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School Days. August feels a little like Sundays, doesn’t it? It’s the last chance to make the most of the season of vacations and rest, but it’s also time to shift our focus to tomorrow. And very soon for many of us our tomorrows will include buses, books, backbacks, bells and busy days. Our contributors and staff have enjoyed creating this backto-school issue for you, and it caused us to reflect on some of our own favorite memories of this time of year: When I was a middle school and later a high school teacher, August was a torrent of “To-Do” lists that filled me with anxiety and dread. I would never be ready enough or have everything complete and perfect enough. The moment the students walked through my door, however, all the future planning gave way to present delight. My overwhelmedness was washed away by focusing on what was really important: the joy of learning. Let the awesome begin. -- Ali Barnes, Contributing Writer & Photographer I love the start of a new school year because it means school supplies! As a child, I loved checking things off the list as I picked them out, opening the packages, smelling the pink erasers, and writing my name on everything. As a mother, I still find it very exciting to get new school supplies, even if it is someone else’s name I’m writing on them. --Rebecca Eckert, Contributing Writer

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A Foundation for Learning. A Foundation for Life. CONGRATULATIONS CLASS OF 2014 In the class of 91 students, 30 were named Oklahoma Academic Scholars; 7 were recognized by the National Merit Scholarship Corporation; 12 senior athletes received All State honors; 9 will play sports at the college level; class members performed 14,000 community service hours in three years. OPEN HOUSE FOR PROSPECTIVE FAMILIES SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 2, 2014, 1:00 PM No reservation required. The Cascia Hall Community congratulates the Class of 2014: $11 million was offered in meritbased scholarships for class members to attend college. See a complete list of college acceptances under Academics at casciahall.org.

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The Pencil Box is the dream concept of some local school-minded citizens who are working hard to make it an actual brick and mortar retail store where Tulsa teachers can shop for free school supplies. Located on West 23rd Street with shelves, fixtures and carts, The Pencil Box will serve Tulsa Public Schools, grades K thru 12, where 87.2% of the students participate in the free and reduced meal programs. The Pencil Box Tulsa location will open in August 2015 with a soft opening on February 2, 2015. Supplies for the store are coming from national and local businesses, foundations and individual donors who are donating products ranging from crayons to book bags to manufacturer mistakes and retail damaged goods that might otherwise be discarded, as well as funding for operational costs.

This annual event not only promotes social community, but also showcases the City of Broken Arrow through Main Street, the Farmers’ Market and BA Historical Museum. Participants enjoyed an evening of wine and culinary samplings, musical entertainment and entertainment-type activities (living statues/sketch artists, etc.) with displays of unique, high-end quality artwork. In the past, attendance has been 1,000-1,200 with approximately 50 vendors hosted on Main Street in Broken Arrow at the Farmers’ Market and continues to grow in size and respect each year. All proceeds benefit Broken Arrow Neighbors. BAWineTasting.com

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Child Care Resource Center Toasted the Top of the Town The Child Care Resource Center of Tulsa hosted its 6th Annual Top of the Town Gala in June. Patrons and guests enjoyed excellent food and wine samplings from various Tulsa restaurants and amazing views while touring some of Tulsa’s most magnificent downtown buildings. Proceeds of the event benefit CCRC of Tulsa. CCRTulsa.org

Jenks Students Attend Summer Arts Institute Thirteen Jenks students attended the prestigious Oklahoma Summer Arts Institute at Quartz Mountain (OSAI). The Jenks students were among 270 talented artists selected through competitive statewide auditions from a pool of nearly 1,000 applicants. In conjunction with their acceptance, attending students received full scholarships to the program worth over $2,500 each. Students selected to OSAI from Jenks High School are Jonathan Chou, Alexis Mann, Rachel Mann in Choral Music; Savanna Deweese in Creative Writing; Charlene Kayiza, Alex Johnson, Mckinleigh Lair, Hannah Rogers in Film/Video; Jennifer Burleson in Orchestra; Hannah Harris, Bria Ireland, and Avery Tiefenthaler were chosen as Alternates. OSAI provides training with award-winning artists in nine areas of the literary, visual, and performing arts. The students’ scholarships and program funding are provided by the Oklahoma State Department of Education, the Oklahoma Arts Council, and various foundations, corporations, and individuals.

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Saint Simeon’s Lassos Up for 18th Annual Western Days Dust off your cowboy hat – Western Days 2014: Oklahoma!: Our Home Is Grand! will be held on Tuesday, September 9, at Central Park Hall at Expo Square. Kristin and Jim Bender, event chairs, are already rounding up the ranch hands for this year’s event, with Lucy and John Barker serving as patron chairs and June Patton and David Hogan serving as chairs elect. Margaret and Ross Swimmer have been selected as honorary chairs, and will be celebrated for their long-time guidance and support of Saint Simeon’s. This year, the Pioneer Spirit Award will be presented to Saint Simeon’s resident Mable Rice in celebration of her dedication to minority rights and community development in Tulsa. Saint Simeon’s is a privately managed, nonprofit, picturesque senior living community that is home to men and women of all faiths.

