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UNLOCKING GREATNESS THROUGHOUT THE YEAR

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Charlie Harary Talks about New Beginnings, the Keys to Success, and the Power of One Percent

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This week, TJH spoke with Charlie Harary, a noted speaker and author who lives with his family in the Five Towns. When you read through the interview, you’ll see that there’s so much information there – and this is after it was cut it down to fit into the paper! One concept that Charlie emphasizes in the article and in his book, Unlocking Greatness, is the principle of accomplishing your goal in small increments. Rome, as they say, wasn’t built in a day. And neither will you be able to lose 15 pounds or become a calmer person in 24 hours. The only way to achieve what you want to achieve is to slowly, bit by bit, do a little bit more than you did yesterday and build on your small successes. Then, after a few months or at the end of year, you can look back and appreciate your measurable triumphs. We have the time now. We just have to channel our inner “Bob” and take baby steps to get to a more accomplished future.

t’s been a great break for many of us with children in school. Midwinter vacation is important – for kids to recharge and gather energy to reach the next hurdle in the school year and for families to bond and create memories during the time spent together. But now it’s back to school and back to routine. With a double Adar this year, we’re looking at a good chunk of time doing the “same old, same old.” But it doesn’t have to be this way. We all have things in our lives that we’d like to change, journeys that we’d like to embark on. One person’s journey could be conquering his challenge of an enflamed temper; another person’s wish is to become more patient and empathetic. He wants to daven three times a day with a minyan; she wants to daven at least brachos each morning. One person wants to lose weight; another person wants a cleaner home; and yet another wants to grow his business and become more successful in that area. The next few weeks – a long stretch until Purim – give us a wonderful opportunity to embark on those journeys and conquer those challenges.

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

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COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll

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Community Happenings

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NEWS

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Global

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National

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Odd-but-True Stories

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ISRAEL Israel News

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World Builders

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PARSHA Rabbi Wein

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G-d Is in the Details by Rav Moshe Weinberger

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Parsha in Four by Eytan Kobre

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Why Does Inspiration Always Fade? by Shmuel Reichman

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Applied Integrity by Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe

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PEOPLE Unlocking Greatness Throughout the Year by Tammy Mark

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Moshe Arens: Working for the People and the State of Israel by Avi Heiligman

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HEALTH & FITNESS How Compassion Saves You a Lot of Pain by Dr. Deb Hirschhorn

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Now You Know Your ABCs by Aliza Beer, MS RD

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What Your Posture Says about You by Dr. Hylton I. Lightman

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FOOD & LEISURE TJH Speaks with Naomi Nachman

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The Aussie Gourmet: Soup-er Bowls

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LIFESTYLES

Dear Editor, Enough is enough! Five Towns villages, including Cedarhurst, Lawrence, Hewlett Neck, Hewlett Harbor, Hewlett Bay Park and Woodsburgh, are getting slammed by the Governor’s 2019-2020 New York State Budget Proposal, being victimized with over $100,000 combined cut in state aid to our local government. What’s more, the Governor is cutting $9,779 in state aid to the neighboring Village of Atlantic Beach. The hole that the Governor has blown in the village’s budget came without warning, and it has been included in his state spending plan after these Five Towns villages, as well as Hempstead Town and the other 22 incorporated villages within the township, already adopted its local budget. This cut is unfair and callous, placing important programs and services at risk. It is time for the Governor to reverse these ill-conceived cuts, and our local state representatives must amend Mr. Cuomo’s budget if he is unwilling to make things right for residents of these Five Towns villages. The following figures are the state aid amounts that each village stands to lose under the Governor’s proposal are: Cedarhurst: $52, 676 Lawrence: $33,484 Hewlett Harbor: $5,366 Hewlett Bay Park: $2,688 Hewlett Neck: $2,518 Woodsburgh: $3,812

In addition to the fact that Five Towns villages stand to take a combined hit of over $100,000 in state aid, our township is also getting whacked! In specific, with the stroke of the Governor’s pen, Hempstead faces a $3.8 million hole in its budget. Hempstead Town’s Operational Budget for 2019 totals $432.5 million, including levied taxes of $263.2 million. The reduction of $3.8 million is equivalent to a 1.44 percent property tax increase. The Hempstead Town Council Members adopted a bipartisan budget for 2019 that cut taxes by 3.5 percent. Testament to the sound and sensible budgeting policies of the Council Members was evidenced in a Wall Street credit rating upgrade being conferred upon Hempstead two days after the Town Budget was adopted (November 1, 2018). Mr. Cuomo’s cuts to state aid will have a negative impact on village and town budgets, requiring the slashed state revenue to be addressed by village and town officials in order to maintain fiscal balance and integrity. Clearly the Governor has little regard for Long Island’s hard-working taxpayers, and this state aid cut is a “slap in the face” to suburbia. It has not taken him long since his re-election this past November to launch an assault on the finances of local governments. I have been contacting state legislators, appealing to them to stand Continued on page 10

Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW 88 Your Money

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An Ode to Exercise by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS 126

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If Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez were a Conservative by Marc A. Thiessen

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Nancy Pelosi is Lying about the State of the Union by Marc A. Thiessen

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up for Long Island’s taxpayers. What’s more, I‘ve joined with my colleagues on the Hempstead Town Board to make our voices heard on this matter. We are hopeful that the state legislators will reverse the Governor’s cuts if he does not do so on his own. Residents are struggling to make ends meet, and these types of cuts,

coupled with unfunded state mandates, are making suburban homeowners the victims of the Governor’s New York City-centric agenda. Neighbors in these Five Towns villages and across Long Island need to act now, contacting their state representatives to demand that the Governor’s cuts in state aid to the villages of Cedarhurst, Lawrence, Hewlett Harbor, Hewlett Neck, Hewlett Bay Park, Woodsburgh, Atlantic

Beach, the town and other local governments across Long Island are restored. After all, Long Islanders sent more and more of their tax dollars to Albany, and all we get are cuts to our state aid and increases in unfunded state mandated costs to localities. Stop the cuts now! Sincerely, Donald X. Clavin Receiver of Taxes Town of Hempstead

Dear Editor, It’s possible that Robert Kraft and Sheldon Adelson are some of the biggest influencers in the kiruv community. Think about it: these two individuals bring thousands of Jewish teens to tour the Holy Land. Many of them are completely not connected to their Jewish roots. And yet, when they come to Israel, they feel a tug for their country and their Yiddishkeit. Some of them become frum; others come home irreligious but insist on marrying another Jew. And still others maintain a warm place in their heart for Judaism and the Israel, a flame that can ignite at any time. I applaud Robert Kraft and Sheldon Adelson for the amount of money and effort they pour into these endeavors. It is not for naught. Sincerely, Yorav Greenberg Dear Editor, I always liked Robert Kraft, as I am a Patriots fan. Your article on Mr. Kraft and his wife, Myra, made me admire him even more. Keep up the good work! Uri Klein West Hempstead, NY Dear Editor, I liked how you highlighted the community of Netzer in this week’s issue. Their struggles are real, and their challenges are very great. Hearing about them and how they have endured is inspiring. I think it would be a good idea for a column in your paper to highlight a different community in Israel every week. It would give people a bit of flavor into what living in Israel is about. Just a thought… Avigayil Lerter Dear Editor, I agree wholeheartedly with “A Busy Mom” who wrote in this week about the crazy-long winter breaks the schools give students. The problem is once you give kids ten days’ vacation, you can’t curtail that amount of vacation next year. The only way to cut it down is to do it gradually – taking away a day or two every few years until midwinter break is a manageable 4-5 days. Good luck – I’m rooting for you! Another Busy Mom

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At least 65 people were killed and hundreds more were injured after a dam collapsed in Brazil on Friday. The collapse unleashed a tidal wave of water that slammed into the nearby region of Brumadinho, toppling houses and burying hundreds of people in mud. Authorities say that they have identified many of the dead. As of Monday, at least 279 people were still missing as Brazilian firefighters and Israeli rescue workers frantically attempted to penetrate the thick mud. Rescue forces saved more than 350 people. “Unfortunately, at this point, the chances of finding survivors are minimal. We’re likely to just be rescuing bodies,” said Romeu Zema, who heads the state of Minas Gerais, where the dam was located. Almost all of the missing are employees of the mining conglomerate Vale, which also owns the dam. The cause of the collapse is still unknown. “The top priority of the company right now is to support the rescue efforts and to help preserve and protect the lives of direct employees, third-party employees and local communities,” said Vale in a statement on Sunday. Vale CEO Fabio Schvartsman apologized to the Brazilian people in a television interview for his company’s role in the disaster but refused to admit that the corporation was at fault for the tragedy. “Apologies to society, apologies to you, apologies to the whole world for what has hap-

pened,” he said. “I don’t know who is responsible, but you can be sure we’ll do our part.” Despite the tepid apology, anger from local residents and employees at Vale refused to subside, as the dam is the company’s second to collapse in the last four years alone. A previous dam collapse in 2015 killed 19 people and resulted in Brazil’s worst ecological disaster in the nation’s history. “We’re all fed up with Vale…and this is really adding to the tension,” 44-year-old Renato Maia told Reuters. “It was a huge tragedy, and now we don’t know what might come next.”

Former Ukrainian Prez Convicted of Treason

A Ukrainian court convicted former President Viktor Yanukovich last week for what it said was the crucial role he played in inviting Russia to invade Crimea in 2014. He was sentenced to 14 years in jail. The Kiev court ruled that Yanukovich had broken the law when he asked Russia to send forces to assist him in putting down violent protests during the 2014 Ukrainian revolution. “Yanukovych signed and submitted to Russian President Vladimir Putin a request to use Russian armed forces on the territory of Ukraine, thus assisting Russia in conducting undermining activities against Ukraine,” wrote Judge Vladyslav Devyatko in his ruling. “With his deliberate illegal actions, Yanukovich committed a crime against the foundations of the national sovereignty of Ukraine, namely state treason.... With his deliberate actions, Yanukovich committed a crime against peace, namely aiding in the conduct of an aggressive war,” the judge concluded. Despite the verdict, Yanukov-

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ich will not enter prison, as he lives safely in Moscow and remains out of reach from Ukrainian law enforcement. He said through his attorneys that he is innocent and promised to appeal the ruling. Tens of thousands of protestors had flooded Kiev after Yanukovich scrapped a deal in 2013 that would have brought his country closer to the European Union. While the protests were initially peaceful, they mushroomed into an armed rebellion which ended up toppling the government in February 2014. In order to roll back the protests, Yanunovich asked Russia’s President Vladimir Putin to send in special forces. The Russian troops that invaded Ukraine also annexed Crimea, sparking an ongoing conflict between Russia and Ukraine.

U.S. Backs New Venezuelan Leader Venezuelan President Nicolas Maduro suspended his order this week of expelling United States dip-

lomats, defusing a growing standoff with the Trump administration. Venezuela’s Foreign Ministry said in a statement that it was giving the U.S. a 30-day window to negotiate with the Maduro regime. Maduro said later during an interview with CNN that U.S. officials “will remain and comfortably continue their lives with the protection we will provide for them.”

Maduro had earlier ordered all U.S. diplomats out of Venezuela following the United States’ decision to recognize his challenger as Venezuela’s rightful leader. U.S. National Security Advisor John Bolton responded by implying that the U.S. is ready to use military force to defend its interests and warned of a “significant response” should any harm befall U.S. officials. “Any violence and intimidation

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against U.S. diplomatic personnel, Venezuela’s democratic leader, Juan Guaido, or the National Assembly itself would represent a grave assault on the rule of law and will be met with a significant response,” tweeted Bolton. Maduro’s retreat comes following days of belligerent rhetoric towards the United States as the Trump administration demands that he step aside in favor of National Assembly leader Juan Guaido. The United States recognized Guaido as Venezuela’s rightful leader last week amid massive protests all around the country. Guaido alleges that Maduro’s reelection last year to an another six-year term was a sham and has demanded that he step down. The protests came amid widespread food shortages and poverty in the country that observers say verges on a humanitarian catastrophe. Marudo has refused to vacate his position and accuses the United States of being behind what he calls a “coup.” “Nobody gives us an ultimatum,” Maduro said on Sunday. “All of Europe is bowing down to Donald Trump. It’s that simple, especially when it comes to Venezuela.” The despot added, “I think he’s

overwhelmed with his domestic problem and, I believe, I think he despises us. He despises all of America and the Caribbean. I think he despises the world.” Meanwhile, Secretary of State Mike Pompeo has been leaning on nations around the world to recognize Guaido as Venezuela’s legitimate leader. “It is time for every other nation to pick a side. No more delays, no more games. Either you stand with the forces of freedom, or you’re in league with Maduro and his mayhem,” Pompeo told the UN Security Council.

Taliban-U.S. Talks Advance

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have reached an agreement for an 18-month U.S. drawdown from the war-torn country. The talks, which are taking place in Qatar, aim to end almost two decades of armed conflict between the United States and a coalition consisting of al-Qaeda and the Taliban. The U.S. had first invaded Afghanistan following the devastating 9/11 terror attacks but has since been bogged down in the country in what has become the U.S.’s longest-ever war. After six days of marathon talks, the two sides agreed that the U.S. will leave the country within 18 months in exchange for the Taliban promising to prevent Afghanistan from becoming a safe haven for al-Qaeda. The draft agreement also promises that the Taliban will be part of any future government. Other parts of the deal include U.S. provisions for safe travel for some senior Taliban leaders and the release of prisoners captured by U.S. military forces. The Taliban acknowledged that talks had advanced but said that there are still major issues to work out. The Islamist group has refused to negotiate directly with the Afghani government, which it considers illegitimate. Following the talks in Qatar, U.S. special envoy Zalmay Khalilzad flew to Kabul in an effort to win over Afghani President Ashraf Ghani, whose government remains a sworn enemy of the Taliban. “We have a number of issues left to work out. Nothing is agreed until everything is agreed, and ‘everything’ must include an intra-Afghan dialogue and comprehensive ceasefire,” tweeted Khalilzad.

The Taliban has consolidated its power since the majority of foreign troops left the country in 2014 and now control large swaths of territory. According to the BBC, half of Afghanistan’s 30 million citizens now live under Taliban rule. President Ghani admitted last week that the Taliban has succeeded in killing 45,000 of his country’s security forces in the last half decade.

Sad Ending for Young Boy in Spain

People in Spain and around the world were devastated this week after 2-year-old Julen Roselló was found lifeless at the bottom of a well, capping off a 13-day rescue effort for the young boy. Julen’s body was found by two miners and a Civil Guard officer. “At 1:25 a.m., Julen was found dead, unfortunately,” announced Alfonso Rodríguez, a government official. “The position of the boy determines that it was a fast free-fall to 233 feet, which is where he was found.” Spain had been spellbound ever since Julen fell down the 233-foot illegally-dug well in Malaga during

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a family picnic. The tiny 10-inch hole was too small for rescue forces to fit into and the thick soil prevented any equipment from descending to where Julen was thought to be trapped. Miners raced against the clock to dig a second vertical tunnel parallel to the one containing Julen, braving the difficult terrain and challenging weather. The ongoing saga captivated Spaniards, who remained riveted to the story’s twists and turns for the 13 days it took for miners to find his body. Rodriguez said that the boy likely died from the freefall and had multiple bruises on his body. “The whole design of the operation, which was carried out on an urgent basis, and all of the work that was carried out, was based on one theory: that Julen was in the borehole,” Rodríguez said, “that he was at the depth where he was eventually found. We worked with urgency, but also delicacy. Because the aim was to reach him without causing him any harm.” The tragedy is not the first to hit Julen’s parents, who had watched their son Oliver pass away at the age of three from a heart attack in 2017. Condolences poured in, including

message of support from Spain’s King Felipe VI and Prime Minister Pedro Sanchez. “All of Spain shares in the infinite sadness of Julen’s family,” Sanchez tweeted. “We have followed each step taken to reach him. We will always be grateful for the tireless effort of those who worked to find him during these days. My support and warmth to his parents and loved ones.”

ing Huawei’s ties to other corporations. Canada has refused to release the executive despite repeated requests by China for her release.

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Last week, McCallum suggested during a newspaper interview that the extradition request by the United States was harming Canada. His comments came after he was earlier reprimanded for listing various legal arguments Meng could make for her release from custody to Chinese journalists in Beijing. Trudeau subsequently fired McCallum for being out of line. “Last night I asked for and accepted John McCallum’s resignation as Canada’s Ambassador to China,” Trudeau said. McCallum will be replaced by current Deputy Head of Mission in Beijing John Nickel on an interim basis.

Canada’s Prime Minister Justin Trudeau fired his country’s Ambassador to China, John McCallum, following remarks he made seemingly defending a Chinese executive Canada is holding in custody. Canada has been holding Meng Wanzhou, the CFO of tech giant Huawei, since December 1 at the request of the United States. The U.S. wants to try Meng for skirting U.S. sanctions on Iran by misrepresent-

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“We had bought the same quantity of similar tubes,” said Salehi. “When they told us to pour cement into the tubes…we said: ‘Fine. We will pour.’ But we did not tell them that we had other tubes. Otherwise, they would have told us to pour cement into those tubes as well. Now we have the same tubes.” Despite boasting over how his country managed to fool the Western powers, Salehi maintains that Iran has not restarted the reactor and does not intend to manufacture nuclear weapons. “First, we do not intend to build a nuclear weapon,” Salehi declared. “Second, this [reactor’s] plutonium is not suitable for nuclear weapons.”

5,500 Overstayed Their World Cup Visas

In July, Russia hosted the FIFA World Cup, an international football tournament held once every four years. It was the first World Cup to be held in Eastern Europe, and 650,000 people received permit cards to enter the country to view the festivities. But there are many people who have overstayed their welcome. On Friday, Russia’s head of the migration department of the Interior Ministry, Andrei Kayushin, announced that the remaining 5,500 people who are still in the country illegally will be deported by the end of March. “In the main, they were all law-abiding and left the country in their own time,” he said. “We are undertaking operations to deport them, and I hope that they will all be deported by March 30.” 12,000 people were still in Russia by the end of 2018. Since then, Russia has reduced that number to 5,500. While some came for the soccer and stayed for the culture, there were a few cases of people using the “Fan ID” permit system to enter Russia as a means to crossing the border illegal-

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ly into European Unions countries. There were fewer cases of some reportedly filing for asylum in Russia. The 2018 World Cup was held in Moscow from June 14 to July 15. France went on to beat Croatia 4-2 in the final.

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Worshippers in Jerusalem’s Kiryat Yovel neighborhood were horrified to find their shul defiled on Tuesday morning. Overnight, anonymous vandals broke into the house of prayer, ripped up prayer books, ransacked the Judaica library, and dumped vinegar all over the Torah scrolls, damaging them irreparably. Shul officials notified local police, who have opened a probe into the shocking vandalism. Condemnations quickly rained down from all across the political spectrum. “This morning we were notified regarding a shocking case of synagogue desecration and the destruction of Torah scrolls in Kiryat Yovel,” said Jerusalem Mayor Moshe Lion. “This terrible incident reminds us of the dark times for the Jewish people. We cannot allow such crimes to happen today,” he asserted. “The Jewish heart is horrified at the sight of the Torah scrolls, which were violated in the terrible desecration of the synagogue,” said Sephardic Chief Rabbi Yitzchak Yosef. “The authorities must turn every stone, reach the criminals and impose the full severity of the law on those responsible for such a tragedy.” The vandalism is thought to be the work of anti-religious activists

According to the Jerusalem Post, a small team of Israeli scientists are on the verge of conquering cancer. The team, led by Accelerated Evolution Biotechnologies CEO Ilan Morad, thinks it might have found the first complete cure for the dreaded disease – a treatment akin to a cancer antibiotic. The treatment, called MuTaTo (multi-target toxin), uses a combination of cancer-targeting peptides and a toxin that specifically kills cancer cells. Because the cells would be killed, patients could likely stop treatment after a number of weeks and not need a drug cocktail throughout their lives, according to the report. Dan Aridor, the chairman of the company’s board, is confident in the team’s progress. “We believe we will offer in a year’s time a complete cure for cancer,” Aridor told the paper. He continued: “Our cancer cure will be effective from Day One, will last a duration of a few weeks, and will have no or minimal side effects at a much lower cost than most other treatments on the market.” Morad told the Post that his team has concluded its first exploratory experiment on mice with promising results. The experiment showed inhibited human cancer cell growth

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and had no effect on healthy mice cells, according to the paper. The company will soon begin clinical trials that could be completed within “a few years” and would make the treatment available in specific cases. Morad said researchers “made sure that the treatment will not be affected by mutations; cancer cells can mutate in such a way that targeted receptors are dropped by the cancer.”

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Outrage Over Mosque in the Jewish Quarter Israelis living in Jerusalem’s Old City are outraged after discovering that a new mosque is slated to be opened in the Jewish Quarter. The mosque had fallen into dis-

Locals say that they are also concerned that the refurbishment of the old mosque may be the start of a new trend in which many other old and non-functional mosques in the Jewish Quarter will be bought and restored, leading to an Arab takeover of the area. “I’ve lived here in the neighborhood for 31 years. We don’t have any problem with the mosque itself; it’s been here forever. The building itself borders on the entrance to the Jewish Quarter on one side and an Armenian apartment building on the other,” community leader Shoshana Selevan told Yediot Aharonot. “If they start operating the mosque now, it would just be a provocation,” Selevan continued. “There are no Arabs living around here. It would be like if tomorrow we were to open up a synagogue in the middle of the Muslim Quarter.” Selevan added that none of the area residents had been consulted prior to the mosque’s opening and that it is unclear who is funding it. “Yesterday they hooked up the lighting system. No one notified us ahead of time about the renovations,” she said. In addition, Selevan said that locals are afraid of suffering from the noise pollution caused by the Islamic call to prayer. Jews living near predominantly-Arab neighborhoods have long been rankled by the earsplitting Muslim call to prayer, which wakes them up at the early hours of the morning. “We’ve been living here quietly with the people, not looking for trouble, but the green light which they hooked up this week lights up our homes and if they start holding the calls to prayer there that would cause a major disruption of our daily lives,” said Selevan. Currently, residents of the Jewish Quarter have been petitioning

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City Hall to prevent the mosque from opening but legal officials say that there is not much that can be done. However, the Jerusalem municipality said that it had demolished an illegal addition the mosque had constructed without a permit and vowed that the city would preserve the “status quo.” “Following a complaint which was received several days ago regarding the construction of a room on the roof, the complaint was dealt with and the room dismantled,” said the municipality. “The City of Jerusalem will continue to maintain the status quo in the city and prevent any violation of it.”

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ment goods.” Should the bill pass, it would be the first time that a European nation outlawed attempts to purchase goods from territory Israel captured in 1967’s Six Day War. The European Union has labeled the aforementioned goods but has not taken steps to ban them altogether. The legislation needs to pass with another three steps before it can take effect. Israeli officials reacted harshly following the vote in Ireland’s parliament and said that it would harm Israeli-Irish relations irreparably should it become law. “Israel is outraged over the legislation against it in the Dail which is indicative of hypocrisy and anti-Semitism,” said a statement by the Prime Minister’s Office on Thursday after the bill passed its first hurdle. The Foreign Ministry called the legislation “a clear expression of obsessive discrimination that should be rejected with disgust.”

Florida Blacklists Airbnb Israel’s Foreign Ministry summoned Ireland’s ambassador last week after the Irish parliament advanced a bill criminalizing purchasing goods from Judea and Samaria. The Israeli Foreign Ministry said in a statement that it had summoned Ambassador Alison Kelly to stress its unwavering opposition to the legislation. “It is disturbing and disappointing that the initiators of the law are focusing on a hypocritical attack on Israel, rather than on dictatorships that slaughter their citizens,” said the Foreign Ministry. “This is a clear expression of obsessive discrimination that should be rejected with disgust.” The summons came after Ireland’s lower house of parliament approved the bill by a 78-45 margin. The bill bans any and all commerce with entities located over Israel’s pre-1967 border, including the Golan Heights and Jerusalem. Sponsored by the Fianna Fáil-The Republican Party, the bill’s wording criminalizes “the import and sales of goods, services and natural resources originating in illegal settlements in occupied territories.” It also bans any attempt to “assist another person to import or attempt to import settle-

Receive a COMPLIMENTARY hearing evaluation with your visit. The State of Israel has found a friend in the state of Florida. According to the Jerusalem Post, the Sunshine State has sanctioned the vacation website Airbnb for its decision to boycott West Bank settlements and has placed it on its list of scrutinized companies. “Israel has had to face scrutiny like no other country,” Florida governor Ron DeSantis said. “Airbnb made a conscious decision to discriminate against the Jewish people and as Governor I have an obligation to oppose policies that unfairly target the world’s only Jewish State, and our greatest ally in the Middle East,” he said. “Our action today solidifies the State of Florida’s resolve to stand with Israel, and if Airbnb does not denounce their previous policy of discrimination, we may be compelled to explore additional action,” the governor asserted. John Kuczwanski, a spokesper-

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son for the state board of administrations, said there was a 90-day review period. During that time, Airbnb will have to explain to the state of Florida that its policy “does not discriminate against the State of Israel or Jewish people.” According to Florida law, any company that engages in Boycott, Sanctions and Divestment actions can be placed on that list. Florida is prohibiting investing in publicly traded companies on that list,

Kuczwanski said, and will not contract them for services. State employees are prohibited from using Airbnb. Companies that engage in BDS can still engage in commercial activities in the state. Airbnb has insisted that it does not support BDS and that its decision to delist West Bank settlements is part of a broader policy that applies to conflict zones. It has also applied that policy to disputed territories in Georgia, South Ossetia and Abkha-

zia. But the West Bank decision differs in that it only applies selectively to only Jewish residents of the West Bank and not to Palestinian ones. In response to its placement on the scrutinized companies list, Airbnb sent the Jerusalem Post a copy of its letter to the state of Florida in which it says that it has invested $20 million in Israel and that it obviously has not boycotted the entire Jewish State. It also noted that its vice president Chris Lehane visited a West

Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu gave the go-ahead last Thursday to transfer $15 million of Qatari money to the Hamas terror group in Gaza. Netanyahu’s decision to allow the transfer came after the defense establishment told him that the funds are needed to prevent war from breaking out. As part of a long-term ceasefire agreement with Hamas, Israel allows Qatar to transfer monthly payouts of $15 million to Gaza in order to pay the salaries of civil servants in the Strip. According to the heads of the Mossad and Shin Bet security services and IDF intelligence, failure to transfer the money would worsen the humanitarian conditions in the Hamas-led territory and would likely lead the population to call for another round of fighting with Israel. Netanyahu had frozen the scheduled cash infusion earlier in the week after an IDF officer narrowly avoided death on the Gaza border when his helmet deflected a sniper’s bullet. Netanyahu said that the shooting violated understandings reached with Israel and had halted the money transfer until further notice. Despite Netanyahu allowing the funds to go through, on Friday

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Hamas officials in Gaza refused to accept the money. “We will not turn Gaza into an area for managing elections in Israel,” a senior Hamas official blustered. Later reports said that the terror group is angry that Israel is preventing them from using the cash infusion to pay members of its armed military wing. Following marathon negotiations between Israel and Qatar, Hamas later allowed Gazans to accept the money directly from Qatar for humanitarian reasons. Qatar said, however, that it would stop the monthly payouts and give the money to UN officials in Gaza instead to distribute as they see fit. “We will not pay the salaries of the Hamas employees,” Qatar’s ambassador to the Gaza Strip, Mohammed al-Emadi, stated. “Both sides are relieved now, totally relieved, and it is much better this way.”

