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Kim Russo - Your Soul Purpose By Victor Fuhrman
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Crystal Meditation for Addiction
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Get To Know This Superfood Quenepa Fruit
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By Dr. Paul Haider
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Fractal of Divine Fire
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What Do People Do on the Other Side
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The Recovery Spirituality
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Transcendental Meditation (TM) Reduces Post-Traumatic
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Listening to the Call of Life
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11 Golden Relationship Rules
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Turn Heated Exchanges Into Healing Turning Points
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Being Practical and Present as an Intuitive
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God - The Love Guiding Us To Be Truly Loving
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The Best that Can Happen
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Embracing Opportunities to Let Go, Sooner Than Later
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Creating the State of Grace on Social Media
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Kim Russo Your Soul Purpose Interview by Victor Fuhrman
There are questions as old as the first human developed the ability to ask them. “Why are we here on this earth?” “Does life have significance and meaning?” “Are there lessons we’ve come to learn?” “Is there a higher purpose for all of us to aspire to?” Answering
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these questions is difficult for most of us but my guest this week on Destination Unlimited, world-famous psychic medium Kim Russo, possesses a unique gift that allows her to see what many of us cannot. Kim Russo, known around the world as “The Happy Medium,” starred on Lifetime Movie Network’s popular show, The Haunting Of..., and speaks annually at hundreds of presentations across the United States. In her first book, The Happy Medium, she shared how at a very young age, she realized that she could communicate with the dead and offered lessons from her experience. In her brand-new book, Your Soul Purpose—How to Access the Light Within, she guides us to embrace love, let go of fear and discover the spiritual tools we already possess to find the deeper meaning of our existence and fulfill our destiny. Victor Fuhrman: So, Kim, let’s begin by sharing with our readers your story. When
did you first realize that you could communicate with the dead, and what was that first experience? Kim Russo: It’s a two-fold answer, but technically they started answering me when I was in my late 20s. When you said communicate when I was a child, I would see spirits standing at the foot of my bed nightly, and the difference back then to now is they were staring through me. They never had any words to say. They never had any facial expressions. Knowing what I know now as an adult, I believe they were from the Depression-era. They were very sad-looking. I think back now, I can see exactly how they were, and they wouldn’t smile. They wouldn’t communicate. They would stare at me while I was going to sleep. So, years later, after an uncle of mine passed away, and after my third child was born, they started talking to me in my mind’s eye, I thought I was losing my mind. I heard Omtimes.com
Addictions are the excess use and dependency of/on anything including food, sex, alcohol, smoking, caffeine, sugar, shopping, chocolate, drug. Why do we become addicted? Many addictions have their roots in painful childhood experiences. According to a study undertaken by the National Academy of Sciences, children are more likely to end up addicted to something
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if they are physically abused, humiliated, or lied to, and if their parents are themselves substance abusers. Addictions can be mild or serious. When addiction becomes severe, it is more important than social acceptance, family, friends, and even life itself. Addictions tend to begin slowly and grow insidiously. The biggest problem in treating addiction recognizes the problem. Since there is no simple definition, the point where casual use becomes abuse is vague. This practice is intended for most people as an ADJUNCT to getting *professional* or other supportive help from their doctors, substance abuse counselors, therapists, sponsors, family, and friends. Always get professional help when trying to quit an alcohol/drug habit. It’s highly recommended if you need to diet or quit smoking seriously. There is an emotional aspect to every illness. Often, it is the emotional thoughts or “excess emotions” that will lead to illness. The following therapy is utilized for calming the mind, help with
stress and focuses on our mental powers over any situation. The ability to balance your emotional, mental, physical and spiritual selves are exceptional tools on your healing journey. The power of your mind and your belief system has everything to do with the condition, the speed and the way that you heal. • Our Belief System is one of the major factors that can get us through situations or can cause our life to crumble around us! I do believe that there is much innate goodness and balancing our minds do subconsciously to get us through hard times. The other portion of this is how we “program” ourselves to deal with any given situation. • Our self-confidence and self-love are often the key to opening and strengthening this portion of our thoughts which in turn emanates from ourselves! • Energy follows thought. Program thought to be positive, and your energy will reflect it! • appreciating what we DO have as opposed to what we would like to have, sometimes Omtimes.com