Local Chef Shares Healthy Cooking Knowledge Chef Kurt Stiles recently released a book, Cooking To Save Your Life, and has been speaking around town to spread his healthy cooking message. He has taken 100 classical recipes and re-designed them with special dietary needs in mind. While he tells his story of recovery after surviving a massive stroke, Stiles outlines ways to use natural medicine to aid in healing. The book is a reference guide to teach, the recipes help you feel better and his personal story warms your heart and inspires. Styles has 30 years experience in the food and beverage industry. He recently taught Target employees about wellness using ingredients available in the store. AmericasHealthyChef.com

TTCU HELPING EDUCATION Tulsa Teachers Credit Union presented nearly $10,000 in donations to nine Tulsa Public Schools principals at Wilson Teaching and Learning Academy. The donation was the culmination of the credit union’s recent “50/50” program, in which new TTCU checking account members designate a school to receive funds based on the member’s usage of their account and Visa Check Card. If the new account holder meets the program’s requirements, then the member and the school of the member’s choice each receive $50 from TTCU. In total, TTCU has donated nearly $57,000 to schools in northeast Oklahoma through the most recent 50/50 program.

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A Life in Focus This artful educator serves through sharing his talents to help students learn and grow Article Kendra Gensemer Mathewson Photography Jennifer LaFortune

hrough the lens of his camera, John LaFortune captures life for Cascia Hall Preparatory School’s community, and teaches students to do the same. Through the lens of his life, he shares so much more. John officially teaches photography and yearbook at Cascia Hall. Unofficially he does a whole lot more, including providing many professional pictures he shares generously, sponsoring the bowling team, innovating an Acoustic Club for student musicians, being a Key Club Advisor and more. Held in high esteem by students, faculty and staff alike for his humble, generous spirit of serving those around him, John is said to embody the school’s core values: Truth, Unity and Love. “When I think of John LaFortune, the word that comes to mind is service,” says Headmaster Roger Carter. “John has served Cascia Hall for over 15 years as an educator, however my admiration extends beyond the classroom. John has built an outstanding club providing service (there’s that word again) to the Tulsa community. He has taken his love for music and formed a musical group of students that perform around town. John has the ability to serve yet deflect any credit to others; he is a humble man with a kind disposition.” Maybe this can be attributed to the fact that John has been immersed in those values since childhood surrounded by the influence of a family of Cascia Hall graduates: his dad (Class of 1944) and uncles supported their almamater through his childhood. His grandparents didn’t attend but were dedicated supporters. John, his brothers and cousins and nephews and nieces continued the connection. So when he found out in the summer of 1999 that he could teach what he loved to do at a place he cares deeply about, John was thrilled. Neither teaching nor photography were framed in John’s initial viewfinder for his future, despite all of his siblings having found edu-

cation as a career choice in their life journeys. After graduating from Cascia Hall in 1977, he started at the University of Tulsa on the path to a business degree in finance, but an elective photography class opened a new area of interest and he changed directions. He attended the Brooks Institute of Photography in Santa Barbara and earned a Bachelor of Arts in commercial photography, spending 15 years as a professional photographer. From his time in California before the digital age, John gained experience with landscape photography in the tradition of the great Ansel Adams, even working with one of his favorite photographers, John Sexton, a personal assistant to Adams. This particular passion is something he shares with his students through teaching traditional darkroom photography with “old fashioned” black and white film cameras, endowing them with an insight and artistry lacking in digital photography of today. “They learn how to control exposures and different lighting, an important way to learn how cameras work,” he says. He enjoys the students’ reactions. “It’s like a magical experience for them to see the film develop, to print the picture and see the image come out. I just like passing on that kind of experience I had, and the wonderful people I met.” He credits his focus on serving others to the perspective gained observing his family: his grandparents’ lifelong friendships with the Augustinians - his grandfather, his uncle and his dad are all Augustinian Affiliates; seeing their dedication to the students and their families; partnering with them to raise funds for the St. Rita Chapel now on campus; seeing his own parents’ involvement in service, especially his dad, Robert, and his years of community involvement with the City of Tulsa as Street Commissioner (6 years) and as Mayor of Tulsa (8 years), the Boy Scouts of America, the Philbrook Museum of Art, St. John Medical Center, Christ the King Parish, and most recently as the Chairman for the Tulsa Central Library Renewed fundraising campaign - a $50 million project. “I saw how important it was to have that as part of your life as well as academics, sports and social activities,” he says. This is the picture behind his quiet acts for others, and the inspiration to encourage this lifestyle for his students through involvement with Key Club, a student-led community service group sponsored by Kiwanis Club of Tulsa. And his being an Assistant Scoutmaster with Boy Scout Troop 26 (he is also an Eagle Scout). And… Hunter Fischer (2014 graduate) is one of the students impacted by John’s mentorship. “Mr. LaFortune is an amazing teacher. I was privileged to have the job of Key Club Co-President so we got to work closely with one another,” he says. “He was always willing to help with anything we needed and tried to make our jobs as officers as easy as possible. I was also very lucky to have him as a leader on my Kairos (four-day spiritual retreat) and was able to see who he is outside of school.” John loves being a part of the Cascia Hall community and appreciates the empowering, encouraging environment. “One of the wonderful things I love is that the Augustinians give teachers the freedom to create the best curriculum and teaching plans that will benefit the kids in the best way,” he says. “That environment is inspiring to me as an artist and an educator.” August 2014 | Tulsa Lifestyle 11

