FUSE Magazine #71 : Holden Sheppard

GAY BLOOD BAN LIFTED

WORLD’S FIRST GAY FLOCK OF SHEEP

HOLDEN SHEPPARD EXPLORES SEX, DESTRUCTION & REDEMPTION

KATRINA GORRY MOTHERHOOD, FOOTBALL & BREAKING DOWN BARRIERS

THE DALAI LAMA AN UNEXPECTED CONNECTION TO THE TRANS COMMUNITY

UNPACKING ANGER WHEN YOU’RE FEELING RAGEY

THE BIG LIE ABOUT MONEY & HAPPINESS

> BE THE RAINBOW IN SOMEONE’S CLOUD FREE

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Scott Malcolm

Joshua Wrest

Stephen Kerry

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BE THE RAINBOW IN SOMEONE’S CLOUD

AS WE EMERGE FROM ANOTHER CHILLY WINTER, THE SEASON CHANGES ONCE AGAIN.

The cold weather can leave us feeling a little blue, but seeing the leaves return and the flowers bloom, I’m reminded that nothing is permanent and nothing ever stays the same. It brings me a sense of comfort in troubling times.

Scrolling through the news and our social media feeds, it can be hard not to feel disheartened, if not a little ragey — but knowing that change is inevitable and embracing that can be a lifeline to hope and an eventual path to inner peace.

Of course, we each carry our emotions and the weight of the world differently; for some, it’s pretty tough going at the moment. I feel fortunate to be less affected and am often uplifted when I see others bringing hope to those who may be struggling or need a guiding light. Many people who, without even knowing it, are being a rainbow in someone’s cloud. Something we always hope to do on the pages of FUSE.

In this issue, you’ll find writers, healers, spiritual leaders, professionals and sportspeople doing just that. People in our community who use their privilege, heart and skills to help others. It’s incredibly heartwarming to see.

On one cover this issue, you’ll find Matildas star midfielder Katrina Gorry, an LGBTIQ+ trailblazer who is no stranger to overcoming challenges. We discover how, as a gay woman, Katrina has carved a path to both motherhood and a successful sports career, becoming an inspiration to women and fans in Australia and the world over, p23.

Author Holden Sheppard, featured on our other cover, was recently thrust into the spotlight after his critically acclaimed novel Invisible Boys was adapted into a television series, highlighting the challenges of being gay in a country town. With the release of his new book King of Dirt — his first work for adults — he delves into the topic of mental health and its impact on the behaviour of gay men from rural Australia. We spoke with Holden about damaging stereotypes, masculinity and his belief that we can all change for the better, p27.

Anger, an emotion that is causing some serious issues throughout our communities, seems to be at epidemic levels. Healer and breathwork expert Joshua Wrest unpacks anger and its role in our lives. He shares ways we can transform this challenging emotion and tame the beast within, p16.

The trans community is undoubtedly facing angry people at the moment, so a ray of light from an unlikely religious source is a welcome development. Stephen Kerry from Charles Darwin University writes about the Dalai Lama’s spiritual connection to Avalokitesvara — a figure who transcends the gender binary — and how he has become an unexpected source of hope, inspiring many trans folk and queer Buddhists worldwide, p31.

Other highlights of this issue include a story about a German man and his flock of all gay sheep, p15. Our fiscal guru Scott Malcolm explores the relationship between money and happiness, p37. What to watch from the comfort of your couch this spring, p43. And be sure to check your horoscope out on p47 before you get a little heartfelt advice from Dear Rose, p48.

My partner and I are both incredibly grateful to have the opportunity to share and support our community through FUSE, and hope everyone finds a little insight and inspiration in this issue.

Warmly, Alexander

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MOVIES

DID YOU KNOW?

In 2024, 23.6% of films released by major studios included LGBTIQ+ characters, a three-year low, according to GLAAD. This represents a decrease from 27.3% in 2023 and 28.5% in 2022.

HONEY DON’T LESBIAN B-MOVIE WITH TWISTS AND TURNS GALORE

FUSE MOVIE PICK OF THE MONTH!

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Premiering at this year’s Cannes Film Festival, Honey Don’t is the second in director Ethan Coen and writer wife Tricia Cooke’s so-called lesbian B-movie trilogy; the first, Drive-Away Dolls, is currently streaming on Binge. Like that first film, Margaret Qualley (The Substance) stars, this time as a private investigator who teams up with a local cop (Aubrey Plaza) to investigate a series of suspicious deaths which may or may not be connected to a mysterious church and its leader (Chris Evans). Variety calls it “a knowingly light and funny mock escapist thriller”.

THE ROSES

HILARIOUS DIVORCE BATTLE THAT GETS A LITTLE STABBY

A reimagining of the 1989 comedy The War of the Roses, The Roses sees happily married, career-savvy couple Ivy (Olivia Colman) and Theo (Benedict Cumberbatch) hit a rough patch when Ivy’s career as a chef takes off while Theo loses his job. Words become weapons and old resentments become knives to twist, as push comes to literal shove between the once happy couple. Allison Janney, Andy Samberg, Kate McKinnon and Ncuti Gatwa provide comic support, but it’s the two leads going head to head that provides the bulk of the laughs, however bruising.

SORRY, BABY

A TRAUMA STORY THAT’S WARM AND BITINGLY FUNNY

A black comedy drama which Vanity Fair calls “a keenly observed portrait of a woman blown off course by a traumatic incident”, Sorry, Baby is the feature film debut of writer-director and star Eva Victor. Victor plays Agnes, a college professor in the midst of recovering from a sexual assault. And while that sounds like heavy material, Victor’s Sundance award-winning screenplay balances out its themes with humour and heart. Naomi Ackie (Mickey 17), Lucas Hedges (Ladybird) and John Carroll Lynch (Fargo) also star.

UNIVERSAL CLASSIC MONSTERS THE GLORY DAYS

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BLACK & WHITE HORROR FLICKS

Over six weeks, six classic monster features will screen at Dendy. Dracula, The Wolf Man, The Mummy, The Invisible Man, Frankenstein and The Bride of Frankenstein. The latter three are directed by James Whale, the filmmaker who you may remember was portrayed by Ian McKellen in Gods and Monsters (1998), earning the Brit his first Oscar nomination; Whale lived as an openly gay man, rare for America let alone Hollywood in the 1920s and ’30s. All three of his films were hits, and now a modern audience can enjoy these horror classics as intended.

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ONE NIGHT IN 2

SATURDAY 29 NOVEMBER

6:00PM - 3:00AM @ THE VAULT

1990s and 2000 Dance Anthems, the DJs and friends you crushed on, the memories you made.

Heaven DJ’s all night long, drag queens and kings, performance art, tributes to the past, loved performers, gay anthems, handbag house, club bangers, techno-house, and explorations of the heavenly rave beginnings.

Live Performers, psychedelic visuals, VJAY tributes to the carefree 90s and noughties. Put your hands up in the air, party and celebrate with two generations of club goers.

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LGBTIQ Directory

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TRANSGENRE FESTIVAL II

SATURDAY 27 SEPTEMBER

RED RATTLER THEATRE

MARRICKVILLE

The groundbreaking TRANSGENRE festival returns for Volume II, lighting up Eora Sydney’s Red Rattler Theatre this spring. Headlined by indie sensation Flowerkid, this all-ages celebration unites Australia’s brightest trans and non-binary artists for an unforgettable night of music, community, queer creativity and euphoric connection.

QUEER POWERPOINT

13 — 15 NOVEMBER

BELCO ARTS, TUGGERANONG ARTS & THE Q THEATRE

After selling out shows nationwide, the capital region’s own lineup of queer brilliance is finally getting its moment in the spotlight. Watch the deepest recesses of your notes app come to life as queer artists, thinkers, babes and glorious weirdos share their burning passions, most cooked theories and secret desires for your viewing pleasure. The only rule, participants must use Microsoft’s most mundane medium, PowerPoint.

CULT CLASSICS THE SILENCE OF THE LAMBS

FRI. 29 AUGUST

ARC CINEMA | NFSA

QUEER VARIETY SHOW

TUE. 23 SEPTEMBER

SMITH’S ALTERNATIVE

A joyful celebration of performance art featuring LGBTQIA+ and disabled performers. Experience the relaxed atmosphere of a sensory show, where comfort is encouraged as you enjoy a variety of performances, including burlesque, music, drag, spoken word, poetry and film screenings.

BUSHDANCE

SAT. 15 NOVEMBER

YARRALUMLA WOOLSHED

This is your opportunity to get in quick as tickets sell out fast! Bushdance is Canberra’s largest LGBTIQ+ event and has been held for over 30 years at the Yarralumla Woolshed. Ticket sales go live on 2 September for $75. See p08 for details.

If you’re a sucker for cult classics nostalgia or forgotten camp gems, The Silence of the Lambs is next on Venus Mantraps’ hit list as they venture into the 70s, 80s, 90s and beyond. MORE HAPPENINGS

KALEIDOSCOPE IV

OPENING 17 OCTOBER

UNTIL 30 NOVEMBER

BELCO ARTS

An LGBTQIA+ exhibition brought to you by Belco Arts and proudly supported by FUSE Magazine. Kaleidoscope celebrates uniqueness, diversity of perspectives, lived experiences and shared ambitions through art.

For more details on the above events and to stay up-to-date with other queer happenings visit us at fusemagazine.com.au/whats-on

ARE YOUR READY FOR

DUST

OFF YOUR HAT, POLISH YOUR BOOTS, PUT ON YOUR RHINESTONES, AND GRAB YOUR DANCING PARTNER BECAUSE PINK TENNIS IS BRINGING YOU A NIGHT TO REMEMBER!

We’re not just looking back – we’re two-stepping forward in style. This year’s Bushdance will be bigger, brighter, and bolder than ever, with all the traditional fun you love and a splash of Pink Tennis flair.

Expect a live bush band to lead you through the evening of dancing! Two-stepping, the legendary Strip the Willow, the classic Waves of Bondi, plus loads of other faves! Fabulous food, drinks and surprises all night long. A celebration of community, inclusivity and joy.

Yarralumla Woolshed, Cotter Road

Saturday 15 November 2025 • 7:30pm – 1:00am

TICKETS MUST BE PRE-PURCHASED

Anyone turning up at the Woolshed without a ticket will be refused entry!

Tickets are available from Monday 2 September

Let’s dance into the next chapter of Pink Tennis history – boots, hats, glitter and all!

