Hopefully, by the time you read this, it will have finally stopped raining! February was another busy month for the DL team. I’ve been busy supporting my marketing/social media clients and reviewing TV programs for the BBC. You can catch me on BBC Radio Kent every Thursday at 4.35pm.
David has also been very busy with his racing driver clients, building and upgrading websites for them, and much more. Our next networking event will take place on 10th March, with over 100 attendees expected. Visit www.dartfordlivinglive.co.uk to book your spot for this event. It’s totally free to attend!
Again, all advertising space in the March edition of DL sold out before the deadline, so if you are considering advertising, please get in touch ASAP to avoid disappointment!
In case you weren’t aware, David and I run Dartford Living alongside over 50 volunteer members of the local community. DL is the only independently run magazine, serving the local area with information and positive local stories!
Please get in touch if you would like to write an article for the magazine. If writing is not for you, then perhaps you could volunteer to deliver 100 or so magazines to your neighbours. You will guarantee your copy of the magazine and get a little exercise too!
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Vijay
Editor - Dartford Living Magazine
(and of course David and the fantastic Dartford Living volunteer team)
Dementia and the LGBTQ+ Community
Dartford’s Tramtastic history
Confidence grows from connection
Orchard Theatre nears final stages of reopening
Travel: River Cruising
Traditional (Spring) Cleaning tips
Puzzle Page
On the road
The March Hare and the Turtle Dove
Why person to person therapy still matters
Poetry corner
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“THIS IS WHERE I’M MEANT TO BE”: 25 YEARS ON THE FRONTLINE OF HOSPICE CARE
Twenty-five years is a long time to stay anywhere. In healthcare, it is a mark of commitment, trust and belief in the work you do. This year marks 25 years since May Shurmer, a Senior Staff Nurse at ellenor, first began caring for patients with life-limiting illness and supporting families across Kent and Bexley.
We often hear phrases like, ‘What a difference a year makes’. But what about 25 years? What kind of difference can one person make in that time? To find out, we sat down with May Shurmer to reflect on her 25 years at ellenor supporting patients with life-limiting illnesses – and their families – and the care, kindness and dedication that have defined her journey. It was January 2001 when May first walked through ellenor’s doors. The UK was in the grip of Arctic weather. Ice, record-low temperatures and the first significant snowfall in years caused widespread disruption, even freezing sections of the coast solid.
It was against this backdrop that May first walked through the doors of ellenor: a hospice charity that provides palliative and end-of -life care to local people, of all ages, facing life-limiting illness. Yet it wasn’t the cold that May felt as she crossed ellenor’s threshold. “It was warmth,” she recalls. “When I came for my interview, I felt it straight away. It was a happy, welcoming place. I remember thinking, ‘This is where I’m meant to be. This is the place I want to nurse.’”
During her 25 years at ellenor, May has worked on the inpatient unit, with the Hospice at Home team, and, more recently, in ellenor’s Wellbeing team. The team provides practical, emotional and therapeutic support not only to the patients under ellenor’s care but to their carers and families – and, when those patients pass away, their bereaved loved ones, too. Bringing together physiotherapy, occupational therapy, complementary therapy and family support, the Wellbeing service helps people with life-limiting conditions live as well as possible for as long as possible.
Today, May works closely with ellenor’s therapists, bringing decades of nursing experience to a wide and varied caseload within the hospice charity’s Wellbeing team. She meets all new referrals and is a steady point of contact across a busy timetable of patient groups: from seated exercise and breath-management to arts, crafts and social sessions that fight isolation and rebuild confidence.
The way she effortlessly juggles her duties across dual disciplines has inspired her colleagues to give May a nickname, which she relates with a chuckle and a grin: ‘The Wellbeing Nurse’.
Across 25 years, May has learned that early, honest support changes lives – and that families need care as much as patients do. “We get to know our patients – and their families,” she says. “People arrive with letters full of numbers and abbreviations they don’t understand,” she explains. “Part of my role is working through it with them, in plain language, so they understand what’s happening and how we can help.” Alongside the privilege of those conversations comes the hardest part of hospice care: loss. But for May, grief is inseparable from compassion.
“It’s hard,” she says softly. “Some families need so much support because the needs are so great – but 99% of the people who come, keep coming. Even when we think we’re not making much difference, they’ll say, ‘I like coming here.” You listen at ellenor. You make a difference.’ That’s why I come to work.”
So, what has changed since that snowy January morning 25 years ago? Treatments have improved. People are living longer with complex conditions. ellenor’s Wellbeing services have grown and evolved with stronger therapeutic aims behind every activity. But at its heart, hospice care remains unchanged.
“Compassionate care underpins everything,” May says. “It’s about listening and walking alongside people. We’re much better now at recognising the wellbeing side – that a gardening group or a craft session isn’t ‘just’ social, it’s therapeutic –but the core is still being kind, supporting patients through their journey, and helping them live their life until they die.”
Through it all, May has seen ellenor evolve into a deeply trusted hospice charity, rooted in its community and shaped by the people who work within it, just as she has found the role she was meant for.
“Some people are born for different roles in life; I’ve found mine,” May says. “Every day at ellenor is different. Every day is a learning day. And, sometimes, it’s the smallest moments that keep you going.
“I love caring for patients. I love working with families. I love being able to make a difference. But most of all, I still haven’t lost the feeling of walking into the building here at ellenor and thinking, ‘I love my job.’”
DEMENTIA AND THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY
Dementia affects millions, but LGBTQ+ older adults face distinct challenges shaped by a lifetime of stigma, discrimination, and social isolation.
Increased Risk Factors
Many LGBTQ+ elders are more likely to live alone, have no children, and rely on “chosen family.” Social isolation is a known risk factor for cognitive decline. Chronic discrimination (“minority stress”) is also linked to higher rates of depression, anxiety, cardiovascular disease, and substance use, all associated with increased dementia risk. Some transgender individuals have faced barriers to consistent healthcare, affecting long-term brain health.
Barriers in Care Settings
Going in to care settings can raise fears of:
• Having to “go back into the closet”
• Misgendering
• Same-sex partners not being recognised
• Chosen family excluded from decisions
Without inclusive policies, identity and relationships may not be respected.
Dementia and Identity
Cognitive decline can affect how a person expresses their gender identity or sexual orientation and may reduce their ability to self-advocate. Sensitive, affirming care is essential.
Moving Forward
As dementia rates rise, the LGBTQ+ community must be included in research, policy, and care models. Equity means not only treating symptoms, but respecting identity, relationships, and lived experience.
Inclusive dementia care includes:
• Using correct names and pronouns
• Recognising chosen family
• Cultural competency training
• Visible non-discrimination policies
• Inclusive intake forms
Person-centred, inclusive care ensures everyone can age with safety, dignity, and respect.
Helping to support you
We are your local independent charity supporting people affected by dementia across Kent and Medway. We deliver life changing services for people with dementia and their carers from pre-diagnosis and throughout your experience of dementia.
Please contact us if you are affected by dementia or you would like to support us:
General enquiries
01474 533990
Dementia Coordinators 0800 035 2221
info@alz-dem.org www.alz-dem.org
ADSS
Facing dementia together
How we can support you: Dementia Coordination Advice, information & guidance in person, over the phone and by email.
Dementia Wellbeing Local community fun and friendly activities and support groups.
Dementia Care Active and fun filled days at The Beacon day service and support in your home with daily living.
Dartford’s Tramtastic History
By Adrian Herbert
Dartford’s one billion pounds new tramway system? Well, that’s the likely cost if it was built today! 120 years have passed since an Electric Transport System first appeared in the town and district of Dartford. On St Valentine’s Day in 1906, twelve open top double deck tram cars, in maroon and cream livery, began service on the six plus miles of track. Dartford Light Railway (DLR) operated from a depot off Burnham Road, from where cars headed out each day into the town via Station Approach, at a time when few motor vehicles were on the road.
