Move Over Sam Elliott — We Found Our Own Local Cowboy Heartthrob
On February 5th, Roger Marks, Golden Bachelor of the Mercato (Season 3) is ready to charm his way into the hearts of Venice ladies this Valentine’s season.
A North Port local, Marks will be delivering roses and smiles to more than 50 lucky ladies arriving by motorcoach—each hoping to catch a glimpse of this handsome hometown bachelor. One by one, he’ll ask with a smile, “Will you accept this rose?”
So, move over, Sam Elliott — we’ve found our own cowboy double right here in Venice, sipping a strong cup of coffee at Starbucks and stealing hearts one rose at a time.
Roger was born in Indiana but moved nearly every year as his stepfather’s military service took the family to places like Texas and Japan. He settled in Florida in 1980, where he began a career with Motorola installing two-way radio systems for police and fire departments across Sarasota County. Now retired, Roger enjoys cruising on his motorcycle and tinkering with antique vehicles.
Once married and now single, Roger is the proud father of a grown son. Recently, his rugged good looks, flowing gray locks, and striking resemblance to Hollywood legend Sam Elliott caught the attention of a modeling agency and casting company.
When asked about his ideal partner, Roger doesn’t hesitate. He’s looking for someone down-to-earth, laid-back, and open to joining him for a motorcycle ride—or at least cheering him on from the passenger seat. A love for the outdoors, history, and antique cars is a plus. Most importantly, he wants someone who believes, just as he does, that the best relationships are true partnerships—a real twoway connection.
Live, Laugh, Love
Photo by James Patterson
I don’t know about you, but I can’t believe it is already February. It seems 2026 is just flying by… and all the holidays packed into February will absolutely make it seem like the shortest month (oops, it already is the shortest month)!
February starts off strong with American Heart Month – four solid weeks of paying attention to the organ that not only pumps blood and encourages you to “lead from your heart,” but also symbolizes love.
On February 8, football fans everywhere will enjoy Superbowl XL. No matter whether the New England Patriots or the Seattle Seahawks win, following the game half will be happy and half sad. Make your plans now to remain calm, cool and collected no matter the outcome. (For more guidance, there’s a great article on busting stress in this month’s issue.)
February 14 – the most love-soaked
day of the entire calendar – brings us Valentine’s Day. A Google search shows that flowers and candy top the list of most-gifted items. (My grandparents had both in the 1940s when they married on Valentine’s Day. On a side note, my mother was also a Valentine’s gift; she was born exactly nine months later.)
Mardi Gras is also early this year, with February 17 as that special noholds-barred holiday that means there’s just 40 days until Easter and good weather. Be sure to read the article in this issue about the Tampa Bay Fascinators dance group – part of the Krewe of Thoth – which will appear live and in person in New Orleans this year or catch the livestream on Facebook.
February may be the shortest month, but it is long on love and fun things to do. No matter how you celebrate, I wish you fair skies, fresh flowers, and a month full of love.
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Find Your Stressors: 3 Steps to Real Calm
By Marissa Perez
Stress is information. When you can name where it’s coming from and respond with simple systems—both in the moment and over the long arc—life gets calmer and more under your leadership.
STEP 1: SPOT THE REAL SOURCES (10 MINUTE AUDIT)
• Grab a notebook and score each area 0–5 (0 = calm, 5 = red alert). Circle your top two.
• Workload and deadlines
• Money and bills
• Health and sleep
• Relationships and caretaking
• Home environment and clutter
• Digital overload (news, notifications, social)
• Open loops (unfinished tasks, decisions you’re avoiding)
• Identity pressure (perfectionism, comparison)
• For each circled item, write one sentence: “The smallest part of this I can influence this week is ____.” That becomes your starting action.
STEP 2: MAKE TRIGGERS VISIBLE SO THEY LOSE POWER
Name the loop so you can redesign it: “I feel tight-chested when I open email after 9 p.m.” Identify the cue (time, place, app, person). Choose the swap: a boundary (“no email after 8”), a script (“I can deliver Thursday”), or a reset (two slow breaths and a one-minute walk). When you can describe the pattern, you can interrupt it.
STEP 3: BUILD A TWO-LAYER PLAN—NOW AND LATER
Layer 1: Rapid resets you can use in 60–120 seconds (breathing with a longer exhale, grounding scan, a quick walk, cold-water splash on wrists, “name-and-aim” one next step).
Layer 2: Preventive rituals that shrink stress at the source (sleep window, weekly money check-in, device boundaries, tidy-a-surface habit, prepped snacks and water).
Create a weekly rhythm that keeps life lighter
Sunday 15: Pick top three priorities, schedule two movement blocks, and set one boundary for the week.
Money Monday 10: Pay one bill, move $ to savings, scan transactions.
Midweek tidy 10: Clear one hotspot; reset your desk.
Friday 5: One win, one lesson, one tweak, one thank-you, one plan for fun.
