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t is exciting to get down on your knee to propose to your future spouse — but the minute you do so, you start a countdown that won’t reach zero until you’re on your honeymoon. To properly plan, use our handy wedding checklist below:
[]\bVa PST]`S bVS PWU ROg N First, decide on a ceremony and reception site. Then, make sure it is in a state that allows gay weddings (a list that currently includes 35 states and the District of Columbia, but NOT: Alabama, Arkansas, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Michiagn, Mississippi, Missouri, Nebraska, North Dakota, Ohio, South Dakota, Tennessee, and Texas).
N Pick a venue that is gay-friendly. Some churches, synagogues, and other religious establishments are very accepting — others are not. Find a minister or ofďŹ ciant who weds same-sex couples. This is your wedding and the person performing the ceremony works for you, not the other way around.
N Begin search for wedding bands. N Hire a orist. Again, remember that this person works for you, so make sure you are happy with the orist’s approach. A true pro will help you work out table settings, extra owers for wedding party members, etc.
N Hire photographer and videographer. Make sure that this person is comfortable with same-sex marriages, as the resulting photos will not capture the love you feel if the photographer does not feel it.
N Look into wedding-day transportation. Do you want a limo, horse and carriage, limo bus?
N Set the date.
N Begin drafting your guest list.
N Decide on a caterer if catering on-site is unavailable.
N Keep it fun; wedding planning is stressful, but not
N Begin shopping for your attire. Decide whether to wear a gown or suit at your wedding.
if you’re on the same page and have fun with it.
N Start shopping for attendants’ attires.
$Âł' []\bVa ]cb N Decide who will play what role in the wedding.
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N Book wedding-day transportation. N Book hotel for wedding night, if applicable. N Select and order the cake. Be sure to have a samesex couple as the topper (unless you want the standard “man-and-wife� topper for some ironic purpose — remember, keep having fun with the process!).
N Continue to compile a list of duties for key players. N Mail out hotel and city information to out-of-town guests.
N Complete insurance issues, such as coverage for the rings, as needed.
N Remind your partner to order gown or suit. N Let the DJ or band know of special songs you would like played at the ceremony and reception.
N Purchase wedding favors.
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N Discuss the menu with caterer. N Finalize wedding-day transportation. N Book band, musicians, or DJ service. N Purchase wedding bands and engrave a special saying.
N Gather all necessary travel documents such as passports, visas, etc. Get immunization for honeymoon if necessary.
N Finalize menu. N Finalize ceremony and reception music. N Finalize favors or create your own. N Buy thank-you gifts for wedding party and key players.
N Set up your wedding registry.
N Book your hair and makeup artists.
N Purchase accessories, shoes, and undergarments
N Book times for ďŹ ttings. Aim to schedule hair and
for ďŹ rst ďŹ tting.
N Ask friends to be key players. Key players are trustworthy pals on whom you can rely for crucial tasks. The key players are not part of the immediate wedding party since they will be busy with photo shoots.
N Fine tune the guest list. Remember, this is your day, not theirs. You are under no obligation to invite anyone who would put a damper on the festivities.
N Compile addresses of guests. Mail save-the-date cards to out-of-town guests.
makeup trial on the same day to get a look at the complete package, and make sure to bring you accessories.
N Begin ďŹ nalizing seating arrangements. N Begin to plan receiving line, timeline, and itinerary of the day.
N Purchase guest book, cake knife, champagne glasses, garters, etc.
N Keep having fun with the process. It’s nuts! You are getting married!
N Consider honeymoon spots. Call travel agencies
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N Finalize list of must-have photos. Give a copy to
N Keep having fun with the process.
photographer and key players.
N Search for wedding favors.
"Âł$ []\bVa ]cb N Begin search for hair and makeup artist. N Complete the guest list. N Order invitations and other stationery. Think about what “lookâ€? and wording you want. &
each invitation because people often forget to write their name on the response card. This way, you can track it.
changes, if applicable.
N Complete seating plan as RSVPs are returned. N Finalize songs for the ceremony and reception. N Get a pre-wedding trim and spa treatment so you feel your best during this stressful time.
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readings or other special requests.
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other relaxation exercises such as yoga.
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guests.
the wedding. Invite wedding party and key players.
N Enjoy your rehearsal dinner.
