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an Arabic news site. “Maybe James Bond killed him like in the movies.” So much of Israel’s intelligence operations never see the light of day. That’s sort of the point – to be able to sneak into a location, take care of the situation, and then leave sometimes without anyone knowing you were ever there. This week, Israel revealed a piece of one of their recent clandestine operations when Netanyahu dramatically showed off thousands of files that the Mossad was able to smuggle out of a secure Iranian facility. Whatever is known about the operation is just a tip of the iceberg. There are so many questions swirling, and even when we think we know how the Mossad found out about the facility, snuck into the enemy country, secured the documents, and then flew off to Israel with their booty, no doubt there is so much we will never know. Recently, Ronen Bergman penned a book called, Rise and Kill First: The Secret History of Israel’s Targeted Assassinations. I have yet to read through it – it’s more than 700 pages – but perhaps Netanyahu’s bombshell revelation this week will propel me to crack its cover. It details many of the Mossad’s operations in the past years, and if you can get past the author’s extremely liberal political views, it is sure to be a compelling read.

or those of you who appreciate novels of espionage and intrigue, I suggest you take out some books by Daniel Silva from the library this week. Years ago, when I stumbled upon Silva’s writing, I was brought into a world of underground intelligence where things are not necessarily what they seem. Part of why I love Silva’s books is because the protagonist of 18 of his books is Gabriel Allon. Allon is Israeli, a child of Holocaust survivors, who was recruited to work for the Office (read: Mossad) in Operation Wrath of G-d in which Israel went after the terrorists who perpetrated the Munich Massacre. The books follow Allon as he is recruited time and time again for missions necessary against those who threaten the existence of the State of Israel. Eventually, he becomes the head of the Office. Gabriel Allon, although he may be based on real-life characters, is a work of fiction. But still, last week, when I read of how two figures waited on a motorcycle in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, for engineer Dr. Fadi Al-Batsh to come back from praying before executing him and then speeding off into the darkness, I was reminded of Allon. Al-Batsh was secretly working for Hamas and only a few Hamas members were supposed to know that. Did Israel take out the engineer who was helping to orchestrate the sale of weapons into Hamas’ hands? According to Defense Minister Avigdor Lieberman, it wasn’t the Israelis. “Ask James Bond,” he told

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR Readers’ Poll Community Happenings

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NEWS

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Global

National

Odd-but-True Stories

ISRAEL Israel News

World Builders

Netanyahu Bombshell: Iran Lied

PEOPLE 82

Feel the Rhythm NFL Players in the Military by Avi Heiligman

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PARSHA Rabbi Wein

Who Do You Serve? by Rav Moshe Weinberger

JEWISH THOUGHT Where Prisons Break by Eytan Kobre

Dear Editor, Dr. Deb imparted good advice this week when she gave points on how to avoid being defensive when someone hurls an insult or offhanded remark at you. One thing to keep in mind is that avoiding lashing back at them requires self-control. And although having self-control is hard, it is doable. Think, for instance, if the person who just insulted you was your boss. Wouldn’t you have to swallow your pain and hide your tears and then go about your day? Hard, yes. Impossible, no. If we look at people as deserving of respect – even when they don’t respect us in the right way – then it makes it easier to let things go. A little bit of humility goes a long way. It is especially apt to practice this technique during the times of sefira, when we should be focusing on others and our relationship with our fellow Jews. S. Yarmush

HEALTH & FITNESS “He Can’t Change” by Dr. Deb Hirschhorn 90 Bullying by Dr. Hylton I. Lightman

Avocado: The Perfect Food for Any Diet by Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN 94

FOOD & LEISURE The Aussie Gourmet: Mole-Inspired Spare Ribs

LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW

Become a Leader of Influence by Rabbi Dr. Naphtali Hoff

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Your Money

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Can I Get a Little Help from My Cucumber? by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

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HUMOR Centerfold

POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Notable Quotes

What Democrats can Learn from Emmanuel Macron by Marc A. Thiessen

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Have Trump and Macron Learned to Use Each Other? by David Ignatius

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A Showcase of the Vilest and Noblest Manifestations of Humanity by George F. Will 74 CLASSIFIEDS

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Dear Editor, Here is something I’ve noticed with children – and maybe even some adults – nowadays. We are supposed to count sefira between Pesach and Shavuos to show how we’re looking forward and working on ourselves as we work toward Matan Torah. But I have seen that recently, although we count all 49 days, the excitement that children have when counting is really the build-up to Lag B’Omer. They can’t

wait for their trips or treats or to listen to music again. They ask us again and again when Lag B’Omer will be – how many more days until then. And then, when Lag B’Omer passes, they still count sefira, but it’s with a different ta’am. They no longer have that excitement; they’re just counting because they know they should. It is up to us to instill that excitement and build-up in our children for Matan Torah. Yes, they can – and should – be excited for Lag B’Omer. After all, we are supposed to be happy on that day. But after Lag B’Omer, we should you can talk to them about a different excitement, a joy that soon we will be receiving the Torah, just as we stood by Har Sinai thousands of years ago. Our Torah is our joy and our heritage and we should be proud and excited to reaccept it once again. Sincerely, Yosef Zvi Hollander

Dear Editor, The days are getting warmer and the longer. Our children are playing more outside. Please talk to your children about “stranger danger” and remind them that they should never – not even with someone they know – go into someone’s car without their parent’s permission. Kids are very trusting and we need to make sure that they are trusting the right people. A Reader Continued on page 12

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Dear Editor, It was an early Mother’s Day present to open TJH and read Dr. Lightman’s article this week. His words resonated and validated what every mother needs. There is so much guilt involved in taking time for yourself when the kids need you – for homework, baths, a listening ear, supper... But it is so, so important for us to be able to set boundaries sometimes and tell ourselves firmly that we deserve some time alone or time out with friends or a date night with our husbands. Some days, when schedules

are really tight, I find if I walk around the block by myself for a few minutes after the little ones are in bed I feel recharged. I also find that if I don’t eat breakfast or lunch I am not the best mother that I should be. And so I have learned that eating healthily is important to me. My children are so important to me and I want to be energized to help them and support them in every way. It’s the little things that can make the difference in me being the best mother that I should be – but they really make a big difference. Chani S.

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North & South Korea Warming Up

Kim Jong Un, the leader of North Korea, told South Korean President Moon Jae-in during their historic meeting last week that he is willing to abandon his nuclear weapons if South Korea would agree to formally end the Korean War and promise to not invade his country. Kim is planning on meeting with President Trump in a summit planned for some time in the next few weeks. The North Korean leader is planning on inviting experts and journalists from the United States and South Korea to witness the shutdown of his country’s only known underground nuclear test site next month, as a gesture of good faith. The leaders of the two Koreas met at Panmunjom, a village on their shared border. “I know the Americans are inherently disposed against us, but when they talk with us, they will see that I am not the kind of person who would shoot nuclear weapons to the South, over the Pacific or at the United States,” Kim told Moon, according to a spokesman’s account of the meeting. During the height of the nuclear tensions last year, Kim swore to do exactly those things, so the turnaround has the international community a bit skeptical but still hopeful. During his surprise visit to North Korea last month, Secretary of State Mike Pompeo disclosed that he had had a “good conversation” with Kim. Pompeo told reporters that the Trump administration has a goal of “complete, verifiable, irreversible denuclearization” in North Korea. Kim, said Pompeo, is prepared to “lay out a

map that would help us achieve” denuclearization. “I had a clear mission statement from President Trump,” said Pompeo. “When I left, Kim Jong Un understood the mission exactly as I described it today.” Kim and Moon signed a joint declaration last week recognizing “a nuclear-free Korean Peninsula” and “complete denuclearization” as a common goal of the two Koreas. Ahead of the talks South Korea turned off propaganda speakers – which were set up in the 1960s and would broadcast pop music and news reports. This week they began dismantling them. In a similar gesture, North Korea is going to bring its clocks forward by thirty minutes to make its time zone in sync with the South, as a “step for national reconciliation and unity.” Kim was the first leader of North Korea to step into South Korea since North Korea was founded on September 9, 1948.

High-Level Resignation over UK’s “Windrush” Controversy JOIN BIKE NCSY TO HELP SEND NCSY TEENS TO ISRAEL FOR A GAP YEAR OF TORAH STUDY AND GROWTH. Amber Rudd, Britain’s Home Secretary, resigned this week during a time of harsh backlash against Prime Minister Theresa May’s government. May has been criticized for her government’s treatment of longterm Caribbean immigrants who were wrongly classified as illegal immigrants. The English government has been unable to explain why some descendants of the “Windrush generation,” who were brought to the United Kingdom to help rebuild it after World War II, were labeled as illegal immigrants. The matter was made worse when the Guardian newspaper reported that some of those Caribbean immigrants were being refused medical care and were threatened with deportation. “What has happened to the Win-

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drush generation isn’t an anomaly. It’s not due to an administrative error. It’s a consequence of the hostile environment created by this [Conservative] government,” London Mayor Sadiq Khan charged. Rudd was called on to resign repeatedly by the Labour Party. She and Prime Minister May have both issued numerous apologies to the Windrush generation over the past few days. “We have let you down and I am deeply sorry,” May said in a letter. “But apologies alone are not good enough. We must urgently right this historic wrong.” Rudd said late last week that she would not resign. She tweeted: “I will work to ensure that our immigration policy is fair and humane.” The 54-year-old was appointed Home Secretary in July 2016. When she resigned on Sunday she became the fourth high-ranking minister to resign from May’s government in the past six months. On Monday, May announced that Sajid Javid will be replacing Rudd as home secretary. He is a non-practicing Muslim whose parents immigrated to the UK from Pakistan.

Brazil Condensing Peace Police Program

Brazil is planning on closing half of the “peace police” units in Rio de Janeiro. The units were established 10 years ago as part of a city-wide effort to restore order to the city’s very dangerous and violent slums. The decision will see 12 of the pacification police units (UPP) units closed and another 7 merged into existing operations. “Nobody wants to close the UPP. But were these units actually meeting their objectives? Let us be realistic – they weren’t,” said Public

Security Minister Raul Jungmann. The UPP was established to create a safer environment in the capital city ahead of the 2014 World Cup and the 2016 Summer Olympics. The idea was to create an embedded police force that would live in and patrol their communities in order to win over the locals’ trust and push out drug traffickers. The city targeted 264 impoverished neighborhoods that housed more than 1.5 million people. The 38 units at first were considered successful as the violent crime rates declined in those areas. However, in 2013, allegations surfaced that the police officers themselves were corrupt and had committed many acts of violence themselves. A recent military report found that the UPP units had “lost control” in most neighborhoods, which are again being plagued by shootings and drug-related clashes. The report prompted the decision to close half of the units. The army was brought in in February by President Michel Temer to manage the security in Rio. It is the first time that military intervention has been used in Brazil since democracy returned to the country in 1995.

On Sunday, the Syrian army said that rockets struck several military bases in the countryside of Hama and Aleppo. The attacks occurred at 10:30 p.m. local time. An opposition source said that one of the locations hit was an army base known as a recruitment center for Iranian-backed Shi’ite militias who fight alongside Bashar Assad. Iranian State television called the attacks new “aggression” by its enemies. Two residents that live near the military base confirmed that blasts were heard from the base used by Iranian-backed forces. Reports from the Syrian opposition said 38 regime soldiers were killed and 57 were injured in the attack. On Tuesday, three American officials told NBC News that Israel, using F-15 fighter jets, conducted the air-

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Qatar Paid Millions in Ransom

According to recently intercepted messages, the Qatari government paid hundreds of millions of dollars in ransom money to terrorist groups in the Middle East, despite previously denying that they transferred money to any terrorist groups. Among the payments was $150 million in cash paid to Iran’s Islamic Revolutionary Guard Corps and the Iraqi paramilitary group Kata’ib Hezbollah, both of which are regarded by the U.S. as sponsors of international terrorism. Nine members of the Qatari royal family and 16 Qatari nationals were freed for a total price tag of $275 million. The individuals were kidnapped during a hunting trip in southern Iraq, according to copies of the intercepted communications obtained by the Washington Post. In one intercepted text message, Qatar’s ambassador to Iraq, Zayed bin Saeed al-Khayareen, described the kidnappings as part of a coordinated shakedown by foreign governments. “The Syrians, Hezbollah-Lebanon, Kata’ib Hezbollah, Iraq all want money, and this is their chance. All of them are thieves,” he was quoted as saying. Last year Qatar admitted that multiple countries helped secure the hostages’ release but vehemently denied that it paid terrorist organizations as part of the deal. In a letter last month denouncing a published account of the events in the New York Times, Qatar’s ambassador to the United States asserted flatly that “Qatar did not pay a ransom.” “The idea that Qatar would undertake activities that support terrorism is false,” the ambassador, Sheikh Meshal bin Hamad al-Thani, wrote at the time. The letter does not deny that Qatar paid money to end the crisis but suggests that the recipients were gov-

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Ten Israeli teenagers were tragically killed in flash floods in Israel last week. The young victims were part of a group of 25 students who were hiking south of the Dead Sea. The hike was organized by Tel Aviv’s Bnei Zion pre-military academy. The students were due to start the program in the coming year. Although severe weather warnings were issued, the hike was not postponed. Nine young women and one young man were killed while in the Tzafit Stream, a riverbed in the southern Dead Sea area. Flash floods in the area are known to be extremely powerful and very unpredictable. Two of the other students were lightly injured and the remaining 13 were unharmed. Police are investigating the circumstances around the hike. The head of the Bnei Tzion program and two other staff members have been questioned by the police and are suspected of negligent homicide for taking the students hiking despite the flood warnings.

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Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and other lawmakers expressed condolences to the families of the teenagers. “The State of Israel mourns the promising young lives that were cut short by this tragedy in the Arava,” Netanyahu wrote on Twitter. Education Minister Naftali Bennett expressed condolences over the “heavy tragedy” and said his ministry would remain in contact with the deceased students’ high schools in the coming days. President Reuven Rivlin said the entire country was “mourning the loss of young promising lives in the heavy disaster.” He said Israel “embraces” the grieving families and wished the injured a speedy recovery. The ten teens who perished in the flood were identified as Shani Shamir from the central city of Shoham; Ella Or from Ma’ale Adumim; Maayan Barhum and Yael Sadan from Jerusalem; Tzur Alfi, the only boy who was killed, from the central town of Mazkeret Batya; Agam Levy from the central Israeli town of Herut; Romi Cohen of Maor, near Hadera; Gali Balali from the Tel Aviv suburb of Givatayim; Adi Raanan of the northern Israel moshav of Mikhmoret; and Ilan Bar Shalom of Rishon Lezion. Sadly, Dotan Sherf, a rescuer, said

that the group was just 300-400 meters away from the end of their hike: had the powerful current hit just a few minutes later they would have been safe. He added, “From my experience, it is very hard to escape from such a flash flood. I can say that anyone who survived has had the hand of G-d touch them.”

Continued Violence in Gaza and Its Border

Six Hamas naval targets were targeted and destroyed by the Israeli air force in the Gaza Strip last week. The counterattack was carried out in response to “terror acts and the major attempt to infiltrate the border into

Israeli territory earlier in the day,” the IDF said in a statement. Four people were injured in the airstrikes on Friday, according to Palestinian news outlets. The strikes were focused on positions belonging to Hamas naval commando forces in the port of Gaza City. Earlier in the day, hundreds of Palestinians converged on the border fence that separates the Gaza Strip from Israel. The aggressive mob was trying to rip through the fence before they were fired upon by Israeli Defense Forces in one of the most violent days of the past five weeks of Palestinian protests. Hundreds of rioters were attempting to burn the fence and enter Israel, according to the IDF. Israeli military spokespeople said that the “hundreds of rioters” were fired upon “in accordance with the rules of engagement” after they threw explosives, firebombs, and rocks at the Israeli troops. Videos were released by the IDF showing a young Palestinian man placing a burning tire along the fence in an apparent attempt to set it on fire and another in which a group of Palestinians lobbed stones over the fence at Israeli military personnel. Hamas leader Yahya Sinwar had

vowed in the past that protesters would “breach the borders and pray at Al-Aqsa,” referring to the major Muslim mosque in Jerusalem. The Israeli army says its troops only open fire at demonstrators who engage in violence, or who attempt to breach the barrier separating the territory from Israel.

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A charedi man is working in the Mossad intelligence agency to fulfill his national civil service requirement. This is the first time the Mossad was used to fulfill that requirement for Orthodox Jews. The national civil service is a program for those that cannot or do not wish

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to serve in the IDF. The 22-year-old unidentified man from Gush Dan is participating in his national service with the support of his family. Another charedi man, identified only as “Z,” is also set to join the Mossad next year. “I am grateful that I was given the opportunity to be considered for the Mossad intelligence and special assignments agency,” says Z. “I submitted my candidacy to the agency because I believe that my service in this framework will enable

me to serve to the best of my ability while preserving the sensibilities of my family and community.” Sar-Shalom Jerbi, the Director of the National Service Administration, recently said that “about 1,600 young people from the ultra-Orthodox sector are serving in the national civil service, and four years ago we opened the civil-security track, where those serving are active in the fields of emergency and security and make a significant contribution

to the security of the country and its citizens. We commend the Mossad for opening its doors to those in National Service. I have no doubt that this is only the first step in the security activity of those serving in the framework of the Mossad, as the organization comes to see the qualities and abilities of the ultra-Orthodox that are serving.” Minister of Agriculture and Director of National Service, Uri Ariel, said the National Service has some of

Hamas is blaming the Palestinian Authority for the attempted assassination of the PA’s own Prime Minister Rami Hamdallah. The March 13th attack on the convoy that was carrying Hamdallah and the PA’s intelligence chief, Majed Faraj, was supposedly carried out by three senior PA officers. The PA and their leader, Mahmoud Abbas, have been blaming Hamas for the assassination attempt which injured ten security guards and staff. Eyewitnesses say a device was detonated seconds before the armored vehicle that was carrying Hamdallah arrived. Hamas has been able to produce a videotape which shows the confessions of four suspects that were captured in the Gaza Strip. The suspects describe how they were given instructions from PA officers in the West Bank to carry out the botched attack. The PA officers behind the attack are supposedly also responsible for the attempt that was made on the life of Hamas’s security chief, Tawfik Abu Naim, in October. Hamas and the Palestinian Authority appear to be on very cold terms lately. This is in contrast to the warmer relationship the two groups shared late last year when they signed a reconciliation agreement in Cairo in which they pledged to set aside their differences and pave the way for Palestinian unity. Since signing the accord, the two rivals have failed to implement any part of the deal and continue to hold each other responsible for the reconciliation not working.

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Merkel Visits the U.S.

It was a busy few days in the White House as President Trump welcomed two world leaders to the White House last week. Following French President Emmanuel Macron’s visit to 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, German Chancellor Angela Merkel met with Trump last Friday in Washington. According to reports, the three-hour meeting mainly focused on Iran and Syria, trade, and NATO. European allies are concerned with Trump’s threats to leave the Iran deal. They believe that if the U.S. backs out

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about Iran’s nuclear program. It’s still early to determine if anything new will be revealed from the documents, although it is certainly astonishing that Israel was able to break into the facility and smuggle out so many files.

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Dr. Ronny Jackson will not lead the Department of Veterans Affairs nor will he continue to serve as the President’s personal doctor as certain issues with the man led to him withdrawing from the nomination. He will still remain on as part of the White House medical unit. Sean Conley, a Navy veteran who took over Jackson’s responsibilities after his nomination, will remain in the role as Trump’s personal doctor.

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Shortly after the nomination, the office of Sen. Jon Tester (D-Mont.) accused Jackson of drinking on the job, overprescribing medication, and managing a toxic work environment. All allegations have been denied by Jackson. In a tweet, Trump declared the allegations against Jackson to be “not true.” “He served three presidents,” Trump said of Jackson on Saturday evening at a Michigan rally, decrying “vicious rumors” against him. “President Obama said he was fantastic. President Bush said he was fantastic. I say he’s fantastic.” The White House doctor is the director of the White House Medical Unit. The unit is composed of military personnel responsible for the medical needs of the President of the United States, vice president, White House staff, and visitors. The medical office of the White House doctor is a “mini urgent-care center” containing a physician’s office, private examination rooms, basic medications and medical supplies, and a crash cart for emergency resuscitation. Air Force One is equipped with emergency medical equipment, an operating table, and operating room lights installed at the center of the presidential plane

for emergency use by the White House doctor. On Monday it was reported that Vice President Mike Pence’s physician privately raised alarms within the White House last fall that President Donald Trump’s doctor may have violated federal privacy protections for a key patient – Pence’s wife, Karen -and intimidated the vice president’s doctor during angry confrontations over the episode.

Pompeo on Iran and North Korea

According to Secretary of State Mike Pompeo, President Trump is not likely to keep the United States in the Iran nuclear deal past the next certification deadline in May. “The President has been clear – absent a substantial

fix, absent overcoming the shortcomings, the flaws of the deal – he is unlikely to stay in that deal past this May,” Pompeo told reporters during a press conference at NATO headquarters in Brussels. President Trump has consistently criticized the deal, recently calling it “insane” during a visit by French President Emmanuel Macron. The deal has many problems including that it doesn’t cover Iran’s ballistic missile program or its regional activities, and that some of the important clauses expire. “We must ensure this murderous regime does not even get close to nuclear weapons,” Trump said last week. “Wherever there’s a problem, Iran is right there,” he said. By May 12, President Trump has to decide whether or not to continue waiving sanctions on Iran that were lifted under the Iran deal. Under U.S. law, the president has to recertify the agreement every few months. In his first trip as the top diplomat for the U.S., Pompeo also said that the U.S. and NATO were prepared to push back against Russia and congratulated North and South Korea on the historic agreement they made putting aside their differences and attempting to denuclearize the peninsula. Pompeo

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What happens when Sprint and T-Mobile merge? No, this is not the opening line of a joke. The answer: too many callers with terrible service will be attempting to reach customer service lines, so sit tight. T-Mobile US Inc. and Sprint Corp announced on Sunday that they have agreed to a $26 billion all-stock deal. They say the merger will create thousands of jobs, hoping that regulators will allow the deal to go through. They also believe it will help the United States beat out China in creating the next generation mobile network. The agreement is a culmination of four years of on-and-off negotiations between the third and fourth largest U.S. wireless carriers. If the merge

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consumers and competitors in the field. The two companies are promising that the new deal will create the highest capacity U.S. network, lower prices, create jobs and improve service in rural areas, said John Legere, the current chief executive of T-Mobile and the new head of the proposed combined company. The new company will take on the T-Mobile name and plans to invest $40 billion over the next three years to upgrade its networks to accommo-

date the next generation 5G wireless technology, which is expected to have the speeds necessary to power drones and self-driving cars. The companies hope that the deal will be complete by the first half of 2019. Both companies are lagging behind Verizon and AT&T in upgrading their networks to accommodate next generation 5G wireless technology, and engineers expect that even after the merger the company’s budget to invest in 5G will still be smaller than Verizon and AT&T.

The Golden State Killer was the nickname assigned to a vicious serial murderer who committed at least 12 murders and countless other violent crimes in California between 1976 and 1986. Over the years, authorities were never quite able to pin him down. However, recently there was a major breakthrough in the case by Paul Holes, a recently retired investigator with California’s Contra Costa County District Attorney’s Office. Holes used crime scene DNA and entered the profile into the online GEDmatch database, a free and publicly accessible genealogy database. GEDMatch is a website that allows users to enter their own DNA profiles or genealogical data to locate familial matches with other users. Users must allow the site to make their information public and link a confirmed email address to their profile. When Holes entered the DNA of the Golden State Killer from a crime scene, more than 100 users matched as a distant relative, possibly as close as a third cousin. Holes said investigators contacted “one or two people” as they tried to find, from the distant relatives, a pool of people who could have been the Golden State Killer of the 1970s and ‘80s. Their work paid off. Last week, authorities arrested Joseph James DeAngelo, 72, in Sacramento, California, on suspicion of being the evil man who killed 12 people and committed crimes against more than 50 women. “This investigation lasted over 40 years, but with this course of DNA testing and matching, it took us only four months to get to the right pool of people,” said Holes, who retired three weeks ago. “This guided us to the

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right pool of people without having to ruffle the sensibilities of a whole lot of people.” DeAngelo is a former police officer with the Auburn Police Department who was fired after he was caught shoplifting a hammer and dog repellent from a hardware store in 1979. He was married and had a daughter and worked as a truck mechanic for a grocery store chain for 27 years. Sheriff Scott Jones told the Sacramento Bee that DeAngelo appeared “very surprised” when he was arrested. DeAngelo was charged with several accounts of murder.

rolled in some urban districts. Among the 27 large urban districts for which the Department of Education published 2017 NAEP test scores, Detroit public schools had the lowest percentage of students who scored proficient or better in math and the lowest percentage who scored proficient or better in reading. Only 5 percent of Detroit public school eighth graders were proficient or better in math. Only 7 percent were proficient or better in reading. In Baltimore public schools, only 11 percent were proficient or better in math and only 13 percent were proficient or better in reading.

