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In this issue... 3-5 News & Information EDUCATION 6 Education News 8 Why thinking should be a curriculum subject 9 The importance of imagination HEALTH 11 Health tips 12 Supporting an anxious child PARENTING 13 Making friends with parents at the school gates 14 Activites away from school 15 So many activities! how can i choose? PLAN A PARTY 17 Party News 18 Taking steps towards hosting an Eco-friendly party 19-21 Party Directory 22-26 WHATS ON PARENTING 27 Mindful parenting 28 A parent’s guide to video gaming 29 BUMPS AND BABES Designing and furnishing your baby’s nursery FAMILIES’ BOOK CLUB 30 Interview with Ross Welford 31 Writing the future

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Happy New Year! I’m not much of a forward planner, so always find it a bit odd working on this issue whilst Christmas festivities are in full swing (though perhaps not as unsettling as writing about Christmas at the end of the summer!). We’ve got some great features this issue on the importance of imagination (p.9), supporting an anxious child (p.12) and a parent’s guide to video gaming (p.28), as well as our annual parties feature from p.17, beating the January blues with our What’s On listings pp.22-26 and much more. Ross Welford also talks about his new book for readers aged 8+ on p.30 and we have a full set of his books to giveaway to one lucky winner! Plus, who could fail to be inspired by 10 year old Inaaya Mahek who has already published her first novel! Read our interview with her on p.31. Wishing you all a happy and healthy 2020

Reading is coming to life at Maidenhead’s Big Read this March We're big fans of reading; there is truly no greater pleasure in life than curling up in a big armchair and getting lost in a good book, magazine or comic. So, it’s very exciting that Maidenhead's Big Read is making a comeback in 2020, coinciding with World Book Day. Stephan, Chairman of Maidenhead’s Big Read commented “We want to get everyone in Maidenhead excited about literature, literacy and creativity whilst giving them the tools to create their futures. We believe that everyone can live their dreams through the power of reading and that the future is theirs to write.” Organised by Maidenhead Community Book Festival, Maidenhead’s Big Read will run from Friday 28th February to Sunday 8th March and includes a whole host of exciting initiatives: including Story telling, author and illustrator interactive events and talks in town; drop in book reading groups, reading with a volunteer events, pop‐up book shops and book exchanges in the Nicholsons shopping centre and Maidenhead library. These are all free to attend, though pre‐booking is recommended. For more information email info@maidenheads‐big‐read.org.uk or visit the website to book your sessions at www.maidenheads‐big‐read.org.uk

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Could you be a life-changer in 2020?

Wendy White, creator of ‘My Mood Stars’ explains how her toy encourages emotional expression We all know that the ability to express and control our own emotions and also recognise them in others is an essential social skill. However, for the young child, children on the autism spectrum and even for older people suffering from dementia, trying to communicate feelings can be difficult and frustrating. ‘My Mood Stars’ enable all these groups to immerse themselves in imaginative play, either by themselves or with others, and offer a fun opportunity for them to talk about how and what they are feeling. The stars can be popped on and off their own special board, which is a fun activity in itself. We have also seen older children vent their frustration and turn anger into laughter mid-meltdown as they throw the stars onto the board and watch them stick. Younger kids love this game too. When not being used on the board, the stars can be carried around just like other soft toys to bring comfort and reassurance.... they can even be worn (by over 3’s) as a badge – perfect for non-verbal children. The soft, tactile Mood Stars can be used to set the scene for creating endless stories and games. The names of the stars – Timid, Sad, Angry, Happy, Sleepy, Surprised, Scared and Silly – can be changed to fit in with the user’s vocabulary. In addition to the Mood Stars themselves, their mountable board, a badge, and an activity sheet is included where you’ll find inspirational and fun activities. www.mymoodstars.co.uk www.twitter.com/mymoodstars www.facebook.com/mymoodstars www.instagram.com/mymoodstars41

Rush Trampoline Park Launch #JUMP2020 Jo Edwards, Fitness Director at Rush Trampoline Park in High Wycombe is launching a new fitness campaign for January 2020 called #JUMP2020. Open for anyone to join up online, the aim of the campaign is to get people moving daily with a simple and memorable exercise routine. People joining sign up and pledge to do 20 jumps and 20 other exercises for up to 20 minutes a day. It comes as new research reveals that 43 per cent of people expect to give up their new year’s resolutions after just one month. Jo Edwards said: ‘We are so excited to launch #JUMP2020. 20 minute workouts can be as effective as workouts of up to 60 minutes if you workout with maximum effort. As a busy mum myself I know short workouts are essential and my workouts can fit into any schedule.’ The campaign launches with a free fitness class taster day on Friday 10 January. Email: getfit@rush.com to book. For more information or to sign up, visit rushuk.com/JUMP2020

Whether you’re someone who has been thinking about fostering for years, or someone who is just getting interested, 2020 could be the year you make a huge difference. There is an urgent need for local foster carers for children of all ages in the Slough area and Slough Children’s Services Trust is encouraging anyone interested to get in touch and find out more. “There are very few barriers to fostering. Your marital status, ethnicity and sexual orientation really don’t matter, it’s about being the right carer for the right child.” says Karen Williams from the Trust. All foster carers come from different backgrounds but they all share a desire to give a child a safe and loving home, with a brighter future. As Mary, whose foster parents work with the Trust says, “you should become a foster carer to watch a child grow into something amazing!” Text FOSTER to 60066 or call 01753 690960 to find out more about the support, training and generous allowances offered by Slough Children’s Services Trust.

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Tactile Toys and a Highly Effective Developmental Resource The eight My Mood Stars enable children to immerse themselves in imaginative play, either opportunity for children to talk about how they are feeling. Use the stars and their board to set the scene for endless stories and games to be made with characters being timid, sad, angry, happy, sleepy, surprised, scared and silly!

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News & Info Perform weekly drama, dance and singing classes

Perform is celebrating its 20th anniversary! Families chatted to founder, Lucy Quick. How did Perform start? I was a musical theatre actress in Oliver! at the London Palladium and I loved working with children. I had a vision for a drama school that wasn’t about talent or auditions; where performing arts would be used to develop what we now call the 4 Cs: confidence, communication, coordination and concentration. Where is Perform at now? Starting with two classes in 2000, we now run 472 schools across the South East and West, employ over 250 teachers and have almost 8,000 children attending weekly. What’s the secret of Perform’s success? We put child development at the heart of everything we do.

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What does the future hold? Opening more Perform schools across the country – we’re just launching in Nottingham and continuing our confidence crusade to help children fulfil their potential through drama, dance and singing. What are you proudest of? My teachers. They are the most inspirational bunch of talented and enthusiastic people you’ll ever meet. Try a FREE no-obligation class in Ascot, Iver, Maidenhead, Marlow and Windsor PLUS quote TVE140220 for an introductory £40 discount when you book. Visit www.perform.org.uk/try to book.

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About: Confidence building fun for 4-12s. A unique mix of drama, dance and singing specially developed to bring out every child's true potential. Classes are kept small to ensure lots of individual attention. Go to perform.org.uk/try to book a FREE class and quote TVE140220 for an introductory £40 discount when you book Venues: South Ascot Church Hall, Ascot SL5 9DP. 4-7s Fridays 4pm; 7-12s Fridays 5pm. St Peter’s Centre, 1 Thorney Lane North, Iver SL0 9JU. 4-7s Tuesdays 4pm; 7-12s Tuesdays 5pm. Boyne Hill Infant School, Rutland Road, Maidenhead SL6 4HZ. 4-7s Saturdays 9.30am; 7-12s Saturdays 11.15am Magnet Leisure Centre, Holmanleaze, Maidenhead SL6 8AW. 4-7s Fridays 4pm; 7-12s Fridays 5pm All Saints Church Hall, The Causeway, Marlow SL7 2AA. 4-7s Mondays 4pm; 7-12s Mondays 5pm. NEW CLASS Kings Court First School, Ashbrook Road, Old Windsor SL4 2NE. 7-12s Mondays 5pm. Clewer Youth Centre, Clewer Parish Hall, Windsor SL4 5EW. 4-7s Mondays 4pm & Fridays 4pm; 7-12s Fridays 5pm. Contact: T: 020 7255 9120 / enquiries@perform.org.uk www.perform.org.uk/try

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Premier Nurseries in Iver and Uxbridge are taken on by The Old Station Nursery group

Education News Climate Change is top of the agenda for pupils at St Pirans Being such a key topic for young people in this day and age, St Pirans has a dedicated Eco Parliament. The group were recently visited by Katrina Judge, one of the creators of the 'Young Climate Warriors' website (www.youngclimatewarriors.org) which is full of facts and initiatives to help young people understand and get involved in climate change. During the visit to the school and her meeting with the Eco Parliament representatives, she discussed climate change, challenges facing our planet and how we can all do small things to help make a positive difference. The school is using her weekly website challenges to get involved. The Eco Parliament also got fully immersed in the recent School Christmas Fair, selling lots of hand-

Eco Parliament at Christmas Fair

made eco products and having some eco prizes for adults and children alike. St Pirans is a co-educational independent school in Maidenhead. The next open morning is Tuesday 4th February. During open days visitors will hear the Headmaster’s speech, meet the teachers and parents and be taken on a tour with current pupils. To join them, please contact the Registrar, Deena McLelland on 01628 594302 or email registrar@stpirans.co.uk More information on open days can also be found at www.stpirans.co.uk

Bishopsgate School welcomes you to their Early Years Open Morning The open morning will be held on Thursday 27 February 2020 from 9.30-11.30am in order to promote their Early Years programme, which strives to offer a positive and enriched start to every child’s learning journey. The environment at the school is designed to allow skilled practitioners to follow the children’s interests, ensuring the children feel valued and continue to develop their thirst for learning. This holistic approach allows the children to develop at their own pace offering limitless learning opportunities.

