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Volume 5 Number 27 • March

in the Diocese of Charlotte

29, 1996

Bishops Push Clinton To Sign Ban On U.S.

Partial-Birth —

WASHINGTON (CNS) As the House prepared to vote on a proposed ban on the so-called partial-birth

Life Activities of the National Conference of Catholic Bishops. It

abortion procedure, the U.S. Catholic

that

bishops took out a full-page newspaper

advertisement asking President Clinton to sign the legislation without the

proposed exception he supports. The March 25 ad in The Washington Post said a proposal to add an exception

Photo by

PAUL FREDETTE

the last several years ministering to inmates at Craggy

Correctional Facility

Asheville.

using

with career goals"; depression, "feels

By PAUL FREDETTE BEAVER DAM — When he

anticipate. left

Simsbury, Conn., to retire near Asheville

Dan White had no idea he would be spending so much time behind

1987,

Not long after his arrival, White's youngest daughter, Meg, suggested he get acquainted with Asheville Buncombe Community Christian Ministry (ABCCM). After meeting then-director Sam Everett, White started bars.

taking library carts to the

Asheville

White has been visiting there at least once a week for the past four years, working mainly with the Catholic inmates. He is a member of St. Eugene parish and, when Father Frank Cancro can accompany him, Mass is celebrated with the six to eight

men whom he

When

other ministers

visits regularly.

brings the Eucharist and holds a ,

brief

(

and

prisoners and providing

discussion.

them

His greatest joy has come from sponsoring several of the

with

reading materials, but most of the inmates at the city jail were

men

for Confirmation and accompanying them as they

only there for a short time.

wanted

came

the

opportunity to develop

more of

a relationship with

these men, so the

Sam

Buncombe

Everett sent

him

Correctional Center, a

minimum

security site north of Asheville. For the next four years, White

was engaged there

into full

communion

with the Church. One such inmate, who had already served 27

in Yolkfellows.

The

was overjoyed when his mother came from West Virginia to attend his confirmation. White corresponds years,

regularly with

many

of the

worked with over the

last

men

he has

four years.

basic thrust of this program, in White's

"When

view,

see some of the guys get out, I I have a friend. They write to me as they would a real buddy. It' s very rewarding and I don't think I'll ever stop unless my health fails," he said. Although he has experienced some disappointments with inmates over the past eight years, White says his greatest

to use the bible as a guide for

positive thinking and to promote

hopeful attitudes

among the men. Since

men were

serving fairly short-

these

term sentences, White eventually started thinking about working at the

neighboring Craggy Correctional Facility where the men served longer sentences and needed more support to sustain them against year-in, year-out without much future to _ m onotony

—

get these letters, and

frustrations have

See

Faith,

page

when know

come from 1

the

woman

feels certain she cannot

continue her pregnancy because she "hates being pregnant, hates being 'fat,' hates giving birth, or has a boyfriend who doesn't want a baby." Clinton, in a February letter sent to key lawmakers, threatened to veto

The Washington Post ad was sponsored by the Secretariat for Pro-

See Abortion Ban, page

Students And Seminarians Benefit From Adoption Program By ELIZABETH

MAYBACH

Staff Writer

ST.

Us, a daily scripture guide for

meditation

sad, feels anxious, feels alone"; or a

any ban on the partial -birth procedure if it does not include an exception to

communion service. He Word Among

prayer,

or incest.

also shares The

He enjoyed meeting the

White himself

can't be present,

jail.

White

it.

other abortionrelated action, the National Right to Life Committee was lobbying members of Congress over amendments to the pending omnibus appropriations bill, and the Supreme Court rejected another state's appeal of rulings requiring them to provide abortions for impoverished women impregnated as a result of rape

Time To Prisoners Doing Time

including: fetal abnormality, doesn't

possible to justify almost any reason for

Meanwhile,

Retiree Dedicates His

more than two dozen reasons might fall under "health-of-themother" exceptions to an abortion ban and might be permitted under broad Supreme Court interpretations. Exceptions, the ad said, "can be defined as just about anything,"

listed

want a Down syndrome baby or baby with a missing limb; social/ psychological crisis, "won't fit into a prom dress," pregnancy "interfering

would allow doctors to use the otherwise-banned procedure for "health" considerations would make it that

Dan White has spent

Abortions

MEINRAD,

Ind.

—

Lamberson was completing semester of study at Seminary in St. Meinrad, first letters came.

St. Ind.,

seminary experience and the

call to

priesthood.

Bryan

his first

Meinrad when the

Suddenly, the 41 -year-old future Diocese of Charlotte had 29 pen pals, all from a seventh grade class at Holy Trinity Catholic Middle School. In the midst of exams and final papers, when he needed support most, Lamberson had been "adopted." Several of the 25 religion classes at Holy Trinity adopted seminarians at the beginning of the school year. They sent letters of introduction and Advent Spiritual Bouquets at Christmas. Right now, many classes are preparing Easter packages that include cards, pictures and prayer intentions. Since his adoption, Lamberson and the students from Carol Bell's religion class have developed a close relationship.

priest for the

In his letter, call to the

Lamberson

said his

priesthood happened while

he was working

the field of

laboratory medicine. "About two years ago, I began to feel that perhaps

God wanted me

to do something for something that I couldn't accomplish working at the hospital,"

him

—

Lamberson class.

said in his letter to the

"I started to

meet with the

hospital chaplain and talk to him about

my thoughts and feelings. This priest suggested that maybe God wanted me to consider the possibility of serving

His people as a priest. I have to admit that at first I thought it was kind of a silly idea because I figured a priest had to be really smart and really 'holy' and I don't think of myself in those

—

terms."

few Weeks after his adoption, Lamberson wrote the class, addressing

Lamberson also discussed the requirements for entering the seminary and answered questions about his vocation. "Lest you think that I'm somehow unique and special

each of the students and answering their questions about his background, the

See Students,

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& Herald

March

29,

1996

Give Generously To Seminarians And Priests' Continuing Education Collection Diocese of Charlotte

•

P.O. Box 36776

•

Charlotte, N.C. 28236

The Chancery

March

Dear Friends

29,

1996

in Christ:

we ask your generous support and response to the second collection which will be taken in all churches of our diocese to help meet the needs of our Vocation and Seminarian

At Easter,

Program, as well as to provide support for the continuing education of our priests.

we have 18 men in various seminaries, and we look to when they will be ordained and begin their service to the Church in the Diocese of Charlotte. Like other dioceses, we are in need of men who feel called to the priesthood, to serve the Presently,

the day

spiritual

needs of our ever-increasing Catholic population.

Diocese regularly sponsors workshops and other programs to keep our priests abreast of developments in theology and pastoral practices. This theological updating is important and

Also,

the

help our priests in serving the needs of all the faithful. The cost of education continues to rise and it is only through your kindness and generosity that we are able to meet these escalating expenses.

will

Please

know of our gratitude and appreciation for your generous

response to the Seminary and Priests' Continuing Education Collection to be taken on the weekend of April 6-7.

Wishing you and yours the blessings of I

Photo by ELIZABETH MAYBACH Holy Trinity Catholic Middle School students in seventh grade religion classes adopted seminarians during the school year. Pictured, from left to right, are: Jason Kenna, 1 3; Courtney Enos, 1 2; Travis Carpenter, 1 3; Charlie Frohne, 1 3; and Billy Askey, 13.

this

Holy Easter Season,

Students And Seminarians, from page light because of my vocation to the priesthood, .

appear,

as Jesus loves us."

valuable experience for both the students and the seminarians," she said.

—

The adoption idea originated with Holy Trinity Principal Jerry Healy. "I saw that the diocese had these 18 men and had asked us to pray for them," Healy said. "I just thought that to have

everend Mauricio W. West, V.G. Chancellor

Morehead Street

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28207

fairings for

tlje

Palm Sunday: is

He who

in the

name

of the Lord,

Hosanna

heaven

above. Mt. 21:9

Monday:

CNS

photo by P C. Piazza, Acadiana Catholic

People in the community have walked the outdoor stations on Good Friday for the last

50 years.

Qood

Friday:

director for the diocese, said he is im-

impacting us, too." Bell said her students responded well to the program. "They have been very enthusiastic and very caring," she said. "I think this has given them an

follow."

The

new

Crucifixion

hear of efforts our parishes and schools to further the call of the Lord to come and said. "It is inspiring to

PUT YOUR GIFTS at the

Service of Others

Consider

Matthew

PRIESTHOOD

21: 1-11

Isaiah 50: 4-7 Philippians 2: 6-11 Matthew 26: 14-27, 66 or 27: 11-54

The Diocese

Isaiah 41: 1-7

Isaiah 49: 1-6

Isaiah 50: 4-9

Matthew

Stations of the Cross are nailed to trees along a rural road near the town of Catahoula in south Louisiana.

commu-

tettk of

John 13: 21-33, 36-38

Thursday: Mass of the Lord's Supper

wonderful way to build

between lay people and the seminarians and I think it gives the children an eye into what we're all called to do." Father Frank O'Rourke, vocation nity

reaching out to these seminarians, but through their response, they're actually

"After they had crucified him. They

Wednesday:

"It's a

made

John 12: 1-11 Tuesday:

tinue next year. "This has really been a

that the situation

(

comes

study."

Bell hopes the program will con-

well as the seminarians. "We think we're

Healy added

^Hard|31- Aprtl6

Blessed

work and

benefited the students at Holy Trinity as

opportunity to look at priests in a

>crtptur£

pressed with the program. "I'm always looking for unique ways to increase awareness of a call to the priesthood,"

affect."

