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Daniel Lansky ‫ע”ה‬ Sharleen Pleeter

In March of 2016, Daniel Lansky was the 40-year-old father of three adorable boys, developing his business and resettling his family in Baltimore after having lived in Lakewood for a number of years. Together with his wife Elana, they were the typical young frum couple, involved in their children’s chinuch, attending simchas, helping out friends and becoming vital members of their kehillah. Then the truly unimaginable happened; Daniel was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, and their typical lives went into upheaval. Daniel and Elana consulted with doctors, researchers, experts and others who had confronted their situation. Daniel struggled with the first line chemotherapies and treatments which he found debilitating and often sent him to the hospital. So they

travelled across the country in search of the best treatments and cutting edge therapies. They left no stone unturned in in their attempt to beat this disease and throughout every challenge and hurdle, they remained pillars in their belief in Hashem. They also sought out the advice and brachos of many Gedolim and Talmedei Chachamim. Elana asked Rav Chaim Kanievsky, shlit”a, what she could do to help her and her family’s situation. His response was to use her koach to increase Shmiras HaLashon among the women of Klal Yisroel. What happened next went beyond her or anyone else’s expectations. Elana sent out a text to her friends and family that she would learn two halachos of the sefer Purity of Speech daily, as suggested in the sefer’s introduction, and post a recording of her learning on

a WhatsApp group. She asked women to listen at some point in the day and learn with her. That small circle of friends and family spread Elana’s request and within in a couple of days, over 7,000 participants in a numerous WhatsApp groups were listening to Elana and learning with her. She had women learning all over the world— Israel, Australia, Europe, all across the United States. And those women were sharing what they learned with their husbands, who were then discussing the halachos among themselves. Without exaggeration, thousands of people in Klal Yisroel were motivated to think about and change their speech by the daily Shmiras HaLashon learning done by Elana in the merit of a refuah shlaima for Daniel. Tragically, Elana is no longer the devoted and hopeful wife, learning

with 7,000 women as hospital monitors beeped in the background; with the heartbreaking and untimely passing of Daniel Mordechai ben Rav Nachum Meir HaLevi two weeks ago on August 25th, Elana, at age thirty-four, has been left with three beautiful children to raise on her own. The shiva house was a constant, unending stream of people who had never met or spoken to Elana who came from all over to tell her and Daniel’s family how Elana and her learning had effected a change in how they spoke. An email was set up for women to express their heartfelt condolences and express how learning with Elana had made a difference in their lives, and those messages were read throughout the shiva. Continued on page 16

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Around the Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .8 Community Calendar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36

JEWISH THOUGHT Rabbi Zvi Teichman. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30 It’s Not You – It’s Me. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Rabbi Berel Wein. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34 Book Review of Dorash Dovid on Moadim Elul-Purim . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38 All Things Considered. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42 Enjoy the Journey. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48

HUMOR & ENTERTAINMENT Notable Quotes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 Centerfold. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46

LIFESTYLES 613 Seconds with Moshe Cohen. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 Dating Dialogue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 Political Crossfire. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52 Travel. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54 Forgotten Heroes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56 Life Coach. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 58 Your Money. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 60 Studying Smart. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 62 Biz Wiz. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 64 Health & Fitness. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 68 Cooking for the King. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 70

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Dear Readers, The Shofar blowing in shul each morning during Elul is a wakeup call to encourage us to reflect and prepare for the big days ahead. This year, so soon after a very difficult Chodesh Av I am not sure we even need the wakeup call. The names are familiar to all of us, Mrs. Sora Steger, Mrs. Laure Gutman, Mr. Shimon Sanders, Mr. Daniel Lansky. It would be difficult to find someone in Baltimore who does not know these families. We live in a time of plenty. Never was there as much material abundance as there is today. And never was it so easily available. We can book plane tickets from our phone. With the click of a few buttons we can have most items delivered right to our doorstep. And medical discoveries have surpassed our wildest imagination. It is as if G-d is telling us, “I’m giving you everything. Everything you need to pretty much do anything you want. All you need to do is step to the plate and make the right choice.” The opportunities we are given are just that – opportunities. The rest depends on us. We live in a world where many people make surprising choices

using those opportunities for temporary enjoyment, many times at the expense of others. A waste of freedom indeed. Real freedom is the ability to be independent. Independent of public opinion. Independent of what we believe others will think of us. Independent of our own feelings pushing us to be self-serving. Freedom is the ability to be who we are on the inside. Will we make the right choice? Will we waste the power of freedom on passing pleasures? Will we use this G-dly power for its proper purpose? That is up to us. We read in the beginning of this week’s parshah: “And it will be, because you will heed these ordinances and keep them and perform, that the L-rd your G-d, will keep for you the covenant and the kindness that He swore to your forefathers.” The more we choose the correct path, the more opportunities we will have to make such choices. Wishing you a joyous and reflective Shabbos, Moshe Meir

NEWS Israel News . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20 That’s Odd. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24

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On Shabbos evening, August 19, a blazing fire which broke out in the home of octogenarians Julius and Eva Lou Chapman, longtime pillars of the Houston Jewish community, took the life of Mrs. Chapman. Her husband, although critically injured in the fire, is Boruch Hashem, improving by the day. I never had the pleasure of meeting my coworkers’--Rabbi Reuven and Mrs. Janine Chapmans’-- mother and motherin-law, respectively, but from what I’ve heard, I can just picture her: She would say, “Good Golly Miss Molly” as much as “takka” and “mamash”. She had a love of Yiddishkeit, of the Hebrew language, and Eretz Yisroel,. She was a real Southern lady on a mission to do what was right in Hashem‘s eyes, no matter what it took. In 1979, for example, when Mrs. Chapman was appalled by a Calvin Klein billboard-which, today, would seem benign--she took her complaint to the mayor of Houston; shortly after, it was torn down. Southern Hospitality The oldest Chapman sibling, Rabbi Reuven Chapman, resides in Baltimore and shared, “My mother was “larger than life”. Although Houston presently boasts a rapidly growing Orthodox community, in the early 1970s, besides the rabbis in town, Eva Lou Chapman was one of only three Torah-observant Jewish families. Throughout her life, she made it her mission to fulfill the needs in her community. The Chapman home was a home away from home for many a Shabbos and Yom Tov guest, as well as for those who needed to be near the medical center or for training in a nearby college. Their more famous houseguests included: Mike Tress, Rabbi Noach Weinberg, and Rabbi Chaim Kreiswirth, z”l. Mrs. Chapman’s mother, “Bubby Helen”, who was born in Poland, was very active in the Houston community, ran a kosher home, and was a member of the Orthodox shul. As the basic point of contact for all the meshulachem who would come to Houston, she drove them around just to the wealthiest people. While they were staying at her house, the young Mrs. Chapman, who was very impressionable, would listen to their stories that inspired her to grow in Yiddishkeit, even though she was attending public school. Childhood Sweethearts As a pre-teen, Mrs. Chapman joined Young Judea, which was “the place”, in

those days, for Jewish kids in the deep South. Houston’s chapter was part of the Texas-Oklahoma-Louisiana district of Young Judea. Since there was only one summer camp, in the vicinity of Austin, Texas, which serviced the Young Judea members of these three states, both Mrs. Chapman and her future husband, Julius (born and raised in Shreveport, Louisiana), also attended. At the age of 14, they became best friends, and decided that after they finished high school they would get married at the age of 18. In preparation for getting married, they made contact with the local, young Orthodox Yeshiva University-trained rabbi, Rabbi Bernard Rothman, who is now Rabbi Emeritus of Sons of Israel in Cherry Hill, New Jersey. “He was a freshly ordained rabbi from Y.U. and he was out to conquer the world, starting with these Chapmans!” recounted Rabbi Chapman. “He was very inspirational and he motivated them to start their married life with a frum home. They had a kosher home, observing taharas mishpacha and shmiras Shabbos, and when the shul relocated to a new suburb of Houston, they picked out a parcel of land for the shul and my parents picked out the next available parcel for their home.” When the Chapmans asked Rabbi Rothman how they should plan their new house, he suggested a kosher kitchen with two sinks; two dishwashers; a very large freezer--so you can have a truckload of meat come in from Denver--and a very large utility sink, so you can salt and kasher your meat; a gas broiler oven so you can broil and kasher your liver; extra cupboards for Pesach supplies; and, a mikva. When it was discovered that the already established mikva was not kosher, the Chapman’s mikva became the only kosher one in the city. Since, their mikva was situated in the master bedroom closet space and was not accessible through an outside

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door, Mr. Chapman would often have to pack up the kids in the family station wagon--shortly after coming home from work at 5--to take them for a drive for an hour or two, before calling home to ask if the “coast was clear”. Moser Nefesh for Education As Rabbi Chapman was about to begin kindergarten, Rabbi Rothman advised his parents about the chinuch of their children and the dangers of sending them to public school. He suggested that they get in touch with Torah Umesorah and establish a Jewish day school in Houston. Ten classrooms were housed in the new shul, which had been designed to house both a Sunday school and Talmud Torah program. Houston Hebrew Academy started with a kindergarten, since Rabbi Chapman was in kindergarten at the time; grades were added to accommodate his education. The school fell apart, however, after he finished third grade because there was no experienced rabbi or administrator of advanced knowledge to run the program correctly. Rabbi Chapman attended public school for grades 4-7, after which Rabbi Rothman suggested that he go to yeshiva in Memphis in the established Yeshiva of the South. His brothers followed in Rabbi Chapman’s path, attending yeshiva in Memphis, and two of his sisters went to Bais Yaakov of Denver; another sister went to Prospect Park High School. Rabbi Chapman subsequently learned in Ner Yisroel, in Baltimore, as did one of his brothers. So many beautiful things about Mrs. Chapman--even unbeknownst to her children--were discovered during the shiva period. It was Rabbi Yehuda Lefkovitz, for example, who shared that she was instrumental in getting one of the first SEED programs off the ground, in Houston. When the SEED program first started, select cities were sent ten people. Denver sent a group of ten to Houston for the summer SEED program and it was Mrs. Chapman who took it upon herself to be responsible for establishing where they were going to stay, as well as cooking all their meals, herself. Although Mrs. Chapman’s mother was involved with Mizrachi Women, when her son, Rabbi Reuven Chapman, came home from learning in yeshiva in Israel, she asked his advice--should she become active in Mizrachi Women or start a chap-

ter of N’Shei Agudas Yisroel, in Houston. With her son’s encouragement, she established a N’Shei branch in Houston. What Goes Around, Comes Around One of the things that meant so much to Mrs. Chapman was sending clothing to poor people in Eretz Yisrael. She made it a project of her Nshei group to collect used clothing in good condition. She stored it in every room in her house until she found people traveling to Israel who could take her huge stuffed duffle bags. In fact, in her determination to get her “mitzvah bags” delivered, she asked one of her sons to arrange their delivery on Air Force One, when she found out that it would be making the trip to Israel after Israeli Prime Minister Yitzchak Rabin’s assassination. As her daughter, Dani, noted, “If it was the right the thing to do, she wasn’t shy to ask.” Mrs. Chapman’s chesed also extended to the several Jewish patients who come to Houston for its world renowned medical center, over the years. She was the point of contact to arrange accommodations and meals for these families. Realizing there were also children who were patients, she implemented the distribution of pekelach, little candy packages, to those Jewish children who were receiving medical care at this medical center during Chanukah time. When reviewing the list of Jewish children, that she requested from the medical center (pre-HIPPA days!), she realized that there was one child who did not have a parent contact. She asked the nurse why none was listed and was told that next Tuesday, this newborn--whose parents no longer wanted him because of his very serious medical condition--is scheduled to be put up for adoption. Since there was no Jewish adoption agency in Houston, the infant was going to be handed over to the Catholic Adoption Service. Fortunately, the Chapmans knew of a young couple living in Chattanooga, Tennessee, who were married for many years and were not yet blessed with any children. The couple sought out Daas Torah, since the child was so critically ill. Specifically, they asked if it was worth adopting this child if he was so sick. They were more than happy to adopt him after their posak advised them that it was. Perhaps, he said, the whole purpose of sending his neshama down to this world was just so he could experience a Shabbos and/or a bris before returning to the next world.

