Ramapo Valley, NJ May 2026

LIFE + CULTURE

The Heart of May

I can always count on two things on Mother’s Day: my girls getting me Reese’s Cups as a gift—they know they are my favorite—and then eating all of them before I get one. I should probably start hiding the candy, but at this point, it feels like part of the tradition. That is motherhood. It is never just about you, even when it is supposed to be. Still, I would not have it any other way.

This month, our cover story celebrates Mattie Krause, Miss Ramapo Valley, as she prepares to compete for Miss New Jersey this June. That is such an exciting moment for our community, and her story makes it clear that the title is only part of what sets her apart. Turn to page 16 to meet a first-year surgical resident, advocate and accomplished young woman whose work with therapy and service animals reflects a deep commitment to helping others. She is intelligent, driven and service-minded, and she represents Ramapo Valley with so much grace and purpose.

That same thread of resilience and creativity continues with Michelle Fleischer of Embroidery Babes. You will find her story on page 12, where heartbreak grows into something beautiful and community-centered, giving women a chance to slow down, create and connect. It feels especially fitting this time of year—a reminder that healing does not always happen in big, dramatic ways. Sometimes it begins quietly, with your hands busy and your heart slowly finding its way back.

May also has a way of inviting us to gather a little more, and this issue gives us plenty of reasons to do just that. Find a Spicy Mango Margarita on page 37, festive enough for Cinco de Mayo and pretty enough for Mother’s Day, the kind of recipe that makes brunch, book club or a backyard evening feel just a little more special. And if you have been hearing about Mah Jongg everywhere lately, page 22 takes you into the world of the game everyone seems to be talking about, where strategy, laughter and a good excuse to gather around the table all come together.

However you are celebrating this month—whether you are sharing your candy, mixing margaritas or gathering around the Mah Jongg table—I hope you feel appreciated in all the ways that matter.

TIFFANY & JAKE SLOWINSKI , PUBLISHERS

May 2026

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CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

Allison K. Lim, Hilary Russo, Carly Mac Manus

CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS

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Photography, Jessielyn Palumbo, Allison K. Lim, Michael Lago, Cenia New York, Kylie Holt, Hilary Russo

Corporate Team

CEO Steven Schowengerdt

President Matthew Perry

COO David Stetler

CRO Jamie Pentz

CoS Janeane Thompson

AD DESIGNER Andrew Sapad

LAYOUT DESIGNER Kelsi Southard

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WHERE NEIGHBORS CAN SEE AND BE SEEN

1: Immaculate Heart Academy honored four seniors with National Honor Society second-quarter pillar awards. 2-3: Over 330 Roadrunners connected with 60 employers at Ramapo College of New Jersey’s Spring Career & Internship Fair. 4: Seven Ramapo Indian Hills Regional High School wrestlers qualified for NJSIAA District 4; top four advance to States. 5: Indian Hills Girls Basketball entered the NJSIAA Tournament as a #16 seed and advanced past #1 Emerson to quarterfinals. 6-7: Art students shared their talents globally through The Memory Project, connecting with children far away.

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A ROUNDUP OF NEWS FROM LOCAL BUSINESSES

Oldest Priest in Archdiocese of Newark Celebrates 104th Birthday

Monsignor James C. Turro, the oldest priest in the Archdiocese of Newark, marked his 104th birthday with a week of celebrations surrounded by family, parishioners and well-wishers at Our Lady of Mercy Church in Park Ridge.

Kayal Orthopaedic Brings Expanded Care to Allendale, N.J.

Kayal Orthopaedic, Physical Therapy & Chiropractic Center is opening a new location in Allendale, New Jersey, expanding access to comprehensive health care services. The center will offer orthopaedic surgery, chiropractic care, physical therapy, rheumatology, pain management and on-site medical imaging, providing an integrated approach to musculoskeletal treatment and patient recovery in the community.

Sook Pastry Shop Celebrates Grand Reopening in Ridgewood

Sook Pastry Shop in Ridgewood celebrated its grand reopening in March, marking the bakery’s 15th anniversary under new owners Rumbi Mufuka and John Thompson. The event featured a ribbon-cutting with the mayor, live music, a caricature artist, a make-your-own macaron station, and pastry and chocolate demonstrations. The celebration welcomed the community to enjoy Sook’s signature treats and festive atmosphere, honoring both a major milestone and a new chapter in the bakery’s history.

A SPRINGTIME escape TO WASHINGTON, D.C.

ARTICLE BY CARLY MAC MANUS

There is no better time to visit Washington, D.C., than spring. Cherry blossoms bloom, the weather softens and the nation’s capital feels alive with possibility. This year carries even greater meaning as the country prepares to celebrate America’s 250th birthday in 2026. It is the perfect moment to reconnect with history, culture and the stories that shaped our nation.

On a recent trip to D.C., I experienced the city in full spring splendor while staying at InterContinental Washington D.C., The Wharf. The waterfront hotel blends modern luxury with sweeping Potomac River views. Between cherry blossoms, museums, peaceful walks along The Wharf and an unforgettable dinner at Willowsong, the getaway delivered the ultimate family-friendly reset. It was equal parts educational, relaxing and inspiring.