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ket in which 90% of refund – some 23 billion euro – entitled to non-EU tourists is not returned to its owners every year.” Refundit says that its app helps the tourist, the retailer, and the local economy by cutting down on unnecessary red tape involved. “Refundit’s digitized solution also allows tax authorities to provide refund approvals online and enables them to integrate innovative elements such as Big Data, advanced analytics, AI capabilities and fraud prevention into the VAT refund,” said the company in a statement. Other than Refundit, three other Israeli startups made the competition’s top 10. The contest saw 2,771 companies from 132 nations contending for the top prize.

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Refundit, an Israeli startup that enables tourists to pay for their purchases without getting bogged down in tax-related paperwork, recently won first prize in an international tourism competition. The competition was sponsored by the United Nations World Tourism Organization (UNWTO) in conjunction with Globalia Corporación Empresarial SA, a Madrid-based tourism company. Launched in 2017 by Ziv Tirosh and Waze co-founder Uri Levine, Refundit’s software allows tourists hailing from countries outside of the European Union to quickly apply for a Value Added Tax (VAT) refund through their smartphones without waiting at the long lines common at airports. “We are excited by the recognition we received from the World Tourism Organization to the contribution of Refundit to global tourism economy and tourists,” Tirosh said after winning the top prize. “Refundit’s solution is aimed to fix an inefficient mar-

This week, a senior commander in Iran’s most elite military force threatened to “wipe Israel off the map” if it continues striking his country’s forces in Syria. Brig. Gen. Hossein Salami, who is the deputy of the Iran’s Revolutionary Guard Corps, said at a press conference that the Islamic Republic would continue battling Israel until the Jewish State ceased to exist. “Our strategy is to erase Israel from the global political map. And it seems that, considering the evil that Israel is doing, it is bringing itself closer to that,” Salami threatened. Salami added that Israel’s attacks in Syria would eventually lead to an armed conflict that would result in its destruction. “We announce that if Israel does anything to start a new war, it will obviously be the war that will end with its elimination, and the occupied territories will be returned,” he warned. “The Israelis will not have even a cemetery in Palestine to bury their own corpses.” The general’s comments came amid an escalating war of words between Iran and Israel in recent weeks as tensions have heated up on

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sive bombing campaign in Syria that officials said flattened Iranian arms depots, training centers, and a Syrian anti-aircraft battery. Iran responded to Israel’s airstrikes with warnings that it will soon jettison its policy of refraining from retaliation. Speaking with Press TV, Iran’s military Chief of Staff General Mohammed Bagheri said earlier this week that “among the country’s broad strategies, there is a defensive strategy. We defend

the independence and territorial integrity and national interests of the country.” The commander of Iran’s ground forces warned a few hours later that he had ordered his men to move to a “forward-moving and offense” formation. “To protect Iran, the armed forces no longer need asymmetric approaches, and we are at a stage where we can defend our homeland… by using good offensive approaches,” said Brig. Gen. Kiumars Heidari.

Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton said on Friday that his state has uncovered at least 95,000 people on its voter rolls who are not U.S. citizens, raising fresh concerns of voter fraud. Paxton also said that 58,000 of the 95,000 non-citizens had already voted in at least one election, despite the state’s stringent voter ID laws that many say are the toughest in the nation. The findings came following an inquiry the Texas Department of Public Safety launched in an effort to determine if the state is plagued by voter fraud. Texas Governor Greg Abbot said following Paxton’s announcement that law enforcement would begin cracking down on residents who voted illegally in the state’s elections. “Thanks to Attorney General Paxton and the Secretary of State for uncovering and investigating this illegal vote registration,” tweeted Abbot. “I support prosecution where appropriate. The State will work on legislation to safeguard against these illegal practices.” Texas Secretary of State David Whitley responded to the report by calling on counties throughout the state to force people suspected of illegally voting to provide proof of citizenship within 30 days. Should they fail to do so, Whitley said, then the county is allowed to legally strip them from the voter rolls. “Integrity and efficiency of elections in Texas require accuracy of our state’s voter rolls, and my office is committed to using all available tools under the law to maintain an accurate list of registered voters,” Whitley said. The revelations are likely to re-

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new the debate over voter fraud in the United States. President Trump has long alleged that illegal immigrants vote in elections and appointed a commission in 2017 to probe illegal voting in the 2016 presidential elections. The panel was eventually disbanded due to lawsuits and bureaucratic infighting.

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statement. The Holocaust Education Trust told CNN that the book exposed the “chilling Nazi ambition” to exterminate North American Jewry. “This story highlights Hitler’s obsessive anti-Semitism and the chilling Nazi ambition to murder Jewish people wherever they were in the world,” said an official. “It reminds us of the need to remain resolute in standing up to anti-Semitism, defending historical truth and educating the next generation.”

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Canada’s national archives announced last week that it had purchased a book that once belonged to Nazi Fuhrer Adolf Hitler, ym”sh, that detailed the genocide he planned for North America. Library and Archives Canada said that it bought the book in 2017 for $4,500 and is storing it in the national library in Ottawa. It added that it decided to unveil the acquisition to the public ahead of International Holocaust Memorial Day. Titled “Statistics, Media and Organizations of Jewry in the United States and Canada,” the 137-page report was written by Heinz Kloss, a linguist and Nazi sympathizer. Kloss was tasked with compiling a report about the United States ahead of Germany’s expected invasion of North America and researched major Jewish population centers at the time, along with a description of Jewish organizations and publications. The book was stamped with the words “ex libris Adolf Hitler,” suggesting that it came from the Nazi leader’s personal library. Experts believe that the report was stored at Hitler’s mountain cottage in Bavaria, along with 16,000 of his other books. The book was likely taken by a U.S. serviceman as a war prize and was later sold to a collector. “This work hints at the story of what might have happened in Canada had the Allies lost World War II. It also demonstrates that the Holocaust was not a purely European event, but rather an operation that was stopped before it reached North America,” Library Archives Canada said in a

Former Starbucks CEO Howard Schultz is reportedly ready to leap into the 2020 presidential election, the latest to jump into what appears to be an increasingly crowded race. Schultz acknowledged during an interview with “60 Minutes” that he is considering trying his luck at toppling President Trump. The former executive alleged that Trump “is not qualified to be president” and cast blame on “both parties” for what he said is their failure to address the needs of ordinary Americans. “I am seriously thinking of running for president,” Schultz said. “I will run as a centrist independent, outside of the two-party system.” Schultz’s plan to run as an Independent should he enter the race is raising the hackles of Democrats who say that his entrance into the race could split the anti-Trump vote and enable the current president to return to the White House in 2020. Schultz said he thought an independent was needed because “both parties are consistently not doing what’s necessary on behalf of the American people and are engaged, every single day, in revenge politics.” “We’re living at a most fragile time,” he stated. “Not only the fact that this president is not qualified to be the president, but the fact that

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race for President has to be about relegating Donald Trump to the dustbin of history and reclaiming the Oval Office for our people and our future.” President Trump dismissed the idea early Monday morning. “Howard Schultz doesn’t have the ‘guts’ to run for president!” tweeted the president. “Watched him on @60Minutes last night and I agree with him that he is not the ‘smartest person.’ Besides,

America already has that! I only hope that Starbucks is still paying me their rent in Trump Tower!” Schultz, 65, was born in Brooklyn and led the Starbucks coffee giant from 1986-2000 and again from 2008-2017. Since leaving Starbucks last year, he has traveled the United States on a speaking tour and wrote a book highlighting the inclusionary policies he adopted while at Star-

The New York Times reports that Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg plans to merge the Messenger application of Facebook with messaging platforms WhatsApp and Instagram. The change would unite the software underlying Facebook’s three most popular apps. Under the change, WhatsApp users will be able to communicate with those using Messenger or Instagram. The final product is expected to be rolled out at the end of 2019 or early 2020. The three platforms would still stand alone but the changes would link a slew of its technological skeleton, such as encryption. Facebook confirmed the changes, which it said is designed to enhance user experience. “We want to build the best messaging experiences we can, and people want messaging to be fast, simple, reliable and private,” said Facebook in a statement. “We’re working on making more of our messaging products end-toend encrypted and considering ways to make it easier to reach friends and family across networks,” the company added. “As you would expect, there is a lot of discussion and debate as we begin the long process of figuring out all the details of how this will work.” Analysts say that the changes are probably designed to boost user engagement and increase the average time spent on the apps, a metric key to advertisers that account for Facebook’s primary revenue stream.

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By combining its WhatsApp, Instagram, and Messenger users onto one platform, Facebook would have more users than any other social network, enabling it to compete with Google’s Gmail. Zuckerberg’s decision to unite the platforms comes as Facebook reels from its worst year to-date, as the tech giant has been battered in the media by a series of privacy scandals. The founders of both Instagram and Facebook also departed the company amid deep professional disputes with Zuckerberg regarding the direction of the apps.

Senate Advances Anti-BDS Bill Fresh off the U.S. government shutdown, the United States Senate approved a landmark bill fighting the anti-Israel boycott movement. Known as the Strengthening America’s Security in the Middle East Act, the Senate approved the bill by a margin of 74-19. The legislation was part of a package of other bills combating the Boycott, Divestment, and Sanctions movement

(BDS) and provided legal protection for states that had already passed similar laws.

In the Israel Anti-Boycott Act, the Senate made it illegal under federal law to boycott Israel. The Combating BDS Act, meanwhile, afforded legal protections for the 26 states that have already outlawed anti-Israel boycotts. In addition, the bill enshrined into law the Memorandum of Understanding that grants Israel $38 billion over ten years that was signed by the Obama administration, making it harder for a future president to prevent aid from supporting Israel. To become law, the Strengthening America’s Security in the Middle East Act must now be approved

by Congress, a difficult path due to the Democrats’ control over the lower chamber. Numerous Democrats have come out against the bill, arguing that penalizing consumer behavior towards a foreign nation violates freedom of speech. Crucially, nearly all of the Democratic Party senators considering running to replace President Trump in 2020 voted against the bill, including Elizabeth Warren, New York Senator Kristen Gillibrand, and Vermont Senator Bernie Sanders. “While I do not support the BDS movement, we must defend every American’s constitutional right to peacefully engage in political activity,” Sanders, who is Jewish, tweeted earlier this week. “It is clear to me that S.1 would violate Americans’ First Amendment rights.” Israel and her supporters now know where they stand in the Democrat Party.

the record 35-day government shutdown on Saturday when he agreed to pass a spending bill to fund governmental operations despite not getting the $5 billion he wanted to build his border wall with Mexico. Congressional leaders agreed to pass a bill that would fund the government for three weeks in exchange for negotiations on border security. Trump said, however, that he is prepared to shutter the government again if nothing concrete is reached by February 15 and broached the idea of declaring a national state of emergency to provide funding for the wall.

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Analysis by the nonpartisan Congressional Budget Office found that the recent partial U.S. government shutdown caused $11 billion in economic damage. The damage came from lost output from federal workers, reduced consumption, and delayed government spending. The shutdown cost the country’s GDP 0.002% but it is predicted that the economy will repair itself as the government returns to work. The report also said that the economy had shed $3 billion in lost economic activity during the record 35day shutdown. “Among those who experienced the largest and most direct negative effects are federal workers who faced delayed compensation and private-sector entities that lost business,” the report found. “Some of those private-sector entities will never recoup that lost income.” President Donald Trump ended

When many think of a cruise, their first connotation is likely breathing the salty ocean air on the ship’s deck as it sails on the blue water. But that’s not the only thing passengers may be breathing. A new report found that cruise ships cause such high levels of air pollution that passengers may be breathing air “comparable to concentrations measured in polluted cities, including Beijing and Santiago.” The report was compiled by Ryan Kennedy, a professor at Johns Hopkins University Bloomberg School of Public Health. Kennedy measured air pollution on four ships belonging to the cruise company Carnival over a two-year period and was shocked to discover that the ships emanate high levels of metals and polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons. It was the aforementioned hydrocarbons that makes the air pollution so lethal. Polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons have been shown to cause cancer and a whole host of other lethal diseases. “It’s dangerous – it’s not a healthy thing for us to be exposed to,” said Kennedy. Kennedy said that he consistently found the highest measurements

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of air pollution by the smokestacks in the back of the ship and stressed that the ships were unsafe both on the high seas and when docking in port. Environmentalists called on cruise ships to switch to alternative fuel sources in the wake of the report, noting that the most heavily polluted areas on the ship are where passengers commonly spend the majority of their waking hours. “What Dr. Kennedy found onboard was shocking,” said Kendra Ulrich, who works as a senior shipping campaigner at the environmental advocacy group Stand.earth. She said her organization is working towards safer cruises by “campaigning to get Carnival Corp. to stop using heavy fuel oil.” “What this industry giant does can have a huge effect in setting standards for the rest of the industry,” said Ulrich. Carnival, meanwhile, said that it works in conjunction with “national and international regulatory bodies like the [U.S. Environmental Protection Agency] to ensure the utmost safety of our guests and crew” and that its air conditions on its vessels “meet every requirement.”

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Want to avoid getting salmonella? Stay far away from your pet hedgehog. Recently, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Pollution warned the public not to get too close to hedgehogs. The warning comes on the heels of another word of caution from the center: make sure to wash your hands after playing with your pet chickens. Hedgehogs may be cute – if prickly – but lab tests in an ongoing investigation show that pet hedgehogs are probably to blame for a multistate salmonella outbreak. Eleven people are infected with salmonella in eight states, according to the CDC. The illnesses started in October. Ten of the eleven infected

patients said they had contact with a pet hedgehog before becoming sick. Symptoms of salmonella infection include fever, diarrhea and stomach cramps, which can last four to seven days. Most people recover without treatment. Among patients who experience severe illness, the infection can, in rare cases, cause death if not treated promptly with antibiotics. There are an estimated 1.2 million salmonella cases in the United States annually, and various foods are to blame for about 1 million of those illnesses, according to the CDC. Even hedgehogs that look clean and healthy can carry salmonella germs, which show up in their droppings. You may keep their habitat clean, but the bacteria can easily spread to toys, bedding and nearly anywhere they roam. Hedgehogs are supposed to be allowed to roam so they don’t get depressed, but the CDC recommends against letting these pets wander freely in areas where you prepare or eat food. Pet owners are told to wash hedgehogs’ toys and supplies – but not in an area where food is prepared – and to wash their hands thoroughly after snuggling with their prickly pets.

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PG&E in CA Files for Bankruptcy

Buckling under the strain of paying out billions of dollars in claims tied to deadly wildfires in the state, Pacific Gas and Electric of California filed for bankruptcy this week. California’s largest power company said in a statement on Tuesday that it had submitted a Chapter 11 bankruptcy filing in the Northern District of California. The company said that it was committed to maintaining services for customers during the bankruptcy process. “We have heard the calls for change and we are determined to take action throughout this process to build the energy system our customers want and deserve,” John Simon, the company’s interim CEO,

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said in a statement. PG&E has been linked to a series of wildfires in California, including the Camp Fire, which caused 86 deaths and destroyed 14,000 homes, along with more than 500 businesses and 4,300 other buildings. PG&E announced on January 14 that it intended to file for bankruptcy, but it had to wait a 15-day period required by California law. The company needs to use the bankruptcy process – which will allow it to shed some of its debt – to pay for damages and stay in business. It is seeking approval for a $5.5 billion debtor-in-possession financing agreement. Previously, it said in a filing that it has only about $1.5 billion in cash and cash equivalents on hand. The company has cited at least $7 billion in claims from the Camp Fire. It is believed that the Camp Fire was started when a PG&E power line came in contact with nearby trees. PG&E reported “an outage” on a transmission line in the area where the blaze began, about 15 minutes before it started. Within the massive burn area, PG&E found power equipment and a fallen power pole riddled with bullet holes, according to a letter it sent to regulators. The company also reported that it found a downed line with tree branches on it. In addition, a series of wildfires in 2017 – many of which were also blamed on PG&E – caused $10 billion in damages and 44 deaths. In 11 of those fires, state investigators found the company violated codes regarding brush clearance near its power lines or had made related violations.

Meat Cake

When pastry chef Duff Goldman

got married, he couldn’t just serve an ordinary cake. The star of his own cake-centered show served his guests a cake best served at a shul kiddush. The confection (can we call it that?) was entirely made of meat. “The bottom tier is meatballs,” Goldman, 44, explained. “The second tier is meatloaf, third tier is lamb shawarma, the top tier is scrapple. Then it’s iced in mashed potatoes, with bacon roses and then we have a chocolate fountain that we put gravy in.” Sounds like a heart attack waiting to happen. Goldman topped the fleishigs-phenom with a mini bride and groom made out of hot dogs and deli. Sounds good to me, but where’s dessert?

tomize everything in our lives and we have everything the way that we want it, so why not approach sickness that way as well?” he said. Most customers who purchase the used tissues are “young parents and people in their 20s” who are skeptical of vaccines and seeking “alternatives,” according to Niessen. Try this for an “alternative”: wash your hands often with soap and water, cover your mouth when you sneeze, and make sure you’re up-todate on your shots. If you do that, you’ll be able to say that this winter just flu, I mean, flew.

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Wait! Don’t throw out your used tissue. That may be worth real money – for those willing to pay for it. Recently, a company called Vaev announced on its website that it will be selling used tissues to consumers for $79.99 to help people decide when they want to get sick. “We believe that when flu season comes around, you should be able to get sick on your terms,” the Los Angeles-based company states online. “We believe using a tissue that carries a human sneeze is safer than needles or pills.” Sounds like something that should be in our Purim issue? The used tissues have been sold out, so there are many people out there vying for your phlegm. The company states the tissue is “specially treated with organic ingredients, is non-prescription, and works hand-in-hand with the human body to keep your immune system feeling like your immune system.” According to Oliver Niessen, the founder of Vaev, he created the product to allow people to “choose” when to get sick. “That kind of freedom, that kind of luxury to choose – I mean, we cus-

entry to a maximum of 350 words. The most compelling stories will be posted on social media to be voted on by viewers to determine finalists. From there, 500 finalists will be chosen, and their entries will be reviewed by a panel of judges who will determine the winner. The total of all the entry fees must reach a minimum of the listing amount of $1,700,000. The contest will last for three months, unless the entry fees are very close to the minimum amount at the end of those three months (in which case the contest will be extended to a maximum of six months). In other words, at least 68,000 people need to enter in order for you to win the house. Better get your friends and family to start writing in.

Pricey Play

Here’s a way to get some major bang for your buck. A woman in Canada is offering to give her million-dollar home to someone who wins a contest with an entrance fee of just $25. Alla Wagner is hosting the “Write a Letter, Win a House” contest. She had previously put her home on the market, but didn’t get any serious bites. Now, she’s going to give her home to the person who can best describe why they should win her gorgeous abode. “It is, in my opinion, a most incredible way to find a truly exceptional reason to bestow your treasured home (not just for $$$ but for sentimental reasons) upon someone that can skillfully and creatively convey to me and a panel of judges how this spectacular home would change or improve his/her and their family’s life,” Wagner wrote on the Facebook page for the contest. The entry page for the contest is a mere 25 Canadian dollars (which is less than $19 in the U.S.). “This way it will not be difficult for very creative and truly deserving people to come up with the fee,” Wagner writes. She’s only leaving her home due to personal health issues. Looking to move into the $1.7 million mansion at the base of the Canadian Rockies? Limit your one-page

Want to shell out thousands of dollars for something you could have bought at Amazing Savings for less than $10? Consider splurging on Louis Vuitton’s latest offering. No, it’s not luggage or a belt or a giant bag. The storied French fashion house is now entering the gaming arena with its newest release: a set of Jenga. The FW Jenga set features 54 Louis Vuitton monogrammed plexiglass cubes in different colors. The price for initials lasered onto Lucite? A cool $2,400. You know what? I feel like I’m being played.

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n honor of Tu B’Shvat, the Beit Midrash at HANC’s Samuel and Elizabeth Bass Golding’s Elementary School in West Hempstead was transformed into Machane Yehuda by Morah Leah Friedler and her sixth grade students. The room was divided into booths and each booth displayed a different food that could be found in the shuk in Yerushalayim. Due to the generous sponsorship of the HANC PTA, the sixth grade girls “sold” fresh fruit, dried fruit, candy, ice cream, popcorn, bourekas, rugelach, pickles, olives and Prigat fruit drinks. Each child in the school received a “shukbitescard,” which displayed the different food items that were available for “purchase.”

As Israeli music filled the room, each class visited the shuk and students were encouraged to speak in Hebrew as they made their purchases. It was a multi-sensory program that brought a genuine Israeli experience closer to home. Many thanks to the PTA, Morah Friedler, and the enthusiastic sixth grade girls for providing the entire school with a meaningful and delicious Tu B’Shvat experience. Additional thanks to Rabbi Michael Merrill, HANC’s assistant principal of Judaic Studies, and Morah Dafna Berman, HANC’s Hebrew language coordinator, for all of their help in making this event such a delicious success.

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Gurwin Residents Participate in Holocaust Awareness Campaign

Sally Birnbaum survived four concentration camps

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even decades have passed since the end of the Holocaust, yet for the survivors, the horrors they witnessed remain vividly clear. On the 74th anniversary of the liberation of Auschwitz-Birkenau death camp in Poland, Holocaust survivors now living at Gurwin Jewish~ Fay J. Lindner Residences assisted living community participated in the third annual “WeRemember” campaign to ensure the world never forgets the atrocities committed against humanity. Organized by the World Jewish Congress (WJC), the #WeRemember social media movement was created three years ago to combat anti-Semitism and all forms of hatred, genocide and xenophobia. The initiative is considered to be the largest global event ever organized to commemorate the Holocaust. Survivors, family and friends, celebrities and world leaders representing a wide range of faiths were among the thousands of people from around

Holocaust survivors at Gurwin Jewish ~ Fay J. Lindner Residences participate in World Jewish Congress’ 2019 #WeRemember social media awareness campaign

the world who posted photos of themselves displaying “#WeRemember” signs on Facebook and Twitter. Photos were shared by WJC and then livestreamed on a jumbotron at the gates of Auschwitz, where more than one million people were murdered by the Nazis. Eight Holocaust survivors from Gurwin’s assisted living community as well as members of Gurwin’s administrative staff participated in this year’s social media movement. Among them were survivors of Ber-

gen-Belsen, Auschwitz and other concentration camps, “Hidden Children” and Kindertransport refugees, each with a unique, horrific story to tell. Recognizing the campaign’s powerful impact and its global reach through social media outlets, the survivors were eager to participate, holding signs and giving testimony to their own personal experience during the Holocaust, because, according Kindertransport child Ruth Meador, “the whole world needs to know… and care.”

Tina Kamin fled the Nazis in Poland and lived in the woods for a year

Annual Charles Sidlow Memorial Lecture Program

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n Motzei Shabbat, January 5, Fleetwood Synagogue offered its 15th Annual Charles Sidlow Memorial Lecture Program. The program was titled “Judaism, America and Our Era of Civic Breakdown” and featured two wonderful speakers, Rabbi Shay Shachter and Rabbi Ari Lamm. Rabbi Shachter serves as rabbi and Rosh Beit Midrash at the Young Israel of Woodmere, while Rabbi Lamm is the special advisor to the president of Yeshiva University. The Scholar-in-Residence Program is sponsored by Robert Sidlow, Richard Sidlow, and their families, and is dedicated to the memory of their father, Charles Sidlow, a”h. The memories of their father’s intellectu-

al curiosity, his passion for learning, and his love of Judaism have inspired them to establish this program as a fitting tribute to his life. Past events have featured a wide variety of presenters, including Rabbi Jeremy Wieder, Rabbi Natan Slifkin, Rabbi Dr. Ephraim Kanarfogel, Dr. Mordechai Kedar, and Senator Joseph Lieberman. After the two shiriuim, guests were invited downstairs for a dairy dinner and a chance to learn more about this growing community. Fleetwood Synagogue is a closeknit Orthodox shul located in Mount Vernon, in lower Westchester County between Riverdale and New Rochelle. The shul and community has a distinctly “own of town” feel to

it (i.e. warm, participatory, a place where everyone is important) yet is truly “in town.” From the Fleetwood station (only two blocks away from shul) one can ride the Metro North to Grand Central Terminal in only twenty-five minutes; in addition, Fleetwood sits at the intersection of four major highways, providing easy access to Manhattan, Queens, Long Island, Bergen, and Rockland Counties. Given its close proximity to schools in Bronx, Westchester and Connecticut, no compromises need to be made regarding educational choices for children. The small community meets the diverse needs of all its congregants and offers daily minyanim, an eiruv that is forever expanding, and reasonable costs of

living. Given these highlights, it is no wonder Fleetwood has a growing membership base and is attracting the attention of Orthodox families looking to move to suburban Westchester but remain close to it all. For further information on Fleetwood Synagogue and its neighborhood, please contact Rabbi Rosenfelt at rabbirosenfelt@fleetwoodsynagogue.org.

