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If you walked into my gym on a Friday night over the past few weeks, you might have thought you stumbled into a championship sporting event. Music blasting, people cheering at the top of their lungs. The energy is electric.

That’s because we just wrapped up the 2026 CrossFit Open.

For those who don’t follow CrossFit, the Open is basically our “Super Bowl.” It’s three weeks of workouts that you can’t prepare for because they’re announced just the day before you complete them. It’s a true test of your fitness each year—and if you’re a CrossFitter, you know people take it very seriously.

as we share highlights from the day...and of course we’ll feature plenty of photos in our May issue!

But more than a fitness test, it’s really about community. For three weeks each year, our gym family comes together to cheer each other on, participate in our fun theme nights, and celebrate every single effort. The exhaustion I feel as a gym owner at the end of it all is very real (and the same goes for our entire coaching team!), but it’s the best kind of tired. We’re incredibly proud of our athletes for pushing themselves—and their teammates—to be better.

It’s honestly hard to explain the emotions of watching a gym full of people yelling, cheering, and encouraging their friends through those final seconds of a workout each week. In CrossFit, they call it “Open magic,” and I can confirm… the magic is very real during those few weeks.

And now that the Open is behind us, we’re diving straight into Women on the Move Conference week! This year marks our 5th annual WOMC, and believe me when I say we truly spend an entire year planning this event. At this point, we’re working on all the fun finishing touches—like centerpieces (I cannot wait for you to see what we’ve come up with… hint: cowboy boots + florals at the beautiful Legacy Stables & Events). This conference is one of my absolute favorite days of the year and something that truly fills my cup. Be sure to follow along on social media @forsythmags

We’re also thrilled to feature Triad Cushion Factory on our cover this month—just in time to get your outdoor living space ready for spring. I don’t know about you, but relaxing on my porch furniture is one of my favorite parts of this season. Their team will walk you through every step of choosing the perfect fabric and style to refresh your space. Read more on page 52.

Another reason I love spring? It means summer is right around the corner. And if you know me, you know I absolutely love my lake time in the summer—nothing beats a day out on the boat. If you’re hoping to spend more time on the water this year, you’ll want to check out Adventure Boat Club at Lake Norman (just about an hour away!). Learn more on page 48.

Be sure to read this issue cover to cover...we’ve packed it with content you won’t want to miss. And in my totally unbiased opinion, there’s nothing quite like flipping through a magazine while enjoying a little beautiful spring weather.

Wishing you an incredible April!

All my best,

Brooke Culler, @brooke__culler Publisher

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by LAUREN SEPHTON

Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a freelance writer and a food blogger with a passion for food that tastes good and is good for you! Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.

Brown Sugar Carrot Cake Latte

This Brown Sugar Carrot Cake Latte with a Maple-Cinnamon Cold Foam is a fun spring ice latte recipe that takes less than 20 minutes to fully make!

Prep Time: 10 minutes

Cook Time: 10 minutes Total Time: 20 minutes

INGREDIENTS

For the Brown Sugar Carrot Cake Syrup:

2 large carrots

½ cup brown sugar

2 cups water

¾ tsp. ground cinnamon

¼ tsp. pumpkin spice

1” fresh ginger grated

Zest of one orange

INSTRUCTIONS

For the Brown Sugar Carrot Cake Syrup:

For the Cinnamon Maple Cold Foam:

¼ cup half & half

2 tsp. maple syrup

¼ tsp. ground cinnamon

For the Latte:

½ cup whole milk

2 shots espresso

1. Chop the carrots into tiny pieces, then add to a saucepan with the water. Bring the water to a boil over medium high heat, then reduce and add the brown sugar. Stir until sugar is dissolved and carrots are mostly fork tender, about 5-10 minutes.

2. Transfer all ingredients to a high speed blender. Pulse until smooth.

3. Strain the mixture, then stir in the ground cinnamon, pumpkin spice, orange zest and grated ginger.

4. Store in a glass container in the fridge for up to 4-5 days.

For the Cinnamon Maple Cold Foam:

1. Add all ingredients in a small bowl. Use a hand held milk frother to whisk until thick and foamy.

To Assemble the Latte:

1. Fill a glass with ice. Add 1-2 tablespoons of the Brown Sugar Carrot Cake Syrup, then the whole milk, then the espresso and lastly top with the cold foam.

2. Dust with ground cinnamon to enjoy!

25 Years of Empty Bowls — And the Story Continues

For 25 years, Empty Bowls has reflected a simple truth: when a community shows up for one another, something powerful takes shape.

What began as a modest gathering inspired by the stone soup story has grown into one of our area’s most enduring traditions. Each year, Empty Bowls invites neighbors to take part in something larger than a single meal — a shared commitment to ensuring families across the region have reliable access to the food they need.

Over time, the event itself has evolved. Today, Empty Bowls operates as a drive-through experience that allows more supporters than ever to participate while preserving the spirit that has defined the event from the beginning. Each bowl represents a reminder of what happens when people contribute what they can to strengthen their community.

That collective e!ort has sustained Empty Bowls for a quarter century. Artists and community partners have created thousands of handcrafted bowls. Volunteers have helped bring the event to life year after year. Sponsors, including Garner Foods, Food Lion, and Sawtooth School for Visual Art (celebrating 80 years this year!), and many other longtime supporters have ensured the impact extends far beyond a single day.

Together, those contributions support the work of Second Harvest Food Bank of Northwest North Carolina and its network of partners across an 18-county service area. Through hundreds of food pantries, shelters, schools, and community organizations, that network helps ensure neighbors have access to nutritious food and the support they need to move forward.

Today, Empty Bowls has also come to reflect the deeper work happening through Second Harvest’s Providence programs, where culinary training and workforce development create pathways to opportunity.

Stories like Chef Daryl Myers, Jr’s show what that opportunity can mean.

During his time with Second Harvest’s Providence Culinary Training program, Daryl developed a passion for making cheesecakes that he has grown into a thriving business. What began as a training opportunity became a pathway forward — one that opened doors he once believed were out of reach.

His story reflects something Empty Bowls has represented quietly for 25 years: food can do more than fill a plate. It can create possibility.

As Second Harvest marks this milestone year, the anniversary is less about looking back than recognizing the many people who have shaped the tradition along the way — and those who continue to carry it forward. Artists who craft the bowls. Students who prepare the soup. Sponsors, volunteers, and supporters who return year after year. Each of them contributes to the story.

And like the stone soup that inspired the event, the strength of Empty Bowls has always come from the simple act of people bringing what they can and creating something meaningful together.

Twenty-five years in, that story is still unfolding.

Join Second Harvest for Empty Bowls! Happening Wednesday, April 22 (drive-through between 11:00 a.m. and 6:00 p.m.) Ticket sales close April 12 at midnight.

Keeping It Real

ARE YOU SURE YOU’RE CLIMBING THE RIGHT MOUNTAIN?

by DR. DEBBIE LANIER

Mount Everest…ever scaled this wondrous destination? Not likely! After all, it’s the highest point on Earth, and only about 0.0001% of humanity has ever reached the top. Why? For starters, the air becomes so thin, humans cannot survive for extended periods. Oxygen levels plummet so low at one point, it’s called the “Death Zone.” What’s more, temperatures drop to -80° Fahrenheit at the summit, with winds often exceeding 100 mph. (Y’all, that’s 80 degrees BELOW zero!)

Regardless, adventurers can’t resist. They risk their lives to conquer this great feat! This rare achievement sets them apart from the rest of us.

Yet, isn’t that what we do in life? We set our sights on attaining something worthwhile, then push past obstacles to reach even seemingly unreachable success!

Maybe it’s a prestigious career or financial bracket we desire. Perhaps, it’s notoriety we want more than anything. Whatever the goal, we’re willing to sacrifice much to attain it. Sometimes, we even compromise health and meaningful relationships, all while making the climb. We tell ourselves it will all be worth it in the end.

Back to Mount Everest. After all that exertion and risk, those daredevils reach the top only to find something utterly unfathomable. Believe it or not, heaps of trash overwhelm the breathtaking views! For real! The summit has become one of the filthiest, most littered places on the planet! It’s often called, “The World’s Highest Junkyard!”

Throughout the decades, people reaching the top discard their oxygen gear, water bottles and a host of other things. Imagine striving through that much life-threatening turmoil, only to arrive at a despicable display of trash!

Back to us. We can work our whole life to get to the top, yet upon arrival, discover it wasn’t at all what we envisioned. All we thought it would mean, well, it lands flat.

Friends, we were created to conquer! God built it into our very DNA. But, we must make sure we’re conquering what matters most AND what will matter in the end!

Make sure you scale the mountain made for you! Otherwise, you can get to the top and realize you did a lot of climbing AT GREAT RISK…for nothing!

Life ALL depends and ONLY depends upon which mountain you’re climbing. Are you sure you are climbing the right mountain?

The Psalmist knew a thing or two about this. He wrote:

“Lord, help me to know how fleeting my time on earth is, that I’m only here but for a moment more…

Compared to You my lifetime is nothing at all!

…So too are the grandest of men; they are nothing but a fleeting shadow!”

…All our activities and energies are spent for things that pass away. We gather, we hoard, we cling to our things, only to leave them all behind for who knows who. And now, God, I’m left with one conclusion:

MY ONLY HOPE IS TO HOPE IN YOU ALONE! (Psalms 39:4-7 tPt)

Every new day means we have one fewer day to get it right. Don’t waste time chasing accolades that, a

century from now, won’t be worth the paper on which they are written. Don’t chase financial gain at the expense of relationships you want standing by your bedside when it’s time to leave this life.

Don’t choose your climb based on things that fade and foil.

God is my hope. He’s my ONLY Hope and my FOREVER Hope. He’s my forever home, too! I want to climb in such a way that my generations coming behind me choose the right mountain too! What about you? Are you sure you’re climbing the right mountain?!

Meet me on the Patio.

Suns out. Coffee, brunch, dinner, and dessert just taste better outside. Grab your people and meet us on the patio at Midtown.

forsyth plastic surgery Thinking About Plastic Surgery? Five Answers You Need First

Once you have decided to have plastic surgery there are several important questions you must ask.

by KIM SMITH

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“WHO WILL BE AROUND SHOULD I NEED SOMEONE AFTER SURGERY?” (THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION)

“WHO WILL BE DOING MY SURGERY?”

“Social media and the internet are filled with all sorts of people who appear to be plastic surgeons,” says Dr. Andrew Schneider, a surgeon at Forsyth Plastic Surgery in WinstonSalem. “But the fact is, almost anyone can claim to be a plastic surgeon these days, and the various board certifications and languages that are used can be very confusing.”

Dr. Schneider notes many doctors use the term “plastic surgeon,” but in reality, they have just taken a superficial course in how to do a procedure, without formal basic training.

“A true plastic surgeon is fully trained in the entire specialty of plastic and reconstructive surgery and then certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery after six to eight years of rigorous training,” explains Dr. Gil Kingman, another of the surgeons at Forsyth Plastic Surgery. “If the board certification is anything but the American Board of Plastic Surgery, please take a closer look and ask questions — you may be surprised at what you find.”

“WHAT PROCEDURE IS RIGHT FOR ME?”

Make sure your surgeon listens carefully to what you want to achieve, and never let someone push a procedure on you, advises Dr. George Lawson, a surgeon at FPS. “You should feel like your surgeon has listened to you. Be sure the surgery being discussed makes sense to achieve your goals, and what you want to spend.”

“WHAT ARE THE RISKS AND BENEFITS OF THE PROCEDURE?”

“Every surgery has some risks, and it is very important your doctor discusses these with you,” shares FPS surgeon, Dr. Leslie Branch. “Even minor procedures have some risks, and we want all our patients to be thoroughly educated. Fortunately, most patients have no complications and do very well.”

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“WHERE WILL MY SURGERY BE PERFORMED?”

“Our doctors own and operate the Plastic Surgery Center of North Carolina,” notes Brittni Wonsavage, RN, nurse manager and director at the facility. “Our surgery center is fully accredited and meets every necessary standard. We stress safety and privacy, and think every patient deserves to have surgery in the best facility possible.”

Forsyth Plastic Surgery has a doctor available 24 hours a day to help patients who are recovering from surgery. If someone has an issue, whether small or large, a board-certified plastic surgeon is ready to help either by phone or in person.

The decision to have plastic surgery is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. When it comes time to meet with a plastic surgeon, make sure you think back to these five basic — yet important — questions, and enjoy the best experience possible!

To learn more about the Forsyth Plastic Surgery team — and both their surgical and non-surgical services — visit forsythplasticsurgery.com or call 336-765-8620.

The Hidden Cost of DIY Investing Making Dollars, Making $ense

BY JON MARZANO, AIF®, MANAGING PRINCIPAL

Doing your own investing has never been easier. The tools are accessible. The fees are low. The online resources are endless. But, there’s one cost that often gets ignored – financial confidence.

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CONFIDENCE FEELS EASY IN GOOD TIMES

When markets are calm and rising, it’s easy to feel in control. A few smart moves can build a lot of confidence. But the real test isn’t how you behave when things go well, it’s how you react when they don’t. Markets always fluctuate, and when they do, DIY investors can find themselves second-guessing their decisions.

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WHEN YOU’RE YOUR OWN ADVISOR, EMOTIONS MATTER

Most people don’t make decisions based on spreadsheets; they make them based on feelings.

• Fear urges you to sell.

• Greed pushes you to chase hot trends.

• Regret reminds you of missed opportunities.

In those moments, it’s hard to think clearly. That’s where advice makes the biggest difference. Not in picking stocks, but in helping you stay grounded when your instincts are pulling you off course.

