Kansas City Jewish Chronicle 05.21.2026

One year after tragedy, Sarah Milgrim’s legacy of peace and bridge-building lives on

By Kevin Deutsch Special to The Chronicle

In Prairie Village’s Porter Park, a newly-planted Yoshino cherry tree honors city native Sarah Milgrim (z”l) and her environmental advocacy. At the University of Kansas, a scholarship established in Milgrim’s name is ensuring the next generation of student activists can pursue the altruistic activism she believed in. And beside a stream bearing her name on KU’s campus, students gather each day to sit, contemplate and learn about her efforts to foster peace between Israelis and Palestinians.

One year since Milgrim, a 26-year old Israeli embassy staffer, and her boyfriend, fellow embassy staffer Yaron Lischinsky, 30, were ambushed and fatally shot on May 21, 2025, by an accused anti-Israel terrorist in Washington, D.C., Milgrim’s influence as a force for global good is being felt across Greater Kansas City and far beyond.

Jewish communities are honoring her by continuing the work to which she dedicated her life: building bridges toward co-existence, confronting anti-Jewish racism and doing outreach to minority and vulnerable communities.

“I see her legacy as inspiring other people to continue her work,” her father, Bob Milgrim, told The Chronicle. “It’s one thing to remember what she did. But it’s a whole different thing to actually start doing something — to continue the work, to continue the dialogue, to try to bring people together. If you’re inspired, you should act.”

As director of Civil Society Affairs at the Israeli Embassy, Milgrim reached across divides and worked with LGBTQ, African American, Hispanic, Asian and Indigenous communities. Before the embassy, she worked with Tech2Peace, a joint Israeli-Palestinian organization promoting coexistence, and wrote her master’s thesis on what happens when young Israelis and Palestinians

who have never met are brought into the same room.

Milgrim’s parents still intend to present her findings at a Tech2Peace seminar in Madrid, to be attended by Israeli, Palestinian and Spanish university students.

“She believed that people could work together and find peace,” her mother, Nancy Milgrim, said. “She understood the similarities among all the different groups in Israel, but she also respected everyone’s differences.”

After the Oct. 7 attacks, Sarah Milgrim reached out to LGBTQ organizations whose members had joined anti-Israel demonstrations — patiently, without condemnation, trying to open a conversation. In the days before she was killed, that commitment guided her actions.

“She already had flights booked to go to Israel, and then they had asked her to stay on at the embassy for another [week or more] to host a group of LGBTQ individuals from North America who the embassy was flying to Israel for Pride Month,” Nancy Milgrim said.

“That’s what she did,” Bob Milgrim said. “She tried to make every-

one aware of what Israel was really all about.”

Milgrim was about to be engaged to Lischinsky, with the couple’s flight booked for Israel and future plans awaiting both.

As they were leaving the American Jewish Committee’s ACCESS Young Diplomats Reception at the Capital Jewish Museum in Washington, a gathering focused on humanitarian efforts in Gaza and the Middle East, authorities say they were gunned down by a bigoted killer who shouted “Free, free Palestine” and “I did it for Palestine, I did it for Gaza,” while carrying a keffiyeh.

The loss of Milgrim, a powerful voice against anti-Jewish hatred, was devastating. But the people who love her — and many who never met her — are not standing still.

“There’s a very powerful verse in

the Torah — v’hachai yiten el libo — ‘and the living shall take to heart,’” said Rabbi Zalman Tiechtel, director of KU Chabad. “It’s not enough to remember our loved ones. We have to take everything they embodied and make it alive.”

At the University of Kansas, Milgrim was an active member of both KU Hillel and Chabad. “Sarah’s Stream” at Chabad is intended to be more than a memorial; it is meant to be a tranquil place where students visit each day and discover Milgrim’s story, seeing in her an example of how they, too, can make a difference.

Two plaques mark the site and explain to visitors that Milgrim embodied both courage and faith.

“Some knew her. Some didn’t. But they’ve heard of her, and it’s very

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JFS announces 15,000-square-foot distribution center in Raytown

By Sam Kricsfeld Editor

Jewish Family Services (JFS) recently announced that a 15,000-squarefoot warehouse in Raytown, Missouri, will soon serve as a distribution center for its Food Pantry operations. JFS Executive Director Angela DeWilde told The Chronicle this will help the organization achieve its end goal of increasing its food distribution capacity from 300,000 pounds per year to more than 2 million.

This warehouse will be transformed into the new distribution center for JFS’ food pantries.

The idea to expand JFS’ food access initiatives started years ago as existing storage neared capacity. JFS decided that increased food storage

and distribution capabilities would be the most cost-effective way to make the biggest impact. Unlike the existing JFS food pantries, the warehouse will serve solely as a distribution center and will not be client-facing nor a food pantry in itself. It will be run by a new JFS worker and volunteers.

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JCRB|AJC accepting applications for Sarah Milgrim Justice in Action Scholarship

By JCRB|AJC

Jewish Community Relations Bureau | American Jewish Committee (JCRB|AJC) has established the Sarah Milgrim Justice in Action Scholarship, an opportunity that honors the memory and impactful work of Sarah Milgrim (z”l). Milgrim was a passionate Jewish advocate who dedicated her life to building bridges across communities, promoting peace and championing justice for all. This annual scholarship, awarded by JCRB|AJC, serves as a tribute to Milgrim’s legacy by empowering the next generation of Jewish leaders to pursue meaningful justice-oriented work and action.

The scholarship recognizes one or more outstanding students, as funding allows, who have demonstrated exceptional commitment to advancing social justice, combating antisemitism, fostering intercommunity and interfaith understanding and/or engaging in civic leadership or advocacy.

This scholarship is intended to

support special student-led projects, initiatives, programs, travel experiences or other educational opportunities that advance the student’s work in these areas. Applicants should demonstrate active participation in Jewish leadership and a strong commitment to justice, interfaith relations, combating antisemitism and/ or civic engagement. Contact jcrbajc@jewishkc.org with any questions. Applications close May 26.

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JFS Executive Director Angela DeWilde

The search for a warehouse started early this year, with proximity to both JFS Food Pantry locations — one in the Brookside neighborhood in Kansas City, Missouri, and the other at the Jewish Community Campus in Overland Park, Kansas — being a priority.

“We were looking across the Kansas City Metro Area,” DeWilde said. “The closer to our food pantries, the better. I must say, the search for a warehouse was more difficult than we anticipated.”

Despite the difficulty, JFS found a warehouse in Raytown that fit its needs perfectly. Located near Congregation Beth Shalom’s Mt. Carmel Cemetery, it is only about 20 minutes away from both Food Pantry locations. The building meets all of JFS’ requirements, and its landlord was pleased to learn which organization would occupy it.

“The landlord was extremely easy to work with and very motivated to lease to a nonprofit, just to do good in the world alongside us,” DeWilde said. “The space is larger than we were originally looking at because the landlord was able to reduce rent once he understood what we were going to use the space for.”

The space is so large that JFS will have extra room. To best serve those in need, JFS hopes to partner with food pantries and organizations big and small, including Harvesters, Kanbe’s Markets and KC Shepherd’s Center, utilizing the warehouse to maximize impact across the Kansas City Metro. It will also help JFS’ partnership with Jewish Vocational Service, to which it provides monthly boxes of food to refugees who have recently immigrated to the United States.

JFS estimates the warehouse will be operational by the fall. Some food is already stored there, but JFS is still working on installing refrigeration and freezer units, shelving and other necessary equipment. A welcoming continued on next page

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volunteer room is also planned alongside the preexisting office area.

Part of the $1 million raised at JFS’ recent 125th Anniversary Celebration will be used for the distribution center.

“Due to the immense generosity [at the celebration], we are able to make decisions about purchasing equipment and getting the space operational,” DeWilde said. “That was instrumental to what we are able to move forward on.”

More information on the distribution center will be announced by JFS in the coming months via their website (jfskc.org) and social media pages. Questions can be directed to info@jfskc.org.

community news

By The J

The J invites 5th-7th graders to Junior Maccabi Sports Day

As excitement builds for the 2026 JCC Maccabi Games in Kansas City,

The J will host Junior Maccabi Sports Day on Sunday, May 31, from 1-3:30 p.m. at the Fitness Center at The J. The free community event is open to all Jewish children entering 5th-through7th grade in fall 2026, with registration required in advance at thejkc.org/ juniormaccabi.

“It is a great way to meet other Jewish kids who also enjoy playing sports,”

New Torah covers dedicated at The New Reform Temple

By The New Reform Temple

Rabbi David Levinsky dedicated new Torah covers at Shabbat services at The New Reform Temple on Friday, May 1.

The new covers replace the original covers, which were needlepointed by early members of the synagogue at its founding in 1967 and will be permanently displayed at the synagogue.