THE WHARF: D.C.’S VIBRANT WATERFRONT NEIGHBORHOOD

InterContinental Washington D.C., The Wharf sits at the heart of a mile-long waterfront district that has transformed Southwest D.C. since opening in 2017. The neighborhood is energetic and walkable, filled with shops, restaurants, cafés, parks and piers overlooking the Washington Channel. It feels like a destination within the city. By day it is calm and scenic. By night it becomes lively and social, yet it remains just minutes from many of Washington’s most iconic landmarks.

From the hotel, it is an easy walk or short ride to the Washington Monument, the White House, the Capitol and the Smithsonian museums. That proximity makes

it ideal for families looking to combine fun and learning. We spent hours exploring the National Museum of American History, wandering through the National Gallery of Art and revisiting monuments that define our national story. With America’s 250th birthday approaching, each exhibit felt especially meaningful.

STAYING AT INTERCONTINENTAL WASHINGTON D.C., THE WHARF

The moment guests enter the InterContinental, the glass-enclosed lobby opens directly onto the waterfront. Natural light fills the space while the surrounding neighborhood energy flows inside. The design blends contemporary elegance with subtle nods to the city’s historic waterways. Soft blues, warm neutrals and clean lines allow the Potomac River views to take center stage.

My room overlooked the water, creating a serene atmosphere that felt worlds away from the city’s pace. The hotel’s amenities elevate the experience even further.

• Seasonal rooftop pool with panoramic river views

• WAVES Rooftop Bar, exclusive to hotel guests

• Watering Hole, an open-air bar with sweeping views of The Wharf

• Full-service spa with floor-to-ceiling waterfront views

• State-of-the-art fitness center

• Pet-friendly accommodations

• Meeting and event spaces filled with natural light and riverfront scenery

For families, couples or solo travelers, the property feels like a true urban oasis.

DINING AT WILLOWSONG: A STANDOUT CULINARY EXPERIENCE

One of the highlights of the trip was dinner at Willowsong, the hotel’s signature restaurant led by Executive Chef Jeffrey Williams. Inspired by the willow trees found throughout Washington, D.C., the restaurant celebrates Mid-Atlantic ingredients through a seasonal menu that feels both thoughtful and refined.

More than 60 percent of the menu is sourced within 150 miles of the District, giving every dish a sense of place.

Our meal was memorable. Creative interpretations of modern American cuisine, thoughtful cocktails, attentive service and the soft glow of the waterfront beyond the windows made for an exceptional evening. Whether you are staying at the hotel or visiting The Wharf for the night, Willowsong is a must.

CHERRY BLOSSOMS bloom, THE WEATHER softens AND THE NATION’S CAPITAL FEELS ALIVE

WITH possibility

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THE PERFECT FAMILY TRIP: MUSEUMS, HISTORY AND SPRING BEAUTY

With cherry blossoms framing the Tidal Basin and petals drifting through the air, spring in Washington feels magical. Families can fill their days with experiences such as:

• Smithsonian museums, which are all free

• Walking the National Mall

• Tours of monuments and memorials

• Picnics among the cherry blossoms

• Educational exhibits honoring America’s upcoming 250th anniversary

• Boating or paddleboarding along The Wharf

• Live music and events at The Anthem

Whether your interests include art, science, government or history, Washington offers something for every age. Spring adds another layer of beauty, covering the city in soft shades of pink.

LOOKING AHEAD TO AMERICA’S 250TH BIRTHDAY

As the nation approaches this milestone celebration, visiting Washington carries extra significance. Exhibits, installations and programs are already appearing throughout the city, inviting visitors to reflect on the past while looking ahead to the next chapter of American history.

Traveling during cherry blossom season adds another level of symbolism. The blooms represent renewal, resilience and beauty. They remind visitors of the traditions that bring people together and the stories that continue to shape our communities.

PLAN YOUR STAY

InterContinental Washington D.C. – The Wharf 801 Wharf St SW, Washington, DC 20024

202.878.8471

wharfintercontinentaldc.com

Hope THREADING

How Michelle Fleischer Turned Heartache Into Community With Embroidery Babes

Michelle Fleischer did not start Embroidery Babes with a five-year plan—she started it with a needle, a rainbow and a broken heart.

“I’m a control freak,” she says candidly. “The idea of wanting something so badly and not being able to have it—and realizing there was nothing I could control—was a huge struggle for me.”

Six years ago, Fleischer was navigating secondary infertility and pregnancy loss. While undergoing IVF, she found herself searching for something steady. Something quiet. Something hers.

She picked up an embroidery kit and taught herself through YouTube videos. Her first project was a small hoop stitched with a rainbow—a tribute to the baby she lost and a symbol of hope for the one she prayed for. Today, that piece hangs in her daughter’s room.

“She’s my rainbow baby,” Fleischer explains. “Embroidery became my safe haven. It was the one place where I felt in control in an environment that felt completely uncontrollable.”

What began as therapy became transformation.

