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Kwame A. Ennin, MD, MBA Orthopaedic Surgeon
Kwame Ennin, MD, MBA, is a fellowship-trained board-certified orthopedic surgeon at Texas Joint Institute in McKinney and Plano, Texas who is an expert in hip and knee replacement procedures, adult reconstructive surgery, and nonoperative osteoarthritis care. Dr. Ennin earned his undergraduate degree in biochemistry from the State University of New York in Stony Brook. He then went on to receive his medical education at the University of Cincinnati College of Medicine, before completing his general internship and orthopedic surgery residency at The University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas. He is fellowship-trained in adult reconstructive surgery from William Beaumont Hospital in Michigan. Dr. Ennin has a keen desire to educate. He is a presenter and educator to his colleagues regarding direct anterior total hip arthroplasty, total knee arthroplasty, revision total knee arthroplasty, partial knee replacement, and robotic surgery. He is committed to ensuring that the best understandings and techniques are available to all surgeons in the orthopedic community. Dr. Ennin is passionate about research. He has, throughout his career, been involved in and published numerous peer-reviewed studies. Dr. Ennin has been a leader in the North Texas orthopedic community since 2015. He delivers personalized, patientcentered, evidence-based care for his patients. He is committed to taking care of his patient’s joints for their lifetime.
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WELLNESS, WISDOM, & THE BEAUTY OF BECOMING
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n this issue of LIVING WELL, we’re honored to once again feature Dr. Stephen Courtney on our cover. A SPRING AND SAM HOUSTON board-certifi d, fellowship-trained orthopedic spine surgeon, Dr. Courtney has dedicated more than 28 years to restoring mobility and improving quality of life for patients across North Texas. His commitment to surgical excellence, patient care, and innovation continues to set a gold standard in orthopedic wellness—and his story is one we’re proud to share again with our readers. We’re also delighted to offer a rich mix of thoughtful, real-life refl ctions that dig deeper into modern-day wellness. In “Older Kids, Wiser Parenting,” Sarah Collins captures the quiet, sometimes tender ache of parenting teens and young adults with remarkable grace. It’s a moving exploration of what it means to stay close while stepping back, to love fie cely without clinging. If you’re in this stage of life—or approaching it—you’ll fi d comfort in its honesty and insight. Read it on page 16. And for anyone who’s ever scrolled social media and felt that pang of “Why not me?” Lauren Hayes’ piece, “The Comparison Trap,” on page 44, offers a compassionate look at envy as a mirror, not a flaw. With nuance and care, she invites us to use comparison not to diminish ourselves, but to reconnect with what we truly value.
Finally, we take a different kind of deep dive—into Hollywood’s beloved “internet daddy,” Pedro Pascal. From The Last of Us to The Mandalorian, Pascal has charmed audiences not just with his performances, but with his humanity. His rise speaks to the power of emotional complexity in an age of spectacle, and his story is a timely reminder that resilience, humor, and quiet authenticity never go out of style. Wherever this season fi ds you—redefini g your role, reclaiming your joy, or simply catching your breath—we hope these pages offer wisdom, perspective, and a little encouragement to keep living well. Live well,
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The Comparison Trap Finding Peace in a World of Perfect Lives
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Brian Nwannunu MD, MS Brian Nwannunu, MD, MS, is an orthopedic surgeon specializing in hip and knee replacement. He care for patients at Texas Joint Institute in McKinney, Texas. Dr. Nwannunu, a native of Dallas, graduated Valedictorian from the High School for Health Professions at Townview Magnet Center in DISD. He then earned his bachelor’s degree in Biology at Morehouse College in Atlanta, Georgia, where he was part of the Morehouse College Honors Program. Upon graduation, he completed his master’s degree in Physiology at Georgetown University in Washington, D.C., with a concentration on complementary and alternative medicine. Dr. Nwannunu then graduated with his medical degree from Howard University College of Medicine in Washington, D.C., where he was inducted into the Alpha Omega Alpha Honor Medical Society. Dr. Nwannunu completed his residency in orthopedic surgery at the John Peter Smith Health Network in Fort Worth, Texas, before pursuing additional training with a fellowship in adult reconstruction at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston, Texas. In addition to his clinical training, Dr. Nwannunu enjoys mission work abroad, providing medical care and health education to populations in need. He is a member of the American Medical Association, National Medical Association, American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons and the American Association of Hip and Knee Surgeons. When not working, Dr. Nwannunu enjoys basketball, weight training, outdoor activities, attending art and music festivals, traveling, world news, and reading.
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Stephen P. Courtney, MD BOARD-CERTIFIED, FELLOWSHIP-TRAINED ORTHOPEDIC SPINE SURGEON PRACTICING FOR OVER 28 YEARS.