Please note: Tickets are limited and the use of pre-purchased tickets and enforcement of a maximum number of attendees is required to ensure compliance with the conditions of hire of the Woolshed, and with the conditions of the liquor permit.

TICKET DETAILS

Canberra Bushdance is an R18+ event so please make sure you bring photo ID.

Canberra Bushdance is a community fundraiser co-ordinated by host organisation Pink Tennis Canberra. Media supporter FUSE Magazine.

ROUND UP

DID YOU KNOW?

Australia needs over 1.7 million blood and blood product donations each year to meet demand, which is approximately 33,000 donations per week. While Australia is self-sufficient in fresh blood products, there’s a consistent need for more donors.

AUSTRALIA FINALLY LIFTS BLOOD BAN FOR GAY MEN

After many years of community campaigning, Lifeblood, formerly Red Cross Australia, has scrapped its sexual activity rule that has barred gay and bisexual men, trans women and other gender-diverse people from donating blood and plasma if they had sex in the previous three months.

The lifting of blood donation restrictions will see over 600,000 additional Australians now eligible to give blood.

Previously, rules from the 1980s effectively prohibited all sexually active gay and bisexual men from donating blood or plasma, regardless of their relationship status.

The Therapeutic Goods Administration (TGA) approved the removal of the ban based on research, modelling and risk assessments conducted by Lifeblood, which showed that there would be no change to the current safety profile of Australia’s blood supply due to an additional safety measure, known as pathogen deactivation, in plasma processing.

People taking HIV pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) will become eligible to donate plasma if they meet the requirements but will still be ineligible to donate blood.

At a time of chronic shortages, this reform is a major victory for all Australians who need donations, and also the LGBTIQ+ community who have long campaigned against the discriminatory nature of the previous rules. LGBTIQ+ advocates, medical experts and politicians have welcomed the change, describing it as a long-overdue step towards equality and evidence-based policy. Senator David Pocock and Let Us Give spokesperson Rodney Croome have both highlighted the importance of ending discrimination and ensuring that everyone who wants to help their community can now do so safely.

Australia continues to have one of the safest blood supplies in the world and these reforms are based on the latest medical evidence and international best practice, ensuring that safety remains the top priority. If you are interested in donating blood or plasma, you can register at lifeblood.com.au

CHIP GAINES SPEAKS OUT!

Chip Gaines from the hit show Fixer Upper, has fired back at critics upset over the inclusion of gay dads Jason Hanna and Joe Riggs in the new reality series Back to the Frontier, produced with his wife Joanna. The show has drawn pushback from some American conservative figures for embracing a same-sex family. Responding on X, Chip, a Christian himself, called for open conversation and understanding, saying, “Talk, ask questions, listen… maybe even learn”. He criticised the tendency of modern American Christian culture to judge first, noting it’s sad when ‘non-believers’ encounter hatred and vitriol from Christians.

NEW VICTORIAN LAWS HELP COMBAT HATE SPEECH

Victoria has set a new benchmark in the fight against hate speech with the passing of its groundbreaking Anti-Vilification and Social Cohesion Bill. The new law expands protections beyond race and religion, now explicitly shielding people from vilification based on gender, sex, sexual orientation, disability, gender identity and sex characteristics. The reforms introduce two distinct criminal offences: inciting hatred, contempt or severe ridicule based on a protected attribute; and threatening physical harm or property damage. Both carry penalties of up to five years in prison. Civil protections have also been strengthened, making it easier for victims to lodge complaints, including those related to online abuse.

ROUND UP

DID YOU KNOW?

Despite the Hungarian government’s attempts to push back LGBTIQ+ rights, a recent survey found that 32% of queer folk are often or always open about being LGBT. In the European Union as a whole it’s 47%.

NEARLY 1 IN 10 AMERICANS NOW IDENTIFY AS LGBTQ+

Despite the current anti-LGBTQ+ political climate in the US, a new Gallup Poll has revealed a queer generational shift that’s reshaping American demographics.

The number of Americans identifying as queer has reached an unprecedented high, with 9.3% of US adults identifying as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or something other than heterosexual. The dramatic increase reflects a generational transformation in how Americans understand and express their sexual orientation and gender identity. The figure has nearly doubled since 2020 and is up from 3.5% when Gallup first began measuring LGBTQ+ identification America-wide in 2012.

Among the individuals surveyed, bisexual identity emerged as the most common, with 56% of respondents identifying as bisexual. The breakdown shows 21% identifying as gay, 15% as lesbian, 14% as transgender, and 6% as something else, including pansexual, asexual or queer identities.

The prominence of bisexual identity is especially notable among younger generations. Among LGBTQ+ individuals, 59% of Gen Z (born 1997-2012) and 52% of Millennials (born 1981-1996) identify as bisexual. In contrast, only 11% of LGBTQ+ adults from the Silent Generation (born 1928-1945) identify as bisexual.

TEENS JAILED FOR GRINDR ASSAULT SCHEME

Five teenagers have been sentenced to prison terms of up to two years for using Grindr to lure and assault men in coordinated homophobic attacks.

The Perth Children’s Court heard that the young men, all under 17, created fake profiles to arrange meetings with gay men at secluded parks. Over two days, they assaulted five victims ranging from their late teens to mid-thirties, armed with knives, a machete, metal bar, pepper spray and a taser. The masked attackers, dressed in black, also filmed their violent robberies as part of what police describe as a growing trend of ‘post and boast’ hate crimes.

The case first emerged in September 2024 when police discovered videos on the teenagers’ phones suggesting additional victims. The attacks were described as calculated acts of homophobia exploiting the vulnerabilities of people seeking connection.

The case has prompted renewed discussions about safety protocols for users of dating apps. Advocates and police once again emphasise the importance of meeting in public spaces and informing trusted friends about planned encounters.

MICE WITH TWO DADS NOW HAVE OFFSPRING

Earlier this year, researchers were able to produce mice using genetic material from two males by fertilising eggs missing the mother’s genetic material. However, the resulting offspring were infertile and unable to reproduce.

In this latest study, led by a team from Shanghai Jiao Tong University in China, that’s changed and for the first time, mice with two biological fathers have successfully reproduced, creating offspring of their own. The breakthrough, which was achieved through androgenesis (reproduction using only male genetic material) and epigenome editing, marks a significant step towards understanding mammalian reproduction and potentially opens doors for similar advancements in other species, including humans. Stay tuned, boys!

DID YOU KNOW?

On 25 June 1978, the rainbow flag, designed by Gilbert Baker, was flown for the very first time at the San Francisco Gay Freedom Day Parade. The flag, with its six vibrant colours, was created as a symbol of pride and unity for the LGBTIQ+ community.

THE END OF AN ICONIC BRAND

The gay-focused underwear brand Andrew Christian will be closing its operations after nearly thirty years in the fashion business. The 47 year old designer Andrew Christian announced his retirement in June and revealed that his attempts to sell the business have been unsuccessful. He attributed this difficulty to competition from cheaper ‘fast fashion’ outlets and the current American political climate, which he feels has led to hesitation in engaging with LGBTIQ+ businesses.

US ADDED TO HUMAN RIGHTS WATCHLIST

The United States has been added to the CIVICUS Monitor Watchlist, a research tool that highlights the status of freedoms and threats to civil liberties worldwide. This move comes in response to President Donald Trump’s attack on democratic freedoms and significant cuts of over 90% to foreign aid, as well as a crackdown on diversity, equity and inclusion (DEI). Other new additions to the watchlist include El Salvador, Indonesia, Kenya, Serbia and Turkey.

PRIDE LASER CANON

San Francisco transformed its iconic Market Street into a radiant symbol of LGBTIQ+ pride, featuring the world’s largest rainbow laser flag that stretched over 3.5 kilometres, shining brightly during the 2025 Pride Weekend celebrations. The lasers, affectionately dubbed ‘gaysers’, were set low to the ground, inviting visitors to stand close, engaging with the beams glowing overhead.

A CURE FOR HIV IS ONE STEP CLOSER

A cure for HIV could be a step closer after Australian researchers at the Doherty Institute achieved a breakthrough by using the mRNA delivery system from COVID-19 vaccines to target the HIV reservoir, not for prevention but as a potential strategy towards a cure. This innovative approach involves coaxing HIV out of its hiding place within cells. The ability to safely deliver mRNA into these cells could also have broader implications for treating other life-threatening illnesses, potentially impacting various diseases where mRNA delivery could be a valuable tool. Note that the US recently cut $500 million in funding allocated for mRNA vaccine research.

QUEERQUOTES

This is the first major reform since the 1980s that will directly empower and improve the lives of transgender people across NSW.

A quote by Teddy Cook from Equality Australia about the NSW Equality Act, which introduced new birth certificate laws along with non-binary and not-specified gender markers; it became effective on 1 July 2025.

Cutting off hate at its source. The legislation makes it clear that hateful conduct is not just against humanity, it’s against the law.

Equality Australia CEO Anna Brown comments on Victoria’s new anti-vilification laws passed in April this year.

ROUND UP

DID YOU KNOW?

The world’s first gender clinic, the Institut für Sexualwissenschaft, opened in Berlin in 1919. This groundbreaking institution was the first to consider science as a means for people to transition and performed some of the first modern gender affirmation surgeries.

THE US TRAVEL INDUSTRY TAKES A NOSE DIVE!

The United States tourism industry is experiencing a significant downturn under the Trump administration as travellers worldwide snub holidaying in America.

Tourism in the USA was initially expected to see an 8.8% increase in international visitors by 2025. However, data now shows a reversal of this trend, with current predictions now indicating a 9.4% decline in arrivals. This downturn is anticipated to result in a loss of $12 billion in visitor spending.

Figures show a 7.8% year-on-year decline in the number of Australians visiting the US, marking the largest drop since the pandemic. Industry leaders attribute this decrease to several factors, including boycotts due to tariffs, stricter US border controls, safety concerns, anti-trans and LGBTIQ+ policies, and a general growing unease regarding the direction of a country that once was a beacon of freedom and liberty.

Australia’s Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade (DFAT) has also warned that a valid visa does not guarantee entry into the US, with border officials wielding broad powers to deny admission and search electronic devices, emails, social media accounts and dating apps.