The new covers were designed and hand-painted on silk by Kansas City artist Rochelle Gardner-Roe, who was selected by a committee comprising Rabbi Levinsky, Ward and Donna Katz, and Mara Katz Colbert. The wooden tops from the original Torah covers were reused in the new covers. Whereas the original covers depicted animal life, the theme of the new covers is the Seven Species, which are

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said Bob Hennecke, games director of the 2026 JCC Maccabi Games. “Participants can expect a fun time playing a variety of sports while experiencing the spirit of the Maccabi Games, as we bring Jewish youth together through sports for competition, social interaction and connection with Jewish heritage.”

the Torah’s way of characterizing the land of Israel as fertile and abundant in plant life. The species, as listed in Deuteronomy preceding Birkat HaMazon in gratitude for abundance, are wheat, barley, grapes, figs, pomegranates, olives and dates.

The Torah covers were a gift to the synagogue from Ward and Donna Katz in appreciation of the training by Rabbi Alan Londy and Hebrew tutor Brendan Carr for Ward’s bar mitzvah in 2022.

Shavuot/Shabbat times (Overland Park): May 21: Shavuot starts at 8:12 p.m. May 22: Candlelighting at 8:13 p.m. May 23: Shavuot/Shabbat ends at 9:18 p.m.

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Held in partnership with PJ Our Way, BBYO and the 2026 JCC Maccabi Games Kansas City host committee, Junior Maccabi Sports Day will give participants the opportunity to experience the excitement surrounding the 2026 JCC Maccabi Games coming to Kansas City this summer. The afternoon will feature small-sided basketball, soccer, flag football games and pickleball. Additional activities are designed to introduce younger athletes to the Maccabi experience in a fun and welcoming environment.

“With Kansas City hosting the JCC Maccabi Games this summer, we wanted to create an opportunity for younger kids to feel connected to the excitement and energy surrounding the event,” said Stefan McMillan, director of sports and recreation at The J. “Junior Maccabi Sports Day gives incoming 5th-through-7th graders a chance to experience the spirit of Maccabi while introducing them to the friendships, pride and community that make the Games so special.”

Community members can also get involved in the 2026 JCC Maccabi Games through volunteer opportunities throughout the week of the Games. Volunteers ages 18 and older are needed to assist with hospitality, event operations and athlete experiences as Kansas City welcomes Jewish teen athletes from around the world this summer.

The Kansas City host committee is also seeking local families interested in serving as host families for visiting athletes during the week of the Games. Host families provide athletes with a welcoming home environment while experiencing the spirit of Maccabi firsthand and building meaningful connections with Jewish teens from across the country and around the world.

More information about the 2026 JCC Maccabi Games in Kansas City is available at jcckcmaccabi.org. Those interested in volunteering or hosting athletes can email jccmaccabivolunteers@thejkc.org or jccmaccabihousing@thejkc.org.

For more information about Junior Maccabi Sports Day, contact McMillan at (816) 981-8870 or stefanm@thejkc.org.

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Jewish Federation awards record-breaking number of summer camp grants

By Alexis Greenberg Special to The Chronicle

This year, Jewish Federation of Kansas City’s Rabbi Gershon Hadas Society scholarship fund provided a total of $84,153 to 60 campers for summer 2026. This is a record-breaking number of first-time camper grants and the most money awarded for one summer to date.

Twenty-five first-time camper grants were awarded, totaling $25,000. First-time camper grants are available to any child the first time they attend summer camp for three weeks or longer. In addition, 35 youths from the Kansas City metro area will receive financial assistance for camp, totaling $59,153.

Federation’s Community Planning Specialist Sierra Debrow, who is also the coordinator for Guardian Society grants and scholarships, shared why summer camp means so much to Kansas City’s youth.

Debrow also said their own experience at Jewish summer camp helped shape their Jewish identity and drew them to a career as a Jewish professional.

“Immersive Jewish experiences, like summer camp and Israel travel programs, are some of the most impactful Jewish programs available to children. Children and teens attending Jewish overnight camps are more likely to feel that being Jewish is important to them, attend a synagogue or regularly light candles on Shabbat,” Debrow said.

“The Jewish adults at camp allowed us to, perhaps for the first time, push ourselves to the edge of our comfort zones, to try, to succeed, and yes –sometimes to fail,” Debrow said. “Instilling Jewish pride, identity and belonging in our youth proves to be one of the best guarantees we have to ensure that the Jewish Kansas City of tomorrow is filled with bright, engaged and thriving Jewish leaders.”

Debrow said this year’s recordbreaking grants and scholarships were made possible with the support of the Jewish Community Foundation, which granted $20,000 to the Guardian Society through its Community Legacy Fund. In addition, Guardian Society received $10,000 from the Flo Harris Foundation and additional support

World religions in Kansas City to be covered at JULIETs meeting

By JULIETs

Baker University Religion Professor Nick Pumphrey will speak to the Jewish Unforgettable Ladies Interested in Eating Together (JULIETs) about the major religions represented in the Kansas City area and how they arrived there.

The event will be held on Sunday, May 31, at 12:30 p.m. Location will be provided upon reservation, which can be done by emailing Susie Klinock at Juliets.KC@gmail.com by Thursday, May 28.

Dr. Pumphrey is a professor of Religious Studies at Baker University in Baldwin City, Kansas. He specializes

in the archaeology and history of ancient Israel and works within the fields of comparative religions, popular culture and religion. He also curates the Quayle Bible Collection. His presentation will examine how and why Kansas City became the home for the five big religions of the world: Judaism, Christianity, Islam, Hinduism and Buddhism. Attendees

will also learn how smaller groups such as Jainism and Sikhism are in Kansas City and how they have changed over time.

All Jewish women (and women of other faiths who have a Jewish spouse) are invited to this free event. No synagogue affiliation is required to attend, and attendees should arrive 15 minutes early.

World religions with JULIETs

Sunday, May 31, at 12:30 p.m. Location information upon registration

B’nai Jehudah gatherings to celebrate educators

By The Temple, Congregation B’nai Jehudah

The Temple, Congregation B’nai Jehudah will host “Teachers’ Lounge: Summer Edition,” a series of relaxed afternoon gatherings designed to celebrate community educators. Whether an educator, someone enjoying summer break, or simply someone who can “break away” from their daily routine for a few hours, they are invited to join us.

4, embroidery and needlework on July 9 and mosaics on July 28. No experience is necessary. Attendees can come ready to unwind, learn something new or work on an

existing project, and enjoy good company.

Teachers’ Lounge: Summer Edition is B’nai Jehudah’s way of saying thank you to the educators, caregivers and community members who help others thrive throughout the year.

Registration and payments can be made online at bnaijehudah.org/ calendar or by calling B’nai Jehudah at (913) 663-4050.

from the Lewis Family Memorial Fund. All the other funds for camp grants come directly from community contributions. Federation fundraises for the Guardian Society separately from its Community Campaign.

“The Guardian Society aims to ensure that any Jewish family who wants their child to have an immersive Jewish experience can do so. The funds are available to all Jewish families, regardless of denomination or affiliation,” Debrow said. “This way, whether it’s a family’s first time sending their child to camp or the fourth, our community and this grant support all children exploring their Jewish identity.”

Donations for the Guardian Society can be made at JewishKansasCity.org/ GuardianDonate.

More information about the fund can be found at JewishKansasCity. org/GuardianSociety or by emailing SierraD@JewishKC.org.

JFS to benefit from Big 5 Trivia

By Jewish Family Services

A special week of trivia nights will benefit the Jewish Family Services (JFS) Food Pantry.

During four trivia sessions the week of June 1, each hosted by Big 5 Trivia, participants are invited to bring donations to support JFS pantry locations. Along with the usual bragging rights and prizes, players will have the chance to “score” even bigger by helping stock the shelves for local families in need.

Most-needed items include pasta and rice (family-sized), tomato soup, canned fruits and vegetables, crunchy peanut butter, pet food and condiments.

Trivia Night Lineup:

• Monday, June 1: Chicken N Pickle –North Kansas City

• Tuesday, June 2: Chicken N Pickle –Overland Park & Lew’s (Waldo)

• Wednesday, June 3: Discourse (Metcalf)

• Thursday, June 4: Friction (Shawnee)

Each session combines creativity, connection and a light lunch at the Temple from 1–3 p.m. Upcoming programs include mahjongg on June

Teachers’ Lounge: Summer Edition

June 4, July 9 and July 28, from 1 to 3 p.m.

B’nai Jehudah, 12320 Nall Avenue, Overland Park, KS 66209

Each month, nearly 500 families rely on the JFS Food Pantry for nourishing food, household essentials, and personal care items. Community support helps to ensure those needs are met with dignity and care. For more information about the JFS Food Pantry, visit jfskc.org/ food-pantry.

JCF to celebrate 20 years of J-LEAD

By the Jewish Community Foundation

This year, the Jewish Community Foundation’s J-LEAD program is celebrating 20 years of impactful grantmaking in the Kansas City Jewish community. Since 2006, J-LEAD (Jewish Leadership, Education, Action and Development) members have collectively granted more than $550,000 to support communal organizations and programs.

To honor this impressive milestone, the Foundation is hosting a special J-LEAD 20th Anniversary Party and Grants Celebration on June 4 at 7 p.m. at Chicken N Pickle in Overland Park, Kansas.