Bishopsgate is a co-educational independent school, for children aged 3 to 13. To book an appointment, please email admissions@bishospgatesch.uk phone 01784 480222 or visit: www.bishopsgate-school.co.uk

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It’s all go at Premier nurseries in Iver and Uxbridge! The new owners have been busy refreshing the signage at both sites, as the nurseries have now joined The Old Station Nursery family. The staff will be in new uniforms in January and will be making the most of all the new training they have had recently. Sarah Steel, the new owner says: ‘We’re really pleased to take on the Premier Nurseries at Iver and Uxbridge and add them to our growing Old Station Nursery family. We’ve already made a few changes, such as buying some three-seater buggies, so that the babies can enjoy getting out into the local area. We have more things planned and are working closely with the nursery managers and their staff teams to provide a first class service to parents and children in the area.’ Do feel to drop in at any time and see what they have to offer. www.premiernurseries.co.uk 01753 783838

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Dates for Spring Term 2020

Open Events are a fantastic way to see the school in action, to meet our Headteacher, Joanna Leach and all our staff. For girls from 3 - 11 years. Open Events

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Why Thinking Should be a Curriculum Subject By Dr Neel Burton

Following his defeat at the Battle of Actium in 31 BCE, Marc Antony heard a rumour that Cleopatra had committed suicide and, in consequence, stabbed himself in the abdomen—only to discover that Cleopatra herself had been responsible for spreading the rumour. He later died in her arms. ake news is nothing new, but in our Internet age, it has spread like a disease, swinging elections, fomenting social unrest, undermining institutions, and diverting political capital away from health, education, and good government. So how best to guard against it?

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Today, I have little use for most of these facts, and though I am only middle-aged, many are already out of date, or highly questionable. But what I do rely on—every day, all the time—is my faculty for critical thinking. As BF Skinner once put it: “Education is what survives when what has been learnt has been forgotten.”

As a medical specialist, I have spent well over twenty years in formal education. With the possible exception of my one-year degree in philosophy, the emphasis of my education has been firmly and squarely on fact accumulation.

But can critical thinking be taught? The answer is ‘yes’ - or, at least, the beginnings of it. So why not make more time for it and be more rigorous and systematic about its learning?

Logic is a good start, but there is much more to critical thinking than mere logic. Educationalists often amalgamate thinking with logic. True, logic is able to provide immediate certainty and the authority and credibility that goes with that. But logic is a lot more limited than many people imagine.

Just as there is more to reason than logic, so there is more to thinking than reasoning. If school curricula make very little time for logic and reasoning, they make even less time for non-rational forms of cognition such as the emotions, intuition, and imagination.

Logic essentially consists of a set of operations for deriving a statement from other statements. In a sense, it merely makes explicit that which was previously implicit. It brings nothing new to the table. The conclusion flows from the premises as their inevitable consequence:

To see the significance of nonrational forms of cognition, let’s hone in on the emotions. With the decline of religion and traditional social structures, our emotions have come to assume an increasingly dominant role in our lives. It has forever been said that we are ruled by our emotions, but this today is truer than ever. Much more than reason or tradition, it is our emotions that determine our choice of profession, partner, and politics, and our relation to money, sex, and religion.

1. All birds have feathers. (Premise 1) 2. Woodpeckers are birds. (Premise 2) 3. Therefore, woodpeckers have feathers. (Conclusion)

What’s more, logic is not concerned with the actual truth or falsity of the premises or, indeed, the merit or relevance of the conclusion. Reasoning, in contrast, is a much broader psychological activity which also involves selecting and assessing evidence, creating and testing hypotheses, weighing competing arguments, evaluating means and ends, developing and applying mental shortcuts, and so on. All this requires the use of judgement, which is why reason, unlike logic, cannot be delegated to a computer, and also why it so often fails to persuade.

Yet, remarkably, the emotions are utterly neglected by our system of education, leading to millions of mis-lived lives. Nothing can make us feel more alive, or more human, than our emotions, or hurt us more. To control our emotions is to control ourselves, and to control ourselves is to control our destiny. Our school curriculum needs to make more time and space for thinking. And we need to rehabilitate alternative forms of cognition, such as the emotions, intuition, and imagination, that can support, supplement, or supplant reason and return us to wholeness.

Dr Neel Burton is a leading psychiatrist and author of Hypersanity: Thinking Beyond Thinking, which is out now, priced £12.99. To find out more, visit www.neelburton.com

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The Importance of Imagination By Dr Neel Burton

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instein held that imagination is more important than knowledge: “I am enough of the artist to draw freely upon my imagination. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.” It’s hard to disagree. Imagination is the highest form of thought, and almost divine in its reach. With enough imagination, we could identify and solve all of our problems. With enough imagination, we would never have to work again—or, at least, not for money. With enough imagination, we could win over, or defeat, anyone we wanted to. But our imagination is so poor that we haven’t even imagined what it would be like to have that kind of imagination. Most children begin to develop pretend play at around 15 months of age. What are children doing when they pretend play? And why are they so absorbed in works of imagination? When I was 7 years old, I would devour book after book and plead with my parents for those not already in the bookcase. By playing out scenarios and extending themselves beyond their limited experience, children seek to make sense of the world and find their place within it. This meaning-making is full of emotion—joy, excitement, awe—and finds an echo in every subsequent act of creation. Think back to your favourite teacher at school: for me, a French teacher who wept silently as he read to the class from a novel by Marguerite

Duras. The teachers whom we hold dear to our hearts, who changed the course of our lives, are not those who assiduously taught us the most facts, or fastidiously covered every bulleted point on the syllabus, but those who moved and inspired us, those who fired up our imagination and opened us up to ourselves and to the world. Despite its importance to the individual and society, our system of education leaves very little place for imagination. Our schools and universities and wider society are often forced to prioritise knowing over thinking, and equate thinking with reasoning, and reasoning with logic. This has done, and continues to do, untold harm. Instead of digging ourselves in deeper, we need to make more time and space for thinking. In recent years, I’ve been trying to recover the bright and vivid imagination that I left behind in primary school. For that, I’ve been doing just three things, all of them very simple to explain: • Being aware of the importance of imagination. • Making time for sleep and idleness. • Taking inspiration from the natural world. How might that translate to you and your children? Don’t skimp on sleep. Don’t fill every hour of the day with scheduled activities. Make time for idleness, for daydreaming, and long walks in nature. Above all, don’t worry about

‘wasting time.’ While we are idling, in bed, in the bath, on the bus, our unconscious mind is busy assimilating and processing disparate pieces of information, and making all sorts of novel connections and projections. Time is a very strange thing, and not at all linear: sometimes, the best way of using it is to ‘waste’ it.

Here are 12 tips for nurturing imagination in your children: 1. Allow for unscheduled down-time, even for ‘boredom.’ 2. Discourage passive TVs, tablets, and other electronics. 3. Encourage reading, make sure there are plenty of age-appropriate books around. 4. Encourage story-telling and writing. 5. Encourage pretend play, even if it gets messy! 6. Spend time in botanical gardens, zoos, art museums, science museums, natural history museums… 7. Spend a lot of time outdoors.

8. Travel to different places: forest, beach, mountains, abroad. 9. Encourage contact with different people and cultures. 10. Encourage thought-provoking questions, and ask some yourself. 11. Try not to impose pre-conceived notions, especially pre-conceived notions of what it means to be successful. 12. Allow your children to follow their enthusiasms, however eccentric, impractical, or disruptive they may seem. You never know where they may lead!

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Focus on Health... 5 First Aid Tips for Common Child Injuries by Child Matters When you're a parent one of the scariest roles you have to fill is that of a ‘First Aider’. You know how it goes - you turn your back for just a few seconds and your kid is bleeding! Here’s how to deal with some common injuries we’ve seen in A&E. 1. Bump to the head Red flags are severe headache, a change in behaviour, vomiting, confusion or difficulty walking. Hold a cold compress wrapped in a thin layer against the bump. Manage the pain with paracetamol. Rest is normal after a shock so let them sleep but if difficult to rouse or have new symptoms seek further help. 2. Bee/Wasp sting Scrape sideways with something hard to remove the sting, like a bankcard. If they have mild symptoms, use an icepack, take painkillers and use a spray or cream containing local anaesthetic, antihistamine or mild hydrocortisone. An antihistamine tablet can reduce swelling but call 999 if your child has difficulty

breathing, wheezing, becomes lethargic or any swelling to the face, throat or mouth. State ‘anaphylaxis’. 3. Scrapes and cuts Clean minor wounds with tap water or wound wipes and apply a dressing. Larger bleeds require direct pressure for at least 10 minutes, but if still bleeding, there’s an embedded object, wound is large and gaping, or on the face, get help. 4. Poisoning Observe for burns or blisters in the mouth, difficulty breathing, sleepiness and vomiting. Identify the cause so that emergency services can advise best treatment. If your child’s lips or airway are burned by corrosive substances, frequent sips of cold water or milk

may be given. If your child has difficulty breathing or becomes unconscious call 999. You may need to start CPR. 5. Burns. Most commonly this is a scald or burn from a hot drink. Cool the burn with cold water for at least 20 minutes to prevent pain/scarring. If you don’t do this, your child’s skin can continue to burn long after. You have up to 3 hours afterwards

to cool the burn to have an impact on how it heals. Then cover with clingfilm – it’s quick, sterile and doesn’t stick. Join Child Matters Family First Aid classes and learn how to deal with these emergencies, Choking, CPR, seizures and more on. Visit www.childmatters.info for dates in Berks, Bucks, Oxon, and Herts.

