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HAPPINESS is... ACTIVITY PACK!

One of the biggest challenges faced by parents, teachers and carers is helping children to talk about and deal with their feelings. That is why we created this activity pack! We recommend that you read it first, and then share the ideas and activities in it with your kids.

Be cool. Be kind. Be you!

Inside this pack:

......... 2 Recognising Emotions .................... ......... 4 Feelings Are Like Rainbows .......... ......... 5 Resilience Tool Box ......................... ............ 6 Fun with Framing! ......................... ........... 7 Gratefulness Diary ......................... ......... 8 The Pancake of Mistakes ...............

........ 9 Get Active with Emotions! ............... ....... 10 Talking About Feelings .................... od! ... 11 30 Things You Can Do to Feel Go ....... 13 Awesome You! ................................... ......... 14 Your Jar of Happiness .................... How to Use This Pack... ............ 15 for Grown-Ups! ..............................

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RECOGNISING EMOTIONS

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We all feel emotions – and it’s good to know how other people are feeling! One of the easiest ways to get an idea about how people are feeling is by looking at their faces. Can you match the expressions on these emoticons with the emotions on the list? LIST OF EMOTIONS: Angry Surprised Nervous Sad Joyful Happy Disgusted

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RECOGNISING EMOTIONS

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Emotions make us feel different things inside. When you are We feel lots of different things, and that’s OK! Here are some untrue things experiencing the emotions below, think about how they make you feel in your body. Do you feel tense, relaxed, warm or cold? people say about emotions...

1. ‘I am’ the emotion I

When I am sad, I feel...

When I am nervous, I feel...

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2. Feeling frightened means you are weak.

Truth: It is a totally normal feeling! With help,

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3. There are ‘good’ & ‘bad’ fe

When I am angry, I feel...

Truth: All of our feelin gs are

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4. Good children do not get angry.

When I am happy, I feel...

elings.

Truth: We all feel angry some times

we can learn to express it in

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5. If you cry, you are a baby. © www.storytimemagazine.com 2021

Truth: Crying can be a healthy way to let out your emotions.

Feelings are like rainbows Rainbows are beautiful, but they wouldn’t exist without rain! Our ‘rainy’ feelings are just as important as our ‘sunny’ ones...

Feelings

By Jessica Bowers Sometimes we feel excited, happy or glad. At times we feel so angry, lonely or sad.

Colour in this rainbow to match how you feel today! Remember, there are no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ colours!

We all get these feelings too, it’s not just you. Mums, dads and teachers can feel grumpy or blue. Feelings are like sunshine, they come in and out. They can tell us what is wrong and they’re good to talk about. The good news is, the rainy feelings don’t stay forever. All our feelings change again, just like the weather. Colour in a rainbow in your own special way. What colours represent your feelings today?

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Resilience tool box

I know I can do it! And so can you!

We all face difficult times in our lives, but our resilience can help us to keep going when things get tough. Here are some tips for how to build your resilience!

MAKE A ROUTINE!

PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT!

ACCOMPLISH THINGS!

TOOL: It’s good to have a regular

TOOL: Getting really good

TOOL: Ask your parents or carers

schedule that you can rely on! You and your parents or carers can work together to set times for work, play, ‘together time’ and ‘alone time’. Don’t be afraid to be flexible, though!

at something helps to build your self-esteem. What is something that you like doing and want to get better at? Set aside some time to practise! Keep at it and you will get better – and feel better!

to give you some regular jobs to do around the house. Taking care of these tasks will give you a feeling of achievement AND help others!

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ASK FOR HELP!

TOOL: Being resilient doesn’t mean you can’t ask people for help or support. Who are people you trust? Don’t be afraid to let them know if you are going through a difficult time. Telling someone how With you feel can help you feel better. © www.storytimemagazine.com 2021

Positive Thinking By Jessica Bowers

, I woke up on the wrong side of the bed d. then I lost my sock and banged my hea I went to school and forgot my folder, colder. I forgot my coat and the day’s getting At play time all my friends were busy, at lunch my drink was flat not fizzy. But then I stopped and had a think, it was much nicer than my usual drink. When I got up with a big frown, Dad snuggled me in his dressing gown. I found my sock, my head’s now fine, n mine. I borrowed a coat which was warmer tha I played with someone new today, y at play. so it was kinda cool my friends were bus In fact when I look back in a new way, I’ve actually had a super day!