“We are so proud to be leading J-LEAD in its 20th year,” said Becky Barnett and Abby Lane, J-LEAD co-chairs. “Many new members have joined for the first time, our grantmaking has been stronger than ever, and the program continues to grow and make an impact.”

J-LEAD is a giving circle for adults in their 20s, 30s and 40s. By pooling together resources and collectively making grant decisions, J-LEAD members are able to achieve a greater good than any one member could alone. Members may join for a $500 charitable contribution, and for a limited time, new members may join for only $250.

In addition to increasing the impact of their philanthropy, J-LEAD allows members to forge meaningful connections within the Jewish community. Through collective decision-making and volunteer and social activities, J-LEAD members engage with peers who share their passion for making a difference. The program also offers educational resources and opportunities for members to deepen their understanding of philanthropy, Jewish values and community needs. Over the years, more than 250 community members have participated in J-LEAD.

After their participation, many members have gone on to hold prominent leadership positions in the community and have become more thoughtful and strategic philanthropists.

“Over 20 years ago, Lauren Mattleman Hoopes, the head of the Jewish Community Foundation, approached me about starting a giving circle for

J-LEAD

young professionals in the Kansas City Jewish community,” said founding J-LEAD member Greg Wolf. “I enthusiastically accepted the challenge and recruited a group of young Jewish professionals to build this concept. The goals were and continue to be giving young Jewish professionals exposure to various Jewish charitable organizations and a voice as to which institutions would receive J-LEAD grants. Twenty years later, I am incredibly proud to see that J-LEAD continues to make a positive impact on young Jewish professionals’ lives, as well helping address the needs in our Jewish community.”

For more information about J-LEAD or the 20th anniversary party, contact Suzanne Galblum Dicken at sdicken@ jcfkc.org or (913) 327-8286.

20th Anniversary Party and Grants Celebration Thursday, June 4, at 7 p.m. Chicken N Pickle, 5901 W. 135th St., Overland Park, KS 66223

KC SuperStar semifinals to be on June 4 at White Theatre

By The J

The KC SuperStar semifinals will take place on Thursday, June 4, at 7 p.m. at The Lewis & Shirley White Theatre, located at The J (5801 W. 115th St., Overland Park, KS 66211). Admission to the event is free, and attendees are encouraged to bring donations of adhesive bandage boxes to support J Cares, a volunteer service initiative connected to the JCC Maccabi Games.

Now in its 17th year, KC SuperStar is Kansas City’s premier high school singing competition, showcasing top vocal talent from across the metro area. After a competitive audition process that drew students from 57 area high schools, 21 semifinalists remain to compete in this round. The event supports emerging talent while fostering meaningful connections between young performers and the Kansas City community.

“KC SuperStar is more than a competition; it is a chance to invest in young talent and support meaningful community impact,” said Bailey Nakelsky, chief philanthropy officer of The J. “The event gives the community the opportunity to hear from incredible talent while helping generate more than $1 million in philanthropic support for The J. These funds support critical needs at The J, providing scholarships and lowering barriers to childcare and senior activities, engaging programming and communal life.”

For the first time, the KC SuperStar planning committee will host a reception prior to the semifinals,

inviting prospective donors to attend a meet-and-greet. The event will feature a wine and cheese reception, an overview of what to expect at KC SuperStar in August, and information about the program’s fundraising efforts. Attendees will also have the opportunity to learn how to become future donors. For more information, contact Bailey Nakelsky at (913) 9818896 or baileyn@thejkc.org.

The 21 participants will perform in KC SuperStar semifinals. They are Aashrita Kambhampat, Addy Gardner, Ava DeAngelo, Brenda Benitez, Cameron James Ritchie, Chace Curtis, Corbin Newberry, Desmond Walker III, Emily Colbert, Jada Strother, Jaxon Hendrix, Jocelyn Salter, Jordan Naseem, Karen Jallad, Kiera Basel, Matthew Brun, Miles McKinzy, Molly Sheeley, Sabine Federlein, Sutton Claycamp and Teagan Sullivan.

From these semifinalists, the judges will select the top 10 performers who will advance to the KC SuperStar Finals on Sunday, Aug. 30, at 7 p.m. Contestants are competing for a $15,000 scholarship, with more than $30,000 in total scholarships awarded to the top 10 finalists. Over the years, hundreds of teen singers from across the region have participated in KC SuperStar, and several have gone on to perform professionally.

This year’s panel of judges, Abby Parra, Anthony Fortino and Christian Owen, all have deep ties to the competition as past KC SuperStar finalists. Parra

was a 2013 finalist and is the lead vocalist for local indie folk band The Canterberries; Fortino was a 2010 finalist and is a professional actor and singer who has performed across the country; and Owen was a 2011 finalist and continues to stay involved in the performing arts.

Rich Linden, a Kansas City DJ and entertainer, will emcee the KC SuperStar semifinals for the third time. Linden has more than 25 years of experience across radio, television, film, music, theater and dance, engaging audiences at events around the world. A professional DJ and emcee since 1998, he has performed for more than one million people and is known for creating inclusive, highenergy environments. In addition,

he has worked as a public address announcer and event producer for major organizations including the NCAA, Kansas City Royals and NASCAR.

“I could not be more honored and excited to emcee KC SuperStar this year,” Linden said. “Kansas City is a hub for incredible talent, and KC SuperStar showcases the very best of it. This event brings the community together from across the metro for an evening of unforgettable performances and a chance to see future recording artists, Broadway performers and Hollywood stars before they make it big.”

As The J’s major fundraising event, KC SuperStar also helps provide financial assistance for community members to access programs and services, with a portion of funds supporting The Reat Griffin Underwood Rising Stars Fund for youth performing arts education.

Serving as co-chairs this year are J members and community volunteers Alana Muller and Marc Hammer.

For more information about the competition, visit kcsuperstar.org or contact Tammy Ruder at (913) 9818878 or tammyr@thejkc.org.

Sponsorship opportunities are available; more information is available at kcsuperstar.org or by contacting Ben Coate at benc@thejkc.org or (913) 981-8895.

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Using The Chronicle’s archives and community submissions, here are some recipes for you to try out. Email samk@ jewishkc.org with a recipe, and it might be published here!

World’s Best Cheesecake

Barbara Ruth Gross, 1980

Ingredients

• 2 8-oz. pkg. cream cheese

• 1 3-oz. pkg. cream cheese

• 1 pint sour cream

• 1 cup sugar

• 1 tsp. vanilla

• 1 jar apricot preserves

• 1 tbsp. triple sec

• Graham cracker crust

• Strawberries

• Grapes

• Bananas

• Oranges Instructions

1. Set oven to 350 degrees

2. Mix softened cream cheese and sour cream until smooth

3. Add sugar a little at a time

4. Add vanilla and mix again

5. Pour into graham cracker crust

6. Bake for 90 minutes or until top is brown

7. Leave in pan overnight

8. Arrange strawberries, grapes, bananas and mandarin oranges on cake

9. Bring apricot preserves to a boil

10. Strain preserves while hot, then add triple sec

11. Pour over fruit and cake

12. Chill cake before eating

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• A Lifetime of Light (pg. 9)

• Carol Pfau (pg. 8)

• Development officer (pg. 9)

• Dr. Scott Eveloff (pg. 11)

• Happy Shavuot!

• Helzberg Circle (pg. 9)

• JCRB|AJC scholarship (pg. 2)

• JFS distribution center (pg. 1)

• JFS trivia (pg. 4)

• J-LEAD anniversary (pg. 5)

• JULIETs (pg. 4)

• Junior Maccabi Sports Day (pg. 3)

• KC SuperStar (pg. 5)

• Kelly Reichman (pg. 8)

• KU Chabad (pg. 10)

• NCJW board (pg. 9)

• New Torah covers (pg. 3)

• SevenDays (pg. 10)

• Summer camp grants (pg. 4)

• Teachers’ Lounge (pg. 4)

• Torah wimpel (pg. 8)

Hadassah Activities

Top: Hadassah, Greater Kansas City Chapter recently hosted its 24th annual Hadassah Walk for Health on May 10. The walk helps promote both physical and mental health and raise funds for Hadassah.

Above: On May 3, Liz Bamberger, president of Hadassah, presented a certificate to Dr. Michael Sokol after his presentation, “A Path to Better Health: Diabetes Prevention and Treatment” at Village Shalom. This program was offered in memory of the life, legacy and leadership of Hadassah member Jackye Goldberg (z”l).

JCF at the Truman Library

As part of the Jewish Community Foundation’s Connecting Our Giving Community series, fundholders visited the Truman Library Institute White House Decision Center where they participated in a hands-on history lab. Pictured (from left) are Gail Weinberg, David Spizman, Lara Krigel Pabst, Loren Berenbom, Merilyn

Confirmation Trip

Weiner Religious School

Congregation

celebrations and community news

62nd Anniversary

Jackie and Fred Strauss

Jackie and Fred Strauss of Buffalo Grove, Illinois, (formerly of the Kansas City area) celebrated their 62nd anniversary on May 2. Jackie (née Rashbaum) is the daughter of Ruby and Mayer Rashbaum (z”l).