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At the end of the summer, jInternship participants gathered at Dougie’s party room to celebrate a summer of growth. The interns along with program sponsors, housing hosts, program speakers, chavrusas, alumni, friends, and their families, enjoyed a wonderful buffet meal and had an opportunity to reflect on their accomplishments from the summer. jInternship is a summer program run by Rabbi Zvi Schwartz that connects Jewish college students with lucrative internships in their field of choice ranging from the steps of Capitol Hill to those Johns Hopkins medicine, all while living within the Jewish communities of Baltimore and Silver Spring. Interns spend their day “on the job,” but come night time, they are involved in classes and chavrusas on topics dealing with hashkafa and gemara. Additionally, students spend their first week prior to their internships in Baltimore participating in Rabbi Zvi Schwartz’ Jewish Experience Week (JEW), a week-long program that introduces the group to the Baltimore Jewish community and everything it has to offer. This year, participants spent three days learning

b’chavrusa in Ner Yisroel’s beis medresh and got to hear from the Rosh Yeshiva, HaRav Aharon Feldman and HaRav Shragie Neuberger. During the rest of the week, activities included learning and hanging out with bachurim from Ner Yisroel, and a weekly “Stew and Brew,” along with the popular “Chill and Grill,” where interns had the chance to spend time singing, meeting gracious hosts and people from the broader community. Besides the activities, students had the opportunity to engage in discussion from speakers such as HaRav Yissachar Dov Eichenstein, Rabbi Fishel Mael, Rabbi Yehuda Weiner, Rabbi Hershel

Gholian, Mr. Howard Zvi Friedman, Dr. Andy Goldfinger, Dr. Tzvi Romar, and Dr. Ronnie Samet. Of course with such an incredible line-up of speakers to satiate the soul, no trip to Baltimore would be complete without satiating the stomach also. So, students started every morning with breakfast from the kosher Dunkin’ Donuts, and had the opportunity to eat from places like The Knish Shop, Kosher Bite, and Dougie’s. As the night was coming to a close, the Rabbi Schwartz opened up the speaking floor to anyone who wanted to share some closing thoughts about their time on the program. What resulted was an around-the-room reflection where every single participant shared the incredible impact that jInternship has had on them. One student shared how he purchased his first pair of tefillin, an increasingly common thing to do after being involved with jInternship and Jewish Experience Week. Another student shared, “It was unbelievable that every morning I got a ride to work from the judge I was working for.” And yet another student said, “I grew up with Judaism being a burden. After the program, I see it as being a privilege.” Though these comments may have stuck out, there was a recurring theme that every single participant spoke about and that was how each one of them was inspired to grow in their yiddishkeit. Perhaps one student summed up jInternship best “One thing that stuck with me from this program was the experience of seeing the joy of Ju-

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Baltimore’s K’hal Chassidim & Kollel Le’Horo’ah Celebrate Hachnosas Sefer Torah BaltimoreJewishLife.com/Jeff Cohn Over 250 men, women and children participated in a huge Kiddush Hashem on Sunday, 2nd day of Rosh Chodesh Elul when K’hal Chassidim of Baltimore and the Kollel Le’Horo’ah celebrated a Hachnosas Sefer Torah. The event inaugurated the new Chassidishe Cheder as well. The procession took place on a beautiful sunny day and was well attended

freshments were served at the kesivas oisios as well as at the Beis Medrash. The dancing with the Sefer Torah proceeded up Pinkney Road to Biltmore and Parkinson, to its new home at the Beis Medrash. Plans for a new Beis Medrash were seen and caused much interest and excitement among the attendees. The dancing continued and accel-

by local, New York and international friends, family and Rabbonim. Local Sofer, Rabbi Moshe Rooshanshad, had helped locate and finish the beautiful Sefer Torah. Korn’s Torah Truck from Monsey NY provided the music, chuppah, torches and light sticks. Nearly 100 people were zocheh to write a letter in the new Torah, which was presided over by the Rov and Rosh Kollel Rabbi Hershel Rosenfeld, including Rav Moshe Heinemann, Rav David Heber, Rav Shaya Taub and Rabbi Shmuel Silber. Re-

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Summer Lunch Program Serves Over 20,000 Meals This Summer The 2016 Kosher Summer Food Lunch Service Program has completed it’s second successful year! Brought to the community by Isaac Yitzy Schleifer last year, this existing USDA program is accessible to all the children of our community, and this year the program continued to flourish and grow. The public lunch site was located at Beth Abraham and was filled with children escaping from the summer heat to enjoy a slice of pizza, a sandwich, and other delicious meals all catered by Tov Pizza. Kids were even seen dipping carrots in peanut butter - a great way to provide healthy, fun meals. “I’m thrilled that I can be a part of this summer program by pro-

viding meals to all children of our community,” says Ronnie Rosenbluth who went out on a limb last year to do whatever it would take to get the meals out on short notice and a small budget. This year with some extra time for planning, there were multiple sites in the community located in various shuls and schools. Sara Wetstein, who administers the program says

“It’s so satisfying to see the smiling faces of children who otherwise might not be getting a nutritious meal. The meals are complete, with a required fruit and or vegetable and milk served with each.” Beth Abraham was full of appreciative parents who were able to socialize in a relaxed environment while their children happily ate their lunch.

The program is most appreciative of Congregation Beth Abraham for serving as host and making their facility available. For more information about the program please contact Sara Wetstein at hotlunch@bnosyisroel.org or 443212-8344

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Hascholas Hazman at Yeshiva Gedolah Ohr Hatorah “Elul – Y’mei haratzon.” So began Rabbi Dovid Hoffman’s opening shmuez for the new zman. Rabbi Hoffman explained to the bochurim that success is dependent upon their ratzon. The opportunity that Elul gives to every member of Klal Yisrael is mirrored in the beginning of a new zman. It is an auspicious time to tap into a special koach and raise every aspect of our Avodah. The key to utilizing the koach is one’s own ratzon. The more one wants and has a burning desire to reach previously unfathomable heights, the easier it will be to do so. He then related a conversation that Rav ELiyahu Mishkovsky, zt”l, Rosh Yeshivas Yeshiva Knesses Chizkiyahu, had with some talmidim. They were discussing which line of the tefillah of Birchas Hachodesh is most important. One talmid wanted to say that the tefillah “y’malei kol mishaloseinu l’tovah” is most important, for that encompasses all tefillos. It soon became clear that the tefillah for Ahavas Torah and Yiras Shomayim is the key. For if one does not have the proper approach to Avodas Hashem, stemming

from Torah and Yiras Shomayim, the person’s bakashos can be all wrong. A Person will have difficulty recognizing the truth and what is truly good for him. Only after inculcating Torah and Yiras Shomayim can one be certain that they are ready to ask “kol mishalosom.” Rabbi Hoffman stressed that in today’s day and age, it is not easy for bochurim to truly appreciate and recognize their proper path to success.

to success. All a bochur needs to do is to tap into his ratzon and the shteiging will follow. Following Rabbi Hoffman’s remarks, the dormitory Mashgiach, Rabbi Yonah Yaakov Lapidus laid some basic groundwork for the bochurim to follow. Telling an amusing story about how one of his small children commented about the bochurim being part of the family, he stressed to the bochurim how the dormitory rules are set

Being surrounded by Rabbeim and Manhigim who can properly guide a bochur through their years of Yeshiva is a large part of a bochur’s success. The opportunities that abound in a small Yeshiva such as Ohr Hatorah afford each bochur to find his pathway

up to provide that family atmosphere. Indeed, the bochurim returning for their second or third year at Ohr Hatorah are able to relate to that sentiment well, and it will be only a short time before the new bochurim acclimate to that environment as well.

Now in its fourth year, Yeshiva Gedolah Ohr Hatorah has become known as a destination for bochurim from across the country looking for a small Yeshiva to further their shteiging. With the addition of bochurim from cities such as Toronto, Minneapolis and Denver, Ohr Hatorah continues to make its mark on the Torah landscape. From Baltimore to Los Angeles, and nearly twenty cities in between, the name Yeshiva Gedolah Ohr Hatorah has become synonymous with energized learning; a home for each talmid to reach new milestones in their learning and Avodas Hashem. The power of the individual attention given by the Rebbeim to every bochur, coupled with uniquely designed learning methods, helps them achieve success in all three sedarim each day. Founded by Rabbi Dovid Hoffman and Rabbi Moshe Aharon Rosenbaum, and housed above the Baltimore Community Kollel, the Yeshiva has become a staple of the Labyrinth/Fallstaff neighborhood as it continues to shine its light on Baltimore and beyond.

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The future of Elana and Daniel’s three children is truly now in Klal Yisroel’s hands. As the only remaining parent, it is vital that Elana remain a stay-at-home mother. Guaranteeing the family’s financial health now is crucial to enabling Kobi (9), Ahron (6) and Gavi (3) to grow into healthy, strong members of Klal Yisroel. The children must have stability—to remain in their home, continue with their activities and interests, and have access to the support and help they will require for many years to come. These youngsters have a future of challenges and needs that one can barely even imagine. In the wake of this unfathomable tragedy, Rabbanim and Balei Batim in Baltimore have undertaken to raise funds to make that future manageable and secure for this family. A website has been set up at www.thechesedfund.com/cause/lansky-children-fund to raise money for the family. Please open your hearts, visit the website and donate as generously as you can. A collection of notes from women around the world who took part in the learning and Shmiras HaLashon program: Dear Elana, We’ve never met & yet we’ve “connected.” I’m one of the many hundreds of women who was touch by your outreach on behalf of your dear husband & joined your shmiras haloshon learning chat. Your sweet voice & learning halochos became part of our day. Your emunah & bitachon throughout this difficult time are an inspiration to us all. We learned with you, smiled with u when u smiled & stormed shomayim with you when u asked us to. And now our hearts are broken with you & your dear family... May it be a nechama to you that you’ve touched so many people & created countless zechusim for your beloved husband. Wishing u the koach to go forward & have continued nachas from your children. Dear Elana, I just wanted to say thank you from

the bottom of my heart for doing what you’ve done with the shmiras halashon chat. For the past few years, I’ve been terrible at watching my words. But when I joined your chat, it all changed. Countless times every single day I stopped myself from speaking negatively, from spreading rechilus, from judging people badly. Your husband must have been a pretty special person to have the zchus of bringing about so much positive change in the world. Please know that I am thinking about you, and crying with you and wishing you a Nechama that only Hashem can provide. You’ve brought about such a tremendous kiddush hashem in a time of your own pain. I’m in awe. Dear Elana, I don’t know you other than your voice. I wanted to thank your inspiration over the last little while and tell you that so many people from all over the world have been touched by your bravery and emunah and pioneering spirit.

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geous husband. We can continue and we will Iyh. I read a beautiful blog that he wrote about turning off cell phones in shul. Although, I’m not usually in that situation I decided that from now on B”N I will try to daven and bentch only from a siddur, not from my phone. This will be l’elui nishmas your special husband. Please know that you are not alone. It’s amazing that 8,000 women who never met came together to learn and it touched each one of us! May Hashem give you and your sons the strength to get through this and to only have simcha in your life from now on.

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How did you get into the water business? . A good friend of mine, Yossi Burstyn, was interested in selling the business he had started. I was in the market for a business with growth potential. In a watershed moment I realized that the recipe seemed simple enough, one part Oxygen to two parts Hydrogen. (We are considering expanding and offering H3O and H2O2 but that is still a while down the road…)

You have quite the popular name. How many other Moshe Cohen’s have you met? At a Bar Mitzvah last year I counted five including a Chaim Moshe and a Moshe Dovid. (They can imitate but they can’t duplicate.) When I was learning at Ner Israel, there were three Moshe Cohen’s at one time. In order to spare myself being called to the pay phone each time, I invoked my middle name and became known as Moshe Pesachya Cohen or Moshe P. Cohen. The name stuck and once a new bochur in yeshiva came looking for Moshe PiCone. Where are you from? I consider myself an of towner who was born

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Are Those in Tel Aviv Better Off? The Organization for Econom-

ic Cooperation and Development (OECD) has discovered that how Israelis feel about their lives is linked to which part of the country they live in. The OECD regularly checks the well-being in six different sections of Israel and recently published their findings. With the very high score of 8.9 out of 10, the Tel Aviv region leads the scores as the happiest region in the

In News country. The Center and South regions were tied with 8.5, and Jerusalem and Haifa each had 8.1. The lowest score was a 7 which was found in the North region of the country. Many factors were taken into account when polling for overall well-being. Categories included health status, work-life balance, education and skills, social connections, civic engagement and governance,

environmental quality, personal security and subjective well-being. The dimensions measuring material conditions were: income and wealth, jobs and earnings and housing. The category that made Tel Aviv significantly better than other cities in Israel is its rate of employment. Tel Aviv got a 9.4 out of 10 in that category while other high ranking cities like Jerusalem only scored a 5.2. Overall, Israelis have a high well-being rating compared to other countries. Israel, in fact, is the highest in the Middle East.

Germany Finally Admits PA Supports Terrorists

The Berlin Foreign Ministry has acknowledged what we have all known for some time now. The organization formally stated for the first time that the Palestinian Authority likely supports terrorists and their families. Until now, they have maintained that only the Palestine Liberation Organization has been financially supporting the so-called “martyr” prisoners and their families, and not the PA. Germany sends close to $180 million every year to the PA, and is now following where the funds go more closely. “There are Palestinian institutions that make payments to the families of those incarcerated by Israel and the families of those who were killed or wounded. Among them are also relatives of assailants,” reads a Foreign Ministry document from September 1. The document then further asserts that the financial support being given to prisoners by the PLO Commission for Detainees and Ex-Detainees Affairs

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only comes from the PLO because the PA’s Ministry of Detainees and Ex-Detainees Affairs departments were shut down two years ago. “The Federal Government is investigating indications that the Palestinian Authority in individual cases supported the PLO’s Commission for Detainees’ budget,” the document states. The document was sent after MP Volker Beck, who is in charge of the German-Israeli Parliamentary Friendship Group, requested details about where the German funds were being spent. Although the document states its suspicions, no action was taken about the revelation. “If it is confirmed that parts of these described payments [to Palestinian security prisoners or their families] comes from the Palestinian Authority’s budget, the Federal Government will take the matter up with the Palestinian Authority and other partners,” the document states. “The Palestinian Authority and the PLO are called upon to take all necessary steps against the incitement of violence and to increase its efforts in the fight against terrorism.” Nearly $170 million a year is given to prisoners and families of terrorists. Prisoners’ monthly allowances increase with the length of sentence. According to Palestinian law, allowances range from $364 a month for a term of up to three years to $3,120 for a term of 30 years and more. If you are from Jerusalem, you get an extra $78. If you are an Arab-Israeli terrorist, you get bumped up another $130 a month. Consider it a salary for being evil, masters in heartlessness required, those with a soul need not apply.