A14-day reset you can finish
• Days 1–2: Do the 10-minute audit; pick one 20-minute action for each top stressor
• Days 3–5: Practice a daily rapid reset; move social apps off your home screen
• Days 6–7: Money Monday; clear one surface; set a phone-off time
• Days 8–10: Add two 10-minute walks; say one boundary out loud this week
• Days 11–14: Lock in a sleep window; schedule one free, fun plan; write a Friday 5 review
Checklist to keep on your fridge
• One-sentence mission for the week (what matters most)
• Daily rapid reset you’ll use (circle one: breath, grounding, walk, cold splash)
• Phone-off time and chargers out of the bedroom
• Money Monday on the calendar
• One surface cleared and kept clear
• A boundary you will keep this week
CLOSING THOUGHTS
Stress gets louder when it’s vague. Name the few sources that matter, carry a short list of resets, and protect two or three rituals that make your days predictable. Keep the steps small, visible, and kind—you’ll feel the difference quickly, and the people around you will too.
BOOK REVIEW by
Kathy A. Megyeri
“The 50 Most Romantic Things Ever Done,” by Dini Von Mueffling
During this month when we remember what we’ve done for love throughout our lives, it’s a joy to read these 50 stories of what historical figures, celebrities and ordinary people have done to celebrate their loved ones. Author Dini Von Mueffling has written for major publications and produced for TV news but now, she devotes her efforts to an AIDS organization in New York called Love Heals. In this story compendium, these heart warming, surprising and original tales of love will bring back memories and charm you.
For example, when Clark Gable took Carole Lombard to a Hollywood Valentine’s Day party, he picked her up in a beat-up Model T with hearts painted all over it. They were happily wed when WWII broke out and in January of 1942, she signed autographs for 12 hours in Indianapolis to encourage Americans to buy war bonds. But on the way home, her plane crashed outside Las Vegas and she died. Although Gable married twice more, he’s buried next to Lombard.
In 1631, Emperor Shah Jahay built the Taj Mahal in Agra, India to honor his second wife who died giving birth to their fourteenth child. It took 20,000 men over 22 years to complete as the precious stones had to be carved into shapes of flowers and set in white marble because in Islam, flowers were symbols of the kingdom of God. The building and grounds represent the paradise of life after death and the four canals symbolize the Gardens of Paradise in the Koran.
And then there’s Prince Edward who in 1936 abdicated the throne of England to marry American divorcee Wallis Simpson. They stayed together for 35 years until he died in 1972. She died 14 years later in Paris and her jewels were auctioned off at Sotheby’s for $50 million, all of which benefited AIDS research.
Other love stories include those of Nicholas, the last Tsar of Russia and Alexandra; Gertrude Stein and Alice B. Toklas in Paris in the 1920s; Humphrey Bogart (44 years old) and Lauren Bacall (19); John Lennon and Yoko Ono; George Burns and Gracie Allen; Spencer Tracy and Katharine Hepburn; Nadia Comaneci and Bart Conner; Anthony and Cleopatra; Charlie Chaplin and Oona O’Neill, daughter of playwright Eugene O’Neill; playright Dashiell Hammett and Lillian Hellman; artist Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera; and probably the most moving is the story of Charles Lindbergh and Anne Morrow. When he died at 72 of lymphatic cancer in Hawaii, his last words were to Anne.
Such stories will help you celebrate Valentine’s Day with new appreciation for what we’ve all done for love.
Strawberry Muffins
Just in time for the Strawberry Festival in Plant City! Head on over and buy a flat of fresh, juicy berries. (Don’t wash them until ready to use.) Use a cup of chopped fresh berries and then dip the rest in dark chocolate for a decadent Valentine’s Day treat.
Ingredients:
• ½ cup milk
• ¼ cup canola oil
• 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
• 1 large egg
• 1-¾ cups all-purpose flour
Method:
• ½ cup white sugar
• 2 teaspoons baking powder
• ½ teaspoon salt
• 1 cup chopped strawberries
Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F. Line 8 standard-sized muffin cups with paper liners.
Lightly beat milk, oil, and egg in a small bowl.
Mix flour, sugar, baking powder, and salt together in a large bowl. Toss in chopped strawberries and stir to coat with flour. Fold in the milk mixture until just combined. Divide batter evenly among the prepared muffin cups.
Bake in the preheated oven until the tops bounce back from the touch and a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean, about 25 minutes. Remove from the oven and cool for 10 minutes in the pan before removing to a wire rack to cool completely.
THE HEALTHY GEEZER
Is Sinusitis Serious?
Q. Can a sinus infection give you a toothache?
Yes, infection in the sinuses located in your cheekbones can cause your upper jaw and teeth to ache, and your cheeks to become tender to the touch. Sinusitis is a nasty malady that can do much more than give you a toothache.
Sinusitis, which is infection or inflammation of the sinuses, creates suffering for about 37 million Americans every year.
The sinuses are four pairs of cavities: the frontal sinuses over the eyes, maxillary sinuses inside each cheekbone, ethmoid sinuses just behind the bridge of the nose, and sphenoid sinuses behind the ethmoids. Each sinus is connected to the nose.
Acute sinusitis lasts for 4 weeks or less. Subacute sinusitis runs 4 to 8 weeks. Chronic sinusitis can continue for years. Recurrent sinusitis includes several acute attacks within a year.
Most cases of acute sinusitis start with a cold or allergy attack, which inflames the mucous membranes of the sinuses. Swelling traps air and mucus in the sinuses and they cannot drain properly. The trapped mucus creates ideal conditions for bacteria to grow.