One of the conductors on the opening day later trained as a driver (Motorman). He went on to become, in later years, Mayor of Dartford. The Tram Centre was outside the former Coaching Inn, The Bull Hotel, where during track construction the old town stocks were uncovered! From here, for the sum of 1 to 4 old Pence (240 to a Pound then) an adult could travel the system, whilst workmen and children’s fares were less.
Cars would head up West Hill on to Crayford, then to Bexleyheath, also with a Tramway, along with Erith. In later times, with more connections, it was possible to travel into London by Tram, yet very uncomfortable! Though Eastward you could only travel to Horns Cross via Stone, as South Eastern Railway opposed further travel to Swanscombe, as the Gravesend and Northfleet Tramway was reachable! However, a Motor Bus was later used to cover the gap.
One other Route led along Lowfield Street, to a Terminus at The Orange Tree in Wilmington. There were plans to extend travel beyond Farningham, however that never materialised due to costs involved. Again, the route was covered by Motor Bus! In Dartford Tramway’s first year, one Million journeys were made, ten times the Council’s estimate. It was operated by JG White Co Ltd, on behalf of the Council, which had a committee of Councillors who reported on progress and costs. Later replacing White were Balfour Beatty (Dartford Tramway being the company’s first customer). Alex Balfour, as Manager at Dartford, was very hands on, arranging Motor Transport and six 56 seater Tram Cars to be sent to Transfer 300 officers and Men From Royal Navy Ships. They were moored off Greenhithe, picking up at Horns Cross, and returning to Dartford for a celebration meal with dignitaries, arranged by Dartford Urban District Council.
A few years later, in 1911, Alex arranged for Tram Car No.12 to be decorated similar to three cars on the opening in 1906. It had Union Jack banners and floral arrangements, with boards added to the sides, festooned with Electric Light Bulbs celebrating George V’s Coronation. Likewise, the town too was decorated for the Event.
During 1914 the Trams were vital in moving munition workers to factories in Crayford and Hawley, with the start of WWII. Six Cars would be sent at shift changes to Vickers Crayford, returning to homes and hostels in and around Dartford. In busy times, like Bank Holidays, trams were always very popular and one Bank Holiday they ran disastrously hot!
The total cost to set up the Tramway at the beginning was a reasonable £93,000. At the time, towns across the country were embracing the latest form of travel, setting up Tramways which kept costs down. Eventually, the slow and uncomfortable trams were replaced in the 1930s with faster, more comfortable trolleybuses and later buses, as today. Blackpool, and several continental cities such as Brussels, retained trams. While Croydon, in recent times, brought them back and has proven a very popular local transport method.
This year a limited Edition booklet on Dartford’s tramway, by Ann E Watkins and yours truly, is to be published, showing various things from journeys along the route in tinted views, the building of it to a copy of the 1906 opening booklet. See page 50 for more information on the book.
We’re here to help make your search for a care home easier. In our homes, you can expect a safe, welcoming environment, where we encourage independence while offering a helping hand. We get to know everyone, offer a range of sociable activities, and most of all, a place to call home.
For many, Christmas is “the most wonderful time of the year.” But behind the lights, music, and festive gatherings, this season can also bring added pressure. From the trying to fit everything in, the financial strain, family dynamics, or feelings of loss, grief and loneliness, the holiday period can be emotionally demanding. Taking care of your mental health during this time is just as important as looking after your physical wellbeing. With a little planning and self-compassion, it is possible to enjoy the season while protecting your peace of mind. Firstly, ignore what social media is telling you about what the perfect Christmas should look like. It can be easy to feel the pressure when flicking through Tik Tok, seeing stunning decorations, the must have gifts this year and matching pjs for the whole family, dog included!
Remember not everyone will be spending Christmas surrounded by family or friends. It can often highlight feelings of loneliness and isolation. Keep an eye on neighbours and friends you know might be alone, why not invite them round for a mince pie? If you’re feeling lonely, consider attending a local social lunch, either as a participant or a volunteer.
Setting a New Standard in Homecare
At Vitality Home Health, we deliver compassionate, personalised care tailored to your unique needs—right in the comfort and safety of your own home.
Whether you’re recovering after a hospital stay, need daily assistance, or require specialised medical support, we’re here to help.
Striving for perfection often leads to stress and disappointment and instead of focusing on having fun and the things that matter to you most, you end up exhausted and drained. Think about what you want from the holiday season. Snuggling up under a blanket watching Christmas films, spending time with friends you haven’t seen in ages, enjoying Christmas your way. It’s easy to fall out of our normal routine over the holiday period, no work or school the next day can lead to staying up late, extra commitments, festive parties, and overindulging in food and drink which can leave us feeling a bit out of sorts. Wherever possible, maintain elements of your usual routine, such as a consistent sleep schedule, regular exercise, and balanced meals. You know yourself best and learn to listen to your body and mind. Including small pockets of rest, like a short walk or a quiet cup of tea, can help recharge your batteries.
Our Services – Dedicated to Your Wellbeing
• Personal Care & Hygiene
• Medication Assistance
• Dementia & Alzheimer’s Care
• Pet-Friendly Care
• Mobility & Transportation Services
• Overnight Care
• Live-in Care
• Meal Preparation
• Housekeeping & Home Management
• Friendly Companionship Home to Decide Service
Gift-giving can be a source of stress, especially when money is tight. Remember that thoughtfulness is more valuable than price. Homemade gifts, acts of service, or shared experiences can be just as meaningful as store-bought presents. Planning a secret Santa at work or with friends? Keep the price low and do some good for others by challenging your group to buying from a charity shop.
Plan ahead of time and be your future friend. You’ll always be more successful if you plan to do something, than last minute panic buying.
Remember, it’s okay to say no. Christmas brings with it work events, social nights out and some will give you energy, some will drain you. Choose the activities that bring you joy and politely decline what you don’t want to do. Healthy boundaries are an important part of selfcare. If you think things are going to be busy, think about blocking out time for doing nothing.
Exceptional Care, Delivered at Home
It’s normal to feel a mixture of emotions during the holidays, it can be tiring and overwhelming. Be kind to yourself and think about what you need in the moment and give yourself permission to put your wellbeing first. If this time of year feels particularly difficult and your mental health is suffering, consider talking to a professional. Speaking with a GP, counsellor, or mental health service can provide valuable support and guidance.
Parent & Toddler Groups
Dartford Libraries
Baby Rhyme Time:
A free, fun and noisy way for under 3s to develop a love of language and a foundation for learning. Each session lasts about 20 minutes and includes the opportunity to join in with nursery rhymes and action songs. Children must be accompanied by a responsible adult.
Dartford Library - Mondays 10.30 – 11.00 – Term time only
Dartford Library - Mondays 11.15 – 11:45 – Term time only
Fleetdown Library - Tuesdays 10.30 – 11.00 – Term time only
Greenhithe Library - Fridays 10.00 – 10.30 – Term time only
Longfield Library - Thursdays 10.45 – 11.15
Summerhouse Drive Library - Tuesdays 10.30 – 11.00 – Term time only
Temple Hill Library – Wednesday 2:15 – 2:45 – Term time only
Storytime:
Listening to stories is a great way to develop and encourage young children to read books. Come and join one of our free storytime sessions for pre-school children - it’s great fun! Children must be accompanied by a responsible adult.
Dartford Library - Thursdays 10.30 – 11.30 – Term time only
Children’s Craft and Activity Time:
A fun free craft and colouring session for children. This group aims to bring children aged 4-11 together to chat and make new friends. Children must be accompanied by a responsible adult.
Dartford Library – Saturdays 11.00 – 13.00
Sutton-at-Hone Library – Mondays 15.00 – 16.00 – Term time only
Temple Hill Library – Saturdays 10.30 – 1.00
Baby Playground:
An exciting programme of creative play sessions for young children has begun across Kent. Led by a team of brilliant artists and musicians, families with babies (aged 0 to 18 months) can share creative play. Book up to 2 weeks in advance at playgroundkent.co.uk
Dartford Library – Fridays 10.30 – 11:15 – Term time only – Booking required
Family Playground:
Join our amazing Playground artists for some creative play and fun specially designed for children 5 years and under to share with their parents or carers. The group sessions are fun and engaging, led by a brilliant team of artists and are completely free. Book up to 2 weeks in advance at playgroundkent.co.uk
Dartford Library – Last Saturday of the month 13.30 – 14.30 – Booking required
Other Parent and Toddler Groups
Monday 9:15am - 11:30am - A&J Toddlers - St Anselms Church Community Centre, Dartford. £2.50 per one adult and child and 50p for any extra children or adults each. Tea/coffee biscuits, small snack for children with juice. Craft table and singing and dancing at end of session Contact Julie on 07917 843592.