Equality Australia has issued a travel alert for queer travellers, particularly those with passports that have an ‘X’ gender marker or whose gender expression does not match their passport photos. These individuals may face heightened scrutiny, denial of entry, mistreatment and even arbitrary detention. The US State Department has suspended the processing of passports with the ‘X’ gender marker, making travel for trans and nonbinary people to America unadvisable.

IF YOU ARE TRAVELLING TO THE USA

• Review the latest travel advisories from DFAT and Equality Australia before booking your tickets.

• Be aware of the heightened risks for LGBTIQ+ people, especially if your documents, identity or how you present might attract scrutiny at US borders.

• Consider taking a ‘clean’ travel phone on your trip.

CRITICS CLAIM GENDER CLINICS ARE SEEING AN EXCESS OF TRANS BOYS

Despite new data suggesting otherwise, critics of adolescent gender care have promoted the idea that a ‘social contagion’ is leading to an over-representation of trans boys seeking treatment in gender clinics. New research directly challenges this theory, showing that the increase in transmasculine adolescents is not evidence of social influence but rather part of a broader pattern of gender identity development across the lifespan.

Gender clinics worldwide have seen a rise in referrals, particularly among adolescents assigned female at birth, fuelling claims that social pressure is influencing young people to identify as trans. Despite these claims lacking any evidence, they have contributed to political backlashes, including widespread restrictions on gender care in the United States and the United Kingdom. These policies have been linked to worsening mental health outcomes and increased suicide attempts among trans youth. Most recently, Queensland halted access to puberty blockers and gender-affirming hormones for new patients under 18, even though an independent review found such care to be safe and evidence-based.

A recent study that examined referral patterns at gender clinics in Melbourne showed that around 70% of adolescent referrals were for those assigned female at birth. However, this trend reverses in adulthood, with the majority of adult referrals, especially among those in their 50s, being for individuals assigned male at birth. This pattern suggests that trans girls and women often delay seeking care due to trans misogyny, which makes it more difficult and risky to come out during adolescence.

Advocates say these findings highlight that referral patterns are shaped by age, gender and societal pressures, not social contagion, and that supporting trans adolescents requires addressing stigma and discrimination, rather than denying them access to care.

DO YOU IDENTIFY UNDER THE UMBRELLA AND FIND IT DIFFICULT TO ACCESS MAINSTREAM EXERCISE SERVICES?

All In! is an inclusive exercise space for LGBTQIA+ and Gender Diverse people. Driven by Holly Hazlewood, a queer Exercise Physiologist, with the aim to provide a safe and welcoming clinical exercise setting for the queer community.

We understand some of the barriers to accessing mainstream healthcare services, and our goal is to help you prevent, treat and/or manage any chronic conditions through physical activity in a queer-friendly exercise environment.

Every new client will have an initial consultation with our exercise physiologist, where your health and injury history will be documented. From there, a personalised exercise program will be designed to address your areas of concern and personal goals.

Your program will be delivered in a one-on-one, ongoing basis from a proud member of Canberra’s LGBTQIA+ community.

ROUND UP

DID YOU KNOW?

It’s estimated that 30% of all rams exhibit homosexual or bisexual behaviour, and about 8% of rams refuse to mate with ewes at all, preferring to engage sexually with other rams instead.

When many people work together, bringing different perspectives and ideas with them, a project can go a long way.

Shepherd Michael Stücke

WORLD’S FIRST GAY FLOCK OF SHEEP

In a heartwarming news story that sounds almost too fabulous to be true, a picturesque farm in Löhne, Germany, is home to the world’s first flock of openly gay sheep, and their wool is making quite the statement.

Say hello to Rainbow Wool, the fashion brand that’s spinning a new narrative for queer visibility, animal welfare and sustainable fashion, all from the backs of some very special and totally queer rams.

Shepherd Michael Stücke and his husband are rewriting the rules of sheep farming. A fact that is not well known: traditionally, rams that show no interest in ewes — apparently about one in twelve, according to studies — are deemed unsuitable and are sadly sent to slaughter. But Stücke, a proud member of Germany’s Gayfarmer Network, saw an opportunity to save these ‘gay’ rams from an untimely end and give them a new, meaningful life.

With the help of a PR-savvy friend, Stücke rescued 21 gay rams, creating what his company Rainbow Wool calls the “World’s First Gay Flock of Sheep”. These woolly queers now graze freely, their lives spared and transformed into a powerful symbol of love, kindness and freedom.

Rainbow Wool’s collection is as unique as its origins. The rescued rams are shorn on-site, and their wool is spun into limited-edition fashion items, including beanies, scarves, pride patches, shoelaces and thread for sewing.

However, the real value extends beyond the products, with proceeds from sales supporting LGBTIQ+ projects worldwide. The brand is adamant about avoiding ‘rainbow washing’ — the superficial use of queer imagery for profit — insisting that its mission is about genuine animal welfare, advocacy and community support.

You can also adopt one of the gay rams. With fun iconic names like Marvin Gay, Willy Wonka, Cowboy Joey and Karl (pictured) it’s hard to resist! Donations help ensure that the sheep live out their days in peace, are cared for, and are celebrated rather than being cast aside.

Here in Australia — a country well known for its sheep farming — a gay ram’s story is much the same: exhibiting exclusively same-sex preferences results in an untimely death. While, on occasion, some individuals do rescue these rams, there is currently no sanctuary for the thousands of queer sheep here in Oz. Here’s hoping that may change in the future. The story of Rainbow Wool is truly a unique celebration of love, queer furry joy, animal rights and creative activism. For more details visit rainbow-wool.de

Unpacking anger

AND ITS ROLE IN OUR LIVES

EXCESSIVE AND UNCONTROLLED ANGER HAS BECOME A SIGNIFICANT ISSUE IN SOCIETY TODAY. WHILE ANGER IS A NATURAL REACTION TO PERCEIVED THREATS OR INJUSTICES, IT CAN ALSO BE AN EXPLOSIVE AND FRIGHTENING EMOTION. THIS INTENSE FEELING CAN MOTIVATE US TO TAKE ACTION WHEN WE BELIEVE OUR BOUNDARIES HAVE BEEN VIOLATED OR WHEN WE FEEL MISTREATED. JOSHUA WREST WRITES ABOUT UNPACKING ANGER ITS ROLE IN OUR LIVES.

AS A HOLISTIC THERAPIST, I HAVE BECOME ACUTELY AWARE OF SOCIETY’S COMPLEX AND DIFFICULT RELATIONSHIP WITH ANGER OVER THE YEARS. IN THIS ARTICLE, I WANT TO DISCUSS ITS NUANCES AND HOW WE CAN BETTER UNDERSTAND THIS CHALLENGING EMOTION.

We see anger everywhere in today’s world. In the public sphere, the uninhibited expression of anger is often intertwined with privilege. It seems that those with greater privilege often encounter a higher level of societal acceptance for expressing their anger, while less privileged people often have their anger denied or, worse, risk severe repercussions should their anger be expressed.

Having worked in politics for many years, I have witnessed this dynamic in action. For instance, men can express their anger openly with minimal stigma attached. Yet, when a woman, particularly a woman of colour, expresses anger, then the entire narrative takes on a more negative and critical tone.

Our nature or environment significantly influences how we express anger. Culturally, we may live in a society or a family where the open expression of anger is normalised or monopolised. For others, it might be a cultural norm to suppress anger. For certain people (myself included), embodying the Peacekeeper Archetype can result in anger feeling unfamiliar or entirely suppressed to maintain harmony.

An emotional force that is fiery and intense, anger often compels us to action. However, it’s crucial to recognise that anger is not inherently wrong, nor something to be shamed or shunned. It is imperative that we comprehend anger thoroughly to express this emotion in a safe and effective manner.

AWARENESS IS KEY TO EXPRESSING HEALTHY ANGER. IT EMPOWERS YOU TO RECOGNISE AND UNDERSTAND YOUR TRIGGERS AND PATTERNS, MAKING IT EASIER TO CONTROL YOUR REACTIONS AND MAKE CONSTRUCTIVE CHOICES.

Anger typically arises in two primary forms. The first form is when a boundary has been transgressed. At a personal level, this may occur when a loved one neglects an agreement or when there is a perceived threat to one’s safety. At a broader societal level, anger emerges when a social contract is compromised or the rights of a particular group (essentially a boundary) have been undermined or violated.

Consider the Indigenous sovereignty movements, Black Lives Matter, LGBTIQA+ rights advocacy, and the campaigns for environmental, gender or economic equality. In essence, anger serves to establish or reaffirm boundaries, which in turn fosters a sense of safety and facilitates the calming of the nervous system.

By Joshua Wrest

Anger, one of the FUNDAMENTAL human emotions, in its most basic form is simply energy.

In its second form, anger can be expressed as a secondary emotion, concealing the primary or underlying emotions beneath the surface that are caused by deep, unresolved pain or other hidden personal issues. Anger can be protective, safeguarding us from confronting a more delicate or vulnerable emotion that remains elusive or challenging to express — often exemplified by feelings of sadness or grief.

In this respect, anger is a natural part of the grieving process, acting to keep our sorrow and deeper pain at a distance. Moreover, anger can serve as an indicator of an overactive nervous system and prolonged activation of the fight-or-flight response due to stress and overwhelm. Instances of family violence and road rage illustrate this dynamic, or whenever we find ourselves increasingly irritated and agitated towards those around us.

At its most challenging, anger may become habitually internalised, causing the energy to become locked within the body’s nervous system — the anger is literally turned inwards towards oneself. Over time, this pattern can become harmful and have adverse consequences for our mental, emotional and often physical wellbeing.

Alternatively, anger can be expressed uncontrollably outwards, leading to harmful outcomes for both ourselves and those around us. In this case, we might find ourselves grappling with feelings of shame or guilt, yet feeling trapped by our emotional cycles and an unregulated nervous system.

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TO ANGER DOESN'T MEAN IGNORING OR PUSHING YOUR FEELINGS ASIDE. IT MEANS CHOOSING TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS WITH HONESTY AND THEN REACTING IN A POSITIVE AND CONSTRUCTIVE WAY.

In order to come into the right relationship with anger, the initial step entails the art of deep listening, comprehending, feeling and constructively expressing anger.

WALK THE BEAST

A beautiful analogy is to “walk the beast”. This process involves permitting yourself to express the energy of anger mindfully within a safe environment.

This process helps us feel the bodily sensations and emotions that accompany anger, supporting us from becoming overwhelmed by the sensations and fear when anger becomes present.