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ADVICE ISN’T ABOUT TRANSACTIONS; IT’S ABOUT OUTCOMES

The value of advice isn’t just in what you do, it’s in what you avoid. It’s about:

TECHNOLOGY IS SMART, BUT IT DOESN’T KNOW YOU

Many DIY investors rely on algorithms and automation. These tools are impressive. They can rebalance your portfolio, minimize taxes and make your dashboard look great. But, they can’t have a conversation with you.

They can’t remind you of your goals. They can’t challenge your assumptions. They can’t keep you from making a fear-based move you’ll regret later. Smart tools are helpful, but they’re not a substitute for thoughtful guidance.

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MISTAKES ADD UP QUIETLY

DIY investors often fall into patterns they don’t notice until it’s too late:

• Trying to time the market.

• Overloading on a single company or sector.

• Ignoring taxes and hidden fees.

• Confusing diversification with duplication.

Each decision might seem minor in the moment, but over time, small mistakes can snowball into big setbacks.

• Making consistent, confident decisions.

• Sticking to your plan, even when it’s uncomfortable.

• Avoiding costly missteps.

• Protecting your future from your present impulses.

Advisors don’t just build portfolios. They build frameworks for making better choices, even in uncertain times.

THE BOTTOM LINE

If you enjoy managing your investments, have a clear plan and sleep well regardless of market swings…you may be just fine on your own.

But, if you find yourself feeling anxious, stuck or unsure about what to do next, it might be worth getting another set of eyes on your plan.

Control is good, but confidence is better. And, confidence tends to sleep a lot more soundly.

Rebalancing a portfolio may cause investors to incur tax liabilities and/or transaction costs and does not assure a profit or protect against loss. There is no guarantee that a diversified portfolio will enhance overall returns or outperform a non-diversified portfolio. Diversification does not protect against market risk.

In Tune and In Charge at the Winston-Salem Symphony Women Aren't Breaking Barriers; They're Leading the Music

Something remarkable is happening at the Winston-Salem Symphony, and it's not just the music. Across the organization, from the executive suite to the podium to the classroom, women are leading with vision, discipline and heart. It's a moment that feels both historic and, perhaps more importantly, entirely natural.

The symphony recently welcomed Amanda Norman as President and CEO, succeeding Merritt Vale, who led the organization for nearly 30 years. Norman, who previously served as both CFO and Chief Operating Officer, stepped into the role just two months ago and has wasted no time making her presence felt. “Leadership isn't about the title change; it's about the responsibility you're willing to carry,” she says. “We're standing on nearly eight decades of excellence. My role is to honor that history while making bold decisions for the next generation.”

Her ascent from financial and operational leadership to the top executive role reflects a philosophy she articulates with characteristic precision. “Operational leadership teaches you discipline. Executive leadership asks you to pair that discipline with imagination.”

On the podium, Music Director Michelle Merrill is making history of her own – the first woman to hold the position at a professional orchestra in

North Carolina. She recently extended her initial contract, a strong vote of confidence from the board. Her vision for the symphony is expansive. “My goal is to build upon the orchestra's legacy by helping it grow in ways that feel vibrant and relevant for our community – programming that spans a wide range of styles, pairs classical masterworks with contemporary voices and highlights the incredible artistry of our own musicians,” Merrill remarks. “We're also in an exciting moment of renewal. After a long pause in auditions due in part to the pandemic, many outstanding new players have joined, bringing fresh energy and perspective to the ensemble.”

That spirit of renewal runs through every corner of the organization. In education and philanthropy – two of the symphony's most community-facing pillars – women hold every leadership position.

VP of Education and Engagement Rachel Watson, formerly a public school music educator, brings a deeply personal mission. “Our education programs are not an add-on; they are a strategic investment in our community's future.”

That investment takes vivid shape through a large and prosperous Youth Orchestras Program, and through P.L.A.Y. Music, the

symphony's El Sistema-based strings program in Title One elementary schools. Program Director Alexis Prescott-Polk remarks, “Through P.L.A.Y., we are building meaningful pathways into orchestral music for students who might not otherwise have access – and witnessing them grow not only as musicians, but as confident young people who feel a true sense of belonging, as well. Education is where sustainability begins.”

On stage, the season reflects the same spirit. Most guest artists this year have been women. Recent and coming performances feature principal flutist Kathryn Levy as concerto soloist; vocalist Storm Large in Kurt Weill's The Seven Deadly Sins; and North Carolina Poet Laureate Jaki Shelton Green reading the poetry of Maya Angelou set to music.

It's a cultural shift felt at every level – including by those just beginning their careers. Patron Loyalty Manager Kayla Bull meets this shift with enthusiasm. “Being mentored by women who lead with such excellence reminds me that I am supported and capable of success in our field.”

Merrill, for her part, speaks for the whole team when she reflects on what this moment means: “It's especially meaningful to be part of a leadership team with so many strong women helping guide the organization forward. Together, we're building an orchestra that honors its tradition while embracing a dynamic future.”

At

the Winston-Salem Symphony, this isn't a moment. It's a movement.

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You’ve Tried Decluttering, But What About Uncomplicating?

by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

I don’t know about you, but when I hear the word “uncomplicate,” my Zen breathing kicks in. No, really. The mere sound of the word suggests reprieve, relief – a welcome unburdening. We humans have a way of complicating things. All manner of things: our homes, possessions, finances and, dare I say, our relationships. All manner of things. We don’t mean to, but life tends to pile on until we step in to reconsider.

It’s not just about decluttering, which can seem like such an onerous Olympic-sized chore. We know we should, we don’t want to, we start, we stop, we give up. We feel defeated by the enormity of it all. I hear you; I really do.

The other day, I had an experience that technically could be considered “decluttering” but was driven by a different desire: to uncomplicate. It all started when I was rummaging for lipstick. I reached for the Ziploc bag with the light shades. No luck. Then I reached for the bag with the dark shades, still no luck. With the awareness of approaching defeat, I dug into the lip glosses and still came up empty-handed. My self-talk got on a serious roll, chastising me for this veritable archive of lip stuff, most of which had clearly seen better days – make that years.

This is WAY too complicated. How much time have I spent on this already? Way too much.

Right.

After the self-directed mea culpa, I got busy organizing and tossing tube after tube on my way to the uncomplicated, to keeping it easy and simple.

I feel lighter. What’s next?

The Tupperware – or whatever it’s called these days.

I have to say that the Tupperware dive was even more gratifying than the lipstick raid! It required leaning, half-prone on the kitchen floor to first dig out the multitude of plastic, microwaveable, freezable mish mosh of lids no bottoms and bottoms no lids. My kitchen floor looked like a nursery room montage of safe toys. What followed was like assembling a puzzle, matching tops to bottoms and wondering where in the world some of these things came from. In the end, I tossed half of them. Half! I smugly matched up the disparate pieces, found an accessible home for each and plopped my strained bottom on a proper kitchen chair. You go girl!

You might refer to these two high energy sprees as decluttering marathons. And, in a way, they were. But, the impetus wasn’t a half-baked New Year’s resolution or a guilt trip about the need to declutter; it was more motivating than that, more fundamental. It was driven by a desire to uncomplicate in a way that would reduce unnecessary fuss and stress in my day-to-day life.

I like this framing; it works for me. The next time I go looking for The Canterbury Tales or Pride and Prejudice in this stacked pile or that, I’ll be inclined to uncomplicate, to simplify. To make even that area of my life easy.

The Village I Hadn’t Noticed

by ANDREW PARKER

Behindthe delicious, fresh-baked croissant that gently flakes at each wonderful bite, and the piping hot coffee and incredibly soothing aroma are the hands that flipped on the light switch in the kitchen, collected the ingredients from the pantry, began the mixing, heating, baking and plating.

The glittery decorations lining the entry, impeccable table decorations and three-piece band warming up for the festive evening of dance and revelry. Before even the first note of music is played, many hands wrapped, tied, folded and arranged so many moving parts to pull off another classically delightful evening.

The layers of care, effort and intention that go into each day, every day, to create this amazing village, is so beautiful. People loving on people.

I hadn’t given this village its rightful recognition. I simply hadn’t noticed how extraordinary it is.

THE VILLAGE I WASN’T LOOKING FOR

Retirement community. CCRC. Senior living. Nursing care.

For many of us, especially those in our 30s, 40s and even 50s, these words feel distant; more of a niche industry, residing on the outskirts of our later years. It’s odd, though, since most of us will spend several decades of our lives in this demographic. It’s not the awful final season fans and critics shun. It’s the natural part of all our journeys. Consider it a blessing to arrive at this point.

I’m almost embarrassed by the neglect I’ve had in preparing for this chapter, not only for myself, but for my loved ones, as well. I should’ve given more diligence to planning and researching this wonderful season.

There’s an opportunity to grab more life, do more things than I envisioned. My perspective on aging has changed. I appreciate it and all the opportunities that come with it. To know living without burdens and stressors of home maintenance, chores, the unfun, is a real possibility; to focus inward on self care, support, more time for travel, fun, family and friends.

MORE THAN ME

The village I hadn’t noticed wasn’t defined by age. It was defined by intention. Like the soothing breakfast and warming social events.

The lifestyle doesn’t simply happen; someone plans it, prepares it, thinks ahead.

That kind of environment, where life feels lighter because the heavy lifting has already been considered, doesn’t happen by accident. It is designed. Sustained. Thoughtfully built long before it is ever needed.

And, that’s where the conversation should begin – long before it feels urgent.

For adult children, starting these discussions early may be one of the greatest acts of love. For those building careers and raising families, acknowledging this future now can prevent difficult decisions later.

A simple visit.

A financial review. A shared plan.

Not because something is wrong, but because something beautiful deserves foresight.

The village was always there.

I just hadn’t noticed.

My hope is that my loved ones and yours find their village.

The PERFECT RETIREMENT

IROBERT HALL

Where Celebrating Comes Naturally

by MARTIE EMORY

f you’ve attended a wedding or other celebratory occasion at the wonderfully eclectic Robert Hall event venue in Winston-Salem, you’ve witnessed the colorful past and beautiful present blending to create a setting like no other!

What is it that sets this downtown gem apart from other venue options? Owners Will and Christy Spencer bring their own history of working in the event industry from the corporate side, and Christy’s love for entertaining has been a natural fit for Robert Hall’s success.

“The most obvious thing is the intentional way we’ve restored the venue and played upon its uniqueness,” shares Christy. “The building itself is the main character in the Robert Hall story, and we’ve woven in our own love of Winston-Salem history, along with a passion for a sophisticated aesthetic. It’s given me the platform for entertaining guests, working with clients to host once-in-a-lifetime events and be an integral part of so many couples’ special days.”

When the popular venue celebrates its 4th anniversary in October of 2026, Christy and the team will be celebrating in the very best way possible – by hosting multiple weddings and special events that month.

Robert Hall offers three unique spaces that can be used altogether or reserved separately for your event. The periodinspired Capone’s on the second floor is completely authentic, from the restored 1914 antique brass cash register to the metal “vault” door. Its natural lighting and unmistakable charm makes for the coziest of gathering spaces. Preserved with its original industrial feel, The Vault provides 2,500 square feet of event space right on the first floor and connects to a fully equipped kitchen, perfect for catering use. The Garden – a lovely 2,100-squarefoot outdoor patio space – features ample seating and beautiful trees and landscaping that’s perfect for a more intimate gathering.

Besides the most romantic weddings, Robert Hall also hosts two other notable events that bring the community together.

“Once every month – with the exception of November and December – we are open to the public for Cocktails at Capone’s,” Christy shares. “From 5:00 p.m. until 9:00 p.m., on the fourth Thursday of each month, we invite you to join us for cocktails and to see Robert Hall’s unique spaces for yourself.”

Mark your calendar for Thursday, April 23rd (and plan ahead for May 28th) to spend an evening getting to know why engaged couples find Robert Hall the perfect venue choice.

“We’re also excited about our Robert Hall Secret Supper Society events, which are members-only gatherings for those who appreciate a little enchantment in their evenings,” Christy adds.

“Entertainment, community and the culinary arts blend beautifully at these dinners, which we hope to host four or five times a year.”

Adding to their already well-defined niche within Winston-Salem’s events arena, Robert Hall is embarking on another exciting chapter – transforming the space that has most recently been the Win Cup Museum into an event center to be known as The Nash.

“We noticed there are very few event spaces available to seat 250 people comfortably,” says Christy.” We’ve had requests at Robert Hall for larger events, and while we’ve made it work, the demand is only growing. Transforming the former museum into a dedicated event space is the perfect solution.”

The Nash will also be a celebration of history and craftsmanship. Mirroring the elevated standards of style and service you’ve come to expect from Robert Hall, The Nash will offer a dynamic setting perfect for private events, all within a museum-inspired atmosphere.

Stay tuned for updates and announcements by following @ RobertHallWSNC and @TheNashWSNC on social media, and visiting roberthallsecretsuppersociety.com for more information on those unique members-only evenings. Robert Hall is located at 874 N. Liberty Street in Winston-Salem, 336.408.1831.

APRIL IS Sexual Assault Awareness Month

by ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE

The statistics speak for themselves. According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC), “more than 53% of women and more than 29% of men reported experiencing contact sexual violence.” Unfortunately, the person causing such harm is often someone they know. “Most women and men across all sexual identities who experienced contact sexual violence reported that the person who harmed them was someone they knew,” the center reports. Anyone can be the target of sexual assault, regardless of age, race, gender, ethnicity, sexual orientation, sexual history or social class. While knowing about such numbers does help increase our knowledge, so does knowing exactly what a sexual assault includes.