Sing and Sign Orchard Shopping Centre - Mondays - 9.30am - 10.15am Toddlers 10.15 - 11am 6 months - 14 Months 11am - 11.45am Under 6 Months.
Bexley Park Sports and Social Club - Thursdays 11.am - 11.45am 6 months - 14 Months 11.45am - 12.30pm Under 6 months
Tuesday 9.30am-11.30am - Sticky Fingers - £1.50 per adult includes tea ,biscuits and healthy snack time for the children For pre school children up to 4 years. St Mary Greenhithe, Church Hall , London Road, Greenhithe Contact 01322 382031 or see www.stmarygreenhithe.com
Friday 9.30am-11am - Toerags Toddler Group - Adult education centre, Dartford £3 per Child- £1 Non Walkersfacebook.com/ToeRagse
Friday 10.30am – 12.30 - Mummy’s Linkup - on the 4th Friday of each month., Temple Hill Community Centre
Saturday 2-3pm - Lego Club- ages 5 and over - Chrome Road Slade Green DA8 2EL Tel: 01322 333602
Sundays 10:15-10:45 - Little Tigers - Karate for 3, 4 & 5 year olds - Swanscombe Leisure Centre. Call Saj on 07903 51310
Singing Mamas Mondays 10am- 11:30am Tree Community Centre, Cedar Rd, DA1 2RS
Singing Mamas is a singing for wellbeing group for women. Babies and little ones are welcome too. No prior singing experience needed- come and join us for singing, joy, connection and cake!
For more details and to book a free taster session contact singingwithmarianna@gmail.com
NEW CLASSES IN HEXTABLE, SWANLEY AND BEXLEY info@blossombabies.co.uk 07794451386 www.blossombabies.co.uk
BABYBALLERS Themed Football and multi skills sessions are suitable for girls and boys aged 16 months to 5 years old.
Your little superstar will learn shapes, colours, numbers and lots, lots, more all through playing the BabyBallers way!
Classes in Dartford, Northfleet, Gravesend and Ebbsfleet on Fridays and weekends.
Please visit babyballers1.class4kids.co.uk or email matt@babyballers.com
Local Groups
EAST DARTFORD BENEFICE, ST ALBAN AND ST EDMUND CHURCHES - www.2dartfordchurches.org
St Alban’s Church, St Alban’s Road, DA1 1FT
ST ALBAN’S COMMUNITY HUB. Wednesdays 11:00 - 2:00pm. Hot food and drink, a warm welcome, friendship, help and advice. Sharing links to local services and partnership agencies to support our community.
STEPPING STONES TODDLER GROUP. Wednesdays, 8:30am – 11am. Free to join, lots of toys, books and opportunities to make new friends, tea/coffee, juice, biscuits.
3RD DARTFORD, ST ALBAN’S BROWNIES. Fridays, from 5pm (Rainbows) and 6:15pm (Brownies). Weekly group held at St Alban’s Church.
ST ALBAN’S KNIT & NATTER. Saturdays (1st and 3rd of the month), 10am – 11:30am. Your opportunity to come and join this lovely group, come and knit or crochet, learn or teach someone else, tea/coffee and a lot of nattering.
St Edmund’s Church, St Edmund’s Road, DA1 5ND CAFÉ @ ST EDS. Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays & Fridays. 9.30am – 2pm. Serving a wonderful range of food, drinks and daily specials. Café is open on Thursdays serving a limited menu as we have a 2-course meal for £5 available (pre-booking advised).
KINDNESS & WELLBEING GROUP. Tuesdays, 9:30am – 11:30am. Make new friends, chat over a cuppa, mindfulness and wellbeing resources and support.
OVER 60’S GROUP @ ST EDS. Thursdays, 11:30am – 3pm. 2 course hot lunch for £5 served from 12noon (pre-booking advised), followed by Raffles and Bingo from 1pm – 3pm, prizes galore.
LITTLE EDS TODDLER GROUP. Fridays, 9am-11am. Free to join, lots of toys and opportunity to make new friends. St Eds Café is open.
Dartford District Libraries Activities and Events: For Adults:
Knit & Natter:
Enjoy knitting or crochet? Come along to our friendly group, meet new friends and enjoy a chat. Everyone is welcome from beginners to expert knitters and crocheters. Sessions are free but please provide your own materials.
Ashen Drive Library - Tuesdays 10.30 – 12.45
Dartford Library - Wednesdays 1.30 – 3.30 – Full
Dartford Library – Saturday 10:30 -12:30 – Booking is essential
Fleetdown Library – Friday 10.00 – 12.00
Longfield Library - Every other Thursday 11.15 – 12.30
Summerhouse Drive Library - 3 rd Tuesday of the month 2.00 – 3.30
Talk Time:
Come along to our free friendly group, meet new friends and enjoy a cuppa and a chat. Everyone is welcome.
Fleetdown Library – Friday 11.00 – 12.30
Longfield Library - Every other Thursday 11.15 – 12.30
Summerhouse Drive Library – 2 nd and 4 th Friday of the month 2.00– 3.30
IT Buddies:
Book a session with one of our volunteer IT buddies for help with basic computer queries. These sessions are not classes and our IT buddies cannot help with filling out forms due to Data Protection Regulations. Contact your local library for availability.
Clubs
at the Orchard Theatre
Chair Fit –Seated Exercise Class, Every Monday, 10:15am-12:15pm at Orchard West. £5 per session. Email tmccann@orchardtheatre.co.uk for more information.
Orchard Theatre Choir – A friendly daytime choir, Every Tuesday, 10am-12pm at Acacia Sports Hall. £7.50 per session. Email tmccann@orchardtheatre.co.uk for more information.
Ukulele Club – Suitable for all abilities, Every Thursday, 11am-1pm at Acacia Sports Hall. £7.50 per session. Email tmccann@orchardtheatre.co.ukfor more information.
Would you like your group/ club or society featured on these pages? Email wtgl@dartfordliving.com for a FREE listing
North Kent Embroiderers
Learn new techniques, make friends and enjoy interesting talks, workshops and demonstrations. Absolute beginners and more experienced stitchers welcome.
We meet on the third Saturday of every month except August from 2-4pm in Southfleet Village Hall, Southfleet, Gravesend, DA13 9NX or by Zoom if necessary.
Visitors are very welcome. website: www. northkentembroiderers.co.uk email: info@ northkentembroiderers.co.uk phone: Eileen on 01474 324734
Dartford Music School
Want to learn to play or sing? For all ages and abilities, we have something for you. We offer a variety of music learning activities based at The Mick Jagger Centre including Individual Instrumental Lessons, group sessions with Red Rooster, Dartford Youth Choir and DMS Orchestra!
Dartford socials for the over 30’s more information visit: www.meetup.com/dartford-socials-for-the-over-30s
Dartford u3a
Meets on the first Tuesday of every month (except August) at St Anselm’s Church Hall, West Hill, Dartford at 2 p.m.
We offer a warm welcome and the opportunity to meet new people, join others in activities and explore new interests. For more information about meetings and interest groups visit dartford.u3asite.uk
Knit & Natter: bring your own project. Alternate Mondays, 10.1512.30. Free with donation for refreshments. Contact communitysupport@ymcatg.org
RNEW Digital Kent:
Get Digital! Whether you need support with using your tablet, the NHS app or just getting online.
We’re here to help! To book onto a session and find out more, please visit digitalkent.uk or call 03000 410 950.
