CODE M MAGAZINE 2026 March Issue

WHY MEN DON’T PURSUE WOMEN ANYMORE

TRANSFORMING THE LIVES OF MEN SUPPLEMENTS THAT CHANGE THE GAME

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COOKING WITH CHEF KOLBY KASH FOODS THAT HELP MANAGE ADHD

MARCH 2026

PUBLISHERS NOTE THE MONTH OF LUCK AND DISCIPLINE

What many people call luck is actually discipline showing up over time. It’s the early mornings, the uncomfortable self-reflection, the consistency when no one is watching. Luck is simply what the world names when preparation finally meets opportunity.

In my own journey, moments that appeared “lucky” from the outside were anything but accidental. After setbacks that forced me to pause and reevaluate my life, discipline became my foundation. I had to recommit to growth, to accountability, and to becoming someone prepared for what was next.

When doors eventually opened into media, entrepreneurship, and the creation of Code M Magazine, it didn’t feel like chance. It felt earned.

Our history echoes this truth. As Black and Brown men, we’ve never survived or thrived on luck alone. We’ve relied on discipline passed down through generations: resilience, faith, work ethic, and the refusal to quit even when the odds were stacked against us.

Luck may open the door, but discipline keeps you in the room.

This month, I encourage you to ask yourself:
Are you building habits that support the future you want?
Are you disciplined enough to be ready when your moment arrives?

My hope is that this issue reminds you that your success won’t come by chance it will come by choice.

Stay ready. Stay focused. Your moment is closer than you think.

COOKING WITH CHEF KOLBY KASH

Master Chef winner Kolby Kash talks about the joy of cooking and

how you can learn to cook using his recipes.

18 MOVERS AND SHAKERS

Get to know people who are making a difference in their careers and changing the world!

21 MAN CODES

Spring to life.

24 DINING ON A LEGACY

Akin Affrica uses the legacy of his parents and introduces his thirteenth

restaurant, Sazani Oceana, which brings elevated seafood to Shaker Square and the Eastside of Cleveland.

24 SUPPLEMENTS THAT CHANGE THE GAME

Driven by a desire for proactive wellness, Americans take large quantities of dietary supplements primarily to maintain and improve overall health fill nutritional gaps, boost immunity, and address specific health concerns. Here are some of the best supplements on the market today.

32 THE 2025 CODE M MAN OF THE YEAR

The 2025 Man of the Year photo gallery captures the incredible event to salute Attorney Ben Crump for his

Prepare to embark on this journey of turning over a new leaf- literally and figuratively. As the seasons change, so do our workout routines. Just like that trusty flannel shirt that's begging to come out of hibernation, your body is ready to shed its old layers and embrace new challenges. We're about to unveil the secrets to seamlessly transitioning your fitness game from the carefree days of summer to the cozy embrace of fall.

efforts and accomplishments throughout his career.

30 FOODS THAT HELP MANAGE ADHD

If you have ADHD use these techniques to create more focus, calmer energy, and fewer crashes that will allow your brain to function better.

36 MORE THAN A BOOK

In this gripping thriller, truth and justice are called into question when a Black man is gunned down in cold blood the first novel in a riveting series from renowned civil rights attorney Ben Crump.

38 CODE M BEAUTY

Amazing women are refining what it means to be sexy.

BEAUTY IS SKIN DEEP

In a world where showing skin has become the norm, men are looking deeper to find a connection for a more meaningful relationship.

45 WHY MEN DON’T WANT TO PURSUE WOMEN ANYMORE

After hearing that women are happily independent, not willing to do 50/50, and he must parent children the that do not belong to them, with no authority, men are choosing peace over the process of finding a girlfriend or wife.

64 BLESSED AND HIGHLY FAVORED

Grey’s Anatomy star, James Pickens, discusses his battle with cancer, his upbringing in Cleveland, Ohio, and his amazing 22-year run on his outstanding television show.

70 THE DIVINE 9

Get to know people who are making a difference in their organizations and in their careers

72 THE POWER OF PROPS AND BACKDROPS

Using the proper props and backgrounds can takes photos to the next level for the models and viewing audience.

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SHAKERS

DR. EDDIE L. HACKLER

Dr. Eddie L. Hackler is a 20
year United States Marine Corps veteran whose career reflects a lifelong commitment to leadership, education, and service. After retiring from active duty, Dr. Hackler continued his mission of developing leaders by transitioning into education and instructional design within the federal government, where he supports learning initiatives that strengthen organizational effectiveness and professional growth.

Dr. Hackler serves as an Adjunct Professor at Marine Corps University, where he brings real
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environment, mentoring and educating current and future military leaders. His teaching emphasizes critical thinking, ethical leadership, and the practical application of theory to complex, real
world challenges.

As an Instructional Systems Specialist for the Federal Government, Dr. Hackler specializes in creating learner
centered, evidence
based education and training solutions that align with pedagogical and andragogical learning principles and organizational goals. His work bridges policy, pedagogy, and performance.

DR. LEIA’ LOVE

Dr. Leia' Love is a transformation pioneer and leading authority in 3D areola tattooing, restorative beauty, and entrepreneurship-driven business growth.

With over two decades in the beauty industry and 13+ years as a salon owner, she's known for pairing elite artistry with a higher standard of care where precision, cultural relevance, and compassion meet.

As a visionary beauty healer, Leia' turns scars into stories of survival and mirrors into monuments of self-love. She fuses faith, artistry, and strategy to restore what surgery, struggle, and society tried to steal: confidence, dignity, and the courage to feel whole again. Holding multiple degrees and specialized certifications, she sets the bar for trauma-aware restorative services that help women feel reconnected with their bodies. She is the Founder of Leia' Love Salon and the nonprofit Leia' Love Spark Beauty Fund, expanding access to restorative care for survivors and underserved communities.

Beyond the studio, she is a sought-after speaker, educational platform artist for Loreal- Matrix Professional Hair, board member and volunteer.

LONNIE D. SLOAN

For Lonnie D. Sloan, success is measured by the strength of the community, not just a financial portfolio. A lifelong Clevelander and CPA, Sloan holds a bachelor's in accounting and a Master of Accountancy both from Case Western Reserve's Weatherhead School of Management. After years as an executive at two Fortune 500 banks, he pivoted from corporate finance to local empowerment.

Sloan currently serves as Controller of E.F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home, a cornerstone of the Black community for over 120 years. By managing the finances of this historic institution, he ensures the longevity of a business that has provided dignity to generations of Clevelanders.

A product of the Cleveland public school system he attended John Adams and graduated from John F. Kennedy High School. Sloan's loyalty is unwavering.

He serves as Treasurer for the JFK High School Alumni Association and sits on the board of the Northeast Ohio Community Resilience Centre.

His commitment is hands-on, from fortifying neighborhood initiatives to mentoring students through the Dickens Reads program.

