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Life Steps 10
EXPECTING
Don’t feed your baby junk 12
BABIES | 0-1 YEARS
Humor Helps 26
FUNNY THINGS KIDS SAY
Local families share their funny stories
Stay close to your baby 14
TODDLERS | 1-3 YEARS
Family of four seems just right 16
TYKES | 4-8 YEARS
Fathering: 10 easy steps 18
PRETEENS | 9-12 YEARS
Daughter’s thoughts: Don’t overreact 24
TEENS | 13-18 YEARS
The steps to academic success 4
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On the Cover JASENIA MENDEZ, 2 1/2, was photographed by Ryan Schnurr at the Wayne Street Early Childhood Alliance child care center in downtown Fort Wayne.
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The steps to academic success
Amish Cook recipes Fundraiser for art to combat child abuse Babies respond to music Winter sports Duck, Duck, Boost! Learn new things to build your brain Recipes for your 2014 healthy eating goals Many hands help with adoption fundraising effort Bravery Sipping, snacking and tooth decay FWMoA offers new area for learning, fun Autism resources
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Editor’s letter
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Contributors
Kate COFFMAN
Tammy LAUER
Nick HAYDEN
Coffman is the Program Manager for the College and Career Counseling (C3) initiative of the Indiana Youth Institute. C3 offers the free driveofyourlife.org and triptocollege. org websites, which allow Hoosier students to explore career options and Hoosier students and families to Ûg] fhk^ _hk college, respectively.
Lauer is the Northeast Indiana Special Education Cooperative preschool transition teacher/ autism team member. Contact her at 349-3214 or tlauer@neisec. com.
Hayden is a mild-mannered bookkeeper by day, a mild-mannered (albeit tortured) writer by night, a youth leader on weekends and a podcaster. More information at worksofnick.com, derailedtrainsofthought.blogspot. com or facebook. com/worksofnick. He is the author of The Unremarkable Squire.
Erin DOUCETTE Doucette is the presentation editor for KPC Media Group, leading design and layout for several of its publications. She, her husband, Stephen, daughters Ella, 6, and Eva, 3 live in Huntertown. She can be e-mailed at edoucette@ kpcmedia.com. 8
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Kristy JOHNSON Johnson is a 2003 East Noble High School graduate. She studied physics at Dickinson College and the University of Maryland and now lives in Boston with her husband, Michael, and their son, Felix, 2. Contact her at kristina.t. johnson@gmail.com.
Marcela MADDEN Madden is an outreach specialist, working at Early Childhood Alliance since 2007. She lives in Fort Wayne with her husband and two children. Contact her at mmadden@ ECAlliance.org.
Nan MALLOY Malloy is an outreach specialist with Early Childhood Alliance with more than 20 years of experience in early childhood education. Nan and her husband have four children. Contact her at nmalloy@ ECAlliance.org.
Liz BOREN
Elizabeth KISSINGER
Boren has degrees in art and anthropology. After working as a writing center consultant, teaching assistant and substitute teacher, la^ bl \abe]k^g l education associate at the Fort Wayne Museum of Art with students through grade 12. Contact her at 422-6467 ext. 312 or boren@ fwmoa.org.
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Dr. John ROSEMOND
Ryan SCHNURR
Nancy TRENT
Blessing is co-founder and chief nutritionist for Green ;>:G =^ebo^kr% a company that delivers organic produce and natural groceries to Fort Wayne homes, has a master of science in nutrition from Bastyr University and a bachelor of science in dietetics.
Rosemond is America’s most widely-read parenting authority. He is a best-selling author, columnist, speaker and family psychologist. More information at rosemond.com.
Schnurr is a photo and video journalist living in Fort Wayne. He also serves as the editor of INFortWayne. com. Contact him at rschnurr@ kpcmedia.com.
Trent is a direct caregiver with Fresh New Start LLC. She and her husband are advocates with people with autism and their families. Contact her at nncy_trent@yahoo. com.
Recipes
Amish recipes may become family favorites Here are some hearty winter recipes from Lovina Eicher, reprinted from Lovina’s popular Amish Cook column in KPC Media Group’s Sunday newspapers.
Broccoli cauliflower soup • 4 cups chicken broth • 2 teaspoons chicken bullion granules • 1 large bunch broccoli, diced • 2 cups cauliflower florets, diced • 2 cups milk, divided • 1 teaspoon salt • 2 cups cooked chicken, cut up • 6 tablespoons cornstarch In a 4-quart saucepan, cook broccoli and cauliflower in chicken broth and until soft. Add 1 1/2 cups of milk and salt. In a small bowl, stir cornstarch into 1/2 cup milk.
Cabbage soup • A couple meaty beef bones
• 1 small head cabbage (chopped) • 4 big carrots (chopped) • 12 stalks celery • 2 onions (chopped) • 4-6 potatoes (chopped) • 2 quarts tomato chunks Cook until all is tender. Instead of using beef bones, chunks of beef can also be used.
Hot dog topping • 1 pound hamburger • 2 teaspoons garlic powder • 2 teaspoons cumin • 3 teaspoons paprika • 1 tablespoon minced onion • 1 teaspoon oregano • salt and pepper to taste • 1 can tomato sauce • 1 can water • 1/4 cup ketchup Instructions
Brown hamburger in enough water to cover bottom of the pan. Break up meat as it cooks. Add remaining ingredients. Simmer for one hour. Serve over hot dogs.
