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OF BROOKRIDGE

At Brookridge, every drive into the community feels like an exhale as the trees open up to walking paths, porches, and neighbors who quickly feel like friends. Here, days are quieter, mornings are greener, and evenings come with the soft hush of a forested neighborhood instead of traffic and to‑do lists.

Yet this peaceful, wooded sanctuary sits just minutes from the arts, restaurants, and medical centers of downtown Winston‑Salem, giving you the best of both worlds in one remarkable address. Enjoy maintenance‑free living, on‑site wellness and amenities, and the confidence of a Life Plan Community that lets you stay focused on what you love most.

March is Women’s History Month! A time to celebrate the strength, resilience, and impact of women in our community and beyond. And what a perfect example of a phenomenal woman we have on our cover this month: Barbara Maida-Stolle, CEO of Goodwill Industries of Northwest North Carolina.

I had the pleasure of meeting Barbara at our cover photo shoot, and from the moment she walked into the room, she carried an aura that made you feel like the most important person there. She was kind, genuine, and refreshingly down-to-earth — not at all the stereotypical, buttoned-up CEO presence you might expect. Instead, she leads with warmth and purpose. As Goodwill celebrates 100 years this year (what an incredible milestone!), I hope you’ll take time to read more about the impact they’ve made across Northwest North Carolina.

We are also thrilled to debut our first-ever Wedding Section in Forsyth Woman! The Wedding Edit begins on page 56, and pulling it together was such a joy. If you’ve been around for a while, you may remember that we published Forsyth Woman Engaged for 10 years. Creating this section felt nostalgic in the best way... like revisiting a chapter that meant so much to me professionally and creatively.

If you’re newly engaged (or love someone who is!), you’ll find thoughtful resources including a detailed planning timeline, an article on what not to stress about during the wedding process, and of course, so many talented local vendors right here in Winston-Salem. We are surrounded by incredible creativity in this community, and it’s truly an honor to showcase it.

And if you missed the opportunity to be part of this Wedding Section – don’t worry! We’ll be bringing it back again this fall. If you’d like details on how to be included, email me at brooke@forsythmags.com .

And speaking of celebrating women — our 5th Annual Women on the Move Conference is happening Thursday, March 19th (!!!). I can hardly believe it’s our fifth year. One article I’m especially excited about in this issue features my dear friend, Kristin Johnson, our conference emcee since day one. Kristin brings unmatched energy to this event every single year, and we are so proud of her as she took a leap

of faith to launch her own speaking business — and write a book! She has been a mentor and role model to me for many years, and I’m thrilled for you to read her story on page 24.

There are SO many fantastic events happening this time of year, and I hope you’ll make time to attend at least one:

• Triple Crown Casino Night benefiting the Pretty in Pink Foundation (page 26)

• 5th Annual Women on the Move Conference (page 42)

• 2nd Annual Dynamis Dash 5K (page 46)

• Wine, Women & Shoes benefiting Ronald McDonald House Charities (page 87)

And so much more.

Now that daylight saving time has “sprung forward” (hallelujah!), it’s the perfect excuse to get out, get dressed up, and enjoy all that’s happening in our community.

Wishing you a powerful and inspiring Women’s History Month.

All my best,

Brooke Culler, @brooke__culler

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For a century, Goodwill of Northwest North Carolina has been a place where generosity meets opportunity. From our earliest days to today, every donation, purchase, and act of service has contributed to lasting impact across our communities. As we celebrate 100 years of Good, we want to emphasize our continued commitment to people, the planet, and progress, and the belief that...

GOLDMAN CENTER for FACIAL PLASTIC SURGERY

WTimeless Appeal of the Deep Plane Facelift

by MARTIE EMORY, photos b y JEJ PHOTOS

hile the deep plane facelift may be trending in your celebrity news feed these days, it’s definitely not a new concept on the facial plastic surgery scene!

Dr. Neal Goldman of the Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery knows this popular procedure well. Specializing in cosmetic, aesthetic and reconstructive facial surgery – with face and neck lifts still his most requested procedures – Dr. Goldman explains the back story of the deep plane facelift.

“I have been offering deep plane facelifts since 1996. Back then, patients weren’t as focused on procedures that promised the longest lasting results – everyone’s biggest fear was having their friends and neighbors know they had undergone a procedure at all. There was much more of a stigma surrounding facial plastic surgery in those days, and they mostly only wanted to focus on hiding the scars,” he explains.

Patients today are happily much more savvy and intent on landing the very best results – while not having to repeat a procedure every few years. Also a change from when he first came to the area from working in New York and on the west coast, Dr. Goldman notes the idea of facial plastic surgery is simply much more accepted overall.

“It’s just more welcomed in today’s culture,” he shares. “And, I’m seeing patients come in from all walks of life. If there’s an element of their face that bothers them on a daily basis, they want to hear options.”

Men also comprise a larger part of Dr. Goldman’s client base as they become more aware of their aging faces.

“Where men used to make up less than one percent of our clients, it’s now more like 10 or 15 percent which is a noticeable jump!”

A deep plane facelift is an advanced cosmetic surgery that rejuvenates the face by lifting and repositioning the deep facial tissues and muscles, also known as the SMAS layer. Unlike a more traditional lift that only tightens skin, the deep plane technique releases the retaining ligaments that pull the face downward, allowing the entire soft tissue area to be lifted.

Because deep plane facelifts work with a deeper layer of tissue, opening up the muscle larger and farther forward in the face, removing more tissue and fat can be done than before.

“That translates to better results in the jawline and cheeks, and helps avoid the look of ‘pulled back’ skin that often results from more superficial procedures,” he adds. “If a patient says they want the very best results possible, there’s no better option than a deep plane facelift.”

At the Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery you’ll appreciate the staff’s open communication – always based on honest expectations – where every patient is made to feel as comfortable as possible during every step of the process.

The staff uses computer imaging to project a patient’s face and neck from all possible angles, then schedules a heart-to-heart discussion of options for improvement, as well as treatment limitations. As always, it’s vitally important to consult with a qualified, board certified facial plastic surgeon to determine the best plan of action for your personal situation.

Conveniently located, you’ll find The Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery at 6318 Jessie Lane, Clemmons, NC, 336.245.9595, or the mountain satellite office, serving patients at 717 Greenway Road, Boone, NC, 828.278.9230. Visit FacialPlasticSurgeryNC.com to learn more about their services and HelpUsGiveSmiles.org to read more about Dr. Goldman’s involvement with medical mission trips via HUGS (Help Us Give Smiles).

“After my facelift I looked younger, with a beautiful jaw line, higher appearance of cheeks and a smoother, brighter look. It was perfect. Two of my friends who knew of my procedure said, ‘You look 30 years younger!’ You don’t simply work with Dr. Goldman, you have welcoming visits with Dr. Goldman. He looks at your face as a complete individual, asks what you are seeking and proceeds to help you see what’s possible. He’s a master at his profession and a genuinely caring individual. Not only does he see your face structure, he sees your face as an artist’s canvas, as well. When you see your results, you will smile!”

Every Indulgence You Deserve aeracura salons

by MARTIE EMORY

While every experience at Aeracura Salons is modeled to promote authentic self care while you’re basking in an ambiance of warmth and light, their newest addition to the Clemmons location is one of their most unique!

“We’ve opened our Himalayan Head Spa, which has really expanded our spa offerings, along with our relaxing private salt cave,” shares Owner and Master Stylist Christi Bradham. “Complementing the immersive Himalayan salt experience, the Himalayan Head Spa is vital to a complete pampering routine. As always, our goal is to create these treasured, restful moments of wellness for our guests.”

Just as amazing as it sounds, the Himalayan Head Spa incorporates scalp analysis, exfoliation, soothing water therapy, restorative hydration and scalp massage – all to improve scalp circulation to promote stronger hair. Christi also encourages adding the supremely indulgent rejuvenating facial or full body massage to create the ultimate relaxation package.

“When you book two or more spa services, we will happily include 15 minutes in our salt cave for free,” she adds. “We want everyone to feel completely pampered!”

Another exciting introduction to both Aeracura Salons locations this spring is their new skincare line by Aveda – Advanced Botanical Kinetics.

“Using plant energy, this new skincare line plumps, firms and gives your skin a glowing radiance,” Christi explains. “All of our skincare professional ritual facials will be implementing this new line of plant-based products, restoring natural beauty to your skin every day. Aveda researchers have been perfecting these ingredients for the last few years, and the outcome is amazing.”

A new vegan Phytotech collagen harvested from plants will plump your skin with hydration, while the vegan peptide complex instantly and visibly firms and smoothes, leaving your skin restored with youthful vitality.

“It’s 96% naturally derived, 100% vegan (so no harsh chemicals or harsh reddening processes) and 100% of people have seen immediate results!” Christi adds.

Aniya Williams – lead esthetician from the Aeracura Salons Reynolda Village team – describes Advanced Botanical Kinetics as a results-driven skincare system perfect for everyday use, as it’s derived from plant stem cells.

“Designed to closely mimic Type 1 collagen that’s naturally produced in our skin, these formulas help support the appearance of plumped, smoother and more hydrated skin, while promoting a healthy looking complexion,” Aniya shares. “Each individual product is created to work together as a complete

regimen to enhance overall skin comfort and hydration, while visibly smoothing from the very first use. Diminishing the look of fine lines, wrinkles and reversing the signs of aging, this line is for all skin types –including sensitive skin. I’m amazed by the hydrated glow that shines from my clients after using Advanced Botanical Kinetics during their facials. The smoothing and plumping properties of this line make clients’ confidence soar as soon as they step out of my room! With continued use of this line, the change in your skin will speak for itself.”

Inspiring that self-confidence, and ensuring guests always feel valued and heard, is a huge part of the promise made by all Aeracura Salons team members. It’s a heartfelt goal and genuine love you’ll feel at every visit!

If it’s time to enhance your own self care routine with one of their newest spa services or skincare lines, schedule a visit to Aeracura Salon located at 101A Reynolda Village in Winston-Salem, 336.448.0792, or Aeracura Salon & Spa located at 6265 Town Center Drive in Clemmons, 336.448.2044. Follow them online at aeracurasalon.com and on Instagram @aeracurasalon and @aeracurasalonwest. Salon hours at both locations are Tuesday through Friday 10 am – 8 pm and Saturday 9 am – 5 pm.

Keeping It Real

“KIND” WHEN NO ONE IS LOOKING

by DR. DEBBIE LANIER

Have you ever eaten a KIND® Bar? You know, those snacks that boast nutritional benefits but taste good, too? I’ve been known to grab a box at Costco occasionally.

I thought that was all I needed to know about these nourishing snacks. But nope! I heard something recently that seared something entirely different upon my heart. I’ll never look at KIND® Bars the same way again.

When asked about his reasoning for the product’s name, the owner’s voice softened and his demeanor stilled.

You see, Daniel Lubetzky, who created the KIND® Bar, happens to be the son of a Holocaust survivor.

As you can imagine, Daniel’s father kept many of those experiences to himself, the terror too vile for words. Reliving the trauma proved too agonizing. But, in a rare moment when Daniel’s father felt compelled to vocalize his remembrances, he mentioned one Nazi officer among the sea of soldiers tormenting the Jews.

Nazi soldiers trained to become proficient in terrorizing the Jews who managed to endure another day. They were thrilled to watch prisoners succumb to starvation and disease before they ever arrived at the gas chambers.

However, Daniel’s dad began to share through his tears how he survived to even have a son to tell. “You see, that one Nazi officer waited until no one was looking, then often threw me a potato.”

Unless you know what it means to literally be at death’s door from

starvation, it’s impossible to realize the significance of this courageous act.

The perceived enemy put his life on the line to feed one he was supposed to loathe and even eliminate.

When nine-year-old Daniel heard his dad recount this brave moment, it profoundly altered something within him. Even this young, naïve boy recognized that without that soldier’s kindness and courage, Daniel would likely not be alive today.

THIS inspired him to call his upstart company…KIND! (I told you it’s impossible to see a KIND® Bar the same way again!)

That one brave soldier could have never imagined in that moment that the imprisoned, desperate child would one day have a son. And this son would build his whole company upon spreading KINDness around the world, all because (and only because) of this soldier’s actions.

This whole scenario leaves me asking myself…what small thing can I do that may eventually make a big difference?

Where can I color outside the lines of what is expected for the purpose of helping someone that everyone else can’t, for the life of them, see?

My Faith in Jesus doesn’t just encourage me to do this. He requires it of those who dare to follow in His footsteps. He expects such KINDness of those who conform their lives to look like His!

People all around us are hurting. Some who seem the most put together are precisely the ones who feel like everything is coming apart.

What if we truly noticed the people we engage in a day? What if we went

the extra mile to ensure they feel seen and cherished, too? What if we simply looked them in the eyes and helped them realize they are not alone?

I don’t pretend to compare my actions with that of this bold soldier, but I do believe we ALL can act courageously and compassionately. And, when we do, more can come from it than we dare to imagine in this moment!

So, what are we waiting for? Let’s dare to believe our KINDness can alter the entire trajectory of someone’s life… BECAUSE IT CAN!

For comments or prayer, please contact Dr. Lanier at HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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PTKH Syndrome, or Working Through Things

by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

One of the things I love about the start of a brand new, spanking fresh year is the built in excuse to go a little mad with organizing and tossing. Some of you know exactly what I mean, while others are thinking, “Ugh. I dread it!” Honestly, I get both reactions. For some of us, it’s a high. Maybe it’s a personality type or trait, or something we do because our mom did. Others do it precisely because our moms didn’t, so it’s a wee act of rebellion or a hyper reaction. Okay, now I’m getting lost in the psychological weeds of an obsession I know only too well. For those who dread the hue and cry of people like me, I understand. Going through closets, drawers, files, piles, nooks and crannies can feel like cruel punishment.

And, there’s another reason we always or at least sometimes avoid the organize and toss ritual – it can be hard to part with our things. After all, with any given thing, we:

May need it, you know, someday.

Consider that it’s perfectly good. It would be wasteful to throw it away.

Recall that Great Aunt Sarah gave it to us when….

Paid good money for that overpriced item and better make use of it.

So, the hanging on and the reluctance to let go takes hold. And there is yet another reason which I refer to as the “pointy-toed kitten heels syndrome.” Too long, so let’s just go with “PTKH.” My actual pointy-toed kitten heels no longer hang from a shoe rack being taken over by more orthopedically friendly footwear. They sit in a large, labeled “Consignment” bin. Orchid colored suede with two tiny strips of orchid patent leather. They still make me swoon. But, parked in idle, they would never see the light of day – or the chill of night – if I continued to hold on.

