March B 2018
Cover Story 24
Debbie Ford - Your Holiness
Health & Healing 42
The Hidden Value of Therapeutic Energy Jewelry
Spirituality 48 52 56
The Mystical Meaning of Easter Stop! Put Down That Cell Phone A Heartbeat to Remember
OM Living 64 68 72 78 84
Sex and Feng Shui Conflict Resolution and the Art of Listening Cultivating a Sustainable Community Breaking Bad News A Great Dreamer
Relationships 92
Living with True Love
Metaphysics 98
Standing on the Edge of Dreams
Personal Growth 106 How to Let Go of A Fear of Rejection 110 Finding the Perfect Life Mantra
Books 116 Your Holiness - Discover the Light Within
Debbie Ford:
Your Holiness
Every generation has its thought leaders who leave an indelible mark on the world. Born of their personal pain, experience and life lessons, these leaders rise to bring wisdom and light so that others may benefit, heal and grow. Omtimes.com
Debbie Ford was a beloved spiritual teacher, New York Times Best Selling Author of more than 10 books. Her first masterpiece, “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers,” transformed the lives of hundreds of thousands of people by showing them how to embrace their shadow selves and find wholeness. Later she followed up with groundbreaking books including Spiritual Divorce, Secret of the Shadow, The Right Questions, Why Good People Do Bad Things and The Best Year of Your Life. Debbie Ford ‘s literary legacy was thought to be completed with her transition in February 2013. But, death was on the end of sharing wisdom for the determined Debbie Ford. Her magic continued when her beloved sister, Arielle Ford, was mystically guided to bring to fruition a book that Debbie Ford wrote some time in the last years of her earthly adventure. Today, Arielle Ford joins us to share the story of her sister’s amazing life and afterlife.
Arielle is the Best-Selling Author of The Soulmates Secret, Wabi Sabi Love, and Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate. Victor Fuhrman: Welcome, Arielle. Arielle Ford: Hey, Victor. How are you? Victor Fuhrman: I am wonderful, and it is so great to have you. And this is a story that must be told because we know what magic there is in life, but there’s real magic in this story. Let’s start at the end rather than starting at the beginning. Here we are a few years after Debbie Ford ‘s transition last year, and you get a magical call from your dear family friend James Van Praagh. What message did he have for you? Arielle Ford: Well, James had called to tell us that he had recently moved to San Diego, and he wanted my husband, Brian, and I and my mom to come see his new home. And while we were gonna do that, he would give us a reading with Debbie Ford. And of course, we said no, right? Omtimes.com
The act to adorn the human body is ancient practice, and old as mankind itself. Men have always felt the need to decorate and beautify themselves. The earliest adornments were made Omtimes.com
of animal bones and teeth, shells, stones, and wood and symbolized status, power, or mysticism. Some of the jewelry, besides being a kind of ornament, are related to the social role of each individual in their community, is a way of expressing and maintaining their cultural tradition. The purpose of this type of adornment is to create a sign, a brand capable of differentiating an individual from the others. In each historical period, the characteristics of jewels, their artistic expressions the arts and their meaning have been transformed. For instance, the art of Ancient Egypt is filled with symbols and mystical significance. Nowadays people prepare for the days of partying and celebrations, putting on special clothes, embellishments and beautifying themselves with jewelry. Despite the social trend, many people use
jewelry and other artistic artifacts reproductions to emulate the intent and the functions they represent. The use of Mystic jewelry in daily life is also one of the most popular activities, and it is inspired by the sacred traditions everywhere. Much Ethnic Jewelry even withholds a magic perception, expressing the myths, symbols and healing practices of many civilizations. Many Energetic pieces of jewelry are not only used in ritualistic or ceremonial practices but because they represent many aspects of their cultural and religious traditions that incite their use as a form of channeling their spiritual and healing properties. Using Jewelry with intention. In Arab culture, for instance, jewels have been regarded as possessing magical powers. Turquoise stone, for example, would have the power to
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The Mystical meaning of
Easter, in the Catholic tradition, means the “passage of God in life;” in another instance, it refers to the “death of Jesus,” the Christ of the Age of Pisces.
