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Andrew Pacholyk Spiritual Journey through Life’s Seasons
Health & Wellness 48
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10 Health Tips for Staying Healthy through the Holidays. Childhood Trauma May Leave You Vulnerable to Abuse as An Adult
Spirituality 66
Are Relationships Spiritual Lessons for Us
OM Living 74
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How to Practice Ho'oponopono Feng Shui: Activating a FU Talisman How to Have a Successful Business Anywhere The Art of Living in the Present
Relationships
100 How Do We Fall Out of Love 104 Am I In A Relationship with A Narcissist?
Metaphysics 114
8 Steps to Remember Your Dreams 118 7 Things You Need to Know About Paranormal Phenomena 122 Create Your Own Sacred Space
Personal Growth 130 The Challenge of an Ethical Conscience 134 10 Original Ways to Spark Your Creativity
World Vision
140 Secret Techniques & Powerful, Transformational Energy Portals of the Egyptian Sephiroth
Books
146 Book Spotlight - Lead Us to A Place
Spiritual Journey through Life’s Seasons Andrew Pacholyk Interview by Victor Fuhrman
How can we best navigate the seasons of life and maintain balance, optimal health, spiritual growth, happiness, and peace? Andrew Pacholyk has been addressing this
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question during his lengthy healing and spiritual practice. Andrew Pacholyk is a licensed Acupuncturist and certified Herbalist in the State of New York, with a full-time practice in New York City. Andrew specializes in rejuvenating therapies based on the ancient Chinese medical approach to Endocrinology, Gynaecology and pain management. His knowledge, expertise and clinical training have offered him the ability to experience and continually learn about the body and its energy systems in health as well as in disease. Andrew is also an Educator. He has taught and certified more than 100,000 students worldwide in these specific healing techniques. www. peacefulmind.com is Andrew’s life work. Peacefulmind.com focuses on a place for you to come and relax and become a centered and more powerful human being. Andrew’s articles on spirituality, health, and wellness have been published all over the world in 30 languages. He is an ongoing contributor to such publications as Aroma Therapy Times, Health Magazine and, of course, our own OM Times
Magazine. Andrew is the author of the transformational Health and Wellness Course, the Crystal Astrologer Course and Chakracology Course. His other healing studies include the Color Elite, Color Therapy Course, the Complete Meditation and his most popular, the Crystal Light, Crystal Therapy Course. He joins me to discuss his most recent book “Lead Us to a Place – Your Spiritual Journey through Life’s Seasons.” Welcome, Andrew Pacholyk. Please tell us a little about your journey. ANDREW PACHOLYK: Yes, well, my first career was as a professional dancer for 20 years. I was fortunate enough to travel the world and further my dance career using my own. I was able to see some of the most amazing and sacred places on earth, and in each location, I learned more about the culture and local traditions and even more about myself. I was really able to express myself through movement and song and acting, and I Omtimes.com
Childhood Trauma May Leave You Vulnerable To Abuse As An Adult Marcia Sirota Author, speaker, coach, and MD
Being abused as a child convinces them that they’re “bad,” and they deserve the same mistreatment in their adult relationships. Spring has arrived, and thoughts turn to love. Those who are already in relationships Omtimes.com
are enjoying all the benefits of couple-hood. Some people, however, aren’t very happy at all. These are the ones who are in abusive relationships. The term, “abusive relationship” is thrown around a lot, but what does it really mean? In my experience as a therapist, it’s a relationship that causes more harm than good. It’s an interaction that’s damaging and undermining as opposed to loving, supportive and uplifting. An abusive relationship can be hurtful in any number of ways — physically, emotionally, sexually or financially. The abuser is often contemptuous, crazy-making, humiliating, intimidating and/or rejecting. This type of relationship makes the abused person feel diminished and humiliated. It makes them feel stupid, ugly, useless and undeserving of good things. The abuser may even make their victim feel incompetent and incapable of self-care or of holding down a job. Abusers are ultra-controlling
and hyper-critical. They may separate their partner from their support system and from anyone who could point out what the abuser is actually doing. They destroy their partner’s confidence and convince their partner that they can’t survive without them. Sometimes, they’ll threaten to attack their partner if they talk about leaving the relationship. They don’t mean to do this, but their trauma history sets them up for it. A romantic connection should make both partners happy. The relationship should bring out the best in both people and make them feel good about themselves. It should be predominantly enjoyable and enriching, and less frequently unpleasant or stressful. Abusive relationships have the opposite effect. So how might someone get into a relationship that becomes abusive? From my years of working as a psychotherapist, I’ve observed five reasons that come up often. These all have one thing in
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Are Relationships Spiritual Lessons for Us? By John Holland
Did you know that relationships are mirror images of your own life? Relationships are affected by what’s going on in your life.