That’s what PTKH syndrome is all about – a holding on that has little to do with practicality, sentimentality or guilt over good money spent. It’s more personal than all of that. It’s the sense of self that a thing, a “mere” thing embodies. Those orchid kitten heels exuded confidence while giving me confidence. They expressed my creative side while reinforcing it. They made me feel authentic – a grown-up version of that three year old prancing around in her grandma’s babushka (European headscarf) and her mother’s 1960s “pocketbook.” That’s hard to let go of because it’s not the shoes; it’s the me that could wear them; the me that inhabited a sense of self, a physical being and a life that time and age have altered.

There is a lot of “altering” going on at this point, and I needn’t subject you to my list because you have your own. As 2025 drew to a close, I realized that I needed to address my PTKH, my longing to hold onto things that reflected who I was in a different stage of my journey. Here’s the shift that has helped me to do so – instead of focusing on what I have lost, what is slipping away with the passage of time and the process of aging, I am loving and appreciating who I have been. Flashing back to the many stages of my life, I think, “Dang, that was awesome. How fortunate I was to have:

Been this. Done this. Seen this. Had this.”

No one and nothing can take away any of it because it lives in my heart and in my memory – a chronicle of my lived life.

I am about to add a few more items to that box headed for consignment. But now, instead of feeling longing or melancholy, I am mostly filled with gratitude. That, and the renewed commitment to being the best of who I am now –at every stage left to me.

The good news? Retirees are living longer. The bad news? Many aren’t planning for it financially.

Life expectancy is a key piece of retirement planning. After all, you’ll need to estimate your lifespan to determine how much money you’ll need to retire comfortably. Many preretirees speculate on this figure or overlook it entirely.

So, how long will you live? While no one has a crystal ball, the Social Security Administration provides an Actuarial Life Table that estimates the average man who lives to age 65 will make it to 82, while the average woman will make it to 85 . That’s not 30 years, but this isn’t an area where you want to estimate low.

Given the reality of increased longevity, retirement planning strategies must adapt. Here are some key considerations to help ensure financial stability throughout your golden years.

SAVING EARLY

It’s crucial to start saving for retirement as early as possible, even more so than previous generations. With the help of a financial advisor, create a plan that accounts for inflation and possible medical expenses that may come with old age. Beware of simple “rules of thumb” when it comes to retirement savings and get a professional opinion.

Making Dollars, Making $ense

Are You Prepared for a 30-Year

Retirement?

BY BRANDON JAMES, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

DELAYING SOCIAL SECURITY

If you anticipate a longer life expectancy, it’s worth considering postponing your Social Security benefit. For every year you delay collecting beyond your full retirement age, your monthly payouts rise by 8%, up to age 70. After that, there’s no further increase. You can gauge your monthly benefit for different ages using your real income records.

MAKING CATCH-UP CONTRIBUTIONS

As you get closer to retirement, consider catch-up contributions. These allow older savers to add extra amounts to tax-advantaged retirement accounts without surpassing IRS limits. In essence, it’s an opportunity to invest more now to ensure a larger fund during retirement.

DELAYING RETIREMENT

Naturally, postponing retirement is one way to account for a longer life span. Pushing back a few years could make all the difference. This may give you an opportunity to add additional contributions, avoid withdrawals and to grant your funds more time for potential growth.

PHASING INTO RETIREMENT

Some individuals may choose to transition into part-time work rather than fully retiring, to supplement income and stay active. For instance, a music enthusiast might take up a position at a local record store or offer lessons to budding musicians. Or, perhaps, your career enables a phasing out approach, working fewer days or hours on your way to full retirement.

PLANNING FOR HEALTHCARE NEEDS

Longer life often comes with increased healthcare needs. Therefore, planning for long-term care and medical expenses, including possible insurance policies, is a vital component of longevity planning.

ADJUSTING YOUR INVESTMENT STRATEGY

Commonly, asset allocation as you near retirement involves a shift from more risky to more conservative investments. However, with the possibility of living 30 or more years into retirement, maintaining some level of growth-oriented investments may be necessary to ensure that savings can keep up with the costs of living and healthcare.

Are there other factors to consider when it comes to longevity? Absolutely. But hopefully, this list gets you thinking about the importance of proper planning. Longevity is a gift that presents both opportunities and challenges. By recognizing the implications of increased life expectancy on retirement and proactively planning for longevity, retirees can ensure they are well prepared to enjoy their golden years without the burden of financial stress.

"Actuarial Life Table." Social Security Administration, 12 Apr. 2022, www.ssa.gov/oact/STATS/table4c6. html. Accessed 9 Aug. 2023.

Carlson, Bob. "Here's More Evidence In Favor Of Delaying Social Security Benefits." Forbes, 24 Feb. 2023, www.forbes.com/ sites/bobcarlson/2023/02/24/heres-moreevidence-in-favor-of-delaying-social-securitybenefits/?sh=3fcf61166e96. Accessed 9 Aug. 2023.

"Longevity Risk: Could You Outlive Your Savings?" Charles Schwab, 9 Jun. 2023, www.schwab.com/ learn/story/longevity-risk-could-you-outlive-yoursavings. Accessed 9 Aug. 2023.

NEUROPATHY Get Help Before It Gets Worse

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Kkristin johnson speaks Sharing Stories & Changing Lives

by MARTIE EMORY, photos by JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

ristin Johnson is filled with unmistakable joy about her newest journey, and she can’t wait for you to join her!

In the meantime, she shares her morning mantra.

“My daily motivation begins with one simple practice. Before I put my feet on the ground, I quietly say, ‘Good morning, God. I’m available.’ It helps me stay grounded in the day, whether that’s pouring into my children as their mom, spending time with my husband and parents, showing up for community, preparing a keynote, recording a podcast, doing the dishes or stepping onstage.”

If you’re ever part of her audience, she’ll ask the same of you. Are you available for what God created you to be? Are you available for your family or for leadership in your community? She’ll remind you the only way to truly know what’s next is to jump in!

Kristin now leads a professional speaking and event-hosting brand, partnering with organizations and companies to deliver keynotes, emcee events and facilitate meaningful conversations.

A Forsyth County girl through-and-through, Kristin is a Winston-Salem native who spent 16 years as Director of Historic Broyhill in Clemmons.

“I had the privilege of working alongside incredible colleagues and building relationships with business owners, tenants and community leaders who shaped my life as much as I hope I shaped that space,” shares Kristin. “Those years left me committed to helping people and organizations flourish together.”

Kristin first realized her passion for public speaking during her first term as President

of the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce.

“I was honestly nervous and still remember standing in front of the membership that first month with a sheet of paper in my hand that was visibly shaking. The second month was the same. By the third month, I had the bright idea to use thicker paper just to hide my nerves. Somewhere around month four or five, the nerves began to fade and something surprising happened. I realized I was actually looking forward to being up there. I enjoyed it!”

As requests to emcee events and lead workshops started coming her way, Kristin felt that inner spark.

“Those speaking invitations kept coming, and the more I said ‘yes,’ the more I felt energized by the work,” she shares. “I knew this was something I was being gently called to do and something I needed to pursue more fully.”

Now, with her new venture of full-time public speaking in full swing, you’ll catch a glimpse of Kristin, the storyteller.

“I’ve always loved telling a good story because it has a way of drawing people in. It helps an audience feel they aren’t alone in what they have experienced. When you hear someone describe a moment that is funny, familiar or even uncomfortable, something shifts. People start thinking, hey, that’s happened to me, too!”

If you’ve attended a Kristin Johnson-led event, you’ve seen her tap into both humor and honesty to create real connection.

“It becomes less about me and more about the people in the room feeling seen, understood and encouraged to reflect on their lives. When people ask who my audience is, my answer is simple: human beings. If you’re a person with

a story, with emotions or with challenges, there’s space for you in the conversation.”

As an emcee, Kristin immerses herself in connecting perfect strangers.

“My responsibility is to step on stage and weave that golden thread of connection between people who may not know each other – yet. When that happens, it becomes more than a program. It becomes a shared human experience, with maybe even life changing next steps.”

Kristin’s own experiences have shaped her engaging style. “I’ve emceed an entire event where my co-host spoke only Swahili, and I was one of the only English-speaking people in the room. It was a beautiful night because human connection goes deeper than language. I’ve spoken to groups far outside my own world – like scientists – and the same thing holds true. When you speak to people as people first, you create comfort and belonging.”

Kristin’s first book titled, I’m Available: How to Receive and Live Your Unique Purpose is set to release in late summer. She dubbed it an invitation to live fearlessly in pursuit of what you were created to do. “Each of us carries a unique set of gifts, and the book helps readers reflect on what it means to be available for the things that lead to a meaningful life.”

This is just the beginning! Join Kristin’s growing community by following Kristin Johnson Speaks for continued stories, purpose-driven leadership and book release updates.

Visit Kristinjohnsonspeaks.com, and follow her on Instagram @kristinjohnsonspeaks.

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Triple Crown Celebrates a Milestone in the Triad Night Cheers to five years!

by TARA COPPEDGE, DIRECTOR OF MARKETING & COMMUNICATIONS, PRETTY IN PINK FOUNDATION

photos by AURA MARZOUK PHOTOGRAPHY

Mark your calendars and get ready to celebrate. Pretty In Pink Foundation is hosting the 5th Annual Triple Crown Casino Night on Friday, April 17th at Legacy Stables and Events in Winston-Salem. This milestone event has become the signature fundraising celebration in the Triad, blending high energy entertainment with a powerful, lifesaving mission.

What began five years ago as a bold new idea has grown into one of the region’s most anticipated nights out. Triple Crown Casino Night invites guests to go all in for Pretty In Pink Foundation, which provides uninsured and under-insured breast cancer patients across North Carolina with financial assistance for quality, lifesaving medical treatment.

The anniversary celebration promises to raise the bar yet again. This year’s event will debut a sparkling champagne reception to kick off the evening, setting the tone for an unforgettable night. Guests will enjoy a gourmet dinner, a lively live auction and a lineup of exciting casino-style games. New this year are a high-energy “Spin to Win” game and an exciting new raffle, in addition to fan-favorite experiences and incredible prizes, including the ever-popular diamond giveaway.

“Triple Crown Casino Night has grown into something truly special for our community,” said Director of Business Development for Pretty In Pink Foundation Sayla Nedell. “As we celebrate our fifth anniversary, we are so excited to introduce new experiences that elevate the evening while staying true to what matters most – supporting breast cancer patients when they need it most.”

At the heart of the celebration is Pretty In Pink Foundation’s mission to remove financial barriers to lifesaving care. Many of the patients the foundation serves, known as Champions, are hardworking individuals who find themselves overwhelmed by the cost of treatment following a breast cancer diagnosis.

“Too many of our Champions are forced to choose between paying for medical treatment and covering basic living expenses,” Nedell explained. “Our role is to step in during that moment of crisis and eliminate those financial obstacles, so patients can focus on healing and survival rather than bills.”

Pretty In Pink Foundation provides direct financial assistance for surgeries, chemotherapy administration, radiation, insurance co-pays, deductibles, premiums and COBRA coverage. Payments are made directly to medical providers, easing stress

and allowing patients to prioritize their health. Since Pretty In Pink was founded in 2004, they’ve served thousands of breast cancer patients across the state. The organization does not receive state or federal funding and relies on the generosity of the community.

Triple Crown Casino Night has become more than a fundraiser. It is a celebration of hope, resilience and community spirit. Each year, supporters from across the Triad come together to enjoy a night of entertainment while making a tangible difference in the lives of local breast cancer patients.

“The energy in the room is incredible,” said Nedell. “While our guests have an amazing time, they also know that they’re supporting breast cancer patients currently in active treatment in our community.”

As Pretty In Pink Foundation toasts five years of Triple Crown Casino Night, the impact continues to grow. This anniversary event is a chance to celebrate how far the event has come and to invest in the lives it will continue to change.

For tickets, sponsorship opportunities or additional information, visit onecau.se/ tccn26 or contact Sayla Nedell at snedell@ prettyinpinkfoundation.org.

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A Visit to the Library Can Help Protect Your Heart

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In Forsyth County, a simple visit to the local library now offers a resource that has the potential to save lives. Libraries with Heart is an initiative led by the American Heart Association in the Triad that makes consistent blood pressure monitoring accessible to more members of the community. Through this initiative, public libraries across the county are becoming hubs for self-measured blood pressure monitoring, education, and community wellness.

This innovative effort is made possible through the collaboration of Forsyth County library directors, the Forsyth County Department of Public Health, and key community champions, including Sherita Sutton, who represents the Department of Public Health and sits on the board of the American Heart Association in the Triad. Their shared goal is to make preventative health tools accessible to every resident, right where they live, learn, and gather.

A SIMPLE TOOL WITH A BIG IMPACT

High blood pressure is often called “the silent killer,” and for good reason. It places ongoing strain on the heart and arteries, forcing the heart to pump harder to circulate blood. Over time, this leads to arterial stiffness, thickening of the heart muscle, increased risk of heart failure, and greater likelihood of lifethreatening complications such as stroke and coronary artery disease.

Forsyth County libraries see hundreds and thousands of adults each year, and placing these self-measured blood pressure monitoring stations within these

public spaces makes it easier than ever for community members to check and track their health.

When individuals consistently monitor their blood pressure, they are empowered to take preventative steps like:

• Reducing sodium intake

• Getting regular physical activity

• Managing stress

• Recognizing early signs of hypertension that need medical attention

These small, informed actions add up to healthier futures and longer lives.

A COUNTYWIDE RESOURCE WITH COMMUNITYWIDE IMPACT

With every public library participating, the Libraries with Heart initiative has the potential to reach a broad audience of Forsyth County residents, from parents bringing their children to programs, to older adults attending workshops, to students using public Wi-Fi to complete homework.

Libraries have long been trusted community anchors and now, they are also becoming touchpoints for preventive healthcare.

Early visitors to the monitoring stations have shared that the convenience, privacy, and simplicity of the stations make them especially appealing. For many, it is their first time regularly checking their blood pressure outside a clinic and that accessibility can be life changing.

FUELED BY COMMUNITY GENEROSITY: THE HEART BALL CONNECTION

The Libraries with Heart initiative are also a shining example of how Heart Ball fundraising translates directly into community impact.

The Heart Ball, the pinnacle event of the year-round Heart of the Triad campaign, unites business leaders, healthcare partners, and community advocates to improve cardiovascular health across the region. Funds raised through the Heart Ball make initiatives like Libraries with Heart possible.

The relationship between libraries and health organizations demonstrates how philanthropy, public service, and community leadership can work together to create a healthier Forsyth County.

LEARN MORE & GET INVOLVED

Two Forsyth County libraries have already debuted the new stations, drawing local interest and media attention. More branches will roll out resources in the coming months as part of the initiative’s expansion.