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Easter
But what many people do not know is that the Easter has a mystical meaning that goes beyond the Catholic concept of the resurrection of Christ and the Passover of Judaism, which commemorates the liberation of the people of Israel from Egypt. For the Theosophist and Russian writer Helena Blavatsky, Easter is the spiritual season of purification and liberation. The symbolic language of the crucifixion is the death of the old paradigm; resurrection is a leap into a whole new way of thinking. –Deepak Chopra In addition to the Christian interpretation of the date, the death of Jesus also contains different mystical symbols which we would explore later. Historian, the researcher, and holistic therapist, Helena Gerenstadt, teaches that the Christic way of initiation was represented in the lifetime of Christ Jesus. “It is outlined during Easter, the only holy day determined by the stars. It always falls on the first Sunday after the
first full moon of spring (in the Northern Hemisphere), after the equinox. The esoteric tradition reveals that only the highest initiates were able to partake of the mysteries and energies that occur at the equinox. For most people, including the learners of the mysteries and the disciples, the divine energies of the equinox were celebrated by “reflection” on the day of the full moon. We live in new times when these energies are available to those who want to receive them. “ According to her, Easter is the ideal time to get in touch with energies that transfigure life. “It is a period supervised by Archangel Raphael, guardian of the Holy Grail. At this time of year, your mission is to help sharpen our senses so that the soul can see and know what still needs to be done. Esoterically, Easter reflects the initiatory tradition of the manifestation of the Spirit of God among men, a very sacred occasion. It is a unique opportunity to celebrate with God and His Angelic Hosts. It Omtimes.com
“Stop! Put Down That Cell Phone” Bu John Holland
I’ve often written about how life takes over, and how technology starts to rule our lives and pulls us away from our soul, that inside quiet place where we can find
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direction and guidance. We become more focused on our outside world and forget about our ‘inside world.’ For many of us, we get up, look at our emails, Facebook, or texts, we eat our breakfast, we go to work, we come home with just enough time to wind down and sleep - before we do it all again the next day. For sure, if you like a fast-paced life, it can be exhilarating for a while, before it eventually becomes exhausting. You must stop at some point, and ask yourself who’s driving who - and for what? Eventually, it will feel like you’re in the passenger seat and someone else is driving. One day, you’ll wake up and realize that the monotony of life has taken over. This is where this saying rings true for many: “Are you living life?” or… “Is life living you?” It’s time to take a break and reverse the roles. Your ego is the part of you that runs the predictable side of your life, keeps you on the straight and narrow, the safe
path, the familiar path, and the one you’ve traveled over and over. Occasionally, it’s important to let go and take that unfamiliar path, even if it seems unnerving, adventurous, or scary. It’s okay to try, and I encourage you to do it! It’s about releasing control and let the universe take over – even if it’s just for a while. You may find, that you take an entirely different direction from what you thought you’d laid out previously to conform to family expectation, society, and convention. So, by letting go of your control, and letting your soul take over the navigation, you will find all sorts of hidden bonuses along the way, and of course, you will have the guiding power of something very special to help … yes, your intuition, which is there to help you with the shortcuts, team you up with the right people and situations that are out there to help you increase your levels of joy, personal fulfillment, and live a healthy balanced life.
