St David's Newsletter Issue 8 by St Davids Adoption & Fostering Services

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As we step into the summer months, I want to take a moment to reflect on the past quarter and thank each of you our families, supporters, and staff for the energy, compassion, and commitment you continue to show. In this issue, we focus on school transitions, a period that can bring both excitement and uncertainty

Whether it’s starting nursery, moving up to primary, or heading off to secondary school, these milestones matter. They shape routines, friendships and confidence. I hope our feature article offers reassurance and practical ideas to support your child during these times of change.

We share the spotlight onto one of our panel members Michala, and their inspirational story.

I also want to extend heartfelt thanks to everyone who joined us at Pride Cymru and our recent Family Celebration Day

Your presence, stories and shared laughter made each gathering feel truly special. It's in these moments that our community shines brightest united, proud, and full of love.

Looking ahead, we’re excited to cheer on our incredible team taking part in the Cardiff Half Marathon this October, raising vital funds and awareness for our work Their determination reflects the spirit we see in our families every day.

Thank you for continuing to walk this journey with us.

Warmest wishes,

JASON BAKE

MEETAPANELMEMBER: MICHALARUDMAN

Adoptive Parent & Newest St David’s Panel Member

We’re so excited to welcome Michala to the St David’s adoption panel As an adoptive parent herself, Michala brings personal insight, warmth and wisdom to the role. We chatted to her about her own journey to adoption – and why she’s proud to be giving back as part of the St David’s team.

What first inspired you to consider adoption, and how did your own journey shape the parent you are today?

My partner and I always knew adoption was a real option for us to grow our family. I’d felt drawn to adoption from a young age, and that feeling only deepened over time. We did explore other routes too, just to be sure, and we visited a few agencies before choosing the one that felt right for us

From our first conversation with St David’s, we knew this was where we wanted to be. The support, the kindness, the sense of understanding – it all clicked. We knew the journey would be challenging, so it was important that we felt truly seen and supported.

That sense of trust and flexibility has stayed with me and really shaped how I parent. I’ve learned to make decisions with the information I have, and adapt as I go. The process taught me so much –especially patience, and the importance of letting go of control. Adoption isn’t a straight line, and with St David’s by our side, we were able to keep moving forward

Now that you’re on our adoption panel, how does your personal experience influence how you view prospective adopters?

It’s honestly such a privilege to be part of the panel I remember how vulnerable and exposed we felt at that stage, and I see that same mix of excitement and nerves in the faces of new applicants The assessments are so rich – they paint pictures not just of individuals, but of future families in the making. I remember how deep and emotional our wn assessment was – unearthing past xperiences and childhood memories I’d buried. It was hard at times, but I’m so grateful now that we ad that opportunity to process and reflect before ecoming parents.

nd I think that’s where St David’s is just brilliant. hey don’t just tick boxes – they invest in you, uide you, and really prepare you for what’s ahead. I lways try to offer reassurance during panel, ecause I know how daunting it can feel But I also now the team at St David’s is cheering each dopter on, every step of the way

What do you think is most important for rospective adopters to understand about doption before coming to panel?

hat it’s a journey – and it doesn’t stop when a hild is placed. That’s really when it begins. It’s not lways easy, and it will look different for everyone, ut it is so worth it.

t David’s is really upfront about this. They’ll walk with you beyond approval, beyond matching, eyond placement – they’re in it for the long haul hat kind of wraparound support is absolutely vital

Have you had moments on panel where you’ve really connected with a case, based on your own experience?

Yes – especially when people share how their own childhoods shaped who they are today I remember feeling quite hesitant about talking through my own family background – it’s complicated, with estrangements and blended dynamics.

But our amazing social worker at St David’s helped me reframe that. She showed me that my xperiences could be strengths – that empathy, nderstanding and lived experience matter.

ow, when I read assessments and see people ringing that same honesty and reflection, I feel so roud of them. Adoption takes courage, and it’s nspiring to see that in others.

What advice would you give to someone just tarting out on their adoption journey?

on’t let it take over your life The process is long, nd it can be emotionally intense. So look after yourself. Stay grounded. Keep doing the things that bring you joy.

Go on holidays. Watch the films. Keep your hobbies. on’t put life on pause – because you still matter, nd you’ll need that energy and perspective for the oad ahead.

nd don’t be afraid to lean on the support around ou – especially the team at St David’s. They really re incredible. They want the best for you and for he children – and they’ll help you become the best ersion of yourself in the process

We’re so proud to have Michala on the panel – her ompassion, lived experience and warmth help make St David’s what it is: a place where families grow, thrive, and are supported every step of the way.

Thank you, Michala!

