Control Drama & Conflict Style

COMMON CONFLICT STYLES & CONTROL DRAMAS COMPETING [INTIMIDATOR] “My way or the highway” “Might makes right” My Way - Forcer Win/Lose FIGHT SHARK Willing to use force when needed Underlying Message “I’m OK, you’re not OK.” One’s power, position or strength settles the conflict Common Actions/Behavior Will take quick action Often has to make unpopular decisions Works with vital issues Acts as protection Attempts direct confrontation Will push others to change Competing Skills Has the ability to argue or debate Will use rank or influence Will share opinions openly Stands their ground States their position clearly Overuse of Competing Lack of feedback from others Reduced learning in group setting Low empowerment Surrounded by “yes people” Under Use of Competing Restricted influence Indecision by others Others will be slow to act Others’ contributions will be withheld