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or board-certifi d, fellowship trained orthopedic spine surgeon Dr. Stephen P. Courtney, patients come fi st. It’s an ethos that developed early on in his life and one that has helped guide him in his journey to earn a distinguished reputation among his professional colleagues, medical peers and, most importantly, his patients. Dr. Courtney began his medicine career from the ground up. While a teenager, he spent summers working in a rural north Louisiana hospital. As an orderly, he was an integral part of the hospital environment. While not a glorifi d job, cleaning bed pans, changing bed sheets, cleaning patient rooms, helping medical practitioners, and assisting patients, offered him an invaluable glimpse into the hard work and dedication necessary to succeed in the medical fi ld. The job also served as the catalyst for his decision to pursue medical school. Inspired by the patients he’s cared for there, Dr. Courtney made education a priority. He was salutatorian of his high school class and went on to graduate summa cum laude from Northeast Louisiana University. While at Louisiana State University Medical School, he utilized his summer to perform spine biomechanical tests on human spine cadavers utilizing pedicle screws. Considered cutting edge biomechanics and technology at that time, most spine surgeons didn’t even know they existed yet. However, Dr. Courtney performed one of the fi st biomechanical tests on those implants. It was a feat that earned him the Howmedica Biomechanic Award and the Louisiana Orthopedic Association Award. He also placed fourth in the World Congress for Student Research Competition. Dr. Courtney’s residency at Texas A&M University Medical Center and further specialty training through a fellowship at Florida Neck & Back Institute in Gainesville, Florida, additionally cemented his strong medical foundation. From there, he continued to gain more knowledge and insight on how to help his patients with useful tools, while recognizing there was room for much improvement in the tools at hand. Th s realization inspired Dr. Courtney to design, develop, biomechanically test, complete FDA testing and oversee quality control and validation on a host of tools he created. To date, Dr. Courtney has developed nine spinal product lines and obtained nine patents and 14 trademarks on spine related products. When he’s not traveling the country training other physicians on how to utilize his products, Dr. Courtney dedicates himself to the patients of his own medical practice, Advanced Spine Center. Led by Dr. Courtney, the skilled team at Advanced Spine Center cares for patients with neck and back pain using a wide array of the most state-of-the-art tools and techniques—from conservative physical therapy and injection therapy—to advanced pain manage-
ment, as well as surgical intervention. We employ the latest in minimally invasive spine surgeries, in addition to cutting-edge replacement technology. Incorporating both high tech and high touch, we get our valued patients back to their lives so they can enjoy all the activities they love. The medical fi ld is not the only arena in which Dr. Courtney excels. He approaches fitness with the same dedication and vigor he applies to medicine. In 2005, Dr. Courtney was in the top 10 of his age group in mountain biking in Texas. He also completed one of the largest cycling events in the country multiple times: the “Hotter’N Hell” race. Always up for a new challenge, from there, he began training to compete in triathlons. Dr. Courtney trains for triathlons with the same focus he uses as a surgeon. Waking up at 4 a.m. six days per week to work out in his home gym, he never waivers from the goal at hand—exceeding his personal best. After successfully completing multiple triathlons, Dr. Courtney shows no signs of slowing down. He continues to train and looks forward to competing in many more triathlons. “I think if you can survive a triathlon you are absolutely living well,” he says. Paying attention to fitness is something he encourages his patients to consider, too. “People don’t have to be a tri-athlete to be healthy. I like to tell people you need to start small. Do something to be active. It can even be yard work—that’s a great workout too. As you get older especially, you need to be in tune with your body, monitor your calorie intake and be active. I encourage people to change slowly, start small, and fi d out what you like to do,” he says. Sharing his wellness journey is part of the straight-forward, honest approach that puts his patients at ease and creates a trusting bond, an important element for the highly technical operations Dr. Courtney performs to help restore patients’ quality of life. As he learned early on, the single most important person in the treatment process is the patient and well-informed patients are more successful in following through on their rehabilitation and have better outcomes. It’s a sentiment that his patients echo. “You don’t want to trust (your back) to just somebody that has his name on a door. You have to go to people that you trust. I talked to people and everybody trusted Dr. Stephen Courtney and I do too and I’d highly recommend him,” says Judy Jones, a lumbar fusion patient of Dr. Courtney’s. “Above all, I believe in treating each and every patient I have with honesty, dignity, and respect. My patients come away from our shared interactions feeling confide t, assured that they are truly in the best hands,” says Dr. Courtney, who always brings his A-game.
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Natasha Hernandez SURGERY: L5/S1 360° LUMBAR FUSION “After having back surgery twice and being frustrated with the lack of care from my previous doctor, I made an appointment to see Dr. Courtney. He is one of the most humble, funny, laid back and coolest surgeons I’ve met. He makes you feel like family. His office staff is amazing. His clinic Eminent Medical Center, where he performs the procedures, is also a 5-star facility. Every staff member I have encountered there has been so caring and professional. I am so glad I decided to change doctors and meet Dr. Courtney. I can see his attention to detail and his caring personality every time I see him. Before my injections he took some time to chat and made me feel at ease since it’s always nerve wrecking to have any spinal procedure. I will be having surgery soon and even though I am nervous and scared I know I am in good hands, and I know Dr. Courtney and all his staff will take great care of me. Thanks, Dr. Courtney and thanks to all his staff.”
Irene Shelby SURGERY: LEFT L5/S1 MICRODISCECTOMY “My husband and I have been coming to Dr. Courtney for years. We trust him for all of our back issues here recently. I had a spinal condition and had no doubt that Dr. Courtney would be able to take care of this and make me fully normal again. He and his staff were amazing! From the moment I decided to move forward with the surgery option to the very last post-op appointment, Dr. Courtney and his staff have been nothing but pleasant, courteous, professional and extremely friendly and helpful. I encourage anyone who has any type of back pain to come to Dr. Courtney’s office He is the BEST!”
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Holly Coffman SURGERY: L5/S1 360° LUMBAR FUSION
“After struggling for 11 years with severe back pain, I found Dr. Courtney through a mutual friend. After the first visit, Dr. Courtney said he could fix my problem back pain and let me tell you HE DID! This 360° fusion has saved my life. Thank you, Doctor Courtney.”
Lori Juarez SURGERY: L4/5, L5/S1 360° LUMBAR FUSION
“After years of learning to “live with the pain” I made an appointment with Dr. Courtney, expecting a drawn out wait time. I was shocked at the quick, friendly and professional attention I received from Dr. Courtney and his staff. After 5 years of life altering pain, I am able to keep up with twin toddlers and a 3-yearold grandbaby without a problem. From office to operating room, Dr. Courtney and his staff are the best at what they do.”