Healthy Lifestyle Jane’s Quick Tips If you’re new to running: Start where you are. For example, don’t try to run a mile the first time; run around the block. Don’t feel intimidated because you’re “not a runner.” Focus on enjoying the process (the great outdoors, other people, your music playlist) while you build strength, endurance and health in your body. If you’ve hit a plateau: Get a coach. Don’t just listen to other runners’ training plans – each person is different. If you’re worried about safety: Be mindful of your surroundings (cars, dogs, etc), but I’ve run by myself at all hours all over River Park trails and always felt safe. If running hurts: Figure out why (seek professional help). Don’t use it as an excuse to be sedentary. It might take some work, but if you stop moving, you stop living.

Run, Jane, Run Local Coach Helps Others “Run Happy” Article and Photography Ali Barnes

he seamless fusion of fun and focus, Tulsa’s Jane McClain coaches runners and athletes of all levels to better fitness and function. From injury-prevention to weight-management to sport-specific performance, Jane’s dedicated skill set and witty conversation help clients reach their goals and have a good time doing it. Jane has lived in midtown Tulsa for eight years. A hyper and active kid, athletics came naturally to this northern Michigan native, but she honed her love of running while serving in the U.S. Navy for 14 years, forming running clubs with her peers wherever she was stationed. Far from a drill sergeant, however, Jane’s ultimate goal as a running coach is to see her clients out in the community “running happy.” Think you can’t run or walk long distances? Think you won’t like it? Think you’re too injury-prone or “too slow?” Jane begs to differ. She truly believes everyone can run and can enjoy running if they are coached properly. Because she encouraged (“nagged,” according to her husband, Austin) everyone to run and earned certification in numerous running and training techniques (see list below) “just for fun,” her husband suggested that she become a running and fitness coach for a living. And “Fitness for Your Lifestyle” was born. Jane’s focus in her sessions, whether group or individual, is sourcing the cause of the client’s pain or plateau. “I have a knack for problem solving and getting to know people through their running – I’m the running whisperer,” she jokes. Her toughest challenge was a client with no equilibrium who could barely walk straight, so months later when he RAN up to her at LaFortune and gave her a big ‘Thank You’ hug, she teared up with joy. “That’s why I do it.” One of the techniques Jane utilizes is ChiRunning, which has helped thousands of runners reduce, prevent and recover from inju12 Tulsa Lifestyle | August 2014

ries, as well as improve their efficiency and performance. The main principles of ChiRunning include relaxation, flexibility, posture, “gravity-assisted” forward lean, core strength and midfoot strike. Retraining running form has helped many of Jane’s clients run or walk long distance pain-free, more easily and more enjoyably. Learning to run slowly helps build the physiological “base” to strengthen the body at the cellular level, which positively impacts overall health, and has even been shown to help you run faster (if that’s your goal). Further, if you meet the ground appropriately through good form, you won’t suffer “impact” injuries because the body adapts to the ground as you build your “base” over time. As Jane puts it, “Marathon running isn’t bad for you, bad training is bad for you!” Jane uses ChiWalking techniques to give back to the community, teaching classes at assisted living centers and for organizations for people recovering from cancer. “Movement promotes health and healing,” as Jane says, and adds enjoyment and fun to each day.

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Parent’s Corner

Tips to Help your Child Have a Strong Start to the School Year A

strong start to the school year often means a successful school year. Below are some simple, practical tips that parents can implement in their own homes. Show Interest: Let your child know right away that their academic success is important to you. Get a school calendar so you know when grading periods end and when report cards will be distributed. Know when conferences are, prepare questions beforehand for teachers and attend conferences. Set Expectations Together: Plan a meeting with your child at the beginning of each grading period to set realistic goals for grades for that term. During this discussion, take into consideration your child’s strengths and weaknesses. It is very important to listen to your child during this discussion and not set your expectations too high. Unrealistic expectations could set them up for failure. Get To Know Your Child’s School: Remember that teachers, principals and counselors are there to help your child succeed. Introduce yourself before issues arise. Let them know who you are and that there is support at home. A great way to get to know the school better is to volunteer at your child’s school. Your child may not be thrilled to see you in the hallway at school, but you will be sending a strong message that you care about what is going on at his/her school. 14 Tulsa Lifestyle | August 2014