Fractal of Divine Fire Lo ve Is a Fire By William Keepin
“Whoever stands near me stands near the Fire,” declares Jesus in the Gospel of Thomas. The Qur’an concurs, “Blessed is the person near this Fire, and those around it” (Q 27:8). Similarly in Hinduism, “The journey to the Atman … begins
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and ends in fire.” Divine love is a blazing fire, and it burns alike in East or West. “God is a consuming fire” (Heb. 12:29), and the yearning for God, truth, or love is itself this same fire burning in the heart. The mystical journey is a process that transforms the human disciple into this living fire of love. “One who knows the Fire knows all that is, the secret of all being.... All the worlds are but the declension of Fire: beyond it there is Nothing.” To unite with the fire of love, one must become this fire, on its terms. This is the secret fire of divine love, without which no true spiritual transformation can take place. Fractal of Divine Fire The fire of divine love burns on every level of existence— from the heart of the sun, to the human heart, to each tiny cell in the human body, to the subatomic particles and the core of every star across all galaxies. It is a grand fractal fire of love. Although physics distinguishes between
chemical fire and nuclear fire, the fundamental forces of fire—the strong and weak nuclear interactions, and the electromagnetic interaction— are believed to be a single unified force. Love is a transforming fire. Like all fires, it ignites, incinerates, purifies, and shines with brilliant light and warmth. There is no force in the cosmos as powerful as love, and nothing propels spiritual evolution as swiftly as love. Ultimately the fire of love burns away everything that is not love. “Set your life on fire,” proclaims Rumi, and “seek those who fan its flames.” Why? Because in the absence of divine fire, no transformation can take place. There is a crucial need for disciplined spiritual practice that kindles the fire of divine love, and for the all-important sincerity and depth of aspiration that fuels the flames of divine love in the heart. With diligent practice, total
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The Recovery Spirituality
You are about to enter the realm described as a “spiritual kindergarten� by Bill W. in As Bill Sees It. The Spiritual Adrenaline approach to spirituality is driven by self-care, learning to love and respect
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yourself, and the process of putting your needs and desires over those of others. Selfcare and the health of your body, mind, and spirit are the foundation of your spiritual program. You should ideally have a healthy body and mind as you work to connect with your Higher Power on a spiritual level. Once you’ve developed your self-care program, you then focus on learning to slow down your mind to avoid impulsiveness and retake control. It teaches you to live in serenity rather than in chaos. In her book The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for Codependents, Melanie Beattie defines self-care as “not, as some may think, a spin-off of the ‘me generation.’ It isn’t selfindulgence. It isn’t selfishness. Self-care means learning to love the person we’re responsible for taking care of—ourselves.” Without loving ourselves, it’s not possible to love and care for others within appropriate boundaries.
Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and Tired Remember HALT, the AA acronym for things to avoid, which stands for hungry, angry, lonely, and tired? When you are any one of these things, it is much easier for you to get annoyed, act out, or say or do something you later regret. More than that, each puts you at risk for relapse. All of these are states of being that in one manner or another deprive your body and mind of something you require. It’s a continuation of the cycle of taking your body, mind, and spirit for granted; it’s a type of self-abuse. Your goal is to shift from a lifestyle of selfabuse to a life of self-care.
Hungry When you are hungry, you deprive your body of the nutrients needed to continue to perform basic life-sustaining functions. The organ most impacted by a lack of nutrition is the brain. The brain requires both water and nutrients, most notably carbohydrates, to
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Transcendental Meditation (TM) Can Reduce Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Depression
Psychological Reports Study: Transcendental Meditation (TM) Significantly Reduces PostTraumatic Stress Disorder and Depression in Students Before practicing Transcendental Meditation (TM), it was mayhem at our school. A lot of fights were going on, basically every day. People were not friendly, they were mean. When I learned it I noticed it was different, because TM is not just closing your eyes, it is deeper than that. It makes you feel better, makes you more energized and it takes away all your stress. It really, really helps. – 7th grade student I used to be really fidgety, I used to move a lot, couldn’t stay in Omtimes.com
my seat for very long. Now after meditating I can sit down for a whole class without standing up. Before practicing TM, it was hard for me to concentrate; after practicing TM, I could concentrate very well. – 7th grade student These children live in communities and go to schools where violence threatens them and puts them at risk for accumulating high levels of stress and even suffering post-traumatic stress disorder. Post-traumatic stress disorder, PTSD, a chronic and debilitating condition, arises from lifethreatening and deeply traumatic events: war, sexual abuse, violence and natural disasters. Symptoms