Hospitals save lives, Leia' helps women love the life they survived for-setting a new standard for restoration.

Guided by the conviction that "no one is coming to save us, but us," Sloan embodies the Cleveland spirit: resilient, dedicated, and profoundly committed to the self-reliance of his city and its people.

MAN CODES: SPRING TO LIFE

“It’s spring again. I can hear the birds sing again. See the flowers start to bud. See young people fall in love.” - Lou Rawls

“If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome." - Anne Bradstreet

“No matter how long the winter, spring is sure to follow.”

– African Proverb

“Trees still grow after letting dead things go.” - Darnell Lamont Walker

“Flowers always make people better, happier, and more hopeful; they are sunshine, food, and medicine to the soul.” - Luther Burbank

“Spring is nature’s way of saying, ‘Let’s party.'” - Robin Williams

“Flowers are always beautiful, but there is something un-

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matched about spring flowers an awakening, a renewal that fills the air with surreal harmonies of love and joy.” - Bhuwan Thapaliya

“Spring. March fans it, April christens it, and May puts on its jacket and trousers.” - Henry David Thoreau

“I am thankful that in a troubled world no calamity can prevent the return of spring.” - Helen Keller

“An optimist is the human personification of spring.” - Susan J. Bissonette

Hose 6:3 –“Let us acknowledge the Lord; let us press on to acknowledge him.

As surely as the sun rises, he will appear; he will come to us like the winter rains, like the spring rains that water the earth.” (NIV)

DINING ON A LEGACY

Akin Affrica uses the legacy of his parents and introduces his thirteenth restaurant, Sazani Oceana, which brings elevated seafood to Shaker Square and the Eastside of Cleveland.

FROM

Written by DAVID CHRISTEL

David has been ghostwriting books for well-known people since 1995. He is also the author of Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be.

TThey say the apple does not fall far from the tree. For Akin Affrica, the pancake, the lobster, the crabcake, and any other thing he serves at one of his thirteen restaurants does not fall from the tree either.

Affrica is living in his legacy. Born to his father, who was one of Cleveland’s first Black hotel owners, and his mother, who opened Angie’s Soul Food.

“I was born to two incredible parents. I was born in the hotel that my father owned and was raised there until I was close to being an adult,” Affrica said. “Then I also saw my mother open her own restaurant, so I knew growing up that I would always be an entrepreneur because I watched my parents do it at an elevated level.” Affrica’s parents also surrounded him with the buzz of Cleveland.

“When I was growing up in the Carnegie Hotel, we would always have famous or important people stop by to either stay in our hotel or try my mom’s food. So, I got exposed to success at a very early age. And I got a chance to meet everyone.” Affrica said.

From the Temptations to Muhammad Ali Affrica got bit by the bug of working for himself and doing it at a very high level.

Sazani Oceana, his thirteenth restaurant, opens in March 2026 introduces a brand-new concept to the Eastside of Cleveland, and a new place to dine on amazing seafood at Cleveland’s Shaker Square.

One would think this is a bold move for a business owner.

The Eastside of Cleveland is not known for this kind of cuisine. But if you know Affrica, this is nothing new. He owns three other thriving restaurants in Shaker Square. Zanzibar Soul Fusion, Cleveland Breakfast Club, and the Vegan Club. Along with that, he owns Angie’s Soul Café, which has several locations. He also owns two restaurants in Columbus, Ohio, which focuses on Barbeque.

Each restaurant offers a different spin on the food they serve and the experience it offers, which means you never get the same thing at any of the restaurants. And each experience is on purpose. From the menu to the décor, down to the plates, each restaurant has its own flavor, pun intended.

“We go through much detail to make sure that you enjoy everything when you walk into one of our locations,” Affrica said. “I do not do this alone; my team is very good at creating an elevated dining experience.”

For Sazani Oceana the goal was simple: create a world-class seafood restaurant that also provides value for the community it serves. Affrica is from the Eastside and wanted to make a point by putting the restaurant there. With the Westside of Cleveland leading, in some respects, of exquisite dining, Affrica made it a point to deliver on the promise of creating more than a seafood menu; he wants people to come back as often as possible.

“We intentionally made the price point for Sazani Oceana affordable because we want people to experience our food as often as possible. Not just for holidays or birthdays,” Affrica said.

Often, expensive restaurants will become known as places to visit on special occasions, but for him, he knows his audience and those who live around the Shaker Square area, the business is built to cater to that crowd.

Shaker Square sits in a unique position. It is an amazing, diverse neighborhood where the rich, poor, Black, and white live in harmony. The area is walkable for the community with ample parking all around. It also sits on the City of Cleveland’s rapid rail station (RTA),

which can bring people from all over the city. On the weekends, the community closes the street and hosts a fresh foods market. The area reminds you of what America used to be.

Affrica relishes in the fact that he gets to eat and dine at all his different locations. He literally has something for everyone.

The Cleveland Breakfast Club is a fun breakfast restaurant that offers some of the best pancakes in the city.

“I have a sweet tooth, and I tell you, we offer the best tasting breakfast foods anywhere in the city,” Affrica said.

And he is not wrong; people travel to come and experience each establishment that is in Shaker Square.

If you are a vegan, there is also something for you. The Vegan Club offers a Wagyu Burger that will make you want to come back for more. Nothing is frozen at any of Affrica’s restaurants, and there is no microwave.

“We make everything fresh. Even our croutons are made in-house.” If this article makes you hungry, you are not alone. So, eat and be happy. ●

CLE STRONG

SUPPLEMENTS THAT CHANGE THE GAME

Driven by a desire for proactive wellness, Americans take large quantities of dietary supplements primarily to maintain and improve overall health fill nutritional gaps, boost immunity, and address specific health concerns. Here are some of the best supplements on the market today.

By Leslie Logan

For anyone who has experienced life after forty understands the importance of maintaining a quality of lifestyle that allows them to stay as youthful as possible. The process of staying young includes a healthy diet, exercise, and a wellplanned supplement regimen.

Approximately 58% to 75% of American adults take dietary supplements, with usage reaching up to 86% in some surveys. Use increases with age, peaking at over 80% for women aged sixty and older.

Driven by a desire for proactive wellness, many use them for energy and sleep, though few are doctor-recommended.

Key reasons for the high consumption of supplements in the U.S. include:

• Preventive Health & Wellness: Most users view supplements as essential to their daily health regimen, aimed at preventing future health problems rather than treating existing deficiencies.

• Filling Nutritional Gaps: Many believe their diet lacks sufficient nutrients, leading them to use supplements as a safety net to ensure they are getting "enough".

• Targeted Health Goals: Specific, common reasons include enhancing immunity (especially during cold season), improving energy levels, and supporting heart or bone health.

• Cultural "Vitamania": A long-standing, nearly century-old narrative suggests that vitamins are necessary, magical, and natural, causing Americans to be "obsessed" with them.