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It’s all about how you feel and treat yourself, as well as how you react and respond to different situations and people that are around you. All relationships (whether they’re on an emotional, physical, mental, or spiritual level) are all part of the learning process and should nurture and enlighten your soul. No matter what category a relationship falls into, it acts as a teaching tool for you to understand the lessons that your soul needs to learn at that time in your life. While you may not necessarily understand why you enter into a new relationship at the time, it can help you to understand, change, or enhance your individual qualities. Do remember, that every relationship is an opportunity for soul growth. Different types of relationships have an uncanny way of showing you what you need to work on in your life. At times, they
can reveal your vulnerabilities and insecurities, or your need for attention, approval, and acceptance. Equally, they can identify where you may be stuck in a rut, or even where you need love, peace, healing, or joy in your life. Relationships of all kinds are really about you, even in the hardest situations. As I’ve said: “They’re meant to be mirrors for us, always reflecting back what we need to see. The question is: Do you want to look in this mirror, and be open to what you need to learn, or simply pretend it’s not there and pass it by?”
JOHN’S LESSON Please remember not all relationships have to be oneon-one with just one individual. They can be with a group, an organization, a pet, or even an incident or situation. It’s always worth taking time to journal the relationships you’ve had in the past, and
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How to practice Ho’oponopono By Humanity Healing
I believe we all have heard the story of a Hawaiian therapist who cured a whole ward of insane criminal patients without ever finding any of them or spending a moment in the same room?
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It’s not a joke. The therapist was Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. He analyzed each of the patients’ files and then healed using Ho’oponopono, himself. The surprising results seemed like a miracle. But, miracles do happen when you use Ho’oponopono. Anyone who has had the pleasure of attending one of his lectures and started practicing Ho’oponopono has undoubtedly achieved results that are often surprising. Do you need a miracle? What you may want to do is understand how this can work. How can you heal yourself and still restore others? How can you treat yourself? Why does it affect anything “out there”? The secret is that there is no such thing as “out there” - whatever happens to you in your mind and your energy field, everything you see, everything you hear,
every person you meet, you experience in your mind. You just think it’s “out there” and so takes away any responsibility. But that is not the truth, you are responsible for everything you think, and everything that comes to your attention. If you see the news, everything you hear on the news is your responsibility. This sounds heavy, but it means that you are also able to withdraw, clean, and through forgiveness, change. Ho’oponopono is a practice that aggregate 4 different attitudes to present useful results: Remorse, forgiveness, gratitude, and love. These 4 attitudes are forces that together can gather incredible power in changing our lives. Ho’oponopono is an exercise that you can do it yourself. You do not need anyone to be there, you do not need anyone to listen to you, all you need is your intention.
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Feng Shui:
Activating a FU Talisman By Kartar Diamond
A talisman is an object that has been infused with personal and divine energy to fulfill a stated purpose. The Chinese or Taoist type of talisman is
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called a “fu” (pronounced like foo) and is often an inscription on consecrated paper. In Western occult practices, they are called sigils. Through a variety of ritualistic and meditative practices, the FU is charged with intent and then transferred from the person who crafted it to the designated beneficiary. You can call it a “magic spell” or a lucky charm, but in any case, there is a transcendental component to its power. If everything has meaning and impact, then words and symbols most definitely have an influence. This influence may take flight from one psyche to the other, or it may also manifest as a real transmission of energy via other dimensional planes. These are techniques to manipulate time and space in a way that may be regarded as superstitious by some or as an advanced technology by others. The Purpose in Crafting a Fu
A special bond is created between the person who crafts and charges the FU object and the person who is the beneficiary of its intent. Learning how to create these talismans takes some training. Within many cultures and spiritual paths, the rituals or incantations are intended to improve a person’s fate, speed up an outcome, or have the outcome of an event be more in the recipient’s favor. An example would be a FU that is crafted to help the recipient become victorious over some problem that has been plaguing them, such as a legal battle, health issues, struggles with finances, or other human conditions. How A FU Talisman Is Made As if taken from a metaphysical recipe Book of Potions, the FU is created using meaningful symbols, invocations, and supplications to higher dimensional beings, ruling aspects of nature and cosmological forces. Many