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Older Kids, Wiser Parenting Parenting When the Nest Is Loosening By SARAH COLLINS
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here’s a moment—quiet, nearly invisible—when the hum of family life shifts. The backpacks are still tossed by the door, the shoes still multiply in corners, but something’s changed. Your child—once a small, constant presence—is now taller than you and soon creeping into their 20s. Their questions have grown more complex. Their silences, longer. They come and go in a rhythm that feels less like yours and more like their own. And without anyone saying so, parenting begins to feel like a practice in letting go. Raising older kids—teenagers and young adults—is a different kind of love story. It’s less about guidance and more about grace and connection. Less about control and more about quiet presence. You’re still needed, of course. But in ways that can be hard to recognize, and harder still to accept. You used to be the sun around which their world revolved. Now, you are the steady warmth they orbit when they choose to, sometimes with long, silent stretches in between.
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The Shift No One Prepares You For There’s no celebration when your child no longer reaches for your hand. No party when they stop asking for bedtime stories or needing you at every practice. These shifts happen slowly, then all at once. One day you’re making their lunch and reminding them to bring a jacket. The next, they’re driving themselves to school and leaving texts unread. Th s can be jarring. For years, your days were structured around their needs. The logistics of raising children require you to be a constant manager, nurturer, and protector. But when those demands ease, what remains is less clear—and often less applauded. You may fi d yourself wondering: Where do I fit now? What does good parenting look like when your child is pulling away? There’s no one answer. But perhaps the beginning lies in understanding that love at this stage is less about doing, and more about being.
Being a Steady Presence, Not a Constant One Older kids don’t always need answers. They don’t always want advice. What they need—though they may not say it—is the assurance that you’re there. That your love doesn’t hinge on their success, their choices, or how often they call home. They need to know they can fail in front of you and still be met with kindness. Th s is the work now: to soften the edges of our expectations. To listen more than we lecture. To offer guidance like a lighthouse offers light—not chasing, not controlling, just shining steadily from the shore. It requires restraint, especially when their decisions seem risky or strange. But it’s in that restraint that trust grows. The more we allow them to struggle, the more they learn their own strength.
The Courage to Evolve Alongside Them Parenting older kids often requires shedding old identities. You are no longer the fi er of scraped knees, the orchestrator of playdates, the keeper of schedules. And while that can feel like loss, it can also be an invitation: to evolve. As your children grow, you’re offered the chance to rediscover parts of yourself that may have been paused. A creative spark. A dormant ambition. A version of you that exists beyond parenting. You’re allowed to change, too. And when you do, your kids notice. Not always with words, but with curiosity. They see that growth doesn’t stop at a certain age. That reinvention is always possible. In this way, you continue to parent—not by doing, but by being an example of a life still unfolding.
agree. What matters most is that they know they can come to you— and that they’ll be met with compassion.
Letting Them Struggle (and Still Sleeping at Night) Perhaps one of the hardest parts of parenting older kids is watching them suffer. Whether it’s a friendship breakup, academic pressure, heartbreak, or just the general confusion of growing up, their pain no longer lives under your roof in a way you can easily reach. There’s no Band-Aid for existential dread. No quick fix for selfdoubt. And so we do the most radical thing: we stay close while doing less. We don’t swoop in. We don’t solve. We trust that they will fi d their way—because that’s the only way they’ll learn that they can. Th s doesn’t mean disengaging. It means offering emotional safety while allowing for emotional risk. It means saying, “Th s is hard. I’m here.” Not, “Here’s how to fix it.” That balance can feel impossible. But with practice, it becomes one of the greatest gifts you can give—a belief in their own resilience.
When the House Grows Quieter As older kids begin to build lives outside of your home, the quiet can feel deafening. You might walk past their empty room and feel an ache you can’t quite name. You might miss the chaos you once craved a break from. Th s is a tender time. It’s okay to feel grief here. It’s okay to feel joy, too. To enjoy the new freedom. To miss the old messiness. Often, both exist at once. What helps is ritual. New ones. A Saturday morning walk. A standing dinner date. A shared show or book club, even if it’s over FaceTime. Connection looks different now, but it’s still possible. And in some ways, even more beautiful—because it’s chosen.
Trusting the Seeds You’ve Planted More than anything, this stage of parenting is a test of faith. You’ve spent years planting seeds: kindness, integrity, empathy, resilience. You can’t control how they take root. But you can trust that they’re there. When your child faces a challenge and handles it with grace, you see those seeds. When they apologize without prompting. When they stand up for someone. When they take responsibility for a mistake. And even when they don’t, you remember: this is still their story to write. You’re no longer the narrator. You’re the editor in the wings, ready to support—but not to rewrite.
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One of the great gifts of this stage is the potential for deeper, richer conversations. When they were younger, communication often revolved around logistics and rules. But now, if you’re lucky—and if you create the space—there are glimpses of real dialogue. Opinions. Fears. Dreams. Ideas that surprise you. These conversations don’t always arrive on your schedule. They tend to emerge late at night, on long drives, or in the middle of folding laundry. The key is to be available without hovering, interested without interrogating. Curiosity, without control. It’s okay if they don’t tell you everything. In fact, it’s healthy. But when they do open up, honor it. Even if it’s hard. Even if you don’t
Th s chapter asks us to reimagine what it means to parent. To move from doing to being. From directing to witnessing. From holding tightly to holding space. It’s not always easy. But it can be deeply fulfilling. Because if we’re lucky, our children will continue to return— not out of obligation, but out of love. Not because they need us to solve things, but because they know we’ll listen. Not because they’re still our babies, but because we’ve become something even more enduring: a steady, loving presence in the unfolding of their lives. And in doing so, we realize that parenting doesn’t end when the house grows quiet. It just takes on a new, quieter power—one built not on control, but on connection.
