Beyond Mars and Venus Dr. John Gray Interviewed by Carmen Harra
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John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter-century.
In hardcover, it was the #1 best selling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray’s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller. Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus: new relationship skills for our complex modern world. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships. He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. He was also the subject of a three-hour special hosted by Barbara Walters. John Gray lives in Northern California, where for 34 years he happily shared his life with his beautiful wife, Bonnie, until her passing in 2018. They have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. He is an avid follower of his own health and relationship advice. OMTimes Magazine | February 2021 Edition
Why You Should Never Lose Hope In Dealing With Your Mental Health Issues By: Stan Popovich
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I
struggled with fear and anxiety
In time, I became better able to
for over 20 years, and there were
deal with my fears and anxieties.
times I felt like giving up.
Whenever I encountered a fearful and anxiety-related situation, I would
During these times, my anxieties
apply the techniques I learned from
and fears were so powerful that I had
the professionals and my research.
trouble getting through the week. It was very tough; however, I did not lose
Instead of looking at my struggles as
hope.
a problem, I looked at each situation
DISCOVERING EFFECTIVE TECHNIQUES IN OVERCOMING FEAR
as a learning experience. For example, I remembered when I first learned to ice skate. In the beginning, I fell down all the time,
To get through those difficult times,
but I kept getting back up even
the first thing I did was admit that I
though it was challenging. Over time,
had a problem. I then took steps to
I did not fall as much, and eventually,
find a mental health counselor who
I was able to skate without falling
could help me with my situation. I also
down.
made an effort to learn as much as I could in dealing with fear and anxiety by reading many books and doing a lot of personal research. I knew that the answers I was looking for were out there and all I had to do was make an effort to find them. Over time, I became deeply knowledgeable on dealing with fear and anxiety, which helped me in the long run.
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The Purpose of Living By Dashan Goswami, M.S., P.E.
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T
he Purpose of life is what
While we mortals just try to live day-
you want to make out of
to-day, the eternal Purpose of Life
it. Each of us has a unique
still eludes us. All our considering,
purpose in life, and our
technology and sophistication yet
happiness, growth, and success
haven't solved the fundamental
lie in its realization. As humans,
riddle posed by two indelible human
this purpose is to understand our
existence facts—Life and Death. In
relationship to a broader reality
this article, I will attempt to share with
than our own — God-realization and
you my thoughts on the Purpose of
realization of one's True Nature as
living.
Pure Consciousness. We were all created to be happy and Have you ever asked yourself?
have purposeful lives. As human
• Who am I?
beings, we are blessed with a brain
• Why am I here?
and conscience; and so can decide
• What is my purpose in life?
what we want to make of our lives.
• Is life more than just a brief period
Often, a purpose is imposed on an individual by family, culture,
on earth?
government, or even individuals Such questions have baffled the
who seek to control others for their
greatest thinkers and philosophers
own satisfaction. We strive to learn
down through the ages. Living, in
the Purpose of our lives here on
itself, is not enough. Life, in itself, is
earth. We must remember that
not the goal.
true fulfillment is not found in our outward achievements but in what
Most of us are so busy and caught up in day-to-day existence that we do not have time to think about the Purpose of Living. It seems that our lives revolve around daily routines and worldly demands rather than striving for fulfillment. Religions preach about real Purpose, and philosophers have pondered the mystery for centuries.
we accomplish within ourselves.
WHY WOULD I WANT TO KNOW MY PURPOSE? What would you like to ask the Supreme Being if you could get a direct and immediate answer? A poll in USA Today reports that the
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S
Yoga Nidrathe Sleep Kriya
leep is a moment of
thoughts. Sleep resets our minds.
rejuvenation and the space of
The quality of sleep matters and is
timelessness to incubate our
directly proportional to the well-
minds. Yogic sleep empowers
being of our mind and body.
the mind to expand in Consciousness. For a Yogi, sleep is a sacred moment. Sleep quality affects the quality
The vaster Consciousness is expanded.
of our mind’s abilities to perceive,
The deeper the rest, and lesser the
remember and produce optimal
time needed to sleep.