Sexual violence is an umbrella term that includes any type of unwanted sexual contact – including sexual assault, harassment and abuse. The NSVRC reports that a sexual assault includes the following: “rape or sexual assault, sexual harassment, sexual abuse, unwanted sexual contact/touching, sexual exploitation and trafficking, exposing one’s genitals or naked body to others without consent, nonconsensual image sharing and words and actions of a sexual nature against a person’s will and without their consent.”

For the past 25 years, April has been a month dedicated to raising awareness on what exactly a “sexual assault” encompasses, as well as arming all with tips on how to prevent such violence.

During Sexual Assault Awareness Month, we also reflect on 25 years of action and progress toward ending sexual assault, abuse and harassment. According to the National

Sexual Violence resource center (NSVRC), the 2026 theme, “25 Years Strong: Looking Back, Moving Forward.” This “celebrates the resilience of survivors and the communities that have worked for change.”

This April, learn more about how you can take meaningful steps toward prevention. Read on for five tips on how you can protect yourself and those you care about from experiencing any type of sexual violence.

PREVENTION TIP #1: Be assertive. While there is not a stereotype for a sexual assault victim, sadly, passivity can make you an easy target for sexual predators. According to the UNC-Charlotte article, “Reduce the Risk of Becoming a Sexual Assault Victim,” if you are naturally a more passive person, it is vital to make sure you are assertive when in a dangerous situation. “Be direct and firm with someone who is sexually pressuring you,” the article encourages. “Tell an acquaintance or your partner what you want – or don’t want – and stick with your decision.” Remember, consent is needed on both sides in all instances of sexual activities.

PREVENTION TIP #2: Avoid potentially harmful situations. It is important to note that sexual assault can truly occur during any situation. However, it is important to try your best to not put yourself in situations that can quickly get out of control. First, make sure to travel in groups when going to social affairs and, if having alcohol, make sure you monitor your intake. Taking such precautions can reduce your risks of being victimized.

PREVENTION TIP #3: Trust your gut. If you feel like things are going in a negative direction with a friend, partner

or acquaintance, trust your instincts. The article continues, “if you feel uncomfortable or threatened around an acquaintance or your partner, get out of the situation immediately.” It is much better to misread someone’s signals and explain this later than deal with becoming the victim of a sexual assault.

PREVENTION TIP #4: Always be aware of your surroundings. The world we live in today does not ensure that we are always safe. It is vital to remember this and be on guard. This includes staying in well-lit areas as much as possible, walking at a steady pace, avoiding doorways, bushes or alleyways, and being alert to others when in parking areas, especially close to your vehicle. If you think you are being followed, walk quickly to areas where there are people and lights. Finally, always lock your car and keep your car locked when you are away from it to keep someone from hiding and waiting inside. When you are inside the car, lock the doors for safety.

PREVENTION TIP #5: Do not be afraid to get physical. Unfortunately, sometimes clear verbal communication does not work, and you may find yourself needing to protect yourself. First, push the person away, scream “No!” or even “Fire!” If this instance is happening in a public place, it is vital to scream for help. Do not be afraid to kick or hit the predator in their vulnerable areas. Finally, if you choose to carry any type of weapon for self-protection, make sure you know how to quickly use it to avoid any chances it could be used against you. Finally, signing up for a self-defense class could surely give you an extra fighting chance.

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Forsyth Firsts

Union Cross Park

by DEBBIE LINVILLE

FORSYTH COUNTY PUBLIC PARK HISTORY

The Forsyth County Parks and Recreation Department is dedicated to serving all residents and visitors of Forsyth County through park development and recreational activities. The City of Winston-Salem independently operates 82 city parks, and the Forsyth County Parks and Recreation department manages 10 developed parks. These 10 public parks are designed to be places where people of all ages can connect with nature, have fun and create lasting memories together. Forsyth County parks vary greatly in size and have been created over the years through three distinct pathways.

1. Community-county partnerships, often using grants and local donations

• Joanie Moser Memorial Park (185 acres, est. 1979)

• Walkertown Community Park (28 acres, est. 1985)

• Triad Park (430 acres, est. 2015)

• J. Dudley Watts, Jr. Belews Lake Park (216 acres, est. 2025)

2. Philanthropic efforts

• Tanglewood Park (1,200 acres, est.1976)

• C.G. Hill Memorial Park (73 acres, est.1985)

3. Adapting land previously used for other purposes (e.g. hydroelectric, water supply, working farm)

• Old US 421 River Park (1.5 acres, est. 1983)

• Kernersville Lake (160 acres, est. 1990)

• Union Cross Park (15 acres, est. 1974)

• Horizons Park (492 acres, est. 1977)

UNION CROSS RADAR STATION

Seventy-five years ago, in the southeastern part of Forsyth County, situated among tobacco fields, was a fully functional self-

contained community – owned, staffed and operated by the United States Air Force. The Union Cross Radar Station was constructed in the 1950s as a surveillance facility. Its powerful radar could detect incoming threats approaching North Carolina’s coastline, yet it was far enough inland to not be a target. The station played an important role in the Cold War-era SAGE (Semi-Automatic Ground Environment) air defense system. On December 1, 1956, the site officially began its operations. Six years later, the 810th Radar Squadron was assigned to the location and took control of the 24 Tower, which was equipped with the AN/FPS-24 Long Range Search Radar.

AN/FPS-24

The AN/FPS-24, a long-range early warning radar, originated in the escalating demands of Cold War aerial defense to address vulnerabilities identified in post-World War II studies. The AN indicates this was an Army/ Navy system. The FPS identifies the type of radar: F – Fixed (ground based); P – Radar; S – Search; 24 – the 24th design in this specific series. There were 12 such radar stations across the country (AL, CA (two stations), ID, MI, MN, MT, PA, WA, OR, ME and NC) and these 84.5-foot, five-story concrete buildings were prominent landmarks, visible for miles. The radar dish on the AN/FPS-24 tower rested on a nine-foot-diameter roller bearing and weighed about 77.6 tons. The massive 120-foot-wide antenna rotated at a rate of five to six revolutions per minute depending on wind conditions. It was likely the largest radar antenna of its kind ever built.

BIRTH OF UNION CROSS PARK

The Winston Salem AFS and its squadron were shut down on July 31, 1970 as a result of budget cuts and system changes. Forsyth County petitioned the Department of the Interior to transfer ownership of the land so

that it could be used for public recreation and, in April 1971, the county received ownership of the property. Because the site had fallen into disrepair after being abandoned, it underwent an immediate clean up and facelift. Structures that could not be used were removed, while salvageable facilities were repaired. On April 5, 1974, Forsyth County Parks and Recreation Department opened its first public park. In the late 70s, the park underwent extensive development of new facilities with the help of funding from the Bureau of Outdoor Recreation. The AN/FPS-24 radar tower (minus the radar antenna) still stands, along with a number of other original buildings that have been repurposed.

PRESENT DAY

Union Cross Park holds the distinction of being Forsyth County’s first developed public park. This 15-acre park is anchored by first-rate, lighted softball facilities. As Chris Weavil, director of the Forsyth County Parks & Recreation Department shared, “Growing up in the eastern part of the county and playing softball at Union Cross Park two to three nights a week (or more) for 20+ years was almost a rite of passage,” (forsyth.cc/ parks/bio). Union Cross has other sports facilities too – tennis/pickleball courts, a sand volleyball court, basketball court, a walking/ jogging path and horseshoe pits. A picnic shelter for family gatherings, along with restrooms and a playground round out the offerings, making this a welcoming venue for all ages to enjoy!

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PHOTOGRAPHY

A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!

Jane Goodman-Smith | Art Class Instructor

This month, we’re proud to spotlight artist and educator Jane Goodman-Smith, whose creative path began at age 10 and has grown into a dynamic career spanning broadcast design, commissioned fine art, courtroom sketching and nearly three decades as a full-time independent art instructor in North Carolina. Jane not only creates striking work, but also passionately guides students of all levels to explore their inspiration and style while encouraging them to try new things and reach new heights as artists.

How would you describe your work?

My work is a mix of impressionist techniques with Flemish style undertones, embracing vivid colors with attention to even the smallest details. My style could be described as realism with an impressionistic approach.

What

influences your art?

Pieces that influence my art would be ones that bring out an emotion through the use of color, light and composition. I’ve always been inspired by the talents of Sargent, Monet and Mary Cassatt.

How have you evolved, personally, as an artist?

I’ve evolved through 58 years of practicing different mediums and styles, and in doing so, cultivated my own personal technique. I am classically trained in the Flemish style but have transitioned into impressionism over the course of the last 10 years.

Tell us about your apprenticeship teaching and how you show up as an instructor.

I encourage my students to find their own subject of choice that inspires them, and they receive personalized instruction based on their medium of choice, subject matter and desired technique. They receive demonstration and critiquing for each separate project. This learning atmosphere creates a sense of comradery that inspires artists to try new mediums and techniques.

How do you carve out time to be creative?

Implementing a good work life balance is key. Anything artistic in nature requires an extreme level of focus and energy. I am enjoying the perks of retirement which allows me to recharge accordingly and look forward to independent projects and guiding students to new levels in their artistry.

What are you working on that excites you right now?

The most exciting thing to me is being able to help other artists develop their technique and watch them feel accomplished along the way. I currently have three ongoing classes a week for adult artists who have an interest in developing their skill set in varying mediums. It is easy to continue a hobby at home, but there are often many distractions. I offer a space away from interruptions for artists to relax and focus on their project.

What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists?

It’s about trusting yourself. In my daylight studio, we explore the freedom of making “mistakes” and making them work for the individual piece. As Bob Ross said, “There are no mistakes, just happy accidents.” I’ve learned that each of us is created uniquely, and we must learn to trust our own insights and abilities.

If you are interested in learning more about Jane Goodman-Smith, you can find her work and classes offered online at noelsart.com. You may also contact the artist regarding any inquiries at 336.766.5286, or email at Noelsart@gmail.com.

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A Life Well Played

Pianist

Barbara Lister-Sink

Reflects on a Career of Performance, Teaching, and Musical Innovation

by CAROLYN SHORE PETERSON

For Dr. Barbara Lister-Sink, music was never simply a career, it was a way of life that unfolded naturally over decades of discovery, discipline, and joy.

Over the past 50 years, her journey has carried her from a small North Carolina farm to international concert halls, from performing with some of the world’s most respected musicians to pioneering a revolutionary approach to injury preventive piano technique. For the past 40 years, that journey has been closely intertwined with Salem College, where she has guided generations of students toward fulfilling musical lives.

As the Salem community prepares to celebrate her remarkable career with a gala honoring her legacy, Dr. Lister-Sink reflects not so much on an ending, but on the next movement in a lifelong symphony of music, teaching, and creativity.

A MUSICAL BEGINNING

Lister-Sink grew up surrounded by music. Her mother, who held a degree in voice and piano from Guilford College, taught piano lessons with young Barbara perched on her knee. Her father, a gifted natural musician played stride piano with effortless joy well into his nineties.

“Though our family lived and worked on my Granddaddy Fitzgerald’s farm, education and music were deeply valued. Records of classical masterpieces, hymns, country music, and spirituals filled the household, giving me an early appreciation for a wide range of musical styles,” recalled Barbara.

As a teenager, her mother drove Barbara weekly from Linwood, [a farm community south of Lexington] to Salem College to study with respected teachers Margaret Mueller and Dean Clemens Sandresky. Those lessons opened the door to broader musical opportunities, including the first NC Governor’s School. It was during this time, a challenge developed that would ultimately shape Barbara’s life’s work.

At just 16, she developed a serious tendonitis injury that threatened her future as a pianist.

A WORLD OF MUSIC

Despite the setback of the injury, Barbara continued her studies at Smith College where renowned composer and pianist John Duke helped restore both her technique and her joy in music.

Her career soon took her abroad, where six years in Amsterdam proved transformative. While there, she studied with pianist Edith Lateiner-Grosz, whose deep understanding of body awareness helped Barbara fully recover from her earlier injury and develop a virtuosic technique rooted in efficiency and freedom of movement.

After returning to North Carolina, Barbara taught at Duke University, performed with the North Carolina Symphony and studied with renowned Italian pianist Guido Agosti, whose profound musical interpretations deepened her artistic vision. She later joined the Artist Faculty at the prestigious Eastman School of Music, performing with leading musicians and continuing to expand her career as both performer and educator.

RETURNING TO SALEM COLLEGE

When Sandresky later invited Barbara to return to Salem College to

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lead the School of Music, Barbara initially hesitated because she loved her Eastman job, but her health did not tolerate the Rochester cold. So, Barbara returned to Salem College, which held great attachment for her because her Great Aunt Genie graduated in music from there in 1911.

“Even though I never saw being in administration as part of my plan, the opportunity became one of the most rewarding chapters of my life. For four decades, I have served as a professor, mentor, and leader at Salem, guiding students while strengthening the college’s tradition of musical excellence. My goal was simple, but profound: to prepare students not only to perform beautifully, but to build sustainable and meaningful careers in music,” said Barbara.

TRANSFORMING PIANO TECHNIQUE

Alongside her teaching and performing career, Dr. Lister-Sink devoted decades to addressing a challenge faced by many musicians: playingrelated injuries.

“Having experienced debilitating tendonitis myself as a young pianist, I became determined to understand how such injuries could be prevented. My research eventually led to the development of the Lister-Sink Method, a scientifically informed approach that emphasizes healthy coordination, efficient movement, and full-body awareness at the keyboard,” Barbara commented.

Her landmark video Freeing the Caged Bird, produced at Salem College in 1996, helped bring her work to musicians around the world. Determined to ensure her approach was grounded in research, she later earned a Doctor of Education from Columbia University with a focus on neuroscience and movement science.

Today, her work continues to help pianists and organists recover from injury and play with freedom, ease, and artistic expression.