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You Had a Stroke…In Your Eye?! Understanding the Connection Between Blood Pressure and Your Eye Health By MATTHEW K. ADAMS, MD, MBA
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s a retina specialist, I have seen fi sthand how systemic conditions like high blood pressure can lead to serious, sometimes irreversible vision problems. Two of the most common eye conditions related to uncontrolled blood pressure are hypertensive retinopathy and retinal vein occlusions. These conditions can sneak up silently, often without symptoms at fi st—but they can ultimately threaten your sight if not caught and managed in time. In this article, I will discuss how these conditions develop, why high blood pressure plays such an important role, and what you can do to protect both your eyes and your overall health.
What is Hypertensive Retinopathy? Hypertensive retinopathy is a condition where high blood pressure damages the small blood vessels in your eye. Over time, this damage can reduce the fl w of oxygen and nutrients to the retina, resulting in the following fi dings on your eye exam: • Narrowing of retinal arteries • Flame hemorrhages (bleeding) • Cotton wool spots (small areas that swell due to lack of blood fl w) • Swelling of the optic nerve (in severe cases) These changes might not affect your vision right away, but they’re a warning sign that your blood pressure is high enough to harm the delicate tissues in your eyes—and likely, other organs in your body like your brain, heart, and kidneys. Treatment of hypertensive retinopathy usually involves simply controlling the blood pressure. Flame hemorrhages, cotton wool spots, and swelling of the optic nerve can all be reversed with better control of hypertension. What is a Retinal Vein Occlusion? A retinal vein occlusion occurs when one of the veins that drains blood from your retina becomes blocked. Th s leads to a backup of blood and fluid, causing swelling, bleeding, and in many cases, loss of vision. High blood pressure increases the risk of retinal vein occlusions because it damages the blood vessel walls and contributes to blockages. The higher and more uncontrolled your blood pressure is, the greater your risk. Treatment of retinal vein occlusions often require injections in your eye and sometimes laser treatment as well. Vein occlusions are known to progress rapidly, so time-to-treatment is of paramount importance to preserving your vision.
Controlling Your Blood Pressure: The First Line of Defense The good news is that you can reduce your risk of hypertensive retinopathy and retinal vein occlusions by managing your blood pressure. Here are some practical steps: • Monitor your blood pressure regularly. Know your numbers and aim for your target range, usually around 120/80mmHg unless otherwise advised by your doctor. • Take medications as prescribed. Don’t skip doses or stop medications without discussing it with your healthcare provider fi st. • Limit salt intake. Sodium can raise blood pressure—try to stay under 1,500– 2,000mg per day. • Stay physically active. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise 3-5 days of the week. • Eat a heart-healthy diet. Plenty of vegetables, whole grains, healthy proteins (lean meat and fish), and avoiding trans and unsaturated fats. • Maintain a healthy weight. Losing even 5–10 pounds can make a signifi ant difference. • Avoid tobacco and limit alcohol. Both can raise blood pressure and damage blood vessels. When to See a Retina Specialist If you have high blood pressure—especially if it’s been uncontrolled for some time—it is crucial to get regular eye exams, including a dilated fundus exam by a retina specialist. A retina specialist can: • Monitor the health of your retinal blood vessels more closely • Use specialized imaging to assess for damage • Provide treatments such as injections or laser therapy if needed • Coordinate with your primary care doctor or cardiologist to help manage your overall health Remember: vision loss from these conditions can be sudden and permanent—early detection and management are your best defenses. Final Thoughts High blood pressure affects more than just your heart—it can silently damage your eyes and steal your vision if you’re not careful. However, with good blood pressure control and regular monitoring by your eye care team, including a retina specialist, you can preserve your sight and maintain a high quality of life. If you have high blood pressure, don’t wait until you notice a problem. Make an appointment for a comprehensive eye exam—and take the steps today that your future self will thank you for. COLLIN COUNTY • 19
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The actor we didn’t know we needed. By SONDRA BARR
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edro Pascal is now recognized around the globe—even when he’s hiding behind a Mandalorian helmet—but it’s the heart he brings to every role, an emotional range as rich as it is authentic, that has propelled him on a journey into the cultural zeitgeist. But now, at 50 years old, with two major blockbuster TV roles under his belt and a slate of upcoming projects as ambitious as they are high-profile, Pascal has become something more than a star. He’s become a cultural moment. Born in Chile and raised between Texas and California after his parents fl d the Pinochet regime as political refugees, Pascal’s path to stardom was neither smooth nor swift. As he told Vanity Fair, “I still awe at the opportunity that was handed to me by David Benioff, Dan Weiss, and Carolyn Strauss” when they cast him in Game of Thrones. “Without Th ones, I would not have had Narcos, The Mandalorian, or The Last of Us.” But before Westeros came years of lean times and near-misses. After graduating from NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts, Pascal scraped by with theater gigs and small TV parts, getting fi ed from more waitstaff jobs than he can count. He told Esquire, “I guess that, and this delusional self-determination, and no real skill at anything else, is what kept me going.” It was during those lean years in New York that he formed lifelong friendships with fellow actors, including Sarah Paulson. She told Esquire that she sometimes gave him her per diem from acting jobs so he could eat. “You just want him to succeed,” Paulson said. “And that, to me, is the sign of a major movie star.” Pascal’s breakout came in 2014 as Oberyn Martell, the Red Viper of Dorne, whose short but unforgettable arc in Game of Thrones showcased his magnetic screen presence. He followed it up with Netfli ’s Narcos, where his turn as DEA agent Javier Peña proved he could hold a show’s center of gravity. But the real seismic shift came with two wildly different roles: masked bounty hunter Din Djarin in Disney+’s The Mandalorian, and rugged survivor Joel in HBO’s The Last of Us. “He’s a part of some spectacularly successful things,” Paulson said, “but sometimes in those situations, the show is the superstar. It’s really exciting to see that he is the thing that is becoming the superstar out of this.” Both roles cemented Pascal as the go-to figu e for complicated, emotionally armored father figu es. But don’t let the paternal archetype fool you: Pascal is not formulaic. As Last of Us creator Craig Mazin noted, “There are actors you feel slightly intimidated by, and then there are actors you want to take home and hug and give some soup. And he’s both. Somehow he’s both.”
