I know God told me to send this to you. Here's the thing, dear soul sisters:
The family is a patriarchal institution, and the problem for young women, especially those outside the "female gender"—like lesbians or more independent women—is that family clips our wings and makes our lives difficult in the past, and many continue to suffer at the hands of abusive parents or people, all because these people generally abuse women for misogynistic reasons.
Systemic abuse against teenage girls or women always has one cause: misogyny and a person with an inferiority complex wanting to humiliate the woman so that the abuser feels better about themselves. This is a message for radfems or 4B allies.
Don't have family.
Don't romanticize your abusive parents. Be independent.
Don't forgive those who hurt you, because forgiveness is expected of women due to the "female socialization" they receive.
I want to continue
In life I was prevented from speaking I always stayed silent in the past And I know that many survivors like me, whether they are "empathetic" or "non-empathetic," I know how much they suffered and how our defense mechanisms against abuse are demonized and how our defenses against abuse are demonized.
And how our will to live is demonized
My name is Raissa Sousa.
I want you to remember my words: you should live alone and without depending on anyone.
You should distance yourself from men, never date them again, never have sex with them again.
You should live alone and learn to support yourself, reaping what you sow, living your dreams, not talking to them and not thinking about them.
One more thing
Please, if you ever download this zine, sister, I want you to take care of it and spread my messages here, please. This helps a lot. And don't talk to men on social media. Don't think about them.
Now, back to the topic, you have to stop romanticizing the family, which is an institution that demonizes young, free women or lesbians. Simply stop romanticizing abusive parents. And don't trivialize abuse, don't trivialize serious traumas. Most of them are in the lives of young, innocent women who were victims of the misogyny of their fathers, mothers, husbands, boyfriends, or girlfriends.