A LEGACY OF JOY

As Dr. Lister-Sink reflected on her years at Salem College and what she values most, she points not to titles or achievements, but to the countless students who have gone on to meaningful musical lives as performers, teachers, and church musicians.

Many of those students will return to Salem for the celebratory weekend, April 10-11, 2026, honoring her career, which will include concerts,

conversations, an alumni recital, and an exhibit of her visual artwork. This event is free of charge open to the public.

“This occasion is not about looking back, but celebrating the joy of music and the community built on it. My advice for the next generation would be to live with integrity, count your blessings, and never give up hope,” Barbara stated.

After a life devoted to music, Dr. Lister-Sink continues to demonstrate that a well-played life, like a beautiful performance, has the power to inspire long after the final note fades.

For more information on Lister-Sink event, contact rosa.otero@ salem.edu.

Where Spring Begins at Your Front Door

Spring has a way of inviting us back outside, and the front porch becomes the natural bridge between home and horizon. As the air softens and daylight lingers a little longer, thoughtful porch design can transform this transitional space into a true extension of the interior. Layered textiles in fresh, breathable fabrics, a palette inspired by budding greenery and soft florals, and comfortable seating that encourages lingering conversations all help set the tone. Spring is about renewal, so this is the perfect time to swap heavy winter elements for lighter finishes, introduce natural textures like woven rattan or painted wood, and add planters brimming with seasonal blooms to frame the entry with life and color.

Beyond aesthetics, spring porch design is about creating a welcoming moment. The front porch is the first impression of a home; it’s an opportunity to express personality while offering warmth to guests and neighbors alike. A thoughtfully styled vignette by the door, updated lighting that casts a gentle glow in the evenings and layered greenery at varying heights can create depth and charm. When designed with intention, a spring porch doesn’t just look beautiful, it becomes a gathering place for morning coffee, an evening unwind and a celebration of the season’s fresh start, as well.

Our portfolio is listed on our website, junedelugasinteriors.com, under “Design Projects.” You can see some of our projects from the past 10 years and how we specialize in giving every home a timeless and elegant look that will last for years to come. The first step is picking up the phone and reaching out to our design team, which will serve as your designer and licensed general contractor, for a consultation. We look forward to discussing your dream turnkey remodel with you.

God Bless,

theJourney

A Season of Renewal

by JOY NELSON THOMAS

As There is something about April that makes you slow down for a moment. I’ve been hearing it in my spirit. I’ve even had conversations with some friends about it. Why do we get so busy that it’s hard to have moments like this, moments that matter? Our agendas and calendars are so packed that we can’t slow down.

Then my pastor said the words slow down in a sermon. Confirmation.

After the heaviness of winter, the world starts to wake up again. Trees begin to bloom, the days stretch a little longer, and there is a quiet reminder all around us that growth takes time.

Leadership can feel a lot like that season.

Much of the work we do is planting seeds. Sometimes we see the results right away, but more often the real impact takes time. The encouragement we offer, the doors we open, and the way we show up for others often matter more than we realize.

April is also National Volunteer Month, which feels especially meaningful. Volunteers are the heartbeat of so many communities. They give their time, their energy, and their care without expecting recognition. Their service reflects something deeper. It reflects a belief that loving and serving others is part of our calling.

Faith reminds us that even the smallest seed, when nurtured, can grow into something far greater than we imagined.

This time of year, also carries a sacred reminder. It tells the story of love that did not walk away, sacrifice that was not wasted, and hope that refused to stay buried. It reminds us that even when things feel uncertain or difficult, God is still at work bringing new life out of what once seemed lost.

That truth matters for leaders.

There are moments when the work feels heavy and progress feels slow. But faith calls us to keep showing up, to keep serving, and to trust that what we are planting today will grow in ways we may not yet see.

April gives us a chance to pause and ask ourselves a simple question.

What are you nurturing right now? What seeds are you planting?

The small things we do today can grow into something far bigger than we imagine. Encouraging someone, opening a door, believing in someone’s potential. Those moments matter.

What looks dormant today can bloom tomorrow. What feels small today can grow into something that changes lives.

Spring reminds us that growth always comes back around. When we stay committed to the work and the people we serve, the impact can last far beyond us.

Until next time, enjoy the journey.

PHOTO BY JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

The Aquaventure Boat Club FAMILY, LEGACY & LIFE ON THE WATER

Lake Norman – where early morning sun and long summer evenings seem to stretch forever – Dustin Keith has built more than a boat club; he’s built a place where families reconnect, friendships deepen and lifetime memories are made.

In 2009, Dustin and his wife, Andrea, took a leap of faith. With their four-year-old son by their side and a single jet ski to their name, they launched Aquaventure Boat Club. What began as a small, family run endeavor has grown into Lake Norman’s longest running boat club, now operating a fleet of more than 50 vessels.

From spacious pontoons and tournamentready ski boats to surf boats, electric boats and jet skis, Aquaventure offers the largest variety of boats of any club on the lake. But, for Dustin, growth has never been about numbers alone; it’s always been about people.

A Coast Guard licensed master captain, Dustin has been boating since the age of 14.

“My love for the water runs deep, rooted in the simple joy of time spent outdoors with family and friends,” he shares. “That passion

shapes everything about Aquaventure. From day one, our mission has been clear – to create a place where families can disconnect from hectic daily routines and reconnect with what truly matters.”

That philosophy is reflected in how the business operates. Aquaventure is known as the least expensive boat club on Lake Norman, offering exceptional value without sacrificing quality. The club’s booking system is regarded as the most uniform and fair on the lake, ensuring members have equal and reliable access to the water. With a retention rate of more than 90 percent, it’s clear members feel the difference.

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Dustin credits much of that loyalty to a simple guiding principle – treat every member and guest the way you would want to be treated.

“Our membership is straightforward, we make your experience seamless and our staff is selected for professionalism and genuine friendliness,” he adds. “We’re a family focused business, and our members’ needs are always the number one priority.”

Aquaventure operates year round – and is an easy one-hour drive from Winston-Salem. That timing reflects Dustin’s belief that boating is not just a summer hobby, but is a lifestyle, as well. With two locations serving the Cornelius/Mooresville area and Sherrills Ford, the club provides convenient access to the lake’s best waters. Members also enjoy the unique benefit of Aquaventure’s own waterfront hotel, restaurant and Tropical Sno shaved ice stand, turning an afternoon on the

boat into a full day of shared experiences.

Dustin’s leadership style is shaped not only by entrepreneurship, but by service, as well. A proud United States Army veteran, he served as a paratrooper in the 82nd Airborne Division. That discipline, commitment and integrity continue to influence how he leads his Aquaventure team.

At its heart, Aquaventure Boat Club is about legacy. Dustin and Andrea started with a dream – determined to build something meaningful. Today, families step onto Aquaventure boats to cruise the lake, and to celebrate birthdays, teach children to wakeboard, watch sunsets with grandparents and laugh with friends.

“Success isn’t measured by fleet size or membership numbers,” Dustin shares. “It’s measured in the quiet pride of watching a father teach his daughter to steer for the first time, in the sound of friends sharing stories at the dock and in knowing our business helps others focus on what’s important.”

If you know Lake Norman, you know it’s not just about boating – it’s about family, legacy and creating moments that matter!

For Triad residents, there are endless reasons to launch your very own Aquaventure Boat Club membership! To schedule a tour of the boat club and its current fleet, call 704.724.0996, and visit aquaventureboatclub.com for more details on membership. Follow them on Instagram @aquaventureboatclub.

CUSTOM STYLE for Both

Indoor & Outdoor

by MARTIE EMORY, photos by JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

While we’re all enjoying every minute of a glorious spring –and happily winding our way towards a relaxing summer – it never hurts to glance around and see what spaces of your home might need a refresh!

If you’ve recently refurbished a favorite indoor room or remodeled your family’s outdoor living area, then maybe it’s a touch of color or a playful pattern you need for the perfect finishing touch.

Living

That is what’s incredibly special about Triad Cushion Factory in Winston-Salem. A sister company to Casual Furniture World, Triad Cushion was the custom cushion division for the popular outdoor furniture destination before branching off in 2015. Its 12,000-square-foot facility on Stratford Road is a favorite of local residential customers, retailers, manufacturers and the commercial trade – and offers a perk you don’t often find!

“We offer our customers the availability to walk right in the showroom, design a cushion, choose a fabric and get custom replacement cushions made to order. But, our cushions aren’t solely for outdoor furniture – they are for any space in your home that needs a durable product that’s easy to clean, as well.”

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Josh Rowell, president of Casual Furniture World

Triad Cushion Factory is the trusted resource for indoor cushions for formal dining chairs, kitchen banquettes where your family gathers every single day, sofa cushions, eye-catching throw pillows and cozy window seats, all with a guaranteed perfect fit. If you’ve been remodeling, bring along a few of your favorite paint samples or table linens to help match a color, or simply browse their extensive collection of styles and colors to be inspired.

Back to the outdoors – it’s definitely that time of year for new chaise lounge cushions or replacement slings for outdoor chairs – always with long-lasting fabrics designed for comfort and style you’ll love. Their custom coverings can be made to fit any size and shape pillow you can imagine, and you can even make it personal with a stylish monogram! Embroidery is also available for chaise pillows and Adirondack-style headrests and is an elegant touch for private clubs or HOAs. Plus, their always-popular pet beds feature cute covers in comfortable, durable fabrics for your four-legged family members.

“Heading into spring and summer, we have some really neat new fabrics, including the waterproof Sunbrella Rain,” Josh shares.

Both he and Triad Cushion Factory General Manager Lilliams Corea are especially excited to introduce Ultra Leather, a stylish faux outdoor leather that is water resistant and features the customary Triad Cushion five-year warranty.

“I’ve been testing this Ultra Leather out at my own home, and water just rolls right off it,” adds Josh. “This new addition to the Triad Cushion fabric line is the ideal way to elevate the look of your outside dining space.”

You’ll find another “Triad” reference here, too – a focus on three important details: “Consistent. Quality. On Time.”

“Our delivery may not necessarily be the fastest – especially during peak season – but if we promise your cushions by a certain date, we stick to that date!” Josh explains.

Their talented seamstresses also have extensive crafting experience, taking pride in their work by initialing each piece they hand sew. You’ll find only premium foam and fillers, as well as their exclusive waterresistant ticking – keeping cushions dry and comfortable. And, all fabrics carried by Triad Cushion Factory are backed by a manufacturer’s warranty of at least five years.

Triad Cushion Factory also works with local hotels, restaurants, home owners’ associations, country clubs and fitness centers – upgrading those spaces with custom cushions for a variety of uses. Once again, in fabrics that are durable and easy to clean.

Both residential and commercial clients offer rave reviews for the quality and selection at Triad Cushion Factory!

“We ordered cushions for our outdoor furniture and could not be happier with the experience and quality of the cushions. The set looks better now than when we bought it seven years ago.” ~ M.D.

“White glove service all the way! If you’re looking for perfection, Triad Cushion Factory is the place to go! Many, many thanks!” ~ A.B.

“Lilliams, their manager, helped me every step of the way, from picking fabric to getting the sizing of the cushions correct.” ~ C.P.

“The selection of fabrics was huge, and at a variety of price points.” ~ V.B.

And from a commercial customer: “Triad Cushion Factory has done a wonderful job repairing our community’s pool furniture. They are excellent to work with!” ~ K.L.

Visit Winston-Salem’s premier cushion specialist at 2566 S. Stratford Road, and online at triadcushionfactory.com, where you can request a free, no-obligation quote. Call Triad Cushion Factory at 336.331.3442, and follow them on Facebook and Instagram @triad_cushion to see product updates and fabric inspiration! Showroom hours are Monday through Friday 9 am – 3 pm.

Get Moving

by AMY DIXON, NCPT OWNER OF INNER STRENGTH PILATES

few months ago, I took a short break from most exercise, partly as an experiment, partly busy and partly just plain lazy.

As I sat on the floor wrapping Christmas gifts, I noticed the discomfort in my hips and back. Then, when I stood up, the aches all over were pronounced. I thought, is this what people feel all the time if they don’t move their bodies? Frankly, it was a little scary. When you stop moving, it hurts to try to move, so you don’t try to move, and then you can’t move.

It’s a downward spiral. I’ve seen so many times how health declines when the motion-rich environment disappears. So many things are out of our control, but this one isn’t.

Get. Moving.

During our staff retreats, social time with girlfriends, conversations with clients and at my bible study, I’ve noticed that I’ve reached the age where many of our conversation topics tend to be about hormones, exercise and supplements, memory, skincare woes and eyeglass readers! I am now 52, recently became a Grandma and definitely need readers.

My recent experiment taught me that, if I don’t move consistently, I’m going to struggle getting down on the floor with that little one. Yep, as long as motion is an option, I’ll keep moving.

At Inner Strength Pilates, many of our clients are 50+, and I’ve always admired their dedication, especially those in their 70s and 80s! They have figured out that Pilates is indeed for everyone and is crucial for keeping them mobile.

Nicole, one of our instructors, has a favorite saying that is “Do Pilates so you can do life.”

Translation: Build strength, control and sanity so everyday stuff doesn’t wreck you – physically or mentally. It’s about moving better outside the workout, not just surviving the workout.

• Build a body that lasts.

• Not just more years, but better ones.

The grandparent perspective: Fitness means:

As we age and step into grandparent life, fitness is less about aesthetics and starts being about capacity –what your body can still do for the life you want to live.

Why fitness matters more as we age: Aging naturally brings loss of muscle, balance, mobility and bone density. Without intentional movement, that loss accelerates, and everyday tasks start to feel heavy, risky or exhausting. Staying fit isn’t about “staying young;” it’s about staying independent

Why Pilates is especially powerful for this stage of life:

Pilates trains the things that matter most for long-term health and grandparent living:

Core strength for daily life

Lifting grandchildren, getting up from the floor, carrying car seats – this is real-world core work. Pilates builds deep, functional strength that protects the spine.