• Aging Population & Lifestyle: Older adults often attribute them to age-related concerns, such as joint or eye health. Furthermore, those with active lifestyles may use them for performance.

• Lack of Medical Supervision: Less than a quarter of supplement users consult a healthcare provider before starting, meaning many products are taken based on personal research or marketing rather than medical necessity.

• Misconceptions & Marketing: Many believe more is better, not realizing that for people with a balanced diet, most supplements are not necessary.

While many Americans believe supplements are crucial, research indicates that for most, they are not necessary if they maintain a balanced diet. Clever marketing and social media support push the value of the

Supplements and vitamins fill the void in most peoples diets who are looking to be healthy.

idea of taking supplements, and with little to no side effects, most do not see any harm in attempting to take something that might have a positive impact on their health.

Americans spend over $60 billion annually on dietary supplements, with estimates often ranging between $30 billion and $70 billion depending on the scope of products included (e.g., vitamins, sports nutrition, botanicals). On average, consumers spend about $510 annually on these products.

With that kind of money spent, it can get confusing on what you should take, how much you should take, and where you should buy it. The answers are wide-ranging. Depending on your lifestyle, body type, and budget, the answers can change. However, most people are looking for the same thing when taking supplements. They want to maintain a quality of health that will allow them to still be young.

Here are some of the basic vitamins and supplements that are the most popular:

Key Supplements for Over 40

• Vitamin D & Calcium: Crucial for bone density, which decreases after age 40, and essential for preventing osteoporosis.

• Omega-3 Fatty Acids (Fish Oil): Fights inflammation, supports heart health, and helps brain function.

• Magnesium: Supports over three hundred bodily processes, including sleep, muscle function, and energy production.

• Vitamin B12: Necessary for red blood cell formation and cognitive function; absorption decreases with age.

• Collagen: Supports skin hydration and elasticity as natural collagen production declines.

• Coenzyme Q10 (CoQ10): Helps with cellular energy production, which may decline after 40.

• Probiotics: Essential for digestive health and strengthening the immune system.

• Fiber: Helps manage cholesterol levels, stabilize blood sugar, and support digestive health.

Gender-Specific Considerations

• Women: Focus on calcium, vitamin D, and sometimes iron to manage bone health and nutrient losses.

• Men: Often benefit from saw palmetto for prostate health and creatine for maintaining muscle mass.

For those who are serious about turning back the clock, they use a variety of supplements to increase or maintain their lifestyle. Many supplements are approved by the Federal Drug Administration (FDA), however, because of their historic value, they are allowed to claim that they can do whatever they market.

BE CAREFUL WHEN CHOOSING

Supplements vary drastically in quality, bioavailability, and purity because they are not strictly regulated by the FDA, leading to differences in ingredient quality, testing, and potential contaminants. High-quality, third-party tested products (e.g., USP, NSF) ensure label accuracy, whereas cheaper options may use synthetic forms, fillers, or lower-potency ingredients.

Being informed is the best policy when it comes to buying supplements. Prices vary, quality varies, and the amounts they recommend you take vary. You can think you are taking a supplement at the right dosage, but get poor results. With so many different kinds of brands, it is hard to know who or which product works.

Manufacturers can add a "USP Verified" mark to their labelling when their dietary supplement ingredients or finished products meet the program's testing and auditing criteria. The mark indicates to purchasers that the ingredients or products meet program specifications.

Because of this, it is recommended that you pay attention to where you purchase supplements and review any ratings to help determine if the company you choose has positive feedback.

It is recommended that you speak with your physician before taking anything. Many products and supplements impact the medications prescribed by doctors. So, it is always advised that you consult with a professional before you begin a new supplement. If you do not have a doctor, a dietician can help or any clinical specialist might be able to provide guidance when determining the best route to take.

Looking good has never been more accessible with so many different options in the marketplace. If you desire to aid your health by taking a supplement or vitamin, make sure that you do your homework and pay attention to your body. It will tell you if the supplement is working or not.

In the end, there is no substitute for a good, balanced diet and robust, active lifestyle. Running, working out, and good rest will always be the best form of medicine there is. ●

FOODS THAT HELP MANAGE ADHD

If you have ADHD use these techniques to create more focus, calmer energy, and fewer crashes that will allow your brain to function better.

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he truth is, no superfood, supplement, or magic breakfast cures stress, distractions, or that wired but exhausted feeling that creeps in by mid-afternoon. However, food does influence how stable your energy feels, how sharp your thinking stays, and how hard you crash when things go wrong.

Most eating habits are not bad because they are not wildly unhealthy. They don't feel good because it makes the nervous system feel like it is on a daily rollercoaster.

Blood sugar will spike, then the energy drops, stress hormones are constantly switched on, and focus comes and goes in short, unreliable bursts.

So our aim here is to understand your regulation, and that starts with how you fuel your body across the day.

Stimulation Is Not Stability

Modern eating is built around stimulation. Sugar, refined carbs, energy drinks, caffeine on an empty stomach. They work, briefly. You feel alert, focused, and switched on.

So what's really happening here?

When the blood sugar rises very quickly, insulin follows just as rapidly, which causes the energy to dip. Our stress hormone cortisol steps in to compensate. That is when irritability, fogginess, restlessness, and sudden hunger appear and over time, this pattern trains your nervous system to stay on edge.

You are simply coasting.

Regulated eating looks quieter, slower, and less exciting. But it lasts. Here’s a guide to how.

Protein Anchors the System

Protein has been marketed as the gym’s best friend for building muscle. However, it is one of the most under-appreciated tools for steadier energy and mental clarity. It slows digestion, steadies blood sugar, and provides amino acids that your brain uses to build neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin. That matters for motivation, focus, mood, and emotional control.

Adding eggs to breakfast instead of relying on toast alone. Choose yoghurt with nuts rather than cereal. Making sure lunch includes chicken, fish, tofu, beans, or lentils. Reaching for a boiled egg or a handful of nuts instead of something sweet when energy dips..

Fats That Help You Slow Down

Dietary fat has been misunderstood for years. In reality, it helps meals last longer, slows glucose release, and supports the structure of brain cells involved in signalling and communication.

Omega-3 fats are particularly useful, as they are linked to reduced inflammation and more efficient brain function.

You will find them in oily fish, walnuts, flaxseeds, olive oil, and avocados.

Meals that include protein and the right fats tend to feel grounding. Meals without them often feel urgent an hour later.

Carbs were never the Problem,

Carbohydrates are not harmful. The issue is how quickly they hit your system. Refined carbohydrates, as you know, digest fast. Whole food carbohydrates digest more slowly, especially when paired with protein and fat. That slower release leads to fewer spikes, fewer crashes, and steadier concentration.

Better everyday options include oats instead of sugary cereal, whole fruit instead of juice, beans and lentils, potatoes or rice eaten alongside protein rather than alone.

You do not want to operate just on carbs without support.