They are the parents of Andrea Simonson, Jeffrey Strauss and Donna Wallach. They have eight grandsons and one great-grandson.

Tulane Division 1 athletes

Gracie Goldman and Ariel Palan recently signed on to become NCAA Division 1 athletes at Tulane University in New Orleans, Louisiana. Both are pictured with their families on their signing days.

Goldman, the daughter of Stuart and Lauren Goldman, is graduating from Blue Valley High School and signed with Tulane Cheerleading.

Palan, daughter of David and Amanda Palan, is graduating from Blue Valley North High School and signed with the Tulane Shockwave Dance Team.

HBHA celebrates the retirements of Carol Pfau and Kelly Reichman

By HBHA

On Monday, May 4, the HBHA community gathered in The J social hall to celebrate the retirements of Carol Pfau and Kelly Reichman, marking the close of two extraordinary careers that have shaped countless students and families.

The room was filled with nostalgia as alumni, parents and HBHA staff (past and present) came together to reflect on the lasting impact both women have had on the school. Among those in attendance were fellow retirees, several of whom taught at HBHA for more than 20 years, returning to honor the relationships and shared history built over decades.

For 12 years, Carol Pfau has been a steady and familiar presence at the front desk, welcoming students, families and staff each day with warmth and care. Her role extended far beyond daily operations, and she quickly became a cornerstone of the Lower School experience, known for the personal attention and genuine connection she brought to every interaction.

Kelly Reichman’s impact spans nearly 30 years in the classroom,

Torah wimpel

By Ellie Holsten

A wimple is a textile binder used to keep a Torah closed when it is not in use. According to custom, a wimple is made from the swaddling cloth at a newborn’s bris and embroidered or painted with family names, blessings and Jewish symbols.

On the baby’s first visit to the temple, which could be a month, a year or three years after his birth depending on the community, the wimpel was presented to the synagogue and used to wrap the Torah. The wimpel would be brought back out for important days in the boy’s life, such as his bar mitzvah. In some cases, the wimpel was sewn into the chuppah when the child eventually married.

This wimpel was made in Saxony-Anhalt, Germany, in 1797 to commemorate the birth of the child

where she has guided generations of students in developing their artistic skills and creative confidence. Her art room became a space of exploration and expression, where students of all ages were encouraged to take risks, create freely and find joy in the process.

The celebration included heartfelt remarks from students and colleagues, a lively round of “Carol & Kelly trivia” and the presentation of custom HBHA jerseys along with personal parting gifts for each retiree.

Yechiel ben Dov Ber Wolfenbüttel. Text on the wimpel includes the child’s name, his birthday (15th Sivan 5557), a blessing and the name of the artist who decorated the textile: Moshe HaLevi of Sandersleben.

Richly decorated, the wimpel has images of birds, vegetal patterns and small figures reminiscent of the grotesques found in medieval manuscripts. At the top right corner of the above photo, the wimpel has a scene of a wedding under a chuppah. Gemini, the astrological sign corresponding with the Hebrew month of Sivan, is depicted on the left side of the photo.

More information about the Michael Klein Collection at the Temple, Congregation B’nai Jehudah can be found at kleincollection.org or by calling (913) 663-4050 to schedule a tour.

Hadassah to honor local leaders at “A Lifetime of Light” luncheon

By Hadassah Greater Kansas City

Hadassah Greater Kansas City has announced a celebratory luncheon, “A Lifetime of Light,” to honor the enduring contributions of two pillars of the community, Marian Kaplan and Rita Shapiro.

The event is scheduled for Sunday, June 7, at 11:30 a.m. in Lenexa, Kansas. The luncheon aims to recognize Kaplan and Shapiro for their decades of leadership and service, which have significantly bolstered Hadassah’s mission of healing and advocacy both locally and globally.

“Marian and Rita have embodied the light of Hadassah for generations,” Hadassah President Liz Bamberger said. “Their dedication has inspired many and strengthened the impact of our chapter, the region and the national organization as a whole.”

Sunday, June 7, at 11:30 a.m.

The afternoon will feature a series of reflections and stories celebrating the honorees’ accomplishments. A centerpiece of the event will be the presentation of the “A Lifetime of Light Tribute Book,” a collection of gratitude and memories compiled in their honor.

Community members wishing to attend must register by June 1. Registration and payment must be done at tinyurl.com/v79h7ac5; no walk-ins will be permitted.

In addition to attending, supporters are invited to purchase tributes for the commemorative book. Options range from full-page “Luminary” tributes to “Ray of Light” name listings. The deadline for tribute purchases is May 25.

For registration details or more information, contact (847) 205-1900 or email midwest@hadassah.org.

Jewish Federation seeking development officer

By Jewish Federation of Kansas City

Jewish Federation of Kansas City is seeking candidates for its development officer position. This position is best suited for someone who is a natural relationship builder and is passionate about building and sustaining the Jewish community.

Ideal candidates will be excellent relationship builders and possess strong communication skills and emotional intelligence. They will be results-driven, oriented with a growth mindset and knowledgeable to some degree about fundraising principles, including donor communication, cultivation and stewardship practices.

The development officer will

identify, cultivate and steward donor prospects through face-to-face solicitations and phone conversations. In addition, this individual will engage in community activities and serve as a leadership role model for others in the community.

Key responsibilities include working closely with the marketing team to maximize engagement at events and programs, develop and implement events and programs throughout the year, and managing and growing a portfolio of donors.

Interested applicants should send their resume and cover letter to derekg@jewishkc.org. More information is available at jewishkansascity.org/ careers.

NCJW board installation event to include guest speakers on breast cancer

By NCJW

The community is invited to the annual board installation and award ceremony of the Greater Kansas City Section of the National Council of Jewish Women on June 7 at 1:30 p.m. in the Plaza Room of the Matt Ross Community Center (8101 Marty St, Overland Park, KS 66204).

RSVP to the office-ncjwofkc@ gmail.com.

Following the awards presentation, two guest speakers will lead a discussion about breast cancer and genetic risk among Jewish women. Julie Rudman, a breast cancer survivor, is the founder and executive director of The Breast Cancer Club, a nonprofit for the Kansas City breast cancer community. Becky Koren, LCSW, is Sharsheret’s Midwest Outreach Program coordinator. As the only Jewish breast and ovarian cancer organization, Sharsheret provides support and education to those impacted by these cancers or at increased genetic risk.

The 2026 NCJW award winners are:

• Lynn Schweig, Hannah G. Solomon Award

• Kelly Somberg, Hannah G. Solomon Award

• Max Kaniger (Kanbe’s Markets), Community Service Award

• Jane Girson, Emerging Leader Award

• Barbie Rogoff, Tzedakah Award

Linda Stark, Jennie Levitt Changemaker Award

Contributions in honor of the award recipients may be donated online at Kansascity.section.ncjw.org or mailed to NCJW at 5311 W. 75th Street, Prairie Village, KS 66208.

The elected officers are:

• President Carla Oppenheimer

• Vice President of Fund Development

Amanda Palan

• Co-Vice Presidents of Community Service Terri Miro and Sheryl Stein

• Vice President of Membership Staci Kahn

• Vice President of Social Linda Stark

• Treasurer Barbie Rogoff

• Secretary Reva Friedman

The elected board members are Jannie Cubbage, Gloria Elyachar, Judith Evnen, Milisa Flekier, Jane Girson, Amy Goldstein, Laurie Goldstein, Mirra Klausner, Jan Present, Lynn Schweig and Kelly Somberg.

NCJW board installation event

Sunday, June 7, at 1:30 p.m.

Matt Ross Community Center, 8101 Marty St, Overland Park, KS 66204

Helzberg Circle learns about Wandering Vine at Village Shalom

By Village Shalom

Members of the Helzberg Circle recently gathered for a special happy hour filled with wine, food and conversation at the home of Village Shalom

Independent Living resident Donna Gould Cohen. The event featured a guided wine tasting and educational presentation led by Daniel and Carla Dyer, owners of Wandering Vine at the Castle.

The Helzberg Circle recognizes individuals who have included Village Shalom in their planned giving and legacy plans, helping ensure the organization’s mission and care continue for future generations. While the Helzberg Circle includes members from across the Village Shalom community and beyond, this particular gathering was designed especially for Independent Living residents, with

Gould Cohen hosting the event in her apartment.

For the Dyers, the gathering carried special meaning. Carla’s stepmother is a resident at Village Shalom, making the opportunity to present the tasting for Helzberg Circle members especially personal. They shared both their knowledge of wine and their appreciation for Village Shalom.

Located inside the historic Caenen Castle in Shawnee, Kansas, Wandering Vine at the Castle is known for its unique dining experience, curated wine selections and atmosphere. The

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KU Chabad partners with K-State Hillel for Jewish programming

By KU Chabad

For more than 20 years, KU Chabad has served as a vibrant hub for Jewish students. While its primary focus is the KU community, its mission has always extended beyond campus boundaries. Recognizing the unique needs of smaller Jewish populations in the region, KU Chabad has also made it a priority to support Jewish life at Kansas State University.

