IF YOU FEEL THIS IS TOO UPSETTING TO DO ALONE, PLEASE SEEK THE HELP OF A PROFESSIONAL THERAPIST. am a 36-year-old man now. I am not a victim of my life. I have grown into a man who has served my country with bravery, etc…” For many, reminding themselves this is a past event they have moved away from and how they have matured or grown is empowering in helping them distance from the emotional baggage and review it with a clear head. 4. Name your emotions. Put a label on what you are feeling. If it is anger, remember that anger is ALWAYS a secondary emotion and there is a root emotion fueling that. Find that root and you will begin to find healing.
it, and how you can reframe the event as something that is past and no longer has power over you. 6. Remind yourself you are an adult who has already survived the event and you CAN heal from the trauma. Many have bought the lie that they cannot. You can heal from any trauma if you want to be healed, and you do the work. 7. Identify the toxic thought patterns associated with the event. What triggers it, what thoughts cascade when it is triggered, how do you react and how will you reframe the pattern so you are handling the trigger in a healthy manner? 8. Be empathetic with yourself. Remind yourself that the event is not the cause of the pain but rather how you define the event. You are in control. Take ownership of this role and begin to redefine the event and how you will respond. What controls us and creates the toxic thoughts is how we have defined the event what it means for you. Once you reframe this, you will begin to find the healing that you want and deserve.
5. Notice where you feel the emotions in your body. Observe how it feels, where it is located, and release the tension. Remind yourself you are not reliving the experience, but rather reviewing it. Imagine you are watching this on a TV screen so you can detach and simply observe. Take notes if that helps you to define what you are feeling, where you are feeling
The great news is your thoughts trigger your feelings and physical responses. Change your thoughts, change your emotional state, and physical well-being. If you do not feel strong enough or capable of doing this on your own, please email me. As a coach myself, I am able to connect you with a professional who can help you work through these emotional triggers and blocks. Until next time.
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