Want to get involved in the Heart Ball? Visit: www.heart.org/triadheartball

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MISSION VISION VALUES

What Are They and Why Do They Matter?

by LESLIE SPEAS

Let’s be honest, for many organizations, mission, vision and values (MVV) live on the website or on a framed poster in the hallway that no one actually reads. They sound nice, but they don’t always do anything.

This is a problem because, when done well, these three elements aren’t fluff. They’re the backbone of strong leadership, healthy workplace culture and sustainable success.

Let’s break them down in plain English.

MISSION VISION VALUES

Your mission answers one simple question: Why do we exist today?

It’s about purpose and impact. A strong mission clarifies who you serve, what you do and why it matters. It should guide everyday decisions – from how you treat customers to how you support employees. If your team can’t explain your mission without looking it up, it’s probably too complicated or unrealistic.

SO, WHY DOES ALL THIS MATTER?

Your vision is about the future. It answers: Where are we going?

Vision gives people something to work toward. It creates momentum and meaning, especially during times of change. A compelling vision helps employees see how their work today connects to something bigger tomorrow. Without it, organizations tend to get stuck in survival mode, meaning they are busy but not very intentional.

Because when MVV are clear and demonstrated consistently, there is trust, clarity and alignment. People understand expectations. They make better decisions without being micromanaged. And they’re far more likely to stay, perform and thrive.

I’ve worked with many organizations that come to me as an HR consultant saying, “We have an engagement problem,” or “People just don’t care anymore.” Often, what’s really missing is clarity. Employees want to know: What are we building? Why does it matter? Do our leaders actually believe this stuff? MVV (when done well): answer these questions.

When your MVV are clear, it’s easier to say “yes” to the right opportunities and “no” to the wrong ones. They become a filter for decisions and priorities.

Your values define how you do the work.

This is where things often go sideways. Values guide how people behave and work towards your mission and vision. They’re what you’re willing to protect, reward and sometimes make hard decisions around. If collaboration is a value, but toxic behavior is tolerated, the value isn’t real. Values show up in who gets hired, promoted, coached or discharged.

HERE’S A SIMPLE GUT CHECK:

• Can you clearly explain your organization’s mission in one or two sentences?

• Does your vision energize and inspire people?

• Do your values show up in daily behaviors, not just words?

If the answer is “no” or “not really,” there are opportunities. If you are part of an organization, you may not have much control over this, but you can impact it within your sphere of influence. If you are a business leader or senior leader, you can help to right and steer the ship.

MVV aren’t meant to sit on a wall. They’re meant to show up in conversations, decisions and leadership moments, especially when things get hard. When they do, they become a powerful force for alignment, trust and long term success.

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STORIES TO BE LEARY OF

Phone scammers rely on familiar narratives simply because they work.

“There’s a problem with your bank account.”

The caller claims suspicious activity and asks you to “verify” account numbers, passwords or one-time security codes.

“You are past due on an account.” They threaten legal action unless immediate payment is made, perhaps via gifts cards, wire transfer or, in some instances, cryptocurrency.

“Your computer or phone has been hacked.”

Posing as tech support, they convince victims to install remote-access software, giving scammers full control of devices and personal data.

“A loved one is in trouble.”

One of the most devastating scams is when callers impersonate a grandchild, police officer or attorney and beg for fast cash to alleviate a troubling situation or arrest that your loved one finds themselves in.

“You’ve won a prize, but you have to pay a fee to receive it.”

Fake lottery or sweepstakes request upfront payments to “release” winnings that don’t exist.

WHY OLDER ADULTS ARE OFTEN THE TARGET OF SCAMMERS

Older adults are disproportionately the targets of phone scammers and not because they are careless or naive.

Many grew up in the era where phone calls were trusted by default, authority

The Call That Lies Inside the Stories Scammers Tell and How to Shut Them Down

by CAROLYN SHORE PETERSON

The phone rings. The number looks local. The voice on the other end sounds official, calm, often friendly. Within seconds, the caller has created an urgency that needs your attention; a compromised account, an unpaid bill, a loved one in trouble or a missed delivery.

This is how modern phone scammers operate. Their stores are carefully rehearsed, emotionally charged and designed to completely override logic before you have time to think and process what you are hearing.

figures were rarely questioned and financial matters were handled verbally, not digitally.

Scammers exploit this trust, along with factors like social insulation, hearing difficulties or unfamiliarity with rapidly changing technology. According to consumer protection agencies, older victims also tend to lose larger sums because they often have savings, pensions or home equity.

This is exploitation, not embarrassment and should be seen as such.

BE AWARE OF THE RED FLAGS

No matter the story, scams share common warning signs:

• Urgency: “Act now or else!”

• Secrecy: “Don’t tell anyone!”

• Unusual payment method: Gift cards, wire transfers, etc.

• Requests for codes or passwords: Legitimate institutions never ask.

• Caller ID spoofing: The number looks real but isn’t.

If any of these are present, pause. That pause is powerful and gives you time to think and consider the situation.

THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH A SPAM CALL

The safest response is also the simplest: Do Not Engage!

If you are unsure:

1. Hang up first. Never remain on the line to “verify.”

2. Independently verify. Call your bank, utility or agency using the number on the statement.

3. Do not press buttons or say “yes.” Some scammers record responses.

4. Block the number. Even though scammers rotate numbers, it still helps.

5. Report the call. Use your phone carrier, state consumer office or national reporting tools.

WHAT TO TELL OLDER LOVED ONES

If you have parents, grandparents or older neighbors, talk openly and often about scams. Reassure them of these truths:

• No real institution demands immediate payment by phone.

• It is okay and smart to simply hang up.

• Asking for help in these situations is a strength, not a failure.

Consider creating a simple rule together: Any call asking for money or account access requires a second opinion.

THE BOTTOM LINE

Scammers succeed by telling believable stories under pressure. The antidote is not fear, but clarity.

You do not owe anyone on the phone your time, your money or your personal information. When in doubt, hang up! Real help will still be there when you call back…on your own terms.

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Most organizations say their people are their greatest asset, but few can confidently say they’ve built an employee experience that helps those people perform, grow and stay.

That’s because employee experience isn’t just about perks, engagement surveys or the annual offsite. It’s the sum of every moment an employee has with your organization, from hire to retire.

WHAT IS THE EMPLOYEE EXPERIENCE, REALLY?

The employee experience is what people actually live every day at work, including the clarity they have, the support they feel, the growth they experience and their feelings about the workplace culture.

It’s shaped by three key things:

• Systems (processes, structures, tools)

• Practices (how leaders and teams operate day to day)

• Leadership Habits (communication, expectations, feedback, recognition, accountability)

When these elements are strong, employees are more engaged and loyal. When they’re unclear or inconsistent, you will likely experience things like turnover, frustration, rework, drama, confusion and lower performance. Organizations rarely struggle because people don’t care. They struggle because people lack clarity, support or development. And, that’s where the Blueprint comes in.

FIVE CATEGORIES THAT SHAPE EVERY WORKPLACE

Five core categories influence how employees feel, perform and stay. Strength in these areas creates a cohesive, fulfilling employee experience. Weakness in any area creates friction.

What Today's Employees Really Need

by LESLIE SPEAS

These categories are:

CLARITY & ALIGNMENT

Employees can’t meet expectations they don’t understand. This category looks at:

• Job clarity

• Role expectations

• Communication practices

• Mission, vision and values alignment

When clarity is missing, employees fill in the blanks. And, as you can imagine, they often do this incorrectly. When it is strong, people know what they need to do to succeed and why their work is meaningful.

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PERFORMANCE & FEEDBACK SYSTEMS

Employees thrive when they receive consistent, fair and constructive feedback. This category includes:

• Goal setting

• Coaching practices

• Positive and constructive feedback

• Performance reviews

• Accountability systems

• Performance improvement

Great cultures aren’t punitive. They’re supportive and developmental, helping employees grow and leaders lead with confidence.

3

LEADERSHIP & MANAGER EFFECTIVENESS

In most organizations, employees don’t quit companies or jobs. They leave poor leadership.

This area includes:

• Manager capability

• Communication habits

• Trust building

• Delegation

• Conflict management

• Psychological safety

In my opinion, managers shape the everyday employee experience more than any other factor. They impact 70% of an employee’s motivation according to Gallup and, according to a recent study by Getty, have the same impact on an employee’s mental health as their spouse or

partner. Investing in their development is one of the highest ROI decisions an organization can make.

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GROWTH, DEVELOPMENT & CAREER PATHWAYS

Employees want to know they can grow within your organization. This category is encompassed by:

• Training programs

• Onboarding

• Development plans

• Succession planning

• Mentorship/coaching opportunities

Organizations that prioritize growth are three times more likely to retain employees. They also build internal pipelines and futureproof their talent needs.

5 This isn’t soft stuff. This is strategy.

CULTURE, ENGAGEMENT & WELL BEING

Culture isn’t your values on the wall. It’s how people behave when no one is watching.

This section involves:

• Core values in action

• Recognition

• Inclusion and belonging

• Communication norms

• Well being practices

• Employee voice

A strong culture lifts all of these categories. A weak one erodes even the best systems and strategies.

WHY THE EMPLOYEE EXPERIENCE MATTERS MORE THAN EVER

We’re living in a time where employees expect more from their organizations.

Organizations that invest in the employee experience aren’t just “nice places to work.” They’re:

• More profitable

• More innovative

• More resilient

• Better at attracting talent

• Stronger at retaining high performers

• More aligned and operationally healthy

by TARYN JEREZ

A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!

Rebecca Solis-Wanous | Henna & Jagua Artist

This month, we have the pleasure of featuring a truly unique artform mastered by the talented Rebecca Solis-Wanous. As a henna and jagua artist, Rebecca creates intentional, body-based work that invites presence and appreciation – redefining what it means to wear art, even if only for a moment.

How would you describe your work?

My art is a mix of modern henna and traditional mehndi with whimsical elements. For Jagua tattoos, I love being inspired by permanent tattoos for a similar look without the commitment. I love that henna is an ephemeral art which means it has to be intentionally appreciated in the present moment before it fades.

What was your journey to becoming a henna artist like?

It all started because my mother lived in Nairobi, Kenya as a teenager and she took me to visit family friends when I was 16. Trying henna for the first time changed the way I saw my body as the canvas to the art and without it, there would be no art. I practiced my henna from high school into college slowly but consistently. I explored other types of entrepreneurship that gave me a wide range of skills until I felt confident enough to go full time into henna four years ago. This year will be my 10th anniversary!

How have you grown, personally, as an artist?

My growth has been with the help of other small businesses in the Winston Salem community. Being able to take appointments at D.O.S.E Artist Collective and pop-ups at Art Crush really helped. I felt so supported by my community that it helped me in my confidence. Over the past two years, I finally overcame imposter syndrome and can call myself a full time artist in a variety of mediums. Support from family and friends has encouraged me to boldly follow my dreams.

What is your secret for carving out time to truly be creative?

My career is creative in different ways that helps fuel my creativity. I also offer wedding and portrait photography, web design, as well as lead paint and sip classes. Burnout is the killer of creativity, so carving out rest is essential. I take off December and January to refuel and set intentions for the next season.

Do you have a favorite story behind one of your projects/clients/workshops and why?

This last year was the first time having a henna workshop

at Dabble Art Bar that allowed me to step into the role of teacher, which is something that I hadn’t done before. I helped facilitate others’ experience of their own joy and calm while applying henna. Henna puts you in a meditative state of being present in the moment, and I enjoyed seeing the class quietly focus on their own art. In the age of AI and phone addiction, I’m proud to offer community spaces where people can gather to be creative!

What are you working on that excites you right now?

In 2025, I was a vendor at Shakori Hills and Leaf Global Arts, and this year’s goal is to continue offering workshops and vending at larger festivals. I want to start doing thrifted one of a kind merch with bleached henna designs that allow the art to live longer. A big dream of mine would be to road trip across the U.S. doing henna pop-ups as I go!

What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists?

Make 1% progress every day! That can be as little as making a post, reaching out to a connection or practicing your craft. For women, I also recommend cycle syncing your business. Rest is just as important as progress because it allows you the energy to grind when you need to. My motto is “done is better than perfection” because consistency is what matters the most!

If you are interested in learning more about this month’s artist, you can find their work online at buenahenna.com or follow them on Instagram at @buenahenna.

Forsyth Firsts

Miksch Drugstore

by DEBBIE

AMERICA’S DRUGSTORE EVOLUTION

A typical drugstore in the late 1700s was a modest, utilitarian space lined with counters and cabinets brimming with glass bottles and jars filled with elixirs, pills, spices, salves and herbs. Shelves were stocked with popular remedies such as Richard Stoughton’s Bitters, perfumes, beauty items, toiletries and domestic essentials. Over time, drugstores expanded their offerings, and by the 1850s, carbonated “soda water,” a fizzy remedy hailed for its curative powers, was a hot commodity. Druggists even made and marketed their own “secret formulas” which used such ingredients as cocaine and caffeine – completely legal as every drug was over the counter. In 1888, pharmacist Jacob Baur started producing carbon dioxide in tanks, which led to the rise of soda fountains. By the early 1920s, they were common in American drugstores and staffed with a soda jerk behind the counter (named for the “jerking” motion of pulling the soda dispenser levers).

Fast forward to today where the majority of drugstores offer customers one-stopshop convenience for prescriptions, OCM, personal care items, cosmetics, household goods, photo services and enough snacks to rival a small grocery store. Although classic soda fountains have mostly disappeared, a few still remain in North Carolina, offering a taste of nostalgia and keeping this piece of Americana alive. For example, Gene Oldham, owner of S&T’s Soda Shoppe in downtown Pittsboro has recreated the ambiance of a 1900-1940 soda fountain and invites visitors to “come enjoy a shake and a smile, reminisce about the past and make memories for the future” (sandtsodashoppe.com/ourhistory).

SALEM’S FIRST PRIVATE HOMEOWNER

Johann Mattheus Miksch was born in Germany in 1731, and, at the age of 23, made the voyage to the New World as part of the organized Moravian church migration and arrived in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. A decade later, he married Maria Christina Henrietta Petermann and moved to Bethabara where he worked in the community store, a church-owned retail center where the Brethren did business with non-Moravians (historicbethabara.org). In the spring of 1770, Johann and his family moved to Salem and by November, Johann began oversight of the construction of their home on South Main Street. It would be the first privately owned family home in Old Salem. Historical documents show that while smaller than most in Salem, their house duplicated the style and floor plan typical of early Salem. It was a log dwelling covered with beaded weatherboards and painted – one of the first Salem homes which did not have exposed half-timbered walls. By April 1771, the year the Salem congregation officially formed, the Miksch family had moved into their new home.