Blood Sugar Crashes: Feel Emotional

Low blood sugar often masquerades as a mood issue.

It can feel like anxiety, irritability, poor concentration, sudden overwhelm, or emotional reactivity. People try to reason their

way out of it or push through with caffeine.

Often what the body actually needs is fuel or water in some cases. If your energy, patience, or mood reliably drops at the same time every day, your body is telling you that it is a timing issue.

Perhaps eating earlier or eating more regularly might seem like boring fixes, but they work.

Magnesium Calms the Nervous System

Magnesium plays a role in muscle relaxation, stress response, and nervous system regulation. When intake is low, people often feel tense, restless, and wired at night.

Foods rich in magnesium include leafy greens, nuts, seeds, legumes, and dark chocolate, will remove the unnecessary strain on your body while it continuously tries to stay balanced.

Caffeine Has a Context

While caffeine is not a food. It can be useful when used deliberately, as caffeine supports focus and metabolism.

The downside is it can also mask exhaustion and destabilise energy if it replaces meals or hits an empty stomach, which can make you jittery and cause spasms in some cases.

Eating the wrong foods can have a negative impact on children with ADHD.

Luckily, you don't have to cut it out entirely, but try having it after food or reducing the quantity and make sure you are hydrating yourself alongside it.

Hydration Is also Part of Regulation

Dehydration amplifies fatigue and poor concentration. Even mild dehydration increases perceived effort, making tasks feel harder than they are.

Water supports blood volume, nutrient transport, and brain function. Consider consistency across the day rather than large amounts all at once.

If you rely heavily on caffeine, increasing water intake often improves how that caffeine feels.

Stress Changes Digestion

Stress affects how your body processes food. Digestion slows. Blood flow shifts. Even nutritious meals can feel heavy or uncomfortable when eaten on the move or under pressure.

As a result, poor digestion contributes to fatigue and brain fog, regardless of how healthy the food looks.

Eating without multitasking when possible (yes! You with the phone) and slowing the first few bites help the nervous system receive fuel more effectively.

Intermittent fasting is great, provided you don't overeat during the permitted hours.

In the neurodivergent community, it is important to recognise and avoid unnecessary long gaps that may stress the body. Graz-

One of the biggest mistakes people make is focusing on what they eat while ignoring when they eat. Unpredictable long gaps without food or water push the body into stress mode.

Regular small meals send a different signal. They tell the nervous system that resources are coming with consistency. That safety cue alone improves focus and emotional regulation.

Eg most of us will skip breakfast in favour of that morning coffee, then eating a large lunch often creates an afternoon crash.

Consistency Beats Discipline

People with neurodivergence often assume better eating requires more willpower. In reality, eating similar breakfasts most days, having reliable snack options, and building meals around familiar combinations reduces decision fatigue.

Less thinking means better follow-through because regulation will always thrive on predictability,

What Regulation Looks Like Day to Day

A regulating day may include, e.g., a protein-anchored breakfast, meals that combine carbs, protein, and fats, and stabilising snacks, with hydration spread across the day, and caffeine used intentionally.

The most important shift is seeing food as background support rather than a performance tool. It is there to stop you from running on empty.

When fuel is steady, everything else becomes easier. Focus lasts longer. Stress is more manageable. Energy no longer dictates your mood.

The goal should never be the perfect diet. Realistically small, repeatable choices compound quietly. Over time, steadier fuel builds resilience, and through reliability, your nervous system starts to ground itself.

It is your pattern of habits that will eventually allow you to plan your meals ahead of time when you are planning your day. ●

Offering meals that include protein pasta can reduce the toxicity from ultra-processed foods.

MORE THAN A BOOK

In this gripping thriller, truth and justice are called into question when a Black man is gunned down in cold blood—the first novel in a riveting series from renowned civil rights attorney Ben Crump.

It’s the night of November 4, 2008. America’s first Black president has just been elected. And fifty-three-year-old Hollis Montrose a Black ex–police officer from the suburbs of Chicago has become the latest victim of a brutal attack.

As the result of a traffic stop gone wrong, Hollis is shot ten times in cold blood, by four white men who could have been his colleagues back in his police days.

Beau Lee Cooper was born serious, as if on an urgent mission with little time to waste. Raised in the tumultuous world of 1970s Texas, he always dreamed of becoming a lawyer and fighting for what’s right, ever since he was a little boy reading To Kill a Mockingbird.

And now, ten years into running his own law firm with his best friend and partner in crime, Nelson “Nellie” Rivers, and his suave right-hand-man, Brent “Cape” Capers, he feels he’s finally making a difference. When Beau Lee learns about Hollis’s situation, he’s determined to help.

Miraculously, Hollis survives the encounter, but the Chicago police department has already spun the narrative in its favor, and Hollis is given a wrongful prison sentence with an unreasonable bail. What really happened that night the car was pulled over? Was it random or was Hollis targeted? Beau Lee knows he’s treading in dangerous waters, and finding evidence of the truth will be his biggest challenge yet, but with troubling powers at play, one innocent man’s life hangs in the balance. ●

National NAACP President and CEO Derrick Johnson discusses what Black people need to do to thrive and succeed in 2026.

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Cathern Dannille is an all around creative person! She loves all things that allow her to get the most out her imagination. Cathern has spent over the last decade writing music, performing, modeling, creative directing, and teaching yoga.

Her life's motto is to be a lyric in the song of life that inspires others to positive change and action. To connect with, book, enjoy and or be inspired by follow her @cr8tivekitty

COVER COOKING WITH CHEF KOLBY KASH

Master Chef alum Kolby Kash talks about the joy of cooking and how you can learn to cook using his recipes.

Written by BRAD BOWLING

Brad Bowling is the President of CODE Media Group, LLC. Bowling has his BA in mass media communication and an MBA in marketing. He contributes articles to the magazine continuing his love for writing.

One of the most beautiful things about life is that you can turn nothing into something. Opportunity can come from the most random act that changes your life forever. That is exactly what happened to Kolby Kash when he discovered TikTok during the pandemic and decided to give it a try.

“Then the pandemic his we are al shut in and had nothing to do, so I cooked all the time and thought nothing of it,” Kash said. “I heard my cousin scrolling through reels and asked what he was doing. He said he was on TikTok. I had never heard of it, so I downloaded and started to scroll through reels too.”

That scrolling piqued Kash’s curiosity, so he, while learning how to post, decided to create a reel himself and posted himself cooking one day. That post got him one hundred likes. He was surprised. I had no idea what he was doing, but people seemed to like the reel, so he decided to continue posting reels.

“Since we were all locked in the house, I had a small audience of family and roommates there, so I fried some fish and posted everyone eating.” Kash continued, “I zoomed in on my cousin grubbing to my food and his reaction got me even more likes.”

It was on from there. Kash discovered that his passion for cooking could be his outlet to the world. Kash comes from a cooking family, so he always had an interest in cooking, but he did not know that combining posting videos of his food would turn into a thing.