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● Eat right – a healthy diet to boost the immune system, include fresh foods, less produced foods and vegetables - experiment on new foods ● Drink water - a minimum of 2 litres a day ● Exercise a minimum of 3 times per week - set achievable goals and vary what exercise you do ● Get enough sleep – a minimum of 8 hours a night ● Avoid too much caffeine and sugar – look at alternatives ● Limit alcohol – or simply look to replace this with water ● Work/Life balance – see friends and positive influences ● Think positively – laugh lots ● Avoid Stress – plan to overcome situations that cause unnecessary stress

● Plan your days to include Work – Exercise and Rest ● Don't let childcare stop you getting fit! Look out for gyms that have crèches or children's clubs on the premises. ● Find a gym location with a great family atmosphere and grounds for all to enjoy.

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Practical Strategies for Supporting an Anxious Child By Alicia Eaton

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e often hear that today’s children are more anxious than previous generations. Growing up in an environment with worrying news items about climate change or terrorism, an endless stream of exams and the digital nightmare of social media competitiveness all contribute to this heightened sense of anxiety. No wonder then that many of today’s parents are finding it a struggle to deal with their children’s anxieties. But there are simple things parents can do to help. Here are some simple strategies which you can incorporate into daily life to soothe anxiety and help your children feel calmer and more at ease. Practise Breathing Techniques Anxiety can lead to a shortness of breath which in turn creates a pale complexion, sweaty hands and face, tightness in the chest and even giddiness or fainting. “Take a nice deep breath” is a traditional phrase that we’re all familiar with, but taking a deep inward breath is precisely what an anxious person doesn’t need to do. Anxious feelings can be caused by having too much air trapped in the lungs, which gives the sensation of not being able to breathe properly. Toys and games can help children practice controlling their breathing and here are some useful ways to introduce this concept. • a hand-held windmill toy with sails; • blowing bubbles through a wand • blowing up balloons; • blowing bubbles in a drink through a straw; • playing blow football; • blowing a feather from one side of a table to the other; • blowing up an imaginary paper bag through a scrunched-up hand.

Once they’ve finished, fold the piece of paper and put it into the Worry Box. Put the lid firmly on the box and put it away. Once a week, sit down with your child and take out all the pieces of paper in the box and read through the worries one by one. Encourage your child to be pleasantly surprised at just how many worries took care of themselves. Remember: most of the things we worry about never happen!

Not only will your child feel calmer after playing these games, but they’ll get a feel for how to control their breathing more effectively when they are feeling anxious. Create a Worry Box If you have a child that’s stuck in a cycle of worrying about future events and repeatedly asking “yes, but what if…..,” it will be more helpful to restrict the amount of time given over to discussion about these worries. Find a box. It can be an old shoebox, or a small, attractively decorated one so long as it has a lid and can be closed easily. Explain to your child that this is going to be their personal Worry Box. Put a supply of paper and felt-tips inside the box. Each time your child gets stuck in a cycle of worries, ask them to take a sheet of paper from the Worry Box and choose a coloured pen. Having a good selection of coloured pens is useful because you can ask your child what colour they think this particular worry is. Ask them to write down or draw a picture of the worry.

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Encourage an Attitude of Positivity Negative thinking can easily become a habit that’s hard to break. Switching your child’s thought patterns around will help to prevent this from happening. Encourage your child to keep a journal. This can be a physical notebook to record events or doodle in, or they can use any devices they may have for the same purpose. Each day, ask your child to write down three positive things that happened. These can be quite simple to begin with: we had pizza for lunch or the maths teacher forgot to set homework. If it’s easier, you can introduce this technique conversationally, either in the car or at the dinner table. Start the ball rolling by mentioning something good that happened to you that day. Too many of us fall into the trap of only talking about the problems and difficulties that we encountered during our day. Alicia Eaton is a children's emotional wellbeing specialist based in London’s Harley Street and author of First Aid for your Child’s Mind available from Amazon (£12.99). For more information, visit www.aliciaeaton.co.uk

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Making Friends with Parents at the School Gate By Tanith Carey We all know that kids' friendships can be complicated. But we often don’t recognise how complex the relationships between parents can be too. Why else, would we feel nervous about having no one to talk to in the playground at school pick-up?

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hese bonds with other parents are critically important, not only for us, but for our kids. Not only do good relationships with the parents of our child's classmates helps us feel more tuned in to what's happening at school but bonds with other adults we meet at school can also help our children have easier, happier friendships themselves. We are our children’s first role models when it comes to making friends. They closely observe how we interact – whether it’s being friendly and open to all, or being more reserved and sticking to more exclusive groups of parents. The more open we are to meeting other parents, the easier it is to support our kids' friendships and help them develop a wider social circle. Gone are the days when we lived in close-knit communities where kids met up with friends after school to play; instead, we need to make sure they have the opportunity to develop their social skills. Research shows that having a circle of pals who they can be themselves with is the single most important factor in making young people feel good about themselves and want to go to school. So what are the best ways to get on well with other school parents? Be Friendly to Everyone Be prepared to talk to every parent in your child’s class, not just the ones you feel you have a lot in common with. Every human being deserves to be treated with basic courtesy, no matter who they are. By role-modelling this for your child, you will be passing on one of the most important life lessons there is. Respect your Child’s Likes Be enthusiastic about inviting home any child your son or

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daughter plays with at school. Friendship between children is chemical so don’t limit their options by deciding who they should socialise with. Set up playdates Playdates are important for helping your child learn friendship skills, like compromise and turn-taking. When parents drop off or collect, be friendly and open and offer tea or coffee. Some may accept your invites and others may not, but either way you will be doing your best for your child. Set up a social media group If you are daunted by the idea of penetrating groups of parents who look like they all know each other in the playground, suggest setting up a WhatsApp or Facebook group, not only to support each other and set up play-dates, but also to get a better idea of who the kinder parents are. They are also more likely to have kinder kids.

So unless your child is being targeted repeatedly by another child in an attempt to hurt them, let them resolve conflict for themselves. The chances are your kids will be talking again soon, but if you've made a stand against another parent, it will still stay awkward between you - and that helps no one. For social-science based insights into how to help your child have better friendships and learn friendship skills, look out for Tanith’s new book The Friendship Maze: How to Help Your Child Navigate Their Way to Positive and Happier Friendships, published by Summersdale and available from Amazon (£10.99).

Check your competitive urges We all want our children to do well. But when we start measuring their achievements against others, it can wreck relationships with other school parents. Competitive power play puts others on their guard and chats feel more like stressful duels than enjoyable conversations. Rise above competitive behaviour of others If another parent makes a competitive power-play, side-step it by drawing attention to the goals you BOTH have in common, whether it’s for your kids both getting better at Maths or for them both to play their best for the school team. Let them sort out their own disputes Many school gate relationships rupture when parents fall out - or start ignoring each other because their kids have fallen out.

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writing. Playing an instrument will help children understand music lessons. Building Self-Esteem In a busy classroom it can sometimes be hard for a child to make themselves heard. Outside of school activities will give your child the chance to build their self-esteem. Most groups or teams are more intimate than the typical classroom environment, making them less intimidating for children. Children may also be more interested than they are in their lessons and will engage more easily with the activities involved. Positive Role Models Sports coaches, group leaders and other responsible adults who are sharing their skills provide role models and a valuable new take on the world for children. Happier Children Outside of school activities promote emotional well-being by allowing children to work off excess energy, relax their minds, and overcome the stress associated with school life. Chance to Shine Outside of school activities offer your child the chance to be themselves away from the influence of their school friends. Without being judged by their peers as “not cool” or “geeky” your child may thrive in developing a new outlet for creative, sporting or intellectual pursuits. Promoting Healthy Hobbies Children with a regular activity are likely to spend less static time glued to a smartphone or screen and the interests that they develop

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during outside of school activities are likely to mean they spend more time practicing skills and pursuing their passions. Explore Interests and Create Broader Perspectives When children participate in multiple different activities, they get the opportunity to explore a range of interests which subsequently broaden their world view. Time Management As children get older and move on to secondary school, being able to juggle different aspects of their lives becomes increasingly important. By attending classes, clubs or activities outside of school, your child will be taking on more responsibility for managing their schedule effectively. Sense of Commitment Students who participate in outside of school activities develop a sense of commitment to whatever they are involved in. This is because they have to commit to them and give them their all, and this commitment starts to extend to other areas of their lives. A Brighter Future The skills and habits a child learns during his or her school years help to shape the kind of future they will lead as an adult. As a result, outside of school activities that promote everything from healthy-living habits, to leadership skills, good time-management, and better social or academic performance have plenty of advantages to offer. Don’t Push Them Keep in mind that you shouldn’t push children to over-do it when it comes to extra activities. It’s better for your child to choose something that they really enjoy doing and stick to it, rather than attempt numerous different activities that quickly become overwhelming, and may detract from their ability to concentrate on school work. Of course, you may also have the type of child that just wants to try everything, in which case, it may be best to let them do so and try to narrow down their commitments when you see which activities they particularly favour. More info: www.nuffieldfoundation.org/out-schoolactivities-and-education-gap