MIKSCH TOBACCO SHOP, EST. 1771

It appears as though Johann was a rather “sickly man” upon arrival in Salem and was without a concrete plan to provide for his family’s daily needs. However, his reputation for being “a very conscientious person” encouraged the church leaders to guide him into a “suitable profession.” With their permission, Miksch opened a modest home-based shop which allowed him to earn a living “by selling candles, shaving products, oil and whale oil, garden seeds,

pickled cucumbers, dried fruit and the like, as well as making snuff and fine-cut tobacco” (cityofws.org). Archived documents indicate that shortly after the Miksch family moved in, a portion of the home was enlarged and adapted into a retail space – complementing other businesses built during that period (potter and blacksmith shops, the tavern and the Gemein Haus). Despite early warnings from church leaders that Miksch might “have a hard time in the beginning,” Johann quickly proved them wrong, finding success selling his goods to Moravians, locals and passerby alike. He also made soap and bound books (for which he had been previously trained), and his wife contributed by baking and selling gingerbread. Over time, Johann prospered as a shop owner and gained recognition for the quality of his “fine tobacco products.” Although the house functioned as a drugstore for a time, the later restoration highlighted Miksch’s processing and selling of tobacco. Old Salem acquired the property in 1958, and by 1960, it had been restored to its 1785 exterior and was dedicated as a historic house for Old Salem Museums & Gardens. A true historical treasure, the Miksch Tobacco Shop is the oldest standing log structure in Old Salem, and it is the oldest tobacco shop still located on its original site in America.

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Refresh the Heart of the Home

Spring is the perfect season to breathe new life into your home, and a kitchen remodel is one of the most impactful ways to do so. As the heart of the home, the kitchen sets the tone for both everyday living and special gatherings. Longer days and renewed energy make spring an ideal time to reimagine how your kitchen functions and feels – whether that means improving flow, upgrading finishes or creating a space that truly supports how you cook and entertain. A thoughtful remodel can transform your kitchen into a bright, inviting space that feels both refreshed and timeless.

One of our favorite past projects was for a client who loved to cook and frequently entertained family and friends. The design centered around a generous countertop and prep space to make meal preparation effortless, paired with high-end appliances that could handle everything from weeknight dinners to holiday hosting. We selected inlay Shaker-style cabinetry for its classic craftsmanship and clean lines, incorporated panel-ready appliances to maintain a seamless, cohesive look throughout the space and finished off everything with gold hardware and fixtures for a timeless aesthetic. The result was a kitchen that felt sophisticated yet warm – highly functional for serious cooking, while still elegant and welcoming for entertaining. A spring remodel like this not only elevates your kitchen’s design, but also enhances how you experience your home every day.

Our portfolio is listed on our website (junedelugasinteriors.com) under “Design Projects.” You can see some of our projects from the past 10 years and how we specialize in giving every home a timeless and elegant look that will last for years to come. The first step is picking up the phone and reaching out to our design team, who will serve as your designer and licensed general contractor, for a consultation. We look forward to discussing your dream turnkey kitchen remodel with you.

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DYNAMIS DASH 5K RUN & WALK THE POWER OF WELLNESS & CONNECTION

As spring settles into the foothills of North Carolina, runners, walkers and community supporters will gather on Saturday, April 11, 2026 at Dynamis Estate Wines for the 2nd annual Dynamis Dash 5K Run and Walk.

This event invites participants to experience wellness, connection and purpose – set against the backdrop of a historic mountain estate. The race begins at 9:00 a.m.

More than a timed course, the Dynamis Dash 5K Run and Walk is designed to welcome seasoned runners, casual walkers and those simply looking for a memorable day outdoors. The event brings together fitness and hospitality in a setting unlike any other. Participants will follow a scenic 5K route that winds through century-old vineyards and rolling hills, offering sweeping views of the estate and surrounding landscape at every turn.

Proceeds from the event will support the Hugh Chatham Foundation, reinforcing the Dash’s commitment to community impact.

Each step along the course contributes to the Foundation’s ongoing efforts, making the experience meaningful far beyond the finish line.

Following the race, participants will be invited to celebrate their accomplishment with a thoughtful post-race experience. Runners and walkers will enjoy a gourmet lunch, and those 21 and over will also receive a glass of select wine, providing a relaxed and social atmosphere to unwind and connect.

Every registered participant will receive a custom athletic race shirt, serving as a lasting reminder of the day. For guests who prefer to take part in the celebration without running, a lunch-only ticket option is also available, ensuring the event remains inclusive for all supporters.

Early bird registration is currently open and will end on March 15th. With limited capacity and strong early interest, participants are encouraged to secure their spots early.

The Dynamis Dash 5K Run and Walk reflects the power of bringing people together through shared experiences. From the energy at the starting line to the conversations shared over lunch, the event is designed to foster community while supporting an important cause. It is not just about the distance covered – but the connections made and the impact created along the way, as well.

Visit dynamisdash5kfunrun.itsyourrace. com/register to register for the Dynamis Dash 5K Run and Walk. Early bird pricing is available for $50 through March 15th before increasing to $55 after that date. An “Under 21” package (with no wine included) is available for $40. For more information, contact Josh.Vogler@ Advocatehealth.org.

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Making History Without Burning Out

by JOY NELSON THOMAS

As we celebrate Women’s History Month, I find myself reflecting not only on the incredible women who have shaped our past, but on the women leading today, as well. Too often, brilliant, passionate and committed leaders are running on empty, carrying more than anyone should and risking their health to do meaningful work.

Lately, I have been watching the journey to burnout unfold around me not in dramatic ways, but in quiet, subtle shifts. I hear it in conversations with leaders who are tired in a way sleep cannot fix. I see it in calendars that are full while spirits feel low. The passion remains, but the space to breathe has disappeared.

Burnout is quiet. It looks like commitment and responsibility. It looks like showing up again because the work matters and the people matter. I have watched leaders I deeply respect carry more than anyone should. I watched them say “yes” when their bodies whispered “no.” I have watched them normalize exhaustion because the mission felt bigger than their own needs.

I have seen how easily urgency becomes culture. High capacity quickly turns into high expectation. We celebrate output but rarely ask about sustainability. The journey is not one big decision. It is a thousand small ones – one more meeting, one more call, one more event, one more thing.

Burnout does not come from a lack of passion. It comes from prolonged overextension without enough support. It comes from carrying vision without shared weight. It comes from believing that rest can wait until everything is done, even though everything is never done.

I have always thought about the well being of people, especially leaders. This year, I am choosing to lead differently by making that a priority in how I show up. I am setting boundaries that protect energy. I am checking in on the leaders around me; not just about results, but about how they are really doing, as well. I am naming “too much” before it becomes too late, because caring for the people leading this work is just as important as the work itself.

As we honor women’s history, I am reminded that our presence matters. We cannot shape the future for women if we are not healthy enough to lead it. We cannot leave a legacy while slowly depleting ourselves. Leadership and wellness are not opposites. They are inseparable.

Let us stop glorifying exhaustion. Let us stop equating overextension with excellence. Let us build teams and organizations where sustainability is part of the strategy from the start, not something we address after someone is already depleted.

If you are a leader, pause and ask yourself what you are modeling. Are you creating space for rest, or are you silently rewarding burnout? Are you sharing the weight or carrying it alone? Are you building something that can last or something that depends on constant sacrifice?

We cannot build strong organizations on exhausted leaders. If we want the work to outlive us, we must lead in a way that allows us to stay whole.

This Women’s History Month, we choose awareness, a rhythm and to lead in a way that keeps us well so we can be here to make history for the women behind us.

BY

JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

Brandy McMillian – Broker/Realtor® with Reel Realty Educating, Advocating & Caring

by MARTIE EMORY

As a top producer with Reel Realty in Kernersville, NC, Brandy McMillian credits her varied business experience with some of the “lessons” she’s learned along the way.

“My background has absolutely shaped the way I serve my clients today,” shares Brandy. “As a paralegal, I learned the importance of attention to precision, deadlines and clear communication – there’s no room for shortcuts when people’s futures and finances are involved. That experience taught me how to anticipate issues and advocate confidently while staying calm under pressure.”

Working in the mortgage industry also provided Brandy with valuable insight and a deep understanding into the financial side of homeownership.

“I saw firsthand how credit, income and lending guidelines can feel overwhelming for buyers, especially the first time,” she adds. “That knowledge allows me to better educate my clients, set realistic expectations and collaborate seamlessly with lenders. Together, both of those roles taught me how to protect my clients, guide them strategically and make a complex process feel manageable, achievable and even empowering –rather than intimidating.”

As a Broker/Realtor® with Reel Realty for a little more than five years, Brandy says even the job itself feels like home!

“We really are one big family! While I primarily serve the Triad area, including Guilford, Forsyth, Davidson, Davie, Stokes, Surry and surrounding counties, I’m licensed throughout North Carolina and go where my clients need me,” she shares. “I work closely with trusted referral partners nationwide to ensure my clients are taken care of wherever life leads them.”

Always mindful of Reel Realty’s core company values – integrity, honesty, accountability, compassion, collaboration and respect – Brandy

knows these guide every client interaction. She currently lives in Pfafftown, where she and her husband raised a family, so she also knows the appeal of the area for families building lifetime memories.

“Integrity and honesty mean my clients always receive clear, truthful guidance, while accountability ensures I’m present, prepared, proactive and fully invested at every stage of the transaction,” she explains. “Compassion allows me to understand the emotional weight that often comes with buying or selling a home, and collaboration means I work closely with lenders, inspectors and fellow agents to create the best outcomes. Above all, respect is the foundation of every relationship – I want my clients to feel like they don’t just have an advocate in their corner throughout the process – but a friend for life.”

That lifelong friend status means celebrating family milestones –weddings, baby showers, even new chapters of life – long after closing day.

“Real estate may be how our relationship begins, but my goal is to be there for the long haul,” adds Brandy. “I’m also inspired daily by helping people move from uncertainty to confidence. Many of my clients come to me feeling overwhelmed, discouraged or unsure if homeownership is even possible. Being able to walk alongside them, educate and help them achieve something they once believed was out of reach is incredibly fulfilling. My philosophy is simple – educate, advocate and care deeply – always with a relationship-first approach. I don’t see clients as transactions – I see them as people trusting me with one of the biggest moments of their lives. I think of every client as if they were part of my own family, where I’m honest, transparent and deeply invested in their success. I take pride in explaining the process clearly, advocating fiercely and showing up consistently, no matter how complex the journey may be.“

For Brandy, meeting people exactly where they are is the crucial first step – whether they’re buying their first home with little money down, relocating or selling a home that’s full of memories.

“My goal is for my clients to feel supported, not just through closing day, but long after the keys are handed over!”

“Brandy was more than a realtor – she’s a true advocate and friend. When we felt overwhelmed, she never once doubted us. She guided us every step of the way with honesty, patience and so much heart. Three-and-a-half years later, she continues to check in and celebrate life with us. We didn’t just gain a home –we gained Brandy for life.” ~ E.H.

Let Brandy guide your own journey towards finding the perfect home! Reach her at 336.409.1133, at brandy@ reelrealtync.com or visit brandymcmillian. com. Reel Realty is located at 118 South Cherry Street in Kernersville, NC.

GOODWILL INDUSTRIES OF NORTHWEST NORTH CAROLINA

YEARS STRONG

by MARTIE EMORY

photos by JEJ PHOTOS

“Leaders enable others to act, not by hoarding the power they have, but by giving it away.”

- Barbara Maida-Stolle

As Goodwill Industries of Northwest North Carolina prepares to celebrate its centennial in 2026, it is well positioned for continued fruitfulness, under the thoughtful leadership of President and CEO Barbara Maida-Stolle.

Part of celebrating this milestone will include the launch of a rebranding campaign and implementation of new strategic pathways. A true visionary leader, Barbara has focused on building high performing teams via a philosophy built on collaboration, community partnerships and many initiatives that foster economic mobility, inclusion and social impact.

One of the region’s most visible and impactful nonprofit organizations, Goodwill Industries of Northwest North Carolina is a complex entity that includes mission programs, donated goods retail operations, workforce development and community partnerships. Headquartered in Winston-Salem, they provide workforce development and employment services in 31 counties of western North Carolina and serve 32,000 people annually. Goodwill’s mission services are made possible through the sale of donated items at 51 retail and outlet stores, and online through ShopGoodwill.com.

Barbara oversees all aspects of Goodwill’s strategic vision and operations, which generate $100 million annually. The new strategic plan prioritizes Goodwill’s role as a community leader around policies that impact the region’s workforce and economic mobility.

“The key that unlocks the door to opportunity is learning,” Barbara shares. “Warren Bennis writes that ‘leaders learn by leading, and they learn best by leading in the face of obstacles. As weather shapes mountains, problems shape leaders.’ In other words, leaders are learners. They learn from their failures as well as their successes.”

Guiding 1,100 team members through significant disruption caused by Hurricane Helene – including ongoing communication and community assistance that served more than 28,000 people – Barbara says she considers herself a strong person grounded in faith, integrity and optimism.

“I have overcome some incredibly challenging events in my own life, from losing my husband at a young age, to battling and surviving breast cancer twice. With the love and support of my family and friends – and from personal introspection – I managed to move forward,” she shares, attributing much to the many mentors in her own life. “As far back as I can remember, I have been an introspective person, looking for the meaning in life, relationships and how things work. I believe the strength of being reflective, creative and resilient has allowed me to develop and learn from each of my journeys to become an innovative, inspirational and influential leader.”

As part of Goodwill’s commitment to innovation, Barbara spearheaded development of a roadmap to integrate AI tools across organizational functions and facilitated a new partnership with Piedmont Environmental Alliance. Goodwill has become such a nationally recognized leader in this sector that Barbara was recently made co-chair of the Goodwill Industries International Sustainability and Circularity Committee.

As we also celebrate Women’s History Month in March, Barbara is a beacon of inspiration for all young women.

“Our lives are made up of so many different journeys, experiences, norms, viewpoints and influences that,

together, shape our story,” Barbara shares. “My story is filled with joy, happiness, learning and growth, but I would not be complete without challenges, grief and disappointments.”

The first in her family to attend college, Barbara earned a Bachelor of Science in business administration from High Point University and her MBA at Wake Forest University. She’s also a graduate of the invitation-only Goodwill Industries International Executive Development Program, and a graduate of Leadership Winston-Salem, Leadership Charlotte and the American Leadership Forum.

Young Barbara opened her first business at the age of 13, making and selling macrame jewelry. Following college, she spent her

“I

am a lifelong advocate of creating environments where people can reach their fullest potential. I have devoted my life and career to creating access and opportunities for people to prosper.”

early career in retail, then in merchandising with Sara Lee/Hanes Brands. She then moved to owning her own business in plastic injection mold making with her late husband.

