baker, Amanda Boffone, Julie Longoria Chen, Elizabeth Dwyer, Elaine Hixon, Lyndsey Zorich, Melissa Juneau, Neekie Kashani and Summer Smith. Pictured are (from left) Carrie BrandsburgDahl, Neekie Kashani, Claire Thielke, Heidi Kashani, Jose Montemayor and Ryan and Stephanie Fleck.
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The Salvation Army of Greater Houston, with special guest Wanda Durant, hosted its 22nd annual luncheon at the River Oaks Country Club. The luncheon, chaired by Nathalie and Charles Roff, drew 376 guests and raised more than $576,000 in support of the organization’s housing, emergency shelter, rehabilitation, disaster relief, social services and Christmas assistance programs. Charles Roff gave remarks honoring his parents Ann and (continued on page 52)
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years of service to Salvation Army Houston. Following an invocation by Major Kent Davis, Houston area commander, Wanda Durant – entrepreneur, CEO, philanthropist and mother of NBA champion Kevin Durant – provided the keynote address, sharing her personal journey and the importance of philanthropy. Pictured are (previous page, from left) Maria and Neil Bush and Judy and Charles Tate.
Braha Radom, Lea Silverstein, Zahava Hanoesh and Helena Zach at Helena’s home. Each attendee paid $25 to support medical research at Hadassah Hospital. Lunch included tea sandwiches and scones, served on paper “china” plates.
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dent writers. Internationally-renowned performance poet Natasha “Natty” Carrizosa emceed. The student-centered night included readings by Gavin DiBella, Eris Dao and Camryn Collins. Gavin, age 10, offered advice for beginning writers: “The most important thing is to write what touches your heart.” Houston’s new Youth Poet Laureate was announced – Jackson Neal, age 19, a freshman at the University of Houston. Chairs were Lucy and Sam Chambers (pictured), and honorary chairs were Lizzie and Scott Fletcher, MaryScott Hagle and Daniel Kornberg, Juni and Chanler Langham, Bryn K. Larsen, Ryan Leach, Marcia and Michael Nichols, Lenora and Frank Inselbuch, F. Xavier Peña, Sara Speer Selber, Ginya and Clayton Trier, and Mitra and Joshua Woody. Funds raised will give 4,400 children WITS programming for an entire year.
Sending Texas cheer The Lamar High School Varsity Women’s Lacrosse Team won the Cy-Fair Burning Flower Tournament, which included 12 of the top teams from across the Houston area. Lamar won its initial game against Gulf Coast 12-0 and then defeated Kinkaid 9-6. Lamar suffered its only loss in a close match with the Woodlands (6-4). However, the Texans got revenge in the semifinals with a 7-5 victory. In the finals, Lamar defeated Cy-Fair 10-7 to take home the championship. Pictured are (top row, from left) varsity coach Kristin Marchese, Caleigh Wilbourn, Sophia Chong-Ahmed, Tobey Budzinksi, Kassidy Isaacson, Victoria Gray, Mia Sorak, Marina Perez-Krause, Alyssa Gallais, Lindsay Elwood, Kaellin Isaacson, Ashley Lapp, JV coach Myleka Booz; (bottom row, from left) Sasha Arlinghaus, Tori Julian, Mary Leath, Danielle Costa, Sophia Pastore, Chloe Herrera and Charlotte Dale. Not pictured: Alexis Bernazzini and Miranda Rui.
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Writers in the Schools (WITS) hosted its 10th annual gala, The Illuminated Forest, at The Astorian. The event honored Drs. Melanie Malinowski and Andy Cunningham for their belief in the healing power of creative writing. During the evening, guests were treated to “Insta-poems,” original poems written and performed live by current and former WITS stu-
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The Hotty Toddy Mamas, a group of Houston moms whose kids attend the University of Mississippi, gathered for their annual November mixer to share tips and support for their kids in the midst of final-exam season. The mamas assembled finals-survival care packages to send to their students. Hostess Misty Hagood painted mailing boxes with the Texas flag. Moms attending contributed 10 or more $5 items that created a pile of goodies on Misty’s dining room table: Tylenol and Vitamin C, soaps, warm socks, highlighters, packets of hot chocolate, Chapstick and more. At Ole Miss, students say “Hotty Toddy” as a greeting. Mamas who assembled care packages are (pictured, back row, from left) Lisa Ganucheau, Paige Weinstein, Melisa Jordan, Michelle Ross, Misty Hagood; (seated, from right) Andy Blitzer, Michelle Herring, Wendy Wilkins Burks, Donna Porter, Anya McInnis and Karen Acton. Be seen in Buzz About Town. Send your high-res photos and community news to info@thebuzzmagazines.com. Items are published on a space-available basis. Also share your upcoming-event listings on thebuzzmagazines.com.