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little

ways would be a way of supporting them. The kids have a tremendous lifting

:ry

see that priests don't just

(the priesthood) is a lot of hard

want to tell you that every one of us has a vocation," Lamberson said. "A// of us are called by God to a life of holiness. All of us are called to love one another

the kids involved in their lives in

Sincerely voups in Christ,

— they

26: 14-25

Exodus 12: 1-8, 11-14 1

Corinthians

1 1

23-26 John 13: 1-15 Isaiah 52:

Hebrews 7-9 John 18:

13 --53: 12 4:

14-16,

divided his garments by casting lots; then they sat down and kept watch over him there.... From noon onward, darkness came over the whole land until three in the afternoon. And about three o'clock Jesus cried out in a loud voice,

lema sabachthani?' which means, *My God, my God, why have you "Eli, Eli,

forsaken me?'"

(Matthew

1-19: 42

Contact Father Frank O'Rourke Vocation Director 1621 Dilworth Road East Charlotte, N.C.

27: 35-36,

28203

(704) 334-2283

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of Charlotte

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March

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Priest Is

On The

By JOHN R. KARMAN III LOUISVILLE, Ky. (CNS)

when he was attending a wedding reception in Lexington and was introduced to Pitino by a friend. The coach invited the priest to say the team prayer before the next home game and to watch the action from the bench. For a year, Father Bradley attended games as his schedule allowed. But since 1 992 he has been a fixture on the bench, accompanying the team at home and on

— At

one end of the University of Kentucky men's basketball bench is coach Rick Pitino, impeccably dressed in an Armani suit, but constantly in motion, screaming at officials, yelling at players,

gesturing

and teaching. At the other end of the bench is Father Ed Bradley, wearing his Roman collar and taking in all the action in a more calm and reserved fashion. Father Bradley, a priest of the Diocese of Owensboro, has served as chaplain of the NCAA Final Four Wildcats basketball team for the past

the road. "It's like

time, the team has experienced the highs and lows associated with big-time college basketball. But no matter what the final score is, they know they can always go

championship. Even before the season, many thought this year's team could bring

counseling or just to pray.

be there as just

...

spoke

Kentucky

sort of a

its

and he

interview from Dallas, where the 'Cats

the players

breezed through their first two games in the NCAA tournament. His association with the team began

talk.

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national

title

since

Father Bradley said this year' s team

archdiocesan newspaper, in a telephone

•

first

1978.

The Record, Louisville's

Diocese of Charlotte

Conference

Southeastern

to Father Bradley for spiritual or personal

"I try to

games from

one of the best seats in the house. "It's very easy to get caught up in the excitement, and I do." There's been plenty to get excited about this season. The Wildcats, ranked second after the regular season, finished 30-2 and won the regular-season

that

quiet presence," Father Bradley, 52.

an unreal world," he said,

describing his view of the

five years.

And More, For

Sidelines,

special,

who

close to several of

often

come

him

In addition to praying with the

team and counseling, the says Mass on the road and

Charlotte, N.C.

a witness in those places.

Turner.

that in itself is a real witness."

think just

man and they genuinely care about each other and want each other to look well."

sons.

have a great relationship

that each of

When

them

young

just a fine

asked Father Bradley to be team chaplain, he said he wanted the priest to remind the players that "there is something beyond Pitino, a Catholic,

Three years ago, the coach and the opened the Daniel Pitino Shelter Owensboro, named after the Pitino

priest in

son

Father Bradley noted

it is

— when

"When I'm

the players lose

track of the fact that people love for

who

them

they are and not for the sport

real

distributes

think

it's

a real

good opportunity

stay over at

and and friendship

in his other ministry.

"They're very supportive and real understanding, and I have a bishop (John J. McRaith) that's great, too," he said. "He thinks it's a great ministry, and he encourages me to do this."

we go (have)

very few Catholic people," he said. "I

Lexington,

just value their love

him

good experience,

because most of the places

His work with the Kentucky team him far away from Holy Name of Jesus Parish in Henderson, where he is pastor. But most of Henderson's basketball fans cheer for the 'Cats, Father Bradley said, and they support

as a Catholic priest,

priest also

His Excellency,

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homeland, is our spiritual home as well. Even has never been able to go on pilgrimage to the Land

Christ's

who

of Jesus carries in his heart a picture of the Biblical landscape as

something strangely

familiar to him. In this sense, every Christian

"spiritual citizen"'of the

Holy Land and can

rightly feel that

Jerusalem

March 22, 1996 Reverend Richard Contiliano, Effective

Pastor, Holy Angels Church, of

absence

for

a period

Mount

one

Airy,

N.C, granted a leave

year, at his request.

home. The Very Reverend Mauricio W. West, V.G. Chancellor

Precisely because of this spiritual nearness to our Lord's earthly

motherland,

the duty of Christians throughout the world to join in

helping the Christian communities in the Holy Land, which

decades have become more and more a

in the last

"little flock.

This solidarity takes concrete form especially on the occasion of the Collection for Jerusalem and the Holy Land, the oldest-standing collection in the Church's history. Imitating the Apostle Paul's invitation

communities founded by him in Macedonia, Greece and Asia Minor to assist the Mother Church of Jerusalem, several Roman Pontiffs down through the centuries have recalled this important duty. to the

Your generosity is what keeps alive the caring spirit of Jesus in the Holy Places. Please be as generous as you can when the collection is taken up in our diocese on Good Friday, April 5.

Remember

His In Yours.

"A valid Will stands as a continuing expression of our

concern for loved ones, as well as an ongoing commit-

ment to the Church and the community in which we live!' Bishop William G. Curlin

ou can express your commitment to your Church by making a bequest to the Diocese of Charlotte or to your parish. Simply have the following statement included in your Will:

Wishing you and yours God's blessings,

am "/ leave to the

Sincerely yoyps in Christ,

Charlotte (or

Roman

Catholic Diocese of

parish, city) the

sum of$

percent of the residue of my estate) for religious, educational and charitable works." (or

fery

Reverend Mauricio W. West, V.G.

Chancellor

For more information on how to make a Will

that

its

works, contact

Jim Kelley, Diocese of Charlotte, Office of Development,

1524

Morehead Street

•

Charlotte, N.C. 28207

1524 East Morehead

St.,

Charlotte,

...

takes

basketball fans.

been a

sort of

very much."

"Sometimes, they forget that," he said. "Kentucky fans have such high expectations of them." Traveling with the team in the South has given Father Bradley a chance to be a symbol of the Catholic faith to college

especially for

their house. It's a beautiful family,

they play.

"It's

died several years ago.

part of the family," Father Bradley said.

important

to tell that to the players, especially after a loss

who

"They've really made

basketball."

in Christ:

The Holy Land,

And I always

collar.

Over his years with the team, Father Bradley has forged a close relationship with the Pitino family. He baptized the couple's daughter and was the confirmation sponsor for one of their

"I think

with the team," Father Bradley said. "One of the great things about this team

appointment

a Christian

wear the (Roman)

The Most Reverend William G. Curlin, is pleased to announce the following March

Four Hoopsters

Final

Communion to Catholic players Walter McCarty, Antoine Walker and Wayne

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The Pope Speaks Pope John Paul II

Pro-Life Corner

Pope Easing Back To Work

apartment window, the

After Illness 2xue compassion leads

—

VATICAN CITY (CNS) After a week of recovery from fever and digestive problems, the Vatican

sharing another's pain, it does not the person whose suffering we Pope John Paul

The Respect

Evangelium Yitae Diocese of Charlotte

Life Office

(704) 377-6871

UtisLop William G. Cmirlin

exlenJs an invilalitDn lo join

WeeL

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celetralions

Si Patrick CalLeJral

Palm

Suntlay

Blessing o \ Ike Pal ms

March

10:45

31.

Lass

Clergy

April

lo Prieslly

"As of today

Ministry

square. "I thank you for your presence here and for the support of your prayers," he said. It was the pope's only

allusion to his health.

The pope then spoke about St. Joseph as

the

pope

will

resume

The pope was being

his activity,

treated

Mass

of ike

Lord

model for

his

personal physician, Italian Dr. Renato Buzzonetti.

Speaking for about 15 minutes to several thousand people gathered in St. Peter's Square below his

Holy TLursiJay

workers and the whole church. "He was the loving guardian of Jesus and Mary; he is an example of the silent diligence with which we must all serve God and neighbor," he said. The pope had to postpone a trip on March 19, the feast of St. Joseph, to the Italian city of Siena. The Vatican rescheduled the visit for March 30. Navarro- Vails said the pope planned to deliver his Sunday Angelus blessing and talk on March 24 from his apartment window, but would probably cancel a scheduled visit to a Rome parish the same day. He said he thought the pope would be able to hold his regular general audience on March 27, then travel to Siena three days later. On March 3 1 Palm Sunday, the pope was scheduled to begin a week of intense liturgical activities culminating with a Good Friday Way of the Cross, an Easter vigil and Easter Mass. The Vatican has given no indication the Easter events would be pared back. fathers,

progressively and with the prudence suggested by the doctor," he said.

7:30

audience hall or the

remains," the spokesman said.

Blessing of ike Sacred Oils and

Recommilmenl

Pope John Paul

activities with the

cannot bear."

—

their

unique." The general audience normally lasts from an hour to 90 minutes, and is held in the Vatican

II would slowly begin resuming "prudence" suggested by his doctor. In place of his weekly general audience March 20, the 75-year- old pope addressed pilgrims and visitors from his apartment window. Reading brief talks in several languages, he looked less tired than he had three days earlier during a beatification liturgy. The pope fell ill with a mild fever March 12 and, except for his abbreviated appearance at the beatification ceremony and a blessing afterward, spent the next several days resting under his doctor's care. The Vatican said the pontiffs general health was good, but that he was suffering from an unspecified digestive problem. Speaking to reporters March 20, Vatican spokesman Joaquin Navarro- Vails said the pope did not have the flu or an infection. He said what the Vatican has described as a "fever syndrome of a digestive nature" involved a number of elements, including temperature, tiredness and bad digestion. "Many of these, including fever, have now disappeared. One can understand if some tiredness

said

kill

pope said

meeting was "a little

Supper

April 4. 7:30

Guest Column Good Friday Commemoralion April

Lord

of ike 5.