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ften, I hear parents chat about their busy schedules… football, ballet, swimming, music. And every week one parent will ask me, “So many activities, we can’t do them all, what is best for my child?”. And they’re right to ask the question – it’s a more important question than many parents realise. Think in Three Dimensions There are three dimensions to consider when choosing activities for your child – their body, brain and social/emotional health. Our children benefit most when we develop their full potential in all three dimensions, creating a strong foundation for them to thrive in the playground, at school, in their hobbies, relationships, and later, careers. Body: Their First Dimension Until the age of eight, research shows that your child’s body is their first … and most important … teacher. Children need to work their arms, legs, trunk, and go around, upside down and sideways from a young age to fully develop their body, growing brain and all of their senses. Very few after school activities provide this whole-body opportunity. For example, football is great for eye-foot coordination but lacks upper body development. Research shows that upper body development is essential for everyday skills such as writing, sitting at a desk, and listening. Gymnastics simultaneously works your child’s entire body and puts them in control. Strong legs,

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arms, trunk, enhanced balance, and body control boosts confidence and helps your child to thrive outside of the gym too. The Brain Physical development is not just about the body, it’s about the brain too. Your child’s brain is translating every physical experience, every piece of information their senses receive from the world to inform what they do next. And this ‘next’ is called their behaviour! The better integrated your child’s body and brain, the more organised and relaxed they will be, the better they will be at self-managing, and the better foundation they will have to be contented and balanced kids. Even with all the activities for children today, gymnastics is the only sport that replicates that natural need for climbing a tree, rolling down a hill, and testing a branch to see if it will hold your weight – experiences that encourage not just physical development, but brain development too. Social & Emotional Health Our children are surrounded by structure. Structure at school and in very structured activities. Structure everywhere! It’s important to teach our children order and organisation. But constant structure denies children the opportunity to experiment with their physical capabilities, explore their imaginations, tap their creativity, and achieve balance. Too much structure also undermines children’s

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PARTIES Most parents think that they have no other option but to hold a party for their child’s birthday. But throwing one can be a major source of stress and a substantial drain on the bank account. It’s worth thinking about how you can create a memorable celebration without throwing a party.

Another Birthday Party? Make it a Date Instead Feed the Animals Young children adore animals so take them on an outing to a petting farm or to nearby lake to feed the ducks. Most zoos also have special experiences which you can book which will allow your young one to get behind the scenes and help out. Progressive Dinner Your child will love going on one of these. Start somewhere for an appetiser, then move on to the next restaurant for main course, and finish up somewhere else for dessert. Or organise some family and/or friends to host separate courses at their homes, finishing with a cake involving everyone. Spend the Night in a Hotel Make it a celebration they will really remember by packing your bags and heading to a hotel for the night. This could be close by or in a nearby city. Suggest options that fit within your budget. Go Crazy at a Theme Park A birthday will be one big thrill ride

if you take your son or daughter to a theme park. Many parks have buy-ahead options which save money, such as discount food, parking and ticket packages. Some also have onsite accommodation options, if your budget permits. Take in a Movie Let your child choose two or three of their favourite films and make a day or night of it. With a bit of preparation such as movie snacks and popcorn and pizza, your home movie night can become a bonding event for you and your child. Have a Spa Day If you have a daughter celebrating a birthday, she'll love having a spa day. Check the spa has no age restriction. Or plan a home spa day and give each other facials, manicures, pedicures, and serve fruity drinks. Try Something New If your child hasn’t been tobogganing, take them to one of the dry ski slopes or indoor snow centres that are popping up all over the country. Or go skating at a permanent or pop-up ice rink nearby. Canoeing, indoor climbing, ten pin bowling or even camping are all fun activities your child may not have tried and can enjoy with you.

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By Andrew Campbell Make it a Date One of the most precious things we can offer our children is our time and often the best thing we can do to improve our relationship with them is to offer it freely. A date involves one-on-one time talking, communicating, and building a relationship with our child by asking questions and really listening to the answers. So why not make your child’s birthday extra-special by taking them on a date? Let your Child Decide Give your child an opportunity to draw up a ‘wish list’ of all the fun things they might like to do on their birthday. If they are stumped you can make suggestions. Narrow down the list to what is manageable and within your budget - and let your child make the decision. Go to the Theatre, a Concert or to the Ballet If you child loves performance or

dance then take them on an exciting outing and include a pre or post performance meal so that you can anticipate the event together or share what you both enjoyed afterwards. Attend a Big Sporting Event Take your child to a big game or match involving their favourite team or sport. Most sports these days, including netball, badminton and hockey have exciting elitelevel competitions with fixtures throughout the country. Or you could try something new like an Elite Ice Hockey game. Visit a Fire Station Many pre-schoolers love fire stations. Contact your local fire brigade to see if they will allow you to bring your child in to view the trucks, equipment and a real life Fireman Sam in full kit. Maybe combine it with fire safety education session. Finish the excitement with an ice cream or hot chocolate.

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e have just come to the end of the birthday season in our house and thankfully my eldest is now at the age where he’d rather take a couple of friends out for an afternoon and then have them stay over, than have a party. At aged five and just having started school though, the twins are still loving the party days, which meant I felt duty bound to throw them one. This time round, as well as trying to keep the costs from spiralling out of control, I was also mindful of how much waste a party can generate and as I’m the first person to opt for convenience, I figured there must be a way of keeping things easy without feeling guilty about how much I was adding to landfill once it was all over. This is by no means intended to be preachy. There is a lot more that I could’ve done, however, having done a minimal amount of research, I did manage to make a couple of changes that would be fairly easy to adopt, so thought it might be worth sharing for anyone who’s interested. The best of which was abandoning paper plates and single use plastic cups in favour of reusable ones. In the past, I don’t think I’ve even stopped to consider the environmental impact of using paper plates, the convenience of

throwing them all in a bin bag post party making it very much a nondecision. However, even if you convince yourself you might be able to recycle some of the lesser soiled ones, often the themed ones have a plastic coating on them which makes that impossible anyway. Once I started thinking about what the viable alternatives were, I came across The Party Kit Network. This is a non-profit group founded by Isabel Mack in June 2019. The Network is made up of parents, party businesses, zero waste stores etc who all own reusable party kits to loan out. Each party kit consists of a box of brightly coloured, reusable tableware which can be hired for your event and then returned to be loaned out to the next person. Some kits include decorative items such as bunting and most of them offer a washing up service which gives the same benefit the disposable ware does, but without the waste and often at a cheaper price too! A win win in my book. I contacted Rachel Farmer originally who runs Eco Party in a Box and is based in Burnham and she loans out her kit in return for a donation to The Baby Bank. Sadly, her kits were all in use for the day I needed one, but I ended up going with Emma Hinde from Little Green Parties and would

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highly recommend her. The kit had everything we needed for 30 guests, including jugs, serving trays and birthday bunting. Simply visit www.partykitnetwork.uk to find a kit near you. The other change I made, was to try and cut down on the amount of plastic tat I was inflicting on parents (and inevitably landfill) by handing out party bags. I have to admit, if it was up to me, I would probably abandon these altogether, but my kids love them. Not just receiving them but handing them out to their friends also. I think the key here is to not only consider the eco friendly alternatives, but to also think about the perceived value of the gift. For example, will packs of seeds actually be used? and is there a limit to how many mini notebooks and crayons people want? I’m a real book lover and my first thought was to abandon the traditional party bag in favour of giving out books along with a few sweets and a piece of cake. The only reason I didn’t go down this route was because much to everyone’s delight (we all love a book in my house), we’d been to a few parties that had beaten me to it and I didn’t want to be a copycat! In the end, I found some pencil cases that could be decorated

from www.aeioubaby.com who also offer colour-your-own tote bags and backpacks. They went down well with my two who love colouring in and are always looking for a pencil case to put things in, but I was disappointed that they came individually shrink-wrapped which didn’t do a lot for the eco cause. We have since been to a party where each child came home with an audio book on CD which was another great idea and received a football as a take home gift, which has been played with plenty since. Ultimately, it’s worth exploring what the alternatives are. I’ve recently come across www.plasticfreepartybags.com and Little Green Parties also suggested checking out www.bakerross.co.uk as well as grow your own cactus kits. If time is an issue, many of the companies in the Party Kit Network are willing to help research gifts and pull together party bags for you.