Balance and fall prevention

Falls are one of the biggest threats to healthspan as we age. Pilates improves balance, coordination and body awareness, reducing injury risk.

Joint health and mobility

Pilates keeps hips, shoulders and spines moving smoothly, which means less stiffness, less pain and more freedom.

Posture and breathing

Better posture = better breathing, energy and confidence. Pilates helps counteract the rounded posture that often comes with aging.

Low-impact, sustainable movement

It’s gentle on joints but highly effective –something you can do consistently for decades, not just seasons.

• Getting down on the floor and back up

• Playing without fear of injury.

• Traveling comfortably.

• Keeping up with energetic little humans.

• Being present, not limited by pain or fatigue.

Pilates supports the “healthspan within your lifespan” – more good years, not just more years.

In short: You don’t do Pilates to look good as you age. You do Pilates so you can live well, stay connected and fully enjoy the people who matter most –especially the next generation.

Our staff has more than 150 years of combined training and expertise, and can help you manage whatever your level of fitness, just make the choice to hop in! Be an example to your kids and grandkids – maybe even your great-grandkids!

Amy has been serving the fitness community in Winston-Salem for more than 32 years as a personal trainer and Pilates teacher. She has owned Pilates studios since 2002, and ISP is celebrating 14 years in the Harper Hill Commons Shopping Center! Contact us at 336.813.5320 or InnerStrengthPilatesNC.com

The Hidden Workplace Culture Crisis

Are we in a workplace culture crisis? If you work in HR or leadership, you don’t need data to tell you something feels “off” right now. You’re living it. Hearing it. Trying to fix it. Culture has always been important, but lately, it feels like something is off.

So…are we in a workplace culture crisis? In my opinion, yes. And I don’t say that lightly. A recent Gallup report indicates that only 31% of employees are engaged, meaning fewer than one in three workers feel fully involved and enthusiastic at work. This is the lowest level in 10 years of Gallup tracking.

Let’s break down what’s going on and what leaders can do about it.

WHY CULTURE FEELS SO TURBULENT RIGHT NOW

The last five years have been unlike anything we’ve ever experienced in the workplace. We’ve been through:

• A global pandemic

• The Great Resignation

• Quiet quitting (and it’s kissin’ cousins: quiet firing and quiet cracking)

• Political and social divides in the workplace

• Rapid shifts between remote, hybrid and in-office expectations

• A mental health crisis

• Waves of layoffs and uncertainty

• Putting together this list wore me out. It’s no wonder culture feels fragile. People are exhausted, stretched and disconnected.

THE MOST COMMON SIGNS OF A CULTURE CRISIS

Across organizations of all sizes and industries, these patterns keep showing up. When you see several at once, it’s a red flag:

• Lack of Accountability: Lack of clarity, consequences and follow-through creates resentment and frustration. People are avoiding hard conversations and conflict, which results in problems simmering under the surface.

• People Feeling Undervalued: Recognition seems to be particularly overlooked right now.

• Manager Ineffectiveness: Many managers aren’t well equipped to lead in general – especially through change, burnout, conflict and/or hybrid/remote work.

• Trust Erosion: Whether it’s inconsistent communication, shifting priorities or unclear expectations, trust takes a hit.

• Employees Running on Fumes: Stress, unrealistic workloads and “doing more with less” are catching up. Quiet cracking (the latest “quiet”) has emerged where people are doing their jobs but are quietly breaking under the pressure.

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WHAT CAN YOU DO?

If you suspect your team or organization is drifting toward a culture crisis, here are five simple, high-impact actions that move the needle:

1. Get serious about manager development – Managers drive so many of these things and are the “culture carriers.”

2. Improve recognition – Feeling appreciated is a basic human need. Consider a gratitude challenge or thank you notes to kickstart recognition in your organization.

3. Focus on employee well-being – Let employees know that you care about their well-being through empathy, caring conversations and mental health support.

4. Make accountability normal – Equip leaders to communicate clear expectations and hold others accountable through feedback, goals and regular check-ins.

5. Get employee feedback – Last but certainly not least, ask employees what they think is needed most to positively impact the culture, and then do that!

Culture is definitely fixable with intention, honesty and consistency.

Where Community Gathers The Elevated Supper Club Experience

by MARTIE EMORY

With his refined skills as an Executive Chef and genuine love for his craft, Brian DePaulis – owner of Elevated Catering Company – is overjoyed to be bringing his personal culinary journey full circle.

A Winston-Salem native, Brian had been longing to translate what he’d learned while working at several upscale restaurants in Raleigh back to his hometown. When he returned to Winston-Salem and married his wife, Jennifer, he knew the next life goal was to create his own business –fueled by an eagerness to create amazing dishes that inspire community connection. He’s introduced a new, fine dining catering model that’s receiving rave reviews from clients.

“My dream is to build the ultimate connection between clients, their catering professionals and the event space, where every detail contributes to the overall dining experience,” shares Brian. “We want you to appreciate not just the food, but also the attention of our staff and the ambiance we’ve created.”

Here’s where the name says it all – as Brian and his dedicated team bring new meaning to the word elevated. As part of that authentic branding, the Elevated Supper Club was born. Think intimate table settings bathed in candlelight, a thoughtful, refined menu and sweet memories about to be created and shared.

“At every Elevated Supper Club event, we hope you’ll make new friends, create your own intentional community and, next time, you’ll all come to dinner together!” he adds.

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Hospitality will always be at the heart of these community experiences, along with a promise of fine food and even finer service. This past February 13th, Brian and his team greeted 40 guests for the first Elevated Supper Club at The Edison – a classic, cozy event space adjacent to Bar Nola in Winston-Salem’s stylish West End.

A setting marked by chandeliers, a striking wood interior and gathering vases of romantic roses soon became a treat for all the senses! Throughout each carefully curated course, Brian offered a bit of his back story, including childhood memories of cooking alongside his grandmother. With emotion and intention, he offered guests a glimpse of how each course came together.

“As always, we strive to feature as many North Carolina farmers as possible on every plate – and this early Valentine’s Day menu was no exception,” he shares.

The menu featured a salad of frisée, Cara Cara orange, toasted hazelnuts and shaved aged Manchego, topped with three-citrus champagne vinaigrette. An incredible gnocchi with brown butter, sage, roasted squash-ricotta purée, red wine reduction and toasted brioche crumbs followed – which Brian dubbed “gnocchi with a southern Italian twist!” The much-anticipated main course – Five Spiced Short Ribs – was from a nearby farm in Concord, NC and was served with roasted parsnip purée and charred broccolini. With flavors that finished the meal to perfection, dessert was olive oil cake with blood orange essence and three-citrus mascarpone, sprinkled with cacao nibs. Throughout each course, delightfully paired wines included Bodegas Vionta, Rías Baixas Albariño from the Galicia, Spain region from Browne Family Vineyards, Forest Project Pinot Noir Oregon (2022) and Domaine La Croix Des Vainqueurs, Vouvray Chenin Sec (2023) from the Loire Valley in France.

At any Elevated Catering Company event, you’ll find quality and flavor that speaks for itself.

“If you have a good relationship with the food you’re serving and with your resources, you only have to do your job – and you’ll find success!” Brian shares.

A full-service, fine dining caterer, Brian designed Elevated Catering Company to bring restaurant quality cuisine to any event – no matter the setting or style. It’s their dedication to a hands-on approach that he feels sets Elevated Catering Company apart. By communicating with every client and embracing their vision and specific needs, the team creates custom menus for everything from weddings and private parties to corporate events and community celebrations. From start

to finish, they deliver an experience that leaves clients free to fully enjoy themselves and their guests delighted with every taste!

Brian will bring farm-to-table goodness to two additional Elevated Supper Club gatherings this year, including an April 20th event at The Brewer’s Kettle in Kernersville, NC, offering THC infused dishes, and a September dinner, also at The Edison, which he describes as an “end of harvest” celebration. Follow them on Instagram @ elevatedsupperclub_ws and @elevated_catering_company for updates and ticket information for upcoming dinners.

To contact Chef Brian DePaulis, call 919.500.2547 or email elevatedcateringco@gmail.com. Visit elevatedcateringcompany. com to book a catering consultation and view some of their amazing signature dishes!

Spring Cleaning & Decluttering: TIPS FROM THE PROS!

by ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE

With the chilly winter months behind us, now is the seasonal time to begin “spring cleaning.” While not everyone is keen on cleaning, spring is an opportune time to begin clearing out one’s space to make room for the warmer months. If cleaning is not always high on your priority list, do not feel alone. There is great news though. One strong, deep cleaning session can make your other cleaning sessions smaller and much more manageable.

While it may seem daunting to do an official “deep clean,” it does not have to feel this way. There are easy tasks to tackle first, to help the rest of the cleaning go off without a hitch. Experts also weigh in and offer a few straightforward tips, sure to make the entire process not as intense as it sounds.

After reading these tips, all will feel ready to conquer cleaning their home. Remember, a clean home is in style every season, not only in the spring.

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START FIRST WITH DECLUTTERING.

With the holidays behind us, all have accumulated countless new things. Spring is the perfect time to go through and get rid of items that no longer serve us. While decluttering will create a bit of a mess initially, it is vital to tackle this project first, then get into cleaning the rest of the house. First, pick a room to go through, and try the “Ski Slope” method. Created by Anita Yokota, and discussed in her book Home Therapy, the idea is to “imagine your messy room like a ski slope,” Yokta states. “If you try to go straight down, the steep angle feels scary and overwhelming. But, if you traverse the slope, skiing from one side to the other, you lessen the angle and make it down the mountain without even noticing.” After cleaning out one room, move through the rest of your home, tackling each room.

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WHILE DECLUTTERING, TRY THE “FOUR-BOX METHOD.”

According to the Good Housekeeping article, “I Write About Decluttering for a Living – These are My 7 Favorite Methods,” author Katie Mortram discusses how this method helps sort out what items you truly need. First, you need to get four boxes, labeling them, “keep,” “throw away,” “donate” and “sell.” Mortram explains how you will sort out what items you really want to keep based on the volume within each box. “If everything is ending up in the ‘keep’ or ‘undecided’ boxes, then you need to have a rethink.”

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IF STRUGGLING WITH WHAT ITEMS TO KEEP, AND WHICH TO GET RID OF, TRY THE “KONMARI” METHOD.

What quickly became a decluttering sensation, even leading up to Netflix series in 2019, Marie Kondo’s KonMari method is simple, yet effective. First, when faced with whether to keep an item or let it go, “your deciding factor should be whether it ‘sparks joy’ in your life.” If the items still serve a purpose, keep them. However, if it does not, Marie suggests you thank it, then let it go. In her New York Times bestseller, Spark Joy, Marie states, “when something sparks joy, you should feel a little thrill, as if the cells in your body are slowly rising.” However, “when you hold something that doesn’t bring you joy, you will notice that your body feels heavier.” Heed her advice, and let go of the dead weight items in your life first.

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READY TO CLEAN, START IN THE KITCHEN WITH ALL NATURAL CLEANERS!

While in the kitchen, consider cleaning those stainless-steel items with olive oil! Simply apply a small amount of olive oil to a soft cloth, buff the surfaces and you will be rewarded with a streakfree, gleaming finish. After moving to the kitchen counters, use your own all purpose cleaner to tackle grime and grease. According to the Good Housekeeping article, “40 Spring Cleaning Hacks to Transform Your Home in No Time,” making this cleaner is quick and easy. “First, combine one part white vinegar, one part water, a lemon rind and a few rosemary springs into a spray bottle.” Afterwards, shake and let it sit and infuse for a week before using. You can also use this cleaner in the bathroom, in that it removes tough water stains, yet is safe to use on all surfaces including wood and natural stone. Finally, consider using the rest of your lemons to clean your cutting boards. “Run the cut side of a lemon over the board to help remove food stains and smells,” the article states. “Sprinkle it with salt or baking soda first for extra oomph.”

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CLEAN WINDOWS CAN BRING LIGHT AND LIFE TO ANYONE’S HOME.

First, tackle cleaning your blinds with a small attachment on your vacuum cleaner. Make sure to put your vacuum on its lowest setting. Afterwards, throw your window treatments into the dryer (with or without a dryer sheet) to get rid of any smell and dust. Make sure to use “air-only” or the lowest temperature available, to protect the fabric. Afterwards, move to cleaning the windows. Simple Windex works wonders, however, consider using this tip from my mother. She swears by using old newspapers to clean her windows. She insists the paper does not pill like paper towels often do, and it also serves the dual purpose of being a terrific way to recycle your old newspapers.

From my late 20s to my early 30s, I saw the same therapist. My sessions were initially monthly or bi-weekly, later graduating to weekly therapy sessions when my mental health issues took a downward turn. After taking months off (temporarily), I am surprised to discover that therapy actually did benefit me in subtle ways, although it didn’t feel that way when I was regularly attending. Many of my sessions felt like I was venting to a close friend, and some of our sessions turned into arguments that challenged my perspective. Although I’m nowhere out of the mental health weeds, I am able to name a few valuable lessons I learned from my three years in therapy.

PATTERN RECOGNITION

Many mental health issues stem from simply being unaware of cognitive distortions, since thoughts are often automatic and hardwired from a young age. It wasn’t until deep into therapy that I realized my brain’s default is to anticipate rejection, assume others are being kind to me out of “pity” but secretly find me annoying, or mind-read others’ thoughts, making more negative assumptions

Me Aging Out

What Years of Therapy Did For

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about how they truly feel about me. My brain still does this – it is one of my biggest struggles. I scan every facial expression, every extra or non-existent punctuation mark and the moods of others for signs of impending rejection. If someone sighs loudly, I immediately think it’s because I’ve annoyed them. If I hear someone honking their car horn on the road, I immediately assume I’ve made a driving error.

