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Contents Physical Development
Au st ra
INTE DR S RVIEW W ITH Your pa EARS re
Autum
36 Time to get Nakey: Elimination Communication
n 2013
By Tracie O’Meara
58 Choosing the Best Milk for your Child By Lisa Guy
62 Flouride ~ A Close Brush With Poison By Dr Sarah Lantz
Emotional Development 9 Bonding: Creating Simple Rituals By Darren Mattock
13 Sensitive Boys
By Maureen Healy
18 Addressing Bullying with Emotional Intelligence By Arna Baartz
21 Music for Child~Carer Relationship By Tara Hashambhoy
24 Learning Manners with our Child By Naomi Aldort
28 Positive Time-Outs By Kelly Bartlett
Intellectual Development
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BRAIN
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Physical
Emotio nal
14 Interview with Dr Sears By Kristy Pillinger
27 Beautiful Reflections By Claire Eaton
40 Burping, Wind and Colic By Robyn Noble
44 Is My Child Weaning? By Lourdes Santaballa
48 Returning Home: Why Birth has Come Full Circle ~ Part II By Kristin Bechedahl
Regular Features 4 Your Letters & Photos 5 Ask Our Expert 34 Your Story 43 Beyond Birth By Julia Jones
17 Dad’s Corner
By Johnny Pillinger
71 Activity Time
By Emily Filmore
80 Product Reviews
By Angela Johnson
55 Preparing for the BIG Question By Emily Filmore
Spiritua l
By Rachel Schofield
72 A Truely Nurturing Education Part 4
30 We Are What We Think: How to Nurture Your Child’s Mindset
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10 Parenting From Different Pages
76 Book Reviews
Spiritual
Intellect ua
Mum and Dad’s Development
66 Homework for Parents
Dr Andrew Seaton
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74 Organic Gardening: ~ No Dig Garden
By Associate Professors Richard Walker & Mike Horsley
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How to YING pa & thos rent bullies e being bullied
24 It’s All Academic: A few thoughts on Brain Development in the Early Years By Dr Pat Wolfe
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HAN PAREDLING DIF NTING FE How STYL RENT partneto get you an ES r on th e sa d your
By Tiffany Cowley
56 Boy’s Toys ~ Let’s Rethink this Concept
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Cover
By Jenny England
By Melanie Wright
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6 In Search of Free-Range Children
39 ALWAYS ~ Babywearing Recommendations
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By Claire Bickle
by Sharon Dowley
78 What’s On 81 Directory Join our facebook community and share in all our stories, questions, laughter and tears! www.facebook.com/ NurtureParentingMagazine
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Editor’s Letter
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There is no denying that natural parenting can be hard and frustrating. I get frustrated sometimes when my boy, William (now 18mths!): • doesn’t want to be put down; • wants to take me somewhere just as I sit down for a rest • takes up to an hour to go to sleep; • wakes up during a day sleep and insists on being on the boob for the rest of his sleep, which can last over an hour! Really, the list can go on. But is it William frustrating me, or me frustrating me? One Friday night a few weeks ago I was putting William to sleep (he still breastfeeds to sleep) and it seemed to be taking forever! He would go on and off the breast, sit up, play with the bedrail (we bedshare), chatter to himself – anything BUT go to sleep. Then I had a ‘lightbulb’ moment! You know those moments where the situation just got so clear! I worked out that I was getting frustrated because I had hired a movie and wanted him to go to sleep quickly so I could go out and watch the movie before it got ‘too late’! It had nothing to do with William – it was me. So, once realising this, I knew that another 30 minutes would not be the end of the world! It would just mean the movie would end 30 minutes later! And it was Friday night after all (not that that means much to a mum!)! So I relaxed all my muscles, smiled and allowed myself to enjoy my boy’s chatter and antics! Certainly that was more pleasurable than any movie! So I truly believe that if you are on the natural parenting path, you need to incorporate mindfulness ~ as it is only being present and accepting
situations that you can truly enjoy your children, even during those more trying moments. In addition to practicing mindfulness, I was reminded by Dr Sears (my interview with him is on page 14) of two things:
Natural parenting is an investment
We all know that natural/AP is very hands on and time-consuming. However, the more connected we are with our children in the first 5 years, the more independent, compassionate and caring they will be. This truly is a great investment for the world. He mentioned that by putting in the time now, we can be at ease when our children are teenagers as they have been given the tools to make right decisions. So that is worth thinking about in the throes of our frustration!
Create a village of likeminded parents
‘It takes a village to raise a child’. It was never meant that a mother was to parent a child alone. Dr Sears stressed the importance to creating a village of likeminded parents so that: 1. When you have questions or issues, you can get the support and information from those that have a similar parenting philosophy as your one. He mentioned that discussing AP issues with those that do not practice it can make a mother confused and add to greater frustration. 2. When these relationships are strong, your child can be minded by likeminded people, thus giving you some time to re-balance yourself. This can be reciprocated so that all parents can get time to rebalance themselves. I think it is particularly important as it also helps normalise the behaviours of these nurtured children. So, I’ve started creating Nurture villages around the country. These villages are designed to connect natural parents that live nearby. It will help you meet likeminded parents in a nearby location. Hopefully, you will meet lifelong friends and models for your children and people that can help with the nurturing of your child! It is by supporting each other that we can support the future. If you are interested in joining a Nurture community, please search on facebook for “Nurture Village” and hopefully there is one in your area. If not, message me and I can create one.
Kristy Pillinger, Editor
Nurture Australia’s
Natural Parenting
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Editor
Kristy Pillinger
Graphic Design Karah Edwards
Photography
Spikey Hedgehog Photography
Rebecca Anne & Carly Maree Photography
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Issue Contributors
Naomi Aldort, Arna Baartz, Kelly Bartlett, Kristin Beckedahl, Claire Bickle, Tiffany Cowling, Sharon Dowley, Claire Eaton, Jenny England, Emily Filmore, Lisa Guy, Tara Hashambhoy, Maureen Healy, Angela Johnson, Julia Jones, Dr. Sarah Lantz, Darren Mattock, Robyn Noble, Tracie O’Meara, Melissa Rogers, Lourdes Santaballa, Rachel Schofield, Dr. Andrew Seaton, Arnaum Walkley, AssProfs’ Richard Walker & Mike Horsley, Dr Pat Wolfe, Melanie Wright.
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