Hop Online: Make time to browse through your child’s school

website. Many teachers have individual websites where they list upcoming assignments, tests and deadlines. Most districts offer a way to log into your child’s personal online grade book. Support Strong Attendance: When a student misses school they miss out on important information. Schedule appointments outside of school hours. It is especially important to schedule family vacations around the school calendar. Again, this is a perfect way to show your child that you value school and have certain expectations set for them. Encourage Them To Get Involved: Research shows that stu-

dents who are involved in structured activities generally do better in school. Contact your school office to find out what activities are offered. Go over the list of available activities with your child. Both of you may be surprised to learn of the different options. You may want to look into private and community organization as well for further enrichment. These tips provided by our friends at College Tutors.

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The Kendall Bell at TU A beautiful iconic symbol of academia Article and Photography Provided by the University of Tulsa

he ringing of the Kendall Bell is one of the oldest traditions at the University of Tulsa (TU), dating back more than half a century. It is tradition for graduating seniors to celebrate their entry into the Alumni Association by ringing the cupola bell after completing the last final exam of their TU careers. The bell was originally housed in the First Presbyterian Church of Tulsa. When a new sanctuary was built at Seventh and Boston, it lacked a bell tower. In 1911, the church donated the bell to Henry Kendall College (the original charter for TU in 1894) and it was placed in the cupola on Kendall Hall, which had been completed in 1908 as the first campus building. (The University of Tulsa was chartered in 1920.) Today, the Kendall Cupola and Bell are proudly featured at Bayless Plaza, a gift from Bob and Bernice Bayless, treasurer and secretary, respectively, in the class of 1949. They fondly recall participating in the senior tradition of ringing the bell to signal the completion of a TU student’s final exam. To commemorate their time at TU, the Baylesses created the plaza as a stately home for the cupola and bell and a welcoming site where future generations of students will make lasting memories of their own. Editor’s Note: The information about the bell’s original location at First Presbyterian came from Guy William Logsdon’s The University Of Tulsa: A History, 1882-1972, published in 1977.

TU’s historic cupola and bell hold a special place in the story of our city and of the university and its students. Links for additional info:

General information about the bell and Bayless Plaza: TUAlumni.com Reference to the significance of the bell when it was housed at First Presbyterian as the first bell in Tulsa to chime statehood: UTulsa.edu/About-TU/HistoryofTU under Profiles of Early History tab. History of TU: UTulsa.edu/About-TU/HistoryofTU.aspx August 2014 | Tulsa Lifestyle 15

Take 5 A Simple Rhythm to Help Busy Families Stay Connected Article and Photography Kendra Gensemer Mathewson

hen school starts, schedules ramp up and family life gets busy. Staying connected through the school year can be a real challenge. Here’s a simple tool to help families foster communication, nurture relationships and cultivate faith or be inspired at home: “Take 5.” In only five minutes you can clean the kitchen sink, peruse Pinterest, read a magazine article, walk around the block, unload the dishwasher, set up a game of Monopoly. With Take 5, in five minutes a day you can also build more solid relationships with your family by sharing highs and lows together in a regular rhythm. The brief timeframe feels doable in a busy schedule, and the structure of sharing the days “highs and lows” creates a safe place to learn about each other. The concept is inspired by a Lutheran Church Faith Inkubators’ “FAITH 5” practice. For faith families, the core purpose is growing in faith together. It can also be adapted for families who desire to develop unity in how

they serve their community, live out their family’s mission statement, or who simply want to stay connected through hectic times. Like many of us, the Roach family has a big, busy family and started doing Take 5 when their kids were in elementary school. Jamie and LeaAnn have four kids. “Take 5 has been great for our family,” says Jamie. “We live in a culture that can be focused on what we produce or how good you are at an activity which can be dehumanizing and make you feel like a machine. When we do Take 5 and hear our highs and lows, the act of really listening to each other, seems to humanize us. We treat each other with dignity and respect; we see each other as sacred human beings.” Jamie has worked with youth and families for more than 25 years through his involvement with a regional youth outreach camp, Youthfront. A pastor himself, he helped modify the FAITH5 to create Take 5 and says the point is not to get through the steps, it’s to hear each other’s stories, laugh together and have fun.

The point is not to get through the steps, it’s to hear each other’s stories, laugh together and have fun…It’s not a teaching time, we’re not imparting information. We just really listen to one another and it’s helped us become a family that tunes into each other’s pains and celebrations. 16 Tulsa Lifestyle | August 2014

Take 5 Here are five easy steps to help busy families stay connected through the school year: 1. SHARE highs and lows 2. LISTEN to Scripture or inspirational quote 3. TALK about how the reading relates to highs and lows 4. PRAY for highs and lows, for your family and for the world 5. BLESS one another (as simple as “You are loved.”)