SUMMER CELEBRATION

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70 Of You Joined the Fun at Our Amazing Summer Celebration!

On Sunday 20th July, Roath Church House in Cardiff was buzzing with joy, laughter and connection as over 70 of you came together for our St David’s Annual Summer Celebration and what a day it was!

This year’s event was one of our biggest yet, and it was truly heartwarming to see so many families — both familiar faces and new enjoying a relaxed, joyfilled gathering

Children were mesmerised by the ever-brilliant Magic Stu, whose games, magic tricks and party dances had little ones (and quite a few grown-ups!) up on their feet and laughing from start to finish. Our creative corners were a hive of colour and activity, with face painting, nail art and crafts proving a huge hit throughout the morning.

One of the most memorable moments was a special video message from Cindy Chupack, Emmy-winning screenwriter and author of We Waited for You. Her heartfelt story, celebrating family, love and the joy of belonging, left more than a few people teary-eyed. We were so pleased to gift a copy of the book to every family to take home and treasure The goodie bags were also a big hit, packed with treats and surprises for the journey home

We’re incredibly grateful to everyone who came and made the day so special. These moments of togetherness are a vital reminder of the strength and warmth within our community and the children at the heart of all we do. Thank you for celebrating with us we can’t wait to see you at the next one!

SCHOOL TRANSITIONS

We caught up with Anna Carter, a Consultant Psychologist with The Family Place

Hello,

I’m Anna, and over the past few years, I’ve had the pleasure of providing many consultations to families through St David’s Adopting Together Service. I always enjoy meeting adoptive parents, hearing about their family journeys, supporting their concerns, and working together to explore ways forward. St David’s is incredibly proactive in offering workshops and ongoing support to parents my most requested session is Sensory Regulation

Children and young people who have experienced early trauma often find it harder to trust new adults and to build new relationships. Managing emotions and regulating their bodies can be challenging, so adapting to unfamiliar environments and routines like starting secondary school can feel overwhelming.

When preparing for big transitions, it’s helpful to reduce the number of changes or stressors in the lead-up and immediately afterwards. Keeping everyday routines familiar provides a sense of safety and predictability.

Introducing the transition in small, manageable steps can make a big difference Walking the route to school a few times, trying on the new uniform during the holidays, or talking through how lunch breaks will work can help ease anxiety.

Sensory discomfort is also very common fabrics, seams, or smells might feel unbearable to some children—so it’s worth troubleshooting this early on. Sometimes a second-hand, well-worn uniform is the easiest solution.

Children at secondary school age often need a lot of support with organising themselves Many parents find that PE kits and equipment tend to go missing frequently in the first term! Pinning up the timetable in a couple of places at home and looking over it together regularly can help It’s important to remember that when we’re stressed, our memory doesn’t function as well so repeating things often is key. It can also be helpful to join or start a parents’ WhatsApp or Facebook group. Communication from teachers tends to drop off at secondary level, and many parents report feeling more disconnected as a result. Getting to know new people and navigating a new environment can leave children feeling exhausted and overwhelmed. After school, they may need quiet time with fewer verbal demands.

Avoid asking lots of questions, and instead focus on helping them regulate and reconnect. Gentle, open comments such as “I was thinking of you today,” “I was wondering if you liked your [subject] teacher,” or “"I was wondering whether you'd like your lunch/whether you'd like the food in the cafeteria." can feel more supportive and less demanding than direct questions. These small phrases reassure your child that they’ve been in your thoughts and help to strengthen connection.

It's also very typical for children to focus on negative aspects of their day—especially when they’re tired. That doesn’t mean everything is bad, but they trust you to listen and hold those feelings with them It can be useful to watch for patterns are certain days or lessons more difficult than others? Simple, empathetic responses like “I’m glad you told me,” “I’ll keep an eye on that,” or “That’s a lot to carry I'm here for you” can go a long way

Some children also find comfort in having a transitional object to help manage separation and support their growing independence. This might be a small matching pen tattoo that you and your child draw on yourselves in a hidden place under clothing, or a soft ribbon sewn into a pocket or sleeve. Tell them that the tattoo or object is to remind them of all your love for them, and that you'll be waiting for them at the end of the day. It’s best if the object is something discreet, that they can reach for when they need reassurance. Transitions often stir up deep feelings and fears of abandonment, so it’s a wobbly time for many families. Be kind to yourself too.