Fun with framing!

When something bad happens, we can stay positive by looking at what happened in a different way. This is called ‘reframing’ – read the example below, and see if you can come up with fun ways to reframe the other situations!

OH NO! I can’t play outside because it’s raining!

OH NO! My bike tyre went flat!

Reframe It! Now I can watch my favourite

Reframe It!

movie under a warm blanket with some popcorn!

OH NO! I didn’t get the birthday present I wanted! Reframe It! OH NO! My best friend is ill at home, so I don’t have anyone to play with at lunchtime!

Reframe It!

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GRATEFULNESS DIARY

It is important to remind yourself about the good things you have in your life! Take this sheet and write in three things you are grateful for every day.

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WEDNESDAY

THURSDAY

FRIDAY

SATURDAY

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Being grate fu is a good w l ay to build resilie nce - With do it every day! © www.storytimemagazine.com 2021

The pancake of mistakes

Sometimes, making mistakes can make you feel upset. But the next time you make a mistake, why not ‘flip it over’ and write about the positive things you learned from the experience?

Making Mistakes By Jessica Bowers

My mistake!

My heart just sinks, my mistake stinks, my watery eyes go blink, blink, blink.

The lessons I learned from it!

I feel silly, my heart’s gone chilly, the path ahead seems so hilly. Let’s just rewind, rethink your mind, lift the clouds you’re stuck behind. Mistakes are cool, a useful tool, to help you learn just like at school. Think and then say “I am OK”, tomorrow is another day! Go get it wrong, still sing your song, you’re super, fab and you belong. (Even grown-ups get stuff wrong!)

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Get Active with EMOTIONS When you are feeling a powerful emotion, why not have fun by acting like an animal? Here are some cool creatures to imitate!

Be like a ... DUCK

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Be like A ... Lion

Be like a... hedgehog

Curl into a ball to protect your precious heart with your spines. If someone says something hurtful to you, you can imagine tha t the spikes are keeping you safe. DID YOU KNOW? Hedgehogs ha ve thousands of spines on their ba cks. Their little legs can walk for up to 2 miles in the evening. You might have little legs too, but that needn’t stop you!

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Be like a... Sloth

If you are feeling anxious about something, think of a sloth! Sloths hang out in the jungle with smiles on their faces. Sit calmly, breathe in and out slowly, and then remind yourself to just take one ste p at a time. There is nothing you can’t handle! DID YOU KNOW? Sloths only come down from their trees about once a week, and they sleep a lot. If sloths went to school, they would be late for ev ery class!

Be like an... elephant

Stomp around and use up your angry energy! It’s a fun way to get it out of your sy stem. DID YOU KNOW? Elepha nts are frightened of bees! Reme mber, even the biggest animals get scared, and being frighte ned sometimes is perfectly no rmal.

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Talking About feelings

When you see that someone else is feeling some strong emotions, you can sometimes help by talking to them. Here are some things you could say!

Hi! How are you? You can SAY: You look happy – you have an amazing smile on your face!

These questions are a good way to start a conversation about feelings!

Did you sleep well last night?

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Here are some other things you could say if you think someone needs to talk about the emotions they are experiencing.

You look sad – I want you to know I’m here for you.

CARING AND SHARING!

How did it go? Did you have a nice time?

What would you say to start a talk about emotions with these characters from Storytime issue 85?

1. Oengus from ‘The Dream of Oengus’ is looking pale and unwell in the morning. What question could you ask him?

I can see you I can see you are upset – I’m are angry – tell listening! me about it! 2. Grumpy from ‘If Life Gives You Apples...’ has a bump on his head and looks... well, grumpy! What could you say to get him to talk about it?

3. ‘The Happy Lady’ is walking through the market with a big smile on her face. How would you start a conversation about how she is feeling?

Possible Answers: 1. You could ask him, ‘Did you sleep well last night?’ 2. You could say, ‘I can see you’re upset – did something happen to your head?’ 3.You might say, ‘What a lovely smile – you look happy!’