“It’s not a teaching time, we’re not imparting information,” he says. “We just really listen to one another and it’s helped us become a family that tunes into each other’s pains and celebrations.” Jamie encourages parents to practice listening. “I try not to fix in this time,” he says. “If you start probing, it often shuts down the relationship, discourages sharing honestly. I try to just listen and let my child know, ‘I hear you,’ then make a mental note and if something comes up again, follow up at a different time.” You’ll find that your “five minutes” turns into more like 15 minutes, and “Taking 5” really comes to mean “make time to connect and listen.” This simple, easy-to-implement practice is perfect to incorporate into an evening or bedtime routine. Take 5 is ideal for families with children in kindergarten through 5th grade, when they’re still geared to connect with family. With older kids, it is natural for them to begin building connections with peers, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still Take 5 once a week. Gathering together one night weekly works well with teens; it still send the message that they are important, and can be essential to maintaining connections at a time that can be challenging. Done over time, the Take 5 practice carries the power to enrich communication, deepen understanding, aid sleep and promote mental, physical and spiritual health of all the members of your family. If you’d like to delve deeper, visit Faith5.org for additional information and resources from the original Faith Inkubators Faith5 program designed to support keeping families strong.

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• District and/or Regional Champions in Baseball, Football, Tennis, and Cross Country • Five AP Students Received the State Superintendent Award for Excellence in Art

• When gathered, focus more on relationships than getting through all steps • Save fixing and solving for later • Expect it to be messy and even chaotic at times • Have fun • Try doing it during a meal or with snacks • Make adaptations to better suit your family

Now Enrolling Pre-school – 12th Grade. Call 918-745-9868 ext. 164 to request an interview. www.MetroCA.com August 2014 | Tulsa Lifestyle 17

Giving Back

A Daily Dose of Hope The Little Lighthouse is a special place for special people Article Rebecca Eckert | Photography Provided

t The Little Light House (LLH), the day starts with sweet greetings and hugs. Administrative staff members line the entrance hallway to greet every child and parent coming through the doors. LLH Executive Director Jean Winfrey calls each child by name, looks directly in their eyes and speaks to them in a way that makes them know she cares. LLH has been in operation for 40 years, and serves families of children with special needs such as autism, Down syndrome, cerebral palsy and many others. Their program offers special education as well as therapy services on a completely tuition-free basis. There are currently 64 students attending LLH, with a waiting list of 100 for a spot in this unique school. The school offers Christian-based curriculum, though one need not be of the same faith to attend. LLH utilizes guided individualized focused teaching (GIFT) and develops tailored plans using a trans-disciplinary approach in collaboration with parents, teachers and appropriate staff. The school staff includes licensed speech pathologists, physical therapists, an assistive technology specialist, a low vision therapist, a registered nurse, certified special education teachers, and experienced and highly trained associates. “Communication is key,” says Winfrey. “We are lucky to have an assistive technology specialist whose main goal is to get the children communicating.” Their toolbox of communication methods include pointing at pictures, using eye gaze and even computers that use eye tracking to spell out what the child is trying to communicate. A state certified teacher, teaching associate and at least one trained volunteer lead each of the eight classrooms comprised of eight students. Ideally, the school desires one volunteer per child to best facilitate learning. 18 Tulsa Lifestyle | August 2014

The school offers a unique reverse inclusion program: Each class has one student without special needs that interacts and relates as a peer to the other students. “Often we see that our 3-4 year-old reverse inclusion students begin to step into a helping role,” says Winfrey. “They see our volunteers helping and they being to follow into their footsteps.” LLH is so driven to help children succeed; even those not currently attending LLH have access to their help. Waitlisted families have a program, the Family Learning Intervention Program (FLIP). Through FLIP’s Tuesday night meetings, teachers, therapists, outside speakers or even current parents speak and help parents learn strategies to help their children and hear encouraging stories from parents with similar experiences. After graduation from the program, LLH works with parents and future schools to make a smooth transition. In 2013, LLH received the ONE award naming them Oklahoma’s top nonprofit, and a $10,000 grant from the Schusterman foundation. “We wanted a way to give back to Oklahoma for this recognition and LittleAnchor.org is the way we decided to do that,” says Winfrey. It’s a website designed to help those who for whatever reason aren’t able to attend LLH. “It has resources, blogs, videos, training and activity suggestions. It can be viewed all over the world and can be translated into 70 languages.” LLH trains about 1,000 international and local college students in various ways in the field of educating children with special needs children; the website will expand that reach. The school broke ground in July for a $24 million expansion to add features designed with mobility and sensory considerations; the completion in 2015 will serve 16 additional children. Volunteers and donations make daily operations possible. The operating budget funds staff and utilities, everything else is provided by volunteers, donations and faith. Winfrey recalls being down to one roll of paper towels with no means of purchasing more. “I told our staff members to pray about it, and the next morning we got a truck load of things we needed. Prayer works and we are so blessed because God has always provided for us,” she says. Four major annual fundraisers keep the school going, and involve the kids, such as Mini Laps (kids run around the school track to raise funds) and Keith’s Ice Cold Lemonade partnership (look for them around town or visit KeithsIceColdLemonade.com.). The Little Light House mission is To glorify God by improving the quality of life for children with special needs, their families, and their communities. “Every day at the LLH is different, says Winfrey. “One of our therapists even says that everyday is like Christmas. We hear pages over the intercom daily celebrating successes, from a child signing ‘thank you’ to someone taking unassisted steps.” The LLH does more than just meet educational and therapeutic needs for children and families: They provide hope. For more information about services provided or ways you can help, please visit LittleLighthouse.org.