Gradually, we’ll cultivate a deeper relationship with our anger, enabling us to experience and harness its potential to support wellbeing.

Anger can also be released by engaging in strenuous physical activities that can help you let go of pent-up negative energy. Creative expression can be a gentle and effective way for release; consider writing in a journal, doing art or playing music to help process your emotions. Additionally, taking some time for yourself to meditate or simply sit quietly alone in a calm place can be highly beneficial. For more tips on how to express and tame your anger see our article on p20.

Understanding anger may also require us to delve deeper and explore it as a secondary emotion, which can be done by fostering an environment where we feel secure and safe enough to embrace and articulate the underlying pain, deep-seated unseen emotions, and parts of ourselves that our anger shields.

Anger, it seems, is more frequently experienced by men who have been raised in a society that has denied them the freedom to express the full spectrum of emotions — reinforced by notions such as “boys don’t cry”.

CULTIVATING A DEEPER UNDERSTANDING OF ANGER WITHOUT JUDGMENT ALLOWS US TO IDENTIFY UNDERLYING CAUSES AND TRIGGERS, RESPOND MORE CALMLY, AND TRANSFORM ANGER INTO A FORCE FOR POSITIVE CHANGE AND WELLBEING.

In this respect, men can be guided towards the vast universe of emotional expression, with anger finding its place in balance with and equal to all other forms of emotional expression.

Whilst anger can be a powerful tool to drive social change movements, especially when guided by a collective energy (sometimes referred to as primal rage), its potency can be undermined should we, as a collective and individuals, not be clearing our own emotional triggers and supporting a balanced nervous system.

The fiery energy of anger can effectively burn out an activist over time. Others may struggle to harness their anger, applying its energy reactively rather than using it effectively.

Should you come from the activist world, which many from our LGBTIQ+ community do, then developing tools and methods to support the healthy expression of anger can be powerful and empowering.

Whether it be breathwork (read our article in FUSE68 on p38), meditation or psychotherapy, the exploration of our relationship with anger can be a rewarding experience.

Through awareness, insight and self-compassion, we can harness the power of anger to advocate for self, the less privileged, the earth and for social justice. We can also come to understand the impulses that drive anger, which may be connected to our childhood, family, history, stress and experiences of loss or fear. Either way, the more awareness we have about our relationship and experience of anger, the more effective we are at harnessing this potent human emotion.

Joshua Wrest is a breathwork practitioner, holistic psychotherapist and counsellor based in Canberra (Ngunnawal Country), offering private breathwork and counselling sessions, group breathwork workshops, retreats and corporate programs. More details at transitionbreath.com

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Feeling ragey?

ANGER CAN BE A CHALLENGING AND DIFFICULT EMOTION, BUT IT’S ALSO A NATURAL AND UNIVERSAL ONE.

Anger can alert us to injustice, motivate us to set boundaries or drive us to make positive changes in our lives. However, when anger is bottled up or expressed destructively or at others, it can do serious harm to relationships, health and wellbeing.

Being present with our darkest emotions without judgment can help us gain a better understanding of them. From here, we can learn to manage anger in healthy ways that enhance our lives. We all get angry on occasion, some more than others, and these are a vital life skill that everyone should develop.

Here are 10 ways to help guide you on your journey to tame your anger, just like the master who is undoubtedly within you.

1. RECOGNISE YOUR ANGER

Before you can tame and express your anger healthily, you need to recognise it. Pay attention to physical cues (like a racing heart or clenched fists) and emotional signals (feeling frustrated, irritated or resentful). If possible, look inward, acknowledge and notice your anger without judgment.

2. PAUSE BEFORE REACTING

When emotion flares, take a moment to pause. This may be challenging to begin with, but doing this, even once, is a positive move in the right direction. Close your eyes, count to ten and take a few deep breaths. If things feel unmanageable for you, step away from the situation if possible. This brief pause can prevent impulsive reactions and give you some time to reflect on the situation and centre yourself before things get out of control.

LEARN HOW TO TAME anger in healthy AND practical ways

3. IDENTIFY THE CAUSE

Ask yourself what specifically upset you. Sometimes, anger is a surface emotion masking deeper feelings of pain, like hurt, disappointment or fear, and may have nothing to do with the current situation that is upsetting you. Understanding the root cause of your unresolved pain can help you address the underlying issues that are truly at the heart of the matter.

4. EXPRESS YOURSELF CLEARLY

When you’re ready to step back in, express your feelings using “I” statements. For example: “I feel upset when you interrupt me because it makes me feel unheard”. This approach focuses on your feelings and needs without blaming others. Blaming, while a natural human reaction to anger, ultimately hinders effective problem-solving and growth. Talking to a trusted friend can also help release pent-up anger and allow you to hear another person’s perspective.

5. PROACTIVE HEALTHY OUTLETS

Physical activity and sport is known to have a positive effect on emotional wellbeing. Studies show that those who exercise regularly have an increase in positive mood, including tension and stress relief, reduction in anxiety and improved alertness.

6. SET BOUNDARIES

If someone repeatedly crosses your boundaries, calmly and firmly communicate your limits. Setting boundaries is a form of self-respect and can prevent compounding issues.

7. PRACTISE FORGIVENESS

Holding onto resentment and anger is toxic. Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing harmful behaviour, but it can free you. Letting go benefits your mental and emotional health.

8. MEDITATION AND BREATHWORK

Meditation and breathing exercises are powerful tools for managing difficult emotions, helping you become aware of your mind, calming your body and shifting your perspective.

9. REFLECT AND LEARN

After the anger has passed, reflect on what happened. What can you learn from the situation and how might you handle similar situations differently in the future?

10. SEEK SUPPORT

If it’s all too much, talking to a counsellor can help you explore underlying issues and develop effective strategies.

Creative expression can also be a powerful outlet, and one of its most immediate benefits is stress reduction. According to a study by the Queensland University of Technology, participating in creative pursuits can lower cortisol, the hormone associated with stress. Whether it’s painting, pottery, sewing, crafting or any type of art, immersing yourself in a creative task can help shift your focus away from concerns, quiet the mind, and induce a state of flow where you become fully absorbed in the activity.

Writing can help, too. A study in Japan found that writing down your reaction to a negative incident on a piece of paper and then shredding it, or scrunching it into a ball and throwing it in the bin, can help to get rid of anger.

SOME FINAL THOUGHTS

Expressing anger in healthy ways is about balance. It’s okay to feel angry; what matters is whether you are still in control and how you deal with it. By recognising, pausing, and expressing your anger constructively, you can turn a potentially destructive emotion into a force for positive change. Anger is a signal that something is not right, not a sentence. Use it wisely and notice if it’s harming yourself or others; you’ll then strengthen your relationships and overall wellbeing. Be the master of your anger, not the other way around.

If this article raises any issues for you, call Lifeline 24/7 on 13 11 14. For non-urgent support services, visit the LGBTIQ DIRECTORY online at lgbtiq.directory

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A MATILDA’S STORY OF COURAGE, FAMILY & PRIDE

Over the years, the Matildas have emerged as a significant source of national pride in Australia.

Their remarkable performance in the 2023 FIFA Women’s World Cup not only captivated the nation but also set viewership records. The Matildas’ success has been celebrated as a triumph for women’s sports, serving as a catalyst for increased participation and promoting inclusivity, especially for the LGBTIQ+ community.

Katrina Gorry, Matildas star midfielder, proud mother and lesbian trailblazer, graces our cover this issue of FUSE. In a sea of green and gold, she shines not just for her prowess on the field, but for the courage that defines her journey both as an elite athlete and as a member of the LGBTIQ+ community. Gorry’s story resounds as one of resilience, love and authenticity.

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By Alexander Thatcher

A SPORTING LOVE STORY

WHEN KATRINA GORRY SPRINTED OUT ONTO THE FIELD DURING THE FIFA WOMEN’S WORLD CUP, WITH HER TWO-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER HARPER WAVING FROM THE STANDS, IT WAS MORE THAN JUST A FAMILY MOMENT; IT WAS BOTH AUSTRALIAN AND QUEER HISTORY IN MOTION.

The Matildas star has undoubtedly been an LGBTIQ+ trailblazer on and off the field, making her recent release of her memoir, Katrina Gorry: A Matilda’s Story of Football, Motherhood and Breaking Down Barriers, a must-read for fans. Her book offers an insight into her journey, showcasing a story filled with grit, love and a relentless drive to challenge the status quo.

Gorry reflects on her childhood in Brisbane, surrounded by football. “I loved going to watch my older brothers and just wanted to do everything they did,” she recalls. “After a short-lived attempt at netball, my mum finally signed me up for a football team. From then, I just fell in love with the game.”

Until the age of 13, most of her playing was alongside boys, an experience she calls “challenging but thrilling.” Her talent was quickly noticed, eventually earning her a place at the Queensland Academy of Sport, followed by a place in the Ninja Women Squad ‘Brisbane Roar’, where she became the first player to sign a multi-year contract.

“FOR ME, IT (SOCCER) WAS THE ONE PLACE I FELT SAFE AS A YOUNG GAY WOMAN. FOOTBALL BECAME MY SANCTUARY.”

Since then, she has played across Japan, the US, Norway and Sweden. Most recently, she became the captain of West Ham United in the UK. Gorry’s stunning rise has been a testament to her relentless commitment and love for soccer.

In candid details, her memoir lays bare her deep desire to be a mum and her conflicted relationship with football during her pregnancy, saying that while pregnant with Harper — conceived via IVF — she never thought she’d return to the sport she loved.

“I kind of resented it a fair bit, just being away from my family all the time. I had no expectation of getting back to football when I fell pregnant with Harper.” Yet to her surprise, motherhood reignited her football spirit.

“THE DAY I HELD HARPER IN MY ARMS, I KNEW I WANTED TO GET BACK OUT THERE AND MAKE HER PROUD.”

Her comeback game for the Matildas stands among her proudest moments: “Running on the fields in the green and gold, after I had her, feeling more in love with the game than ever, that was special.”

Open about the physical and psychological challenges, Gorry says, “Childbirth changes you. I went through IVF in Norway, learned I was pregnant during hotel COVID quarantine and missed the Tokyo Olympics. But bouncing back after pregnancy gave me renewed appreciation for the female body.”

“I probably should have realised this as a footballer, but it took me being a mum to really feel proud of myself.”