“After we changed our business model, I found myself looking to re-engage with the corporate workforce and was introduced to Goodwill,” she explains. “I have been with Goodwill approaching 20 years, beginning my career in Charlotte before moving to Winston-Salem in 2021.”

She knows it’s an exciting and significant time for Goodwill, as they launch this new strategic journey.

“Enhanced sustainability initiatives, and refreshed Mission, Vision and Values-foundation elements will keep Goodwill of Northwest North Carolina strong, innovative and community focused for the next 100 years,” Barbara shares.

In addition to her work with Goodwill, Barbara is active in her community, serving on many nonprofit boards and advisory committees, including the REACH Women’s Network, Thriving Together Community Champions Table, Goodwill Industries International Leadership Committee the Truist Winston-Salem Community Advisory Board, Crosby Scholars and Northwest North Carolina Community Foundation.

Perhaps her best kept secret – Barbara is also an accomplished chef!

“I always make time to be in my kitchen – it’s where I recharge and relax.”

To learn more about the life changing programs of Goodwill Industries of Northwest North Carolina, visit goodwillnwnc.org and follow them on Facebook and Instagram @goodwillnwnc. Goodwill Industries of Northwest NC is located in Winston-Salem at 2701 University Parkway, 336.724.3621.

The Wedding Edit

A curated look at modern love — celebrating weddings in Winston-Salem and beyond.

Inside: inspiration, local talent, thoughtful details, and everything you need to take your “yes” all the way to “I do.”

AUBRE + ASHLEY Engaged 2.13.26 Yasmin Leonard Photography

From Yes to “I Do”

A CURATED WEDDING PLANNING TIMELINE

Planning a wedding doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. When broken into thoughtful phases, the process becomes far more manageable — and far more enjoyable. Consider this your curated roadmap.

12+ MONTHS OUT: THE FOUNDATION PHASE

• Celebrate! (privately first, too)

• Set a realistic overall budget and decide who is contributing.

• Draft an estimated guest count (this drives venue options).

• Determine your top three priorities (experience? food? photography? atmosphere?).

• Book your venue. This sets your date and anchors everything.

• Hire a planner or coordinator.

• Begin gathering inspiration…but avoid over-consuming.

9–12 MONTHS: SECURING THE CORE TEAM

• Book photographer and videographer.

• Confirm caterer (if not venue-provided).

• Secure entertainment (band or DJ).

• Start wedding dress shopping.

• Begin thinking about overall aesthetic: season, color palette, vibe.

• Create a wedding website.

• Schedule engagement photos.

6–9 MONTHS: DESIGN + DETAILS BEGIN

• Send save-the-dates.

• Book florist and rental companies.

• Choose wedding party attire direction.

• Begin registry.

• Start researching hair + makeup artists.

• Plan rehearsal dinner vision.

• Reserve hotel blocks if needed.

3–6 MONTHS: REFINING THE EXPERIENCE

• Finalize guest list.

• Order invitations.

• Schedule dress fittings.

• Confirm ceremony details (officiant, readings, music).

• Book transportation if needed.

• Plan honeymoon logistics.

1–2 MONTHS: CONFIRM + COMMUNICATE

• Mail invitations (6–8 weeks out).

• Finalize menu selections.

• Confirm all vendor timelines.

• Create detailed wedding day schedule.

• Apply for marriage license.

• Confirm final headcount with venue.

FINAL WEEKS: SIMPLIFY + SAVOR

• Final dress fitting.

• Prepare vendor tip envelopes.

• Pack for honeymoon.

• Delegate small tasks to trusted people.

• Hydrate. Rest. Let go.

The Sweetest Touch to Your Special Day

by MARTIE EMORY, photos by AMBER RENEA PHOTOGRAPHY

If you’re looking to add a sweet surprise to your wedding day – and one your guests will continue to rave about – let us introduce you to Happy’s Ice Cream!

You’ll meet Michael Neve and team, and immediately realize they love what they do. Michael will tell you he’s always been partial to sweets – with ice cream a top favorite.

“My wife and I love ice cream, so it wasn’t long after getting married that we started experimenting with making it at home – in a simple Cuisinart countertop ice cream maker,” he shares. “It was fun to do together and share with friends. That was around 2019.”

When the pandemic hit, Michael found more time at home, which led to making more ice cream. He received a Ben & Jerry’s recipe book as a Christmas gift, was fascinated by the company’s beginnings and decided to try making every flavor in the book. He also pondered the idea of sharing his ice cream with more and more people.

“I’m an accountant by trade, but I love entrepreneurship and the idea of opening my own business has always been intriguing,” he adds. “Looking around Winston-Salem, there weren’t many ice cream options, making me think this might be a real opportunity.”

Michael researched ice cream “schools” and completed a week-long class in High Point, before becoming the ice cream maker at Black Mountain Chocolate. When that venture closed, he was able to purchase the company’s ice cream equipment and soon began making ice cream for Washington Perk & Provisions in downtown Winston-Salem. That move was the birth of Happy’s Ice Cream!

“The launch of the ice cream cart came in late 2023 when I was asked to serve at a wedding for a bride who wanted an ice cream cart but had no local options,” Michael explains. “In the spring of 2024, I served ice cream at my first wedding!”

Since then, Happy’s has been “scooping” at weddings and special events as well as at the Cobblestone Farmers Market

from the spring to fall season. While introducing the goodness of Happy’s, Michael and his wife were also growing their family – three girls and a fourth baby on the way – and maintaining a full time job as VP of Finance at The Variable.

“That’s when I brought on Jacob Gauthier and Dow Vest to help with events in late 2024,” Michael adds. “They were critical to keeping Happy’s going last summer and do a great job spreading the joy of ice cream to everyone they serve!”

Of course Happy’s Ice Cream is entirely handmade, with a number of consistent flavors available, along with seasonal specialties.

“One of my favorite parts about private events is working with customers to create the exact flavors they want,” Michael shares. “We love the atmosphere at a wedding, where everyone is having a good time. Folks are excited when they realize there’s ice cream, read the flavor board and enjoy their scoop as they walk back to join the party!”

With so many options to make your day special, engaged couples are drawn to Happy’s for clear reasons. Simply put, people love ice cream and working with the Happy’s team to choose a personalized flavor is a fun task!

“I also think the cart is an attraction on its own,” says Michael. “Having a server adds a unique touch and provides a little extra interaction with guests.”

“It’s the sense of whimsy and pure childlike joy that ice cream brings out in people,” adds Jacob.

Growing a thriving small business and a young family has helped Michael realize the importance of community.

“My wife and I have been in Winston-Salem for 10 years and have really grown to love it. A big part of what we enjoy about Happy’s is the opportunity to serve this community,” he shares.

The Happy’s team also loves serving up deliciousness at special events where there are plenty of kids around.

“One of my favorite interactions was with a boy who came up to the cart at an event, looked at the flavor board and very thoughtfully examined all six flavors. He looked up and simply said: “I’ll have some of each please!”

To book Happy’s Ice Cream for your wedding celebration, corporate party or other special event, email info@happysicecreamws.com. Follow their sweet adventures on Instagram @happysicecream.ws.

The 2026 Wedding Edit

WHAT’S IN AND WHAT’S EVOLVING

Weddings in 2026 are less about performance and more about presence.

After years of curated perfection and Pinterest pressure, couples are redefining what a meaningful celebration actually looks like. The result? Events that feel deeply personal, thoughtfully designed, and rooted in experience rather than expectation.

Here’s what we’re seeing in Winston-Salem and beyond:

EXPERIENCE OVER EXCESS

Guest counts are becoming more intentional. Rather than inviting everyone they’ve ever met, couples are prioritizing connection. Smaller lists often mean elevated experiences: multi-course dinners, custom cocktail moments, immersive décor, and meaningful ceremony elements.

It’s not about being extravagant. It’s about being memorable.

MULTI-DAY CELEBRATIONS

Rehearsal dinners are evolving into welcome parties. Sunday brunches are replacing rushed goodbyes. Weddings are becoming full-weekend experiences that allow couples to spend genuine time with their guests.

In a world that moves quickly, slowing down is a luxury.

DOCUMENTARY-STYLE PHOTOGRAPHY

The stiff, overly posed wedding album is fading. Couples are gravitating toward photographers who capture movement, emotion, and candid in-between moments. The trend leans nostalgic — images that feel lived-in, not staged.

Authenticity is the new aesthetic.

STATEMENT FLORALS & BOLD PALETTES

Neutrals will always have a place, but 2026 is embracing color. Think rich greens, warm terracottas, unexpected blues, layered textures, and organic installations that feel artful rather than symmetrical.

Florals are less “centerpiece” and more “environment.”

RETHINKING TRADITION

More couples are choosing:

• Mixed-gender wedding parties

• Private vows before the ceremony

• Non-traditional seating arrangements

• Thursday or Sunday weddings

• Outfit changes that reflect personality

What’s fading? Obligatory traditions done without intention.

Bouquet tosses, rigid timelines, perfectly matched everything — couples are asking one question before keeping any tradition:

Does this feel like us?

THE THROUGHLINE: PERSONALIZATION

The strongest trend of 2026 isn’t a color or a dress silhouette.

It’s confidence.

Couples are designing weddings that reflect their values, their culture, their humor, and their real lives. Signature drinks named after pets. Handwritten notes at each place setting. Live painters. Surprise performances. Private moments carved into busy timelines.

In 2026, the goal isn’t perfection. It’s presence.

Because long after the trend cycles shift, what remains isn’t the napkin fold or the seating chart font, it’s how the day felt.

And that’s something worth curating carefully.

Let It Go

What Not to Stress Over While Planning Your Wedding

There is a moment in nearly every engagement where excitement turns into overwhelm.

Suddenly, every decision feels enormous. Every detail feels urgent. Every opinion feels loud.

But here’s the quiet truth: not everything deserves your energy.

In fact, some of the things couples lose the most sleep over are the very things guests never notice.

The exact shade of linen.

Whether the napkins perfectly match the florals.

If the programs are printed on the “right” paper weight.

If the timeline runs five minutes behind.

Most of it fades into the background of a day that is, at its core, about something far simpler.

Your wedding is not a production. It’s a promise.

Weather cannot be controlled. Extended family dynamics cannot always be managed. Not every guest will love the music. Someone will sit at a table they didn’t request. A flower might droop. A button might pop.

And none of it will undo the reason you gathered everyone in the first place.

The couples who enjoy their weddings most are rarely the ones with the most elaborate details. They are the ones who decide, early on, what truly matters to them — and release the rest.

Release the pressure to please everyone. Release the comparison trap of social media. Release the idea that this day has to look like someone else’s.

Instead, protect your energy for what will linger long after the cake is cut:

The deep breath before you walk down the aisle.

The way your partner looks at you when the room fades away.

The laughter at your table.

The hug from a grandparent.

The quiet five-minute pause you steal together when it’s all unfolding.

Years from now, you will not remember the font on the menu card.

You will remember how it felt to stand in a room filled with people who love you, promising forever.

And that is more than enough.

Who Makes the List?

YOUR GUEST LIST MAP

Few parts of wedding planning feel as personal (or as complicated) as deciding who receives an invitation. Use this simple “map” to guide your decisions with clarity.

STEP 1: START HERE

Ask yourselves:

If we were eloping tomorrow, who would we absolutely need there? Write those names first. This is your core.

STEP 2: THE TWO-YEAR RULE

For each potential guest, ask:

• Have we spoken in the last two years?

• Do they actively know our life now?

• Would we take them out to dinner at our own expense?

If the answer is “not really,” consider moving them to a secondary list.

STEP 5: THE ENERGY TEST

Picture them in the room.

Do they:

• Add joy?

• Bring calm?

• Support your relationship? OR

• Create tension?

• Bring complicated dynamics?

• Feel obligatory?

Your wedding day is not the time to manage emotional landmines.

STEP 4: THE BUDGET REALITY

Divide your estimated catering cost by guest count. Seeing the per-plate number often brings clarity. Would you rather:

• Invite 40 more acquaintances? OR

• Upgrade the food, bar, florals, or guest experience? There is no wrong answer — only intentional trade-offs.

STEP 3: FAMILY DYNAMICS CHECK

• Immediate family: typically non-negotiable.

• Extended family: Are they active in your life, or invited out of obligation?

• Parents contributing financially? Consider allocating them a set number of invitations rather than open-ended additions.

STEP 6: FINAL FILTER

If you hesitate, ask:

Will we regret not having them there in five years?

If yes — keep them.

If no — release with peace. Intimate doesn’t mean small. It means intentional.

Beyond the Invitation: What a Paper Company Really Does

You stop at your mailbox after a long work day. Sitting there among bills and coupons is a diamond in the rough. A beautiful envelope adorned with shiny gold hand calligraphy and a row of postage stamps made of complimentary colors.

It’s gorgeous. It’s tactile. It’s a wedding invitation.

Meticulously wrapped like a present, you have been given a gift. This is the first tangible moment of the event to come. The mix of papers carefully layered with ink translates the couple’s vision into a physical language you instantly understand. Without even noticing, the typography, the color palette, the printing method—they all clue you in to the feel of the event.

At its core, paper design is storytelling, and invitations are just the beginning.

At KME Paper Co., a stationery store local to Winston-Salem, we believe every event has the opportunity to create a visual identity that feels uniquely tied to the couple or host.

A one-off cocktail napkin with an event’s date printed on it is beautiful, but it confines its use to that day. Building a recognizable brand with matchbooks, cups, custom hats, and bar menus to match allows the celebration to carry on beyond just that special day.

Working with our in-house design team to develop a cohesive personal brand creates palpable, dynamic details that carry through your festivities and for years to come. Custom monograms, thoughtful color stories, and custom illustrative elements become recognizable markers of the event, appearing across everything from invitations to signage, welcome gifts, menus, and beyond.

Instead of disposable details, they become meaningful extensions of your story.

An always-popular wedding detail is to include the couple’s pet somewhere. A drawing on a napkin, a cocktail named after them. That idea was flipped on its head last June when our bride, Austin, wanted to fully dedicate her Palm Beachinspired cocktail hour bar to their English Labrador puppy, Caesar.

Caesar’s Bar was born.

The logo was a whimsical illustration of Caesar as a debonair cocktail waiter— complete with a Bud Light on his tray, the groom’s favorite. An a-frame sign with the logo directed guests to the lawn where custom cocktail napkins and matches were waiting for them. We printed signage that attached to the creamsiclecolored bar to solidify the branding. Guests were in for the best surprise when neon blue trucker hats with the logo were passed on the dance floor.

When design is intentional, guests don’t see items as favors, they see them as souvenirs from a meaningful moment. Guests at Austin’s wedding now had merch from their new favorite bar.

