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Give Thanks! HEY SOFU! What are you thankful for this year? When we look around, we have so many reasons to count our blessings. I am grateful for this community where mentoring and art-making are nurtured at Dancemakers of Atlanta, Inc . and where a museum and

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historic house become a community center at Hammonds House. If you’re coming up short, hopefully this issue will remind you of the thoughtful, kind and generous people we have living among us as our neighbors and friends. Read all about the ways our community comes together during this time of giving. It always warms our hearts to see the myriad ways that South Fulton celebrates the holidays—family traditions, bountiful feasts and giving back to the community we call home. It is a pleasure to spotlight organizations that give back from the Girls of Excellence to Camp Southern Ground. This month, we hope your home is filled with the aroma of freshly baked sweet potato pies, the sounds of laughter around the table and the feeling of gratitude in your hearts.

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INSIDE THE ISSUE NOVEMBER 2021

FEATURES 14 The Jewel of the West End Hammonds House Gets a New Executive Director and Curator Karen Comer Lowe

18 William Simmons A Young Star on the Rise

22 Toya Russell-Phillips and Girls of Excellence

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Good Times

Around Town

Local Experiences

Artist’s Palette

Local Limelight

24 Page Turners 28 Local’s Choice 30 Financial Buzz 32 Giving Back 34 Culinary Creations

It’s the small things that add more life! The City of South Fulton offers its residents something that we’re all learning, once again, to appreciate—quality of life. The big things—malls, franchises, big box chain stores—are not necessarily the things that make communities more livable. Little things often do that. With limitations on globetrotting, the essence of travel and experiencing new things is not only found in far off places. Exploring South Fulton and supporting local businesses can be fun and plays a key role in sustaining the community and showcasing it as a viable destination. Small business, local merchants, family-owned restaurants. Neighbors whose names you actually know. These things all help to make communities more livable.

GOOD TIMES

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ter has commissioned iconic artist, Dr. Fahamu

Region Tour will be February 18–22, 2022 to

Pecou, to create a painting to be displayed in a

included urban, college towns, suburban and

public place (a local museum) for Atlanta residents

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its patrons since 2018, as well as new attractions

socioeconomic conditions and his criminal past

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ARTIST’S PALETTE HAMMONDS HOUSE GETS A NEW EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR AND CURATOR KAREN COMER LOWE

ARTICLE ERIKKA SEARLES MITCHELL PHOTOGRAPHY JLENZ AND PROVIDED

The Jewel of

the West End KAREN COMER LOWE HAS A VISION. And it’s no small thing. She wants the Hammonds House to be a regular destination for your family locally and for Atlanta tourists alike. She visibly cringes when people call the museum a “Hidden Gem.” Since before she started the position as the Executive Director and Chief Curator there on June 1, she has wanted the Hammonds House to be a part of your regular Art Walk, the preface to your trip to the High, part of your date night Art Crawl in Castleberry Hill, or your class field trip. Your experience begins outside the building with quotes that position you in the context. “As curator, I can interpret the artist’s voice, to give you a deeper understanding and take you to a place you didn’t know you could go.” This summer Lowe curated an

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outdoor exhibition entitled, “The South Got Something to Say,” referencing the pointed words of Andre 3000. “This phrase issued a proclamation about the rising impact of Atlanta as a city. Since that time, the city has risen as an influential force in music, film and politics,” said Lowe in a previous interview. But where this show displayed Atlanta-based

artists

Sheila

Pree

Bright and Dr. Fahamu Pecou and the ways they interpreted technology, the exhibit at Hammonds House is decidedly low key. The new exhibition features the museum’s permanent collection. My mouth was hanging open as I perused the space. “This is the foundation of African American art,” says Lowe. The exhibit features Charles White, Jacob Lawrence, and Elizabeth Catlett. Lowe has an impressive resume, working most recently at the Chastain Arts Center. She has built relationships with dozens of artists. My favorite spot in the museum is the room that features Mildred Thompson. Imagine my surprise when Lowe told me that she was actually Thompson’s neighbor and that they shared many friendly chats. Another favorite spot was the installation of Romare Bearden works. Lowe painstakingly reframed many of these pieces that were falling into disrepair in storage. The Covid-19 pandemic has changed the way we do many things and visiting museums is one of them. Groups are welcome and encouraged to call ahead and make a reser-

Romare Bearden King Solomon’s Judgement 1978

vation. Masks are required and social distancing is encouraged. The exhibition comes alive CONTINUED >