You can ASK:

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THINGS YOU CAN Do TO FEEL GOOD!

Cut out these fun activity ideas! If you are feeling a bit down, pick one slip and do what it says!

Find some litter and put it in the bin!

Keep it clean!

Learn a fun fact to tell someone! How big? How far?

Read a bedtime story! Have sweet dreams!

Draw a pretty picture!

What do you see, hear and smell?

Do a dozen jumping jacks!

Sprint down the road and back for a boost!

Be still and empty your mind!

Tell your favourite joke!

9 Put on a fun hat or a cap!

Write a letter to your future self!

Play a tune and move!

5 Spread your joy!

Give someone a compliment!

Do it in the shower or on the way to school – don’t be shy!

Dance around the room!

Do something kind for someone!

Sing your favourite song!

Share the laughter!

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Get cosy under a blanket and watch a movie! Make some popcorn!

Smell them, too!

Tidy up your bedroom! It will feel great, we promise!

Put on your coolest T-shirt!

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And look forward

Write out a wish!

Have a nice chat!

Look in the mirror and tell yourself how great you are!

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Ask a friend how they feel – and listen to them!

Go for a stroll in a park and look at pretty flowers!

20 Play with your favourite toy!

Give someone you care about a hug!

You might make a new friend!

Go for a bike or scooter ride!

Have a bubble bath before bedtime!

You are awesome!

Invite a friend over to play a game!

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List 3 things you are great at!

Talk to a new kid at school!

Think about the best thing that happened to you today!

Close your eyes and use your other senses!

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AWESOME YOU!

You are a great person – but it’s good to remind yourself! Stick these handy little post-its around your room, on doors and on the fridge to remind you of how awesome you are!

You know who’s AMAZING?

!) (Look in the mirror

TODAY IS A NEW DAY!

Be Bold, Be Beautiful, Be You! You are GREAT! Dream big!

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YOUR Jar of Happiness

Life is full of cool things that we should be happy about. Why not keep reminders of these things in your HAPPINESS JAR?

1. Get your jar. A large empty food jar D YOU WILL NEE r A big glass ja per Coloured pa Pen or pencil Sticky tape Scissors

is great – have someone help you clean it thoroughly, peel off any labels, and dry it.

2. Make a ‘MY HAPPINESS JAR’ label. Stick it to your jar with tape!

3. Cut out strips of coloured paper!

Keep them and a pen or pencil near the jar. Whenever something good happens to you or you think of something you are grateful for, write it on a piece of paper and pop it in the jar!

4. Soon your jar will be full of bright and

colourful reminders of the good things in your life. Keep it where you can see it!

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s! up nw o gr r fo ... ck pa is th e us to w Ho It is much easier for kids to develop resilience and emotional coping skills if you help them! This section is full of advice about what you can do to help keep them happy and healthy. How children feel influences their behaviour, the choices that they make, and the way they view their world. Helping children deal with their emotions will make a difference at school, at home, and in social situations. If we support kids and help them develop resilience, they will grow up knowing that they can overcome any challenges life will throw at them. This pack was created with counsellor and psychotherapist Jessica Bowers, who has worked with children with social, emotional and behavioural difficulties for many years. We are grateful that she has shared her tips and advice with us, and we hope that they are useful to you and your children!

JESSICA’S TOP TIPS: eeling emotions is a part of being human, but sometimes strong emotions F can feel overwhelming. Remember that feelings like these do not last forever – especially if you can process them in a healthy way. healthy way to process feelings is to allow them, express them, learn from A them, and let them pass. Let your feelings be a useful guide. Try to avoid labelling them ‘good’ or ‘bad’. onsider whether the thoughts which accompany your feelings are helpful. C For instance, feeling sad but thinking that you ‘shouldn’t’ feel sad will just cause inner tension. All of your feelings are perfectly fine!

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Tips for helping children deal with emotions Helping them to share their feelings:

Be observant!

Talk about feelings!

Look at when your child’s responses and behaviours shift and change, so you can best support them in the way that they need.

Encourage kids to do this, and help them to identify their emotions.