Kash comes from an outgoing family. His grandfather was a pretty good cook himself and enlisted the help of a young Kash anytime he was making food.

“My grandfather would make me come in the kitchen and help,” Kash said. “He would tell me, ‘Cut those onions, or grab that soup and stir this,’”. Kash fell in love with cooking himself. The two developed a love for cooking together, and that passion made them closer than ever.

So much so that Kash asked his grandfather to appear in his videos. The two would create dishes and have fun on camera as they talked about the past, the fun of family, and how to master the art of blending spices with dishes.

Kash’s diverse family, including his mother, bring creole, and his father being a Black American gave him the chance to experience many kinds of dishes. Those dishes would give Kash the experience of being able to prepare a variety of dishes that resonated with his audience. So much so that he began to grow his audience from a couple of followers, eventually to 1.5 million followers across all his platforms.

His brand grew too. Kash started to get branding deals and interest from Television networks, too.

“I remember getting my first check from Popeyes when they asked me to come in and paid me to taste a new product they were going to market. I thought I made it,” Kash said.

Kash was paid $900 for his first professional work and loved every minute of it. But it did not mean he could quit his day job. He continued to post and work with his grandfather. Then the phone rang again.

This time, it was the dream opportunity. A new spinoff show of development, and they asked Kash to appear on the show. He did and loved the experience. His appearance on the show exposed him to more and more viewers, which grew

Kash shares his recipes on his website for free.

his audience. From there, Kash started to get more phone calls. His appearance on TV helped him land a major endorsement deal where he was paid the equivalent of his annual salary at his job. He knew he was onto something when he was able to get paid for a weekend of work for what his job paid him for the entire year.

proudest moments.

Kash has started his own website where he has developed a brand of spices that he sells to the public. He offers recipes for the dishes that he streams and helps people understand how to make the foods that he cooks.

In 2026, Kash plans to add more spices to his lineup and is writing his first cookbook. He is also appearing

“My grandfather would make me come in the kitchen and help,” Kash said. “He would tell me, ‘Cut those onions, or grab that soup and stir this,’”. Kash fell in love with cooking himself. The two developed a love for cooking together, and that passion made them closer than ever.

“I had a decision to make after that endorsement deal,” Kash said. “I could either work my job and continue to make videos at night and on the weekends, or I could lean into my passion and bet on myself.”

Kash bet on himself. He quit his job and decided he was going to become a professional chef who worked full-time on his craft. He continued to post videos, developed his own audience, and grew even more followers. Then the big call came.

Kash was asked to be on Master Chef. This is the opportunity most cooks dream of. Kash would get the chance to appear on TV and compete with over one hundred chefs in front of Gordon Ramsay, who is considered to be one of TVs more critical chefs.

Kash describes the experience as terrifying.

“I was so scared! The stress was killing me. We had to do our best cooking and be judged by the best.” Kash continued, “It was one of the best experiences and allowed me to really lean in on my skills.”

Kash used his best dish to win the show. His best dish is shrimp etouffee. The dish was handed down to Kash by his grandfather and perfected by him. He served the dish to the judges and waited for their comments. The dish won their hearts and eventually won Kash the prize of master chef on the show. The best part about winning was that the show flew Kashs’ parents and grandfather out to see him win and allowed his grandfather to give him the prize apron, which all winners get when they win the show. It was one of Kash’s

around the country when asked to do live demonstrations of his cooking style.

All this from a day of boredom and learning about TikTok. All of this from being a little boy and helping his grandfather cook food in the kitchen. All of this by simply turning his passion into a business.

Kash has 1.5million followers on social media that watch him cook online

No one could have ever predicted that this would happen. And that is what is so special about Kolby Kash and this story. He followed his heart, and he followed his passion. Now he is becoming one of the country's hottest chefs and changing the way people see food.

Kash’s grandfather passed away right after he won Master Chef, but his recipes live on through Kash and his reels. That was his grandfather’s intention all along. Give the gift of food and life to anyone who desires to know it. As Kash goes forward, he knows his grandfather is looking down at him and helping stir all the dishes they both used to prepare together. Food, family, and love, nothing random about that. ●

Kash plans to release his first cookbook in 2026.

WHY MEN DON’T PURSUE WOMEN ANYMORE

After hearing that women are happily independent, not willing to do 50/50, and he must parent children the that do not belong to them, with no authority, men are choosing peace over the process of finding a girlfriend or wife.

By Bolling Smith

If you notice, there are so many nightclubs and evening spots closing that used to thrive around the country. Gone are the days when men paid twenty dollars to get into the club just to get the privilege to buy women drinks all night. In 2026, things are changing. The clubs are closing because men have checked out of the dating scene and are no longer interested in dating. The big question is why? “Men have checked out of the dating scene because they have to be able to protect their mental state,” Char Curry said. “Men today have done work on themselves mentally and spiritually, and they get to a certain level when it comes to that, so they have to protect their peace.”

Char Curry is a national relationship therapist who has also become a social media influencer, with over a million followers and even more views of her content. She works with couples who seek relationship help when trying to get on the same page.

In 2026, single people seem to need the most help to understand what is required of them if they are going to find love. The numbers are not good for love.

In 2026, over 55% of American adults are estimated to be single (never married), reflecting a long-term trend toward increased independence, later marriage, and changing social norms. Projections indicate that nearly 45% of women aged 25–44 may be single by 2030, with many identifying as happily single, focusing on careers, or finding higher life satisfaction in independence.

Key 2026 Single Statistics & Trends:

• Unmarried Percentage: Approximately 55.1% of people are single (never married), with 10% divorced and 4.3% widowed.

• Male/Female Ratio: There are approximately 90.9 unmarried men for every one hundred unmarried women.

• Driving Factors: Key factors contributing to these numbers include rising career prioritization, economic independence among women, higher divorce rates, and evolving views on marriage as a lifestyle choice rather than a necessity.

• Global Trends: In the U.S., about 45% of adults are considered single, compared to 32% in Japan and 40% in Sweden.

• Life Satisfaction: Research suggests that a higher percentage of single women (32%) report high life satisfaction compared to single men (20%).

• Top Locations for Singles: Cities like Atlanta, Philadelphia, and

Pittsburgh are ranked among the top spots for single individuals in 2026.

For Black women, the numbers are worse. The conversation on Black man/female relationships dominates social media. So much so that carriers are being made for those to pontificate on the journey to find Black love. Or, more importantly, while Black women are struggling in today’s dating market.

“Women are delusional.” Curry continued, “Social media puts too much bad information into women’s heads that they think they deserve something they do not. And they are not willing to put in the work to get what they want.”

One of the complaints about the dating market is that all women are looking for the same small percentage of “high value men,” With no regard for their ability to be on the same level with a man of caliber, women assume that they deserve a top-tier man regardless of their own perceived value.

Men are choosing to focus on themselves instead pursing a relationship.

