"Sunny Self" - Carilion

Sunny Self-Talk: Seeing Through the Storm Anger, depression, anxiety. How much control do you have over your negative feelings? According to research, a lot more than you might think. In fact, there is always more than one way to view an event, and how you view any situation has a lot to do with how you then feel. Your views also influence your actions. Let's say on the day of one woman's wedding, it rains. She might think, "Oh, this is awful. My wedding is ruined." She might even think, "Bad things always happen to me!" But what if the woman thought, "The rain is a disappointment. Still, I'm going to make the best day out of this anyway." Which way would you view the situation? The dark cloud of negativity Negative thinking patterns can distort your view of what's really going on in your life. They can make you feel down, worried, or stressed-out, and they can provoke you into ill-chosen actions. Learning to take a positive view on life and on yourself has major rewards, not just in terms of happiness, but also in terms of health. Studies support this. Research has linked a positive outlook with a number of health benefits -- better coping by people with medical conditions ranging from AIDS to surgery, higher levels and better functioning of key immune cells in healthy people, fewer physical problems and a more active role in maintaining health by people who are trained to dispute their negative thoughts. Talk back for a rosier view For some people, the slightest slipup automatically leads to harsh, self-critical thoughts that distort reality. Many blow a sense of threat out of proportion, discount the positive, magnify the negative, or anticipate failure as the likely outcome. These kinds of thoughts can keep you from achieving high self-esteem, your goals, and good relationships. So how can you become a more positive person? The key is to learn to recognize what distorted thoughts you have. Ask yourself, "What evidence do I have for this?" "Is this really true?" and "Is this thought hurting me?" Then learn to substitute more realistic thoughts. It's a very simple idea really--pinpoint your distorted thoughts, dispute them, then replace them with realistic thoughts. Below are some examples of how to challenge some common negative thoughts.