For example, at bedtime, it is common for children to get more emotional. Think about what you can do to help them deal with this. Perhaps limiting screen time and providing relaxing activities such as reading and colouring might help?

Support connections and promote relationships! Our relationships with our family, friends and those around us affect how we feel. That is why it’s important to help children develop their social skills – especially learning how to cope with differences of opinion and arguments. This takes lots of time, reassurance and support from adults!

Teach your kids strategies for resolving or defusing conflicts! These might include: ways to communicate without shouting, learning to listen to another person’s viewpoint, leaving the room to let emotions settle, turn-taking, and learning to compromise.

Share your feelings, too! When you have watched a film or read a book together, discuss how the characters might have felt and why. Make talking about feelings a part of your family life!

Listen without judging! If they are sharing something exciting, then match their joy and excitement! This will validate their feelings and boost their self-esteem. Make it clear to them that it is normal and perfectly OK to experience powerful emotions! This is called ‘normalisation’.

Think about what causes emotions! This is best done after they have experienced strong emotions. Help children to recognise the links between their feelings and what causes them. There are times when children will struggle to name and verbalise their feelings, and they might need your help to do this.

Ask your children to share how they are feeling with you, and really take what they are saying on board. Imagine that you are a container that can hold their strong emotions for them.

Tips for coping with specific emotions Simply listening to their anxieties might be enough to calm and reassure children. Guiding them through a simple breathing exercise can also help! Make a plan together, to help them manage and deal with the situation they are anxious about. Many kids also feel less anxious after going outside and running around for a bit! After their anxiety has passed, ask the child if the situation they were anxious about was as bad as they thought it would be. This might help them to be less anxious in future!

TRY THIS: Taking a few deep breaths to calm down!

FEAR Aim to build courage, rather than trying to ‘get rid of’ fears. As Nelson Mandela once said: “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.” Set small, achievable targets! Reassure children if they fail – remember that people usually fail before they succeed. Gently encourage them to try again after failing, once they have recovered. This is the secret of resilience!

TRY THIS: Take a break and do something different together!

ANGER

Anger is a normal and healthy emotion! There is no shame in feeling it, and you should share this message with your children. This does not mean that we should condone harmful or hurtful behaviour. Children will need help in managing their anger. Talking about the underlying causes of their anger will increase their self-awareness, so that they know what their ‘triggers’ are. When they use their words to talk about their anger, praise them, even if you do not agree with their version of events. Children need their anger to be heard, understood and taken seriously, and this will help it pass.

TRY THIS: Talk calmly and clearly, explain that you want to help them!

Self-care is for grown-ups, too! We can help and guide our children by looking after ourselves! Self-care is absolutely vital for parents, carers and teachers. Take a look at pages 11-13 of this activity pack for some tips that may be useful for you as well as your children. Putting resilience, reframing and good self-care into practice sets a great example for your kids!

ANXIETY

For teachers and educators

Why not set aside an area of the classroom with activity sheets and resources (like this Happiness Pack) that can help kids with their emotional well-being. Putting some relevant books there too (see the reading list below) is also a great idea. Children can then access these resources as part of their free play time. This will help them to build a good foundation for their mental health and well-being. Decorate the area with art created by the kids – this will make them feel as if it belongs to them. Why not ask the children to draw or paint pictures inspired by their feelings? Here are some good books to consider getting for the classroom:

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Our consultant: Jessica bowers Jessica is a mother of 3 children, a well-being writer, and a counsellor and psychotherapist. Prior to this, she worked with children with social, emotional and behavioural difficulties for over ten years. She is passionate about providing children with accessible and engaging resources to support their emotional well-being. Jessica has written a series of wellbeing-themed children’s picture books, aimed at 4-7-year-olds. The first is titled Fantastic Fin Faces his Fears – it is available on Amazon. She has also developed a free resource pack for teachers to use, which complements the book – a must-have for Primary Schools! Jessica is now delivering her ‘Get Active with Emotions’ workshop in schools, and also gives talks about the books she has authored. Check out her website for more information: www.jessicabowers.co.uk Email: enquiries@jessicabowers.co.uk Facebook and Instagram: @jessicabowerswellbeingwriter Twitter: @bowerswellbeing