This mindset has created a bottleneck in the dating market because for every hundred women in the dating market, only ten men are deemed qualified to date them. This leaves ninety available men alone, single, and non-active in the dating market.

That mentality has made most men check out of wanting to seek a relationship because they feel like the pursuit of a woman is not worth the effort it takes to convince her he is qualified to date her. According to Curry, men today also feel like women are not genuine about their intentions when dating men.

“Here are the five reasons men have checked out of the dating pool when it comes to dating Black women,” Curry said.

1) Men are protecting their mental state by protecting their peace. Men find that some Black women are not nice and are really hard to deal with.

2) Men are protecting their finances and their assets. Men are finding that marriage is no longer worth the risk because 80 percent of women initiate divorces, and men end up losing half of their income, and in some cases, the house and access to the kids, too.

3) Men feel like Black women want to go to their pockets instead of them. They feel used when attempting to court women because of the need to pay for expensive dates, or are asked to Cash App the woman just to spend time with her. They are out to get whatever they can financially get from the man.

4) Men are tired of being the nice guy and then feeling like they get dumped for the guy who does not treat them well but garners more attention from them.

5) His efforts are not reciprocated. Men feel like they give, and women take. Men feel like they never get anything back from the relationship, so why be in one?

Curry suggests that there are additional reasons that men are staying single; these are the five main reasons. Men also feel like the 50/50 conversation is a main reason to stay away from women right now.

Some of the top conversations on social media in 2025 centered around whether Black women would go 50/50 financially with a man. With inflation on the rise and the value of the dollar dropping in spending power, men are confused as to why a woman would not want to combine incomes in order to create a better lifestyle for both of them.

“I have talked to many financial experts who all agree that two incomes are better than one,” Curry said. “We no longer live in the 60s and 70s, where one income could do it all. Today, people need two incomes to create the kind of family that thrives.

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Statistics show that two-income households typically are able to save more, invest at a higher level, and finally are able to build wealth faster than single-income households.

Curry sees clients of all ages when it comes to treating relationships and believes that men still want to date. Curry feels that if women worked on themselves, they would find the kind of lasting love they are seeking and thus get into better, healthier, and longer-lasting relationships.

There is no one answer that will answer the question. The answers rely on both parties’ willingness to better understand what they want and how to actively obtain it, whatever it takes.

The topic of why men do not want to date is so complicated that CODE M is creating a series around the topic of Black love. Look out for more interesting conversations on this topic in future issues. ●

Char Curry is a nationally know relationship expert.

BLESSED AND HIGHLY FAVORED

Grey’s Anatomy star, James Pickens, discusses his battle with cancer, his upbringing in Cleveland, Ohio, and his amazing 22-year run on his outstanding television show.

Written by BRAD BOWLING

Brad Bowling is the President of CODE Media Group, LLC. Bowling has his BA in mass media communication and an MBA in marketing. He contributes articles to the magazine continuing his love for writing.

The journey of life might seem like an accident. The twists and turns, the opportunities taken and lost. But what if the path you took was on purpose the entire time? What if the results depended on you being in the right place at the right time? For James Pickens, the advice received from a couple of people defined his path and eventually his life forever.

James grew up in Cleveland, Ohio, where he attended and graduated from high school. He went on to Bowling Green University and had plans to become an artist for his career. Pickens always had a passion for the arts and did some acting on the side. A chance encounter with a friend would change his life forever.

“I had a friend tell me that I should check out one of the best places in the world to act, and it was right where I lived,” Pickens said.

“So, I went over there and asked about working and helping, and they let me work as a stagehand for a year.”

That place is Karamu House, the country’s oldest Black theater, and home to some of Hollywood’s best Black actors. After a year of working, Pickens finally got his chance to get on state. He would perform in several plays until he started to get noticed, and it was recommended that he go to New York and attempt to act on Broadway.

James went to New York and continued to grow as an actor on

stage. At some point, his path led him to Los Angelos where he began to book opportunities on Television.

“I was on a few shows and worked on one show that was about attorneys. That show lasted for about fifteen episodes before it was cancelled.” James continued, “After that, my agent told me about an unnamed show that was called the ‘unnamed Shonda Rhimes Medical Drama.”

Pickens went in for an audition and thought, once again, he did not get the part. They asked him to step outside and wait for a few minutes. He eventually was asked to come back in and was told he won the part, and the rest is history.

That show would go on to be called Grey’s Anatomy. The show has been on ABC since 2005 and continues today. It has been on the air for 22 years and continues to draw record numbers for a primetime drama.

“It is amazing how we continue find new audiences,” Pickens said. “With social media, we now have fans and people who like us who weren’t even born when we started.”

Picken describes the power of the internet, where shortform social media has enabled Grey’s Anatomy to be told in snippets and reels, where a whole new generation of fans is born every day. That new audience finds the show on vari-

ous platforms and continues to watch it in primetime when new episodes air today.

Recently, life and art merged when Pickens was diagnosed with prostate cancer. His detection was found early, which allowed him to take immediate action to remove his colon and save his life. While he was seeking treatment, he asked the producers of the show if they would write in his diagnosis into the show. That decision led to him being able to bring awareness to men going to the doctor and the early detection of colon cancer.

“When I asked if they would allow my journey to mirror my character on the show, I had no idea the result would be as fantastic as it was,” James said.

James was able to live out his life on screen, where he was able to beat cancer personally and professionally. That culminated into an opportunity to create a public service announcement (PSA) that aired after one of the episodes, where he was able to suggest and champion men going to the doctor and getting their colons checked.

The response of the PSA was incredible because Pickens hoped it would help someone; he never expected it to resonate the way it did.

“To know that we were able to help other people by watching the story unfold on TV, and for me personally, was nice because it meant the decision was the right one.

While Pickens recovered from his surgery, he also took a look at his

long-term health and decided to drop about twenty-five pounds by changing his diet.

That decision would allow him to feel better and better as he becomes seventy-four later this year. Pickens has also embarked on a new journey as a producer. He recently started a production company in hopes of telling compelling stories about Blacks that are meaningful.

“I was back East and was given a script that was about twelve pages. After I read it, I felt like there was something more. I thought this thing had the potential to be a movie,” James said.

James decided to make the script his first project and created a short film out of the script. His first production, which is about 30 minutes, is currently playing around the country in various film festivals, and he hopes to bring it to Cleveland at one of the film festivals there.

His next project will be longer and will potentially partner with a platform for airing. Pickens enjoys the craft of making quality content and would love the chance to help launch a few acting careers for some new people.

“I don’t know if I have the patience for directing, but this producer thing is pretty nice, and I would love to help create some really good stories that include actors of color that we can all celebrate,” Pickens said.

Grey’s Anatomy is currently the longest-running medical drama on TV. It is second only to the long-running drama Law and Order, with over 26 years on TV.