Symptoms of chronic sinusitis may be less severe than those of acute sinusitis. However, untreated chronic sinusitis can cause damage to the sinuses and cheekbones that sometimes requires surgery to repair.
Most people with sinusitis have pain or tenderness. Other symptoms of sinusitis can include fever, weakness, fatigue, nasal congestion, cough and sore throat.
If you have acute sinusitis, your doctor may prescribe decongestants, antibiotics and pain relievers. Many cases of acute sinusitis will end without antibiotics.
Many health care providers treat chronic sinusitis as though it is an infection, by using antibiotics and decongestants. Others use both antibiotics with steroid nasal sprays. Further research is needed to determine the best treatment.
When medical treatment fails, surgery may be the only alternative for treating chronic sinusitis. The most common surgery done today is functional endoscopic sinus surgery (FESS) to enlarge the natural openings and allow drainage.
FESS is less invasive than conventional sinus surgery. With the endoscope, the surgeon can look directly into the nose while clearing the narrow channels between the sinuses. This type of surgery can be done under local or general anesthesia.
One easy way to help keep your sinuses clear is to use an over-the-counter saltwater nasal wash every day to remove mucus and bacteria from the nose and sinuses.
All Rights Reserved © 2025 by Fred Cicetti Send your general health questions to Healthy Geezer with Lifestyles After 50 in the subject line to fred@healthygeezer.com.
Super Bowl Nachos
This party pleaser can be served in individual bowls as an appetizer or by the plate for a full meal. Try substituting pork or sausage for the ground beef, adding or deleting toppings, or swapping pepper jack for the cheddar.
Ingredients:
• 1 pound ground beef
• ¾ cup water
• 1 (1.25 ounce) package low sodium taco seasoning mix
• 1 (18 ounce) package restaurantstyle tortilla chips
• 1 cup shredded sharp Cheddar cheese, or more to taste
• 1 (15.5 ounce) can refried beans
Method:
• 1 (10 ounce) can pitted black olives, drained and chopped
• 1 cup salsa
• 1 cup sour cream, or more to taste
• 4 green onions, diced
• 1 (4 ounce) can sliced jalapeño peppers, drained
Preheat the oven broiler. Set the oven rack about 6 inches from the heat source. Line a baking sheet with aluminum foil.
Cook and stir ground beef in a skillet over medium heat until meat is crumbly and no longer pink, 5 to 10 minutes. Drain excess grease. Stir in water and taco seasoning; simmer until beef mixture has thickened, 8 to 10 minutes.
Spread tortilla chips on the prepared baking sheet. Top with cheddar cheese, then dot with refried beans and ground beef mixture.
Broil in the preheated oven until cheese is melted, 3 to 5 minutes. Top nachos with olives, salsa, sour cream, green onions, and jalapeño peppers.
FEBRUARY 25, 2026 • 10:00 AM
Blast to the Past! “I Write the Songs”
BY: RANDAL C. HILL
Who is the “I” in this well-known oldie?
I write the songs that make the whole world sing I write the songs of love and special things I write the songs that make the young girls cry I write the songs, I write the songs The answer will surprise you.
The lyrics come from the recording by Barry Manilow, a hit single that he didn’t write. No problem. Arista Records president, iconic music veteran Clive Davis, felt strongly that “I Write the Songs” had success written all over it if only roster artist Manilow would record it. Manilow hesitated. For one thing, he hadn’t written the tune; also, he felt that the lyrics sounded “egotistical.” He recorded it anyway. Well, just who did compose “I Write the Songs”?
In 1965, Bruce Johnston joined the Beach Boys as a replacement for leader Brian Wilson, the pop-music genius who had recently trashed
Movie Preview: “Solo Mio”
BY RANDAL C. HILL
Imagine going on your honeymoon alone.
That’s what happens with Matt Taylor, portrayed admirably by former stand-up comic Kevin James (“The King of Queens”) in the forthcoming romantic comedy drama “Solo Mio.”
In his most compelling role to date, the 60-year-old actor finds himself left at the altar in romantic Rome when his would-be bride unexpectedly sends him her engagement ring and a terse note that opens with, “By the time you read this, I will be gone.” (She needs time to “find herself.”) Not only is Matt humiliated—he has flown his American family over for the ceremony—but he’s now left adrift with plans for a pre-paid honeymoon that will never take place. Or so he thinks.
his brain with psychedelic drugs. In the mid-1970s, Johnston temporarily stepped away to go solo with an album called “Going Public.” It fizzled commercially but contained his original composition of “I Write the Songs,” a quiet, lightly orchestrated composition which grew into Manilow’s millionselling version.
Many people have opined that Johnston’s ballad was a heartfelt tribute to Brian Wilson. Not true, Johnston testifies, as he cites the opening lines: I’ve been alive forever
And I wrote the very first song I put the words and the melodies together I am music, and I write the songs
Was this song about Brian?
No. The answer – hidden in plain sight but obvious if you know that Johnston once called the song a “hymn” – is that Johnston was talking about God.
During his wanderings, Matt meets a café waitress named Gia, who takes Taylor under her wing. “I can’t start over again,” he tells her. She says, a warm smile lighting up her face, “You have to try. Don’t be afraid.”