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Yogic deep sleep has no dreams. Time
came to see Ayya were served Ayya’s
condenses, requiring the shorter time
tea. He seldom spoke to anyone other
of needed rest. Upon awakening from
than his helpers. After two hours, the
a yogic sleep, it should feel a brand-
helpers would again close up the cave
new moment filled in optimism, mind
entrance so Ayya to enter back into his
supercharged, body healed, and each
solitude until the next day.
thought from clarity. I spent my time sitting outside the Turiya is the attainment of yoga.
cave through the night, wanting
Superconscious states of mind.
to absorb his meditative energies. Through the night, I heard Ayya
Yogis who master Consciousness can
speaking to the Divine. Sometimes he
condense sleep to the extent of going
would burst into ecstasy singing. He
beyond “sleep,” the state of turiya,
was in a vortex of powerful energies-
called the sleepless rest.
in states of perpetual overflowing joy. It was now easy to understand
My experience of the states of
how Ayya had transcended sleep- he
turiya was with my Guru Ayya, who
was in the realms of turiya, the super
meditated atop near the peak of
consciousness state of mind. It was
Arunachala mountain. He drank a
this sublime ecstasy experience that
glass of milk a day, never moved,
inspired me to create my music, Turiya
and he never slept. I would climb
Nada. To know the conditions of turiya
up the mountain to be near his
is to understand the three states of
cave enclosure through the night to
mind- sleep, dream, and awake- as an
meditate. At the beginning of my need
observer. Sleep and mastery of sleep is
to sit near Ayya was my curiosity. What
the vital element in the attainment of
made Ayya love his solitude and inner
states of turiya.
journey so much that it made him cut off entirely from the external world and
My quest to learn more about sleep
journey within? Once a day, early in the
made me eager to ask enlightened
morning, his devotees would remove
Masters. In my pilgrimages during my
thorn bushes that blocked Ayya’s cave
years, seeking my Light within through
entrance, and Ayya would start a fire
solitude was another of my Gurus,
to make herbal tea. All pilgrims who
Siddha Maha Siva Swamy. Maha Siva
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Why Use Homeopathy to Treat Animals? By Ministry Earth
O
ver the past few decades,
more fans when it comes to animals'
homeopathy for animals
treatment. This is so, even amid
has become increasingly
different myths and the disbelief
used to cure diseases and
that exists on many pet owners.
common problems.
The Homeopathic protocol is the most natural way to relieve and cure
As in the human medication market,
symptoms in dogs and cats. It continues
homeopathy is gaining more and
to grow in popularity worldwide.
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The principles and laws that
possible relapses recurrences of
determine veterinary homeopathy
complications.
are the same laws as those applied to human homeopathy. They are the
One of the most significant advantages
same implementation in practice
of this type of medication is that
saved some specificities.
homeopathic products for animals produce very few or no side effects in
Homeopathic medication is
the vast majority of cases. Unlike most
prescribed to a sick animal
chemical medications, which can
considering their individual
trigger discomfort in pets and even
characteristics and symptoms.
worsen a disease situation before it begins to be eradicated.
With Homeopathy, we focus on improving health and preventing
Therefore, identifying the essential
disease more than merely treating it.
elements of the animal's "personality" within the same species or race is
Plants and minerals are the main
a question. The animal diagnostic
bases in homeopathic compositions,
elaborates on its defense reaction to a
including only natural substances -
given disease.
and ingredients such as arnica, marigold, gold, silver, copper, and
The role of the owner of the animal is of
even snake venom (in some rare
vital importance to treating an animal
cases) can be found in the formulation
by homeopathy. It is necessary to have
of this type of medication.
good knowledge of the animal. The
HOW HOMEOPATHY FOR ANIMALS WORKS
understanding of the particularities comes from the information provided by the owner or by the animal caregivers.