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A Heartbeat to Remember
While checking out at a grocery store I noticed that a cashier had an unusual tattoo on her forearm. “What is that tattoo?” I asked Ciani. She smiled. “It’s a copy of the EKG of my Omtimes.com
grandmother’s last heartbeat.” Suddenly the checkout process faded to background. I wanted to hear more. “I loved my grandma very much, and I was with her in the hospital at her last moment,” Ciani went on. “As a memory of our connection, I asked the nurse for a printout of her EKG, and I had it turned into a tattoo. Whenever I look at it, it reminds me of her and I feel close to her.” As I drove home, I couldn’t get the image out of my mind. It jogged me to consider the value of one heartbeat. Our heart beats about 100,000 times per day and 34 million times in a year. We generally go about our business taking our heartbeats for granted. Yet I’m sure that as Ciani sat with her grandma on the threshold of her passing, she and her family would have given anything for those heartbeats
to go on. In that moment one heartbeat meant everything. One day all of our hearts will stop beating, but while they still pulse we would do well to count them all as precious. Every heartbeat represents God’s intention that you have a purpose in the world and a reason to be alive. While many of us believe we are here to achieve a notable act or make lots of money, our real mission is based on the quality of our relationships. At the end of our life it is not our time in the office we will remember, but the meaningful moments with our family and loved ones. Let’s not wait until our dear ones are gone or almost gone to honor and celebrate them. Let’s tell them, “I love you” and do things to demonstrate that love while they are with us. You might believe that there are things you have to do that are necessarily boring or annoying, and you just have to put up
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Sex and Feng Shui by Kartar Diamond I am often asked if Feng Shui knowledge can improve a person’s sex life. The answer is YES, and it can do so in a variety of ways. 1) There are house types where the primary energy indicates
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loneliness. When that factor gets reduced, with remedies, it frees the occupant to pursue or attract a relationship. It can also improve an existing relationship. This, in turn, can enhance the sexual aspect of communication. 2) Other house types have powerful influences which make people argumentative. This kind of energy can make an existing relationship so stressful and defensive that it undermines the desire for sex. When these physical irritants are removed, it increases the likelihood of having a harmonious attraction between people. The negative energies that I have eluded to exist in some detectable forms. • The structure or design can cause someone to feel isolated, angry or threatened. • The colors and lighting of a room can create a subliminal atmosphere.
• The hidden magnetic field which must be remedied with 5-element theory can reveal when occupants will have a variety of relationship problems. (What you place in a room makes a difference, such as whether a person needs a metal or wood bed frame.) • Time cycle that the house may be experiencing. Sometimes the house is in a lousy year or several-year period making it difficult for relationships. • Having Personal incompatibility with the house. (When your house is unsupportive of you personally). 3) Some house types are simply better or more conducive to relationships, sex, and romance. These houses possess energies which make it easy to attract sexual encounters–so much so– that
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Conflict Resolution and the Art of Listening by Carl Greer, PhD, PsyD
In working as an analyst and as a clinical psychologist, I’ve learned that it’s best to listen, listen, listen, and then listen some more before responding. This course of action is especially wise whenever the person I am Omtimes.com
working with is upset. When it comes to conflict resolution strategies, at the top of the list is the art of listening. Listening does not mean remaining silent while being focused on what you want to say next rather than what the other person is saying. Listening means being fully present as you take in what a person says verbally and nonverbally. Don’t think about what you might say next, or try to anticipate what they will say or do. Don’t let your mind wander. Good listening also requires tuning in to the other person’s tone of voice, words, and body language. Their mood and hidden thoughts and feelings can be conveyed in subtle ways. Can you listen with all your senses? In martial arts, there are two important concepts, kime and ma. Ma is keeping the right distance, and kime is focus. I have applied ma and kime in my psychological and analytical practices, and in business dealings as well. By not being too quick to engage someone who appears to be
angry or upset, you practice ma. Conflicts can arise quickly if you do not take the time to listen at the right distance and you engage too soon, while the person you are dealing with is emotionally overwrought. It is a challenge to keep your distance from another person’s anger and to listen intently without becoming emotionally involved yourself. Good listening involves ma and kime (focusing on what you are hearing). When you practice kime, you react to what you are hearing in a timely and appropriate way: the right response at the right time, with just the right amount of words. Like everyone, you have an aspect of consciousness called the observing self, which can unemotionally witness another person’s sarcasm and aggressive or defensive stance without generating aggressiveness or defensiveness within you. It allows you to see when you are not being threatened and to remember that another person’s behavior and emotions may have little if anything to do with you. As you focus on taking in Omtimes.com
Breaking bad news By Chrissie Giles
How do you tell someone that they’re seriously ill, or even dying? Chrissie Giles explores how doctors learn and how they deal with the stress and trauma, for both their patients and themselves.