Jonathan Roumie, Alyson Hannigan, Kim Coates, Julee Cerda, Julie Ann Emery, and Alessandro Carbonara round out the supporting cast, with writing and directing chores handled by The Kinnane Brothers, the filmmaking collective of eight (!) male Rhode Island siblings.
Mark Fasano and Jeffrey Greenstein of Nickle City Pictures head the production team. It is Fasano who enthuses, “’Solo Mio’ is an incredible project that shows audiences it’s never too late to reinvent your life.”
Opening day is February 6.
Armchair Adventures: 4 Unforgettable American Love Stories
In our book “Have a Love Affair with the USA,” we write about American history, its wars, landscapes, and stories from sea to shining sea. Yet, woven into the nation’s fabric are tales not only of courage and ambition but also of love. Romance, devotion, and partnership are as central to America’s story as its battles, inventions, and explorations.
Here are four unforgettable American love stories:
By Evelyn B. Kelly, PhD
1. ABIGAIL AND JOHN ADAMS – AMERICA’S FIRST POWER
COUPLE (MASSACHUSETTS)
Their story began unremarkably. John dismissed her at first, and Abigail hardly noticed the short, plump man with thinning hair. But over three years, admiration grew into affection, and they married in 1764, riding together on a single horse to their new home. Their marriage lasted 50 years, surviving long separations during the Revolutionary War and the birth of a new nation. Through it all, they wrote over 1,160 letters, revealing themselves as lovers, partners, advisers, and confidants. Those letters endure as a testament to their bond.
2.
JOHNNY CASH AND JUNE CARTER – MUSIC AND REDEMPTION (TENNESSEE)
Few romances in music history shine brighter. June Carter, already famous from her family’s folk group, met Johnny Cash at the Grand Ole Opry. Both were married at the time and facing personal struggles. June described life with Johnny as standing in a “ring of fire”, words that became the title of a hit song. Arrested seven times for drugs and alcohol, Johnny nearly lost everything, but June’s steadfast love helped him overcome addiction. In 1968, he proposed onstage before 7,000 fans. They married soon after and spent more than 30 years together, a love stitched with both turbulence and grace.
3. JIMMY AND ROSALYNN CARTER – A LIFETIME OF LOVE (GEORGIA)
Theirs was the longest presidential marriage, spanning more than seven decades. Childhood neighbors in Plains, Georgia, they reconnected when Jimmy, home from the Naval Academy, took Rosalynn to a movie in 1945. They wed the following year. Rosalynn worked beside him on the peanut farm, in campaigns, and in the White House. Afterward, they dedicated their lives to humanitarian work through the Carter Center. Even in his final years, their devotion never wavered. Jimmy lived to be 100, Rosalynn lived to be 96; their story one of partnership as much as passion.
4. MARTIN LUTHER KING JR. AND CORETTA SCOTT – A DREAM SHARED (GEORGIA)
In Boston, Martin was a theology student; Coretta, a gifted musician. They bonded over music, philosophy, and a shared vision of justice. Married in 1953 in her family’s Alabama backyard, they faced the trials of leadership, public scrutiny, and constant danger. Coretta raised their children and advanced the civil rights movement alongside her husband. Their marriage endured until Martin’s assassination in 1968, after which Coretta carried his dream forward with unshakable strength.
Some of these love stories are legendary, others preserved in letters, literature, or memory. They capture not only the romance between two people but also the spirit of a time and place. From presidents and first ladies to musicians, writers, and everyday dreamers, American love stories reveal resilience, longing, loyalty, and sometimes heartbreak.
Evelyn Kelly and Natalie Kelly are the co-authors of "Have a Love Affair With Travel: Your Ticket to an Exhilarating Life," available on Amazon, and the upcoming book "Have a Love Affair With the USA," coming February 28.
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Bye Bye BB, My Preteen Crush
Towards the end of last year, many a red-blooded male octogenarian felt a tinge of nostalgic heartbreak with the passing of Brigitte Bardot. In my youth, I was as Bridgitte-Bardotobsessed as Billy Mumy was in the movie “Dear Bridgitte” (and I was grateful that he never wished her into the cornfield).
The French director Roger Vadim’s movie “And God Created Woman” was released in the US in 1957. I was 12 years old and had amassed a sizeable collection of Brigitte’s pictures, obtained primarily from Photoplay and other magazines taken from the waiting area of my Aunt Betty’s beauty salon, downstairs from our apartment. It always caused irritation whenever I would refer to it as “Aunt Betty’s Beauty Saloon.”
I kept my collection in a book I had hollowed out, just like the bad cowboys did to hide their six-shooters. I thought my hiding place was perfect until one morning I found it being used to prop open my bedroom window during one hot summer. Uh oh! Maybe no one noticed.
One evening, weeks later, my mom and stepdad loaded us into the car for movie night at the Ramona Drive-In which was featuring “And God Created Woman.”
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We found ourselves in a long, serpentine line of cars, which was backed up and spilling onto the highway in a line that seemed to go on forever. The turtle-slow pace prompted my folks to agree that we should turn around and head back home. Twisting to face me in the back seat, my mom said, “I’m sorry Michael!” (She knew what was up.)
My mind froze in response: “Busted!” I immediately feigned nonchalance, but my little pre-teen heart was broken... Crushed as if by a giant mortar and pestle.
