In Loving Memory
TRIBUTES TO OUR LOVED ONES
How to prepare a eulogy
Giving the eulogy at a funeral is an honor as well as an intimidating responsibility. Particularly if you are not accustomed to publicspeaking, it can be difficult to know where to begin.
Well, take a breath and relax. With a little forethought, you can prepare and deliver a stirring eulogy. It is important to invest the time necessary to prepare in advance. Do not wait to “wing it” during the funeral. That is a recipe for disaster. You may freeze up, ramble on, and miss out on the opportunity to pay proper tribute to your loved one. If you plan ahead and organize what you intend to say, it will minimize those dangers. When the time comes, you may choose to digress a bit from your prepared statements, but you will at least have a framework to guide you.
Writing the eulogy
To help with your preparation, make sure you carry a notepad, smartphone or tablet with you for note-taking purposes. Whenever you hear a family member or friend make a relevant observation about the deceased, quickly jot it down. This way, you can keep track of quotations, humorous stories, and factual information. Later, when you sit down to organize your thoughts onto paper, you can use your notes as a reservoir of ideas. If you are have difficulty recalling information or getting input from others, don’t be afraid to ask outright. Spark conversations by asking questions such as:
• What is your favorite memory of your time with them?
• If you could sum up their life in one word, what word would that be?
• What kinds of hobbies did they have?
• What nicknames were they known by?
When you have gathered enough information, it is time to put it all
together. While there is no right or wrong way to prepare a eulogy, the following blueprint can help you get started if you are unsure.
To begin, describe your own relationship with the deceased. Explain how you are personally affected by the loss. Remember that many of the people listening to you will understand fully and may share many of the same emotions. Next, work in some personal details pertaining to the deceased, and include three or four anecdotes. Tell stories that included you, or that were shared with you by others. Heartwarming accounts of generosity are powerful when delivered in a eulogy. Stories that demonstrate the person’s character will resonate with the people who miss them. Humorous anecdotes provide much-needed comic relief from the tension of a funeral service. However, be sure to keep the humor respectful and appropriate. If the loved one was a person of faith, you can make note of that, too.
Talk about life lessons you learned from them as well as the qualities that
made your loved one special. Whenever possible, tie these lessons or qualities into your anecdotes. Beware, however, of the danger of turning the eulogy into a story about yourself. Keep the focus on the person you are honoring.
Near the end of the eulogy, consider addressing the deceased directly. For example, you can turn toward the casket and say, “Mom, I love you and I’m going to miss you. You taught me well, I couldn’t have asked for a better mother, and you will always be close to my heart.”
You may choose to end on that note, or you may opt to share a final poem or read a verse from a favorite hymn in closing.
Delivering the eulogy
You should prepare a complete manuscript of what you plan to say. Though the process may be difficult, it will force you to focus an dorganize your thoughts in a coherent fashion. Using this manuscript, you can practice delivering the eulogy a few times to see how it flows and to edit for length. In most cases, a eulogy of five to ten minutes (two to four
typed pages) is appropriate. If you expect that you will stray from the manuscript during delivery, aim for shorter. If you tend to speak faster when nervous, prepare a longer eulogy.
Whether you take the complete manuscript to the podium or condense the eulogy onto cue cards is your decision. If you are nervous about speaking publicly, bring the entire manuscript up to the podium with you. Just having it handy can relieve your anxiety about getting lost during the eulogy. If you are a confident public speaker, condense the eulogy to bullet points on cue cards. This will help you deliver a more natural, conversational tribute to your loved one.
If you invest the time and energy in preparing the eulogy, you can approach your responsibility with confidence. Step up to the podium, take a deep breath to calm your nerves and get your bearings, and tell everyone about this wonderful person you are honoring.
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Leila Jean Boydston 1933-2025 Riverside, CA
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Edward Thomas Amschel 1944-2025 Kalispell, MT
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Rosalie Silverglate Anderson 1932-2025
Elizabeth “Louise” Barrie 1933-2025 Rialto, CA
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San Bernardino, CA
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Richard Victor Demers 1934-2024
Santa Cruz, CA
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C. Allen “Chuck” Braswell 1936-2025 Banning, CA
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Bryan Dean Arutunian 1959-2025 Pomona, CA
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Suzanne Carlson 1954-2025 Highland, CA
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Janet Dittberner 1951-2025 San Diego, CA
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Anthony Bocanegra 1932-2025 Redlands, CA
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Sharon Jean Brooks 1943-2025 Pomona, CA
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George Charles Ash, Jr. 1943-2025 Upland, CA
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Jenna Lee Closson 1931-2025
Rudy Duran 1952-2025 Pomona, CA
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Kathlea Niedzial Bolduc 1939-2025 Moreno Valley, CA
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Hilda Camacho 1934-2025 Riverside, CA
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Domingo P. Cruz 1932-2025
San Bernardino, CA
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Nancy Evans 1944-2025 Rancho Cucamonga, CA
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San Bernardino, CA
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Antonio (Tony) Arras Gonzalez 1927-2025
Eugene, OR
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Carolyn Grant 1932-2025
Riverside, CA
Dr. William Rowland Hemsley 1931-2025
Yucaipa, CA
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Lake Elsinore, CA
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Upland, CA
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Upland, CA
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Menifee, CA
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Riverside, CA
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LaVerne, CA
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Redlands, CA
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Bill McKernan 1932-2025
Norco, CA
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Jesus G. Lizarde 1939-2025
Colton, CA
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Cheryl A Mrofchak - Judge 1960-2025
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Victor Miceli II 1969-2025 Riverside, CA
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Riverside, CA
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Angelina F. Mata 1930-2025 Corona, CA
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Riverside, CA
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Philip A. Moraga 1967-2025
Alta Loma, CA
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Redlands, CA
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Sharon K. Moreland 1940-2025 Riverside, CA
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Linda Owen 1948-2025
Plantation, FL
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Rolla Parks 1925-2025
Hemet, CA
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Michael Shaun Riley, MD 1945-2025
Riverside, CA
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Diana Pinto 1941-2025
Waldport, OR
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Duane Roberts 1936-2025
Riverside, CA
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Highland, CA
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Joyce Pitts 1948-2025
Alta Loma, CA
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Dolores Sanchez 1937-2025
Roger Schneider 1935-2025
Redlands, CA
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Riverside, CA
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Joe Ramirez 1942-2025
Riverside, CA
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Riverside, CA
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Riverside, CA
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Hemet, CA
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Redlands, CA
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Carol Scalise 1941-2025
Yucaipa, CA
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Harry Alfred Stirdivant 1942-2025
Hemet, CA
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Riverside, CA
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Rialto, CA
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Riverside, CA
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Cherry Valley, CA
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Riverside, CA
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Grand Terrace, CA
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Fontana, CA
Frank Kasten 1951-2025
Riverside, CA
Paul Clayton Williams 1938-2025
Rancho Cucamonga, CA
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Riverside, CA
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Judy Wissert 1943-2025
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David G. Kelley 1928-2025
Hemet, CA
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Charles F. Carnett 1930-2025
Upland, CA
Alvin C. White 1932-2025
Torrance, CA
Wade Gluyas 1958-2025
Orange County, CA
Phyllis J. Minarcin 1945-2022
Orville, WA
Michael Joseph Ryan 1944-2025
Newport Beach, CA
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