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How to have a Successful Business Anywhere
Whether in Iceland or Korea, at the seashore or in the desert, inside a fancy restaurant or walking down a littered alleyway, it’s your definitions of the place you’re
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in that dictates what benefits and possibilities you can receive there. In any of those locations you could meet someone inspirational, find a valuable item, or be struck with an incredible business idea, but if you’ve already concluded what’s possible, you’ll miss the gift. How much have you determined what your business needs and what it should look like based on your location? All the definitions you have regarding anywhere you do business keeps you from recognizing the possibilities available to you. All of the considerations you have about where, who, when, and ‘how much’ are limitations that prohibit you from being as successful as you can be. Creating a thriving business requires continuously asking questions. Instead of relying on the definitions from a particular culture, trend, or location, asking what is available – no matter where
you are or what you’re up to – gives you access to possibilities that you wouldn’t otherwise be aware of. Here are a few questions you can start asking to go beyond definitions and to create a life and business beyond limits: What else is available here that I haven’t yet acknowledged? Recognize that every environment has far more possibilities that may be readily obvious. This allows much more to contribute to you in unexpected ways. You have to be willing to ask this question without immediately going back to conclusions about an answer. Knowing what’s genuinely available requires asking from a place of total openness to what can show up. If you’ve lived in a particular place or had your business for some time, there are countless reference points for how things usually work. Instead of relying on trends
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The Art of Living in the Present
After my husband passed, a whirl of past and future danced in my mind. The sad movie of every memory we shared played endlessly: there he was on the night we met, the wildly handsome young man with a heavy mustache. Then we were waltzing on the dance floor of the restaurant he owned, stepping into our new home, toasting across the dinner table, Omtimes.com
and cradling our baby daughter. My heart was anywhere but in the present, oscillating between painful “what ifs” and still more painful “if onlys.” Doubt weighed down the hours. With time I realized that I had to release my sadness and reclaim my joy, and that I could do this only by detaching from what happened or might happen and
diving into what was happening then and there. Being in tune with time is an art, a true skill. As with anything else, it requires self-mastery. But its rewards are invaluable: peace of mind and greater understanding. After all, you exist in this very moment, not one hour ago or in two weeks from now. If you’re having trouble remaining in the present, take these seven actions to help return you to right now: Don’t try to escape the moment. Your present may involve much struggle and confusion, but trying to evade the situation won’t help you resolve it. Accept what’s happening with a calm mind and courageous heart. “Fighting the tide” will cause you to sink. Relinquish your resistance and fear, as these emotions only prolong your problems. You will be surprised at how powerful you’ll prove to be against the things that scare you the most. Your obligation to be present holds true through both good and bad, so stand tall and face each moment. Embrace your pain. It’s okay to feel pain; it’s as much a part of life as every other emotion. Many people are afraid to
hurt because they forget that suffering actually makes them stronger. Let your pain come and go, allowing it to run its course with no hesitation. Cry if you’re upset. Yell and beat a pillow if you’re angry. Pain is your most powerful emotion, in fact, since it strikes more deeply than other feelings. Pain fortifies you, each time with a new coat of endurance. Harness its full force by utilizing the creativity, ingenuity, and resourcefulness that come with feeling hurt. After pain subsides, resilience resurfaces. Ground yourself. Refocus on the present when you get carried away by yesterday’s sorrows or tomorrow’s anxieties. Sit or stand with your feet planted firmly into the ground and clear your mind. If possible, stand outside barefoot and allow the energy from the earth to rise through you. Place your hands on something (a table, wall, tree, etc.). Concentrate on how that object feels, its surface, size, and texture. Run your palms across it. Inhale deeply and notice what you smell in the air: is it plants, food, a candle? What do you hear: the TV, birds chirping, kids playing? What do you taste Omtimes.com
How do we fall out of Love? The 3 more common reason this happens. By Ascending Hearts Dating
We all know what love is, the phases it goes through, and what it takes to keep it alive. But ... what happens to the stage of “dis-passion�?