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CIJE Tank

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t wasn’t business as usual at Malion Holding on Sunday morning, January 13. It was jammed packed with people vying to see what the young engineers had concocted. Feeling more like a movie set than a typical business office, students showed off their Arduino-microprocessor based innovation in front of a team of “Sharks.” CIJE Tank brought six high school semi-finalist capstone project teams to the stage to make business presentations to a panel of four investors (“sharks”), who then chose one group of budding entrepreneurs to receive a preliminary patent for their innovation, which was generously sponsored by Nathan Renov at Pearl Cohen. The crowd was abuzz from the CIJE students’ ingenuity. One team presented a teddy bear designed for the anxious child. Happy Hugs, the bear, is a fuzzy creature equipped with a heating element, a heartbeat component and a sound recording mechanism designed by an all-girls team from Schechter Westchester. Schechter Westchester students also created Keywi, a low-cost attendance tracking system for schools which utilizes RFID technology and a pet-centric social media platform Wagz. The system allows dog owners to connect by scanning dog collars. Cranium Cradle, a helmet with GPS capabilities that alarms authorities when the cyclist is in danger, was crafted by students

from Bais Yaakov of Baltimore. Bruriah High School students targeted an ailment that is prevalent among bedridden patients. It uses pressure sensors to alert nurses of an impending bedsore. Yeshiva Derech Eres developed a SMART mask that opens and closes air filtration based on pathogens in the air. Working in collaborative teams with an eye to shaping the future, student entrepreneurs presented their product pitches to the CIJE Tank which featured the following array of high profile “sharks”: Ezriel Rapaport, the CEO of Malion Holding, hosted the event. Ezriel is an expe-

rienced investor with over 15 years in the business world. He and his partners opened their innovation center to us for CIJE Tank, and they shared their origin story. Drawing on years of experience, Mr. Rapapport helped the students refine capstone projects. Ezriel is a handson investor helping over a dozen start-ups with both seed money and the support and tools needed for their success. He is especially interested in ventures focusing on product design or ecommerce. Eli Finkelman, co-founder and CTO of Teltech, leads the Teltech team in its efforts to find new and innovative

ways for people to maintain their mobile privacy, leverage the power of telecom, and use cloud-based services in their daily communications. Allison Josephs is founder and director of Jew in the City, an organization that is dedicated to recasting the Jewish image in the media by reversing negative associations about religious Jews by highlighting an approach based on kindness, tolerance, sincerity, and critical thinking. Allison has appeared on numerous television and radio networks including CBS, TLC, The Hallmark Channel, HuffPost Live, Associate Press TV, and NPR. Dov Friedman is managing partner at Imminent Capital, a VC fund whose mission is to fund the world’s most innovative products. Over the last decade, Dov has taken dozens of startups from ideation to the shelves of the biggest retailers in the world. His ability to spot the next big product and recognize the public’s shifting tastes has given him a unique and bankable edge in the world of venture capital. With excellent professionalism, clarity, and much passion, students presented great backstories and included setbacks and failures in their original product design process pitches. Our “sharks” asked the student entrepreneurs challenging questions about market sales, competitor companies, feasibility of production, and much more. Students discussed the most specific details of their projects and received

suggestions from our panel as if they were already peers. The student entrepreneurs rose to the challenge of the moment and left the panel of “sharks” with a difficult decision of who should win the patent on their product. Yeshiva Derech Eres product made the biggest impact on the judges with their Smart Mask and received the patent. Student team project videos can be viewed at www.thecije.org. While the sharks were deliberating, Mitch Berkowitz, the owner of Malion Holdings, walked the audience through this industrial park and shared his inspirational story which started in his humble garage. The tour took participants through the warehouse and focused in the makerspace where product designers detailed the design process and showcased the iterative stages of various products they took to market. Participants walked through the docking area, returns, repair shop and heard about some of the challenges Malion Holding faces on a daily basis and the solutions they employ. The Center for Initiatives in Jewish Education (CIJE) is a non-profit organization providing STEM resources to over 250 schools that expose students to multiple STEM problem-solving perspectives and hands-on technical skills that scientists and engineers use to solve real-world problems. CIJE convenes several student events like the CIJEtank each year in locations throughout the U.S.

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JEP/Nageela Winter Retreat

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his past week, JEP/Nageela hosted its annual Winter Retreat for boys at Camp Nageela in the Catskill Mountains. Over 25 boys participated in the overnight retreat from Sunday to Monday. While the temperatures were cold outside, the boys enjoyed the indoor heated pool and game room where they played many competitive games like bubble soccer and gaga. Some

boys had birthdays and got to share in the celebrations with everyone. Armed with hand warmers and hot chocolates, the group made the trip to Hunter Mountain to take advantage of the exhilarating ski slopes and breathtaking views. Despite the sub-zero temperatures, all the staff and participants had a wonderful, fun-filled time and are now looking forward to spending more time

together on future Shabbatons and events. For more than 30 years, JEP/ Nageela has hosted year-round programs for Jewish children of different backgrounds to enjoy learning and having fun in a wholesome Jewish environment. Camp Nageela provides four-week sessions in the summer – one for girls and one for boys –where children get to connect

to their heritage, foster close friendships, and are encouraged to grow by the positive role models of camp staff members. For more information about JEP/ Nageela or to sign up for the Winter Retreat for girls on President’s weekend, February 17-18, visit campnageela.org.

SKA Reunions in Israel

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raduates of the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls now attending Israel seminaries happily greeted each other and Mrs. Elisheva Kaminetsky, principal, Judaic Studies, and Israel advisor Mrs. Paghit Ralbag at the annual reunion held on Tuesday, January 8 in the Old City of Jerusalem. During the evening, delighted alumna had the opportunity to “see” their former teachers at a facetiming session, eliciting much excitement

from the students. An added bonus to the evening was a panel of four SKA alumna who have made aliyah and are now living in different cities in Israel. It was very uplifting to hear from Shana Margules Wurtzburger, ’01; Nava Lauer Feigenbaum, ’03; Elana Schreier Glatt, ’11; and Talia Williams Eisen, ’02; who shared their experiences beyond high school and SKA and reflected on their current lives. A second reunion, this one for

SKA alumna share their aliyah experiences

SKA graduates who have stayed in Israel after Shanot Aleph and Bet attending university and other institutions, was held on Wednesday, January 9 at the Leonardo Plaza Hotel. The SKA attendees were privileged to hear from noted Israeli radio personality Mrs. Sivan Rahav Meir who spoke to them before giving her shiur across the street at Heichal Shlomo. Mrs. Rahav Meir delivered words of chizuk to the girls and gave a special yashar koach to SKA grad-

uate Chani Aryeh ‘17 who just made aliyah! In addition to the reunions, Mrs. Kamenetsky and Mrs. Ralbag visited every seminary their students attended, and each SKA graduate had her own personal meeting to discuss her progress and explore her aspirations for the second half of the year. The SKA reunions are some of the most anticipated visits of the year!

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Rabbi Ovitz, the third grade Rebbe at Yeshiva Veretzky in Brooklyn, brought his class to Siach Yitzchok for a visit with the Menahel, Harav Dovid Sitnick, shlita

Social Thinking Comes to IVDU LI

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rs. Aliza Goldstein’s class at IVDU Long Island has begun a new social skills curriculum. Each Tuesday, the class learns a lesson from “We! Thinkers,” a Social Thinking® curriculum developed by Michelle Garcia Winner. The program is designed to help students develop the skills they need to be flexible social thinkers and social problem solvers. The students are excited when “social groups” time comes around, and they enjoy listening to the storybooks as well as participating in the hands-on activities that are embedded throughout the lessons. Students are contributing to the lessons and making observations and predictions about the stories based on the social concepts they are

learning. Some of the concepts that the class has covered include identifying and understanding thoughts and feelings, following a group plan and using our eyes to gather social information. Throughout the day, the social vocabulary is used and reinforced in the classroom. The students have shown a strong ability to understand and apply the social concepts and vocabulary and are showing great progress. IVDU is a division of YACHAD and provides a warm and stimulating K-5 special education option in the Five Towns. For more information please call Mrs. Miriam Reifer, school administrator, at 718-7582999 extension 3, or email reiferm@ ou.org.

few short months ago, our community tragically lost a beloved member, Dr. Hindi Krinsky. Mother to five beautiful children – Ezra, Hudi, Eliana, Dorit and Abie – wife and educator at a local high school, Hindi was a true inspiration to all. Dovid Kanarfogel, Hindi’s husband, along with a few friends, continuously think of ways to continue his wife’s legacy. Together, they have created a few free-standing school libraries to fill with books for HAFTR students to take at their leisure. After pondering how to fill the libraries, they chose to reach out to the school community and ask for children’s book donations. The response they received was over-

whelming. Within one week, the school libraries were filled, and more than 1,500 additional books were donated. Kanarfogel and friends have since partnered with more than a dozen organizations throughout the state where they have been constantly donating all books collected. As part of this project, a special sticker describing the endeavor is placed on all books donated. The people behind Hindi Krinsky’s Libraries will continue to share Hindi’s love of reading with children as long as people have books to give. If you know of anyone who has children’s books to donate, or are involved in an organization in need of books, please contact drkrinskyfreelibrary@gmail.com.

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Winter at CAHAL K Class at HANC

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he kindergarten students in the CAHAL class at HANC have been learning about winter weather, which means snow and ice. Unfortunately (from a fiveyear-old’s perspective at least), we have not had any yet. However, that has not deterred them from the learning and experiments that go on in theclassroom. The children know that both rain and temperature below 32 degrees must come together to form snow, so until that happens they have made snow pictures from white paint and sponge brushes, papercut snowflakes, and eaten a snow cake that they baked. Liquids turn into solid ice from the freezing cold so they made liquid lemonade into solid lemon ice pops that dripped back into luscious liquid when they licked them with their tongues. They also

made all shapes of blue ice cubes and had fun popping them in and out of the molds like puzzle pieces. The children were so excited to welcome 12 of the sixth grade girls to partner with them in completing a page in their science journals. Teaming up to look through magazines, they cut out pictures of objects that are solids and liquids and glued them into the appropriate categories on their page. So many interactive and hands-on activities have brought the winter weather unit to life and into the classroom for our students to enjoy. CAHAL is currently accepting applications for 2019-20. For more information about the CAHAL program and to donate to this great community organization, contact CAHAL at cahal@cahal.org or call (516) 295-3666.

he children of the Gesher Early Childhood Center really enjoyed the month of Shevat. The festivities began with an exciting Rosh Chodesh assembly preparing the children for the upcoming yom tov of Tu B’Shvat. Since the actual yom tov was to coincide with midwinter vacation, the administration planned special Tu B’Shvat activities focusing on fruit and brachos before the break. On the day before vacation, the

students were treated to a special event. HaRav Yaakov Bender, shlita, Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, made a special visit to Gesher. Rabbi Bender was warmly greeted by a large group of students. After sharing words of encouragement to the children and to the staff, Rabbi Bender gave them all a bracha that they should have much hatzlacha. The children brought home special Tu B’Shvat treats and an extra sense of excitement.

Advanced Dementia: Alleviating Distress, Increasing Comfort A Conference for Administrators, Nurses and Social Workers

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ikur Cholim Chesed Organization is coordinating two “Advanced Dementia: Alleviating Distress, Increasing Comfort” conferences for eldercare professionals in mid-February. The focus will be on best practices in care for people with advanced dementia, particularly those who experienced life traumas such as the Holocaust or military

service. Presenters Ann Wyatt of CaringKind and Elisa Stern, of Project for Holocaust Survivors at Bikur Cholim Chesed Organization, will be addressing the crowds. The first gathering will be an afternoon event in Rockland County, and the second will be a morning program in Queens. Both conferences are approved for 3 com-

plimentary CEUS for LNHA/ALAs and for New York social workers. (Other homecare/healthcare professionals are welcome.) There is no charge to attend, however registration is required due to limited space. To request a brochure, please email sbloxenheim@bicco.org, or call (718) 438-2020, ext. 7432. Bikur Cholim Chesed Organization, Bikur

Cholim Partners in Health of Rockland County, CaringKind - The Heart of Alzheimer’s Caregiving, Foundation for Quality Care (an affiliation of NYS Health Facilities Association), Geriatric Mental Health Alliance of New York, Margaret Tietz Nursing & Rehabilitation Center, and Rockland Jewish Family Service are partnered in this initiative.

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n Sunday and Monday, February 17 and 18, Project Witness will be hosting a two-day educational conference at the Center for Jewish History, 15 W 16th Street, NYC. This event, the third annual Project Witness Educators’ Conference, will be focusing on a topic that is rarely examined in depth: Women of Valor: Their Inherent Strength when Faced with the Unimaginable. As families and jobs disintegrated, as schools were shut down, as homes were confiscated, as communities were destroyed, and escape routes and hiding places were frantically sought, what did the women do? The gap between the Holocaust era and today’s students is growing wider, and now, many of our Jewish children have never met or remember anyone who went through those terrible years. Jewish children feel

detached from the story of their own people. How can this tragic yet inspiring era ensure that our youth identify with their role as transmitters of the spiritual faith and courage that have kept our nation alive throughout the centuries? How can they recognize the threats of anti-Semitism and Holocaust denial if we don’t teach them? At this 2019 two-day Project Witness Conference, international scholars, lecturers, and authors affiliated with eminent Holocaust institutions will share their expertise on this subject with their audience of principals and educators. Combined with a fixed focus on the spiritual growth that can be gained from the study of the Holocaust, speakers will zero in on the role of women, who were often significant players in the struggle for life and spiritual survival.

Opening remarks will be given by Dayan Harav Chaim Kohn. Scholars from Pennsylvania State University, Trinity College, Touro College, Queens College, the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum and the Sigi Ziering Institute will join with other learned speakers to address the dilemmas and challenges unique to Jewish women. Among the topics to be discussed will be issues such as Agunos; Living under the Nazis; Moral Dilemmas; The Urge to Live; When Families Disappeared; Self Help in the Ghettos; and The Bais Yaakov Revolution. These riveting conferences not only educate our teachers but also enable participants to network with others in the Holocaust field, to exchange ideas, and to return to the classroom impassioned and revitalized to go forward. Suffice it

to say, time invested in participating in such an event is well worth while. In addition, a very popular teachers’ panel featuring top educators from a varied group of schools will discuss the original and engaging methods they use to teach Holocaust studies. Judging from its popularity over the past two conferences, this panel is considered to be one of the highlights of the conference and provides guests with a window into the world of Holocaust education in an informal yet informative manner. This conference has earned an excellent reputation and is usually sold out early. We suggest that those interested make sure to reserve their places by calling Project Witness at 718-258-7512 or emailing info@projectwitness.org.

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Race For Courage Wins Miami

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By Bracha Ten Victory! Race For Courage has just come back from an extraordinary marathon weekend in Miami, Florida. Over 100 people and 50 runners joined Team Courage for the Miami Marathon and Half Marathon, raising over $250,000 for Kids Of Courage! For the last decade, Kids Of Courage has been providing adventures to children with serious illnesses and medical conditions. These adventures are the opportunity to experience travel, joy, and exciting journeys across the U.S. With a fully equipped medical staff and group of volunteers, K.O.C. conducts various events throughout the year in a fun and safe environment. This year’s 2019 Marathon was only a fraction of the remarkable adventures that K.O.C. provides. The weekend began on Thursday, January 24 with the arrival of the entire Race For Courage team. Couragers, staff members, families, friends, and individuals from around the country landed in Ft. Lauderdale and Miami Airports to kick off what was an adventurous weekend with Kids Of Courage. The program included direct flights and fully catered meals, an inspiring Shabbos featuring speeches by Couragers and

parents, beautiful tefillos, custom K.O.C. gear, and, of course, Team Courage’s famous pasta party on Motzei Shabbos. By 5 a.m. Sunday morning, Team Courage was at the starting line to begin the marathon. What a win it was! Watching the K.O.C. campers in the race was the real highlight. Wheelchairs and carriages flooded the crowd, and runners were amazed by the mission of this unique organization. “Kids Of Courage is here to include their campers in an attainable experience, where they can be just

like the rest of us – whether walking, running, or wheeling to the finish line,” said Race for Courage coach Moishie Gamss. After the marathon, Team Courage got together one last time for a victory BBQ and award ceremony, where customized trophies were given out to the top fundraisers. Race For Courage Miami was an incredible success not only because of the Racers, but also due to the hard work and dedication of the incredible team of volunteers. Huge thanks to the special crew that made it happen, and all of our sponsors: 718Insurance, Bren-

da’s, Chera Foundation, Cross River, Junee, Junee Jr., Meridian Capital Group, LLC, and Wharton Properties/Jeff Sutton. As Kids Of Courage is entirely volunteer-based, the funds raised from the marathon will go directly toward the 2019 roster – including K.O.C.’s Ski Trip, Summer Adventure, Shabbatonim, and all the events in between. See you at Miami Marathon 2020! For more information about Kids of Courage or to make a donation, please visit www.kidsoc.org.

Annual Father/Son Masmidim Learn-A-Thon at Rambam

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ambam Mesivta has many extra learning opportunities for its talmidim. In addition to the voluntary learning that takes place before davening every morning, Rambam rebbeim provide learning opportunities during lunchtime and evenings after school through the school’s Masmidim Extra Learning Program. Approximately 35 talmidim participate in this extra learning program and enjoy the opportunity to do voluntary learning in a myriad of interesting topics. The Masmidim are treated to a special annual luncheon at Traditions restaurant with a guest shiur. The group then goes on a trip to cement their kesher. Past trips have included Escape the Room, Air Trampoline, and VRWorld, just to name a few. The Mas-

midim are also outfitted with exclusive Masmidim gear. At this year’s Annual Father/Son Learn-A-Thon, tribute was paid to the Masmidim by Rabbi Zev Meir

Friedman, Rosh Mesivta of Rambam, who spoke glowingly about the program, the rebbeim, and the boys who participate. Each talmid was called up

and presented with a Masmidim plaque of honor in front of their respective fathers/grandfathers and the 250 people assembled.

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Avital Hochster Top Poet at Kushner Slam

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SH’s resident poets recently traveled to Rae Kushner High School in New Jersey for their second slam of the year. On the way, they practiced their poetry and made last minute revisions. They arrived with their best poems in hand, ready to perform! The group was split into two rooms with students from the other participating yeshivas. After the

first round of competition was over, the teams reconvened, comparing and commenting on the poetry. The finalist round began, and MSH se-

nior Avital Hochster and sophomore Leah Cohen were both called up! Avital was one of the five winners of the slam – we are so proud!

This was a great experience, and the team is excited for the next slam and the prompts to come!

Lido Beach Community Hosts Batya Girls’ Shabbaton

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he beautiful suburban community in Lido Beach warmly welcomed a group of New York public high school girls for a beautiful Shabbaton at the Lido Beach Shul. A few dozen girls from around the greater New York area including Queens, Brooklyn, Staten island, North Jersey, Plainview, Merrick, Five Towns, Great Neck and Hicksville converged at the home of the community’s Rabbi and Rebbetzin Biegeleisen. Batya is a national kiruv organization that works with not-yet-frum Jewish teen girls, empowering them to connect to our heritage and build their future and Yiddishkeit. Lido Beach, 15 minutes from the Five Towns with its quiet suburban streets and small community feel, was a perfect match. In the words of one of the counselors: “Every Shabbos is special in its own way, but the 28th of Tevet was definitely one to remember. It was really welcoming to see how the Lido community members not only welcomed us, but sponsored, setup beautifully and joined us for

the meals. The Friday night panel of women from Lido speaking about their paths to success in life was the highlight! “The family made us feel welcome as soon as we entered. The kids were playing with one another, and the girls took turns passing around the youngest boy who must have been only a few months old while his mother was finishing up the last

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minute preparing of her home for her guests. While choosing our beds and starting to get ready for Shabbos, the girls all started talking and catching up with each other. Some of us hadn’t seen each other in months, and some of us see each other every week. Either way, being together again was really, really special. “The girls who organized the Shabbaton started explaining the game we were playing over Shabbos. Everyone was given a different girl’s name along with a word. We had to try and get that girl out by getting her to say the given word in a conversation. Once you got your person out, you were given ‘their’ person. The goal was to try to get out as many people as possible, and it lasted until havdalah. It was a really fun way to socialize with each other and get to

know some of the people we weren’t already close to. “The neighborhood there is gorgeous, and the Rav and people so friendly and open that we really felt like this Shabbos opened new doors for so many of the girls. The younger families in Lido brought their kids to the meal so having a bunch of little kids participating added lots of action too. The Batya girls got to be a part of the shul and community experience.” Noted shul president Alex Berkovich said, “It was really nice to see so many young girls from different backgrounds coming together in for Shabbos program. We are happy to have been able to host them and let them experience the Lido charm. It was exciting for us too and really injected ruach into Shabbos.”

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The Baron Collection Introduces Luxury Living to Ramat Eshkol By Malky Lowinger

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f you know a young couple who’s planning to move to Eretz Yisroel, chances are good that they will choose to settle in Ramat Eshkol. A popular and bustling Jerusalem neighborhood, Ramat Eshkol has become one of Jerusalem’s most desirable locations because of its excellent location, breathtaking views, and vibrant atmosphere. No wonder it’s one of the fastest growing neighborhoods for the English-speaking Orthodox community in Israel. Now that neighborhood is about to become even more desirable. The residential buildings of Ramat Eshkol, while adequate, are beginning to show wear and tear. And developers familiar with the area have set their sights on opportunities for further growth. With construction booming all over the city of Jerusalem, it seemed only natural for urban renewal to come to Ramat Eshkol as well. Enter Capital Gold, a prestigious development group with a sterling reputation for excellence. Like many areas in Jerusalem, the Ramat Eshkol community is eligible to benefit from the city’s Tama 38 program, in which older residential buildings are upgraded and reinforced against earthquakes. A spokesperson for Capital Gold, explains: “We are in the process of renovating ten buildings in the Ramat Eshkol area. We will be adding eight to ten apartments to each building, which are currently just three to four stories high. And we plan to upgrade and improve the interior and exterior areas. In short,

we will be bringing luxury living to the neighborhood of Ramat Eshkol.” The Ramat Eshkol development project is called the Baron Collection, with a wide range of amenities and upgrades being planned both in the shared areas and in the individual apartments. These include elegant lobbies, beautiful landscaping, updated stone exteriors, central air conditioning, modern tiling, heated flooring, oversized ceilings, and high end kitchens. All this, plus the requisite cheder mamad (security room) and earthquake proofing that are required by law. It’s well-known that the Ramat Eshkol location is uniquely desirable because of its breathtaking views, proximity to the Old City, and energetic neighborhood vibe. Now it will be possible to have it all – luxurious upscale living in the perfect location. Capital Gold developers expect that the Baron Collection apartments will sell briskly. With many young couples moving to Eretz Yisroel, a onetime investment in an upwardly mobile area is an investment which will reap benefits for decades to come. Imagine owning a well-priced luxury apartment in the heart of Jerusalem’s most desirable neighborhood for English speakers. Imagine enjoying an outstanding view as well as the convenience of being within walking distance to the Kosel. And, best of all, imagine having a place to call home in the city of Yerushalayim. Introducing the Baron Collection – where everything you imagine can actually happen.

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Rambam Mesivta: Something for Everyone

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he motto of Rambam Mesivta’s extracurricular activities program is “A Team for Every Talent. A Club for Every Curiosity. A Place for Every Person.” Indeed, in addition to all the sports teams – basketball, hockey, flag football, etc., and all the academic teams, mock trial, Model UN, Debate, and more –Rambam features a “Contest of the Month” that creates opportunities for every student in the school to get involved in something that speaks to his particular skillset and strengths. Before the break, sophomore Benny Herskowitz initiated a schoolwide Bananagrams Tournament to help raise funds for tzedakah. Oren Teeter, a senior, put up a great fight against junior Abie Hersh but Abie, in a best of three championship, took home the coveted Bananagrams Plaque. This tournament was hot on the heels of the Tzedakah Connect-Four Tournament spearheaded by 10th grader Yakov Farrell, which saw Yakov himself take home the prize in the finals

against junior Aaron Weiss. There was also a Carcassonne Boardgame Tournament earlier in the year, as well as the schoolwide 4-Corner Dodgeball Tournament. All tournaments are student-centered and student-run, providing the students with opportunities to engage in leadership roles. All contests

also feature either a chessed element or tzedakah component. The school also had a writing contest as well as a visual puzzles challenge contest. This was in addition to the sports contests held on the Shabbaton including a Schoolwide Flag Football Tournament, The JV Cup, and a 9th Grade Homerun Derby.

Coming up in February is the schoolwide 3-on-3 Basketball Tournament, February Madness, as well as the Annual LSAT Challenge. Something for everyone, with everyone involved, and everyone thinking of how they can help others: Rambam.

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How One Small School Project Has Become a CommunityWide Effort

Tu B’Shvat at BYQ

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few short months ago, our community tragically lost a beloved member, Dr. Hindi Krinsky. Mother to five beautiful children – Ezra, Hudi, Eliana, Dorit and Abie – wife and educator at a local high school, Hindi was a true inspiration to all. Dovid Kanarfogel, Hindi’s husband, along with a few friends, continuously think of ways to continue his wife’s legacy. Together, they have created a few free-standing school libraries to fill with books for HAFTR students to take at their leisure. After pondering how to fill the libraries, they chose to reach out to the school community and ask for children’s book donations. The response they received was over-

whelming. Within one week, the school libraries were filled, and more than 1,500 additional books were donated. Kanarfogel and friends have since partnered with more than a dozen organizations throughout the state where they have been constantly donating all books collected. As part of this project, a special sticker describing the endeavor is placed on all books donated. The people behind Hindi Krinsky’s Libraries will continue to share Hindi’s love of reading with children as long as people have books to give. If you know of anyone who has children’s books to donate, or are involved in an organization in need of books, please contact drkrinskyfreelibrary@gmail.com.

n anticipation of Tu B’Shvat, the pre 1-A classes at the Bais Yaakov of Queens Early Childhood Center talked about all of the wonderful things we get from trees. They generated a long list that ranged from wood to fruit to shade. They even went on a “wood hunt” around the classroom, placing labels on classroom items and furniture made from wood. They were amazed to discover what an important role wood plays in our day-to-day lives. They used

wood scraps, wood shavings, corks, popsicle sticks, and clothespins to create unique wood sculptures. The creation of these three-dimensional works of art involved important STEM skills as well as creativity and problem-solving. As the girls’ families enjoyed Tu B’Shvat, they looked at the beautiful, one-of-a-kind centerpieces created by their children and appreciated all of the learning that was involved.

