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HOW TO BE AN AUTHENTIC LEADER
By Marina Toailoa, Risk & Compliance
Authenticity in leadership means embracing your core values, beliefs and personality while meeting a role’s demands. It’s about showing up as the real you rather than someone you think you should be. For me, staying true to myself as I grow in the security industry is non-negotiable. I believe authenticity is the cornerstone of success. I’m far more determined and motivated when I am bringing my whole self to the table than when changing to fit, or to meet a requirement.
In the security industry authenticity doesn’t get the attention it deserves. The focus is often on technical skills, precision or operational wins, sidelining the power of self-awareness and emotional intelligence. Let’s be real: the intense pressure in this field can subtly push you to change who you are, nudging you towards adopting a stereotypical ‘security leader’ image. But that can disconnect you from your team and from clients who crave genuine human connection. However, times are changing. We’re starting to see the value of a humanistic approach where vulnerability is a strength and where staying true to your values builds trust. Emotional intelligence, self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy and social skills are critical, yet often overlooked. They are what help leaders navigate high-stakes, high-pressure situations with grace. Picture a leader who leans into their natural empathy to support a shaken team after a security breach, rather than hiding it to seem ‘tough’. That authenticity drives better outcomes and deeper loyalty. www.linkedin.com/in/marina-azar-toailoa-66259511a www.instagram.com/mummysafetysecurityproject
My confidence as a leader comes from staying true to who I am. If I don’t believe in something, I won’t say or do it just to fit in. One of my favourite books, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, talks about being impeccable with your word; speaking with integrity, honesty and intention, and ensuring your words reflect truth and respect for yourself and others. In security, where trust is everything, this is huge. Misleading a client about a system’s vulnerabilities or hyping up capabilities can shatter credibility. Faking a ‘tough’ persona to fit an image often leads to inauthentic communication, which undermines trust. But a leader who owns a mistake with honesty? That’s powerful. It aligns with being impeccable and earns respect, even in an industry that pressures you to seem unbothered. Staying true to your values ensures your words carry the weight of your genuine character.
Being real creates genuine connections. In security, where stress runs high, showing you care can include checking in with your team after a tough incident. This will inevitably build loyalty and teamwork. If you’re naturally warm or empathetic, don’t hide these traits to seem ‘professional’. Revealing them sparks bonds that motivate people far better than a cold approach. Authenticity also keeps you grounded. Being honest about what you don’t know and instead leaning on your team’s strengths makes you more effective and happier. Plus, it sets an example, inspiring others to also bring their true selves to their roles.
In short, staying true to yourself is a power move. It makes you unshakeable, fuelling true inner growth and success. Staying true to your values during setbacks or pressure helps you stay grounded and develop a resilient character that can handle adversity without compromising principles. Authenticity isn’t just a trait; it’s the foundation for thriving in the places you truly belong.