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Yes, falling out of love or “dis-passion� also happens. We fall in love, but we can become disenchanted. The question is why and how it happens. Can we avoid it? Or are we always going to be unhappy over time? The Physical and mental attraction When we fall in love with someone, we are attracted to that person. So why do we suddenly cease to be attracted to them? Do we get tired of our partner? Attraction is one of the earliest stages of passion that can diminish over time. The nervousness we felt when we received a call, for example, was left behind, when the person invited us to go somewhere, or when they wanted to surprise us, too. Our body has changed. We are no longer the same. The routine began to take effect. 1. The power of routine Monotony tends to take over when a relationship is not
cultivated in its many different stages. Where is that which surprised us before? For some, the routine kills the spontaneity. Sometimes we tend to diminish the physical contact with our partners and begin to repress public affection demonstrations, measuring even the tender and loving words. Boredom and routine can tire a loving connection. 2. Destructive Criticism Have you asked yourself why at the beginning of your relationship everything was perfect and now is not more? How, suddenly, all these defects resolved to appear? Were we blind? This is also one of the phases of love when we see the best qualities. We raised them at first, but when we can see them as they are, they no longer please us. We began to get tired of those behaviors we once tolerated, and we no longer care to say everything we think to our partner without considering whether we are
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HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A NARCISSIST? A narcissist is someone with an extreme sense of entitlement, blames you for their problems, is manipulative and has no empathy. Narcissistic abuse may be mental, physical, financial, spiritual or sexual. If you have been through an abusive relationship with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you will know that no one understands what you are going through unless they have personally experienced it. In this excerpt from her book, You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse (Watkins November, 2018), Melanie Tonia Evans describes the five ways you will know you are in a narcissistic relationship‌ Omtimes.com
Five Major Signs of Narcissism Having worked with thousands of people around the world, I have found that, irrespective of age, race, gender, race, religion, sexual preference or who the narcissist is (such as a spouse, lover, family member, friend, colleague or boss), narcissism is narcissism. If you are having any doubts about whether or not you are involved with someone with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), take a look at the following: 1. Emotional insecurity Despite the commonly held belief that ‘narcissists are full of themselves’, the experience of living with a narcissist shows us a completely different reality once their mask has started to crack. Narcissists are hugely insecure and react on a hair-trigger to things that average adults simply don’t get upset about. Their over-sensitivity is extreme. When narcissists erupt into a narcissistic rage, their anger is a reaction to a perceived threat to the narcissist’s fragile self-esteem or self-worth. This type of threat is known as
‘narcissistic injury’. Perhaps you spoke appreciatively about a colleague – and all of a sudden, the narcissist is ripping your head off for being disloyal, or even accuses you of having an affair? If the narcissist doesn’t receive enough attention in a group setting, he or she may stir up trouble or exit the scene, only to chastise you later and degrade you and anyone else perceived to have stolen the limelight. This insecurity may be so extreme that it provokes incredible jealousy and envy that can’t be assuaged. It doesn’t matter who the narcissist is in your own life – you will painfully experience their insecurities in the form of accusations directed at you. Taking it out on you is just something that narcissists do. 2. An extreme sense of entitlement If you share your life with a narcissist, you will quickly discover they have an unreasonable sense of entitlement – it truly is all about them – and very poor peripheral vision when it
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8 Steps to Remember Your Dreams By Humanity Healing
You may even say no, but the fact is that everyone dreams. Also if you cannot remember, they happen every night - it’s up to you to practice if you
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want to keep them fresh in your memory. Do you Want to know how to remember dreams? Write down these valuable tips and put this plan into practice. HOW TO REMEMBER DREAMS? STEP BY STEP While some people are able to remember dreams in rich detail, others have no idea how to remember them. The fact is that several factors can affect the memory blocking it or limiting it. Therefore it is necessary to put into practice some techniques to develop it. Dreams are manifestations of the soul, they are capable of guiding, of warning or taming the dreamer’s feelings. Through them, one will have access to information that one’s conscious mind will not normally let him access. Consequently, understanding their importance is fundamental to making good use of the following steps,
allowing one to remember and interpret each of these signals correctly. 1. ACCEPT YOUR DREAMS It may seem absurd, but many of the people who cannot remember their dreams end up blocking those memories unconsciously. This happens when you are afraid of waking up under the lousy feeling of a nightmare, or a dream that brings up unwanted memories, or even having a restless night and cannot relax. In the great majority of cases, the lack of recollection is reversible, and for this, it is necessary to relax and accept the dreams, as well as the respective meanings that come with them. 2. RELAX AND KEEP FOCUS It is important to prepare yourself before going to bed. The second step is to learn how to relax and think about what you would like to dream about. Now tell yourself