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It’s time to party! Wondering what to do for your next child’s party? Need some inspiration? Take a look at our Party Directory to see what is available locally, whether it’s performing arts or something sporty, there’s something for all! When you ring please don’t forget to say you saw it in Families magazine. BASIL AND CREW Mobile Farm Bring a mini-mobile farmyard to your home or venue, complete with fencing and an assortment of animals, such as goats, sheep, ducks, chickens and Shetland ponies for your party. Involves pet handling, feeding and grooming. They also offer educational and fun school visits either with ‘full farm’ or ‘3 billy goat gruff’ day. Also great for nursing homes, special needs, fetes and fun days. 01628 821145 or 07721 422554 or visit www.basilandcrew.co.uk A party to remember? Make it exclusive with a BUSY BUTTONS CREATIVE STUDIO, all-inclusive deluxe party specially designed for you or select one of the fantastic themes of the season. The Design Studio offers a unique 'no worries' experience with creating puppets, painting, sewing, crafting, making jewellery and more at their conveniently located, wellequipped studio where boys and girls leave beaming with their creations. All at Busy Buttons Design Centre CIC, 8-9 Windsor Yards, Windsor SL4 1TF. Bookings at busybuttonscreativestudio@gmail.com;

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CHEEKY CHARLIES. One hour in the soft play area with one host and a visit from Cheeky Charlie, followed by use of a private room. Two options: Exclusive Hire for up to 30 children and Cheeky Time, or during public opening times for up to 20 children. Maximum age: 10. Magnet Leisure Centre, Maidenhead. 01628 685338 COURT GARDEN LEISURE COMPLEX. (Marlow) There’s NO mess, NO fuss and they do all the work whilst you, your child and their friends have all the fun. They have lots of different party options available to suit everyone, including their very popular Nerf party! For further information call 01628 405 200 or visit their website www.courtgardenleisurecomplex.co.uk

FLUTTERBY PARTIES. Tailored to suit the wishes of boys and girls of all ages. 2 hours of fun with 3 party hosts. Traditional games, catwalks, dance shows, and prizes. They also do nail art, hair glitter and curls, colourful makeup, facepaint, temporary tattoos, hair colour sprays and much, much more. Dressing up box for under-5’s! Call Zowie on 07812 440297 or ring Janet 07768 317625 or visit www.flutterbyprobeauty.com

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The HANDS-ON ART STUDIO organises parties for groups of up to 20 guests, for all ages and occasions: children, families, Brownies/Cubs, Hens, corporate office teambuilding and more.. All-inclusive prices: materials and equipment, professional guidance and instruction, glazing and firing of pottery items and studio party decorations. Catering can also be arranged for a truly hassle-free experience. Printable invitations available on the website. Discounts available for advance bookings of groups of 10 or more call Janet for more details: 01753 206265; or visit www.handsonartadventures.co.uk and click on Parties. JUMP IN TRAMPOLINE PARK SLOUGH. Award-winning children’s birthday parties are now bigger, brighter and better than ever with two additional party packages including Crazy Glow Party and the Jungle Jam Party. These, along with the standard children’s birthday party, offer a two-hour package of fun for up to 10 children and come complete with: Check in and safety briefing, Jump In socks for all guests, one hour to enjoy all the Jump In facilities, dedicated party host,

water whilst jumping, pizza (choice of pepperoni or Margherita) or hot dogs, plates, cups, plasticware and napkins. A range of optional birthday party extras can also be purchased, including: party bags, popcorn, ice cream and sweet pots, but essentially, all you need to bring is your guests and the cake! Jump In’s Crazy Glow Party adds some extra shine to proceedings with exclusive hire of the UV party room with special glow in the dark accessories provided. The Jungle Jam Party package includes your own private themed room complete with the sights and sounds of the jungle all around them. email: hello@jumpin.com call 01926 356290 or visit www.gojumpin.com/activities/tram poline-birthday-parties JUNGLE MANIA PARTIES are available from £6.99 per child. Burn off some energy exploring the centre at Jungle Mania Bourne End and then finish off with a party tea in one of the party rooms. With all food and drink provided and no clearing up to do, grown ups can relax too! Private hire is also available. For more information phone 01628 529128 or visit www.Junglemania.com

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PARTIES DIRECTORY LONGRIDGE. An outdoor activity centre based on the River Thames that provides actionpacked parties and Holiday Activity Days with water themes. Parties can include any of Longridge’s water or land activities, such as Raft Building, Climbing, Water Orbs, Laser Tag, Bell Boats and Kayaking. Call 033 0303 0101 or email bookings@adventurelearning.org.uk. For a full list of Longridge activities visit www.adventurelearning.org.uk THE LOOK OUT DISCOVERY CENTRE. The centre runs two hour parties (10-20 children) for 5-12 year olds. Party goers get to visit the exciting hands-on science and discovery exhibition with a member of staff and meet the mascot owl Eric. Party includes birthday party invitations and a present for the party child. Phone 01344 354400 or visit www.bracknell-forest.gov.uk/leisureservices/look-out-discovery-centre MAGNET LEISURE CENTRE run a variety of popular birthday parties to suit children of all ages and interests. Party food can also be arranged. Trained staff will ensure that your child and their friends will have a great time. Ask about the following activities: Football Fun, Inflatable Obstacle Course, Bouncy Castle, Roller Disco, Pirate Galleon Adventure, Dart

Tag Parties. Call 01628 685333 or visit www.leisurecentre.com/magnet-leisure-centre MERMAID MEMORIES are now running parties as part of their experiences on offer. You can have a Mermaid Party in the Pool where you learn to swim with a tail or fin with a qualified instructor and certificates and Mermaid makeup are included. Alternatively, you can have a Mermaid Party in the comfort of your own home where you can opt for ‘dry’ features, such as ‘Meet the Mermaid, Mini Mermaid make-up and Mermaid photo shoots. There are different packages for all ages for more details contact Charlotte on 07496 735263 or visit www.mermaidmemories.co.uk/eventservices MY GLAMPOVER are your go to for luxury indoor teepee sleepover parties covering Berkshire, Buckinghamshire and London. Let them take the hassle out of organising a party by styling an unforgettable sleepover in the comfort of your own home. They deliver, assemble and style your party before coming back the following morning to pack it all away. Packages include: handcrafted teepees, comfy foam mattresses, anti-allergy 10.5 tog duvets, soft pillows, themed cushions, blankets, fairy lights, tray tables, personalised hanging

chalkboards, nightlights, garlands and decorative rugs. Contact 07771 867845 or visit www.myglampover.co.uk ODDS FARM PARK. Wooburn Common, nr Beaconsfield, Parties include entry to the farm, hire of a fully decorated party room, food and party bags. After-school parties are also available. Contact 01628 520188 or visit www.oddsfarm.co.uk PERFORM parties are high energy, fun and totally infectious. Based around a colourful theme, Perform’s enthusiastic party leaders use a magical mix of songs, games and laughter guaranteed to ensure every child is part of an enthralling adventure. From the moment the lively leaders walk in the door, they'll give your child and friends the best birthday party they've ever had. Whether your child wants to be a sensational superhero, a shimmering princess or a wise wizard, they'll be sure to have a brilliant time. “As Hugo went to sleep, he asked if that superhero could come back for his party next year because she was so amazing!’ Jessica Cuatrecasas (Previous party booker). Themes include: Superheroes, Mermaids and Pirates, Pirates and Princesses, Fairytale Forest, Knights and Princesses, Puppy Patrol, Popstarz, Moana, Ghost Hunters, Alice in Wonderland, Outer Space, Secret Spies,The Ice Queen, Dinosaurs, The Magician's Chamber, Peter Pan, The Wizard of Oz, The Sound of Music, Beauty & the Beast and Trolls. To find out more or book a party call 0207 255 9120 or visit www.performparties.co.uk PARTY KIT NETWORK loan out reusable party kits - brightly coloured reusable tableware (more info can be found on p.18). To find a kit near you visit www.partykitnetwork.uk PHOENIX GYMNASTICS. Under-5's PlayGym Parties. An hour's free play in the fully equipped gym with half an hour allowed for food for up to 30 children. Available on Sundays only and discounts available for members. Please call 01628 778881, email info@phoenixgym.co.uk or see the website www.phoenixgym.co.uk PHOENIX TRAMPOLINE CLUB. Parties available on Saturday afternoons at East Berkshire College, Langley for 4-14 year olds. Limited to 8 children and room available for food afterwards. Please call 01628 778881 or email trampolining@phoenixgym.co.uk PLAYBALL PARTIES. Active, fun parties for 3-9 year olds centred around a variety of extremely fun sports based games and skills. Catering to your exact needs based on age and theme, sit back and relax as we guide your energetic party goers through a variety of imaginative fun games using our specialised equipment. Contact us on 07488 581123 or windsor@playballkids.com

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PARTIES DIRECTORY SHOWSTOPPER PARTIES. Dance, drama and singing parties for children of all ages. Run by West End performers you are guaranteed a truly outstanding party. Using fantastic games, gripping stories, fabulous dance routines and innovative songs, Showstopper Parties will whisk your child off on a magical adventure they will be talking about for months. Phone: 07885 150034 email: mairi@showstopperuk.com www.showstopperuk.com SQUISHBOSH, isn’t just a fun name it is a word made up of qualities that the party entertainers look for in the children at the party (aged 5-12), which then forms the basis of the awards at the end of every party. Squishbosh is a fun sports event but with a twist, it’s a mix

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between, Total Wipeout, It’s a Knockout and more original sports games. All games must be played outside. Call Pete on 07721 422554 or 01628 821145. Visit www.basilandcrew.co.uk THE JELLY LOUNGE love to host parties and can take care of the stress and the mess. They offer all types of parties and decor to personalise the celebration ranging from children’s parties, family gatherings and christenings. They can offer full service or room hire only. Get in touch with them with your requirements 01753 290175 www.thejellylounge.co.uk