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I was 14 when I was told that Dad was dying. I was sitting on the floor of our lounge. Mum said that she had some news. Sensing the worst, I fixated on the newspaper open in front of me, staring at an advert for German cut glass. It was cancer, in his pancreas, and he might only live a few more months. They were going to try an operation, she told my sister and me to reduce the pain. As a nurse, she must have known that this was unlikely to work, but she knew her audience and didn’t want to overload us with information. She must also have known that pancreatic cancer has one of the bleakest outlooks, due in part to a lack of symptoms in the early stages. By the time you start to notice nausea, jaundice or weight loss, it’s too late to hope that it’s something less serious. That night, as I wrote my diary, I could think only about how I felt. Reading it back now I wonder what it was like for my
mum, still reeling from the news herself and having to tell the rest of us. As a doctor, Kate Granger often deals with discussions of bad news and end-of-life issues. But there’s another reason the subject interests her. Three years ago, at age 29, she was diagnosed with a very rare and terminal form of cancer that affects soft tissue. She’s spoken and written widely about her experiences living with a terminal disease. She spearheaded the #hellomynameis campaign, to get people working in the NHS to introduce themselves to every patient they meet. She’s planning to live-tweet her own death. Granger was diagnosed with cancer while on holiday in the USA. “I came up with some tough episodes of breaking bad news when I got back to the UK,” she says. “When I got my MRI results, I was told when I was by myself by a junior doctor who didn’t know what the plan was going to be.”
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Living with True Love by Isha Judd
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When we don’t love ourselves, we abandon ourselves in our relationship, because we think we need our partner to complete us, and we are afraid to lose them. But if we are true to ourselves, we won’t
lose anything that is real, and we can grow together in a way that supports both partners to be the best of themselves. When our relationship is no longer based in need, but rather on a desire to give, we can allow the other person to evolve and grow, and then we gain the freedom to do the same ourselves. This is real love, unconditional love, and it starts with self. Some people get completely lost in their relationships and only have eyes for their partner. They do not love themselves, they do not speak their truth, and they compromise all the time, so as not to upset their partner. They do what the other wants and not what they want themselves, and in doing so, they lose all their power. Does this serve? No, it does not help them to grow. On the other hand, growing alongside another person in a relationship, together as individuals, is something very magical. To find love with another, remember that first one must have that experience
with oneself because our partner is our mirror. If there is a lack of love within us, this is what will be reflected us in our relationship. Often in relationships, one person is more interested than the other. Sometimes this varies over time, and the roles are exchanged. This happens because, in most relationships, we want our partner to fill a gap that is within us, and we mirror that need in the other person. At first, one of the two can appear to be very secure and the other, very needy and dependent, but this may change according to the circumstances. We can grow together in a relationship, but only when we are careful not to lose ourselves. Then, we can have a beautiful partnership based on maturity and loveconsciousness, supporting each other in our greatness. True love in its purest form is unconditional. That is real love. It comes from within and moves outward. True love gives, without needing anything in return and without
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S ta n d i n g o n t h e Edge of Dreams By Judi Lynch The power of the ability to recognize our heart’s desire in this life lives inside our dreams and actions. It can sometimes require great courage and faith to continue on without support from a friendly
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soul system surrounding us. Intuitive signs, messages, and signals can get crossed especially if there is dominant energy near defining us in negative or destructive ways. We have to learn to pay close attention to our own inner guidance and spiritual network, so we are listening to our best possibilities in life.
invaluable tool in helping us cope. We can utilize the good energies of our waking dreams and life ambitions to help keep us motivated.
So many have been so close to success in lifetime goals but have given up after listening to the sound of doubt and skepticism from someone else. Most of us have heard that calling inner voice leading us to the next adventure in life. We have choices in which ones to answer, but ultimately we learn to trust our own ingrained instincts to survive. After all, some humans will follow others right off a cliff without looking ahead.