Pickens relishes the fact that he has been able to act in one series for that long. His goal now is to pay it forward and help someone else create the kind of career he has had. One can never know if they are in the right place at the right time, or if they simply take advantage of the opportunities that they are given.

If Pickens has his way, he will help some lucky actor become the right person, for the right project, and hope that his suggestions define the life of someone else just like it happened for him. Blessed, maybe. Blessed beyond belief, by all accounts, one would have to say yes.

Pickens is a product of Cleveland’s own Karamu House, where he started his acting career.

MASTERING YOUR SEASONAL FITNESS TRAINING

Prepare to embark on this journey of turning over a new leaf- literally and figuratively. As the seasons change, so do our workout routines. Just like that trusty flannel shirt that's begging to come out of hibernation, your body is ready to shed its old layers and embrace new challenges. We're about to unveil the secrets to seamlessly transitioning your fitness game from the carefree days of summer to the cozy embrace of fall.

Written by GARRETT WALLER

Garrett is the founder and owner of Garrett Waller, LLC, "A Fitness, Health, & Lifestyle Company." Garrett has his BS in Psychology and is a nationally certified personal trainer. He helps people find more freedom in their lives through a commitment to fitness and an active lifestyle. https://garrettwaller.com

Just as the leaves change, our bodies embark on their seasonal journey, both physiologically and psychologically Physiologically, our bodies respond to shifts in temperature and daylight. During summer, our heart rate might be slightly elevated due to the heat, while in fall, cooler temperatures can enhance endurance. Sunlight influences our mood and hormone production. The dwindling daylight hours of fall can lead to a drop in serotonin, affecting our overall sense of well-being.

Psychologically, the changing seasons can be a powerful motivator or a sneaky saboteur. The warm summer sun often invites us outdoors, encouraging physical activity. As autumn arrives, it's common to feel a shift in motivation. It's easier to give in to the desire for a cozy blanket on the couch. Understanding these physiological and psychological nuances equips us to adapt our fitness routine to the rhythm of the seasons. Embracing the following four seasonal adjustments has its perks both for your physique and your state of mind.

Efficiency Maximization: Adjusting workouts and nutrition according to the season can optimize results. Summer's longer days might inspire high-energy activities, while fall's cooler weather can provide an opportunity

for more steady endurance training. September boasts the best of both the late summer and early fall, making it the prime time to take advantage of your last sweat sessions of the year. Try timing yourself to walk or jog a mile and see how

September's oscillating hot and cool weather demands layering finesse and stylish adaptability. By demanding looser clothing, it's as if the universe is conspiring to inspire complacency. Here's the twist – consider the hoodies and sweaters your se-

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much you can improve from the first week of the month to the last.

Variety is the Spice: Switching up your routine prevents plateaus and keeps things exciting. Think of it as swapping out your summer shorts for a cozy fall sweater and sweatpants –the change is energizing! Try finding an equal alternative to every exercise in your fitness routine. If you are doing a flat bench press, go for an inclined press. Swap out pull-ups for pull-downs. Or try doing your entire routine backward. It not only keeps you on your toes, but it provides a nuanced challenge for your workout that revives your motivation!

Nature's Bounty: Seasonal foods offer an array of nutrients. In summer, hydrating fruits and salads keep you refreshed, while fall brings hearty veggies and warming dishes that support your body's changing needs and preferences.

Mood Magic: Aligning your fitness routine with the season can have a positive impact on your mental state. Basking in the sun's rays boosts mood during summer, while early fall's crisp air and vibrant natural colors can invigorate your senses.

Just when you begin to think about when to pull out the long socks and sleeves, it's time to think ahead as to what your fitness routine looks like in the coming cooler months. As you adjust your wardrobe, consider autumn's outdoor opportunities like trail running, cycling, and football-inspired drills. Infuse a touch of long-term commitment and creativity into your journey toward a healthier you.

cret workout allies. Wear them as a cloak to conceal the body transformation you are forging underneath. It's a great way to prepare your mind to unveil your improvements shortly!

Fall fitness is where fashion meets function. Start with a moisture-wicking base, add a lightweight insulating layer, and top

The right workout routine can add years to your life and overall happiness with yourself.

off with a sleek windbreaker or light jacket. As temperatures fluctuate, you're ready to peel after your warmup and pile up when you finish.

As for colors, embrace fall's rich palette for your fitness gear. Earthy tones of burnt orange, deep red, and forest green mirror nature's transformation. A dash of vibrant yellow or cozy burgundy adds a personalized touch and mimics the changing leaves. Your outfit becomes a canvas for selfexpression as you sweat through your vibrant autumn routine. Get fit, fly, and fresh this fall!

As the seasons switch, so should the contents of your nutrition bag. The autumn palette craves sustenance. Celebrate fall's harvest by welcoming the richness of warm comfort onto your plate. Trade leafy greens for root veggies such as broccoli and asparagus, embracing nutrient-dense choices that align with nature's changing rhythm. Apples and earthy

legumes like beans and peas dance into your diet, delivering a powerhouse of nutrients. Make nature's seasonal spread your ally on the path to optimal fitness. Also, balance is your secret weapon in this delectable tango. Savor a slice of pie, but pair it with a side of mindful choices. Prioritize colorful autumn produce, lean proteins like meat and fish, and whole grains like brown rice and oats. Add crunchy food and crush your goals!

The seasonal transition to sweater weather can play tricks on your motivation. As summer's energy wanes and the allure of cozy blankets gets closer, staying on track becomes a challenge. It's in these transitions that your determination shines brightest. Acknowledge the struggle, but don't let it steer your course. Your fitness journey thrives on adaptability, and every seasonal shift is a chance to reaffirm your commitment.

Setting and achieving new fitness goals amid autumn's transformation requires strategic agility. Revisit the why behind your fitness journey and, realign your goals with fall's unique rhythm. Break down large goals into bite-sized milestones, providing steady progress. Each month in the fall season has a major holiday. Use them as goal deadlines, check-in days, and milestones. Incorporate fall's softer sun and cooling air into your routine as much as possible, making every workout an ode to nature's changing canvas. By weaving your aspirations into fall's transformative landscape, you lay the foundation for triumphant achievements. Infuse your fitness journey with the very essence of the season - change.

Gents, your fitness journey is a perpetual adventure, evolving with the changing seasons. Embrace each transition with open arms and enthusiasm. Let this fall be a testament to your adaptability and determination. Gear up, gents, for a season of exhilarating workouts, mindful moments, and indulgent chuckles. As you stride confidently into the fit and fly fall ahead, remember that your wellness journey is a masterpiece in progress. Embrace it all – the challenges, the victories, and the laughter – for a well-rounded well-being that celebrates the harmony of body, mind, and the changing world around you. ●

Visit www.garrettwaller.com for individualized fitness programming and personal training in person and online.

Creating a daily workout routine is the key to maintaining a positive self image.