Reflecting back on those days in the 50s, I think my mom was just happy to know that I liked girls.
RIP Brigitte Bardot: September 28, 1934 - December 28, 2025
If you had any particular star crushes as a youngster, please share them with Mike who says he’ll hold them in the strictest of confidence. micwrighthamo@gmail.com
3 Easy Tips to Keeping Valentine’s Flowers Fresh
By Michele D. Baker
Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. Surveys show that behind chocolates, flowers are at the top of the gift list. If you received a gorgeous bouquet of flowers this holiday, there are several easy things you can do to extend the longevity of those petals.
1. SNIP THEM AGAIN
When you get flowers from a shop or supermarket, they are already cut, wrapped, and soaking in a bucket of water. Even so, many florists would advise you to trim the stems as soon as you get home. Here’s why.
Just like all living things, flowers possess a vascular system running through the stems to absorb water and nutrients and transfer them to the petals. During their trip to your doorstep, the flowers may not be submerged in water. This causes air to be drawn into the stems and will block the water absorption once you put them in the vase. To prevent this, cut a half inch (or more) of the stems with sharp pruning shears.
Immediately after trimming, submerge the flowers in the water to prevent more air bubbles from forming. Arrange your flowers into a desirable shape and use a rubber band on the stems before snipping to prevent unnecessary movements after cutting. Remove any leaves that will be located below the water line, as they can rot quickly and spread bacteria to healthy parts of the flower.
2. JUST LIKE PEOPLE AND PETS, FLOWERS NEED FRESH WATER
You’ll also need to watch the water you’re introducing to fresh flowers. Hot water is one of the worst mistakes you can make – it will essentially cook the flowers – so room temperature water is best. However, slightly cool water can help flowers like daffodils and tulips last even longer.
It is also important to change the water every two to three days (even daily, with certain varieties). As time goes by, the water will become cloudy and filled with bacteria. Remember to wash the vase when you change the water to remove debris that sticks to the vase wall. It’s also helpful to trim the stems a bit, too, each time you change the water.
3. FEED YOUR FLOWERS
Every flower shop has its own secret mixture of flower food. Ask them to sell you some, purchase ready-made packets online, or try making your own at home. Typically, flower food contains three basic ingredients: sugar, acid, and antibacterial products. Sugar provides nourishment. Acid keeps the water pH level low to reduce wilting and help the flowers absorb water better; try citric acid from lemons or crushed vitamin C. The most common antibacterial products are bleach and spirits such as vodka or gin. Another unconventional, yet tried and true, method to keep fresh flowers last longer is by using crushed aspirin (salicylic acid).
Three Dance Groups Unite to Inspire Lifelong Fitness at Mardi Gras
Excitement is building as three dynamic dance groups—ranging in age from 24 to 80—join forces to form a high-energy, 90-member parade team. The Dancing Grannies of Milwaukee, the Fascinators of Tampa Bay, and Stayin’ Alive Crew of Atlanta unite to perform in the vibrant Krewe of Thoth Mardi Gras Parade in New Orleans.
As one of the most spirited and anticipated parades of the Mardi Gras season, the Krewe of Thoth attracts thousands of spectators annually. Attendees are treated to a joyful fusion of energizing music and infectious enthusiasm. Although these three groups have different dance styles, age ranges, and ways of giving back to their communities—each inspires fitness and passion for life.
During the parade, the groups will rotate performances along the 6.5-mile route, culminating in a unified number set to “We Are Family,” blending hip-hop, stylish, and sassy choreography that showcases each group’s unique flair while celebrating togetherness.
The groups emphasize that fitness is best enjoyed together. Exercising with peers and supporting each other as a family creates accountability, joy, and motivation—key ingredients for lifelong health and wellness. By dancing, laughing, and sharing experiences, these women show that staying active is not only achievable but deeply rewarding when shared with others.
This marks the Milwaukee Dancing Grannies’ second Mardi Gras parade appearance; their first visit, invited by the 610 Stompers, was in 2023. Jean Knutson, Executive Director of the Dancing Grannies, said, “In uniting three distinct dance troupes from across the country, this collaboration celebrates not only performance, but connection. Despite our differences, we’re showing the world what’s possible when people come together with open hearts. As we entertain the people of New Orleans, our message is clear: We Are Family.”
Uniting groups from three states is no small feat and includes creating and memorizing choreography, physical training for the
long parade route, and trip logistics. The groups have received invaluable support and guidance from local krewes, including the 610 Stompers, The Geaux Geauxs, and the Ladies of Leisure Kaftan Klub. The Geaux Geauxs have volunteered some of their krewe to help on parade day, and spectators will see them actively supporting the performance along the route.
Fans and viewers are encouraged to follow the group on Facebook at “3 Dance Groups Unite for Mardi Gras 2026” for behind-the-scenes content, live streams, and parade-day coverage. Beyond the fun and excitement, following these crews is a powerful reminder that movement has no age limit and that passion for life can be celebrated every day. Through dance, community, and joy, these remarkable women inspire all of us to keep moving, stay connected, and embrace life fully—no matter our age.
The parade steps off at noon at State Street and Tchoupitoulas Street and ends at Poydras Street. For more information on the parade, visit www.mardigrasneworleans.com.