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N ConďŹ rm details with all vendors. N Arrange times for key players to pick up items they are responsible for.
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Marriage Act was struck down and marriage equality was restored to California, home to more than one in 10 Americans. By last December, same-sex marriage was legal in 17 states and the Obama administration was working hard to ensure that any legally married gay or lesbian couple — regardless of where they live — would enjoy federal government recognition of their union on critical matters such as Internal Revenue Service ďŹ ling, inheritance taxes, and Social Security. Then, in December’s waning days, something extraordinary happened. A federal court in Utah declared that the same-sex marriage ban in that state violated the U.S. Constitution. For a couple of weeks — until the Supreme Court stepped in with a temporary stay on the ruling, pending an appeal by Utah — joyous images of gay and lesbian couples marrying across the Mormon homeland ricocheted around the globe via the Internet. Even if the weddings in Utah were halted (only for a A^`W\UÂłAc[[S` # Â’ ESRRW\U >`WRS
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circuits that found bans unconstitutional. The tally of states mushroomed to 35. We’re now at the critical juncture. On Nov. 6, while states from South Carolina to Alaska were coming to terms with the sudden requirement that they allow same-sex couples to marry, the Cincinnati-based Sixth Circuit Court of Appeals upheld marriage bans in Ohio, Michigan, Tennessee, and Kentucky that had earlier been struck down by lower courts. The Supreme Court is going to ďŹ nd it tougher to duck appeals from the Sixth Circuit the way it did on Oct. 6. Different appeals courts around the country have now come to opposite conclusions about marriage equality. One of the Supreme Court’s top responsibilities is to resolve such “circuit splits.â€? Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, almost universally considered a pro-marriage equality vote, has, on several occasions, said the high court would likely step in only when such a split occurred. That time is now, and any day now, the Supreme Court could decide whether to take up one of the appeals from the Sixth Circuit ruling. A key question is whether arguments could be scheduled and a decision reached by the end of the term in June — or if the case would be put off until the fall of 2015. The Supreme Court hearing one or more of the appeals would almost certainly mean the question of a federal constitutional right for gay and lesbian couples to "
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Many couples are building customized wedding websites as a means of simplifying the process between wedding planning and wedding execution. A site dedicated to your big day eases anxiety during your next phase of wedding planning by allowing you to manage your guest list (guests can RSVP online), share all pertinent information in one place, and make announcements regarding last-minute changes. Plus, guests who don’t know each other can become acquainted via comment threads on your site, and you can even send out invitations directly from your website and save a tree or two. A^`W\U³Ac[[S` # ’ ESRRW\U >`WRS
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There are many wedding building sites available. The Knot, Wedding Jojo, and Glo are just a few popular options. Most have a free trial so if you have some unexpected time on your hands, try out a couple of these sites and see if one of them strikes your fancy. Features may vary from site to site, but they all usually include an online RSVP option, the ability to upload photos, and the ability to customize your domain name.
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our wedding isn’t traditional — by virtue of the fact that you are marrying your same-sex partner. So why is your gift registry straight out of the 1960s? “A lot of people feel forced to do the registry,� says Laura Cattano, a professional organizer based out of New York City who helps couples organize and de-clutter their homes. “A lot of people don’t want to do it, but they feel relatives want to buy them something.� Cattano has become intimately familiar with the junk that can quickly accumulate if registries aren’t carefully curated. Here are a few tips for getting the most out of your registry, instead of a pile of appliances that you will never use:
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By far, the most popular gifts Cattano sees in her clients’ homes are pricey decorative items that are gathering dust and cluttering up the room. “If you’re going to register for those things, make sure you’re not registering for seven chrome vases,� she says, adding that you should know where things like vases, bowls, and frames will go before asking for them. And beware of this thinking trap: I would never buy that for myself, so I should ask for it! “If you’ve lived this long without it, why would you want it now?� says Cattano.