Pepperoni bread • 1 cup plus 2 tablespoons water • 2 tablespoons sugar • 2 tablespoons vegetable oil • 1 1/2 teaspoons garlic salt • 1 1/2 teaspoons oregano • 3 1/4 cup flour • 1 1/2 teaspoon yeast • 2/3 cup chopped pepperoni • 2 cups shredded cheese In a bowl combine first five ingredients. Add yeast and flour. Then add pepperoni. Let rise for 30 minutes. Put onto a 10x15 cookie sheet and let rise 30 more minutes. Bake at 350 for 15 minutes. Put cheese on bread and bake till cheese is melted.
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Expecting
NUTRITION
Don’t feed your baby
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Children born to a mother who ate a diet dominated by junk food need to eat more fat and sugar to get the same good feeling, increasing their preference for junk food Dr. Bev Mühlhäusler
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BY GRACE HOUSHOLDER Last fall I had the privilege of babysitting for our two granddaughters for a week while our daughter, a marine biologist, was working out of town. Dorothy (Dolly) and Simon are living in Boston this year while Simon is working at the Joslin Diabetes Center, affiliated with Harvard University. One of the many reasons that I enjoy spending time with Simon is the fascinating information he shares about nutrition. He has his doctorate in molecular biology and the focus of his research is type 2 diabetes. This is Simon’s basic advice for people who wish to decrease their chances of developing type 2 diabetes: 1. Base your meals on whole, unrefined ingredients, such as fresh vegetables and fruits, nuts, eggs, fresh meats and seafood. 2. Avoid white flour and sugar. 3. Consume quality fats such as extra virgin olive oil, canola oil, butter, coconut oil and omega-3 fatty acids (such as fish oil) to ensure good hunger control and optimal fat burning.
4. Eat more eggs. Simon believes that for most people, the cholesterol in food is not harmful. Egg yolk provides much of the protein in eggs along with many important nutrients such as Vitamin D, Vitamin A, folic acid, calcium, selenium, biotin and omega-3 fatty acids. Simon advises everyone to consult with a doctor, but he believes that improving one’s dietary habits and level of physical activity will reduce or even eliminate the need for medication. Simon’s team is focusing on the genetics behind type 2 diabetes. Simon shared with me that what a mother eats (or doesn’t eat) during pregnancy can affect her child’s likelihood of developing type 2 diabetes. The brain gives signals that a person is “full” and should stop eating and that the ingested energy should
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be used well. The brains of people with type 2 diabetes may not be providing the proper signals to the body’s organs, he said. Genetics and the mother’s diet during pregnancy can inuence the brain’s wiring regarding these signals. An Australian research team recently concluded that babies of women who eat junk food while pregnant will be more likely to be obese as an adult because babies of junk food eating mothers have less sensitivity to opioids and are more likely to overeat junk food, even in adulthood. Dr. Bev MĂźhlhäusler, from Adelaide University, said the mothers who ate junk food impeded the baby’s ability to respond to opioids. “Children born to a mother who ate a diet dominated by junk food need to eat more fat and sugar to get the same good feeling, increasing their preference for junk food,â€? she said, adding that “junk food babiesâ€? will ďŹ nd it “permanentlyâ€? harder to achieve a healthy body weight. “Mothers eating a lot of junk food while pregnant are setting up their children to be addicted,â€? she said. Just as mothers make every effort to give up smoking and/ or alcohol consumption before, during and after pregnancy, they should cut back or eliminate junk food, too. It’s a priceless gift for the child ‌ and the mother will look and feel better, too! Q
Libraries provide help for people who stutter Over three million Americans stutter. Stuttering affects their lives in many ways. They deal daily with embarrassment and frustration. Help is available at most public libraries in the form of a book Advice to Those Who Stutter. Advice to Those Who Stutter, a 158-page book, gives practical advice written by 24 speech pathologists who themselves stutter, advising what helped them and what they believe will help others control their difďŹ culty. Stuttering Foundation books are directed to parents of children who stutter, adults who stutter, speech pathologists, pediatricians, family physicians, nurses, health care professionals, hospitals, schools, clinics, day-care centers and all those concerned with the problem of stuttering. Books and DVDs produced by the 66-year-old foundation are available free to any public library. A library that will shelve them can contact the foundation at 1-800-992-9392, e-mail info@ stutteringhelp.org, or visit stutteringhelp.org or tartarmudez.org. National Stuttering Awareness Week is the second week in May. Q
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Babies
NEWBORN TRANSITION
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Your time in the hospital is your time to begin to get to know your baby. The more time people spend together the faster they get to know one another. Elizabeth Kissinger
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BY ELIZABETH KISSINGER Congratulations, you’re expecting! Let the onslaught of unsolicited advice and instructions to begin! I remember being told: “When you’re in the hospital just send the baby to the nursery for the night. You need to get your rest!” And hospitals have happily granted this request, taking babies to the nursery to let Mom “get some rest” has become routine in a lot of facilities. It was thought that the babies would be safer if they were being cared for by a medical professional while the mother recovered. However, research is telling us that separating moms and babies may have negative implications. In recent years, studies have shown that it is best for mothers and babies to remain together after birth and experts agree that unless a medical indication exists, healthy mothers and babies should not be separated. It has been shown that separating mothers and babies has a negative impact on both bonding and breastfeeding. And although health care professionals used to think that separating mothers and babies was actually safer for the infants research
has shown just the opposite. Babies stay warm, cry less and breastfeeding gets off to a better start when mother and babies remain together. Your time in the hospital is your time to begin to get to know your baby. The more time people spend together the faster they get to know one another. You will be taught what to watch for with your baby and how to know what your baby is trying to express to you. Your time together will help you quickly learn your baby’s needs and how to best care for, soothe
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and comfort your baby. Your baby has spent nine months in your womb, where it was warm, muffled and soothing. Your baby could hear your voice and your heartbeat. You are very comforting to your newborn baby. Keeping your baby with you continuously throughout your hospital stay has other benefits as well. Rooming-in makes breastfeeding easier. Studies show us that mothers who remain with their babies have a higher level of breastfeeding success, make more milk sooner, breastfeed longer and are more likely to exclusively breastfeed as opposed to mothers who are separated from their babies for significant periods of time; such as the baby going to the nursery for the night. You are more quickly able to identity that your baby is sending you subtle feeding cues — smacking lips, sucking fists, rooting — than a nursery staff member who has a nursery full of babies. Often times staff notices a baby is hungry when the baby begins to cry — a late sign of hunger that often makes breastfeeding more difficult than if the baby is relaxed and calm. Interestingly, the research is also telling us that mothers who remain with their babies actually are just as rested as those mothers who are separated from their babies. Many mothers sleep more peacefully knowing that their baby is with them. It’s natural for you to want to be with your baby. You have waited nine months to meet your baby. You have dreamed about the day you would get to hold your baby — stay with your baby! Tell your medical professional that you don’t want to be separated from your baby and you plan on practicing rooming-in! Q