With the main objective of preparing the body to face diseases and
These people are the real
complications, homeopathy for animals
intermediaries between the animal
acts on the body to balance it, making
and Homeopathic veterinarians.
it ready to fight various diseases and
Only The caretakers can describe the
help the pet strengthen itself, avoiding
animal, its usual and unusual attitudes,
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10 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore in A New Relationship
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Y
ou meet someone
your partner isn’t making you happy.
who’s simply charming,
Take divine signs seriously. It’s not
irresistible. You’re
an accident if you come across
excited about this
something that proves this person
person and begin dating, spending
isn’t who he says he is or is acting in
more and more time together.
bad faith. Remember: people lie, but
Everything is going great, except
your intuition doesn’t.
that your new partner slips into certain “bad habits” here and there. You reassure yourself that this is
2. It’s complicated f rom the beginning
normal. But is it? The perfect partner doesn’t exist Seemingly little tendencies can be
because we all carry a bit of
early indicators of more significant
baggage. That’s normal. What’s
issues that will rear their ugly heads
not normal is a person who hauls
in time. Honor your wellbeing by
entire loads from their past into
walking away from an unhealthy
your present life. Your partner may
relationship sooner rather than
have children from a previous
later if your partner gives off the
relationship, but his kids shouldn’t
following red flags:
be making your life miserable. Your partner may have trust issues from
1. Your intuition is nagging you
past experiences, but he shouldn’t force you to prove your every move. If a relationship starts off this
The first source that will reveal to
burdensome, it will only get worse
you something is wrong will be
in time. Release it from your life
your inner voice. Pay close attention
and find a love that’s simple and
to gut feelings that ask you to
straightforward.
analyze your partner’s intentions, words, and actions more closely. Refrain from making excuses for
3. He doesn’t want to compromise
this person just because you’ve developed feelings. Be honest with
The couple that can’t compromise
yourself and acknowledge when
can’t survive. A person’s (in)
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From Cheesy Relationships to a Gourmet Banquet
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I
n the early 1900s, a European
Frederic, astonished, put aside his
man named Frederic had a
cheese and crackers and entered the
dream to travel to the United
lavish dining room he deserved all
States.
along. The second half of his voyage proved far more enjoyable than the
At that time, air travel had not been
first.
developed, so he booked passage on an ocean liner. Such a
Like Frederic, many of us settle for
trip required all of his savings, but it
meager rations in life while we are
was worth it.
entitled to enjoy a great banquet. One of the areas we tend to starve
Considering that he could not afford
ourselves in is relationships. Since
the luxury meals the ship offered,
February is Valentine’s month, let’s
Frederic brought with him a supply of
take a look at how we can trade
cheese and crackers. While the other
cheese-and-crackers relationships for
guests sat in the ornate dining room
a gourmet feast.
enjoying lavish multi-course meals, Frederic sat on a bench on the deck,
Most people believe they are missing
rationing out his simple meals for
something in a relationship. Either
the cruise duration.
they are single and wish they had a partner, or they are with someone
One day another passenger passed
and wish their relationship was
Frederic eating his Spartan meal.
better. It is a rare person who says,
“Why are you sitting out here eaten
“I am completely satisfied with my
cheese and crackers?” the fellow
relationship status.”
asked. There are two ways to improve “I can’t afford the dining room meals,”
your relationship status: One is to
Frederic answered.
find a relationship or trade your current relationship for a better
The passenger laughed. “Don’t you
one. If you are in a toxic, abusive, or
know that the meals are included in
dead relationship, there’s no sense
the price of the
trying to fix it. You will do better to
voyage?”
quit fighting an uphill battle, let go, OM TIMES | February 2021
How to Understand Family Karma? Humanity Healing
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K
arma, from the Sanskrit
what motivates us to take action, be
कर्म, literally means
it good or bad. As an intention, they
"action." It is used in
have consequences and are also
several philosophical and
responsible for our will, our life link,
spiritual currents, such as Buddhism, Hinduism, Jainism, and Spiritism.
and our desire to keep us alive.