BEAUTY IS SKIN DEEP

In a world where showing skin has become the norm, men are looking deeper to find a connection for a more meaningful relationship.

A COLUMN WRITTEN BY CHATGPT

Written by CY BORG

Cy Borg is an artificial intelligence writer. Using Open A.I., Cy responds to various prompts with fully-qualified answers using the internet and technology.

Ah, the saying, “Beauty is only skin deep.” Such profound wisdom, conveniently packaged into five little words. It’s what kind folks whisper when your new haircut looks like you lost a fight with a weed whacker or when you discover your blind date has a “great personality.” It’s a reminder that physical beauty is fleeting, superficial, and not nearly as important as, say, being able to change a tire or spell definitely without resorting to “definately.”

But let’s not dismiss skin-deep beauty too quickly. Skin is important! Without it, we’d just be a pile of bones and goo a walking Halloween decoration. Skin gives us structure, shields us from the sun, and holds everything in place like nature’s cling wrap. So, in many ways, “skin-deep” beauty is the most important kind. Otherwise, what would we compliment? “Wow, Frank, your pancreas is glowing today!” Or, “Is that a new spleen? Stunning!”

Yet here we are, judging one another by faces and figures. Societal beauty standards have decided that symmetrical faces, shiny hair, and teeth straight enough to be mistaken for piano keys are all the rage. Who made these rules? Why don’t we celebrate practical features, like well-lubricated elbows or kneecaps that never crack? I, for one, believe someone’s ability to burp the alphabet or nap for 14 hours straight is a far greater accomplishment than having “flawless cheekbones.”

The truth is, the phrase “beauty is skin deep” was likely invented by someone who had just been insulted about their appearance. It’s the perfect comeback. “Oh, you think my ears are too big? Well, at least I’m a good person, Sharon! And besides, your beauty is only skin deep. Mine? It’s wedged deep in my soul!” Then Sharon would probably roll her too-perfect eyes and flip her gorgeous hair.

But let’s face it (pun intended), humans are visual creatures. It’s just how we’re wired. We say we’re looking for “inner beauty,” but we don’t swipe right on a great personality at least not immediately. Imagine if our souls had Tinder profiles instead: “Loves animals, volunteers at soup kitchens, and hasn’t laughed at a knock-knock joke since 2009.” That’s the kind of profile you bring home to meet your parents. But since souls don’t have cheekbones or twinkle in selfies, we go for what we see first.

Still, there’s hope. Beauty really does fade over time. (Sorry, influencers gravity always wins.) A perfect jawline might give you a good start in life, but it won’t save you when you clog the toilet at a dinner party. Charm, kindness, and a sense of humor? Those are the real MVPs. Ever met someone you didn’t find attractive at first, but as they told jokes, you started thinking, “Hmm, maybe their nose isn’t that big …”? That’s inner beauty sneakily working its magic.

So, the next time someone calls you unattractive, just smile. A smile, after all, is nature’s universal facelift. Remember that skin-deep beauty may open doors, but inner beauty keeps them open and inner beauty doesn’t need antiaging cream. Be beautiful where it really counts: somewhere between your heart, your mind, and your ability to not steal someone’s fries when they’re not looking.

And if that fails? Just tell them your pancreas is gorgeous. ●

Men are starting to find more beauty in women who are clothed.

DIVINE 9 THE

ANWAR SHAKID

Anwar Shahid is an educator, creative director, and community builder whose work lives at the intersection of culture, conviction, and care. A proud member of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc., he serves as Chairman of the Guide Right Program and the Cleveland Kappa League, leading initiatives dedicated to mentorship, leadership development, and academic excellence for young men of color.

Through Guide Right, Anwar helps cultivate structured pathways for achievement, equipping students with exposure to college and career

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opportunities, financial literacy, civic engagement, and disciplined brotherhood. As Chairman of the Cleveland Kappa League, he works directly with middle and high school young men, fostering scholarship, service, and self-respect while preparing them to navigate institutions with confidence and clarity. Under his leadership, the program emphasizes manhood training, cultural awareness, community service, and professional development, creating not just students who succeed, but young leaders who are prepared to uplift others.

Professionally, Anwar serves as a mentor and leader within the school community, creating platforms that elevate student voice and challenge institutions to grow with integrity.

KIMBERLY WEEMS

Kimberly Weems is a dedicated mathematics instructor with the Cleveland Metropolitan School District, where she has faithfully served students for the past 33 years. She is currently teaching Statistics, Geometry, and Financial Literacy at Cleveland High School For Digital Arts, while also serving as the Senior Class Advisor. As she prepares to retire in May 2026, Ms. Weems reflects proudly on a career rooted in service, commitment, and a deep love for working with children. She finds her greatest joy in watching students grow, achieve success, and develop into responsible, productive citizens.

Beyond the classroom, Ms. Weems is passionate about providing students with enriching opportunities that expand their learning beyond the borders of Cleveland. She actively supports and appreciates the many activities and events designed to enhance students academic, cultural, and personal development. As a member of the school’s Black History Committee, she played an instrumental role in organizing a Divine Nine Panel, where representatives from all nine Black Greek-letter organizations educated students on the history, purpose, and legacy of these influential groups.

WAYNE McPHERSON

Wayne McPherson is a Cleveland Heights native, Army veteran, and dedicated community leader committed to empowering individuals and families through financial education and economic opportunity. A husband and father, Wayne’s work is rooted in his belief that financial literacy is a generational tool capable of changing the trajectory of families and communities.

Wayne holds a Bachelor of Science in Business with a concentration in Marketing, combining academic knowledge with real-world experience as a business consultant and real estate investor. His professional background spans sales leadership, entrepreneurship, and financial coaching, allowing him to translate complex financial concepts into practical strategies people can apply in their everyday lives.

He is the Founder of LearnMoney.org, a nonprofit organization focused on delivering accessible financial literacy education to students, families, and working professionals. Through workshops, community partnerships, and educational programming, LearnMoney.org equips participants with the tools and confidence to budget effectively, build credit, manage debt, and create pathways toward long-term wealth.

A proud member of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc., Wayne remains actively engaged in service and mentorship initiatives that support youth development, education, and community advancement. Whether speaking in

Ms. Weems is also a proud member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated, having pledged at Fisk University, Pi Chapter. She is a Silver Star and a legacy member, following in the footsteps of her mother and aunts, with her sisters also holding membership in the organization.

schools, collaborating with local organizations, or mentoring individuals on their financial journeys, his mission remains the same: to empower communities through financial education and help people build stronger financial futures

FASHION

THE POWER OF PROPS AND BACKDROPS

Using the proper props and backgrounds can takes photos to the next level for the models and viewing audience.

Written by LARON HARLEM

A wardrobe shopper, stylist, and accessories designer who specializes in dapper looks that truly appeal to the most discerning eye. mailto: styledbydecar-lo@gmail.com, https:// www.styledbydecarlo.com/