Child’s Roles Activity Card
In every family there are times when parents do not get along. This is natural. We also know that some parents argue more often or for longer and in that situation you may feel confused, scared, worried, caught in the middle and not sure what to do.
How to use this card:
1. Read below the different roles that children may take on when their parents argue. 2. Do you recognise doing any of these roles yourself?
3. If yes, share the answers with an adult you trust. There are also helplines that you can use if you do not want to talk to someone who knows you and your family.
Messenger takes information between parents
Fixer tries to get the parents back together
Secret keeper is asked to keep adult secrets
Spy feels pressure to report back details about each parent
Childline www.childline.org.uk
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Judge is encouraged to decide which parent is right and which parent is wrong in a situation
Peace Maker tells each parent what they think they want to hear
Peacekeeper feels like they have to try in some way to keep the peace