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Electric Gold Some athletes who’ve earned gold in the Olympics have literally cashed in on their prizes. Some countries

throw thousands of dollars at their winners; others buy their champions houses and luxury cars. This woman, though, really lit up the sky with her win. Faith Kipyegon is a 22-year-old Kenyan runner who won the gold in the 1500-meter women’s race in Rio just weeks ago. Amazingly, Faith’s friends in town couldn’t even watch her win; her hometown of Ndabibit hasn’t had electricity since it was set-

In News tled in the 1980s. But Faith’s win put her town on the map, and her fame brought their predicament to light. After the Games, Kipyegon’s father, Samuel Kipyegon, made a direct plea to the Kenyan president in the African paper the Daily Nation. He asked for electricity for the village to allow him to watch his daughter race. The next day, his request was granted, and workers began installing power

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The Week way-Mott Avenue on the A train at 2:02am and ended more than 21 hours later at Flushing-Main Street on the 7 train. The journey wasn’t easy. It was one of the hottest days of the summer, reaching at least 93 degrees – and that’s above ground. Imagine what some of those subway stops felt like. Ahn also needed to acquire witness signatures, time-stamped photos, and a detailed log of the opening and closing of each subway to qualify for Guinness. To get the most out of his time, Ahn ran a total of eight miles between stations instead of waiting for certain transfers. Thankfully he wore sneakers. The race that Ahn won was actually against himself. His previous world record, totaling 21 hours, 49 minutes, and 35 seconds, was nullified when the 34th Street-Hudson Yards subway stop in Manhattan was opened in September 2015. This time he managed to shave 21 minutes and 21 seconds off his previous total time. “I would like all the food, and then I would like to sleep,” Ahn said as soon as he completed his trip. “That would be great!” Sounds like his brain is still a bit lost in the subway.

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ers’ ninth annual Triple Triple Challenge. Those who will be crowned the “Triple Triple Chompion” will not just have lined their arteries with layers of glistening fat, they will also line their bank accounts with $3,300. So what do you have to do to win the title of most gluttonous? According to Wayback Burgers, you just have to chow down on “the Triple Triple Burger, 9 patties of beefy goodness topped with 9 slices of gooey cheese, lettuce and tomato, in the shortest amount of time nationwide.” Nine burgers? Tums, Tums, Tums, Tums, Tuuums. If you’re going to try out, you better start exercising your esophagus. Last year’s winner and defending “chompion,” Molly Schuyler, ate the ginormous burger in a little more than 40 seconds. As of last week, more than 800 people have signed up for their chance at the heartburn hamburger. Perhaps they should rename it heart attack in a bun – or two.

A Café without Courtesy Don’t like gluten in your pancakes? Well, unless you have a doctor’s note confirming that you’re suffering from celiac disease, it’s boo-hoo for you – at least when you’re dining at White Moose Café in Dublin, Ireland. Recently, a customer at the diner ordered gluten-free pancakes. When asked if she had celiac disease, she didn’t even know what the term meant and then ordered regular pancakes. This unassuming customer outraged the café so much that they changed their policy for all customers. “From now on, guests who demand gluten-free food are required to produce a doctor’s note which states that you suffer from celiac disease. Guests following a gluten-free fad, who don’t even know what gluten is, can … eat regular food like everybody else.”

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Their post attracted a lot of attention – and not all of it good. They either must have the best food in the world or a lot of money in the bank, since they seem to have no problem taking digs at their customers. One outraged post read: “I don’t know who your spokesperson is but he/she should [brush] up on their lack of knowledge about gluten free. I won’t be visiting your café any time soon.” The café responded: “Well when WILL you be visiting. I’d like to know. So I can LOCK THE FRONT DOOR.” Later on, after realizing the brouhaha their lack of finesse to their customers caused, the café posted this for those who were hurt by their comments: “We are giving away free bandages for anyone whose feelings have been hurt over the past day or two. The bandages come in different sizes depending on how much of a … idiot you are.” I think the joke is on us if we patronize this establishment.

Ice Cold Criminals Start screaming. Someone has been stealing the ice cream and they’re

probably the coldest criminals to have hit the streets. The police have been asking the public for assistance in identifying four suspects in a string of ice cream thefts that have been perpetrated in Manhattan since November. For the past few months, the coldhearted criminals have swiped approximately 1,249 cartons or bars of ice cream and gelato in 11 thefts. All the thefts took place in chain stores like Duane Reade, CVS and Gristedes. “They come at night, like two or three of them, with bags,” a Duane Reade employee said. “They fill them up and run out of the store.” And they take the good stuff: Ben & Jerry’s, Talenti, Haagen-Dazs. On one day in January, thieves made off with 256 pints of ice cream — including 100 pints of Haagen-Dazs and 100 more of Talenti — in three separate heists. Summertime is obviously ice cream time and the thieves have been casing the freezers and pilfering the sweet frozen confections. With all that ice cream are these thieves rolling on the floor with brain freeze? The police don’t think so. They surmise that the frozen dessert is being sold to bodegas and small momand-pop stores by the thieves. The owner of Gristedes, John Catsimatidis, has offered a reward for the arrest of these thieves. Now, pints are no longer stacked a few high – they’re only put in one high, so thieves can only take one at a time. In Duane Reade, if a clerk thinks an ice cream bandit is on the loose, they announce on the PA system, “Security, walk the floor.” A screen near the ice cream cooler in one store shows surveillance feeds to shoppers. But that has still not kept thieves at bay; they have raided that store four times since December — twice on one day, 90 minutes apart. At some CVS stores, an alarm rings when someone opens the ice cream freezers. Other CVS stores have put locks on the coolers; an employee needs to open the case for shoppers. “It’s sad,” said one manager. “To resort to stealing ice cream.”

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Prior to confronting our most dreaded enemies, the Torah instructs us nevertheless to first “call out to it for peace”; to initiate an overture for peace. If our adversary acquiesces and agrees to “pay taxes and obligate them to perform national service”, we must recede and allow them to live. This rule applies even to the reviled seven nations that inhabited the land of Canaan. (Maimonides and Nachmanides) Rabbeinu Avigdor of France, one of the later Balei Tosafos, records that this directive is the basis for the popular dictum “one should initiate a greeting to every person” (Avos 4 20). The Talmud (Berachos 17) relates that based on this principle, Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakkai “would be the first to greet even a gentile in the marketplace”. This gesture for peace is contin-

gent on the enemy’s acceptance of subservience to the Jewish nation, as the Torah clearly states “to be taxed and to serve you”. (Devarim 20 11) Is this concept then parallel to the noble notion of “greeting people” in general? It was merely a alternative mode of conquering and placing our enemy under our sovereignty. They were offered one of three choices; to flee, “put up their dukes” and fight, or submit and surrender. Can this be the source for the general spreading of good cheer in the world? Rabbeinu Avigdor makes a most fascinating connection in the next paragraph that discusses the prohibition of Baal Tashchis, wanton destruction. The Torah commands regarding the besieging of a city that we must

refrain from destroying fruit bearing trees in the process. The verse in its literal reading equates the vitality of a tree to that of a human in emphasizing our need to preserve its life of productivity. “Do not cut down a tree, because like a man is the tree of the field...” (ibid 19) Rabbeinu Avigdor quoting the Dorshei Reshumos, those who interpret the mystical under currents in the verse, teaches that this comparison alludes to the very first stifling of productivity that took place when Canaan, the grandson of Noach, emasculated Noach in his drunken stupor, out of fear that another child would be born who he would have to contend with. In facing these seven nations who are associated with the land of “Canaan”, whose original callous act of destruction makes him so deserving of eradication, we must be sensitive to the reason for their downfall by extolling the value of preserving life. It is precisely in the context of Canaan that this mitzvah takes prominence. The Talmud (Pesachim 50) teaches the name “Canaan” is a contraction of the sentiment, ayn caan ani, “there is no poverty here”. They were an industrious people and keen entrepreneurs whose very title Canaani became an appellation for a successful trader and dealer. Canaan represented success, but at all costs. If it was necessary to mow down the competition, so be it. He saw the possibility of a fourth son born to Noach as an existential threat and thus allowed himself to “secure” his “rights” by engaging in this destructive act, assuring there would be no one interfering with his goals. One, who lives in a “dog eats dog” world, is liable to exercise his power of destruction to insure his survival. One, who sees oneself as the sole provider of one’s destiny, inevitably will succumb to this poisonous attitude. When we begin to see ourselves as part of a bigger picture, gaining validation through the eyes of others, conscious of the notion that I am appreci-

ated for who I am independent of my wealth, stature or accomplishments, that is the beginning of the restoration of our nobility. One who senses this will never resort to crushing others who stand in the way of imaginary status or sense of being. When we give credence to everyone we meet, regardless of who they might be, we assert the inherent value and potential of every human. The Talmud (Berachos 6) teaches that one who ignores a person who normally greets you is considered a thief. If someone looks to you for validation and you ignore him, you have taken away his most prized possession, his very being! Perhaps that is the emphasis Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakkai placed on greeting even a gentile in the “marketplace”. In the markets of competition and financial gain lies the gravest danger of selfish distraction. Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakkai sought to restore their true sense of nobility thus saving them from their own self destruction. Our reaching out to our enemies with an olive branch of peace is not merely a threatening tactic. It is our belief that even the most depraved of our foes can sense their true essence and purpose. The arousing within them that sense of validation can bring them to realize the privilege that awaits them if they join our mission. That appreciation extends to every facet of life. One who is wrapped up in oneself will lack regard for even the most magnificent “fruits” of life that await him. No wonder this portion that deals with the cohorts of Canaan begins with a “greeting of peace”, for in that royal attitude lies the seeds of hope for mankind in avoiding a descent into a pattern of “destroy and conquer”. If this be true regarding our enemies, how much more so must we implement these concepts among those closest to us. May we instill within ourselves an appreciation of others that will be a source of encouragement to them that will enable us to bring about a world that will be conquered by love.

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It’s Not You – It’s Me By Eytan Kobre

The price of greatness is responsibility. -Winston Churchill

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hospital patient once spilled a cup of water accidentally onto the floor beside his bed. Afraid of slipping, he called for it to be mopped up. Unbeknownst to the patient, hospital policy said that “small” spills were the responsibility of nurse’s aides, while “large” spills were within the jurisdiction of the hospital’s housekeeping unit. A nurse’s aide and a housekeeper were soon on scene, and an argument ensued. “It’s a large puddle and not my responsibility,” the nurse’s aide deflected. The housekeeper disagreed. “That spill is too small to be mine.” This back-and-forth went on for several minutes until the exasperated patient grabbed a pitcher of water from his night table and dumped it onto the floor. “Now, is that a big enough puddle?” In the striking case of a dead body found between two Jewish cities, the Torah conveys values that could not be more different. The discovery of the unidentified body resulted in an elaborate procedure. Local elders and judges from the Great Sanhedrin measured the distance from the corpse to nearby cities, declaring that the closest city was responsible. The elders from that city brought a calf that had never performed any

work or been saddled with a yoke to a specific valley, where the elders decapitated it, washed their hands over it, and proclaimed, “Our hands did not spill this blood, and our eyes did not see him,” and the local kohanim begged for forgiveness on behalf of the Jewish people (Devarim 21:1-8). Superficial understanding aside, the elders were assuming responsibility for the murder. “Would anyone think that the elders are murderers? Rather, [they were saying,] ‘We did not see him, and we allowed him to leave our city without provisions and without escort’” (Sota 45b). And, inasmuch as they failed to keep the peace, the kohanim too accepted some measure of blame and thus begged for forgiveness (Oznaim L’Torah, Devarim 21:5-8). Neither the elders nor the kohanim naturally would accept responsibility for a murder they did not commit: as in the hospital story, the elders could’ve blamed the kohanim, the kohanim could’ve blamed the elders, and both could credibly deflect to the true culprit: the murdered. But they didn’t. They each assumed responsibility. From time immemorial, mankind has sought to dodge responsibility for their failings. When Adam and Chava ate from the Tree of Knowledge, G-d punished them not simply because they disobeyed Him, but because they failed to accept responsibility for doing so. Adam tried to shift the responsibility to Cha-

va (Bereishis 3:12); Chava, in turn, attempted to deflect to the snake (Bereishis 3:13). And the apple didn’t not fall far from the tree (pun!). Confronted by G-d after murdering his brother Hevel, their son Kayin famously argued, “Am I my brother’s keeper?” In effect, Kayin was deflecting responsibility to G-d Himself, implying that it was G-d’s job to safeguard Hevel and G-d was responsible for his death (Tanchuma, Bereishis 9). But we are expected to fight the innate tendency to dodge responsibility. Indeed, the duty to assume responsibility not only for ourselves but also for each and every Jewish person sits at the core of our collective Jewish identity (Sanhedrin 27b). The reigns of Jewish leadership were handed over to the tribe of Yehuda specifically because of their penchant for assuming responsibility. Whether it was Yehuda saving Yosef from their other brothers, or owning up to the wrongs committed with his daughter-in-law Tamar, or his descendants taking that first leap of faith into the Red Sea (Tosefta, Berachos 4:16), time and again Yehuda and his descendants were the first (and sometimes the only) ones to accept responsibility. Because leadership and responsibility go handin-hand. Similarly, when the Jewish people’s calf offering (an atonement for the Golden Calf) was not accepted by G-d, it was another Jewish leader

– Aharon – who shouldered the responsibility (Rashi, Vayikra 9:23 and Da’as Torah ad loc.). I know that G-d is angry at me, he said, and it is on my account that the Divine Presence has not descended onto the Jewish people. Aharon had done everything in his power to stop and slow the Jewish people from sinning with the Golden Calf, yet here he was assuming responsibility for G-d’s rejection of the offering meant to atone for it. That’s accountability. That’s responsibility. That’s leadership. What a sharp contrast with what occurred on March 13, 1964, in Kew Gardens, New York, when Kitty Genovese was stabbed to death while at least 38 neighbors looked on and did nothing during the 90-minute ordeal. The shocking event prompted psychologists John M. Darly and Bibb Latane to study the conditions under which people assume responsibility for helping others in an emergency. In their experiment, when one bystander was present, 85 percent offered help; when two were present, 62 percent offered help; when five were present, only 31 percent offered help. Responsibility is diffused, they concluded – the more people to whom it can be shifted, the less likely we are to assume it. And that explains what happened at a small shtetl comprised of two shuls – one wealthy, the other not. Each Simchas Torah, the wealthy shul enjoyed free-flowing wine, while its poorer counterpart could

33 edly around the large wooden barrel. Finally, they would enjoy wine like the wealthy shul! The shamash opened its spigot and out streamed… Water! Not a drop of wine was mixed in.