Many parents have found the following resources helpful. Adoption UK Wales has a dedicated education section with a range of tools and guidance. Young Minds also offers excellent advice on supporting school transitions. For those interested in the science behind trauma and stress, I highly recommend the Neurosequential Network’s podcasts with Dr Bruce D Perry And finally, you can find details of our upcoming workshops via The Family Place website

Warm wishes, Anna Carter

Consultant Psychologist

The Family Place

PRIDE CYMRUGALLERY

Photos by Owen Pritchard

This year, we were proud to attend Pride Cymru and stand alongside the LGBTQ+ community in celebrating love, identity, and inclusion. Before the parade began, we hosted a relaxed pre-march breakfast where friends, supporters, and members of our team came together to catch up, fuel up, and soak in the atmosphere. It was a joyful, energising start to the day and a lovely chance to reflect on what Pride means to us

We then joined the march through Cardiff city centre, celebrating the many LGBTQ+ individuals and families we work with and support all year round Pride Cymru is more than a celebration it’s a reminder of the importance of visibility, equality, and community. We’re committed to ensuring that LGBTQ+ people feel seen, supported, and welcomed especially when it comes to adoption and fostering. A huge thank you to everyone who walked with us.

OUR FOSTERING SERVICE

Now is the time to foster.

At St David’s, we urgently need more foster carers—because every child deserves a safe and loving home.

Right now, across Wales, children are waiting Some as young as three or four are falling asleep in residential homes built for teenagers not because they need to be there, but because there simply aren’t enough foster carers to take them in These environments can feel overwhelming and isolating for little ones who need warmth, understanding, and stability.

At St David’s, we believe every child deserves better. That’s why our fostering journey is growing stronger every day with compassionate, resilient families stepping forward to offer love, safety, and belonging. Many of them first connected with us through adoption and are now continuing their journey through fostering. Together, they’re changing lives. But the need continues to grow. As of 31st March 2025, around 4,875 children in Wales were living with foster families a number that doesn’t reflect the hidden need behind the statistics. And the shortage of foster carers is having heartbreaking consequences.

Whether you’re new to fostering or already have experience, we offer tailored training, one-to-one support, and financial help designed around your family and your journey We specialise in caring for children aged 0–12, ensuring they receive important years of their lives And through move out of institutional settings and into feel safe

If you’ve ever considered fostering or even just wondered what it might involve now is the time to take the next step.

Email us at fostering@stdavidscs.org or visit our website to find out more.

St David's Fostering Service For children, not for profit

TRAINING FOR EDUCATORS

Adoption UK Cymru has secured new funding from Welsh Government to help schools across Wales better understand and support the needs of adopted learners

Between October 2024 and March 2025, Adoption UK Cymru delivered a series of free training sessions for school staff, titled Understanding and Managing Challenging Behaviour in Care-Experienced Learners. These well-attended sessions explored the reasons why some children may struggle in school and offered practical strategies to help. More than 170 school staff took part via online webinars and fully funded in-person INSET sessions. Feedback was overwhelmingly positive, with many teachers acknowledging the challenges adoptive families face and welcoming new tools to support their pupils.

Thanks to continued funding, this programme will run again from October 2025 to March 2026. Sessions will include:

Three-hour online webinars

Half-day INSET sessions for individual schools (fully funded)

Twelve online drop-in sessions, known as ‘Education Cafés’

These sessions will focus on both early years and secondary education Some Education Cafés will be led by Adoption UK’s Education Lead, offering space to share good practice and deepen understanding Others will be delivered by clinicians from the PATH team, exploring specialist topics such as: Using PACE in the classroom

Mental health needs of young people

Sensory needs and regulation strategies

We’d encourage all adoptive parents to share this opportunity with your child’s school, SENCO, or headteacher. This free training can make a real difference in how your child is understood and supported in school.

More information and links to register will be available at the start of the new school term via: �� Education Resources – Adoption UK Cymru

Schools interested in booking a fully funded INSET session can contact: �� Julie Moseley, Education Lead, AUK Cymru juliemoseley@adoptionukorguk

SUMMEROF GROWTH

Curated by St David’s Children’s Society

Sunshine, long evenings, paddling pools and picnic rugs… this playlist is made for memory-making. Whether you ' re road-tripping to the coast, dancing barefoot in the garden, or enjoying a quiet moment after bedtime, Summer of Growth brings together feel-good songs for all ages

We asked staff, adopters and friends of St David’s to share songs that make them feel hopeful, joyful and connected and this is the soundtrack they created. From classic sing-alongs to gentle wind-down tracks, every tune celebrates family, love, and the magic of growing together.

So press play, turn it up, and let this be your soundtrack to a summer of connection, adventure and belonging.

�� Listen on Spotify: Summer of Growth – St David’s Family Playlist

CONTACT

St David’s Adoption Service

Lambourne House, Llanishen Business Park, Cardiff CF14 5GL

029 2066 7007 or info@stdavidscsorg

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