Longfield Library – Fourth Monday of the month 2.00 – 4.00
Sutton-at-Hone Library – Last Tuesday of the month 10.30 – 12.30
Temple Hill Library – 2 nd Monday of the month 10.00 – 12.00
Pavilion Players Amateur Dramatics Group - Joydens Wood
We are an amateur dramatics group who meet every Tuesday 8-10pm at Joydens Wood Community Centre. Whether you want to stand in the spotlight, hide behind the scenes, or have worldclass tea-making abilities, we’re always on the lookout for new recruits! There’s nothing like the buzz of putting on a show, so why not take the plunge and join us.
Contact us now at pavilion_players@hotmail.com Social media: linktr.ee/pavilionplayers"
Home Library Service:
We can deliver library items to you if you cannot visit a library due to illness, disability or your caring responsibilities. After visiting you to discuss your tastes and needs, staff will select suitable material for you. A volunteer will deliver your books, DVDs or other items and collect ones you are finished with. Contact your local library for availability.
Confidence Grows from Connection
In the early years, it can sometimes feel as though childhood needs managing.
More structure. More preparation. More doing.
Yet what truly helps young children thrive is often much quieter and far more powerful.
Children grow in confidence and capability when they feel safe, connected and understood. The strongest foundations for learning are built through everyday moments:
A conversation on the walk to nursery. A shared giggle at bath time. A calm cuddle after a wobble. These small interactions are not incidental. They are formative.
Connection Before Correction
When children feel emotionally safe, they are better able to think, problem-solve and learn. Before correcting behaviour or rushing to solutions, connection makes the biggest difference.
At home, this might look like:
• Kneeling to your child’s level when they speak
• Pausing before responding to tricky behaviour
• Saying, “That felt hard, didn’t it?”
When children feel heard, their bodies settle. When they are settled, they can learn. Confidence grows from connection.
Learning Isn’t Rushed. It Is Ignited.
It is easy to feel pressure about preparing children for what comes next. But deep learning does not come from pushing ahead. It grows from curiosity.
When a child becomes fascinated by insects, building towers, mixing colours in the bath, or repeatedly reading the same story, they are developing concentration, attention and problem-solving skills.
Supporting this at home does not require elaborate activities.
Often, it simply means:
• Following their interests
• Asking, “What do you notice?”
• Allowing time for repetition
Learning that begins with genuine interest tends to last.
Independence Grows Through Trust
We often talk about independence as a goal. But independence grows from trust.
Trust to try.
Trust to practise.
Trust to make mistakes.
Letting your child pour their own drink, attempt their zip, or return to the same puzzle again and again sends a powerful message: “I believe you can.”
Over time, that belief becomes their own.
The Power of Being Outdoors
Time outside offers something structured activities often cannot. Perspective.
Fresh air, muddy puddles, watching leaves move in the wind. These simple experiences help children regulate emotions, build resilience and develop physical confidence.
You do not need acres of countryside. A local park, a short walk, or noticing seasonal changes on your street can be enough. Regular time outdoors supports wellbeing in quiet, lasting ways.
Behaviour Is Communication
In the early years, communication is expressed through movement, behaviour and emotion as much as words.
When we see behaviour as communication, our response shifts from frustration to curiosity. Instead of asking, “How do I stop this?” we might ask, “What is my child needing right now?”
Children who feel understood develop emotional literacy, and emotional literacy builds resilience.
Warmth and Boundaries Together
Love and limits work best side by side.
Clear, calm boundaries help children feel secure. Repairing after difficult moments, reconnecting and holding close teaches them that big feelings do not threaten belonging. This is how self-regulation begins.
You do not need to do more. You are already nurturing your child’s future through connection, curiosity and care.
And in those everyday moments, confidence quietly grows. Let’s Nurture Futures™ is a unique, bespoke Early Years curriculum, thoughtfully designed by KatieB Kids.
Find out more at www.katiebkids.co.uk
A calm supportive start for you and your baby
The early months can feel overwhelming you don’t have to navigate them alone. Blossom Babies offers fully led sensory classes for babies f rom birth to 13 months, designed to nurture your baby’s development and connect you with other local parents.
A really easy banana bread, with the delicious addition of blueberries and a zesty lime drizzle.
What you will need
100g Butter or Margarine
100g Brown Sugar (or white if that’s what you have in your cupboard)
2 Eggs
2 Bananas
225g Self Raising Flour
100g Blueberries
50g Icing Sugar
1 Lime
You will also need a loaf tin.
What to do:
Mash the bananas up in a small bowl.
Cream the Butter/Margarine and Sugar together until pale and creamy. Add the Egg and mix until combined. Stir in the bananas.
Carefully fold in the flour – try not to overmix. Once combined, stop mixing. Add the blueberries and combine gently.
Grease your loaf tin with a bit of margarine and add a strip of baking paper.
Carefully pour your cake mix into the prepared tin.
Level the mix in the tin. Making a bit of a dip in the middle of the mix will encourage it to bake level.
Bake at 170° Fan (185°) for 30 minutes.
Check the cake is cooked by inserting a skewer into the middle – if it comes back out with mix on it, leave to bake for a few minutes more.
Toward the end of baking, combine the juice of the Lime with the Icing Sugar until smooth, When baked, remove from oven and spoon the Lime Icing mix over the top of the cake.
Leave to cool before removing from the tin.
Enjoy! xxx
Orchard Theatre nears final stages ahead of reopening in December
Over recent months, Dartford Borough Council has delivered major improvements to the Orchard Theatre, including the full removal of RAAC concrete from the roof, upgrades to key areas of the building, and enhanced accessibility for customers. This has been a substantial and highly technical programme and, although the scale of the work has resulted in it taking longer than originally thought, it ensures the theatre will be future-proofed for many years to come.
With many complex elements now complete and a clear programme of remaining works over the coming months, the Council is preparing for a phased handover to Trafalgar Theatres – the venues division of global live entertainment company, Trafalgar Entertainment – at the end of November 2026, with all safety systems fully operational. Some final works will continue into December as the venue moves towards full readiness, but we can now confirm that the Orchard Theatre will reopen with our magical family pantomime Cinderella on Saturday 12 December 2026 with star casting to be announced soon.
Following a meeting of Dartford’s Cabinet on Thursday 22 January, a capital project budget of up to £11.6m has been approved to complete the essential works to the Orchard Theatre, and £330,000 to allow Orchard West to continue providing theatrical performances for Dartford until September this year. The multi-award-winning temporary theatre, opened in 2023, has enabled performances to continue during the works, maintained Dartford’s cultural offer, and safeguarded local theatre-related employment.
To support a smooth handover, a small number of upcoming performances will need to be cancelled. Trafalgar Theatres will contact all affected customers directly.
Jeremy Kite, Leader of Dartford Borough Council, said:
“We’re delighted to be moving into the final stage of this project. Work on our beloved Orchard Theatre has turned into a marathon, not a sprint, but it was essential to address every issue that we’ve encountered, so that we can have a wonderful facility that will serve this town for years ahead. Thank you to residents and theatre-goers for their patience — we’re getting very close to welcoming audiences back later this year.”
Helen Enright, CEO Trafalgar Theatres, said:
“We’re excited to be working towards taking back the keys to the Orchard Theatre and bringing the full range of live entertainment including large scale musicals back to its traditional home in Dartford. The Orchard Theatre is an important part of the community, and we can’t wait to reopen with an outstanding programme, including our much-loved pantomime season. A heartfelt thank you to our customers for their continued support, patience, and understanding, while we’ve been operating Orchard West for the last three years. We look forward to a bright future in our newly enhanced Orchard Theatre which will secure live entertainment in Dartford for many years to come.”
Jim Dickson MP for Dartford
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By Jane Stevenson
Does family history have any relevance now?
Years ago, photographs, diaries, letters and other keepsakes were handed down, through the generations as something to show the development and history of our families.
My own family were great hoarders; consequently, I have birth, death and marriage certificates, dating back to 1790, photos, diaries, written memories and an autograph book, not to mention a number of badges, letters, postcards and other mementos.