That is the classic case of four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody.

Apparently, even over the course of an entire year, none of the congregants had saved wine and brought it to the barrel. None of them had taken responsibility for the plan or for their fellow congregants, instead leaving others to bring wine while they merely “diluted” it with water. That is the classic case of four

The Buck Stops Here. That maxim was emblazoned on a sign that sat atop President Truman’s Oval Office desk, a reminder that the president has to make decisions and, more to the point, accept responsibility for them. Our hyper-litigious, over-therapized society teaches us to pass the buck at every opportunity to anyone and anything but ourselves. It is always his fault or her fault – not ours.

And when it comes to our children’s shortcomings, we blame their friends or their teachers or their schools or their camps or any number of other scapegoats because holding them responsible is, in effect, holding ourselves responsible – and how we loathe doing that. But the case of the unknown dead body conveys an altogether different message. There is something noble about assuming responsibility, even when it isn’t necessarily our fault or even if we might credibly deflect it to someone or something else. So the next time the opportunity presents itself, don’t pass the buck. Stop the buck. Be accountable. Accept responsibility. After all, as Churchill observed, that is the true price of greatness.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, mediator, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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havdala every week, which they would bring to a large barrel outside the shul. After a full year of saving drips and drabs, surely there would be ample wine for a joyous Simchas Torah. After a year passed and Simchas Torah came ‘round again, the members of the poor shul gathered excit-

people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody. There was an important job to be done. Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it. Nobody did it. Everybody thought Anybody could do it and Somebody would do it. Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn’t do it. And Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have.

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afford nothing but water. Envious of their wealthier counterparts, the members of the poor shul determined that they too should drink wine next Simchas Torah. So they devised a plan. Each family would save one drop of wine from

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Torah Thought

Parshas Shoftim By Rabbi Berel Wein

e are all in favor of equality and justice. The goal of all democratic societies is to have, as far as humanly possible, an incorruptible and fair judicial system. Since, however, judges are only human, no matter how knowledgeable and altruistic they may be, the perfect judicial system has never yet been achieved. Nevertheless, in order to make society livable, we are bidden to obey the decisions of the court. As the Talmud itself points out, “even if they proclaim to you that left is right and right is left, you want to listen to them.” The Talmud acknowledges that judicial error is a facet of life … for after all, left is never right and

possible if not even probable, we are to follow the decisions of our judges for otherwise anarchy will reign and society will dissolve. The decisions of judges may be analyzed and even disagreed with, but judges are to be respected and their judgments eventually are to be fulfilled. Ultimate justice is relegated to the provinces of Heavenly guidance. Jewish tradition ascribes judicial decisions not merely to book knowledge and even to precedent, but also to common sense and an intuition of fairness and equity. The great Rabbi Israel Lipkin of Salant often pointed out that Heaven alone can take into account all of the facets, consequences and results of judgment,

The human judge is limited in perspective and foresight.

right is never left. So, how are judicial errors ever to be corrected? The answer to that question usually comes with the passage of time and with the application of common sense to the realities of life. The famous dictum in Jewish life has always been “what wisdom cannot accomplish, time will.” Heaven, so to speak, also takes a hand over time in adjusting erroneous judicial decisions and somehow making things come out right in the end. Yet, the Torah emphasizes to us that even though judicial error is

reward and punishment. The human judge is limited in perspective and foresight. We are all aware of the law of unintended consequences, which dog all legislation and judicial decision. It is because of this that the Talmud ruefully has G-d, so to speak, busy undoing many of the decisions and actions of leaders and ordinary people in order to achieve the Divine will and purpose in the actions and decisions of humans. All judicial systems contain a process of review and appeal from

decisions made by lower courts. This is an inherent realization the judicial error is present and likely in all human affairs. It is of little wonder then that the phrase “trial and error” is so well known in the English language. The judicial system always attempts to correct and analyze itself. However, even in so doing, it is always subject to bias, preconceived

notions and erroneous logic and decisions. Nevertheless the Torah emphasizes that judicial systems are mandatory for society to function. It is one of the basic seven laws of Noachide tradition. So, as in every other facet of life, the Torah bids us to do the best that we can but to be aware of our human limitations. Shabbat shalom.

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The air conditioner over the staircase is dripping. She had placed a container to collect the drops so that the puddle would not inconvenience her customers who go down the back stairs that lead to her basement, where she conducts her business. I think that she is very considerate of others. I am impressed. On my way out, she walks with me, and notices that the catch-thedrops container is full. She says to me, “I think that I need to empty this container. Come with me to the back – let’s use it to water my husband’s

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fessor Google, I shift the lesson from potatoes to humans. There is something much deeper and more relevant about this potato that speaks to us, and I believe that this is what it is: There are brave and valiant people I know who try to rise up to the next level, and each time they make the attempt, they have a fistful of dirt shoved in their face. It has the capacity to overwhelm them and to beat them down. But it doesn’t. Instead it helps them recognize a fundamental truth: “If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you”. So they choose to see the darkest places of their lives, not as the place where they were buried, but the place where they were planted. And they come through; time and time again, always a little higher, always a little closer to completion, until they eventually yield a bountiful harvest. I am now even more impressed with my friend. I know her life; her struggles and her victories. In her regal manner, she cultivates the spirit of the potato, literally, and figuratively. And to all my silent heroes who emerge victorious time and time again, persevering and overcoming, with the strength of their iron will and with the indomitable power of the human spirit, I say “This spud’s for you!” Cheers! Chasida Teichman is a Certified Life Coach who resides in Baltimore, Md. To contact her, please email chteichman@gmail.com.

“Say What?!”

- Jimmy Fallon

A reporter went through Hillary Clinton’s schedule while she was secretary of state and found that she and Bill were often away from each other, and sometimes even on different continents. When asked why they didn’t try to coordinate their schedules, Hillary said, “Oh, we did.”

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Queen Elizabeth is advertising for a housekeeping assistant to live and work in Buckingham Palace. The job would require dusting all the palace antiques — like chandeliers, vases, and Queen Elizabeth. - Jimmy Fallon

- Resmiyr Oral, professor of pediatrics at the University of Iowa, expressing concern that the school’s hawk mascot, Herky, looks too angry and can cause students anxiety and fear

On September 26 Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton will face off in a debate at Hofstra University. The Clinton campaign is using psychology experts to create a personality profile of Trump to figure out what his approach might be. I don’t know, are they preparing for a debate or trying to catch the Zodiac Killer?

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I believe incoming students should be met with welcoming, calm, accepting and happy messages.

If you’re feeling frustrated with Trump’s Mexico antics and you’re not quite sold on Hillary Clinton, luckily there’s another presidential candidate who has been making her voice heard and that’s Green Party candidate Jill Stein. If you don’t know who Jill Stein is, just picture Bernie Sanders, and now picture the woman in the back of his rally selling dreamcatchers.

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44 As a general matter, when it comes to the flag, and the National Anthem and the meaning that that holds for our men and women in uniform and those that fought for us – that is a tough thing for them to get past, to then hear what his deeper concerns are. But I don’t doubt his sincerity. I think he cares about some real, legitimate issues that need to be talked about and, if nothing else, what he’s done is generated more conversation about some topics that need to be talked about. - President Obama defending 49ers quarterback Colin Kaepernick’s refusal to stand during the National Anthem

Supporters of both Hillary Clinton and Donald Trump are motivated by fear, not excitement. And third-party candidate Gary Johnson supporters are motivated by being related to Gary Johnson.

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- Conan O’Brien

Clinton stated she received no instructions or direction regarding the preservation or production of records from [the] State [Department] during the transition out of her role as secretary of state in 2013. However, in December of 2012, Clinton suffered a concussion and then around the New Year had a blood clot. Based on her doctor’s advice, she could only work at State for a few hours a day and could not recall every briefing she received. - From recently released FBI notes of its interview of Hillary Clinton

Dear Colin, guess you have been pretty busy these last few days. For the record I don’t think any more or less of you for not standing for the National Anthem. Honestly, I never thought that much about you, or any professional athlete for that matter, to begin with. I’ve read your statement a few times and want you to know I am one of the reasons you are protesting. You see I am a retired police officer that had the misfortune of having to shoot and kill a 19-year-old African American male. And just like you said, I was the recipient of about $3,000 a month while on leave which was a good thing because I had to support a wife and three children under 7-years-old for about 2 months with that money. Things were pretty tight because I couldn’t work part time. Every police officer I’ve ever known has worked part-time to help make ends meet. You know Colin the more I think about it the more we seem to have in common. I really pushed myself in rehab to get back on the street, kind of like you do to get back on the field. You probably have had a broken bone or two and some muscle strains and deep bruising that needed a lot of work. I just had to bounce back from a gunshot wound to the chest and thigh. Good thing we both get paid when we are too banged up to “play,” huh? We both also know what it’s like to get blindsided. You by a 280-pound defensive end, ouch! Me, by a couple of rounds fired from a gun about 2 feet away, into my chest and thigh. We also both make our living wearing uniforms, right? You have probably ruined a jersey or two on the field of play. I still have my blood stained shirt that my partner and paramedics literally ripped off my back that cold night in January. Fortunately, like you I was given a new one. Speaking of paramedics, aren’t you glad the second we get hurt trainers and doctors are standing by waiting to rush onto the field to scoop us up? I’m thankful they get to you in seconds. It only took them about 10 minutes to get to me. By the grace of G-d, the artery in my thigh didn’t rupture or else 10 minutes would have been about 9 minutes too late. We also have both experienced the hate and disgust others have just because of those uniforms we wear. I sure am glad for your sake that the folks who wear my uniform are on hand to escort you and those folks that wear your uniform into stadiums in places like Seattle! - From an open letter to Colin Kaepernick by retired Virginia Police Officer Chris Amo

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Oh, my luggage. Um — hold on. - Ben Carson, walking off of a live interview on CNN while on a street in Detroit with Trump

- Quip by Hillary Clinton during a four minute coughing fit at an Ohio rally on Labor Day

Dear Andrew, Get a life. Thanks. Nick - Tweet by Nick Merrill, traveling press secretary for Hillary Clinton, to an NBC reporter who reported about Hillary’s four minute coughing attack at a rally in Ohio

I was sort of Robin Hood, except I didn’t rob anybody. I just asked people with money to give it to people who didn’t have money.

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Have you heard about the teacher who was cross-eyed? She couldn’t control her pupils! Teacher: James, where is your homework? James: I ate it. Teacher: Why? James: You said it was a piece of cake! Child: Today my teacher yelled at me for something I didn’t do. Mother: What was that? Child: My homework! Mother: Son, why does your geography exam have a big zero over it? Son: It is not a zero, mum. The teacher ran out of stars, so she gave me a moon instead!

Teacher: You’ve got your shoes on the wrong feet. Pupil: But these are the only feet I’ve got! Teacher: Could you please pay a little attention? Student: I’m paying as little attention as I can. Son: Hey, Mom, I got a hundred in school today. Mom: That’s wonderful! What did you get a hundred in? Son: In two things: I got forty in reading and sixty in spelling. Son: I’m not going back to school ever again Mother: Why not? Son: The teacher doesn’t know a thing, all she does is ask questions.

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Riddle me this? During lunch one day a group of five boys from Mr. Smith’s class ate lunch together. One of them mixed the ketchup and mustard bottles together and the cafeteria manager wanted to know who it was. When the boys were questioned, they made the following statements in respective order: 1. Rex: “Neither Earl nor I did it.” 2. Jack: “It was Rex or Peter.” 3. Peter: “Both Rex and Jack are lying.” 4. Dan: “Peter’s statement is not true; one of them is lying and the other is speaking the truth.” 5. Earl: “What Dan said is wrong.” When Mr. Smith was consulted, he said, “Three of these boys are always truthful, but everything that two of them say will be a lie.” Assuming that Mr. Smith is correct, who mixed the ketchup and mustard together? See answer on next page

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 Dear School: Please ekscuse John being absent on Jan. 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, and also 33.  Please excuse Roland from P.E. For a few days. Yesterday he fell out of a tree and misplaced his hip.  Megan could not come to school today because she has been bothered by very close veins.  Chris will not be in school cus he has an acre in his side.

 Ralph was absent yesterday because of a sour throat.  Please excuse Jennifer for missing school yesterday. We forgot to get the Sunday paper off the porch and when we found it Monday we thought it was Sunday.