Three Rivers Art Center for Kids fundraiser is Jan. 12 FORT WAYNE — “A New Beginning” fundraiser for Three Rivers Art Center for Kids will be from 2-5 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 12, at Calhoun Street Soup, Salad, Spirits, 1915 Calhoun St., Fort Wayne. Parking is free. Admission is $5; kids free. TRACK uses the power of art to combat child abuse. Music will be provided by Mimi Burns & Styler, Molly Brogan and Grace Minnick. Special guest will be Blind Uncle Harry of Bloomington. Fort Wayne Youtheatre will present the play “Mean Jean the Recess Queen.” In addition, Catherine Nagy Mowry will provide a Miami Indian doll making demonstration; Teresa Rust will do face painting; there will be mural painting and an open mic for “anyone and everyone.” Proceeds will help bring Native American photographer Matika Wilbur to Fort Wayne to speak. She is travelling the country documenting Native Americans and will speak on her art, her heritage and inspiring youth. On Tuesday, March 18, during Women’s History Month, “Destiny’s Law” author Randi Shepherd and daughter Destiny, who want to make tougher laws for abusers, will be featured with abuse survivor Maleah Heck, the Fort Wayne Dance Collective, and the debut of TRACK’s theme song “To Be on Track,” written by Patty Hunter, Mimi Burns and Grace Minnick. Also Reader’s Theatre “Angel Fire” by Terry Doran will be presented. For more information, contact Patty Hunter at 220-0072, or email pattyhunter1952@gmail.com. Q
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FAMILY SIZE
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It’s hard to change a good thing when you have it. And I know the moms with big housefuls of children say that your heart grows with every child. But I have to say, my heart feels pretty full. Erin Doucette
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BY ERIN DOUCETTE It doesn’t happen very often, but every once in a while, I hold a baby and I fall in love a little. Those cute little socks and the way they are just the right size for snuggling. And how they don’t tell you that they hate all of your meals. But every single time I remember back to how I didn’t sleep for about six months and I breathe a sigh of relief. My baby did not sleep a full night until she was about 6 months old. And by full night I mean six hours straight. The doctor kept saying “probably a few weeks more!” I trolled the Internet, desperate for every piece of advice I could get. Finally, an ultra-fast swinging chair at max speed all night did the trick. I wasn’t sure what the academy of pediatrics would think of that, but at least it wasn’t the “touch of whiskey in the bottle” like our grandmothers did. And there are so many moments too that I realize how far away from certain sweet stages we are. I swear Ella is going to be taller than me in a few years. I can barely pick her up anymore. I’m getting more and more eye rollings and “seriously, Mom?” than hugs. She’s still really, really happy to see me when I show up at school, but I wonder if those days are numbered. She already gets a little embarrassed about me sometimes. Although, that may have its fun, too. And my younger daughter is at a great age. She’s out of that drawing on everything (well, almost)
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stage. She’s really funny and really loving. Always saying funny stuff — recently she looked up to the sky and asked Santa to bring her chocolate for Christmas. And always, out-of-the blue, telling us she loves us. I wish she would stay 3 forever. I want her to always hug us and always look up at the sky and talk to Santa. But our lives have changed for the better with our kids being at the ages they are at. We haven’t had to worry about diapers for a long time. Or bottles. They go to bed pretty well at night (on the nights they don’t beg to stay up late!). When we go to family get togethers, I actually visit with my family. The cousins all play great together. The kids travel well. I’m so excited to take them all over the country, and eventually the world. And Ella is so fun to talk to these days. She even understands sarcasm and loves to point out when we are teasing her. And of course there are many practical reasons to think about keeping our family at four. Our house would most definitely seem too small for all of us. I’m not against sharing bedrooms, but our bedrooms are very small. And Ella is like me, she needs her alone time. And then there’s the money … eating out, sports,
Musical learning
Babies visibly respond to music shortly after birth Every baby is born as a “sounder and mover,” equipped with the ability to make music, says Kenneth K. Guilmartin, early childhood music expert and founder/director of Music Together. At birth, a baby can cry, squeal, giggle, and coo — a range of sounds that will one day be utilized for singing. Babies are also wired to receive music. Even the youngest babies respond to tempo changes, can discriminate among differences in loudness and melody, and can sense when a song is ending. Some of the visible ways babies respond to music: feet outstretched or kicking; eyes “brighten” or change focus; tongue moves in repetitive motion; eyes move toward the sound source; hands clench or wave wildly in the air; middle of torso moves rhythmically; baby makes cooing sounds; baby smiles or giggles According to Guilmartin, the best thing parents can do to support their baby’s music development is to reinforce these music behaviors. He says, “For example, when you hear your baby cooing, coo back to him in the same pitch; when you see him tapping his highchair, tap a steady beat back to him.” Guilmartin continues, “Research suggests that music learning supports all learning..” More information at MusicTogether.com and on Facebook at Facebook.com/MusicTogether. Q
traveling, clothes, preschool, daycare. There would be some cutbacks, for sure. Not to mention my age. I’m going to be 40. In four years. But still, that’s going to be here in like two minutes. I know there are a lot of good reasons to add to our family, too. I love my three siblings. That’s probably the biggest. And I love seeing the people our girls are becoming and how different they are from each other. But it’s hard to change a good thing when you have it. I know the moms with big housefuls of children say that your heart grows with every child. But I have to say, my heart feels pretty full. Q
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Tykes
FAMILY LIFE
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Being a father is like reading a book. When you read a book, the author asks you to step into the shoes of the hero, whether he be a detective, a warrior or a businessman. The art of fatherhood is being able to step effortlessly into any number of roles. Nick Hayden
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The truth is there are no simple directions to parenthood PHOTO CONTRIBUTED
NICK HAYDEN WAITS with kids Fyo and Ren to give out candy to trick-or-treaters. “To be a father is to live 1001 Arabian Nights, a new story every day,” writes Nick.