Kansas State University is home to a small but strong Jewish community. With approximately 75 Jewish undergraduate students and 150 graduate students, the campus may not have the numbers of larger universities, but it offers something equally powerful: a close-knit and dedicated group of students building Jewish life together.

“At K-State, we have a small but vibrant Jewish community where students come together to celebrate holidays, build friendships and engage in meaningful social and educational events,” said David Marcus, a current grad student from San Diego, California, and the president of K-State Hillel.

K-State Hillel plays a central role in that effort, offering religious, social and cultural programming throughout the year. This vibrant student organization helps create a welcoming “home away from home” where students can celebrate Shabbat, observe holidays and connect with one another.

At the same time, KU Chabad has stepped in as a valuable partner,

helping to expand opportunities and bring additional energy and resources to the K-State community. Over the past year, this partnership has taken shape through a variety of collaborative programs and events.

Students and faculty gathered together for a special Hanukkah celebration, lighting the menorah, celebrating Jewish pride and enjoying festive holiday treats. A pop-up kosher deli in February brought a taste of tradition and community to campus, while a pre-Passover event provided students with both a meaningful gathering and the supplies they needed to celebrate the holiday.

“KU Chabad has been a fantastic partner to K-State Hillel, bringing not only latkes and holiday spirit to events like our Hanukkah party, Tu B’Shvat Seder and pre-Passover prep party,

but also a real sense of connection and community,” Marcus said. “Their support has played an important role in helping Jewish life grow at K-State.”

For KU Chabad, this collaboration reflects a broader vision. The organization sees itself not only as a campus center, but as a regional resource committed to strengthening Jewish life wherever it is needed.

“The Chabad Center for Jewish Life at the University of Kansas has a dedicated goal to serve the needs of all Jewish communities throughout Northeast Kansas,” said Rabbi Zalman Tiechtel, co-director of KU Chabad. “While our primary focus is on the Jewish student community at KU, we are equally committed to ensuring that Jewish students at Kansas State University feel supported, valued and connected.”

SevenDays seeking area teens for 2026-2027 Kindness Youth Leadership Team

By SevenDays

SevenDays invites area high schoolers to apply to its Kindness Youth Leadership (KYLT) team for the 2026-2027 school year. Now in its second decade, SevenDays is a Kansas City-based nonprofit organization that overcomes hate by promoting kindness and understanding through education and dialogue. Reflecting the diversity of the SevenDays effort, this youth group is made up of high school students (incoming ninth through 12th grades) from a variety of schools across the Kansas City metro, faiths, cultures and ethnicities.

Students on the SevenDays Kindness Youth Leadership Team meet monthly to participate in leadership training and perform community service acts. KYLT members are kindness “influencers” who also help plan SevenDays annual Kindness Breakfast,

the annual Thrive with Kindness Festival and other activities. Team members play an active role representing their schools and encouraging youth participation in SevenDays activities throughout the school year.

Members are selected through this application process; the application is now available through the SevenDays website (SevenDays.org). The application deadline is June 5.

“We are so excited to receive

applications from students from across our metro area who truly care about kindness and understanding,” said Kelly Murphy, executive director of SevenDays. “We look for teens who want to learn leadership skills, make new friends and gain knowledge, then put it all into action by being kindness ‘influencers.’”

Over the years, KYLT members have also helped develop some of the extensive kindness resources available from SevenDays, including “Carry on Kindness” cards. All resources are available for educators, faith groups, businesses, families and organizations. These online resources make it easy and convenient to participate at each person's desired level of engagement. All ages are encouraged to participate; materials can be ordered at SevenDays.org.

“Being part of SevenDays has been life-changing for me,” said high school

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for a recent

restaurant combines elevated cuisine with approachable wine education, encouraging guests to experiment with pairings and discover new flavors in a relaxed setting.

During the happy hour, guests explored how different wines interact with food through thoughtfully paired tastings. The Dyers served beef wellington alongside both a merlot and cabernet sauvignon, as well as salmon wellington paired with chardonnay and pinot grigio. Guests were encouraged to try each bite with multiple wines to experience how flavors and notes evolved with different combinations.

The afternoon included a special appearance by Dr. Irene Bettinger, who shared reflections on the rich history of Village Shalom. Using historical photographs dating back to the Appleman Home in 1912, Dr. Bettinger highlighted the organization’s longstanding commitment to serving older adults in the Kansas City community. She also spoke about the importance of legacy giving and how planned gifts help ensure the continuity and future strength of Village Shalom for generations to come.

The Helzberg Circle happy hour offered more than an opportunity to enjoy exceptional food and wine — it served as a meaningful reminder of the connections, traditions and philanthropy that continue to shape the Village Shalom community.

If you have questions about legacy giving opportunities or would like to learn more about joining the Helzberg Circle, please contact David Spizman, director of philanthropy and community engagement, at DSpizman@VillageShalom.org.

junior Abhi Kambhampati, another KYLT member. “Being able to bring SevenDays activities to my school and see the ‘ripple’ is amazing because the messages students take out of the activities impact throughout the year.”

For more information about the Kindness Youth Leadership Team or other youth activities, contact Murphy at kelly@sevendays.org or visit SevenDays.org.

Local doctor authors new book blending history and folklore

By Ruby Sokol Chronicle Intern

The panacea for summertime stress community news

Dr. Scott Eveloff, a retired sleep disorders, critical care and pulmonary physician, recently wrote “The Golem’s Holocaust,” a book that blends history and folklore. It was released on May 19 and is for sale now.

“The Golem’s Holocaust” is a fictional story about a young Jewish girl, Shayna, who is born from ancient legend and fights to stay alive in Nazi-occupied Europe. Shayna is separated from her family and forced into the brutality of a concentration camp. Her only goal is to survive. Through Shayna’s choices, readers watch her navigate one of the most difficult times in history and see the kind of person she becomes.

Dr. Eveloff said “The Golem’s Holocaust” was written so “readers will be inspired by accounts of Jewish bravery during that time” of history.

In his book, Dr. Eveloff incorporates the Golem, an anthropomorphic creature made of mud or clay to protect Jewish communities. The Golem bonds with Shayna, who learns that survival is not just about enduring

torture; it means to stay true to your own identity, have hope and treasure your memories.

Dr. Eveloff is fascinated by historical mysteries, including how the Holocaust could ever have happened.

“The Golem’s Holocaust” ties into this interest, and consideration of historical conspiracy theories, the possibility of the supernatural and a dedication to uplifting the persecuted and disadvantaged all led Dr. Eveloff to his current writings.

He is motivated by recollections of his childhood and his late son, Andrew, “whose boundless enthusiasm lives forever like the characters he inspired.”

More information about Dr. Eveloff is available at scotteveloff.com.

commentary

Editorials express the view of the writer and are not necessarily representative of the views of The Kansas City Jewish Chronicle staff, the Jewish Federation of Kansas City, or the Kansas City Jewish Community as a whole.

Letter to the editor

By Harold Koch, Ph.D.

I want to express my appreciation for your article, “Where Arks Once Stood.” Your writing stirred many meaningful memories from my years growing up in Kansas City.

My family lived at 3220 Woodland, next door to Mrs. Bratt, grandmother of Rickie Haith (Bratt), who was a devoted supporter of the Voliner Shul. I also remember my bar mitzvah at the Beth HaMidrash HaGadol Synagogue on Linwood Blvd. and Highland St. across from Linwood Elementary School and just a block from the JCC. Both buildings no longer exist except in memory. These landmarks shaped my early life, and your article captured their spirit beautifully.

In addition, it’s important to remember other Jews who made a difference: Rabbi Yehudah Braver was invited to become chief rabbi of the United Orthodox Synagogues of Kansas City, Missouri, a confederation of nine shuls.

He revitalized the Mizrachi Organization, and in 1935 he founded the Midwest Yehivah–Yeshivah Toras Moshe, located on 34th and Paseo across from Congregation Beth Shalom. I was a student there. I remember many of these early pioneers: Saul Kleinman, Mr. Beiderman (shamash at Beth HaMidrash HaGadol) and Irving Levitas, who taught many of the young Jews of the neighborhood. Although based at B’nai Jehudah, he taught classes at Teferes Israel at 35th Street.

As a side note, B’nai Jehudah was known locally as the “German Temple.” Rabbi Tibor Stern was another giant in the Jewish community.

Your article brought that entire world back to me and your article captured their spirit beautifully. Thank you again for writing this thoughtful work and for helping preserve the memories of a special place and time.

Dr. Harold Koch grew up in Kansas CityandnowlivesinDenver,Colorado.

By Bridey Stangler PJ Library

Editor’s note: this is a reprint of a May 2025 ShalomatHomepiece.

We are hurtling through May toward the summer. Brace yourself, parents. There was a time when the word conjured images of relaxed and glorious freedom: fireflies and s’mores; sleeping in and riding bikes; going to bed happy, exhausted and smelling of sunscreen, hair still crunchy from the pool. And yet, it’s been years since that’s what summer meant to me.