Yes, a paper company can recommend a print process, advise you on postage, and help balance your aesthetics with your budget.

But perhaps, most importantly, a paper company preserves moments.

Photography: Taylor Cline Photography

Planning: Katharine Mann Events

Paper/Stationery: KME Paper Co

Rentals: The Prettiest Pieces

Florals: Green Bee Floral Designs

Rachael Mitchell Photography HEATHER + KATELYN NOVEMBER 2027

Southern Elegance Photography

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Bermuda Run Country Club is designed for unforgettable moments. From romantic ceremonies to elegant receptions for up to 220 guests, our picturesque surroundings and refined event spaces create the perfect backdrop for your special day. With all food and beverage thoughtfully prepared in-house and a dedicated wedding team by your side, planning feels effortless while every detail is beautifully brought to life. Your love story deserves a celebration as memorable as the moment you say forever.

Artsy Cakesy is a luxury wedding cake studio founded by cake artist Jeanne Scott, creating refined, art-driven cakes designed to serve as true visual centerpieces.

Blending artistic intention with exceptional flavor, every creation is crafted using premium ingredients and balanced profiles. For couples who see cake as more than dessert, Artsy Cakesy delivers a statement piece designed to be remembered.

Me of Little Faith Aging Out

by AM Y HILL

Within the four weeks I wrote my February article, a lot unexpectedly changed for the better. As I was writing it, I had no idea how close I was to a breakthrough. In fact, I’m pretty sure I was crying over yet another man and not knowing when things were going to turn around.

I shouldn’t be surprised that things somehow worked out yet again, after how many times God has pulled through in the past, but it seems as if I always lose hope and struggle trusting God’s process each time I am drawn back into a dark, emotional place. In 2025, I survived yet another major heartbreak, made a knee-jerk decision to move to a new city, lost a lifelong best friend and began working 60+ hour work weeks to stay busy, make money and prevent myself from sinking into another depressive episode.

I moved the last week of August, found a part time job at a local bistro two days later, settled myself and my cat into an amazing apartment and quickly felt at home. From Labor Day weekend through mid-December, I only had two full days where I didn’t work either of my jobs but found myself being embraced by new coworkers and friends, making the tiring work weeks worth it. However, right when I thought my dating life was taking a spin in a positive direction for once, I was rejected within a week and resumed my nightly bathroom floor cries – partly from embarrassment and disappointment, but also from sheer emotional and physical exhaustion.

A day later, my trusty friend Matt (who I’ve referenced in many articles over the last five years) informed me about a job opening where he worked. We thought it may be a long shot, but I agreed to apply. After two interviews, I was hired and was offered a major pay increase to work on the same team as one of my closest friends. I had been struggling to save up for a car amid my other expenses, which I desperately needed as my car was on its last leg, and in an instant, that worry was eliminated. I had been feeling like it was time for a career change over the last year but kept pushing the thought aside as the job search process seemed daunting, overwhelming and way too much mental stress for the headspace I had been in. It’s crazy to think how all it took was God opening the right door at the right time, and that it was right around the corner as I was sobbing in the shower.

So far, my new job is great, my new car is a dream and a massive weight of worry has been lifted off my shoulders. My sister attributes much of this positive turn around to listening to my gut and taking a leap of faith by moving, and I can’t say I disagree. Anytime I’ve told people the news about my job, people have told me how much I “deserve” it after how hard I’ve worked. Truthfully, I don’t know if I deserve it or if I am simply blessed. Four months of buckling down and working hard did pay off, but this was God’s doing. He did hear my cries and see my tears over the last 11 months. When blessings like this occur, it paves the way for me to not feel so hopeless in love and have faith that, at any minute, God can send the right person into my life and continue to blow me away.

WOMEN ON THE MOVE

SAYA HILLMAN

Saya Hillman is a Boston College graduate, ex-Chicagoan and new Winston-Salem resident. In her eight Winston months, she’s become a member of REACH, the West Salem Neighborhood Association, Greater Winston Salem Inc. and the Wake Forest Center for Private Business, including being a recipient of the Richard N. Davis Minority Business Scholarship and of the Opportunity Fund. She’s volunteered with the Humane Society, Bookmarks, Hot Mess Express, Ardmore Neighborhood Association, Red Cross, and Our Lady of Salem Shelter, and is constantly asked, “How do you know so many people and things to do here?!” As the new kid, she’s had to become her own “getting out there” client. Since 2004, Saya has run her lifestyle business Mac & Cheese Productions℠. Through events, courses, keynotes, workplace facilitation, products, consulting, writings and community, Mac & Cheese helps adults design their ideal lives. One of Chicago Magazine’s Top 20 Singles, Chicago Tribune’s Top 100 Innovators, and Brazen Careerist’s Top 20 Professionals to Watch, she’s been featured in Forbes and The New York Times and is a TEDx speaker. She’s traveled to 21 countries and 50 states, fostered 18 puppies and is responsible for 7 couples, including herself and her husband (they met at one of her events). They moved to Winston-Salem sight unseen—when she discovered Maya Angelou’s connection, she felt it was the universe saying “You chose well” as Saya was named after Maya.

ALIE BRINEGAR

Alie Brinegar is the assistant director of the lower school at Forsyth Country Day School. She has a bachelor’s degree in elementary education with a minor in child studies from East Carolina University, as well as, a master’s degree in curriculum and instruction from Southern Wesleyan University. She has completed the Orton-Gillingham Classroom Educator coursework and earned a Thought Partnership (executive coaching) certification. Alie’s personal mission is to create a culture of compassion that inspires others to be their best selves. Most recently she started ABC: Alie Brinegar Coaching and Consulting, LLC. Her vision for this work is to cultivate meaningful partnerships rooted in compassion that empower educators, leaders and organizations to grow with purpose and deepen authentic connections. Alie envisions a future where compassion drives impact in learning communities, growth is continuous for both adults and students, purpose guides instructional and organizational decisions, and connection strengthens every individual, school and community she serves. In her spare time, Alie enjoys reading, working out, watching Clemson football, spending time with friends, family and her dachshunds, Daisy Mae and Rosie Rae.

BROOKE CARLSON

Brooke Carlson is the founder of @itsmebrookec on Instagram, where she supports women – especially those in postpartum and motherhood seasons – in reconnecting with their bodies, confidence and overall well-being. With a background as a fitness professional and a deep passion for women’s mental and physical health, Brooke’s work centers on strength training, intuitive eating and fostering a compassionate relationship with the body during life’s many transitions. Brooke holds a bachelor’s degree in exercise and wellness and is currently completing her master’s degree in mental health counseling. As a mother of three, Brooke understands firsthand the complexities of motherhood, postpartum recovery and balancing personal identity with family life. This lived experience deeply informs her work and fuels her commitment to creating inclusive, honest spaces where women feel seen and empowered. Brooke and her family relocated to Winston-Salem for her husband to complete his medical residency training through Atrium Health. Becoming part of a new community during a demanding season of life further deepened her understanding of transition, identity and the importance of supportive connection – values that strongly inform her work today.

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Sultry vocalist Storm Large and extraordinary men’s quartet Hudson Shad join for Kurt Weill’s cabaret-operetta The Seven Deadly Sins. Favorite excerpts from Bizet’s Carmen and a wild, risqué ride through the night by way of composer Anna Clyne’s This Midnight Hour round out a femme fatale program you won’t want to miss.

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JESSICA AVEYARD

Jessica Aveyard is the Membership and Operations Manager of Sparq, the coworking space in the heart of the Innovation Quarter. Jessica began working with the Innovation Quarter in June of 2022 and quickly fell in love with the members and potential that Sparq holds. After 15 years in Minor League Baseball, most recently as the Vice President of Ballpark Experience and Branding for the Winston-Salem Dash, Jessica brings a vast array of knowledge about the Triad region and its many resources that can be offered to Sparq members. A recent graduate of Leadership Winston-Salem, Jessica capped off 2025 by helping Sparq obtain “Best Coworking Location” by WS Today, a community driven accomplishment that speaks to the historical space that Sparq is in and the ambiance created for members and the broader community. Originally from Dayton, OH, Jessica loves living in Winston-Salem with her dog, Emmitt. You can find her hanging out at local coffee shops and breweries with her crochet or cross stitch in hand or at any local sporting event. She also enjoys running in the many run clubs that Winston-Salem has to offer and has recently taken up CrossFit! Stop by Sparq to grab a coffee and connect with Jessica to learn more about the thriving entrepreneurial ecosystem in Winston-Salem.

United Way of Forsyth County has named Shinika M. McKiever, PhD, CFRE to be chief development officer. McKiever formerly provided philanthropic support for NC A&T State University and UNC Greensboro. She also owned The McKiever Group Creative Company, based in High Point, where she served as chief creative officer. An accomplished development professional, McKiever has expertise in grants, budget and analysis; community and civic engagement; project management; facilitation and event planning; strategic capacity building; planning and convenings; and leadership and entrepreneurship. McKiever served as director of foundation relations for University Advancement at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro from 2019 until 2022 and as director of corporate and foundation relations for University Advancement at North Carolina A&T State University in Greensboro from 2016 until 2019. McKiever hold certificates in Cultural Intelligence from the Cultural Intelligence Center, Trauma Resilience Communities from the Center for Trauma Resilient Communities, Diversity and Inclusion in the Workplace from the University of Southern Florida and Women in Entrepreneurship from Cornell University.

JENNIFER WHITT

Jennifer Bullock Whitt is a licensed and self employed falconer in Winston-Salem. She is a graduate of R.J. Reynolds High School. Falconry is the ancient art and sport of training birds of prey(raptors) to hunt wild game. “I work with first year Red Tail Hawk’s for a season,” she said. “We mainly pursue rabbit and squirrel. The season is September until February. I release the bird in March with a stronger chance of survival after being in my care. Falconry is a dedication, and I spend many hours with my bird to gain her trust and I am blessed to be supported by my family in doing so. I am passionate about birds of prey and conservation of them. I also volunteer for The Owls Roost Wildlife Education. We are a nonprofit membership organization dedicated to promoting respect and appreciation for North Carolina’s wildlife. I hope to pass my knowledge on to others and be an inspiration for women of all ages. I would like to give a special thanks to Dr. Gale Sigal for introducing me to falconry.” If anyone has any interest in falconry, visit northcarolinafalconersguild.org. In her spare time, Jennifer enjoys spending time with her family including her husband, Keith, daughter, Sarah, and son, Beau.

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Hustle Heart

by TARYN JEREZ , OF GOFORITCREATIVE.COM

This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Radical Honesty: Why Transparency in Pricing, Process & Values Wins Loyal Clients

My hot take in 2026 is showing up with transparency as a brand shouldn’t be a hot take. If you’re on a mission to keep someone invested in your business, value your offers and want to work with you long term, transparency is your business’ best friend!

WHAT BUILDS LOYALTY, TRUST AND ACTUAL CLIENTS?

When it comes to your pricing, process and values, show up with radical honesty and your ideal clients won’t be able to look away. Too often, small business owners are scared to be open and real about certain parts of their business out of fear it will repel customers. The reality is that you want it to! You want the wrong clients steering clear making room for the right ones to get in the fast lane to booking with you. The mistake that costs you money isn’t sharing too much about your business, but too little. Transparency needs to be part of your business strategy, not because it’s brave, but because it’s going to save you and your client time in finding one another!

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TRANSPARENCY TIP #1: PRICING

Feeling shocked at the end of a consultation call is one of the worst feelings for clients – especially if every other box on their list was checked with a “heck yes.” Your goal should be to help them feel prepared by knowing your pricing and the value of what you do ahead of time. Adding transparency around your pricing means having investments readily accessible on places like your services guide, website, booking link or interest form. Help someone know upfront if they qualify to become a client, and avoid awkward conversations or wasted time.

You want to attract clients who value your work and can afford it, not fall in love with your work but want to run for the door when they see that first glance at the bill.

what you stand for, what you won’t do as a business, what you prioritize and support and what kind of tolerance you have around different subjects is where your radical honesty is going to become a magnet!

TRANSPARENCY TIP #2: PROCESS

Concentrating on what you offer instead of “how” you offer what you do is slowing down sales. When you take them through your process in advance, you are reducing fraction, easing overwhelm, setting clear expectations and creating a roadmap for them to envision themselves following. Inviting them to book a call with you is a great start, but keep that vision going! Tell your audience what happens on the call and after, or even show them examples of your client journey from start to finish to give them confidence to book. The transparency here isn’t just about listing out your process, but really helping them understand why each of those steps matter to them, as well.

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TRANSPARENCY TIP #3: VALUES

I’m not saying get political – although, I’m not not saying that either. Our values are our compass. They help us navigate all kinds of decisions including with whom we spend our time and money. As a small business, it can feel like the world is telling you it’s not your place to share how you feel but isn’t it? We want to work alongside people who hold similar values and so do our clients. What can feel like a reason “not to work with you” for some is going to absolutely be a reason to choose you for others. Sharing things like

YOUR HONESTY IS THEIR FIRST IMPRESSION

Showing up unfiltered is what creates decisive buyers. Imagine if your ideal clients weren’t scrolling through your website digging for answers or waiting for a consultation call to make their decision. When you lift the curtain back on simple things like pricing, process and values, you get instant “add to cart” reactions because potential clients are already decided. Your people want clarity and confidence, so invite them into your business giving them that from the start!

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LEPTIN: The Hidden Hormone That Decides Whether Fat Loss Feels Hard – or Possible

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If you’ve ever done “everything right” and still felt hungry, tired and stuck, the issue may not be calories or willpower. It may be leptin.

Leptin is often described as a satiety hormone, but that undersells its role. Leptin is better understood as a metabolic permission signal. It tells your brain whether it’s safe to burn stored fat and keep your metabolism running at a healthy pace.

When leptin signaling is working well, hunger is appropriate, cravings are manageable, energy feels steady and fat loss doesn’t feel like a daily battle. When leptin signaling breaks down, the opposite happens – regardless of how disciplined you are.

WHAT LEPTIN DOES (AND WHY IT MATTERS)

Leptin is produced primarily by your fat cells and communicates directly with the brain, especially the hypothalamus. Its main job is to answer one question:

Do we have enough stored energy to safely burn fat and maintain metabolism?

When the answer is “yes,” the body cooperates. When the signal is weak or ignored, the body becomes protective.

This is where many women run into trouble. Leptin levels often rise as body fat increases, but higher leptin does not automatically mean better fat loss. In fact, many people develop leptin resistance – a state where leptin is present but the brain no longer responds to it.

The result?