Stories my grandparents told me, together with recollections from other family members fuelled my desire to know more about them and to delve deeper into their lives via the popular family history sites. In all honesty, many of the keepsakes I have, have been invaluable in piecing together my family history and satisfying my curiosity to find out more about my ancestors.
My children have their own recollections of their grandparents and wider family, but not the desire to delve deeper into their histories. Due to distance contact with family members wasn’t always practical, so the memories and stories weren’t always passed on.
Times change too.
Families are less likely to function as one large entity –large families less likely to be the norm now. Many people move away to start their own life often far away from the family home. Children are more likely to form relationships with childminders or preschool staff than they are with their own immediate families. That is life.
So, what do I do with items I have carefully kept over the years? In some cases, the paperwork is over two hundred years old. The family tree has over 200 members in it. Understandably, neither of my children are interested in taking over or giving them house room. Their comments, sad, but totally sensible, relate to the lack of relevancy their ancestors have on their own lives. To put it starkly they have no idea who these people are nor the desire to care for the physical items which have no meaning for them.
The history buff in me is aghast! How could they not want
to keep hold of these documents and such? They offer an insight into how our families grew over time. They celebrate the bravery and commitment of some, while showing the hardships past generations had to endure.
Yet the logical side of me is in full agreement with them. Just the sheer number of physical items is enough to deter anyone from taking responsibility for this. Some of the paperwork is very fragile, much of it is written in fading brown ink, in copperplate, making it almost impossible to read. The photographs show unsmiling families in stiff and formal poses. Some images are frankly scary! Why would anyone want to hang onto such stuff in this age of AI, phone cameras and social media?
I have decided to put the medals and badges up for sale, hoping they will find buyers who appreciate their age and history. I made a difficult decision to throw out most of the photos – even those with identified images hold no meaning for me. I still have original D Day media, embroidered postcards from WW1 and 1940s concert programmes. I have a small, silver football trophy dated 1943-44 from when my dad played for a Dartford teambut does anyone remember Assembly (1) being league winners that year?
I do wonder how all this will end. Will we cease to hold family history as important? Will it become a topic best forgotten.
The Japanese have a saying “How you grow up is more important than blood”, so maybe family history isn’t important.
However, in my opinion, such action would be almost criminal. Those before us deserve to be remembered, after all without them, there would be no us!
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River Cruising: The Art of Slow, Immersive Travel
River cruising has evolved into one of the most compelling ways to explore a destination. It combines the convenience of unpacking once with the intellectual and sensory depth of travelling through the heart of a country rather than skimming its coastline. For travellers seeking both ease and enrichment, it represents a highly efficient form of discovery.
1. Geography at Human Scale
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Unlike ocean vessels built for vast distances, river ships are engineered for intimacy. They glide directly through historic centres, docking within walking distance of cathedrals, markets, and cafés. You step off the ship and into the narrative of a place—no long transfers, no industrial ports on the outskirts of town. The landscape unfolds gradually: vineyards replace city skylines, medieval bridges appear at dawn, and church bells carry across the water at dusk. This measured pace allows genuine spatial orientation; you understand how regions connect because you physically traverse them.
2. Effortless Logistics
From an operational standpoint, river cruising removes much of the friction associated with multi-city travel. Accommodation, transport, and dining are consolidated into a single floating base. There is no repetitive packing and unpacking, no railway timetables to manage, no airport transfers to coordinate. The result is cognitive ease—your energy is preserved for engagement rather than administration.
3. Cultural Immersion, Curated
Modern river cruises emphasise structured immersion. Shore excursions are typically small-group and thematically focused: guided architectural walks, culinary tastings, cycling through rural landscapes, or private museum access. The intimacy of vessel size often fosters access to destinations that would be impractical for larger ships. Even onboard programming— lectures, regional menus, language primers—reinforces contextual understanding. You do not merely visit; you interpret.
4. A Social Yet Serene Atmosphere
River vessels carry far fewer passengers than ocean liners, creating a refined social dynamic. Public spaces feel unhurried; panoramic lounges and open sun decks encourage conversation without crowding. There is a quiet camaraderie that develops when guests share both the journey and the vantage point. At the same time, cabins are typically outward-facing with large windows or balconies, ensuring privacy when desired.
5. Scenic Continuity
Perhaps the most distinctive benefit is continuous scenery. On a river cruise, transit is not downtime—it is theatre. Rolling farmland, castle-dotted hills, bustling quaysides, and wildlife habitats pass steadily by. Early mornings are particularly striking: mist lifting from the water, villages stirring to life, vineyards catching the first light. The journey itself becomes the primary attraction.
6. Balanced Indulgence
Culinary standards onboard have risen significantly in recent years. Menus frequently reflect regional produce and traditions, paired with local wines. Service tends to be attentive yet understated. This balance—comfort without excess—enhances the sense of cultivated travel rather than spectacle-driven tourism.
The Excitement Factor
River cruising is not passive. It is dynamic in subtler ways: cycling through riverside villages, sampling wine at the source, locking through centuries-old engineering systems, docking overnight in illuminated city centres. The anticipation of waking up somewhere new—without having physically relocated your belongings—creates a particular kind of thrill.
Ultimately, a river cruise delivers both assurance and discovery. It offers the structural reliability of a well-designed itinerary combined with the spontaneity of ever-changing scenery. For travellers who value immersion, efficiency, and elegance in equal measure, river cruising remains one of the most rewarding ways to see the world. Create lifelong memories with Harden Holidays, contact our team today.
Are you getting a good night’s sleep?
Sleep is a basic human need, just like food and water. We spend about one-third of our lives sleeping. Healthy sleep is just as important as having a good diet and taking regular exercise. It helps the body repair itself, supports brain function, strengthens the immune system, and improves mood.
There are three key parts to good quality sleep.
• Duration means getting enough hours of sleep to feel rested the next day.
• Continuity means sleeping through the night without frequent waking.
• Depth means sleeping deeply enough for the body and brain to recover. Experts say that how well you sleep is often more important than how long you sleep.
Sleep problems are common. Nearly half of the population has difficulties with getting to sleep, staying asleep or have conditions that affect the quality of their sleep. Poor sleep can affect your health. In the short term, it can reduce focus, slow reaction times, and make it harder to learn or remember things. Over time, ongoing sleep problems have been linked to obesity, diabetes, heart disease, weakened immunity, and even certain cancers. Sleep problems are also closely connected to mental health conditions such as depression and anxiety.
Sleep disorders affect not only individuals but also families and workplaces. Many people miss work or make mistakes because of poor sleep. Sleep-related accidents cause thousands of injuries and deaths each year.
Insomnia
Insomnia is one of the most common sleep disorders, affecting 30% to 45% of adults. People with insomnia often struggle to fall asleep or stay asleep. This can lead to daytime tiredness, poor work performance, and a higher risk of accidents. Studies show that people with insomnia are more likely to experience anxiety and depression.
The good news is that most sleep problems can be treated. Simple changes in bedtime habits can make a big difference. Healthy sleep depends on circadian rhythms, which are the body’s natural internal clock. Going to bed and waking up at the same time each day, even at weekends, along with getting natural sunlight during the day, helps keep this rhythm balanced. Avoid napping during the day. Avoid caffeine after early afternoon and avoid alcohol before bed, as this worsens sleep quality. Blue light from screens suppresses melatonin – your sleepy hormone – so put these away around 1 hour before bedtime. Ensure your bedroom is cool, dark and quiet to provide the right environment for sleep.
Try not to stay in bed if you are unable to sleep. After 20 minutes, get up and do something calm in dim light until you feel sleepy. If anxiety or overthinking is keeping you awake, do a brain dump of what is on your mind onto a piece of paper. Try breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation or guided sleep meditation.
Obstructive Sleep Apnoea
Another serious but often undiagnosed condition is obstructive sleep apnoea (OSA). OSA happens when the airway becomes blocked during sleep, causing breathing to stop for short periods (apnoeas). This reduces oxygen levels in the body and puts strain on the heart. OSA can increase the risk of high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke, and diabetes. More importantly, it can increase daytime sleepiness and increase risk of road traffic accidents. People with OSA tend to snore loudly, have short periods when their breathing stops and then gasp as they start breathing again. Your GP can help to determine if this is the likely diagnosis and refer you for expert opinion and treatment.