Today we are going to understand
KARMA IN JAINISM
its essence and what the little-
In Jainism, the doctrine of Karma is
discussed concept of family karma
distinctive. Unlike the vision from
means.
the Hindus, which purely is the Law of nature, Jainism believes that
Karma is not fate. Nor is it a
deeds and thoughts attract Karma
punishment imposed on us by some
and that a person's actions from the
external agent. We create our own
past decide the quality of life he has
Karma. Karma is the result of the
now. Karma in Jainism is a physical
choices that we make every moment
matter present throughout the
of every day. Tulku Thondup
universe.
KARMA: PLURAL VIEWS
KARMA IN SPIRITUALISM
Realize that everything connects to
What goes around comes around.
everything else. Leonardo da Vinci
Willie Nelson
KARMA IN HINDUISM
Nowadays, one of the most
According to Hinduism, Karma is
accepted definitions of Karma is
the result of our actions during our
deriving from Spiritualism. Allan
previous earthly lives. When we die,
Kardec and his followers never used
it begins to develop within us, within
Karma; however, we correlate it
our soul. As time goes by, Karma, as
with the Law of "cause and effect,"
a pattern, begins to show itself and
much discussed by the Spiritualist
moves on to the next reincarnations.
doctrines.
KARMA IN BUDDHISM
When we reincarnate, we
In Buddhism, Karma's action is seen
automatically take the previous
above all as our intentions, that is,
set of Karma with us. These are
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Chinese New Year 2021 - The Year of the Ox When we think about the New Year, some images come to our minds, like a shower of fireworks, gifts, hugs, and, of course, the change of calendar. In the West, we use a calendar that considers that a year is completed as soon as the Earth takes a complete turn around the Sun. So, we only are considering the relationship between our planet and our star. But not all Calendars follow the movement of the Sun. Some of them are based on the Lunar calendar as well. In the Chinese calendar, the time can be measured from the Moon and the Sun in relation to the Earth. According to this point of view, the New Year does not happen simultaneously with the Western New Year.
What is in common between the celebration of the Western New Year and the Chinese New Year's celebration is the fireworks display. A striking element of this tradition is exchanging red envelopes with different amounts of money as a symbolic emergency reserve to face the year's challenges. In general, older people or couples give these envelopes to children or people who are single. An essential point about the Chinese New Year is that, in this case, each new cycle is represented by one of the 12 animals that took part in a meeting with Buddha: Rat, Ox, Tiger, Rabbit, Dragon, Snake, Horse, Goat, Monkey, Rooster, Dog and Pig. According to the birth year, the Chinese horoscope considers these 12 animals and that all people are governed by these zodiacal signs. This zodiacal system is quite different from those used to. OMTIMES.COM
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In 2021, the animal of the Chinese New Year is the Metal Ox, with Yin polarity. The Chinese believe that signs connect with the soul of human beings. The ruling animal can influence the spiritual experience from its characteristics. The combination of the element and its polarity can have important meanings for everyone's life.
The Year of the Ox The year 2021 will be ruled by the Ox and will start on February 3rd of that year. To understand what this means, we need to know more about the Ox and what it represents for the Chinese horoscope. The Ox can also be known as the Buffalo. The ox stimulates characteristics such as honesty, hard work, courage, and determination represented by white, green, and yellow colors. So, the ox sign people born in 1913, 1925, 1937, 1949, 1961, 1973, 1985, 1997, 2009, and 2021, will present these qualities.
What is in common between the celebration of the Western New Year and the Chinese New Year's celebration is the fireworks display. A striking element of this tradition is exchanging red envelopes with different amounts of money as a symbolic emergency reserve to face the year's challenges. In general, older people or couples give these envelopes to children or people who are single. An essential point about the Chinese New Year is that, in this case, each new cycle is represented by one of the 12 animals that took part in a meeting with Buddha: Rat, Ox, Tiger, Rabbit, Dragon, Snake, Horse, Goat, Monkey, Rooster, Dog and Pig. According to the birth year, the Chinese horoscope considers these 12 animals and that all people are governed by these zodiacal signs. This zodiacal system is quite different from those used to.