We Don’t Need No Education According to the National Assessment of Educational Progress’ test results released by the Department of Education, Americans have a lot to learn. Sixty-five percent of the eighth graders in American public schools in 2017 were not proficient in reading and 67 percent were not proficient in mathematics. The results are far worse for students en-

New York City did surprisingly well in terms of other major urban districts. Twenty-eight percent of

eighth graders were found proficient in math and in reading. Among the states, Louisiana public elementary schools did the worst in teaching students math and New Mexico public elementary schools did the worst job teaching reading. In the Louisiana public schools, only 19 percent of the eighth graders were proficient or better in math and only 25 percent were proficient or better in reading. In the New Mexico public schools, only 24 percent were proficient or better in reading and only 20 percent were proficient or better in math. New York State came in at slot number 25, with 34 percent of eighth graders proficient in math. In reading we slumped to slot number 30 with 34 percent of eighth graders proficient in reading. The Department of Education’s National Center for Education Statistics describes what it means to be “proficient” in math and reading. “Eighth graders performing at the Proficient level should…understand the connections between fractions, percents, decimals, and other mathematical topics such as algebra and functions,” says NCES. “Students at this level are expected to have a thorough understanding of basic level arithmetic operations – an understanding sufficient for problem solving in practical situations.” When it comes to reading, eighth grade “students performing at the Proficient level should be able to provide relevant information and summarize main ideas and themes,” NCES notes. “They should be able to make and support inferences about a text, connect parts of a text, and analyze text features. Students performing at this level should also be able to fully substantiate judgments about content and presentation of content.” The NAEP math and reading tests are scored on a scale of 0-500. The average reading score for an eighth grade public school student on the 2017 NAEP test was 265. That was slightly above the average score of 264 that public school eight graders achieved in 2015, but slightly below the average score of 266 public school eighth graders achieved in 2013. The average math score for an eighth grade public school student on the 2017 NAEP test was 282. That was slightly above the average score of 281 in 2015, but slightly less than the average score of 284 in 2013.

More Americans Delaying Retirement

More than half of people in the workforce over the age of 60 are planning to delay their retirement, according to a new survey. The survey, conducted by The Harris Poll, surveyed 809 full-time workers from a variety of industries and companies and included 157 workers age 60 and older. From the older age group, 53%, about two in five workers, don’t think they’ll be able to retire for financial reasons until at least the age of 70. “I think some of this is residual anxiety,” said Rosemary Haefner, the chief human resources officer at CareerBuilder. “The recession wasn’t that long ago, and it changed the financial picture for a lot of people. Some older workers might rather be safe than sorry.” The overall number of older Americans in the workforce has been rising steadily for years. In 1996, less than 46% of people age 60 to 64 were working, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. By 2016, that number grew to nearly 56%. Staticians believe that by 2026 the percentage should reach about 60%. Every single day about 10,000 baby boomers turn 65 and many of them are primarily relying on Social Security and their own savings to support their retirement, as opposed to having a pension. They also are affected by the rise in health care costs. According to Fidelity Investments, a couple retiring today, both age 65, can expect to spend $280,000 on their medical care over the rest of their lives. According to Vanguard, among its clients the average 401k plan account balance for people age 65 and older was $196,907 in 2016. While a huge part of the decision to delay retirement is based on finances, Haefner points out that some older workers simply enjoy their jobs and don’t want to hang up their hats yet. “They might be feeling more valued by their employer than they did

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20 years ago,” Haefner said. “They have great institutional knowledge, and they’re great trainers and mentors. It’s a way they can stand out from their coworkers.”

Otto Warmbier’s Parents Sue North Korea Although major advancements have been made on the political front between the U.S. and North Korea, there is still a family that is reeling from pain perpetrated by the regime. The family of Otto Warmbier, the 22-year-old Jewish college student who was “brutally tortured and murdered” by Kim Jong Un’s regime during his 17 months in captivity, has filed a lawsuit against North Korea. The 22-page complaint, filed in U.S. District Court for the District of Columbia last Thursday, details the abuse Warmbier encountered. When he finally arrived back home in the U.S. last June he was in a coma and died several days later. The suit comes just weeks before an expected meeting between President Trump and Kim Jong Un, suspected to be taking place in late May or early June. Previously Trump had used Warmbier’s story as a talking piece to put “maximum pressure” on Pyongyang to sit down for talks. Trump has said he plans to raise the issue of human rights in his conversations with Kim. In a statement, Fred Warmbier said his son was “taken hostage, kept as a prisoner for political purposes, used as a pawn and singled out for exceptionally harsh and brutal treatment by Kim Jong Un. Kim and his regime have portrayed themselves as innocent, while they intentionally destroyed our son’s life. This lawsuit is another step in holding North Korea accountable for its barbaric treatment of Otto and our family.” The Warmbier family is represented by McGuire Woods, and a lead attorney in the case, Richard Cullen, also represents Vice President Pence, who has also spoken out against the North’s treatment of Warmbier and its record of human rights abuses. Fred Warmbier accompanied Pence as part of the U.S. delegation to the Opening Ceremony of the Winter Olympics in PyeongChang, South Korea, in February. The White House supports the

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lawsuit but does not have a formal role in the matter. Trump “spoke clearly about the pain that all Americans felt when we lost Otto Warmbier. That feeling of loss has not changed,” White House press secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders said in a statement. “Although this is a private legal action to which the United States government is not a party, Americans remain committed to honoring Otto’s memory, and we will not forget the suffering of his parents,

Fred and Cindy Warmbier.” To date, three Americans remain in captivity in North Korea and Trump has said his administration is working on securing their release. CIA Director Mike Pompeo, who was confirmed by the Senate on Thursday as Secretary of State, traveled to Pyongyang in early April and met with Kim and reportedly discussed the detainees with North Korean officials.

More Hit-andRuns The National Safety Council estimated that 40,100 people were killed in car accidents in 2017 – and a large number were hit-and-run traffic fatalities. According to the AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety, the number of hit-and-runs has reached an all-

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time high. In a report released last Thursday, the foundation said 2,049 people were killed in hit-and-runs in 2016 – a 60% increase since 2009 and the highest number ever recorded. “Hit-and-run crashes in the United States are trending in the wrong direction,” Dr. David Yang, executive director of the foundation – a nonprofit established by the broader AAA organization in 1947 – said in a statement. “Our analysis shows that hitand-run crashes are a growing traffic

safety challenge.” According to the analysis, the nation’s Sun Belt – New Mexico, Louisiana and Florida – are the states with the highest rates of hit-and-runs. By contrast, the rates have been lowest in the Frost Belt states of Minnesota, Maine and New Hampshire. Hit-and-runs are defined as collisions “in which at least one person involved in a crash flees the scene before offering any (or sufficient) information or aid to the other involved

person(s) or fails to properly report the crash,” according to the AAA report. The problem “contribute[s] to the suffering and social and economic burdens typical of injury crashes but also can increase the severity of outcomes given delays in or the complete absence of medical attention for the victims,” the report says. “Moreover, hit-and-run violations – which are criminal offenses – can create additional burdens for law enforcement and for families looking for remedia-

Cry Closet

Students at University of Utah are not sobbing into their books. Instead, the college has installed a “cry closet” in a library on campus where students can take ten-minute secluded crying sessions. Nemo Miller, who is a student at

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was a French artist from Roussillon who studied in Paris. He produced most of his work in Elne and is known for the stunning landscapes he painted of the Roussillon area, one of the historical counties of the former Principality of Catalonia. So many forgeries in one place is enough to give someone an art attack.

World’s Oldest Spider Dies

Fake Muse-um Patrons at the Etienne Terrus art museum in Elne, France, have been enchanted by numerous works by Terrus, who was a local artist who died in 1922, throughout the years. Terrus was a friend of French artist Henri Matisse. Recently, though, museum officials were shocked when art historian Eric Forcada told them shocking news: around sixty percent of the artwork hanging on the museum’s walls was fake. Forcada was hired to organize the gallery after major restorations were done. He discovered that a large portion of the paintings, drawings and watercolors in the collection were not authentic. Apparently he had doubts about the validity of the pieces as soon as he saw them. “On one painting, the ink signature was wiped away when I passed my white glove over it,” he noted. Forcada also noticed that several of the paintings depicted buildings that were constructed after Terrus died in 1922. Since Forcada made the initial discovery, a committee has confirmed that 82 of the 140 pieces in the collection were not painted by Terrus. “Etienne Terrus was Elne’s great painter. He was part of the community, he was our painter,” Yves Barniol, the town’s mayor, said. “Knowing that people have visited the museum and seen a collection most of which is fake, that’s bad. It’s a catastrophe for the municipality.” The town of Elne recently invested $363,189 into renovating the museum. According to Barniol, an investigation will be conducted to determine who the culprits are. “We’re not giving up,” he said. Etienne Joseph Mathieu Terrus

Miss Muffet has no more reason to fear. According to this month’s Pacific Conservation Biology journal, the world’s oldest spider is dead. Named No. 16, she was 43 years old at her passing, back in May of 2017. What did the aging arthropod in? Don’t bug out. It was a wasp that killed her. No. 16 was a trapdoor spider. They don’t spin webs like other spiders. Instead, they live underground and build a cork-like trapdoor out of soil, vegetation and silk, and use that to trap insects. They pose no danger to humans as they are usually quite timid and their bites are nontoxic. Trapdoor spiders generally live between five and 20 years. “To our knowledge this is the oldest spider ever recorded, and her significant life has allowed us to further investigate the trapdoor spider’s behavior and population dynamics,” said Leanda Mason, the lead author of the study that documented No. 16’s life. No. 16 was killed when her burrow lid was pierced by a parasitic wasp, whose sting later killed her. No. 16 lived in Western Australia, where trapdoor spiders were the subject of a decades-long study that began in 1974. Scientists opine that she lived so long because she was sedentary, had a low metabolism, and lived in uncleared, native bushland. No. 16 was the oldest spider in the world at the time of her death. She had outlived the previous world record holder, a 28-year-old tarantula found in Mexico.

Lucky Tip

James P., an Uber driver, just had the ride of his life. After driving one of his fares, the rider gave him a $5 scratch off ticket as a tip. That lottery ticket was a bonanza – he won $30 from that ticket and used the money to buy six more of the same kind. James kept on winning small and then buying more tickets until, six weeks later, he hit the jackpot – drawing a $140,000 prize. What’s the Colorado man going to do with all that dough? James says he’ll give some of it to his parents. He also said he’ll use some of it to fix up his car. Since winning he has yet to find the passenger who started off James’ bounty. “I haven’t been able to find him yet and tell him about this, but I hope I do,” he said. Ride on.

A Big Baby Present

If you gave birth in Chicago on Thursday, May 3, you have extra reason to rejoice. Recently, Fifth Third Bank announced that it will be giving $1,053 gift cards to every baby born on Thursday at 19 Chicago-area hospitals in honor of the bank’s namesake day (5/3). The bank is encouraging parents to put the money toward 529 college savings plans, but families will be able to use it however

they wish. The bank said that it will probably be cutting checks to more than 200 families. This is the second year the bank has welcomed infants born on May 3 with money. Last year, the bank piloted the program in Cincinnati, where it’s headquartered, bestowing cash on more than 100 Buckeye babies. Parents in Chicago, the bank’s largest market, also will get gift cards to online retailers and Fifth Third onesies commemorating their babies’ birthdays. Don’t spend it all on diapers.

Ride the Wave

Heading to Long Beach this summer? Check out the surfers there as they ride the waves. Exciting as it looks, none of them will be able to compete with Rodrigo Koxa, who has been credited with a world record for riding the biggest wave ever surfed. The World Surf League confirmed the record at its Big Wave Awards in Santa Monica on Saturday, saying its judging panel determined that a wave Koxa surfed at Naraze, Portugal, on November 8 was 80 feet. The Brazilian surfer’s mark overtook the record of 78 feet which Garrett McNamara set in 2011 at the same beach. “The award goes to the surfer who, by any means available, catches the biggest wave of the year,” the WSL said in a statement. Not only did Koxa win this year’s honor, but he now holds the Guinness World Record for the biggest wave surfed. Koxa described the award as “a dream come true.” “I had an amazing dream the night before, where I was talking to myself: ‘You gotta go straight down. You gotta go straight down.’ I didn’t really know what it meant. But I figured somebody was talking to me,” Koxa said at the awards show. Just a few years before, Koxa al-

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most died surfing at Nazare. He spent months recuperating. Capturing the XXL Biggest Wave Award is something of a holy grail to the tight-knight cabal of surfers who travel the world hunting for the biggest waves. Besides the international recognition, the award comes with a hefty cash prize — which helps offset the travel and training expenses. Though it’s an intensely sought-after prize, it’s difficult to accurately measure wave height. To determine how large a wave is, the judges – a mix of professional surfers, former professionals, oceanographers, and other wave experts – estimates a surfer’s “crouch height,” then use an oversize image of the wave to generate a scale that gives them a roughly accurate measurement. The waves are so big at Nazare that they move too fast for the surfers to paddle into; the surfers get towed on jet-skis. The jet-skis also act as a safety measure, picking up the surfers from the impact zone after they ride the waves or rescuing them when they go down. Hey dude, be careful out there.

Worth Millions

Sometimes something small can be worth a lot more than you think. A New England man, who has requested to remain anonymous, thought that a small gold coin of a $5 denomination from the San Francisco Mint during the height of the California Gold Rush was a fake. The coin, though, is just one of four known in existence and is extremely rare. Today’s price tag? Millions of dollars. “It’s like finding an original Picasso at a garage sale. It’s the discovery of a lifetime,” said Mark Salzberg, NGC Chairman, in a statement. Slightly smaller than the modern quarter-dollar, the coin was minted in 1854 and has amazed its anonymous owner. “He was stunned when we informed him that it is a genuine, multimillion dollar rare coin,” Salzberg added. “He had shown it to a

few collectors and dealers at a recent coin show, but everybody said they thought it was a fake because until now there were only three genuine surviving 1854 San Francisco Mint $5 gold pieces known.” Mint records indicate that just 268 of these coins were made in the San Francisco mint in 1854, the first year they were produced. The other known coins in existence have a storied history. One is

located at the National Numismatic Collection at the Smithsonian Institution in Washington, D.C., and another was stolen from the DuPont family in 1967 and has never been recovered. In total, the thieves stole more than 7,000 rare coins, including the incredibly rare $5 piece, known as a Liberty Half Eagle. Perhaps that’s why this smart man has chosen to keep his name out of the news.

“Our initial reaction on examining the coin was utter disbelief that a rarity of this magnitude could still be discovered in this era,” NGC president Richard Montgomery said. “But upon seeing the coin in person for the first time, it was apparent that the coin is genuine.” We coin not believe it.

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Community YOSS Visits Old Bethpage

s a culmination of their year spent learning about the colonies and American independence, the fifth grade boys of Yeshiva of South Shore went on a trip to the Old Bethpage Village Restoration. While there, the students were able step back in time and see firsthand how the early pioneers lived. They saw blacksmiths and hat makers at work. They were able to visit a schoolhouse and different vintage homes. It was a rewarding day and brought their knowledge of history to life.

Assemblywoman Miller Visits HALB

ast week, HALB had the privileged to host Assemblywoman Melissa (Missy) Miller. Ms. Miller took personal interest in our efforts to educate diverse learners and was particularly impressed with the work being done in our ICT class in first grade this year. In appreciation of her support of the newly adopted STEM grant for non-public schools, we showed her our STEM and computer labs. Finally, the assemblywoman had the opportunity to speak with our fifth graders who asked insightful questions and learned about the role of the State Assembly. We are thankful to our partners at TEACH NYS of the OU who helped plan the visit and to our parent Mr. Jonathan Katz who took the initiative to bring Ms. Miller to HALB.

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Mesivta Ateres Yaakov Annual Dinner: Building Generations

esivta Ateres Yaakov will celebrate its annual dinner on Monday, May 14 at The Sands of Atlantic Beach beginning at 7PM. The entire community is encouraged to participate in this important annual event and pay tribute to the Mesivta, its hanhala, rabbeim and faculty, as well as its distinguished honorees. This year, the Mesivta is honoring Mr. & Mrs. Eliezer Allman as Guests of Honor, Mr. & Mrs. Shimon Gross as Parents of the Year, Dr. & Mrs. George Adler as Grandparents of the Year and will be celebrating the 10 year reunion of the graduating class of 2008. MAY’s reputation as a premier makom Torah in the Five Towns community is recognized throughout the greater Jewish community. MAY has perfected its now signature blending of a serious, demanding limudei kodesh curriculum with a rigorous, challenging general studies program, while enveloping students in a warm, caring environment. Each talmid is

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embraced by the Mesivta from the moment he enters with a steadfast commitment to his personal growth, academic success and simchas hachaim. Every talmid becomes acutely aware of this relationship between him and his Mesivta and realizes that this relationship does not end after four years of high school. “Rabbeim for Life. Education for Life. Torah for Life.” The Rosh HaYeshiva, Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, commented, “This year

the Mesivta is honoring grandparents, parents – both current and former – and students of the Mesivta. It is a true embodiment of the genuine continuity engendered in Ateres Yaakov. Appropriately, the theme of this year’s dinner is Building Generations.”

works as the Mesivta’s Alumni Liaison, and Zvi is the 9th grade sho’el u’meishiv. All five sons are proud graduates of Mesivta Ateres Yaakov.

Guests of Honor: Mr. & Mrs. Eliezer Allman Eliezer was born in Edmonton, Canada, later moving to Calgary. He attended Mesivta Ohr Torah in Riverdale, NY, then learned in Neveh Yehoshua in Eretz Yisroel. He returned to New York to run Neveh’s North American office while earning his degree in Business Administration. For most of Eliezer’s professional career he was in the textile business, as well as being a passionate volunteer in a number yeshivas and other organizations. Eliezer was the founding president of the independent MAY yeshiva and was a huge contributor to its ongoing success. He is currently the executive director of JFS in Staten Island. Gitti was born on Otis Air Force Base in Massachusetts, where her father was serving as an Air Force dentist. She grew up locally in Bayswater and then later in Lawrence. She graduated from Central High School in Manhattan and attended Brooklyn College where she earned her Master’s Degree in Special Education from Adelphi University. Since marrying Eliezer, she became a professional cake decorator, eventually starting her own business, Decorate My Cake USA. Eliezer and Gitti are the proud parents of Rafi & Malkie, Effie & Dassy, Shmuly & Kelly, Zvi & Chevi, Mendy and Hadassah. Effie currently teaches forensic science at MAY, Shmuly

Parents of the Year: Mr. & Mrs. Shimon Gross Shimon grew up in East Flatbush and traveled a long journey each day to the Bobover Yeshiva in Boro Park. His parents, aleihem ha’shalom, were utterly devoted to the physical and, more so, spiritual wellbeing of Shimon. They made sure that their son received a proper hadracha for life, planting in Shimon the desire to become an oseik b’tzarchei tzibbur. Shimon’s expertise is in the design, installation, and maintenance of all types of security, phone, audio, and video systems. He began wiring houses at age 10 and started his company, Crosstown Security Systems, at age 18. The Mesivta has a tremendous amount of hakaras hatov to Shimon for his contributions to MAY’s systems infrastructure. Most recently, Shimon was instrumental in the construction of MAY’s new gymnasium, working tirelessly to gain the needed approvals that could have held up the schedule for months. Shulamit grew up in Midwood and attended Prospect Park Yeshiva. She graduated from Hunter College with Honors and later from Brooklyn College with a Master’s Degree in Special Education. She currently works for the family business and volunteers extensively. She served as president of the women’s league at Congregation Bais Medrash for two years and has been co-president of the MAY Women’s League for the past three years. The Grosses reside in Cedarhurst with their four sons, all MAY talmi-

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‫ֶשׁיְ ֵּהא זַ ְר ִעי וְ זֶ ַרע זַ ְר ִעי‬

‫זרע‬ ‫ּכשר‬

Class of 2008

dim. Shaya (2016) is a second year talmid at Yeshiva Toras Chaim in Yerushalayim. Eliyahu, Shlomo, and Yehuda are triplets all attending MAY. Yehuda is heavily involved in all G.O. and student activities, Eli is a steadfast, hard-working academic, and Shlomo is a ba’al tefilah par excellence. Shimon and Shulamit chose Mesivta Ateres Yaakov for their sons because of the yeshiva’s high academic and hashkafic standards. They are proud of their sons’ many MAY accomplishments and are especially proud of the relationships their sons have forged with their rabbeim. Grandparents of the Year: Dr. & Mrs. Chaim Adler Happily married for 43 years, the Adlers currently reside in Lawrence and are staples at the Bais Medrash of Harborview, where Chaim is a regular attendee of Rabbi Kalish’s night kollel and is approaching the completion of his fourth cycle of daf yomi! Chaim attended Telshe Yeshiva in Cleveland for High School and then went on to learn in Bais Medrash Bais Yosef Navordak. He graduated from NYU Dental School and opened his popular family dental practice in Brooklyn where he has been practicing for the past 42 years. Miriam is a certified yoga instructor, a certified real estate broker, and an accomplished pianist, having earned her college degree in music. After working over 10 years in the real estate field, she finds herself most comfortable in her role as supportive wife, mother, grandmother and involved member of her commu-

nity. She is presently extremely active in the N’shei of the Bais Medrash of Harborview and the local shidduch initiative, Aleinu l’Shade’ach. As granddaughter of the esteemed Rav of Szerencze Hungary, Rav Menachem Pollak, zt”l, Miriam, together with Chaim, passes on to her children and to her community, the mesorah of which she is so proud. Chaim and Miriam are proud grandparents of MAY talmidim Benny and Tzvi Adler. Benny will be graduating from the Mesivta this year and attending Yeshivas Imrei Binah in Eretz Yisroel next year. Tzvi is finishing ninth grade, completing the first successful leg of his MAY journey. Celebrating the Class of 2008 The graduating class of 2008 epitomizes the values and hashkafa of Mesivta Ateres Yaakov. A decade later, they are beginning successful careers in the professions of their choices. Doctors, lawyers, accountants and businessmen together with mechanchim and other klei kodesh, round out the diversity of this particular class. Many are married and have started families. While some have moved to other communities, their feelings of closeness and connection to the Mesivta remain. The Mesivta takes pride in the successes of the class of 2008 and are honored to be celebrating their 10 year reunion at this year’s dinner. For more information, to make reservations or dedication opportunities, contact the Mesivta’s office at (516) 374-6465 or dinner@ateresyaakov.com.

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Community Stops and Joins in at Hatzalah Dinner PHOTO CREDIT: NAFTOLI GOLDGRAB PHOTOGRAPHY

Moshe Ratner, Hatzalah board member; Alex Edelman, Mayor, Village of Lawrence; Michael Fragin, Dep. Mayor, Village of Lawrence, and member of Hatzalah; Nassau County Police Commissioner Ryder; Nassau County Councilwoman Ford; Town of Hempstead Councilman Anthony Dâ€™Esposito; NYS Assemblywoman Miller; Nassau County Councilman Howard Kopel; Mark Gross, Hatzalah coordinator; S. Scott Orlanski, Hatzalah coordinator; Meir Krengel, Hatzalah board member; Anthony J. Santino, Former Town of Hempstead supervisor; Howard Kafka, Hatzalah coordinator; and Stephen Wallach, Dinner co-chair

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Gesher Century Challenge III Launches 2018 Triple Play

ver the last several years the Gesher Century Challenge bike ride has become a favorite event for many families in our community. The GCC offers a wide range of routes and amenities, appealing to men, women and children. The organizers take into consideration the non-riders as well, providing food and drinks and family entertainment. Gesher has teamed up with the Huntington Bicycle club and their annual Gold Coast Tour held traditionally in the beginning of July. The scenic tour incorporates routes suitable for many level of ridership. Young children participate in the 12 mile ride. Last year Gesher was represented by a group of 10 riders, the youngest was 7 years old. The other options are 25, 55, 70, and 100 miles. In 2017 several Gesher riders accomplished their first Century (100 mile) together with a group of approximately 40 seasoned riders. With the goal of making the GCC even more appealing Gesher has added two components to the program for 2018. In order to accommodate scheduling conflicts and ride preferences Gesher has teamed up with the Kiwanis Club of Long Island’s North Shore to participate in their very popular Nassau to Suffolk Bicycle Tour. This event offers three routes, 25 miles, 55 miles, and the 66 mile metric century. Additionally, Gesher has opened a virtual training campaigning with the widely used fitness app Strava. This

training club allows riders to post rides and participate in weekly incentives and raffles. It is a great way to encourage other riders and to receive encouragement as each person trains. The Gesher Century Challenge Triple Play allows participants to choose 1, 2, or all 3 options. The Nassau to Suffolk Bicycle Tour will take place on June 24, 2018. The Virtual Training Campaign will continue for several weeks after the first event. The Gold Coast Tour will take place on July 15. All GCC riders receive a professional jersey, an insulated water bottle, a free t-shirt, a GCC3 bike lever, and many incentives. To register for the GCC triple play, please visit GesherCenturyChallenge. com. The Gesher Century Challenge helps fund Project Gesher’s initiatives in supporting local yeshiva day school students who struggle to succeed in the typical classroom setting.