Anyone who feels very sleepy during the day, snores loudly or gasps at night, or has ongoing sleep problems
Dr Julie Taylor is a GP Partner and Trainer at the Wellcome Practice and the Primary Care Medical Director for Dartford Gravesham and Swanley Health and
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How many words of four letters or more can you make from this Nonagram? Each word must use the central letter, and each letter may be used only once. At least one word using all nine letters can be found. Guidelines:
23 Good; 28 Very Good; 32 Excellent.
Any word found in the Concise Oxford English Dictionary is eligible with the following exceptions: proper nouns; plural nouns, pronouns and possessives; third person singular verbs; hyphenated words; contractions and abbreviations; vulgar slang words; variant spellings of the same word (where another variant is also eligible).
Spell out a 15-letter word or phrase by moving from one chamber to another. You may only enter each chamber once and may only proceed through openings in the walls. The first letter may appear in any of the chambers.
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Ashen Drive Library – 3 rd Thursday of the month 2.30 – 3.30
Fleetdown Library - 2 nd Thursday of the month 2.00 – 3.30
Sutton-at-Hone Library – 2 nd Friday of the month 11.00 – 12.00
Kent Pathways Service Help Desk:
The Kent Pathways Service provide support for people with disabilities become more independent and develop life skills to improve quality of life. To find out more about The Kent Pathways Service please visit: https://www.kent.gov.uk/social-care-andhealth/adult-social-care/care-andsupport/disability/learning-disability/kent-pathwayservice
Dartford Library – Every other Tuesday 10.00 – 12.00
THE WELLBEING LINK
The Wellbeing Link meets on Friday mornings from 10-1pm in the St. Anselm’s Parish Centre, 89 West Hill, Dartford A friendly and informative group is a support group for people with any life affecting health issues from loneliness and isolation to life limiting conditions. - call Julie On 07775875585
Dartford Ostomy Group Support (DOGS) meet every third Wednesday in the month at St Anselm’s Parish Centre, West Hill, Dartford DA1 2HJ from 1.00 pm to 3.00 pm. It is for anyone who has an Ileostomy, Colostomy, Urostomy, IBS and pouch, their carers, family and friends.
ALL DIRECTIONS
is a community learning organisation for adults and young people aged 16+ with physical, learning and mental health difficulties. For more information, attend a taster session or visit our community lunch club, contact Caroline on 01322 837172 or 07570 347612
Bexley and Dartford Branch Parkinsons UK
For people with Parkinsons and their carers. Dartford: 2nd Wednesday of each month, Mick Jagger Centre, 7 -9pm. Information support workers available, guest speakers and quizzes. Contact Wendy Leach. Tel: 02083065973
The North West Kent Branch of the Motor Neurone Disease Association meets on various date at Birchwood Country Club For more information contact Mark – 07966537814
Kindness and Wellbeing Group It’s every Tuesday 9.3011.30am at St Edmund’s church Dartford. We have loads on offer for just £3 per week including a cuppa, crafts and a friendly chat.
WILMARA Wilmington Active Retirement Group.
We are an active retirement group who meet on the third Friday of the month from 2pm till 4pm at the Memorial Hall in Wilmington. Our activities include guest speakers, outings, holidays, theatre trips, tenpin bowling, Petanque, Kurling, indoor sports activities and a lunch club. Please comealong and pay us a visit you will be very welcome! Telephone Membership Secretary.
Wendy Murray 01322 226943
Hawley and Sutton at Hone Active Retirement
Association is a friendly group of retired and semi-retired men and women over 55. We have a monthly meeting on the second Thursday at Sutton at Hone Scout Hut at 1.30pm. Associated activities include petanque, keep fit, short mat bowls, country walks and ten pin bowling. Come along to a meeting [£2 entrance] or call Carol on 07912 564710. You will receive a warm welcome.
WIlmington and Axstane Probus Club
We are a group of retired men who meet monthly for a lunch and a speaker at the Swanley Bowls Centre. We also have a monthly walk and occasional coffee mornings and as a side line we raise money for a local charity. If you are missing the contact with other business men since you retired, why not come and join us on the last Thursday of every month. For more details contact Phil Burt on 01322 274541 or look at our website www.waprobus.com
JARA - Joydens Wood Active Retirement Association
We meet on the first Tuesday of every month at 2pm in the Joydens Wood Community Centre, Birchwood Drive DA2 7NE. Be active, be happy and make new friends with similar interests with events and activities on offer to suit everyone
You are welcome to join in and participate as you wish. Call Delma 01322 556081
Yoga & Meditation Classes
Every Tuesday from 6-7pm at Peppercorns, 3 Orchard Street, Dartford, Kent, DA1 2DF. For more information please call The Hope Group on 07722 629446
Fairfield (Dartford) WI We meet on the second Tuesday of the month at Dartford Girls Grammar School at 7.30pm. Activities include guest speakers, theatre visits and monthly lunches.New members welcome. For more information please call Judith on 01322 278703 Crayford WI Baker Trust Hall Maxim Road, Crayford DA1 4BG 1.30 to 3.30pm 1st Thursday of the month. Phone: Phone: Gloria on 01322 405737 Mobile: 07791353128 for more information
ROTARY CLUB OF
DARTFORD This Club meets at the Royal Victoria and Bull Hotel on the first, second and third Tuesday of every month. Time: 12.45 for 1 pm start. If you would like further details please contact the Secretary on 07706103706.
WOOD ACTIVE RETIREMENT ASSOCIATION
We have a robust activity programme and currently offer over 50 events a year, including monthly membership meetings with entertainment & refreshments, and frequent art classes, short walks, theatre and coast trips, socials, lunch & dinner meals, seasonal events, holidays
Open to new members in the Joydens Wood area and surrounding vicinities. If you are 50 or over, semi-/retired, wish to remain active, and membership is of interest, call or drop us a line: Graham – 01322 528 596 or E-M: membership@joyara.org.uk Or visit our website for more information: www.joyara,org.uk
DARTFORD HISTORICAL & ANTIQUARIAN SOCIETY meets usually on 3rd Friday in the month ( October to May) at the Mick Jagger Centre, Shepherds Lane, Dartford at 7.30 p.m. See website for details.
Hartley Poetry Society If you enjoy reading and/or writing poetry you will be given a warm welcome by this friendly and enthusiastic group. We meet on the first Monday of each month at 7pm at The Pavilion, Punch Croft Road, New Ash Green in the Green Room.We read poems according to a different theme each month and there is also plenty of lively discussion. For further information please phone Kathryn (01474 704058)
DARTFORD LIONS CLUB (CIO)
This club meets at The Hill Hub, 1a Highfield Road, Dartford, DA1 2TJ at 7pm every first Tuesday of the Month.
Like minded volunteers welcome. If you would like further information please contact 07951 822015
Dartford Arts Network (DAN) – is a welcoming community of creatives and a local inclusive arts and culture network serving Dartford. Are you an artist, maker, photographer, writer, or just curious to explore your creative side? Become a member and you can
· Learn/Grow through workshops
· Meet/Collaborate or run your own sessions
· Show your work in exhibitions
· Join group art and community projects
We meet every first Monday of the month at 7:30pm in a cosy atmosphere.
Membership is just £20/year – and worth every spark of inspiration. Get in touch hello@dartfordartsnetwork.com
DARTFORD CHORAL SOCIETY A warm welcome awaits newcomers to Dartford’s oldest choir - established over 100 years ago. We rehearse on Monday evenings between 7.30pm and 9.30pm at The Mick Jagger Centre, Shepherds Lane, from September to June and perform four concerts annually. Just turn up to sample the delights of choral singing! For more information please contact the Chairman, Pat Everington. Tel: 01322 220124.
North Kent Nomads Model Club
Located in Dartford, we have one of the most desirable model flying sites in the country. As a club we have been established since the 1930s. We are multi disciplined, catering for Power, Glider, Electric and Helicopters. We welcome fliers of all skill levels, and offer advice and training for beginners.