BY NICK HAYDEN Hi. My name is Nick. I’m the father of a 4 year-old and a 2 year-old. And, supposedly, I’m an expert. So this is where I break down the chaotic, wonderful, mind-boggling responsibility of ushering two actual human beings into adulthood in 10 Easy Steps. It’s the expected thing to do, when you want to interest your readers, to declare with utter confidence 10 Easy Steps to… (fill in the blank). The problem is that I don’t have 10 Easy Steps. If I did, I’d be a rich man indeed. But I do have a metaphor: Being a father is like reading a book. When you read a book, the author asks you to step into the shoes of the hero, whether he be a detective, a warrior or a businessman. The art of fatherhood is being able
to step effortlessly into any number of roles. Sometimes a father is the wrongly accused inmate, suffering the tortures of sleepless nights and the insatiable, irrational demands of the prison warden. But after about six weeks, the newborn settles down a bit. If you’re lucky. And sometimes a father is the clown with the rubber face and accident-prone walk, falling over himself to hear that precious, fairy-birthing laugh one more time. Though, sometimes, he just ends up making the baby cry. I’ve been the foreman of innumerable construction zones. I began with simple towers, which lasted about five seconds before the great hand toppled them. Then I moved onto train tunnels and horse barns and forts. They last a little longer. Now that my kids are old enough to play
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together, I put on my judge’s robe daily. As one explains breathlessly it wasn’t his fault and the other cries, I have to weigh every word. What I say now will be held against me next time and forever. Or at least until they have kids of their own. Then it’s on with my fedora as we trek into the dark with flashlights or into the morning on our bikes, inspired by such stories as Around the Block in 80 Minutes and Journey to the Center of the Parking Lot. Then we hike back with our pockets laden with treasure—rocks, pine cones, and dandelions. Solemnly I don the vestment of the priest, to bless food and ward away nightmares. I read about Moses and Jesus from their Children’s Bible, explaining unalterable truths in simple words
as best as I can. There are many other roles — I’ve been a nanny for their babies, a waiter for their meals, a slave driver, implacable in my demand to once again see the carpet that hides somewhere beneath all the play food. I’ve been a monster escaping my dungeon and a poor pincushion for their foam swords. I hear I’m to play Counselor and Chauffeur in the future. To be a father is to live 1001 Arabian Nights, a new story every day. It’s not a checklist and it can’t be perfected by flashcards. I’m no expert, but I don’t think we’re to raise actual human beings on a diet of data, on input/output efficiency. What souls need, even (especially) little souls, are dreams and true desires. And, of course, a hero, no matter the genre, who leads the way. Q
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have to run some wiring through the attic or crawl space, but once the circuitry is in place, all it takes is a quick flick of the wrist to light up an entire room. The same goes for your brain. Performing the same task over and over makes you proficient and generally efficient in that one thing. But when you learn a new skill — particularly if it is radically different from what you do every day — a whole other section of your brain lights up and immediately builds new neural pathways. These avenues will grow stronger and faster every time you use them. In fact, cultivating a new skill into a full-blown hobby will feed your brain more than the best duck ever could. So give it a try: Make a resolution to
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With the help Daniel has received his life is now full of possibilities. He is discovering his gifts and talents and learning that autism can’t stop him from being all that God has called him to be.
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others, so I was not concerned. Doctor visits were routine. By his fourth birthday I noticed that he was having trouble communicating with a young cousin and having trouble trying to engage in play. He was showing strong dislikes to foods, especially vegetables. He was hand flapping a lot and walking on his toes. Still, I thought, nothing to run to the doctor about. I enrolled him in preschool and about mid-way through the school year the teacher told me that Daniel was at the bottom of his class. I asked her if I should call our doctor and she advised me to wait
BY TAMMY LAUER We hear the term “autism” or “autism spectrum disorder” used more and more. The definition of autism has grown over the years, coming to include children who would not have been recognized in the past, which has led to increasing numbers of individuals being identified as “on the spectrum.” Autism is considered a spectrum disorder, which means a range of connected conditions. So a person
until the spring kindergarten round up. Then the doctor would have their testing information to look at. I’ll never forget that day when they took him back for the tests. He wasn’t gone 10 minutes and they came back to get me. It was on that day that we heard the word autism for the first time. It was a complete shock. It was recommended that we have Daniel seen at Riley Children’s Hospital. They confirmed the kindergarten pre-screening suspicions, and said that Daniel was mild to moderately autistic See AUTISM page 23
with autism can have mild to severe behaviors associated with autism. Along with that, each person on the spectrum can range from intellectually gifted to severely cognitively disabled. They may process sensory input very well, or may have a severe sensory processing disorder. They may have a strong vocabulary, or be non-verbal. One can fall anywhere within these ranges, in any combination. Each is an individual with his or her own unique strengths, weaknesses and personality.