Calling Active Seniors: the Bike Your Age Challenge
For 87-year-old Kenneth Borow, a birthday isn’t marked with cake— it’s measured in miles.
Last year, Kenneth - a resident of senior community Wellington Bay in Wellington, Florida - didn’t just blow out candles; he marked his 87th birthday by completing an aweinspiring 87-mile bike ride across Palm Beach County. His personal tradition of cycling his age is a powerful, inspiring counter-narrative to the typical view of senior life.
• Marvel at Alaska’s natural beauty in Denali National Park
• Visit Alaska’s the Alaska Wildlife Conservation Center
• Cruise Glacier Bay and Wrangell St. Elias National Park
• Travel through the legendary Inside Passage
More than just an incredible physical feat, Kenneth’s annual ride has sparked a new movement—the “Bike Your Age” challenge—that’s proving it’s never too late to set and achieve an ambitious goal.
Kenneth’s vibrant approach to aging has already inspired his community. Dana Ray, Wellington Bay’s Director of Business Development, was so moved by his dedication that she adopted the challenge for her own 54th birthday, successfully completing her own 54-mile journey across the scenic Village of Wellington.
“When Kenneth told me about his most recent birthday ride, it inspired me to set a personal goal: riding 54 miles for my own birthday,” said Dana. “We have such a vibrant, active lifestyle at Wellington Bay, and I hope Kenneth’s story will inspire others who may not think they can accomplish such goals.”
Dana’s five-hour ride, which she plans to repeat annually, culminated in a celebratory picture with Kenneth, symbolically passing the torch of this ambitious new tradition.
• Visit must-see sights like the historic starting point of Route 66 in Chicago, the famous Cadillac Ranch in Amarillo, and the “End of the Trail” sign in Santa Monica
• Explore natural wonders of the Grand Canyon, Petrified Forest National Park, and the Painted Desert
• Discover Seligman, known as the “historic birthplace of Route 66,” and visit the vibrant Hotel El Rancho in Gallup, where Golden Age movie stars once stayed
Dana Ray and Keith Borow
Seniors getting Together
WOMEN SEEKING MEN
WOMEN SEEKING MEN
4907 - SWF. 59 yo, 5’9”, 160 lbs, smoker, blonde hair, blue eyes. I like shing, movies, traveling, dancing, good food. Seeks SWM who likes the same.
5644 PLANT CITY WIDOW – A Plant City widow who misses her longtime husband and best friend. Searching for a white easy-going male in his 70s to meet and start a friendship with and perhaps lead to a longtime companion to share my life with. Plant City
5409 - WRETCHED old hagg seeking miserable old troll. If U respond U obviously have a sense of humor & R adventurous. I’m 76, blonde, petite, earthy, easy to B with. Love singing, dancing, biking, cooking, vintage cars & vintage men. Must have a little class & a lot of character.
5653 VENICE, JERSEY, TRUMP, UNVAXED – I value kindness, honest, smart. I like dogs, cars, and fish. 420 friendly – looking for a match for the last chapter. Let’s meet on 41. Healthy. Phone number and picture, please. Sarasota.
searching for a white, easy-going male in his 80s to meet and start a friendship with, and perhaps lead to a longtime companion to share my life with. Plant city
5419 - HAVE A NICE DAY. SWF, 75 yo, 5’5”, slender, brunette, green eyes, adventurous, love walks, parks, outdoors, healthy food. Am happy, loving, kind. LTR, intimacy? Have photo. Tampa.
4119 - Seeking Honest gentleman. Former airline stewardess and model, 5’4”, 104 lbs., slender, white with Ph.D. in healthcare. Fulbright scholar, eats healthy and exercises. Likes sports and animals. WW. Loves the Lord. Florida.
MEN SEEKING WOMEN
5654 PURPLE HEART WIDOW
5422 - VERY PRETTY WWF ISO FF. Long blonde hair, youthful 60’s, 5’4”, slim, ND, NS. Fine dining, dancing, theatre, travel. Looking for retired W gentleman, 5’9”, 6575, HWP, SOH. Will speak soon. Send photo & phone.
– Seeks a companion, not a new husband. Pretty and fun. Love, scuba, boating, real crime and travel, 420 friendly. Kind, smart, single. You could be happy. Picture and Phone, please. Venice.
5436 - TAMPA VETERAN NEEDS COMPANION QUICKLY. SW, 60, looking for healthy, W, 45-65 for LTR. Need compuer operations, applications expert and handy homemaker. Quiet music, parks, swimming, local touring. Veteran literary a plus. Tampa.
5427 - SEEKING SINCERE, HONEST GENTLEMAN. I’m 70s, HWP, NS, ND, like to meet SWM with same interest for LTR. Laid back, no drama. Like animals. Hillsborough & Pasco.
5662 SWF – retired P looking for FF. Secure. Seeking SWM. Snowbird OK. I’m in Port Charlotte full-time. Hoping for a partner physically fit, dancing, restaurants, travel, cards, church, lover of holding hands. Sociable NS &ND. Enjoys holidays. Please send phone number and picture.
5425 - SINCERE CHRISTIAN WOMAN desires C-man who really loves God and is active, lives a healthy life, helps his neighbor, enjoys nature (including picnics), canoeing and a friend to all animals. I’m all of the above. I’m a W ,etite lady with long hair and chearful. Age 60’s, Age preferred: Mid 50’s and up. I live in Hillsborough County. Please write me, tell me about yourself.