For further information, visit us at http://www.nomadsmc. co.uk
For an informal chat, contact Ken on 07515 937 078
Fun Friends Social Groups
Social groups for children and young adults with additional needs aged 7-25. No diagnosis or EHCP necessary. Groups are based in Sidcup, Swanley and Wilmington after school, and on Saturdays - with summer holiday activities, trips, birthday parties and much more throughout the year.
For more information please contact Esther Dawson on 07745036868 or Funfriendsgroups@gmail.com . https://www.facebook.com/funfriendsgroups/ https://instagram.com/ funfriends2017?igshid=tocvdnel5i4f
SCREEMING BANSHEES GOTHIC MORRIS Want to have fun, make friends and get fit? Join our friendly Morris group in Hawley. Dancers and musicians of any age needed - no experience necessary! Find us on Facebook. Contact us at screemingbanshees14@gmail.com for further details.
JOYDENS WOOD GARDENING CLUB – A WARM WELCOME AWAITS YOU
Do you enjoy gardening, nature, and good company?
Whether you’re an experienced gardener or enjoy pottering outdoors, our friendly club offers something for everyone. We meet monthly with guest speakers covering topics like herbs, garden design, and conservation. We also enjoy outings to beautiful gardens, afternoon teas, group meals, and a summer garden party.
Meetings: First Thursday of each month
Venue: St Barnabas Church, Tile Kiln Lane, Bexley, DA5 2BB
Email: jwgardeningclub@gmail.com
Call Chris on: 07938 117389 or 07305 563814
Come along and grow with you.
We are Dartford Active Retirement Association meeting every 2nd Thursday at the Fleetdown Community Centre, Dartford from 2pm-4pm. We are looking for new members retired or semi-retired from the age of 55 to join us, we enjoy a range of activities including, art, tea and cake, short mat bowls and holidays .At our Thursday monthly meetings we have either a speaker or singer to entertain us.
Please contact membership secretary, Mel Foster on 01322 227519 for more information.
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On the Road
By Dhiren Ganesh
In this month’s edition we have 3 new electric models, coming to the UK this year from East Asia.
Hyundai Staria MPV - Hyundai will launch the fully electric Staria MPV in the UK in late 2026, replacing the hybrid versions sold elsewhere with an 84kWh battery and a 215bhp front-mounted motor. It targets rivals such as the Kia PV5 and Volkswagen ID Buzz. The Staria is expected to deliver around 249 miles of range and support rapid 10–80% charging in about 20 minutes, along with vehicle to load capability. Two versions will be offered in Europe — a seven seat Luxury and a nine seat Wagon — though UK specs remain unconfirmed. Inside, it features dual 12.3 inch displays and wireless smartphone integration. Prices are not confirmed but could start from £50,000.
New Geely EX2 - arriving in the UK in summer 2026 from around £20,000, will join the growing small EV segment as Geely’s smallest UK model. Known as the Xingyuan in China—where it was the best selling car of 2025—it will rival the Renault 5, MG4 Urban, Kia EV2, Cupra Raval, Skoda Epiq and VW ID Polo. Expected battery options mirror the Chinese version: 30kWh with a 78bhp motor and 193 mile CLTC range, or 40kWh with 114bhp and 255 miles. Inside, it features a 14.6in touchscreen, 8.8in digital display, 375 litre boot and a 75 litre frunk.
Chery Lepas - Chery has confirmed that Lepas will become its fourth brand in the UK, launching later in 2026. Designed for Europe, Lepas will focus on plug in hybrid and fully electric models, with its name combining “leopard”, “leap” and “passion.” Initial UK models are unconfirmed, but reports suggest the L4 and L6 SUVs— closely related to the Jaecoo 5, Omoda 5 and Omoda 7—will arrive first, offering combustion, plug in hybrid and electric options. Lepas’s styling resembles Chery’s Tiggo line, though future Tiggo models will adopt chunkier styling to differentiate the brands. Chery’s existing UK brands saw strong sales in 2025, achieving 2.65% market share.
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Why person-to-person therapy still matters
By Louise Garner, MBACP Integrative Counsellor
I’ve recently found a few clients mentioning that they have turned to AI platforms to seek guidance when they’ve felt low.
Artificial intelligence is now part of everyday life, including the way people seek information and support for their mental health. Apps and AI tools can be useful for learning about emotions, tracking moods, or prompting self-reflection. They can be convenient and easy to access. However, while AI can play a supportive role, it cannot replace the value of real human therapy.
Therapy is not just about techniques or advice. It is built on a relationship between two people. Sitting with a trained professional who is fully present allows for a level of understanding that technology cannot offer. A human therapist can hear hesitation in a voice, notice changes in body language, and respond to emotions as they arise. These moments matter, especially when someone is sharing difficult or painful experiences.
Working with a person also provides safety and responsibility. Therapists follow ethical guidelines, protect confidentiality, and are trained to respond when someone is distressed or at risk. They can adjust their approach in real time and take responsibility for the care they provide. AI systems do not hold this responsibility and cannot offer genuine care, even if their responses seem supportive.
Another important aspect of person-to-person therapy is being truly seen and heard. Many struggles—such as grief, trauma, anxiety, or shame—are eased through connection. Being understood by another human without judgment can help rebuild trust, self-confidence, and a sense of belonging. This kind of healing comes from relationship, not from automated responses.
This does not mean AI has no place in mental health support. It can be helpful for education, self-help tools, or as an additional resource alongside therapy. Used in this way, it may lower barriers and encourage people to seek help. What matters is recognising its limits and not expecting it to replace human connection.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or alone with your thoughts, reaching out to a professional can make a real difference. Speaking with a qualified counsellor or therapist gives you the chance to explore what you are experiencing in a safe and supportive space.
Please do reach out for help if you need to talk. Counselling Directory and BACP can be a good place to start
DARTFORD CHORAL SOCIETY
Come and join us for a Spring concert with a distinctly Italian theme, highlighting Pergolesi's Stabat Mater and Vivaldi's Magnificat. Popular opera choruses also feature, alongside other musical gems, and the evening promises a stimulating mix of the serious and the light-hearted. The concert takes place at St Michael's Church, Wilmington at 7.30pm on Saturday, 28 March. Tickets cost £15 on the door (£6 for students). Advance tickets booked on line cost £12 (5 for students). Enjoy refreshments during the interval. See you there!
If you enjoy singing please come and join us. We rehearse on Monday evenings at The Mick Jagger Centre, Shepherds Lane, between 7.30pm and 9.30pm September to June. Just turn up and give us a try. A warm and friendly welcome awaits. For more information please contact the chairman, Pat Everington - Tel: 01322 220124.
Local Sports and Fitness Groups
Dartford and White Oak Triathlon club
We are the local British Triathlon Federation Club covering Bexley, Dartford and Swanley. We offer coached swimming sessions 3 times per week at White oak pool in Swanley and Fairfield pool in Dartford. Our members compete in many local Triathlons plus many members are training towards Iron Man distance. We also have our own Triathlon in June every year which has been running since 1989. If you are interested in joining us then please visit our website http://www.dartfordandwhiteoaktri.co.uk
Kent Exiles American Football Club
www.kentexiles.co.uk.
Coach Martin - 07944 730634. All ages from 7 years to adult welcome
Dartford Road Runners
Dartford Road Runners are based at Princes Park Stadium and are one of the biggest road running clubs in Kent. We currently have about 200 members of all abilities including a beginners group. DRR teams compete in the Kent League, the Assembly League and the Kent Fitness League. To see what we offer and how to join us please visit our website – anyone is welcome to join us with all abilities.
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Dartford Harriers Athletics Club
Dartford Harriers is among the leading athletics clubs in Kent, with a history stretching back to the 1920’s, making it one of the oldest clubs in the country. If you are interested in seeing how we can help you advance your Athletics then please visit our website www.dartfordharriersac.co.uk
Central Park Athletics Club
We are situated in Dartford’s outstanding Central Park and can provide access to a state of the art running track (re-laid in 2015) and the full range of track and field facilities for just £4.50 per session (we offer discounted annual memberships). Refreshments and changing facilities are also available. For no extra charge, we hold coached track sessions on Wednesday evenings for runners of all abilities.