Did you know that every birthday party at THE LITTLE GYM WINDSOR gets exclusive use at no extra cost? The stunning, state of the art venue is all yours for an amazing, exclusive hosted party every time you book! Children join fun teachers for a party full of imagination and adventure in the gym, while parents have the opportunity to catch up in the stunning member’s lounge. No noisy crowd, no fuss – just you, your little ones, your nibbles, and lots of fun for children and grownups! Contact 01753 968 488 or The Little Gym Windsor at windsor@thelittlegym.eu

THE PICTURE COMPANY offers Pop Video Parties in their own green screen multi-camera studio in Bracknell. Perfect for parties, star in your own music video! Fantastic introductory offer of £150! (£100 off £250 per session). For more information call 01344 481384 or visit their website www.picturecompany.co.uk

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January Until Thursday January 5 WINDSOR ON ICE Alexandra Gardens, Windsor. Rink, Ice Bar and Grill, cafe, dodgems & Father Christmas. www.windsoronice.com Wednesday January 1 till Sunday January 19 THE SNOWMAN™ AND THE SNOWDOG ACTIVITIES River and Rowing Museum, Henley on Thames. Exhibition showing over 40 original illustrations from the film. Also, get a fascinating insight into the creative process, take a selfie with The Snowman, dress up as your own character from the film and join The Snowman’s party! www.rrm.co.uk/whats-on Ongoing NEW! 50 THINGS TO DO AT CLIVEDEN BEFORE YOU ARE 125! Cliveden National Trust, Cliveden. Activities and challenges for all ages to help you get the most out of your visit to Cliveden on the 125th birthday of the National Trust. www.nationaltrust.org.uk/cliveden

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than 90 activities which children of all ages can learn from. www.bracknell-forest.gov.uk/leisure-services/look-out

Ongoing in January and February SPRING LAMBS Odds Farm Park, Wooburn Common. The newborn lambs will be wobbling to their feet this spring! Look out for special timed talks and feeding sessions. www.oddsfarm.co.uk Sundays in January and February

Ongoing SCIENCE EXHIBITION The Look Out Discovery Centre, Bracknell. More

Mondays in January and February EVENING SALSA CLASSES All Saints Church, Marlow. www.salsastyle.co.uk

THACKERAY COLLECTION OF BRISTISH BIRDS Eton College, South Meadow Lane, Eton. Sundays 2.30 to 5pm www.Etonnhm.com

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Tuesdays to Saturdays in January and February FAMILY ACTIVITIES Maidenhead Heritage Centre. Take to the skies in the Spitfire Simulator!, dress up like a Roman gladiator, test your bridge building skills, investigate the children’s toy box, meet the resident Roman skeleton, Julius or view old photographs and videos of Maidenhead! Open 10am-4pm. www.maidenheadheritage.org.uk

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STORYTIME AT MARLOW BOOKSHOP 22-26 Spittal St, Marlow. 10-10.30am, ideal for 0-4 year oldswww.marlowbookshop.co.uk Wednesdays in January and February (term-time)

CLIVEDEN CRITTERS Cliveden National Trust, Taplow. Workshop for pre-school children (2-4yrs). With hands-on creative crafts, activities and story time. 10.30am. Child £5. www.nationaltrust.org.uk/cliveden

SLIME SHOW The Look Out Discovery Centre, Bracknell. More than 90 activities which children of all ages can learn from. Note: shows are extra. Weekends and Bracknell school holidays only. Also on: Saturday January 11 and Sunday 12 www.bracknell-forest.gov.uk/leisureservices/lookout Sunday January 5 HIGHVIEW TOY LIBRARY 6 North Road, Maidenhead. Children with additional needs can enjoy play sessions and borrow toys. Wednesdays, 10am-12noon and first Sunday of month, 3-5pm.

What’s on Friday January 10 till Saturday January 25 THE LANE END PLAYERS: THE SNOW QUEEN Lane End Village Hall. www.laneendplayers.com Monday January 13 and Tuesday 14 ROBOT TODDLER DAYS The Look Out Discovery Centre, Bracknell. www.bracknell-forest.gov.uk/leisureservices/look-out/toddler-days

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AUTISM-FRIENDLY AFTER SCHOOL CLUB Riverside Primary School, Maidenhead. A safe and stimulating environment for children 8-12. 3.15-6pm. Termly booking required, £5 a session. www.standoutforautism.com Thursdays and Fridays in January and February SIVANANDA YOGA WITH MARISA The Positivity Centre, Nashdom Lane, Burnham. (Thurs 7-8.15pm) Burnham Hall, Burnham Park, (Fri 12.30-1.30pm) Classes start from 9th Jan. All ages. £10 per class. Breathe, stretch, tone and relax. Mixed ability. www.surrendertolove.co.uk Storytelling in the Den at Norden Farm

Come and be part of the adventure! Weekdays at Magnet Leisure Centre, Maidenhead and at the Beacon Centre, Saturdays at BCA, Maidenhead. Classes across all the major dance disciplines, including ballet, modern, tap and acro dance, with fully teachers from one of the area’s bestloved and longest-established dance schools.

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What’s on Thursday, January 16 and Saturday 17 THE JUNGLE BOOK Loddon Hall Twyford. Twyford and Ruscombe Theatre Group present a lively show full of music, dancing, songs and corny jokes. www.twyrusdrama.org.uk Saturday January 18, Sunday 19 and Saturday 25

BEAUTY AND THE BEAST Bourne End Community Centre Call 01628 523291. Showings at 2.30pm (also 6.30pm on 25 Jan) Adults £12, concessions £8, family ticket £35. Tickets from www.bourneendcommunitycentre.org.uk

Friday January 24 till Sunday 26 SNOW WHITE AND THE SEVEN DWARFS Wraysbury Village Hall, The Green, Wraysbury. Box office 0800 772 3614 Tickets £8 www.wraysburyplayers.co.uk Saturday January 25 till Sunday 15 March FORCES AND MAGNETS SHOW The Look Out Discovery Centre, Nine Mile Ride, Bracknell. More than 90 activities which children of all ages can learn from. Note: shows are extra.

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Weekends and Bracknell school holidays only. www.bracknell-forest.gov.uk/leisureservices/look-out Sunday January 26 HISTORY ON WHEELS MUSEUM Longclose House, Eton Wick. Visit this fascinating family museum of vintage vehicles, plus NAAFI Cafe with great views of Windsor Castle. Adults £7, children 5-16 yrs £5 www.historyonwheels.co.uk Monday January 27 and Friday January 31 NATURE TOTS Windsor Great Park Environmental Centre. Seasonal nature discovery, games, crafts, storytime and drinks. 18 months to 4 years. £7 per child. Booking essential. www.bbowt.org.uk/events

Tuesday January 28 and Wednesday 29 ROOM ON A BROOM Wycombe Swan, St Mary Street, High Wycombe. A Julia Donaldson classic for the 3+ www.wycombeswan.co.uk Thursday January 30 KALEIDOSCOPE Norden Farm, Maidenhead. Gentle theatre for babies. 6-18 months, based on colour, light and the sense of sight. £12 for one adult and one baby. www.norden.farm

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Sunday January 26 STORYTELLING IN THE DEN Norden Farm, Maidenhead. Interactive storytelling in the magical story den. Times vary, check website. 4-7yrs. £3.50, 1130am. www.norden.farm

From Saturday February 1 SNOWDROP WALK Cliveden National Trust, Taplow. Follow a self-led walk around the estate to see the first signs of snowdrops. www.nationaltrust.org.uk/cliveden Tuesday February 4 THE NAUGHTY FOX The Venue@ The Curve, William Street, Slough. Snuggle up with comfy creatures: Honk, Splash and TaWit TaWoo as they teach The Naughty Fox a very important lesson: it's better to share. Immersive, multisensory journey for 0-5s. 11am www.thecurveslough.com

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Friday February 7 CHILD MATTERS: FIRST AID COURSE(S) Christ Church URC Marlow. 10am-1pm. Learn new skills on how to cope with first aid emergencies. Certificate and ‘Paediatric First Aid Made Easy’ manual provided on completion. Refreshments provided. £30 or £25 each (if booking with a friend). Booking link: www.procourses.co.uk/classrooms/1 26607-family-first-aid-marlow Also on: Monday February 24 (6.30pm-9.30pm) and Friday March 6 (10am-1pm)

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THE LITTLE PRINCE South Hill Park Wilde Theatre, South Hill Park. The classic tale re-imaged on stage for children from 5+ and their grown-ups.Family of 4 £11.50 each www.southhillpark.org.uk Saturday February 15 till Sunday 23 FAMILY HALF TERM FUN ‘WHATEVER THE WEATHER’ RHS Garden Wisley, Woking, Surrey. Discover more about the wild weather of the UK! www.rhs.org.uk/gardens/wisley

Sunday February 9 and Sunday 16 SNOW DROP WALKS National Trust, Ankerwycke Farm, Magna Carta Lane, Wraysbury (parking in adjacent field). Tour Ankerwycke’s historic parkland and enjoy the show of snowdrops. £10 adults, £5 child. 11am-12.30pm. www.nationaltrust.org.uk/runnymede

Saturday February 15 till Sunday 23 CLIVEDEN HALF-TERM TRAIL Cliveden National Trust, Taplow, Fun adventure trail for children to explore the estate and create a craft to take home. Child £2 www.nationaltrust.org.uk/cliveden