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This means you’re restricting guests from texting, tweeting, and posting on Facebook and Instagram during your ceremony, and — if you really want an unplugged affair — your reception. Keep in mind that some guests may be very attached to their phones and will balk at the suggestion. But if this is important to you, don’t be afraid to ask everyone to unplug for a few hours. Remember to mind your manners, though. How you choose to break the news to your guests is up to you. It’s your wedding and your rules. Some couples have chosen to do so directly on the wedding invitation or website, but it’s also a good idea to send out a mass e-mail or to text a reminder a day or two before the wedding so the phoneaddicted will receive the message loud and clear. But even if you have taken these ďŹ rst steps in banning electronic distractions from your wedding, how do you actually implement the rule? Here are a few methods that will ensure that your guests fork over their phones without getting all Bride-or-Groomzilla on them:
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The Season 3 premiere of HBO’s “Veepâ€? featured an unplugged wedding and, although the story arc was intended to highlight how attached politicos are to their phones, it did illustrate a casual, lighthearted way of unplugging your guests. Designate a member of your wedding party to walk up to guests and ask them to deposit their phones in a ďŹ sh bowl. Of course, you can opt to go with a prettier — or sillier — container.
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Isn’t it funny how half of the people you’re inviting to the wedding make their livings as wedding planners? Be forewarned: people will be heaping unsolicited advice on you and you will feel like you’re drowning. Your cousin Sally may insist (over and over) that you hire her best friend as the orist or your best man Joe may assure you that his buddy is the best DJ in town. Sometimes you will actually receive good advice, but a lot of the time you won’t. The important thing to keep in mind is that it is always well-intentioned advice. As long as you act like you’re a contestant on “Who Wants to be a Millionaire?â€? and insist that you have the ďŹ nal answer and don’t need to use a lifeline, you will be ďŹ ne.
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Designate your breakfast nook, living room sofa, or bedroom as a safe space in your home where you and your to-be can take refuge from the seemingly endless wedding discussion. By escaping to your safe zone, you and your partner are signaling to each other that you "
Sometimes we’re the only ones who can talk ourselves down from the ledge. Come up with a mantra that you can summon when the stress is getting out of control. Close your eyes and slowly breathe in and out as you repeat, “Everything will be just ďŹ ne,â€? “We will ďŹ nd the perfect venue,â€? or “I can have some Ben & Jerry’s after we choose our invitation fontâ€? as many times as it takes to settle your nerves and ďŹ nd your chi.
Set weekly, monthly, or quarterly goals and write them down. Start off with the goal of choosing the color palette or the venue. Next, decide on the style and wording of the invitations. The next month take the time to research, visit, and choose your orist. You can even take a look at our wedding checklist for tips on when to do what tasks. Breaking up a huge event into small, manageable responsibilities will not only help you two focus, but will give you peace of mind. And if you get stuck on one item, such as catering, move to the next and then revisit that one later.
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ou’ve booked the venue, picked a caterer, written your vows, and chosen your ower arrangements. You breathe a sigh of relief knowing that you have hit the home stretch — until you realize that you haven’t booked the entertainment yet! There is no shortage of wedding entertainers in New York, but you and your beloved have worked hard to bring a gay sensibility to your wedding and have so far chosen to go with LGBT-owned businesses for all your preparations. Now it’s time to ďŹ nd gay or lesbian entertainers for your wedding. We’ve assembled what we think of as a top-ight !
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performers or equipment are needed. Expect a large variety of music to choose from, including country, jazz, ’20s, ’80s, pop, rock, Latin, hip-hop, house, electro, swing, disco, and even metal. “It’s rare,� says Evans. “But it’s happened.� Couples usually request “I Won’t Give Up� and “I’m Yours� by Jason Mraz, “Sexy and I Know It� by LMFAO, and “Blurred Lines� by Robin Thicke, plus a lot of Lady Gaga, Britney Spears, and Kesha.
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Celebrate at Villa Amor Celebrate your big day at Villa Amor in Sayulita, Mexico — we can’t wait to see you in the sun. We love love (it is called Villa Amor, after all). Your wedding is about your love — and there is no better way to show it than to unite by the ocean with friends and family. Events are one of the things in which we pride ourselves at Villa Amor. We’ll work with you every step of the way to ensure that your wedding is absolutely awless. Call or e-mail us today and we’ll contact you immediately. Our experienced and intuitive Social Events Director is available to assist you with planning every detail. We offer a variety of stunning wedding venues, food, music and activities to make your big day a truly memorable experience for you and your guests. We offer an on-site restaurant with a wonderful selection of gourmet food to enhance your special day. Villa Amor also offers many other services and the staff is
happy to assist you with anything that may make your day even more special. When your friends and family follow you all the way to Mexico for a wedding, you’ll want to enjoy spending time with them taking in the local sights and sounds. We can assist you in planning a full itinerary that will keep you and your guests entertained for the duration of your stay with us. Sample itineraries are available and can be customized to meet the entertainment interests of your group. Whether you want an intimate ceremony or a large celebration with your friends and family, Villa Amor is the perfect place for it. With beautiful locations on-site and nearby, as well as the ability to customize your ceremony to your exact style, Villa Amor offers you your dream wedding day — worry free! Call: (619) 819–5407, (619) 819 5969, (602) 748–4144. From Mexico, call 011–329–291–3010. E-mail Karen Ruezga for information at weddings@ hotelvillaamorsayulita.com.