Anticipating the worst outcome is a protective strategy I adopted somewhere along the road to shield me from feeling blindsided and being left to deal with my intense feelings of disappointment and pain, but it has become a nightmare when it comes to trusting others’ words and intentions. I have not successfully slayed this psychological dragon, but catching myself when I am making assumptions and learning ways to challenge those thoughts is progress.

DATING DYSFUNCTION

Since early adulthood, my dating life has been a series of me attempting relationships with various men with different appearances and demographics, yet the same emotional

unavailability, avoidance habits, substance abuse issues and eventual emotional exhaustion from dealing with my hyperanxiously attached emotions. The Freudian concept of repetition compulsion, or the subconscious habit of engaging in the same pattern in hopes of securing a different outcome, rings true for me. I carry a belief that if I can make the next “bad boy” fall for me, I must matter and that all my past pain will resolve. Therapy helped me identify, process and accept past traumas and wounds that motivate me to breeze past red flags, only feel a “spark” with certain personality types and ultimately end up recovering from a traumatic breakup or rejection for months (and even years) repeatedly. Although I still fall for this personality profile and continue to pay the price each time, I am getting better at recognizing the pattern while I’m in it, but still not healed enough to stay away.

MY VALUES

I always steered clear of examining what it was I truly wanted out of life and whether I was following someone else’s

script, because I had never taken the time to truly reflect on what I want versus what I think I should do with my life. When my therapist first suggested that my obsession and hyperfixation with travel was serving as a distraction, and that I needed to find ways to find fulfillment close to home, I was taken aback. After hearing that, I began experiencing loneliness in solo travel unlike I did when I went on trips in my 20s, I started realizing the truth in my therapist’s statement. Now, I often pause and ask myself what it is that I want to do versus what I think I should do based on expectations from others. I’ve learned that I am happiest in nature, that it’s okay to decorate your apartment in silly animals at 33 and that I don’t have to base my life around an annual adventure that only lasts seven days. If I tune into what actually interests me or makes me feel positive emotions, I can incorporate those on a weekly basis at minimum in order to not waste my life away waiting for a vacation that is six months away.

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WOMEN ON THE MOVE

SHANNON HENRY

ALEXANDRA SALAS

Alexandra Salas serves as Executive Director of SECU Family House, a compassionate, affordable home-away-from-home for adult patients and their families traveling to Winston-Salem for medical care. With more than 20 years of nonprofit and business leadership experience, she is known for guiding organizations with both operational excellence and deep empathy. Before joining SECU Family House, Alexandra served as CEO of Bpeace, a global nonprofit dedicated to advancing economic empowerment in crisis-affected communities. Her career in service has spanned continents, sectors, and cultures, focusing on strengthening organizations and creating opportunities for those facing significant challenges. Her professional journey became deeply personal when her teenage son underwent cancer treatment. That experience reshaped her perspective on systems of care and the real needs of families navigating medical crises. Drawing on both lived experience and professional expertise, Alexandra became a passionate advocate for caregivers and patient families. At SECU Family House, she leads with a commitment to ensuring that referred patients and their loved ones have a welcoming place to stay without the burden of financial stress. A proud multilingual culture enthusiast, Alexandra enjoys connecting with people from diverse backgrounds. Outside of work, she can often be found playing racket sports, hosting lively game nights, or keeping up with her two energetic French bulldogs.

Shannon B. Henry is the President and CEO of the Arts Council of Winston-Salem & Forsyth County, where she is leading a period of organizational stabilization, financial restructuring, and strategic renewal for the council’s 75-year legacy. Her leadership emphasizes longterm sustainability and positioning the arts as a powerful driver of economic vitality, education, and community well-being. Before assuming the permanent role, Shannon served as Interim President and CEO following several years of board service, guiding the organization through a critical transition and strengthening its role as a cultural anchor for the region. Her career spans corporate, academic, public sector, and nonprofit leadership. She began her professional journey in corporate surety, legal, and accounting roles in New York before transitioning into public service focused on financial oversight, accountability, and institutional integrity. Within the University of North Carolina System, she held senior executive roles including Chief Audit, Risk, and Compliance Officer for Winston-Salem State University and the University of North Carolina School of the Arts. She later became the first Chief Operating Officer of PBS North Carolina and most recently served as Acting Chief Strategy Officer at Winston-Salem State University. In addition to her executive work, Shannon is the founder of Huehattan, a bespoke hat line reflecting her belief that creativity, leadership, and personal expression are deeply connected.

KARI KUHN

Kari Kuhn is the owner of Tartan Organizing, a professional organization company that has been helping clients transform residential and commercial spaces for more than five years. She leads a dedicated team that specializes in creating functional, efficient environments designed to simplify daily life and improve productivity. Under Kari’s leadership, Tartan Organizing has expanded its services to support a wide range of projects, from organizing small local businesses to coordinating full-home reorganizations for clients relocating from out of state. Her approach combines thoughtful design with practical systems that make spaces easier to maintain over time. Before Tartan Organizing, Kari built a career in operations, where she developed expertise in process management, logistics, and workflow optimization. That background now informs her work with clients, allowing her to approach organizing with a strategic, systems-based mindset that focuses on both functionality and sustainability. Kari earned a Bachelor of Science in Textiles, Apparel, and Merchandising from Northern Illinois University. Outside of her work, Kari enjoys spending time in the mountains and pursuing hobbies that keep her active and creative, including mountain biking, hiking, sewing, baking, and gardening. She lives in Advance with her husband, Adam, and their daughter, Stella.

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CHANTAE REYNOLDS

MARIE PLUMMER

Marie Plummer is the co-owner of Winston-Salem Dog Care, the largest pet care provider in the Triad. Originally from Wilmington, North Carolina, she attended Appalachian State University, where she played softball and met her husband and business partner, Justin. Together they built Winston-Salem Dog Care into a trusted resource for families across the region, offering in-home pet care, daycare, boarding, and transportation services. Under Marie’s leadership, the company has developed structured operational systems, expanded to a team of more than 30 staff members, and established a state-licensed, insured, and bonded facility serving the Winston-Salem community. The business has received multiple community-voted awards and is recognized for raising standards within the local pet care industry. Marie is also passionate about animal welfare and works closely with local shelters and rescue organizations. One initiative she is especially proud of is the Shelter Outings Program, which gives shelter dogs time outside the kennel environment, providing enrichment and helping increase their chances of adoption. Marie holds a bachelor’s degree in Health Education and a bachelor’s degree in English from Appalachian State University, along with a master’s degree in Health Education and Health Administration from East Carolina University. She and Justin are raising three children and share their home with three dogs. Outside of work, Marie enjoys traveling, endurance training, and spending time outdoors with her family.

Chantae Reynolds is the co-owner and creative director of JK Woodworked Creations LLC, a family-owned woodworking and laser engraving business based in Winston-Salem. Through her leadership, the business has grown into a creative hub known for its mobile paint parties, pop-up art events, personalized wood products, and community-centered experiences. An educator at heart, Chantae blends her passion for teaching with entrepreneurship by creating welcoming spaces where people of all ages feel comfortable exploring their creativity. Her workshops and events are intentionally designed to be fun, stress-free, and accessible to beginners and experienced creators alike. She regularly collaborates with community organizations and local businesses, including Kaleideum, Wise Man Brewing, Brouwerij DuBois, area schools, and nonprofit groups. These partnerships help bring creative experiences to a wider audience while supporting local causes and strengthening community connections. Chantae volunteers with LEAD Girls, mentoring young women in confidence, creativity, and leadership, and she is also a member of Mixxer, a collective that connects local makers and entrepreneurs. She additionally organizes Cash Mob events that encourage the community to intentionally support small businesses. JK Woodworked Creations was founded alongside her late husband, Justin Kankula, whose artistic vision continues to inspire the work she carries forward through creativity, resilience, and community engagement.

EMMA CITRO

Emma Citro is the Editor in Chief of The Edge, Elon University’s student-run magazine, where she leads a team of writers, photographers, designers, and editors in producing original editorial content. In this role, she guides students through all aspects of magazine journalism, from concept development and storytelling to visual production and publication. Emma’s leadership focuses on collaboration and creativity, helping students develop their voices while gaining real-world experience in the magazine industry. Through her work at The Edge, she has overseen editorial planning, coordinated creative teams, and contributed to the magazine’s mission of showcasing student talent and diverse perspectives on campus. She has also gained professional experience as an intern with Forsyth Magazines, where she worked alongside editors and creative teams on photo shoots, editorial projects, and administrative responsibilities that support magazine production. The experience strengthened her understanding of the publishing process and the collaborative nature of the industry. Emma is currently pursuing a bachelor’s degree in Journalism at Elon University and holds an associate degree in Advertising and Marketing from the Fashion Institute of Technology. Outside of her academic and editorial work, she enjoys writing, dancing, and cooking. When she is home, one of her favorite traditions is watching scary movies with her mother, Elaine.

Hustle Heart

by TARYN JEREZ , OF GOFORITCREATIVE.COM

This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Stop Chasing Virality: Why Slow Growth Might Be Your Brand’s Best Friend

“If this doesn’t get {insert number of likes/ comments here}, then it doesn’t matter.” How often have you felt like that when posting to social media?

The goal is value, not virality.

Somewhere along the way, our confidence in our content got lost in chasing virality instead of value. Spikes in views and engagement don’t guarantee sales or success. The truth is, women-lead brands and businesses are focused on sustainability and heart, but the idea of going viral and having highly consumed social media posts are getting in the way of their success. In fact, it’s slow and steady growth led by consistent messaging that needs to be the biggest success metric on your list!

LONG LIVE TRUTH OVER TRENDS

Staying true to your brand will outlast and outlive chasing trends just to gain views. There is nothing wrong with having fun in your content strategy finding animation and font trends, perfecting hooks or finding high performing audios for reels! Your marketing should absolutely have joy threaded through both the creation and the consumer side of it – just don’t get sidetracked from the goal of connecting the specific value of what you do to the specific people you do it for. Let’s break down why slow growth might just be your brand’s best friend.

but keeping up with that status is nearly impossible. Find a steady pace for posting, and the consistency your account is creating will be rewarded far more than a singular viral post. Focus on building authority and brand recognition over time. This is where your content is steadily reflecting your values and voice through its messaging being the thread that ties it all together! It can feel like posting week after week should equate to viral level success when the reality is you’re planting seeds for the long term, so stay the course.

ROPE IN THE RIGHT ONES, REPEL THE WRONG

Quality over quantity always! How often do we see a business with a few viral posts and when we get to the comment section, it’s as if anyone and everyone has found it, too? You want content that brings in a deeper audience, not a diluted one! You don’t actually care about followers – you care about customers! Quick engagement grabs are getting eyes on your work but are they the right ones who are ready to buy? Lean into building a content strategy where there is purpose behind each post, so when it reaches the right eyes, you are giving them a reason to not just connect but stick around, as well.

BUILDING A GARDEN, NOT POTTING PLANTS

need to focus. Allow your slow growth to motivate you to get clarity in your strategy and create a rhythm that works for you. Rather than being full speed ahead after the next trendy content piece that audiences will eat up, spend time building stronger strategies. Strengthen your email list, put together a consistency-fueled content calendar, refine your offers, mix up your messaging and test different types of approaches with your audiences.

SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE

Let this year be the one where you stop chasing fleeting metrics and, instead, lean into your ability to create intentional growth through your content strategy. Release the myth that you have to see growth a mile a minute to see success! A brand that grows quietly can also grow powerfully!

Hustle & Heart Challenge

This month, look at your content plan in a new light, focusing less on trends and more on deep connection opportunities. Choose five content ideas that feel truly aligned as a brand, and track engagement on these with the focus on conversion and audience type! 1 2 3

BUILDING TRUST AND RECOGNITION

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LESS CLOSET, MORE CALM: Why Project 333 is the Perfect Spring Reset

by JANE BURNETTE healthcoachjane.com

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MY WORD FOR THE YEAR: SIMPLIFY

Every January, I choose a word to guide my year. My word for 2026 is simplify, and it has shaped how I think about health, habits and daily life. I’ve realized that when we reduce unnecessary noise, we make more room for energy, clarity and calm.

That mindset is what drew me to Project 333, a minimalist wardrobe challenge that encourages you to wear 33 items or fewer for three months. It sounds like a fashion experiment, but after doing it myself, I’ve found it’s really about reducing decision fatigue and creating more ease in everyday life.

As a health coach, I see how our environment affects our mental state. A cluttered space can feel heavy, while a simplified one often creates a lighter, clearer mindset. When the outside feels less chaotic, the inside tends to follow.

WHAT IS PROJECT 333?

The idea is simple: choose 33 items of clothing, shoes, accessories and jewelry to wear for three months. Items like workout clothes, sleepwear and sentimental pieces you wear daily don’t count. Everything else gets boxed up and put away – not necessarily donated, just out of sight.

What I appreciate most is that this isn’t about deprivation or strict rules. It’s about awareness. Most of us already wear the same favorite pieces repeatedly. Project 333 simply removes the distractions, so getting dressed becomes easier and more intentional.

WHY SPRING IS THE IDEAL TIME

April is a natural season for reset. We swap heavier layers for lighter pieces, open the windows and feel ready for a fresh start. That makes spring the perfect time to try Project 333.

Instead of rushing to buy new things, this challenge encourages you to start with what you already love. You create a wardrobe that feels clean, wearable and aligned with your real life – not your fantasy closet. As schedules fill up in spring, having fewer choices can feel surprisingly freeing.