include nightmares, flashbacks, anxiety, fear, hyper-vigilance, emotional numbness, anger, and violent behavior, often leading to the abuse of drugs and alcohol. PTSD is a chronic, debilitating condition that may last a lifetime if not treated effectively. PTSD is pandemic across Africa and a major problem in many areas of the world. Dr. Eugene Allers, past-president of the South African Society of Psychiatrists, estimates that as many as 25% of the population in South Africa suffer from PTSD. Research indicates that a significant number of children and adolescents in South Africa are exposed to high levels of traumatic experience, often witnessing or experiencing violence of a criminal or domestic nature. (Ensink, Robertson, Zissis & Leger, 1997; Pelzer, 1999; Seedat, van Nood, Vythilingum, Stein & Kaminer, 2000; Suliman, Kaminer, Seedat & Stein, 2005). In the United States, the National Institute of Mental Health estimates that around 7% of Americans have or have had PTSD. However, at-risk groups like soldiers, first responders, abused women, have much higher levels of PTSD, as do people living in
poor and violent communities. Therapies utilized for facilitating recovery from PTSD include prolonged exposure, pharmaceuticals, and cognitive behavioral therapy. Also, in current use are patient education, counseling, eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR). Transcendental Meditation (TM) effective in treating PTSD On February 19, Psychological Reports published on-line a research study showing that Transcendental Meditation (TM) is also effective in the treatment of PTSD. TM may be used by itself or in conjunction with psychotherapy, pharmaceuticals, and other PTSD reduction therapies.
Maharishi Institute students practicing Transcendental Meditation
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11 G o lde n Rela ti o ns hip Ru le s
As a psychologist and relationship counselor for over 25 years, I speak from experience when I say that love is an ocean of infinite depths: people are complex, riddled with flaws and hidden desires, seeking to be accepted and understood. Different partners draw different emotions out of us—some we didn’t even know we had—and Omtimes.com
keeping up a happy relationship can become tedious. Yet human beings also possess an unyielding need to love and be loved. Some people need help releasing this love they hoard within. Our first goal in a relationship should be to help our partner become his best and most authentic self. When this happens, love is exchanged without limits.
Being in a committed relationship is a daily choice: every day, you and your partner choose to act in ways that either help or hinder your mutual progress. What I see happening very often is that people continue to take the same actions in their relationship, making the same mistakes yet expecting different results. The most effective step you can take towards conquering the challenges in your relationship is to change your mindset: choosing to see things in a different perspective can shift the energy of a situation entirely. This is not to say that you’ll have to let your partner be right all the time or give up what’s fair to you, but that you’ll have to try new approaches to dealing with old problems. Here are 11 golden rules aimed at resolving conflict and improving the quality of your relationship: Evolution, not change. You should ask yourself this question regularly: Is my relationship evolving or only changing? People are constantly changing, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re evolving. A relationship should not only shift, but shift positively over time as both partners work to resolve
outstanding issues. Understand how you and your loved are transforming both in personal and mutual ways. In the case of physical change, make it known to your partner that you notice his new look; always compliment a different hairstyle, weight loss, a fresh wardrobe, etc. Remain well ahead of changes by anticipating the next phase of your relationship and strategizing how you’ll pass through it, side by side. If this is not happening, it’s time to evaluate at what point progress became stagnant. Adventure, not routine. The daily grind becomes boring to say the least. Doing the same things over and over again can quickly kill the spirit of any relationship. Break out of routine as often as you can. Travel with your partner, even if it’s a road trip or weekend getaway. Try new restaurants and take up new hobbies. Even if it’s something that’s out of your comfort zone, find joy in the fact that you’re engaging in a fun activity with your other half. This principle holds true in the bedroom, too. Many men and women find that their sex drive dwindles after years of being with the same person. Adrenaline and Omtimes.com
Turn Heated Exchanges Into Healing Turning Points By Guy Finley
Regardless of our certainty as to whether we or our partner starts or rekindles a quarrel, the real cause of the continuing conflict between us lies elsewhere. Which is why, as strange as the