Home Matters to be on your property. Butchko says many of his clients experience contractor burnout. “Many times our clients are ‘contracted out’ -- in other words, they’ve had it with contractors,” he says. “All of our projects are completed under Tom’s Outdoor services, so it’s one phone call, not four, if something is not going well. We’re pleased to be able to say that about our company.” A wish list is great, but also decide on what you absolutely can’t live without should it come down to having to pare down the expenses. A great way to lessen the shock to your checkbook is to see where things like concrete, plants and hardscape materials can be re-used. A responsible designer will incorporate sustainable design wherever possible. Tom Butchko and Tom Butchko Sr., Residents of Maple Ridge and owners of Tom’s Outdoor Living Taking the Leap

New Kid on the Block Outdoor Renovations: Designs, Budgets and Construction

s a new homeowner in the Maple Ridge neighborhood, the first thing Tom Butchko wanted to do was get his outdoor area in showcase shape. And as the owner of Tom’s Outdoor Living, he didn’t think it would be that difficult given his line of work. “I was excited to have a blank canvas to work with and make it my own,” Tom shares. “We have a fantastic landscape design team and I couldn’t wait to get started. Then it hit me that we hadn’t even started repairs and updates on the house, which was the priority, of course. Anytime there is construction or repairs that are being done or need to be done, owners have to keep a few things in mind: Am I going to have the financial resources to do what I really want to do to my outside living area? Am I ready for another round of construction, debris and workers on my property? In the Butchko’s case, their primary con-

sideration was related to their newness to the neighborhood. “My main concern was that we hadn’t lived here very long and weren’t familiar with the nuances of the neighborhood--things like barking dogs, neighbors’ views of our yard, where the sun hits the longest during the day, etc.” With his professional expertise to guide him, Tom knew those were things a homeowner should consider. Figuring out what outside situations need to be addressed and incorporating those into a functional design will serve you well in creating a positive construction or renovation experience.

Once you’ve decided to invest in your outdoor living area, make a list of what you’d like and give the designer as much information as you can. Look through magazines, get on Houzz and other design sites to show your designer examples. Make sure you’re clear on expectations and deliverables. Outside renovations can be hindered by weather, utility issues and homeowner’s schedules. Stay Involved

Though still new to the neighborhood, the Butchkos are getting to the point where they are ready to begin the design process for their outside living area. “It will be a significant project and I know I will have questions along the way,” says Tom. “I would encourage anyone taking on outdoor design and installation projects to keep the line of communication going. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Get involved. It’s your property and you have every right to be informed by the people doing the work.” They look forward to having their new neighbors over when it’s finished!

Before You Commit

Just as you wouldn’t skimp on the interior of your home, don’t try to save a buck by taking short cuts or hiring less-than-reputable companies. Make sure you know who is going

For more information on how to create your dream outdoor living space, contact Tom’s Outdoor Living at 918.695.1653 or visit their website at TomsOutdoorLiving.com. August 2014 | Tulsa Lifestyle 19

Locally Owned

Get Back in the Game Tensegrity Chiropractic uses non-traditional treatment options to eliminate pain, reduce injury Article Denise Mason | Photography Chris Barnes

pend just a few minutes with Dr. Chris Barnes, D.C., and you’ll quickly come to understand the fuel that drives him: Compassion. Barnes, who also is a professional sports photographer, prides himself on helping his patients get back in the game as soon as possible. “I want my patients to know that somebody really cares,” he says. “And that even if they’ve lived with pain for 30 or 40 years, we can probably fix it.” Barnes knows first-hand what it’s like to be in pain, and to come up empty after seeking help from a host of medical professionals. He also knows there’s another way – evident in the treatment he provides through his clinic, Tensegrity Chiropractic, which is unlike anything you might think you know about traditional chiropractic care.