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Yet with all this success, Pascal remains unmoored from the trappings of celebrity. “I had a moment of thinking; ‘You’re in your 40s and you don’t own a home? Grow up,’” he told Esquire. “But I’m relinquishing expectations around what it is to be middle-aged and what it means to be fully grown up.” He speaks candidly about self-doubt and the many points when he almost gave up. “My vision of it was that if I didn’t have some major exposure by the time I was 29 years old, it was over,” he said. “So, I was constantly readjusting what it meant to commit my life to this profession.” Part of what makes Pascal so magnetic is the tension between his vulnerability and strength. He’s someone who survived hardship not with cynicism, but with warmth. According to multiple interviewers, he laughs easily, often at himself, and tells stories with the enthusiasm of someone still surprised by his own trajectory. His personal story is as remarkable as his professional one. As he shared on the Smartless podcast, his family’s fli ht from Chile involved hiding a wounded opposition member from Pinochet’s regime, going underground, and ultimately scaling the walls of the Venezuelan embassy to seek asylum. “And it worked,” Pascal said. His mother, a child psychologist, and father, a fertility doctor, would eventually settle in the U.S. and raise Pedro and his siblings between Texas and California. When his mother died in 2000, he adopted her surname professionally. “I just always wanted to be like, I’m here,” he said of stepping in to help care for his younger siblings. That same mix of loyalty and resilience defi es his career. Asked by Vanity Fair about his process, Pascal said: “I think everyone has a method, and I admire, even envy, those that have more rigorous ones. It’s always important to read a room, but sometimes disrupting the room can help achieve something that serves the work.” He doesn’t see himself as above the work, and in fact, often defl cts praise. While he was hailed for his 2023 Saturday Night Live hosting gig, Pascal demurred: “SNL was all of those challenges stuffed into one week of my life…I could not have had a better time.” From indie plays to Marvel blockbusters (he’ll soon debut as Reed Richards in The Fantastic Four: First Steps), Pascal remains impossible to pin down. He can go toe-to-toe with Nicolas Cage in The Unbearable Weight of Massive Talent (2022), then turn around and voice a tender fox in The Wild Robot (2024). He weaves in and out of internet memes with the same ease he brings to monologues. Whether he’s leaning on furniture mid-panic attack in The Last of Us or munching a sandwich in a viral YouTube clip, there’s a rare relatability to his presence. “It was really intimidating,” Pascal said to Men’s Journal this year. “I relied on the people that I was around to hold me to the experience and help get me through it. Stepping into something like Game of Thrones and then going into the early days of Netflix with Narcos and then Star Wars and the world of video games with The Last of Us, each time I’ve felt like I couldn’t top how intimidating the last one was.” “They’re all scary because you really want to make people happy, especially if it’s something that’s widely known with particular expectations around it because you want those expectations to be met,” Pascal continued. “You also want to be authentic to yourself so that it can be the best that it can be for anybody who wants to be entertained by a story and travel with us into this world.” Hailed by Time as one of the 100 most influential people in the world in 2023, Pascal is proof that stardom doesn’t have to come at the cost of authenticity. He doesn’t posture. He doesn’t pretend. He simply keeps showing up, doing the work, and letting the world catch up. In a landscape that often favors spectacle over soul, Pedro Pascal is a reminder that living well means showing up fully—heart, humor, and all. His rise may have taken time, but in a culture that craves truth and connection, he’s right on time.
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magine waking up one morning and realizing the world sounds quieter—on one side. There’s no pain, no clear cause. Just a strange silence in one ear. You might assume it’s earwax or a sinus issue. You might wait for it to pass. But that wait could cost you your hearing. Every year, thousands of adults experience a condition called sudden sensorineural hearing loss, or SSNHL. It’s often mistaken for something minor, yet it should be treated as a medical emergency. When it comes to preserving your hearing, time matters. SSNHL is defi ed as a rapid, unexplained loss of hearing—usually in one ear—that occurs over a span of a few hours or up to three days. In many cases, the fi st sign is subtle: sounds feel muted on one side, or the phone suddenly sounds muffled in one ear. Some people notice it when they wake up. Others hear a sudden “pop” followed by a sensation of fullness, ringing, or even dizziness. It can be disorienting. And because there’s often no pain, it’s easy to brush off r misdiagnose. In fact, one of the most common assumptions is that the ear is simply blocked with wax. That leads many people to delay seeking care. But unlike common blockages, SSNHL isn’t something that clears up on its own. It requires swift medical attention—ideally within the fi st two weeks—for the best chance of recovery. Doctors still don’t fully understand what causes SSNHL in most cases. In fact, a specific cause is identifi d in only about 10 to 15 percent of patients. When a cause can be pinpointed, it’s often linked to viral infections, autoimmune disorders, or problems with blood fl w to the inner ear. However, most cases are considered idiopathic, meaning there’s no obvious explanation. What’s clear, though, is the need for quick treatment. The most common therapy involves corticosteroids, which help reduce inflammation and swelling in the inner ear or auditory nerve. These medications can be taken orally or injected directly into the ear. When given promptly, they may improve the odds of restoring at least partial hearing. Without treatment, the chances of permanent hearing loss may increase.
