AHERO Magazine -Spring.Summer 2019

There Are Heroes Among Us

Finding Her Hero: Heidi’s Story By Tristessa Osborne, with Heidi Luke

As a volunteer at AHERO, you might be asked to help out in interesting ways. In my case, it was to interview medically retired Veteran Air Force Ssgt Heidi Luke for this magazine. Luke’s PTSD was the result of sexual assaults during her 16-1/2 years of service. The anxiety she suffered devastated her life for years, keeping her isolated. But in early 2017, hope trotted in when a handsome black German Shepherd became her service canine. After meeting the two and passing Hero’s “sniff test”–which is a bit like getting a security clearance–I learned that Luke’s initial enlistment at 17 had been in the Army’s Massachusetts National Guard. A heart set on serving “I’m forty now, but I grew up in a small Vermont town,” Luke said. “My grandfather and uncle had served but never talked about it, so I knew very little about the military. But I wanted to get out into the world and do something meaningful for my country. This was well before 9/11, and the military wasn’t popular at that time. I’d go to the recruiter and see who in my community was joining, who I could talk to about serving. Now, ever since 9/11, patriotism has grown.” How did her family feel about her going in at such a young age? “My mom was supportive and signed my papers. Other people told me I wouldn’t make it.” She grinned. “You tell me that and you might as well be giving me the goahead. I was like, oh, yeah? Watch me!” She chose to do water purification. “We’d bring purified water where it was needed and fill huge bladders. I loved the looks on people’s faces when they saw this little red-headed girl driving a massive water tanker. And we did night ops, things you’d never get to do as a civilian. It was fun. But later I decided to transfer to the Air Force and at first was in the reserves.” She married (the couple later divorced) and moved with her husband and children down to Florida’s Elgin AF Base in 2001, working in communications. Struggling to survive trauma “My military service left me with a lot of mixed feelings,” Luke said, when asked to evaluate the time she was in. “I was excited and proud to join and would do it again. But it was bittersweet. I had great experiences, met great people, but then I had those awful experiences, and so much trauma. Ours is still a very male oriented military.” She was referring to the sexual assault she endured. Currently the military is engaged in recognizing and dealing with the once-hidden

extent of this problem. But Luke noted the systemic flaw that, in her case, allowed the abuse to go on. “Back when I served, your first sergeant would be your judge and jury. But what if that’s who the perpetrator is? You try going above that superior, then you’re the one in the wrong. I’m hopeful things will get better now.” The topic is difficult territory for anyone. For Luke, it is doubly so. “My situation is complex,” she said. “I was diagnosed with cancer in 2011. It’s stage 4. So when I was having emotional times and things were not good, it was easy to put it on the cancer. But the bulk of my issues come from what happened to me.“ She hesitated. “When you have a sexual trauma … at some point it just breaks you. I had been able to compartmentalize it, but then I couldn’t anymore. And that’s where the D part comes in, the ‘disorder.’ Because anyone who has had a traumatic experience has post-traumatic stress, PTS. But when you can’t get over it, you can’t go forward. That’s when you end up going backwards.” Her best medicine To have had cancer for so long and yet appear to be healthy seemed unusual. Was she in remission? Luke shook her head and Hero, ever alert, looked up. “My cancer is terminal,” she said. “There are tumors in my bones.” Trying to deal with the initial diagnosis, she reached out. “I joined a breast-cancer group. But everyone was older and in remission. My kids were young, just 7, 5, and 3 at the time. Also, after adopting our boys, we’d had fertility treatments and I had given birth to twin girls. But one died the day after birth.” That blow must have been intolerable. There were so many triggers to her PTSD, Luke said. “Just sleeping, I’d have horrible nightmares. I replayed bad situations over and over. I’d get so nervous and anxious, my hands and legs would shake terribly. I thought it was the medicines, but there had been lots of different ones and the shaking didn’t go away. I had to get help.” That’s when Hero arrived. “Early on, I was somewhere with him, and had been worried that I’d shake. But I didn’t.” Looking at him, tears brightened her eyes. “I didn’t shake.” She was silent for a while. Paired with Hero by “Healing Paws for Warriors,” an organization founded and run by Mike Arena in Ft. Walton Beach, Fla., Luke began working with him at the “What’s Up Dog” kennel in Santa Rosa Beach, where He had initially been trained. “We started with ‘forced bonding,’” she said. “You’re tethered together all the time. It’s like an umbilical cord. Hero went everywhere with me. I answered the door, he came

with me. I’d be cooking, or in the bathroom and there he was. There’s NO privacy whatsoever. That’s how he learned my routine.” Once home, the two passed an obedience course and Hero earned his canine good citizen rating after working in public with distractions like food, people, and other dogs. “Some people ignore the sign that says, ‘Service Dog, please don’t pet,’” Luke said. “And I can get anxious. But Hero creates a space around me. He’s big, so sometimes fitting into spaces is tough. But he was with me on AHERO’s Warrior Hook-Up last summer. A friend had talked about the fishing and meeting other Vets, and said I should go. Since getting Hero, I’d been trying to push myself a bit, so I signed up and got picked. It was my first time.” Her biggest takeaway from the AHERO experience, Luke said, was one word: “Friendships. I met a few young female service members and was interested to hear how they are coping. Hopefully I helped a little bit by listening to their stories. We’ve stayed in touch. Being a female in the military is still fairly uncommon and it can be rough. People say, ‘Oh, you’re too little or too pretty to be a Veteran.’ Whereas to a man it’s, ‘Thank you for your service.’ But it was great to be with other Vets. I enjoyed the Warrior Hook-Up weekend and I’m glad I went.” She gazed down appreciatively at her service canine. “I didn’t know how bad my emotional state had gotten until after Hero came,” she said. “I didn’t know until one day when I was out with him, around people. That’s also when I realized I was okay.”

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