A BUSINESS BORN ON THE STREET

Fleischer started by stitching her daughter’s name onto old denim jackets and sweatshirts she had saved from her son. One afternoon, someone stopped her on the street.

“That jacket’s so cute. Where did you get it?” the woman asked.

“I made it,” Fleischer replied—almost surprised at her own answer.

She created an Instagram account. There was no formal business plan. “I literally thought of the name Embroidery Babes in the shower,” she says with a laugh. “I really did not put much thought into it. It was like, let’s just see what happens.”

What happened next was momentum.

An invitation to vend at Haworth Day led to craft shows. Craft shows led to 20 orders at a time. Word of mouth spread quickly throughout Bergen County.

“I was dragging my husband out in the freezing cold with bins of denim jackets,” she shares. “It was chaotic and exciting at the same time.”

But success brought a new challenge.

“When you’re rushing through 30 orders on your couch, you lose the outlet part of it,” she explains. “You start to resent it.”

She knew something had to change.

MORE THAN A CRAFT—A CONNECTION

Before becoming a stay-at-home mom, Fleischer worked in corporate training, traveling for sales conferences and leading

development sessions. She missed teaching. She missed bringing people together.

So she asked herself a simple question: What if I taught embroidery instead?

“We treat every workshop as if no one has ever threaded a needle before,” she notes. “It’s not technical. It’s not intimidating. It’s supposed to feel good.”

Embroidery Babes workshops are intentionally low-stress. Participants learn one or two stitches, choose from dozens of stencils and thread colors and create something entirely personal—from denim jackets and pouches to baby gifts and sweaters.

“We don’t just give you a project—we give you a skill you can take home,” Fleischer explains. “I’m basically telling people, don’t pay someone to do this—you can do it yourself.”

Guests often arrive unsure. They leave empowered.

“Almost every single person says, ‘Wow, this is easier than I thought,’” she smiles. “And I always tell them, even if your project comes out terrible, I’m proud of you for showing up.”

A CREATIVE RESET FOR WOMEN

At every event, Fleischer shares a 30-second version of her story. And every time, someone approaches her afterward.

“Without fail,” she shares. “Even at a 10-person event.”

Women share their own experiences with infertility. Cancer patients attend workshops looking for an outlet. Mothers and daughters come for quality time. Best friends treat it as their night out—instead of dinner reservations.

“EMBROIDERY BECAME MY SAFE HAVEN. IT WAS THE ONE PLACE WHERE I FELT IN CONTROL IN AN ENVIRONMENT THAT FELT COMPLETELY UNCONTROLLABLE.”

- MICHELLE FLEISCHER

SCALING WITH INTENTION

“When I was struggling, I felt so alone. I don’t ever want someone else to feel that way.”

- Michelle Fleischer

“If you’re not open, you don’t realize how many people it impacts,” Fleischer emphasizes. “When I was struggling, I felt so alone. I don’t ever want someone else to feel that way.”

She describes the workshops as a creative reset—a space to put phones down for two hours and simply be present.

“You don’t even have to be creative,” she laughs. “You just have to not use your phone for two hours.”

In a world of constant notifications and digital overload, that invitation feels radical.

Now averaging multiple events per month—including private baby showers, corporate team-building sessions and large-scale International Women’s Day gatherings—Fleischer is thinking carefully about growth.

She recently trademarked Embroidery Babes and launched “Stitch Like a Babe” kits—at-home embroidery boxes complete with materials and instructional videos. The kits allow customers outside New Jersey to experience the brand and offer a more budget-friendly option for private gatherings.

“I love doing every workshop myself,” she says. “But growing means letting go of some control.”

Her vision for the future includes training additional instructors, expanding corporate partnerships and continuing to build creative community events that bring women together—not just to stitch, but to connect.

Because at its core, Embroidery Babes was never just about thread.

It was about healing. It was about honesty. It was about creating something beautiful in the middle of uncertainty—and inviting other women to do the same.

To learn more about upcoming workshops, private events or Stitch Like a Babe kits, follow along on Instagram at @embroidery.babes or visit embroiderybabes.com

MORE than a TITLE

Meet the Doctor, Ballroom Dancer and Advocate

Bringing Purpose to the Miss New Jersey Stage

ARTICLE BY CARLY MAC MANUS

PHOTOGRAPHY BY JESSIELYN PALUMBO

Balancing a demanding surgical residency with community advocacy and statewide competition is no small feat. For Mattie Krause, purpose is the common thread connecting every role she takes on—from the hospital floor to the Miss New Jersey stage.

Krause, a first-year foot and ankle surgical resident at Hoboken University Hospital, was crowned Miss Ramapo Valley last fall as part of the Miss America Organization. This June, she will compete for the title of Miss New Jersey, bringing a distinctive blend of medical training, ballroom dance and a service-driven platform focused on therapy and service animals.

“I’ve always believed that service looks different for everyone,” Krause says. “For me, it’s medicine, education and animals—and finding ways they can all work together.”

A CALLING ROOTED IN EXPERIENCE

Krause’s path to podiatric medicine began at age 16, when she underwent bilateral foot surgery—an experience that first sparked her interest in the specialty. She later pursued her medical education in Arizona, where podiatric programs are integrated alongside broader medical training, an approach she says gave her a strong clinical and surgical foundation.