 My son was off school today because I told him to clean his room. It was very messy and took him all day.  I was late for school because all the clocks in the house stopped at once, and I was unable to tell the time.  I was late for class because the bell rang before I got here!!  Teacher, contrary to what you think, I wasn’t late today, I was just early for tomorrow.  I didn’t come to school yesterday because I was feeling like I was going to be sick, but thankfully I wasn’t.  Al was not in school yesterday because he was didn’t feel like going.

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 Please excuse Ray Friday from school. He has very loose vowels.

 Sorry I was late for school miss, I squirted the toothpaste too much and spent all morning getting it back in the tube.

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 Please excuse Lisa for being absent. She was sick and I had her shot.

 Please excuse Casey from school. It was Take Your Daughter to work day. I don’t have a job, so I made her stay home and do housework.

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 My son is under a doctor’s care and should not take P.E. Today. Please execute him.

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Enjoy the Journey By Rabbi Naphtali Hoff

“Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” - Greg Anderson

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ecently I reached a seminal moment in my professional and personal journey. After three and a half years of study, research, and writing, I completed my dissertation requirements and earned my PsyD in Human and Organizational Psychology (I/O). The moment that I received formal notification that I was done brought great relief. There had been quite a few hurdles along the way and I was happy to know that it was all over and I had finally earned the title “doctor.” After I had a chance to celebrate, however, some nagging thoughts started to enter my mind. I began to ask myself what’s next. All of this effort. All of the papers and research. For three and a half years. And now, nothing but a few congratulations and “mazal tovs” and an updated LinkedIn profile. It was almost as if others seemed

happier about my accomplishments than I was. How could that be? I think that my mistake was that I may have focused too heavily on the end goal and assumed that by finishing the journey I would suddenly feel this rush of happiness or fulfillment, as if there was this pot of gold awaiting me on the other side of the finish line. What I soon realized was that In order to feel real satisfaction and joy, it is important to try to find it from the entire process that has led you to this point. John C. Maxwell says that “success is a daily thing, not a destination thing... Success is a journey, not a destination.” This means that we don’t become successes the day that we get our diplomas. Diplomas are merely forms of recognition for all of our hard work all of the way through. In a powerful interview with Steve Harvey, Bishop TD Jakes speaks of the need to enjoy the process, enjoy the journey. “Celebrate,” he says, “all along the way, all along the way.” To celebrate all along the way means that when we take positive steps towards becoming an even better, more accomplished

person, we should take a half-step back from time to time to recognize what we have achieved, even if our real goal remains off in the horizon. Most of us tolerate processes and delay our happiness until we reach our destination. When I get my degree, we say, I’ll be happy. When I get that job I’ll be content. When I get married I will settle down. When I lose those pounds I will be comfortable with who I am. And so on and so forth. But like an athlete who trains endlessly and tirelessly for a race, the benefits are not only in the competition. We all recognize how each mile, each training session, helps the athlete become more physically fit or at least stay in peak performance. The same can be said for all of us. Regardless of what you seek to do, recognize that each positive step is helping you in the moment while also bringing you closer to where you want to be. You completed another course? Go out for dinner. You lost a couple of pounds? Celebrate (though maybe not with food). You submitted your resume ten times and went on a bunch

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Ramsey once said, “I have worked 17 years to become an overnight success.” Getting noticed is that natural outgrowth of doing what you have been doing well while continually striving to get better. Over time, those efforts and the expertise that they have engendered is what gives people

“Celebrate,” he says, “all along the way, all along the way.”

about all of the things that you have accomplished along the way in order to get there. Consider the mental, physical or spiritual learning and training that you accomplished and how that positions you better for whatever it is that you want to achieve. Last year, you might say, there would be no way that I would have done X. And now you can and do. That thought alone should you bring you much satisfaction. As you reflect on your many smaller achievements keep in mind that over time they will show up. Dave

the confidence to seek your opinion and listen to your words. Remember, it’s all about the journey, not the destination. No matter what we achieve there are always new journeys to embark upon. So we may as well get used to enjoying them.

Rabbi Naphtali Hoff, PsyD, is an executive coach and president of Impactful Coaching and Consulting (ImpactfulCoaching.com). He can be reached at 212.470.6139 or at nhoff@impactfulcoaching. com.

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The feedback from our readers has been remarkable. In order to facilitate further discussion, you can now continue the conversation anonymously on our website. Every Sunday, we will upload the weekend’s most recent edition of What Would You Do If to the dating forum at thenavidaters.com. Join The Navidaters and your fellow TJH readers in a comprehensive dialogue with regard to dating, relationships and marriage. The forum will be moderated daily for everyone’s comfort and safety. See you there! Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise offer resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, but to offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

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I’ve been going out with a wonderful young man for a month or so. We were set up by mutual friends and I guess the usual “vetting” never took place, so I didn’t know a great deal about his past, only that he was sincerely frum, kind, humble and growing – all the qualities that I’ve been looking for and are most important to me. On our last date, he shared with me the fact that he once had a drug problem when he was in high school. It lasted for over a year and then his parents sent him to rehab. Since then, he’s been doing great and he even believes the whole experience has made him a better person in many ways. I’ve never in my life met anyone who had anything to do with addiction problems, and his confession practically knocked me off my feet. I didn’t even know how to respond because I wasn’t sure how I felt about the whole thing. I told him that though I like him very much, I needed a bit of time to think about it and to decide if I could handle this information. The truth is, I really like this guy! A lot! He seems to have such a special neshama and is someone I’ve been able to connect with more deeply than anyone else I’ve ever dated. My other and probably bigger concern is that if I decide I can live with this information, how do I tell my parents? I’m sure they will have a horrible reaction and forbid me from seeing him again. Do you think this is a terrible red flag and that I should just move on? Or do you think I should look past his past and if so, how would I deal with my parents?

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Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. have several reactions to your serious questions. First, continue to see him and talk about it. Express respect and appreciation for his honesty. Get him to open up about his growth during that period and since then as well as his relationship with his parents and how it has changed through the process. Which people have influenced him for good and for bad and whether his social group has changed are important questions. You are going to have to determine whether he has been stable for a long time. (There is no indication from this query how long it has been since this episode.) You will also want to see clear long term signs of a strong work ethic and a developed sense of responsibility. Whether he is currently pursuing worthwhile goals, education and spiritual objectives are important indicators of where he is at right now. At the same time, start to reach out to his mentors, rebbeim and others and begin to get a sense of his past and progress from the perspective of others. Don’t just rely on our own instincts and information gathering. Ask your own mentors and your family rav to help; they may have contacts and relationships that can help. They will certainly process what they hear with objectivity as they care about you. Give this relationship a lot of time. A month is way too early to determine whether this relationship has a future. At some point, with the help of your mentors, you will make a decision whether the dating is going to get more serious or whether you will break it off. If you decide to go ahead, you will need their advice as to how to share his past with your parents. If your parents have been included in your relationship with your mentors, they will be trusted. They will certainly trust the family rav. But you will need to inform them yourself. Hopefully, they will have developed a sense of the young man’s menschlechkeit and values. They will have to make their own inquiries, however. And they may insist on a long trial period.

Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. nd, oh, by the way, I used to be a drug abuser … but that’s all behind me.” What are you thinking? Drug abuse in anyone’s past, especially a yeshiva guy’s recent past, is most definitely a red flag. And it’s certainly not the kind of information you withhold from your parents. Any addiction, especially drug, alcohol or others, is just the tip of a very large and complex iceberg. It alludes to a troubled adolescence, poor moral compass, low self-esteem and certainly lack of good judgment. You sound like a young and very innocent young woman. Why complicate your promising future? The good news is that you’ve known the guy for just a month, so, hopefully, you can bow out gracefully. Not convinced? Speak to professionals in the field: therapists, social workers, psychologists or rabbis. Ask them if it’s worth risking your future on a recently rehabilitated drug user. When the stakes are your life, I wouldn’t gamble.

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The Dating Mentor Rochel Chafetz, Educator/Mentor would first suggest that you don’t tell your parents. Secondly, you have to speak to people in this field and really find out what the addiction was exactly. Call up Rabbi Silver of the Five Towns who deals with this on a daily basis. Call drug addict counselors and ask them what the success rate looks like and the potential for relapse. In other words, do your homework. You are lucky that he shared this information with you. There are many couples who get married and all of a sudden they are told their spouse had a gambling problem or a drug problem, etc. The fact that he was upfront with you and honest goes to show you that he is committed to a clean, uphill life, which is a positive thing. Find out who helped him after his rehab stint – perhaps a mentor. See if you can speak to him. This is part of the information you need to gather. But ultimately, no one can make this decision for you. You have to do

your homework and feel his genuine commitment and then move from there. It’s a hard call on you. It’s also important to remember that we too have to forgive like Hashem does. But there is also real concern that has to figure in. Hopefully Rabbi Silver from Madraigos will help give you more clarity.

The Single Tova Wein understand that this is a very heavy burden for you to figure out on your own, particularly since you feel you can’t discuss it with your parents right now. I think it’s important to speak to the important people in his life who know him very well and can vouch for his character. There are no guarantees in life. Yes, sometimes people relapse. And sometimes, people who dealt with addiction become some of the most amazing people around because of

their past challenges and strength to overcome their “teivas.” Like they say, “Life can make you or break you.” It sounds like his journey has brought him to a place of great awareness and maturity. Frankly, if his rav and others tell you that he is totally clean, and that they believe in him, I have to ask myself whether he is entitled to be given a break and allowed to live a normal life now filled with love and marriage. Personally, I think we all deserve a chance, especially if we’ve worked hard on ourselves and made it through dark times. I don’t think you should rush into anything. Hopefully, as you continue to learn more about him, your parents will have an opportunity to get to know him better as well. As they find themselves falling for him for the very reasons that are attracting you to him, you’ll share with them his past and hopefully, since they already formed strong feelings for him, they will be able to handle this information. Much luck!

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anism utilized by a person who is in some sort of emotional and sometimes physical pain. Something is going on internally (brain chemistry, mood, temperament, etc.) and/or externally, at home, at school, at work, and the person using the drug is trying to avoid feeling his feelings. I am not an expert in the field of addiction but have dealt with addiction in my practice as a therapist with regard to how it impacts non-using family members and the role that the family may play in the drug use. Addicts exhibit certain behaviors. Many addicts are prone to lying, stealing, manipulating, avoiding, externalizing their problems, rationalizing and denying. And yes, being married to an addict of any kind is a difficult life. Many marital therapists will not treat a couple when one member is an active addict; referring to the “bottle” or drug as the “other woman.” The addiction is a competing attachment for love and intimacy, and the therapist will often advise the addicted spouse to seek treatment and stop using before the marital work can continue. Ah! Deep breaths. As far as you know, at this point, your “boyfriend” is not an active addict. As a matter of fact, he has exhibited very mature and “unaddict-like” behavior and told you the truth, owning up to his past addiction. He also went to rehab (rehabilitation; where people go to get clean, to understand their addiction, why they used, what their triggers are, and learn coping mechanisms and tools to live a full and healthy life free of substances). He gets two gold stars. And a third for staying clean, since. Here is where I will get practical and give you some ideas, most of which have been presented by the panelists already. First and fore-

the work to keep you. If he has a problem with any of this, then it may be time to close this chapter. I hope this was helpful! Oh! I forgot to address your question about dealing with your parents should you choose to continue the relationship. If you have an open relationship in which your parents are supportive (which does not mean they agree with everything you say, but that they listen and when they disagree you can all have a productive conversation, and no one leaves feeling threatened, given ultimatums or feeling loved on condition) then tell them if you want to. Or, if you want their guidance or to tell you what to do, then tell them. But, if they will crack the whip, toss you to the curb, forbid the relationship, and you’re not ready to deal with that, then give yourself time to settle into the decision making process by yourself. In conclusion (of I believe my longest response ever, whew!), life has hurdles. It just does. There are no shortcuts, there is no happily ever after, there is no perfect person or perfect relationship and no one gets out of this life alive. However, you deserve to feel 1,000% percent happy, sure, comfortable, heard, validated, adored, safe and confident about your guy and your relationship should you walk down the aisle. Sincerely, Jennifer

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have my work cut out for me with this one! Four different panelists, four different answers. We have “The Mother” telling you to run for your life. We have “The Single” who believes in second chances. “Tell your parents,” “Don’t tell your parents.” And we have some neutral advice in between. “Learn more about his past, his drug usage, talk, communicate, don’t leave the relationship just yet.” You (as well as the general “you,” of which I am included) must understand that these are the reflections of the lives the panelists have lived. When we receive “advice” from anyone, it is a combination of that person’s achievements and regrets; of what has worked for that person and what has not worked for that person; and possibly of what that person thinks works for that person but maybe others would disagree. This is a column that gives solicited advice, so we expect that our authors want it. But when the panelists give such differing advice, my heart breaks a little bit for you, the author of the email. When you start opening up about this to people (if you do), this is a taste of what is to come: differing opinions. You asked, “Do you think this is a terrible red flag and that I should just move on? Or do you think I should look past his past and if so, how would I deal with my parents?” Right off the bat I’m going to tell you that my role as a therapist is not to tell you what to do, but to help facilitate your decision making process. I don’t have all the answers … if I did, I would be retiring in Hawaii by now, a very wealthy guru. So, let’s get to that facilitation process, shall we? First of all, let’s talk about addiction. Most experts in the field of addiction agree that drug/alcohol/sex/ pornography/gambling/food addiction is an unhealthy coping mech-

It sounds like his journey has brought him to a place of great awareness and maturity.