Rev. Francis s

Hail To Our King A Palm Sunday Reflection

Holy Salurday Easier Vigil

Rejoice, rejoice, people of Zion! Shout for joy, you people of Jerusalem! Look, your king is coming to you! He comes triumphant and victorious, but humble and riding on a donkey.

April 6. 8:00

Easier Sunday April

10:45

Zechariah

On Palm Sunday

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all

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cities.

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"Hosanna to the Son of David" (which means "God save the king!") The author then quotes verse 26 of Psalm 118, the psalm that pilgrims sang on their final ascent to the Temple: "Blessed is he (the pilgrim) who comes in the name of the Lord (Yahweh)," and concludes with "Hosanna in the highest!" that is, "Save us, God on high!"

We now begin the most solemn week of the liturgical year, the Christian Passover. This eight-day religious

After the blessing of palms, an account of the Lord's entrance is proclaimed from one of the three synoptic gospels according to the cycle. This year it is

ceremony commemorates the mystery of our salvation.

from the Gospel according to Matthew (21:1-11). This version stands out by its theological character. Early on the author introduces his reflection on an Old Testament text (combined from Zechariah and Isaiah) which then colors the narrative itself. He pictures Jesus sending his disciples to bring two animals to him, upon both of which he rides. The quotation from Zechariah 9:9 refers to a king coming to Jerusalem riding upon an ass, symbol of peace (as opposed to horses used in war). The author then exploits the regal aspect by making Jesus' entry

With readings from the passion accounts and the celebration of the Easter vigil, the liturgy of the Holy

into Jerusalem a triumphal procession, climaxing in

other subscrib-

and other

designed

In this gospel the people cry out not just "Hosanna" (which means "God save us!") but

temple area, an event that does not the next day in his source, the gospel

his cleansing the

take place until

according to Mark.

We believe that

it is

of Jesus Christ that

Week

through the death and resurrection

are saved.

urges us to appropriate to ourselves Christ's It also offers us an opportunity

victory over sin and death. to recall the various

ways men and women share

passion of our Lord

—

in the

the unemployed, the starving

and destitute, people without proper housing, refugees and displaced persons, addicts, the bitter, the lonely, and ask our Lord to inspire us and the sick, the dying

—

others to

become more involved

in alleviating other's

suffering.

The Rev. Francis

Gignac,

5.7., is

a professor and

chairperson of the Department of Biblical Studies at The Catholic University of America in Washington, D.C.

March

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29, 1996

Light

& Herald

One Candle

Father John Catoir

â€” A Product Of Judaism

a record of many faithful people who have given us a witness of their enduring The Holocaust is a stumbling block faith during that period when nothing in for believing people. How could a good life spoke of the existence, much less God permit such a thing? the love, of God. In the Christopher The question is natural, but one Award winning book, Hasidic Tales of must be very careful about assigning all the Holocaust, Yaffa Eliach presents suffering to God's will. It's true that stories which reveal so movingly the provide can suffering heroic courage of a tremendous benefits of people who kept the "They bore witness to growth and redemption and shining light of faith a living flame offaith that some suffering can be

Jesus

burning

that

kind of that even ... Satan could hellish darkness. purification sent by God; but not extinguish..." So many of when you think about the them continued to sufferings of the Jews and Christians pray; to praise God; to observe their during the Holocaust, in no way can you rituals and feast days even when accuse God of that kind of diabolical confounded by the sadistic cruelty of scourge. the Nazis and stunned by the silence of Suppose you were caught in that an outside world which never came to web of misery. In that context, what their rescue. These victims nevertheless would you believe? Fortunately we have trusted God, believing in His goodness

viewed

without

individuals whom God leaves in good

reservation. They set an

faith."

example

for

believers of all

and

faiths

times.

all

They

bore witness to a living flame of faith that even the most cunning designs of Satan could not extinguish from their hearts. I hope their heroism will lead all of us to a deeper consideration of the Jewish religion. Baron Von Hugel, writing at the turn of this century, had this important insight: "Certainly Judaism was not a false religion for 13 centuries before

Christ.

For

its

time,

was God's

fullest

revelation and mankind's deepest understanding of God. It has been this and, in fact,

still

for millions of

Judaism has produced and still is producing people of extraordinary religious fervor, courage and human sensitivity. The presence of antiSemitism among Christians stems either from a monstrous ignorance or worse, from a malevolent will. As Holy Week approaches, let us consider this truth: Jews and Christians are truly brothers and sisters in the family

of God. As a follower of Jesus, I can say with all honesty that I love Him all the more because of His Jewishness. What might He think of those who would love

Him

because of

less

it?

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Family Matters Eileen

Let

The Games Begin

The following day

many

Mom,

do we have a chess game?"

6-year-old son, Bobby, asked

one day

week.

played it during 'choice time' at school today and I really liked it." It had been years since I played chess and I wasn't sure if we owned a chess game. So I headed down to the basement and began the search through the mountain of my old board games. Sure enough, there at the bottom of the last

was a worn and flattened box that amazingly still held all 32 chessmen and a brown and white chessboard. pile

studied the pieces,

of outdoor

summer

memories

chess games

flooding back, but the rules of the

came game

completely escaped me. Not to worry, I thought. I'm sure Bobby doesn't really know how to play chess and we'll just be shuffling the pieces around the board. But by the time I had finished reading

Bobby had set up the board correctly and was ready to begin. Hi's pawns were advancing across the board as I wondered why the

the instruction booklet,

learned that

other kindergartners had joined

Marx back the

tears,

of chess aficionados.

collapses in a

remarked

heap. Children

not built on winning a

learn early that

trying something new

play.

She often begins by teaching the game that uses just pawns: the winner of the game is the first to push a pawn to the other side. According to Chessfor Children, this "Lincolnshire system," which began in South Lincolnshire, England, is fast becoming

winning and

and sticking to

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the icing on the cake.

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way to teach people all over the world to play. Mrs. Lyons told me that children feel good about themselves when they play chess because they know they are competing in a game that is usually played by bigger kids and adults. All this is well and good. But as a parent who has seen her two children experience the thrill of victory and the agony of defeat in ways that can get downright ugly, I can't deny that someone is going to win the game and someone is going to lose. My 4-year-old the accepted

daughter, Teresa, actually stacks the

game of Candyland sure to get " Queen

deck of cards

in the

so that she

Bobby admonished me. "The bishop can only move diagonally. Does daddy know how to play chess?"

Frostine," propelling her to a quick victory.

And when Bobby's opponent

triumphs, he tries desperately to hold

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Lenten Reflection Father Peter Jugis

During Lent, prayer has been an important part of our spiritual program of conversion and renewal.

his head.

the first day of Lent,

Ash Wednesday,

the Lord

trusting prayer:

"When you

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approach the

of Lent, the Lord

again urges us through the

Palm Sunday to continue prayer: "He said to them: 'Remain here and stay awake with me.' He

liturgy of

said that a picture paints a

thousand words.

good

story that

If this is true, is

then a

well told, paints a

thousand pictures. The best stories are ones that reveal the truth about us; the truth about life, love and God. These stories can be found in families, among friends and in the Scriptures. These stories are perfected and refined by the telling and retelling of them. Think about a good book, or a good movie. If they're really good, they're worth revisiting again and again. In the same way, family stories, even when heard the umpteenth time, can enrich us

and help us

The

to live well.

stories in families powerfully

influence us.

They

tell

who we

are,

and what it is that we value. However, as powerful as they are, they don't always lead us toward happiness. Some stories limit and demean us. For many it's a struggle to free themselves of stories that

want

advanced a

characteristics:

— The has power us from destructive — The helps us see ourselves to release

the

alternatives. to

and the world around us truthfully. Stories that perpetrate untruths blind us to the

graces that

— The

way

that

word and by his example Jesus has been inviting us to prayer, that

giving,

interior dialogue

we need

Father. This trusting prayer

to find

ways to connect them to the

don't resort to violence.

story has a sense of the tragic may be better equipped to face

tragedy in our lives;

magnanimously

The

promises

story

magnanimous good and greatness.

capable of

doesn't limit us.

has the

potential to stretch us in the

most

promising ways.

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justice. It

The It is

story

our family stories, we see our correlation with the story of God. As leaders of families, it is our job to help the

look

members of our families make

God's and making it their own. Then we our stories can watch how our lives become shaped by God.

the connection to understanding story

—

inclusive

characterized by

— open It is

an economy of privilege

economy of

economy of God.

hospital stay, and After his unable to focus his still

eyes at times, he came to the parish and placed an icon on Our Lady of Guadalupe in the church and

brought votive candles to burn before her image. This man's humble, trusting prayer was that his eyesight be restored. The light of the candle

was an

external sign of the interior of hope which prayer brought to his heart. The interior dialogue of his heart with the Father was the light which pushed back the darkness of fear, anxiety and worry about his eyesight. Despite the darkness around light

him, he entered trustingly into prayer.

the

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become

of Lent,

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injured in a fight.

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He was who had tried to break men who were coming

continue to respond

once Lent

the Father

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us to hear and respond to

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What household peacemaker By Father David K. O'Rourke, Catholic News Service

better,

ing

The same can be said of peace in the family. Peace is not the same as tiptoeing around a troublesome, or even tyrannizing, individual. That is more like surrender; it seems to breed resentment, not peace. There can be situations where, for example, financial survival may require that a person or family put up with inappropriate behavior just to survive. But it is important that, at least in their own hearts, family members never forget that they deserve bet-

Trying to create peace at home is often a struggle. The statistics today on family turmoil and dissolution tell us that people who are having a difficult time creating peace in the family are not alone. Recently I celebrated the funeral Mass for a man everyone liked and respected. He was known as a good father and husband. Everyone spoke of

how welcoming and happy that family's

peace

home always was. This kind of

ter.

a great tribute to a family. We praise peace and hold it up as an ideal. But for many people peace at home seems more a distant ideal than a present reality. In fact, some people even seem to thrive on turmoil, which may not feel peaceful to them at all. As any family counselor can tell you, there are people who will cre"Peace is not ate turmoil where it

family comes

mind whose

All people are entitled to believe in their own human dignity, even if their concrete rights aren't being recognized by someone. Devaluing ourselves is not the road to peace, and self-respect may help to create a climate for peace. In some homes, a cease-fire may seem like the best that can be achieved at the moment.

the

Such make me

same as

16-

year-old son seems troubled and certainly is troubling. He appears to be

unhappy, and he is good at spreading

troublesome, or even tyrannizing, individual.