Now based in North Jersey, she is completing her residency while preparing for competition season. She credits her program’s leadership and colleagues for supporting her dual commitments.

“My residency has been incredibly supportive,” she explains. “Medicine always comes first, but they understand how meaningful this work is to me and how closely it connects to patient care.”

A PLATFORM FOR HEALING— WITH PAWS

At the center of Krause’s advocacy work is The Healing Paws Network, a nonprofit she founded to expand education and access related to therapy and service animals in schools, hospitals and community settings. Her initiative draws from both research and lived experience, including work with veterans, individuals with disabilities and patients in clinical environments. She emphasizes measurable outcomes tied to animal-assisted support programs.

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“There’s strong research showing therapy and service animals can reduce hospital stays, decrease pain medication use and improve overall well-being,” Krause notes. “It’s not just emotional—it’s evidence-based.”

Through Healing Paws, she partners with local and national organizations to deliver educational programming, including school presentations, hospital staff education and youth workshops. She also serves as an ambassador coordinator for the planned National Service Animal Monument project in Washington, D.C.

BREAKING NEW GROUND ON THE MISS NEW JERSEY STAGE

This year marks Krause’s final year of eligibility in the Miss America Organization—and she plans to make it count. Following a recent rules update, she will introduce partner ballroom dance to the Miss New Jersey talent stage for the first time.

Krause, a competitive ballroom dancer, trains at Fred Astaire Hoboken and will perform a foxtrot in the American Smooth style with her dance partner, Alex Milov—marking the first time this partner ballroom format will appear as a talent presentation on the Miss New Jersey stage.

“Dance is storytelling, discipline and connection all at once,” she shares. “It communicates without words.”

She hopes her presence on stage broadens representation for women in medicine and competition.

“Medicine—especially surgical specialties—is still male-dominated,” she explains. “Representation matters. When young women see someone combining science, service and leadership, it expands what feels possible.”

COMMUNITY AT THE CENTER

Krause is active across North Jersey through school visits, parades and local events connected to her title. Community outreach remains a core expectation of the Miss America Organization, and she approaches appearances as an extension of her service platform.

She is also a rescue dog owner, and one of her dogs, Solo, is a certified therapy animal who joins her for

Mattie Krause

Miss America Organization Title: Miss Ramapo Valley

Miss New Jersey Competition: June 17–20

Music Pier — Ocean City, NJ missnj.org

Community Platform:

Founder — The Healing Paws Network Education and advocacy for therapy and service animals healingpawsnetwork.org

Talent Category: Partner ballroom dance Foxtrot — American Smooth style

Competition Phases: Interview

On-stage question

Talent Fitness

Evening gown

Follow:

Instagram: @missramapovalleynj Instagram: @healingpawsnetwork

select visits to schools and senior centers.

“Animals open doors that conversation alone sometimes can’t,” she shares. “They create comfort and connection instantly.”

LOOKING AHEAD

As she prepares for the Miss New Jersey competition, scheduled for June 17–20 at the Music Pier in Ocean City, Krause remains focused on long-term impact beyond the crown. Her goals include pursuing a surgical fellowship after residency and expanding Healing Paws programming—with a future vision of opening a therapy-focused farm facility.

“This title has a timeline,” she emphasizes. “The mission doesn’t.”

For Krause, success is measured less by awards and more by outcomes—patients helped, students educated and communities reached.

“Titles are meaningful,” she adds, “but service is what lasts.”

LEARNING THE GAME EVERYONE LOVES

FROM GIRLS’ NIGHTS TO LUXURY RETREATS, THE CLASSIC TILE GAME IS BRINGING A NEW GENERATION TOGETHER.

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BERGEN COUNTY, MAH JONGG IS HAVING A MOMENT

For the past several months, my group of four friends has been learning the game with instructor Carole Blancato. What once felt like a pastime of an older generation is now showing up everywhere—from living rooms to social gatherings. Today, Mah Jongg feels less like a niche hobby and more like a social staple.

ARTICLE AND PHOTOGRAPHY

BY ALLISON K. LIM

At its core, the game blends strategy and pattern recognition. Players work to match tiles in their hand to combinations on a card before someone else declares Mah Jongg. While the rules can feel complex at first, the challenge is part of the appeal. Once it clicks, it’s easy to get hooked.

A SOCIAL REVIVAL

Blancato learned Mah Jongg as a child, watching her mother play. Like many, she returned to it later in life—just as the game began to gain new momentum.

Historically, Mah Jongg was associated with more traditional gatherings. Today, it has evolved into a centerpiece for social connection. It fits just as easily into a casual night with friends as it does a brunch or holiday gathering. The game has become less about formality and more about experience.

“Mah Jongg is at the center of it,” Blancato says, “but everything else is part of it—the socialization, the refreshments.”

That shift has helped fuel its popularity. New accessories, including colorful mats and modern tile sets, have given the game a fresh, stylish appeal that resonates with younger players.