5663 SHF 64 – Looking for active male 60 to 73 NS. Likes to drive, beach, walk in parks. Watching TV and cuddling on the sofa. Romantic. Friends first, maybe LTR. Send a photo and phone.
5431 – LONELY WWF, looking for love & companion. Man should be 70 to 80 yrs old. I am nancially secure, have a car & condo. I live in N. St. Pete.
5664 THE QUEST – A woman seeking adventure & savoring the moments. SF. Creative, foodie, staying fit, nearing 60yy. If not now, when? SOH. Conversationalist, beach, museums. Dare I suggest dancing? Yes!
5429 - HERE, DURING COVID-19 IN S. FT. MYERS. ISO friendship only with W, widower in early 80’s. SOH, honest, NS. I am W, WW, HWP, attractive & intellgent. Please respond with phone/email. Be safe & well.
5637 SWGF – 70 years young. What the world needs now is…. well, gentlemen, you decide! I’m willing to share my time with you, walking, dinner, coffee, Café, Moderate height and weight. Tampa
5413 - WW ISO BUDDY, FRIEND to pal around with who’s about my age, 80’s, gal or guy with SOH. Good health, nancially secure to have fun & enjoy life. No Trumpers or religious zealots please. Let the good times roll.
5624 LOOKING FOR MALE COMPANION – A plant city widow,
5670 – Single female 5’2” slim A, NS,SD seeking S male 60-70 NS dance partner to practice intermediate ballroom dance. If you are a heavy drinker or smoker, “no need to reply”. Health and fitness are an important part of my lifestyle. Friendships must grow slowly and steadily over time, embracing differences. New paths require a willingness to explore to nurture new connections. Interests: tennis, ballroom dancing, ten-pin bowling, and long walks. Music: ballroom, rock, jazz, pop and country. Sun City Center.
5411 - BM seeks LTR with 50-65 yr old woman of character. I am 6’0”, 180 lbs, 60 year old. NS. Children are adults. Free to travel. I am a one woman man. Race is not an issuecharacter is!
MEN SEEKING WOMEN
5407 - ISO BF, 50+, slender build who likes to read, go out to eat, movies, laid back, enjoys laughter & is drama free. Look forward to hearing from you. I am a WM, 5’11”, 155 lbs, NS and drama free.
5415 - M, WW, NS, SD, HWP, P, FF, likes cards, walks, cooking, travel, fun.
5622 HI – A VERY MATURE – W, M, 140 lb., white hair, brown eyes, of reasonable looks, 5’8”. In Tampa. NS, SD only. Shall we meet for coffee, and see? Yes, my parents are of Italian descent, but born in the USA. Seeking H, W, P, lady who is mobile and likes life, but wants more. Trump can offer a better life. Now you know how I think.
5424 - HI, Lonely guy, WM, 5’8”, 160 lbs, a young mid-seventies, NS, NS, t, active and adventuresome. Seeks lady, mid-sixties to early seventies, HWP, exercises, possible romance, LTR. Let’s be happy and celebrate life.
5638 HELLO. SWM SEEKING – petite relocatable gal to be my companion, best friend, life partner and lover. I’m secure, easy going, loving and romantic. NS, ND. 5’7” 150lbs. Share my life and home. Save that rent. Send photo and phone number please. No pets.
5393 - SWM, 69, 5’11”, AVG. Hair black, thinning, DAV, honest, sincere, relocated Hudson. Retired Leo. ISO WHF, widow preferred, attractive, sm. butt, NS, ND, handy homemaker, intimacy yes, no baggage, drama.
5428 - M, WW, NS, SD, HWP, R, TLC, 70’s. Likes sharing many activities together, quiet evenings; be adventurous.
5642 SWM – Y 71 SOH, open-minded. ISO fun HWP F for ST LT. 33701, W, NS, ND. I'm fun, enjoy dancing, cuddling, affection. Outdoors, walking , holding hands, karaoke, romantic movies, much more. Not into sports.
5426 - EASY GOING MAN. I’m 69, 140 lbs, 5’7”, widower, lives alone. Seeking other gentlemen for friendship, to get together and enjoy each other’s company. Will answer alll.
5648 SBM, 73 – Happy holidays! Enjoy Florida and all it has to offer. Would luv to meet single lady, (race unimportant) to have a great time with. “Old skool” kind of guy. Riverview.
5369 – Looking For Ms Right. Retired New York Attorney, former New York Police O cer, looking for loving relationship with kind and sincere, self-caring lady. 65 – 75. Widow preferred. Clearwater area.
5665 – Wanted men and ladies who love to sing. No previous knowledge required. It’s fun for all ages. If you’re too busy to sing, you’re to busy. Venice Gondoliers Singers.
5412 - LOOKING FOR ADVENTEROUS WOMAN. SWM, NS, healthy, retired, enjoys country music, home cooking, day trips to scenic attractions, sun rises, sunsets, movies, walks in the park. For more info, write me. Pinellas County.
5667 RETIRED DWM – NS. ND. Debt free. Night owl. Seeking same for passionate
5416 - LOOKING FOR COMPANION. SWM
seeking t, attractive, female. Very handsome, very t senior. 5’11”, 175, blue eyes, silver hair. Let’s enjoy life’s pleasures. Dunedin.