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The Challenge of an Ethical Conscience By Cathedral of the Soul
The definition of Ethics of Care is one that is a moral construct that defends, maintains and preserves the integrity of Life. It is a concept that involves an inclusive outlook and a compassionate attitude
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towards the whole web of Life and the environment. We must fight against the spirit of unconscious cruelty with which we treat the animals. Animals suffer as much as we do. True humanity does not allow us to impose such sufferings on them. We must make the whole world recognize it. Until we extend our circle of compassion to all living things, humanity will not find peace. –Albert Schweitzer First, one can mention the importance of compassion to establish a truthful Ethical Conscience. Justly, compassion is based on a very precise awareness of our relevance to the totality of the world. Far from being identified with a mere feeling of pity or sympathy, compassion conveys the sincere desire to remedy all forms of suffering that erode humanity and all the creation. As the Dalai Lama points out, compassion relates to the expanding movement of love, which seeks, above all, the well-being of others. This feeling is stronger than self-
love and finds no satisfaction while it can identify the presence of suffering. Compassion is an essential element present in various religious traditions. Compassion is known as Karuna in Buddhism, (essential care for the world, empathy); it is ahimsa in Hinduism (Do no hurt); it is Wu-Wei in Taoism (not interfering in the dynamics of nature); it is Rahamin in Jew-Christianity (compassion in the form of Mercy), It is Rahman, and Rahin, (mercy that leaves nothing outside itself, as a mother that guards and shelter their young). Our time lacks an “ethic of compassion.� We cannot understand how we human beings can remain indifferent while witnessing such a disturbing historical trend we are currently facing; where living conditions and violence prevent the affirmation of the dignity of human beings. The challenge of openness to the question of meaning Just as white light consists of colored rays, so reverence Omtimes.com
10 Original Ways to Spark Your Creativity
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brain/frontal lobe function) also emerges from our own unique knowledge and how we weave it together! 1. Often, in any situation, we must take the quiet time to be with ourselves to observe and define an idea. What is it I want to create? Get specific. Define your goal. Write it down. Give it parameters. Start with one image, idea, or objective. What am I going to do to get from point A to point B? Allow the answers to come to you in your quiet time. 2. Carry a notebook or use an app on your phone. Have it with you to jot down a thought or phrase that comes to mind. Creativity can happen at any time. So, when the moment strikes, you have the opportunity to record the thought or creative genius.
3. Brainstorming: is a great technique used in generating creative ideas. Very effective when done in small groups, it’s a stimulating way to get fresh ideas from different minds. Start by suggesting a topic or goal. “What healing product is needed in our spa?” “Which technique should we market for the holidays?” This is the foundation from which you and your group will start building ideas. With one suggestion, start building on top of that. 4. Association with Words: These are words or statements that can be said or written in order to stimulate the mind into digging deeper into our well of knowledge. Associating words in a brainstorm session can open up a whole new path. This method takes a list of words and then builds an association
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Secret Techniques & Powerful, Transformational Energy-Portals of the Egyptian Sephiroth
Tree-of-Life Representation
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The secrets of the sacred Treeof-Life in the Kabbalah tradition originate from deep within the Ancient Egyptian Temple Traditions. Both traditions regard each circle in the Tree-of-Life Blueprint (see the above figure), called a Sephiroth, as a portal of higher dimensional energy. Recall that Moses, a Hebrew, was raised as a Pharaoh’s son, giving him access to all the deepest secrets of powerful Egypt. The most important secrets of Egypt (pyramid building, mummification) were not written down (the more precious the secret, the greater the silence). Yet, the oral tradition of the Hebrews was written down…. in the Kabballah. The prize secret of the Hebrews was the Tree of Life and the 10 Sephiroth, originating from ancient Egypt. In an analogy, think of Moses’s
god, YWHY, as one clear quartz prism. Light shining through spreads into rainbow colors (or the Sephiroth). The powerful pharaohs of Egypt believed that their Gods guarded and embodied these Gateways of Powerful Uplifting Energies: the Sephiroth. The combined power of all of the Egyptian gods and temples combines into a matric of supreme power… the Tree of Life and it’s Sephiroth. There are ten portals in the Treeof-Life diagram. Legends tell that God, or All That Is, descended into the matter to experience life at the human level. Beginning at the highest circle (above) we begin with the essence of God. As we move down the diagram we successively step down and compartmentalize energies; each step down becoming denser- a progressively smaller - more limited - pocket of energy. “As above, so below.” Humans experience a weak shadow of this divine energy. Humans experience thumbprints of this consciousness but in a less powerful form. The energies in duality are malleable (often negative) … and create denser, slower versions of the Holographic, Higher Dimensional Energies. This limitation enables Omtimes.com
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