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following insight may seem at first, the importance of working to see the truth of it simply can’t be overstated: Despite any appearance to the contrary, it’s not our partner, nor is it we who strikes the first blow in any dispute: it’s pain that picks the fight. No doubt this last idea challenges most of our familiar notions, especially when we’re sure we’ve been wronged and feel that it’s our right to seek whatever “justice” we might. But, putting all this aside for a moment, as we quietly study the secret cause of our struggles rather than being caught up in them, we should also be able to see, and agree to the following: Just as it’s clear that we’d never hurt the one we love were it not for some pain pushing us to do so, the same holds true for our partner. So much depends on our being able to remember what our heart already knows is true:
if love is that timeless divine force that unites and heals all that lives and breathes, then how can it ever be that which divides us? It can’t; it’s never love that fights. Never. With this last thought in mind, here are three main ideas to consider. #1: Let’s say we have a “bone to pick” with our partner. This should be easy enough to imagine! Is this because we feel good about them in that moment? Or, is it more likely that there’s a pressure and a pain in us that “knows “who’s to blame for it, and what they must do to make things right? The answer to this question is pretty obvious, which leads us directly to the insight that follows. #2: This particular pain that we feel in these moments doesn’t exist without our partner being there – before us – either in body or in our mind. The same holds true for whatever pain our partner may experience in our presence; it doesn’t exist
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LIVING INTUITIVELY
Being Practical and Present as Intuitive by Robyn M Fritz
To develop our innate intuitive and healing abilities we need to be as practical and present as we are in our daily lives. It helps by
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surrounding ourselves with things that remind us that we are making these abilities, or skillsets, part of our lives. Most of us want to learn to use our innate intuitive and healing abilities, but we find it hard to incorporate them into our busy lives. The bad news is that we have to practice these abilities, or skillsets, before they become routine, just like any useful habit or ability. After all, we learn to drive a car by driving, not by gawking. The good news is that it’s easier than we think, especially if we make these abilities real and present in our daily lives. Finding Concrete Ways to Be Intuitive
We make them practical and concrete by surrounding ourselves with physical reminders that we are part of a living, aware universe in which these abilities are natural, real, and useful. These reminders assure us
that we can plug into these abilities and become our best selves while reminding us that we are all valuable and necessary to the world. We can find these reminders by simply walking our neighborhoods, looking online, or examining books and objects that intrigue and inspire us. As we evaluate our response to them, we choose what most attracts us; these things help us keep healthy energy flowing around us. For example, as you walk by the ocean, you breathe in the clearing energy of sea salt. As you roam the neighborhood, you may see a flower and enjoy its fragrance, or a gnarly tree that intrigues you. As you shop, you may find rocks, crystals, statues, or other objects that attract and inspire you — seeing the pattern? As you find things that deepen your connection to the world, you connect more deeply to yourself, in particular to the
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God
The Love Guiding Us To Be Truly Loving
The best of times, the greatest of human experiences, and the best version of ourselves are happening when we are truly loving. When we are manifesting love for
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ourselves and others that is connective, unconditional, unburdened, and unlimited. Unfortunately, all of this becomes unavailable to us when our ego leads us into believing we are the source of our love—rather than God. It is when we have lost touch with our Divinity and the Love—God Is. The greatest of human experiences are those times when we are truly loving. Times when we are manifesting a connective, unconditional, unburdened, and unlimited love with whatever we are doing and whomever we are doing it with or for. A loving embrace of life is happening when we are caring for our children and loved ones, tending a garden, writing inspiring music or stories, teaching skills that lead to a better life for others, putting ourselves in harm’s way to protect others, and a million other ways we can be truly loving. The reservoir of Love serving as the source of this loving comes from within,
but it is not of our making, as much as we may want to think or believe that. It is the Love—God Is, which we can choose to manifest in any way possible as it has no boundaries that can be placed upon it. It is the foundation for what become the loving thoughts, words, feelings, and actions we use to express this Love. This Love is connective because there can be no walls or barriers that stand in the way of its connection to ourselves or others. However, we can create walls made from ego illusions such as separation, unworthiness, and inequality that make it appear as though this Love is absent or beyond our reach. This Love is unconditional as there are no reasons for which it can be offered to some and not others. Differences of race, religion, gender, ethnicity, sexual orientation, political affiliation, income level, intellectual capability, emotional stability, physical ability, and species have no
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The Best that Can Happen
My coaching client Andrea has struggled with issues of lack and poor self-worth for a lot of her life. Although she is smart, spiritual, and attractive, she has regularly feared that she would become impoverished and bereft.