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most, good for you for taking a much needed time out to breathe and think. (And he gets another gold star for his “un-addict-like” behavior. He isn’t needling you, belittling you, pressuring you. He seems to understand that his past behaviors have consequences. People in the throes of addiction generally deny this.) I think you need more information. You need to find out which drug he used. Marijuana is very different than Percocet and cocaine. You need to talk with him about why he used, what was going on in his life when he was using, his understanding of his triggers, and his new coping mechanisms. If he is defensive, or blames other people for his drug usage, then he may not be using but he still has the mindset of an addict. And if you get married, you will be the next person he blames. Now, if he speaks candidly and takes full ownership and can share with you everything he knows about his addiction, then that is a wonderful sign… and it is then that you will have to decide if you can live without a guarantee that this will never happen again. Some people would never dream of entering this relationship. And some people would move forward with no, little or some hesitation. And no one is right or wrong. I think it may be wise to speak to a therapist with experience in the area of addiction, with your guy. I think that would be a wonderful opportunity for you to learn about addiction, learn about relapse, learn about your boyfriend’s past addiction, and get feedback from a professional about whether your boyfriend’s behaviors and mindset are stuck in the past or if he is ready to move forward and live a healthy lifestyle with you. You need a safe place to collect your thoughts and get some psychoeducation to help you make a more informed decision. But remember, listen to your instinct and trust yourself. Your voice and your feelings about this matter in this relationship. If your guy is on board with this plan, then he is a keeper (at least for now). That shows he respects you and is willing to do

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Political Crossfire

The Bribery Standard By Charles Krauthammer

ernie Sanders never understood the epic quality of the Clinton scandals. In his first debate, he famously dismissed the email issue, it being beneath the dignity of a great revolutionary to deal in things so tawdry and straightforward. Sanders failed to understand that Clinton scandals are sprawling, multilayered, complex things. They defy time and space. They grow and burrow. The central problem with Hillary Clinton’s emails was not the classified material. It wasn’t the headline-making charge by the FBI director of her extreme carelessness in handling it. That’s a serious offense, to be sure, and could very well have been grounds for indictment. And it did damage her politically, exposing her sense of abovethe-law entitlement and – in her dodges and prevarications, her parsing and evasions – demonstrating her arm’s-length relationship with the truth. But it was always something of a sideshow. The real question wasn’t classification but: Why did she have a private server in the first place? She obviously lied about the purpose. It

wasn’t convenience. It was concealment. What exactly was she hiding? Was this merely the prudent paranoia of someone who habitually walks the line of legality? After all, if she controls the server, she controls the evidence, and can destroy it – as she did 30,000 emails – at will. But destroy what? Remember: She set up the system before even taking office. It’s clear what she wanted to protect from scrutiny: Clinton Foundation business. The foundation is a massive family enterprise disguised as a charity, an opaque and elaborate mechanism for sucking money from the rich and the tyrannous to be channeled to Clinton Inc. Its purpose is to maintain the Clintons’ lifestyle (offices, travel, accommodations, etc.), secure profitable connections, produce favorable publicity and reliably employ a vast entourage of retainers, ready to serve today and at the coming Clinton Restoration. Now we learn how the whole machine operated. Two weeks ago, emails began dribbling out showing foundation officials

contacting State Department counterparts to ask favors for foundation “friends.” Say, a meeting with the State Department’s “substance person” on Lebanon for one particularly generous Lebanese-Nigerian billionaire. Big deal, said the Clinton defenders. Low-level stuff. No involvement of the secretary herself. Until – drip, drip – the next batch revealed foundation requests for face time with the secretary herself. Such as one from the crown prince of Bahrain. To be sure, Bahrain, home of the Fifth Fleet, is an important Persian Gulf ally. Its crown prince shouldn’t have to go through a foundation – to which his government donated at least $50,000 – to get to the secretary. The fact that he did is telling. Now, a further drip: The Associated Press found that over half the private interests who were granted phone or personal contact with Secretary Clinton – 85 of 154 – were donors to the foundation. Total contributions? As much as $156 million. Current Clinton response? There was no quid pro quo. What a long way we’ve

come. This is the very last line of defense. Yes, it’s obvious that access and influence were sold. But no one has demonstrated definitively that the donors received something tangible of value – a pipeline, a permit,

... I call them, they are there for me.” This is considered routine and unremarkable. It’s not until a Rolex shows up on your wrist that you get indicted. Or you are found to have dangled a Senate appointment for

With thousands more emails to come, who knows what lies beneath.

a waiver, a favorable regulatory ruling – in exchange. It’s hard to believe the Clinton folks would be stupid enough to commit something so blatant to writing. Nonetheless, there might be an email allusion to some such conversation. With thousands more emails to come, who knows what lies beneath. On the face of it, it’s rather odd that a visible quid pro quo is the bright line for malfeasance. Anything short of that – the country is awash with political money that buys access – is deemed acceptable. As Donald Trump says of his own donation-giving days, “when I need something from them

cash. Then, like Rod Blagojevich, you go to jail. (He got 14 years.) Yet we are hardly bothered by the routine practice of presidents rewarding big donors with cushy ambassadorships, appointments to portentous boards or invitations to state dinners. The bright line seems to be outright bribery. Anything short of that is considered – not just for the Clintons, for everyone – acceptable corruption. It’s a sorry standard. And right now it is Hillary Clinton’s saving grace. (c) 2016, The Washington Post Writers Group

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Travel What ever happened to the DOT Audit of U.S. Frequent Flyer Programs? Readers may recall that PEYD covered the story some time ago of a rabbi who had sued Northwest claiming the forfeiture of his mileage account and elite status was illegal. In a unique turn of events, the court decided that the case was not able to proceed due to the federal law protecting U.S. Airlines from being sued. Even more interesting, was the courts lack of clarification as to whether the rabbi’s claim was valid. What no one anticipated was that a Florida Congressman would be the one who would chose to take this issue up with the Department of Transportation (DOT) as a result of the fallout with his own personal experiences. Over a year ago, Alan Grayson (D-FL) began an initiative to unearth the nature of how U.S. airlines structure the redemption policies of their frequent flyer reward programs. The DOT looked into the matter which resulted in an audit of the industry’s reward systems as a whole. Their official report was recently released and we wanted to share their findings with our readers. The audit report’s summary somewhat perplexing headline read: “Improvements needed in DOT’s process for identifying unfair or deceptive practices in airline frequent flyer programs.” In the DOTs report, they clearly state that changing the terms and conditions of an airline’s Frequent Flyer program without reasonable and just notice is an unfair and deceptive practice, yet somehow, at the conclusion of this “audit” the DOT stated, “The DOT’s reviews of passenger complaints related to frequent flyer terms and conditions, however, have not proven sufficient in determining whether airlines have engaged in unfair and deceptive practices.” Below is the full text of the DOT’s findings: Improvements Needed in DOT’s Process for Identifying Unfair or Deceptive Practices in Airline Frequent Flyer Programs Designed to promote travel and

secure customer loyalty, frequent flyer programs are extremely popular, with approximately 630 million participants worldwide and more than 300 million members enrolled in U.S.-

partment requires. However, DOT’s reviews of passenger complaints are insufficient to determine whether airlines engage in unfair and deceptive practices. For example, from 2012 to

based programs. In a July 2014 letter and subsequent conversations with our office, Representative Alan Grayson expressed concerns about practices associated with these programs, including how far in advance members are notified about service changes, the devaluation of awards and benefits over time, and the availability of award seats. As the U.S. Department of Transportation (DOT) is authorized to investigate unfair and deceptive practices in air transportation, we initiated an audit to review its monitoring of airline frequent flyer programs. In particular, we looked at DOT’s oversight of air carriers’ disclosure agreements and its process for reviewing passenger complaints. We also examined airlines’ practices regarding the availability of award seats and the valuation of frequent flyer miles. We found that DOT conducts oversight of air carriers’ frequent flyer program disclosures as part of its compliance inspections, and that airlines include frequent flyer rules in their customer service plans, as the De-

2014, consumers filed 76 complaints about frequent flyer programs at U.S. airlines, but none of those complaints were forwarded to DOT attorneys for review. Yet our review of 36 of these complaints showed that 4 (11 percent) warranted additional review. In addition, while award seats are available for most flights, it is unclear how many miles are redeemed at different award levels, as airlines do not publicly disclose this information. Finally, airlines do not fully explain their process for determining award-seat availability to the traveling public. We made two recommendations to help DOT improve its process for identifying unfair or deceptive practices in frequent flyer programs. DOT concurred with both recommendations, and we consider them resolved but open pending the Department’s completion of its planned actions. We also encouraged airlines to provide consumers with more transparency regarding frequent flyer seat availability when feasible. What’s interesting is that our

friends over at Dan’s Deals have also recently brought to light evidence contrary to the findings of the DOT report by running a cursory sample of frequent flyer redemption with the AAdvantage program, American Airlines’ frequent flyer program. When attempting to utilize American Airlines’ rewards program for travel dates set at 7/13 – 12/31 the offers available were abysmal. -From NYC to Los Angeles there were 99 available dates on United, 107 available dates on Delta, and only 3 available dates on American. All 3 of American’s dates were Saturdays. -From NYC to San Francisco there were 107 available dates on United, 104 available dates on Delta, and only 2 available dates on American. -From NYC to San Diego there were 133 available dates on United, 109 available dates on Delta, and only 2 available dates on American. -From NYC to Las Vegas there were 75 available dates on United, 125 available dates on Delta, and only 2 available dates on American. Both of American’s dates were Saturdays. So it would seem that somehow the DOT’s report was in fact not as comprehensive as it could have been in determining whether US Airlines structure the programs in a manner that discourages redemption or is in bad faith. We encourage our readers who had a bad frequent flyer experience and who feel so inclined, to file a complaint with the DOT. What has become abundantly clear is that consumers earning frequent flyer miles must be aware that for the time being their miles will remain at risk of being devalued, downgraded or more difficult to use, and that the Federal government has chosen not to enforce how frequent flyer programs are structured or maintained by the airlines! For help redeeming your miles and points, visit our website or CALL PEYD TODAY

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M-84. Fisanovich and his submarine took part during the Russo-Finnish battles in the early part of WWII. In 1941, after a training stint on land, he returned to command his own boat – the M-172. During the course of the war, Fisanovich went on 17 patrols as part of the 3rd Submarine Brigade Northern Fleet before commanding a division of the same brigade. He sank 10 transports: a tanker and two enemy warships. In addition to patrolling the Baltic for German ships his sub took part in two special reconnaissance missions and landing of troops off the coast of Norway. In April 1944 Fisanovich went to England to take command of a submarine that was being transferred to the Soviets. The HMS Sunfish had sunk a couple of armed merchant vessels disguised to look like ordinary boats called Q-ships. The Sunfish was being lent to the Soviets and was renamed the B-1. However, the submarine did not last long in the Soviets’ possession as it was mistaken by a Coastal Command B-24 bomber and sunk. All onboard were killed including Fisanovich and a British sailor. An inquiry revealed that the plane was way off course and mistook the B-24 for a German U-boat. The crew of the B-24 was given the blame for the sinking, and the incident was hushed in order not

Israel Ilyich Fisanovich

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Typically a submarine would hide just below the ocean and only the periscope would go above the waves to look for enemy ships. While this made it very hard for it to be detected, it also made it difficult for the boat to maneuver into a favorable firing position. During attacks Bogorad actually surfaced and while it made them a bigger target they sank more ships and were able to get away

faster (submerged speeds are slower than surface speeds). This tactic is even more incredible while factoring in that many submarines sank due to faulty torpedoes running in a circle to turn back and hit the sub. He died in 1996 after a career in the Red Navy in which he commanded two other submarines. For his victories and daring, Captain Bogorad was awarded the highest decora-

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tion in the USSR: the title of Hero of the Soviet Union. Fisanovich, Bogorad and Isaac Kabar (there is very little information available to write a profile on Kabar) were three Jewish Soviet submarine commanders who earned the title of Hero of the Soviet Union. Being a submariner was one of the most dangerous professions during WWII no matter which country the sailor represented. Soviet submariners served in icy waters most of the time and had it as rough as other submariners from around the world. The Silent Service, as the profession became known, was underappreciated by the public and the men who served on submarines are truly forgotten heroes.

