If you love this shirt, please click on the link to buy it now: Buy this Philadelphia Eagles Holiday Lights Ugly 2024 T-Shirts, hoodie, tank top or sweater A few years ago, a friend told me about a text message she saw her boyfriend send to a coworker. “Your haircut looks hot,” the message said. Annoyed, she asked him what he meant. “Nothing,” he shrugged. “I was just complimenting her.” My friend tried to brush it off, but the bad feelings lingered. They broke up a few months later. “The text wasn’t the only reason, but it didn’t help. I couldn’t get over the thought that he was flirting with me behind my back. I lost trust,” she said.
Of course, complimenting someone doesn't always mean flirting. For my friend, it depends on the choice of words. "If he had said 'nice hair,' I probably wouldn't have cared so much," she admits. "But 'hot' sounds sexy. I already felt uncomfortable with their relationship—she was texting him a lot. Seeing the text confirmed my fears: he definitely didn't turn her down." Whether real or perceived, flirting can sow seeds of distrust in a relationship—or, as in my friend's case, water seeds that have already begun to sprout. "It can be damaging to a relationship, especially if it makes one person feel insecure or disrespected," confirms licensed