SSNHL typically affects just one ear, and it impacts both men and women equally. While it can happen at almost any age, the most common time for fi st occurrence tends to be ages mid-40s to mid60s. And while SSNHL is relatively rare—affecting about one in every 5,000 adults annually—many experts believe it’s underreported due to misdiagnosis or delayed recognition. The key challenge is that SSNHL doesn’t look like a typical medical emergency. There’s no bleeding, no trauma, and no visible symptoms. As a result, many people assume it’s safe to wait it out. But when it comes to your hearing, time really is of the essence. If you experience sudden hearing loss, the fi st step is to contact a hearing professional or ENT specialist right away. A simple hearing test can determine whether the loss is due to a blockage (conductive hearing loss) or nerve damage (sensorineural). From there, your doctor can recommend a treatment plan. In some cases, additional tests may be needed to rule out underlying conditions such as autoimmune issues, infections, or even small tumors on the auditory nerve (though these are rare). While not every case leads to full recovery, many patients who receive prompt treatment may see a signifi ant return of hearing. Others may need ongoing support, including hearing aids or rehabilitation therapy. The important thing is that early intervention provides the best possible chance for improvement. Early intervention may also help prevent or assist in managing complications such as dizziness, tinnitus, and balance problems. The outcome of SSNHL may vary depending on the cause, severity, and individual response to different treatment plans. Living with hearing loss can be isolating, especially when it happens suddenly. It can affect communication, confide ce, and quality of life. But knowing the signs of SSNHL—and acting quickly—can make all the difference. So, if you ever notice a sudden change in your hearing, especially in one ear, don’t ignore it. Don’t wait and see. Seek medical help as soon as possible. Your hearing may depend on it. COLLIN COUNTY • 31
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e’ve all had the experience: the words are barely out of your mouth when you wish, with every cell in your body, that you could snatch them back. But there they are, fl ating in the air like an uninvited party guest—awkward, overconfide t, possibly offensive, and defin tely not what you meant. You might try to laugh it off. You might backpedal with the elegance of a flamingo on roller skates. Or you might just change the subject and pray everyone forgets. Spoiler: they won’t. Whether it’s blurting out an inappropriate comment at dinner, misjudging a joke in a meeting, or offering unsolicited advice that lands with the grace of a brick, we’ve all put our proverbial foot in our mouth. It’s part of being human. But somewhere along the way, most of us start craving a little more verbal grace. A little less cleanup in aisle conversation. A little more… thinking before speaking. At this point in life, we’ve learned that not every thought needs a microphone. And yet, the temptation to let something slip— whether it’s a spicy opinion, an outdated joke, or a “harmless” observation—is as present as ever. Maybe more so, given how many decades of opinions we’ve been quietly accumulating. The challenge, of course, is figu ing out which of those thoughts are actually worth releasing into the wild. Thi king before you speak isn’t about stifli g personality or walking on eggshells. It’s about discernment. It’s about understanding that words have weight, and that tossing them around carelessly can damage relationships, reputations, and even the way we see ourselves. Take, for example, the casual question lobbed at someone you haven’t seen in a while: “So, are you seeing anyone yet?” It may seem friendly enough, but for someone navigating a breakup, divorce, or simply enjoying solitude, it can land like a slap. Or that moment when someone shares a big accomplishment and you respond with a lukewarm, “Must be nice,” instead of a genuine congratulations. We don’t always mean to be thoughtless—it just kind of...happens. Often with good intentions. Occasionally with caffeine deficie cy. The good news is, a little self-awareness goes a long way. Thi king before you speak doesn’t require monk-like silence or a vow of eternal tact. It’s more like installing a mental speed bump. A brief pause. A quiet, internal moment to ask, “Is this helpful? Is it kind? Is it necessary? Will I regret this in seven seconds?” That pause can be a lifesaver. It can stop you from asking a woman who’s not pregnant when she’s due. It can keep you from telling your friend that you never liked their spouse (who, by the way, is still very much their spouse). It can rescue you from launching into a long-winded story that ends with “...guess you had to be there.” Most importantly, it can give you time to redirect a thoughtless comment into a more thoughtful one. Humor can be especially tricky. What you fi d hilarious may hit someone else like a punchline with a side of insult. That zinger you’ve used for years might have aged like milk, not wine. And while sarcasm is practically a second language for many of us, it can easily be misunderstood—especially in emotionally charged conversations or when typed into group texts at 11 p.m. Then there are those moments when we’re not trying to be funny—we’re trying to be helpful. But advice, even the wellmeaning kind, can backfi e spectacularly when it’s not asked
for. Telling someone how to handle their health, their money, or their children without being invited into the conversation is the verbal equivalent of rearranging someone else’s furniture. It may come from a good place, but it tends to cause bruised shins and bruised egos. One particularly effective strategy is to listen longer than you normally would. Not the kind of listening where you’re just waiting for your turn to speak, but the real, honest-to-goodness kind where you let the silence hang and let the other person fin sh their thought. In those quiet moments, we often realize our witty retort or well-meaning correction isn’t necessary at all. Sometimes the best response is a nod, a smile, or a simple, “Tell me more.” There’s also value in giving your inner voice a filter. That inner voice can be a bit unfiltered at times—equal parts snarky aunt and overconfide t game show host. It chimes in with opinions, judgments, and observations at lightning speed. But just because the thought appears doesn’t mean it needs to be spoken aloud. It’s perfectly okay to think something and keep it in the vault. As they say, discretion is the better part of valor. It’s also the better part of not getting uninvited to family events. Of course, no one gets it right all the time. We’ll all have moments when we speak too quickly, laugh too loudly, or say something that lands poorly. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s mindfulness. When we mess up, a sincere apology can go a long way. Owning your words, even the clumsy ones, shows character. And that, in turn, makes people more likely to give you grace. Over time, the art of thinking before speaking becomes less about restraint and more about connection. Words chosen with care have power—the power to comfort, to support, to lift someone up at just the right moment. And just as importantly, the choice to hold back a few of them, when necessary, can be its own kind of kindness. So the next time you feel a zinger rising, a correction forming, or a comment that might not land quite right edging toward your lips, pause. Breathe. Picture the moment ten seconds from now—how do you want it to feel? Sometimes silence truly is golden. Other times, it’s platinum with a diamond setting. Either way, your future self will thank you. Probably right after everyone else does.