Until only recently, I wondered what I was doing wrong. More than a decade of Junes have felt stressful, expensive and sort of sticky. Why, I asked myself, do these months seem to stretch so interminably; do I feel like my gas tank, both literal and metaphorical, runs on fumes; do I end each dog days like a puddle of melted ice cream, all but dissolved under the heat and pressure of – oh wait, I know why!

I have children: sweet, good-natured, endlessly energetic boys who fill me with joy, even while requiring transportation to “fullday” camps and daycares that end at 3 p.m. It hit like an epiphany last summer, in a hot car in construction traffic on our way home after two pick-ups and an ill-timed gas station stop:

To be a parent in the summer means shuttling around your favorite little people. And these people have been turned into beasts by heat, too much structured fun and mild dehydration.

And the inevitable conclusion would be emotional collapse on all fronts. Unless something could be done.

My husband, McKay, brilliant and handsome man that he is, suggested the perfect “Hail Mary” when we (finally) reached home. It was one that solved for cranky children and tired parents, for the heat of the day and any lingering energy. And it shone like a bright blue, shimmering mirage made real only two blocks away:

Golden hour at the pool.

As you know, I’m sure, the pool is the summertime panacea, but

have you experienced the wonder of ending your day there? It’s like magic. The pool empties out and quiets to a carefree hum, the sunset glows on the surface of the water like gold, and the pool manager replaces the top 40 playlist with millennial favorites from the likes of Ace of Base and Deep Blue Something.

When you stand on the tenuous cusp of early evening, I discourage you from slowing down for any of the midday necessities. Sunscreen, for example: the damage has already been done for the day. Don’t waste time by feeding the kids at home: have a cheap and questionably nutritious meal at the snack bar or pack your dinner into Tupperware and tote it along with you. Some crafty parents even sneak in half a glass of wine in their water bottles (not that I know such people). It is vital for shalom bayit, peace in the home, and wellbeing of all to get to the pool before anyone else can have a meltdown, and that includes you.

Because if you get to the pool with all haste after 5:30 p.m., you can be like us: a family transformed.

McKay and I wade in the shallows with toddler Rafy while 10-year-old Darby waves to us from the highdive. We have a chance to talk and muse about the last time we heard the Spoon song that’s playing (senior year in college). We might plan a little something by way of pickups and drop-offs for the next day. But probably not.

Over the course of a pool evening, I become that girl again. I am the one who knows that summer is a time for laziness, for bending my own rules and for climbing into bed still smelling like chlorine.

We are often the last ones to be ushered out the gates, and I know that the same thing will happen tomorrow. The kids will have a wonderful time at their camps and still be cranky and tired, and it’ll again take twice as long as it should to get home because of construction, and we will again be on the verge of familial collapse. But I’ll have a plan.

And I can’t worry. Because for now, we’re walking home barefoot and wrapped in towels, and the fireflies are coming out.

Sleepy seniors commentary

“Alone at night, Jacob wrestled with him until the break of dawn.”

So goes the story in Genesis 32 about Jacob’s terrible, horrible, no good, very bad night. No one is quite sure who or what he was battling, but as a frequent insomniac, I understand all about finding oneself awake and wrestling throughout the night.

Everyone experiences what the drug ads call “occasional sleeplessness,” but according to sleep expert Dr. Colleen E. Carney, the rate of sleep disturbance is double for those over 65. By some accounts, the biblical Jacob was 97 years old at the time of his tussle, which definitely puts him in the senior sleepless category.

Until it began happening to me, I was unaware that insomnia increases with age. I had anticipated my body sagging and memory lagging. I knew my face would develop wrinkles, or, as a friend’s granddaughter dubbed them, “ruffles.” But I didn’t realize that as I got older, I would so often find myself wide awake and chipper at 3 a.m.

Psychologists have found the problem especially pronounced in older women and, according to Rabbi and Sleep Expert Doron Lazarus, my co-religionists and I are particularly prone to sleep problems.

“Jews are one of the most underslept groups on the planet,” he claims, attributing it to our “high standard of excellence and driven communal goals.”

I’m not sure I agree with his reasoning, but I understand that as an older Jewish woman, I shouldn’t be surprised to find myself tossing and turning all night.

To alleviate the problem, I have tried several of the recommended remedies, but with no success. I gave up nighttime coffee after learning that older adults are more sensitive to the sleepinterfering effects of caffeine. I have foregone my beloved afternoon naps because they supposedly rob nighttime sleep. I gave cognitive behavioral therapy a go and experimented with sleep therapy’s “three ‘m’s: mindfulness,

meditation and melatonin.”

I’ve tried lowering the temperature to 65 degrees, supposedly the optimum bedroom environment. However, this conflicts with another sleep strategy — to get out of bed when sleep eludes you. Within minutes of throwing back the covers, I’m shivering in the nippy night air.

Which makes me wonder about poor Jacob. The desert gets pretty chilly at sunset. Was he as miserable and despondent as me during his late night wrestling match?

The Talmud considers sleep to be 1/60th of death, which I understand, because fear of my imminent demise often torments me as I lie awake. These middle-ofthe night dreads include thoughts such as:

What’s that stabbing pain in my back? Kidney failure?

My arm is tingling. A sign of a heart attack?

My stomach is cramping. A bursting appendix?

Along with panicking over perishing, these insomnia-inspired worries sometimes transform minor problems into major catastrophes. A friend hosting a luncheon meeting admitted that she had been up all night worrying that she hadn’t made enough potato salad. (She had.) I, too, had lost sleep the night before, questioning if it would be okay to wear my ugly jogging pants to the meeting. (It was.)

The Torah tells us that as dawn broke, Jacob discovered he had wrenched his hip socket. I similarly find myself — metaphorically speaking — limping around after one of my sleepless nights. To ease this discomfort, however, I always make sure I’m wearing my comfortable jogging pants as I drag myself throughout the day.

Nancy Kalikow Maxwell is a Kansas City native and awardwinning author. Her book, Typically Jewish, is available through the Jewish Publication Society or Amazon. Her website is kaliwellinc.com and email is nancykalikowmaxwell@gmail. com.

Editorials express the view of the writer and are not necessarily representative of the views of The Kansas City Jewish Chronicle staff, the Jewish Federation of Kansas City, or the Kansas City Jewish Community as a whole.

Maternal health is mental health

By Erin Schlozman

In Judaism, we are told to “be fruitful and multiply.” Ours is a tradition deeply rooted in continuity, family and the sacredness of bringing new life into the world. From Shabbat dinners to baby namings to generations gathered around holiday tables, motherhood and family-building are often woven into the very fabric of Jewish communal life.

And because of that, conversations about having children can begin early and often.

Sometimes it happens moments after the glass is broken beneath the chuppah.

“So… when are you going to start trying?”

The question is usually asked with excitement, love and genuine hope for a couple’s future. But for the nearly one-in-six couples who will struggle to get or stay pregnant, these seemingly innocent questions can carry enormous emotional weight.

“What are you waiting for?” “Are you trying yet?” “When is it your turn?”

For those navigating infertility, pregnancy loss or reproductive challenges, these conversations can quickly become deeply personal, painful and isolating.

Within Jewish communities, where family and children are often celebrated so openly and beautifully, infertility can sometimes create a quiet loneliness. Many people find themselves carrying enormous grief while simultaneously attending baby namings, holidays, synagogue events and family gatherings where conversations about children feel unavoidable. The tension between wanting to feel connected to community while privately struggling can be emotionally exhausting.

When a person or couple is referred to a fertility specialist, they are not simply entering a medical process. They are entering an emotional one. One filled with hope, fear, grief, vulnerability, uncertainty, and often, profound exhaustion.

Most fertility clinics begin with a detailed intake process. Medical history, reproductive history, lab work, ultrasounds, hormone testing, timelines, next steps. Suddenly, something that once felt intimate and organic becomes clinical and scheduled. Your future starts being discussed in appointment blocks, percentages, medication calendars and treatment plans. That transition can feel deeply disorienting.

One of the most grounding things you can do during this process is come prepared with questions. Information

cannot erase pain, but it can help soften the helplessness that infertility often creates. Some questions you may want to ask include:

• What does the diagnostic process look like, and how will it guide treatment recommendations?

• How long will the initial workup take before treatment begins?

• What treatment options are available to us, and what do you typically recommend first?

• At what point do we reassess or move from one intervention to another?

• Are there lifestyle factors that may support fertility or pregnancy outcomes?

• What should we realistically expect emotionally and physically during treatment?

Infertility doesn’t just challenge your body. It challenges your assumptions about how life was “supposed” to unfold.

When most people imagine growing their family, they picture holidays, birthday candles, bedtime routines, family photos, future homes, tiny shoes by the door. Infertility can make those dreams suddenly feel fragile and uncertain. And when the journey toward parenthood moves from the privacy of your relationship into exam rooms and waiting rooms, it’s natural for emotions to come flooding in alongside it — grief, anger, hope, jealousy, fear, numbness, resentment, longing — sometimes all before noon. There is no “right” way to emotionally experience infertility. Somedays you may feel hopeful and empowered. Other days you may barely recognize yourself. You may find yourself obsessing over timelines, symptoms, numbers or outcomes. You may feel isolated from friends who seem to get pregnant effortlessly. You may feel disconnected from your own body. None of this makes you dramatic, weak or ungrateful. It makes you human.