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By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

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o you get these coupons to save money. But do they ever save you money? Or do you wind up spending more than you ever planned to … on things you totally don’t need? How about this? They have this loyalists card at Bloomingdales. Once you spend $5,000 they give you $25 off of your next purchase. Seriously, you just gave them $5,000 and this is the bargain they are giving you! Let them keep their $25 and you keep your five thousand. I’m not saying I don’t like Bloomies. But if that’s how they treat their loyalist customers, then there’s just no hope of a bargain for their intermittent shoppers! I like stores like H&M and Forever 21. When you shop there you don’t feel so bad when your daughter says, about a minute to a month after going there, that she has “nothing to wear!” That’s part of being a teenager; clothing loses its appeal pretty quickly. But it’s a better deal for you, as a parent, when this happens at a price of $15.99 than at $215.99. I used to think that Forever 21 meant they carry clothing that makes you feel forever like you are 21. But now I get it that it’s basically a commitment to pricing that hovers forever at $21. That’s good too! It could even mean that it forever ap-

peals to the budget you have at 21! Either way goes, as long as my wallet likes it. Saving money is so much fun! The problem that arises is that too many deals really make you spend more than you planned to. For in-

ing machine and it gives you an extra candy bar or soda. Just like that – plop – an extra comes out. Now that really is exciting. But is this a bargain, really? Are you allowed to take it? Well, you can’t leave it there ‘cause someone else will take it

For instance, “Get one, get the other one at half price.” You just bought a second one you didn’t need.

stance, “Get one, get the other one at half price.” You just bought a second one you didn’t need. How about: “Buy one get the other one free.” Sounds perfect! So you take a shirt for $25 that you love. Then you look for another one to get free. That one costs $50. Well, boom! They charge you $50. Oh, ‘cause it’s the price of the higher priced shirt that you have to pay – the one you didn’t even want. No one explained that to you. You could have been perfectly happy with the $25 shirt! Here’s a true bargain. Once in a while in some large park or zoo or on the road, you find a broken vend-

anyway. You don’t want to get busy looking for the owner of the machine and suddenly making that the day’s activity. Figuring out if it’s stealing or not is too much of a toll on you to enjoy it even if you did take it! The bargain just became the high cost of guilt. Saving money is not as easy as you would think. The only way you can save money seems to be if you don’t use the money at all, and then what’s money good for? Here’s the glitch: in order to really feel you saved money, you must spend it! And that’s an oxymoron if I ever heard one. Best way to get value is to walk

up to something you were getting no matter what and find out it’s marked at half price. Then you really saved. So here’s a thought. Added value comes when the things we want anyway surprise us. Even when we are not talking money, there’s always a price to pay, whether it’s in time or energy or input. There are deals we can make to get better value, but they are never as good as when we are putting in because we want to and then get a spontaneous return on the investment. There’s great value in life. We are just there doing our thing and then someone – mate, boss, kid, friend – happens to come through for us in a way that’s a surprise to the upside. It’s like when you meet that halfprice sale. You expected no special deal but got a surprise to the upside. Sure, deals can be great. But every time we get an unexpected or unanticipated payoff in the natural course of doing something, we really feel the joy or pleasure of the gift that just came our way. So surprise someone today! Give them that unexpected value.

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ow’s the time of year when kids across America start heading back to school. New kindergartners eagerly don their snazziest big-kid outfits to pose for smiles and pictures. (The tears come after they get dropped off. We’re talking the mom and dad, of course.) New high-schoolers hit the snooze button and look forward to sleeping through morning classes. (Why yank teens out of bed so early when their younger siblings are up before sunrise without alarms?) And new college students can’t wait for the independence of campus life, because of all the fun – I mean, all they’re going to learn. You know who else is busy this time of year? That’s right, the tax man! Here are some random musings on some of the things that happen when back-to-school time meets tax time: • Many states offer sales tax holidays for back-to-school shopping. Ohio is typical: from Friday, August 5 through Sunday, August 7 (2016 only), there was no tax on clothing priced at $75 or less, school supplies priced at $20 or less, and school instructional materials priced at $20 or less. Of course, those backto-school sales tax holidays are just

like your old homework assignments — you can’t get credit if you miss the deadline! • Teachers are naturally on the front lines of shrinking school budgets, and they often chip in with their own money to fill the gaps. (Ironic, right, considering how gen-

gress finally gave our kids’ long-suffering teachers a break and made it permanent. • Student loan debt has topped a trillion dollars, and loan forgiveness programs have sprung up to help borrowers who go on to work for qualifying employers like govern-

Sure, eliminating, say, $40,000 would be welcome relief for a hardworking teacher or social worker. But what about the $10,000 tax bill that comes with it?

erously they get paid!) The Educator Expense Deduction lets teachers who work full-time at any accredited school deduct up to $250 they pay for books, school supplies, computer equipment and software, and even athletic equipment they buy on behalf of their students. For years, this has been one of those deductions Congress scrambled to extend every December — last year, Con-

ments and 501(c)(3) not-for-profits. But those service-minded borrowers may face an unexpected surprise: sometimes the amount forgiven is considered taxable income! Sure, eliminating, say, $40,000 would be welcome relief for a hardworking teacher or social worker. But what about the $10,000 tax bill that comes with it? • You probably wouldn’t think a

college degree would be tax-deductible. And there’s no deduction for training that prepares you for a new job. But if your graduate program is intended to improve or enhance your skills for your current job — or if your employer requires you to get an advanced degree — you may be able to deduct your tuition and other expenses. Let’s say you’re a tax lawyer, and you want to brush up on your skills. That $40,000 you drop on a Master of Laws degree may get you a raise and a deduction. (Now you know why tax lawyers drive Jaguars!) Here’s today’s lesson — pay attention, because there will be a quiz. When it comes to taxes, school is never out! The more you know and the more you plan, the less you’ll waste on taxes you don’t have to pay. Make sure you have a plan before exams and get any tutoring you need!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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your child is entering their freshmen year or cruising into 12th grade, it is critical that they start strong and set a tone that will result in a successful year of school. Last week’s issue of TJH featured a general article about organizational tips for the start of school for younger children. Each of those tips was vital but it is important to be mindful of our older children and their needs as well rather than assume that they will nonchalantly saunter back into school-mode on their own. Here are some useful tips for ensuring that your high schooler is fully equipped and mentally prepared to excel from day one.

Be Prepared/Organized In elementary school, parents are generally super conscientious about getting every single item on the class list from the smocks to the pencil sharpeners. Thus it is astounding to high school teachers when some students arrive without notebooks, pens, calculators and other basics. Ensure that your high schooler has the right materials to start off on the right foot academically. If they had a summer reading or writing assignment, ensure that they completed it thoroughly. If there are textbook fees to be paid, make sure they have the right checks and forms.

Know the Calendar The start of school is replete with back-to-school nights, conferences,

and more. Each of those functions are important. Additionally, know the dates of crucial milestones like PSAT exams, SAT/ACT registration deadlines, College Nights, and more. This helps you and your child meet deadlines and expectations without inducing anxiety, missing out on opportunities or incurring late fees.

Establish a Routine With younger kids, it is obvious that the routines of bedtime, homework and lunch prep are important, and parents invest a lot of energy and effort into transitioning to a smooth routine. Your high schooler is no exception. Set curfews and establish homework standards and expectations so that they aren’t out late like it’s still the summer and so that they are doing their homework responsibly instead of scribbling answers through lunch.

Communicate with the Teachers Another area where parents often devote more time on their preschool and elementary kids is parent-teacher conferences and general parent-teacher communication. In high school there are more teachers, more periods and often higher stakes so it is just as important to reach out to teachers and ensure that your child isn’t slacking off or just struggling in general. Regents classes have strict standards and falling behind by a month’s worth of mate-

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Communicate with your Child Getting on the same page from day one is critical. You might expect your child to strive for 95s and up and they may be approaching their classes with the mentality of “anything over an 80 is good enough.” Realize that each child is different and each child approaches school, schoolwork and the social aspects of high school differently. Have open discussions with them before school begins and then frequently during the first few weeks of school. Validate their fears and concerns and help them find solutions to the issues that might arise academically or socially.

Create Goals/Expectations Each year of high school presents unique challenges and targets. 9th grade for your child might be about

settling in socially, maintaining a good average, and getting used to longer hours. 10th grade might be the perfect time for your child to pursue new extracurricular activities, focus on improving their weaker subjects, and expand their group of friends. 11th grade often becomes more frenetic as SATs, APs and other requirements take priority over all else. And then 12th grade (hopefully) builds on all of the earlier experiences while your child looks to their future and plans accordingly. Each year presents unique challenges and it is important to create goals and expectations alongside your child that they can strive for and actually achieve.

Conclusion Ultimately, high school takes our teens and helps bridge the way to the next stage of their lives. While it is important to grant them autonomy and freedom, that doesn’t mean not being involved in the process and staying on top of both their successes and

their struggles. Following the aforementioned steps at the beginning of each high school year equips our children with the requisite support and preparation to excel academically and socially. We all want the best for our kids and helping them start strong enables them to build the skills to succeed long-term.

Chaim Homnick is the College Advisor at Mesivta Ateres Yaakov of Lawrence and also teaches 5 periods of Honors/AP English Literature. Chaim is the owner of Five Towns Tutoring (fivetownstutoring.com) as well as Machane Miami Day Camp of Florida (machanemiami. com). He scored in the 99th percentile on the SAT and the LSAT and tutors both extensively along with most Regents exams. He has a Masters Degree in Educational Leadership and Administration and an MBA. For questions, comments, previous articles or tutoring, he can be reached directly at chomnick@gmail. com or 305-321-3342.

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Extracurricular activities from sports to mock trial to chessed programs provide tremendous benefits to high schoolers as outlets, confidence-builders and even college application fodder. Don’t assume that your son or daughter will elect to sign up for a well-rounded, perfectly balanced set of extracurricular activities that complements their skills while padding their applications. Discuss the extracurricular options the school provides and encourage them to seek out the opportunities that will be beneficial for them while

remaining manageable within the confines of their regular schedule and school requirements.

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rial at the start of the school year can doom a student. Teachers are happy to update conscientious parents who inquire about their kids early and often. Don’t wait for parent-teacher conferences; reach out at the beginning of the year and periodically to seek feedback so you know where your child might need encouragement and/or assistance.

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Monday & Tuesday, Wednesday, Monday & Tuesday, Monday & Tuesday. Sound familiar? If you are employed in a company or organization that does not observe Jewish holidays, those are the days you will be requesting off for the first four weeks of October! As an employer and business owner, I can tell you that this time of year comes with a lot of holiday-related challenges. Undoubtedly, these are awesome and beautiful days ahead that we welcome with all the perspective, and we appreciate how central our observance is to who we are as Jews, yet it’s still complicated. Whether you are trying to secure the time off from work, or trying to explain delayed responses and limited availability to a client, the collision of your “two worlds” can be difficult to manage. Growing up, I remember hearing stories in school about the incredible sacrifices previous generations made in order to observe Shabbos and Yom Tov. In more difficult times, a Shabbos observant Jew would routinely need to find new employment each week after being let go for not being willing to work on Shabbos. Clearly, things have improved and we have much to be grateful for. The law requires employers to provide “reasonable accommodation” without creating “undue hardship” on themselves. I will leave it to the folks whose names end with Esq. to define the specifics, but at a glance, that’s a very broad statement. While knowing our “rights” is a great first step, I think it’s important to step back for a moment and recognize the bigger picture for the employers, clients, and co-workers in our lives in order to guide the approach and attitude in handling time off for Shabbos and Yomim Tovim.

In all my years as a manager, business consultant, and business owner, I have never found leading with “I know my rights” to be an effective strategy for working with colleagues or clients. Don’t get me wrong, there is a time and place to take a position and stand your ground, but when you are trying to maintain a long-term relationship with someone, playing that card really needs to be a last resort. Instead, I believe that there is some instructive brilliance in the way the law guides the process of establishing “reasonable accommodation” without creating “undue hardship”. Ask yourself: What is the impact that your absence from work or a client project will have on the other party? What can YOU proactively do to minimize any challenges that will arise for your colleagues, employers, or clients? And perhaps most importantly, regardless of whether this is the first time you are having this conversation with them or it’s been this way for years, let them know you appreciate the accommodation and are ready to do what it takes to avoid or reduce any undue hardship. By showing the other party that you have taken proactive steps to manage and minimize the impact your individual observance has on others, you are likely to see a far more accommodating response, and diffuse any building sense of resentment or frustration. Sound right? Azi Rosenblum is a business consultant and the founder and CEO of RemSource, an outsourced provider of administrative and bookkeeping services for small businesses. To suggest a topic or ask a question for a future #BizWiz column email BizWiz@baltimorejewishhome.com.

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So Delicious Coconut Milk Yogurt 4 CT./13 OZ. PKG. •PLAIN •EVERYTHING

Katz Bagels

GLUTEN, NUT & DAIRY FREE

Shneider’s Baking Chocolate

4 CT./13 OZ. PKG.

25 OZ. BTL.

6–7 OZ. PKG. ASSORTED VARIETY

Mikee Brisket Cooking Sauce

GLUTEN, NUT & DAIRY FREE Katz Sesame Bagels

6.49 $4.99 $3.99 $3.99 $4.79 $

Katz Cookies NUT DAIRY FREE & Rugelach &GLUTEN,

10 OZ. BOX •HONEY RICE TWICE & CINNAMON CRISPY 100% WHOLE GRAIN,

Erewhon GLUTEN FREE Brown Rice Cereal ORGANIC,

Kettle Classics

Snack Pack Sacks

Potato Chips

2 5

2 7 •REGULAR •VARIETY

ASSORTED VARIETY

7-8 OZ. BAGS

5 OZ. CAN •IN WATER

38 OZ. SQUEEZE BTL.

Heinz Ketchup

16 OZ./4 PK. CUPS ASSORTED VARIETY

ShopRite Fruit Singles

14.75 OZ. CAN

Dagim Pink Salmon

79 $2.99 $1.69 $2.99

Bumble Bee Chunk Light Tuna

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20 OZ. CAN

Gefen Pineapple Slices

8 OZ. CAN STEMS & PIECES

12 CT. SACKS

Tea & Juice Drinks

7.99

ASSORTED VARIETY

12 $ PACK 16.9 OZ. BTLS.