We’ll all have moments when we speak too quickly, laugh too loudly, or say something that lands poorly. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s mindfulness.
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OLIVIA ROGERS, RN, BSN, CHPN, CHPO, MBA, is a leading voice in health care and senior services and the Vice President, Chief Nursing Officer of VNA Texas. Dear Olivia, We are considering hospice care for our mother and want to ensure she receives the best care possible. How can we compare the quality of different hospice organizations to make the best choice? ~Concerned About Quality Dear Concerned About Quality, There are several ways to evaluate the quality of hospice providers you are considering for your loved one. First, remember that you have the right to choose among different hospice providers. It can be helpful to interview several before making your decision. The Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services (CMS) offers a website called Care Compare, which allows you to compare various hospices and their quality scores. These scores, when available, help families select the right hospice provider. VNA of Texas participates in the CMS quality program.
On Care Compare, you can find measures such as family perception survey results, which are expressed in a star rating. There is also a score called the Hospice Care Index (HCI) that evaluates a hospice based on ten different factors related to the delivery and frequency of care. A score of 10 represents the highest quality of care. VNA Hospice has maintained a perfect score of 10 out of 10 since this data has been collected, and we are also proud to be rated as a 4-star hospice. This information is available for you to review as you navigate these challenging decisions for your loved one. We are dedicated to providing high-quality, patient-centered care to all the patients and families we have the honor of serving. ~Olivia Care Compare’s website: www.medicare.gov/care-compare/
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THE QUIET EVOLUTION OF
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This chapter of life holds the quiet wisdom of knowing who you are—and the quiet courage of seeking out those who can hold that truth with you.
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omewhere between juggling careers, caring for aging parents, raising kids (or launching them into the world), and managing the steady rhythm of adult life, something happens quietly—but undeniably—to our friendships. The late-night calls grow fewer. The spontaneous brunches become rare. And sometimes, without realizing it, the people we once considered closest begin to drift just a little out of reach. Th s isn’t always a sad thing. In fact, for many of us, midlife becomes a turning point—not just in how we view ourselves, but in how we relate to others. The friendships that stay, deepen. The ones that fade, often do so for good reason. And what we begin to crave in this chapter is less about quantity, more about soul-level quality.
The Shifting Shape of Connection When we’re younger, friendship often feels effortless. We’re thrown together in classrooms, dormitories, or the chaotic blur of young parenthood. We bond over shared circumstances, spontaneous adventures, or the thrill of new beginnings. But by the time we hit our 40s, life has moved into a different gear. We’re more aware of our energy, our time, and our emotional bandwidth. We begin to notice that we don’t want the same kind of conversations anymore. We want fewer surface-level updates and more depth. We want friends who can sit with us in our contradictions—those who can celebrate our wins without jealousy and hold space for our losses without fli ching. We want to laugh, yes, but we also want to be seen. For many, this means redefini g what friendship even looks like. It might mean letting go of relationships that no longer align. Or choosing to reconnect with someone who’s drifted, simply because your heart remembers how safe it once felt. It means recognizing that friendship, like any living thing, evolves—and sometimes requires pruning in order to thrive.
The Grief of Growing Apart There’s a subtle kind of heartbreak that can come with midlife friendships—the kind where no one fi hts, but the silence grows anyway. You fi d yourself scrolling past their social media updates instead of commenting. You text less, not out of anger, but because the spark has dimmed. And it hurts, quietly. Th s grief often goes unnamed. It doesn’t have the clean edges of a breakup or the rituals of mourning, but it’s real. The friend who once knew every detail of your day now barely knows the rhythm of your life. And even if it ended gently, there’s a sadness in recognizing that something once precious has run its course. It’s important to allow space for that grief. To acknowledge that even as we grow, we also lose. And to remind ourselves that the end of a friendship doesn’t mean it wasn’t meaningful. It simply means it served its season.
Choosing Intention Over Obligation One of the most empowering parts of friendship after 40 is the shift toward intentionality. We begin to realize that we don’t owe anyone constant access to our time or energy. And yet, the people who light us up—who see us in our mess and our magic—are worth protecting fie cely. Th s might look like fewer friends but stronger bonds. It might mean planning that monthly lunch and refusing to cancel it, even when life gets chaotic. It might mean sending a voice memo instead of a perfectly crafted message, just to say, “Hey, I’m thinking about you.” Intentional friendship doesn’t always look grand. Often, it’s found in the small gestures. A text on a hard day. A shared joke after months of silence. A willingness to listen without fixi g. These acts become sacred in a world that moves so quickly.
Making Peace with Who We’ve Become By midlife, we’ve all accumulated layers—stories, scars, regrets, resilience. We’ve changed. Sometimes in ways we didn’t expect. And sometimes that change means we no longer fit the molds our old friendships were built around. It’s not unusual to reconnect with an old friend and feel like you’re speaking different languages. That used to feel like failure. Now, it can feel like growth. Not everyone is meant to walk the entire path with you, and that’s okay. Letting go of the pressure to maintain every friendship from every chapter is a form of self-compassion. But equally, it’s never too late to fi d your people. Some of the richest, most soul-nourishing friendships begin after 40—born not of circumstance, but of shared values, life experience, and a hunger for authenticity. You might meet them through volunteering, community classes, mutual interests—or sometimes just a chance conversation that clicks in a way you didn’t expect.