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The autism spectrum includes impairments in the areas of social interaction and communication and restricted repetitive and stereotyped patterns of behavior, interests and/or activities. Autism is a lifelong condition — it does not go away. However with intervention most can learn the skills needed to navigate the world and reach their full potential. If you suspect your child may have autism there are steps you can take to find help. The
earlier intervention begins, the earlier progress can be achieved. For children who show delays in development, First Steps helps families connect with the resources and therapies needed. If you have concerns about a child age 3 through school age, contact your local school. They will be able to direct you to the proper steps in making a referral for your child to be evaluated
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BY MARICELA MADDEN AND NAN MALLOY How do I evaluate child care? Do I want my child in a home or center? What do I look for in the environment and the caregiver? Is there someone who can help me find what I need? More questions than answers can surround the process of finding quality child care, especially for new parents. They want the best for their children, so choosing child care is one of the most important decisions parents will make in their child’s life. However, it can be a difficult and time consuming process finding child care that meets all a families’ needs and expectations. There are also many options to consider when choosing child care, for both very young children and school agers, but parents don’t always know that. Early Childhood Alliance (ECA) can help with this all-important decision, and we’re as close as a phone call or the computer for families and child care providers in Allen, DeKalb, Elkhart, Kosciusko, LaGrange, Marshall, Noble, St. Joseph, Steuben and Whitley counties. Early Childhood Alliance, one of nine Child Care Resource and Referral agencies across Indiana, provides a free, customized list of child care options, RYAN SCHNURR based on your family needs, such as hours of care, THE BUILDING BLOCKS for quality child care can be location and ages of children. found at ecalliance.org. We also provide tools to help navigate that search process, such as the questions to ask and things to key components of quality are added as part of the observe when interviewing a child care provider. standards being rated. To help parents identify particiECA also offers assistance with enhanced referrals for pating programs, they should look for information on infants and toddlers, and children with special needs. the Early Childhood Alliance provider list as well as And while health and safety issues are a parent’s first window decals and certificates at each Paths to Quality concern, we also recommend questions about other site. important aspects of child care, such as adult to child ECA is a key community resource in the region ratios, safe sleeping arrangements, and a learning that helps parents explore the options and find quality curriculum that promotes school readiness. child care that fits the families’ needs. While we do not Another important tool in ECA’s assistance role is regulate or recommend specific child care programs, information on Paths to Quality and how it can help we do provide the tools parents need as they contact, parents during a child care search. Paths to Quality visit, interview and check references of programs before is a voluntary rating and improvement tool, used enrolling their children in child care. across Indiana, to assist families looking for child care. For information on finding child care programs in Programs that choose to participate in Paths to Quality your area and the tools to use, call ECA (745-2501 or are rated, based on the quality of care they provide. 800-423-1498) or visit ECAlliance.org The system identifies four levels of quality with each Parents may also visit childcareindiana.org. Q level building on the previous one. At each level
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and also had ADHD. We were referred to a teacher who worked with children with autism in a nearby school district. Our Godsend, Tammy Lauer, not only taught our son, but trained my husband and me about this thing called autism. As part of his school services, Daniel was assigned to a speech therapist, which really helped improve his communication skills. When he was 8, we applied for an autism waiver, now known as the “Community Habilitation and Integration Waiver,” through the Bureau of Developmental Disabilities. It took many years on a waiting list, but the waiver services have allowed him to work with a behavioral consultant to help with emotional issues and his social difficulty dealing with people. He also receives recreational therapy through Dusty Dreams in Avilla where he works with horses. He also has day services with Fresh
New Start, a waiver service provider out of Decatur. They will also help with residential living if and when he feels ready to become more independent. He attends LEAP of Noble County where they provide help with math and reading skills. Daniel is involved with DeKalb County Special Olympics, and in 2010 some of his art work was displayed during the IPMG art tour where thousands of Hoosiers were able to view artwork created by Daniel and other disabled adults. (IMPG is the agency that oversees the distribution of waiver services.) With the help Daniel has received his life is now full of possibilities. He is discovering his gifts and talents and learning that autism can’t stop him from being all that God has called him to be. It hasn’t been easy for him, or for us as his parents, but we feel blessed to have the opportunity to share with other families the comfort that we ourselves have received. Daniel’s life is truly becoming an open road! Q
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for educational need. At any age your family doctor or pediatrician may refer you to a genetic specialist or neurologist for medical diagnosis. Support groups and information resources are available. Please exercise caution with any agency that promises a sure “fix” for autism. There are many treatment choices and each has strengths and weaknesses. If the purpose of an agency is to make a profit, you may find yourself in a situation where you are offered hope in exchange for empty promises. Do your research and be choosy about finding methods that have been tried and true over time and not just the latest autism “buzz word.” Every child is wonderful with his or her own one-of-a-kind personality and strengths. Accept the child and build on his or her strengths while enjoying the unique gifts and perspective your child brings to the world. Q
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BY KATE COFFMAN Only 30 percent of students who start college in Indiana will graduate in four years. Even after six years, only half of the students who start college graduate. Yet, two-thirds of new jobs coming to Indiana require some training after high school. The difference in average lifetime earning for those with a college degree and those with only a high school diploma is immense. Following some simple steps can make a big difference in whether or not a student completes a degree program.