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ARTIST’S PALETTE (CONTINUED)

with QR codes on the wall bringing some of the artists to life and also with the documentaries in the back section. Go explore the Hammonds House and see the Jewel of the West End for yourself. Jurrell Cayetano Rochelle & Brittany, 1997 (Gouache and color pencil on paper) original Digital Sign Sheila Pree Bright Untitled, #12, 2006 (Color photograph) Digital Sign

“Exhibiting

Culture:

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from the Hammonds House Museum Collection” is on display through January 30, 2022. Hammonds House Museum’s mission is to celebrate and share the cultural diversity and important legacy of artists of African descent. The museum is the former residence of the late Dr. Otis Thrash Hammonds, a prominent Atlanta physician and passionate arts patron. A 501(c)3 organization, the museum offers rotating exhibitions, artist talks, exhibition tours, arts education programs, family days, virtual programs, and other cultural events throughout the year. Located in a beautiful Victorian home in West End, Atlanta, Hammonds House Museum is a cultural treasure and a unique venue. To learn how you can support their mission and programming, or become a member, or plan your visit, go to the website: HammondsHouse.org.

Romare Bearden American, 1912-1988 Girl Beneath Wisteria, 1978 watercolor on paper 113.5 x 17 inches

Romare Bearden American, 1912-1988 Island Girl in Purple Shade, 1978 watercolor on paper 12.5 x 15.5 inches

Romare Bearden American, 1912-1988 Maudell Sleet, 1978 watercolor on paper

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A YOUNG STAR ON THE RISE

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AT JUST THE TENDER AGE OF 4, AN OUTGOING, OUTSPOKEN, AND OUTSTANDING CHILD. One of William’s first opportunities was as an extra on the hit series “Fatal Attraction.” After three days of production, it was clear that William was a star at being in front of the camera and memorizing his lines. The young actor would soon take private lessons at Catapult Acting Studios for four years. Dr. Charis Trench-Simmons recalls her son being responsible for getting his acting career off the ground. “We were sitting at Catapult, waiting on a class to start… William is kind of an old soul, so he just started talking to a lady who came in, and she ended up being an L.A. casting agent! So from there, she recommended us to our current Atlanta agent… and he’s just taken off from there,” says Charis. William is currently 8 years old and working with STW Talent. William gushed about the opportunity to meet new people and work with the cast and crew on set. Charis mentions being “amazed” at “how you can take several hours of filming different takes and put them into a TV show or a movie,” and watching her son be a part of that process has made her proud.

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WILLIAM SIMMONS

WILLIAM SIMMONS WAS ALREADY

Of course, the COVID-19 pandemic has had its drawbacks on the

William was very excited to have his friends

entertainment industry in the past two years, but William, his family,

watch him in the movie “Respect” during a pri-

and his agent were not discouraged about this young man’s talent

vate screening, where he plays one of the late

and got involved with plenty of alternatives in the process. William’s

Aretha Franklin’s sons, Clarence. Charis and

mother mentions how mature he was about understanding how

William recall the best part of production was

coronavirus would affect his auditions and the production process

working with Jennifer Hudson, who was very

in general but praised her son for how accustomed he had become

“down-to-earth.” In one scene, one of the other

to COVID-19 testing on set. Charis also mentions how in the sum-

actors called William by his real name and not

mer, training was virtual, giving William the opportunity to travel as

his character’s name and William’s response

auditions and callbacks came into play. He traveled with his mother

to the mistake was, “Oh no! We gotta do that

to North Carolina, Tennessee, and Louisiana.

again! She called me William!”

“I would prefer acting in Atlanta, but if I chose a state, it would

Outside of school and acting, William

probably be North Carolina… I did an audition for a roofing com-

likes to talk about his love of sports and his

pany, and I got to jump in a pool!” says William, who is clearly a

PlayStation. He plays on his school’s basket-

child who knows how to adapt to situations very quickly. His mother

ball team and participates in practices every

mentions how much more difficult it’s been since the young actor

weekend. In the future, William hopes to one

has returned to in-person learning for school, but that he has done

day work with Michael B. Jordan, as well as

well with the routine of being picked up from school and learning

eventually act on sitcoms on Nickelodeon.

lines in the car on their way to auditions.

For now, William will soon be featured in an

“As long as he enjoys it, my husband and I are all for it,” says Charis who is married to proud dad Dr. Lorenzo Simmons.

upcoming project called “First Looks,” which will also include Method Man.