That

more like it seems

surrender;

fire

home he had

to behave toward everyone in a civil way. As the father said, "We've got four other people in this house who get along, and we're going to enjoy our dinners and time together whether he's here or not." Which they

was a

far cry

from peace. But

war people had

lived with. Civility is better than incivility. When dealing, for example, with teenagers having a hard time living with themselves and handling the expectations of school, their family and their peers, some level of civility is not a bad goal.

What can

families do? One thing that might help is to set reachable goals. Begin by trying to understand

what peace Peace

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was a big improvement over the open

breed resentment, not peace."

this unhappiness around. The boy's parents used to tiptoe around him so as not to set him off. It didn't work. Finally they decided to change, adopted the "as long as you live in this house" approach and spelled out clearly what the rules were. At the top of the list was that at

cases think of

the much-talked about cease-fire in Bosnia in recent months. Everyone agreed the cease-

tiptoeing around a

doesn't exist.

A to

and the disease just keeps takon everyone else.

its toll

is not.

not static, it is not a thing. You can't create peace the way you create a painting or a sculpture. Peace is

dynamic. It is a living quality within a relationship. And relationships involve more than one person. Statements and articles intended to encourage peace in the family sometimes actually create more guilt than is

peace.

That's because the conscientious family member takes these statements to heart and tries even harder to be a peacemaker, as though he or she alone can create peace. But it doesn't work that way. Just as one spouse acting alone can't create a good marriage, so one person can't create a peaceful family all alone. To have peace, it helps to

have the support ily members.

Fetchko

of all the active

fam

Whether it's a home with grandparand several children, or only one parent and one child, every ents, parents

one can get into the act, positively or negatively. I know families whose lives are truly peaceful. But I also know it wasn't always that way. Most of the time they just hung in there. The peace seemed to come later as an unexpected reward.

(Father O'Rourke is a free-lance writer in residence at St. Mary Magdalen Parish in Berkeley, Calif.)

did.

Interestingly, the 16-year-old then started joining them, but he knew he had to behave himself, which he did. The difficult task of making peace in that home was in process. Alcoholics Anonymous insists that it never works when a family tries to handle the alcoholic family member by adapting their behavior to his or hers hiding the liquor, putting up with inappropriate behavior just to keep peace, not saying anything about the behavior for fear of making things worse. AA says that, with that kind of behavior, the addicted person never gets

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one way to be a true peacemaker at home.

"What was not doing was honoring (my teen-age daughter's) individuality.... had to learn to trust that God would lead her and Kathleen Klee, West life in his own time.... Peace didn't come to us until reached that understanding." Palm Beach, Fla. I

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reveal his plan for her

"Listening to the other person's point of view.... When you put yourself in the other person's position and understand how you are being perceived ... you're often able or willing to change the situation.... Conflict is frequently the result of misunderstanding." Carolyn George, Chambersburg, Pa.

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think it helps ... you be more compassionate and understanding to know what "I think it's important to pray for one another. stresses (the other family members are) going through. It also helps to have a common understanding of the expectations of family Sister Mary Kevan Seibert, SND, Versailles, Ky. members toward one another." I

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"The first requirement is to have empathy.... You may have to have guidelines for resolving differences. For example, everyone Ed Tinder, Indianapocommitting to a give-and-take philosophy.... The two big words here are 'empathy' and 'communication."'

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lis,

Ind.

"Instead of yelling, stop; instead, be kind. that's

OK. Keep

It's all

neighborly....

We don't always succeed; we're always

part of the journey."

— Kriss Herndon, Jacksonville,

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FAITH IN ACTION When their home

"Peaceful" doesn't equal "painless" for parents

resembled a

battleground, Teresa A. Langston

and her husband almost despaired. There were daily teach more eloquently by example than by word. How do we resolve conflict and deal with

By Dan Lxiby Catholic News Service Parents often feel as threatened and helpless as U.N. forces sent into a nation to squelch violence and give peace a chance to take root. Flare-ups can break out at home with scant provocation. On the way to church or right before bed, at the video store or a family party, the fragile cease-fire that parents often have to negotiate can disintegrate into namecalling, slammed doors, spiteful jokes or even physical violence. Our world doesn't often deal creatively with conflict and tension. When was the last time an action hero solved a problem by talking things out, establishing rapport

stress in our own lives? A parent who has meetings four nights a week is skating on thin ice in trying to convince a seventh grader to choose soccer or softball, but not both. Our children learn more from us than any

plan of action or strategy for

ever defined our goals ... in terms of our family." The Langstons ultimately decided to "deparent"

— — of demand. — Forego the snappy

put-down

or a humiliating retort.

of respect.

Too, there are lots of stressors in people's lives that make the hard work of peacemaking increasingly difficult.

Third,

for

it's

their children

parenting

(and/or out of control) young people" to becoming much more

attitude

self-reliant.

important that

Reflection: "Children of

art

science. Children

choices contrary to their parents' best efforts. People whose lives are notable for generosity and respectfulness can

and hurt, we are doomed to failure, and we do our children a disservice.

ther gift. In addition, all parents have flaws. There will be times when we miss the mark of ideal parenthood: We snap at people out of proportion to their crime. We let the kids watch an inappropriate movie. We cave in to wheedling and trickery, and send them to bed an hour late. We make unreason-

ture stress and conflict just to toughen kids up. But neither should we sacrifice our family's life together to be able to buy every item our culture says we should, or take every trip, participate in every activity and watch every movie deemed necessary for "cool" people. Second, parents as peacemakers

and do have children who evidence

able demands. But that too

part of life. We're still on the journey and will take many missteps. When we do, we can be grateful that we all belong to the family of God upon whom we can rely for wisdom and mercy. is

(Luby is the director of the Division of Christian Formation for the Diocese of Forth Worth, Texas, and a free-lance writer.)

If you think a synonym for "peace" is "tranquility," you probably don't feel successful peacemaker at home. Sustaining a climate of tranquility in

many changing moods

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homes most homes? is an exacting task, given people's and aptitude for misunderstandings. "The family must be for children the first school of peace," Pope John Paul wrote in his 1996 World Day of Peace message. How do families provide this II

education? I'm sure "peace" ranks high among words that get misinterpreted. For some, peace excludes all conflict. Can a household achieve that?

To build peace it is essential to rid a home of violence and to endeavor to overcome resentments and hostilities. But is a parent a poor peacemaker a child gets angry, a disagreement surfaces or someone sometimes feels unhappy at if

home? Is

a teen-ager know what they stand contest and test parental beliefs?

too risky for parents to

inclination of

many teens

let

—

for,

given the

Here's what children need, according to the pope: surroundings imbued with love and with "mutual respect and acceptance, listening, sharing, generosity, forgiveness." In this atmosphere, he explained, a "sense of working together" fostered, and "education for peace" is provided.

fair discipline, "

the Langstons

Goals of the biblical

peacemaker

By Father John Catholic

David Gibson, Editor, Faith Alive!

News

Castelot

Service

Peace is a byproduct of love, which selfworks for the well-being, wholeness and happiness of others. At least, that's what "peace" means in the Bible. The biblical notion of peace is expressed by the Hebrew word, "shalom." This is a very positive term: "Shalom" indicates not just an absence of tension, conflict, stress. Instead, "shalom" suggests completeness, fulfillment, wholeness, the sum total of all God's blessings. lessly

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able temptation to back off, to secure "peace at any price." But the result is not peace at all. It is, in fact, a selfish desire to avoid trouble. And self-centeredness is the opposite of genuine love, which is directed to the happiness of others. "At the time, all discipline seems a cause not for joy but for pain, yet later it brings the peace-

righteousness to those who are trained by it" (Hebrews 12:11). The first Christians' understanding of peace is reflected in the fourth Gospel when the Lord tells his disciples, "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you," but then adds immediately, "Not as the world gives do I give it to you" (John ful fruit of

This is what St. Paul wished for the 14:27). early Christian com" Peacemakers are True peace tranmunities he founded scends the world's nopeople who wish God's when he consistently tion of peace, which is favor for everyone.." greeted them with often a caricature of "grace and peace." the real thing. ("Grace to you and True peace is a gift peace from God our Father and the Lord of the risen Lord. It is contained in his Jesus Christ" [Romans 1:7]). What Paul gift of the Spirit, and "the fruit of the wished for them was God's favor and the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindtotality of God's blessings.

Peacemakers are people who strive to promote the precious values of well-being, wholeness and happiness in all their interpersonal relationships, at home and in the community at large. Peacemakers are people who wish God's favor for everyone. Parental love is wholeheartedly dedicated to achieving such peace. Of course, this may at times call for what is called "tough love," since children do not always understand what is in their best interests and may react negatively to parents' efforts on their behalf.

