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BY SARA RATHNER NERDWALLET This one goes out to all you lovebirds who got engaged over the holidays and are now left planning a wedding with zero event-planning experience. Somehow youâre expected to craft a day thatâs traditional, yet modern. Well-attended, yet intimate. Itâs about you as a couple, but also shouldnât be o ensive to any of your guests. And most crucially, donât overspend, but make sure it looks expensive. Sure, weddings are fun, but the most important part of any wedding is everything that happens after â your real life, together. Donât start that life with credit card debt that lasts until your ïŹfth anniversary. If you focus your spending on what you and your guests will actually notice, and skip expensive things no one really cares about, youâll have a beautiful wedding without the debt.
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ESTABLISH YOUR BUDGET Before you plan anything, set a budget based on what you (and your families, if theyâre contributing) can a ord. Make every decision with that number in mind, whether itâs $250, $5,000 or $50,000. At its core, a wedding is simply âa celebration of love,â says Jen Glantz, founder of the company Bridesmaid for Hire and an email newsletter called The First Years of Marriage. âIn that celebration, there are no rules. ⊠Look at your wedding as a blank slate, an empty room. What do you want to ïŹll it with? What can you a ord to ïŹll it with?â
REEVALUATE TRADITIONAL âMUST-HAVESâ âThis is the biggest thing I have to tell everybody when they plan a wedding: You donât need anything at your wedding to get
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Mannequins in wedding gowns are seen in a window display on March 15, 2021, at a bridal store in Nogales, Ariz. The holidays are a popular time to get engaged, and that means many couples are diving into 2022 by touring wedding venues, researching vendors and carefully crating guest lists.
married,â Glantz says. âIf you donât want a cake, donât have a cake. If you donât want to wear a dress or a tuxedo, donât.â Here are some other ways to save. Decor: Guests remember the overall vibe, not the tiny details. âPeople at weddings are busy,â Glantz says. âAnd when youâre busy, you donât see things.â Save on decor by renting it or scouring Buy Nothing groups on social media. Already-married friends may have leftover items theyâd be happy to lend or pass along. There are even services where you can share ïŹowers with another couple getting married the same week. Transportation: âWeâre
locked into this idea that the big stretch limo will get you to the church or get you to the venue,â says Sheavonne Harris, owner and lead coordinator at Events by Sheavonne in New York City. But your guests will be seated inside when you arrive, so that car wonât be a part of your grand entrance. Car services also require you to book for a minimum number of hours, according to Harris, so youâll end up paying for time you donât use. She recommends booking a ride-hailing service â yes, just like when you need a ride to the airport. Invitations, programs and menus: All those paper items you painstakingly select
are going to go in the trash. Programs get left on chairs after the ceremony, and menus get tucked under plates after a quick scan. Even your invitations will get only a few months on guestsâ refrigerators before they head to the landïŹll. âThey just tossed a $10 bill into the garbage,â Harris says. If you want the tradition of paper for a lower cost, skip the menus and programs. You can also ïŹnd gorgeous paper invitations at certain online retailers for a fraction of the price. Many of these printing companies o er seasonal sales, too. Party favors: Please, let 2022 be the year we cancel party favors. Guests leave them behind, and youâll be stuck with
Photography: Long after your wedding, the only things youâll be left with are memories and pictures. This is not the task to assign to that cousin who took a few photography classes in college. âIf you want to put money into something, put it into photography,â Harris says. âWith photography, you deïŹnitely get what you pay for.â The guest experience: Both Glantz and Harris recommend paying attention to weddings you attend as a guest before your own big day. What made you feel welcome? Guests wonât remember that you got married in a picturesque historic mansion, but they will remember if that mansion had only one bathroom with a 20-minute line to use it. Cut expenses elsewhere to focus on food, drink, entertainment and guest comfort. Professional vendors: Hiring a friend or doing a task yourself might feel like a money-saving move. Harris cautions that unlike a professional vendor, your friend likely wonât have a backup plan for when the ïŹower order is late or the sound equipment is on the fritz. And booking a pro at the last minute because that friend backs out will end up costing you even more.
USE REWARDS CREDIT CARDS Many self-employed vendors donât accept credit cards, but whenever possible, pay for wedding costs with a rewards credit card. Not only can you earn cash back or travel rewards (hello, discounted honeymoon!), but should a vendor not honor its commitment to you, you can dispute charges. Sara Rathner is a writer at NerdWallet.