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TOYA RUSSELL-PHILLIPS, FOUNDER, BOARD PRESIDENT

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felt like she could do more after working for nonprofits for 25 years.

Metro Atlanta and are looking to expand and reach even more girls

At that point, she literally didn’t know the meaning of the word “men-

who could benefit from our services. We offer group mentoring,

tor.” She just knew she wanted to help and there weren’t a lot of

life skills training, personal development, and community service

programs that focused on the success of growing girls.

opportunities to the girls we serve. We also have a focus on the

“It’s my passion and my purpose,” she said of the program that

social and emotional learning of our girls to better prepare them

would become Girls of Excellence. The program launched in 2019,

for life not only in the future but the present as well. They launched

recruiting other like-minded women to serve. They go into schools

the GOE 2021-2022 program year October 4.

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ers like SoFu Lifestyle’s own Michelle Taylor Willis, and field trips. In the spring, they award scholarships to deserving students. “Our goal is to be national, if not global with the virtual option,” said Russell Phillips. But to do this they need more mentor involvement. All it takes is training and a background check and you will be on your way to selecting a school in which to volunteer. Additionally, the Girls of Excellence need community sponsorships. More information and online applications can be found at the website: GirlsOfExcellenceInc.org. CityLifestyle.com/SoFu

PAGE TURNERS MOTHER AND SON SHARE ABOUT FINDING PURPOSE IN GRIEF

T HE N

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found my baby crying out to God, wondering why all of this was happening. At that moment, I knew that we had to do something to help CJ cope with such complex feelings. Before moving away from Los Angeles in 2004 and starting my family, I was heavily involved in activism, so the first thing that came to mind was how helping others always made me feel. I asked CJ, “If there was one thing you could do to prevent other kids from having these feelings, what would you do?” My goal was to pull out of him an idea of something he could give them. He told me, “blankets,” and that’s how our charity, Blankies 4 My Buddies, was born. This winter will be the ninth year CJ has collected and donated blankets to kids experiencNOVEMBER IS CHILDREN’S GRIEF AWARENESS MONTH The loss of a baby during pregnancy remains a sad reality for

ing challenging situations, providing an extra dose of comfort to children who need it.

many families. It is an unexpected, traumatic, and life-changing event that 1 in 4 women have experienced. I am 1 in 4. About eight years ago, I had two losses in nine months. It was a tumul-

This year, we decided to release a book, initially a journal, for

tuous time for my family and me, including my son, then 5. We

our healing. Pregnancy loss is palpable for so many families,

wanted another child. Unfortunately, life doesn’t stop when

and we believe our story can help others find their way to move

you’re dealing with one thing; it keeps going, sometimes layer-

beyond the pain and find a testimony amidst the tragedy too

ing challenges one after another, and it can be overwhelming.

many of us have endured.

We had two close losses in the family—my husband’s grand-

And Then There Was One (Parker & Co. Press), co-written

mother, who raised him, and my cousin, more like a sister, were

with CJ Matthews, who is now 14 years old, is being released on

tragically killed in a car accident. We needed some joy, and new

November 10 to recognize Children’s Grief Awareness Month.

life was our prayer. We learned two things: life doesn’t happen

It tells the story of one little boy’s determination to help others

in your time, and children’s grief is a serious matter.

and keep his little sister’s spirit alive while coping with his grief.

Our son, CJ, was struggling. We would find him crying in dark places and Googling death on his iPad. He didn’t

HEALING STORY

In the end, the main character finds purpose and discovers his strengths and greatness through small acts of generosity.

know how to express what he felt and was trying to fig-

We pray our story empowers families wherever they are in

ure it out independently. A memory engrained in my mind

their journeys, offering insight, healing, and hope, because our

forever was when I couldn’t find him, but then I heard a

story ends with a rainbow, a rainbow baby, that is. Our son

loud shrieking cry in the yard. I will never forget the day I

Kollin was born in 2016.