His Own Story

“I was a defensive end in high school and college and was always getting hurt. But nobody could tell me why,” he says. “For years, trainers and medical professionals just shook their heads – almost as if my injuries and pain weren’t real.” But they were. In fact, by the time Barnes met his wife, Ali, he was in constant pain, had difficulty moving and couldn’t lift his arms above his head. Fortunately, he had experienced some relief at the hands of another Tulsa chiropractor, Dr. Michael Peterson. But it wasn’t by way of traditional manipulation. Barnes had sustained a severe groin injury and had already 20 Tulsa Lifestyle | August 2014

Above: Dr. Chris Barnes, D.C., and his wife, Ali, who serves as the clinic’s office manager, opened Tensegrity Chiropractic in June 2011, after Dr. Barnes had worked three years for his mentor, Dr. Michael Peterson.

missed two weeks of practice when Peterson approached him with an offer to help. Suspicious, Barnes didn’t hold out much hope. Yet through Active Release Technique – specialized treatment that focuses on the soft tissue –Peterson restored Barnes range of motion and eliminated his pain in a matter of minutes. Although he endured other injuries and pain, it was his experience with Peterson that led Barnes to Cleveland Chiropractic College in Kansas City after first earning his undergraduate degree in exercise and sports science from the University of Tulsa. At Cleveland Chiropractic, he focused on sports related soft tissue biomechanics and took as many continuing education courses as he could – all in search of answers for himself and others he knew were in constant pain. “I had to find a way to fix myself, because nobody else seemed to know how,” he says. Popping The Hood To Find The Fix

Barnes explained that no one had ever taken a holistic look at him or, as he explains, “popped the hood” to find out what was really wrong. Instead, they made broad assumptions and

Tensegrity Chiropractic

5533 E 41 Street, Tulsa 918.280.4280 TulsaSportsDoctor.com

– with the exception of Dr. Peterson – simply prescribed traditional treatment protocols. Far from traditional, the fix for Barnes came through his own keen understanding of biomechanics and how the entire body – beginning with the brain – works together to maintain stability, even if doing so results in pain. “In my case, what I learned was that my body was completely out of balance. I was too strong in the wrong places and too weak in the rest,” he says. “Focusing on that, I basically had to piece my body back together. When I did, 10 years of pain was gone in a matter of months. Permanently.” The emotion in his voice was evident. “So, I have passion for what I do and for my patients because of what I’ve been through,” he says. “I know what it’s like to feel alone and placed to the side because your doctors or other medical professionals don’t know what’s wrong with you, or how to fix it.”

More times than not a patient knows they haven’t been the same since a specific injury occurred. “So it’s about taking the upfront time necessary to identify the cause,” he says. “Because when we identify the cause, we can develop a solution to restore balance. And when the body is in balance, it is at peace. It’s not hurting.” Ultimately, it’s about helping his patients find tensegrity – complete body equilibrium – so that he never sees them again. Unless, of course, it’s when he’s photographing a local sporting event. “When I get to take a picture of a man or woman that I know has been through hell and back participating in the sport they love, and I know I’ve been part of the team that helped get them back in the game … it’s one of the greatest gifts I could receive.”

Restoring Balance, Finding Tensegrity

Today, Barnes is a highly specialized sports chiropractor working with athletes across northeast Oklahoma. Drawing on a wide range of biomechanical and other non-traditional treatment options, he works with each patient to identify the root cause of their pain and develop a short-term, customized treatment plan. Sometimes that means addressing an injury the patient sustained years before. “The body never forgets trauma,” says Barnes. “And neither does the patient.”

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Sold Properties

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Recently SOLD Tulsa Properties sales price

Woody Crest $1,800,000 The Estates at Stone Bluff $1,400,000 Tulsa County Unplatted $1,326,000 Sunset Terrace $1,287,500 Woodhaven $1,025,000 The Gates at Forest Park $989,000 Sheridan Oaks Estates $945,000 GreenHill $925,000 Vilarese $857,500 Sunset Terrace $820,000 Berwick Falls $820,000 Forest Hills $790,000 Tulsa County Unplatted $785,000 Tulsa County Unplatted $745,000 Scissortail at Wind River $720,000 Stonebrook Estates $719,000 Tradition $677,000 The Tudors - Riverside Drive $660,000 Waterstone $650,000 Harters IV $650,000 Charlane Estates $650,000 Legends $644,500 Charlane Estates $625,000 New Bedford $599,900 Highland Park Estates $599,000 Tradition $588,000 Myrtlewood $570,000 Cedar Ridge Estates $564,900 Legends $560,000 Tradition $550,000 Forest Ridge $547,500 Braeswood $530,000 Balmoral $528,000 Stonebriar Estates $525,000 Tanglewood $524,900 Yorktown $520,000 Riverside Drive $518,000 Stonebrook Estates $517,500 The Villages of Highland Park $515,000 Riverview Park Estates $515,000