• Stronger hunger signals

• Increased cravings

• Lower spontaneous movement

• A subtle metabolic slowdown

• The feeling that your body is fighting you

This is not a motivation issue. It’s a signaling issue. Sleep loss, late nights, irregular schedules, stress and inconsistent eating patterns all interfere with leptin’s message. Over time, the brain starts acting as if energy is scarce – even when it isn’t.

WHY A “LEPTIN RESET” HELPS

A leptin reset isn’t about rapid weight loss. The goal is to restore communication between fat cells and the brain so hunger stabilizes and fat loss becomes accessible again.

Think of it as clearing static from the signal – not forcing the outcome.

Here’s a simple, seven-day reset that supports leptin without extremes.

A PRACTICAL 7-DAY LEPTIN RESET

1. Get morning light daily

Step outside within 30–60 minutes of waking for 5–15 minutes. No sunglasses, if safe. This anchors your circadian rhythm and supports downstream leptin signaling.

2. Keep sleep and wake times consistent

The timing matters more than perfection. Aim for the same bedtime and wake time – even on weekends.

3. Dim lights at night

Two to three hours before bed, lower lighting and avoid bright overhead lights. This allows melatonin to rise, which indirectly supports leptin.

4. Front load protein at breakfast

Aim for 30–50 grams of protein at your first meal. This improves satiety and stabilizes appetite signals for the rest of the day.

5. Stop late night eating

Finish your last meal at least two to three hours before bed. Late eating combined with low melatonin disrupts leptin.

6. Move daily, but don’t overdo it

Walking, light activity and resistance training (if already a part of your routine). This is not the week to introduce extreme workouts.

7. Protect sleep like it’s part of fat loss

Because it is. No scrolling in bed. No bedtime procrastination. Sleep repairs hormonal signaling.

Most women don’t see dramatic scale changes in seven days – and that’s okay. The early wins are less hunger, fewer cravings, better sleep and steadier energy. Fat loss follows improved signaling, not the other way around.

by AMY HILL

What'

s Up With Foxes? Women Wild in the

I’ve always had an affinity for kooky creatures as far back as I can recall. When I was in college, I worked as a leasing agent at my student apartment complex. One afternoon, a seemingly friendly (and adorable) fox was roaming around the parking lot, and to my surprise, the property manager went outside to greet and approach the fox without hesitation. My coworkers and I stood inside in horror, debating on calling animal control, but the fox eventually got bored and scurried away. Ever since then, I’ve felt a fondness for the quirky creatures that foxes seem to be. I’ve even decorated half of my apartment in fox-themed knickknacks and wall art – so why not write an article about them?

After spending hours watching YouTube videos of domesticated foxes, I decided to do a deep dive and find out more about what makes foxes tick. Although dog-like in appearance but cat-like in behavior, foxes are part of the canidae family like dogs, but the two are not too closely related. In North America, you’re most likely to see the red fox, with its orange to auburn fur and long, bushy tail. They can be found in various terrain from mountains to deserts, where they hunt and eat small rodents, fish, insects, amphibians, reptiles, and even fruits and berries.

The gray fox is another common fox found in North America with gray speckled fur and slightly smaller in size than its red fox counterpart. In fact, the high likelihood of encountering small foxes referred to as “island foxes” in the Channel Islands National Park was actually one of the biggest reasons I spent a year researching and toying with the idea of taking a ferry out to the park. As descendants of the mainland gray fox, the island fox is not much larger than a house cat and loves to hang out around campgrounds on the islands, waiting to run off with a camper’s lunch.

Now that we’ve covered the basics, what truly fascinates me is the intelligence and quirky nature foxes exhibit. Interestingly enough, foxes are more socially complex than one would initially think. They live in hierarchical family groups, communicate with a variety of noises and utilize tail movements and facial expressions to help get their point across. In the woods and hear what sounds like a woman shrieking? It’s likely a fox.

Foxes are considered to be more intelligent than dogs, with higher than normal problem solving abilities and excellent memories. When hunting, they often stalk and pounce (similar to cats), making them predatorial but endearing.

They take advantage of the late evening and early morning dimness to sneak up on prey and also scavenge for food, raid birds’ nests and even bury food for later consumption. If you’ve ever watched Dora the Explorer, the cartoon fox named “Swiper” makes a lot more sense after learning about their hunting habits.

Although many people have domesticated foxes when laws permit, fox owners often complain about the difficulty of training a fox in comparison to training dogs due to the fox’s high intelligence and sly behavior – not to mention its tendency to frequently urinate inside as a form of territory and scent marking.

While foxes are usually shy around humans, the real danger when it comes to foxes is disease transmission. They’re known for transmitting the rabies virus, sarcoptic mange (mites that burrow under the skin) and parasites like roundworms to other animals and humans. Unlike my former property manager, it is best to

How to Conquer Time with Ease

by KAREN COOPER

“Spring forward” we speak softly to ourselves to remind us of which way we’re headed when the clocks move an hour ahead. “Spring forward, spring forward.” Yes, that’s it! And, so it will be on Sunday, March 8th at 2:00 a.m. We may be losing an hour of sleep, but we will wake up to daylight! Goodbye cold, dark mornings!

As we know, there are some adjustments that need to be made whenever we spring forward or fall back.

But, just how long does it take for your body to adjust?

Our body’s time-keeping machine regulates sleep and metabolism. So, a time shift disrupts our sleep and circadian rhythms. It takes circadian and sleep rhythms a little while to transition. More specifically, the time change can affect sleeping and waking patterns for five to seven days. So, if possible, it’s a good idea to make some adjustments about one week in advance.

Here are a few tips:

START GETTING TO BED EARLIER

You can ease your body into the time change by starting your nighttime routine 15 minutes earlier in the days leading up to the start of daylight saving time. Then, if you really want to get a jump on the time change, turn your clocks forward Saturday morning instead of Sunday morning, and live your day based on that schedule. Allowing two days rather than a single day before the start of the week can help ease your circadian rhythm into the new time.

ENJOY THE LONGER EVENINGS

One great perk about spring and daylight saving time is that there is more sunlight in the evenings. Enjoy the natural lighting outside or indoors with your curtains open. Sunlight helps naturally reset your body clock. Letting natural light come into your bedroom in the morning helps you be more alert when you wake up.

STAY CONSISTENT

Wake up at the same time each morning to keep your sleep cycle more consistent, even on weekends! Although sleeping in on your days off can help you feel more rested in the short term, it causes difficulties falling asleep and waking up during the week. In fact, getting out of bed at the same time every morning is the very best way to improve sleep and wake behaviors. A consistent sleep schedule

based on a pre-determined rise time will help you feel more rested throughout the year. Getting up at the same time is far more important than going to bed at the same time, though consistency in bedtime is also important.

BE MINDFUL OF WHAT AND WHEN YOU EAT AND DRINK

Eating dinner earlier in the evening can help your body prepare for bedtime. Try to avoid spicy or fatty foods, especially as bedtime is approaching; they can lead to indigestion and insomnia. Avoid caffeine and alcohol later in the day, so you can fall asleep more easily.

EXERCISE

Being physically active can help you sleep better, too. Go for a walk or run outdoors during daylight where you are exposed to natural sunlight. It’s best to try to avoid working out too close to your bedtime. Allow at least two hours to “cool down” from exercise before going to bed.

THOUGHTS ON ELECTRONICS

Electronics’ high intensity light hinders melatonin, a hormone that triggers sleepiness. Light stimulates your brain and

makes sleep difficult in the same way sunlight does. Also, it’s a good idea to turn off the television and pick up a book. Take a warm shower. Dim the lights. Let your body relax.

TIPS FOR HELPING SMALL CHILDREN ADJUST TO THE TIME CHANGE

With the clocks changing, it is going to be light in the evenings at many children’s bedtimes. You may need to ensure your child’s room is plenty dark for their brains to get the message that it’s time for sleep. Blackout curtains can help with this, or if you need a cheap, quick fix, aluminum foil works wonders! Tape it up over the windows, and it completely blocks out all the light!

Most of us look forward to springtime but not so much to losing the hour of sleep when clocks move ahead.

Spring kicks off daylight saving time, and clocks will be turned ahead one hour. Losing that one hour of sleep can affect productivity, concentration and both physical and mental health. Fortunately, using these simple tips, we can adjust to the time change more easily and even enjoy “springing ahead” and the extra daylight it brings.

The Safe Way to Glow This Spring

For many years, the “healthy tan” was the ultimate beauty controversy. We chased the sun to look vibrant, but the radiation we sought out was quietly breaking down our skin’s DNA.

Today, the data is undeniable: ultraviolet (UV) radiation is a proven human carcinogen. In one study of 63 women diagnosed with melanoma before age 30, 97 percent of those women had a history of tanning bed use.

Fortunately, 2026 marks a shift toward “harm reduction” beauty practices. We no longer have to choose between skin health and a bronzed aesthetic, thanks to the evolution of sunless tanning.

The magic behind self tanners lies in a sugar compound called dihydroxyacetone (DHA). Approved by the FDA for external use, DHA doesn’t penetrate the bloodstream or damage live cells. Instead, it interacts with the proteins in the outermost layer of skin cells.

“It reacts with the proteins found in the cells that make up the outer layer of your skin,” said Dermatologist Dr. Jennifer Lucas of the Cleveland Clinic. This creates pigment through the *Maillard reaction, resulting in a natural-looking bronze that fades as your skin naturally exfoliates and sheds.

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(Maillard Reaction: Complex chemical process between amino acids and reducing sugars that creates desirable flavors, aromas, and brown colors when heated.)

To achieve a flawless, streak-free tan at home, follow these professional-grade steps:

• Prioritize Prep: Exfoliate with a scrub and moisturize beforehand. This ensures the DHA absorbs evenly rather than clinging to dry patches.

• Time Your Hygiene Routine: Wait at least 12 hours after shaving to apply tanner to avoid “dark pores” where the product settles into open follicles.

• Patience: Most formulas take 30 minutes to an hour to develop visible color. Looking for a deeper, longlasting shade? Reapply daily for two to three days, then maintain the look by applying three times a week.

• Consider the Pros: If you’re in a hurry, professional spray tans offer airbrushing or automated booths. If you go this route, always wear protective gear for your eyes, nose and mouth to prevent inhalation.

In Forsyth County, there are several highly rated sunless tanning specialists focused on providing custom, UV-free glows. Such as:

goGLOW: 139 S. Stratford Road, Winston-Salem

Sunless Body: 205 S. Stratford Road, Winston-Salem

BVI Sun Company: 3470 Robinhood Road, Winston-Salem

The most dangerous myth in tanning culture is that a sunless tan provides a “base” of sun protection. It does not. “No matter how dark your spray tan is, it doesn’t provide protection from sunburn,” said Dr. Lucas.

A sunless glow is purely aesthetic. The Skin Cancer Foundation recommends a more comprehensive approach – apply a broadspectrum sunscreen (SPF 30 or higher) every two hours, seek shade and wear UVblocking sunglasses and hats.

In 2026, the trend is clear – we are embracing our skin’s longevity. By swapping the tanning bed for DHA this spring, you aren’t just changing your look, you’re also saving your skin.

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Keep Marching

Sheridan C. Watkins is a journalist and the owner of Perennial Peaces, a jewelry and gifts brand focused on transcending human understanding of God’s love and being a source of peace on Earth. Her true work began after victory over depression, and her calling is to provide peace through her Divine gifts to help women heal and transform their lives. Follow the mission on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok: @perennialpeaces.

As soon as I realized March was near, I immediately thought, “Keep marching.” A little cliché, but that thought led me to James 1:12: “Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.” This scripture serves as a reminder to remember what God promised and stay the course.

There are two points in that verse I want to focus on as you and I continue in business: persevering under trials and receiving the crown. It’s the common thread of what makes a great testimony. To inspire generations and help others in the way God has destined, reaching milestones despite adversity is vital. John 16:33 forewarns believers that escaping trouble in this world is not possible; but knowing this is a beautiful blessing, so time isn’t wasted trying. Instead, you’re instructed to put on your armor (Ephesians 6:11) and march forward with divine assistance. When you’re crazy enough to believe you can do anything, anything will be done.

PERSEVERING UNDER TRIALS

As God’s heir, you have unfair advantages against your adversaries. Every part of who you are and what led you to pursue your business journey was God-ordained. However, that doesn’t prevent spiritual attacks from forming. If you think about the many shows that portray a supernatural terror that threatens existence, it always has a way of being defeated – a kryptonite. But, there is nothing that can defeat God, and you are blessed to call Him “Father.” I pray that whenever you feel nervous, discouraged, exhausted and anything in between, you remember Isaiah 40:31. The apostles faced many trials, but assurance is found for you today in Acts 5:38-39: “...For if their purpose or activity is of human origin, it will fail. But if it is from God, you will not be able to stop these men; you will only find yourselves fighting against God.” Basically, as long as you’re aligned, you cannot fail because God cannot be defeated! How big would you dream if you believed success was inevitable?

RECEIVING THE CROWN

Receiving the crown can mean different things for everyone, but it’s important to remember that it’s not about the goal itself but about the love of God that carried you through the process. The crown is not a reward for perfection, speed or public recognition. It’s the result of faithfulness. It’s given to those who stayed anchored to God even when quitting would have been easier, quieter and more comfortable. Visible wins are

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not the crown James is referring to; it’s God’s acknowledgment that you loved Him enough to keep going when the outcome was uncertain.

I don’t know what your crown looks like, but I can guarantee it’s something indescribable that will bring you much joy and awe for how dearly you are loved. You don’t receive it because you did everything right; you receive it because you refused to let go of God. Understanding this promise allows you to release the unnecessary strife with which other entrepreneurs toil. God sees every unseen sacrifice, every prayer whispered in frustration and every step taken in faith. So, keep marching. The promise is sure, and I have faith in you.

Trying New Things: Glass Fusing at Sawtooth School for Visual Art

by ISABELLA CASTINEYRA

With this month’s edition of Trying New Things, I am diverging from the regularly scheduled fitness activity and…per the column title…trying something new. I was lucky enough to be able to do a glass fusing class at the Sawtooth School for Visual Art. I am not a naturally artistic person and art is not my normal wellness activity, but I’m thrilled I had the opportunity to give a class a try.

SAWTOOTH HISTORY

If you spend time in downtown Winston-Salem, you’ve probably passed by Sawtooth dozens of times without realizing – it has an identifiable, jagged roofline. Sawtooth, under its previous name the “Arts and Crafts Workshop” has been a pivotal part of Winston-Salem culture since 1945. It operates as a nonprofit community art and craft school with high quality instructors, affordable classes and gorgeous facilities. Sawtooth offers camps and classes in eleven different disciplines.

WHAT’S GLASS FUSING?

I went into this class intentionally not knowing anything about glass fusing; I wanted to really jump in and see what it is like to take an art class and if I could keep up.