LT. 55 to 71. Overweight is OK. I like playing cards and true crime TV. Phone number, please. Brandon
5668 – Marine, outdoorsy and Scandinavian descent. Handy, fit, clean, and healthy. Looking for a woman with a couple of these traits in or near Sarasota. Let’s try and grow together in the sunshine!
5417 - PINELLAS PARK, FUN LOVING SWM, seeking SWW to enjoy sports activities, bridge, dominoes, pinochle and swimming at Mainlands. I’m 88 and very active. Looking for SWW over 70. I’m 6’3”, 235 lbs and a dancer. Pinellas Park.
5660 HAPPY MAN ISO VITAL WOMAN
– Gallery exhibition Brussels Belgium 2025 photography. Clean, sober, dedicated, peaceful, ageless, slim. Harleys, Corvette, Backgammon. Natural full head of long hair. Movies, Jazz blues. Eats out often.
5671 –Are you petite SF who is fun, easy-going, likes happy hour and restaurants? I am a senior, SWM 5’6”. NS ND SOH with money. Tyrone square area. Happy dating!
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Social Security Q&A
Information from Social Security Administration
Social Security and Medicare Part B
Question: What is the monthly premium for Medicare Part B for this year?
Answer: For 2026 the amount is $202.90 a month.
Question: I started working and I have employee group insurance coverage; how can I terminate my Medicare Part B (medical insurance)?
Answer: You can voluntarily terminate your Medicare Part B (Medical Insurance). However, you may need to have a personal interview with Social Security to review the risks of dropping coverage and to assist you with your request. To find out more about how to terminate Medicare Part B or to schedule a personal interview, contact us at 1-800-772-1213.
Question: What are Medicare late enrollment penalties?
Answer: In most cases, if you don’t sign up for Medicare when you’re first eligible, you may have to pay a higher monthly premium.
It’s important to sign up for Medicare coverage during your Initial Enrollment Period, unless you have other coverage that’s similar in value to Medicare (like from an employer). If you don’t, you may have to pay an extra amount, called a late enrollment penalty.
Late enrollment penalties are added to your monthly premium. They are not a one-time late fee. Penalties are usually charged for as long as you have that type of coverage (for most people, that’s a lifetime penalty). The Part A penalty is different. Finally, late enrollment penalties go up the longer you wait to sign up – they’re based on how long you go without coverage similar to Medicare.
AROUND TOWN
FEBRUARY 6: TRIBUTES TO AEROSMITH AND FOREIGNER
Gulf Theater at the Military Heritage Museum, 900 W. Marion Ave., Punta Gorda
FEBRUARY 6-8: ARTFEST FORT MYERS
Downtown Fort Myers, 2125 1st St., Fort Myers
FEBRUARY 7: FRENCH QUARTER FUNK FESTIVAL
Seminole Casino Hotel Immokalee, 506 1st St., Immokalee
FEBRUARY 7-8: BONITA SPRINGS NATIONAL ART FESTIVAL
Riverside Park, Bonita Springs
FEBRUARY 8: PUPPY BOWL IV (A FUN FILLED DAY OF WATCHING PUPPIES PLAY ON ASTROTURF!)
Cape Coral Animal Shelter, 325 SW 2nd Avenue, Cape Coral
FEBRUARY 12: A SLICE OF NAPLES FOOD TOUR
Paradise Food Tours. www.paradisefoodtours.com/tours/naples-pizzawars
FEBRUARY 13: SEAFOOD & MUSIC FESTIVAL 2026
Founders Square at Babcock Ranch
FEBRUARY 13-15: 56TH ANNUAL EVERGLADES SEAFOOD FESTIVAL
102 Copeland Ave. N, Everglades City
FEBRUARY 14: 20TH ANNUAL COCONUT POINT ART FESTIVAL
Coconut Point, 23181 Via Villagio Dr., Estero
FEBRUARY 15: SEAFOOD & MUSIC FESTIVAL
Babcock Ranch Rd., Punta Gorda
FEBRUARY 21: EDISON FESTIVAL OF LIGHT & CRAFTS ON THE RIVER
Caloosa Sound Amphitheater, 2101 Edwards Dr., Fort Myers
FEBRUARY 21: ABSOLUTE QUEEN - A TRIBUTE TO QUEEN
Charlotte Harbor Event and Conference Center, 75 Taylor Street, Punta Gorda
FEBRUARY 25: CAST IRON FEAST (ESTERO EARLY SETTLER RECIPES)
Copperleaf Golf Club, 23101 Copperleaf Blvd., Bonita Springs
FEBRUARY 25-26: STYX WITH CHEAP TRICK
Hertz Arena, 11000 Everblades Pkwy., Estero
FEBRUARY 26 - MARCH 8: FLORIDA STRAWBERRY FESTIVAL®
303 BerryFest Place, Plant City. www.FLStrawberryFestival.com
FEBRUARY 27: NATE BARGATZE
Hertz Arena, 11000 Everblades Pkwy., Estero
FEBRUARY 27: EVERY QUILT HAS A STORY
Charlotte Harbor Event and Conference Center, 75 Taylor Street, Punta Gorda
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