BEYOND TRADITION

While Mah Jongg has long been a way for women to connect, its audience is expanding. Men are joining games, and children are learning alongside their parents. What was once generational is now cross-generational.

Blancato teaches with Stacy Mah Jongg, a group of instructors serving Bergen and Rockland counties, led by Stacy Budkofsky. Over the past 15 years, Budkofsky has taught thousands of players, building a structured approach that introduces the basics over several lessons before advancing to strategy and defensive play.

The annual game card, which outlines all possible hands, changes each year—giving even experienced players a reason to keep learning.

But for Budkofsky, the real draw goes beyond the game itself.

“It’s more about the social connections you make and the relationships that are formed at the Mah Jongg table,” she says.

PRACTICE MAKES PLAY

Mah Jongg is played with four people, making it ideal for small, consistent groups. While lessons are a great starting point, regular play is essential to improving.

Budkofsky suggests learning with friends when possible. “If you don’t continue to play, your game will not evolve,” she says.

Equally important is aligning expectations—whether the group is playing casually or more competitively.

For those looking to sharpen their skills, online platforms can help, but in-person play remains the heart of the experience.

LET THE TILES LEAD

For new players, Budkofsky offers simple advice: Stay flexible.

“You have to let the tiles guide you,” she says. “You’re making decisions, but you also have to go with what you’re getting.”

And one final tip: Know the card. Familiarity builds confidence, improves strategy and strengthens overall play.

As Mah Jongg continues to grow across Bergen County, its biggest draw may be its simplest one—the joy of gathering around a table.

And for those ready to join in, classes, events and more information are available at stacymahjongg.com

Mother

ARTICLE BY CARLY MAC MANUS PHOTOGRAPHY BY MICHAEL LAGO, CENIA NEW YORK

An elevated guide to mother-of-thebride and groom styles that look as powerful as the women wearing them.

Knows Best

After the bride, all eyes turn to her.

The mother of the bride or groom holds a quiet, commanding presence on a wedding day. She is the woman who raised, guided and supported the moment now unfolding. Her look should reflect that significance: radiant, confident and unforgettable.

For many women, however, finding the right dress can feel overwhelming. Between dress codes, color palettes, venue formality and family opinions, the pressure is real. According to designer Cenia Paredes, founder of Cenia New York, the key is turning that pressure into intention.

“A mother does not want to overshadow the bride,” Paredes says. “But she absolutely wants to look radiant and feel radiant.”

With years of experience designing elegant eveningwear, Paredes has helped countless women find a look that feels both appropriate and extraordinary for the occasion. Her advice is simple: start early, focus on fit and choose a style that reflects both the setting and the woman wearing it.

Here, an expert-backed guide to selecting the perfect mother-ofthe-bride or mother-of-the-groom dress.

START EARLIER THAN YOU THINK

If there is one universal rule, it is this: do not wait.

Paredes recommends beginning the search at least six months before the wedding, though many women start even earlier. Custom designs and formal gowns often require multiple consultations and fittings, as well as time for fabric sourcing and tailoring.

“There are a lot of fittings involved,” she emphasizes. “And the decision process takes time. They want the bride’s approval. The husband’s input. The best friend’s opinion. It becomes a group decision.”

Starting early allows time to explore options thoughtfully rather than making rushed choices under pressure. It also ensures alterations are completed well before the wedding weekend arrives.

LET THE VENUE GUIDE YOUR STYLE

The setting of the wedding should play a significant role in selecting the dress.

A formal ballroom reception calls for a different look than a relaxed beach ceremony or countryside estate celebration. Fabric weight, silhouette and embellishment should reflect both the venue and the season.

Heavy brocade or structured gowns may feel exquisite in a grand indoor setting but overwhelming in warm climates. Likewise, a simple pantsuit that feels appropriate for a daytime gathering may seem underdressed in a historic estate or luxury hotel venue.

“A MOTHER DOES NOT WANT TO OVERSHADOW THE BRIDE. BUT SHE ABSOLUTELY WANTS TO LOOK RADIANT AND FEEL RADIANT.” - CENIA PAREDES

Paredes recalls a client attending a civil ceremony in a European castle who initially purchased a simple outfit online. As the wedding approached, she realized the look did not reflect the grandeur of the location.

“She came to me a week before the ceremony,” Paredes shares. “She needed something that matched the setting.”

The result was a refined gown that transformed both her confidence and her presence at the event.

When in doubt, dress to elevate the moment rather than downplay it.

FIT IS EVERYTHING

Even the most beautiful gown will fall short if it does not fit properly.

“The fit is crucial,” Paredes notes. “It could be the most beautiful, most expensive gown. If it does not fit right, it does not do justice to her.”

Many women gravitate toward silhouettes they believe they should wear rather than styles that truly flatter their body shape. Expert tailoring and thoughtful construction can make all the difference.

Customization allows designers to refine every detail, from neckline depth to sleeve coverage and skirt movement. Adjusting a slit, reshaping a waistline or adding subtle structure can transform how a woman feels in a gown.

When a dress is tailored to fit perfectly, confidence follows naturally.

MODERN ELEGANCE AT ANY AGE

Today’s mothers are redefining traditional expectations.