YCQ Students Receive First Siddurim By Rebecca Guttman, grade 6

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rior to winter break, Yeshiva of Central Queens first graders received their own siddurim. Each class performed a play for their families, morot and YCQ administration. Upon receiving their siddurim, they learned and read their first words with Rabbi Michael Ribalt, assistant principal for Judaic Studies in the elementary school. First grade morah, Leah Greenwald, said, “Kittah aleph celebrated with siddur plays. They learned a story about a siddur who did not have any friends because the children did not know how to read. So the children learned, and they became friends because they learned to read with kavana.” When asked why getting their first siddur was important, Suri Lalo said, “I enjoy singing to Hashem.” Sarah Barzideh said, “I loved getting my siddur and I loved everything about the play,” and Miriam Guttman said she likes that “I am

closer to Hashem.” Ronit Torbati, assistant morah, enjoys working with the children on their siddur plays because it creates great memories and excitement about learning and davening from their siddurim. The Baal Shem Tov was always so happy when he davened. We learn from this that whenever you work hard for something, even if you loved it before, you now appreciate and love it even more. This is a lesson the first grade students will carry with them throughout their education and lifetimes.

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Rav Yaakov Bender, Rosh HaYeshiva Yeshiva Darchei Torah, being welcomed by a group of alumni upon his arrival to Eretz Yisrael last week

Maximizing Your Credit Card Rewards

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et PEYD & PEYD Travel, the leading credit card rewards & travel concierge, is pleased to announce a special program to help individuals and business owners maximize on credit card rewards. The program will be held on Tuesday, February 5 beginning 7:30 PM and will be moderated by renowned travel and foodie expert Naomi Nachman of Aussie Gourmet fame. Proceeds will benefit the Levi Yitzchak Library in Cedarhurst, New York. “I have been a longtime fan and client of the PEYD team for many years and have enjoyed using their services personally, as well as when I travel on business. I am thrilled to be attending and moderating this important event, as I personally have learned so much from the guys how valuable navigating the credit card rewards and travel industry can be,” said Naomi. The evening will begin with the individual traveler program, focusing on educating the public how families can go on vacation using miles & points with a specific focus on travel to Europe, Israel and within the United States “We are excited at the opportunity

to help the educate the public how they can do what we do, travel the world in style without breaking the bank,” said Eli Schreiber, partner and director of marketing. There will be a break for questions followed by the second part of the program for businessowners with significant merchant, credit card and travel spending as well focusing on the best credit cards to maximize business spending, miscellaneous travel benefits & rewards programs business owners need to know about to minimize travel spending. The evening will end with the breakout session and closing statements. “We’re excited to once again partner up with the Levi Yitzchak Library to offer this forum to the public. And having another opportunity to work with the incredible Naomi Nachman should make this event an unforgettable one. Can’t wait!” said Pinny Ackerman. Space is limited; first come first serve. Entry fee is $36 with 100% of the proceeds to benefit the Levi Yitzchak Library. RSVP to marketing@getpeyd.com.

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Building a Bridge from Generation to Generation

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his year marks our 4th Annual JEP/Nageela Real Estate Networking (REN) event, “Building a Bridge from Generation to Generation” to be held this Tuesday night, February 5. For over 30 years we have been in the business of building children up through kiruv. From the year-round JIL (Jewish Individualized Learning) one-onone kids’ mentorship, to weekend Shabbatons which allow kids to have a true Jewish Shabbos experience, JEP/Nageela builds Jewish pride in our children. Camp Nageela, JEP’s sleepaway camp, gives hundreds of Jewish kids a chance to live, learn and have fun in a wholesome Jewish environment where they connect with other Jews from different backgrounds. These bonds and friendships make a huge impact and change lives for the better. Real estate professionals know all about building and developing physical spaces. Next week we will join with around 300 attendees in the industry to build the organization in our biggest fundraiser of the year. Participants will enjoy the best of kosher food from Catering by Mi-

chael Schick and wine and a ton of fun at the trending new location, 26 Bridge in Brooklyn. The event is sponsored by over 22 companies including: Meridian, Riverside, BK Venues, Ramer & Saperstein, Chutes Plus, Catering by Michael Schick, DH Property Holdings, Berdon, DJ Associates, The Battery Group, Billet, Feit & Preis, PC, Mark Sklar & Olive Hill, Westwood, Ariel, Fire & Building Code Services, Area 53 Laser Tag, Harborview, Artimus, Lionstone Capital, The Berkshire Bank, Simkowitz Co., and B-Tank. There will be valet parking available for guests as sponsored by Mark Friedman. For the first time, we’ll also be featuring a panel of leaders in real estate as presented by The Riverside Experience including Ralph Zucker of Somerset Development and Phil Rosen of Weil, Gotshal & Manges LLP. Thanks to our generous sponsors, board members, JEP REN event chairs, Sam Berry, Meyer Mintz, Shmaryahu Ryback, and committee for making this our best JEP REN yet! Come build with us and RSVP at jepren.org or call 516374-1528, Ext. 240.

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Chabad of the Five Towns Annual Dinner Celebrates Heart of the Community

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he Jean Fischman Chabad Center of the Five Towns invites you to join its Gala Dinner celebrating commitment, compassion, and connection. GUESTS OF HONOR: Dr. and Mrs. Rubin and Mandy Brecher. Rubin and Mandy both grew up in Flatbush. Rubin attended the Yeshiva of Flatbush. Mandy went to Shulamith Elementary School and Central Brooklyn for High School. Rubin and Mandy have lived in Lawrence for the past 27 years. They have been affiliated with several shuls including the Young Israel of Lawrence Cedarhurst, Aish Kodesh, and Rabbi Grubers. Rubin, an ophthalmologist, specializing in medical retina, graduated YU, and Albert Einstein, and Mandy runs the financial side of the business. They have four children, all graduates of HALB, and six grandchildren. Their eldest son, Elie, is a Harvard-trained dentist, currently in chief resident in Maxio Facial surgery in Boston. Ayelet and her husband, Chaim Frankel, live in North Woodmere with their three children, and she works with her parents. Eliana and her husband, Rabbi Moshe Watson, live in Kew Garden Hills with their three children, and she is an OT working in the NYC Public School System. Shmuli, the youngest in the family, moved to Israel after high school and lives with his wife Etty in Beitar Illit where he is learning in Kollel full time and studying shechita. Rubin and Mandy travel frequently and always enjoy visiting Chabad houses all over the world. It is their hope that once they retire they can become shluchim to the Bahamas and welcome all kinds of Jewish souls into their home on the beach. GUESTS OF HONOR: Dr. and Mrs. Mendel and Aliza Fundo. Aliza and Mendel moved to Cedarhurst nine years ago from Teaneck, NJ. They were immediately drawn to the warmth and friendly atmosphere of Chabad. Today, Mendel and Aliza, along with their three children Michali, Yoni, and Levi, are proud members of Chabad of the Five Towns. Both Mendel and Aliza immigrated to the United States from the former Soviet Union. Aliza came to attend a Jewish high school in Denver, CO, when she was 15 years old, while her parents and family remained in

Simferopol, Ukraine. This in itself was a remarkable achievement on behalf of Aliza’s parents. With almost no knowledge about any Jewish practice or way of life, sending their daughter to a Jewish school was certainly “out of style” amongst their friends and peers. Aliza graduated Beth Jacob High School and went on to attend Maalot Seminary, college, and Master’s Program in Baltimore, MD. Mendel came to the United States from Moscow, Russia, with his parents and sister in 1992, when he was 9 years old. Up until the age of twelve, Mendel – who at that time was known as Andrew – grew up as a son of a pastor. His parents, although being Jewish, knew absolutely nothing about their heritage. Unfortunately, this was a common result of growing up in Communist Russia. In the early 1980s their search for spirituality and meaning in life led them misguidedly to become members of an underground Christian church. Mendel, together with his family, became very involved with the church even to the point that his father became an ordained minister. Despite all this, their Jewish neshama never gave up fueling their perpetual thirst for finding the ultimate truth. Within a few years of coming to New York, through a series of extraordinary events of Divine providence, and of course with the help of Chabad, Mendel together with his sister and parents returned to Yiddishkeit and became fully observant Jews. From the age of 12, Mendel, together with his family, grew up in West Hempstead, NY. Beginning with the 7th grade he attended Hebrew Academy of Nassau County. He then spent a year at Yeshiva Ohr Dovid in Israel, followed by Yeshiva University, and graduated from University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey as a dentist. Today, both Mendel and Aliza work together at their dental practice in Forest Hills, NY. They are truly honored to be recognized at the Chabad Annual Dinner. GUESTS OF HONOR: Mr. and Mrs. Vitaliy and Natalya Mikinberg. Natalya Mikinberg is a broker and founder of V.I. Properties, who’s been proudly servicing the Five Towns community for the past 26 years. Natalya, her husband Vitalily Mikinberg, and two daughters Zhanna and Ella

immigrated to New York from the Soviet Union in 1990. Before taking on real estate, Natalya educated students in economy and finance back in the Soviet Union. Her husband was a mechanical engineer. Natalya has gained support due to her compassionate and sympathetic personality once establishing herself as a licensed real estate salesperson in 1993. On February 9, 1999, Natalya officially open the doors of V.I. Properties. With only herself in the beginning, Natalya nurtured her business and grew it into the leading independent brokerage in the Five Towns with over 40 real estate agents. Her biggest joy is contributing and supporting her community. In her free time, she enjoys spending quality time with her two daughters and five grandchildren. GAN CHAMESH PARENTS OF THE YEAR: Mr. and Mrs. Gregory and Ivy Levi. Ivy and Greg made aliyah to Woodmere from Manhattan a little over two years ago, just in time for the starting bell of Gan Chamesh classes. The reputation of Gan Chamesh as a school infused with an infectious love of Torah and mitzvos was quickly revealed to be a complete understatement! Before even attempting to unpack, a true partnership with many excellent educators took root and continues to flourish into its third year. Elan (5), who was blessed with tremendous individual care during his two remarkably formative years in the Yellow Room and Green Room, has passed the Gan Chamesh torch to his sister Eden (3), who has benefitted from the unsurpassed morahs of the Red Room and Blue Room. The future together looks promising as Aviella (1.1) is eager for 2020! Greg grew up in Iowa City as a 4th generation Iowan. After graduating with a degree in chemical engineering from the University of Iowa, Greg worked in industry in Minnesota, Illinois and California before returning to the classroom at the University of Chicago Graduate School of Business. Following his relocation to New York to pursue an investment career, Greg was fortunate to discover the depth of the Torah. In response, he later took a sabbatical to learn in Machon Yaakov, an intensive yet intimate yeshiva in Jerusalem where he remains very involved. Greg is currently a portfolio

manager at Loews Corporation and finds great meaning in the trenches of parenting. Ivy is a Manhattan native and attended the Ramaz School followed by the University of Michigan. After graduating with a degree in communication studies, Ivy returned to New York where she worked in television production (please don’t tell the kids). Inspired by a deep desire to grow and live an authentic Torah life, Ivy took a detour to attend Neve Yerushalayim in Jerusalem. Ivy went on to work in Jewish outreach at the Brownstone in Manhattan and now dedicates herself 24/7 to the Levi family. The early education at Gan Chamesh brought to life by such talented and dedicated educators continues to be a tremendous blessing in the lives of the Levi family, yet the school is merely one of the immeasurable contributions made by Rabbi and Rebbetzin Wolowik to ensure the strength of our collective Jewish futures, both locally and globally. Ivy and Greg are deeply grateful for the opportunity to accept the recognition of Gan Chamesh Parents of the Year. It is with heartfelt appreciation for this exemplary school that they seek to further inspire and strengthen the support our community provides to Gan Chamesh and the essential Chabad of the Five Towns. Chabad will also honor Friendship Circle presidents Meira Adler, Miriam Borenstein, Zahava Graff, Beckey Haviv, Illana Katz, Leah Katz, Julia Klayman, Esther Medows, Anabelle Muller, Gabby Nakkab, Yishai Attias, Shuey Feierman, and Jonah Naiman. Chabad will also honor CTeen Leaders Dora Aronov, Rachel Bohnik, Ellie Cohen, Mia Gwirtzman, Jordan Myers, Evetta Poley, Justin Sajovitz, and Sasha Teplish Dinner chairmen Mr. and Mrs. Yosef Yitzchak and Penina Batsheva Popack, Mr. and Mrs. Jeffrey and Shira Eisenberg, and Mr. and Mrs. Larry and Susan Sachs are planning a great night on Sunday, February 24, beginning 6:30 p.m. with a Gala Dinner Buffet and 7:45 PM with the Awards Presentation followed by a lavish Viennese dessert. The dinner will take place at the Grand Ballroom of the Sephardic Temple, 775 Branch Blvd in Cedarhurst. Couvert $600 per couple. RSVP at 516-295-2478 or www. chabadfivetowns.com/dinner.

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or the local Five Towns/Far Rockaway area, Yeshiva of Far Rockaway has played an integral role in the formation and continued development of the very fabric of the community and its infrastructure. The influence of the Rosh Yeshiva, Hagaon HaRav Yechiel Perr, shlit”a, and the Yeshiva’s renowned faculty is manifest not only in its own talmidim and alumni but in the broader community as well. In the spring of 1969 an historic meeting took place between Rabbi Yechiel Perr, then the Menahel at Yeshiva Toras Emes, Kaminetz, in Brooklyn, and Rabbi Nachman Bulman, the rav of the Young Israel of Far Rockaway. Rabbi Bulman, a prominent baal machshava and orator, had piqued the interest of Rabbi Perr who wished to meet him. At that meeting, Rabbi Bulman told Rabbi Perr that as Yeshiva Rabbi Chaim Berlin had made the decision to relocate from Far Rockaway to Brooklyn, he thought it would be a good idea for them to start a new yeshiva to service the Far Rockaway community. With the backing of a dedicated

group of local ba’alei baatim, the Yeshiva was founded in the fall of 1969. Among these ba’alei baatim were the late Dr. Henry Rhein, Mr. Victor Trachtenberg, Mr. Louis Glick, and Mr. Marvin Blum, a”h, and Mr. Lenny Kestenbaum, amu”sh.

and rebbi, bringing his emes, ehrnskeit and vitality to the fledgling yeshiva of which he became an inseparable part for close to half a century. The Yeshiva moved temporarily to the Young Israel of Far Rockaway. After one year at the Young Israel, the

Many of them speak of the ongoing kesher they share with the Rosh Hayeshiva to this day, consulting with him regularly on important issues relating to their own lives and the lives of their families.

The Yeshiva began as a small storefront operation at 2011 Mott Ave. After its first year, Rabbi Aaron Brafman, zt”l, joined the Yeshiva. Coming from Yeshiva Torah Vodaath where he had been a rebbi, Rabbi Brafman, zt”l, became the menahel

Rabbi Bulman, founder, and Rabb Perr

The Yeshiva moved to Young Israel of Far Rockaway in its second year

Yeshiva purchased an old house on Virginia Street, across from the White Shul. The purchase was made possible with a down payment of $5,000, which Rabbi Perr borrowed from his parents. This sum represented the totality of their life savings. After three

A Yeshiva early board meeting

The original building at 2011 Mott Avenue

years, an adjacent lot was purchased with the hopes of expanding. At that time, the Yeshiva was fortunate to have had the support of such devoted people as the late Mr. Sol Brafman, Mr. Walter Wolff, Mr. Louis Newman, Mr. Irving Maisel, a”h, and Reb Moshe Talansky, Mr. Leonard Kunin, Reb Dov Wolowitz, Mr. Morton Grossman, and Mr. Danny Zaslowsky, amu”sh. With time, a large property with an old house on it was found on Hicksville Road. It was purchased, and the house was demolished to make room for a new Yeshiva building. Construc-

Rabbi Brafman, zt”l, with ybl”ch, Rabbi Perr, shlita

A Yeshiva dinner in the 1970s

The Virgina Street building, now the White Shul parking lot

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At the Hicksville Road groundbreaking, mid-1970s

tion was completed in 1977, and the Yeshiva moved in soon after. As the bais medrash grew, Rav Moshe Brown, shlit”a, assumed the position of maggid shiur. A talmid chachom of wide renown whose shiurim have become world famous, Rabbi Brown brought a tremendous energy to the bais medrash and generations of talmidim have been fortunate to have benefited from his lomdus and erudition. Rabbi Brown eventually became the rav of the newly founded Agudas Israel of West Lawrence, a post he fills to this day with distinction. The Yeshiva grew and flourished in its new home until it eventually required a larger, newer building. Plans were drawn up for a magnificent new building, adjacent to the old one. Construction was completed in 2000, and the new building was dedicated by Mr. & Mrs. Yaakov and Ilana Melohn in memory of Reb Yosef Melohn, a”h. This was followed six years later with the demolition of the old building and the construction in its place of a new gym building. In order to allow talmidim to be totally immersed in their learning, free of the distractions of home and street, the Yeshiva has always provided dormitory facilities for the bais medrash talmidim. Initially, with the move to Hicksville Road, the Yeshiva purchased a house across the street which became the dormitory. As the bais medrash grew, the need for a more permanent and state-of-the-art dormitory building became necessary and, b”H, six years ago the Yeshiva purchased a six-unit apartment building nearby which was renovated as a dormitory building. Approximately 15 years ago, Rabbi Moshe Greenspan launched the Yeshiva’s Kollel, named Kollel Ner Rochel Leah after Mrs. Rochel Leah Skydell.

The Kollel yungeleit under the leadership of Rabbi Shmuel Mordechai Ullman, Rabbi Yisroel Gewirtz and Rabbi Yosef Bronner enhance the limud of the bais medrash on a daily basis, and several of the older bochurim join the kollel avreichem in their limudim. The Yeshiva is a home for learning for community baalei batim as well with many spending evenings and weekends in the bais medrash either learning themselves or a part of a chaburah which was founded many years ago by Rabbi Brafman. The Yeshiva has always prided itself on its stellar rebbeim. In its early years, in addition to Rabbi Perr and Rabbi Brafman, rebbim included Rabbi Shmuel Brog, Rabbi Yisroel Gornish, Rabbi Shlomo Teitelbaum and Rabbi Milstein. A few years later, Rabbi Avrohom Kleinkaufman, Rabbi Yehoshua Kalish, Rabbi Dovid Rhein and Rabbi Doniel Nekritz joined the faculty. In subsequent years, Yeshiva had among its rebbeim Rabbi Moshe Fruchthandler, z”l, Rabbi Moshe Leiber, Rabbi Aaron Kaufman, Rabbi Avraham Yitzchok Berman, Rabbi Chaim Zev Braun, Rabbi Nosson Greenberg, Rabbi Aryeh Ginsberg, Rabbi Kalman Redisch and Rabbi Eli Braunstein, all of whom have gone on to other mosdos and Yeshivas. The Yeshiva has always had a highly competent general studies faculty. For many years, Dr. Morris Applebaum was the secular studies principal. Rabbi Eli Goldgrab, who began his tenure as an assistant to Dr. Applebaum, assumed the role of principal in 1992. He continues to maintain a highly qualified staff, and Yeshiva of Far Rockaway students are among the top achievers in New York State high schools. In 1999, the Yeshiva was fortunate to bring aboard Rabbi Shayeh Kohn

The old Hicksville Road building

as executive director. He is dedicated to Yeshiva b’lev vanefesh, and the dinner and fundraising events since his arrival have been thriving exponentially. The Yeshiva’s current staff includes a celebrated group of wonderful rebbeim, each a talmid chachom in his own right and thoroughly dedicated to the Yeshiva and its talmidim. Our longtime eleventh grade rebbe, Rabbi Yehoshua Kalish, is the esteemed rav of the Bais Medrash of Harborview, one of the prestigious

kehillos in our community. Our other rebbeim are Rabbi Moshe Perr, Rabbi Dovid Kleinkaufman, Rabbi Yossi Bronner, Rabbi Moshe Brown and Rabbi Shmuel Mordechai Ullman, as well as a number of staff members who are themselves alumni of our Yeshiva. These include 9th grade rebbi, Rabbi Chaim Metz; 10th grade rebbi, Rabbi Avi Weller; 11th grade rebbi, Rabbi Aaron Perr; 12th grade rebbi, Rabbi Yoel Genuth and Rabbi Aaron Indig; and in the bais medrash Rabbi Continued on page 64

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Azriel Cukier, Rabbi Yisroel Gewirtz and Rabbi Yitzchok Asher Gordon. The name Rabbi Aaron Brafman is virtually synonymous with Yeshiva of Far Rockaway. A tzaddik whose life was one continuum of Torah, avoda and gemilus chasadim, Rabbi Brafman was the menahel at the Yeshiva for 47 years. His dedication and devotion to the talmidim were legendary and the lives of countless talmidim and their families were forever changed by their interactions with this special mechanech. Rabbi Brafman’s petira in the summer of 2017 was devastating for the Yeshiva, but his spirit lives on in its walls and

in the lives of the hanhalas hayeshiva and its talmidim. Rabbi Mordechai Miller has stepped in to fill the position of the menahel. Rabbi Miller, an alumnus of the Yeshiva, has maintained a close relationship with the Rosh Yeshiva and the rebbeim throughout the years. He brings his experience as a talmid chachom, mekareiv and teacher to this position. He has thus far met with much success as he carries the Yeshiva forward into its 2nd yovel. As momentum to the big event continues to build, heartwarming video clips are making the rounds

Listening to a shmooze from the Rosh Yeshiva

featuring alumni from various different eras in the Yeshiva’s history sharing their perspectives on the role of the Yeshiva and Rabbi Perr on the trajectory of their lives. Many of them speak of the ongoing kesher they share with the Rosh Hayeshiva to this day, consulting with him regularly on important issues relating to their own lives and the lives of their families. Jonah Lobell, a distinguished alumnus and close talmid of the Rosh Hayeshiva, is serving as this year’s dinner chairman. Mr. Benjamin Brafman, longtime friend and dedicated supporter of the Yeshiva, has

been named the honorary chairman of the special Yovel campaign. The response to the campaign so far has been over has been overwhelmingly positive. There seems to be a tangible sense of excitement for this long-awaited opportunity to show true hakaras hatov to the Rosh Hayeshiva. To get involved in the campaign or to arrange reservations or journal ad placement, please contact the Yeshiva office at 718-327-7600 or via email at dinner@yofr.org. Online reservations and donations can be submitted via www.yofr.org.

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TJH Riddle me this? The scores were completely tied in the last few seconds of a football game, and a player was lining up to kick the game winner. He pictured himself scoring, and the crowd cheering as he won the game. He kicked the ball, and it just dropped under the crossbar, yet his team still cheered, as they had won the game. How?

Centerfold You gotta be kidding Three Kansas City Chiefs fans were drowning their sorrows at a sports bar after the team lost yet again. The first fan said, “I blame the coach. If he developed better plays, we’d be a great team.” The second fan nodded and replied, “I blame the players. They just don’t try hard enough.” The third fan thought for a moment and then said, “I blame my mom and dad. If I would have been born Boston, I’d be supporting a better team!”

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City of Angels Here are 10 true facts and 1 false fact about Los Angeles. Can you figure out which one is false? 1.

When L.A. was founded, the city’s full name was “El Pueblo de Nuestra Senora Reina de los Angeles sobre el Rio Porciuncula.” (In Spanish that means “The town of our lady queen of the angels on the Porciuncula River.”)

Angels Stadium in nearby Anaheim –so he could catch a homerun ball. He came up emptyhanded.

2. The L.A. coroner’s office has a gift shop.

8. The Hollywood sign originally said “Hollywoodland.” It was an advertisement for Tinseltown’s latest real estate development.

3. When it rains in L.A., it pours. On April 5, 1926, a gorge in the San Gabriel Mountains collected an inch of rain in just one minute.

9. Tons of stars are buried in Hollywood’s Forever Cemetery. One of them is Looney Tunes voice actor Mel Blanc, whose gravestone reads, “That’s all folks.”

4. The film industry ended up in L.A. in order to get away from Thomas Edison. Edison – who lived in New Jersey – held most of the country’s film patents. Filmmakers fled westward to avoid Edison’s intellectual property claims.

10. L.A. is home to the largest boulder ever transported – a 340-ton chunk of granite that hit the road in 2012. It took 11 days to move it just 85 miles to its home at the Los Angeles County Museum of Art.

5. Santa Monica Pier was originally designed to protect a sewage pipe that dumped treated sewage into the ocean.

11. Los Angeles and San Francisco are getting 2.5 inches closer every year due to their placement on opposite sides of the San Andreas Fault Line.

6. With its 17 million residents, L.A has the second-tomost residents out of any city in the U.S. In 1996, a Hollywood actor bought 2,615 outfield seats at

Answer to City of Angels: #6 is false.

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Super Bowl 53 Trivia 1. When Tom Brady won his first Super Bowl in 2002, the Patriots head coach Bill Belichick had at that point been a coach in the NFL for 27 years. What was Rams head coach Sean McVay doing at that time? a. He was an offensive coordinator for the Cleveland Browns b. He was the head coach of the Rams c. He was a senior in college d. He was a sophomore in high school 2. Which team did Tom Brady and the Patriots defeat in their first Super Bowl victory 17 years ago?

d. Atlanta Falcons

per Bowls, the most of any quarterback. John Ellway appeared in the second-to-most Super Bowls of all quarterbacks. How many Super Bowls did Ellway appear in?

