Become weight neutral! It’s all too easy to talk about food and weight with and in front of our children in a way that may foster unhelpful attitudes towards body image and nutrition. Do you use any of the comments below? Would you like some suggestions for alternative ways of thinking and speaking which may help foster more nurturing, mindful, conscious and intuitive eating habits and skills?
I need to exercise more so I can eat treats.
Cakes and chocolate are bad for you.
I can’t eat dessert because I’m on a diet.
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Nothing! Nothing!
Any comment about your own or another adult/ child’s weight. I wish I was lighter/heavier, had more muscles…or anything that rejects your own or anybody else’s body.
All bodies are good bodies.
Being overweight is unhealthy.
All bodies are different and worth looking after. I love moving my body in new and different ways.
We have to lose weight to get healthy and be happy. I need to exercise more so I can eat treats.
I’m not hungry for dessert right now.
I can’t eat dessert because I’m on a diet.
Are you hungry in your head or in your tummy?
You can only have dessert if you eat up all of your dinner. (Overriding hunger and fullness cues and moralising good/bad/treat/healthy reinforces a guilt/virtue cycle).
We can enjoy cakes and chocolate and peppers and carrots and grapes and apple and bananas…
Cakes and chocolate are bad for you.
Did you know veggies can help our brains and bodies do amazing things?
You must eat up your veggies because they are good for you.
I’m hungry! A burger sounds nice today.
I’m going to be bad and have a burger for lunch.
Let’s get outside for some fresh air.
We need to go for a walk to burn some calories.
We’re not having cake right now, we’re having fruit We’re not having cake for snack because it’s not and yoghurt instead. healthy. Our bodies are amazing! They’re designed to change shape many times as we grow up and get older.
I wish I could lose the baby weight; boys should be big and strong!
Isn’t it wonderful to have 7.5+ billion different kinds of faces and bodies on the planet?
Isn’t so-and-so really pretty, handsome, strong (appearance praise reinforces stereotypes and good/bad/better/worse).
(to someone who has changed weight)
However well intentioned… ‘weight change praise’ will always have unknown impact. We could be praising an eating disorder, an underlying health condition or simply equating worth with body size.
How are you?
With thanks to Nutriri, an organisation created by volunteers to offer weight neutral support, through intuitive eating and movement for joy courses, hypnotherapy 1:1 or in groups.