During this season, self-care often needs to look less like bubble baths and more like emotional survival. That may mean:

• Educating yourself enough to feel informed, but not so much that you spiral.

• Finding a therapist or support group that understands infertility specifically.

• Building a support system that allows you to be honest instead of performatively positive.

• Staying as grounded in the present

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moment as possible instead of living entirely in the “what ifs.”

• Letting yourself feel whatever comes up without judging it.

• And perhaps most importantly: continuing to check in with your partner.

Infertility is rarely just an individual experience. It impacts relationships, communication, intimacy, identity and emotional bandwidth. The logistical demands of treatment can make connection start to feel transactional. Protecting moments of closeness, humor, softness and honesty matters deeply during this process.

As fertility treatment becomes increasingly medicalized, many people discover they still desperately need emotional and communal care alongside the clinical care. You were never meant to carry something this heavy entirely on your own.

Whether you are personally navigating infertility or supporting someone who is, remember this: no two journeys look the same. There is no universal timeline, no single emotional roadmap and no perfect way to move through this experience.

But compassion helps. Community helps. Being witnessed helps.

And while infertility can feel

Beth Torah’s WRS expands, seeks new educators

By Sara Nicole Glass Director of the Weiner Religious School

Congregation Beth Torah’s Weiner Religious School (WRS) is experiencing an exciting season of growth as it prepares for the 2026–27 (5787) school year. With expanded programming, innovative curriculum and a continued commitment to inclusive, hands-on Jewish learning, WRS is now seeking additional passionate educators to join its dynamic faculty team

At the heart of WRS is a vibrant, values-driven approach to Jewish education that meets students where they are and facilitates growth. From Pre-K through high school, students

incredibly isolating, you deserve support that reminds you you are far more than a diagnosis, a timeline or a treatment plan.

Erin Schlozman, LCPC, is a licensed therapist, maternal mental healthadvocate,author,andeducator specializing in matrescence, postpartum mental health, and the emotional realities of modern motherhood. She is the author of “The Myth of the Perfect Mom” and runs @4th.Trimester.WellnessonInstagram.

will engage in a multi-sensory learning environment that blends Hebrew, music, art, storytelling and experiential education. Next year’s educational theme will be Judaism Through an Environmental Lens, inviting learners to explore Jewish values through topics like stewardship of the earth, community responsibility and acts of kindness.

This past year, the Weiner Religious School halls were filled with meaningful Jewish learning and joyful celebrations, including hands-on experiences that helped students connect Jewish tradition to their everyday lives. Students and families participated in special moments, including a Consecration ceremony; special projects like the Birthday Box partnership with Harvesters and the social justice committee; learning about Martin Luther King, Jr. through a Jewish justice lens; and environmental stewardship with a Tu B’Shvat Seder and a visit to Mitzvah Garden KC. A special chocolate Passover Seder brought sweetness and wisdom for all ages. Throughout the year, students deepened their knowledge of Torah, prayer and Hebrew while participating in family learning, holiday celebrations and

creative projects that supported both individual growth and community connection.

Beyond the classroom, Beth Torah offers a rich ecosystem of connection and creativity. Students participated in Beth Torah Youth Group programming, intergenerational holiday celebrations and inclusive experiences supported by community partners like Sasone. With features like sensory-friendly spaces, Shabbat activity bags and small class sizes, learners of all styles are welcomed and supported.

As educators, we’re constantly adapting the program for our students, our families, and the world around us. The needs of our community are ever-evolving, especially in today’s shifting global Jewish landscape. Our role is to respond in real time — adapting our teaching, holding space for emotions, and helping our students process, grow and stay grounded in our sweet Judaic roots.

For middle and high school students, the T.A.G. (Torah, Avodah, Gemilut Chasadim) teen program provides opportunities for deeper exploration, leadership and social

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Doris Louise Gilgus

Doris Louise Gilgus, age 84, passed away on May 5, embraced by the love of her family.

Doris was born to Rose and Herman Plessner on Nov. 25, 1941, in St. Louis, Missouri. She met Zolie when they were just 13 and 14 years old through BBYO — a beginning that would grow into a lifetime of love, partnership and devotion. They were married on Aug. 6, 1961, and built a beautiful life together in Overland Park, Kansas, grounded in family, tradition and deep connection.

For more than 50 years, Doris was a devoted member of Kehilath Israel Synagogue, where her presence, energy and generosity touched so many. She was a two-term president of the Sisterhood and served on many committees, including helping to create a Yiddish-speaking group to preserve the language and culture that meant so much to her. Doris was a life member of Jewish Women International (B’nai B’rith Women) and a member of Hadassah.

Her compassion extended beyond her immediate circle. Through the Jewish Federation and Jewish Family Services, Doris volunteered to help Russian émigrés set up homes and integrate into the community. She also found great meaning in volunteering as an advisor to Saudia BBG. Additionally, Doris was a Girl Scout leader and Cub Scout den mother, and she remained actively involved in her children’s activities throughout the years.

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connection. Weekly gatherings include shared meals, prayer experiences, and project-based learning that connects Jewish tradition to real-world impact. And this year, our Confirmation class will be returning, under the direction of Rabbi Craig Lewis, for an exciting transition. As we eagerly await Rabbi Lewis’s arrival and influence on our program structure, please be patient as we roll out new developments. While enrollment continues to

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through her work as a licensed realtor, her seasonal businesses with Zolie, or later through her business, Polishing the Golden Years, she built meaningful relationships everywhere she went. In her work with seniors, she offered not just help, but companionship, laughter and dignity — treating each person as family.

Doris was preceded in death by her parents; her beloved husband and lifelong partner, Zolan “Zolie” Gilgus; her son-in-law, Tim Peavler; her cherished granddaughter, Tori Jade Peavler; her brother, Gerald Plessner; and her sister-in-law, Carole Plessner.

Nothing meant more to Doris than her family. She is lovingly remembered by her children Stephanie and Richard Gatewood, Susan Peavler, Steve and Jill Gilgus, and Sherry and David Worth; and by her cherished grandchildren Danielle Gatewood, Alyssa and CJ Schwartze, Trey Peavler, Brett, Jeff, and Kelli Gilgus, Alex Worth and fiancée Rachel Kaseff, and Rebecca Worth. Her grandchildren brought her endless pride and joy.

Doris also leaves her sisters-in-law and brother-in-law, Deanie and Arnold Vogel, and Cinde Gilgus, as well as numerous cousins and extended family whom she loved dearly. She will also be deeply missed by her nephew Mitchell Plessner and nieces Janice Plessner and Ellen Lorenz.

Doris treasured her lifelong friendships with Harriet Slotnick, Joan Levinson and Joan Kort. She was passionate about her Jewish faith and her love of music. Her home was one of warmth, conversation and laughter. She had a way of bringing people together and making ordinary moments feel special.

The family extends heartfelt

gratitude to the compassionate caregivers in the Weissman Neighborhood at Village Shalom, and to the incredible team with Kansas City Hospice and Palliative Care, including Shawnee, Melinda, Jenny, Michelle, Crystal, Gloria and Brenda, as well as volunteers Liz and Darrell, whose kindness and care meant so much during this time.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Kansas City Hospice and Palliative Care or to the Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund at Kehilath Israel Synagogue.

Funeral services were held on May 8 at Kehilath Israel Blue Ridge Cemetery Chapel.

In honoring Doris, the family hopes her legacy of love, kindness and community will continue to live on through all who knew her.

Online condolences for the family may be left at louismemorialchapel.com.

she would eventually become a big fan of Hallmark movies.

Outnumbered by boys in her home 3-1, Barbara put her creative talent to good use and made her own Cabbage Patch doll so she could finally have a girl at home. Barbara was known for her many creative talents. She decorated cakes, made clothes, did needlepoint and cross-stitch, and helped stitch a Torah cover for Congregation Beth Shalom.

Barbara had a huge circle of friends and was known for her cackle of a laugh. She played bridge and mahjongg (before and after it was cool). She was a devoted fan of the Royals and Chiefs, even when they weren’t good. She collected hundreds of teddy bears over the years.

Barbara A. Simon passed peacefully on May 11, surrounded by family at her home in Leawood, Kansas.

Barbara was born to Harry and Serena Tabolsky in Kansas City. She grew up in Kansas City and went to high school at the Fenster School in Tucson, Arizona. Barbara attended college at UMKC, where she met Herb Simon. They were married in 1966. Barbara received an education degree and became a teacher.

Barbara put her career on hold to stay at home with her two boys. She later worked for American Greetings for many years, which is ironic because

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grow, WRS is looking for educators who are eager to be part of something special—whether experienced teachers or those with a passion for working with children and Jewish life. Ideal candidates bring creativity, warmth and a desire to help students build lasting connections to their Jewish identity.