Some women prefer sleek, modern silhouettes with subtle drama, while others gravitate toward classic shapes with elegant coverage. Both approaches can feel sophisticated and contemporary.

“Some mothers are young and want something modern,” Paredes explains. “Others are traditional and want more coverage. There are designs that can be all of that and still be modern and interesting.”

Off-the-shoulder necklines, structured bodices, soft draping and refined embellishments can add modern appeal without sacrificing timeless elegance.

Radiance, after all, has no age limit.

RESPECT THE VISION—BUT KEEP YOUR VOICE

Wedding color palettes and overall themes often originate with the bride, and navigating that dynamic requires a balance of respect and self-expression.

As a mother of the bride herself, Paredes understands the process firsthand.

“My daughter has a theme and colors in mind,” she says. “I have to make sure the colors also look good on me.”

Some brides offer creative freedom. Others have very specific ideas about colors and formality. The goal is collaboration rather than competition.

A gown that complements the wedding aesthetic while highlighting the wearer’s natural beauty ensures harmony in both photographs and memories.

THINK BEYOND THE DRESS

The most polished looks are rarely created at the last minute.

Accessories, footwear, handbags and jewelry should all be considered alongside the gown itself. Planning these elements early helps create a cohesive look and prevents the stress of last-minute shopping.

Shapewear and undergarments also play an important role in achieving a smooth, flattering silhouette. When every element works together, the overall look feels intentional rather than assembled.

THE RETURN OF OPULENCE

Wedding fashion is once again embracing glamour.

Paredes says she is seeing a strong return to opulent fabrics, regal silhouettes and intricate detailing. Inspired in part by the romantic aesthetics of period dramas and royal weddings, many mothers are choosing gowns that feel both luxurious and timeless.

“A lot of opulence is happening,” she shares. “A royal look incorporated into modern and classic silhouettes.”

Think rich jewel tones, structured bodices, elegant draping and subtle sparkle that catches the light.

A MOMENT THAT BELONGS TO HER, TOO

At its heart, the perfect mother-of-the-bride or mother-of-the-groom dress is not about trends.

It is about presence.

It is the moment she stands with quiet pride, watching her child step into a new chapter. It is confidence stitched into every seam and reflected in every photograph.

And while the spotlight may belong to the bride, the mother standing beside her deserves to shine as well.

For more information, visit cenianewyork.com .

ARTICLE BY KALI KASORZYK

PHOTOGRAPHY PROVIDED

BECKY HILLYARD

From Side Hustle to Style Empire

The power of taste, trust, and the courage to “just start.”

She didn’t have a business plan, a media budget, or even a name anyone could pronounce. What Becky Hillyard had was taste, a young family, and the instinct to just start. Today, her lifestyle brand Cella Jane commands an audience the size of Vogue’s, she’s nine collections strong with Splendid, and she’s built it all while raising three kids — refusing to sacrifice one for the other. In an exclusive conversation for the Share the Lifestyle podcast, Becky shares what it really takes to build a brand, a career, and a life you love. Read the highlights below, then scan the QR code for the full conversation.

Q: WHEN DID YOU KNOW CELLA JANE WAS MORE THAN A HOBBY?

A: Two moments. Women started emailing me saying they bought something I recommended and felt amazing — asking me to help them find a dress for a wedding. That felt incredible. Then I looked at my affiliate numbers for one month and realized I could cover our mortgage. I thought, I can actually do this. I never set out to build a business. I started it because I genuinely loved it.

Q: WHAT WAS THE BIGGEST RISK YOU EVER TOOK WITH THE BRAND?

A: Designing my own collection. It’s easy to point at items on a website and say I love these. But to create something from scratch, put your name on it, and wait to see if people connect with it — that’s terrifying. I had an incredible partner in Splendid, and women loved the pieces. It was the biggest risk and the biggest accomplishment.

Q: HOW HAS INFLUENCER MARKETING CHANGED SINCE YOU STARTED?

A: When I started, brands didn’t know whether to take it seriously. Now it’s a legitimate line item in their marketing budgets — sometimes bigger than TV. Because what we’ve built is trust. People trust a real recommendation from someone they follow far more than a commercial. There’s no question about it now.

Q: YOU’RE A MOM OF THREE RUNNING A FULL BRAND. WHAT DOES YOUR DAY ACTUALLY LOOK LIKE?

A: I try to get up at five and not hit snooze — that first hour before the house wakes up is the most productive, most peaceful hour of my day. Then it’s all hands on deck with the kids and school drop-off. After that I work — planning content, connecting with my team, editing. After pickup, the day shifts completely and it’s all about them. I’ve learned to protect both halves fiercely, because both matter.

Q: WHAT WOULD YOU TELL SOMEONE WHO WANTS TO BUILD SOMETHING OF THEIR OWN BUT KEEPS WAITING?

A: Don’t wait. Don’t wait for the perfect camera, the right strategy, or enough followers. We find every excuse to stay comfortable. Just start, be consistent, and be authentically yourself. The right people will find you — and they’ll stay.