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Gay and lesbian married couples can now stand on the Four Corners where Nevada, Colorado, Arizona, and Utah meet and know the laws are on your side in all directions. Whichever route you take to arrive at the park, the trip will be something you’ll always remember. Flying into Las Vegas gives you the chance to spend a couple of nights at the Mandarin International, which can arrange a spectacular private tour of the Grand Canyon. You can helicopter for hours and still see only a fraction of some of the world’s most incredible scenery. Mandarin International: 3752 Las Vegas Blvd. South in Las Vegas, mandarinoriental.com/lasvegas, (702) 590–8888
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quickly changed his tune. “We knew we were going to stay together, we just wanted it to be recognized by the state and government,� says Mike. “When [marriage equality] passed in New York in 2011, we just decided, ‘Okay, this is what we’ve been waiting for and now it’s here. Let’s get married.’ � “I remember sitting in front of the TV, watching New York 1, watching the Senate. And it passed,� says Aldrin. “And we didn’t even say anything. We just looked at each other, hugged, and we were like, ‘Okay, let’s do this!’ � Then the reality set in.
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immediately after which family members were asked to walk up to a box with a piece of paper, an envelope, and a bottle of wine. Each was directed to write advice on the paper, seal it in the envelope, and place it in the box along with the bottle of wine. The box, once ďŹ lled with everyone’s notes and vino, was then sealed with wax from the candle used in their unity ceremony. The idea is for the family members’ contributions to be opened one at a time on successive anniversaries, when the couple will read one of the notes and drink one of the bottles of wine. Another ďŹ ne-tuning Aldrin and Mike brought to their wedding was a choreographed dance to BeyoncÊ’s “Love On Top.â€? “We both have theater backgrounds, I have a dance background,â€? says Aldrin. “So, I thought we should do a ďŹ rst dance.â€? But leading up to their big day, Aldrin was getting cold feet about that idea. “I thought it might be too cheesy,â€? he recalls. “But Mike convinced me.â€? They tried to hide their rehearsals from their thenroommate because they wanted to surprise everyone at the wedding. And it was surprise. “We literally came out, got introduced, and went straight into the dance. It turned out great,â€? says Aldrin. More than that, though, for Mike what turned out great was the wedding as a whole and being surrounded by the ones they love. “I mean, we knew all the people who were coming,â€? he says. “But just seeing everyone there was a wonderful, wonderful thing.â€? All photos by Kelly Williams. A^`W\UÂłAc[[S` # Â’ ESRRW\U >`WRS
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hen James Adams and Jonathan Boyles met in college, neither man was single but the connection they felt could not be denied. The two were both students at the University of Virginia, but they rarely crossed paths. It wasn’t until Jonathan dropped off some yers at a gay leadership group meeting that James was attending that James thought there might be something worth pursuing. “A really tall guy came in and plopped down some yers for a party at his house, and said, ‘Here you all go,’ and went away,â€? recalls James. “I will admit I was totally smitten. He was my type: tall, lean, and handsome.â€? When Jonathan moved to Brooklyn upon graduation, James, who was a year behind him in school, remained at Virginia. That’s when the courtship truly began — a courtship that could only be described as traditional. As the phone calls took place and e-mails, letters, postcards, and, yes, even mix tapes ew between Brooklyn and Charlottesville, the immediate connection they had felt in college developed into love, culminating in a surprise visit on the most romantic day of the year. “That Valentine’s Day, I remember writing to him from a computer lab after a physics exam — and spending half of the time during the exam planning what I would write,â€?