3. How many Super Bowl victories do the Rams have (either in LA or St. Louis) to date? a. 1 b. 2

c. 5

4. This year’s Super Bowl is being played at the $1.5 billion Mercedes-Benz Stadium in Atlanta. How many square feet is the main video screen in the stadium?

d. 3 6. What is the connection between the Patriots cornerback, who wears No. 30, and the Patriots safety, who wears No. 32? a. They are second cousins b. They were roommates when they both played

c. 43,500 square-feet d. 63,800 square-feet

c. Philadelphia Eagles

d. Their parents were neighbors

b. 7

d. 4

b. 27,000 square-feet

b. Carolina Panthers

c. They are identical twins

a. 8

c. 3

a. 12,000 square-feet

a. St. Louis Rams

football in college

5. Including Super Bowl 53, Tom Brady will have appeared in nine Su-

 Answers  Wisdom Key 5-6 correct: You are a real Patriot...a real winner but some have accused you of cheating (ouch!). 3-4 correct: You are a coin toss. 0-2 correct: You don’t know so much about the Super Ball (and that’s not a typo!).

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3. A – The Rams defeated the Tennessee Titans in Super Bowl 34, after the 1999 season. That game was played in Atlanta, but not at Mercedes-Benz Stadium, the one-year-old facility that Super 2. A 1. D – Rams Head Coach Sean McVay just turned 33 years old. In fact, if you combine Coach McVay’s and Ram’s quarterback Jared Goff’s ages (54), they’re still younger than 13 of current head coaches in the league.

6. C – Safety Devin McCourty, who has been with the Patriots for four Super Bowls (not including Superbowl 53), will try to help his identical-twin brother cornerback Jason McCourty win his first Super Bowl with the Patriots 5. C 4. D – Mercedes-Benz Stadium’s main video screen is 63,800 square-feet and measures 58 feet tall and 1,100 feet around Bowl 53 is being played at.

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Parshas Mishpatim By Rabbi Berel Wein

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t is difficult, in the extreme, to understand the concluding part of this week’s Torah reading. It is recorded that the noble people of Israel somehow gazed and saw the likeness of heaven and they were not immediately punished nor struck down for having done so. The Torah has made it abundantly clear in many places that no human being while alive can see, so to speak, a

corporeal vision of the L-rd. If this be the case, then what is this verse and the Torah telling us? What does it mean that these noble people were able to gaze upon the Divine presence? As is the case in almost all the narratives that appear in the Torah, there are various interpretations of this issue that have been advanced over the ages. Most of these opinions

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reflect the idea that these great and noble people gazing upon the Divine presence is to be understood in a metaphorical sense and not literally. After having experienced the revelation at Sinai and the granting of the Torah to the Jewish people, this cadre of special people now attempted to understand the methodology by which G-d runs the world. They thought that they had achieved such a level of spirituality that they were able to do so. They somehow combined the idea of physical reality in their understanding of G-d, and for this they would later suffer negative consequences. Their ambition, even for spirituality, was a reach too far.

that Moshe did have such an opportunity at the beginning of his mission, at his encounter with G-d at the burning bush. Moshe was not willing to avail himself of that opportunity then and the L-rd informs him later that it is far too late for that opportunity to be revised. Nevertheless, Moshe has the strongest relationship with Heaven that any human being ever experienced or could experience. But even that relationship – the face-to-face conversations, so to speak, with G-d – is to be viewed as not achieving a complete understanding of the Divine and of the methodology employed by Heaven to guide the world and

Being human, no matter how great one is, automatically limits one’s understanding and true appreciation of the Creator.

In the Torah reading that we will hear in a few weeks, we will see that our great teacher Moshe also attempted this leap of understanding the Divine completely. G-d will tell Moshe of the impossibility of his request. Being human, no matter how great one is, automatically limits one’s understanding and true appreciation of the Creator. It is a line that no human being can cross and retain life, as we understand it to exist. The Midrash seems to indicate

human events. Perhaps that is what the rabbis of the Talmud meant when they said, “Simply let them ignore and disassociate themselves from Me and just observe the Torah that I have granted them.” Much of the world at various times confuse human beings with G-d or as being G-d. Judaism comes to tell us that there is an indelible line between the two that can and never will be crossed. Shabbat shalom.

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Parshas Mishpatim G-d is in the Details By Rav Moshe Weinberger Adapted for publication by Binyomin Wolf

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t is striking how much halacha is derived from Parshas Mishpatim. The three Bavas, Bava Kama, Bava Metzia, and Bava Basra, as well as much of Sanhedrin and other masechtas, parts of the Talmud, are primarily based on the pesukim in parshas Mishpatim. This is very surprising. Immediately after we stood on Har Sinai and received the Torah, we expect that the next parsha would contain lofty, exalted concepts. Instead, the first things we encounter after receiving the Torah are the nitty gritty details of slavery and theft and damages. It is only at the end of the parsha that we begin to read pesukim like (Shmos 24:10) Aand they perceived the G-d of Israel, and beneath His feet was like the forming of a sapphire brick and like the appearance of the heavens for clarity.” As we progress into parshas Teruma also, we have the pasuk of (Shmos 25:8) “And make a sanctuary and I will dwell among them.” These pesukim are more like what we expect to find after standing on Har Sinai. The civil laws of parshas

Mishpatim seem out of place immediately following the Sinai experience. The simple answer is that after receiving the Torah, we had many questions about how to keep the laws of daily life. At Sinai we became obligated to observe the entire Torah and we were required to study a lot of halacha, so the parsha following kabbalas haTorah, the giving of the Torah, involves the laws we would have to know to live as Jews. The truth is, however, the laws that the Jewish people needed to know in the desert were, by and large, not the laws that arise from parshas Mishpatim. In the desert, there was no economy to speak of and our people mainly enjoyed the protection of Hashem’s miraculous care during those forty years in the desert. There were no fields, vineyards, poverty, or personal property which would have given rise to numerous questions in civil law, slavery, or damages. Those things would only become relevant when the Jewish people entered Eretz Yisroel. As long as they were in the desert, however, the laws of parshas

Mishpatim were not the most pressing. In our lives today, we do not have a Beis Hamikdash, the ananei ha’kavod, clouds of glory, or the ketores, the incense. We live our lives in our houses, offices, and marketplaces with all of their details, problems, and conflicts. Parshas Mishpatim teaches us how to function in the world of man’s michshalos, failings, damages, and injuries. By teaching us how to keep Hashem’s will in the midst of the nitty gritty of daily life, the Torah is telling us, “There is a time for delving into the exalted, deeper meaning of mitzvos. There will be time for analyzing the chassidus, kabbalah, deeper significance, meaning, and symbolism of the mitzvos. But that time is not now.” The Torah the Jewish people need to learn immediately after Sinai is not the Torah of “why,” it is the Torah of “how:” The whys and wherefores of the mitzvos are not our first concern. None of this diminishes the importance of delving into the deeper aspects of the Torah. The Torah fol-

lows up on Ma’amad Har Sinai, the giving of the Torah, with the details of life because the main purpose of the Torah is to reveal exaltedness and G-dliness precisely in the little details of life which are the most earthly and physical. Hashem brought us from raH Sinai, the most exalted, awesome, and wondrous revelation of G-dliness, directly into the nitty gritty details of the problems of daily life in order to demonstrate to us that we should see the profound holiness of Hashem’s existence in earthly life just as we do in our spiritual pursuits. The rest of the world only seeks spirituality in the heavens, but we see it in the fields and marketplaces of this world. The pasuk says in Yeshayahu 57:15, “For so said the High and Exalted One, Who dwells eternally, and His name is Holy, with the lofty and the holy ones I dwell, and with the crushed and humble in spirit, to revive the spirit of the humble and to revive the heart of the crushed.” Although Hashem is greater than anything we can imagine, He doesn’t remain high

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and distant from us. Instead, “v’es dakah,” He sits together with those who are crushed by the details of this world. When the world asks where Hashem is, they look to the sky for the answers. They believe He is “out there” somewhere. But the Torah’s answer to that question is (Brachos 8a) “all Hashem has in the world is the four amos of halacha.” Hashem is found in the little, seemingly unimportant, details of halacha in daily life. Similarly, the Gemara says (Megillah 31a), “Wherever one finds Hashem’s greatness, one also finds His humility.” That is what the pasuk in Yeshayahu means. Precisely because Hashem is “ram v’nisa, High and Exalted,” He is also “v’es dakah u’shfal ruach, with the crushed and the low of spirit.” The Gemara in Sota 5a explains that pasuk to mean “ani es dakah, I am with those who are crushed.” In other words, rather than lifting up the broken person, Hashem descends down to the person, cries with him, and sits with him in the midst of his worries and pain and works together with him to build him up. Shlomo Hamelech asked about the Beis Hamikdash that he had just built (Melachim 1:8:27), “Could it be that Hashem will dwell on the earth? The heavens and the heavens of the heavens cannot contain Him, but the house which I have build could contain him!?” Hashem chooses not to dwell in the highest heavens, but rather in the little house that we built for him here on earth in our four amos of halacha. By observing the tiny details of halacha, we create a life in which Hashem dwells. In Hallel we say (Tehilim 113:4), “Ram al kal goyim Hashem, Hashem is above the nations.” The nations think that Hashem is above everything, up in the heavens. Therefore, that pasuk concludes that for them, “al ha’shamayim k’vodo, His glory is above the heavens.” In contrast, we say, “Mi k’Hashem Elokeinu ha’magbihi la’sheves, who is like Hashem our G-d who dwells on high.” Unlike the nations of the world, however, we say that because of Hashem’s greatness, “He lowers Himself to look at the heavens and the earth, he lifts up the destitute from the dust and raises the poor from the trash heaps.” Hashem

is even greater than the nations think He is. They believe He is only in the highest heavens. But we know that He is so great that He also sits in the trash heaps of the confusion of our lives to raise us up. That is why parshas Mish-

nally expected, he followed him to see where he would go. The Rebbe went out to the edge of the forest and began chopping wood and packing it up. He carried it back into the poor part of town and went to a widow’s house.

Hashem is found in the little, seemingly unimportant, details of halacha in daily life.

patim follows the lighting, thunder, and awe of the giving of the Torah. There was once a misnaged, someone who was not a friend of the chassidim, who lived in the town of Sasov. He wanted to find fault with Rav Moshe Leib Sasover so he started davening in Rav Moshe Leib’s beis medrash. It was difficult to find fault in him because he was a gaon, a genius in learning, but this individual did not give up. He used to give the chassidim trouble after davening and make fun of the Rebbe. It was selichos time, and the Jews in Sasov davened selichos very early in the morning. A few days into selichos that year, after Rav Moshe Leib did not show up for selichos, the misnaged, the troublemaker, started taunting the chassidim that their Rebbe was so holy but he couldn’t even wake up on time for selichos. The chassidim did not accept this and told him that it must be that their Rebbe was ascending Heaven and that was why he wasn’t at selichos. The man laughed at this and told the chassidim that he would follow Rav Moshe Leib and find out if he was really in “heaven,” or if, as he suspected, he was just sleeping late. He came very early in the morning to Rav Moshe Leib Sasover’s house to see what he would find. But instead of finding the Rebbe sleeping, he saw through the window that he put on a peasant’s coat, hat, and boots, and left the house. Assuming that his discovery was even juicer than he had origi-

When she answered, he introduced himself as “Moshe” and asked her if she needed any wood for the fire. She answered that she did, so he went in and arranged the wood and made the fire for the widow. When she asked about payment, he said that he was

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in a big rush and that she could take care of it later. He went on to do this in several houses. In each of the houses, as he was building the fires, he began crying out, saying the words of selichos, “Lecha Hashem ha’tzedaka, v’lanu boshes ha’panim, to you Hashem is the righteousness, and ours is the shamefacedness.” The next time the misnaged, this “opponent” of the chassidim, met Rav Moshe Leib’s chassidim in shul, they asked him eagerly, “So, what happened? Did you see our Rebbe ascend to heaven?” The man shook his head and answered, “No, I saw your Rebbe go somewhere much higher than heaven...” The true mark of greatness is being so great that even the smallest thing and the most insignificant details are important and worthy of attention. Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, is the founding Morah d’Asrah of Congregation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, NY, and serves as leader of the new mechina Emek HaMelech.

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Weekly Aggada And a stranger you shall not wrong, and do not oppress him; because you were strangers in the land of Egypt (Shemos 22:20) This is comparable to a king who had sheep that would go out to the fields and return each day. Once, a deer mingled with the sheep, grazing with them, and returning with them from the field and into the fold. The shepherds told the king of the deer, and how it mingled with the

sheep, going out to graze with them and returning to the fold with them each day. That deer became very dear to the king. Whenever it went out to the fields, the king told his shepherds to take special care of that deer, ensuring that no man hit it. And whenever the deer returned from the fields, the king told his shepherds to ensure that it was well fed. The shepherds once asked the king why he cared so much for the deer and ordered special treatment for it when he had so many sheep.

“The sheep’s nature,” answered the king, “whether it wishes it or not, is to graze in the field all day and return to the fold each night. Deer, on the other hand, are accustomed to living out in the wild, not amongst people. But this deer has come to live amongst us – don’t we owe it gratitude for leaving that with which it is familiar to join us?” So it is with converts. “Don’t we owe them gratitude,” says G-d, “for leaving their families and their peoples and coming to dwell with us?” Therefore, G-d grants converts extra protections, warning the Jewish people not to harm them or treat them harshly, so that the converts will not return to their old ways (Bamidbar Rabba 8:2).

Weekly Mussar If you lend money to my people, the poor person with you; you should not be to him as a creditor, do not place interest upon him (Shemos 22:24) The emphasis on “the poor person with you” teaches that, when lending money, we should view ourselves as if we were poor and in need of a loan (Rashi, Shemos 22:24). To be sure, we should not need to view ourselves as poor and in need just to extend a simple loan. Isn’t it enough to know that someone needs a loan and to lend to them? The Alter of Kelm explained that, in fact, it is not enough simply to know that another Jew requires the financial assistance of a loan. At its core, the commandment to lend money to a fellow Jew requires us to empathize with the borrower, to feel the same pain and desperation

the borrower feels. That requires us to view ourselves as poor, so that we can fully appreciate the borrower’s plight and lend money accordingly. And that’s not all. “You should not be to him as a creditor: do not make a claim against him assertively; if you know that he does not have [monies with which to repay], do not appear to him as though you loaned to him but as if you did not lend to him…” (Rashi, Shemos 22:24). Not only do we need to empathize with the borrower by lending in a generous and respectful manner, added R’ Aharon Kotler, we are even obligated to act towards the borrower as if we had not loaned money at all!

Weekly Anecdote An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth, a hand for a hand, a foot for a foot (Shemos 21:24) On Har HaMenuchos, in the section of the cemetery reserved for sages and rabbinic figures, there is a tombstone with the following epitaph: “Here lies the Master, the Genius, the Pious R’ Eliezer Yosef Lederberg, z”tl, who spread Torah in public, he learned and reviewed by memory the tractates Beitza and Rosh Hashana more than 4,000 times.” Here’s the story behind it. R’ Eliezer Yosef Lederberg lived in the city of Plotzk, Poland. While working to support his family, he devoted as much time as he could to Torah study. He was also afflicted with a terrible pain in his eyes. The doctors told him that the condition could be cured only with a very risky surgery – one that would either cure his eyes

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completely or render him blind permanently. R’ Eliezer Yosef decide to proceed with the surgery. Despite the doctors’ ominous warning, R’ Eliezer Yosef was concerned primarily with what he would do if the surgery rendered him blind. So he asked the doctors to delay the surgery for some time, during which R’ Eliezer Yosef memorized the tractates of Beitza and Rosh Hashana. If I become blind, he thought, at least I can continue to learn and review these tractates for the remainder of my life. With that, he informed the doctors that he was ready to proceed. As it happens, the surgery was a complete success – R’ Yosef Eliezer’s eyes were healed. Naturally, he gave thanks to G-d for the positive outcome. But then he got to thinking: Had I become blind, I would have spent my days reviewing the tractates of Beitza and Rosh Hashana hundreds of times. Why should I do any less

now that G-d has been so kind as to heal me? From that day on, he made it a habit of reviewing Beitza and Rosh Hashana over and over again, to the point that, by his passing in 1954, he had reviewed them over 4,000 times.

Weekly Halacha And these are the law that you should place before them (Shemos 21:1) This verse is a source for the prohibition against Jews litigating disputes in secular courts. “Before them” – we learn – “but not before the non-Jews” (Gittin 88b). Litigating in secular court is prohibited because it could be seen as desecrating G-d’s name (r”l) by showing a preference for foreign values over our Divine ones (Rashi, Shemos 21:1). Because it could be seen as dese-

crating G-d’s name (r”l), the prohibition applies even if secular courts would rule just as a bais din would, and even if both parties agree to litigate in secular court (Gittin 88b; Rashi/Ramban Shemos 21:1; Rambam, Sanhedrin 26:7; Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 26:1). A Jew who transgresses this prohibition “is a wicked person, and it is as if he has cursed and blasphemed and raised his hand against the Torah of Moshe Rabbeinu” (Rambam, Sanhedrin 26:7; Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 26:1). And one who violates this prohibition may not lead the services on the Yomim Noraim (Mishna Berura 581:11) and may even be excommunicated (Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 26:1). Nevertheless, there are instances when Jews may litigate in secular court. Most commonly, if a party refuses to appear before a bais din after being duly summoned, bais din may grant to the other party written permission (known as a “heter

arkaos”) to litigate in secular court (Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 26:2). While litigation in secular courts is prohibited, Jews may mediate their disputes before non-Jewish mediators (that is merely a non-binding attempt at settlement, not adjudication) or even submit their disputes for an arbitration that is not bound to any formal set of laws (as this does not imply a preference for a foreign body of law) (Aruch HaShulchan, Choshen Mishpat 22:8; Igros Moshe, Chosen Mishpat 1:58). The Weekly Halacha is not meant for practical purposes and is for discussion purposes only. Please consult your own rav for guidance.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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Why Does Inspiration Always Fade? By Shmuel Reichman

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ave you ever noticed that everything worthwhile in life seems to fade? The energy of youth fades into old age; the excitement of beginnings fade into routine; the inspiration of a new goal fades into habit. This distressing experience extends to almost all dimensions of the human experience. When you begin a meal, the taste is delectable but after only a few bites, the food seems to lose its mouthwatering appeal. Did you ever hear a great song, immediately fall in love with it, and play it endlessly on repeat? After a few days, you probably couldn’t listen to it anymore. This once enchanting song somehow lost its appeal, and you were forced to move on to the next song. This numbing experience has its advantages as well. If you’ve ever heard a loud or disturbing sound, you may initially be annoyed or irritated. However, after a few moments, your senses become dulled and your mind is able to muffle and ignore the sound. The sound is still there, but the sensation has faded. The same is true with by physical

touch: only a few moments after getting dressed, you likely no longer notice the clothing you’re wearing. It’s still pressing against your body but the sensation has been filtered out, and you therefore pay no attention to it. This concept permeates all of human experience, leading us to question why Hashem created the world this way. Why did Hashem create a world in which delight, inspiration, and all physical sensation always appear to fade? What is the deep spiritual concept behind this phenomenon?

High to Low Before we answer our question, let’s take a deeper look at this pattern and how it plays out through the events in the Torah. In this week’s parsha, Klal Yisrael is experiencing the aftermath of Yetziyas Mitzrayim and Matan Torah. The first day of Pesach was the absolute pinnacle and climax of Yetzias Mitzrayim, the Exodus from Egypt. Hashem just revealed Himself to the world through the miracles and the Ten Plagues, and the Jewish peo-

ple were in the process of being born. Hashem Himself performed makkas bechoros, the plague of the firstborn, and the Jews were performing the mitzvos of korban Pesach and bris milah. The ba’alevi machshava describe this night as an absolute high for the Jewish people. It’s therefore astonishing that immediately following this elevated experience, the Jews descend into the midbar, the desert, and fall into total disarray. The midbar is a place of spiritual emptiness and the next forty days are defined by hardship, complaining, and spiritual challenge. Then, upon completing forty days, the Jews once again experience spiritual transcendence. The Jews receive the Torah at Har Sinai cementing their marriage relationship with Hashem and committing themselves to a destiny of greatness. There is an obvious question: why didn’t the Jews go straight from Mitzrayim to Matan Torah, from one high to the next? Why did they first have to go through such a low, losing everything they had gained on that first night of

Pesach? This difficult problem reoccurs once again in a famous passage in Niddah 30b. The Gemara discusses a very enigmatic tale describing the initial stages of formation. The Gemara explains that when you were just a fetus in womb of your mother, you were in a perfected and transcendent state of being. A malach was specifically assigned to teach you kol ha’Torah kulah, all of Torah. This means that as a fetus, you understood all of Torah and wisdom; you viewed reality through a crystal clear lens. However, the Gemara continues with an anticlimactic punch (literally): immediately prior to your birth, the malach strikes you on the mouth, causing you to forget everything you have learned. The obvious question is: why does the malach cause you to forget everything he just taught you? But even more importantly, if he’s going to make you forget it, then why did he even teach it to you in the first place? This is just like we saw previously: an inspirational

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high, followed by an all-time low. The high lasts just long enough for us to realize how low the fall has left us.

Three Stages The deep explanation behind this process is explained by the Arizal, the Ramchal, the Vilna Gaon, as well as many other Jewish thinkers. They expound as follows: every process contains three stages. The first stage is the high, the inspiration, an experience of perfection and clarity. Next comes the second stage: a complete fall, a loss of everything that was experienced in the first stage. Then we have the third stage, a return to the perfection of the first stage. However, this third stage is fundamentally different than the first. It is the same perfection, the same clarity, but this time it’s a perfection and clarity that you have earned. The first time it was given to you; now you have worked to build it for yourself. The first stage is a gift, a spiritual high. It’s there to help you experience the goal, the destination. It’s a taste of what you can and hopefully will ultimately accomplish, but it’s not real, it’s given as a gift, and is therefore an illusion. It serves only as a guiding force, but can’t compare to the genuine accomplishment of building something yourself. It’s therefore taken away to allow for the second and most important stage: building it yourself, undergoing the work required to attain this growth in actuality, to work for the perfection that you were shown. A gift isn’t real; something chosen and earned is. We’re in this world to choose, to assert our free will, and to create ourselves. Now that we’ve tasted the first stage, we know what we’re meant to choose, what we’re meant to build. The third stage is the recreation of the first stage. While it appears the same, it’s fundamentally different. It’s real; it’s earned; it’s yours. The first stage was a gift, an illusion; the third is the product born of the effort and time you invested. These three stages are the secret behind many spiritual concepts: Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov; chessed, din, and tiferes; male, female, and the child created from their bond of oneness.

Recreating Your Purpose Changing the way we view the human mind, the Vilna Gaon (as well

as the Rav, Rav Yosef B. Soloveichik) explains the Gemara in Niddah 30b according to this model. He explicates that the Torah you learned in the womb was not Chumash with Rashi. Rather, it means that you were learning your Torah; you were being shown your unique purpose in the world and how your unique role fits into the larger

recreation of the first stage, but earned, real. Only then was Klal Yisrael truly able to experience their connection and marriage with Hashem. This is the process of life. Inspiration, followed by hardship and difficulty, usually to the point where you hardly even remember that initial stage of excitement. The Rambam compares

You were being shown your unique purpose in the world and how your unique role fits into the larger scheme of the human story as a whole.

scheme of the human story as a whole. This Torah belongs to a different realm, a different dimension. You experienced ultimate transcendence, you learned Torah in its ultimate depth, and you learned who you could become in the deepest sense possible. You were given a taste of your own perfection, of what you could, should, and hopefully will become. But most importantly, you didn’t lose it; rather, you lost access to it. Instead of it disappearing completely, this state of self became buried deep within your subconscious. The reason is as follows: what you received in the womb wasn’t real, it was merely a gift; something unearned and undeserved. The goal of life is to enter into this world and reconstruct all that you once were in the womb. However, this time, it will be real, since you’ve built it yourself. In essence, your job in this world is not to create yourself, but rather to recreate yourself – to re-attain your original state of perfection, as you were shown by the malach. Returning to our original discussion, we can now understand why the Jewish people couldn’t go straight from Yetzias Mitzrayim to Matan Torah. The first night of Pesach was a spiritual high, a revelation of their ultimate destination, but it was a gift, unearned. They therefore had to go through the challenges of the midbar in order to rebuild and earn that initial stage. Matan Torah was the third stage, the

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idea where to go. Suddenly, there’s a flash of lightning, and he sees the path home, clear as day. A second later, the lightning fades and he’s left with only the memory of clarity to guide him back home. The lightning represents flashes of inspiration in a challenging and difficult world. The darkness represents the journey we must take to recreate that initial stage of inspiration. We must hold on to those flashes of lightning, understand our goal and destination, and then recreate that light within the darkness. For, one day, you will once again experience the clarity of that light. Except this time, it will be real, earned, never again fading away.

Shmuel Reichman is an inspirational speaker who has spoken internationally at shuls, conferences, and in Jewish communities. You can find more inspirational shiurim, videos, and articles from Shmuel on Facebook and Yutorah.org. For all questions, thoughts, or bookings, please email shmuelreichman678@gmail.com.