For more information please visit our website centralparkathletics.co.uk
Ashes Badminton Club
meets every Monday 7.30pm – 9.15pm at Dartford Science and Technology College. We are a sociable nonleague club and would welcome new players age 18 and over. Call 07764 182854 for more information
CPA Swifts
Every Sunday 10-11am – Child friendly coached sessions – Come and join the CPA Swifts – As a fledgling club we would like to give children of all ages and abilities the chance to experience training and coaching within a club
environment – come and be part of the team Free first session with this advert
So Let’s go Running (SLGR)
SLGR is a local running club with structured training sessions designed to improve runners speed and stamina.
The runs available are the free session at 7pm meeting at The Dart, Chastilian Road, DA1 3JJ for 5 and 8k runs every Tuesday. Open to everyone and suitable for all abilities including beginners. We have run couch to 5k before covid and hope to do another in the Spring. Our affiliated club meets on Thursdays and Sundays and is also fully inclusive of all abilities.
You can find more information on our website teamslgr. com or email us at slgr.contact@gmail.com
DARTFORD JU JITSU CLUB
Mondays 7-8pm for 7-16s at the Dartford Girls Grammar, Shepherds Lane Dartford DA1 2NT in the Dance Studio. We have an adult class 8-10pm too.
We’ve been running for 20 years, building confidence, teaching self-defence, hardening the target, developing skills and always welcome new members.
Dartford Gymnastics
Based in Heath Lane, we are a friendly club with super equipment, great coaches and high standards. We do lots of competitions and we do not close through the holidays!
Visit our website www.dartfordgymnastics.co.uk for full details or contact Linda on 01322 409312 or emaildartfordgymclub@yahoo.co.uk
Dartford Hockey Club
We are a welcoming hockey club for women of all abilities. Whether you’re new to the sport or an experienced player, you’ll find a friendly environment here. We are committed to making hockey accessible to everyone, so we do not charge a membership fee. Join us for fun, fitness, and friendship on and off the field!
For further information visit our website www. dartfordhockeyclub.co.uk
Instagram @dartfordhockey
Learn karate with Yamato Damashii – for adults & children
Every Wednesday evening at the Leigh Academy & every Saturday morning at Becket Sport Centre, first lesson free.
For more info, visit www.ydma.club or find us on Facebook, search for Yamato Damashii Martial Arts.
Dartford Junior Chess Club
Wednesdays from 6:30 - 8:00 pm at The Mick Jagger Centre.
The focus of the lessons will be learning and improving
the game of chess along with play and fun activitiessuitable for beginners and intermediate levels. Lessons are tailored to the strength of children attending, so you will always be taught what is best for you!
We accept juniors aged 5-18, for more information and register visit: www.dartfordchess.com
Hesketh Park Bowling Club
Park Road, Dartford DA1 1ST Open from: April-September Come along and have a go at bowls. Tel: Julie 01322 229886 www.heskethparkbowlingclub.org
No Strings Badminton sessions, Tuesdays
Juniors (£6 per player) 5:30-6:30pm
Adults (£8.50 per player) 6:30-8:30pm Cash or card payments. At Beckets sports centre, DA1 2JB. All abilities, ages and solo players welcome, but direct 1:1 coaching is not able to be given.
Seeds Cycling Club Dartford
Seeds is a long-established cycling Club in Dartford and we share our headquarters at Hesketh with Dartford Cricket Club. We cater for most abilities and have a social ride most Saturday mornings. For info on joining us please visit our website www.seedscycling.co.uk
WALKING TENNIS GROUP
Finding it difficult to play social tennis? Please come to Bexley Lawn Tennis Club and give walking tennis a try. A much slower paced game with a great group of people who don’t take it seriously. Wednesdays 12.30-2pm. Contact: colleenmedcraft@yahoo.co.uk.
Dartford Parkrun
Dartford parkrun is a free to enter 5k run every Saturday morning starting by the Dartford harriers track in Central Park at 9am. All participants get a time a position emailed and texted after the event. To register go to www.parkrun.org.uk. Remember to bring your printed Barcode.
Every Sunday Morning in the Park there is a Junior parkrun over 2k
Wheelchair Epee Fencing
Wheelchair epee fencing in Dartford and Gravesham, we are delighted to announce that New Ash Green Epee club, can now introduce wheelchair fencing. If interested in taking up this para sport please contact us on 01474 871484 or alternatively look at our website www. nagfencing.eu
ENERGY FITNESS AND NUTRITION
I run group fitness classes as well as 1-1 and semi private personal training sessions in Darenth at Dimples Day Nursery DA2 7HT. ENERGY Fitness & Nutrition: we offer a wide variety of group classes such as strength
& conditioning, boot camps, Boxercise, mum and baby classes, inside and outside classes with great equipment and suitable for all abilities. The website is www.energyfitnut.co.uk
WEST KENT ROAD CLUB
We are an established cycling club that has set up an easy paced led ride on Friday mornings. Anyone who is new to cycling or who is returning to cycling is welcome as is any type of roadworthy bike or ebike. We meet at the Wilmington Memorial Hall, Wilmington at Meet at: 09:15. Depart at: 09:30. If you would like further information, please visit our club website: http://wkrc.org.uk/ “contact us” option and complete the contact form there.
We also run longer rides on Wednesday and Sunday mornings, please see our website for details if interested: http://wkrc.org.uk/
DANCING IN LINE
Every Tuesday, Goodman Dance Centre, Market Street DA1 IEY, 10:30 am, £9
POWER YOGA
Every Tuesday, Jubilee Hall, Horton Rod, South Darenth DA4 9AX, 19:30, £10
DANCE FITNESS
Every Thursday, St Anselms Parish Centre, West Hill DA1 2HJ, 19:30, £8
More information: www.dancegeneration.co.uk
Curtain Up on March
Poetry Corner
By Local Resident Brogan Watt
I have always lived in the Bexleyheath- Dartford area. I worked in Dartford for a long time at the Masonic hall at the top of West Hill and at the train station too. I also use Dartford to run around for my runs and enjoy the area. I now attend a writers group, and we meet in Dartford. I have been delighted to be accepted for the marathon and attended the Dartford parkruns the last two weeks.
Parkrun was the start
I loved the support
Encouraged to take part
Easier than I thought
The email is here
I’ve got a space
This is the year
It’s time to race
The date is set
I’ve started to run
No time to fret
Just time for fun
Six months to go
Time to knuckle down
Routines to follow
Not hang around
No money to raise
I’m running free
Counting the days
Lucky for me
Trainers feel great
Feeling my stride
I just cannot wait
Buzzing with pride
Eating good food
Plenty of sleep
Increases my mood
No time to be weak
My body is a machine
An important tool
Got to eat clean
And food is my fuel
It’s in the endorphins
What’s all the fuss?
Chasing the feelings
The runner’s buzz
The weather is bad
Hard when it’s cold
No time to be sad
It’s time to be bold
I have to prepare
Don’t want to get hurt
Muscles to repair
Energy to exert
No personal best
Just want to take part
Got my running vest
Let’s get to the start
A smile on my face
The speed I’m Maintaining
It’s essential to pace
Sprints are for training
I’ve heard you hit ‘The Wall’
Run out of energy
You have to stand tall
And breathe more regularly
Training is key
Twenty miles complete
Most will agree
To stay on your feet
A sensory overload
I’ve heard the stories
You’re in runner’s mode
Let’s celebrate the glory
The few days before
Carb-loading pasta dinner
Lots of energy to store
Time to be a winner
The crowd is cheering
Emotions are high
The end is nearing
I think I might cry
Physically exhausting
An adrenaline rush
Appreciate the supporting
In Brogan we trust
"What do you think of Brogan's poem? Have you written something relating to our Borough? Get in touch with your thoughts: poetry@dartfordliving.com
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