This can cause friction, tension and which do not seem peaceful, as that term is commonly understood. In this situation there is an understandstress,

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nei-

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

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ages

write.

can and do make

never had was affection, stability and safety, that's a fitting goal. If, however, we try to give our children a life without struggle, heartache

It's natural to want to protect the people we love. If we could protect our children from every hurtful word, or disappointing loss, or painful mistake, we probably would. But in the long run, we'd be hurting them. Some lessons are learned only through the broken hearts and strained feelings life inevitably doles out. That's not to say we should manufac-

CNS photo

teach more eloquently by example than by word."

than

all

and boundaries. They need to know the rules and consequences of breaking those rules. They also need the security of consistent, thrive with structure

"Parents as peacemakers

time together. What's a parent to do? First, remember that "peaceful" doesn't equal "painless." Parents de-

by moving them from

"being self-centered, dependent

remember

Families are often too tired to reason, too badgered by advertising to make free choices, too committed to a host of activities to enjoy the pleasures of quiet

Nor had

raising our children.

number of heart-to-heart talks about not fighting can deliver when we: Talk instead of shout. Negotiate instead

and crafting a win-win outcome? It's easier to flatten your enemy with a gun, a punch

vote their lives to giving children "everything we never had." If what they

screaming matches, slammed doors and hurt feelings," she recalls in her book Parenting Without Pressure, A Whole Family Approach (NavPress Publishing Group, Box 35001 Colorado Springs, CO 80935. 1994. Paperback, $1 2). The turning point came after a year of counseling, she adds, "when Herb and realized we'd never developed a

ness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control" (Galatians 5:22-23). Efforts at peacemaking will bring joy,

but they will ity,

call for patience,

self-control

generos-

and courageous perse-

They will bring joy, but not ways immediately.

verance.

(Father Castelot

scholar, author, teacher

al-

a Scripture

and

lecturer.)

The Catholic News

March

Herald

People Two New

Auxiliary Bishops In Philadelphia

Ordained

—

PHILADELPHIA (CNS) three days after they

Just

former archbishop at the Cathedral Basilica of Sts. Peter and Paul, their

welcomed

two new

auxiliary bishops in the

church. Cardinal Anthony

their

same

Bevilacqua who presided March 8 over the funeral of his predecessor, Cardinal John J. Krol J.

— — was chief celebrant March

1 1

at the

episcopal ordinations of Bishops Robert P.

Maginnis and Joseph F. Martino. There

"an appointed time for everything

Oscars. "It's just intensified."

The 56-

year-old nun insists the biggest impact

on her

overriding

life,

all that

has

come

with the success of "Dead Man Walking,"

like a white-hot fire.

And

largest religious order of

Argentine Father Juan

new superior. Father Vecchi'

March 20

election

marked

the

first

a plea of insanity, a Massachusetts jury

the Salesians of St. John Bosco. Representatives of the 17,000-member order began their general chapter meeting

suburban Boston. Salvi, a New Hampshire and a

directions for the Salesians, including

clinics in

8% have gotten leftover or discar<S "§11

food to feed their family.

found John C. Salvi III, 24, guilty on all counts of murder and assault stemming from his 1994 attacks on two abortion

time

Shootings

Rome Feb.

meeting

men, elected

37-year history that a nonItalian had been elected major rector of

WASHINGTON (CNS) — Rejecting

tight.

Edmundo Vecchi

to be their

in the order' s

or relatives for food or meats.

—

between the two occasions. Salvi Guilty Of First-Degree Murder In Abortion Clinic

food

35% have sent their children to friends

Salesians, the Catholic Church's third

Ecclesiastes to reflect the contrast

that...

97% cut or skip meals when money for

everything gets perspective."

from

drawing

said,

households found

against that

time to weep, a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance," Cardinal

...

A 1995 survey of adults in hungry

was the event that led her to write the book in the first place. "The thing that's influenced me most is watching somebody die, and seeing the pain of the murder victims' families," she said. "It'

Salesians Select Argentine Priest To Be New Superior ROME (CNS) Members of the

Bevilacqua

The News

where the movie based on her book, "Dead Man Walking," was up for four

mourned and buried

Philadelphia Catholics

29, 1996

until

Catholic from

closer

person described as a loner who espouses a worldwide, anti-Catholic conspiracy theory, was convicted March 18 of two

collaborators.

1 9 and planned to continue mid- April to outline future

relationships

Among

with

lay

Catholic men's

only the Jesuits and the

orders,

Franciscans have more members.

counts of first-degree murder and five

Two

St. Louis Catholic School Administrators Killed In Car Crash

counts of armed assault with intent to murder. Jurors in the six-week-long trial in Dedham, Mass., deliberated for nine

hours over two days before returning was sentenced to two consecutive life terms, plus 18 to 20

ST.

LOUIS (CNS)

— Two Catholic

their verdict. Salvi

school administrators for the Archdiocese

years for the assaults.

of St. Louis were killed in a car accident while returning from a principals'

symposium. Franciscan Sister Mary Ann Governal, 49, associate superintendent for elementary education, and Ellen Ryan,

Today' Anchor Looks Forward To Repeating Vatican Visit

—

WASHINGTON (CNS) "Today" show anchor Bryant Gumbel brought his show to the Vatican years ago. And, before he departs from the show in nine

47, director of elementary religious

months, he'll have returned to Rome once more. NBC's "Today" is scheduled to broadcast live from Rome and Vatican City on Holy Thursday and Good Friday,

office

1 1

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And Gumbel,

a Catholic,

education curriculum, were killed March

when

was hit head-on. George Henry, education superintendent, a tire blowout at

According

their car to

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on which the women were Both women died instantly.

traveling.

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You make You constantly pound Gumbel said. "If you go

easiest thing in the world.

yourself available.

on the door," expecting to get something you get disappointed. We remain hopeful. We

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It' s

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Partial-Birth Abortion

programs and health care

training

amendment would add an exception

for

professionals from government-based

situations involving "serious adverse

discrimination on grounds of failure to

health consequences to the

comply with

woman."

the recent pro-abortion

Catholic

decrees of the Accreditation Council for

bishops who sent letters to Clinton, responded that such an exception would

Graduate Medical Education." Johnson also said he supported an amendment that would ensure no state would be required to use state funds to pay for abortions except to save the life

Pro-lifers, including

many

make the bill meaningless. As written the bill

allow such abortions to be performed

to save the life of the mother.

The March 25 newspaper ad said that since Roe vs. Wade and Doe vs. Bolton, the "health of a mother" has been legally defined as "all factors

—

physical,

emotional, psychological, familial and

—

woman's age relevant to the wellbeing of the patient." "As (the former) Sen. Bob Packwood, R-Ore., well-known abortion advocate, the

so aptly noted,

couldn't

there any abortion that

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distributed

March 25

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national collection in parishes, in with the Santa Fe Archdiocese and KOB-TV, the NBC

Louisiana of a federal judge's order on Medicaid-funded abortions.

The

conference committee include a Senate

amendment, Amendment.

Snowe

Coats-

the

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Johnson,

legislative director of National Right to

amendment deserved

said the

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support because it "would protect medical

may

ruling said the state

not

Built in 1993, Santa

CNS

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long line of people wait to exchange

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incest-related abortions. In 1994 Congress approved a regulation requiring states to provide abortions for indigent women in such cases in addition to cases where the mother's life is in danger. Louisiana is the fifth state whose appeal of the regulation has been rejected by the Supreme Court.

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Characteristics Of The Devotion To By

LEONARD KONOPKA, M.I.C.

keep coming for grace to the fountain of mercy. That vessel is this image

The Catholic Church places the

foundation of its beliefs and teachings on four sources of truth: Scripture, Tradition, Magisterium and Fathers of the Church.

I trust in

These are enhanced and supported by

Faustina's Diary #327)

with the signature: Jesus, You. " (Sister

Most private

Jesus explained that

revelations in the past have dealt with

the rays of red and pale

one or two principle messages that enrich our lives and lift our minds to God in a new and deeper way. However, in regard to the revelations given by Our Lord to Blessed Faustina, there are five major

light represented the

private revelations.

categories that

make

this

particular

the direction of her spiritual director.

The Feast Devotion to the Divine Mercy

us to Himself

—

of Divine

Mercy to

of the Divine Mercy on the Sunday after Easter. Jesus said: "On that day, the very

be denied His merciful forgiveness. it to be known that mercy is His greatest attribute. Furthermore, because of His overwhelming love, God wants us to turn to Him with trust and repentance while it

depths of My tender mercy are open. I pour out a whole ocean of graces upon souls who approach the fount of My mercy. The soul that will go to confession (eight days before or after) and receive Holy Communion shall obtain complete forgiveness of sins and punishment.

comes "Mankind

mercy

—

before

as the just judge. Jesus said:

(Sister Faustina's Diary:

699)

The Feast of Divine Mercy

have no peace until it turns with trust to My mercy!" (Sister

that celebrates the paschal

Faustina's Diary: 300)

a focus

will

a day

that answer.

mystery with on God's covenant of mercy; a day of complete forgiveness and pardon, like the Day of Atonement in the Old all our sins and the Testament punishment due for them are atoned for.

The Image of Divine Mercy

The Novena Before the Feast

Turning to and imploring God's mercy is the answer to the questions of a troubled world. There is no escape from

When Jesus first appeared to Blessed He had

Faustina, light

rays of red and pale

emanating from the area around His His hand was raised in blessing as

heart. if

recalling the scene of Easter

night depicted in the

Sunday

Book of John.

Blessed Faustina to have a painting made of this image and along with the words: "Jesus, I trust in You. (Personally, I am more in agreement with those

who would

pray: "Jesus,

trust

You.") Jesus presented this image to remind all

of us to

Him

trust in

His mercy and to go to

for mercy.

TTTI

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As a preparation for the Feast of the Divine Mercy, the Lord asked Blessed Faustina to make a novena of prayer from Good Friday to the following Saturday (the word "novena" means

Faustina's Diary: 1209)

This novena begins at 3 p.m. on Friday and Holy Saturday at Our Lady of Grace Church in Greensboro

and continues Easter Sunday at 4 p.m.and at 7:30

Easter Monday through Saturday

p.m.