BREAKING THE MOLD, BEING A MOTHER & A FOOTBALLER

After the birth of her daughter, club and national teams rallied around Gorry, determined to enable her to keep playing at her peak.

“FOOTBALL IS FAMILY. TO SEE CLUBS AND NATIONAL TEAMS RALLYING AROUND MOTHERS, FIGURING OUT WAYS TO SUPPORT US — IT’S INCREDIBLE.”

She credits the evolving environment in women’s football for making it possible, and sees herself as part of a movement. “You didn’t really see athletes combining motherhood and professional sport in the past. If you wanted a family, you hung up your boots. Now, we’re breaking down those barriers and it’s making us better footballers.”

“FOOTBALL AUSTRALIA HAS BEEN FANTASTIC ALLOWING ME TO PLAY MY BEST, TRAVEL WITH THE TEAM AND HAVE HARPER ALONGSIDE ME.”

From her partner, Clara Markstedt — a former Swedish football pro — and Harper’s giggles on the sidelines to the heartfelt support from her mother, Linda, whom she describes as her hero, Gorry says her support network has been crucial in being both a sportperson and a mum. The juggle is real, she admits:

“TRAVEL IS HARD NOW, BUT CLARA IS AN AMAZING PARTNER. OUR KIDS ARE SURROUNDED BY STRONG WOMEN — IT’S A JOY EVERY DAY.”

The Matildas were the first Australian national team to wear rainbow numbered jerseys in an international fixture during the Cup of Nations match against Spain in February 2023 to celebrate Sydney WorldPride and promote inclusivity in football.

THE MATILDAS HAVE CHANGED AUSTRALIAN SPORT FOREVER

Katrina Gorry’s journey as a Matildas player transcends personal achievements; it’s rooted in a desire to create a lasting legacy. The recent Stan Original documentary Trailblazers chronicles her and her teammates’ efforts to break barriers and establish themselves as icons in women’s sports. During the doco, she reflects on the transformative impact of their efforts, stating:

“WHAT WE’VE DONE IN THE PAST COUPLE OF YEARS CHANGED FOOTBALL, CHANGED SPORT IN AUSTRALIA FOREVER.”

Her purpose extends beyond football. She also aims to leverage her and the team’s influence to enact positive change in various areas, including LGBTIQ+ issues, inclusion, mental health and motherhood. Gorry emphasises, “It’s about using our voice to help people,” highlighting her commitment to making a difference both on and off the field.

Coach Tony Gustavsson complements Gorry’s vision, praising players who balance extraordinary careers and motherhood. He believes these experiences add depth rather than distraction, demonstrating that children can bring joy and focus to athletes’ lives. This holistic view of motherhood and sport reinforces the notion that both can coexist beautifully.

A MATILDA’S STORY

Katrina Gorry’s book was released in June with a nationwide book tour. Fans flocked to signings, eager to connect with her story. During a recent event with Grace Gill at Dymocks in Queensland, Gorry expressed her excitement, “I can’t wait for everyone to read it — sharing my story, hoping it connects with people going through their own struggles and victories.”

Her enthusiasm for sharing her experiences is evident, especially as she considers the impact on others who may resonate with her journey. Gorry fondly recalls her past when she drew inspiration from reading football books, hoping her own narrative can now serve as a beacon for others.

With the Paris Olympics done and dusted, her family growing and her role as a mother deepening, Gorry embodies the possibility of harmonising passion with parenthood. She feels that football has given her so much:

“FOOTBALL GAVE ME EVERYTHING — AND HARPER GAVE ME THE COURAGE TO RETURN TO THE PITCH WITH MORE LOVE THAN EVER BEFORE.”

As a sportsperson and proud LGBTIQ+ community member, Katrina Gorry is not merely making history, she is reshaping its course for future generations. Her story and ongoing advocacy challenge stereotypes around motherhood and elite sports; demonstrating resilience, inspiring others to pursue both career and family, and paving the way for a more supportive environment for female athletes with children.

As her new book reaches readers across Australia and the world, it’s clear that she is committed to cementing her legacy, both on the field and beyond.

Katrina Gorry: A Matilda’s Story of Football, Motherhood and Breaking Down Barriers is published by Allen & Unwin and is available now.

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KING OF DIRT A

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HIS NEW BOOK, KING OF DIRT, HOLDEN SHEPPARD EXPLORES

SEX, SELF-DESTRUCTION AND REDEMPTION.

Fearless, unfiltered and proudly regional, acclaimed author Holden Sheppard writes with grit, heart and a bold voice for queer Australia.

Born and raised in Geraldton, WA, he made waves with his award-winning debut Invisible Boys, later adapted into a hit TV series. His new novel, King of Dirt, dives even deeper. It’s a raw, uncompromising look at a closeted gay tradie navigating shame, desire and toxic masculinity in rural Western Australia. Honest and emotionally charged, Sheppard’s work doesn’t flinch, and neither does he. He recently spoke with us about King of Dirt and his creative journey.

DAVID BLANCO: KING OF DIRT IS THE STORY OF JACK BROLO, A ROUGH-AROUND-THE-EDGES TRADIE RETURNING TO HIS HOMETOWN OF GERALDTON TO SETTLE SOME OLD SCORES. WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO TELL THIS STORY, AND EXPLORE THIS CHARACTER’S JOURNEY?

Holden Sheppard: I wanted to write a character who is unapologetically me on the page. Honestly, there’s no talking about Jack Brolo without admitting he’s cut from the same cloth as I am. We’re both into men, both Italian Australian and footy-mad. We’ve worked blue-collar jobs, we drink, smoke, gamble, and wrestle with some fucked-up mental health stuff. I even gave him my exact ute, a black V8 SS named Phantom.

JACK IS NAVIGATING A LOT, PARTICULARLY WHEN IT COMES TO MENTAL HEALTH, FAMILY AND IDENTITY. WHY IS MEN’S MENTAL HEALTH SUCH A KEY THEME IN YOUR WRITING?

I’m drawn to writing male characters with mental health struggles because it’s something I know firsthand. It’s part of my lived experience, something I navigate, work on, and seek support for when I need it.

I’ve battled depression, anxiety and other trauma, along with issues around anger and substance use. A lot of that found its way into Jack, fictionally speaking. I wanted to show what bad mental health can really look like in a bloke and in doing that, build some empathy for him and by extension myself, and the many men who are struggling too.

The truth is that a lot of blokes find it hard to ask for help. I know I did. For years, I tried to manage on my own and leaned heavily on alcohol to numb what I didn’t want to feel. It wasn’t until I reached out and got proper support that things really started to change. That’s the message I want to share — getting help doesn’t make you less tough or blokey to see a mental health professional. There’s fuck-all shame in seeing a counsellor and I walk taller because of it.

KING OF DIRT MARKS YOUR FIRST FULL-LENGTH ADULT NOVEL. DID STEPPING INTO THIS NEW SPACE FEEL CREATIVELY FREEING, OR DID IT COME WITH NEW CHALLENGES?

It was massively liberating to write an adult novel. For me, there were no downsides to the adult space at all. The young adult space has some gatekeeping going on, especially around writing authentically about what it’s like to be a young gay man. I’m much happier being in the adult fiction space now.

I was also drawn to the idea of a man returning home after years in exile who is forced to confront the ghosts of his past and maybe rekindle something with the guy he once loved. Two blokes. Two kings. Seeing if there’s still a spark to build something real. >

I can write much more freely. I can write hot man-sex, it can be as graphic as I like, and I can dive deeper into trauma and psychological darkness. I love being a writer for adults now.

DO YOU REMEMBER THE FIRST THING YOU EVER WROTE THAT MADE YOU FEEL LIKE, “YEP, I WANT TO DO THIS FOREVER”?

I’ve been writing since I was seven, scribbling stories in exercise books, not finishing many, but loving every minute. When I was thirteen, I started writing Pokémon fan fiction stories and switched to typing on our home computer instead.

The keyboard could finally keep up with my brain, and I was obsessed with the story. I was a massive Pokémon geek. I ended up spending my teen years writing four full books of totally unpublishable fanfiction, but I had the best fun sharing it online with fellow geeks. It became my training ground for writing, and I couldn’t have asked for a better one.

WHAT’S YOUR WRITING KRYPTONITE — THE ONE THING THAT TOTALLY DERAILS YOUR PRODUCTIVITY?

Doing promo or public events is a totally different muscle to the creative writing muscle, so if I’m doing an event or interviews, I typically can’t write on the same day. I love doing those things, but they don’t mix well with the quiet vibes I need for creativity. I’m more creative when I’m at home and chill, so when I go on tour, I know in advance I won’t be writing until I’m back home.

WHAT’S A FUN FACT ABOUT YOU THAT YOUR READERS MIGHT NOT KNOW?

In King of Dirt, Jack is a map geek, and that comes directly from me. I was obsessed with maps as a kid, and for a long time couldn’t choose between being a town planner or being an author.

Like Jack, I wrote to a planning and surveying company when I was ten years old to apply for an actual town planner job that was vacant. They sent me a very nice letter and invited me to do work experience with them when I turned fourteen — but by that age, I’d become convinced writing was the career path for me. I reckon I made the right call! But I am still a massive map geek, and to this day, I love playing city builder video games like Cities: Skylines

HOLDEN SHEPPARD DESCRIBES KING OF DIRT AS “A GAY BOGAN LOVE STORY” BUT WAS INITIALLY RELUCTANT TO EMBRACE THE BOGAN TAG.

“THE FUNNY THING IS I NEVER THOUGHT OF MYSELF AS A BOGAN WHEN I WAS IN GERALDTON AT ALL. I JUST THOUGHT I WAS A NORMAL AUSSIE PERSON.”

WHAT DO YOU HOPE READERS TAKE AWAY FROM KING OF DIRT?

I hope King of Dirt challenges a few assumptions. For example, the idea that tough tradies and FIFO workers can’t be gay. They can, and it doesn’t make them any less strong or masculine. I want readers to know that even if you feel burnt out and lost, like Jack does initially, it’s still possible to pull yourself out of the mess and start again. There’s always hope for change.

And at its heart, King of Dirt is about human connection. We all deserve the kind of love Brick offers, the kind of friendship Elena brings, and a father figure like Bob — someone solid, steady and kind. Not the damage that comes with a dad like Giovanni.

King of Dirt, published by Pantera Press, is available online and in bookstores.