JEP/Nageela’s Art Auction

hat is there to do when Shabbos ends so late? Here’s a fun and unique night out. This Motzei Shabbos, JEP will host an exclusive art auction for the entire community! Come out on Saturday night, May 5 at the Cedarhurst Center on Central Avenue. Purchase a piece of artwork and help hundreds of children enjoy Jewish educational programs throughout the year. The evening will feature high-end paintings, raffle prizes of artwork, and the chance to bid on a commissioned work of art by accomplished artist, Myriam Meisels. Over 40 pieces will be available for auction. Prices range in value from $250 to $5,000. Original works by artists such as Ben Arie, Jovan Obican, Anatoly Baratynsky,

Victor Kinus, Alice Conklin Bevin, Ora Nissim, Menashe Kadishman, Alexander Kanchik, Rus, along with popular new artist, Yaeli, will be featured. Find something you love at a table of framed art prints under $100 or bid on an original oil painting by the world-famous Israeli impressionist artist, Zvi Raphaeli. There will be something for everyone! Refreshments will be served. We thank our generous donors, board members, sponsors and partners including Jeff Neckonoff of Azamra Entertainment, Chaim and Esther Holzberg of Metal Art (a division of 925 Sterling), Avi Polinsky of Your Arts Desire, LLC, and the Cedarhurst Center for hosting this wonderful event. Proceeds will be used to help JEP and Nageela continue doing

the Jewish outreach and educational programming they have been doing for the past 30+ years. For more information about JEP/ Nageela’s Art Auction or for sponsor-

ship opportunities, please call Jen S. Zwiebel, JEP’s Director of PR & Development, at 516-374-1528, ext. 240 or jenz@jepli.org. Visit JEP/Nageela online at jepli.org and campnageela.org. See you on Motzei Shabbos!

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JCCRP Legislative Breakfast: A Hidden Gem PHOTO CREDIT: HERSHEL BARON

his past Sunday, over 400 community members came together to pay tribute to a true hidden gem in our community, the JCCRP. The Jewish Community Council of Rockaway Peninsula held its annual Legislative Breakfast on Sunday morning, at the White Shul. It was a roaring success. From high ranking elected officials to local community members and even grateful clients who benefit from the organization’s services day in and day out; people from all walks of life came to express their appreciation and gratitude for the all-encompassing nature of the work done at the JCCRP. The breakfast opened up with the MC of the event, Mordecai Zvi Dicker, JCCRP Board President, introducing Rabbi Eytan Feiner of The White Shul to deliver the opening remarks. Rabbi Feiner in his usual fashion captured the audience with divrei Torah about Moshe Rabbeinu’s leadership which stemmed from his deep concern for his fellow man. He highlighted the JCCRP’s crucial services and its mission to help and care for every community member in need. Councilman Donovan Richards presented the Community Service Award to his Chief of Staff, Manuel Silva, for his dedicated service to

the Rockaways and numerous non-forprofit agencies in our neighborhood. The councilman highlighted how his staff is always able to confidently guide constituents to the JCCRP for help. Manuel accepted the award and spoke about his tour of the JCCRP immediately upon beginning his position. Howard Pollack, the community liaison of NYC Council Speaker Corey Johnson’s office, presented the Public Service Award to Assemblywoman Stacey Pheffer Amato for her selfless dedication in ensuring the needs of our community are always met. The assemblywoman proudly spoke about the work that is done in conjunction with her team and the JCCRP. She spoke about the dedicated JCCRP staff members who give their all when assisting community members. Queensborough President Melinda Katz presented the City Legislative Leadership Award to Councilman Chaim Deutsch, the chair of the NYC Council Jewish Caucus, for his leadership in so many significant causes throughout New York City. After some joking about being in the wrong borough, Councilman Deutsch spoke about the enthusiasm he encountered when meeting the JCCRP executive director, Moshe Brandsdorfer, for the

first time. The councilman discussed the great work of the organization and his firsthand knowledge of it due to his close relationship with Councilman Richards and from his own children and grandchildren who live in Far Rockaway. The morning continued with Moshe Brandsdorfer, JCCRP executive director, thanking everyone for attending and introducing the newly appointed CEO of Met Council, David Greenfield. David spoke eloquently about the strength and great work of the 16 JCCs across the five boroughs. And last but certainly not least, the Chairman of the JCCRP Board Richard Altabe was honored with the Audrey Pheffer Lifetime Achievement Award presented by none other than Audrey Pheffer. In his acceptance speech, Mr. Altabe brought cheers and a roaring applause to the room when he adamantly stated, “It is a privilege to be honored with a lifetime achievement award but I do not plan on stopping!” Mr. Altabe also received an honorable citation from NYC Comptroller Scott Stringer. JCCRP Executive Director Moshe Brandsdorfer remarked, “The legislative breakfast was an amazing display of unity, pride and achievement.

The recognition given to the JCCRP’s services and accomplishments by our elected officials, on a local, city, and state level was outstanding. We are so thankful to our honorees, elected officials and community members for their ongoing support. We are an open door to anyone in the community in need of services or any assistance.” The Legislative Breakfast is one of the few occasions during the year in which the local Jewish community has the opportunity to come together and demonstrate our strength as a community to the elected officials, city and state agencies and other community partners. This was an opportunity for the entire community to thank individuals who have rendered services to the Jewish community. The JCCRP is thankful to those members of our community whose attendance and participation was the best advertisement for our community and a source of encouragement for the many individuals and institutions that work together with the JCCRP to make our community an even better place to live. To find out more about the JCCRP services or to sign up as a volunteer please email info@jccrp.org or visit www.jccrp.org.

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Hachtarah for New Rav of Lido Beach Shul

L-R: Rabbi Baruch Ber Bender of Achiezer; Rabbi Mendy Mirocznik, Executive Vice-President, Rabbinical Alliance of America/Igud HaRabbonim; Rabbi Yaakov Klass, Presidium Member Rabbinical Alliance of America/Igud HaRabbonim; Rabbi Yaakov Bender, Rosh HaYeshiva Darchei Torah; Mr. Alex Berkovich, President, Lido Beach Synagogue; Rabbi Eli Biegeleisen, Lido Beach Synagogue; Rabbi Dr. Chaim Wakslak of Young Israel of Long Beach; Rabbi David Bibi, Sephardic Congregation; Rabbi Dovid Rothschild, Mesivta of Long Beach; Mr. Bert Fried, Chairman of Lido Beach Shul; and Ariel Sutain, Vice President

Mr. Ariel Sutain presenting Rabbi Biegeleisen with a framed Ksav Rabbanus

n Sunday, April 29, Pesach Sheni, a gala breakfast was held to mark the Hachtarah of Rabbi Eli Biegeleisen as the new rabbi of the Lido Beach Shul. Congregation Etz Chaim is just a stone’s throw from the bustling Five Towns and has had an Orthodox Jewish community and shul for over 50 years. The quiet suburban neighborhood of affordable, family-friendly homes adjacent to Long Beach on Long Island’s south shore offers a warm and active shul with a small town feel. The area features a variety of local kosher stores, an eruv, a mikvah, easy transportation into Manhattan/Brooklyn, and free

Alex Berkovitch, Rabbi Eli Biegeleisen, and Senator Todd Kaminsky

busing to all Far Rockaway and Five Town schools. The Hachtarah ceremony took place in the magnificent main sanctuary of the shul and was witnessed by a capacity crowd. Many prominent rabbonim were in attendance and addressed the auspicious occasion including Rabbi Yaakov Bender, Rosh Yeshiva of Darchei Torah; Rabbi Chaim Yehoshua Hoberman, Rosh Yeshiva of the Long Beach Mesivta; Rabbi Chaim Wakslak of the nearby Young Israel of Long Beach; Rabbi Moshe Greene of the BACH; David Bibi of the Sephardic Shul; Rabbi Mendy Mirocznik, Executive Vice President,

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Rabbinical Alliance of America/Igud HaRabbonim; and Rabbi Daniel Mehlman, Rabbi Emeritus of the Lido Beach Synagogue, who served the community for over 35 years. Joel Schreiber, a prominent member of the shul, chaired the event and relayed greetings from many other rabbonim who could not attend the installation ceremony. A special proclamation was presented to Rabbi Biegeleisen by Senator Todd Kaminsky, a neighbor and long-time friend of the congregation. Mr. Ariel Sutain, vice president of the congregation, formally presented Rabbi Biegeleisen with a framed Ksav Rabbanus. Following the presentation, Mr. Alex Berkovitch, president of the congregation, presented Rabbi Biegeleisen with a kiddush cup to symbolize the shefa bracha and future that the community will share as Yiddishkeit continues to grow in the Lido

Rabbi and Rebbitzen Biegeleisen and family

Beach area. In his address, the newly installed rabbi spoke of the warm and welcoming community and their shared vison to continue to be the center of a family-friendly community where members are dedicated to tefilla, limud Torah and Jewish causes. Besides gaining a first-class rabbi and talmid chacham par excellence, the Lido Beach will benefit from the energy and talent of Rebbetzin Shira Biegeleisen, a true blessing for the community. Rabbi and Rebbetzin Biegeleisen bring with them their three young children, with love, warmth and energy. Besides serving as the rabbi of the Lido Beach Synagogue, Rabbi Biegeleisen will continue as the Director of Community Engagement at Yeshiva Darchei Torah, a prominent yeshiva in nearby Far Rockaway.

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HAFTR Students Take Honors at the LI Math Fair

our Hebrew Academy of the Five Towns and Rockaway High School students were awarded medals for outstanding research at the final round of the Long Island Math Fair on April 20, at Hofstra University. Miriam Kopyto and Amanda Schorr captured silver medals. Erica Hilsenrath and Efrat Neumann received bronze medals. Miriam researched the construction of n-gons and Amanda did re-

Efrat Neumann, Amanda Schorr, Miriam Kopyto, Mr. Neil Bernstein, Erica Hilsenrath and Ms. Naomi Lippman

search in knot theory. Erica investigated the cardinality of numbers, and Efrat researched fractals.

All four students worked with their mentor, Mr. Neil Bernstein, mathematics department chairman

at HAFTR High School. Congratulations to our students on their academic success.

them use of all equipment and training facilities. Each girl made her run into a mitz-

vah by donating to FIDV. Our team proudly raised a total of $360 dollars. At Shulamith High School we

teach our students that the mundane can be uplifted and we are so proud of our girls.

dle school students and families as well as virtual reality activities for kids to try. Awards will be presented to students in various categories for their achievement in their CIJE capstone projects. In addition, Rick Hirschhaut, of the American Friends of Rambam Medical Center, will present the 2018 Rambam Innovation Award to the students who designed projects in preparation and response to natural disasters and mass casualty situations. CIJE Innovation Day offers a wonderful opportunity for students to interact in their closely-knit school community as well as with our larger network of schools. There is camaraderie amongst our students

that develops throughout the day of judging and sharing project experiences with each other. Being successful at CIJE Innovation Day requires a strong work ethic, curiosity, dedication, and a passion for STEM. Guidance throughout the school year comes from teachers and CIJE mentors, whose knowledge and commitment to the program encourage their students to perform their best and actively engage in this exciting experience at CIJE Innovation Day. CIJE Innovation Day is a free event and open for all to attend. CIJE looks forward to greeting you on May 6, 2018 from 2pm-5pm at the NYC Hilton 1335 Avenue of the Americas, New York, NY 10019.

Shulamith HS Runs 5 Towns 5K

he Shulamith High School Track and Field Club ran their very first 5k last Sunday as part of the Five Towns 5K Run/Walk to benefit Friends of Israel Disabled Veterans. Under the guidance of our athletics instructor Coach Raina Butler of The Woodmere Fitness Club, the girls trained for the 5k weekly. The Woodmere Fitness Club generously opened their doors to the track team for all their practices, allowing

CIJE Innovation Day

he Center for Initiatives in Jewish Education (CIJE) is a 501-c3, non-profit organization which provides STEM resources, curricula, and mentors to schools, exposing students to multiple STEM problem-solving perspectives and hands-on technical skills that scientists and engineers would use for solving real-world problems. The structure of the CIJE-Tech program provides additional opportunities, such as the annual CIJE Innovation Day, for introducing students into the culture of science, technology, engineering, and mathematics. The CIJE-Tech High School Program is designed to proceed over a 2-year time period: year one Principles of Engi-

neering and year two Applied Engineering, with each year providing a unique set of lessons and experiences for the students. Each year of the program culminates with capstone projects designed and built by students. This year, CIJE Innovation Day will be held on May 6, 2018 in the NYC Hilton, where more than 1,300 students will share their original CIJE-Tech STEM capstone projects. Dr. Joseph Jacobson, Associate Professor and head of the MIT Media Lab’s Molecular Machine research group, will attend CIJE Innovation Day and deliver an inspiring keynote address. There will also be a Maker Exposition throughout the day, with many activities for mid-

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Yeshiva Har Torah Welcomes the Honorable Judge Ruchie Freier

his past week the 7th and 8th graders at Yeshiva Har Torah had the great pleasure to hear from Judge Freier. Judge Freier who is the first Chasidic woman to serve as a

judge she presides over a civil court in New York’s 5th judicial district. Judge Freier relayed to the students her journey of coming to this prestigious position. She expressed to the students the

importance of education and standing by your ideals in life. She inspired the students with stories of her experience and how people have come to respect her as she upholds her ethics and stan-

dards of her faith. The students were joined by several parents who came to hear from this inspiring Jewish woman and her message of faith and leadership.

Rabbi Nechemia Weiss took his fourth grade talmidim of Yeshiva Darchei Torah to visit and be inspired by Harav Reuven Feinstein, shlita, the Rosh Yeshiva of the Yeshiva of Staten Island, last week

Rabbi Shlomo Weinberg of Yeshiva Bais Abraham-Slonim to Spend Shabbos in Far Rockaway

he Far Rockaway community is honored to host the Mashgiach of Yeshivas Bais Abraham Slonim. Rabbi Weinberg is the editor the Nesivos Shalom Seforim and the Rebbe zt”l’s son-in-law. Rabbi Weinberg will be in Far Rockaway for Shabbos, Parshas

Emor, and is being hosted by Mr. and Mrs. Aron Kopelowitz. There will be a Shalosh Seudas and shiur held on Shabbos afternoon at 7:30 PM at the Kopelowitz home, 1223 Beach 9th Street in Far Rockaway. A reception to benefit Yeshiva Bais Abraham-Slonim will take place

on Wednesday, May 9 at 8PM at the Kopelowitz home. The Slonim Yeshiva is entering its seventy-sixth year since its founding by the Harav Shalom Noach Berozovsky, the Nesivos Shalom, zt”l. Each year the yeshiva produces a large group of talmidei chachamim who

take on leadership positions in Torah communities throughout Israel and abroad. They combine a strong combination of high level Torah learning and refinement of middos blended with the warmth of chassidus. Come and show your support for this magnificent Torah institution.

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HANC Elementary School Salutes Israel at 70

ANC’s Samuel and Elizabeth Bass Golding’s Elementary School in West Hempstead was transformed into a time capsule of the State of Israel’s proud and momentous history. The theme of this year’s Yom Ha’atzmaut celebration focused on Israel’s past, present and future. All of the students in grades kindergarten through sixth grade spent weeks learning and researching about all aspects of Israel’s history, culture, government, currency, discoveries and innovations. As a culmination of everything they learned, each grade created an interactive display or experience to bring their research alive for the other students in the school. Beginning in the time of our forefathers, the children walked from room to room, experiencing the times and events of different periods of our people’s history. During the course of the morning, the students visited Avraham’s tent, watched a movie highlighting the beauty of Eretz Yisrael, visited a market under Wilson’s Arch, sifted sand to find old coins that were found by archaeologists in ancient Yerushalayim, crawled through the tunnels under the Temple Mount, and even saw a live play about why the Temple was destroyed. After eating an Israeli lunch, complete with falafel and blue and white doughnuts, the lunchroom was transformed into a time tunnel, which reflected the research that the students have been doing about Israel’s seventy year history. Each grade level studied a decade in the life of Israel and focused on the major events, inventions and personalities from that time period. A timeline from 1948-2018 was created and it included one major event from each year. In addition to viewing the timeline, the students cre-

ated a three-dimensional map of Israel, a model of a kibbutz, a space rocket dedicated to Israeli Astronaut Ilan Ramon and highlighting Israel’s technological innovations, tributes to major Israeli figures like Golda Meir and David Ben Gurion, tzitzit decorated with tributes to Israel’s history, and a display about the Israeli shekel. In addition, the children learned about the United Nations Partition Plan of 1948, utilizing an augmented reality app on iPads. The sixth graders created this fascinating exhibit using Google slides and uploaded images and videos of the students reflecting on the part of the partition plan that they had studied. This spectacular day concluded with school-wide singing and dancing to celebrate this momentous 70th anniversary of the establishment of the State of Israel. Despite the unfavorable weather, the children were joined by their parents and danced to the exhilarating music of HANC’s music teacher, Rabbi Mordechai Shapiro, with tremendous joy and energy. Watching several generations of families dancing and singing together in celebration of this tremendous milestone was truly inspirational. HANC’s magnificent Yom Ha’atzmaut program was created through collaborative efforts of both the Judaic and general studies staff. As Barbara Deutsch, Associate Principal of HANC Elementary School, explained, “For so many years we talked about the hardships and challenges in Israel. This year we decided to focus on the many wonderful aspects of Israel. Israel is number one in technology and innovation, high on the list of tourist destinations and medical advances. This entire day focused on the awesome achievements of the people of

Israel. The museum detailed all of the amazing events that have happened over the past seven decades.” Through the course of the day, the children gained a deeper understanding of the connection between the land that Hashem promised to our forefathers in the Torah, and followed our history up through modern times. The students also had the opportunity to discover that so many products that we use today, including sim cards in

cell phones, USBs, exoskeleton devices that help crippled people walk and many more, have been developed in Israel and contribute to enhancing the lives of millions of people throughout the world. As HANC’s principal, Rabbi Yaakov Sadigh, put it, “It was a day of experiential learning that left a lasting imprint on the hearts of the children, and deepened their love of our homeland, Eretz Yisrael.”

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Grandparents and Special Guests Visit HANC

ANC’s Samuel and Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School in West Hempstead welcomed the grandparents and special guests of the kindergarten, first and second grade students. The grandparents and other family members were so excited about this special opportunity that they came from all over the tri-state area, and as far away as Virginia, Florida and Israel! As the guests arrived, the auditorium was filled to capacity with over 250 happy grandparents and guests who were eager to see their grandchildren in school. The program began with a special brunch in their honor and they also had the opportunity to view the “Welcome to HANC” video. At the completion of the brunch, the visitors joined their grandchildren in different locations for a special arts and crafts project that they completed together. The children and their grandparents decorated picture frames, planted flowers in decorated planters, and decorated photo albums. From the looks on their faces, it was clear that they relished this special opportunity to visit with their grandchildren and spend time with them in school. Following the craft projects, the children accompanied their special guests to the lunchroom for a tasty snack and played bingo together. At the conclusion of the program, the visitors were presented with a HANC bag filled with souvenirs and a “HANC IS HOME” magnet with their photo on it. From the looks on their faces as they exited the auditorium, it was clear that they relished this exceptional opportunity to visit with their grandchildren and spend

time with them in school. Liz Pazornick, HANC’s Director of Development, was thrilled with the turnout. “We were overwhelmed by the enthusiasm and excitement that all of our guests expressed when they responded to the invitation. To see so much nachas shared in that room was truly heartwarming.” HANC was excited to launch such a wonderful program this year and hopes to welcome the grandparents and special guests back to many more family-based programs in the years to come.

Shevach Students Run Carnival at Montefiore Children’sHospital

pril 18th may have been an ordinary day for most people. But for the children at Montefiore Hospital in the Bronx, it was an extraordinary day. When the students of Shevach High School heard about an opportunity to run a carnival in the hospital in order to cheer up children confined there, they immediately jumped at the opportunity. As with all chassadim conducted by the Shevach girls, this too promised to be greatly rewarding. On the morning of April 18th,

11 seniors came into school fully equipped with costumes and smiles. They were ready to spread joy and ensure a great time to children, who through no fault of their own, are denied the opportunity to go out often and have fun. After all the preparations were finished, including decorating the designated area, the carnival was ready to begin. The excitement in the air was palpable as the young patients arrived. The children were able to enjoy an afternoon of crafts, games, and even

get to meet some famous sports players who came to the event. It was not only the children who had a great day that Wednesday. The Shevach girls who volunteered their time felt that their day was just as incredible as that of the patients. In the words of Shevach senior Sara Zinn: “There is a joy that comes with giving to others, a feeling that is different from any other. The best part of the whole day was when it hit me that I had a part in the happiness that was so evident on the faces of the children. You

just feel so great, and it makes you want to do even more.” Thank you to Shifra Abrakhimov, Sara Braverman, Chavi Davidowitz, Tali Feldstein, Avigail Kramer, Sori Max, Perel Schwartz, Zarine Shamilzadeh, Chanie Weinberg, Tamara Yushanayev, and Sara Zinn for volunteering their time and energy to make such a worthwhile endeavor possible. Kudos to Mrs. Judy Freud from Chute Plus for organizing this wonderful chessed.

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Shulamith Annual Dinner

Duvi and Tova Kupfer

Josh and Ariella Spiegel

hulamith School for Girls will be celebrating its “Foundations for Our Future” Dinner on Wednesday, May 16 at the Sands Atlantic Beach. This year’s dinner honorees are true representatives of everything Shulamith stands for.

they have personally seen a transformation in their older girls, due to the one-on-one attention they received from their teachers. The Kupfers have graciously accepted the Guests of Honor award which they most certainly deserve.

Duvi and Tova Kupfer Duvi and Tova Kupfer are a couple with a strong moral compass who will always step up and do what is needed without fanfare. Their willingness to step up when needed extends into many different facets of their community. Duvi and Tova Kupfer are the proud parents of three Shulamith girls, Rachelli, Ayala, Naava, and 10-month-old Yair. Members of Beis Haknesses of North Woodmere, the Kupfers don’t need to be asked. When a number of new families started moving to the community, Tova would send Duvi to their homes on Friday night with a little welcome package. This evolved into a full welcoming committee, which they proudly oversaw for four years. Duvi, a lawyer, says he can never say no to Mrs. Yarmak when she asks for something. Tova, a nurse, manages her family, Rachelli (3rd), Lily (1st), Naava (nursery) and baby son Yair, with an ease that amazes her husband and is always willing to step in when she sees she is needed. When the Kupfers moved to North Woodmere six years ago, they chose Shulamith because of the warmth and the feeling of being welcome. Not only did they feel wanted by Shulamith, they also felt like it would be a place where each of their children would get the attention she needed. Shulamith is a school where each girl has opportunities to develop her unique strengths. Over the years,

Josh and Arielle Spiegel When Josh and Arielle Spiegel moved to Cedarhurst five years ago, they were immediately drawn to Shulamith because of its warmth. It was the natural choice for Shulamith alum Arielle, a personal organizer and committed mother. For the Spiegels, Shulamith is a school with heart that has been there for them in both good times and difficult times. Josh and Arielle are the proud and devoted parents of three Shulamith girls, Adina (6th), Kayla (2nd), Sophia (Pre-1A), and 10-month-old son Judah. The Spiegels are known for their hakarat hatov and their open hearted attitude. Josh, president and creative director of Birch Events, which coordinates events for Jewish organizations all over the world, is known for his brilliant creativity and design aesthetic. Always willing to help in any little way, Josh and Arielle have passed that attribute on to their children. For their girls, Shulamith is a home away from home. The warmth, sincerity, love and care which emanates from the entire Shulamith family has truly moved the Spiegels and makes them proud to be a part of the Shulamith family. Josh and Arielle Spiegel are exemplars of service and community mindedness. Shragi and Ahava Feldman Described by those who know them as people who exemplify

Shragi and Ahava Feldman

chessed, Shragi and Ahava Feldman have been involved in Shulamith since enrolling their daughter Chavi in pre-school. They chose Shulamith because the values were all in line and it was the right fit for their family and now proclaim it the best decision they ever made. Shragi and Ahava, residents of West Hempstead for the past ten years, have four children, Chavi (8th), Shmuli (in 5th grade at YOSS), Batsheva (1st) and future Shulamith student Ayelet, who is 2. Proud and active members of Eitz Chayim of Dogwood Park, Shragi, a FCC compliance attorney, serves as the president and gabbai, while Ahava, a dedicated stay at home mom, heads the chessed and dinner committees. While professing their profound gratitude for Shulamith faculty and staff for their dedication to education and values, they open their home and their hearts to Shulamith whenever they are called upon. The Feldmans feel that the tremendous commitment to strong academics and middot is what makes Shulamith shine. Known as the first people to say thank you, they are true examples of chessed and gratitude to their children. Their children described them as warm and encouraging parents, a sentiment echoed by teachers across the school. The Feldmans give their time freely to whatever project needs their attention. The Feldmans are the quintessential Shulamith parents. Ariela Fine Ariela Fine, Teacher of the Year, has been teaching for 17 years. After graduating from Stern with a double Bachelors in Psychology and Judaic Studies and Azrieli Graduate School with a Masters in Jewish Education

Mrs. Ariela Fine

and Administration, Ariela returned to her alma matter, The Ramaz School, where she taught for seven years. It was there that she discovered her love of teaching 5th grade. The Fines moved to Woodmere, and Ariela worked at HAFTR for two years before finally finding a home at Shulamith. At Shulamith, the Fines found everything they were looking for for their daughters and more. Ariela feels it is rare to teach at a school where one’s children attend and be completely satisfied, but Shulamith is that school. The warmth and values seep into every corner of the school. Ariela is very proud of the work she has achieved in her classroom. Her mission is two-fold. First, she wants her students to be independent learners. She focuses on text and teaching them the critical skills they need to break down and understand Chumash and Navi. Second, she wants her students to relate to the people in Chumash and Navi as real people with real lessons to teach. From each piece of text the class reviews, she works to highlight the middot and behavior that the girls can apply to their everyday lives. Now in her eighth year at Shulamith, Ariela is described by her colleagues as dedicated and energetic. In addition to her teaching, Ariela works hard to create a worklife balance that makes sure her five children, Eleora (Shulamith alum), Michal (8th), Shmuel, Yitzi, and Asher, come first. Shulamith is proud to shine a light on the incredible work of Ariela Fine. Please join Shulamith in paying tribute to our very deserving honorees. Cocktail Reception is at 7pm and the program begins promptly at 7:30. See you at the Sands!