Events which change our lives forever and responsibility for others can really drain our resources and make us feel overwhelmed with fear. If you have a skilled personal life coach and/or supportive friends and family members you know how important it can be to have positive energy in your life. If we are connected to our source energy, we can learn how to balance our thoughts, emotions, and actions without too much drama. It takes time to learn how to monitor our attachments to overreacting to make intelligent choices and decisions when we feel of course.
Meditation and active visualization are great ways to calm anxieties and help confidence when we feel stressed in uncomfortable life situations. Whether we’re auditioning for a part in a play or applying for a new work position, it can be an
If we can keep remembering what brings us joy and sets our souls in forwarding motion, we can keep our focus clear. If we know why, how and where our inspirations and influences come from and where energy is flowing, we can assess what is positive and what needs to Omtimes.com
How to Let Go of A Fear of Rejection By Marcia Sirota, MD.
Probably the scariest activity we could engage in is public speaking. People often rate this fear higher than the fear of death. It’s terrifying because it puts us in the position of being judged, found wanting, and then rejected.
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One of the most basic human fears is the fear of rejection; the fear that what we think, say or do might be unacceptable to others; the fear that we’ll end up alone. That’s why so few of us relish the thought of getting up and speaking in front of a group of people. What if one or more of them disagree with us, is displeased with what we’re saying or tells us that we don’t know what we’re talking about? When we’re putting our thoughts out there, whether in a post, a podcast, a talk or a lecture, or even just to one other person, there’s the always risk of being misunderstood, judged or rejected. It can be so daunting that often, we’ll choose not to express ourselves; the fear of rejection makes it seem not worth the effort. Human beings are communal animals. We thrive when we’re connected; when we feel a sense of belonging and interdependence. We hate the idea of rejection
because it plays on our primal fears of being alone and perhaps unable to fend for ourselves. Even the strongest, most independent person will often count on others for emotional and practical support. It gets even more tricky when what we have to say goes against the norms. What if our point of view, our beliefs, our desires diverge from the status quo? It can be that much more challenging to speak our truth when the possibility of rejection looms large. The paradox in all of this is that we can only feel like we belong when we’re real. When we’re not fully honest about what we think, feel and need, we won’t connect with others on more than a superficial level. To belong, we have to be truly ourselves. So, how can we speak out when others might not appreciate what we have to say? How can we have an authentic voice, given the possibility of rejection? Caitlyn Jenner said in an interview that she finally went through with her transition when she could no longer live Omtimes.com
Finding the Perfect Life Mantra by Karen Ulvestad
The perfect mantra helps in personal growth, navigating life challenges, and reflects self-growth. Choosing the right mantra requires looking inward, and feeling. There are 4 easy steps to selecting a mantra or series of mantras to aide us through our daily lives.
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Life can be challenging. It has its moments of complete frustration and unadulterated joy. How we navigate these moments reflects our inner values and ability to cope with life’s expectations. It’s a dance of keeping perspective on the issue and taking care of self. Choosing a personal mantra or set of mantras can help keep life events in their proper perspective in our lives. There are mantras written by other people and the ones that seem to come to us in a moment of need. Selecting the right mantra requires a few steps, which are offered below. These are a starting point. 1. Is it easy to remember? A mantra that is simple and to the point is easier to remember when it is needed. Its main purpose is to add in focus and creating calm in a situation that seems overwhelming. It is a select group of words that the brain connects with to calming. Another use of a mantra is to keep the focus on a goal.
It becomes the words that encourage us to keep striving to lose weight, run the extra mile, or take the next step in a venture. Mantras can help us through the challenges that could overwhelm us. 2. Does it feel “right”? Mantras are personal statements that resonate with the spirit or soul. These phrases or sentences reflect our personal self. It has to feel “right,” and have a connection with the individual using it. These are not a “one-size fits all” word choice. Sometimes, a mantra is written or spoken by someone else and resonates with our spirit or soul. If it feels right, it is a mantra that inspires the individual. Each of us is empowered to write our own personal mantras. The only perimeter is that it feels “right.” 3. Does it help calm or improve focus on a personal level? This goes along with “does it feel right.” A mantra needs to
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