Turns out, most of the other students in the class – seven in total – had no prior experience in glass fusing either. I took my seat at the station already set up with the materials I needed: glue, a glass cutter and two types of pliers. The instructor, Betti Longinotti, went through the basics of her experience, what we were making and a few strategies. After the brief instruction, we worked independently with the instructor there to assist. We were making small trinket dishes, so the process was drawing a quick sketch of what we wanted ours to look like, picking out colored glasses, cutting them and gluing them to a paper so they could be fired in a kiln later for us to pick up and take home.

BEGINNER FRIENDLY?

I think one of the best parts of this class was how beginner friendly it was. As Betti explained, glass fusing is very forgiving, especially if the plan for the trinket dish is a mosaic design. The colors fuse together so small gaps and errors melt away. The actual act of putting together the dish was also beginner friendly. Betti played music in the room, and it was relaxing to slowly watch the glass dish fall into place.

A CONVERSATION WITH BETTI LONGINOTTI

Chatting with Betti Longinotti after the class really solidified that Sawtooth, and the Winston-Salem art community as a whole, is something that matters to a lot of people. Betti’s background in art stretched long before her time at Sawtooth: “I’ve been in art since I can remember; wanting to be an artist.” After high school, Betti continued her studies at the Maryland Institute College of Art and the University of the Arts in Philadelphia. When she was in college she had an apprenticeship in stained glass, when she fell in love with the discipline. “I was given a box of glass and he [her mentor] said, ‘make something,’ and we were making lampshades. It took so long in the beginning with all the designing, cutting, grinding, copper foiling and soldering. It took a whole semester to get that done. At the end of the semester, I said ‘I want to do this again.’”

When Betti moved to Winston-Salem with her husband, Sawtooth was going through renovations and she was able to interview for a position at the school. After joining Sawtooth, she started the stained glass program. Betti has been an instructor since 1982.

“Sawtooth is a community. I know a lot of artists and teachers here; we’re a family.”

Please register for your own class or camp at sawtooth.org and support a wonderful local business!

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Basketball, Brackets and Unpredictability

Eby ROBIN SHUPE

very year, as winter melts away and the first signs of spring start to emerge, one thing remains constant in the United States – March Madness. No, it’s not a nationwide outbreak of insanity (though it sometimes feels that way); it’s the NCAA Division I Men’s Basketball Tournament, a three-week extravaganza that captivates the country, defies logic and produces as many high-flying dunks as it does headaches for anyone trying to fill out a perfect bracket.

The Madness kicks off in mid-March and quickly spirals into chaos, with 68 college basketball teams battling it out in a single-elimination tournament. The tournament’s format, with games played across various cities and culminated by a climactic Final Four, is a spectacle of sport, tradition and drama. However, if you’re looking for a clearcut favorite to win, prepare to be disappointed. The unpredictability of March Madness is what makes it, well, madness.

BRACKETS: WHERE LOGIC GOES TO DIE

One of the most enduring traditions of March Madness is the bracket challenge. Fans – both casual and die-hard – fill out their predictions for the entire tournament, from the first round all the way through the championship game. The goal? To correctly guess which teams will advance and ultimately win. Simple, right? If only it were that easy.

March Madness is famous for its upsets, where lower-seeded teams (also known as “Cinderella” teams) take down heavy favorites.

The odds of selecting a perfect bracket are so astronomically low that they’re practically nonexistent. So, when your cousin Dave, who hasn’t watched a single game all season, picks the team with the coolest mascot to go all the way, don’t be too surprised when his bracket performs better than yours.

One of the great joys of March Madness is witnessing the “Cinderella story.” Every year, a team that was overlooked or dismissed by the experts rises from

obscurity to take down top-ranked opponents. These surprise underdogs are the ones that turn the tournament into a spectacle of the improbable. Just ask George Mason University in 2006 or Florida Gulf Coast University in 2013 when they became household names, not because they were expected to win, but because they shocked the basketball world.

THE MADNESS BEHIND THE MADNESS

So, why is it called “March Madness?” Well, the term was originally coined in 1939 by an Illinois high school basketball official named Henry V. Porter, but it wasn’t until the 1980s that it became synonymous with the NCAA tournament. As TV broadcasts grew in popularity, more and more fans began tuning in to watch the drama unfold –complete with buzzer beaters, crazy upsets and teams advancing against all odds.

And, while most of the country is glued to their TVs, businesses also see a massive uptick in productivity losses. March Madness is so all consuming that millions of people end up “sick” for work, pretending to have the flu as they stay home to watch their team’s improbable run to the Sweet 16. It’s a phenomenon known as “office pool fever,” and it’s as contagious as any virus.

THE FINAL SHOT

In the end, March Madness isn’t just about basketball; it’s about community, camaraderie and chaos. It’s a time when casual fans can get as invested as lifelong followers, where every game feels like the most important thing in the world and where bracket-busting upsets bring people together in a shared experience of delightful frustration. Whether you’re a basketball fanatic or someone who couldn’t care less about sports, March Madness is a wild ride that’s impossible to ignore.

And, who knows? Maybe this year, the unthinkable will happen – and your bracket will finally be the one to break the curse of perfection. But, probably not.

LOCAL EVENTS

*Event details are subject to change. Please check event websites & social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.*

MARCH 18

ADULT ACTING BOOT CAMP

6-8pm, The Little Theatre of W-S, 4015 Brownsboro Road in W-S. Two classes a week for three weeks to get you theatre fit. Whether you are interested in theatre skills or are looking to tone your theatre muscles, students will explore how experiencing their everyday world can help them with their character development and tone how they interact with people in their daily lives.

MARCH 19

FORSYTH WOMAN MAGAZINE’S 5TH ANNUAL WOMEN ON THE MOVE CONFERENCE

9am-4pm, Legacy Stables & Events, 4151 Thomasville Road in W-S. Join Forsyth Woman Magazine for a day full of impactful presentations, networking, food and drinks, and more! Visit WOMC2026. eventbrite.com for more information.

MARCH 21

LITTLE ACTORS THEATRE: ACTING UP

10am-12pm, The Little Theatre of W-S, 4015 Brownsboro Road in W-S. Step into the spotlight and let your imagination take center stage! This introductory theatre class helps young performers build core skills through engaging, ageappropriate instruction. Students will explore vocal technique and learn how to use their bodies and voices to bring characters to life. This semester focuses on strengthening skills, fostering collaboration and growing confidence on stage. By the end of the session, students will share their progress in a final showcase that celebrates their development as emerging performers.

MARCH 21

DRESS FOR SUCCESS POWER OF THE PURSE

11am-2pm, 375 Buxton Street. Join the movement, equip women, enhance lives. In celebration of Women’s History Month, we invite you, your organization, sorority, friends circle, church group, neighbors or family to be a part of this very special experience. Enjoy music, free food, giveaways, free raffles and lots more celebration and fun! Help us exceed our goal of 100 purses collected for working women. Contact with any questions –director@dfsws.org or call 336.970.0374.

MARCH 21-22

HOUSE OF PLANTS 50TH ANNIVERSARY

10am-5pm, 507 Harvey Street in W-S. In March of 1976, Barry and Mary Boneno opened the House of Plants. Their wish was to create an atmosphere of good cheer and whimsy. A magical place for both customers and staff, filled with beautiful plants, gifts and so much more! Please join us to celebrate 50 years in Winston-Salem –March 21st and 22nd.

MARCH 22

LEAD GIRLS’ 10TH ANNIVERSARY SOIRÉE & LEADING THE WAY AWARDS

5:30-7:30pm, Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts. Join us for an unforgettable evening celebrating 10 years of impact with LEAD Girls of NC. This special anniversary soirée brings our community together to honor our girls while celebrating our champions who have helped shape brighter futures

over the past decade. We’re proud to mark this milestone at a time when investing in girls matters more than ever, especially as LEAD Girls is featured on the cover of Forsyth Family’s March issue, spotlighting their power and limitless potential. As a supporter of LEAD Girls, you play a vital role in empowering the next generation of confident, capable leaders. We hope you’ll join us as we reflect on how far we’ve come and continue leading the way together.

MARCH 25

2026 REACH WOMEN’S CONFERENCE

8:30am-3:30pm, Benton Convention Center. The 2026 REACH Women’s Conference will gather more than 600 individuals from the corporate, nonprofit, education and entrepreneurship sectors who are interested in gender equity and inclusion, professional development, self care and networking to hear from first class speakers and participate in panels, workshops and discussion roundtables. This year’s conference theme will center on Bold Thinking in Times of Change.

FUTURE

APRIL 11

DYNAMIS DASH 5K RUN/WALK & FUN RUN

9am, Dynamis Estate Wines, 1004 Highland Road in Jonesville, NC. Lace up your running shoes and take in the beauty of our centuryold estate as you traverse a stunning course through our mountain top vineyards and rolling hills. Cross the finish line and toast your success with a glass of select Dynamis wine. Savor a delectable brunch featuring locally inspired dishes designed to complement our wines. Each participant will receive a

premium athletic shirt to commemorate the day. Whether you’re a seasoned runner, a casual walker or simply a lover of luxury experiences, the Dynamis Dash 5k Run/ Walk promises an unforgettable day of fitness and indulgence at NC’s premium luxury winery. Proceeds will support the efforts of the Hugh Chatham Foundation.

APRIL 11

ARCHERY AFTERNOON AT THE LAM

1-4pm, Lam Museum of Anthropology, 1315 Carroll Weathers Drive in W-S. From hunting tools and weapons of war to ceremonial objects and artistic works, bows and arrows occupy many roles in cultures around the world. Join us as we explore the world of archery through demonstrations, activities, and crafts for all ages. This event is offered in conjunction with the exhibit Archery: Hunting, Warfare and Identity. Admission is free.

APRIL 17

CHEERS TO THE 5TH YEAR OF TRIPLE CROWN CASINO NIGHT

5:30pm, Legacy Stables & Events in W-S. Our 5th annual event returns, and this year’s event is packed with even more excitement, action and chances to win. Join us for Pretty in Pink Foundation’s signature Triad fundraiser – a high-energy night where every spin, roll and bid supports breast cancer patients right here in NC. Enjoy casino games, a live auction, a gourmet dinner, a diamond giveaway and more!

APRIL 18

PIEDMONT EARTH DAY FAIR

10am-4pm, The Winston-Salem Fairgrounds. Hosted by Piedmont Environmental Alliance, enjoy great food and music, activities for adults and kids, and wonderful Earth-friendly exhibitors...all while learning about how you can support a greener region. The

Piedmont Earth Day Fair is a fun and free community event, perfect for folks of all ages. Event held rain or shine.

APRIL 30

WINE, WOMEN & SHOES

5:30pm, Legacy Stables & Events. Gather your friends for a night of fashion, wine and purpose where every table is a party! Fill a table of 10, and we’ll toast your group with a complimentary bottle of champagne. Rally your friends, and turn your table into the best party in the room. This event returns for the third year, bringing together women from across the Triad for an evening of style, celebration and giving back. From wine tastings and shopping to a seated dinner, every detail supports Ronald McDonald House Charities Piedmont Triad. Tickets on sale at winewomenandshoes.com/rmhcpt.

MAY 1

SPRING PLANT SALE AT THE ARBORETUM AT TANGLEWOOD

8am-2pm. Arboretum Volunteers and Educators at Tanglewood (AVET) will hold its annual spring plantsale. Enjoy the beauty of the gardens while making your way to one of Forsyth County’s premier plant sales. Selections include herbaceous perennials, flowering shrubs and trees, native plants, milkweed, annuals, herbs and more; plus, new for this year is carnivorous plants. The Arboretum Volunteers and Educators at Tanglewood organize this fundraiser which provides support for the NC State Extension Master Gardener℠ (EMG) volunteer program in Forsyth County. Proceeds from your purchase help maintain the Arboretum at Tanglewood Park and fund the monthly Adult Education lecture series held at Tanglewood Park throughout the year. Shop early for best selection. Sales are cash or check only. For additional information, call 336.703.2850.

$1.00 Admission collected at the door to support local Davie County charities

Food Trucks available on site!

Conversation with Your BFF

After we “escape” a toxic relationship, we often beat ourselves up and ask, “how did I ever get myself into that situation, and why did I stay so long? Seriously, how desperate can I be?” Recently, my BFF and I had this discussion as she was questioning her choices in men and what the two years she invested in them mean in the large scheme of things. I assured her that even in the worst and most toxic relationships, you can gain knowledge to take to your next chapter. So, what can you gain from the most toxic relationships of your life? I am so glad you asked!

STRONG BOUNDARIES

I learned that boundaries aren’t punishments, but protections. I stopped over-explaining, stopped negotiating my comfort and stopped mistaking endurance for love. No is a complete sentence, and access to me is earned, not assumed. This is a big one to learn for any relationship.

TRUSTING MY INTUITION

I used to talk myself out of what my gut knew instantly. That relationship taught me that intuition whispers at first and screams later. Now, I listen early. I honor that internal nudge without needing proof, permission or consensus.

HYPER AWARENESS

I became highly attuned to energy, tone, inconsistencies and emotional shifts. While hyper vigilance isn’t something I want to live in forever, it sharpened my ability to read rooms, people and patterns quickly and accurately.

A REBUILT IDENTITY

Toxic relationships quietly dismantle who you are. Rebuilding myself meant rediscovering my values, voice, preferences and power without apologizing for them. I didn’t just find myself again, I redesigned myself intentionally.

MY PEACE IS NON-NEGOTIABLE

I no longer romanticize chaos or confuse intensity with connection. If something costs me my peace, clarity or sleep, it is too expensive. Calm isn’t boring, it’s sacred.

STRONGER PARENTING

My BFF said she became a better parent because she healed. She modeled emotional regulation, self respect and

Nine Things I Gained From the Most Toxic Relationship of My Life

by REBECCA COOPER

accountability to her child. She taught her daughter that love doesn’t hurt, silence isn’t safety and staying isn’t the same as being valued.

A NEW STANDARD FOR LOVE

Love now means consistency, kindness, accountability and emotional safety. I don’t chase potential anymore; I respond to behavior. I expect mutual effect, mutual respect and mutual care.

AMBITION AND EXPANSION

Survival mode keeps you small. Healing gave me room to dream again; to grow, create, lead and expand without fear of being diminished. I no longer shrink to be chosen.

PURPOSE

The pain wasn’t wasted. It refined my empathy, sharpened my discernment and clarified my purpose. I now understand what I won’t tolerate and what I deserve; and I can name it out loud.

In the end, I wouldn’t choose that relationship again, but I would choose who it made me, every single time.

Some lessons come wrapped in fire. But, if you survive them, they don’t just change you…they free you.