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From Heartache to Hope at Chai Lifeline’s Annual Bereavement Retreat

hared grief evolved into mutual support as 25 couples from all across the United States and Canada spent an emotional weekend at a bereavement retreat hosted by Chai Lifeline’s Project Chai which provides services in hundreds of crisis situations throughout the year. The only program of its kind in the world, the retreat provided parents an opportunity to deal with the sea of feelings that accompanies the loss of a child in a Shabbos that was filled with positivity and served as yet another step in the lengthy healing process. Guests were greeted warmly by Project Chai director Rabbi Dr. David Fox as they arrived at Camp Simcha’s magnificent grounds in Glen Spey, New York, on Friday afternoon, with some remarking that just walking onto the property enveloped them in a sea of serenity. After relaxing at the lake and enjoying the Camp Simcha workshops, participants got ready for a memorable Shabbos whose every detail had been thoughtfully planned and

Learn & Live

hat’s in your Jacket? And more! This week, R’ Asher Shteierman showed the boys of Learn & Live just what is in our clothing. R’ Shteierman spoke of the importance of checking our clothing to make sure we do not have any shatnez. The presentation was very hands on – there were hand-carders, articles of clothing that had shatnez in them, bundles of flax, and even a station with a microscope so the boys could see the things hidden from the naked eye. This coming Sunday iy”H at Learn & Live will be: What a Splash!

prepared by the Chai Lifeline team. In addition to world class seudos, zemiros and davening by the Yedidim Choir, a lavish kiddush, divrei Torah by Chai Lifeline’s director of national services Rabbi Mordechai Gobioff, Rabbi Dr. Fox, Project Chai volunteer Rabbi Avraham Menachem Greenwald and special guest Rabbi Baruch Gradon of Los Angeles, couples enjoyed a keynote address by Chai Lifeline executive vice president Rabbi Simcha Scholar and participated in numerous sessions echoing the retreat’s theme, “as winter turns to spring, the blossoming of hope.” “We work with the parents, helping them identify the stage of grief they are at, what blocks prevent them from moving on, and giving them opportunities to work though those blocks,” explained Rabbi Dr. Fox, who ran sessions along with Project Chai associate director Zahava Farbman and noted trauma therapist Debbie Fox. “Every parent has a unique experience and we use different means to give them a

chance to express the deeper parts of themselves and melt the almost icy paralysis that occurs when, G-d forbid, a parent loses a child.” One of the most popular segments of the annual retreat was the Shabbos afternoon panel discussion, featuring a variety of professionals as well as a bereaved couple. A fully interactive session, couples enjoyed the opportunity to both hear from, and pose questions to, the panelists and Chai Lifeline professionals made themselves available for consultations throughout the weekend, staying up well into the night talking to parents. Also taking part in the retreat were over a dozen Project Chai volunteers who took part in numerous training sessions and enjoyed the opportunity to speak with parents. The most moving moment of the weekend came in the final moments of Shabbos with a poignant Kel Maley Rachamim made for all of the children whose parents took part in the retreat, with the Yedidim Choir gently tran-

sitioning guests from tears to solace with a heartfelt havdala. The weekend closed out on Sunday with final sessions and heartfelt goodbyes. As guests prepared to leave Camp Simcha, many exchanged phone numbers and email addresses in order to keep up the friendships forged during the retreat. While the weekend was just 48 hours long, parents reported that they left Camp Simcha with a wealth of positive takeaways. Eliyahu Veruzub, who lost a one-year-old child, said that sharing his collective sorrow with other bereaved parents was immensely therapeutic. “Despite anyone’s best intentions, there is no environment outside of this where I have ever felt I was talking to people who understood what I was feeling,” said Veruzub. “It was extremely helpful to speak and be understood by people who were able to relate to me, something that could only take place in this kind of setting.”

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Midreshet Shalhevet Scholarship Dinner

Melanie and Tov Marmer, Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, Senator Todd Kaminsky, Teacher of Distinction Mr. Simcha Bader, Avi and Elana Fertig

t is with a great sense of gratitude that Midreshet Shalhevet (MSH) paid tribute to Guests of Honor Melanie and Tov Marmer of Brooklyn, Parents of the Year Elana and Avi Fertig of Woodmere, and Teacher of Distinction Simcha Bader of West Hempstead at its Tenth Annual Scholarship Dinner on Wednesday, April 25, at Temple Hillel in North Woodmere. Midreshet Shalhevet’s mission has remained the same for ten years and grows stronger every day. We firmly believe that it is our opportunity and obligation to inspire the young women of today to become the Jewish leaders of tomorrow. We work to guide every student to a love of Torah and learning, develop self confidence and passion, open them up to new ideas and new insights, and make sure the students are happy to come to school every day. We hope they will follow in the footsteps of our illustrious graduates who personify this mission. “The Scholarship Dinner, the cornerstone of the school’s fundraising for the year, allows us to offer all of our students the many educational and extra-curricular opportunities we provide. Thanks to all our supporters, the dinner was a great success this year, ensuring Midreshet Shalhevet’s ability to provide the best Orthodox Jewish high school education.” said Rosh HaYeshiva, Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman. “The dinner is also an opportunity to reflect upon past achievements and future aspirations. Midreshet Shalhevet is a school that prides itself on Israel activism – not just in theory, but in practice. The Committee for Israel Activism girls plan and participate in rallies multiple times each year, they bring in speakers, plan and execute programs, and educate the students on what has and is happening in Israel and around the world to be able to answer tough questions. This was the theme throughout

this year’s Scholarship Dinner – each honoree steps up to this plate in their own unique way.” Guests of Honor, Melanie and Tov Marmer live in Brooklyn. Tov, originally from Hartsdale, is a physician assistant and has worked in the Jamaica Hospital pediatric emergency room for 20 years. He also works in several assisted living, adult care, and nursing home facilities, and administers the primary medical care for over 1,000 patients. Melanie is an attorney and runs her own law firm in Brooklyn, focusing on Criminal, Family, Matrimonial and Estate law. She is on the board of the Kingsway Jewish Center where she is on the Youth Committee and Women’s Organization. Melanie and Tov Marmer are parents who give of themselves to the community at large, whether it be at their shul, here at MSH, or in Shulamith of Brooklyn. Melanie and Tov are avid Zionists who have seamlessly transmitted their values and passion, and have instilled their love of Israel in their daughters. Their Zionist ideals have shaped their home and their children, who have in turn come to share all that with all who know them. These are parents who understand that nothing simply happens; we have to make it happen. It is this tireless dedication and determination that inspires the Midreshet Shalhevet Mock Trial team, under the coaching of Mrs. Marmer along with the tireless Ms. Sharon Kantrowitz, to want to do their best in the courtroom. Both the coaches do not rest until the team is performing at their absolute best. Mrs. Marmer gives up hours of work time at her legal practice to coach, and the team always responds to her passion for excellence, finishing the last two seasons in the top sixteen teams on Long Island. Malka Marmer (salutatorian, MSH 2014) will be graduating Stern College next month, and plans to follow

Menahelet Esther Eisenman, Assistant Principal Shaindy Lisker, and MSH seniors Dina Seidenberg and Gabriella Koegel who presented the award to Mr. Simcha Bader

her father into a career in medicine. Aviva (MSH 2018) will graduate Midreshet Shalhevet next month. Both of those young ladies have been involved in almost every aspect of student life at MSH with passion, including student government, CIA, and almost too many extra-curriculars to count. They approach all their commitments, in the classroom and out, with equal zeal. We have been proud to have the Marmers as part of the Midreshet Shalhevet family. Parents of the Year Elana and Avi Fertig live in Woodmere, daven at Congregation Aish Kodesh, and are the proud parents of Tova, who attends Queens College, Zahava (MSH 2017), Hadassah (MSH 2018), and Yosef, a freshman at Rambam Mesivta. Elana and Avi are a couple who work to carry the load of the community. It is reflected in their choice of professions. Elana is the Early Childhood Director at Yeshiva of South Shore since 2003, and author of the well-known handbook for early childhood curriculum, “Infusing the Ruach in Your School.” Avi’s career in local and state government includes his work for the NYC council, Nassau County legislature, Hempstead Town Board, and currently the NYS Senate, where he is Special Assistant to Majority Leader John Flanagan. Midreshet Shalhevet has been fortunate to have them in our school community where they are always ready to roll up their sleeves and get it done. It has been a distinct pleasure to partner with them. Both Zahava and Hadassah Fertig, as different as these two young ladies are from one another, each share their parents’ commitment to the community and world around them. Hadassah is a founding captain and powerhouse of the MSH debate team, and Zahava, who was full of ideas for new initiatives, was always ready to follow through on her ideas. Both students were leaders on the Committee for Is-

rael Activism, student government, and talented stars on our stage in addition to in the classroom. The Fertig daughters have left their mark on our school. We are proud and grateful to have the Fertig family part of our MSH family. This year’s teacher of distinction awardee, Simcha Bader, reflects the best of what Midreshet Shalhevet offers. Committed to his students, be it in history, jewish history, or Zionism, Mr. Bader works to make sure that everyone’s needs are being met. On top of that, his commitment to the school overall is equally exceptional: he is always ready to do what is needed, whether it be organizing an educational trip, covering for a colleague, or guiding our Committee for Israel Activism, our “CIA.” Mr. Bader has worked with the students to create programs which infuse the entire school with passion for the State of Israel. Yom Ha’atzmaut programming is always a highlight of our school year, and one that has significantly enhances our overall school culture. Mr. Bader leads students on YU-PAC and other lobbying missions and prepares the Model UN team to compete at two events each year. In the classroom, Mr. Bader’s lessons reflect knowledge as well as passion for his subject that is naturally transmitted to his students. It’s a pleasure to visit Mr. Bader’s classroom, where there is always an interesting discussion going on. He is truly deserving of the Teacher of Distinction award. Midreshet Shalhevet’s supporters have shown their staunch recognition to Midreshet Shalhevet’s remarkable impact in Jewish high school education, and as a major force in growing and strengthening our Jewish future through the success of our graduates. Senator Todd Kaminsky made time in his busy schedule to attend the dinner and attest to this. Thank you to all who made the dinner a success.

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FINAL STRETCH BUILDING

CA M PA I G N

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HELP BRING THIS BEAUTIFUL BASTION OF CHINUCH TO THE FINISH LINE For 38 years, Siach Yitzchok, under the leadership of its dedicated Menahel, Rav Dovid Sitnick, has been a dynamic chinuch anchor of our community. The Yeshiva’s pioneering chinuch achievements are part of the beautiful spectrum of the Five Towns/Far Rockaway community’s essence and identity.

An opportunity for partnership! This is a historic opportunity to partner with Siach Yitzchok and earn a share in its perpetual impact on the future of Klal Yisroel!

For information on dedication and sponsorship opportunities please contact Rabbi Mordechai Stein at the Yeshiva office at 718.327.6247 ext.16 or mstein@siachyitzchok.org

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SKA’s Yom Iyun: Voices of Inspiration

cquiring the knowledge to live in today’s society as an Orthodox Jewish woman and manage two worlds has been one of the aspirations of SKA and MACS (Modesty Awareness Committee by Students) for the past several years. In an incredible program organized by MACS, the students of the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls had the opportunity on Thursday, April 26, to hear from three influential women who have found their voice to express what is important to them, while maintaining a Torah-true lifestyle. Held in the Young Israel of Woodmere, the Yom Iyun was conceived and planned by Mrs. Elisheva Kaminetsky, Director of Religious Guidance and advisor to MACS, and was attended by students, faculty members, mothers and alumnae. The day’s Yom Iyun, Inspiring Voices: Women Who Shape the

World, Guided by Torah, hosted Judge Ruchie Freier, the first Hasidic elected official in the country; Mrs. Alexandra Fleksher, noted educator, writer and blogger; and Mrs. Sivan Rahav Meir, well-known Israeli TV and radio host, all who have balanced their religious beliefs while remaining professionals in a secular workforce. SKA student Shira Baum expressed the thoughts of many. “It’s so easy to be influenced by the outside

world while you’re working in it, but it is amazing to see women who can share with us that it’s not impossible to withstand those influences.” The three panelists were introduced by Mrs. Helen Spirn, Head of School and answered questions posed by MACS and audience members in a session titled “A Balancing Act: Religious Women in the Modern World.” The women discussed the challenges they faced with their religious beliefs and the conflicts they deal with on a daily basis at work and even on social media. The concept of modesty was brought up several times. While Mrs. Rahav Meir, who works professionally in media, keeps social media out of her home, Mrs. Fleksher observed how difficult it is as a writer to decide what to reveal or not. Judge Freier shared that Sarah Schneirer, the founder of the Bais Yaakov movement, is her particular role model, learning from reading about her the concept of modesty balanced with serving Hashem.

After refreshments, the speakers shared their personal journeys and struggles in more depth with individual grades. Common themes resonated through each woman’s story: “Hashem will help you; stay true to your beliefs; maintain your standards and you will be respected; and especially, be proud of who you are!” The MACS Magazine, edited by SKA students Shoshana Lunzer, Emma Rubin and Aliza Strauss, was distributed at the end of this wonderful program. Featuring in-depth articles and student quotes, the magazine paid written homage to the prestigious role models who spoke. Eleventh Grader Elisheva Ismach summed the day up. “Some girls might think that since we are Jewish and frum we can’t have influential roles but it is important to see that even though there are challenges, we can do whatever we set our mind to. We can maintain our values and also make a difference in the world.”

OHEL Launches Sign of Strength Campaign

nxiety amongst children and adults has reached endemic proportions, particularly as OHEL therapist Dr. Chana Renov indicates, “Because we live an ever more complicated, demanding and transformative world.” And the statistics bear out this stark reality. As David Mandel, OHEL CEO, notes, “Of the thousands of individuals OHEL serves every day, over 650 are challenged by some form of anxiety.” And for many in the community, this is compounded by ever-increasing financial stresses, marital strains, parenting challenges in a social media age, caregiving of a loved one and/or a traumatic life event – from divorce, the loss of a loved one, to a sudden or

significant medical diagnosis. Coinciding with the opening of The New OHEL Jaffa Family Campus in Flatbush, and leveraging decades of experience in the effective treatment of anxiety and depression, OHEL has embraced a powerful message in Sign of Strength.org. As OHEL’s Director of Communications Derek Saker elaborates, “The message we seek to convey is that talking about emotions and mental health, should no longer be seen as a sign of weakness, but a Sign of Strength.” The campaign both raises awareness of the many forms of anxiety, and the readily available professional treatment to effectively manage anxiety amongst children and adult. The initial launch of the cam-

paign has included the video Sign of Strength, which details the inspiring stories of two courageous individuals: a child Shani and an adult Yitty, who share their transformative life experiences in proactively confronting and effectively managing their anxiety. This powerful film can be seen at SignofStrength.org. Sign of Strength is a multi-integrated campaign, including a new website of comprehensive resources, help and advice, a print and social media campaign. In addition to both promote this anxiety awareness campaign, and the opening of The New OHEL Jaffa Family Campus, OHEL has launched a significant bus shelter campaign in Brooklyn, which has been funded in

part through a generous grant from The New York State Office of Children and Family Services (OCFS). OHEL has also launched a new song “Let It Go” composed with OHEL and Lipa Schmeltzer, which was also debuted at the OHEL Gala and is FREELY available for download at SignofStrength.org. The accompanying music video will also shortly be released. OHEL’s regional centers from The New OHEL Jaffa Family Campus in Flatbush, to The Kleinman Family OHEL Regional Family Center in Far Rockaway, all offer specialized care and treatment and can be accessed through 1800-603-OHEL, www. signofstrength.org and through access@ohelfamily.org.

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YOSS Skates for Science

he fourth grade boys at Yeshiva of South Shore turned a skating trip into a science adventure when they visited United Skates of America. The day started with a STEM lesson on the different materials, properties and functions of each part of the skate. Boys then paired up to test the distance of roller skates on the smooth rink versus

the rough carpet. They compared data and concluded that skates can travel further and faster on a flat, smooth surface. It was then time to don their skates and energetically demonstrate their scientific knowledge on the rink. Fun was had by students, teachers and even principal Rabbi Avraham Fridman!

Motzei Shabbos Learning at KMT

very Motzei Shabbos during the winter months, fathers and sons from the community come to learn together in KMT in Far Rockaway. Run by Rabbi Yanky Hersh, each week features a different gadol which the sponsor of the week speaks about and each boy

gets a picture of the gadol for his album, which is provided to each child. There is pizza and raffle prizes for the boys each week and the highlight of the program for all who participated is the grab-bag sponsored graciously every year by Yoely steinberg of Gourmet Glatt.

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Rendezvous on Capitol Hill

NORPAC delegation including local TAG girls, Tzippy Nussbaum and Yaelle Gross, meeting with Representative Kathleen Rice

By: Yaelle Gross and Tzippy Nussbaum

ighteen hours. Two eleventh graders. One mission. Headed for Washington last week, we were going to spend the day with an organization called NORPAC, while advocating for Israel on Capitol Hill. We were excited to have the opportunity to take part in discussions about Israel, specifically regarding sanctions and bills. Upon our arrival to Washington, we were welcomed into the Warner Theater, joining hundreds of other people who were part of this mission. Organiza-

tion leaders prepared us, refining our presentation with us and going over the significant points of our mission. We first met with Representative Elise Stefanik, also called “The Millennial Queen of Congress,” as she is the youngest member of the House. As a group, we discussed several issues with Rep. Stefanik’s aide, including the introduction of anti-BDS legislation and support for our ally Israel in the form of funds to combat terrorism. Although the meeting wasn’t very long, all topics were covered, and the Representative’s aide was gracious and supportive. After the meeting, our group

took the train that runs underneath the House of Representatives to the Senate building to make our next appointment. Upon entering a spacious conference room, we were received warmly by Representative Kathleen Rice. Rep. Rice was very attentive to what each person had to say and encouraged participation from everyone, especially the students. From there we walked to the Capitol to speak with Senator Charles Schumer. We conversed with Schumer’s aide, who was very well-versed in the subjects at hand and reassured us that he and Sen. Schumer support the American-Israeli alliance.

Tzippy and Yaelle in front of Warner Theatre

Our final meeting was with Senator Ted Cruz, who we were especially excited to meet in person. Sen. Cruz made everyone feel welcome and his speech and demeanor were inviting and warm. Concerned about the growing threat of Iran in Syria and aware of the need for the U.S. to join forces with Israel, Senator Cruz showed his staunch support and thanked us for the work we do on Israel’s behalf. Although exhausted after a whirlwind day, we impacted American Legislation and felt privileged to have met with such high profile members of Congress and to have gotten their support. Mission accomplished!

Ezra Academy’s Legal Eagle Team Spends Shabbos in Duke University

ecently, the Ezra Academy legal team, dubbed “The Legal Eagles,” went on their yearly trip to Duke University in Durham North Carolina to participate in the National Moot Court competition. Accompanied by the principal Sima Fish, eight of our students who have been studying constitutional

law prepared both sides of a case to be argued before a panel of both law students and active attorneys. The case was one of appellate advocacy. While our students prepare and work hard for this competition, it is rewarding for many more reasons. It not only shows them the value of hard work but also the beauty of be-

ing a Jew. Ezra is the only yeshiva which participates in this competition. Initially thought to be an issue due to the fact that the main contest take place on Shabbos with the finals being on Sunday, special arrangements are made and Ezra plays their rounds on Friday. Shabbos itself is an amazing experience. Having

a mini Shabbaton with Rabbi and Mrs. Nossen Fellig, Chabad on Duke Undergrad, was an inspiring and enlightening Shabbos. It was also a great opportunity for the students to see what Jewish life on a college campus is like. All in all, it was a win for the Legal Eagles.

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SKA Welcomes Class of 2022

nticipating starting a new school can be intimidating, but not for the incoming freshmen of the Class of 2022 of the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls. The warmth, camaraderie and enthusiasm displayed on SKA’s Yom Chaverut, Sunday, April 22, was outstanding! The incoming ninth graders were welcomed by Mrs. Helen Spirn, Head of School, Associate Principal, Mrs. Bluma Drebin, Principal, General Studies, Assosiate Principal Ms. Elana Flumenhaft, Rabbi Yosef Zakutinsky, Director of Student Programming, and Admissions Liaison Ms. Lisa Fogel together with grade level advisors Mrs. Sheila Leibtag, Mrs. Estee Engel, Mrs. Rikki Ash and the SKA student ambassadors and GO members. Eighty-six eighth graders orig-

inating from fifteen elementary schools bonded over team-building activities and enjoyed a delicious lunch and ice cream. This was a wonderful way of welcoming our new grade and easing their transition into high school. Ms. Lisa Fogel, Admissions Liaison, doing ‘Egg Drop’ team-building with incoming ninth graders

Mrs. Helen Spirn, Head of School, enjoying ice cream with incoming ninth graders

Remembering Rav Ahron Lichtenstein, zt”l

hazal teach us that when a tzaddik passes away he doesn’t really die. While it is true that the physical body no longer functions in this world, the person’s value system and Torah teachings continue on. Three years ago, Rav Aharon Lichtenstein, the Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshivat Har Etzion, was niftar. His long-standing student, Rabbi Moshe Taragin, spoke about his rebbe’s legacy to the students in Rambam Mesivta. “I think of my Rebbe and what he taught all of the time,” said Rabbi Taragin. Continuing, he said, “He was recognized for his tremendous scope in learning, but I want to talk to you about his personal humility and sensitivity for others. Everyone recognizes the Chofetz Chaim

for his tzidkus, his righteousness, but oftentimes his greatness as a Torah gadol is overlooked because it is overshadowed by his tzidkus. Similarly, everybody recognizes Rav Lichtenstein’s greatness in Torah, but

his greatness as a person is overshadowed.” Rabbi Taragin recounted an incident where the boys in the shiur were coming home from a trip and were waiting for their Rebbe, Rav Lichten-

“Take care of the little golden boy and don’t spoil him too much with your love. Both of you – stay healthy, my dear ones. I will be thinking of you and Misa...” -Vilma Grunwald in a letter to her husband written just before she and her son were gassed to death by the Nazis Page 74

stein, who was nowhere to be found. After an exhaustive search they located him on the bus which had served as their transportation. He was meticulously cleaning the bus and scraping gum from under the seats. When asked why he was doing this he explained that his purpose was to save the bus driver the time and effort of doing so since the bus driver has a family too and certainly wants to, and deserves to, spend time with them. With this and other personal anecdotes, Rabbi Taragin successfully conveyed the middos and sensitivities of a Torah giant, Rav Aharon Lichtenstein, zt”l, who lives on through his teachings.

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magine being the commander of a 15 man unit during the Tzuk Eitan war in Gaza. Imagine being ambushed by 50 Hamas terrorists. Imagine if two of your men were killed and the rest were wounded. Imagine if you were the lone standing soldier and were injured in various parts of your body by shrapnel. Imagine if you had the possibility to retreat. These were the difficult choices that a 22-year-old had to make four years ago. Yogev Ofir, who had plans to be a chicken farmer, was suddenly faced with these challenges. Amazingly, he singlehandedly fought an overwhelming force of terrorists with the specific intent of evacuating his wounded men to safety. He would shoot a round of bullets while concomitantly dragging his men, the wounded and deceased, out of the range of fire. Yogev was very aware of what would happen if G-d forbid, Hamas had been able to kidnap even one wounded soldier or the body of one dead soldier! The State of Israel would have found herself in a horrible negotiation position. Yogev fought alone for 25 minutes! He fought with super-human courage and strength. As a result of his injuries he spent much time in the hospital and in rehab to get his strength back. Yogev came to the United States last week for a much-needed rest. He was hosted by Rabbi Yotav Eli-

ach, principal of Rambam Mesivta, who introduced him at each venue and served as Yogev’s translator. Everywhere he went, Yogev received a standing ovation when he recounted his experiences in Gaza. Students sat mesmerized as they listened to Yogev explain the challenges he faced and his reaction. With the utmost humility, he emphasized that he did not consider himself to be a hero; rather he was doing what anyone else would have done under the circumstances. He spoke about his survival being due to hash gacha, Hashem›s intervention and protection. Despite the fact that Yogev came to America to relax, his message was an important one and needed to be told. Rabbi Eliach arranged for Yogev to speak at the Edward Avenue Shul, DRS, and Congregation Beth Sholom on Shabbos.

