A Guide to Self-Love
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Confidence: Embrace the Cringe. A Guide to Self-Love
A Guide to Self-Love and Confidence: Embrace the Cringe.
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Confidence: Embrace the Cringe.
Reese Salvoro
love yourself.
Here’s some revolutionary news: to have confidence and selflove you need to actually love yourself. When we love others, a part of love is not caring. Of course with discernment in the application of that principle but it is essential to lead with leniency in the way someone shows up as. And surprise: hating yourself, and criticizing or fearing the way you show up is NOT very “self-love”y and confident of you, is it?
To learn to love ourselves is to create a new outlook on life and on how you identify and see the role you play in humanity. So more revolutionary news: you have to be willing to change your behavior and conscious thoughts. Coinciding with your identity and figuring out who you are you need to be open and willing.
In this guide you will hear things you have heard before because we all know you know inside how to really love yourself. You need to be willing to learn, lose, fail, but also to forgive, and embrace. It’s time to wake up.
Life is not permanent. Time is of the essence. You must accept and be open to whatever the future may hold. You need to be open to the worst and the best, and you can’t shy away from showing up for yourself 100% of the time. The only person who can support you the way you know you need to is you. You can’t escape the agonizing fear of the unknown, so no matter how everything has gone, your future is unfortunately in your hands. What is meant for you will find you, so if you carry yourself in a way where you aren’t being your own #1 supporter… Well you won’t have much to be a fan of. Harsh reality. If your image of success was really meant for you, you should support yourself enough to have the confidence to grasp the opportunity even if it’s a miracle that fell in your lap. You don’t want to fumble your dream because you carry yourself in hesitancy and fear. You are responsible. Everyone dies and you’re only here for so long. I promise you everyone is worried about themselves.
“Don’t change yourself” and countering change . Self-love and caring is choosing what’s best for you, and limiting your expansions stunts your possibilities. What does that mean? It’s time for change and it’s inevitable. Even choosing stubbornness, you can’t avoid the lessons of life. End the cycles and expand.
bad news: you have to change yourself
Sacrifices: Give up the things that harm you. Enjoy your happiness, but you have to cut those unneccessary vices. Are you avoiding something and coping with one? Remember moderation is always an option!
Romance! Fall in love with progression, growth and change. Love how everchanging you are. Become the best version of you is a process, there is no final destination.
Transmuting: Let’s also make sure you’re transmuting that fear that you hold. Use it to drive your success. That dream you are afraid of? The only block between you and it is choice.
Commitments: You MUST constantly be commiting to something for yourself. Remember your #1 supporter? What have you always wanted to do or pursure, or those small tasks to take care of yourself and your space?
wait, who are you again?
Assuming you’re trying to love yourself and care for yourself, or gain confidence, you must have a relative semblance of what you don’t like about yourself. Ask yourself why you don’t? Does it not serve you, is it something you learned to not like? Are you afraid of something?
Though it takes time, you must learn to identify. The role you play amongst others, the energy and persona you want to create and put out into the world. You must also consider the ways you differentiate
Exercise:
Make a playlist of your favorite songs, that make you feel you strongly want to identify with! (Feel good!) 5
at different times as you will never feel the exact same way every single day. What are admirable qualities you see in other people. Emphasize what fills your heart and your identity will come through. You don’t need to explicitly define who you are. Let it shine.
Okay who are you forgiving, and what for? When somebody does you wrong, how have you responded? How do you feel now? What have you yourself done that you maybe haven’t forgiven yourself for? Maybe you blame yourself for something that isn’t your own fault? Well unfortunaely for you it’s time to suck it up and dig deep because the internal work and processing never ends.
External Forgiveness: Now this is something you have to learn to balance. How far do you hold consequence, grudge, and justice. Never disrespect yourself and disregard your feelings when forgiving others, but accept the past and learn how you
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Internal Forgiveness: It’s time to face the music. I am one-hundred percent sure that any of your selfconsciousness, social anxiety, and self-hatred is rooted in something from your younger years.
Maybe someone told you something that shifted the way you viewed yourself. Something led you to a choice that hurts to reflect on.
Allow yourself to process the hurt. That is step one. There is no letting go of anything you never fully held. Take the lessons about yourself and the world from that and use that to expand your being and your knowledge base to be kinder to yourself in the future. It’s time to show yourself love.
embrace the cringe
Danger!!!! You’re gonna hate hearing this one as it’s super meta by being relatively cringe advice itself, however it’s needed. Do not forget to embrace your cringe. Your identity is unique. Your niche interests, behaviors, mannerisms, and your humour, do not leave it in the dust. Do not redefine yourself to any standards besides the ones in your heart
There’s no
more time to waste by being your own harshest critic.