WHY IT WORKS SO WELL FOR WOMEN

Many women carry a constant mental load. We’re making decisions all day long – for work, family, food and schedules. Clothing may seem small, but it’s one more decision added to the pile.

When your closet is simplified, mornings feel calmer. You don’t stand in front of dozens of options feeling like nothing works. You grab

something that fits, feels good and moves you into your day with less friction.

There’s also a quiet confidence that comes from realizing you already have enough. You stop chasing more and start appreciating what truly works for you.

THE HEALTH CONNECTION

From a wellness perspective, this matters more than most people realize. Less decision fatigue means more mental energy for movement, meal prep and healthier choices throughout the day. Small reductions in stress add up.

I’ve seen this with clients and in my own life. When the home feels calmer, routines tend to fall into place more easily. Simplifying one area often creates positive momentum in others – and that’s where sustainable change lives.

THE MINDSET SHIFT

Another unexpected benefit is how Project 333 changes your relationship with consumption. You begin noticing quality, comfort and versatility instead of constantly searching for something new. Shopping becomes more intentional, and the need for constant “upgrading” fades.

It’s not about never buying anything again. It’s about being more thoughtful about what earns a place in your closet and your life.

HOW TO GET STARTED

Start simple. Pull the pieces you already reach for without thinking. Consider your real routines – work, errands, movement, dinners out – and build from there. Box up the rest, and let the experiment run for three months.

The goal isn’t perfection. It’s discovering what “enough” feels like for you. Most people are surprised by how little they miss and how much easier daily life feels.

THE BIGGER TAKEAWAY

Project 333 is more than a wardrobe challenge. It’s a reminder that when we simplify our surroundings, we often simplify our minds as well. And, with spring in full bloom, there may not be a better time to reset, clear space and move into the season feeling lighter.

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Endangered Sea Life Women Wild in the

The weather is getting warmer, and people are gearing up to head to the water this spring and summer. In light of the beach season, I wanted to learn more about marine life and was sad to discover that so many valuable sea creatures are suffering. Below are two iconic sea creatures that are currently facing extinction.

HAWAIIAN MONK SEAL

Adorable and often found lounging in the sand along Hawaiian beaches, the Hawaiian monk seal is strikingly similar to Pacific harbor seals or California sea lions in the face and body but are only found in the Hawaiian Islands. Although these blubbery beauties appear friendly and relaxed, it is imperative to keep your distance. If you see one of these seals on the beach, be sure to stay at least 50 feet away to protect yourself and the seal, as Hawaiian monk seals are endangered. If a mother seal is with her pups, be sure to stay back about 150 feet, since even seals can behave aggressively when protecting their young.

According to the National Park Service, approximately 300 to 400 seals live in the main Hawaiian Islands (Kauai, Oahu, Maui, Island of Hawaii and Molokai), with an estimated 1,200 seals inhabiting the Northwest Hawaiian Islands. These seals can live up to 30 years, spend two-thirds of their lives in the water and are able to hold their breath for up to 20 minutes at a time.

After reading up on the Hawaiian monk seal population at marinemammalcenter.org, I learned that these seals’ population drastically declined from over-hunting in the late 19th century. Vulnerable to diseases like toxoplasmosis (transmittable from cats), predators, ocean trash ingestion, maternal separation and even interactions with humans, these seals are protected by the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration (NOAA), which has worked hard to keep 30 percent of the present day Hawaiian monk seal population alive, with the population beginning to slowly increase.

HAWKSBILL SEA TURTLE

As a major win for nature lovers, an article in Smithsonian Magazine published in October of 2025 reported that the once-endangered green sea turtle was named no longer endangered by the International Union for Conservation of Nature (IUCN), deeming the green sea turtle a “species of least concern.” While this is a massive success for green sea turtles, other subspecies of sea turtles haven’t been so lucky.

The hawksbill sea turtle is considered critically endangered, with its population having declined by 80%. NOAA Fisheries explains that the biggest threat to hawksbill turtles isn’t necessarily environmental; in fact, hunting for the hawksbill’s iconic tortoise shell for jewelry and other accessories has been the largest contributor to their endangerment. Most commonly found in the Caribbean, Indian and Indo-Pacific oceans, hawksbill sea turtles are busy travelers. Australia’s Great Barrier Reef is a hawksbill hotspot, with 2,000 turtles nesting each year, thanks to two decades of conservation efforts.

Although turtles carry a reputation for being slow, the hawksbill turtle can travel impressive lengths across the ocean. According to NOAA Fisheries, a female hawksbill was tracked traveling 1,160 miles from the U.S. Virgin Islands to Nicaragua. Their diet consists of jellyfish, sea urchins, crustaceans, marine algae, coral and sea sponges. Living up to 50 to 60 years, they nest between April and November each year with eggs hatching after incubating in warm sand for two months before the baby turtles make their way to the sea. On average, hawksbill turtles lay 130 to 160 eggs per nesting season, with turtles reaching maturity between the ages of 20 to 35, much like humans.

Hawksbill sea turtles are crucial to the environment due to their preference for eating sponges in coral reefs which aids in maintaining reef health. Interestingly enough, another type of sea turtle, the leatherback turtle, eats so much jellyfish that the species helps prevent the overpopulation of jellyfish which is music to my jellyfishphobic ears. It’s important to stay informed about ways to help keep the marine environment pristine for endangered sea life and to think carefully before supporting the over-hunting of some of nature’s most valuable species.

Step Into the Roaring 20s — In Your Freshest Sneakers

The Annual Sneaker Ball returns with a dazzling 1920s twist. Join United Way of Forsyth County at the iconic Millennium Event Center for an unforgettable evening celebrating community, history, and impact. This year’s event honors the founding of United Way of Forsyth County in 1923, and highlights its incredible impact over the years. Dress in your best Gatsby-inspired style, pair it with your favorite sneakers, and help raise critical funds that support local families and programs. Get your tickets now.

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SPILL the BEANs:

by LESLIE SPEAS

Feedback helps people grow. Avoiding it holds them back, but giving it effectively takes skill. Without clarity and care, even wellintended conversations can go sideways.

That’s why it helps to have a plan and a structure that keeps the discussion focused on solutions rather than emotions. One of my favorite tools for this is the BEAN Model. It’s simple, practical and helps you prepare for a successful feedback conversation.

THE BEAN MODEL FOR CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK

Here’s how it works:

B – DESCRIBE THE BEHAVIOR

Be descriptive, specific and timely. Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements because they come across as less threatening. Focus on what the person did (the behavior), not who they are (the person).

E – SHARE THE EFFECT

Share the actual or potential effect of the behavior. Help the person see the impact their actions may have on others, the team or results.

A – ASK FOR INPUT AND EXPLORE ALTERNATIVES

Pause and ask the other person to share their perspective on the situation. In most cases, there is your view and their view with reality falling somewhere in the middle. This helps fill in the gaps and make the conversation two-way, not one-sided.

N – DETERMINE NEXT STEPS

Collaborate to define clear next steps. What can each of you do differently going forward?

Example:

Negative Nelly

You’re leading a meeting, and you invite feedback from the team on a new initiative. Negative Nelly mutters just loud enough for everyone to hear, “I don’t know why you’re asking for our feedback. Management is going to do what they want anyway.” You decide to address this privately afterward, as you felt it was inappropriate and dampened participation.

A Better Way to Give Constructive Feedback

Using the BEAN Model, your conversation might go like this:

Behavior:

“Nelly, during the meeting, I overheard your comment that management would do what they want anyway.”

Effect:

“That took the meeting in a negative direction, and I noticed others became less willing to share ideas.”

Ask:

“Can you share what prompted that comment? I’d like to understand your perspective.”

Next Steps:

“Going forward, let’s talk through any concerns directly one-on-one, so we can work together to address them.”

WHY I LIKE THE BEAN MODEL

There are several feedback frameworks, but I love this one because it builds dialogue, whereas most are one-way.

Feedback isn’t about blame. It’s about clarity, connection and growth. So, next time you need to have a constructive feedback conversation, give the BEAN Model a try. You might be surprised how much smoother (and more productive) it goes.

BUT, WHAT ABOUT POSITIVE FEEDBACK?

You can use a similar structure for positive feedback, but you don’t need all the steps. I like to keep it simple with BET:

Behavior – What specifically did they do?

Effect – What impact did it have?

Thank you – Close the loop with appreciation.

This makes praise more meaningful because it’s specific. People don’t just feel good – they understand exactly what they did well and what to repeat in the future.

Whether you’re addressing a tough issue with BEAN or reinforcing great work with BET, structure makes the difference. It keeps the conversation focused on behavior, impact and growth and not emotion.

Trying New Things: french macARons

by ISABELLA CASTINEYRA

Welcome back to another Trying New Things!

In this monthly column, I usually step into a new workout class or wellness trend and report back so you can decide if it’s worth trying. This month, however, I stayed home and attempted something that has plagued me for years: sticking to a recipe.

If you know me, you know I love cooking. If you also know me, you know I do not love strictly following recipes. I tend to eyeball measurements and trust my instincts. In order to challenge myself for this article, I chose a very precise, labor intensive recipe.

WHAT IS IT?

French macarons are delicate cookie sandwiches made from almond flour, powdered sugar, egg whites and granulated sugar. They’re known for their smooth, shiny tops and soft, chewy centers. I filled mine with buttercream and used dye to make them pink.

Unlike most cookies, macarons rely heavily on technique. The structure comes from whipped egg whites (meringue), and the texture depends on a very specific folding process called macaronage. The batter has to be mixed just enough to flow slowly like lava.

THE STEPS

The basic steps sound simple:

1. Combine almond flour and powdered sugar.

2. Whip egg whites with sugar until stiff peaks form.

3. Fold the dry mixture into the meringue (macaronage).

4. Pipe circles onto a baking sheet.

5. Let them rest.

6. Bake carefully.

My first challenge was that I don’t own a sifter. I pushed the almond flour and powdered sugar through a colander as best I could, but I definitely noticed clumps. In hindsight, a proper sifter would have made the dry mixture lighter and easier to incorporate. I suspect it would have helped with the overall smoothness of the batter during macaronage.

The egg whites also posed a struggle. The recipe said, “beat until stiff peaks form.” I stood there lifting the whisk, pulling up pictures of what the eggs are supposed to look like to compare. Were they stiff enough? Overbeaten? Would this ruin the recipe if I got it wrong?

Then came macaronage, which was painful for my arm to fold the batter so much. I kept stopping to check, folding once more, checking again. I struggled with knowing when to stop mixing. Too thick and they would have peaks on top. Too thin and they would spread into flat puddles.

In the end, my macarons were not only edible, they were actually really good. Macarons don’t leave much room for guessing or improvising. They require patience and attention to detail, which isn’t usually how I cook. I think that’s why it felt so rewarding when they worked.

BEGINNER FRIENDLY?

If you’re a total beginner, it might be best to stick to cookies. Macarons are technical, sensitive to small mistakes and require a level of precision that can be frustrating. The kitchen was also a complete disaster afterward. If you enjoy a challenge, they are incredibly rewarding.

Macarons taught me that there is a lot of value in slowing down in order to do something properly. Would I make them every week? Probably not. My arm hurts just thinking about having to fold the batter again. But, would I try to follow a recipe again? No doubt.

Purpose Push:

Rooted Not Rushed

Sheridan C. Watkins is a journalist and the owner of Perennial Peaces, a jewelry and gifts brand focused on transcending human understanding of God’s love and being a source of peace on Earth. Her true work began after victory over depression, and her calling is to provide peace through her Divine gifts to help women heal and transform their lives. Follow the mission on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok: @perennialpeaces.

I could be wrong, but I think you and I are aligned in some of our patterns. It’s April, and you have some goals and results you expected to achieve by this time of the year. Despite understanding that life throws things at us that we cannot control, subconsciously, you may have dismissed that notion and put unnecessary pressure on yourself, and it’s threatening your peace.

Let’s nip this spiritual attack in the bud. In January, we discussed allowing God to write all the chapters of this year. Reflect on the relief you felt when you decided to let God handle the hard stuff so you can focus on obeying, abiding and being. Nothing has changed, and what’s for you will not miss you. I want to give you some scriptures to keep close as we start Q2:

JEREMIAH 17:7-8

These verses can serve as a foundational scripture for you to lean on when overthinking and self doubt try to creep in.

Jeremiah 17:7-8 says, “But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”

If God made you a promise or revealed a vision, He will see it through to completion (Php. 1:6). The issue society consistently battles is trusting what He said. If you read verses 5-6, it clearly outlines what happens if you trust in man instead – you are cursed and unfruitful. And that includes yourself. You don’t have the all-knowing authority that God does, so it’s vital and wise to let Him lead your life. When you do, you will be like a wellwatered tree, with strength in times of inevitable crisis.

PSALM 1:1-3

God has numerous parallel scriptures. It’s like He knows we need repetition to get it, right? These verses pair well with the previous one and add the element of not walking the same path as nonbelievers and those still lost.

You’ve already chosen the less common path by surrendering your business to the Lord rather than to strategies, analytics, coaches or emotional decisions.

Psalm 1:1-3 says, “Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night. That person is like a tree planted by streams of

by SHERIDAN C. WATKINS

water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither – whatever they do prospers.”

God is telling His children that trusting Him guarantees prosperity! It can’t be more simply stated than that. Simultaneously, He still understands and is patient as we deny our flesh to follow Him, so use this scripture to keep you rooted when you are tempted and surrounded by others who don’t listen to or discredit God’s truth. The more you delight in God’s presence, the more fruitful you will be.