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The Dalai Lama An unexpected connection to the transgender community

Discover how Buddhist tradition holds space for gender diversity. The Dalai Lama, though a cisgender man, is spiritually linked to Avalokitesvara — a figure who transcends the gender binary. Stephen Kerry from Charles Darwin University writes about how the connection inspires and empowers trans and queer Buddhists today.

By Stephen Kerry

BUDDHIST TRADITION HOLDS SPACE FOR GENDER DIVERSITY

THE DALAI LAMA, THOUGH A CISGENDER MAN, IS SPIRITUALLY LINKED TO AVALOKITESVARA, A FIGURE WHO TRANSCENDS THE GENDER BINARY. THIS ANCIENT CONNECTION IS INSPIRING AND EMPOWERING PRACTISING TRANSGENDER AND QUEER BUDDHISTS WORLDWIDE.

Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama, turned 90 on 6 July, a milestone that’s reigniting speculation over his eventual successor.

While the Dalai Lama is the face of Buddhism to many people across the world, he is actually the head of just one tradition within Tibetan Buddhism known as the Gelug school.

Tibetans believe the Dalai Lama to be the manifestation of Avalokitesvara, the bodhisattva of compassion, and the “one who hears the cries of the world”.

Avalokitesvara is prayed to across Asia, and is known as Chenrezig in Tibet, Guanyin in China, and Kannon or Kanzeon in Japan.

In Buddhism, a bodhisattva is a person, or a mythic representation of a person, who denies themselves enlightenment until all beings can achieve enlightenment. Avalokitesvara appears to living beings in whatever form could best save them.

Although Avalokitesvara originated in India as a man, they can be depicted as either a man, woman, or non-binary being. This gender fluidity has led to them being revered as a transgender icon in the West.

I have spent the past five years investigating the lives of queer Buddhists in Australia. As part of this research, I have surveyed and interviewed 109 LGBTQIA+ Buddhist Australians.

Rainbodhi is a group for LGBTIQ+ Buddhists. They organise Buddhist teachings, social events and regular meditation sessions. Additionally, they host online events that invite both Australian and international queer Buddhist teachers to connect with the community. If you would like to learn more or get involved, visit: rainbodhi.org/sydney

The words of these individuals, and my own experience as a genderqueer Buddhist person, reveal how the Dalai Lama emerges an unlikely inspiration for individuals sharing a transgender and Buddhist identity.

LETTING GO OF BINARIES

Through my work I have found LGBTQIA+ Buddhist Australians are generally reluctant to disclose their queer identities to their Buddhist communities, and may be told to remain silent about their identities.

For some, Avalokitesvara’s gender fluidity has been important for reaffirming both their queer and Buddhist selves.

One Buddhist trans woman, Annie*, told me Guanyin had special significance for her. Annie spoke about Avalokitesvara travelling from India to China as a male, before “transitioning” to the mainly female presentation of Guanyin over centuries, saying:

“I PRAY TO HER REGULARLY AND OFTEN FIND I GET A RESPONSE. OF COURSE THE ENLIGHTENED STATE IS BEYOND ALL MANNER OF WORLDLY BINARIES, INCLUDING GENDER, AND IS IMMENSELY IMPORTANT IN LETTING GO OF BINARIES IN MY JOURNEY TOWARDS ENLIGHTENMENT.”

Walter* has had a long fascination with depictions of Avalokitesvara that “showed ‘him’ looking effeminate and handsome, with a cute moustache […] A little bit homoerotic, a little bit provocatively gender fluid, as seen through my eyes”.

*Names have been changed.

“A GREAT MANY PEOPLE IN DIFFERENT CULTURES, ACROSS HISTORY, WORSHIP THESE FIGURES. CLEVER HOW THIS FIGURE CAN MORPH INTO A RADICAL TRANS! WE ALL WANT TO FEEL COMFORTED, SAFE AND SAVED FROM SUFFERING.”

As queer Buddhists, we turn to Avalokitesvara to feel comforted, safe and saved. Another interviewee, Brian*, told me about a Tibetan invocation practice he did with a senior Tibetan monk, in which he encountered Guanyin:

“[SHE] TOOK MY RIGHT HAND AND PASSED SOME SORT OF POWER INTO IT. SHE NEVER SPOKE TO ME BUT JUST RETURNED THE WAY SHE HAD COME. I WAS GIVEN SOME SORT OF GIFT, THAT’S ALL I KNOW.”

Since this experience, Brian has “always felt a strong connection to the feminine through her”. He has a special Guanyin altar on his farm.

YOU CAN’T BE WHAT YOU CAN’T SEE

Some Buddhists deny Avalokitesvara’s queerness. Asher*, a genderqueer Buddhist I interviewed, told me about a teacher who said to them, “there was absolutely no way a gay person could be enlightened”. Asher retorted:

“WHAT ABOUT KANZEON, THE BODHISATTVA OF COMPASSION, WHO HAS MANIFESTED AS BOTH MALE AND FEMALE AND, IN THE STORIES FROM JAPAN, HAS HAD EROTIC RELATIONSHIPS WITH MONKS?”

The teacher dismissed this, replying, “those are just stories”.

In her 1996 book Transgender Warriors, trans activist Leslie Feinberg writes: “I couldn’t find myself in history. No one like me seemed to have ever existed.”

Similarly, Annie evoked the statement: “You can’t be what you can’t see.”

I, too, experience this need to see myself as a genderqueer, non-binary practitioner of Zen Buddhism. It was only through doing these interviews with other queer Buddhists that I came to realise Guanyin, a trans icon, is a statuette which adorns the altar of the Buddhist group I belong to. Knowing Avalokitesvara may be depicted as a man, woman, or non-binary being lets us queer Buddhists know we exist — and have always existed — within Buddhism.

Despite being a cisgender man who has been somewhat inconsistent in his support of queer people, the Dalai Lama, as the manifestation of the bodhisattva of compassion, is a possible spiritual link between today’s queer Buddhists and centuries-long traditions of gender transition and fluidity.

Dr Kerry (they/them) is currently conducting research into the lives of LGBTQIA+ Buddhists in Australia. Dr Kerry is a Zen Buddhist and identifies as genderqueer and non-binary. This article has been republished from The Conversation under Creative Commons license.

BUDDHISM, HOMOSEXUALITY AND SAME-SEX MARRIAGE

When discussing homosexuality, the Dalai Lama has often highlighted a distinction between spiritual tradition and contemporary society. Traditionally, Tibetan Buddhist texts describe homosexuality along with many non-procreative sexual acts (regardless of orientation) as “sexual misconduct”.

The Dalai Lama, referencing these texts, has explained that Buddhist monastic codes were written in an ancient context, and that, according to scripture, sex is for procreation, so any activity deviating from that is considered misconduct. However, he has candidly admitted that some of these positions are open to interpretation, and cannot speak on behalf for all Buddhists.

Despite these scriptural foundations, the Dalai Lama has expressed support for LGBTIQ+ rights, stating, “From society’s point of view, mutually agreeable homosexual relations can be of mutual benefit, enjoyable and harmless”. In 2014 he voiced clear support for same-sex marriage, saying it’s “OK” and a matter for individuals or the law to decide. He has emphatically condemned homophobia and anti-LGBTIQ+ violence, calling such attitudes a violation of human rights.

“IF TWO PEOPLE, A COUPLE, REALLY FEEL THAT WAY, IT’S MORE PRACTICAL, MORE SATISFACTION, AND BOTH SIDES FULLY AGREE, THEN OKAY!”

His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Larry King Now, 2014 Buddhism, more broadly, takes varied stances. Some lineages or countries question same-sex relationships based on reproduction or traditional norms, while others stress that the ethical nature of relationships is determined by intentions like kindness, respect and absence of harm, regardless of gender. Many modern Buddhists argue that any compassionate, consensual relationships can fit fully within Buddhist ethics.

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By Jacqui Curtis

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT DOMESTIC, FAMILY & INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CAN HAPPEN IN ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP, INCLUDING LGBTIQ+ ONES.

More than 60% of LGBTQ+ people have experienced domestic and family violence. Recognising the signs of abuse and knowing what help is available is crucial to ensure the safety for victims and survivors. This short but informative guide breaks down what family violence looks like and how to access critical legal support. Whether you’re living it right now, supporting a friend, or just want to be better informed — this article is here to help.

Family violence is behaviour that causes harm in a family or intimate relationship, including a past relationship. It can involve violence or abusive behavior such as control, coercion and exploitation of power imbalances to create fear. It can occur in isolated incidents or as an ongoing pattern of behaviour. It is a violation of human rights and unacceptable in any form.

Here are some common forms it can take:

• Physical abuse: Any act that causes physical harm, including sexual assault.

• Verbal abuse: Name-calling, put-downs, threats, screaming or constant criticism.

• Emotional abuse: Gaslighting, manipulation, intimidation, humiliation, depriving a person of their liberty, isolation from friends, family and community.

• Controlling or coercive behaviour: Excessive monitoring, reading your messages, deciding what you wear, who you see, or even controlling your access to healthcare.

• Economic abuse: Limiting your access to money, unreasonably withholding financial support or creating financial dependence.

• Stalking and harassment: Both in-person and online.

• Damaging property or harming pets.

A lot of these forms overlap; for example, a put-down can be both verbal and emotional abuse. The common feature is that the abuse is almost always about maintaining control over the victim.

If you think you’re experiencing family violence, a protection order is a legal way to set boundaries and keep you safe. Also known as a restraining order, it can:

• Stop your abuser from contacting you or approaching you.

• Prevent them from coming near your home and workplace, or other places you frequent.

• Protect children, other family members and pets from harm.

• Restrict them from damaging your property.

Protection orders are most effective when tailored to your circumstances. Legal processes can feel intimidating at first, but having a lawyer guide you can be reassuring and empowering.

If you need to plan your exit, think safety first.

Leaving an abusive partner can be complicated in any relationship, but for LGBTIQ+ folks, extra layers might be involved — like fears about being outed, discrimination, or not being believed.

A carefully constructed safety plan is key to enhancing your safety.

These are a few steps to think about:

• Get confidential legal advice: Talk to someone who understands the issues and will keep what you say private, until you are ready to act. They can explain your options, refer you to appropriate support services and assist you with legal processes to escape family violence.

• Emergency preparations: Create a safety plan. Identify safe places you can go to in an emergency, and have a tailored escape plan ready to implement. Support services including 1800 Respect and DVCS can help with safety planning.