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Applied Integrity By Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe

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here is an old joke told about Albert Einstein. The world-renown physicist was pouring fresh cement in his driveway while chatting with his neighbor, Morris. “I tell you, Morris,” Einstein declared, “the most important thing a person can do for himself is to remain calm and in control of himself at all times and under every situation.” Just then, Susie, the little girl next door, was riding her bicycle and steered it right through the wet cement. Einstein turned red in the face and screamed, “Susie, how many times have I told you to watch what you’re doing? I can’t believe you could be so careless!” “Albert, Albert,” said Morris, “you just were instructing me on the importance of remaining in control at all times!” Einstein exclaimed in exasperation, “Yes, yes. But that was in theory, and this is in the concrete!” Often we have complete conviction to certain values that are inviolate in our minds. As Torah Jews, we usually know what we are supposed to do under most circumstances and how we should respond to a dilemma in a way that is consistent with Torah values. However, when faced with those same dilemmas in practice, it’s harder to always react properly and exercise our G-d-given free will. In Mich-

tav M’Eliyahu, Rav Dessler refers to this as being beyond our nikud ha’bechirah, as not registering within the threshold of making the very choices that define us as human beings and separates us from the instincts of animals. It is particularly crucial to instill this value of striving to choose correctly into our children and talmidim as they face their life challenges. Training them when they are young and when their challenges are typically not as great as they can be later in life can help them avoid dire consequences later on. Furthermore, we, as adults, must model this behavior for them to emulate. In my experience, I have found that there is no one more jaded than a cynical kid who has good reason to question the sincerity of those who are supposed to be guiding him. Someone I know well told me the following story that happened to him as a child of ten. In Canada, where he grew up, the third Monday of May is celebrated as Victoria Day, giving honor to the birthday of the British Queen Victoria. While the actual birthday of a deceased British monarch was not of great import to any Canadian child, the hallmark of the day was to celebrate through fireworks, much in the way of the 4th of July in the United States. And this boy loved fireworks. That very day, he and his father set out to purchase the package that they would use for their person-

al display that evening. If you’ve ever purchased a box of fireworks, you will know that while the packaging is very exciting and enticing, no matter how large the box is, the contents can be disappointing. As they perused the selections, his father found a $1.99 box (in other words, the chintzy one) that someone had opened, stuffed completely full of costly items, and closed back up. When he showed it to his son, pleased at the find, he was confused at the boy’s reaction, “We can’t take that. It would be stealing!” His father rationalized and told him that it wasn’t stealing since they hadn’t stuffed the box. The boy responded, “No, it wouldn’t be right. Let’s take the $9.99 jumbo package instead.” The father capitulated, but the boy knew that he was angry about it. To make matters worse, when they arrived home, his mother insisted that they go back to the store and exchange the larger box for the smaller one. Needless to say, they came back with a mostly empty $1.99 box. To be fair, money was tight for the family, and these parents were not raised in Torah observant homes. However, everything this boy had ever learned about morality, honesty and ethics – including knowing what was right and wrong in this situation – came from his parents. It’s difficult to imagine that these good people blew a chance of putting their values into practice for a mere eight bucks. But that’s just

what happened, and the story has been imprinted in the mind of this man fifty years after the event. The bracha in this case was that rather than become jaded, the boy became committed to an unusual degree of honesty and learned to navigate by his own moral compass. In my own life and professional career, inculcating this concept into my own children and talmidim has been an important chinuch goal. When my children were growing up, I always told them that if they did something improper and took ownership for their actions, I would tell them, “You might get punished, but I will respect you. However, if you to lie to me, I don’t really know who you are.” I often tell talmidim that if I were to lie to them just once, they would consider me a hypocrite – and rightly so. Why should I expect anything less from them? Some time ago, two boys were attempting to share information during an exam. One boy had asked the other for information, and the other was providing it. As per our standard policy, both boys received a failing grade on the exam and were admonished that their behavior was disappointing. At the same time, we made it clear that we were ready to move on and that there would be no further repercussions if it never happened again. While they received the consequences with equanimity, the mother of the boy

who had provided the answers questioned whether it was fair for him to receive a failing grade on the exam given that he knew the information. I responded that the grade was reflective of his dishonest behavior, not his knowledge. It was irrelevant whether he already knew the information. It occurred to me that an appropriate term for proper behavioral goals could be “applied integrity.” It’s great to know what to do in theory, but it is how we respond in practice that really matters. This is why soldiers drill repetitively and why martial artists repeat the same movements time and time again. Practical opportunities provide us the ability to translate theory into practical application. Applied integrity is the culmination of this process. I am proud of our students when they internalize this value, and I was never more proud than last Friday. That day, three young men, two of

them MAY freshmen, encountered a major nisayon in a bank parking lot. At their feet lay $8,000 in small bills. While there was a deposit slip with the money, there were no other identifying features, and I believe that this would be a significant test

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ings. Applied integrity. One of the workers in the bank commented, “No one in our circles would have done that.” It is inspiring that such an amazing kiddush Hashem should be the result from merely putting into practice what everyone knows

I would tell them, “You might get punished, but I will respect you. However, if you lie to me, I don’t really know who you are.”

for most people. But Zaki Kapetas, Shmuel Jacobs and Chaim Hecht didn’t hesitate. They took the money directly into the bank and returned it. No rationalizations. No misgiv-

is the right thing to do. So simple, yet so profound. This is the applied integrity that we seek to inculcate in our children and that the parents of those three

young men have succeeded in giving over. We can instill these values in our children and our talmidim. We can do it through teaching them but, more importantly, through leading by example, both personally and in business. We should hold them responsible when they err but also show them we believe they can do better. Most importantly, we have to make sure to transmit this critical message before the concrete in their minds and hearts quickly sets. Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe is the Rosh HaYeshiva of Ateres Yaakov, a local Mesivta (MAY) and Yeshiva Gedolah, with over 220 talmidim, and the rav of Kehillah Ateres Yaakov. Besides his decades as an experienced mechanech, Rabbi Yaffe holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and is licensed to practice in the State of New York. Any topics of interest, questions or comments can be sent to editor@fivetownsjewishhome. com.

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UNLOCKING GREATNESS THROUGHOUT THE YEAR Charlie Harary Talks with TJH about New Beginnings, the Keys to Success, and the Power of One Percent By Tammy Mark

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is a businessman, lawyer, professor, radio show host, and acclaimed speaker. A graduate of Columbia University Law School, he lectures around the world to diverse audiences on topics ranging from behavioral finance to personal growth to Torah and spirituality. Most recently, he added author to his resume with his new book, Unlocking Greatness: The Unexpected Journey from the Life You Have to the Life You Want. In between his book tour and speaking engagements, Harary makes time to deliver timely words of inspiration to the community. Sought after for his unique style and energetic delivery, his videos have received worldwide attention and have reached hundreds of thousands of people. With his intimate understanding of human nature, Harary has the exceptional ability to reframe ancient rituals with a fresh eye, leading his listeners to a renewed and deeper understanding of G-d and of themselves. While he is sought by religious organizations the world over to share his uplifting messages in order to reenergize our faith and spiritual work, he also focuses on how to elevate our daily lives in more material matters. Like our spiritual capacity, Harary believes that our personal potential is tremendous – just waiting to be actualized – and that certain basic principles are eternal and are able to be applied to almost any facet of life at any time. In Unlocking Greatness, Harary connects to our basic commonalities and utilizes a combination of personal anecdotes, daily observations, and groundbreaking scientific research to delve into the human psyche. He hones in on how we can discover our potential and helps outline a pathway to achieve it, incorporating lessons from rabbis, neuroscientists and athletes. Recently, we asked Mr. Harary to share some of his insights on how we can find more meaning in our lives, how to achieve our personal and professional goals in the year ahead, and, most importantly, what the biggest obstacles to success actually are.

You’re regularly called upon throughout the year to impart words of inspiration and encouragement to people from all walks of life. What are some of the general ideas that you try to relay to those who are searching for direction on how to make the best of the upcoming year? I think most people know what they need to do in order to take the next steps forward in their lives. The wisdom that we have inside us is much greater than we even appreciate. Hashem gives us the direction. What advice really is supposed to do is help marry the truths that you know deep down, buried beneath the emotion, the stress, the worry, the anxiety. The goal when it comes to advice is to help somebody recognize who they are. At the end of the day, if we had a real good sense of who we are – a piece of Hashem – we would look at the world with a set of eyes that were filled with resilience, that were filled with courage, and we would keep on pushing forward in overcoming our challenges. For most of the cases – of course, sometimes there are specific cases that are different – but for most of the cases what people really need is

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encouragement, and that encouragement is reminding them that they’re stronger than they think, that we are all basically the same, and that the best advice anyone can ever give is to put one foot in front of the next and keep on moving towards meaningful and purposeful goals. Many of us start off strong when embarking on a goal or setting a resolution but lose motivation after some time, especially if we don’t see measurable results. How can we stay on track and move forward without getting disheartened if we don’t seem to get where we want to be? The mistake that many people make is that they assume that results have to come quickly. If we have something pictured in our minds, we want it to happen immediately, so we create this unrealistic expectation for results, and if it doesn’t happen as quickly as we want then we get discouraged. The best way to maintain anything is progress; progress is the biggest motivator to the human. We love progress. When we get in a car we want to be on an open road; traffic kills us. We want to be in motion – being in motion feels good. Whenever you’re doing something you want to feel like you’re making progress, and you’re in motion. So what happens is, if you make huge strides too early and you can’t sustain it then you feel like you’re failing and then you give up. But if you structure your growth to be very, very small but consistent, you’ll always feel like you’re moving. I always tell people that every day should be “plus one.” For everything that you want to be accomplishing in your life, you want to have the discipline to accomplish one percent more every day. You shouldn’t do ten percent more, you shouldn’t do twenty percent more – don’t cram in life. Set a goal and if you’re one percent better at something every day, you’re making progress, and you’re going to want to continue that. It’s much better to be one percent every day than to be seven percent one day of the week because that motion will keep you going and it will give you that internal motivation. It will keep you going much longer than the emotions of motivation, which can seep away.

In your book you lay out a theory called “Be. Do. Have” and include exercises and action plans to find success in the areas of life that we may be lacking in. Would you be able to expand on the idea for readers and how we can begin to employ these strategies? A core reason why we’re not more successful is not because of lack of effort; it’s because of lack of clarity. When you’re not clear, you don’t really get the internal motivation to move forward and do things, and even when you’re doing things you don’t really feel like you’re accomplishing. A lot of it comes from this perception of “do, have, be,” which is, I’ve got to do a lot of things to have something so I can be something. That’s a common way that the world operates. When you’re young they tell you to do work, have good grades, be a good student. When you get to the job it’s do work, have money, be rich – the idea of being something seems like we’re waiting for the world to give to us. When we do enough actions, then we’ll have enough stuff, then we’ll show everybody, and then, if we have this stuff then I guess you’re the thing you want to be. Now this creates a huge ambiguity because we’re acting in a new way, but our minds are still the old self. So really, what it’s supposed to be is not “do, have, be” but “be, do, have” which is, we determine who we want to be and that’s who we are. “Who we are” comes from the place of our soul and that soul can change in a moment – that’s why we have Yom Kippur. We have the ability to literally change ourselves in a moment. Now, conditioning that change so it feels normal to us requires a lot of work, but we make the mistake in thinking it’s one and the same. Change happens in an instant; it’s one genuine, real, authentic decision to change, aka teshuva, and your neshama is not the same. So when somebody decides to change and now they’re changing their “be,” once you do that you have a perspective to look around and say, “If this is who I am, then how do these people [who are like the new me] act?” Then you have a new clarity of what those people do, which you start doing. It’s hard in the beginning, because you have a lot of neuroplasticity that

says otherwise, but if you hold on long enough what ends up happening is you will condition your mind to follow the core “be” of who you are. Then you’ll “have” the things you want to have, but it will be less relevant to you because in your core you’ll know who you are. When you follow the mechanism of “be, do, have” you can at any point change your life, and then gain a certain clarity as to how to make those changes. It’s still very hard work – but it’s just now much more purposeful and much more meaningful because it’s aligned with your inner “be” that you’re in control of, not the world. You speak a lot about the concept of neuroplasticity and the ability of the brain to adapt. Would you be able to tell us a little about that? In the book we go through it in depth, but neuroplasticity basically defines how our mind works, which is, when we have thoughts, these thoughts fire neurons in our brains and they create neuro-connections. So our knowledge and our memory are based on thoughts that we, so to speak, create and then it solidifies in our mind. When we want to make change, the more you do something, the more that change becomes solidified in your thinking, in your mind, and then it feels more like you. Therefore, your mind is much more in your control than you would think – and every second of every day we’re solidifying our brain into moving in a certain direction. Our real goal is to take control of that and solidify it in the right direction. You lecture to audiences around the world on the secrets of success and how to achieve goals and meet so many people in your travels. What seems to be the biggest obstacles in meeting their goals that people encounter? Do you find certain issues to be more common and pervasive? The biggest obstacle by far that I’ve ever seen is oneself. It’s really this internal struggle of comfort and our love of being comfortable. We love feeling comfortable; we yearn for it. What’s better than getting upgraded to first class? What’s better than having very little to do? We love staying in bed late,

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we love having easy conversations, we love surrounding ourselves with people who agree with us, we love when life doesn’t throw us any challenges. We get so conditioned to that that we yearn for it. It’s the number one cause of mediocrity in the world, because at the end of the day, greatness is the product of deliberate discomfort. As we look around, we often discount that, but if you look at somebody who has true greatness, they worked for it, they sweated for it – and it’s in that sweat and that toil that they find who they are. There are a lot of people who have easier lives, and yet they have this fear in them that they’re not who they could be. It’s scary to do things that are hard – to stay up late, have tough conversations, try new ideas, and voice your opinion. They’re scary

“If we had a real good sense of who we are – a piece of Hashem – we would look at the world with a set of eyes that were filled with resilience, that were filled with courage…”

things so most people don’t do them, so around and around they go. As for common obstacles – time is a big one. We live in a world where everything happens a million miles a minute, and we all feel like we have to be catching up. We take our brains, and we put it almost on a slow jog on the treadmill of life and we never catch our

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minds, we never catch our breath, so we can’t stop and we can’t slow down. Another one is chasing other people – that’s a big deal – trying to catch up always. When we’re running and chasing, we’re sort of conditioning ourselves to the need of always being stimulated, so it’s hard to dig deep, it’s really hard to dig in. It’s hard to do things that are very meaningful because that requires a lot of resilience, a lot of strength and a lot of thought, and in today’s day and age it’s hard to get that because we’re buzzing and beeping all day. You’ve been hosting a show on the radio for several years and have created numerous videos and podcasts dedicated to achieving success. What topic on the Unlocking Greatness podcast would you say has received the most feedback? I did a show on personality testing. I’m very into understanding oneself through data. I did a show on understanding who you are, and I got a lot of feedback from that. People know that they are unique, and today there are so many tools that can help you figure that out, both from an individual perspective and from a company perspective. The ability that we have, and the information out there that’s available

“There is no bigger inspiration than progress.”

to us that we’re not accessing, is exciting to people. Self-discovery is a major aspect of greatness. Knowing who you are, being very aware of your talents and of your weaknesses, not being scared by them, not being overwhelmed by them and just being aware of them is critical. The more you know your limitations, the more you know who to relate to, especially from a business perspective, so you can accomplish bigger things.

As a husband, father and active community member, you can relate to the multitude of obligations that require our attention and energy. Both men and women struggle to balance a career and a busy family life. Do you have any advice on how we can attempt to balance it all? The principle is to never multitask, always switch tasks instead. Some of the busiest people I know who have a thousand things on their plate, if they’re successful, usually they’re not multitasking. Our brain only gives us a certain amount of stimuli that we can take in per second; you don’t get more than that. It’s a small window, so if you divide that up you’re not achieving any level of quality in anything you’re doing. What you need to do is – as opposed to dividing everything in one shot – you need to switch your tasks. So when you’re engaged in something, you give everything to that thing for as ever long as you’re doing that thing. I have a chapter on this in the book called “Finding Flow in an Overstimulated World.” If what you’re doing is switch-tasking and every task you do, while you’re doing it, you’re giving it 1,000 percent, you’re able to achieve a higher level of quality while you’re doing what you’re doing. Everything you’re doing will be much deeper. When you’re in the office, you’re not online. When you’re in your house,

you’re not on your phone. When you’re playing with your kids, you’re on the floor. When you’re davening, you’re all in. Whatever you’re doing, if you can just take the thing you’re doing and put a little gate around it and say, “While I do this, I’m all in.” You may not do it for a very long time every day, but when you’re doing it, you’re going to do it with such intensity that you’ll get exponentially more out of the experience – and so will everybody around you. One five-minute conversation with your teenage kid at the end of the night, if you’re fully in that conversation, can have a greater impact than taking them to a game and spending the whole time on the phone because we crave quality. One half-hour session doing your emails a day can be much more effective than keeping it the entire day and always having those five emails that never really get done. When we never sacrifice quality do we make better decisions in our priority list and do we have more impact if we can’t give a lot of time to the thing that we are doing? What advice can you offer to people who find it difficult to carry all of the responsibilities of today’s modern world to help them be able to find meaning in life? How do you find meaning in life? You have to slow down. It’s not an easy thing but you cannot find meaning while speeding, it doesn’t work. Speed-

ing is to get through things; speeding is practical and pragmatic. Meaning is deep. If you want to have meaning in anything you have to do that thing in a slow and deliberate way. If you want to find meaning in davening, you have to take one tefillah – it could be every day or every week – and slow it down. If you want to find meaning in your job, you have to do it slow, just slow down. If there’s no time in your day where your brain is going at a pace in which you can think, you cannot process things in a deep way and you cannot draw meaning out of the thing. Remember, meaning is when you can draw something deeper out of what you’re engaged in. That’s where meaning comes from, and if you can’t slow down to think through what you’re doing, how in the world can you draw meaning doing it? That’s really one of our great challenges that we all have to fight against. If we operate too quickly, we can’t find meaning in things, so we stay on the surface. So since we stay at the surface we don’t have deep connections and then we’re quick to move on, because we’re not deeply connected and we don’t have the head space. There’s a tremendous opportunity that we have in the world today that people don’t realize, that if you become a person of quality, it’s going to look like you’re sacrificing quantity but you’re going to make it back tenfold because the world is clamoring for it – in business, in family, in careers, you name it. Right now, the markets are clamoring for quality and if we become people of quality, at first it’s going to be weird because we’ll have less quantity – we’ll have less things we see and less things we post and less conversations that we have – but at the end of the day we’re going to see the world in such a different perspective. And by the way, ideally that’s what Hashem is pushing us towards. Hashem is always slowing us down, always. In the middle of your busy day, Hashem is saying, “Slow down, come talk to Me.” In the morning, slow down, when you say brochos – don’t eat, slow down. Every week on Shabbos – slow down, very important – slow down. Hashem is always slowing us down because Hashem wants us to be deep people. Depth comes when we slow down and we savor things – physical-

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ly or spiritually – it happens in both worlds when we allow whatever we’re doing to be experienced properly. And when that happens the whole world is open to us. Can we also find more joy in our day-to-day lives? It’s hard to. Understand that it’s hard to. It’s really hard to find joy if you’re racing – it’s nearly impossible. When someone is in the rat race, what they’re doing is they’re competing and when you’re competing, the joy is in the competition, so there’s nothing that you’re getting that’s going to make you feel good. The joy is winning – which, it’s fun to compete – but if it becomes chronic then at some point you just can’t stop and you haven’t enjoyed along the way. Joy, I believe, comes from always checking that we’re not taking anything for granted. The most joyous people are the most grateful. When you see somebody that’s grateful, that person has the best life in regards to what’s going on around them because gratitude enables us to connect both to the thing and to the giver. So, when someone is grateful they’re connected to, for example, the ice cream and they’re enjoying it, and they’re connecting with mom and dad who bought it for them. They’re connected to the eyesight and they’re connected to Hashem. Grateful people never take their lives for granted, so as a result the gratitude, the expressed gratitude, not only gives them the ability to enjoy the thing, it gives them the relationship as well and it’s a double benefit. Joy comes honestly when you’re grateful and it comes when you’re disciplined enough to experience and savor the pleasure. You can’t just run through it. Throughout the year you talk a lot about having a relationship with Hashem. Creating a relationship with Hashem is the number one job of a Jew, in my opinion. It is the most challenging, rewarding and exhilarating thing that we do. Hashem is infinite, He’s unknowable, yet we know that we have some connection, there is a piece of Him inside us. Hashem has told us again and again how much He desires a relationship with us. The mere recognition of that fact – that the

Creator of humanity for some reason desires us – is the most mind-blowing insight that one could ever process. Just thinking about that every day can give us more strength than we could ever imagine, and when a person contemplates the level of love and desire that Hashem has for us, it will open their eyes to wanting to connect to Him in all the myriad of ways that they can. It’s hard to grasp that, it’s hard to think about that and it’s hard to remember it, but it is a total game changer if we condition that into our daily thinking. How does self-growth and self-actualization connect to creating a relationship with Hashem? That’s what self-actualization is. Self-actualization is the actualizing of the divineness that’s inside us to the world around us. At the core of what it means to actualize self – it doesn’t mean to actualize ourselves in our pursuit of more stuff – nobody who has more stuff feels more self-actualized they just keep on looking for more stuff. The self that we want to actualize is our spiritual self, it’s the piece of us that’s connected to Hashem, it’s the piece of us that we know comes from Him, and when we dig into it and touch it and feel it and we live it, we know were being actualized. Our talents, our challenges, our ups and our downs, when you realize that they are all from Hashem, then you see your life as this great process of bringing out who you are, through the ups and the downs. That’s why people who are very connected to Hashem have an incredible amount of resilience and gratitude because it all flows from that one place of living in the deepest part of your soul and not from the surface of your body. Your book can be found under different genres in the bookstores – at Barnes & Noble in the business section and in the selfgrowth section, in the Judaica store in the spiritual section. Do the same principles really apply across the board? Of course. The most beautiful thing about the world is that it’s based on principles. Hashem created the world through principles – “histakel be’oray-

sa u’bara olma” – and the world is based on principles, so much of what makes sense in one area makes sense in another area. I believe it derives all from Torah, but you can apply it across the board. The underlying success of the family, if you really take out the principle and move out the facts, that same underlying principle will have an incredibly positive impact on a business. The same that gets some young kid to become a Pro-Bowl football player is the same thing that’s going to get somebody else to achieve more in their own studies. There are certain basic fundamental principles of how our mind works, how our body works, and how our soul works, that if you get to the principle you can apply it across the board. That’s one of the things that we all have to be searching for – we can’t get stuck at the surface – all of us search for depth and we say, “If I learned it in this area why didn’t I learn it in another area too?” You realize, “I got it, I learned it already, now let me just move it over.” That’s how we grow through everything in life. Although January is a great time of year to take on something new, it can also be difficult to maintain our energy throughout the darker and more mundane days of winter. What are some ways to find inspiration during the long stretch between the yomim tovim? The best way to do it is to create an ambitious but realistic goal for Pesach. That’s the best. Take something, think of who you want to be, think of an aspect of yourself that you’d be proud of if you sat at your seder table and you had it. Whatever it may be – whether it’s physical or it’s spiritual, whether it’s being more connected to Hashem or losing weight, whether it’s being a better mom or making more money – whatever it is. Picture yourself at the seder and ask yourself, “When I’m there what do I want to look like?” Pick one new “be” and see if you can create a daily habit today that will take you one percent or a quarter of a percent closer every day. If a person is able to see themselves at the seder and use that as a visual landmark – not a date two years from now – and say, “I know where I’m go-

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ing to be. I’m making my plans now. I can picture the chair I’m sitting in, I can picture what I’m wearing, and I see myself and here’s what I want when I get there. I want to have become this,” then all you have to do every day between now and then is get one percent closer, and no days off.

“For everything that you want to be accomplishing in your life, you want to have the discipline to accomplish one percent more every day.”

And if you do that, what will happen is you’ll start to inculcate this idea of one percent, this idea of habit forming, and it will become so internally inspiring that you’ll start to take on new things. Just being able to feel that one can grow in a direction that they set for themselves is such an empowering experience – to be able to say, “Here’s my goal. Every day I’m going to put one percent in.” The experience of just growing in a purposeful goal is empowering. Hopefully these goals are both meaningful and purposeful, but as long as they’re purposeful and intentional and you’re moving in that direction every day, you’re going to feel inspired – because there is no bigger inspiration than progress. For more lessons and videos on unlocking greatness from Charlie Harary, visit charlieharary.com and unlockinggreatnessbook.com.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

I just went out with Suri for the second time. Her entire family was sitting around the living room when I showed up to pick her up. I was encouraged to take a seat, and we all sat around for a while schmoozing. It was very nice and comfortable, and her siblings are all very outgoing and all participated in the conversation.

Suri has an older sister – by 15 months – who is single and was part of the discussion. I found myself very drawn to her sister. Something about her personality, style, looks and overall impression struck me in a very powerful way. When we finally left to go out on our date, I found myself thinking a lot about her sister and about the fact that I found her so much more engaging than Suri. I know this is a crazy letter – I hear it even as I’m writing it. But Suri pales in comparison to her sister. I liked Suri enough on our first date and agreed to go out a second time to see where it could go, but I wasn’t smitten by her the way I’m feeling about her sister. Do I have the right to react this way? And if it’s not totally crazy, what can I possibly do about this? I know now that Suri is not for me, so whether or not I act on my feelings will not make a difference in terms of me going out with Suri again. Maybe the lesson I was supposed to take from this is that there are women out there who bring out more in me, but I nevertheless am curious to know if I need to just walk away or if I can find a way to go out with Suri’s sister.

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conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. am going to respond the way I did previously to a similar query. You can tell the shadchan or person that fixed you up with Suri that you would be interested in dating her sister in the future. You need to give this some time before this is acted upon, however. It may not feel comfortable for either of them but the person in between can feel out the situation for a future date. It’s common for girls to recommend a guy for their sister(s) after dating and for it to work out. But in this case, if the girl doesn’t do it, the shadchan may be able to do so after a while. Be respectful and sensitive but you can try to arrange for a date in the fu-

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ture. One final thing: your language is rather striking. “You were smitten…” Being drawn to someone and being engaged by her is OK. Being smitten from a brief conversation in the living room sounds dramatic. Ask yourself why. What is it about her? What qualities did you see beyond looks? What does this say about you? What are your criteria for a relationship beyond externals?