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She told me, “Whenever I drive under a bridge, I check it out to see where I would set up cardboard boxes for myself and my kids to live in, in case we lose it all.” I asked Andrea if she was in danger of losing it all, and she firmly answered, “No.” This dear woman has always been provided for, and even as a single mom she has manifested various means of support. But the fear of not enough has siphoned off her happiness. In coaching we underscored the fact that Andrea has always had enough for herself and her children, and there is no reason that would change. But fear is not based on reason. It is based on illusions. I see the same tailspin fantasy in many clients, as well as myself. When faced with a challenge, our mind goes to the worst thing that could happen, and we start preparing for it. When I ask clients who face a difficult situation, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?”
they usually have a wellprepared list of possible dark outcomes. When I ask, “What’s the best thing that could happen?” they usually take a while to think of an answer. They are so practiced in pessimism that optimism hasn’t crossed their mind. When we start to explore positive outcomes, the client’s demeanor changes radically, he gets excited about opportunities, and he begins to activate them by stepping in healthy, productive directions. It’s not just challenges that stimulate fear. So does success. The ego will take every opportunity to wedge itself into our experience and turn blessings into problems. When something wonderful happens, we may start to think about what could go wrong. United Airlines once sent me an unexpected gift of a free round-trip flight anywhere. I went to my travel agent and asked him if the award was for real. After reading the terms of the award, he affirmed, “Sure, you can use
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Embracing Opportunities to Let Go, Sooner Than Later Defining opportunities to let go. Embracing and receiving the moments in life when we are faced with the choice to breathe, connect, and let go or to constrict our breathing, disconnect and hold back. Embracing those moments
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that are calling us to let go and making more empowered choices, sooner than later. Opportunities to let go are the moments in life when we are faced with the choice to breathe, connect and let go or to constrict our breathing, disconnect and hold back. Our lives are filled with opportunities to let go, revealing themselves in different forms, times and places. Some manifest as leaky roofs, overdrawn bank accounts, politics, environmental issues, and disagreements. Some come in moments of feeling shame, blame or guilt. They inspire, motivate, gladden, sadden, madden and scare us when the choices we make can change our lives. What if we respond to these opportunities as gifts that we are being given? Gifts that can expand, challenge and empower us on the journey to fulfilling our dreams. Living in a culture that promotes lying, trying, control and over-riding our bodies often leaves us
feeling powerless to have the experiences we want. Lying to ourselves can feel like the easiest road to success until we find ourselves in a crisis where our circumstances force us to let go. What if we get honest about what we are doing and embrace those moments that are calling us to connect and be present? What if we learn how to let go into making life-affirming choices sooner than later? Things we can do to receive our opportunities to let go. Breathe. Relax and give ourselves the air we need to be fully alive. Ask the questions: What is the nature of experiencing the power of letting go? What is the nature of receiving the opportunities in the most loving, life-enhancing and empowering ways? Support and trust ourselves to stay connected with our source, and it’s greater intelligence. Cultivate the ability to listen and respond to our inner guidance. Stay connected by meditating,
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Creating the State of Grace on Social Media by Katie Brockhurst
Social Media continues to get more and more of a bad reputation. Surveys confirm the thought that most of us are addicted to our phones. As well, social media can negatively impact our well-being and mental
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health. Social media platforms are finally coming under scrutiny for they have in the issue. By releasing new tools, they are beginning to take responsibility for their monitoring of how we spend our time online.
Many of us have admitted that social media leads to feeling anxious, overwhelmed and even burnt out. Some feel that they must be active in social media for their business and careers and struggle with not wanting to be online all the time. Is it possible to create a state of grace and bring more balance to our lives and how we use social media? The answer is yes. By using a strategy of love, we can find the joy and simplicity that we were meant to experience.
Using a Strategy of Love The media and the digitally and socially connected communities can have a beneficial impact on our lives when it is experienced with a more conscious relationship in mind. It is possible to work positively with the aspects of social media that are available to us. Being aware and alert to the Social Media Vortex of Doom, we can participate in online communities that would otherwise be stressful and harmful to our well-being. There are countless examples
of social media connecting the right person to the right time, and it always comes from having created a space for grace and authenticity in the content, conversations, and activity. It means having come from a place of love. When a strategy of love and grace is present in our social media interactions, there isn’t any room for the more negative aspect that would otherwise be available. It is still possible to get caught up in the Social Media Ego. The vortex that likes, followers, clicks, and comments feed the addictive behavior some of us have befallen. It is the ego that is caught up on what everybody else is experiencing for fear of missing out. It ’s the shouty, show-off, the noise of being overly busy that can overwhelm us when we are scrolling our timelines. If we come from this place, there is a clear energetic blueb]print that triggers us to move further into the ego self, which means that we would respond from the same place. It is where the Social Media Vortex of Doom begins. The question to ask is simple. Is the reaction to impress others, or is
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