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America Eats for Israel Partners with Meir Panim to Fight Poverty in Israel

n Tuesday, May 15, communities across the United States will join together in dining at participating kosher restaurants in order to feed hungry Israelis. Ten percent of proceeds will go toward funding Meir Panim’s lifesaving work in Israel. 1.7 million Israelis live in poverty – and 800,000 of them are vulnerable children. Meir Panim’s projects include restaurant-style soup kitchens, meals-on-wheels for the homebound, prepaid food shopping cards, school lunch programs, and after-school youth clubs. For more than a decade, America Eats for Israel has shown groundbreaking solidarity with impoverished Israelis. Originally a Baltimore-based initiative led by students of Yeshivat Rambam and then Beth Tfiloh Dahan Community School, America Eats for Israel is now a national event. “The Ner Tamid community has great memories of how America Eats

for Israel has been bringing Baltimore together to support Israel,” said Rabbi Sam Wach, Youth Director of the Ner Tamid Youth and Scouts. “It is exciting to go from restaurant to restaurant on the day of the event and see the people excited to share a meal with family and friends, knowing that doing an ordinary thing such as ordering a sandwich or omelet is going to provide funds to people with real needs in Israel.” Jewish students in multiple U.S. cities have recruited multiple restaurants. Now they are working hard to publicize the event, and are planning to “eat for Israel” with their families and friends on May 15. “Knowing that we are helping our brothers and sisters in Israel makes the program even more important and meaningful,” said Josh Wiener, America Eats for Israel liaison and sophomore at Hebrew Academy of the Five Towns and Rockaway.

Participating schools and groups include Atlantic Seaboard NCSY, Beth El Hebrew School, Beth Tfiloh Dahan Community School, Krieger Schechter Day School, Ner Tamid Youth and Scouts, and Ohr Chadash Academy in Baltimore; Bruriah High School for Girls, Ma’ayanot Yeshiva High School for Girls, and Torah Academy of Bergen County in New Jersey; Hebrew Academy of the Five Towns and Rockaway and Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls on Long Island; and Yeshiva University High School for Boys (MTA) in New York City. Rabbi Yaakov Blau of Torah Academy of Bergen County explained, “Torah Academy of Bergen County strives

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Did you hear about the Mexican train killer? He had loco motives. How many Mexicans does it take to screw in a lightbulb? Juan.

Centerfold Did You Know? According to the California Avocado Commission, Americans consume up to 81 million pounds of avocados on Cinco de Mayo every year. Well, if there are 81 other people like me in the U.S., that is definitely an accurate number. Mexico was the first country to produce chocolate. Now I know who to blame for my addiction! Mexico is located in the “Ring of Fire,” one of the earth’s most violent earthquake and volcano zones. Apparently so is your teenager’s bedroom.

What do you call a Mexican who lost his car? Carlos.

The border between Mexico and the United States is the second largest border in the world. Okay, let’s leave politics out of the Centerfold…thank you.

What do you call a Mexican with a rubber toe? Roberto. What do you call two Mexicans playing basketball against one another? Juan on Juan.

Riddle me this? Every day, a man crosses the border of Mexico on a bicycle with two bags of sand. The customs officers check his bags and they are full of sand. The customs officers are aware that he is smuggling something but are not sure what it is exactly. As they do not have any evidence, they let him cross the border. You just took over as the head of Immigration and Customs Enforcement (aka “ICE”). You watch this take place and quickly figure out what is going on here. What is being smuggled? See answer below on the opposite page

The official name of Mexico is Estados Únidos Mexicanos. I hope you don’t burn too many brain cells trying to figure out what that is in English…take your time. Texas, New Mexico, Arizona, California, Nevada, Utah, half of Colorado, the Oklahoma panhandle, and a sliver of Wyoming were all spoils of the 1846-48 Mexican-American war. Don’t tell BDS, they might boycott the U.S. The Franco-Mexican War, known as the Pastry War, came about because of long-standing Mexican debt and also because French citizens (and a well-known pastry chef to the presidency, hence the sobriquet) in Mexico had their bakery businesses damaged or destroyed during a period of political instability. The Mexican government refused to compensate them for the damages and war broke out. I’d also go to war if someone messed with my rugalech. Mexico City, which is home to 21 million people who consume nearly 287 billion gallons of water each year, has sunk more than 32 feet in the last 60 years because 70 percent of the water people rely on is extracted from the aquifer below the city. Perhaps they should consider Poland Spring or Kirkland….I’m sure Costco in Mexico has a good deal.

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Hmm... Something to Think About An American tourist was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The tourist complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. The Mexican replied, “Only a little while.” The tourist then asked, “Why didn’t you stay out longer and catch more fish?” The Mexican said, “With this I have more than enough to support my family’s needs.” The tourist then asked, “But what do you do with the rest of your time?” The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos, I have a full and busy life.” The tourist scoffed, “I can help you. You should spend more time fishing, and with the proceeds buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats. Eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor; eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You could leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then Los Angeles and eventually New York where you could run your ever-expanding enterprise.” The Mexican fisherman, wide-eyed, asked, “But how long will this all take?” The tourist replied, “15 to 20 years.” “But what then?” asked the Mexican. The tourist laughed and said, “That’s the best part. When the time is right you would sell your company stock to the public and become very rich; you would make millions.” “Millions?...Then what?” The American said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”

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Answers to Riddle Me This: Bicycles. The sand is being used as a decoy to cover up from what is really being

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Torah Thought

Parshas Emor By Rabbi Berel Wein

he Torah envisions the creation within Jewish society of a special rite for a group of people – the kohanim, the priestly descendants of the family of Aharon. The existence of such a group within the ranks of Israel – a group that has laws exclusive to it alone and extra economic privileges

– seems to fly in the face of all our current democratic ideals and societal fairness and equality. All humans are created equal and the same sets of laws should apply to all of them indiscriminately. This mantra is currently subscribed to or at the very least, paid lip service to, by “progressive” sections of human society. So,

by current standards and accepted wisdom, the entire concept of kohanim seems to be an anachronistic one at best. And, it is interesting to me that this idea and grouping itself has lost none of its vitality in the Jewish world over the many millennia of our existence. I knew a Jew who was a high ranking official in a very left-wing party here in Israel. He was not visibly observant of halacha or Jewish tradition and practice. It so hap-

of social peace and harmony. They were to be the good guys in a world where such people were often difficult to find. It was this challenge that preserved their special identity throughout history. Every society requires people whose goal in life is to do good without harming others in the process. Other faiths have priestly classes that are devoted to seemingly doing good, However, almost without exception in history, doing good

When one states that one is a kohein it is much more than a declaration of one's genealogy.

pened that we were walking together to attend a funeral service for a mutual acquaintance of ours and as I was about to enter the funeral hall, he held back and refused to enter stating, quite definitively, “I am a kohein.” That vestige of Judaism was simply something that he could not bring himself to discard. Apparently, once a kohein always a kohhein. An insight into this matter can be gleaned from the later description of the role of the kohein by the prophets of Israel. The kohein was charged with being the guardian of faith, the teachers of Torah, and the promoters

somehow always involved persecuting and demeaning others. That was and is not the way of the children of Aharon. The kohein was a role model and an example of what one should be and can be. His mere presence in society serves as a moderating influence on the mood and behavior of the public in general. Societies require people of altruism and permanent goodness. When one states that one is a kohein it is much more than a declaration of one’s genealogy. Shabbat shalom.

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Parshas Emor Who do You Serve? By Rav Moshe Weinberger Adapted for publication by Binyomin Wolf

ast week, in parshas Acharei Mos-Kedoshim, it is noted that a Jew becomes holy by focusing on fighting the innumerable little battles in his daily life despite “the slow, constant grind of daily life.” I believe there is a powerful thought one can have based on this week’s parsha in order to focus himself in these daily battles. There is a machlokes Rishonim, dispute among the Medieval commentaries, with regard to the nature of the animals and Canaanite slaves owned by a Kohen. The Torah, in this week’s parsha, (Vayikra 22:11), says: “If a Kohen buys a person with money, he [the Canaanite slave] may eat of it ... and he that is born in his house shall eat of his bread.” This pasuk permits a Kohen to feed his own Canaanite slave and animals his terumah, sanctified food, although he is otherwise forbidden to feed an animal or Canaanite slave such sanctified food. The Rambam (Hilchos Terumos 6:1) implies that animals and Canaanite slaves belonging to Kohanim

retain their status of zaar, “outsider” with respect to the prohibition of consuming sanctified food, but that the Torah, through the pasuk quoted above, makes an exception to the general prohibition against an outsider consuming sanctified food because the Kohen needs to use the sanctified food he lives off of to feed his animals and Canaanite slaves as part of his obligation to care for his family. Rashi, on the other hand (Gittin 11b), differentiates between animals and Canaanite slaves. With respect to animals, he agrees with the Rambam that although they are considered outsiders, the Kohen is permitted to feed them sanctified food as an exception to the general rule. He finds it untenable, however, to apply the same principle to the Canaanite slaves. The Rambam’s “exception to the outsider rule” may explain how the Kohen is permitted to feed sanctified food to the Canaanite slave, but it cannot explain how the Canaanite slave himself is permitted to eat it. Canaanite slaves are personally obligated to observe all of the negative

commandments and all of the positive commandments a Jewish woman is obligated to observe. How then, according to Rashi, is the Canaanite slave permitted to eat the Kohen’s sanctified food? It must be Rashi understands that because the Canaanite slave is owned by the Kohen, he no longer has the status of a zaar, an outsider. Rather, he is considered an extension of the Kohen himself. Rav Shmuel Berenbaum, zt”l, the former Rosh Yeshiva of the Mir, uses this Rashi to teach a fundamental lesson in our service of Hashem. We see from Rashi that when one person is owned by another, there is a relationship between them and he becomes an extension of his owner. That is why the Canaanite slave loses his status as an outsider and is permitted to eat the Kohen’s sanctified food. Because the Kohen owns him, he becomes an extension of the identity of the Kohen, and he is somehow transformed and elevated because of this. Rav Berenbaum points out that we see the same principle applied in the

case of a Jew purchased as a slave to a non-Jew. Rashi in next week’s parsha (Vayikra 26:1) teaches that the Torah commands a Jew who is owned by a non-Jew to keep the mitzvos just like every other Jew. According to Rashi, “The pasuk speak to a person sold to a non-Jew, so that he should not say, ‘Since my master commits acts of sexual immorality, I will do like him ... Since my master desecrates Shabbos, I will do like him.’” Rav Berenbaum asks how anyone could possibly think that just because he is owned by a non-Jew that suddenly he would be allowed to break Shabbos and commit acts of immorality. He teaches that if the Torah must devote a special pasuk to teach that one is, in fact, obligated to keep the commandments even when he is owned by a non-Jew, it must be that but for that pasuk, one would perhaps be exempt from the mitzvos when owned by a non-Jew. This strengthens Rav Berenbaum’s point that according to Rashi, a person’s slave becomes an extension of himself.

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I am an Extension of Hashem We can use this thought to strengthen ourselves in our war against the daily grind to become kedoshim, holy people. Hashem says (Vayikra 25:55), “Ki li Bnei Yisroel avodim, the Jewish people are My slaves.” With respect to our attitude toward any mitzvah we do, there are two ways we may look at it. For example, let us assume someone is prepared to do the mitzvah of comforting a mourner by making a shiva call. The Torah says (Devarim 28:9), “V’halachta b’drachav, and you shall walk in His ways.” Before the person leaves to make the shiva call, he can think, “Hashem is in charge and He told me to do something so I will obey Him even though I am tired.” That is beautiful. But a person can take a different perspective and think, “I belong to Hashem. I am on His team. Because it is His desire to care for people in need, and because I am part of Him, it is also my will do take care of people.” The second perspective demonstrates an identity between the Master and the servant, such that the servant acts because he is an extension of the essence of the Master. A Jew must recognize and contemplate upon the fact that Hashem has acquired each of us as His servants, we belong to Him, and we are part of Him. We therefore have the ability to rise above the day-to-day grind of life, to be holy, and to live lives of holiness because we are part of something greater than ourselves and greater than any human power. We are part of the Life of all worlds and are therefore not bound to the strictures and pressures of mundane life. According to the Medrash (Yalkut Shimoni Shmuel 139), “Hashem called out to the ministering angels and said to them, ‘Come and see this creature that I created in my world. He goes out to war knowing that he will be killed, he takes his sons with him and rejoices in the attribute of justice which is about to take his life.’” Why was it necessary for Hashem to call the angels over to see that man is capable of giving his life for a higher cause and rejoice in his sacrifice? Didn’t they already know the nature of man? The truth is that there are two levels of man’s nature. The angels only

understood man’s nature in terms of their natural abilities. That is why they said about man (Sanhedrin 38b quoting Tehilim 8:5), “What is man that you should remember him and what is the son of man that you should be mindful of him?” But they did not understand the second attribute of

declare, “I am a servant of G-d! That is not me!” Before Eliezer began his negotiations with Lavan and Besuel, he recognized that he was dealing with dishonest people. He therefore started off the whole conversation by announcing (Bereishis 24:34), “Eved Avrohom

We belong to something higher than the world.

man, that he is the kinyan kaspo, the property of Hashem who draws his essence from the infinite nature of his Master. That is what Hashem was trying to show the angels. “Look how man gives his life for something greater than himself! Such a thing is beyond human capacity. A Jew can accomplish much more than what is humanly possible when he recognizes that he is part of Me.” A bochur, a young man, once came to me a few years ago after he had met with a non-observant therapist. He sought help from the therapist to free himself from certain very harmful activities with which he was involved. He told me that after listening to the boy, the therapist told him, “It appears that you are not capable of abstaining from succumbing to your baser desires. You must therefore give into all of your inclinations. If you do not do so, you will become psychologically unhealthy.” Someone who is not connected to a deeper reality, who does not know that a Jew is not limited by what is “humanly possible” from a purely naturalistic perspective, cannot fathom that a young man can hold himself in a state of purity until marriage. Hashem said (Vaykra 25:42), “They are my servants ... they will not be sold as slaves.” We belong to something higher than the world. We cannot sell ourselves short by enslaving ourselves to the pressures of everyday life. Before we face each of the little tests that, according to human nature, would bring down our standards and sell ourselves short over time, we must

anochi, I am a servant of Avraham!” He was not informing Lavan and Besuel of his job description. He was strengthening himself by reminding himself, “I am a servant of G-d. I don’t deal dishonestly no matter what everyone around me is doing.” As we go about our daily lives, if

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we feel like saying a few words to our friend in shul, if we feel like visiting a website at work that we wouldn’t want our wives to know we saw, or if we’re changing the umpteenth diaper that day (and the men at work are sometimes exposed to things much dirtier than diapers), a Jew should say to him or herself, “Ana Hashem ki ani avdecha, Please Hashem, I am your servant!” With that thought a Jew can remind himself that he is connected to the infinite Source of life, Hashem. With that he can rise above the constant, daily grind of life and attain holiness. May we merit to remember that we are servants of Hashem so that we may attain the holiness of the Beis Hamikdash with the coming of Moshiach soon in our days.

Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, is the founding Morah d’Asrah of Congregation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, NY, and has served as Mashpia in Yeshiva University since 2013.

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Between the Lines

Where Prisons Break By Eytan Kobre

Going to prison is like dying with your eyes open. -Bernard B. Kerik

ommonly known as “The Tombs” – and originally named “The Halls of Justice” when it was built in 1838 – the Manhattan Detention Complex has served as one of New York City’s principal jails for nearly 200 years. It is said that shortly after building a portion of The Tombs, its well-off contractor was himself found guilty of forgery and sentenced to several years in the very prison he had built. As he was escorted into a cell – of his own making – the contractor said, “I never dreamed when I built this prison that I would be an inmate one day.” He had been all too willing to relegate others to a fate that he soon found was ruinous. Those who have seen the inside of a prison know just how unpleasant it can be; it is degeneration, the anti-rehabilitation. The Torah’s concept of punishment – and imprisonment, in particular – is quite different. While Jewish law sometimes (but rarely) provides for imprisonment – as in the case of the blasphemer (Vayikra 24:10-12) – unlike modern-day jails, which aim to punish, we use imprisonment only in narrow circumstances to

achieve specific ends. So, for example, the blasphemer was jailed only until an appropriate punishment could be determined (Rashi, Vayikra 24:12) or to protect him prior to judgment (Baal HaTurim, Vayikra 24:12) – either way, it was a temporary measure. Likewise, the man who gathered wood on Shabbos was imprisoned only until the manner of his execution was determined (Rashi, Bamidbar 15:32-34), and the incarceration recommended for pseudo-prophets Eldad and Meidad was really more in the nature of institutionalization rather than imprisonment (Ramban, Bamidbar 11:28). Temporary imprisonment also is employed in the case of one who strikes another: if the victim recovers, the perpetrator pays money damages; if the victim dies, the perpetrator is executed (Shemos 21:18-19; Baba Kama 78b; Rambam, Rotze’ach 4:5). Here too, prison is not the goal; it is a temporary measure imposed only while the victim’s fate hangs in the balance (Kesubos 33b), much the way a murderer might be jailed temporarily to prevent escape (Yerushalmi, Sanhedrin 7:8). In addition to its use as a temporary measure, Jewish law also provides for imprisonment in aid of execution, as in the infamous “kippah” (Sanhedrin 79b and 81b; Tosefta, Sanhedrin 12:4; Rambam, Sanhedrin 18:9). Where, for

example, a murderer deserving execution cannot be executed due to some technicality (e.g., want of witnesses or warnings), he is placed in an enclosed, body-tight chamber and fed a diet designed to kill him (Rambam, Rotze’ach 4:11). But, even then, incarceration did not comport with the secular notion of prison – it was simply a means of handing down an otherwise unavailable (and arguably harsher) form of punishment. In short, while Jewish leadership historically was given latitude to mete out an array of punishments – including imprisonment (Mo’ed Katan 16a; Ezra 7:26; Rambam Sanhedrin 26:8; Rambam, Rotze’ach 2:5) – these always served some non-punitive goal, like deterrence or rehabilitation. Indeed, imprisonment appears to have been dropped from more recent lists of available punishments (Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 2:1). One can’t help but recognize that incarceration can be short-sighted. In the long run, the ever-expanding prison system plunges society into one of never-ending criminality. We send “soft” criminals to prison to learn from “hardened” criminals. And prevailing recidivism rates (at least 67% by conservative estimates) are evidence enough that the system does not work. As philosopher Michel Foucault observed, “Prison is a recruitment for the

army of crime. That is what it achieves.” Torah society is different. Commenting on imprisonment as a form of punishment, R’ Samson Raphael Hirsch wrote, “The punishment of imprisonment with all the hopelessness and destruction of mussar that lie behind the walls of the dungeon, all the sadness and misery they bring on the prisoner’s wife and children, have no place in G-d’s Torah… In Torah law there is only custody and interrogation…the arrest can only be for a short time according to all laws of judicial procedure” (R’ Samson Raphael Hirsch, Shemos 21:2-6; Sha’ar HaMelech, No. 34). In the case of a thief unable to repay what he has stolen and is subsequently sold as a servant, the thief appears to lose liberties, but not like imprisonment: This is the one and only case in which the Torah orders deprivation of freedom as a punishment; and how does it order it? It orders the criminal to be brought into the life of a family as we might expect a refractory child to be brought under the influence of Jewish family life… How careful is it that the self-confidence of the criminal should not be broken… He may not be separated from his wife and family… In depriving him of his liberty, and thereby the means to provide for

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his dependents, the Torah puts the responsibility of caring for them on those who ... have the benefit of his labors (R’ Samson Raphael Hirsch, Shemos 21:2-6). In fact, the duties owed by the master to the servant-thief are so great that it is as if the master is the servant and the servant the master (Pesachim 88b). That is rehabilitation. R’ Yaakov Galinsky once was asked to speak to the inmates of one of Ramla’s prisons. Before his speech, R’ Galinsky asked to meet with the warden to learn more about what the speech was intended to accomplish. The warden replied, “I do not have any great aspirations for these inmates, but I’ve heard that your speeches are humorous and thought it would be good entertainment.” When R’ Galinsky started to walk out, the warden noted that the Torah does not really provide for imprisonment, but that it is a progressive mode of punishment. R’ Galinsky asked the warden how

theft is punished. “Jail,” the warden replied. “Is the victim repaid?” asked R’ Galinsky. “No.” “And while the thief is in jail,” R’ Galinsky pressed, “how are his wife

thief, and, in the process, supports the thief’s family. After six years of being treated well, the thief re-joins society, fully rehabilitated and dignity intact. R’ Galinsky continued. “These inmates were placed in your custody not so that you could watch them further

Philosopher Michel Foucault observed, "Prison is a recruitment for the army of crime. That is what it achieves."

and children supported?” “Well, it is not the role of the justice system to worry about a thief’s family.” R’ Galinsky then described how the Torah handles such a situation. The thief is sold as a servant, thereby repaying the victim. The “master” has the opportunity to rehabilitate the

degenerate, but so that you could help with their rehabilitation.” Within weeks of R’ Galinsky’s speech, the prison began to take on a more Torah-like atmosphere, complete with regularly scheduled shiurim –and, ultimately, a markedly lower rate of recidivism.

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The contractor who built The Tombs was not the only one to learn the hard way just how injurious prison can be. The Tombs’ namesake for a short while, former Commission of the New York City Police Department Bernard B. Kerik, himself, after being jailed for making false statements and tax charges, likened prison to a painful death. “I learned,” he said, “that the deprivation of freedom is far more profound than one can imagine.” With certain narrow exceptions, the Torah does not embrace prison as a mode of punishment. We prefer to rehabilitate than to recidivate. Because the Torah’s ways not only “are ways of pleasantness” (Mishlei 3:17), they are also ever-relevant ways of wisdom and practicality.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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Political Crossfire

A Showcase of the Vilest and Noblest Manifestations of Humanity By George F. Will

s the museum of human nature, aka the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum, marks its 25th anniversary, it continues to receive artifacts, such as a letter handwritten on a yellow scrap of paper. It was donated to the museum by Frank Grunwald, 85, who lives in Indianapolis. He was the younger of two Czechoslovakian boys who sit smiling on their mother’s lap in a photograph the museum has. It was taken before this Jewish family was swept into the Nazi murder machinery. Frank, then 11 and known as Misa, is alive because unlike his brother John, then 16, Frank did not limp. In July 1944, their father was segregated with male prisoners who were working in an Auschwitz factory. The boys were with their mother in the Czech family section of the camp when a Nazi noticed John’s limp and selected him for gassing. Unwilling to have John face death alone, on July 11, Vilma went with him, leaving behind this letter to her husband: “You, my only one, dearest, in isolation we are waiting for darkness. We considered the possibility of hiding but decided not to do it since we felt it would be hopeless. The famous trucks are already here and we are waiting for it to begin. I

am completely calm. You – my only and dearest one, do not blame yourself for what happened, it was our destiny. We did what we could. Stay healthy and remember my words that time will heal – if not completely – then – at least partially. Take care of the little golden boy and don’t spoil him too much with your

who in her 102nd year still comes most Sundays. Located just off the Mall, one of the world’s most pleasant urban spaces and the epicenter of American politics, the museum inflicts an assaultive, excruciating knowing: Nothing – nothing –is unthinkable, and political institutions by themselves provide no perma-

"The famous trucks are already here and we are waiting for it to begin. I am completely calm."

love. Both of you – stay healthy, my dear ones. I will be thinking of you and Misa. Have a fabulous life, we must board the trucks. “Into eternity, Vilma.” So, the museum presents human nature’s noblest as well as vilest manifestations. It has received 43 million visitors, 90 percent non-Jewish, many of whom have had opportunities to talk to survivors, such as Fanny Aizenberg,

nent safety from barbarism, which permanently lurks beneath civilization’s thin, brittle crust. This is why the Holocaust is the dark sun into which this democracy should peer. Calling the Holocaust unfathomable is a moral flinch from facts that demand scholarship, which the museum enables. It has, for example, more than 900 video interviews with witnesses and collaborators. And perpetrators, such

as Juozas Aleksynas, a member of a Lithuanian police battalion that committed genocide in Belarus in 1941: “We were issued Russian guns and bullets ... some were exploding bullets. ... A person’s skull opens up so fast. ... They would carry children - the little ones - they’d take the others by the hand. They lie down, lay the child next to them. ... First you shoot the father. ... How would the father feel if the child was shot by his side?” An album found long ago in an abandoned SS barracks contains photos of Auschwitz guards and administrators at leisure – singing, picnicking. It includes some of the few pictures of a short, dark-haired man – Dr. Josef Mengele, who escaped prosecution for his “medical” experiments, drowning in 1979 while swimming in Brazil. In his mind-opening 2017 book “Why? Explaining the Holocaust,” Peter Hayes says the subject “continues to resist comprehension.” Resist, but not defy. His many conclusions include the awesome – for better or worse – power of individual agency: No Hitler, no Holocaust. But Hitler began tentatively, with small measures. Hayes concludes his book with a German proverb: Wehret den Anfangen – beware the

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Frank and his mother, Vilma, before the Holocaust

beginnings. Today, there is an essentially fascist government in Hungary. Anti-Semitism is coming out of the closet: The Labour Party, which might form Britainâ€™s next govern-

ment, is riddled with it, from the top down. Blood-and-soil tribalism â€“ degenerate successor to throneand-altar conservatism â€“ is fermenting across Europe. And there is a name for what is happening to

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Frank's parents, Vilma and Kurt, before the war

the Rohingya in Myanmar: genocide. The museum of human nature remains what it would prefer not to be: pertinent to understanding not only the past but the present. How do those who work at the

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World

Builders

Dr. Arie Pelta Not Letting a Second Slip By By Raphael Poch

Receiving a defibrilator in United Hatzalah offices

ormer Atlantan Dr. Arie Pelta was recently appointed the head of medicine of United Hatzalah for the Beit Shemesh region. Pelta, a reservist in the IDF, is also a combat medical officer and a full-time doctor. Pelta believes that there is a lot of crossover between the medical fields in the IDF and civilian arenas. Before immigrating to Israel and joining both United Hatzalah and the IDF, Pelta was the head of the colon/ rectal division in Atlanta Medical Center and was a professor of surgery at the Medical College of Georgia. Currently, in Israel, Pelta works out of the HMO in Kaplan Medical Center in Rehovot and has private clinics in the Assuta Medical Center in Tel Aviv, as well as private offices in Jerusalem and Beit Shemesh. “There are a lot of similarities between what I learned in combat training here in the IDF and what I need to do for United Hatzalah at home,” Pelta explained. “The most important thing is to know how to properly manage one’s team in the field during a whole range of emergencies, the most complex of which is a mass-casualty incident or MCI. There, the highest ranking medical responder needs to take charge of all of the medical responders in the field and give them precise instructions

on how to triage and treat patients. Essentially, as the Chief Medical Officer in the area it falls to me to be the person who tells everyone else what to do.” The responsibility that falls on Pelta with this new position is not lightly managed. The logistics can be quite overwhelming for the untrained in the

is expedited in the field by training and working numerous practice drills for the command officers as well as the responders themselves.” Pelta added that the training he received from both United Hatzalah and the IDF complement each other extremely well in this area. “United

"Knowing when to utilize which skillset is the key to properly managing any given situation."

art of managing disaster scenarios such as terror attacks or large-scale car accidents as well as many others. “A lot of times in EMS work in the field, EMTs, paramedics and other volunteers arrive, and while they each know how to treat a patient, many times it is difficult to ascertain which patient requires treatment first,” Pelta said. “These triage decisions, as well as making sure that all of the patients in the field have been attended to, necessitate split second decisions that save lives time and time again. This process

Hatzalah has special training in that field as does the IDF and I feel that they very much enhance one another as each focuses on different aspects of situation management and treatment. Both have given me different tools, and each system works better for certain instances. Knowing when to utilize which skillset is the key to properly managing any given situation.” Pelta recently took a group of six United Hatzalah volunteers in Beit Shemesh and trained them as a cohesive unit so that when they arrive at any

given scene each one finds their place among the responders in the field and knows exactly what each of the team members is responsible for doing and where they themselves fit into the picture. “The whole idea is figuring out a way to improve the quality of the training that we receive in order to be able to provide the highest level of care for the patients with the fastest response time possible,” Pelta noted. “The time it takes responders to figure out where they are needed during an MCI or any other emergency is time that the patient is not receiving care. To work as a cohesive team and thereby cut out precious seconds means that we provide our high level of care for the patients even faster and that is what this is all about. “As a volunteer first responder and as a doctor, my main goal is patient care and maintaining the highest level of efficiency as well as the most qualitative care possible under whatever circumstances I find the patient in. I have been given the tools and the training necessary to help save lives, thanks to both the IDF and United Hatzalah, and I have the opportunity to do so even outside of my normal work hours and that is something truly special.”