The Three O'Clock Hour Another request of Our Lord

"At 3:00, implore My mercy, especially for sinners and if only for a brief moment, immerse yourself in My passion, particularly in My abandonment at the moment of agony This the hour of great mercy for the whole world. I will allow you to enter into My mortal sorrow. cross:

320)

"O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart ofJesus as a fount of mercy for us, I trust in you." We can sense then a certain urgency in Our Lord to settle matters with us who have offended Him. Jesus always takes first initiative to call us to Himself, to be at peace with us. We do not rely on our own strength to remain faithful even in spite of our good intentions. Our trust in Jesus knows no bounds, just as His mercy is without end. To Him be glory now and forever.

the

Marian Brother Leonard Konopka Our Lady of Grace Church in Greensboro.

pastoral associate at

Divine Mercy Sunday is celebrated April 14 at of Grace Church 2205 W. Market St. Greensboro, N.C. It will begin with an

Our Lady

introduction at 2 p.m.

followed by the chanting of the chaplet to Divine Mercy and Mass at 3 p.m. Following Mass, a film on Sister Faustina will be shown. All are invited.

novena: Day

2:00 Presentation on: Divine Mercy in Relation to the

for all humanity,

Day 2: for the souls of priests and religious; Day 3: for the souls especially sinners;

2:40 Chanting of the Chaplet to the Divine Mercy

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This novena dedicated to Divine Mercy is often compared to the days of prayer in the upper room before Pentecost. (Acts 1:14) Our Lord gave Blessed Faustina nine different intentions for each day of the

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Day 7: for the souls who especially venerate and glorify his mercy; Day 8: for

children;

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is still

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;

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soul that

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Jesus wants

In this hour,

those

souls detained in purgatory and Day 9: for the peace with us. people with souls that have become lukewarm. "/ desire that during these nine days you bring gushed forth from the souls to the fount of My mercy, that they heart of Jesus as a fount of mercy for us, may draw therefrom strength and I trust in You. " (Sister Faustina's Diary: refreshment and whatever grace they 84) have need of in the hardships of life and

All of the messages she received from Our Lord are contained in a diary that was kept by Blessed Faustina under

intrinsic

of all the devout and faithful;

takes the first

blood and water which flowed from His pierced side and taught Blessed Faustina this prayer: "O, blood and water, which

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Day 4: for who do not believe in Him and for those who do not yet know Him; Day 5: for the souls of separated brethren; Day 6: Jesus always for the souls of the meek and

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Then he took a piece of bread, gave thanks to God, broke it, and gave my body, which is given for you. Do this in

to them, saying, "This is

memory of me. "

(Luke 22: 19)

Experiencing the decline of elderly is hard. When an elderly father or mother becomes sick, roles are reversed

and children become the caregivers. "Even though it is painful to give up your parents' support, there

people break down," she said. She said that people who have no family to share caregiving duties with should find a support group to offer emotional support

and advice.

satisfaction in

being able to give back the care that your parents gave to you," said Helene Clark, assistant professor of nursing at

The

Catholic University of America.

Many adults struggle to find the right

Families should consider future care for parents, Clark said. In

capabilities.

The scene

Supper with Jesus and his apostles is depicted in this stained glass window at St. Helena Catholic Church in Minneapolis, Minn. of the Last

call for help,

Marie Raber, assistant dean of the

The family should discuss

the care

of an elderly parent and negotiate the responsibilities, Clark said.

She also

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Raber stressed the importance of families sharing duties.

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Training for the sick and dying ministry requires a weekly

commitment

Dotson said the program explores personal attitudes, feelings and for six weeks.

beliefs,

as well as

common

attitudes

about death.

preparation for death can begin.

meeting with Christ. To illustrate this point, Dotson discussed her own father' death. Just before her father died, Dotson was by his bedside. Although her grandmother had died several years earlier, her father said that his mother was there and said, "She's come for me." Dotson gently took her father's hand and asked if he were afraid to die. "Not anymore," he said. Several minutes later, Dotson' s father peacefully passed away.

Dotson closed her presentation with an invitation: "Pray and search your hearts, ask Christ if He is calling you to this ministry," she said. "For many, the final stages of life are often faced alone. We can extend Christ's peace to people

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Teleflora's

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For information about participating in a ministry to the sick and dying, call Bert Dotson at (704) 926-0106.

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Diocesan News Briefs Home

School Conference

RALEIGH — A Catholic family life and home schooling conference is Saturday, May 4 at Cardinal Gibbons High School at 8 a.m. with Mass. For

symposium that addresses the Scriptures

Symposium In Rome A three-week symposium presented

(919)212-0374. Grief Support

WINSTON-SALEM Bach addresses

—

Suzanne

loneliness at an inter-

parish grief support group Thursday,

Leo Church

April 18 at 7 p.m. at St.

conference room

A.. For information,

Joanne at (910) 929-9478 or Angela Case at (910) 725-7321.

Sister

call

by the Papal Institute of Christian Culture and Catholic University in Lublin, Poland is June 20-July 9. Cost is $900 for adults and $740 for students and includes accommodations, meals, day trips and an audience with the pope. Airfare included.

registration

Stefan

not

$300 deposit is due with by April 10. Contact Rev.

Wylezek

Institute for

at the

Lord liturgy is at 7 p.m. Good Friday. Holy Saturday Mass is at 10 a.m. and will

inside the parish center.

ARISE Weekend Experience MONROE ARISE is an April 26-

include the Blessing of Food. Easter Vigil

28 retreat at Our Lady of Lourdes Church for those who want to know more about the Catholic faith. For information, call Sheri Wilson at (910) 765-3499.

parish children follows the 8:30 a.m.

—

information.

information or to register, call Theresa

Leland

Church

and daily life is July 12-14. Contact Sheri Wilson at (910) 765-3499 for

Course

CHARLOTTE — Mercy

Hospital

South and Mercy Maternity Center present a baby-sitter's seminar for boys and girls age 12 and up Saturday, May 4 from 8:30 a.m.-l p.m. Cost is $15. Call Eileen Black at (704) 543-2309 for information.

63, 00193 Rome, international (06)

Italy,

ARDEN —

Inquiry Sessions at St.

6098.

House Of Prayer Retreat "A Spiritual HOT SPRINGS

—

processes of aging,

April 19-21 at the

House of Prayer. For information, write to: Jesuit House of Prayer, P.O. Box 7, Hot Springs, N.C. 28743, or call

Passion Play

CHARLOTTE

— "The Passion of

Thursday, April 5

Day 1996

—

North

Carolina Right To Life workshop is Saturday, April 27 at the Embassy Suites. Cost is $30 per individual or $50 per couple. For information or to register

N.C. Right To Life Office at (910) 274-5433 or (800) 392-6275.

Easter Retreat For

Men

BELMONT — An Easter retreat for is

Peter Church.

Spring Fling The annual "Spring

GASTONIA

—

Fling" for diocesan middle school students is Saturday, March 30 from 9 a.m.-5 p.m. at St. Michael Church.

Single Catholics group meets Thursday, April 11 at 6 p.m. at Applebee's on Battleground Avenue. Call Patti Coates at (910) 852-6763 for information.

Wine Tasting And Art Auction

CHARLOTTE — The Holy Trinity

call the

men

at St.

Catholic Singles GREENSBORO— The Greensboro

Pro-Life

April 4-7 at Belmont Abbey. For

Middle School Wine Festival and Art Auction to benefit school programs is Saturday, April 20. For ticket information, call the school at (704) 527-

7822.

information, call Father Placid Solari at

Cursillo

(704) 825-6702.

Community

CHARLOTTE "Walk For

HICKORY

Life"

— A "Walk

for Life,"

sponsored by the Pregnancy Care Center of Catawba Valley is Sunday, April 21 at 2 p.m. For information, call Frankie Swanson at (704) 328-8226.

activities

MONROE — To play

for

—

Ultreya A Charlotte

Watt

(704) 283-0759 by

31.

K Of C Garage — A

Columbus garage

sale

20 from 9 a.m. -3 p.m.

GREENSBORO

—

St.

(704) 825-4161

Trip

Lenten Opportunities

simple meal of soup and bread with a

includes: motorcoach, meals, musical

presentation by a guest speaker, follows

shows, hotel and more. Departs

Wednesday Mass at 7 p.m. at St. Barnabas

Gabriel Church, Charlotte and will pick

Church. Stations of the Cross are Fridays at 7 p.m. in the Blessed Sacrament Chapel. Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament follows. A family Seder meal in the true Jewish tradition replaces the Soup and

Substance program Wednesday, April 3 at 6:30 p.m. Stations of the ASHEVILLE Cross at St. Joan of Arc Church are Fridays at 7 p.m. Stations of the Cross at the Basilica of Saint Lawrence are Wednesdays at 7 p.m. and Fridays at 1 1 :30 a.m. and 6 p.m. Stations of the CLEMMONS Cross at Holy Family Church are Fridays at 2 and 7:30 p.m. Vespers are Tuesdays

—

7 p.m.

CHARLOTTE

—

St.

on Route #74 east of more information, call

at several places

Charlotte. For

Lou

Scharff at (704) 541-6855.

Living Waters Retreats

MAGGIE VALLEY

—

"Journey

Through Oz: Woman's Yellow Brick Road" is an April 15-18 retreat reflecting on the theology of woman as she walks toward higher wisdom and truth led by Sister Maurus Allen.

To register, contact Living Waters Reflection Center, 1420 Soco Rd., Maggie Valley, NC 28751. For information, call (704) 926-3833. Healing

Mass

CHARLOTTE — A Mass for healing

Stations of the

Cross at Our Lady of Assumption Church are Fridays at 7 p.m. Exposition of the Blessed Sacrament and Benediction

mind, body and spirit is the first Wednesday each month at 7:30 p.m. at St.

Peter Church.

follows.

CONCORD — Stations of the Cross James Church are Fridays

Apostle and First Lutheran Churches Vacation Bible School is June 17-21 for children age 3 through fifth grade.