This conversation is just the beginning. Becky goes deeper on the risks that almost stopped her, the design process behind her latest Splendid collection, and what she’d tell her 2012 self today. Scan the QR code for the full, exclusive City Lifestyle interview on the Share the Lifestyle Podcast.

“Trust is the only metric that actually compounds.”

— Becky Hillyard

DIY DAY

INSPIRATION FOR A MOTHER/ DAUGHTER DIY DAY

WITH MOM

ARTICLE BY MEL BOBAN

An afternoon spent together is priceless with today’s busy schedules. Instead of going out, staying in can provide quaint, quiet one-on-one time for a mother and daughter (or multiple daughters). Finding time on calendars is the hard part, and filling that time is all fun from there. Here are a few favorite ideas for inspiration that may spark excitement for planning those special times together.

01 Interview Journaling

Storytelling makes for the best memories. Structure memory recall by filming or journaling interview-style question-andanswer sessions, cataloging information for future generations. Videos and notes with detailed family adventures are priceless, and we all always wish we had more of them.

Custom DIY charm necklaces and bracelets are trending. Gather a theme idea: birthstones, family initials, travels or even favorite hobbies, and procure charms from your local craft store or online shop. Selecting charms for each other also could be a fun way to bring delight to the crafting occasion. Necklaces and bracelets can be made for each other, or as future gifts for upcoming occasions such as a family wedding, a birthday milestone or an anniversary.

03

Photo Archive Day

Printed photos are often stored in boxes or tubs with little organization. Perhaps you have photos of your own, or even a grandparent who has passed, that need an organization overhaul. While these projects can be daunting, ‘many hands make light work.’ Group the photos by decade and file them in order. Consider purchasing a photo scanner to digitize the files for future generations. Photo organization always brings storytelling, laughter and warm memories.

Text conversations around kitchen tips or ingredient procurement seem endless. Spend some time together in the kitchen preparing favorite family recipes, sharing Mom’s best tips and tricks. Choosing freezer-friendly meals is a great way to walk away with meals for upcoming busy days. There’s nothing like Mom’s recipes!

INGREDIENTS:

• 2 ounces tequila (blanco works best)

• 1 ounce fresh lime juice

• 1 ounce orange liqueur (such as triple sec)

• 2 ounces mango nectar or mango puree

• ½ ounce agave syrup (optional)

• Tajín or chili-lime seasoning for rim

• Ice

• Fresh mango slices and lime wedges for garnish

MAKE IT A MOCKTAIL:

Skip the tequila and orange liqueur and replace with sparkling water or mango juice for a refreshing alcohol-free version. Shake the mango nectar, lime juice and agave with ice, pour into a Tajín-rimmed glass and top with sparkling water for a bright, citrusy sip everyone can enjoy.

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Spicy Mango MARGARITA

ARTICLE AND PHOTOGRAPHY

BY CARLY MAC MANUS

Cinco de Mayo is the perfect excuse to gather with friends, enjoy vibrant flavors and celebrate the start of warmer days. With Mother’s Day arriving just after, it is also a lovely time to raise a glass to the women who make life sweeter, stronger and a lot more fun. Here in New Jersey, May signals the return of patio season, from backyard barbecues to breezy evenings down the Jersey Shore.

This Spicy Mango Margarita delivers the perfect balance of sweet citrus and heat. Fresh mango and lime bring brightness, while a chili-lime rim adds just enough kick to make every sip memorable. It is colorful, refreshing and festive enough for a Cinco de Mayo celebration, yet pretty enough to serve at a Mother’s Day brunch or backyard gathering. Pair it with tacos, grilled seafood or a simple bowl of chips and guacamole for an easy sip that feels like a little celebration of spring.

DIRECTIONS:

1. Run a lime wedge around the rim of a margarita glass and dip the rim into Tajín or chili-lime seasoning.

2. Fill a cocktail shaker with ice.

3. Add tequila, lime juice, orange liqueur, mango nectar and agave syrup.

4. Shake well for about 15 seconds until chilled.

5. Strain into the prepared glass over fresh ice.

6. Garnish with a slice of mango or a lime wedge.

A bright, tropical cocktail perfect for spring entertaining.

THE STRESS WE CARRY for others

UNDERSTANDING SECONDARY TRAUMATIC STRESS AND PROTECTING WELLBEING IN AN OVERWHELMING WORLD

ARTICLE AND PHOTOGRAPHY BY HILARY RUSSO

In today’s world, it’s almost impossible to avoid the pain and suffering of others.

Between the 24-hour news cycle, social media feeds that refresh every few seconds, and the reality of what’s happening in our own communities and around the world, we are constantly witnessing the distress of others. While awareness can build empathy and connection, it can also take a toll on our wellbeing.

Even here in Bergen County, where strong communities often rally together during difficult moments, residents are not immune to the emotional weight of what they see happening both locally and globally.

This is where secondary traumatic stress, or STS, comes in.

Secondary traumatic stress refers to the natural emotional and behavioral responses that can occur when we are exposed to someone else’s trauma or suffering. According to the Office for Victims of Crime, STS is the stress that results from helping, or wanting to help someone who has experienced a traumatic event.