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Regular school attendance: Whether students are in middle school, high school or even college — going to class is critical. In class, students hear the concepts being covered, know what to expect on exams, build a relationship with the teacher, have the ability to ask questions and make friends. And if you have a student living on campus, don’t allow a visit home until the school is on break. This is hard for many parents but it will help cement a student’s connection to the campus, and better connected students are more likely to graduate.
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• Kombucha is a tasty fermented beverage made from tea. Most kombucha brewers create flavorful kombuchas by adding fruit juices, ginger and spices. Find a flavor you like and enjoy daily.
Calcium-rich foods: • Make the switch to grass-fed milk and dairy products. Grass-fed dairy is more nutritious and better for the environment. • Homemade bone broth is an excellent source of calcium. Instead of pitching the left over bones from your meal, add them to a crock pot with some water to make bone broth. You can buy bones at the farmer’s market or a local butcher shop.
Bones are an extremely affordable form of nutrients. • A goal should be to eat leafy greens every day (more than once, if possible). Leafy greens from local farmers are available nearly year round. Try new and unique varieties for a change in flavor profiles.
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Sometimes you just need bravery BY LINDSAY WINSLOW-BROWN It has been one of those weeks when many aspects of my life didn’t go as I wanted them to. On top of that, in a weak moment, Pinterest wasn’t a click away, which meant I couldn’t search for comfort food recipes, inspirational quotes or craft projects. After stressing, worrying, fretting and all those other worthless feelings, I decided to take control of the situation “Be brave. Even before it spiraled out of control. Relying on prayer and memory to get me through if you’re not, my moment, I grabbed a pen and quickly pretend to be. No scribbled my friend’s advice on a sticky note: “Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to one can tell the be. No one can tell the difference.” Then, I stuck the yellow square of paper to the edge difference.” of my computer monitor and played the Sarah Bareilles song “Brave” repeatedly. Being a woman takes bravery — nerves, A friend’s advice valor, audacity, fearlessness, boldness. As a soldier needs an army, so a woman needs a battalion of women to face the world. All day, every day we are expected to be something to someone, somewhere — mom, wife, partner, professional, friend, counselor, listener, volunteer, chef, party planner, chauffeur, babysitter, maid, bad guy, good guy, student, teacher, translator, athlete, gym member, performer, barista, garbage collector — the list is endless. Seriously, have you ever thought about how many roles you play in a day? We’ve all had those moments at the intersection of Crazy and Overwhelmed when we need to be brave. Maybe for you it’s when you’ve got an evening meeting for a nonprofit board, but you really want to be reading bedtime stories to your kids. Perhaps you got a flat tire on your way to a job interview — in the rain. Maybe your schedule has been so busy that you forgot to pay a bill. Or you left pumpkin cheesecake muffins in the oven so long they turned to charcoal when your out-of-town guest came for a weekend visit.
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Many parents will issue a common refrain at dinnertime tonight: You’d better eat that — it’s good for you! There’s another old favorite in the parental arsenal of dietary admonitions: Don’t eat that — it’ll rot your teeth! What children eat and when they eat it may affect not only their general health but also their oral health. Americans are consuming foods and drinks high in sugar and starches more often and in larger portions than ever before. It’s clear that junk foods and drinks gradually have replaced nutritious beverages and foods for many people. For example, the average teenage boy in the U.S. consumes 81 gallons of soft drinks each year! A steady diet of sugary foods and drinks can ruin teeth, especially among those who snack throughout the day. Common activities may contribute to the tendency toward tooth decay. These include grazing habitually on foods with minimal nutritional value and frequently sipping on sugary drinks. When sugar is consumed over and over again in large, often hidden amounts, the harmful effect on teeth can be dramatic. Sugar on teeth provides food for bacteria, which produce acid. The acid in turn can eat away the enamel on teeth. Almost all foods have some type of sugar that cannot and should not
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be eliminated from our diets. Many of these foods contain important nutrients and add enjoyment to eating. But there is a risk for tooth decay from a diet high in sugars and starches. Starches can be found in everything from bread to pretzels to salad dressing, so read labels and plan carefully for a balanced, nutritious diet for you and your kids. To reduce your children’s risk of tooth decay: • Sugary foods and drinks should be consumed with meals. Saliva production increases during meals and helps neutralize acid production
and rinse food particles from the mouth. • Limit between-meal snacks. If kids crave a snack, offer them nutritious foods. • If your kids chew gum, make it sugarless. Chewing sugarless gum after eating can increase saliva flow and help wash out food and decay-producing acid. • Instead of soft drinks all day, children should also choose water and low-fat milk. • Help your children develop good brushing and flossing habits • Schedule regular dental visits.
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• Avoid or minimize corn-fed beef, processed soy and soy products and heavily processed meats that use nitrites, nitrates and monosodium glutamate. Focus on wild caught fish, shellfish, pasture-raised poultry, grass-fed beef and dairy, nuts, beans, fermented soy and eggs from pasture raised hens. • Find a local farmer that sells half and whole animals. It is a cheaper way to get these healthier forms of meat into your diet. Green BEAN Delivery is a local service that can help you meet healthy eating goals. Q
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with the visual arts and the museum as the building blocks for lifelong visual literacy. “We became convinced that by focusing the space to serve young children, ‘the early child,’ we could make a more meaningful impact on our region’s children,” said Max Meyer, FWMoA director of children’s education. The ELC creates a structured yet opened-ended experience through five diverse areas for each child to explore and a specific space for them to interact and become comfortable in the museum. Visitors often exclaim that the bright colored bean
bag chairs, viewable from the atrium, entice them to enter the new space, but the interactive stations keep them there. The new Early Learning Center features play-centered activity areas, each focusing on developmental skills that are part of the process of becoming visually literate. “This new space allows children and caregivers to focus on a single element — Build, Draw or Read, for example — at each activity area, giving them an opportunity to really immerse themselves in that element,” said Meyer.