Dinner Theater

in the Parish Center.

spaghetti dinner

at 6: 15 p.m. followed by the play 7 p.m. Tickets are $10 per family or $4

begins at

child.

Yard Sale

STATESVILLE

— A yard

6:30

HICKORY — Stations of the Cross

at St.

—

at Christ the

LENOIR

Paul the

Echoing God's Word

—

ticket information,

Newton

CRISM Beach

King Church

First

Saturday Devotions

BELMONT

—

St.

—

Dinner Stations of the Cross at

Francis of Assisi Church are Fridays

6:30 p.m.

MAGGIE VALLEY —

sale is

Saturday, April 20 at St. Philip the Apostle

Fridays at 6 p.m.

First

Saturday

Stations of

And Auction

ASHEBORO

—

The St. Joseph Church Spaghetti Dinner and Auction is Saturday, April 20 at 6:30 p.m. at the Black and Decker Clubhouse.

Church are

A soup supper follows.

MONROE — Stations of the Cross

Abbey Experience

BELMONT — The Belmont Abbey

Our Lady of Lourdes Church are Fridays at 7:30 p.m. Daily Masses are at

juniors and seniors

9 a.m. and noon.

beginning

Cross at St. Therese Church are Fridays at 7:30 p.m. Mass is at 7 p.m. followed by Eucharistic Adoration until midnight on Thursday, April 4 at St. Margaret Mary Church. Stations of the Cross especially for children are at 12 noon and 3 p.m. and the Passion of our

or (800) 523-2355.

MOORESVILLE — Stations of the

SWANNANOA —

Belmont Abbey

are

Fridays at 7 p.m.

of St. James Church presents "The Passion and Death of Jesus Christ," a dinner theater event, Sunday, March 3

"Echoing God's Word: Catechesis and Preaching Based on the Liturgy of the Word" is a

contact Josh

beginning with the rosary at 9:30 a.m., followed by confessions at 10:30 a.m. and Mass at 1 1:30 a.m. For information, call Terri or Phil at (704) 888-6050.

adult and

HICKORY

For show times and

Aloysius Church are Fridays at 7:15 p.m. Stations of the HIGH POINT

Saturday, April

Church. Bring donations to the rectory March 30, April 6 or April 13 from 12-3 p.m. For pickup or information, call (704) 885-7879 or (704)884-9616.

Parish Center to benefit Holy Angels.

devotions are

CONCORD — The Youth Ministry

Sacred Heart

—

p.m.

Sale Knights of

Holy Angels Fashion Show BELMONT The American Girls Fashion Show is April 1 9-2 1 at St. Gabriel

schedule for 1996.

the Cross at St. Margaret

BREVARD

the Cross at St. Leo the Great Church are Fridays at 7 p.m. Exposition of the Blessed Sacrament follows.

Sunday each month from 1-3 p.m. at St. Matthew Church. The event includes a potluck lunch and baby-sitting is available. For information, call Joe and Sandy Farrelly at (704) 846-2913.

Our Lady

March

p.m.

Stations of

Cursillo Community Ultreya is the fourth

Vacation Bible School

of Lourdes Church softball team call Sandy Sawyer at (704) 291-9061 or Jeff

—

at St.

Sign-Ups

Softball

Mary Church are Fridays at 5:30 p.m.

ARDEN — "Soup and Substance," a

Cross

Co-Ed

St.

The CRISM group of the Diocese of Charlotte beach trip to Myrtle Beach and Charleston is April 9-12. The $339 cost

Our Lord Jesus Christ According To St. Matthew" is a passion play presented in

(704) 622-7366.

GREENSBORO

Mass on the church lawn.

SYLVA — Stations of the Cross

April 9 in the church hall to finalize the

Perspective on Aging," a that addresses the spiritual, psychological and physical Jesuit

Men's Club Meeting

SWANNANOA— The St. Margaret Mary Church Men' s Club meets Tuesday,

silence by the Centenary Players

Jesuit

An Easter Egg Hunt for

WINSTON-SALEM

Barnabas Church for those interested in becoming Catholic begin April 16 at 7 p.m. and continue for four weeks. For information, call Sheryl at (704) 684-

for

information.

8 p.m.

A Lenten supper follows at 6: 15

call

686-1844

Easter Sunday

Inquiry Sessions

Christian Culture, Via di Porta Angelica

Baby-Sitter's

Mass is

College visitation day for high school is

Friday, April 12

9 a.m. For information, call the Admissions Office at (704) 825-6665 at

The Catholic News & Herald welcomes parish news for the diocesan news briefs. Good photographs, preferably black and white, are also welcome. Please submit news at least 10

days before the date of publication.

March

The Catholic News

29, 1996

& Herald

World And National News Briefs Bishops' Administrative

they enjoy

Committee Scores Assisted Suicide Ruling

WASHINGTON (CNS)— The U.S. bishops' Administrative Committee

March

19 denounced the recent federal

appeals court decision to legalize assisted suicide, calling

innocent

life

"a massive threat to

and

American

ideals of

equal protection under the law." The ruling "creates a 'right to die' that threatens to

sweep away

all

meaningful

in part a

product of the

fear leads

them

to forget their

own

grandparents and parents were likely among their generations' "huddled

masses yearning strives to

Children's Author Pens Biography Of Revolutionary Hero Pulaski MOLINE, 111. (CNS) The only

—

U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals' 8-3 ruling

rejected an attempt

by Arkansas officials Medicaid funds

to deny the use of federal

pay for abortions in the case of rape and incest, and sent the case back to a lower court. That same day, the court agreed to review a case on the to

many Illinois schoolchildren know about Casimir Pulaski is that they get a day off every March in his honor. But David R. Collins, the award- winning author of 63 children' s books since 1 970,

thing

has written a biography of the Polish-

born hero of the American Revolution so young people can know more about him, including the importance of his Catholic faith. Published by Pelican Press of Gretna, La., "Casimir Pulaski Soldier on Horseback" recounts his fight to liberate Poland from the Russians and

may not demonstrate. With regard to Medicaid abortion funding, the protesters

high court has rejected similar appeals in

months from Nebraska, Colorado and Pennsylvania. The different state cases are a reaction to a change in 1994 to the federal Hyde Amendment. the past three

Until that year, the only use of federal

Medicaid money permitted for an abortion was to save the life of the mother.

Vatican.

Mexican Bishops Link Corruption To Rise

MEXICO

Violence

CITY

(CNS)

—

Corruption and a lack ofjustice are fueling a rising rate of violent crime in Mexico,

Mexico

the bishops of western

told

his later assistance to

The

bishops, citing assaults on

some of their peers, called for tough law enforcement and meaningful reforms to battle crime and root out official malfeasance. The message, dated March 15, said that "every day our worries are considerably increased by the verification of a discouraging reality that grips us on all sides - - insecurity." It was signed by Cardinal Juan Sandoval Iniguez of Guadalajara and the other bishops of Mexico's Western Pastoral Region.

Archbishop George Carey of Canterbury and Cardinal George Basil Hume of

Abortion Opponents Issue Statement Suggesting Remedies To Abortion NEW YORK (CNS) Prominent

—

abortion opponents have signed a pro-

statement outlining the personal and

Rome's Colosseum. The

text of the

meditations for the service, scheduled for the evening of April 5,

by Cardinal Vinko Puljic of Sarajevo, the Vatican announced. "The meditations reflect a dramatic experience

of our times:

public consequences of abortion and

The passion of Christ

recommending

mysteriously in the fratricidal wars and

cultural and legal

remedies for what they called the nation'

the racial conflicts

"abortion license." The statement, which

offend

appeared in the March 25 issue of the National Review, an opinion journal,

human

continued

which sow death and

dignity," said the Vatican

WASHINGTON

Catholics Involved In Killings Must Face Justice VATICAN CITY (CNS) Rwanda

legislatures

reaching effects "helped to erode the

cannot be rebuilt without truth and justice,

Boston told reporters March 20.

moral foundation of the American civic community." Victims of abortion are not

"Certainly anything as critical as this

only the "1.5 million innocent

including the punishment of any Catholics who may have been involved in the massive killings that occurred in 1 994, Pope John Paul II said. "The church

and the arena of public opinion, Cardinal Bernard F. Law of

(issue)"

also an appropriate topic for

public discussion in the 1996 election

campaigns, he said. He said he anticipates

development of a detailed action plan for the U.S. Catholic Church on assisted suicide and issues of human dignity at the end of life comparable to that which the bishops have developed to deal with

human

beings" aborted each year, but also women and fathers, said the statement, signed by 45 people.

VATICAN CITY (CNS) Ordination

—

the beginning of a priest's

response to his vocation, a response which

Conference of Catholic Bishops Committee for Pro-Life Activities.

Paul II said. In an often personal reflection

Americans Forget Their

—

as such cannot be held responsible for its

members who acted

against evangelical law," the pope said

Pope Reflects On Own Vocation In Letter To Priests

beginning- of-life issues in response to the challenge of legalized abortion. Cardinal Law is chairman of the National

Immigrant Roots, Bishop Says NEWPORT, R.I. (CNS) Too many Americans forget that the prosperity

Pope Says Rwandan

the faults of

must be renewed each day and in every task he is called to carry out, Pope John on the priestly vocation with a view to the 50th anniversary of his own ordination, the pope encouraged his fellow priests to meditate on the mystery and gift their vocation represents. "Every vocation to the priesthood has an

March message to the people of Rwanda. However, he said, "all members in a

who sinned during the genocide must have the courage to face the consequences of the acts which they committed against God and against their of the church

neighbor."