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Netanyahu Bombshell:

Iran Lied By Tzvi Dear

n a game-changing address at the Israel Ministry of Defense in Tel Aviv on Monday, Prime Minister Netanyahu disclosed that through an Israeli intelligence operation Israel obtained a treasure trove of information which lifts the veil on Iran’s sinister actions and boldface lies about their nuclear ambitions. Mr. Netanyahu did not disclose details about the actual operation, but he indicated that Israel gained access to a facility in Tehran, the capital of Iran, where there were vaults containing tens of thousands of files and documents relating to Iran’s nuclear ambitions. Although Israel has long been engaged in cyber-operations against Iran, Netanyahu insinuated that in

this case – which he referred to as “a great intelligence achievement” – Israel gained access to the actual compound in Iran where the information was stored. He showed a photograph of the facility and stated that “few Iranians knew where it was, very few,” before adding, “and also a few Israelis.” In dramatic fashion Netanyahu removed cloth coverings from shelves which displayed 55,000 pages and 183 CDs worth of information. “And here’s what we got. Fifty-five thousand pages. Another 55,000 files on 183 CDs. Everything you’re about to see, is an exact copy of the original Iranian material,” he said, adding, “You may want to know where are the originals? Well, I can say they’re now in a very safe place.”

A Real-Life Spy Story According to a senior Israeli official quoted by The New York Times, the Mossad discovered the warehouse in Tehran in February 2016. They had kept the building, which housed Iran’s secret atomic archives, under surveillance until January of this year, when they broke into the dilapidated “innocent-looking compound,” took the original documents, and returned to Israel that same night. Israel had not announced their findings until now, explaining that it took them time to translate the trove from Persian. Perhaps someday we will read in some espionage book specifically how Israel stole a half ton of top secret nuclear information from inside

the heart of Iran. But we don’t have to wait until someday to learn about Iran’s sinister plans. In a twenty-minute presentation given in flawless English, Netanyahu used photos, charts and documents obtained from the Iranians to lay out the proof that “Iran lied. Big time.” Using a large screen and breaking down technical information into simple language as if giving closing arguments in front of a jury in a complex case, Netanyahu highlighted how the Iranian government played the international community for fools in obtaining the 2015 Iran deal, which is formally called the Joint Comprehensive Plan of Action. The U.S. was the main negotiator in the deal and, joined by

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Inside one of Iran's nuclear facilities

China, France, Germany, Russia, Britain and the European Union (EU), signed the accord with Iran on July 14, 2015. Bibi began his presentation by playing videos of Iran’s leaders declaring that Iran never sought nuclear weapons. In fact, even in the lead-up to the disastrous 2015 Iran deal, Iran had always maintained that its nuclear advancements were for peaceful energy purposes and not for the purposes of obtaining nuclear weapons. Like a seasoned attorney, Mr. Netanyahu sought to hang Iranian’s leaders by their own words. “You may well know that Iran’s leaders repeatedly deny ever pursuing nuclear weapons. You can listen to Iran’s Supreme Leader Ali Khamenei: ‘I stress that the Islamic Republic has never been after nuclear weapons.’ You can listen to Iran’s President Hassan Rouhani: ‘Nuclear weapons and other weapons of mass destruction have no place in Iran’s security and defense doctrine, and contradict our fundamental religious and ethical convictions.’ This is repeated by Iran’s Foreign Minister Javad Zarif: ‘We didn’t have any program to develop nuclear weapons. Anyway, we consider nuclear weapons both irrational as well as immoral.’” Netanyahu then disclosed that for years Iran had a secret nuclear weapons program called Project Amad which was a secret “compre-

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hensive program to design, build and test nuclear weapons.” Although no longer called Project Amad, there is an organization within Iran’s Defense Ministry which is working towards the objectives of Project Amad, under the guidance of the scientists who headed Project Amad. According to the documents obtained by Israel, as part of Project Amad, Iran built a secret un-

documents show, the facility was part of Project Amad and was blatantly created to enrich uranium in order create nuclear weapons, clear evidence that Iran brazenly lied in order to score the 2015 Iran deal. Mr. Netanyahu gave several other examples of how Iran lied in order to cement the 2015 nuclear deal. He highlighted why it is a bad deal and concluded by noting that “in a few

"You may want to know where are the originals? Well, I can say they're now in a very safe place."

derground facility, located under a mountain. The purpose of that facility was to enrich uranium, a key component to build nuclear weapons. Even after Project Amad “officially” ended, Iran continued to build the underground facility. Mr. Netanyahu explained that although Iran was allowed to keep the underground facility operating according to the 2015 Iran nuclear deal that was based on Iran’s assertion that the facility had nothing to do with obtaining nuclear weapons. However, as the seized

days’ time, President Trump will decide, will make a decision, on what to do with the nuclear deal. I’m sure he’ll do the right thing – the right thing for the United States, the right thing for Israel and the right thing for the peace of the world.” Javad Zarif, the Iranian foreign minister who negotiated the deal on behalf of Iran and who, according to many, ran circles around his U.S. counterpart in the negotiations, then-Sec. of State John Kerry, mocked Netanyahu’s speech before it

even began. “The boy who can’t stop crying wolf is at it again,” Zarif said. “You can only fool some of the people so many times.”

The White House Reacts The United States signaled its strong support for Netanyahu’s conclusions. In fact, even before Netanyahu’s revelation, when newly confirmed Secretary of State Mike Pompeo made a visit to Israel on Sunday as part of his first trip abroad as America’s top diplomat, he declared that the U.S. will withdraw from the Iran deal if it cannot be amended to prevent Tehran from producing nuclear weapons. “[President Trump] directed the administration to try and fix it, and if we can’t fix it, he’s going to withdraw from the deal. It’s pretty straightforward,” he said. After a lengthy, several hour meeting with Prime Minister Netanyahu, Pompeo declared, “The United States is with Israel in this fight.” Asked about Netanyahu’s presentation, President Trump, who has been a harsh critic of the Iran deal and has indicated that he will pull out of it, stated that “what we’ve learned has really shown that I’ve been 100 percent right.” During his speech, Netanyahu had said that the U.S. can vouch for the documents’ “authenticity.” In a written statement after Mr. Netanyahu’s revelations, the White

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House stated, “The United States is aware of the information just released by Israel and continues to examine it carefully. This information provides new and compelling details about Iran’s efforts to develop missile-deliverable nuclear weapons. These facts are consistent with what the United States has long known: Iran had a robust, clandestine nuclear weapons program that it has tried and failed to hide from the world and from its own people. The Iranian regime has shown it will use destructive weapons against its neighbors and others. Iran must never have nuclear weapons.” President Trump has said that he will decide by May 12 whether the United States will pull out of the Iran nuclear deal. Over the past several weeks he has been increasingly vocal about how inept the U.S. was

at negotiating the deal and how we got played by Iran. In a recent interview on Fox & Friends, Mr. Trump declared that Obama “made a horrible deal giving $150 billion, giving $1.8 billion in cash — in actual cash

last week and was treated to the first official State Dinner of the Trump administration, indicated that he believes that President Trump will pull out of the Iran deal. Macron, whose goal on his visit with Mr. Trump was

"It's insane, it's ridiculous, it should have never been made."

carried out in barrels and in boxes from airplanes” to Iran. French President Emmanuel Macron, who visited Washington, D.C.

to convince him to stay in the Iran deal, told reporters that he believes that Trump will pull out of the accord. Perhaps Macron was convinced

when during a joint press conference President Trump said about the deal, “It’s insane, it’s ridiculous, it should have never been made.” In almost the same breath, the U.S. president warned Tehran not to try and threaten the U.S. “If Iran threatens us in any way, they will pay a price like few countries have ever paid,” Trump warned. The president seems to be drawing a line and taking up his position in a bold and certain way.

he clock is ticking – slowly but surely – as the calendar inches its way to the 12th of May. Very soon President Trump will need to make a momentous decision: to stay or to go. With this bombshell report coming out of Israel, Trump will hopefully show the world that the U.S. was mistaken in making a deal with the devil.

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Feel Athe Rhythm Cappella Artists Talk about Their Craft By Sholom Nachtman In the good ol’ days, vocal groups were either doo-woppers snapping their fingers under a corner streetlight or boater hat and candy stripe-clad crooners from a barbershop. In the modern era, a new breed of vocal performers has arisen: the Jewish a cappella singer. A cappella has taken the Jewish music world by storm in recent years, with many talented and diverse groups making their impact on the scene. Want to know who’s behind those CDs you’ve been listening to as you shuttle the kids to and from school during the past few weeks? Recently, we spoke to some of the foremost practitioners of the a cappella craft: Gadi Fuchs of Lev Tahor; Mike Boxer of Six13; Julian Horowitz, musical director of the Maccabeats; and Ari Goldwag. Sit back, relax, and, as they say, enjoy the show.

or many of these singers, singing has been part and parcel of their lives since, well, forever. For Gadi, he can remember singing as a camper in camp, whiling away the afternoons in song. “Since I was 7 years old, my friends Eli Schwebel, Ari Cukier, Motty Jacobowitz and I were always singing together, at yeshiva, at Camp Munk, at our Shabbos tables,” he recalls. “We were always harmonizing like crazy and having a good time.” In fact, he says, he doesn’t necessarily consider himself a

“professional.” “We’re just a group of guys who love to sing. Music is our life but it’s not our livelihood,” he explains. “Since we loved singing so much, we had always dreamed of making a tape (that’s what

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we called it back then!) but we thought it was beyond us,” he says of his debut album. “Then, one year, we had the idea to do it a cappella, the way we always sang – no music, just voices, with harmonies flowing everywhere. We realized that people would want to hear songs that they knew done in an a cappella style, with the vocals sitting front and center. We didn’t know much about singing in a studio, but we were confident that our singing was good and that our harmonies were tight. Baruch Hashem, the tape came out well and people really liked it.” That was the beginning of Lev Tahor as we know it. Many of us remember Ari Goldwag from his days in Miami Boys Choir – think “Bisiyata D’shmaya” and “Baruch Ha’gever.” Singing in the choir for almost six years – joining when he was just 9 years old – made him a household name as he debuted on six albums at the time. “I’ve been singing since before I can remember,” he says. Mike came into singing a bit later than Gadi and Ari, as he focused on playing music – with instruments instead of his mouth – in younger years. The metamorphosis came in college, while studying in Binghamton University. “A bunch of my friends and I had sung together when we were studying there,” he says. “After we graduated, real life took hold for us and we realized we had to find an outlet and a way to keep on singing as a group. We figured there was a market for a cappella singing and the idea to start

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Ari Goldwag singing in his a cappella video, “Shabbos”

Six13 was born.” Mike is a champion for the Jewish a cappella movement, hosting KolCast, a monthly podcast dedicated to Jewish a cappella. He has arranged and penned more than 200 a cappella arrangements sung by dozens of groups worldwide. Throughout the years, Six13’s skill level as a band has changed, as

songs.” Julian adds that the Maccabeats have had the opportunity and fortune to meet and learn from greats in the music business over the years. He agrees that as the years have gone by, the Maccabeats have developed a more mature tone than when they started ten years ago.

“It is said that the human voice is the only instrument with a soul.” they have matured as musicians. It’s not just about producing a beautiful sound. “It takes effort and compromise to get your music out where it can reach people,” Mike notes. “Our top 40 parodies serve as good exposure for us, and they also reach Jews who are unaffiliated, giving them Jewish pride. Once they’ve become fans, it gives us a chance to reach them with our more hartzige

Knowing which song to sing depends on the audience, Mike says. “Six13 gets hired for a lot of Shabbos gigs, where we tend to do cover songs of whatever is popular. Recently we’ve been doing ‘Ivri Anochi’ by Benny Friedman and ‘Mach ah Bracha’ by Shmuli Ungar. For our live shows, it’s more of a mix of covers, our versions of pop songs, and some of our original material.

“We learned as we’ve been in the business that your repertoire should reflect a sense of marketing balanced with your artistic endeavors and creative expression, so we’ve tried to bring in more of the covers and the parody songs,” he adds. “For our albums, we try to incorporate whatever yom tov-themed material we’ve been working on and also take an opportunity to scratch our creative itch by recording our original songs.” Songs like “Chozen,” a riff on “Frozen”; “Uptown Passover,” a takeoff of “Uptown Funk”; and “Chanukah,” a parody of “Shake it Off,” certainly show their creative side. A bit of Jewish humor while listening to music is always appreciated – “Stop! Say the kiddush/Fill four cups, Manischewitz in ’em/Lots of food, no chometz/Shmulie-O, start to bentsch!” In fact, Mike says that their most requested songs are the parodies “I Got Tefillin” and “P.A.S.S.O.V.E.R.” Turns out Jews like to laugh. But Jews also like to connect – to their past and to their souls. In Lev Tahor, you’ll hear songs by artists that Gadi, Eli and Ari grew up on – D’veykus and Yossi Green – along with popular songs like “Dido Bei” and “Shiru La’Melech.” “There’s something about the voice that is kulo neshama,” Gadi points out, “and when it’s isolated, with no other distractions or beat, it can be a potent vehicle for the sublime koach of neginah.” The Maccabeats also choose songs that they love and that con-

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nect to their souls for their albums. “Songs with powerful, positive content,” Julian adds. “Often songs which speak to and about our heritage and values.” He notes, “Jews have been singing a cappella music from time immemorial. I think the recent popularity with a cappella in the Jewish world has to do with a search for purity, for a more raw, unadulterated sound. It is said that the human voice is the only instrument with a soul.” Ari Goldwag’s a cappella albums are called “Soul,” referring to the connection he feels to his music and to Yiddishkeit. He has so far put out five albums under that name. “For the first three albums I did my own songs,” he explains. “For the later two a cappella albums I chose songs that are popular right now. I live in Ramat Beit Shemesh, so I speak to a friend in America to see what’s popular. I also like to include some of my own compositions, so last year I included ‘Ivri Anochi’ which, baruch Hashem, was a hit, and this year I’m including a song from my upcoming album.”

tent, giving you a center of gravity to stay on musically. When it’s just six guys singing, the pitch center is wherever everybody is, so if one guy drifts off, we all have to hear that and adjust on the fly to stay in sync.” Gadi agrees. “When we first started, we had a hard time staying on key,” he recalls, “so we recorded with music playing in our ears to keep us on track.” For Ari, although he wants the music to be beautiful and rich, he understands that a cappella music is mostly listened to during sefira and the Three Weeks. “For me, it’s really important that it should sound like voices, not music,” he says. “On my first album I did beatboxing which didn’t sound too much like drums – maybe because I’m not the greatest beatboxer! – but after that I dropped it. I realized that I wanted it to sound rich and full but to accomplish that with voice alone.” Over the years Ari’s style has changed. “When I started recording my own albums 16 years ago, I started with a very yeshivish style. I was very b’shitah about how music should sound. But as I’ve evolved, I wanted my music to speak to more people, so my style has opened up. I’m not looking to sing about the same things that the outside world does, but I want use some modern elements to make great, fresh music that can speak to people. “This is especially important to reach kids, who are so strongly drawn in the opposite direction by today’s music,” Ari adds.

His most requested songs, he says, are the songs that he has composed: “Am Echad,” “Yesh Tikvah,” and “Ivri Anochi.” He points out that songs that he sings and performs in a music video become viral and extremely popular as well. Gadi adds that the song that made the biggest impact on Lev Tahor’s listening audiences is “Deaf Man in the Shteeble,” which is a cover of a Country Yossi song. “It’s a song that a lot of people didn’t know before we recorded it but has had a tremendous effect on listeners,” he says. “So many people have told me how touched they were by that song, and for us, the biggest thing is to make music that reaches people’s hearts.” As for the most memorable moment in Lev Tahor history? Gadi says it was most definitely HASC 29. The group sang a few songs, but growing up going to the HASC concert made it their dream come true. “For us to be on that stage at that moment was larger than life,” Gadi enthuses. For Mike and Six13, the most memorable moment in their performance history happened just a few years ago, when a different president was living at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue. The group was invited to sing for President Obama and First Lady Michelle on Chanukah. “We had planned to do a minute and a half of our ‘Hamilton’ medley,” Mike recalls, “but then the intern who was with us said we only had 45 seconds to perform, and asked

inging a cappella is not as easy as these singers make it look. Ever try to sing at a campfire with your friends and then realize that someone’s way off key? “It requires a very distinct ear,” Mike acknowledges. “When you’re singing with an instrument, it’s in tune and its sound is consis-

to hear what we were going to sing. We cut the piece we had prepared in half, and she timed us. We did it in 48 seconds but she said she needed us to cut it down a little! We upped the tempo a little and did it for the president. He really enjoyed it and stuck around to schmooze with us after, which was really cool.” Ari says that singing with Mordechai Ben David and Avraham Fried at a big show in London has been the highlight of his singing career. “It was my dream to sing with them since I was a kid,” he says. “Even more amazing was that my son sang ‘Daddy Dear’ with MBD, which was really moving and special for me.” Ari adds that Mordechai Ben David has been his musical hero and favorite voice since he was a child. “I also really admire Yaakov Shwekey,” he says. “I’m amazed at how he keeps putting out fantastic music year after year. On my new album, I sought out collaborators who have worked with Shwekey just because I’m so impressed with the music they produce.” Gadi says that he really admires Abie Rotenberg. “I also love 8th day, Mordechai Shapiro, Yehuda Green and, of course, Lev Tahor!” Although Julian never met Abie Rotenberg, he says that the singer and composer is his musical inspiration as well. “Abie Rotenberg taught me that Jewish music has a story to tell.” When asked about a Jewish singer he admires, Mike says that Ohad

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Moskowitz has “fantastic range.” “I also really like Shimon Cramer,” he adds. “I saw him daven in Riverdale and was blown away by his ability as a singer. And everyone who has ever had anything to do with Avraham Fried will tell you that he’s one of the most incredible human beings you’ll ever meet.”

inging is an art and it takes practice to make it sound seamless to the listener. For Gadi and Lev Tahor, practice comes naturally – singing at the Shabbos table or davening for the amud from time to time. Mike says that Six13 rehearses before any performance and has a monthly practice, which they use to produce social media content. The Maccabeats meet twice a month to fine-tune their singing and performance. Ari says that he takes voice lessons two or three times a week with a voice teacher over Skype. “Before a show or Rosh Hashana I spend even more time practicing and training,” he says. “You can never stop learning or improving. In the last three years I’ve learned more about my voice than I had known in the prior 24 years of voice lessons.” Even after hours of practicing, when it comes to performing before a live audience, every performer can attest that there were times they slipped up. Julian points out that it happens to everyone – except jazz

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musicians, he quips. Gadi adds that he’s learned to recover with a joke or to come in with more singing “to smooth it out.” “We’re only human,” he notes, “mess-ups show the human side to music.” Mike laughs and says that he forgets the lyrics at least once during a show – “I’m just one of those guys,” he adds.

For Ari, putting together an a cappella album takes just six weeks, from start to finish. He has, he says, put one together in just two weeks – “which was completely meshuga.” Putting together an a cappella album requires the use of Auto-Tune and Melodyne to correct the pitch in the songs. He uses them to reduce

“ The beauty of music is that there is no wrong answer.” Aside from practice and performing, producing an album takes time – from weeks to years. Julian says that the Maccabeats have pulled off producing an album in just two weeks. Other albums have taken up to two years to produce. Their producers use any stateof-the-art studio tools to improve or alter their voices to make the sounds just right.

the amount of takes he needs to do in the studio. Six13 also uses technology to edit their voices and to perfect performances. They try to ensure that their voices still sound like voices on the CD – and not like instruments. Each song on Six13’s albums takes around 15-20 hours of studio time. The completed album, though, depends on how long it takes to pull

all the songs together. Gadi says that Lev Tahor’s songs also take many hours – “four or five multi-hour sessions” – in the studio. “A cappella takes longer because you need to create the entire song from the ground up, using only voices,” he notes. Their last album took between a year and a half to two years to produce. “We want it to sound a certain way and hit the ear just so, which takes time to achieve.” He says they also use technology to improve pitch or to adjust vocals. “We always wanted the pure hartz of the music to shine through. Even if there were vocals sometimes that could have been a little better, they had a realness that showed the heart of what our music and our friendship was about.” He compares the voices on Lev Tahor to the achdus and friendship in the group. “Even if we didn’t know what it was, we knew it was working. Achdus is the same way: sometimes we don’t know how we are doing it but if we’re getting along, and things are working, let’s keep it up.” Want to know how you can join in the a cappella trend? Gadi makes it sound easy: “The beauty of music is that there is no wrong answer,” he says. “Figure out the different parts of music and explore putting them together. See the harmonies that you can do, try to work in a little percussion on the table.” He adds, “We were just 20 years old when we recorded the first Lev Tahor, with a dream and a love for

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music, so just follow your dream and your heart.” Ari echoes Gadi’s sentiment. “Just have fun,” he says. “Just sing!” Mike notes that for those having trouble finding harmony, it’s best to learn a little music theory. Julian agrees. “Learn how music works, even if you’re not a great singer,” he suggests. “Plenty of folks with me-

The Maccabeats in their most recognizable video

diocre voices make beautiful music with a little knowledge and a lot of passion.” Oh, and a little singing in the shower doesn’t hurt too. Asked about singing in the shower, these four a cappella aficionados say it’s all about singing in the rain. “It’s another part of the practice regimen,” Gadi says. Ari agrees. “I

sing everywhere,” he says. “I sing when I’m walking down the street or in the hall of my building. My neighbors always know when I’m coming. So yes, I sing in the shower.” Although Mike himself doesn’t sing in the shower, he says he composes songs under the showerhead. “With everything going on in my life, I feel like that’s the only time

when I can’t be distracted and I end up getting a lot of ideas then.” For Julian, it’s a given. “Anyone who answers no to this question isn’t telling the truth.” For those of you looking forward to more hartzig a cappella songs, stay tuned for my debut album titled, “Dove bar, you mamesh are great soap.”