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GENEROUS SUPPORT IS ALSO PROVIDED BY Alfred and Adele Davis Exhibition Endowment Fund, Anne Cox Chambers Exhibition Fund, Barbara Stewart Exhibition Fund, Dorothy Smith Hopkins Exhibition Endowment Fund, Eleanor McDonald Storza Exhibition Endowment Fund, The Fay and Barrett Howell Exhibition Fund, Forward Arts Foundation Exhibition Endowment Fund, Helen S. Lanier Endowment Fund, Isobel Anne Fraser–Nancy Fraser Parker Exhibition Endowment Fund, John H. and Wilhelmina D. Harland Exhibition Endowment Fund, Katherine Murphy Riley Special Exhibition Endowment Fund, Margaretta Taylor Exhibition Fund, and the RJR Nabisco Exhibition Endowment Fund Richard Misrach (American, born 1949), Norco Cumulus Cloud, Shell Oil Refinery, Norco, Louisiana, 1998, printed 2012, pigmented inkjet print, High Museum of Art, Atlanta, commissioned with funds from the H. B. and Doris Massey Charitable Trust, Lucinda W. Bunnen, and High Museum of Art Enhancement Fund, 2012.6. © Richard Misrach 1998. Courtesy of Fraenkel Gallery, Pace/MacGill Gallery, and Marc Selwyn Fine Art.

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LOCAL’S CHOICE

3 TRENDY PRODUCTS FROM AFROPUNK VENDORS

ARTICLE COMPILED BY KAEYLA WILLIS

XOXO Bijoux

AFROPUNK ATLANTA IS KNOWN FOR THEIR LIVE MUSICAL ACTS, MUSIC, AND CULTURE. But have you shopped with their vendors yet? #SoFu Lifestyle went to AFROPUNK Atlanta to check out the music and food, and we even met a few boutique owners from Atlanta. XOXO BIJOU XOXO Bijou is a polymer clay earring company based in Atlanta. They focus on handmade items with one-of-a-kind bold designs full of creativity. Niesha Davis founded the company in 2019 out of frustration due to a lack of chic clip-on earrings. She didn’t feel that the available designs represented something she’d wear. While complaining to her younger sister about the need for better styles and designs, her sister encouraged her to create her own and do it herself. Davis can only wear clip-ons, so who better to design them than her? She went on a quest to find a material to craft her earrings with and stumbled upon polymer clay. Davis’ passion for being crafty and creative drove her to figure out how to quit her day job and focus on full-time entrepreneurship. To shop and support XOXO Bijou, check out their website and social media links. Website: https://xoxobijou.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ xoxo_bijou/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@xoxo_bijou19

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AFROPUNK KROONZ

Kroonz Wear is a cultural brand representing a men-

tality cut out for those who are proud of who they are and where they come from, one way or another.

Koonz

The “Kroonz” in Kroonz Wear are custom and handcrafted hats originating from the English translation of the Afrikaans word, “Kroon,” which means crown. The company’s mission is a simple statement: “To Protect Your Temple.” Kroonz is solely a hat company branding original designs and custom handmade goods with an emphasis on creating unique one-of-a-kind crowns. At Kroonz Wear, we stitch pride. To shop and support Kroonz Wear, check out their website and social media links. Website: https://www.kroonzwearco.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kroonzwear

XOXO Bijoux

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CANNABOMBZ POWERED BY CBD CannaBombz focuses on the self-care and health benefits of CBD. CBD has anti-anxiety, anti-inflammatory, and natural pain-relieving properties that make it perfect for self-care. CannaBombz sells bath bombs, body butters, detox bath salts, pain rubs, and more. To learn more and shop with CannaBombz, check out their links. Website: https://thecannabombzshop.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/canna.bombz

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FINANCIAL BUZZ

I N A TA X MESS?

LET US HELP

EVERY YEAR, THE IRS TAKES A SNAPSHOT OF WHAT THEY CONSIDER TO BE A MIDDLE-CLASS LIFESTYLE. They assign dollar amounts to specific categories, including the following: + Food, clothing, personal care products, and “miscellaneous” + Out-of-pocket health care costs + Vehicle ownership and operating costs + Rent or mortgage + Utilities, including gas, water, electric, cell phone, Internet, and more.

While these numbers are derived from federal studies, such as those from the U.S. Census Bureau and the Department of Labor, some of them would leave you scratching your head in confusion. Even more confusing might be the regional variations

now is a really bad time to try buying a more affordable

for housing and vehicle operating costs. The IRS assigns

home. With the insanity in the housing market still going

these numbers at the county level, while not accounting

on, this becomes a “good luck with that” proposition.

for the fact that some counties can have huge variations in housing costs from one end of the county to another. Now as a tax connoisseur, I find these numbers fascinating. But why should they be of any interest to you?