Cardinal, British Leaders Hear Stories On Poverty

LONDON

(CNS)

place

March 19

Church House across

experiences as a prostitute were Anglican

Westminster.

were written

American

Catholic Church will fight physicianassisted suicide in the courts, the

to senior church and business leaders at Britain's first National Poverty Hearing. The hearing, organized by an ecumenical organization, Church Action on Poverty, aimed to give people on the front lines of poverty a voice with Britain's key decision makers. It took

Good Friday Way of the Cross service at

in their

people remains deeply troubled by the practice of abortion on demand." It also said the impact of the Roe vs. Wade decision legalizing abortion has been "widely underestimated" and that its far-

The

—

called "Lisa"

figures, politicians

Americans

said the "conscience of the

—

the road from Britain's Houses of Parliament. Among the listeners to Lisa'

Church

(CNS)

photo from Reuters

connection between civil war and Christ' passion will underlie the meditations read as Pope John Paul II leads his traditional

announcement. The 14 "stations of the cross" recall Christ's arrest, condemnation, suffering and death.

Will Fight Assisted Suicide On All Fronts, Cardinal Says

CNS

Pope John Paul adresses pilgrims from the window of his apartment at the Vatican March 20. The pope's health continues to improve and he is well enough to resume activities.

War And Christ's Passion Are Themes For Papal Good Friday VATICAN CITY (CNS) — The

revolution against the British.

life

letter.

—

constitutionality of so- called buffer zones

around abortion clinics inside which

at the

President Ernesto Zedillo in an open

—

March 21

to breathe free." "In

be found worthy of the words of Christ: T was a stranger and you welcomed me,'" he said at the opening of the March 15-17 meeting.

Court Rejects One Abortion-Related Case, Agrees To Hear Another WASHINGTON (CNS) The Supreme Court March 18 unanimously

one of us," Pope John Paul said in his letter to the world's priests. Each year the pope writes a short letter to priests for Holy Thursday, the day commemorating Christ's institution of the Eucharist and of the priesthood. The 1 996 letter, signed by the pope March 17, was to be released

"This decision must be appealed and reversed if the protection of human life and equality under the law are to retain

unconstitutional.

own, related

quite specific

immigrant ancestors, a bishop told an audience of refugee resettlement workers. Providence Coadjutor Bishop Robert E. Mulvee told an audience of about 30 resettlement directors that many Americans fear immigrants will threaten their social and economic security. That

ministering to the immigrant, the church

March 6 which declared that Washington state's law against assisted suicide was

its

moments in the life of each

efforts of

limits or restrictions," the committee said.

meaning in our constitutional system," it added. The Administrative Committee, composed of more than 50 of the nation' bishops, met in Washington March 1921 The decision it criticized was the 9th

individual history of

— What kind of

woman becomes a prostitute? Could it be your sister, your daughter, your mother? That was the question posed by a woman

Vatican Plans Party For Priests Celebrating Golden Jubilee VATICAN CITY (CNS) The

—

Vatican

planning a party for priests celebrating the 50th anniversary of their is

ordinations

— and

than 7,000 of them to

has invited more

come

Rome

for

Pope John Paul II, whose 50th anniversary is Nov. 1, will be the guest of honor at the four-day gathering, scheduled for November. Cardinal James A. Hickey of Washington, who will mark 50 years of priesthood June 1 5, is also on the list of those invited to celebrate and

the occasion.

be celebrated.

Archdiocese Criticizes African Immigrants'

Takeover Of Church The PARIS (CNS)

—

Paris Archdiocese has criticized the takeover of a Paris church by 300 African immigrants seeking residency permits. At the same time, an archdiocesan statement also sympathized with the situation faced by many immigrants and offered to mediate with the government.

The archdiocese offered an alternative site for the protest. The takeover of St. Ambrose Church occurred March 18. "We're fed up with not having identity papers, which means we can't get work and can't live decently. We want residency permits," said Mahmadou Sambare, spokesman for the group.

The Catholic News

March

Herald

Living Faith, Shared With Prisoners, Offers Hope For Damaged Lives, from page 1

Marx, from page 5

page 5

Letters, from

"One

thing you learn

very quickly

that

you

don't have friends in prison," he said. "There

may be people you like, but there

always At our

mistrust.

gatherings they (the prisoners) just like being able to talk to

somebody

spoken of by Our Holy Father, Pope John Paul II, who has "repeatedly affirmed the importance of social solidarity as an instrument for building up the civilization of love for which humanity yearns." For the past 25 years, that spirit of solidarity so often

what they said will get back to the bosses, or they will be that

Most of

punished.

men

I've

met are

the

really

decent people, some of them just started out Photo by

Dan White on and

the prison ministry:

don't think

I'd

stop unless

administration of the system

"It's

itself.

PAUL FREDETTE

White

very rewarding

With

obvious emotion he recounts the incident of a man, scheduled for release, whose family and friends had planned a neighborhood homecoming celebration. At the last minute, his release was delayed for two weeks a major disappointment

—

During those same two weeks the man was taunted by some of the guards, who were hoping that he would make a wrong move and be denied parole completely. The man relied on White's support and counsel to help him remain calm and not let his anger show. Later, he met White in a local grocery store and proudly introduced him to his for everyone.

mother.

White said he has changed during his years in prison ministry. "I pray a lot

more," he said, adding quietly that his faith has been strengthened by the trust

meets

considerable reluctance

health failed."

whenever he approaches becoming involved in this ministry. "People have so many misconceptions," he said sadly. "They others about

think that inmates aren' t really people

Most of them just come from bad circumstances." Compounding the problem, White says,

in motivating their children while also developing their positive self image: • Teach your child that success is more than just winning. Help them feel successful for improving and mastering

enabled the Campaign to be an instrument for the

empowerment of God's

In a recent

poor.

•

the occasion of CHD's 25th anniversary,

just

Pope John Paul

to try hard.

"joined the Church in

the United States in giving thanks for the fruits

ofjustice and solidarity which have

for

a prevailing social climate that

but there is far more cruelty today." When

White manages

to get others to join him, he says their reaction is typically one of surprise that the inmates are almost like "normal" people. "Let's face it," he said with a soft chuckle, "as Christians, we have to remember that half the apostles spent a good bit of time in jail." No doubt, Dan White would have visited

correct the error in a positive way.

Campaign's next quarter century, we are encouraged by and grateful for all that you do for CHD, and for the cooperation and support of the

your Diocesan Director, Mr. Scott Spivak, with whom the fine working partnership gives life to the mission and goals of the Campaign. We send sincere thanks to all.

to fear failure

"MORE THAN JUST A CAMP"

way

is to become players whose purpose, faith,

life

patience, love and endurance are rooted

Interim Executive Director

in Jesus.

of this

on winning, but our true champions if one day they understand the words of St. Paul: "I have fought the good fight. I have finished the race. I have kept the

children can

Student Competes In

State

Bee

ASHEVILLE— Seventh grade stuStephen

dent Stern,

WKKtS0m

compete

Yesterday, Bobby began teaching Teresa how to play chess. As she suffered her first defeat, I waited for the sparks to fly. Instead, I heard Bobby say, "Teresa, it doesn't matter that you lost because you're playing a very hard game.

the

of the

state level

Now

shake my hand and say, 'Good game, Bobby.' Teresa kicked the board, though not as hard as usual, and said, "Okay, Bobby, now let's play Candyland."

National Geogra-

phy Bee March 29 Stephen Stern

become

faith."

winner of Asheville the Catholic School geography bee in January, will

-•'!

The rules and spiritual rewards way of life often conflict with

society's emphasis

Asheville Catholic School

in Raleigh.

~ ~ CRISM Spring ?lmg Catholic Conference Center

TIMBERLAKE SUMMER OF

Hickory,

April

FUN. BUILDING

that they will

Timothy Collins

CAMP

mcrri-iiiac

worry

important training

(704) 888-6950.

camp

• Show your children that you love and accept them regardless of the game' outcome or how they performed. St. Paul reminds us that our most

and

not perform well.

Sunday April 4 at 2 p.m at Belmont Abbey. Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament, Benediction and the Chaplet of Divine Mercy begins at 3 p.m. The Girl's Ensemble of Our Lady of the Assumption will perform. For information, contact

DeLuca

Avoid

criticizing mistakes. This teaches children

in a

Abbey Celebrates Divine Mercy Sunday

Phil or Terri

verbally or with a

give encouragement and ideas on how to

Human Development."

them, too.

BELMONT — Msgr. Thomas Burke will celebrate Mass on Divine Mercy

Reward

When your child makes a mistake,

•

Campaign

characterized by fear and lack of sympathy. "I grew up in New York in the 30s and it certainly wasn't crime-free,

to motivate a child

sign, avoiding material rewards.

taken root in communities throughout the country. ..as a result of the

— not

—

performance

physical response like a smile or thumbs-

that they are all bad.

giving maximum effort. Remember to praise effort

skills or

message to the bishops on

As we begin

wrong."

with winning can be devastating and humiliating for a child. The Wisconsin Committee for the Prevention of Child Abuse developed a set of principles in 1993 to assist parents

Catholics, and their generosity has

without worrying that

a parent's

obsession

grown among American

solidarity has

when

seen those cases

all

prisoners have in him.

29, 1996

am-yso p.m.

Continental Breakfast Begins at 9

CONFIDENCE & MOTIVATION"

Line dancing, Sing-a-long,

Bingo, 50/50 Lunch

Games, Tours, and Mass

New this year: Horse

& Buggy Rides and

Cook-out foods

For information, Call Suzanne at (704) 377-687 ext. 3 To register, send $10 ($12. if post marked after April 5) Spring Fling, 524 E. Morehead St., 1

to:

Charlotte, NC 28207 Attn: Suzanne Bach Individual checks are welcome. Financial aid is available.

Space

limited. First

200 accepted.

WWW

Registration A Summer Camp For Ages 6-16

In the

Girls

A Summer Camp

For Boys

(as

should appear on

name

tag)

Ages 6-15

Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina For brochure and infc-mation write or call Spencer or Dorothy Boyd 1229 Montreal. Road • Black Mountain, N.C. 28711

(704) 669-8766

Make checks payable

CRISM Spring

Fling.

Amt. Enclosed ($10 per person)

Club registration forms are available

church

offices.