Importance of The Planets on Your Astral Map
A
By OMTimes
strology, like the ancients'
to study and compile observations
knowledge about the
accumulated over the ages. It was a
different personality
primordial attempt to identify and
characteristics of human
understand the depth of people's
beings and their relationship with the
character and inclinations when
solar system's planets, has endeavored
science was still in its infancy.
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Astrology strives to expose the stars'
the essence of the center of our being,
influence on human beings and the
the will.
events related to them, formulating laws through the frequency and
MOON - reflecting sunlight, the Moon
permanence of specific planetary
is continuously changing. It represents
configurations.
the unconscious side of personality, instincts, and desires. While the Sun
Putting the historical perspective
is a unit, the Moon is dual; it grows
in analyzing this knowledge, we
and decreases; it also symbolizes the
will summarize the planetary
double process of death and rebirth.
occurrences in the birth chart to
The Moon is also used to determine
express human beings' specific
the spectrum of our emotional states
personal characteristics.
of being.
In a birth chart, we find the planets
MERCURY - the "winged messenger
positioned in the sky according to a
of the gods," according to ancient
person's date and time of birth at this
mythologies, is a link between the Sun
time. In the skies, the planets travel,
and the Moon. It corresponds to the
particularly trajectories, measured in
vitality of a child who runs from side
arcs, divided into degrees, minutes,
to side, communicating and exploring
and seconds. Each region of the
everything around him. Mercury shows
sky has its own characteristics. It
how a person expresses his essence
is important to know precisely the
and how he classifies the effects that
time of a person's birth to accurately
influence his senses. Mercury also gives
position the planets in their
us the background of how our thought
astrological study.
process works.
The astrological "planets" are:
VENUS - expresses the desire for harmony, the sublimation of instinctual
SUN - represents vitality and ego. The
impulses in socially acceptable
Sun radiates light and strength, as
forms of relationship. The senses
the individual radiates his personality
are governed by Venus and enable
from his center or core. In the
us to live on Earth surrounded by
astrological chart, the Sun represents
harmonious beauty. Venus on the map
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5 Ways to Better Express Your Point of View By Gail Serna
D
o negative thoughts or
you feel with those who upset you.
stories run through your
Expressing your feelings relieves
mind, and do you wonder
suffering.
how to achieve a calmer
mindset? Consider sharing your
Although expressing your true feelings
perspective and describing how
to another may be scary, there are ways
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to have this conversation be productive.
5. See a beautiful golden bubble from
It's important to note that every
heaven surrounding the two of you
exchange will take on its own essence
in a peaceful web of loving light.
or energy. First, ask yourself this: who are you not on good terms with, and
Once the conversation is over, and
how much do they mean to you? It may
the other person has understood
not be necessary to communicate how
your position. You have heard their
you feel. The constructive approach I
perspective. You can surrender any
have outlined below will make these
opposing thoughts or connections in
conversations easier for those that are
your mind and see love from heaven
important to you.
surrounding the situation. Remember to monitor your thoughts and do not
1. Create a script for yourself and write down your talking points.
allow the toxic emotions and stories to keep playing in your head. This should subside now.
2. Ask for help from your divine self and visualize the discussion running
Allow yourself the respect you deserve
smoothly.
and be proud that you asserted yourself in this way.
3. Imagine that the other person will accept the conversation you are
If you do not attain the result, you
about to have. Your relationship will
are seeking from the conversation.
grow healthier for having expressed
It's best to allow some time to pass
your stance.
and walk away from the situation, knowing you did your best to resolve
Remember, the goal is to make
the bitterness between you and
them recognize how you feel and
another.
give them the space to express any animosity they may have towards
Do not give up and use prayer as a
you.
bridge. We consider prayer telepathic communication between your
4. Ask your divine energy or Archangel
consciousness and the other person's
Michael to provide you the energetic
subconscious. Keep imagining the
protection to have the exchange.
situation reversing itself and that the
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