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James reminisces. “Later that night, he surprised me at my door. He’d driven all the way from New York City to Charlottesville. He gave me a single red rose. I still have it.â€? Spending more time together only reinforced what the two had already suspected — each man had found his soulmate. After 18 years together, there was no need to pop the question once marriage equality became a reality. In fact, neither James nor Jonathan remembers anyone actually proposing. Getting hitched was a mutual decision that sprouted from conversations about their ideal wedding. The conversations stemmed from working as caterers, event planners, and waiters during their ďŹ rst year together. Both agree that planning the wedding, which took place on Aug. 31 of last year, came easy. “Admittedly, we can be very picky, but have similar tastes,â€? explains James. “We also know when we have found professionals who love their jobs.â€? Jonathan agrees that choosing the right vendors helped: “We relied on professionals who are excellent at what they do. Our reception at Deity was perfect. The owners, Caio and Christine, were fun to work with and did a fantastic job. Our photographer, Steven Rosen, has an incredible talent and he was everywhere getting great photos. Although we did a lot of the planning ourselves, we also relied heavily on the staff of Deity and on Steven for their expertise.â€?
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Their do-it-yourself wedding invitations were in the form of a Broadway Playbill and included short proďŹ les and head shots of each of the wedding guests. Says James, “We wanted the focus of our wedding to be not on us but on all of the incredible friends and family who mean so much to us and make our relationship stronger. Everyone in the group married us — all 86 signed the wedding certiďŹ cate. Twenty-six people had a speaking role in the ceremony.â€? They also eschewed wedding favors, asked their dog Buzz to be the best man (he accepted), had their brothers serve as ring bearers, and got dressed together, at home. Oh, and Jonathan performed as deejay. Relatives stayed only a few blocks away in a home they rented through airbnb.com and everyone met up outside and walked together to Fort Greene Park to meet the rest of the wedding guests.
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“As we walked down DeKalb Avenue, we were greeted by strangers with ‘congratulations’ and ‘mazel tov.’ It was wonderful to feel welcomed by our community,� says James. Once they reached the top of the park, the guests formed a circle around James and Jonathan and joined the two in matrimony. Tapping into their own experience and choosing the right vendors enabled the wedding to go off without a hitch, but these days, life is a bit more complicated. Twin sons, Channing and Oliver, born 11 minutes apart on Oct. 13, keep both men busy, especially James, who is the one staying home. The experience, although hectic, is welcomed. “The kids have taken that tremendous love we already feel and have made it four times bigger,� says James. “That’s the best way I can explain it.� All photos by Steven Rosen.
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he just radiated a joy about life,â€? says Renee. “I knew she would be a lot of fun.â€? Kate, proving to have similar tastes, agreed. “She was just so much fun right off the bat and I felt so comfortable and completely myself with her,â€? Kate remembers. “I found Renee to be funny, inquisitive, deeply connected to her family — which is very important to me — and I was charmed by the little sparkle in her gorgeous eyes.â€? The women knew that they were destined to be together from that ďŹ rst date on. In December of 2013, the couple got married, but not before Renee proposed — twice! “The ďŹ rst time, Kate was cooking and I was nagging her about something completely irrelevant,â€? says Renee. “In the middle of my nag, I said, ‘Will you marry me?’ â€? Kate continued to cook as she said, “Yes,â€? but thought a more romantic proposal was in order. She asked her then bride-to-be if her intentions were genuine after dinner. “I asked, ‘Were you serious when you asked me to marry you? Because I was serious when I said yes. However, it could have been a little more romantic!’ â€? As it happens, Kate often wore a ring that belonged to Renee’s mother, which was kept in the bathroom when it wasn’t on her ďŹ nger. So the day following the ad-libbed proposal, while Kate and Renee were in the bathroom getting ready, Renee popped the question a second time. “I said, ‘Kate, with this ring, that we keep in the bathroom, will you marry me?’ â€? Kate again said, “Yes!â€? “I melted more than a little at the excitement,â€? says Kate. “I think we had known all along that we were in it as partners for life.