LITTLE GRIMM TALES Norden Farm, Maidenhead. What if the magic were real? Beasts and breadcrumbs, wolves and witches, frogs and fairies all join the fun in a stunning new adaptation of Grimm’s most magical tales. Suitable for ages 3+ years. 11am and 2pm. www.norden.farm/events/littlegrimm-tales Tuesday February 18 VOLE IN A HOLE River and Rowing Museum, Henley on Thames. One minute it’s there the next it’s gone! Make a fabric screen for your puppet vole to poke in and out. 4 – 7 yrs. 10.30am - 12.30pm. Children under 7 must be accompanied by an adult. £8.50. Booking essential. www.rrm.co.uk/whats-on

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YOUNG RANGERS Windsor Great Park Environmental Centre. Wildlife club for 8-12 years. £5. 6-7.30pm. Booking essential. www.bbowt.org.uk/events

RAPUNZEL Kenton Theatre, New Street, Henley on Thames. Immersion Theatre proudly presents a witty, tongue-incheek retelling of the family favourite Tickets: adult £12.50, child £10.50. www.kentontheatre.co.uk/event/rapunzel/

CHLOE THE COLOUR CATCHER Norden Farm Centre for the Arts, Maidenhead. Chloe lives in a world with only one colour; grey. But at night, when she’s wrapped up tight, her dreams are colourful and bright! 2pm. Suitable for 4+ norden.farm/events/chloe-thecolour-catcher Wednesday February 19 till Saturday 22

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What’s on Wednesday February 19 STRINGS CONCERTINI WITH STRING FEVER Norden Farm, Maidenhead. Four brothers combine electric instruments with a talent for engaging audiences of all ages. 11.30am and 2pm. www.norden.farm/events/stringsconcertini-with-string-fever Friday February 21 HISTORIES OF THE UNEXPECTED: THE TUDORS! Norden Farm, Maidenhead. A new fast-paced show for all the

Compiled by Anna Collins family that shows how everything has a history! 11am and 2pm www.norden.farm/events/historiesof-the-unexpected-the-tudors

Saturday February 22 SNOW QUEEN Wycombe Swan, High Wycombe. A magical new adaptation by Robert Marsden - When Kay is abducted to the Snow Queen’s frozen palace, his best friend Gerda sets out to rescue him. 5+ www.wycombeswan.co.uk

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Sunday February 23 HISTORY ON WHEELS MUSEUM Longclose House, Eton Wick. Visit this fascinating family museum of vintage vehicles, plus NAAFI Cafe with great views of Windsor Castle. Adults £7, children 5-16 yrs £5 www.historyonwheels.co.uk

Monday February 24 and Friday February 28

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NATURE TOTS Windsor Great Park Environmental Centre.

Seasonal nature discovery, games, crafts, story-time and drinks. 18 months to 4 years. £7 per child. Booking essential. www.bbowt.org.uk/events

Saturday February 29 till Thursday April 30 THE GILDED GARDENS Cliveden National Trust, Taplow. See Cliveden’s daffodils throughout the grounds and displayed in the Ferneries. Self-guided walking leaflet available. www.nationaltrust.org.uk/cliveden

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Mindful Parenting: How to Respond Rather Than React By Gillian Higgins

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arenting can be a minefield. For most people, the joy of bringing up a child is tinged with frustration and disappointment when things go wrong. Losing the ability to think straight in the middle of a toddler tantrum or when your school age child refuses to eat the meal you’ve cooked is an alltoo-familiar occurrence. So is it possible to approach parenting more mindfully and if so, what difference could it make? Here are my tips for practicing mindfulness in turbulent times.

What is Mindful Parenting? At its core, mindful parenting takes the principles of mindfulness and applies them to how you parent. The concept of mindfulness is about purposefully, curiously and openly paying attention to moments of everyday life. It involves dropping into your present moment experience and being aware of what you’re doing, while you’re doing it, with a nonjudgemental attitude. It sounds easy, but increasingly it’s hard to find time to pause and take stock – especially as a parent. So How Do You Practise Mindfulness? One way to learn mindfulness is through meditation, by using a point of focus, such as the passage of the breath. When your mind gets distracted and wanders off into thinking, worrying, or planning, simply notice where it has wandered to and gently guide it back to following the physical sensation of the inbreath and the out-breath. Do this every time the mind wanders - with kindness to yourself. In time, you start to recognise that thoughts will come and go of their own accord, if you allow them to do so.

awareness to something simple like the brewing of your tea. By pausing and staying present in the moment, you might notice the aroma of your drink, as you take in your experience fully. So often, the uniqueness of the moment is lost as the focus shifts to getting through the day. What Difference Does it Make? Mindful parenting invites you to think about how to become more responsive and thoughtful in the way you parent. It encourages you to pause, and experience the ‘here and now,’ rather than hankering after how you would like life to be. It’s about witnessing the essence of the moment, just as it is, so you don’t miss out on what’s going on, right now. So how does mindful parenting look and feel in practice? • It encourages you to engage, actively listen and talk things through with your child, no matter how difficult the situation. It encourages

• Mindfulness grows your self-awareness so you become more alert to negative emotions arising. You can then pause before you respond, rather than move straight into anger or frustration mode. • It helps you to move on more quickly from your own disappointment at your handling of a situation. It helps you be non-judgemental and let go of negative feelings before they drag you into further conflict or despair. • Mindfulness helps you to repair difficult situations more quickly as you become more willing and able to accept the challenges you face – rather than resisting or denying them. • Mindful parenting puts compassion for yourself and your child at the centre. Compassion helps you to be more forgiving of yourself and more aware of your child’s needs. • A parent’s ability to be present ‘no matter what’ is capable of revolutionising how you deal with and emerge from conflict. • Focusing on your present moment experience, without judging your parenting skills or worrying about the future boosts wellbeing – for you and your child. So the next time you’re feeling overwrought or overwhelmed, see if you can consciously take a moment to pause and breathe to create the space you need to decide how to respond – rather than knee jerk react.

Gillian Higgins is the author of Mindfulness at Work and Home, published in September 2019 by RedDoor Press and available from www.practicalmeditation.co.uk Amazon and all good book stores.

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A Parent’s Guide to Video Gaming By Andrew Campbell

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ideo games can be a great source of entertainment and learning for the whole family. For some families, they can be a way to spend time together. But it’s important for parents to fully appreciate what the experience of playing games today encompasses. Many games include social and interactive elements like chat or online competitions; others can be expanded or altered by downloading player-created content on the internet. As parents, it is up to us to be informed about what and how our children play and to make appropriate choices on their behalf. Families that Play Together…. Playing videogames with your kids is a great way to understand gaming and watch their interests and development. A common interest also makes for great family discussions and casual conversations. Which games? Look out for games that encourage kids to create, such as Minecraft, LittleBigPlanet, Lego Worlds or Super Mario Maker which involve them using their imaginations. If you have a tablet, Toca Boca makes beautiful, interesting games for young children. Ratings are Helpful Pay attention to the Entertainment Software Rating Board’s videogame ratings at www.esrb.org both the age rating (like E for Everyone, T for Teen and M for Mature) and the content descriptors (like “Suggestive Themes,” “Language” or “Violence”). Remember, some children can handle games rated above their age group, whilst others can’t. Age ratings are guidelines – the final decision is up to you.

Preview the Game If after checking the ratings, you’re still not sure if a game is appropriate, there are resources you can consult online, including ESRB’s Parent’s Guide to Videogames and Common Sense Media’s game reviews at www.esrb.org Parental Controls Surprisingly, computer and video games are actually among the easiest of entertainment products for parents to control. You can activate controls to ensure your children are only playing games you deem appropriate. Set a Time Limit It can be easier to get kids off their consoles if you agree a time limit at the start of the session. Give them a five minute warning before the time is up, so they have a chance to save their progress. For younger kids, use a kitchen timer to set the agreed limit and place it somewhere they can see it. Some consoles have a timer so that the console switches off after the allowed time. Helpful advice on screen time for different ages can be found at www.internetmatters.org Control Spending Some gaming devices allow purchases online. This may include games, game add-ons or films. Understand how your child could spend money on their device. Use parental controls to restrict spending. Only Friends and Family Children love online gaming because they can play with their friends online – and that’s a lot more challenging and exciting than just playing by yourself. Make a deal with your kids that they can play online, but only with friends and family. Many games have parental controls which can restrict their gaming to friends or block online access altogether.