The law allows the IRS to make exceptions to allowable living expenses in certain situations. It’s also possible to

living expenses, to determine how much of your income

make arguments to support higher expense limits. Lastly,

you’re allowed to spend on the basic necessities of living.

there are times when we can convince the IRS to allow

These only come into play if you owe back taxes to

certain expenses that normally aren’t accepted. Getting

the IRS, and they don’t really matter that much if your

the IRS to allow such conditional expenses isn’t easy,

tax debt is small and you’re “playing ball” with the IRS to

though, and requires significant attention to detail. Of course, that’s where we come in!

But if you owe a substantial amount of money or have a

If you, a relative, or a friend are facing the harsh limita-

history of naughty behavior with the IRS, then these defi-

tions on allowable living expenses that the IRS imposes,

nitely come into play. Once they do, the IRS suddenly has

we should talk about how to get that resolved for you:

a lot of opinions regarding what you should and shouldn’t ARTICLE ALEXANDER MING

money on this or that?

Well, the IRS uses these numbers, called allowable

address the situation.

So, what should you do when the IRS drops the hammer and tells you that you can only spend a certain amount of

spend your own money on. Of course, having a government agency tell you how

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much you’re allowed to spend on this or that is never a welcome thing and can create significant stress or even

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GIVING BACK

Camp Southern Ground A PLACE FOR THE CHILDREN OF MILITARY HEROES

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FAYETTEVILLE, GEORGIA, FOUNDED BY ZAC BROWN OF THE ZAC BROWN BAND. Camp Southern Ground creates programs and experiences that help children and veterans to identify their unique gifts and talents and that lift up those who are often forgotten or left behind. In particular, CSG understands the unique experience and challenges that affect the children of our service members and veterans. Camp Southern Ground annually sponsors over 100 gold, silver, and white star children to attend summer camp programs completely free of charge. By providing a safe, welcoming, and inclusive camp environment, CSG creates a refuge for our military children where they can explore, create new friendships, and remember what it means to just be a kid. With behavioral and mental health experts on staff, CSG provides more than just a summer camp experience—we meet our military family where they are and provide the support they need. Camp Southern Ground is honored to have an impact in the military and veteran communities, and we are indebted to those who have given up so much for our country. If you are a veteran, we encourage you to visit our website and learn more about how we can help support you and your family. CampSouthernGround.org

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IT IS BACK TO SCHOOL TIME BUT THIS YEAR WILL BE DIFFERENT! WHY? Because this year thousands of responsible adults are asking school systems to create programs to stop the f ighting in schools.

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DR. FLAVA’S SHRIMP & GRITS

CULINARY CREATIONS

A SOUTHERN M U S T- H A V E : INGREDIENTS + Dr. Flava Spices: Cajun, NOLA TWIST, Garlic Herb, and Creole Delight + 1 lb large shrimp cleaned and deveined + 1 Tbsp grapeseed oil + 1/4 red and green bell pepper, diced + 1/4 red onion, diced + 4 strips turkey bacon + 1 cup quick grits + 1/4 cup heavy cream + 1/2 cup parmesan cheese + 1/4 tsp salt + Green onions + Assorted Dr. Flava Seasonings

RECIPE 01 Boil 3 cups of water and 1 Tbsp of grapeseed oil. Stir in 1 cup of grits, 1/4 tsp of salt, and dash of NOLA TWIST. Be mindful that grits added to boiling water can clump; stir briskly for about 5 minutes to create a creamy texture and shorten cooking time. Season clean deveined shrimp with ¼ tsp Spicy Cajun, No Salt Garlic Herb, and a shake of Original Everything. Drizzle with 1/2 tsp of grapeseed oil, toss and set aside. Check grits, stir briskly, and if too gritty add water and continue to cook. Add parmesan cheese. Let cook on low consistency until thick and creamy not gritty. 02 Use a nonstick skillet, turn the temperature high, add turkey bacon, and let cook until done for about 5 minutes. Remove from the pan and add the seasoned shrimp to the pan (bacon drippings add “Flava”). Cook shrimp on high temp for 1 minute and turn heat to medium to give a nice sear; cook for only 5 minutes. 03 Remove from the skillet and add the diced red and green bell peppers, red onions, 2 Tbsps of water and let steam. Sauté for 2 minutes and add 1/4 cup of heavy cream; cook on medium and stir to keep from overcooking. It should get thick; add 1/4

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