Holding Space for What Matters If there’s one truth that midlife teaches us, it’s this: energy is precious. We begin to protect our peace the way we once protected our schedules. We don’t have time for relationships that are performative or draining. We crave realness, and we’re willing to wait for it. But that doesn’t mean closing ourselves off. It means staying open to connection while being discerning about where we invest. It means understanding that friendship isn’t just about who’s known you the longest—it’s about who shows up, sees you, and meets you where you are. Th s chapter of life holds the quiet wisdom of knowing who you are—and the quiet courage of seeking out those who can hold that truth with you. Friendship after 40 isn’t always flashy. Sometimes it’s a checkin during a hard week. Sometimes it’s sitting in silence next to someone who knows your story without needing the footnotes. Sometimes, it’s letting go of what was in order to make space for what could be. And in the stillness of midlife, we may fi d that the best friendships aren’t the loudest—they’re the ones that simply stay. Let them. COLLIN COUNTY • 39
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t can happen in an instant. A photo scrolls by—someone you know, maybe not well, smiling against a backdrop of turquoise water. The caption is effortless. Their skin is glowing. Their joy, unmistakable. Or perhaps it’s a colleague celebrating a promotion, their success punctuated with humble-brag hashtags and a fl od of congratulatory comments. Sometimes it doesn’t even take that much. A casual remark at dinner, a glimpse of someone’s new home, a passing conversation about early retirement plans. It doesn’t matter how it arrives. What matters is what it stirs. That sharp tug in the chest. That quiet, unspoken Why not me? Comparison and envy are deeply human feelings—universal, even. But in the modern world, they’ve become constant companions, creeping into places that used to feel safe. They arise not only in moments of insecurity but also in moments of refl ction, where life diverges from what we imagined it might be by now. The achievements we hoped for. The relationships we envisioned. The ease we thought we’d earned. The irony is that we often compare ourselves most harshly during the seasons of life that are the most layered, the most transitional, the most unspoken. There’s something uniquely disorienting about feeling envious at this stage of life. It can feel, on some level, like a failure—not only to have not “arrived” at some imagined destination, but to still care so deeply about where others have landed. We tell ourselves we should be above this. That maturity means immunity from jealousy. That wisdom automatically protects us from the ache of comparison. But it doesn’t. Because envy, at its core, isn’t really about the other person. It’s about the gap between where we are and where we hoped we’d be. It touches something tender inside us. Sometimes it’s grief over what didn’t happen. Sometimes it’s fear that there’s not enough time left. Sometimes it’s shame about a choice we made—or didn’t make. Envy points less to what others have and more to what we feel we lack. And in that way, it’s not just a painful emotion. It’s a mirror. One that invites us to look more closely at our own longings. Social media makes that invitation relentless. We are now constantly exposed to the curated lives of friends, acquaintances, colleagues, and even strangers. We see the highlight reels, the filtered vacations, the flawless kitchens, the joyful family photos. Rarely do we see the arguments before the snapshot. The lonely hotel room after the award ceremony. The late-night doubts that follow a big career win. We compare our full, flawed, behind-the-scenes lives to someone else’s glossy preview, and wonder why we come up short. But the trouble with envy isn’t only digital. It shows up in conference rooms and neighborhood gatherings, at dinner parties and family reunions. Sometimes, it’s subtle—a tightness in the chest when a friend shares good news. Other times, it’s loud—a persistent self-judgment that echoes long after the conversation has ended. And yet, as uncomfortable as it is, envy can be a useful teacher. If
we allow it, it can point us toward what we care about most. It can shine a light on values we’ve neglected, desires we’ve buried, or changes we’re ready to make. Envy doesn’t have to be a judgment—it can be a compass. If we’re willing to sit with it, gently and without shame, we can ask deeper questions. What is this really about? What part of me feels unseen or unfulfilled? What would it mean to honor that part now, in this season of life? Sometimes the answer is surprising. We may not actually want the thing we envy. We may not want the job or the house or the lifestyle. We may simply want the feeling we imagine it brings—freedom, joy, meaning, connection. Those are desires worth listening to. Not to compete with others, but to come home to ourselves. There’s power in reframing envy as information, rather than indictment. When we meet it with compassion instead of criticism, we make space for clarity and choice. We can ask ourselves what’s truly ours to pursue—and what’s simply a refl ction of someone else’s story. Because not all roads lead to fulfillment, even if they sparkle from afar. In a culture that rewards visibility and performance, it takes quiet courage to live an unflashy life. To build meaning not on what others can see, but on what we feel when we wake up in the morning. To defi e success in terms that aren’t shareable. To choose depth over polish, purpose over applause. Sometimes, that means narrowing our focus. Turning down the noise. Curating our inputs as deliberately as others curate their outputs. Th s might mean stepping back from certain apps. Setting fi mer boundaries with energy-draining conversations. Spending more time with people who value presence over performance. Not out of avoidance, but out of care for our own inner landscape. We can also learn to celebrate others without losing ourselves. Th s isn’t easy, and it doesn’t always come naturally. But with practice, we can separate someone else’s joy from our own worth. We can say, Good for them without it meaning Bad for me. We can honor someone else’s chapter without assuming we’re behind. Th s doesn’t mean we won’t feel the sting sometimes. We will. But the goal isn’t to eliminate comparison—it’s to relate to it differently. To notice it, name it, and gently redirect our gaze back toward what truly matters to us. What matters might not be big or loud. It might not look impressive. It might be a quiet peace in our relationships. A sense of integrity in our work. A reclaimed morning walk. A long-awaited painting class. A phone call with someone who truly sees us. The truth is, we are always building something. Even when it doesn’t feel visible. Even when it doesn’t show up in photos. Our lives are being shaped not only by what we accomplish, but by how we live through the ordinary days. The ones filled with laundry and bills and small kindnesses. The ones we don’t post about but remember nonetheless. There’s no race to win. No timeline to meet. There is only the invitation—each day—to live more honestly, more gently, more in alignment with who we are becoming. And that is enough.
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