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“Draw” encourages fine motor skills and self-identity. “Learn” educates visitors on art and the processes to create it through digital media. “Build” inspires gross motor skills and creativity. “Read” increases visual literacy by providing comfortable seating and a variety of books. “Explore” invites guests to view the rest of the museum by offering materials for scavenger hunts. IPads will soon be an additional educational component. Monthly programming for early learners (My Mini Museum) is each second Tuesday at 10:30 a.m. Visit fwmoa.org/prek-12 to learn more about this programming. The ELC is designed to serve walk-in visitors, museum members and also entire classes from preschools, daycare centers and homeschool groups. The programming serves diverse groups of students. This begins with a visit to the classroom by an education staff member who talks about visual literacy and activities. Following this visit, the class takes a field trip to the ELC to experience the interactive stations. Parents and educators should call 422-6467 to learn more about the ELC and its programming opportunities. Q
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TUESDAY, JANUARY 7 Knitters Group 5:30 pm. Fremont Public Library, 1004 W. Toledo St., Fremont. Bi-monthly knitting group, newcomers welcome.
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MONDAY, JANUARY 13 Story Time 10:15 am. Fremont Public Library, 1004 W. Toledo St., Fremont. Come to FPL’s story time led by Ms. Judi and Ms. Angela! Watch your child enjoy stories, crafts, and learn socialization in this free weekly program for ages 2-5.
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Babies & Books 11:00 am. Kendallville Public Library, 221 S Park Ave, Kendallville. Designed for infants ages eight weeks to 18 months, Babies and Books is a perfect time to meet with other moms and babies for stories, music and wiggles! Each family that attends will receive a book and materials to enhance learning at home. This program is brought to you by the Early Childhood Alliance and the Kendallville Public Library. Preschool, Birth-Age 5. 343-2010
WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 15 Short Hikes for Short Legs: The Wonders of Winter 1:00 pm. Eagle Marsh Barn, 6801 Engle Rd, Fort Wayne. Meet at the Eagle Marsh barn. (For children ages 3 to 5 and a responsible adult). Start with an interactive seed activity in the barn, then take a short hike as we look for seeds and the animals that spend winter on the marsh. 478-2515
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Preschool Storytime: Art 10:00 am. Kendallville Public Library, 221 S Park Ave, Kendallville. Preschoolers will learn all about Art through the activities at Storytime this month. Birth-Age 5. 343-2010
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Teen Scene 3:00 pm. Garrett Public Library, 107 W. Houston St., Garrett. Hang out after school with other teens (6th-12th grade). Laptops are available, Wii and PS3 are also here and ready for use. Snacks and drinks are welcome in teen hangout.
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After School Group 3:00 pm. Garrett Public Library, 107 W. Houston St., Garrett. Kindergarten through 5th Grade. Miss Kiley and Miss Becky have lots of great craft ideas for the fall! Enjoy just sitting back relaxing and talking with friends while making some great projects.
Lego Club 3:30 pm. Kendallville Public Library, 221 S Park Ave, Kendallville. Create and play with Legos during this after school club for grades K-5! 343-2010.
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FRIDAY, JANUARY 17 Teen Card Club 3:00 pm. Fremont Public Library, 1004 W. Toledo St., Fremont. Learn how to play or bring your knowledge for the card game ‘Magic, the Gathering.’ Created for teens, directed by teens, come join us as we get started on this fun, new program! Meets informally downstairs in the Community Room.
Little River Ramblers Class 9:00 am. Eagle Marsh Barn, 6801 Engle Rd, Fort Wayne. Meet at the Eagle Marsh barn from March through December and at the Boy Scout office parking lot January through February. Hike to explore and record the flora and fauna of Eagle Marsh. Make sure to dress for the weather. 478-2515
SATURDAY, JANUARY 25 Family Fun Day: The Elcar 500 10:30 am. Elkhart County Historical Museum, 304 W. Vistula St., Bristol. We’re turning the museum into a race course! Kids will race cars they have created from cardboard boxes while parents and siblings will be their ‘pit crew.’ There are 3 categories of races: 6-7year olds, 8-9 year olds, and 10-11 year olds. Participants must build your ‘race car’ prior to the event. Directions and rules will be given when you register. Preregister by January 21 by calling 574-848-4322.
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 1 Hike in the Winter Woods 10:00 am. February 1. Eagle Marsh Barn, 6801 Engle Rd, Fort Wayne. Meet at the Eagle Marsh barn, 6801 Engle Road, Fort Wayne. Join us to enjoy the seasonal beauty of the preserve’s mature woods, discover who’s out and about, and
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practice winter tree identification skills. Dress for the weather. Sponsored by Little River Wetlands Project. Free. Contact info@lrwp.org or 478-2515 for information.
TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 4 Little River Ramblers 9:00 am. Boy Scout Office, 8315 W. Jefferson Blvd., Fort Wayne. Meet at the Boy Scout Office parking lot to hike and explore the preserve’s interesting plants and wildlife. Sponsored by Little River Wetlands Project. Free. Contact info@lrwp. org or 478-2515 for information.