Those interested in joining the WRS teaching team can learn more at beth-torah.org or apply online. Questions can be directed to sglass@ beth-torah.org.

Barbara is survived by her husband, Herb; and her children, Brian and Mindi of Ft. Myers, Florida, and Daniel and Susan of Columbia, Missouri. She is also remembered lovingly by her grandchildren, Alexa, Elizabeth, Sander, Zachary, Sari and Sara; her brothers- and sisters-in-law, Allan and Mary Simon, Susan Goodbinder, Dr. Steven and Ileene Simon and Hope Talbot; and her cousin Sharon Penner. She was preceded in death by her brother Marshall Talbot.

Barbara will also be missed by her longtime friends, Barbara and Domenick Ingolia and Linda and Harold Schlozman; her dinner group; her mahjongg group; her theater group; and many, many others.

Funeral services were held on May 14 at Mt. Carmel Cemetery. Friends who would like to honor Barbara’s memory are invited to make a contribution to the charity of their choice.

Online condolences for the family may be left at louismemorialchapel.com.

‘What can I do?’

By Barry Kaseff JCRB|AJC Board President

As board president of JCRB|AJC, the question I have heard most often in recent months is a simple one: “What can I do?”

It comes from parents worried about what their children are hearing in school. From college students navigating difficult campus environments. From Jewish community members wondering how to respond to rhetoric that once felt unthinkable in American public life. And from allies who want to help but are unsure where to begin.

It is an understandable question. Antisemitism today can feel

sprawling and disorienting. It appears across the political spectrum. It shows up online, in social spaces, in schools and sometimes in our own neighborhoods. Many people want to respond but feel uncertain about what meaningful action actually looks like.

The good news is that combating antisemitism is not reserved for experts, institutions or public officials. There are tangible things ordinary people can do right now that matter deeply.

First: build Jewish literacy and historical understanding. Antisemitism thrives where ignorance exists. Learn about Jewish history. Understand how antisemitism evolves

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One year after tragedy, Sarah Milgrim’s legacy of peace and bridge-building lives on

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meaningful to them,” Rabbi Tiechtel said. “Even last night, people were sitting around by the waterfall, just reflecting and talking and connecting.”

The kindness Greater Kansas City’s Jewish community has shown toward the Milgrims, including Sarah’s older brother, Jacob, has helped give her family strength.

“From the very first hours, everyone swarmed around us to help,” Nancy Milgrim said. “People brought us food, visited, checked in on us. Everyone could not have been more supportive. People still reach out, and many of them are people we don’t even know.”

Kansans and Missourians have honored Milgrim in many ways: The city of Prairie Village dedicated a tree to Milgrim — a lifelong environmentalist — at Porter Park on Arbor Day (April 25), with the mayor and city council members present. Kansas Gov. Laura Kelly visited the Milgrims’ home and later spoke alongside Nancy Milgrim at a Hanukkah menorah lighting in the Capitol rotunda. The Jewish Community Relations Bureau | American Jewish Committee announced a scholarship in Milgrim’s name for students pursuing work in human rights and combating antisemitism, with the Milgrim family on the award committee (see page 2). And in December, communities around the

world took part in “Sarah’s Week of Service,” a global initiative centered on environmental stewardship, social action and human connection.

Rabbi Doug Alpert of Congregation Kol Ami, who officiated at Sarah’s funeral, said “there has not been a day that has gone by since the 24th of Iyar, 5785, that I have not thought about Sarah.”

Inspired by her work as a “rodefet shalom” — a pursuer of peace — Rabbi Alpert is taking a year-long course of study in conflict resolution, leading toward his certification as a rodef shalom.

“This has made me think of Sarah’s commitment to a concept known as the ‘third narrative,’ a vision that seeks to rise above the noise of vengeance and violence, and instead focuses on our shared humanity,” Rabbi Alpert said. “Sarah’s work and her memory

are constant companions in my own studies of conflict resolution and peacebuilding.” In honor of her Yahrzeit this month, he will make a donation to Tech2Peace.

Milgrim’s work toward peace between Israel and Palestinians has inspired many across Greater Kansas City and the U.S. to continue her efforts.

“I know we do have people in our Jewish community who do seek a better path forward; both to get past the polarization within our community and to connect with Palestinians who also are seeking paths of peace,” Rabbi Alpert said.

Rabbi Samuel Stern of Temple Beth Sholom in Topeka, who is involved with the Movement Against Antizionism initiative — which treats anti-Zionism as a hate movement — said Milgrim “carried into the world the moral seriousness this state still produces in its young people.”

Rabbi Stern did not know Milgrim, but he spoke with leaders and officials “who watched her become exactly the kind of young Jewish leader rabbis pray for.”

“Sarah lived the universal ethic that Jewish tradition demands of us, and she lived as a proud, particular Jew bound to her people,” said Rabbi Stern, who provides education aimed at countering anti-Zionist campaigns in civic, campus and faith settings. “You can love humanity and love your

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and adapts over time. Familiarize yourself with the stereotypes, conspiracy theories and coded language that often precede more overt expressions of hate. Education is not passive; it equips people to recognize problems before they escalate.

Second: speak up consistently, even in small moments. Many incidents of antisemitism do not occur in headline-making ways. They happen in casual conversations, online comments, social settings or workplaces where harmful rhetoric goes unchallenged because people feel uncomfortable intervening. Silence can normalize what should never become normal. A calm, thoughtful response from a trusted friend or colleague often carries more weight than people realize.

Third: strengthen relationships outside the Jewish community.

Antisemitism becomes more dangerous when communities become isolated from one another. One of the most effective long-term responses is sustained civic and interfaith connection. Attend events outside your own circles. Build authentic relationships with neighbors of different backgrounds. Show up for others consistently, not only when crisis arises. Trust built over time creates resilience when tensions rise.

Fourth: support institutions doing this work every day. Organizations like JCRB|AJC monitor trends, engage civic leaders, provide education and resources, respond to incidents and maintain relationships across communities. But they cannot do this work alone. Community engagement, volunteerism and financial support all help sustain the infrastructure needed to respond effectively.

And finally: remain visibly and confidently Jewish.

At moments of rising antisemitism, there can be a temptation to retreat — to make ourselves smaller, quieter, less noticeable. But Jewish continuity has always depended on the opposite: gathering together, celebrating openly, educating proudly and refusing to allow fear to define Jewish life.

There is no single action that will solve antisemitism. No perfect statement, policy or organization can eliminate it entirely. But the question “What can I do?” still matters, because collective action is built from individual choices repeated consistently over time.

The answer begins with this: stay informed, stay connected, speak up, support one another and remain engaged. Antisemitism is fought not only in moments of crisis, but through the daily work of building strong, resilient, connected communities.

own. You can build bridges and stand on them.”

He added, “For me as a rabbi, her legacy will imbue our work with meaning. We do not honor her by retreating from coexistence. We will honor her by doubling down on the full-throated, unapologetic bridge-building Zionism she embodied.”

Israel’s leaders, too, have shown compassion, care and loyalty toward the Milgrims as the Jewish state honors their fallen daughter.

During a visit to Israel in September, the Milgrims were welcomed by President Isaac Herzog, met with government ministers and the Speaker of the Knesset, and sat with Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, who had made a point of coming to the Israeli Embassy in Washington during a visit just weeks after Sarah’s death to meet the Milgrims privately.

“When you see him on TV, it’s very political,” Bob Milgrim said of Netanyahu. “But when he met with us, it was very personal. We felt like he genuinely cared and was genuinely sorry about what happened to Sarah. He talked about his brother for a long time and related his experience to our experience.”

(Netanyahu’s brother, Yonatan “Yoni” Netanyahu, was killed in action during Israel’s 1976 hostage-rescue mission in Uganda, Operation Entebbe.)

On this past Yom HaZikaron, Israel’s Memorial Day, a video filmed at the Milgrims’ home was part of Israel’s national streaming ceremony. The depth of Israel’s embrace of the Milgrims was evident during a memorial service at Israel’s Ministry of Foreign Affairs, a video of which was sent to the Milgrims.

“We didn’t know until that morning that Sarah’s name and Yaron’s name were engraved on the wall of those who have fallen while on duty in the foreign service,” Bob Milgrim said, referencing the Ministry of Foreign Affairs service. “Sarah’s is the last name on the wall.”

Nancy Milgrim said losing Sarah has forced their family to forge a new path forward.

“We need to make a new plan, because our life didn’t turn out the way we had planned,” she said. “So now we’re trying to make a new plan that includes honoring Sarah and remembering her — and making sure people don’t forget her.”

Rabbi Stern said he finds hope in Sarah’s parents, “who have chosen public witness over private grief, and whose courage spurs the rest of us into our better selves.”

Kansas City is getting ready to host the JCC Maccabi Games, and we need your help! 900 visiting athletes are coming to compete in the Games and need a place to stay. As a host family, you will provide visiting teens with a Jewish “home away from home.” Build unforgettable memories and have the opportunity to create a special bond with these athletes that will extend well beyond the week of the Games.

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