• Gather your important documents: ID, bank cards, any court orders, medical records, irreplaceable or sentimental photos, and any proof of abuse you may have like screenshots or messages.

• Connect with support services: Like queer-friendly counselling, housing and financial assistance programs.

No one should have to be the victim of family violence. A family lawyer can navigate you through escaping family violence or help you to recover once you have left, including:

• Helping you apply for a protection order.

• Explaining how family violence impacts other legal issues like parenting arrangements, child support or property settlements.

• Negotiating safe and fair agreements so you can move forward.

• Linking you with inclusive support networks. Family violence doesn’t discriminate, it can happen in any type of relationship. Everybody, no matter gender or sexual orientation, deserves to feel safe and respected in their relationships.

If anything here feels familiar, reach out to a lawyer or support service you trust.

By Scott Malcolm Director of Money Mechanics

THE BIG LIE!

AND WHY MORE MONEY DOESN’T MEAN SUNNIER DAYS

MOST OF US HAVE SPENT TIME WONDERING WHAT OUR LIVES MIGHT BE LIKE IF WE WERE RICH — ALL THE HAPPINESS THAT MONEY WOULD BRING US!

But what does it mean to be wealthy in today’s society? Images of luxury cars, sprawling mansions and exotic vacations all come to mind. As we dream of the perfect life, we often assume that having more money than we need leads to happiness and fulfilment.

Having spent decades helping people navigate their financial lives, I can confidently say that this is one of the greatest misconceptions we are led to believe. Not only is this one of the biggest lies we tell ourselves, but studies actually indicate that the pursuit of happiness through money and possessions results in decreased satisfaction and wellbeing.

The truth is that many individuals who appear to have perfect lives and tons of wealth are grappling with unhappiness and emptiness behind the scenes, and as we all know now, what you are shown on social media is often far from the truth.

Research also indicates that despite financial success, many wealthy individuals struggle with feelings of unease related to their wealth, often experiencing anxiety and having difficulty enjoying their financial gains. This phenomenon, sometimes referred to as the “paradox of wealth”, suggests that money, while providing material comfort, doesn’t inherently guarantee happiness or a sense of ease.

You might be thinking to yourself right now, “Yeah, but money will solve many of my problems”. And, yes, that’s true to an extent; it can relieve the stress of bills, provide security and open doors to new experiences. But once your basic needs are met, more cash doesn’t necessarily mean more happiness. In fact, it can bring a whole new set of challenges that you don’t even know about yet.

“Money has never made man happy, nor will it, there is nothing in its nature to produce happiness. The more of it one has, the more one wants.”

Benjamin Franklin

THE ENDLESS TRAP OF COMPARISON & WANTING

We are currently living in a world obsessed with “more”; more money, more followers, more likes, more stuff. What I often call “chronic not enough-ness”. But the problem is, no matter how much you have, there will always be someone with a bigger house, a flashier car or a better social media following. The relentless pursuit of wanting can fuel feelings of inadequacy and a distorted sense of self-worth, leading to anxiety and depression. >

PURPOSE, MEANING & CONTENTMENT ARE THE REAL WEALTH

You’ve heard it before: happiness isn’t just about what you have, but what you do and why you do it. As a financial manager, I think it’s worth stating again. True happiness stems from living a meaningful life, engaging in activities and work that align with your values, and finding purpose in those actions.

Many high-net-worth individuals reach their financial goals only to find themselves asking, “What now?”. Without a sense of purpose, the thrill of achievement fades, leaving a void that money can’t fill. A reminder that fulfilment comes from purpose, not possessions.

The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered: “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

MONEY MATTERS

So, what’s the antidote? Because money still matters, right, and if used well and with purpose, it can make a difference in your life.

It’s not my intention here to advocate for poverty, as that’s certainly not good either, and I’m not asking you to reject wealth or feel guilty about success.

Instead, it’s about redefining what “rich” and “wealthy” mean to you. True wealth, and happiness for that matter, comes from living in alignment with your values, nurturing authentic relationships and finding purpose beyond your bank account or asset balances. It’s about being honest with yourself about the needs in your life; because happiness and financial success, whatever that may look like for you, is a journey, not a destination.

Let’s challenge the big lie that we’re being fed on a daily basis together and build a life that’s not just rich in dollars, but rich in meaning, love, experiences and joy.

10 PRACTICAL TIPS FOR BALANCING WEALTH CREATION & HAPPINESS

Align your financial goals with personal values. Set financial goals that reflect what’s truly important to you, such as relationships, growth, freedom or supporting causes you believe in, so it’s not just about the endless pursuit of more.

Practise mindful spending. Spend money thoughtfully on things and experiences that genuinely add value and joy to your life, rather than on impulse purchases or status symbols that only feed your ego and not your heart.

Invest in experiences over material possessions. Allocate resources to travel, hobbies and learning. Experiences are more likely to bring cherished memories and lasting fulfilment, while possessions offer only temporary happiness.

Focus on building meaningful relationships. Deep connections with family, friends and community are stronger predictors of happiness than bank balances. Invest your money, time and effort into valuable relationships.

Prioritise mental and emotional health. Wealth is not just financial, it’s also about wellbeing. Engage in activities that reduce stress, boost mental health and nourish your emotional resilience, such as mindfulness and other self-care routines.

Avoid social comparison. Refrain from comparing your status or lifestyle with others, especially on social media. True happiness comes from looking within, not outwards.

Embrace gratitude. Regularly reflect on the blessings you have, like health, relationships, achievements and experiences, which are often unrelated to money.

Give back. Use your resources to help others or support causes you care about. Philanthropy, volunteering or small acts of kindness can create a sense of purpose and satisfaction.

Maintain a solid financial foundation. Build good habits, such as living within your means, saving regularly and being financially literate. Financial education reduces anxiety and allows for more freedom.

Keep growing and learning. Seek growth on your journey — personally, professionally and spiritually. Use your resources to learn new skills, broaden horizons and challenge yourself. This supports a lasting sense of satisfaction and accomplishment.

By integrating these approaches you can leverage wealth creation to enhance, not compete with your overall happiness and life satisfaction.

Money can be a tool for freedom and comfort, but wellbeing ultimately stems from living purposefully, nurturing relationships and prioritising what matters most.

QUEER BEING

DID YOU KNOW?

In Australia, a significant number of LGBTIQ+ people have mental health challenges, with nearly three in five (58.7%) experiencing a mental disorder in the past 12 months, considerably higher than the 19.9% reported among heterosexual individuals.

CHARTING A HEALTHIER FUTURE FOR ALL LGBTIQA+ AUSTRALIANS

Australia has embarked on a pivotal transformation in LGBTIQA+ health with a $10 million government pledge and the launch of the National Action Plan for the Health and Wellbeing of LGBTIQA+ People 2025–2035.

While many LGBTIQA+ Australians enjoy fulfilling and healthy lives, research consistently shows that LGBTIQA+ people face disproportionate health challenges compared to the broader population. Rates of depression, anxiety and psychological distress are significantly higher, as are experiences of suicidal thoughts and suicide itself.

These disparities are not random and are deeply rooted in experiences of discrimination, stigma and exclusion. True inclusivity in healthcare has to go beyond symbolic gestures and requires a fundamental change in how care is delivered, while including:

Respectful Communication: Using correct pronouns and chosen names, and avoiding assumptions about bodies, relationships or identities.

Open-Ended Questions: Like “Do you have a partner?” instead of presuming the gender of someone’s partner.

Holistic Understanding: Not assuming a transgender patient’s health needs are only related to their gender identity.

Sensitivity Training: Equipping providers to discuss topics like sexual behaviour or gender dysphoria without judgment, and to handle mistakes with care.

Studies show that when people feel safe to disclose their LGBTIQA+ status, continuity of care improves, as does access to preventive services. Culturally competent providers are also better positioned to make appropriate referrals based on the needs of the individual.

If implemented effectively, the National Action Plan could be transformative. It envisions a future where every LGBTIQA+ Australian — whether a queer teenager in the city, a Brotherboy in a remote community, or an older trans woman in aged care — can access the care they need without fear of discrimination.

The real challenge lies in translating this $10 million commitment into meaningful, on-the-ground change. This will require accrediting clinics nationwide, training thousands of health workers, partnering with community organisations, and ensuring that every patient is treated with the dignity and respect they deserve.

It seems that the journey to better health outcomes has finally begun, and its success will be measured in the health and wellbeing of every member of the LGBTIQA+ community.

FAMILY SUPPORT VITAL TO IMPROVED MENTAL HEALTH

New research has shown that when parents demonstrate love and acceptance, it can have a profoundly positive impact on their children’s lives. Young people who feel supported by their families often experience fewer mental health challenges and a greater sense of belonging.

Simple words are shown to have a profound impact. Telling a child “I love you” and affirming their identity can boost self-esteem and resilience. It also encourages help-seeking behaviour and fosters hope for the future. Lack of family support or acceptance has the opposite effect, leading to isolation, shame and increased mental health risks.

HOW FAMILIES CAN HELP

• Listen without judgment and affirm your child’s identity.

• Create a safe, open home environment.

• Celebrate your child’s journey and express pride in who they are.

• Seek out resources and support if you’re unsure how to help.

A supportive family is one of the most effective ways to protect the mental health of LGBTIQ+ young people in Australia, and a simple expression of love can be a lifeline, offering hope and belonging when it’s needed most.

QUEER YOUTH IN CRISIS

The nationwide survey conducted by Minus18 of more than 2,000 family members of young people aged 12-25 found that almost half of respondents felt the mental health of the queer youth in their family was ‘poor’ or ‘fair’, compared to less than one third of non-LGBTIQ+ young people.

By Dwayne Lennox

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DID YOU KNOW?

The Australian soap opera Number 96 (1970s) featured the world’s very first recurring gay character on a prime-time television serial, doing so decades before other countries.

MID-CENTURY MODERN

A GAY, RETRO-CHIC GOLDEN GIRLS DISNEY+

An old-school sitcom about two old queens and an aged-out twink setting up house in Palm Springs may not be what you’d expect to find on Disney+ but here it is. After the death of a mutual friend, Bunny (Nathan Lane), Arthur (Nathan Lee Graham) and Jerry (Matt Bomer) decide to become housemates, moving in with Bunny and his acerbic mother Sybil (the late Linda Lavin). Mid-Century Modern possesses both a sensibility and fruity dialogue you wouldn’t ordinarily hear on network TV. The trio have fun chemistry, with Pamela Adlin and Richard Kind in welcome recurring roles.