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*Information not disclosed. Source: Tulsa NORES MLS. 6/1/14 - 6/30/14

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Lifestyle Calendar

SATURDAYS

August

AUGUST 14 - 16

CHERRY STREET FARMERS MARKET

WILL ROGERS & FAMILY FILM FESTIVAL

Tulsa

CIRCLE CINEMA

Held every Saturday from 7 a.m. - 11 a.m. at 1500 S Quaker Ave., this farmers market offers agricultural products grown and/or raised by the farmers and vendors. The products offered are fresh, local, and sustainable. CherryStreetFarmersMarket.com

Celebrate the life of Will Rogers and watch some of his fan favorite movies. Thursday evening enjoy a reception and screening of Steamboat Round the Bend. Saturday there will be a double feature screening of Too Busy to Work and In Old Kentucky. WillRogers.com

AUGUST 6 VEGETARIAN WINE DINNER WITH SPECIAL GUEST MARSHALL BREWERY DOWNTOWN

Enjoy a four-course vegetarian dinner ($30 per person) with optional wine pairings ($20 per person) and wine education. The Vault is a fabulous Mid-Century Modern locale in Downtown Tulsa’s Deco District at 620 S. Cincinnati.For reservations please call 918.948.6761. VaultTulsa.com

AUGUST 6 - 17 NATIONAL SNAFFLE BIT ASSOCIATION WORLD SHOW

AUGUST 16

TULSA EXPO SQUARE

MAINE LOBSTERFEST IN TULSA & CHARITY AUCTION

Horses and riders come together from all over the country for this annual show. Horsemanship, equitation over fences, weastern pleasure, hunter under saddle, hunter hack, and many more events are featured in this competition . Riders and horses from all different classes will compete at this event. NSBA.com

SOUTHERN HILLS MARRIOT

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This fundraiser put on by the Tulsa Sunrise Rotary benefits the Autism Center of Tulsa. Doors open at 5:30 p.m. with a silent auction held until 6:30 pm. Dinner and a live auction will be from 6:30 7:30 p.m. SunriseLobsterFest.com

AUGUST 8 - 10

AUGUST 23

POWWOW OF CHAMPIONS

CONQUER THE GAUNTLET OBSTACLE RACE

THE ORU MAYBEE CENTER

TULSA RACEWAY PARK

Memebers of tribal nations from around the country honor, strenghten , and share traditions with each other and the public through traditional dance, drum music, songs, and arts and crafts. This annual powwow will also highlight traditional foods such as fry bread, corn soup, and Indian tacos. Daily admision tickets, family day passes, and weekend wristbands are available. IICOT.org

The event kicks off at 8 am. This four-mile obstacle course and adventure race has over 25-obstacles. Participants will experience climbing over walls, crawling through mud, and slogging their way through water one to five feet deep. This obstacle race will be not only physically challenging, but mentally as well. ConquerTheGauntlet.com

AUGUST 22 - 23 KRISTEN CHENOWETH LIVE BROKEN ARROW PAC

Hometown favorite and Tony-winning superstar Kristin Chenoweth comes back to make television history! Two nights of shows will be taped for a later nationally-televised concert event. Kristin has been

wowing audiences for decades appearing on Broadway and television. Don’t miss this live performance at 701 S. Main Street in Broken Arrow! BrokenArrowPAC.com

AUGUST 23 WALK TO END ALZHEIMER’S 81ST & LEWIS

The 5K begins at 7:30 a.m, followed by the 1/4 mile at 8:30 a.m. The Kids Dash will start 9 a.m with the concluding Walk at 10 a.m. Contact: Sarah Hauptman 918.392.5007. ALZ.org

AUGUST 22 - 23 OKLAHOMA CHAMPIONSHIP STEAK COOK OFF DOWNTOWN TULSA

50 + teams of grillers from across the region will compete to cook the best steak in Oklahoma. Free samples of grilled appetizers will be tasted throught the afternoon. A car and motorcycle show along with live music will provide entertainment for all ages. After the competition, the largets steak dinner in Oklahoma will take place with serving lines opening at 5:30 pm. OKSteakCookOff.com

AUGUST 23RD GLOW RUN TULSA VETERANS PARK

The run/walk begins at 8:30 pm. The park will be lit up while runners and walkers make their way through the course. The post event after party will include hundreds of give aways as well as prizes for event contestants. Contact Steve Blew 918.416.0390 GlowRun5k.com/tulsa

AUGUST 31 GALA OF THE ROYAL HORSES BOK CENTER

Coming to North America for the first time, equestrian royalty is presented at the highest level in a culturally rich and stunningly beautiful tribute to The Royal Horses of Europe. Some of the most celebrated in history, the Royal Horses have been favoured for centuries by royalty, equestrian riders and bullfighters and this performance will celebrate the tradition, athleticism and grace of these revered creatures. Tickets available online at Ticketmaster.com.