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

hen do I share my secret? I get asked this question regularly in my practice. Whether it’s a medical issue, a tumultuous past, a mental health issue, parents’ unhappy marriage that is about to end in divorce, or a strained or non-existent relationship with a family member, single people are faced with the dreaded reality of getting vulnerable and revealing what they don’t talk about with most people and, in some cases, with anyone. There are those people who feel so self-conscious about their “secret” they wind up sabotaging the relationship, doing everything in their power to divert their date’s attention, all the while internally focused on their secret. They often get feedback, “She seemed distant” or “He couldn’t connect.” The dilemma is understandable. Tell a person too soon, and suddenly you’re “inappropriate.” Wait too long, and “he withheld important information. Had we known, we never would have allowed the shidduch. How can she trust him?” Though the dating period will vary

from circle to circle, there is a time that is appropriate for everyone, regardless of hashkafic orientation, to start thinking about the Big Reveal. That time comes when you know you like this person and you are starting to think about defining your relationship. Now, for people who will go out 12 times, this important step may happen after three or four dates. For people who are more modern and will date for months, that tends to happen a month or two in. Trust is created – it is not something that automatically exists between two people. I find that some people are waiting for the trust to kick in. But it usually begins with one person taking a risk by being vulnerable. How does a fun dating experience turn into something more? How do we take it to the next level? (Another big question!) You have to take the risk to experience the trust. Once you’ve been vulnerable, the right person will respond with an appropriate mix of empathy and curiosity. He/she will soon share something personal with you. Once you have shared vulnerabilities, you will have formed a bond.

A couple becomes emotionally intimate when both partners begin to share personal, private information. Very simply put, couples who do not share this personal, private information with each other, do not have intimacy. Here are some tips and tricks that may help you with the Big Reveal: 1. Get very comfortable with your secret. Find a way to make peace with it. Arrive at a place of acceptance. Do this work. Join a support group, and learn how others live with it and how they deal with it. By the way, this is a great idea for anyone, at any time of their lives. Share it with a friend, a trusted loved one or mentor as practice. Practice talking about it in the mirror or on tape (is that a thing anymore?). Play it back and listen to it, over and over again. Get comfortable. 2. Create the context for sharing. If you’re nervous about sharing, open up with “I’m nervous.” “This is hard for me to talk about.” “I was thinking about when to tell you…” You want to convey that the reason you are sharing it is because you value him/her.

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions.

3. If the secret is from the past and has no relevance to your life now, he/ she still needs to know. Experts recommend being forthcoming, doing it when you are both relaxed (maybe over dinner), complimenting the relationship, stressing the secret’s unimportance and lack of relevance in your life today, and then stressing to your partner what you learned about yourself from your past and how you have moved away from the mistake. Point out what you have done to change your behavior. 4. If the secret impacts your life today, be forthcoming and point out what you are doing to manage it and address any concerns your partner may have about how it will impact him/ her. 5. Ask yourself, “Does my secret make me unloveable?” If you answered, “No, I am worthy of love” then you are ready to date. If you answered, “Yes, my secret makes me hard to love,” then you may want to take a break from dating and work on accepting yourself as you are. 6. It goes without saying that if you

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conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

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have an active substance abuse problem, or are involved in shady activity, or are the catalyst of current unhealthy family, friend or work dynamics, you need to take some time to work on yourself and figure out what makes you happy before you can make anyone else happy. This world of shidduchim has made it so that wonderful people are questioning themselves constantly! I send this message out into the shidduch ether. You haven’t been very truthful! You’ve been telling perfectly human people that they must be inhumanly perfect! You’ve made people feel so ashamed of having a past, or a health issue, or of being “outside the box” in any way, shape, or form. Stop the shaming. Tell singles of all ages that their quirks make them loveable, that their pasts can make them layered, interesting and wise if they choose to

learn from it, and that a waistline isn’t what makes a happy marriage. Tell them that they are not their parents’ marriages. Allow for human experience. Let’s let people be real. When did we all become so perfect, anyway? Did I miss the memo? I like to share with single people that when I met my husband, I walked right into a garbage can and told him about a collection of notebooks I had that featured the work of photographer Anne Geddes, who took photos of babies. What?!?!?!? We were very imperfect and very real. And if you talk to most couples, you will find that they were very imperfect. That’s because human nature is not perfect. Couple hood and marriage knows we are imperfect. When will shidduchim get the message? So, when you like someone, or someone piques your interest, I en-

courage you to take that risk and show him/her your authentic, beautiful, imperfect self! It’s OK to be vulnerable when you like someone. It’s OK to not be “perfect.” The right person is going to want you – with whatever it is that you’re worried about. The right person is going to make you feel better about your secret. Famous singer and songwriter Leonard Cohen said it best, “There’s a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” Reveal yourself and give your relationship the opportunity to grow! Sincerely, Jennifer Mann LCSW Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please

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Dr. Deb

“He Can't Change” By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

heir lives were relatively peaceful. “We do not yell. We do not argue,” Ari and Rivka said. Except they don’t talk, either. [All stories are made up.] I had trouble in the beginning identifying with people like that. If something was bothering me, it occupied my mind until it had to come out; I could no longer hold it in. I had always felt that the other person was entitled to know what was going on. I thought it immoral to live a fake life. The argument people give against spilling all is that not only are you going to hurt the other person’s feelings, it won’t help anyway. There’s a kind of fatalistic attitude that people have toward the people in their lives: “They won’t change.” “They can’t change.” “Nothing will change.” The strange thing here is that we see people change all the time. They go through tragedy and their outlook on life changes and they treat people differently – sometimes for

the better, sometimes for the worse. They make unexpected money – or lose it – and that, too, changes them. More than one person told me that having cancer changed their relationship to G-d. Marriage changes us too. How can it not when it exposes us on a daily basis to a different world view? In fact, countless women have

it? So if a person can change for the worse, they can change for the best, right? So why do people say that others can’t or won’t change? One answer may be that changes like the ones above are involuntary. They just happen because of Life. And neither sickness nor tragedy nor exposure to someone who beats

If a person can change for the worse, they can change for the best, right?

said, “I lost myself in this relationship.” That means that they no longer either know what they think or feel, or it means that they lost the ability to express their thoughts and feelings. Either way is a change, isn’t

them down would be a voluntary choice, even if the result might be deep learning and connection to G-d and others. So, maybe people who say their loved one won’t change mean that

the other person won’t make the effort to willingly make changes. Why not? Why do their significant others not believe in them? Time after time, I’ve seen people dragged into therapy kicking and screaming (metaphorically speaking!) and yet they most certainly did change, some people more, some less. And the changes were measurable. In fact, whenever a client gets discouraged, I share with them the three ways of measuring change: 1. Frequency – How often does the behavior occur? If we were working on decreasing it – say the behavior was temper outbursts – has it decreased in frequency? Maybe there used to be an outburst every other day and now it is down to once in two weeks. Obviously, once in two weeks is still way too often, but it is a clear change in the right direction. 2. Duration – How long does the behavior go on for? If we were trying to get a shy man to be a bit more chatty on dates, has he upped the

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game from a quiet “Hi” to perhaps a few added comments and questions? 3. Intensity – Sometimes all we want to do is raise or lower the emotional force of the behavior. So if a person who must make presentations at work is trying to speak more loudly with more emotional emphasis, that’s something that’s also clear and measurable. Once we apply these three yardsticks to the behavior, it becomes very clear that a person has, indeed, made strides in therapy. But these same measures can be used for any behavior, thought, or attitude to see if it is changing. For example, let’s return to Ari and Rivka who opened up today’s article. They barely talk. They could, even without the help of a therapist, decide to start talking. Since they don’t want to fight, perhaps they won’t choose incendiary topics. But they can set aside time to take walks or even chat on their phones! The latter is a great example of using what could be a big distraction and distancer in a relationship into a vehicle for mending it. Ari and Rivka can simply start chatting friendly, warm messages to one another. They can even do it when they’re in the same room! Imagine that they’re interacting with their kids, watching them do homework, for example, and one of them writes a warm message to the other. Now, before you accuse me of being superficial by explaining that the real reason Ari and Rivka don’t talk is because they are angry at one another or they don’t like choices the other has made but are afraid to make a war over them and therefore the last thing they feel like doing is writing one another warm and friendly notes, understand something: Ari and Rivka are perfectly free to make the decision to change their own behavior in any way they choose. If they don’t like my clever idea, they can come up with others. All either one needs is to summon up the courage to say, “Here’s a behavior I agree needs changing.” They might decide, say, that decreasing the tension in the air by searching for the good and commenting on it, either out loud or by text, is a good start for talking about deeper things. At least they’re talking. And hey, who am I to stop them from talking about the deeper things?

What if one of them gets defensive and that is why the other one didn’t believe that change would be possible? Well, I’ve certainly addressed what to do about defensiveness in these pages before. The bottom line for that is: Defensiveness is inversely proportional to how safe a person feels. So the more safe, the less defensive. Then perhaps the measure of improvement in Ari and Rivka’s relationship could be watching

the number of criticisms decrease. Whoever is not making the defensive person feel safe can measure his or her own number of criticisms or snide remarks. Would a person be willing to undertake such a change on his or her own? Possibly. It’s kind of like the difference between watching an exercise video on the computer while exercising to it versus going to an exercise class at the gym. It all depends on your motivation to

carve out the time with no one barking at you. Me, I’ll quit the pushups long before the teacher would stop barking. So I need to go to the gym. Know what you need and apply it. Change is that simple. And possible.

Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. She can be reached at 646-54-DRDEB or by writing drdeb@ drdeb.com.

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Bullying It's Got to Stop, Once and For All By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

t’s always been there and it’s always been everywhere. Even when I was growing up, way back when in that country in a different hemisphere on the other side of the world. Kids and teens can be mean to one another. Real mean. So mean that other kids will cry and develop anxiety. The victim’s grades can be compromised and they can become socially isolated. And the problem can then become self-perpetuating. Some adult survivors of this syndrome aptly named “bullying” testify that, no matter what successes they achieve as adults, remnants of this ugly legacy remain with them forever. Bullying is worrisome. Bullying outrages me. And bullying doesn’t have to be. Let’s define bullying. Most kids have been teased by a sibling or friend at some point. This is part-and-parcel of childhood and growing up. Yet when teasing becomes hurtful, unkind and constant, it crosses the line into bullying and needs to stop. Bullying, according to https:// www.stopbullying.gov, is unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated (or potentially can be repeated) over time. An imbalance of power means kids use their power to control others. This might include physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity. Power imbalances are not

static. They can change over time and from situation to situation, even while involving the same people. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose. Bullying falls into three categories. Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things and includes teasing, name-calling, inappropriate comments, taunting, and threatening to cause harm. Social bullying involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships and includes leaving someone out on purpose, telling others not to be friends with someone, spreading rumors about a person, and/or publicly embarrassing a person. Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions and includes hitting, kicking, pinching, spitting, tripping, pushing, taking or breaking someone’s things, and making mean or rude hand gestures. The most insidious thing in this ugly picture is that bullying can begin at really young ages. It rears its ugly head as early as preschool. Woe to the child who’s not as coordinated as his peers and lags in sports adeptness. The spring and summer months can be tortuously long. Before going further, I’m adding a disclaimer. Many children are gifted at taking emotional molehills and spinning them into full-blown Category 5 hurricanes. We’re not talking about that here.

There’s also a danger here. In today’s confused world filled with emotionally fragile people, if you disagree with someone, you can be labelled a “bully.” That’s not what this is about either.

What are the Warning Signs of Bullying? Unless your child tells you about bullying or he has visible bruises or injuries, it can be difficult to figure out if it’s happening. But there are warning signs that parents should heed. They include kids acting differently or seeming anxious, not eating or sleeping well, and not doing the things they usually enjoy doing. When kids seem moodier or upset more easily than usual, or if they start avoided “regular” situations like standing at the bus stop, start sleuthing out whether bullying is an issue. If you suspect your child is being bullied and your child isn’t discussing it with you, don’t personalize it. Find opportunities to bring up the issue in a more circuitous way. For example, there might be a story in a magazine or on television; ask your child, “What do you think about this?” or “What do you think that person should have done?” This might be your opening to questions like “Have you ever seen this happen?” or “Have you ever experienced this?” Another option is that Mom or Dad can share of their own experiences growing up. If your child opens up to you about what’s happening, listen calmly. Of-

fer comfort and support. Kids can be reticent about speaking about being bullied because of feelings of shame and embarrassment. They also worry that their parents may be disappointed, upset, angry or reactive. Some are afraid that their parents may not believe them. Most are terrified that the bully or bullies will find out that an adult knows. Hence, it’s important to praise your child for doing the right thing by coming to you to talk about it. Remind your child that he is not alone, that many people are bullied at some point in their lives. Underscore that your child is not the one misbehaving but it’s the bully. Counsel your child to avoid the bully and to use a buddy system (and he should do the same for a friend). It’s also important that your child tries, under the most trying of circumstances, to hold his anger. The bully really wants to elicit a reaction. Teach your child what a poker face is and how to maintain one and, while acting bravely, to walk away and to ignore the bully. The key here is in the follow up. It’s imperative that you let the teacher, school principal or camp director know what’s happening. Your child needs to feel safe and must be safe, and the perpetrator must be stopped. Does your child’s school have bullying policies or anti-bullying programs? If the answer is no, there’s no time like the present for you, Mom and Dad, to take on this cause. You’ll be benefitting your child, his friends,

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What can We do to Prevent Bullying? Bully prevention begins at home. Do you, Mom and Dad, role model for your children how to interact with people in a kind, respectful manner? What kind of environment have you created for differing opinions? This includes interacting with people who are different from us. Do you thank the cashier in the supermarket? Do you greet the UPS driver? How do you handle yourself when the bank teller is not moving as fast on your business as you’d like her to? Respect must always reign supreme. In school, it’s important to involve the administration. Honestly, most programs are started and implemented in response to issues. Why aren't we doing more about the prevention part? In addition to programs, schools should ensure that there is adequate supervision during recess. Teachers, rather than hanging out in

packs, must walk the playgrounds, assuring all kinds of safety. Watch for the child who sits on the sidelines at recess. Ensure every child is included in the game. A word about social media and cyberbullying. Social media is prac-

sent it to their peers or they’ve been the recipients of such chessed. Baruch Hashem. The evening and next day in school are saved! But social media can also be morally reprehensible. Has someone made sure that all children are on the class

The most insidious thing in this ugly picture is that bullying can begin at really young ages.

tically and socially useful. Think of a child who doesn’t have the evening’s homework for whatever reasons (I’ve been the parent of kids like that). The WhatsApp class chat can come to the rescue. More than once, our kids have snapped pictures of homework and

chat? It can be emotionally deleterious for a child to be excluded. And since when have the number of Instagram and Facebook followers become a mark of social success? Unfriending a person is regarded as a slap in the face. Yes, not everyone can be friends.

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But everyone can be menschlech to all other people. October is Bullying Prevention Month but I’m not waiting. It’s May. It’s Sefiras HaOmer when working on our middos is front-and-center stage. In a few short weeks, it will be Shavuos. And then the summer months come with the uncomfortable period called the Three Weeks, which culminates in Tisha B’Av. You know why we lost the Beis HaMikdash. Don’t you want to help make the third one a reality? There’s too much at stake here. Are you stepping up to the plate? Let’s strive to make bullying a thing of the past. We might then be zocheh to a fleishig Tisha B’Av. As always, daven.

Dr. Hylton I. Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at drlightman@totalfamilycaremd.com, on Instagram at Dr.Lightman_ or visit him on Facebook.

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Avocado The Perfect Food for Any Diet By Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

ith the warm weather upon us, there are lots of fresh, colorful produce coming into the season. It’s a great time to focus on all the delicious ways to add more fruits and vegetables to meals, snacks, and even desserts! Avocado is the perfect superfood to add into your diet this season. Here’s why: fresh avocados offer a variety of nutritional benefits and can fit into several healthy eating plans. Heart disease is the leading cause of death in the United States. Luckily, there are ways to prevent it. While the cardiovascular system takes a hit from saturated fat and trans-fat, it does benefit from monounsaturated fats, also known as heart-healthy fats. The Dietary Guidelines for Americans state that replacing some saturated fatty acids with unsaturated fatty acids lowers both total and low-density lipoprotein (LDL) blood cholesterol levels. Avocado is an excellent source of

heart-healthy fats. Most of the fat in avocados (about 75%) is monounsaturated, the good fat, which makes them a great substitute for foods higher in saturated fat. Avocadoes have zero sodium, cholesterol, sugar, or trans-fat. This makes avocado a great candidate for a heart-healthy diet.

with diabetes, eating heart-healthy foods is essential as well for all diabetics. Avocado is also great for a weight loss diet. Since it’s nutrient dense, is high in fiber and very filling, an avocado makes the perfect diet food. A recent NHANES study found that people who ate about half an avoca-

Avocado eaters were also 33 percent less likely to be overweight or obese.

Avocadoes are also a great source of fiber, folate, vitamin K and pantothenic acid. Since avocadoes are high in fiber and have no sugar, they make a great choice for a diabetic diet. Even more, since heart disease is a major risk factor for individuals

do per day weighed on average 7.5 pounds less than people who didn’t eat avocados. Avocado eaters were also 33 percent less likely to be overweight or obese. Avocadoes have so many health benefits and are so delicious, there

is no reason not to include them into your diet. They add freshness, flavor and versatility to menus. The ways to enjoy an avocado is endless. For breakfast try scrambled eggs with mashed avocado or an avocado, strawberry, banana smoothie. For lunch slice up an avocado on toast with tuna fish or dice it up for a salad. You can throw fresh avocado into a taco, a quinoa salad, in a sandwich, on top of salmon, or just use it as a dip. There are so many ways to enjoy avocado. Each one is more delicious than the next, but just as nutritious! Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN, is a Master’s level Registered Dietitian and Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist. She graduated CUNY Brooklyn College receiving a Bachelor’s in Science and Master’s degree in Nutrition and Food Sciences. She is currently a dietitian at Boro Park Center and a private nutrition consultant. She can be reached at CindyWeinberger1@gmail.com.

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Fiesta “Chicken” Enchiladas Dairy By Naomi Nachman

As we literally are in the countdown towards Shavuot, I’m looking to do something fun and creative for our meals for this 3-day chag. I am planning different themes for some of the meals. As my family is a big fan of Mexican food, I thought I’d do a Mexican dairy meal. Besides serving Mexican dishes, I also plan to decorate the table with Mexican-themed table décor.

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Preparation

2 TBS canola oil 1 medium onion, diced 2 clove garlic, minced 2 packages soy chicken breast cut into ½ inch pieces 1 cup canned corn 1 cup canned black beans, rinsed and drained 1 diced jalapeno peppers ½ red bell pepper, finely diced 2 cups salsa, divided ¼ cup cream cheese ¼ cup chopped cilantro or parsley 1 teaspoon ground cumin 2 cups shredded mozzarella cheese 12 flour tortillas (6 inch) or to make it glutenfree you can use warmed corn tortillas

Preheat oven to 350°F. Heat large skillet with canola oil on medium heat. Add onions and garlic and cook until soft. Add “chicken” and cook until it’s warmed through. Add corn, beans, jalapeno pepper, and red pepper and sauté for two minutes until soft. Then add 1 cup salsa, cream cheese, cilantro and cumin; mix well. Cook for 10 minutes on low. Remove from heat and let cool. Once the mixture has cooled, place a 1/3 cup chicken mixture down the center of each tortilla; roll up and place seam-side down in 9x13-inch baking dish sprayed with cooking spray. Repeat with the rest of the tortillas. Top with remaining salsa and sprinkle with 1-2 cups mozzarella cheese. Bake at 350°F for 15 to 20 minutes or until heated through. Serve with avocado tomato salsa.

Avocado Tomato Salsa Ingredients 2 avocados, pitted and diced 2 cups grape tomatoes, quartered ¼ red onion, chopped 2 cloves garlic, minced ½ jalapeno pepper deseeded and finely diced ¼ cup cilantro, chopped 2 limes, juiced ½ tsp salt ½ tsp ground black pepper

Preparation Add all ingredients to a medium bowl and stir to combine well.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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How to deliver a baby. - The search term that 22-year-old Tia Freeman of Tennessee put into Google to teach her how to deliver her own baby, which she did while in a hotel in Turkey last week

Here’s what I know – I genuinely do not believe I wrote those hateful things. - MSNBC’s Joy Reid addressing her recently-come-tolight past blog posts which were hateful towards a group which is a key liberal constituency

Tevita Tuliakiono Tuipuloto Mosese Va’hae Faletau Vea. – The full name of the 347-pound defensive tackle picked by the Tampa Bay Buccaneers with the 12th pick of the first round of the NFL Draft last week

So the Jewish question that was widespread throughout Europe was not against their religion but against their social function which relates to usury [unscrupulous moneylending] and banking and such. – Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas in a recent speech, stating that the Holocaust had nothing to do with anti-Semitism but was caused by financial crimes of Jews

Mahmoud Abbas says money-lending Jews provoked Holocaust, denied any Jewish connection to the Land of Israel, and again called the Jewish state a European colonial project. Now there’s a peace partner.

In a new interview, French first lady Brigitte Macron said that first lady Melania Trump is, quote, “actually really fun.” Although, any time you throw in “actually” like that, it’s probably not true: “This flourless chocolate cake is actually pretty good,” “I actually like your bangs...” – Seth Myers

North Korea has announced plans to change time zones to line up with South Korea. Which means that North Koreans will have to set their clocks ahead — 100 years.

The royal family just announced the name of William and Kate’s newborn son, Louis Arthur Charles. I guess they couldn’t decide on a royal-sounding name, so they just went with all of them.

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I want to make aliyah, I do…I still have this fantasy of being an old Jewish lady living in the Jewish homeland... I want to buy a farm there and maybe bring my family. - Comedian Roseanne Barr, at the Jerusalem Post conference last Sunday

I want to thank you on behalf of my mother, and all the Jewish people, for moving the embassy to Jerusalem. - Ibid., what she said to President Trump when he called her to congratulate her on the “huge” ratings of her new show

All they do is scream, “Death to America! Death to America!” And, by the way, they’re not screaming it so much anymore. They were screaming it with [Obama]. They don’t scream it with me. We haven’t seen their little boats circling our ships in the ocean lately because they know if they do circle the ships, they’re not going to be there very long. -President Trump, on Fox & Friends, talking about how he doesn’t take garbage from Iran

I better not get into that because I may get in trouble. Maybe I didn’t get her so much. You know, I’m very busy ... to be running out looking for presents, OK? But I got her a beautiful card and some beautiful flowers. - Ibid., when asked what he got for Melania for her recent birthday

Look, it was very, very nasty with Little Rocket Man and with the buttons – and, you know, my button’s bigger than yours... Everybody said this guy’s going to get us into nuclear war… The nuclear war would have happened if you had weak people. - Ibid., talking about diplomatic developments with North Korea

A highly partisan, incomplete, and deeply flawed report by a broken House Committee means nothing. The Special Counsel’s work is being carried out by professional investigators – not political staffers. SC’s findings will be comprehensive & authoritative. Stay tuned, Mr. Trump.... – Former CIA Director John Brennan’s tweet after the House Intelligence Committee released their report which concluded that there was no Russian collusion

So the long-time chief of a shadowy intelligence agency is warning the democratically-elected president of our country that something bad is about to happen to him. Apparently because John Brennan has inside knowledge the rest of us don’t. But don’t let that bother you. Don’t get paranoid or anything. Don’t buy any of those nutty conspiracy theories about the deep state. Everything is fine. Just be sure to obey the permanent government in Washington or else goons like John Brennan will crush you. - Tucker Carlson, Fox News, commenting on Brennan’s tweet

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For the past 40 years, the Palestinian leadership has missed opportunities again and again, and rejected all the offers it was given. It’s about time that the Palestinians accept the offers and agree to come to the negotiating table or they should [be quiet] and stop complaining. - Saudi Crown Prince Mohammed bin Salman at an off-therecord meeting with Jewish leaders in New York last month, according to a recent report by Israel’s Channel 10

Today Americans celebrated national Take Our Sons and Daughters to Work Day. Tomorrow kids will celebrate New Appreciation for Going to School Day. – Jimmy Fallon

Then was then, and now is now. – Rep. Maxine Waters (D-CA) on MSNBC when asked why she believes James Comey’s recollection of conversations he claims to have had with the president even though she stated in 2017, before Trump fired him, that Comey “has no credibility”

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What Democrats Can Learn From Emmanuel Macron By Marc A. Thiessen

mmanuel Macron and President Trump don’t agree on much. Macron is a globalist; Trump is a nationalist. Macron is a free-trader; Trump just imposed protectionist tariffs on steel and aluminum. Macron wants the United States to remain in Syria; Trump wants to get out. Macron wants to preserve the Iran nuclear deal; Trump wants to scrap it. Macron wants the United States to rejoin the Paris climate deal; Trump withdrew from the accord. And yet there they were, the French and American presidents air-kissing on the White House portico, clasping hands at the podium of a joint news conference, clutching arms as they walked down the colonnade and clinked glasses at the first state dinner of the Trump presidency. “He is perfect,” Trump declared of Macron (after brushing what he said was dandruff off of the French leader’s suit). The displays of amity have left Washington and Paris agog at le bromance. How can two men so diametrically opposed get along so well? Simple. Macron holds his ground on issues that matter to him, but he treats the president of the United States with respect – and has found his respect reciprocated. Democrats in Washington should try it. In a toast at the state dinner, Macron explained his approach this way: “We both know that none of us easily

changes our minds, but we will work together, and we have this ability to listen to one another.” Wouldn’t it be refreshing to hear Senate Minority Leader Charles E. Schumer, D-N.Y., or House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi, D-Calif., say the same? At the end of his visit, Macron was asked how he could have such a warm relationship with Trump while disagreeing with him on so many issues. “It’s

pressed respectful disagreement on a host of issues. Too many in Washington can no longer tell the difference. Instead of simply applauding Macron’s words, perhaps Democrats ought to emulate Macron’s actions. Today, the Democratic Party is no longer the opposition; it is the self-proclaimed “resistance” that considers its job to stop Trump from doing or accomplishing anything.