QUEER

DANIEL CRAIG IS NEEDY, HORNY & MESMERIC STAN

Not averse to bringing gay literature to the big screen, Luca Guadagnino tackles a more complicated text than his Oscar-winning Call Me By Your Name with Queer, an adaptation of a William S. Burroughs novella which, set in 1950s Mexico City, sees William Lee (Daniel Craig), an alcoholic and drug-addicted American ex-pat, fall for a young GI (Drew Starkey). With the Knives Out films (the third is out later this year) and Queer, Craig continues to excel in his post-Bond career; some think he was unlucky not to receive his first Oscar nomination for this compelling performance.

MR LOVERMAN

POIGNANT TALE OF A DOUBLE LIFE BINGE

After 50 years of marriage, two children and a grandson, Barrington Walker (Lennie James) decides he’s had enough of living in the closet; he and best friend Maurice (Ariyon Bakare) have been lovers over the same half century. Yet those same family obligations, and Barrington’s own doubts, have him constantly wavering on his decision. Based on the novel by Bernadine Evaristo, and directed by filmmaker Hong Khaou (Lilting, 2014; Monsoon, 2019), Mr Loverman explores late-in-life coming out as well as sexuality, marriage and family in the Caribbean-London community.

MONI

RAW PORTRAYAL OF A GAY SAMOAN MAN SBS ON DEMAND

After a decade away, Moni (Chris Alosio), a gay Samoan man, returns to Sydney for his sister’s wedding. But also making a return for the nuptials is the ghost of Moni’s deceased mother (Tina Leaitua). Set in Sydney’s Western Suburbs and focusing on the Samoan-Australian community, series creator Taofia Pelesasa provides Moni with an authentic cultural perspective, one not usually found in Australian television content, queer or straight. A part of SBS’s Digital Originals initiative, you can watch the entire six-part series in an hour, so there’s no excuse not to.

IT'S ALL IN THE NUMBERS

222,000

Data released by Seamless, Australia’s clothing stewardship scheme, revealed that while Australians are buying fewer new clothes and shopping for more second-hand clothes, over 222,000 tonnes of clothing is still sent to Australian landfills each year. In some good news, however, over the last five years, the number of clothes being recycled, either within Australia or internationally, increased by 17% to 140 million garments or 35,000 tonnes.

47%

According to the Australian Human Rights Commission, 47% of gay or lesbian people have experienced workplace harassment in the past 5 years. Bisexual women, however, reported higher proportions across all types of violence (emotional, physical and sexual) and were more likely to have anxiety, depression and poor mental health when compared with women who identified as heterosexual.

“With a staggering 86% of global citizens exposed to misinformation, 62% of online news is now deemed false.”

US data collection agency Demandsage

5

After criticism of their car touch controls, Volkswagen is reintroducing physical switches for the five most critical functions: volume, heating (on each side of the car), fans and hazard lights.

4th

In the United States, Adverse Drug Reactions (ADRs) are reported as the fourth leading cause of death, following heart disease, cancer and stroke. In Europe, an estimated 197,000 deaths occur annually due to ADRs.

$12

A decline in overseas visitors to America due to global travel warnings, domestic unrest, violence and escalating fear have converged to trigger a loss of over 12 billion dollars in US tourism revenue. B

54

The Darvaza crater, known as the ‘Gates of Hell’, has been burning for over 54 years. It was ignited in 1971 after a Soviet oil rig that accident punctured a natural gas cavern. The crater, which sits above a vast oil and gas field, runs through Turkmenistan and Uzbekistan. Geologists say the large crater is connected to vast underground stores of methane, providing the fire with limitless fuel.

$50M

A delivery driver has won a US$50 million (A$80 million) payout from global coffeehouse chain Starbucks after he suffered burns, disfigurement and debilitating nerve damage to his genitals. In a lawsuit filed in California Superior Court, Starbucks was accused of breaching its duty of care after its staff did not fully push the drink into its takeaway tray. Starbucks said it would appeal the “excessive” damages and said it did not believe it was responsible for the accident.

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SEPTEMBER & OCTOBER 2025 VULNERABILITY & HONESTY BRING NEW BEGINNINGS

It’s time to let go of outdated habits and strengthen your spiritual and social connections. Saturn brings themes of healing, transformation and boundary-setting, while urging clear communication for everyone. Whether you’re navigating relationships or pursuing career aspirations, the stars are encouraging us to cultivate courage, embrace vulnerability and welcome new beginnings.

Aquarius

January 21 – February 18

Collaborations and heartfelt dialogues can spark innovation and bring new allies. Financial or personal decisions deserve careful thought, especially as September prompts self-reflection. TIP: It’s an excellent time to revisit old projects that were not completed.

Taurus

April 21 – May 21

Spring brings clarity and opens up new horizons. Your ambitions may get a boost as the planets align in your favour, helping with long-term gains in the areas of career and education. TIP: Be pragmatic with changes around money matters and possible new investments.

Leo

July 23 – August 23

It’s all about communication as the stars encourage you to express yourself and pursue creative projects that let you shine and fill your furry heart. You can expect an exciting boost in your romantic life. TIP: Explore new avenues of reflection and deeper connection.

Scorpio

October 24 – November 22

Transformation is unavoidable as the lunar eclipse in Pisces heightens your intuition and inspires reflection on all aspects of your life. Expect possible changes within your inner circle. TIP: Trust rebirth and don’t be afraid to set boundaries with draining people.

Pisces

February 19 – March 20

With Saturn re-entering your sign, an intense lunar eclipse means deep healing is at hand if you make time for yourself and are prepared to do some reflection about what you want from life. TIP: Relationships will deepen if you are brave and vulnerable.

Gemini

May 22 – June 21

Although life demands may increase, if you are open to change you can expect a period of transformation and growth. TIP: The stars emphasise the importance of communication while encouraging you to explore wellness practices to help with your journey.

Virgo

August 24 – September 23

Virgos can anticipate a notable period of change and growth, as September is particularly favourable for learning and moving forward. The month also brings positive developments in family life. TIP: Be brave enough to always speak your truth with others.

Sagittarius

November 23 – December 22

Freedom and stability strike a rare balance, making this a perfect time for you to redefine your emotional needs so they synchronise better with your home and work responsibilities. TIP: Travel can bring you growth, unexpected opportunities and new connections.

Aries

March 21 – April 20

Growth opportunities may arise from any challenges as Saturn tests your resolve, prompting a re-evaluation of priorities. Old emotional baggage may resurface, but clearing it can create space for newness. TIP: Honour your needs and prioritise relaxation.

Cancer

June 22 – July 22

You’re called to spend more time nurturing yourself and your chosen family. Intimacy will be emphasised, especially as the universe reveals insights into your emotional needs and spiritual wellbeing. TIP: Release outdated roles so you can thrive.

Libra

September 24 – October 23

As your birthday approaches, romance and beauty flourish all around you as the universe gifts you with affection and new life possibilities. Creativity, intuition and self-expression will reach their peak. TIP: Invest in meditation and mindfulness to quieten your mind.

Capricorn

December 23 – January 20

Spring is the perfect time to open your heart and step out of your comfort zone to explore new romantic interests. If you are in a relationship, this is an opportunity to deepen your connection. TIP: Spend quality time with loved ones while being mindful of your limits.

By Rose Pappalardo

Dear Rose,

My 17-year-old non-binary child wants ‘they/them’ pronouns, but my parents flat out refuse and think I should discourage this altogether, causing a bit of a family rift. How do I advocate without creating even more drama? Concerned Mum

Dear Concerned Mum,

Parents can be challenging and stubborn sometimes; often, it’s a generational thing that can be hard to shift. I suggest starting with gentle conversations and resources to help them understand pronouns aren’t just words and let them know they’re about respect. Be compassionate but firm in defending your child’s identity. If they continue to resist, remind them that a loving family means supporting each other’s choices. Change can be slow — celebrate the small wins and remind your child you’re in their corner, no matter what.

Dear Rose,

I’m in year 12 and have been questioning my gender for a few years now, but have held off taking any steps as I’m worried about how it will affect my school sports aspirations and if my team will reject me. How do I explore safely, and do you think this is something I still need to worry about nowadays? Quinn

Dear Quinn,

I’m going to start by saying that your wellbeing is paramount, so I suggest first contact an LGBTIQ+ support group that can help you out with the right referrals. If you feel you can share your feelings, maybe have a chat with your parents, a supportive friend, teacher or coach first so they can help you sort things through before you move forward. Take your time and make sure you do things at your own pace; being emotionally ready will be very important.

Although we still have a long way to go, in Australia (unlike some countries we won’t mention) most schools, sporting groups and people are in favour of diversity and inclusivity, so hopefully it should be smooth sailing for you. It is important, however, to be prepared that not everyone will be on board with your decision, so make sure you have support to back you up if needed. Above all, honour your journey and know that bravery comes in many forms.

Dear Rose,

As a 20-something bisexual guy, I find myself feeling lonely and a bit lost, not knowing where I belong in both the heterosexual and LGBTIQ+ communities. What can I do to find my place? Benny

Dear Benny,

That sounds tough, and you’re certainly not alone. What you’re feeling is something a lot of bisexual people go through — it’s sometimes called bi invisibility or bi erasure. You’re not imagining it and it’s not a flaw in you; it’s a gap in how society understands bisexuality.

To help find your place and build a sense of belonging, I suggest seeking out some bi-specific social groups, community events or online spaces where bisexuality is front and centre. Australia has Bi+ Collectives in most of our capital cities, plus their are online groups that are very welcoming and active.

You don’t have to find belonging in both queer and hetero communities equally; instead, focus on creating your own mix of friends who accept you without making you feel you have to be a label. Connection isn’t something you find instantly, it’s something you grow. Each new friendship, conversation or event you attend adds another thread to your ‘own’ community.

“

History isn’t something you look back at and say it was inevitable... it happens because people make decisions.”

Marsha P. Johnson (1945—1992)

An American gay liberation activist and self-identified drag queen, she was one of the prominent figures in the Stonewall uprising of 1969.

Need help or someone to talk to? Support is available for anyone in distress by phoning 24 hours QLife 1800 184 527, Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Meridian’s counselling services on 02 6257 2855. If you require relationship support or services call Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277

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