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Beware of Cyberbullies Cyberbullying is a serious and growing problem, and can be even more real and hurtful than the traditional kind. Be mindful of the warning signs that your child is the target of cyberbullying, and be sure your child knows and uses proper “netiquette” when playing games online. Report It If your child is being harassed by another player on a game, follow the game’s grief-reporting guide to report this behaviour to the game provider. Encourage your child to block that user. Beware of Scams ‘Phishing’ scams can target users of gaming devices and it is a good idea to talk to you child about this. Victims of scans can be tricked into entering personal details to obtain things like free points. This allows cyber criminals to access and spend money on their accounts. Stay Informed Educate yourself and your children about the virtual world they’re exploring. Use resources like the ones mentioned in this article to learn more about how you can help keep your family safe. Take Breaks Some games can be especially intense, so regular breaks are vital for healthy gameplay. Encourage your children to take regular breaks – at least 5 minutes every 45 to 60 minutes as a rule of thumb

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Designing and Furnishing your Baby’s Nursery By Christabel Majendie

Bumps & Babes paint palette, it is important to take pointers from the space you are working with. Even if you like rich colours, dark hues can be too overwhelming for a small room, whereas light colours make a room appear bigger and brighter. Consider adding a bold accent wall. This can add depth to the room and make the space appear larger. If you want to create a look that lasts, you may want to think about using traditional pastel shades like a cool minty green. This can outlast your child as they get older. Go Green You can design an eco-friendly nursery that is not only beneficial for the planet but for your baby too! A good way to begin is to purchase as many organic items as possible. You may want to choose naturally hypoallergenic, organic bedding and even an organic mattress which will be preferable

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he process of designing and furnishing the nursery for your new arrival is important. The colours and furniture you choose not only need to be practical and aesthetically pleasing but should ideally also enhance your baby’s alertness and sensitivity. Here are seven tips to help you create the perfect, happy place for your little one. The Cot The cot is the focal point of the room and probably the most important piece of furniture you will buy, so ensure you take your time and choose wisely. Try to avoid cots with drop down sides which may act as a safety risk for infants. If you can, buy a model which has at least two mattress heights. When at its highest position, it’s easier to lay a sleeping baby down in this type of cot, without hurting your back or even worse waking up your baby! The Kidsmill Fyn crib (www.kidsmill.co.uk) is a beautiful contemporary cot – it is white with wooden legs, perfect for a neutral look and easy to access for putting your child down for the night. Textiles before Paint If you paint the nursery first and then choose your textiles, you run the risk of discovering that the colours clash with the paint you’ve already splashed on the walls.

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Instead, choose your textiles first as paint colour technology will ensure you can match the walls to the colour of your textiles later on. Decorate your Ceiling As babies spend much of their time on their backs, it is important to give them something transfixing to look at. Shapes, colours and animals can work well on the nursery ceiling. As a baby’s sight improves, they will be able to see consistently more of the ceiling, allowing them to continually discover new things. Choosing bright colours with powerful contrasts will help the development of your baby’s brain and vision. Large simple shapes such as stars encourage memory development. Create a Sanitation Station A germ-free nursery is a must! On your changing table, set up a tray equipped with antibacterial gel and tissues to prevent any contamination of surfaces. This will enable you to give the hotspot areas a good clean with antibacterial gel every day. For best hygiene, invest in a nappy disposal system or at least a separate hamper or bin for nappies which is emptied regularly. Pick the Right Colour for the Room When it comes to choosing your

should your baby happen to suffer from allergies. The materials used at Natural Mat (www.naturalmat.co.uk) are 100% natural and from sustainable FairTrade sources. The Quilted Coco Mat is made with organic materials which are naturally breathable, helping to regulate air flow and body temperature whilst being hypoallergenic and anti-microbial. Dim the Lights It is a good idea to install a dimmer on any overhead lighting fixtures, especially if they hang directly over the cot. This way the light won’t be intense during night time wakings or when you are preparing your baby for sleep. It’s always handy to purchase a small night light or lamp for a cosy atmosphere as soft lighting can reduce the contrast between light and dark, prevent over-stimulation and give your baby’s undeveloped eyes a muchneeded rest.

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Book Club Here at Families we love a good book. Whether it’s curling up with a book and a cuppa ourselves (or wistfully remembering when we had the time to do so!), or sharing a story with the kids, books are an important feature in our family lives. Often we suggest our top picks for stories to share with younger children, but this month Rachel Bailey has been talking to Ross Welford about his best-selling novels for young readers (aged 8+) and to celebrate the publication of his newest book The Kid who came from Space, we have a full set to giveaway! What made you swap the glamorous world of television to become a full-time writer? It was necessity, really. TV is a tough job: it’s long hours, the pay isn’t especially good and it honestly isn’t all that glamorous! The interesting jobs began to dry up and I realised I needed a new career path… You’ve worked on many well-known shows. Have your days in television provided you with inspiration for any of the characters in your novels? There’s a minor character who pops up in a few of my books called Jamie Bates. He’s a broadcast journalist who is usually fairly benign, but in my next book he’s much more vain and devious. He’s an amalgamation of several presenters I worked with!

that I have made a difference like that is awesome: that’s a proper superpower! You describe yourself as a life-long magicnerd. Care to elaborate? I enjoy writing about impossible things becoming possible, and that is exactly what magic tricks do. It’s an interest I have had since I was quite small, and this year I was admitted to the Magic Circle, which was a very proud moment. I include magic in all my school and festival presentations, and the tricks all have a relevance to my books, or to reading generally.

Your first novel was Time Travelling With A Hamster and that was followed by What Not To Do If You Turn Invisible. Is there a particular superpower you wish you had? Oh yes: the ability to write a full-length book once a year effortlessly. It’s not exciting like invisibility, but it’s a power that I would do almost anything to possess.

What’s the thought behind your re-writing competition, and can anyone enter? I had been doing an “improvised story” with school and festival groups since the start, and the end results are often hilarious. But I worried that I was leaving the children with the impression that that’s how books get written! So I stress that everything needs to be rewritten if you hope that other people will read it. I invite the students to re-write what we come up with and submit the results to my competition via my website. It has proved very popular!

As well as having a talent for writing, we’ve heard you put on a pretty impressive event when you visit schools/festivals. What do you enjoy most about sharing your books with young fans? It’s a privilege simply to meet readers. I especially like it when a teacher introduces a child saying “He/she didn’t like reading until they discovered your books…” The knowledge

What’s your favourite childhood book/author? Growing up I loved The Magic Faraway Tree books by Enid Blyton and loved them again when I read them aloud to my own kids. She was phenomenal: the sheer volume of her output was astonishing. There are occasional lapses of quality, but they are pretty rare and she seldom repeats herself.

Which book do you wish you had written? I recently read The Bridge To Terabithia by Katherine Paterson. American children’s literature can sometimes come with a rather heavy-handed “message” but this book, from the 1970s, packs a knockout punch with delicacy, honesty and wonderful brevity. I aspire to write like that. World Book Day is coming up soon. Whilst I am fully behind anything that aims to encourage a love of books, I still experience the homemade costume panic every year. Do you have any tips? I love seeing kids dressed as characters from my books! I have seen someone as a hamster in a football top (Alan Shearer from Time Travelling With A Hamster); a Viking boy (Alfie from The 1,000 Year Old Boy) and a whitecoated mad professor (Dr Pretorius from The Dog Who Saved The World) Failing that, you could just let them truant for the day and say they went as Ethel from “What Not To Do If You Turn Invisible”…. What’s your favourite way to spend time with your family? They are teenagers now, so I’m pathetically grateful for any scraps of time that they deign to spend with their dad. That said, Sunday lunch is always good, and beach holidays. The Kid who came from Space is available from 9 January 2020 priced £6.99. Visit Ross’ website: www.rosswelford.com

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What is the name of Ross’ new book? A The Child who came from Space B The Dog who Saved the World C The Kid who came from Space Closing date for entries is 28 February 2020

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Book Club A Roald Dahl loving 10-year-old from Reading has published her debut novel. Inaaya Mahek, in year 6 at The Abbey School, spent nine months penning Cassy & the Bathroom People in her spare time. Set in Cancun, it follows the life of eight-year-old Cassy, who wakes up to discover her toy warrior has come alive. She shrinks, and follows him in to her bathroom where she embarks on the adventure of a lifetime in an amazing new world. The 200-page adventure story attracted the interest of publisher, Troubador, and hit the shelves in July. We spoke to Inaaya who lives in Shinfield with her parents and older sister. What inspired you to write Cassy and the Bathroom People? I’ve always loved reading and dreamt of being a writer. I noticed that there aren’t many children writing books for children. We visited Mexico and it inspired me to start my first book. I wondered what it would feel like to be tiny when people washed their hands and lakes of water appeared on the floor, or a towel suddenly dropped. It’s a happy ending but there are lots of exciting twists and turns along the way. How did the writing process work for you? I started with a plan – my plot for the whole story, and a breakdown for each of the 25 chapters. It kept changing regularly as I wrote

Writing the future though. I also sketched out my characters – their personalities, what they like and what they don’t. And I made up my own language like Roald Dahl so, for example, Qualla is a type of sport, and Cremianche is lunch. I wrote for about half an hour at a time after I’d finished my homework in the afternoons or at the weekends. The publishing process is really long too with formatting, editing, sub-editing and proof reading, but my favourite part was learning the secret language of editing. When you’re not writing, what else do you enjoy? Reading – I love it! Especially history books, and novels by Enid Blyton, Liz Kessler and of course Roald Dahl. I also enjoy drawing and

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painting, and I created the pictures that have ended up as illustrations on my front cover. What’s your advice to other young authorsin-the-making? You’ve got to be dedicated, properly devoted and be prepared to write in your evenings, weekends and holidays. Also, have a plan – but you don’t have to stick to it. What next? I have four or five ideas for more books, but I have my exams this year, so I am going to wait until next summer to start. I’d love to be a famous author when I’m older but, if it ends up just being a hobby, I think I might work as a librarian so I’m surrounded by books!

Cassy and the Bathroom People is available to buy from Troubador: www.troubador.co.uk/bookshop/ young-children/cassy-thebathroom-people and comes highly recommended by our nine-year-old Families book reviewer. If you read the book, please do take the time to leave a review.

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