Shepherd Express - May 2022

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(NOT SO) HOPELESSLY MUCH ADO DEVOTED TO YOU

ABOUT MOMMY DEAREST

DEAR RUTHIE,

I’ve been dating a woman for five weeks. I’ve been an out-and-proud lesbian for 11 years, but she only came out a few months ago, and I’m the first woman she’s dated. DEAR While I likeRUTHIE, her, and I pursued her pretty aggressively, I’m finding our relationship boring. I married a momma’s boy. I knew what I was getting into, but I thought I could handle the crazy-tight bond my husband

I really don’t have a good time with her anymore, but behas with his mom. I also thought that bond would weaken cause I’m her first, she’s totally in love and completely devotas he settled into married life. I was wrong! How can I get my ed toman me. Ito don’t want to break herme heart, things are just to spend more time with andbut give less attention too boring with her. Any advice? mommy dearest? understand?

THANKS, WITH LOVE,

Not-So-Hopelessly Devoted Att ent ion Whore

DEAR HOPELESS,

I hate to say it, honey, but this is one of the issuesATTENTION many people face when they’re someone’s DEAR WHORE, first love. Granted, many fall in love for the first time, and that person becomes their soulmate hate to doll-face, butI’m youafraid. knew what you were for the rest of their lives; that just doesn’tI seem tosay be it, the case here, getting into when you said, “I do.” Remember, you can’t

The way this big-boned redhead sees it, you’ve three options: 1) Give it another shot by changegot a man. You can hope he shifts priorities to improve relationship, but you can’t change him on your own. talking to her about how you’d like to seeyour the relationship change; 2) Let her know that things aren’t working for you, and suggest the two of you take a break; or 3) Let her know that this isn’t what you hoped it would be and suggestIfyou part your waysfeelings permanently. sharing with him isn’t working, consider couples therapy. There, you’ll both learn communication

Regardless of the path you choose, ya little heartbreaker, with her a thoughtstrategies and toolscommunicate to help you address thein awkward ful, caring manner. Don’t end things withumbilical-chord a text or ghostattachment her. After all, a little you’re bothcommunication dealing with. goes a long way. XXOO

Ruthie

XXOO

Ruthie

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