MATTHEW 13: 1-23

Every time I come across this powerful parable, I fervently pray to be effective. If you’ve never read the parable of the four soils, it’s an awakening opportunity to stay aware of where you land. Remember, you are fighting spiritual warfare (Eph. 6:12), and as you consecrate and transform, there will be attempts to make you futile. Jesus explained the four soils as four types of people when they hear the Word:

1. The Word is immediately snatched from their mind by the evil one.

2. The Word gives them joy but does not take root in their heart and withers away.

3. The Word doesn’t move them because their worries about life overcrowd their mind.

4. The Word penetrates their heart and transforms their ways of life, making them fruitful.

Where do you want to be? Don’t allow busyness, worries and the desire to make more money or acquire more things distract you from what matters eternally. You can’t take any of it with you, and your short time on Earth cannot compare to what’s next. So, store up treasures in heaven (Matt. 6: 20) with the impact your business makes on others and stay rooted in what you were put here to do. You are on pace. I have faith in you.

919 Backyard BBQ MARINATED FLANK STEAK

By TANNER JOHNSON

Flank steak is severely underrated and has become one of my favorite cuts of beef to cook lately. It’s leaner and can definitely be tough if not cooked properly. The method I’m sharing will make it extremely tender, juicy and full of flavor! I always do a citrus based marinade with some fruit & cilantro – more details below:

Ingredients:

• 1 Flank Steak (I always get the Snake River Farms flank that they sell at some Harris Teeter’s)

• (juice of) 1 Navel Orange

• (juice of) 1 Lemon

• (juice of) 1 Lime

• 1/4 Cup Olive Oil

• 1/4 Cup Soy Sauce

• 2 Tablespoons Fresh Minced Garlic

• 1 Cup Chopped Cilantro

• Salt & Pepper or SPG seasoning

Instructions:

1. In a large Ziploc or any kind of marinating apparatus place your flank steak in and add all the above ingredients in no particular order

2. Shake it all around and make sure the steak is nice and fully submerged - let marinate for at least 8 hours but overnight – 24 hours is even better!

3. When you’re almost ready for grilling, pull the steak out of the marinade, pat it dry and let it sit at room temp for 20-30 minutes… while you get the charcoal or gas grill heated up

4. I always use charcoal for this and get the fire ripping hot

5. Once the grill is up to temp — this is a pretty fast cook, so you’ll want to have eyes on it the whole time. Put it on the grill, and let it go for about 5-7 minutes before flipping

6. Flip and let it go for another 5 or so minutes and you should be seeing some nice char

7. Usually by the time the whole steak is nice and charred over it is done, depending on size this typically takes around 15 minutes total (for medium rare)

8. Pull it off at desired temp, let it rest for 7-10 minutes and then slice it up!

NOTE: make sure you’re slicing against the grain – it’s very important with a flank or it can become pretty chewy

Your Downtown Parking Guide

How to Navigate Downtown Winston-Salem Parking With Ease & Confidence

by SUZY FIELDERS

When it comes to downtown Winston-Salem, there seems to always be one major “hot” topic of discussion – parking. Whether you aren’t sure about where to park or costs, it can quickly get confusing navigating downtown parking.

That’s why I pulled together this quick downtown parking guide! It shares all the various parking options, as well as when and where you can park for free. There is so much to take advantage of in downtown Winston-Salem, from restaurants to parks, that parking shouldn’t be a reason to stay away!

PARKING DECKS

Did you know there are 17 parking decks downtown? They are conveniently located throughout the area. Rates vary but usually run between $1-$2 per hour. The City of Winston-Salem has a great map that lists out and shows all the different parking deck locations. It’s important to note many, if not most, have closing hours and are not open 24/7. So, be mindful of what time the deck closes before you park in the evening!

ON-STREET PARKING

The City of Winston-Salem recently took down all the meters for onstreet parking spaces and switched to the PayByPhone app. The initial setup of the app takes a little bit of time as you have to register your car with the app, but once that is done, it’s pretty fast to use each time.

The on-street parking hourly rate Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. is normally $1.50. All on-street parking spaces are free after 5:00 p.m. on weekdays and all weekend.

If you see parking spaces that do not have PayByPhone signage, those are time-restricted spaces. There will be signs posted for how long people are allowed to park (for free) in those spots. The time slots range, so be sure to closely read how long it’s available since they are monitored.

OFF-STREET PARKING

There are a few off-street parking lots that aren’t decks located in the downtown area, as well. Currently, many of them still utilize the PayByPhone apps or have a gate for payments, like a parking deck. Rates will be posted in the app or by the gates for these lots.

FREE, VALIDATED & VALET PARKING OPTIONS

Certain businesses and destinations provide free parking options; for instance, the Forsyth County Central Library. There is a deck attached to the library and a lot at the corner of 5th & Spring Streets.

Throughout downtown, many places offer validated and valet parking options. Here are just a few you can take advantage of:

• Chill Nitro – They validate for two hours at the lot located at the intersection of Poplar and 4th Streets. Simply, scan the QR code in their shop.

• Thai Harmony – They validate for two hours at the Liberty Plaza Parking Deck. Ask the server or the host there to get your parking ticket validated.

• Camel City BBQ Factory – They validate for two hours at the lot behind the restaurant off Liberty Street. You must take a photo of your license plate and enter the information into the tablet kiosk located inside the restaurant immediately upon arrival.

• Twisted Pine – This is one of the handful of restaurants that has their own parking lot. It’s located off Liberty Street, and parking is free for patrons.

• The Katharine Brasserie & Bar – Provides complimentary valet parking for restaurant diners with validation.

These are only a few of the options as several other downtown businesses also offer free parking.

LOCAL EVENTS

*Event details are subject to change. Please check event websites & social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.*

APRIL 11

DYNAMIS DASH 5K RUN/WALK & FUN RUN

9am, Dynamis Estate Wines, 1004 Highland Road in Jonesville, NC. Lace up your running shoes and take in the beauty of our centuryold estate as you traverse a stunning course through our mountain top vineyards and rolling hills. Cross the finish line and toast your success with a glass of select Dynamis wine. Savor a delectable brunch featuring locally inspired dishes designed to complement our wines. Each participant will receive a premium athletic shirt to commemorate the day. Whether you’re a seasoned runner, a casual walker or simply a lover of luxury experiences, the Dynamis Dash 5k Run/Walk promises an unforgettable day of fitness and indulgence at NC’s premium luxury winery. Proceeds will support the efforts of the Hugh Chatham Foundation.

APRIL 11

ARCHERY AFTERNOON AT THE LAM

1-4pm, Lam Museum of Anthropology, 1315 Carroll Weathers Drive in W-S. From hunting tools and weapons of war to ceremonial objects and artistic works, bows and arrows occupy many roles in cultures around the world. Join us as we explore the world of archery through demonstrations, activities, and crafts for all ages. This event is offered in conjunction with the exhibit Archery: Hunting, Warfare and Identity. Admission is free.

APRIL 11

LOCAL FAVORITES: DENVER

Denver, NC. Presented by LKN Magazine. Shop Local. Shop Small. Shop Lake Norman. Join LKN Magazine for a curated shopping tour highlighting some of our favorite local businesses in Denver! Discover unique boutiques, special promotions, spring finds and friendly faces as we celebrate the heart of our community. Stay tuned to Instagram for participating store announcements, exclusive specials and event details. Follow @lknmagazine for more information.

APRIL 17

CHEERS TO THE 5TH YEAR OF TRIPLE CROWN CASINO NIGHT

5:30pm, Legacy Stables & Events in W-S. Our 5th annual event returns, and this year’s event is packed with even more excitement, action and chances to win. Join us for Pretty in Pink Foundation’s signature Triad fundraiser – a high-energy night where every spin, roll and bid supports breast cancer patients right here in NC. Enjoy casino games, a live auction, a gourmet dinner, a diamond giveaway and more!

APRIL 18

SHREDDING EVENT SPONSORED BY BERMUDA RUN GARDEN CLUB

9am-12pm, 120 Kinderton Boulevard in Bermuda Run. Cost is $5 per brown grocery bag or equivalent size box. Cash only. Rain or shine. Proceeds go to various Davie County organizations supported by the Bermuda Run Garden Club. Contact Marie at 336.650.5518 with questions.

APRIL 18

PIEDMONT EARTH DAY FAIR

10am-4pm, The Winston-Salem Fairgrounds. Hosted by Piedmont Environmental Alliance, enjoy great food and music, activities for adults and kids, and wonderful Earth-friendly exhibitors...all while learning about how you can support a greener region. The Piedmont Earth Day Fair is a fun and free community event, perfect for folks of all ages. Event held rain or shine.

APRIL 30

WINE, WOMEN & SHOES

5:30pm, Legacy Stables & Events. Gather your friends for a night of fashion, wine and purpose where every table is a party! Fill a table of 10, and we’ll toast your group with a complimentary bottle of champagne. Rally your friends, and turn your table into the best party in the room. This event returns for the third year, bringing together women from across the Triad for an evening of style, celebration and giving back. From wine tastings and shopping to a seated dinner, every detail supports Ronald McDonald House Charities Piedmont Triad. Tickets on sale at winewomenandshoes.com/rmhcpt.

FUTURE

MAY 1

SPRING PLANT SALE AT THE ARBORETUM AT TANGLEWOOD

8am-2pm. Arboretum Volunteers and Educators at Tanglewood (AVET) will hold its annual spring plant sale. Enjoy the beauty of the gardens while making your way to one of Forsyth County’s premier plant sales. Selections include herbaceous perennials, flowering shrubs and trees, native plants, milkweed, annuals, herbs and more; plus, new for this year is carnivorous plants. The Arboretum Volunteers and Educators at Tanglewood organize this fundraiser which provides support for the NC State Extension Master Gardener℠ (EMG) volunteer program in Forsyth County. Proceeds from your purchase help maintain the Arboretum at Tanglewood Park and fund the monthly Adult Education lecture series held at Tanglewood Park throughout the year. Shop early for best selection. Sales are cash or check only. For additional information, call 336.703.2850.

MAY 30

GREEN HOME TOUR

11am-2pm. Buy your tickets today for Piedmont Environmental Alliance’s Green Home Tour at local Winston-Salem houses and gardens. Explore local houses and properties with sustainable elements like Audubon-certified natural habitats, solar energy, compost and rain barrel systems, and more right here in Winston-Salem.

Conversation with Your BFF

Recently, I had a chat with a friend who has a daughter in an abusive relationship. Time after time, her daughter continues to have the abuser arrested, eventually dropping charges and starting the cycle again. This has been going on for five years with no resolution. My BFF can’t comprehend why her daughter continues to accept physical, mental and verbal abuse. Rationally, it makes no sense. So, “why does an abused woman return to her abuser over and over, putting her life in danger each time?” I am so glad you asked.

LET’S JUST CALL IT WHAT IT IS

Trauma – Bonding is one of those phrases that sounds clinical, but the experience is painfully personal. It’s what happens when your emotional safety becomes tied to someone who also causes you harm; sometimes intentionally, sometimes repeatedly. The bond forms not in spite of the pain but because of it.

When someone oscillates between warmth and withdrawal, affection and distance, your brain works overtime trying to restore balance. The connection starts to feel “earned.” And anything earned feels valuable, even if it costs you everything.

That’s not romance, but survival trying to pass as love.

IF LOVE FEELS LIKE ANXIETY, THAT’S A RED FLAG

Let’s gently bust a myth we were all sold at some point: Love isn’t supposed to feel like emotional roulette.

Yes, attraction can have a spark. Yes, relationships can have challenges, but if being with someone consistently makes you feel unsure of where you stand, afraid to speak up or responsible for managing their emotions, that’s not passion, that’s pressure.

Trauma-bonded relationships often feel “deep” because they activate old wounds. If chaos feels familiar, calm can feel suspicious. You may even find yourself thinking, “Why doesn’t this peaceful connection feel exciting?”

Because your nervous system hasn’t recalibrated yet. Peace takes practice.

WHAT ROLE DOES THE ABUSED PLAY?

Many people who experience trauma-bonding are empathetic, loyal and emotionally intuitive. You see potential. You give grace. You stay longer than most. Those are strengths, until they’re used against you or turned inward as self-abandonment.

“Why Do I Keep Going Back to My Abuser?”

by REBECCA COOPER

Often, trauma bonds tap into early lessons like:

* Love means proving your worth.

* Conflict is normal, resolution is rare.

* Being chosen requires endurance.

WHY DOES LEAVING FEEL LIKE LOSS OF YOURSELF?

Walking away from a trauma bond can feel worse than staying, at least at first. That’s the part for which no one is prepared.

The abused isn’t just leaving a person, they are also leaving the hope of who the person could be; if only the abuser felt loved more, there’d be a happy ending.

Grief is not evidence that the relationship was right. It’s evidence that the abused invested their heart.

Repeat this: Missing someone who hurt you doesn’t mean you should go back. It means you’re human and healing.

NEVER RUSH HEALING

There are steps for the healing process with trauma-bonded relationships:

* Create emotional safety on purpose with people who are predictable, kind and calm.

* Let your body catch up to your mind, meaning you may know it was unhealthy long before your body believes it.

* Stop romanticizing the bare minimum; consistency isn’t boring, it’s the foundation to build on. You shouldn’t have to earn kindness or clarity.

* Strength is not “staying;” strength is choosing yourself without needing permission.

HERE’S THE IMPORTANT PART TO REMEMBER…

You are not behind.

You are not damaged.

You are not “too much” for wanting real love.

Trauma bonding ends when the abused stops confusing intensity with intimacy and chooses alignment over attachment.

One day, love will feel steady instead of sharp and painful, warm instead of consuming and safe instead of suspenseful.

And when that happens to the abused, she will look back not with regret, but with compassion for the version of herself who was just trying to be loved.