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uch to my children’s chagrin, I’ve become something of a podcast junkie. I listen to interviews, and I find them so fascinating and inspirational that I’m often quoting them. So much to learn, so little time, so few people to tell it to (sorry, girls). The one that’s stuck with me the most in the past few months is a “Good Life Project” interview with Brené Brown, the University of Houston research professor and author of four No. 1 New York Times bestsellers, including her latest, Dare to Lead. In the interview, she said, “I have no intake at all of any criticism or feedback from anyone who’s not in the arena. It’s easy to make a life and a career of sitting in the bleachers and … putting people down.” Little did I know driving down I-10 listening to Brené that synchronicity was at play. Within days of hearing the interview, still thinking about Brené’s words, I got anonymous hate mail. It came typed, in a hand-addressed envelope, to the Buzz offices. Mean-spirited, angry – constructive it was not. On a much smaller scale, it was exactly what Brené said she’d tuned out as nameless people behind screens criticized her and her work. To be clear, feedback from readers is essential to The Buzz, even when it’s negative. We want to hear your thoughts, good, bad and ugly. It keeps us connected, and it makes us better. But this letter wasn’t the kind that makes anything better. It was personal. It accused me of points of view that were the exact opposite of who I try to be. Editors at The Buzz actually held it for several days before reading it to me over the phone, after which the first words I could get out were, “Someone really hates me.” I doubted myself and felt badly about having offended someone. I spiraled into worry. Then I remembered the Brené Brown interview. By the way, her TED Talk “The Power of Vulnerability” had over 30 million views. She knows about being vulnerable. I listened to the podcast again. And I took in, on a much more personal level, what she was saying: If you don’t have the courage to sign your name – if you wouldn’t say something face-toface to a person – don’t say it. And I realized I
GOOD ENERGY It's not always easy to open up and be vulnerable, but the choice to do so cultivates compassion and connection.
needed to let it go. With that experience in mind, as we begin a new year, I am thinking a lot about disagreeing civilly and learning from our differing opinions. It happens when we open our minds and hearts and listen to each other, and when we remember that we are all connected. And that by supporting each other we make ourselves, everyone around us and the world better. Can we try bringing compassion, rather than anger, to the world? According to Shawn Achor, a Harvard psychology professor, author and happiness researcher, we are hard-wired to scan for the negative. Our day might be 90 percent positive. But if one thing goes wrong – an anonymous letter in the mail, say – that absorbs our focus. If we let ourselves hang on to the negative experiences, they become toxic. Let them go. For sure there are big things – bad things – that we need to worry about and be upset about. But in the day to day, opportunities abound to bring our A-games and focus on what’s good. To be “responsible for the energy we put into the room” (again, paraphrasing Brené). To respond,
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rather than react. As for the letter, now knowing who likely sent it makes me feel both better and worse. But in the end that doesn’t really matter. Because there will always be naysayers. I’m just going to try my limited best to cancel them out, in my own small world, by bringing the energy to the room that I want to feel, and that I want my children to feel. Because even when we don’t think anyone is watching, our children – our grandchildren – see it all and are picking it up. Ready to bring it all back around in another generation, for better or worse. On a personal note: If you don’t like something I’ve written, please let me know – and sign your name! Let’s connect, constructively. Because in the end, we are all in this together. Happy New Year.
MORE ONLINE In April 2008, Harvard professor Shawn Achor contributed a Buzz article C’mon Get Happy all about positive psychology and research on happiness. See this story at thebuzzmagazines.com for a link.