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. ell me something. When you walked into Suri’s house was someone frying flounder? ‘Cuz I’m smelling

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something fishy in that living room. Why would this oh-so-happy-family expose you to the gantze mishpacha on Suri’s Date Number Two? Were they deliberately looking to confuse you by introducing you to the “older,” more vivacious sister? It’s called the old “bait and switch,” a ploy made famous by our great-great-great-grandfather, Lavan. Hopefully, you may not be asked to wait seven years, still, if you are sincerely interested in Suri’s sister (hereon referred to as Vivacious Sister), I suggest you wait a while (a few weeks to a couple of months) before you proceed to ask the same shadchan to set you up. By then, Suri may have recovered from your rejection; although, frankly, she may have felt as lukewarm about you – considering you were obsessing over her prettier, more personable sibling. She may have sensed your distraction

We can’t stop our feelings and, in fact, we should listen to our hearts.

and rated you three-thumbs-down to her family (“he’s a terrible date; had nothing interesting to say; mind kept wandering”) thus sabotaging your chances with Vivacious Sister. But then again, now that you’ve been introduced to the entire family, Vivacious Sister may overrule Suri’s objections (tactfully, I hope) and give you the green light. Now that I think about it, this

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may have been the family’s objective in the first place. Hmmm, now I’m confused…

The Shadchan Michelle Mond ou sound like a mature, self-aware young man who has involuntarily entered a sticky situation. Whether placing you in the situation – sitting around and speaking with the whole family – was the right thing is a matter of discussion, but it wasn’t a decision you made. However, you have to deal with the aftermath! The good news is, as you were aware, this might be a blessing in disguise. Now that you’ve answered the question of whether you and Suri are

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right for each other (whether your attraction toward Big Sister played a role is irrelevant), it is perfectly reasonable to give it a few weeks, approach the shadchan who originally set you up with Suri, and fully explain the situation. There is no reason to feel guilty; remember, you are on a quest to find your zivug. If you think you and Big Sis were meant for each other, then there’s only one way to find out. Being involved in shidduchim has shown me time and time again that the hashgacha pratis involved has no bounds! This could just be one of those “crazy” stories that actually works out. Realize that the shidduch process is a journey. By the time you meet your zivug, every date you will have gone on will have taught you indelible lessons that will have brought you closer to your bashert. The above events helped

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clarify the type of personality you feel drawn to in a potential wife. Hatzlacha!

The Single Tova Wein n the surface, your story sounds a bit off, in some inexplicable way. My immediate reaction is to feel sorry for Suri, to resent her parents for allowing you to cozy up to her sister, and to think of you in unflattering terms. But upon closer observation and a more logical thought process, I understand that we can’t stop our feelings and, in fact, we should listen to our hearts. With or without meeting Suri’s older sister, it sounds as though it was just a matter of time until you realized that you and Suri had no chemistry and no reason to continue dating after one or two more dates. So clearly there is no future for the two of you. Regarding her sister, there is no reason not to pursue the

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possibility of being set up with her in a respectful amount of time, and it will depend greatly on how both Suri’s parents and her sister react to your request. They may find it odd or perhaps be open-minded to a not-so-typical situation. But it’s certainly worth pursuing. Maybe her sister seems so appealing because in the moment she was the forbidden fruit or maybe there was something special in how the two of you connected. But you’ll never get a shot at possibly knowing if you don’t at least try.

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’m putting my dating coach hat on for this one. Therapist hat is tossed. No, you’re not a bad guy. You’re human. Unless you told me that this happens all the time and you enjoy dating the sisters of the women you have dated, I have no reason to suspect you are a “bad guy.” If anything, writing in and asking the question shows me that you are torn. You have feelings. You have a conscience. You’re a good guy! This situation must be approached with extreme sensitivity. Suri and the woman you are interested in are sisters. They may be close, or they may be competitive, or they may be both. Even if Suri will be happy for her sister, there will be a feeling of disappointment that it isn’t her. That’s just human nature.

I agree w ith Sarah Schwar tz Schreiber in that I, too, feel as though something fishy may have been going on when they had their other daughter present for the meeting. There are other alternatives that include optimism or naivete. I feel pretty conflicted about sharing the following analogy, but here I go. Have you ever gone into an ice cream shop wanting a scoop of delicious cookies ‘n cream but then you get there and you see the brownie a la mode? And now you’re not so sure. Why put out the delicious Brownies a la Mode when it’s time for the delightful Cookies ‘n Cream to shine? I’m

not comparing women to ice cream. If you were a woman writing in about two brothers, the same analogy would apply. Regardless of why she was there, she was. And you like her. You can’t stop thinking about her. Your first step is to speak with the shadchan and tell him/her the situation. Make it very clear that Suri is a lovely young woman but you don’t feel the connection. I recommend taking our shadchan’s advice about how to proceed in your quest to date Suri’s sister. Approach the eventual conversation humbly and modestly. You may even want to tell her about your discomfort pursuing this. This will highlight your awareness and will signal to the family that you are not a “bad guy,” but a good guy with a conscience. Ask if the family would be open to you dating their other daugh-

ter. Tell her that everyone’s comfort level is of paramount importance to you. Understand though, that sometimes family dynamics are complicated, so they may not give you the green light. I hope the family allows the date to happen! All the best, Jennifer Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.

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Dr. Deb

How Compassion Saves You a Lot of Pain By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

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e was beside himself. At four in the morning, Steve got a call from the police. His wife was out cold behind the steering wheel of her car which was that close to being completely wrapped around a tree. He could feel his breath come in short spurts. He was expecting this. But you can’t ever prepare. He pulled his winter coat over his pajamas and slipped quickly into his shoes. Out the door in the cold winter night, he realized he forgot his socks. There were some inappropriate words going through his head and he knew he needed to keep them in check. But boy, was he mad. She is the angry one; he is the one trying to keep the marriage together, and she cannot and will not stop drinking. She refuses to go to rehab. She refuses, like all alcoholics, to admit a problem. And Dr. Deb has the utmost gall to tell him he needs to be compassionate? Then there was Margie. She could not seem to break up with her abuser. He had the nerve to entertain to be inappropriate with the relationship.

Imagine that! He did not hide it. And yet, he expected her to stick with him forever. What a nerve. She even got a restraining order against him the time he slashed her tires for trying to break up with him. And Dr. Deb has the nerve to tell her she needs to be compassionate? There was Mike who needed and wanted – desperately – a few minutes to himself. He did everything for the family. Everything. He worked full time, he cooked, he cleaned, he washed dishes. He took the kids to school and sat with them over homework. And where, exactly, was Mary all this time? Angry. Hurt. Wanting to give up on the marriage. And here comes Dr. Deb telling each of them they have to be compassionate? Wait! Do you see a pattern here? I hope you do. Compassion is what fixes everything. Compassion is the healing tool that will make the pain subside, make the

hatred dissipate, make the sense of loss and hopelessness go away, make you feel like you are on top of your game no matter what. Now, you’re asking, “Wait a minute. Are you telling me that if I’m compassionate, my wife will stop drinking?” “If I’m compassionate, my abuser will become rational and not hold it against me for breaking up?” “If I’m compassionate, my wife will call off the divorce and suddenly be happy?” “What are you, crazy?” No. No. And no. I am not saying any such thing. We all have free choice and the alcoholic will decide to stop – or not. Compassion could help, yes. But that is not the reason it is necessary. The irrational person may put down his defenses and look more rationally at the situation if he’s treated with compassion, yes. But that is not the reason I’m saying it’s indispensable to a marriage – or to any relationship, really. I’m saying that compassion will set YOU free. Let me explain. Step One is to get yourself to a place

of recognizing that the person who hurt you is missing something vital in her or his makeup. Think about this logically: There are many ways to accomplish goals. Nike sells sneakers – even expensive ones – by making owners of those sneakers feel special. When you buy a pair, you become a special athlete able to leap tall buildings at a single bound, or something like that. In any case, Nike has a talent – they make money by getting you to want to spend it. The opposite of that approach is people who are called “controlling” or “aggressive” or “abusive” and so on. They want to do the same thing! They want you to want what they’re “selling” – their ideas, their decisions, them. And they don’t know how to do that. They don’t have Nike’s talents. So Step One is very realistic. It’s to acknowledge that they simply don’t know how to be a winner with you. Now, you may disagree. You may say, “But I told them….” “Telling” doesn’t work, as you have found out. People do not learn by robot-

ically following directions. They have to feel the truth of it deep inside; it has to make sense according to how they’ve already experienced the world. As an example, I can tell you, here in these articles, to embrace life and be happy. But if that is not your experience of it, you will be confused about how to go about it, or worse, you will be angry because my telling doesn’t help. And frustrated people don’t necessarily reach out for the help they need. It all makes sense: they didn’t know better. They “know” in their heads, let’s say, but not in their hearts. Step Two is to not only recognize this but also recognize that if they are missing something, then they are not whole. And they certainly are not happy. They are missing tools to be the human being they were meant to be, to get along, to live life to its fullest – in short, to be happy. Yes, they are making you unhappy, but that isn’t all. They’re unhappy living in their own skin. Can you see that? Can you deeply feel the sense of how

bitter their lives are? So Step Three is to feel compassion for them because they are not whole and not happy. And, with it, to feel deep gratitude that you have these very skills and tools that they are missing. Compassion for another always goes along with appreciation to the Master for what we do have.

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this, they aren’t happy themselves. In fact, they are not even happy or relieved to mistreat you. If you ask them why they did it, they will often say, “So she knows how I feel,” “So he feels my pain.” And then you can allow your heart to feel great compassion for their missing pieces and also great gratitude that

Compassion is what fixes everything.

So instead of being angry, bitter, depressed, frightened, frustrated, or bursting with rage because of the horrible things they did to you, you can focus on what they’re missing that caused them to do those horrible things. You can focus on the fact that because of

you are not missing these things. When you allow that into yourself, you get beyond the moment, you get beyond the normal but very unhelpful reaction of wanting to strike back. (Not only does striking back lower you to their level and not accomplish anything anyway

– if anything it escalates the problem – but as I’m saying here, you feel worse because of it.) You get to a place of inner peace. This is what people in successful marriages do automatically. This is truly taking care of yourself. And of course, if anything, it prevents escalation of the problem with the person who harmed you. But at best, it is altogether possible that your peaceful center becomes a source of interest and curiosity to the spouses of Steve, Margie, and Mike. They will most likely want to feel that inner peace themselves. Dr. Deb is a Marriage & Family Therapist. Book a consultation with her to get clarity on the issues in your marriage and learn about her innovative program at: https:// drdeb.com/book. To book a call with Dr. Deb, go to her scheduler, https://drdeb. com/book, but if you want more information about her new program, please first watch the Masterclass on “Getting The Marriage You Want” at http://drdeb.com/ myw-masterclass.

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Health & F tness

Now You Know Your ABCs By Aliza Beer MS, RD

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he foods we eat provide our bodies with nourishing compounds called vitamins. Everyone has heard of them but not many people can actually define what they are and what they do. In short, a vitamin is an organic compound that possesses unique qualities for sustaining life. Not only do vitamins support a healthy metabolism, vitamins can also prevent diseases and aid the body in a myriad of functions. There are 13 vitamins that are classified as essential. This means your body does not produce them on its own and thus need to be obtained through your diet. Not every vitamin, however, does the same thing. Each one has its own unique properties and sources. Some vitamins are water-soluble. This means they are easily dissolved in water. Because excess water-soluble vitamins pass through our digestive tract easily, they need to be consumed more regularly than the second type: fat-soluble. Any fat-soluble vitamins that are not used right away are stored for later use in our fat tissue and aren’t needed as regularly. In order to ensure you’re getting your proper vitamin intake, here is a list of the ones you need with their functions and sources:

Vitamin A Also known as retinoids and carotene, vitamin A, a fat-soluble vitamin, is all about vision, tissue, and cell health. Beta-carotene can ward

off free-radicals, which can cause disease. A carrot a day keeps the eye doctor away. Carotene is great for eyesight and may prevent cataracts and night-blindness. Sources of carotene include orange veggies like carrots, sweet potatoes, pumpkin and squash. Retinoids are great for skin health and can help your body produce new cells. These are found in liver, fish, and eggs.

Vitamin B1 , B2, and B3

Vitamins B1 , B2, and B3 are also known as thiamin, riboflavin, and niacin, respectively. All B vitamins are water-soluble. These vitamins play an important role in the conversion of food, specifically carbs, to energy. They’re also critical for normal brain and nerve function, healthy skin and hair, and production of blood cells. Vitamin B1 can be found in brown rice (not white rice, which strips all nutrients), as well as other whole grains, watermelon, and soymilk. Vitamin B2 can be found in milk, yogurt, and cheese. Vitamin B3 can be found in lean meat, chicken, and fish.

Vitamin B5

Similar to the B vitamins mentioned above, B5 is useful in converting nutrients to energy, specifically fats. Additionally, vitamin B5 (also known as pantothenic acids) assists the body in synthesizing cholesterol. Good sources include whole grains, eggs, chicken, and avocados.

Vitamin B6 and B12

Both of these vitamins may lower the risk of heart disease. Vitamin B6 plays a role in your mood, sleep, and appetite by aiding in the conversion of tryptophan to serotonin, the neurotransmitter partially responsible for happy feelings. Vitamin B12 helps the body create and protect new cells. Many people do not get enough B6 in their diet. Sources include fish, chicken, and soy products. Organic tofu is a great way to get an added boost of B6. Vitamin B12 is mainly found in animal products like meat, chicken, fish, eggs, and certain dairy products. Vegans should probably take a supplement to ensure they are getting enough in their diets.

Vitamin B7

Biotin is indeed one of the important B vitamins. Like the others, biotin aids in the conversion of food into energy, specifically glucose. Biotin promotes healthy hair, skin, and nails, so make sure you’re getting adequate amounts, especially during dry winter months. Sources include whole grains and egg yolks.

Vitamin B9

Also known as folic acid, this vitamin is important for women who are expecting or planning to get pregnant. Folic acid aids in cell production and growth and can assist in cancer prevention. Getting adequate amounts of folic acid can

help prevent spinal birth defects in pregnant women. Good sources include leafy greens like spinach and kale and whole grain products.

Vitamin C Vitamin C, another water-soluble vitamin, is known for its powerful antioxidant properties. It can also aid in iron absorption, so if you are anemic and require iron supplementation, take the iron pill together with vitamin C. Vitamin C can help your body properly heal cuts and wounds by assisting in collagen production. Make sure you are getting a minimum of 75 to 90 mg of vitamin C a day. I personally take 2000 mg a day in the winter to help ward off colds. A well-known source of vitamin C is citrus fruits, such as oranges and tangerines, but you can also find it in potatoes, broccoli, peppers, spinach, and loads of other veggies.

Vitamin D Calcium is often taken in supplement form with vitamin D. Vitamin D helps the body absorb calcium which helps keeps your bones and pearly whites healthy and strong. Vitamin D, a fat-soluble vitamin, is one of the vitamins that isn’t really found in our diets. Your body can produce a portion of its daily required amount. However, we get our main fix from exposure to sunlight. During the winter months, when sun exposure is limited, your

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doctor or dietician may advise a supplement. Some foods that have vitamin D are fatty fish like salmon, milk, and eggs.

Vitamin K

they are often absorbed and better utilized when they come from food and not in a supplement form. Vitamins are very necessary for our immune systems, brain function, and cell maintenance, as well as many other body processes. Some people cannot obtain all of their vitamins through diet and must instead revert to supplements. It’s important to always consult with your doctor or dietician before taking any supplements. Taking an excess of vitamins may sometimes have a detrimental effect and can also interfere with certain medications. You may or may not be deficient, so always ask and check with your physician.

Vitamin K, another fat-soluble vitamin, is used in many medications that prevent blood thinning. It has also been used topically to treat rosacea, spider veins, and other skin conditions. As is the case with Vitamin D, your body can produce some of its required vitamin K. You can get the rest by eating foods in

Aliza Beer is a registered dietitian with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@gmail.com, and you can follow her on Instagram at @alizabeer.

Vitamin E Similar to vitamin C, vitamin E is also an antioxidant and helps prevent free-radicals from damaging cells. Evidence has shown that diets rich in vitamin E can help prevent Alzheimer’s disease, although the data is not yet conclusive. Vitamin E is a fat-soluble vitamin. Good sources include olive oil, leafy greens, whole grains, and nuts.

the cabbage family and leafy greens like kale. What you eat affects how you func-

tion mentally and physically now and in the future. Vitamins are not only found in fun gummy shapes but also in a wide variety of foods, and

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Health & F tness

What Your Posture Says About You By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

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aise the metaphorical hand if, when you were growing up, your parent or grandparent poked a finger in your back, admonishing to stand taller and straighter. Both my late mother, a”h, and grandmother, a”h, did it to me. More than once. Sitting and standing straight is not only about appearances. Let’s admit that a person with proper posture commands respect and is nice to look at. Good posture means being aware of always holding yourself in a way that puts the least strain on your back or whatever you are doing. Sitting and standing in alignment with proper postural alignment will allow one to work more efficiently and with less fatigue on the body’s ligaments and muscles. Being aware of good posture is the first step to breaking old poor postural habits and reducing the stress and strain on the spine. Why are our spines important? The spinal cord provides a vital link between the brain and the rest of the body. It is also an essential part of the central nervous system. In reality, your spine is the backbone of every move that your body makes and affects your body’s ability to sleep and function properly. Because every move

emanates from it, including walking, bending to pick up objects, putting on socks, and twisting your neck, you should take care of your upper (cervical) and lower (lumbar) spine, regardless of whether you are a lawyer, rebbe, therapist, businessperson or a weekend jock. Posture is the position in which you hold your body upright against gravity while standing, sitting, or lying down. Proper posture keeps bones and joints in correct alignment so that muscles are used properly. It helps to decrease the abnormal wearing of joint surfaces that could result in the painful condition known as arthritis. It can decrease the stress on ligaments holding the joints of the spine together. Proper posture is also preventative. It prevents the spine from becoming fixed in abnormal positions. It can thwart muscle fatigue by using muscles more efficiently which can mean less energy is expended. This includes backache and muscular pain and strain. Further, when you have proper posture, in addition to helping your back and muscles, you are preventing your organs from being squashed. A constant slump smashes your organs together, which can strain your lungs

and intestines. Over time, you may find it harder to breathe or to digest food. Abnormal bone growth, which is difficult to correct, may also result from poor posture. Regarding toddlers and posture, the variations with foot and leg posture are normal. You may notice flat feet at this age. Most children develop the arch in the foot by ages 5-6 years. Knocked knees are also normal. While most cases are resolved around 7 years of age, it’s important that you and the pediatrician monitor it, especially if knocked knees are combined with flat feet. Is your baby “W” sitting? This is a common position in older babies and toddlers who are learning how to move in and out of a sitting position. It is also the preferred sitting position for children with developmental delays since they have tight muscles around their knees and hips as well as low muscle tone and weak trunk muscles. W-sitting offers a broader base of support that makes a child feel more stable while sitting and playing. While this sounds good, it should be allowed to happen only minimally because done for longer periods of time over time there can be negative effects.

How? A child’s hips rotate inwards while in the W-sitting position, and this can be carried over to a standing position. Kids are much more flexible than adults, and, as a result, their thighs, when standing, can be internally rotated and toes are turned in. They cannot get out of the W-sitting position. Further, W-sitting does not encourage trunk rotation. This means that children cannot turn easily from sideto-side. The result: these children are not building their stomach and back muscles. They lack learning in how to shift their weight and practice at crossing the midline of their body. W-sitting makes children sedentary so they are limited in what they can do. An antidote to W-sitting is to encourage kneeling or sitting with legs crossed, with the legs forming a circle. Another culprit at this stage can be the wrong car seats, strollers and faulty beds. Babies can learn to sit up by planting their weight on their sacrum, a part of the pelvis, at the correct angle in order to support the spine. At your children’s annual well visits, make sure your pediatrician checks the spines for scoliosis and kyphosis. Today, pediatricians are seeing early-onset diabetes and heart disease,

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diseases that in previous generations were associated with “older people.” Unfortunately, we are seeing early signs of aging in the structural body as well. David Varnes, a children’s judo instructor, describes the “F-Shoulder Plague.” When you look at a child from the side, you will notice that starting at about the mid-back, the body takes a curve forward, ending in a head that is held a few inches from the collarbone. Some people call it “text neck.” An improper arching of the lower back region which can lead, in turn, to foot imbalances, i.e., pigeon-toed. I can’t help but think about our boys and their long hours in shiur. Couple this with way too many hours spent hunched over cellphones, iPads

Encourage martial arts and/or dance. Role model for your children proper sitting at a desk: sit all the way back in your chair. Place a small, rolled-up towel or lumbar cushion behind your mid-back to protect your spine’s natural curve. Bend your knees at a right angle and keep them the same height or a bit higher than your hips. Place your feet flat on the floor. Ladies, save the stiletto heels for a big night out or a simcha. Sky-high shoes put weight on knees. Everyone: abs, abs and abs. Make sure your workout regimen gives attention here. Firm abs support the spine. This is called “core strength.” Core muscles and flexibility are important

Proper posture keeps bones and joints in correct alignment so that muscles are used properly.

and other media. The increased chances of joint pain, especially in the shoulder, neck and lower back, is scary. Our children – boys and girls alike – are sitting way too long in school without breaks. Rebbes and morahs, how about 50 jumping jacks mid-morning as well as in the afternoon? Or start class with 20 push-ups. By the way, that’s for each and every class. It’s healthy for kids and teens. Rebbes and teachers would probably see more students engaged with the learning. Let’s be honest. Kids are going to continue watching their phones and iPads. So give them a stability ball to sit on while playing games. Encourage them to pick up their phones once in a while and look up at them, rather than down. Make sure your children’s desks, chairs and computers are appropriately sized. Keep the knapsack to no more than 10% of the child’s weight. Putting in the effort for good posture pays lifelong dividends. Here are some pointers.

for aging well. Elderly people tend to shuffle when they walk and not lift their feet. As a result, there is an increased incidence of tripping and falling with resultant hip fractures. Learn to lift your feet while walking. Stretch your hamstrings daily. Not sure what to do? A session or two with a physical therapist would be a wise investment. Post a note on your computer screen to remind you to get yourself in proper alignment. Spend a lot of time sitting at work? Take advantage of contemporary ergonomics and invest in a good chair. Your back and health will thank you. Just by looking great from proper posture you will posture to others what good posture is all about. As always, daven. Dr. Hylton I. Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at drlightman@totalfamilycaremd.com, on Instagram at Dr.Lightman_ or visit him on Facebook.

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Naomi, you’ve been a columnist at TJH for nine years so far. How did you get into the kosher food industry? I came to New York from Australia when I was single and met my husband here. We settled on the Lower East Side, where I taught at MTJ. I have a BA from Touro College, and I’ve always loved camps and after-school programs. I ran a summer day camp when my kids were little, and during the year they asked me to do a kiruv event. At the event, they asked me to teach sushi to the participants because I knew how to make sushi. I’ve always loved cooking, and I learned how to make sushi from my non-Jewish neighbor, who was a chef and was trained at one of the best schools at the time – New York Restaurant School or Institute of Culinary Education… She came to my house and we used all kosher ingredients and she taught me how to make it.

So at the event, I ran this sushi class, and I thought to myself, “Hmm, this is interesting…” When we moved to Woodmere, I was working at the JCC here teaching preschool, and I told them that I also give cooking classes. They asked me to give cooking classes at the JCC on Grove, and then we turned it into a mini culinary school. At the same time, I wanted to do something else, and there were really no personal chefs in the Five Towns. I kind of taught myself how to cook. I had at the time two or three of Susie Fishbein’s books, and I read a lot of cookbooks. I watched a lot of Food Network, which was a fledging network at the time. I really learned a lot about cooking and cooking skills. Back then, on Food Network, you learned what a mirepoix was, you learned how to make a roux, you learned technical skills. It wasn’t just about food competitions.

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Your Pesach business must be so time and energy consuming. When do you start all that cooking? I’m a hard worker, and it takes a lot of stamina. As a matter of fact, I had a baby right before Pesach one year, and I still did all the cooking for my clients. I start putting together my menus after Chanukah, and I start taking orders for Pesach after winter break. I begin cooking a week before Purim. That’s when I start making my soups. Gourmet Glatt’s amazing – they’ve already turned over their kitchens and their meat department over for Pesach at that time. So that really works for me. How many freezers do you have? Four – one downstairs, two in the garage, and one in the basement. I was just counting this morning because I need to a make some space in my garage for more pantries. How many people help you with the Pesach cooking? I have a team of three or four people that help me. I couldn’t manage without them; they’re amazing. We work together every year. Baruch Hashem my Pesach business is so busy that I can barely accept any more clients.

How do you balance all your work and your responsibilities of being a mother? Well, it’s easier now that I only have one “little” one at home; she’s eleven. I have a granddaughter now too, so my life is very different than when I started out. But we all have to balance our different responsibilities. I’m a mom, and everyone who works for me is a mom. We try to finish cooking by 5p.m. every day, and sometimes we’ll regroup later. If they have small chil-

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be finished three days before Pesach. And then, on Pesach, I work in a Pesach program, and I give cooking classes at the program. I love it. This year I’m working for Sharmel. My family is growing and we wanted to be local this year. Let’s talk about your first cookbook, Perfect for Pesach. What made you decide to make a cookbook? Pesach is clearly my brand. I would say I’m Pesach-centric. My

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It was very brave of you to start your own business at the time. My husband was very supportive. He said, “You don’t have to be a teacher; you can do whatever you want.” We came up with a name, The Aussie Gourmet, and I started my business. Someone from my shul was a busy mom who owned a mortgage company, and she needed a personal chef. She was my first customer. For years I cooked meals for her family. I had someone helping me at the time, and we cooked for her every week until she made aliyah. Then, around Pesach time, I put an ad in one of the chessed networks for my personal chef Pesach business. And the phones have not stopped ringing since. This is my 15th Pesach since I started my business.

“I psyche myself up, and I can’t wait to get out of bed every morning after 15 years and cook for my Pesach customers.”