â€? Renee originally wanted to elope, but Kate convinced her a wedding was in order. Both women are glad — their wedding turned out perfect. “Fabulous people, great food, amazing location, lots of fun,â€? says Renee of the big event at the West Village’s gorgeous Alger House, once a large carriage house decked out in hard wood oors, exposed brick, steel architectural details, and stained glass. Adds Kate, “The space was warm and inviting and the staff provided phenomenal hospitality to us and our guests.â€? The couple called on their circle of talented friends and family to help with the wedding’s preparations. The ceremony was ofďŹ ciated by Kate’s mother, Carrie Bishop, a Lutheran pastor. The cake was provided by their friend’s company, A Simple Cake, and topped with two troll dolls Renee and Kate purchased while vacationing in Norway, their ďŹ rst international travel as a couple. The idea of using the troll dolls started as a joke, but after a fruitless search for the perfect cake toppers, the couple realized
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the dolls, one short and grumpy-looking and one tall and femme, best represented them. Marie McNally, who is close to the couple, provided the newlyweds with stunning oral arrangements, and their dear friend Corrine put together all the music and acted as M.C. Another good friend of theirs, Alan, helped the ladies out a lot as well — especially in assisting them as they bucked tradition while dress shopping, which they insisted on doing together. “We had chosen our gowns together so that our looks would coordinate without matching exactly,â€? says Kate. “There was no need for secrecy. We also spent the day getting ready together. Throwing old superstitions to the wind.â€? Another convention they nixed? Wearing heels. The idea of spending their special day wearing uncomfortable footwear didn’t sit well with either, so the couple decided to don sneakers instead. To further customize A^`W\UÂłAc[[S` # Â’ ESRRW\U >`WRS
their outďŹ ts, Kate, who was born on Independence Day, wore a pair of Converse decorated with the American ag; and Renee, a proud Aussie, wore Union Jack Converse, tweaked by Kate to resemble the Australian ag. Despite all their detailed planning, there were a few surprises to be had on their wedding day. For one, Renee’s maid-of-honor, Christine, organized a ash mobstyle performance during the speech. When her turn came up, Christine broke into song, then two other guests popped up and sang, then other guests sprang up, and so on, until the song’s chorus, when every single guest joined in. The lyrics were about Kate and Renee and sung to the tune of “My Favorite Thingsâ€? from the “The Sound of Music.â€? Christine orchestrated it all via e-mail to guests ying in from all over the world. Different groups of guests each wrote their own verse. Considering that the two ďŹ rst met in cyberspace it also isn’t surprising that the wedding ceremony featured techsavvy twists. Renee’s mother had health issues preventing her from attending, so the couple made sure she and Renee’s father could participate as virtual guests. “Renee’s parents couldn’t physically attend but were able to Skype in and even appear in the wedding photos,â€? says Kate. Adena of Studio A Images, who played a huge role in the wedding’s success, captured the photos. “She was amazing,â€? says Kate. “She never got in the way, but was always in the background,â€? says Renee, who was impressed by the shutterbug’s skills. “Sometimes I’d look up and see her there actually catching us in the moment.â€? The couple’s only regret? Not being able to invite as many people as they wanted. Keeping the guest count ESRRW\U >`WRS Â’ A^`W\UÂłAc[[S` #
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to 80 people made for some difďŹ cult choices and a few tough conversations. “We simply didn’t have enough space to accommodate as many of our friends and loved-ones as we would have liked to,â€? says Kate. Not being able to invite some of the special people in their lives was a particularly poignant problem for Renee. “I am a board member of Marriage Equality USA and, while we have come a long way, there are still a number of states and countries that do not recognize our marriage, so the ďŹ ght is far from over. I had to explain to the rest of my board members, people I’d been ďŹ ghting alongside for marriage equality, that they weren’t invited.â€? Another regret was not being able to fully engage all of the guests they did invite, some of whom traveled from places as far away as Spain and Australia. “You always hear about how there just isn’t enough time to truly get to talk to everyone, and it’s so true,â€? says Kate. “The party was so much fun, we wish we could do it all over again — but this time as part of the crowd.â€? If a proposal in the bathroom and the sneakers they wore to their wedding prove anything about Renee and Kate, it’s that they have a remarkable sense of whimsy and are right for each other — troll dolls and all. “We just click so well and are so deeply in love,â€? says Kate of the wife whom she met because a dating site repeatedly ranked them as highly compatible. “I truly think we are perfectly matched.â€? All photos by Adena of Studio A Images. #!
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