You don’t have to be a first responder, therapist, or health care worker to feel it. People working in high-stress environments may be more vulnerable, but in this digital age, exposure to trauma crosses everyone’s path.

It can show up when you watch heartbreaking images on the news. It may surface when a friend shares a painful story. It makes its presence known when your child is struggling, or when a colleague confides in you about a difficult situation. You may feel it as if it were your own because your nervous system has one job: to keep you alive and safe.

And it doesn’t understand time or space. Our brains are constantly downloading information much like a computer operating system. And just like when too many programs are running at once, the system slows, freezes or crashes.

We’re living in a global village where everything is accessible. Keywords, hashtags and trending stories keep us connected, but they also create information overload. Sometimes the language we use to describe what we’re feeling becomes blurred.

Take burnout, for example. It’s a term that gets used often. It typically stems from chronic workplace stress, long hours, lack of support and feeling inundated by responsibilities. But burnout and secondary traumatic stress are not the same thing.

Burnout is usually related to prolonged stress and exhaustion tied to work demands. Secondary traumatic stress, on the other hand, involves exposure to someone else’s trauma or suffering as a key component. The symptoms can look similar.

You might experience mood changes, anxiety, sadness or irritability. Sleep patterns may shift. Appetite may change. You might feel mentally foggy or emotionally drained.

The symptoms may also be physical, including headaches, digestive issues, muscle tension or fatigue. Emotionally, people may experience a loss of purpose, hope or connection to things that once brought joy.

In more serious cases, unaddressed stress can increase the risk of substance use or negative thoughts. That’s why creating a trauma-informed culture—from the living room to the boardroom—is so important.

3. HONOR YOUR SLEEP

Sleep is one of the brain’s most powerful reset buttons. Prioritize rest and create a wind-down routine that helps your nervous system shift into recovery mode.

4. NOURISH YOUR BODY

What we eat fuels not just our physical health, but also our mental clarity and emotional resilience.

5. GET PHYSICAL

Movement and physical activity release endorphins—the brain’s natural mood booster—helping discharge built-up stress.

6. FOCUS ON GOOD MOMENTS

When the world feels overwhelming, intentionally look for small moments of positivity. They exist more often than we think.

Secondary trauma

may affect you, but it does not define you.

The truth is that secondary trauma may impact you, but it doesn’t own you. Awareness is the first step. And the good news is that there are ways to protect your wellbeing.

So if the world feels heavy lately, here are ten ways to be kind to your mind and support your resilience.

1. SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

Be mindful of what you allow into your space — not just physically, but emotionally and digitally. It’s okay to step away from the news cycle or limit social media if your bandwidth is tapped.

2. PACE YOUR EXPOSURE

If your work involves helping others through difficult situations, try to balance heavier cases with lighter responsibilities when possible. Spacing things out can make a meaningful difference.

7. STAY CONNECTED Isolation amplifies stress. Reaching out to trusted friends or loved ones can help you process emotions and feel supported.

8. LEAN ON PEER SUPPORT

If your work exposes you to difficult stories or situations, talking with colleagues who understand the experience can be incredibly validating.

9. ASK FOR HELP

Seeking support from a supervisor, mentor or mental health professional is not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of awareness.

10. PROTECT YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM

Practices that calm the brain and body—such as mindful breathing, movement or self-regulation techniques— can help your system settle and restore balance.

The reality is that caring about others means we will sometimes feel the weight of their struggles. That’s part of being human. But compassion for others has to include compassion for ourselves.

While we may not always be able to control what’s happening in the world around us, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is learn how to protect our inner world and be kind to our minds.

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A SELECTION OF UPCOMING LOCAL EVENTS

APRIL 29TH

Friends of the Franklin Lakes Library Author Luncheon

Indian Trail Club, 830 Franklin Lake Road, Franklin Lakes, NJ 07417 | 11:30 AM

Join the Friends of the Franklin Lakes Library to welcome best-selling author Shelley Noble. This literary event features a guest lecture and signed books for purchase. Proceeds support vital programming for children and adults at the Franklin Lakes Library. Register at franklinlakeslibrary.org/ ffll-author-luncheon

APRIL 29TH

Visual Arts Senior Thesis Opening

Kresge and Pascal Galleries, 505 Ramapo Valley Road, Mahwah, NJ 07430 | 5:00 PM

Celebrate creative talent at the opening reception for the Visual Arts Senior Thesis Exhibition. The program showcases sculpture, digital media and painting within the college’s premier gallery spaces. This cultural highlight is free and open to the public, providing a sophisticated evening of art. Check gallery details at ramapo.edu/ca/ca-events/

MAY 3RD

Ramsey Farmers’ Market Opening Day & Home Show

Ramsey Farmers' Market, 2 W. Main St., Ramsey, NJ 07446 | 9:00 AM

The Ramsey Farmers’ Market launches its new seasonal hours beginning May 3, running Sundays from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Opening day also features the second annual Ramsey Chamber of Commerce Home Show, where visitors can browse local produce, artisan goods and meet area home improvement professionals. More information at ramseyfarmersmarket.org