10 OZ. TUB THIS TYPE ONLY

Le’Chocolate Assorted Pretzels

3.99 5/$5 $1.69

Hellman’s Mayonnaise

Shneider’s Envy Sugar Free Gum

5 OZ. BOX •ZOURS •HOT TAMALE •TROPICAL TYPHOON •ORIGINAL

Mike & Ikes Candies

18 OZ. BTL. ASSORTED VARIETY

Core Organic Beverage

THESE FLAVORS ONLY

14–16 OZ. CUP •MANGO PEACH -MEDIUM LOCATED IN AISLE 1 COLD CASE

Santa Barbara Salsa

CAFFEINE FREE, MIST TWST, BRISK, PEPSI MAX, PEPSI WILD CHERRY, PEPSI NEXT, MOUNTAIN DEW, MUG ROOT BEER, DR PEPPER, CITRUS BLAST OR SCHWEPPES GINGER ALE

Pepsi-Cola Products (Regular or Diet)

6 PACK 16.9 OZ. BTLS.

50.7 OZ. BTL.

Essentia Ionized Alkaline Water

ALL 2 LITERS

5.99 $1.19 $1.89 $1.99

2 PK. •PEPPERMINT •SPEARMINT

30 OZ. JAR •REAL •LIGHT •CANOLA •LOW FAT EXCLUDES OLIVE OIL

8 PACK 7.5 OZ. MINI CANS

4/ 10 1 2/ 5 $

$ 39

Non Food Products 72 CT. BOX

Neronim 4 Hour Candles

50 CT. BOX

Glicks Disposable Candle Holders

250 CT. RECLOSABLE BAG

Marcal Everyday Napkins

5.99 $1.29 $1.99 2/$3 5/$5 2/$5 $5.99 $

50 CT. PKG. •KNIVES •FORKS •TEASPOONS •SOUP SPOONS

Kitchen Collection Clear Cutlery

•4 CT./6 COMPARTMENT MUFFIN •5 CT./ 8 INCH SQUARE

Jet Foil Pans

10 CT. HALF SIZE

Jet Foil Aluminum Pans or Lids

ASSORTED LENGTHS & COUNTS 66” WIDE

K&C Clear Heavy Table Covers

DAIRY SPECIALS 8 OZ. BAG ASSORTED VARIETY

Oneg Shredded Cheese 5–6 OZ. BAG (CHOLOV YISROEL) ASSORTED VARIETY

Schtark Sliced Cheese

2/$5 $2.99

8 OZ. CUP OR BAR (CHOLOV YISROEL)

Givat Cream Cheese

3.29

5.3 OZ. CUP ASSORTED VARIETY

YoPlait Greek 100 Calorie Yogurt 64 OZ. CARTON •REGULAR •CALCIUM •COUNTRY

ShopRite Orange Juice

10/$10 $2.99

FROZEN SPECIALS 2 Lb. 8 COUNT 14 OZ. RESEALABLE BAG

Pepperidge Farm French Rolls 6 COUNT 13 OZ. BAG

Hanover Baked Soft Sourdough Pretzels

2.79 $1.79

48 OZ. TUB ASSORTED VARIETY

Stoneridge Ice Cream

12 CT./3 LB. BOX (PAS YISROEL) INDIVIDUALLY WRAPPED

Smackin’ Good Potato Knishes

1.99 $7.99

24 OZ. BAG •BROCCOLI FLORETS •CAULIFLOWER FLORETS •CHOPPED SPINACH •CALIFORNIA BLEND

Bodek Vegetables

8 SLICES/36 OZ. BOX REGULAR ONLY

NY Select Amnon’s Pizza

BROCCOLI CUTS

4.99

5.99 $9.59 $

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Back to School Nutrition

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By Aliza Beer MS, RD

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rench fries, tater tots, hot dogs, sweetened fruit cups, pizza, chicken nuggets, macaroni and cheese, and white bread are just some of the common foods found in a typical school’s hot lunch menu. While lacking in vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and fiber, school lunches are loaded with saturated fat, refined carbohydrates, and are high in sodium. Since children are getting almost half of their daily calories at school, it is probably time to rethink this menu. Unfortunately, school lunch programs are meant to appeal to the general “kid friendly” menu, which has come to mean foods void of much nutrition. Furthermore, these foods are cheaper and easier to obtain, thus making them the ideal cafeteria staple foods. Though most school lunch programs offer vegetables as part of the menu, on most days the selection of vegetables consists of a variation of potatoes. Even when cafeterias do have the option for a salad, often the selections seem bland and unappealing and are rarely the food of choice for students. Since children will spend a majority of their day in school, eating at least one meal and a snack there, it is imperative that they build healthy nutritious habits. Being exposed to daily unhealthy food choices from

a young age and throughout adolescence can be the springboard to poor health and nutrition in the adult years. Bringing lunch to school instead of partaking in the hot lunch program is a great way to ensure a nutritious meal. For starters, homemade food is void of all the processed junk

be found below: Protein: Some good examples of lean proteins include tuna, salmon, eggs, chicken or turkey, low-fat yogurt or cottage cheese, and beans. These can be served on a whole-grain sandwich, as part of a salad, or even on their own. Spicing up these proteins, such as by adding cinnamon to

When packing lunch for school it is important to ensure that a proper balance of nutritious options are being provided.

found in many of the prepared lunches at school. Also, packing lunch can provide way more variety than the options offered in a school cafeteria, which tend to be repeated a few times throughout the month. When packing lunch for school it is important to ensure that a proper balance of nutritious options are being provided. This means emphasizing protein over refined carbohydrates and vegetables and fruit over high sodium snacks. Some guidelines to packing a healthy lunch and guaranteeing proper energy for your children can

cottage cheese or chopped scallions to tuna, can make these even more enjoyable! Whole Grains: Sticking to 100% whole grains is the best option for children. Change up a typical sandwich on bread by trying whole grain English muffins, pita, wraps, or tortillas. Dipping tuna fish in whole grain crackers or spreading low fat cottage cheese on a whole grain rice cake are some good ways to change up a typical “sandwich meal.” Vegetables: Children can find vegetables to be plain and boring

so it is important to make sure this part of lunch is appealing. Sticking to brightly colored vegetables, such as fresh cucumbers, baby carrots, and red peppers, are good selections. Packing a small amount of hummus (a healthy fat!) is a good dip if the child will not eat the vegetables plain. Hot sauce or a little salsa will make veggies more appealing as well. Baking or sautéing broccoli, cauliflower, or Brussels sprouts are also a good choice. Another option is sweet potato fries. By lightly seasoning and baking sweet potatoes a child will feel as though they are eating French fries but will not be taking in the saturated fats. Plus, sweet potatoes are a much healthier option than white potatoes. “Zoodles,” or zucchini noodles, are another low calorie and super healthy way to sneak vegetables into children. Fruit: Like vegetables, children can get sick of the same choice over and over. Alternating between berries, melons, bananas, apples and oranges will keep your child interested in consuming delicious and nutritious fruit! Canned fruit in its own juice or dehydrated fruit snacks are also good options, especially in the winter months when the fruit selection is slim. Beverage: Sugary drinks such as sodas, apple juice, fruit-drink

reason must eat hot lunch, encourage your children to make the best choices possible and to eat a protein and whatever veggie is available to them. Discourage them from taking second helpings of the carb-filled options such as spaghetti, white rice, and mac and cheese. Try to provide them with some supplemental food options just in case the lunch is unhealthy or unappealing. If they skip or have an inadequate lunch they

Aliza Beer is a registered dietician with a masterâ€™s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patientsâ€™ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@gmail.com.

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Pop popcorn), which is a great source of fiber. Granola bars are also a good snack choice, but look to find a brand that is whole grain, low in sugar and fat, and high in fiber and protein. Some granola or protein bars are really candy bars in disguise. Look for no more than about 100 calories, at least 5 grams of fiber, and sugar should be far down on the ingredient list. For the families that for whatever

will snack on unhealthy snacks from their friends and come starving to dinner, overeat at dinner, and go to bed without burning off those extra calories. The food choices we make for our children and ourselves set us up for success. While school hot lunches may be enticing for children, they are also not the healthiest. Packing a nutritious lunch and some healthful snacks are the best way to get through a long school day. Now that we are in back-to-school mode, it is important to think about the food we want our children to be eating to ensure a successful, healthy, happy, and nutritious school year!

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pouches, and PowerAde are best to avoid. Children quickly get addicted to sweet drinks and turn to these beverages for hydration as opposed to water. Taking in all this extra sugar and calories starts to add up and is a habit worth preventing. The best option is water, which can be varied by adding slices of lemon, lime, or any berry of choice. Naturally flavored seltzer is another good alternative. Regarding healthy and satisfying school snacks, packaged chips and cookies are not the way to go. Snacks are an opportunity to provide proper energy but are often wasted on empty calories and sugar. When selecting snacks for children to bring to school, one should try to focus on fresh healthy foods, healthy fats, and protein. Some examples of this include low-fat cheese cubes, a handful of whole grain pretzels, low-fat yogurt with some berries, or a bag of healthier popcorn (such as Skinny

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by Renee Rousso Chernin

King

Elul is here and we are working on improving our ways.

www.TheKosherChannel.com High on my list is getting organized. Here are two of my best make ahead

dishes that I will be putting in the freezer in anticipation of the many yom tov meals ahead. They are from my first book, Cooking for the King, with recipes featuring the special foods we eat on Rosh Hashanah. Enjoy!

Oven Baked Glazed Corned Beef Ingredients: 4–5 pounds pickled beef brisket 1 tablespoon white vinegar 2 tablespoons plus 1 cup brown sugar ½ cup orange juice, plus 2 tablespoons 2 tablespoons prepared mustard 1 teaspoon ground allspice

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Many people are reluctant to make corned beef because it usually has to simmer on the stove top for several hours, heating up the house with a pungent aroma. Once I discovered the oven method, I find the preparation much easier to handle. This is my younger daughter’s favorite recipe of all. Perfect for any yom tov.

Oatmeal Orange Date Bars

Preperation:

1. Preheat the oven to 350° F. Rinse the beef in cold water and place in a large, deep pan. Add the vinegar, 2 tablespoons of the brown sugar, and ½ cup of the orange juice. Fill the pan with water to cover the beef (about 2½ cups), cover tightly with foil, and bake until fork tender, 3–4 hours. Remove the beef from the oven and uncover. 2. In a small bowl, combine the 1 cup brown sugar, the 2 tablespoons orange juice, mustard, and allspice to make a thick glaze. 3. Raise the oven temperature to 400° F. Remove the beef from its juices and transfer to a baking dish fatty-side up, discarding the juices. Score the top of the brisket with a sharp knife in a diamond pattern. Spread the brown sugar glaze over the scored beef and bake for an additional 30 minutes. 4. Remove from oven and cool. Slice across the grain. Serve with mustard, if desired. Active time: 20 minutes | Cooking time: 3–4 hours | Makes 10–12 servings

Preperation:

This delicious date bar recipe is a great way to introduce your family to the luscious taste of this highly nutritious fruit. It’s such a special fruit, no wonder the date is both of the simanim and one of the seven species of food for which the Land of Israel is praised.

Ingredients: 3 cups dried dates, pitted and chopped 1 1/2 cups water 2 1/2 tablespoons orange juice 1 1/2 teaspoons fresh orange peel, grated, or 1/2 teaspoon dried 1/2 teaspoon vanilla 2 1/2 cups oatmeal 2 1/2 cups all-purpose flour 1 1/2 cups brown sugar 3/4 teaspoon baking soda 1 cup margarine, chilled and cut into tablespoons

1. In a medium saucepan, combine the dates, water, orange juice, and orange peel and bring to a boil. Reduce heat and simmer, uncovered, until thickened, about 15 minutes. Remove saucepan from the heat and stir in the vanilla. Set aside. 2. Preheat oven to 350° F. Lightly coat a 9x13-ince baking pan with baking spray. Place the oatmeal flour, brown sugar, baking soda, and margarine in the work bowl of a food processor, and pulse until the mixture is coarse and crumbly. Do not overmix. 3. Firmly press two-thirds of the crust mixture into the bottom of the greased baking pan. Bake until golden, about 15 minutes. 4. Spread date mixture over crust. Sprinkle remaining oatmeal mixture on top. Bake until crumble topping begins to turn golden, 20-30 minutes. Remove the pan from the oven and let cool completely before cutting into 2x1-inch bars.

PREPARE AHEAD: Oven-Baked Glazed Corned Beef will keep in the Active time: 15 minutes | Cooking time: 45 minutes | Makes 2 Dozen refrigerator, tightly covered, for up to one week. Can freeze for up to 2 months PREPARE AHEAD: Store Oatmeal Date Bars tightly covered at room temperature for up to 4 days. Can freeze for up to 1 month.

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(for Pesach too!) Preparation:

You Will Need: 6 eggs

Pre-heat oven to 350 degrees.

1 ½ cups sugar

bowl, mix all ingredients until well blended. Pour

1 ½ cups oil

into a greased bundt pan or a 9x 13 pan. Bake 45

¾ cup cocoa

minutes

¾ cup potato starch

until

toothpick

In a large mixing

comes

out

clean.

Sprinkle confectioners’ sugar over top.

½ tsp. baking soda Line a cupcake pan with cupcake liners.

Spoon a

scant ¼ cup of the batter into each cupcake liner. Bake about 20-25 minutes or until a toothpick comes out clean.

To decorate, use homemade or

Pillsbury frosting and fill into pastry bag fitted with a #21 decorating tip. Decorate tops by starting along the outer edge of the cupcake and using a circular spiral motion, ending up in the center of the cupcake. Scatter colored sprinkles (or whatever you like) on the top. Enjoy!!

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