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 15 Family Fun Hikes 10:00 am. Eagle Marsh Barn, 6801 Engle Rd, Fort Wayne. Meet at the Eagle Marsh barn to learn how to help winter wildlife at home; then we’ll hike looking for winter animals and how they survive on the marsh. Dress for the weather. Sponsored by Little River Wetlands Project. Free. Contact info@lrwp.org or 260-478-2515 for information. 478-2515
WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 19 Short Hikes for Short Legs 1:00 pm. Eagle Marsh Barn, 6801 Engle Rd, Fort Wayne. Meet at the Eagle Marsh barn (For children ages 3 to 5 and a responsible adult.) We’ll start with an activity in the barn discovering how wildlife cope with winter, then enjoy a short hike looking for our animals and finding how they’re surviving. Dress for the weather. Sponsored by Little River Wetlands Project. Free. Contact info@lrwp.org or 478-2515 for information.
THURSDAY, MARCH 6 Legends of the Night Sky: Orion and Perseus/Andromeda 6:30 pm. PHM Digital Video Theater, 55860 Bittersweet Road, Mishawaka. Another 2 for 1 show! Stories are told with laser animation! Legends of the Night sky: Orion animated adventure. Accompanied by narrators Aesop the owl and Socrates the mouse, we follow Orion’s adventures as he grows to manhood, battles mythical beasts, foils the plot of an evil king and wins the heart of Artemis, the beautiful moon-goddess. By the end of the story, we learn how the constellation Orion was placed in the sky, forever turning overhead throughout the seasons. Legends of the Night Sky: Perseus/Andromeda a wonderful story filled with humorous and exciting characters, engages their desire to learn about astronomy. 574-258-9569. Bittersweet Elementary School. All area codes are 260 unless indicated otherwise.
BRAVERY From Page 27
Maybe you took the fall for something that wasn’t your fault or your boss is overly demanding. Or you are expecting a houseful and your dog barfs by the front door seconds before their arrival. Maybe your only toilet decides to overflow and never flush, again — on Thanksgiving. It could be more serious — perhaps you see someone who is hungry, marginalized, ostracized, ignored, alone, scared, hurt or sad. All of these moments require bravery. So, what does brave mean? Today, as an adjective, brave means exhibiting courage and endurance, making a fine appearance and admirable. As a noun, it means warrior. How do you actually be (or pretend to be) brave? Put on your big girl panties and deal with it. While counselors and life coaches are great, let’s start small. Just start doing. Actions lead to behaviors. A new shade of lipstick may solve all your
problems. First, change your body language. Stand tall with your shoulders back and hold your head high. Second, tell yourself that you are a fabulous, compassionate, intelligent, capable, honest, loving person. Wear heels. Swap out your lipstick. For $5 or $6 you can swap your go-to raspberry for tangerine. Then, call or text your girlfriend, your sister, your mom. Be honest. Be raw. Be real. Ask for encouragement. Then, put the phone down and suck it up, sister. Own the moment. You can be falling apart on the inside, but don’t go all Humpty Dumpty on the outside, that is, until you get home. Then, have a nice glass of wine or cup of hot tea with a friend and unwind. Take your time. Repeat often. Q Lindsay Winslow Brown of Auburn is a wife and mom who loves to write about her friends, family and experiences. Contact her at lindsaywinslow@hotmail.com and/or read more at justthiscrazy.com.
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Support Groups ADAMS COUNTY AUTISM SUPPORT GROUP is an ASI supported group that meets at Park Center in Decatur on third Wednesday of each month at 6:30 p.m. Contact David Goetz at david@inautism.org. ENCOURAGE, EMPOWER AND ENJOY the Autism Spectrum meets third Monday of the month, 7-8:30 p.m. (March October) at Easter Seals Arc, 4919 Projects Drive, Fort Wayne 46825. E-mailed newsletter has up to date information on autism, events and support groups. Contact Susan Crowell at 637-4409 or email eeeautismspectrum@yahoo.com or Sue Christman at 456-4534, ext. 271, or email schristm@esarc.org. Online: eastersealsarcnein.org.
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LIGONIER PARENT SUPPORT GROUP meets second Tuesday
of each month at 6 p.m. at The Cross Walk of Ligonier United Methodist Church, 466 Townline Road, Ligonier. Meetings are open to all parents regardless of diagnosis. Supper and childcare provided. Contact Rebecca Frey at 215-1422.
MAKING AUTISM LESS SCARY (MALS) PLACE is an online and live support group based in New Haven. Contact Julie Dennis, support group facilitator, at 388-2818 or malsplace2007.webs.com.
THE M.A.M.A. B.E.A.R.S. supported
by the ASI is a closed Facebook group. Request to be added by contacting Kelly Pence at 800-609-8449 or kelly@inautism. org. She can be available through phone or email to provide free one-on-one support to any caregiver to those with autism.
GROUP FOR HIGH SCHOOL AND ADULTS WHO HAVE ASPERGER’S
invites parents, family members, professionals to meetings every second Monday of the month 6-7:30 p.m. at Lutheran Hospital, West Jefferson Blvd. (Special Function Room 4 in cafeteria) Contact: Kara Skaggs at 418-8484, Kara@ontargetbehaviors.com or John Graham 341-6921 or cole_man2001@ yahoo.com or Sue Christman 456-4534, ext 271 or schristm@ esarc.org.
WHITLEY COUNTY AUTISM SUPPORT GROUP is an ASI supported
group that meets at the YMCA in Columbia City on first Thursday of the month beginning at 6:30 p.m. Childcare available. Contact David Goetz at david@inautism.org. More details about these resources and additional listings at fwfamily.com.
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