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dren, they may need to finish at 3 because they have children in nursey, so it’s all a balance. You have a few people working together on one big project. How big is your kitchen? Tiny! You don’t need a big, fancy kitchen to cook on a large scale or to make delicious dishes. I have a Pesach kitchen in my basement and we push into the laundry room a little bit. They have to watch their weight when they work for me or we won’t all fit there! You know, cooking for so many people involves intense brainwork. I don’t even allow music when I’m cooking. If I’m not there, they can turn on the music, but if I’m there, I need to be in full mode. I don’t understand background noise, I don’t understand why people need music in the background, I’m like in the zone. I psyche myself up, and I can’t wait to get out of bed every morning after 15 years and cook for my Pesach customers. And sometimes I even cook in their houses. With Pesach cooking, there’s a timestamp on the job. I know we will

dad ran a Pesach hotel for 28 years in Australia. He’s a pioneer in the Southern Hemisphere, so we are definitely a Pesach-centric family. I had tons of Pesach recipes, and I got a call from ArtScroll to do a Pesach cookbook two days after Sukkot. I know where I was standing when I got the call. I was in Florida. They said on the phone that ArtScroll wants to meet with you, and it was right after Sukkot. And the book was already on the shelves at the YU seforim sale in February 2017. Start to finish, it was less than half a year. We had to choose the recipes, photograph them, edit them – everything. How did you do all that in such a short time? I have a lot of mental strength. There’s mental strength at that point and a lot of pressure, and you’re just in the zone. How many times do you have to make a dish for that one photo to come out good? Oh, we make one dish. We know the recipe already works, but there were times we had to make some-

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thing a few times. Like the recipe for the cake in the mug. It was always delicious but we had to make it like seven times until it looked right because microwaves are very temperament. Or, one of the meats came out too rare, so we did that again. It was amazing and an unbelievable experience, but I think I’m hanging up my cookbook hat. Two books are amazing, but it’s probably enough for now. What about your newest cookbook, Perfect Flavors? Tell us how that came about. My first cookbook covered cooking for one week a year. Truthfully, people use my Pesach book all year long because it’s a lot of my recipes that I tweaked for Pesach. I wanted to cover the other 51 weeks a year for the people who would never even look at a Pesach book. Some people go away for Pesach and they generally don’t buy Pesach cookbooks. My newest cookbook has been selling so well. I’ve been very blessed to be able to travel over the past few years. I don’t even know how many countries I’ve been to. By the time the end of winter break falls out, I think I will have been in 13 different countries, and that’s not even repeats. Well, Israel is a repeat. I love to travel, and I love to bring those flavors back home. I can’t eat them on the street when I’m there because they’re not kosher but I look and I watch them make street food and see what flavor profiles they’re bringing in and I’ll say to myself, OK, let’s bring this home and try to mimic them. Then I’ll try to find someone not Jewish who knows what those dishes taste like to try my food to make sure the flavor profiles are on par. I want to make sure everything’s as authentic as I can make it. I love having something fancy in the book like the Hoisin Duck Noodle dish. I love having something special there, like the turducken capons. What a good chap, right? Like who’s going to make a turducken? But you’ll make a turducken capon, and you’ll make it for a special occasion. Then I have the Winner Winner Chicken Dinner, which everyone’s going crazy over. It’s so easy. Last night, in fact, a group of girls had a dinner party for

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12 girls, and they cooked everything from my book – isn’t that so nice? They sent me pictures this morning, and I was so proud. What’s your favorite country that you visited? Israel is the first, obviously. I’m obsessed with Yerushalayim. But after Israel, I love New York. I choose to live here, and I love it. I’m from Sydney, Australia, so the bar is set very high. Sydney is one of the most beautiful cities in the world. It has the most beautiful people you’ll ever meet so everything else is downhill – that’s what my answer is. I’m from Sydney. I’m from Barnard Beach. Go look it up; it’s magnificent. I love big cities. I love Bangkok, I love Rome, I love New York, I love Jerusalem, I think it’s the big hustle and bustle. I don’t do well in slow-paced places. We went to the Camel Forest Spa in the north of Israel, and when we got there, they said, no cellphones, you have to walk everywhere… It was a very relaxed place. And I was like,

this isn’t for me. We need hustle and bustle. I like to run around. I like a noisy restaurant as long as I can hear the person I’m with. I like the atmosphere; I like sitting outside on the street whenever I can, watching peo-

I love it. It airs on Friday mornings right after Nachum Segal’s JM in the AM. No one calls into the show. I have guests who come on and it’s an hour-long show. I’ve featured chocolatiers, restaurateurs, cookbook

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authors, food bloggers, Instagrammers, people who make charcuterie boards. I try to find people who need help growing their business, and I feature them on the show. The show is so interesting and I’m able to help people with their businesses. I’m very into helping our own, especially frum women in business, I think that it’s definitely a man’s world especially in the frum kosher world, and I try to give frum women a slight edge, if I can. I love to help people bring their idea to reality – I call it “brain to shelf—and I want to shout their product from the rooftops. You were just in Israel at the Media Summit. Yes, the fact that the kosher food bloggers have a voice on the world media platform is unbelievable. We met Prime Minister Netanyahu, we met President Reuven Rivlin. And we met people who do what we do all over the world. The conference was about helping us showcase Israel in a positive way to the world. What are the biggest changes you’ve seen in the kosher food world in the past 10 years? Can I take up the whole newspaper? There have been so many changes. I think the Instagramming has been the biggest thing, and the way marketing is handled nowadays. Look at this new balsamic vinegar from Tuscanini. They’re going to go to their brand ambassadors to showcase their items – they call us influencers – so we can talk about it

and make it real and accessible for customers. Then there’s the food industry in general, with all the ingredients and all the different hechshers, the OU, the Chaf-K, the OK, giving hechsherim to things that have never had before. Like gochujang, and miso, and techina in now squeezable sizes. The restaurants are elevating their recipes. Everyone is becoming a little bit smarter in the food world, and everyone is sharing it. Every day there’s a new Instagram account, and I’m always happy to offer and talk to people about how to grow. The market is so saturated now because kosher is cool. Kosher is cool – I like that! What are some tips you can give to the busy mom who wants to serve her family a quick, delicious, nutritious dinner? You can look it my new cookbook for simple dishes that you can prep ahead and freeze. And so many dishes can be doubled and frozen. But make sure to label everything you freeze. Label is with the date and what’s in it. You for sure should double a soup recipe when you’re making soup. I double salad dressings, marinades, soups, etc. If I’m making a marinade for a French roast, I’ll double it and I’ll use half right away and put the other half in a Ziplock bag and label it and freeze it for next time. If you’re traveling you can take the marinade with you along with frozen meat and cook the meat on vacation after you kasher the oven where you’re staying. I heard you’re going to be on the Home and Family Channel next week. That’s exciting. Yes, I’ve been practicing a lot. It’s like a little dream come true, filming on TV on the Universal lot. My family is coming with me and we’re planning a mini-vacation. Naomi, between Pesach, your cookbooks, your business, your radio show, and all your other activities you are always so busy. Thank you so much for your time – and have fun on the TV set!

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It’s Super Bowl time – when America holds its breath for three hours while this iconic game is played. Much of the Super Bowl hype has become focused on the food served while watching the game. Besides the oversized sandwiches that have become an integral part of Super Bowl fare, as a host you might also want to add a soup bar. People can choose their own soups and add assorted toppings, such as croutons, soups nuts, terra chips, roasted chickpeas, and crunchy onions. I’m sharing two hearty soups for you to try this Sunday, plus a much lighter soup.

Meat and Cabbage Soup Meat • Yields 10 servings • Freezer friendly Ingredients 2 pounds flanken 2 (28-oz) cans whole tomatoes with their liquid 1 (14-oz) bag shredded cabbage, or 1 head cabbage, shredded 1 granny smith apple, diced ¼ cup brown sugar ½ cup lemon juice 4 cups water 1 teaspoon kosher salt ¼ teaspoon black pepper

Preparation In a large, heavy-bottomed pot, sear flanken on each side for 2-3 minutes, until meat releases from the pot. Crush tomatoes lightly in your hand; then add the tomatoes and their liquid to pot. Add the apple, sugar, lemon juice, water, salt, and pepper. Bring to a boil over high heat; reduce to a simmer. Cook for about two hours, until meat is tender. Remove meat from soup. Discard bones; shred meat into bite-size pieces. Return the meat to the soup and re-boil to warm the meat again. Add salt and pepper to taste, as needed.

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Tortellini Chicken Soup Ingredients 1 ½ TBS olive oil 1 large loose carrot, diced 1 cup celery, diced 1 medium onion, diced 4 cloves garlic, minced 2 quarts chicken broth 1 ½ tsp Italian seasoning Salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste 12 oz. frozen tomato tortellini 2 -3 cups shredded rotisserie chicken or from leftover chicken 3 cups fresh spinach or kale

Preparation Heat olive oil in a large pot over medium heat. Add carrots, celery and onion and sauté 3 - 4 minutes. Add garlic and sauté 30 seconds longer. Stir in chicken broth and Italian seasoning and season with salt and pepper to taste. Bring to a boil over medium-high heat, and then cover and boil 15 minutes. Add tortellini, cover and boil 6 - 8 minutes longer. Stir in chicken and spinach and cook until heated through and the spinach has wilted, about 2 minutes. Serve with crusty bread.

Creamy Broccoli and Chickpea Soup Ingredients

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2 tsp extra virgin olive oil 2 medium onions, diced 4 stalks celery, chopped 3 cloves garlic, minced 2 can chickpeas, drained 3 pounds frozen broccoli 6 cups water, divided 1 TBS kosher salt Freshly ground pepper, to taste

Add oil to a large pot over medium-high heat. Add onion and sauté for about three minutes. Lower heat to medium-low, add celery and garlic, and then sauté for another five minutes. Add chickpeas and broccoli and sauté for another five minutes. Add 6 cups water, salt, and pepper to the pot. Stir and bring mixture to a boil. Reduce heat to low and simmer, covered, for 45 minutes. Blend soup with an immersion blender for a full three minutes before serving. Recipes from Perfect Flavors by Naomi Nachman shared with permission by ArtScroll/Mesorah Publications. Photos by Miriam Pascal.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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“Pentagon accounting errors” could pay for most of her massive $32 trillion Medicare-for-all plan – as if there were $21 trillion in unspent tax dollars sitting around in a Pentagon vault. She opined that “just last year we gave the military a $700 billion budget increase, which they didn’t even ask for” – unaware, apparently, that the entire Pentagon budget is $716 billion. She wrongly

are only 6 million to 7 million Americans with two jobs and 148 million with just one. Those are examples of ignorance. But apparently she is also dishonest. Last week, she told Colbert that she has not been able to open a district office yet to handle constituent casework because of the federal government shutdown. “There’s a lot of things we can’t do as freshman

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members,” she said. “We can’t properly set up our district offices. We can’t get laptops delivered. We can’t start doing the work that we were elected here to do. … It takes the green stuff. And those workers are furloughed.” That’s wrong. Last September, Congress passed the 2019 Legislative Branch Appropriations bill, which funds congressional salaries and offices for the coming year. Ocasio-Cortez knows this because, unlike furloughed workers, she is getting paid. The New York Times reports that the three other firstterm members from New York have managed to open offices in their districts. A more likely explanation is that Ocasio-Cortez is spending her time building her national media profile instead of taking care of the constituents who sent her to Washington in the first place. So where are the articles bemoaning “The incredible, thuggish stupidity of Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez”? Where are the journalists trying to trip her up with questions like “Do you agree with the Bush Doctrine?” to see if she knows what it is? Nowhere to be found. To their credit, the fact-checkers have been on the case. PolitiFact gave her unemployment claim a “Pants on Fire” rating, and she is rapidly accumulating a large cache of Post Pinnochios – so much so that she claims to be the victim of “false equivalency + bias.” Give me a break. She told CBS’s “60 Minutes” that “being morally right” is more important than “being precisely, factually ... correct.” Apparently, facts matter less as long as you support Big Government. But facts are crucial, especially when you are proposing the largest increase in government spending in human history. Vox recently added up the cost of all her proposals – from Medicare-for-all, to free college, guaranteed jobs and the “Green New Deal.” The price tag was $42.5 trillion over the next decade – more than twice the current national debt. Sorry, you can’t pay for that through Pentagon accounting errors. It is a tremendous testament to America that someone who was working as a bartender in a Mexican restaurant a year ago can throw

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their hat into the ring, unseat a 10term member of Congress and be elected to the House of Representatives. It’s what makes this such an exceptional nation. And it is obvious that she has political talent. But that doesn’t excuse her from the respon-

sibilities as a legislator to learn the facts and serve her constituents. Even Whoopi Goldberg, an Ocasio-Cortez supporter, warned her on “The View,” “I would encourage you to sit still for a minute and learn the job.”

That’s good advice. Once people decide you are ignorant, it’s hard to recover – just ask Sarah Palin or Dan Quayle. Of course, they were conservatives, so the standards are different. (c) 2019, Washington Post Writers Group

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Nancy Pelosi is Lying about the State of the Union By Marc A. Thiessen

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ouse Speaker Nancy Pelosi has written President Trump to suggest that he postpone his State of the Union address, citing her “security concerns” over the ability of the Secret Service and Department of Homeland Security to protect government officials during the shutdown. With all due respect, that is fake news. Pelosi isn’t worried about security. She invited the president to deliver the State of the Union on January 3, thirteen days after the partial government shutdown began. She did not ask the Department of Homeland Security and the Secret Service before writing the president whether they had concerns about their ability to provide security. Indeed, Politico reports that a planning meeting with the Secret Service was scheduled for the day after Pelosi sent her letter and was subsequently canceled. If Pelosi had bothered to ask, Homeland Security Secretary Kirstjen Nielsen would have told her exactly what she said Wednesday on Twitter: “The Department of Homeland Security and the U.S. Secret Service are fully prepared to support and secure the State of the Union.” Pelosi is using her faux security concerns as a pretext to do something unprecedented and outrageous: deny a president of the United States the opportunity to come to Congress and deliver his State of the Union address. Never in the history of our Republic has the House speaker invited, and then

disinvited, a sitting president from addressing a joint session of Congress. Yet all those who constantly decry Trump for shattering of presidential norms seem to be perfectly fine when Pelosi is doing the norm-shattering – and lying about why she is doing it. To the contrary, some have praised this is as a power move on Pelosi’s part. No, it’s not. Pelosi understands full well the power of a State of the Union address. Trump’s first two addresses of a joint session drew 48 million and 46 million television viewers, respec-

to tens of millions of Americans and calling her out for her refusal to compromise. If she follows through on this threat, it could backfire. Right now, Democrats are brimming with confidence because polls show that a majority of Americans blame Trump for the shutdown. But according to a recent Hill-HarrisX poll, 70 percent of Americans want both sides to compromise, including 61 percent of Republicans and 76 percent of Democrats. Right now, Trump is the only one talking

Never in the history of our Republic has the House speaker invited, and then disinvited, a sitting president from addressing a joint session of Congress.

tively (plus millions more online). She knows that, if anything, the drama of Trump addressing Congress in the midst of the shutdown would likely increase interest. Trump has now twice demonstrated that he can use the venue effectively. So, Pelosi wants to stop him from speaking from the rostrum of the House of Representatives directly

compromise, while Democrats are demanding unilateral surrender. A few weeks ago, Trump sent Vice President Pence to Capitol Hill with an offer that cut his wall request from $5.7 billion to $2.5 billion. Pelosi said she would be willing to give him “one dollar.” She probably thought it was funny. But to millions of voters, it came across as

cocky and insensitive to the hundreds of thousands of federal workers affected by the shutdown. Then, to add insult to injury, Democratic lawmakers took a junket to Puerto Rico on the very day that federal workers stop receiving their paychecks. They had time to sun themselves on the beach at an exclusive resort with more than 100 lobbyists and executives and hang out with the cast of “Hamilton,” but they could not be bothered to accept Trump’s invitation to meet with him at the White House on Tuesday to find a way out of the crisis. And now Pelosi is threatening to cancel the State of the Union address – a move that will be seen by many Americans as petty and vindictive. If Democrats continue with this cavalier attitude and refusal to negotiate, eventually public opinion will turn against them. Trump should tell Pelosi that, while he appreciates her concerns, the Secret Service has assured him that they can handle security and that he plans to deliver his address in person, as scheduled. Let her withdraw the invitation. If she does, it will be a turning point in our nation’s history – a moment when the last vestiges of comity in Washington were destroyed. It may also be the moment when Americans finally realized that Pelosi cares more about hurting Trump than she does about finding a compromise solution and doing what is best for the country. (c) 2019, Washington Post Writers Group

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Moshe Arens Working for the People and the Land of Israel By Avi Heiligman

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he city of Kovno goes by many names. The current name for the Lithuanian city is Kaunas. From the mid-19 th century until World War I, it was ruled by the Russian Empire, and it was during this time that Torah flourished in the city. Jews had been living in the city of Kovno since the late 15th century, and the community was firmly established two centuries later. Some of the famous rabbanim who came from the town were Rav Yisrael Salanter and the Rav Yitzchak Elchanon Spektor. The Slobodka Yeshiva, which was located in a suburb of Kovno, was headed by great Torah personalities including the Alter of Slobodka, Rav Nosson Tzvi Finkel. The yeshiva, as well as most of the Jewish community, was wiped out during the Holocaust. Some were able to escape thanks to another resident of the city, Japanese consul Chiune Sugihara. Several Jewish residents had seen the rise of the Nazis in nearby Germany and fled before the war

began. Many eventually found their way to Eretz Yisrael, including the future Israeli Minister of Defense and aeronautical engineer Moshe Arens. Arens was born in Kovno in 1935, and by 1939 his family realized that Europe was not a safe place for Jews and made their way to New York. The high schooler attended George Washington High School in the city and was also part of the Zionist youth movement called Betar. It was a rightwing movement that Arens joined so the Jewish people in Eretz Yisrael could form an “iron wall” against Arab nationalism. Arens soon found himself in the U.S. Army to fight the fascist dictatorships in Europe and Japan during World War II. He attained the rank of technical sergeant in the U.S. Army Corp of Engineers. After two years in the U.S. Army he returned to civilian life, and in 1948 the Arens family moved to Israel after it declared independence. During the Israeli War of Independence, Moshe joined the Irgun and

was sent to North Africa. There, he helped the Jewish communities establish self-defense groups. His knowledge of English, French, Yiddish (German) and Hebrew helped him communicate well with Jews in Morocco and Algeria. The Irgun was commanded by Menachem Begin who started the Herut political party. Today, the Herut is seen by many as the forerunner of the Likud party. Arens joined this party, and his association with Begin helped Arens gain a nomination for an important political position once Begin became prime minister. Arens soon was designing water systems in Tel Aviv. In 1949, he went back to the U.S. to study mechanical engineering at MIT and aeronautical engineering at the California Institute of Technology. He stayed in the United States for a few years working at aviation companies and in 1957 returned to Israel. For five years he was a professor of aeronautics at Technion and in 1962 became the VP of Israeli

Aircraft Industries (IAI). In 1971, he won the Israeli Defense prize for his work on several aircraft including a cargo jet and the Kfir fighter jet. The aftereffects of the Yom Kippur War shook up Israeli politics. Arens became a MK in the Likud party after the December 31, 1973 elections. Four years later, he was reelected but some of his votes were considered unpopular. For example, he voted against the Egypt-Israel peace treaty not because he didn’t want peace with Egypt, but he felt that Israel shouldn’t be giving land back to a previously sworn enemy. Prime Minister Begin offered Arens the post of defense minister in 1980 but he turned it down. After being reelected again to the Knesset in 1981, Arens resigned a year later to become the Israeli ambassador to the U.S. He took along a young furniture salesman named Benjamin Netanyahu as his deputy. This was a crucial time for Israel as Arens and Netanyahu were the U.S. during the invasion of Lebanon. In

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With Prime Minister Yitzhak Shamir in 1984

1983, Ariel Sharon resigned as defense minister, and Arens returned to Israel to take his place. In this capacity, he reorganized the troops in southern Lebanon, thereby undoing Sharon’s work of placing troops in the entirety of the country. In the 1984 elections, Arens remained with the party but was only appointed to minister without a

Arens and Soviet Former Minister Eduard A. Shevardnadze shaking hands during the first high level meeting since USSR broke diplomatic relations with Israel after the 1967 war. A young Netanyahu is seen at left

but it fell on deaf ears. Likud lost the elections in 1992, and Arens left the party for several years. In 1999 he tried to unseat Netanyahu for party leadership but lost badly in the party primaries. Bibi, who had been prime minister since 1996, then appointed Arens as defense minister for the third time. This did not last long, as the Likud lost in the 1999 elections.

“He was not a commander or a general, but a devoted man of learning who toiled day and night for the security of Israel and its citizens.”

portfolio. He tried pushing through another jet fighter the IAI Lavi. This turned into a financial failure for Israel as it cost over $1.5 billion before being canceled. Arens resigned in 1987 but was reelected in 1988. This time, he was appointed minister of foreign affairs, replacing Shimon Peres and had Netanyahu as his deputy. Prime Minister Yitzchak Shamir reappointed Arens to the defense post in 1990. Arens tried warning the U.S. of Iraq’s impending attack on Kuwait

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In 2003, Arens retired from the Knesset for good. In his retirement, Arens was critical of Israel’s decision to pull out of the West Bank and Gaza and wondered if the Israeli acquisition of the F-35 fighter jets was really necessary. Throughout his life he published eight books covering topics ranging from engineering of aircraft to his political life to the Warsaw Ghetto Uprising. Moshe Arens passed away on January 7, 2019 at the age of 93. Israeli

President Reuven Rivlin said about Arens, “He was not a commander or a general, but a devoted man of learning who toiled day and night for the security of Israel and its citizens.”

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@ gmail.com.

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mericans love puzzles, games, and brainteasers. Newspapers publish crossword puzzles, word search puzzles, and word jumbles. Bookstores sell jigsaw puzzles. And airport gift shops stock Sudoku puzzles to pass the hours in the sky. We love puzzles so much that someone found their way to a basement office in Washington where the Department of Bogus Holidays litters our calendars with junk celebrations like National Talk Like Yoda Day (May 21) and National Eat Your Beans Day (July 3), and made it official. And so Tuesday, January 29 will be #NationalPuzzleDay. Most people think of puzzles as trivial diversions. But planning to avoid taxes is a puzzle, too. And, as the English economist John Maynard Keynes once said, “The avoidance of taxes is the only intellectual pursuit that still carries any reward.” So, while tax planning may not be as fun as finishing a crossword puzzle (in ink), we think you’ll agree it’s far more rewarding. Consider the basic challenge of choosing how to organize your business. If you operate as a sole proprietor (or an LLC taxed as a sole prop) and earn $200,000, you’ll pay

self-employment tax on every dime of it. On the bright side, that’s $21,836 that gets credited to your Social Security account. Of course, that won’t mean much if you don’t believe Social Security will still be there for you when you retire. (Rule of thumb: if you’re young enough to have tattoos, don’t count on it.) Now, if you elect to be taxed as

much of a puzzle, right? But consider this: if you want to hire your minor kids to shift income to their lower bracket, now they’ll owe FICA they wouldn’t have owed if you were still a sole proprietor. Oh, and now you can’t use that corporation to cover yourself under a medical expense reimbursement plan. But wait, there’s a workaround to that problem.

“The avoidance of taxes is the only intellectual pursuit that still carries any reward.”

an S corporation, and the reasonable compensation for the work you do is $100,000, you could save yourself a sweet $6535 in tax. It’s even sweeter than contributing to a retirement plan or buying new equipment for your business because you aren’t spending anything to get a deduction. You’re just paying employment tax on less income. That doesn’t sound like

You can just buy a high-deductible health plan and establish a health savings account. Or maybe you could establish another proprietorship, or C corporation, and pay MERP benefits from that business. Having fun yet? Of course, now your “covered comp” for determining retirement plan contributions will be based on the salary only, not your

whole income. If you’re used to maximizing a SEP contribution, you’ll find yourself saving a whole lot less with the S corp. Aren’t puzzles great? Now, at that point, you could switch from the SEP to a solo or safe harbor 401k, perhaps with a cross-tested profit-sharing contribution. You could even look at a defined benefit pension plan. (Yes, it’s the Studebaker of retirement plans, but sometimes it’s the right answer). But that raises the question whether you belong in a traditional qualified plan at all — or whether you’re better off with a Roth or insurance-based plan. All of a sudden, that National Puzzle Day that sounded so much fun about seven paragraphs ago is starting to look about as fun as a root canal, right? Don’t worry. When it comes to organizing your business, or any other tax challenge, we’re here to find the best solution. We really like these puzzles, and nobody does it better! Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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An Ode to Exercise By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., MFT, CLC

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here are the exercise lovers and there are the exercise dreaders. Which are you? Some people feel rotten all day be-

cause they missed doing their exercise. Others feel rotten because they did it! And a third group feel terrible because they know they have to do more than

they are doing! And then there are those days and those moods one gets… Like, the last thing I feel like doing today is lifting a barbell. In fact, I don’t even feel like lifting my head off the pillow! We want to look good, feel good, and be healthy. At the same time, we want to eat whatever we want to eat. For some, dieting is tough; getting to the gym, a pain; and bending, and stretching, and squatting is pure torture. For others, not dieting is tough; getting to the gym, a must; and bending,

There’s a game kids play called tag. One person would sometimes be put in jail. Then via electricity – meaning they took their hand and by them being free – they were automatically freed from jail. Wouldn’t it be great if somehow that could happen? Our designated exerciser could just grab our hands and convey all the work she had done for us to us. Well, so far, as far as I know, no such electricity exists. So my best advice to the dreaders is to partner up with an exerciser-lover and see if they can somehow pass at least the love of

For some, dieting is tough; getting to the gym, a pain; and bending, and stretching, and squatting is pure torture.

stretching and squatting is a necessity. See a theme here?! Wouldn’t it be great if we could pay someone to do it for us? After all, they are doing it anyway! A lawyer takes care of our legal stuff; an accountant our number issues. Couldn’t we get an exerciser to handle that department?

the activity, if not the effect. Good luck and have a weight day – whoops, I mean a lifting day! Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@ rosenwalds.com.

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