"It's the same thing in all families... To just say 'I disagree and I don't want to speak with you' [is] ridiculous."

the same thing in all families,” he said. “Let’s share the disagreements ... To just say ‘I disagree and I don’t want to speak with you’ [is] ridiculous.” Yes, it is. After Macron delivered an address to Congress in which he warned against the dangers of “isolationism, withdrawal and nationalism,” many suggested that his speech was a “rebuke” to Trump. No, it wasn’t. Macron didn’t rebuke the president; he ex-

Even in areas where both parties traditionally cooperate, such as the approval of qualified nominees, Trump’s candidates face near unified Democratic opposition. While cooperation on difficult issues such as tax cuts or Obamacare may be a bridge too far, Democrats are so blinded by their contempt for Trump that they cannot bring themselves to work with him on issues where they profess to agree, such as infrastructure or extending protections under the Deferred Ac-

tion for Childhood Arrivals program. These failures hurt the millions of ordinary people who depend on leaders in Washington to work together for the good of the country. Macron’s visit has shown that it does not have to be this way; people can vigorously disagree and still find ways to work together. We have no way of knowing what, deep down, Macron really thinks of Trump. Perhaps the warmth between them is genuine – modeled, as Macron suggested in his address to Congress, on how Lafayette and Washington “forged a tight relationship fueled by respect and affection.” Or perhaps Macron has chosen to behave with respect and decency for the good of France and the world because he knows the stakes are too high to do otherwise. Democrats might want to do the same. Here at home, there is no shortage of critical challenges Republicans and Democrats need to address – and the stakes are also too high to indulge feelings of contempt. Perhaps it’s too much to expect a Trump-Schumer bromance, or Trump-Pelosi air kisses. But Macron’s visit should provide a lesson for Democrats: It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you treat the president of the United States with the respect and dignity his office deserves. To which I can only say: Vive la France! (c) 2018, Washington Post Writers Group

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Political Crossfire

Have Trump and Macron Learned to Use Each Other? By David Ignatius

t times during President Emmanuel Macron’s visit to America last week, he may have seemed like Donald Trump’s French poodle. But by the end, it was clear that this dog has teeth – and is tugging at the leash of the man who thinks he’s the master. The French newspaper Le Monde captured the ambiguity with an editorial Thursday headlined: “A double-edged visit.” Macron’s touchy-feely encounter with Trump Monday and Tuesday was “gesture,” the paper argued, but the baseline was in Macron’s speech to a joint session of Congress on Wednesday that was “on the edge of brutality” in its critique of Trump’s policies. Le Figaro put it more gently in a headline Thursday: “Macron seduces Congress.” Macron emerges from his Washington trip as a clever, somewhat devious French counterpoint to Trump – a flatterer, manipulator and charmer. Most of all, Macron is an opportunist who sees a way, at a moment when Britain is down and Germany mute, to put France at the center of European diplomacy for the first time in many decades. I asked Macron at a small gathering of journalists Wednesday afternoon whether he truly found the mercurial Trump a trustworthy partner. “Yes, I trust him very much,” he answered, “because I want him to move” to be a protector of multilateralism and Western values. In other words, Macron trusts Trump to the extent he thinks he can maneuver him.

Even some of Macron’s French diplomatic colleagues are skeptical that this new “entente cordiale” will end happily. Most people come away from Trump’s embrace tarnished by the encounter. During this visit, Macron’s stature was both diminished (by Trump’s domineering over-familiarity) and enhanced (by Macron’s undeniably charismatic public performances). Macron already seems to have lost his battle to convince Trump to remain within the Iran nuclear deal. His “bet”

Iran’s regional behavior. Macron is coaxing Trump toward a very big idea. He’s talking about a grand bargain that would draw in all the major players – Russia, Turkey, Iran, Saudi Arabia and the U.S. – to create a regional security architecture that would start with an agreement to revive Syria. This isn’t a new idea; diplomats have been exploring versions of it ever since the Syrian civil war began in 2011. And it has a kind of inevitability; when the Syrian war ends, it will

Listening to Macron spin his strategy, I was reminded of another smart, manipulative man whose diplomacy rescued a European status-quo power in decline: Count Metternich of Austria.

is that Trump will announce May 12 that he’s withdrawing from the pact. Macron is focusing on what comes next. He told us he accomplished two main things with Trump: getting his support for continued U.S. “involvement” in stabilizing Syria; and encouraging his “openness to a new comprehensive deal” on Iran – a “bigger deal,” in Trump’s words, that would replace the “terrible” deal President Obama signed and would last longer, cover ballistic-missile testing, and address

surely be through some such formula. But who can take on such a daunting project? Here’s where the weird synergy of Trump and Macron is interesting. A Middle East grand bargain is exactly the kind of “big deal” that Trump dreams of doing. Yet to get anywhere, he needs a smart, smoothtalking but unthreatening helper. Enter Macron. The French president told us he sees his role as an “honest broker,” facilitating U.S. diplomacy with Rus-

sia, Turkey and Iran. On his flight to Washington, he had telephoned Russian President Vladimir Putin. After he left, he planned to call Iranian President Hassan Rouhani. Macron said he understands that Trump’s style is to bargain aggressively and that Trump thinks this bellicose approach has worked with North Korea. Macron seems to imagine himself out on the edge of the cliff with the Great Disrupter, after Trump guts the Iran deal, helping him avoid disaster. Listening to Macron spin his strategy, I was reminded of another smart, manipulative man whose diplomacy rescued a European status-quo power in decline: Count Metternich of Austria, who crafted the Congress of Vienna of 1815, which stabilized Europe for nearly a century. Henry Kissinger unforgettably described Metternich in “A World Restored,” his 1957 Harvard doctoral dissertation: “His genius was instrumental, not creative, he excelled at manipulation, not construction.” Metternich was a man who “preferred the subtle maneuver to the frontal attack” and sometimes “confused policy with intrigue.” Does that sound like anyone who visited Washington this week? Macron told us that he sees himself as a man like Trump, because both are “mavericks” within their systems. He might have added that both men are also users, and that, amid the cringe worthy kisses and hand-holding, they may have found a way to use each other. (c) 2018, Washington Post Writers Group

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Become a Leader of Influence By Rabbi Dr. Naphtali Hoff

In a previous article about understaffed leaders, we spoke of the importance of pulling understaffed teams together to ensure that they are cohesive and that work gaps do not remain unfilled. This article will offer added strategies for understaffed leaders to help their teams overdeliver.

t the heart of great leadership is influence, as in the ability to influence others to do what needs to get done. In a piece written for Forbes, contributor Kevin Kruse defines leadership as “a process of social influence, which maximizes the efforts of others, towards the achievement of a goal.” I like his approach because it factors in some important primary leadership elements: (social) influence, others, effort optimization and goals. Leadership is about influencing others, rather than demanding and coercing. It speaks to the ability to win people over to a new way of thinking and practice, through idea sharing, collaboration and role modeling. While influence is important for every leader, it is especially critical when you’re understaffed and need to maximize every ounce of talent and time at our disposal.

Leaders often think, “How can I know if I am really doing my job well and getting the most out of my people? Maybe my self-perception is not what others think of me.” It’s a valid point. You might be doing well, but there are always gaps between your self-perception and how others think of you. So, leaders who really want to know how they’re doing need to be willing to get honest feedback.

or mentor who can help you make sense of things and maximize your leadership capacity. Of course, whenever you ask for feedback, the possibility exists that it will not be all positive. Some may be less than flattering or even scathing. Here are some tips that can help you make the most of the feedback that you receive and help position you to get more open, quality feedback in the future.

Feedback is the breakfast of champions.

Many leaders use some form of leadership assessment, such as 360-degree feedback or a psychometric tool, that provides information about leader characteristics, strengths, weaknesses, and personality traits. If you haven’t done this in a while, now is the time to act. The feedback that you get will form the basis of an action plan to help you become a better leader. Even if you have, it is still worthwhile to brainstorm on the results with a coach

1. Lower your defenses – If you want to grow from the feedback, you have to be able to look at it objectively, as if was describing someone else rather than you. Take time to understand what’s driving people’s observations and identify ways that you can improve upon their perceptions moving forward. 2. Respond carefully – If you are unsure about the validity of feedback or what to do with it, let it settle for a bit. There’s nothing worse than a misguided, rushed re-

action. Consider discussing it with a few trusted colleagues and / or mentors. 3. Thank them –Let whoever took the time to share feedback know that you appreciate their willingness to share their views. 4. Do something – This may be the hardest part. No one likes to change. But it’s often a lot better than continuing on as is while waiting for the other shoe to drop. We all want to hear that we’re doing well. But no one wants to be an emperor without clothes, or, worse yet, a dethroned emperor. Feedback is the breakfast of champions. Whether the feedback that you receive is solicited (ideal) or not, be sure to make good use of it, so that you can become the very best, most influential leader possible and lead an inspired and engaged team forward. Rabbi Naphtali Hoff, PsyD, is an executive coach and President of Impactful Coaching & Consulting. For a free, no obligation consultation, please call 212.470.6139 or email nhoff@impactfulcoaching.com. Check out his new leadership book, “Becoming the New Boss”, on Amazon and on the book site, BecomingtheNewBoss.com. Download his free eBook for understaffed leaders at ImpactfulCoaching.com/EPIC.

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Forgotten Her es

NFL Players in the Military By Avi Heiligman

Chad Hennings was too large to fly certain planes

very year the NFL draft is a whirlwind of storylines from teams getting their â€œmanâ€? to unknowns getting a chance to shine. Once in a while these storylines may include the background of a player who not only wants to play football but wants to serve his country as well. Over the years, dozens of football players have served in the U.S. military. Some were drafted during World War II, the Korean War and the Vietnam War, while others voluntarily chose to fight overseas. Montana State University was a small college whose students mainly came from all corners of the state. Prewar enrollment was about 1,700. Many students were drafted during World War II so by 1944 that number dwindled to about half. Between 1942 and 1945 the university did not have enough players to field a football team with all the athletes wearing the uniform of our country. Tragically, most of the starting team and some backups were killed during the war. Only one regular from the 1941 squad, Bill Zupan, survived the war to come back and play in 1946. No other prewar college football team suffered that many war casualties.

Hailing from Appleton, Wisconsin, four-time NFL champion Rocky Bleier was drafted during the Vietnam War. He had starred at Notre Dame as a running back and was picked in the 16th round of the 1968 NFL Draft by the Pittsburg Steelers. After his rookie season he joined the army operating a M79 grenade launcher. On a patrol he was wounded by a bullet when an enemy grenade exploded nearby, wounding his right leg and foot. He was sent to Tokyo to recover but was told he could never play football again. Rocky was released by the army in 1970 after receiving the Bronze Star and Purple Heart and set out to rejoin the Steelers. That season he was put on injured reserve as he was in too much pain. Finally, in 1974, he had earned a spot in the starting lineup and went on to a successful NFL career. Three NFL players were killed while fighting for the U.S. since World War II. During the Vietnam War former Buffalo Bill Bob Kalsu was killed as a member of the 101st Airborne Division. Cleveland Browns offensive tackle Don Steinbrunner left the team in 1954 to join the air force. He was a navigator before being employed by the Air Force Academy as an assistant coach.

Former Navy SEAL Damien Jackson is on the roster for the Nebraska Cornhuskers

In 1966 he was sent to Vietnam where Steinbrunner was killed while on a mission in a C-123 transport plane. Most recently, former Arizona Cardinal Pat Tillman was killed in Afghanistan in 2004 while serving as a U.S. Ranger. Famous players also served their country during wartime. Chuck Bednarik was one of the last players in the NFL to play both offense and defense. During World War II he was a waist gunner on a B-24 Liberator. He starred for the Eagles and was selected to the Hall of Fame in 1967. Hall of Fame quarterback Roger Staubach attended the U.S. Naval Academy and in 1964 was drafted by the Dallas Cowboys a year before he graduated. After graduating he chose to serve in Vietnam over a stateside assignment. He was there for a year as a Supply Corps officer before returning to the U.S. and served out his four year commitment to the Navy. In 1969 he joined the Cowboys as a 27-yearold rookie and arrived just in time for training camp. Staubach won two Super Bowls with the Cowboys and was named the MVP of Super Bowl VI. Another 27-year-old Cowboys rookie who had his playing career delayed due to service was defensive

tackle Chad Hennings. As a senior at the Air Force Academy in 1987 he won the Outland Trophy as the best interior lineman in the country. He was drafted in 1988 but had to report for duty. The large lineman was only able to qualify for flight training a few types of aircraft due to his size and therefore became an A-10 Warthog pilot. He was deployed twice to the Persian Gulf and flew 45 missions in the region. Hennings was sad to see that the protests over the National Anthem in the NFL last year became so political. He became emotional when he saw another veteran, Alejandro Villanueva, stand alone for the anthem while his teammates remained inside the tunnel. Villanueva played football at Army and after going undrafted in 2010 he went back into the military. He passed several courses including the tough Ranger School at Fort Benning Georgia. As an officer in the 10th Mountain Division he was sent to Afghanistan and earned the Bronze Star for rescuing soldiers while under enemy fire. After serving three tours in Afghanistan he was given a tryout by the Philadelphia Eagles but was cut before the season. The Steelers picked him eight days later and changed his position to offensive tackle.

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Rocky Bleier played football again after earning a Bronze Star and a Purple Heart

alized that first he should try and make a roster on a college team. Nebraska’s head coach Mike Riley took a chance on him and Jackson made the team as a walk-on. Jackson has yet to play in a game but he pushes himself and teammates hard. His fellow defensive linemen have a tough time keeping up with him physically during training. The bond between them and Jackson is strong – so strong that they allowed him to run out of the tunnel before games carrying the flag. Glen Coffee was a star running back for Alabama and was drafted by the San Francisco 49ers. In 2010 he

He spent a year on the practice squad and in 2015 made the roster and by October was a starter. Currently, former Navy SEAL Damien Jackson is on the roster for the Nebraska Cornhuskers. Jackson joined the Navy in 2010 after graduating high school and spent two years training to become a SEAL. In the SEALs he became a breacher – the person to gain access through doors and openings through a variety of means. These skills helped him while he was deployed to Yemen and Southeast Asia. While still an active SEAL, Jackson wanted to join the NFL and quickly re-

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Roger Staubach won two Super Bowls with the Cowboys and was named the MVP of Super Bowl VI

abruptly quit football stating that he didn’t have the heart to play anymore. The next time the media caught up with him was in 2013. Coffee was now a paratrooper who went through Army Ranger School. Last year he announced that at age 29 he was ready to make an NFL comeback and is currently a free agent. Running back Mike Anderson enlisted in the Marine Corps after high school and spent time in Somalia and Kenya on peacekeeping missions. After his four year commitment was over he played at the University of Utah before being drafted by the Denver Broncos

in 2000. Many other football players have military experience. For some it is the sense of belonging and for others they are there to serve their country. For many decades athletes with military experience have been a source of pride to veterans and have encouraged others to follow in their footsteps.

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SPECIAL ED TEACHERS 2018-19 CAHAL is seeking experienced and certified male special education teachers, part time, afternoons, for two middle school boys classes in Five Towns and Far Rockaway yeshivas. E-mail resume to shira@cahal.org or call 516-295-3666.

SEEKING JUNIOR HIGH SCHOOL TEACHER OF SCIENCE AND SS for a warm, supportive yeshiva in Queens. Please call 917-742-8909 or fax resume to 347-571-2287.

SECRETARY 5 Towns Boys Yeshiva seeking Elem Gen Ed Teachers. Excellent working environment and pay. Only lic/ exp need apply. Email resume to yeshivalooking@gmail.com

HELP WANTED RECRUITER / STAFFING COORDINATOR Looking for a motivated recruiter to join our Woodmere office - Full Time, 9-5 - Entry-level position with room for growth! - No experience necessary Please send your resume to cityjobs10@gmail.com to schedule an interview F/T & P/T REGISTERED NURSE openings to work with adults who have developmental disabilities within residential settings in Brooklyn, Manhattan, or Long Island. Current NYS RN, min 2 years hospital experience. OHEL: 855-OHEL JOB, www.ohelfamily.org/careers

SPECIAL ED REBBE 2018-19 CAHAL is seeking an experienced special education rebbe for a middle school boys class in a Five Towns yeshiva. E-mail resume to shira@cahal. org or call 516-295-3666. SPECIAL ED TEACHER CAHAL is seeking an experienced and certified special education teacher, part time, afternoons, for a 1st grade elementary boys class. E-mail your resume to shira@cahal.org or call 516-295-3666. FULL TIME POSITION: Field Network Technician /Installer for a growing phone service provider. Good pay, some experience needed Email your resume Sales @communicationsteam.net Call 718-471-8604

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FIVE TOWNS OFFICE LOOKING FOR immediate hire of several people…part time and full time…starting at $15 per hour. Need detail- oriented person to handle A/P, A/R, customer service, and ability to negotiate bids and contracts. Computer literate a must. Please email fabadi@egwaste.com

Math & ELA Teacher Seeking Math & ELA Junior High teacher for boys in Far Rockaway,NY. M-TH, PM. Warm, supportive environment. Excellent salary. Please send resume to rbzungar@ siachyitzchok.org

GRAPHIC DESIGNER WANTED. Experienced in MAC. Must know well: Adobe Illustrator, Photoshop, Indesign. For a full day on Tuesdays. Must work in our Brooklyn office. References Mandatory. Please call 347-992-7411

CATAPULT LEARNING Teachers, Title I Boro Park, Williamsburg and Flatbush Schools *College/Yeshiva Degree *Teaching experience required *Strong desire to help children learn *Small group instruction *Excellent organization skills Competitive salary Send resume to: Fax: (212) 480-3691 ~ Email: nyteachers@catapultlearning.com SHULAMITH EARLY CHILDHOOD is looking to hire a full time teacher assistant for the current school year. Please email resume to earlychildhood@shulamith.org Due to continued growth, the Yeshiva of South Shore is seeking Elementary School Teachers. Cert/Exp required. Please forward resume to monika@yoss.org Hamaspik in Far Rockaway is looking for a full-time Medicaid Service Coordinator to work with children and adults who have developmental disabilities. BA Required. Please send resume to cgoldstein@hamaspikkings.org Bais Yaakov Ateres Miriam is seeking assistant teacher for coming school year. Excellent learning experience, warm environment Call 718-868-3232 or email teachingpositions1@gmail.com

5 TOWNS BOYS YESHIVA SEEKING Elem Gen Ed Teachers. Excellent working environment and pay. Only lic/exp need apply. Email resume to yeshivalooking@gmail.com

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Inventing Tax Records By Allan Rolnick, CPA

Roman tax collectors calculating someone's taxes on an abacus

ax Day 2018 has come and gone. Have you cleaned up the mess from the celebration? Has your hangover faded into memory? Now all that’s left is to box up those records and store them somewhere safe, for ... how long? Storing tax records is lots of fun, said no one ever, but it is important. The IRS says you should generally keep your records for three years from the date you file your return, or indefinitely if you file a fraudulent return. Having said that, some tax records have lasted a lot longer than that! Around 6000BC, ancient Mesopotamians had invented a form of writing called cuneiform. Scribes carved the cuneiform symbols into soft clay, then baked the clay into tablets to serve as permanent records. Archaeologists excavating the city of Labash have found what they believe to be the oldest tax records among those tablets. They show the king used a system called bala, or “rotation,” to send assessors to different areas each month to maximize tax revenue. (Apparently, the Mesopotamians invented “auditors,” too.) By 1900BC, the Mesopotamians were levying taxes on everything

from livestock to funerals. So someone invented “smuggling.” But smuggling didn’t always work. The University of Pennsylvania museum includes a letter from a trader cautioning his employee not to play it straight: “Irra’s son sent smuggled goods to Pushuken but his smuggled goods were intercepted. The Palace

dom priest protesting that one particular levy “is not my due tax at all.” The Egyptians even invented “tax shelters” — royal charters granting temples and their staff immunity from taxes and compulsory labor. Around 2,500 years ago the center of civilization had shifted northeast to ancient Greece. By

Egyptologists have unearthed a wealth of documents and scenes from tombs referencing taxes, including a letter from a New Kingdom priest protesting that one particular levy "is not my due tax at all."

then threw Pushuken in jail! The guards are strong ... please don’t smuggle anything else!” Ancient Egyptians levied taxes on everything from cattle to grain to labor. Egyptologists have unearthed a wealth of documents and scenes from tombs referencing taxes, including a letter from a New King-

then, someone had invented “cash.” (Unlike cuneiform, cash is still around. However, if ApplePay and Bitcoin have their way, that won’t be true much longer.) Greek society cleverly positioned paying taxes as an ethical obligation, and the richest citizens actually competed to see who could give more. (This tradition

survives today, in slightly different form, as today’s richest citizens compete to buy themselves Senate seats and governors’ mansions.) As Greece faded, Rome grew. By the time Rome became an empire, she extracted so much wealth from her colonies that she didn’t even need to tax the citizenry back home. The Romans even invented “outsourcing,” auctioning the right to collect taxes to “publicans” who got to keep the difference between what they paid and what they actually collected. (Can’t imagine that ever led to problems, right?) The Romans kept most tax records on parchment, papyrus, or vellum, so few survive today. However, you can buy genuine Roman coins on eBay for just a few dollars each. Today, of course, we store our tax records on paper or in the cloud. But we’re pretty sure you don’t want your records to show future generations that you paid too much.

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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Can I Get a Little Help From My Cucumber? By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., MFT, CLC

he sandwich generation. Ever heard of it? It’s the generation with responsibilities in both directions. The people who have children and parents that they often need to help out. In fact, some have grandchildren and grandparents to help out. It can be very challenging. And I say, keep those blessings coming! People are, thank G-d, living longer. And this is providing us with people that we love remaining in our lives longer. What a gift! So, where’s the challenge? One challenge is time management. It is always a difficult task. And in this case, where you want to give time to everyone, it gets pretty sticky. Yet, we ask for it. We, in fact, pursue it. From the second our children hit marriageable age, we are hoping they meet someone to love and be with. Then, the second they get married we’re already looking at their stomach. Him, to see if she’s a good cook. And her, to see if we are becoming grandparents. And then once they do accommodate us we are already asking, Doesn’t he or she need a playmate? And think about it in the other direction. Don’t we want longevity for our loved ones? Aren’t we always hoping our parents will love long, fulfilling lives? Aren’t we always hoping we

can show them more nachas and share our continued accomplishments with them? So, what’s the challenge, beside time management, that we are up against? Health! Think about it...if everyone’s healthy we could just throw everyone in one giant car (picture the clowns stuffed into the Volkswagen) and get everyone to hang out together. Therefore, what we need to do is to keep praying for the health of all our loved ones. That’s the key. If everyone

everything and unsuccessful at it all. So here is where one needs to stop and introduce their paradigm shift! Because a sandwich by definition has two sides. And it’s the stuff in the center that is connected to both ends. If we pull the two ends off we recognize that the center cannot be connected to both at the same time. There is no possible way. Sure, so ideally you want to keep all your loved ones in one giant sandwich or house, let’s say, together. That

The way to simplify things is to give yourself two important things: credit and a break!

has that blessing the sandwich is much easier to keep chewing on. However, how do we manage when that isn’t quite the case? There’s the biggest challenge. That’s when we need to ask for a healthy outlook. And, furthermore, we need to cultivate it. We must make sure to focus on what is good in each situation. If we don’t do this we feel pulled and torn in every direction. We will continue to feel responsible for

would certainly simplify everything. But if you can’t do that, then the way to simplify things is to give yourself two important things: credit and a break! A break: when you feel like you’re not succeeding the way you’d like. And credit: for trying! That’s it. Because the answer to it all working anyway is you staying healthy. No, not just physically, but mentally. Beating yourself up or feeling you just

can’t do it all is not constructive. I’ll tell you right now, no one can do it all, whatever all is, if it entails doing two divergent things at the same time. You may not be able to get everyone in sync, or be able to see the grandkids and your parents at the same time, or to balance your job and your kids and your other responsibilities on top of that. But where everything can be synchronized and balanced is in your head. So, look at your two slices of bread or two on each end (great-grandchildren and great-grandparents) if you are so blessed to have that. And remember you can’t always keep it all together. Because there’s usually just one you in the middle. (Unless sometimes you can get a little help from your cucumber or tomatoes – your husband or siblings or kids). And then give yourself that pep talk.... I can’t be everywhere; sometimes I can’t even be where my first choice pulls me. But I can be proud of my efforts! And furthermore, I can even recognize my blessings....which are the delicious ingredients of the sandwiches in my life!

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@ rosenwalds.com.

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