Introduction to the World of Teaching
Section 1
First Meeting With Chosson
Structure of the Meeting
1: First meeting
Getting acquainted
Introduction
Arrangements
Proper outlook
Motivation
1: First meeting
Getting Acquainted Getting to know the chosson
1: First meeting
Getting Acquainted Introducing yourself
Your name
Number of years married
How many children
Where you live
Your professional training
1: First meeting
Getting Acquainted Chosson introducing himself
Ask thoughtful questions
Display interest and initiate conversation
In casual and relaxed manner
Getting Acquainted
1: First meeting
Examples of topics to discuss: What’s your name?
Where are you from?
Where will you be until the wedding?
Tell me a little about your upbringing
When and where is the wedding?
Be considerate if the chosson is shy and not ready to share so much
1: First meeting
Introduction Basic introduction to learning together
Introduction
1: First meeting
Presenting the three general topics
Halachos of Taharas Hamishpacha
Shalom Bayis
Marital Intimacy
Introduction
1: First meeting
Steps of the learning
Learning the material together Independent review from the booklet
2
1
Filling out worksheets and charts
Written test to receive certification of readiness for marriage
3
1: First meeting
Introduction Important points about the learning
Tailored for the couple
Halachic standard
Engaging lessons
Stay in touch
Introduction
1: First meeting
Ethics of Chosson Teacher
Making him feel comfortable
Being open to questions
Explaining well
Two-sided conversations
Being available
Arrangements
1: First meeting
Learning arrangements
Timing of lessons
Punctuality
Payment
1: First meeting
Proper outlook Topics of discussion: It’s not good for a person to be alone The Jewish view on marriage Marriage brings a person to fulfill their life purpose The couple unites as one unit You’re getting married to give and not (just) to get
Motivation
1: First meeting
Practical facts about marriage Central points: Good vs. bad marriages
2
1
33% Pulling through
Three thirds-of-the-pie
What factors make the difference?
3
33% Divorced
Motivation
1: First meeting
How to change our preconceived notions and mindsets
Study
Effort
Thinking patterns Knowledge
Application
Behavior patterns